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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and I

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Speaker 1: Heart Radio and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 1: Hello everybody, We're scrubbing in, gangs all here, plus a

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Speaker 1: very special guest, one of our favorites. I have to say,

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Speaker 1: I have to agree. We have your mark scrubbing in. Oh,

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Speaker 1: thank you so much. That's the kindest introduction. Ever, how

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Speaker 1: are you doing. We've missed you. I've missed you guys

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Speaker 1: as well. I don't know if you guys have heard

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Speaker 1: is not going so good? Yeah, I was telling Becca

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Speaker 1: that you so hunter, just sweet little angel came over

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Speaker 1: here and dropped off this bottle of champagne for our

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Speaker 1: three years, the nicest, most thoughtful, so kind. That is

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Speaker 1: so so kind and like you totally didn't have to

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Speaker 1: do that, and just that's why you're like the sweetest ever.

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Speaker 1: You guys deserve it. I think, you know, a lot

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Speaker 1: of people think that what you guys do is kind

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Speaker 1: of uh. You guys make it look really easy and effortless.

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Speaker 1: And I know how hard it is to make any

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Speaker 1: sort of media successful for years and years and years

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Speaker 1: and I barely I'm not really doing it either, so

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Speaker 1: I know how hard it is. I think you guys

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Speaker 1: deserve that, and then some it's a great show. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I know. I literally was like, oh, I wish that

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Speaker 1: I would have known that you were going to drop

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Speaker 1: this off because I literally would have um because I

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Speaker 1: have all the ports if you like my tech terms here,

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Speaker 1: I have all the ports that I could hook up

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Speaker 1: a microphone and other microphone in here for you, but

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Speaker 1: I just didn't have an extra microphone. I know. That

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Speaker 1: would have been so fun because last time we saw you,

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Speaker 1: we were at the Britney Spears pop up and Jack's

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Speaker 1: was also scrubbing in with us, and it was probably

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Speaker 1: one of our most entertaining episodes with both of you

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Speaker 1: on with us giving dating advice. Oh don't know if

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Speaker 1: we could have picked a more foil character for me,

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Speaker 1: like a more opposite human. It was so interesting because

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Speaker 1: he was so he was so open and honest about

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Speaker 1: things that people should not be open and honest about,

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Speaker 1: and I thought it was a really interesting quality, like

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Speaker 1: it almost redeems some of his bad behavior. I totally agree.

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Speaker 1: It's like you say, he would say things and I

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Speaker 1: was like, I really don't like you. But then I

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Speaker 1: was like the fact that he's so like unabashedly himself

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Speaker 1: and just owns it. I was like, I kind of

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Speaker 1: like you. Yeah. The response was so interesting because a

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Speaker 1: lot of the girls and that are of our listeners

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Speaker 1: were like what they were just so appalled by some

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Speaker 1: flipped it over and you're like, he's doing He's just

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Speaker 1: saying what a lot like he meant how a lot

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Speaker 1: of men think. And um, it was this weird mix

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Speaker 1: of refreshing and scary. That's a great way to describe

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Speaker 1: him and general because you're freshing and scary. But I

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Speaker 1: remember at the time you were flirting with Tanya hardcore

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Speaker 1: because she was single and they were. It was like

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Speaker 1: a whole thing, like people were like shipping you in Tanya.

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Speaker 1: I went on the Facebook group and on Instagram and

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Speaker 1: many of the questions were do you regret not shooting

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Speaker 1: your shot at Tanya? I think the more I get

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Speaker 1: to know Tanya, the more I regret not shooting my

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Speaker 1: and I also feel like, you know, maybe a year

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Speaker 1: and it comes with dating people who you think are

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Speaker 1: it's just they're they're going after something, and then you realize, no,

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Speaker 1: I just want someone who really loves me. Yeah, Like

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Speaker 1: there's no chase with me. Like it's like I'm on

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Speaker 1: a silver platter. Here you go keep my apartment, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I brought I bought all your favorite snacks or in

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Speaker 1: there is this thing where some people, especially entertainers, they

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Speaker 1: This is like one reason why a lot of us

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Speaker 1: have you, Okay, judge me all you want, but have

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Speaker 1: it's really like basically therapy, and every day you have

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Speaker 1: like assignments where you have to look inward and look

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Speaker 1: not bad. But I don't do the rest of the affirmation.

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Speaker 1: There is an affirmation I've been trying to tell myself lately,

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Speaker 1: couple of times, and he's a fantastic man. Morgan's obviously

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00:21:40,440 --> 00:21:42,399
Speaker 1: an incredible person. I feel like she will be a

429
00:21:42,440 --> 00:21:45,360
Speaker 1: really good mom, even though she's not like you don't

430
00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:48,000
Speaker 1: meet her a year ago and go, yep, mom of

431
00:21:48,040 --> 00:21:51,080
Speaker 1: the Year award. I do think this is like going

432
00:21:51,160 --> 00:21:53,200
Speaker 1: to change her and make her a really great person.

433
00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:54,720
Speaker 1: So I think that baby is going to be rich,

434
00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:59,680
Speaker 1: not only with money but with love. And uh, well

435
00:22:00,119 --> 00:22:03,000
Speaker 1: you really turn that around that answer. I felt like

436
00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:05,560
Speaker 1: I needed to, like Dr Phil is going to come

437
00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:13,720
Speaker 1: at me so good, gonna be rich. I did not

438
00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:23,960
Speaker 1: see it going that way. I was expecting like funny, yeah, yeah, no, no,

439
00:22:23,960 --> 00:22:31,000
Speaker 1: no no. And you guys just celebrated your twosode, I

440
00:22:31,040 --> 00:22:32,800
Speaker 1: think so. I think at this point we're probably like

441
00:22:32,840 --> 00:22:35,080
Speaker 1: to fifty now since we've done that, because we were

442
00:22:35,119 --> 00:22:38,240
Speaker 1: at four episodes a week, so every you know, two months,

443
00:22:38,280 --> 00:22:42,960
Speaker 1: were at another milestone almost. It's it's really interesting, it

444
00:22:43,600 --> 00:22:46,959
Speaker 1: is thanks. It is weird, like I think, oh, this

445
00:22:47,040 --> 00:22:49,000
Speaker 1: is another thing that I think you guys would appreciate

446
00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:51,680
Speaker 1: um as people in the industry. And now I think

447
00:22:51,680 --> 00:22:54,639
Speaker 1: anybody with opportunities in life, whether their work or not,

448
00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:57,520
Speaker 1: will appreciate this in relationships. I was talking to my

449
00:22:57,600 --> 00:23:01,960
Speaker 1: therapist about how I'm appreciate itative for like my job opportunities,

450
00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:05,080
Speaker 1: but I don't feel like I always give them enough

451
00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:08,440
Speaker 1: of like my life, like I almost take them for granted.

452
00:23:08,840 --> 00:23:12,040
Speaker 1: Two hundred episodes in and I'll make comments like, oh,

453
00:23:12,080 --> 00:23:13,800
Speaker 1: if this went away, I can go travel, I could

454
00:23:13,800 --> 00:23:16,199
Speaker 1: go do this um. But I know that if it

455
00:23:16,240 --> 00:23:17,640
Speaker 1: did go away, it would hurt, you know, it would

456
00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:21,960
Speaker 1: not be fun. And he said, uh, sometimes we treat

457
00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:24,120
Speaker 1: He goes, I know a hunter that you are especially

458
00:23:24,119 --> 00:23:27,639
Speaker 1: grateful for your opportunities, but do you treat them with reverence?

459
00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:30,080
Speaker 1: And I was like what is and what what way

460
00:23:30,119 --> 00:23:32,680
Speaker 1: do you mean? And he goes, do you give them

461
00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:36,600
Speaker 1: the um reverence? Meaning like do you give them the

462
00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:39,520
Speaker 1: respect that they deserve, Like this is an opportunity not

463
00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:41,520
Speaker 1: only to be grateful for, but to respect and to

464
00:23:41,560 --> 00:23:44,320
Speaker 1: treat like, oh, this is bigger than you. There's a

465
00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:46,400
Speaker 1: lot of people behind this, So it's not only about

466
00:23:46,400 --> 00:23:49,679
Speaker 1: being appreciative, it's about giving it that like, full on,

467
00:23:49,880 --> 00:23:51,320
Speaker 1: I'm here to do what I need to do. I

468
00:23:51,840 --> 00:23:53,640
Speaker 1: will go above and beyond. And I think the same

469
00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:56,679
Speaker 1: thing applies to relationships. I've been grateful for people in

470
00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:59,000
Speaker 1: my life, but have I treated them with reverence? Have

471
00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:02,280
Speaker 1: I gone above and beyond besides just being thankful, like

472
00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:06,200
Speaker 1: you know, to really form the best relationship with something.

473
00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:10,000
Speaker 1: So that's kind of been the other affirmation. Yeah, that's

474
00:24:10,119 --> 00:24:13,359
Speaker 1: very eye opening because I even with the podcast when

475
00:24:13,560 --> 00:24:16,679
Speaker 1: when our third year rolled around, I was kind of like, Wow,

476
00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:20,760
Speaker 1: this is amazing, Like, I'm so grateful, but I think

477
00:24:20,800 --> 00:24:23,360
Speaker 1: I could always do better in treating it as like

478
00:24:24,240 --> 00:24:27,159
Speaker 1: we're so lucky to have this and do everything we

479
00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:30,639
Speaker 1: can to show appreciation for it. Yeah, I really appreciate

480
00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:36,240
Speaker 1: that Insight therapy is the best. Honestly, they really like I.

481
00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:38,320
Speaker 1: I will think I have things figured out, and then

482
00:24:38,320 --> 00:24:40,000
Speaker 1: my therapist will be like, well what do you think about?

483
00:24:40,440 --> 00:24:42,560
Speaker 1: Could it be something you know, maybe it came from

484
00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:47,000
Speaker 1: this or it stemmed from this, And I'm like mm hmm, yeah,

485
00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:50,160
Speaker 1: now right on the head it would be that. Yeah.

486
00:24:50,480 --> 00:24:53,080
Speaker 1: I think that's a good indicator in a partner, is

487
00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:55,880
Speaker 1: their willingness to actually be in therapy if they are

488
00:24:56,040 --> 00:24:57,720
Speaker 1: or to go to therapy one day, Like if you

489
00:24:57,720 --> 00:25:00,880
Speaker 1: meet somebody who's like no, no, no, no, now, I'll

490
00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:03,359
Speaker 1: never do that. Like my dad when I first started

491
00:25:03,359 --> 00:25:05,720
Speaker 1: going to therapy, he goes, hunter, you're working, why do

492
00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:07,000
Speaker 1: you need to go to therapy. I'm like, you don't

493
00:25:07,000 --> 00:25:12,080
Speaker 1: get it. You don't get all. Yeah, where are you from?

494
00:25:12,119 --> 00:25:14,639
Speaker 1: Are you from l A? Yeah? I from l A? Okay,

495
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:17,439
Speaker 1: yeah I When I started therapy, I remember, you know,

496
00:25:17,480 --> 00:25:19,639
Speaker 1: like growing up, therapy was kind of taboo, and I

497
00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 1: grew up in a very Christian home, so I was like, well,

498
00:25:21,600 --> 00:25:23,119
Speaker 1: why don't you just pray about it? Why do you

499
00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:24,720
Speaker 1: need to go to therapy? And I'm like, I can

500
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:29,120
Speaker 1: do both, Okay, I need both. Yeah, totally. Sometimes it's

501
00:25:29,160 --> 00:25:31,399
Speaker 1: nice to have the immediate feedback of a therapist as

502
00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:34,040
Speaker 1: opposed to kind of waiting for the prayers to be answered. Yeah,

503
00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:37,320
Speaker 1: it's true. To my sister, she mean, she's not legally

504
00:25:37,320 --> 00:25:38,800
Speaker 1: my therapist, but she does it for a living, and

505
00:25:38,800 --> 00:25:40,720
Speaker 1: so it's so nice because she obviously has my best

506
00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:43,200
Speaker 1: interest at heart. So like I can take her any

507
00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:46,159
Speaker 1: situation and she just flips it around on me and

508
00:25:46,200 --> 00:25:48,800
Speaker 1: I'm like, wow, I never think it that way, Like

509
00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:52,040
Speaker 1: very very It's a great tool to have as a

510
00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:56,119
Speaker 1: sister because I'm like so grateful to her. Yeah, it's true. Oh,

511
00:25:56,240 --> 00:25:58,439
Speaker 1: I had one. There's one other question about not not

512
00:25:58,560 --> 00:26:00,400
Speaker 1: Nightly Pop. But it's why you're other. You're not like show.

513
00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:02,560
Speaker 1: Can I ask you that? Sure? You can ask whatever

514
00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:04,720
Speaker 1: you want. Okay, So she said, I need to know

515
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:06,840
Speaker 1: everything about the show you host on Netflix, Sugar Rush.

516
00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:10,240
Speaker 1: I'm obsessed. How does he feel after he eats the

517
00:26:10,280 --> 00:26:14,760
Speaker 1: cakes because he can't have gluten? Oh, I feel awful

518
00:26:15,320 --> 00:26:18,439
Speaker 1: at the end of like the two three weeks shooting period.

519
00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:21,840
Speaker 1: It's like I and this last season, I really avoided

520
00:26:21,880 --> 00:26:23,959
Speaker 1: like the bread for the most part. Like I just

521
00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:26,720
Speaker 1: ate a lot of frosting and berries and chocolate chips

522
00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:29,119
Speaker 1: and whatever was on top of the cupcake. Uh, and

523
00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:32,480
Speaker 1: the cake. But that's not much better either, just eating

524
00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:36,640
Speaker 1: cream and sugar for three weeks. So, like we would

525
00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:38,280
Speaker 1: go to lunch and they would have like all this

526
00:26:38,480 --> 00:26:42,840
Speaker 1: really great food at the buffet, like lunchline, and I

527
00:26:42,880 --> 00:26:46,000
Speaker 1: would just get like steamed broccoli and like a glass

528
00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:50,720
Speaker 1: of water. I'd be like, this is what my body needs. Bet,

529
00:26:51,359 --> 00:26:56,400
Speaker 1: But I even feel Yeah, it sounds like a great job, painful. Yeah,

530
00:26:56,520 --> 00:26:58,439
Speaker 1: guests come on the show every guest who comes on

531
00:26:58,440 --> 00:27:00,879
Speaker 1: the show like wants to all for the cupcakes in

532
00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:03,480
Speaker 1: the first round and we go, hey, you're gonna be

533
00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:07,800
Speaker 1: here for twelve hours, slow down, and they never listened.

534
00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:12,600
Speaker 1: But it's the greatest it's the greatest opportunity. I mean again,

535
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:14,440
Speaker 1: it's like another show where I just had to kind

536
00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:17,439
Speaker 1: of realize, like, very few people will get three seasons

537
00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:19,760
Speaker 1: of a television show ever. And we just shot our

538
00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 1: third and it's coming out, and the third season came

539
00:27:22,840 --> 00:27:25,160
Speaker 1: out in the we might have some more episodes coming out,

540
00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:28,040
Speaker 1: So it's just like again, you can get kind of

541
00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:30,359
Speaker 1: caught up in the oh, this is my life and

542
00:27:30,400 --> 00:27:33,400
Speaker 1: you have to realize your life is really really awesome,

543
00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:38,200
Speaker 1: like way better than it could be. So yeah, so true.

544
00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:41,639
Speaker 1: Do you have any like unpopular opinions that you'd like

545
00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:45,720
Speaker 1: to share on just like the pop culture, anything that's

546
00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:48,080
Speaker 1: going on where you feel like it would if you

547
00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:54,880
Speaker 1: said it would be disagreed with The Bachelor? I think,

548
00:27:56,760 --> 00:27:59,320
Speaker 1: how wait, I don't know how well I I've said

549
00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:02,800
Speaker 1: this on Natlie Pop a lot, but I think that's

550
00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:04,800
Speaker 1: got to be a hard thing for humans to go

551
00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:07,840
Speaker 1: through that experience and to come out like I feel

552
00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:11,040
Speaker 1: like you made the most of it and uh have

553
00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:14,760
Speaker 1: like excelled, But god, it's got to be like tricky.

554
00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:18,879
Speaker 1: Well luckily for me. Are you saying you don't like

555
00:28:18,960 --> 00:28:22,600
Speaker 1: the Bachelor? What's your unpopular? Confused on that? What's your

556
00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:30,240
Speaker 1: you want to say something? And then I think I

557
00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:32,840
Speaker 1: just got it. I think it's really it's a really

558
00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:36,000
Speaker 1: like unhealthy environment to put humans through. It's like a

559
00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:39,320
Speaker 1: it's like a rat mays a little bit. I mean,

560
00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:42,600
Speaker 1: it's definitely. I even feel like the crew. Mic Plice,

561
00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:45,880
Speaker 1: the creator, said that it was like a social experiment. Initially,

562
00:28:45,920 --> 00:28:48,000
Speaker 1: I could never do it. I would literally like the

563
00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:52,200
Speaker 1: thought of somebody that I liked physically dating people and

564
00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:53,960
Speaker 1: seeing it go on in front of me, I would

565
00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:57,760
Speaker 1: be a mess. Yeah, it feels, you know, when you

566
00:28:57,760 --> 00:29:00,480
Speaker 1: put it in that perspective, it does feel quite unhealthy.

567
00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 1: That was my that's my unpopular opinion. So you just

568
00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:08,040
Speaker 1: think it's like unhealthy for people to put themselves through

569
00:29:08,080 --> 00:29:10,880
Speaker 1: that mentally and emotionally. Yeah, and also for like the

570
00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:13,160
Speaker 1: viewers to sometimes and feel like they have a hard

571
00:29:13,160 --> 00:29:16,440
Speaker 1: time disassociating like the reality of it with how much

572
00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:18,479
Speaker 1: of it's produced and how much these people are kind

573
00:29:18,520 --> 00:29:21,480
Speaker 1: of portrayed as a character, because maybe that doesn't happen

574
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:24,960
Speaker 1: for everybody. But I know, I was talking to a

575
00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:26,800
Speaker 1: girl who was on the show and they tried to

576
00:29:26,840 --> 00:29:30,360
Speaker 1: paint her as a villain um, and she just was like,

577
00:29:30,600 --> 00:29:34,520
Speaker 1: I'm not going to be that person. I mean, yeah,

578
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:39,160
Speaker 1: people can be very involved and can be very cruel

579
00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:43,440
Speaker 1: to people that they see like thirty minutes of their life.

580
00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:47,040
Speaker 1: Really totally, yeah, it's really hard. Would you talk to

581
00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:53,880
Speaker 1: who's this villain? Katherine Katherine Aggro Oh yeah, she was

582
00:29:53,960 --> 00:29:58,280
Speaker 1: on Culton season. I think I don't know what she

583
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:02,640
Speaker 1: was on. She is very nice though, very very very

584
00:30:02,720 --> 00:30:06,800
Speaker 1: very nice, nice, very nice. Um. We did get one question.

585
00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:08,640
Speaker 1: I just feel like we have so many questions we've got, Like,

586
00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:11,400
Speaker 1: I know, we're not hunter to be like a regular

587
00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:13,040
Speaker 1: I know, so we need like we need like a

588
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:19,040
Speaker 1: like a like guy we have guy have married men?

589
00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:23,560
Speaker 1: Well you I'll be your single guide, you know, guy,

590
00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:30,000
Speaker 1: our guide. Yeah. I like that. I like just kind

591
00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:32,120
Speaker 1: of having you in our back pocket, just like when

592
00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:34,120
Speaker 1: we need some things. Because this girl just wrote she said,

593
00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:36,000
Speaker 1: what are your thoughts on splitting a bill on a

594
00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:41,480
Speaker 1: first date? This is actually I kind of had. I

595
00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:44,480
Speaker 1: don't know why it was like controversial. I was on

596
00:30:44,520 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 1: another podcast and I said that I will always pay

597
00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:50,360
Speaker 1: for a day, probably like the majority of the dates,

598
00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 1: unless the woman is adamant that she pays for something,

599
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:55,840
Speaker 1: maybe she just wants to do She's like, it's not fair,

600
00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 1: You've paid for the last one or the last five whatever.

601
00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:01,080
Speaker 1: It takes a lot of convincing for me not to pay,

602
00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:04,000
Speaker 1: because again, I get that I'm in a really I'm

603
00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:06,560
Speaker 1: in a really good position in life, and I want

604
00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:08,400
Speaker 1: to be able to help, you know, I just want

605
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:09,480
Speaker 1: to be able to pay for a date. It's a

606
00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:12,760
Speaker 1: nice thing to do for somebody. Uh, but I always

607
00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:16,680
Speaker 1: expect thank you, I don't know, like from anybody. Like

608
00:31:16,760 --> 00:31:19,040
Speaker 1: if I bought coffee from my from my guy friend

609
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:22,080
Speaker 1: and he didn't say, think you'd be like you're being

610
00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:24,960
Speaker 1: a weird, you know, Like like I don't need to

611
00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:26,960
Speaker 1: be thanked for the date. I think that is a

612
00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:29,920
Speaker 1: mutual thing. But like anytime someone pays for something for me,

613
00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:33,840
Speaker 1: I'm the utmost grateful. I'm like, thank you, so like

614
00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:36,320
Speaker 1: that was so kindly you bought that gumball at that

615
00:31:36,360 --> 00:31:41,560
Speaker 1: gunball machine for me. I don't know however pay you. Yeah,

616
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:45,200
Speaker 1: that's a weird one. It is, and I think there's

617
00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:50,920
Speaker 1: become it's kind of everything with the the respecting, the

618
00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:54,080
Speaker 1: feminist view of like you know, now guys are like,

619
00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:56,040
Speaker 1: do I hold the door open for a girl or

620
00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:59,360
Speaker 1: is she gonna be mad herself? And I'm like, I

621
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:03,480
Speaker 1: still I like those things being done for me too.

622
00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:06,160
Speaker 1: I like when someone helps me lift my suitcase into

623
00:32:06,200 --> 00:32:10,320
Speaker 1: the bin in the airplane because it's freaking heavy. I

624
00:32:10,360 --> 00:32:13,560
Speaker 1: respect it. I'm all about the chivalry. I think if

625
00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:15,800
Speaker 1: somebody makes it very clear that they don't want that,

626
00:32:15,920 --> 00:32:18,680
Speaker 1: then I'll consider it and I'll be like, hey, alright, fine,

627
00:32:18,720 --> 00:32:20,400
Speaker 1: but it's just going to be natural for me to

628
00:32:20,440 --> 00:32:22,640
Speaker 1: want to help my partner. Doesn't matter if I was

629
00:32:22,800 --> 00:32:24,240
Speaker 1: even even if I was gay and I had a

630
00:32:24,280 --> 00:32:26,200
Speaker 1: male partner, I'd want to open the door for them.

631
00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 1: I'd want to pay for the meal. I mean, preach it,

632
00:32:30,120 --> 00:32:33,680
Speaker 1: preach it. That's it's actually something very like I get into.

633
00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:36,080
Speaker 1: I don't not not like actual fights, but we get

634
00:32:36,120 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 1: into like conversations because I liked I love to give,

635
00:32:39,760 --> 00:32:41,480
Speaker 1: like I just that's like I just love to give,

636
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:44,520
Speaker 1: and he's like the same way, and so when I

637
00:32:44,600 --> 00:32:46,520
Speaker 1: do too much, Like he's like, you need to let

638
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 1: me do a little bit because that same feeling that

639
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:51,400
Speaker 1: you like, Like he's like, I like that too, And

640
00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:54,880
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, I'm gonna I'll let you do this.

641
00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:59,840
Speaker 1: Good good balance. It's a good problem to have. I

642
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:03,960
Speaker 1: the opposite. I agree. I agree, Um Hunter, thank you

643
00:33:04,240 --> 00:33:07,760
Speaker 1: as always for joining us. Yeah, everybody tune into Nightly Pop.

644
00:33:07,840 --> 00:33:10,959
Speaker 1: It's Monday through Thursday nights on e UM. They can

645
00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:13,680
Speaker 1: follow you on Instagram. It is just at Hunter March.

646
00:33:13,960 --> 00:33:16,600
Speaker 1: Just at Hunter March. Yeah, look for the shirtless photos.

647
00:33:16,680 --> 00:33:19,479
Speaker 1: That's really the indicator that you're on my page. And

648
00:33:19,520 --> 00:33:22,560
Speaker 1: then you can't find him on any dating apps? Is

649
00:33:22,560 --> 00:33:25,400
Speaker 1: that right? No dating apps right now? But if there's

650
00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:28,920
Speaker 1: somebody out there who let me think about, like what

651
00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:32,520
Speaker 1: what I expect someone who's smarter than me and like

652
00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:34,480
Speaker 1: it's funnier than me, or has a really good sense

653
00:33:34,520 --> 00:33:36,560
Speaker 1: of humor. I just want someone who's better than me

654
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:39,600
Speaker 1: in all ways. I just want to be, you know,

655
00:33:39,680 --> 00:33:43,600
Speaker 1: taking care of by like a brilliant person. Okay, I

656
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 1: love that. We'll see looking out for the intelligent, funny,

657
00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:56,160
Speaker 1: beautiful heart and body women know, just kidding I do

658
00:33:56,200 --> 00:33:58,840
Speaker 1: is kidding. We're looking for a beautiful heart and someone

659
00:33:58,920 --> 00:34:05,080
Speaker 1: that you click with on an emotional, up physical, an

660
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:10,719
Speaker 1: intelligent level. Yeah, I think that's that's fair. I'll let

661
00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:12,520
Speaker 1: you guys know if if I meet one of your

662
00:34:12,560 --> 00:34:15,000
Speaker 1: followers for a date, I will go ahead and give

663
00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:18,120
Speaker 1: you all the details. Please don't look back if you

664
00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:21,040
Speaker 1: go out with one of our scrubbers. Definitely not and

665
00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:24,319
Speaker 1: then we need to have you back like soon. Yeah,

666
00:34:24,440 --> 00:34:30,440
Speaker 1: maybe like every month we have you on Nina lucked

667
00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:32,160
Speaker 1: already lucked in for I was like, what are you

668
00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:34,719
Speaker 1: doing Thursday, because I'm taking Aaron out to just like

669
00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:38,640
Speaker 1: congratulate her on her engagement, and um, I'm already looped

670
00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:41,560
Speaker 1: or like roped Hunter into coming along or at leastopping

671
00:34:41,600 --> 00:34:44,719
Speaker 1: by for a drink. I'm in. I will definitely do that,

672
00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:47,480
Speaker 1: and uh, if you guys want me back whenever you want.

673
00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:50,600
Speaker 1: I realized I've lived fairly close to Tanya, so I

674
00:34:50,640 --> 00:34:52,960
Speaker 1: can even do an in person thing and we can

675
00:34:53,000 --> 00:34:56,520
Speaker 1: all be in a room together, so so cute. So

676
00:34:56,520 --> 00:34:58,360
Speaker 1: we'll say, Okay, we're gonna save the champagne that you

677
00:34:58,400 --> 00:35:01,759
Speaker 1: brought and well we will consume it next time you're

678
00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:09,120
Speaker 1: on Okay, exciting if we wait, but she's making promises

679
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:11,520
Speaker 1: that we haven't agreed to as a team. That's true,

680
00:35:12,280 --> 00:35:13,719
Speaker 1: but I thought it was a cute idea. That's a

681
00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:16,560
Speaker 1: cute idea. Yeah, we can't wait to have you back.

682
00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:18,800
Speaker 1: They literally thank you so much. I know you're busy

683
00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:21,719
Speaker 1: and we really appreciate your time. Yeah, thank you, Thank

684
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:23,399
Speaker 1: you guys so much. And my last thing is if

685
00:35:23,440 --> 00:35:25,719
Speaker 1: if either of you were single, I would date both

686
00:35:25,719 --> 00:35:28,760
Speaker 1: of you in a heartbeat. You're both my type by

687
00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:31,320
Speaker 1: far and away better than most of the people I

688
00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:33,879
Speaker 1: go on dates with. So um, just keep that in mind.

689
00:35:33,960 --> 00:35:36,239
Speaker 1: Is your boyfriend date us both at the same time.

690
00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:39,880
Speaker 1: I you know what's funny, It's like, I feel like

691
00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:41,680
Speaker 1: if anybody could do it, you guys have such a

692
00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:44,440
Speaker 1: good chemistry already that it would work. I'm just saying,

693
00:35:44,520 --> 00:35:47,080
Speaker 1: think about it when you know the next time your

694
00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:50,800
Speaker 1: boyfriend's yeah, we'll think about that. Yeah. So that's a

695
00:35:50,920 --> 00:35:52,480
Speaker 1: that's a note. You know what's funny. We actually had

696
00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:54,400
Speaker 1: the truth or drink question and somebody was like, Tanya,

697
00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:56,160
Speaker 1: what's off limits for you in the bedroom? And I

698
00:35:56,200 --> 00:35:59,839
Speaker 1: literally was like, I said nothing, because I I really thought,

699
00:36:00,040 --> 00:36:01,880
Speaker 1: thinking and Becca was like, oh, you'd be down for

700
00:36:01,920 --> 00:36:04,359
Speaker 1: a three way and I was like, f no, Like

701
00:36:04,520 --> 00:36:06,439
Speaker 1: that is a hard note for me, Like I need

702
00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 1: all the attention like on me, especially like I'd be

703
00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:14,840
Speaker 1: like I turned. It could be an emotional threesome, you know,

704
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:20,960
Speaker 1: like an emotionally connected are Yeah. Yeah, Well, thank you

705
00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:24,400
Speaker 1: guys so much, Grassland for years. I will see you

706
00:36:24,680 --> 00:36:26,680
Speaker 1: as soon as your boyfriends mess up or next month

707
00:36:26,719 --> 00:36:48,879
Speaker 1: for our weekly episode by hunder By. All Right, he's

708
00:36:48,920 --> 00:36:51,720
Speaker 1: just the best. He he looks like for some reason,

709
00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:53,400
Speaker 1: when when I was looking at him, he looked like

710
00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:57,480
Speaker 1: my brother today, my brother Christopher, like your brother. I

711
00:36:57,560 --> 00:36:59,719
Speaker 1: never thought of that, I know, and my brother was

712
00:36:59,800 --> 00:37:01,799
Speaker 1: face show her right now. So like when I was

713
00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:04,240
Speaker 1: looking at him some of the times when he was talking,

714
00:37:04,320 --> 00:37:06,600
Speaker 1: I was like, it looks like Chris yeah, And I

715
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:08,520
Speaker 1: just thought it was so So he comes he texts

716
00:37:08,560 --> 00:37:11,560
Speaker 1: me and he's like, hey, I'm out front. I have

717
00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:13,440
Speaker 1: something for you for you and Becca before we do

718
00:37:13,520 --> 00:37:15,960
Speaker 1: the show or before I come on the podcast, and

719
00:37:16,040 --> 00:37:17,880
Speaker 1: he has this like bottle of champagne. He's like, I

720
00:37:17,920 --> 00:37:20,000
Speaker 1: just want to say congrats on three years. It's so cool.

721
00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:21,600
Speaker 1: And then he had a bottle of champagne for Aaron

722
00:37:21,600 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 1: because she just got engaged. And I was like, that

723
00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:29,960
Speaker 1: is like cute, so thoughtful. And he'd like listened to

724
00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:32,239
Speaker 1: our last episode because he was like referencing things like

725
00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:38,480
Speaker 1: so cute. Um, we didn't even talk about our weeks.

726
00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:40,279
Speaker 1: How how was your week? Last time I saw you

727
00:37:42,160 --> 00:37:45,000
Speaker 1: in a week. I know, but it feels like so

728
00:37:45,239 --> 00:37:48,120
Speaker 1: this week felt very long. Do you always feel like that?

729
00:37:48,840 --> 00:37:50,960
Speaker 1: It felt like it almost felt like we skipped a

730
00:37:50,960 --> 00:37:52,400
Speaker 1: week because I feel like I haven't seen you in

731
00:37:52,440 --> 00:37:55,800
Speaker 1: so long. Yeah. So I went from having like two

732
00:37:56,080 --> 00:37:59,200
Speaker 1: minor things at Red Star's house literally like my brush

733
00:37:59,600 --> 00:38:02,919
Speaker 1: head because I just used his actual bruche and then

734
00:38:03,160 --> 00:38:09,200
Speaker 1: um a razor and I have fully move like shampoo, conditioner,

735
00:38:09,400 --> 00:38:14,000
Speaker 1: face wash like you name it, because he gave me

736
00:38:14,040 --> 00:38:15,880
Speaker 1: the whole thing. He's like you could put you this

737
00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:19,239
Speaker 1: is yours, whatever you want it. Yeah, I just wanted

738
00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:20,759
Speaker 1: to be like chill, So I was like, I'm just

739
00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:23,160
Speaker 1: gonna keep it. Why we talked about this a little

740
00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:25,680
Speaker 1: bit at a morning show meeting. Why did you want

741
00:38:25,719 --> 00:38:29,560
Speaker 1: to be chilled? Know? It's so not me, Like I'm

742
00:38:29,560 --> 00:38:31,719
Speaker 1: the one that's like, let's build a love fern in

743
00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:33,960
Speaker 1: your living room and like water it and like do

744
00:38:34,040 --> 00:38:35,920
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Like that's fully me, like

745
00:38:35,960 --> 00:38:39,640
Speaker 1: the like coming in hot um. I don't know why,

746
00:38:39,680 --> 00:38:41,640
Speaker 1: but there was something in me that was just telling

747
00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:45,400
Speaker 1: me to proceed with caution. Just put a couple of

748
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:47,600
Speaker 1: things in there and just like keep it, you know,

749
00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:51,200
Speaker 1: keep it soansy, keep it chill um. But then I

750
00:38:51,280 --> 00:38:55,760
Speaker 1: was like, it's actually very annoying having to like pack

751
00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:58,399
Speaker 1: all my you know, just my toiletry bag. It's like big,

752
00:38:58,440 --> 00:39:00,040
Speaker 1: and I really when I go, I just bring a

753
00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:01,759
Speaker 1: couple of like shirts and stuff. It's not I don't

754
00:39:01,800 --> 00:39:04,239
Speaker 1: need that much stuff. So I was like, I think

755
00:39:04,239 --> 00:39:07,839
Speaker 1: it's just out of convenience easier to just leave all

756
00:39:07,840 --> 00:39:10,920
Speaker 1: this here. So I really went from like two things

757
00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:14,120
Speaker 1: to like now I have like my face serum and

758
00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:18,680
Speaker 1: my everything kind of and then like it's actually really

759
00:39:18,719 --> 00:39:21,040
Speaker 1: cute because I have to do my makeup like on

760
00:39:21,080 --> 00:39:24,120
Speaker 1: the ground of his bathroom. So I sit down on

761
00:39:24,160 --> 00:39:26,200
Speaker 1: the ground, I do a makeup, and he was every

762
00:39:26,200 --> 00:39:27,560
Speaker 1: time I do it, He's just like I don't, like,

763
00:39:27,760 --> 00:39:29,120
Speaker 1: what can I get you to like make you more

764
00:39:29,160 --> 00:39:31,439
Speaker 1: comfortable in here? Blah, And I'm fine, like I'm fine

765
00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:33,360
Speaker 1: and fine and fine. But he ended up getting like

766
00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:35,720
Speaker 1: a little vanity mirror to like put in the bathroom

767
00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:37,440
Speaker 1: in a little stool so that I can sit on

768
00:39:37,480 --> 00:39:39,280
Speaker 1: a stool and you have to do on the floor.

769
00:39:40,520 --> 00:39:42,360
Speaker 1: Why are you on the floor? Yeah? What what's on?

770
00:39:43,200 --> 00:39:45,840
Speaker 1: Because like he has no the mirrors are like full length,

771
00:39:45,880 --> 00:39:48,480
Speaker 1: like um top to you know, steiling to the ground,

772
00:39:48,640 --> 00:39:50,279
Speaker 1: and so I like to be right in front of

773
00:39:50,280 --> 00:39:51,840
Speaker 1: the mirror when I do my makeup. I can't like

774
00:39:51,920 --> 00:39:54,359
Speaker 1: bend over the sink. I don't like to bend over

775
00:39:54,400 --> 00:39:56,319
Speaker 1: the sink, so I just like park it on the

776
00:39:56,360 --> 00:40:00,120
Speaker 1: floor and just get right in there. And so but

777
00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:02,640
Speaker 1: now I have a little vanity and a little stool.

778
00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:06,359
Speaker 1: That's really cute, very thoughtful. So big week over here. Yeah,

779
00:40:06,400 --> 00:40:12,560
Speaker 1: I'm huge information, huge moves. Yeah, I remember that weird

780
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:15,399
Speaker 1: in between time of having to carry my toiletry bag

781
00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:19,680
Speaker 1: back and forth, it was like finally, and I don't

782
00:40:19,719 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 1: even know if I was actually asked to bring some

783
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:24,399
Speaker 1: I just brought it and left it like I didn't

784
00:40:24,480 --> 00:40:27,680
Speaker 1: think too much about it. I know. Then that's my problem.

785
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:29,839
Speaker 1: I think way too much because when he didn't offer,

786
00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:32,440
Speaker 1: I kept wanting him to offer to leave me stuff.

787
00:40:32,440 --> 00:40:34,080
Speaker 1: And then when I finally got the offer to leave

788
00:40:34,120 --> 00:40:36,040
Speaker 1: all my stuff, I was like, I'm not gonna do it.

789
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:42,040
Speaker 1: You're so stubborn. Um. Well, over the weekend, So Friday night,

790
00:40:42,120 --> 00:40:45,680
Speaker 1: I went to this like birthday get together on someone's

791
00:40:45,760 --> 00:40:49,600
Speaker 1: rooftop and I drank this. So two things I did

792
00:40:49,640 --> 00:40:51,960
Speaker 1: Friday that we're out of the norm. I don't think

793
00:40:52,000 --> 00:40:54,360
Speaker 1: it was a drink by the way. Okay, So I

794
00:40:54,440 --> 00:40:57,480
Speaker 1: took these supplements earlier in the day. Um, and I

795
00:40:57,520 --> 00:41:01,040
Speaker 1: had read reviews. I like, literally I actually looked into

796
00:41:01,080 --> 00:41:03,719
Speaker 1: them before I took them. They had amazing reviews. People

797
00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 1: were like these change in my life, blah blah blah

798
00:41:06,719 --> 00:41:10,160
Speaker 1: over like twenty reviews by the way. So I took them,

799
00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:13,600
Speaker 1: ready for my life to change. Go on with my day,

800
00:41:13,800 --> 00:41:16,080
Speaker 1: go to this rooftop thing and I drink this. It

801
00:41:16,160 --> 00:41:19,000
Speaker 1: was like a pre made um like it was basically

802
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:23,719
Speaker 1: a pre made spicy margarita. But um, I later I

803
00:41:23,760 --> 00:41:26,360
Speaker 1: get home and my face, I take a shower. I

804
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:29,239
Speaker 1: don't do anything new in my shower, like no body wash,

805
00:41:29,280 --> 00:41:32,080
Speaker 1: no lotion, anything that was different, and my face is

806
00:41:32,120 --> 00:41:37,040
Speaker 1: like on fire and it's like red and I'm like,

807
00:41:37,239 --> 00:41:39,959
Speaker 1: something just feels weird because I feel like my face

808
00:41:39,960 --> 00:41:42,880
Speaker 1: feels like I have a fever, but my temperature is normal.

809
00:41:42,960 --> 00:41:46,520
Speaker 1: So um. I go to get in bed and I realized,

810
00:41:46,560 --> 00:41:49,279
Speaker 1: like my I have like hives and um on my

811
00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:51,759
Speaker 1: arms and legs, which I've never had before. I've never

812
00:41:51,920 --> 00:41:54,680
Speaker 1: had an allergic reaction. So I was like, all right,

813
00:41:54,719 --> 00:41:56,560
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna take some bin a drill and hopefully

814
00:41:56,640 --> 00:41:59,680
Speaker 1: it kills it and I'm fine tomorrow. So I woke

815
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:01,720
Speaker 1: up the next day and I looked into the drink

816
00:42:01,760 --> 00:42:04,000
Speaker 1: that I had and had some sort of chili in

817
00:42:04,120 --> 00:42:06,400
Speaker 1: it that I wasn't familiar. You know, normally I'll have

818
00:42:06,440 --> 00:42:09,080
Speaker 1: a halopano or something in my spicy margarita, but this

819
00:42:09,120 --> 00:42:14,040
Speaker 1: is like some sort of chili. So um, nothing gets better.

820
00:42:14,440 --> 00:42:16,360
Speaker 1: And finally I'm just like, I'm going to go to

821
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:18,879
Speaker 1: urgent care and hopefully they can help me out. They

822
00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:22,479
Speaker 1: give me a huge steroid shot. My butt like felt

823
00:42:22,480 --> 00:42:24,480
Speaker 1: like I had a Charlie Horse for like forty five minutes,

824
00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:28,400
Speaker 1: and wake up the next day the hives have gone down,

825
00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:30,879
Speaker 1: but then my chest, in my face and my neck

826
00:42:30,960 --> 00:42:33,400
Speaker 1: were like it looks like I had a severe sunburn,

827
00:42:33,480 --> 00:42:36,080
Speaker 1: but I hadn't been in the sun, and so one

828
00:42:36,120 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 1: of my friends who's a nurse, said I should either

829
00:42:38,160 --> 00:42:40,960
Speaker 1: go back to urgent care or just go straight to

830
00:42:41,000 --> 00:42:43,680
Speaker 1: the e R and see if I'm having another reaction

831
00:42:43,719 --> 00:42:45,759
Speaker 1: maybe to the steroid shot. So I go and wait

832
00:42:45,800 --> 00:42:48,919
Speaker 1: in the e R for like four hours for the

833
00:42:49,000 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 1: doctor to basically be like, well, it's not a typical

834
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:56,399
Speaker 1: allergic reaction, so maybe just go home and take more

835
00:42:56,480 --> 00:42:58,440
Speaker 1: ben a drill and if it's not better in a week,

836
00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:04,400
Speaker 1: come back. And I was just so frustrated because I'm like,

837
00:43:05,440 --> 00:43:08,320
Speaker 1: I know my body and something, I'm reacting to something,

838
00:43:08,320 --> 00:43:09,839
Speaker 1: and all you can tell me is to take more

839
00:43:09,840 --> 00:43:12,080
Speaker 1: ben a drill that I've been taking every five hours

840
00:43:12,200 --> 00:43:16,080
Speaker 1: for two days now, and so um Luckily a female

841
00:43:16,200 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 1: nurse came in, so I had a male doctor, nothing

842
00:43:18,560 --> 00:43:20,360
Speaker 1: against men, but like, you know, there's just like a

843
00:43:20,400 --> 00:43:24,080
Speaker 1: different level of compassion with females. And she comes in

844
00:43:24,120 --> 00:43:26,799
Speaker 1: and I was like, is there nothing you can prescribe

845
00:43:26,920 --> 00:43:28,960
Speaker 1: or do you know he just told me to take

846
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:30,919
Speaker 1: ben a drill. So she ended up helping me out

847
00:43:30,920 --> 00:43:34,160
Speaker 1: and got like a prescription um written for me. But

848
00:43:34,200 --> 00:43:36,560
Speaker 1: I was thinking, like, you really do have to advocate

849
00:43:36,640 --> 00:43:40,920
Speaker 1: for your your body because like he basically I waited

850
00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:42,799
Speaker 1: for four hours for him to basically tell me to

851
00:43:42,800 --> 00:43:44,520
Speaker 1: go home and keep doing what I was doing. And

852
00:43:44,520 --> 00:43:47,360
Speaker 1: I had to kind of step up out of my

853
00:43:47,440 --> 00:43:49,520
Speaker 1: comfort zone when the nurse came in and be like,

854
00:43:49,560 --> 00:43:52,640
Speaker 1: can you can you help me? Like, can someone just

855
00:43:53,120 --> 00:43:55,680
Speaker 1: give me peace of mind? Write me a fake prescription.

856
00:43:55,760 --> 00:43:57,719
Speaker 1: I don't care, just like, help me out, give me

857
00:43:57,760 --> 00:44:02,040
Speaker 1: a placebo? Yeah. So, m I I feel better today

858
00:44:02,200 --> 00:44:05,400
Speaker 1: and I think everything's pretty much normal from what I

859
00:44:05,440 --> 00:44:08,600
Speaker 1: can tell. But it was. It was like a rough weekend.

860
00:44:09,000 --> 00:44:11,319
Speaker 1: I didn't post anything. I was just like gonna then

861
00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:15,520
Speaker 1: a drill coma, Like that's so scary. Let me tell

862
00:44:15,560 --> 00:44:17,279
Speaker 1: you man, I don't think it was a drink. I

863
00:44:17,320 --> 00:44:21,839
Speaker 1: am a firm supplement. You gotta really check. Yeah. Sure.

864
00:44:22,160 --> 00:44:24,120
Speaker 1: So then I went back and I typed in the

865
00:44:24,160 --> 00:44:27,480
Speaker 1: supplement name, and then I typed in allergic reaction afterwards,

866
00:44:27,480 --> 00:44:29,520
Speaker 1: and there were just a few comments here and there

867
00:44:29,600 --> 00:44:31,759
Speaker 1: that said I took this. I was hoping that I

868
00:44:31,760 --> 00:44:33,399
Speaker 1: would love it, but I got a rash all over

869
00:44:33,480 --> 00:44:36,360
Speaker 1: my body, so I think, but the doctor said it

870
00:44:36,400 --> 00:44:39,560
Speaker 1: could be either or so I'm not going to take

871
00:44:39,600 --> 00:44:43,480
Speaker 1: the chance with either ever. Again, that's the moral of

872
00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:45,520
Speaker 1: the story. But the other moral is that you need

873
00:44:45,560 --> 00:44:47,280
Speaker 1: to speak up when you go to the doctor because

874
00:44:48,080 --> 00:44:50,080
Speaker 1: you've got to advocate for yourself. What we talked about

875
00:44:50,120 --> 00:44:52,040
Speaker 1: last week. Don't even get me started. You have a

876
00:44:52,080 --> 00:44:53,200
Speaker 1: U t I. Oh no, you don't have a U

877
00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:56,040
Speaker 1: tast Stop taking the prescription. Thanks. Three days later, I'm

878
00:44:56,120 --> 00:45:00,560
Speaker 1: antibiotic ng my body for no reason. Like, so insane.

879
00:45:00,600 --> 00:45:02,759
Speaker 1: How much more that happens with women too, Like I've

880
00:45:02,760 --> 00:45:04,480
Speaker 1: seen it with Alison, Like she'll go to the doctor

881
00:45:04,560 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 1: and like like this is wrong, and it will be

882
00:45:06,719 --> 00:45:08,719
Speaker 1: a man and he's like, no, it's not. And then

883
00:45:08,760 --> 00:45:11,960
Speaker 1: like ten doctors later, women included, like she'll finally get

884
00:45:12,000 --> 00:45:14,080
Speaker 1: someone that's like, oh, this is what's happening, and it's

885
00:45:14,080 --> 00:45:16,400
Speaker 1: just like it's it's so insane. It just it breaks

886
00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:19,319
Speaker 1: my heart that all these people. It's so interesting because

887
00:45:19,360 --> 00:45:22,799
Speaker 1: you really do, like you really have to just like yeah,

888
00:45:22,800 --> 00:45:26,400
Speaker 1: I know your body and just really keep going until

889
00:45:26,480 --> 00:45:28,640
Speaker 1: you figure it out. And you have to be like,

890
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:33,239
Speaker 1: I'm not crazy, something's up. Just do a little more,

891
00:45:33,480 --> 00:45:35,799
Speaker 1: at least act like you care a little bit more.

892
00:45:36,160 --> 00:45:39,320
Speaker 1: You just looked at me as like, hmm, have you

893
00:45:39,360 --> 00:45:43,760
Speaker 1: tried Ben, Yeah, have you tried have you tried your leaping? Yeah? Yeah,

894
00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:49,040
Speaker 1: thanks dude, are you drinking water? Yes? Um. So anyways,

895
00:45:49,080 --> 00:45:51,680
Speaker 1: that was about the That was the most exciting thing

896
00:45:51,719 --> 00:45:55,160
Speaker 1: that happened to me. Unfortunately over the weekend. It's fine,

897
00:45:55,520 --> 00:46:04,239
Speaker 1: you're moving in rationale worried about you all weekend. I

898
00:46:04,320 --> 00:46:07,600
Speaker 1: was like, I know, well, you can tell everyone just

899
00:46:07,920 --> 00:46:10,040
Speaker 1: like needs a little bit of excitement in their life.

900
00:46:10,080 --> 00:46:12,400
Speaker 1: Because I had so many people checking in on me

901
00:46:12,440 --> 00:46:14,480
Speaker 1: because I was like going into the urgent care and

902
00:46:14,480 --> 00:46:16,560
Speaker 1: then they are, and you would have thought that I

903
00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:19,800
Speaker 1: had I don't have like a massive surgery or something,

904
00:46:19,840 --> 00:46:23,160
Speaker 1: because I was being checked on and it really made

905
00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:24,840
Speaker 1: me feel very loud. I was like, I have a

906
00:46:24,960 --> 00:46:28,000
Speaker 1: rash and everyone's like checking in, like with my sister.

907
00:46:28,120 --> 00:46:32,560
Speaker 1: She okay. So thanks to all who reached out. I

908
00:46:32,560 --> 00:46:37,560
Speaker 1: appreciate the love and UM, but I know we have

909
00:46:37,680 --> 00:46:39,520
Speaker 1: some emails we're gonna get to, but we're gonna take

910
00:46:39,560 --> 00:46:58,200
Speaker 1: a quick break and we will be right back. Alright,

911
00:46:58,200 --> 00:47:01,719
Speaker 1: We're back. Um, we have some top emails. I would

912
00:47:01,760 --> 00:47:04,839
Speaker 1: say this week that Mark's going to get to Um, Mark,

913
00:47:04,880 --> 00:47:08,160
Speaker 1: are you ready? To lend us your boy, your beautiful, dean,

914
00:47:09,080 --> 00:47:11,960
Speaker 1: relaxing boy. Thank you, Becky, I'd be happy to This

915
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:14,799
Speaker 1: is from anonymous. My boyfriend and I have been together

916
00:47:14,800 --> 00:47:16,839
Speaker 1: four and a half years. We've lived together for three

917
00:47:16,840 --> 00:47:19,040
Speaker 1: and a half. He's thirty eight, almost thirty nine. I'm

918
00:47:19,080 --> 00:47:22,200
Speaker 1: thirty five. We don't plan to have kids. We've gone

919
00:47:22,320 --> 00:47:25,239
Speaker 1: ring shopping my request, and after lots of annoying reminders,

920
00:47:25,280 --> 00:47:27,960
Speaker 1: I picked one and it's been ordered and purchased. To

921
00:47:28,040 --> 00:47:30,239
Speaker 1: my knowledge, he hasn't going to pick it up. He

922
00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:32,200
Speaker 1: doesn't agree with how I want to be proposed to.

923
00:47:32,480 --> 00:47:35,200
Speaker 1: I don't want anything extreme, but I want some thought

924
00:47:35,200 --> 00:47:37,759
Speaker 1: put into it and for it to be special. He

925
00:47:37,880 --> 00:47:39,600
Speaker 1: just wants to basically hand it to me and ask

926
00:47:39,640 --> 00:47:41,640
Speaker 1: me to marry him. He said he hasn't done it

927
00:47:41,719 --> 00:47:44,880
Speaker 1: yet because it'll spiral into the wedding planning and ultimately

928
00:47:44,920 --> 00:47:47,000
Speaker 1: the wedding that he also doesn't agree with me on

929
00:47:47,120 --> 00:47:49,840
Speaker 1: for the plans, he'd prefer the courthouse, which is a

930
00:47:49,920 --> 00:47:54,160
Speaker 1: note for me. I'm a wedding planner. I'm starting to

931
00:47:54,200 --> 00:47:56,640
Speaker 1: think the happiest days of my life the proposal on

932
00:47:56,680 --> 00:47:59,279
Speaker 1: the wedding are just not going to happen with him.

933
00:47:59,400 --> 00:48:01,080
Speaker 1: Do I just give up on those dreams of it

934
00:48:01,160 --> 00:48:03,839
Speaker 1: being special because of him? Or do I just need

935
00:48:03,880 --> 00:48:06,279
Speaker 1: to come to the realization that he's not my guy

936
00:48:06,719 --> 00:48:09,440
Speaker 1: if he isn't willing to budge and make me feel special.

937
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:14,840
Speaker 1: M hmm, I have I'm sitting here thinking. I was

938
00:48:14,920 --> 00:48:17,920
Speaker 1: just thinking as you're reading that about Alison and Easton

939
00:48:18,000 --> 00:48:22,200
Speaker 1: celebrating their three year anniversary and the thoughtfulness that went

940
00:48:22,280 --> 00:48:26,640
Speaker 1: into what they planned for each other after still three

941
00:48:26,760 --> 00:48:30,040
Speaker 1: years of being together, and this girl he won't even

942
00:48:31,440 --> 00:48:36,040
Speaker 1: acknowledge her needs or once like this is in my opinion,

943
00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:38,759
Speaker 1: this is not your guy, right, Am I wrong? Year?

944
00:48:40,840 --> 00:48:42,640
Speaker 1: I mean, that's hard to say that after four and

945
00:48:42,640 --> 00:48:46,720
Speaker 1: a half years together. At the beginning of this email,

946
00:48:46,840 --> 00:48:49,480
Speaker 1: I related to the guy only because I would not

947
00:48:49,560 --> 00:48:53,560
Speaker 1: have wanted to be kind of harangued about getting a

948
00:48:53,640 --> 00:48:55,480
Speaker 1: ring and this is the one I want, And when

949
00:48:55,480 --> 00:48:56,719
Speaker 1: are you going to buy it? And when are you

950
00:48:56,760 --> 00:48:58,640
Speaker 1: going to propose? Because I want to do that all

951
00:48:58,640 --> 00:49:00,840
Speaker 1: in my own time and it to be a surprise

952
00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:03,000
Speaker 1: and I want her to cry and not see it coming.

953
00:49:03,239 --> 00:49:04,839
Speaker 1: And if you're bringing it up every other day, you're

954
00:49:04,840 --> 00:49:06,760
Speaker 1: always going to see it coming. So at the beginning,

955
00:49:06,800 --> 00:49:08,319
Speaker 1: I was like, Oh, this is just a guy who

956
00:49:08,360 --> 00:49:09,960
Speaker 1: kind of wants to do his own thing. But it

957
00:49:10,040 --> 00:49:14,160
Speaker 1: sounds like his own thing is really really lame. So

958
00:49:14,239 --> 00:49:17,160
Speaker 1: I think you have to decide is what's more important

959
00:49:17,200 --> 00:49:20,160
Speaker 1: to you this guy or someone who makes you feel

960
00:49:20,200 --> 00:49:22,960
Speaker 1: really special, because I don't know that they can they're

961
00:49:23,000 --> 00:49:27,160
Speaker 1: the same person. Okay, here's my thought. Though. I can't

962
00:49:27,160 --> 00:49:31,920
Speaker 1: imagine that he would do it if she wasn't in

963
00:49:32,080 --> 00:49:34,800
Speaker 1: stating it, like would he ever go and shop for

964
00:49:34,880 --> 00:49:38,640
Speaker 1: a ring? But he ever proposed if she wasn't having

965
00:49:38,680 --> 00:49:41,680
Speaker 1: to bring it up all the time. This man does

966
00:49:41,719 --> 00:49:43,759
Speaker 1: not want to get married. He does not like that.

967
00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:47,440
Speaker 1: Other linaries like I mean, once we get you know,

968
00:49:47,440 --> 00:49:49,520
Speaker 1: once I propose, then it's going to just spiral into

969
00:49:49,560 --> 00:49:54,560
Speaker 1: the wedding planning. And it's like, yeah, that's the next step, bro, Like, uh,

970
00:49:54,600 --> 00:49:56,279
Speaker 1: it sounds like he doesn't want to do it at all.

971
00:49:56,320 --> 00:49:58,440
Speaker 1: That's that's the vibe I'm getting from this well, and

972
00:49:58,480 --> 00:50:00,040
Speaker 1: that's also you could say that, you know, the the

973
00:50:00,480 --> 00:50:02,879
Speaker 1: two circles of the ven diagram of people who don't

974
00:50:02,880 --> 00:50:04,520
Speaker 1: want kids and people who don't want to get married,

975
00:50:04,520 --> 00:50:06,640
Speaker 1: there's significant cross over there. So I would say that

976
00:50:06,680 --> 00:50:10,399
Speaker 1: he maybe doesn't want either of those two things. Well,

977
00:50:10,440 --> 00:50:12,359
Speaker 1: she seems fine, I mean they I think they both

978
00:50:12,400 --> 00:50:14,759
Speaker 1: agree on not wanting kids. But I just feel like

979
00:50:15,080 --> 00:50:17,640
Speaker 1: he doesn't for her to have to put in all

980
00:50:17,680 --> 00:50:21,360
Speaker 1: the effort for something that he doesn't want. It feels

981
00:50:21,400 --> 00:50:25,120
Speaker 1: like that's gonna lead into every other thing in their

982
00:50:25,160 --> 00:50:28,560
Speaker 1: relationship of like where they disagree on how things go,

983
00:50:28,680 --> 00:50:32,279
Speaker 1: which will just kind of be disappointing honestly for both

984
00:50:32,280 --> 00:50:34,440
Speaker 1: of them as long as they're together. In my opinion,

985
00:50:35,440 --> 00:50:37,359
Speaker 1: you've been so quiet for this evening, you know, she's

986
00:50:37,400 --> 00:50:44,640
Speaker 1: just making a sad like that's your question. It's interesting

987
00:50:44,640 --> 00:50:48,360
Speaker 1: because like my first instinct was maybe there's like a

988
00:50:48,440 --> 00:50:50,640
Speaker 1: compromise that like the two of them could come to

989
00:50:50,719 --> 00:50:53,560
Speaker 1: where they both feel comfortable. But it's also like, why

990
00:50:53,600 --> 00:50:56,160
Speaker 1: should you have to compromise on something that like is

991
00:50:56,200 --> 00:51:00,280
Speaker 1: so beautiful and so special? You know, Like that's actually

992
00:51:00,320 --> 00:51:05,200
Speaker 1: makes me kind of sad. I know it's I guess

993
00:51:05,480 --> 00:51:08,640
Speaker 1: initially I should have just said sorry, you're going through this,

994
00:51:08,800 --> 00:51:11,839
Speaker 1: because it's the thing is we say, like get out

995
00:51:11,840 --> 00:51:13,520
Speaker 1: of the relation. You know, this isn't your guy. But

996
00:51:13,560 --> 00:51:15,400
Speaker 1: they've been together for a long time, So it's not

997
00:51:15,480 --> 00:51:18,360
Speaker 1: that easy to just say like, okay, I'm done because

998
00:51:18,760 --> 00:51:21,319
Speaker 1: we don't agree on this topic. But I think if

999
00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:23,120
Speaker 1: you look long term, is this going to be the

1000
00:51:23,120 --> 00:51:25,720
Speaker 1: rest of your life? Or you have needs and ones

1001
00:51:25,719 --> 00:51:28,560
Speaker 1: and desires and they're not fulfilled because they're not his

1002
00:51:28,640 --> 00:51:31,920
Speaker 1: desires and needs and ones. I mean talk about not

1003
00:51:31,960 --> 00:51:35,160
Speaker 1: being sensitive to her needs. She's a wedding planner. How

1004
00:51:35,200 --> 00:51:38,520
Speaker 1: many weddings has she vicariously lived through over the past

1005
00:51:38,560 --> 00:51:41,080
Speaker 1: how many years? And he's like, I'll just give me

1006
00:51:41,160 --> 00:51:42,879
Speaker 1: the ring, we'll get out of the cart house. That'll

1007
00:51:42,920 --> 00:51:47,879
Speaker 1: be that. Like that is those are two different universes, Yeah,

1008
00:51:47,920 --> 00:51:52,320
Speaker 1: because if he was able to compromise, if there was

1009
00:51:52,440 --> 00:51:54,359
Speaker 1: some sort of him meeting in the middle and like

1010
00:51:54,400 --> 00:51:56,839
Speaker 1: whether it was the proposal or what the wedding looked like,

1011
00:51:56,960 --> 00:51:58,920
Speaker 1: or maybe it was like we get married at the courthouse,

1012
00:51:58,960 --> 00:52:00,840
Speaker 1: but then we have a big seller ration or party

1013
00:52:00,880 --> 00:52:03,920
Speaker 1: and not like a traditional wedding, like you know, meet halfway.

1014
00:52:03,960 --> 00:52:06,680
Speaker 1: But it seems like he wants it just to be

1015
00:52:06,800 --> 00:52:10,520
Speaker 1: so easy and what he wants and simple with no

1016
00:52:10,680 --> 00:52:14,400
Speaker 1: thought where she wants the love story like the romantic

1017
00:52:14,520 --> 00:52:20,080
Speaker 1: fairy tale. I don't know, I just don't. I I

1018
00:52:20,280 --> 00:52:21,840
Speaker 1: just see this going in a way where it's a

1019
00:52:21,840 --> 00:52:27,760
Speaker 1: pattern and it's not. It doesn't end here with the wedding. Yeah, agreed,

1020
00:52:27,880 --> 00:52:31,680
Speaker 1: all right? Next up, this is from Molly. A friend

1021
00:52:31,680 --> 00:52:33,680
Speaker 1: from college moved to the same town as me. We

1022
00:52:33,800 --> 00:52:35,360
Speaker 1: ended up going on a two dates. Seemed to be

1023
00:52:35,440 --> 00:52:38,239
Speaker 1: going in a good direction. Then he ghosted me. I

1024
00:52:38,280 --> 00:52:40,920
Speaker 1: didn't hear from him for months, but eventually we reconnected

1025
00:52:40,920 --> 00:52:44,239
Speaker 1: and continued a friendship over time. He made some romantic gestures,

1026
00:52:44,239 --> 00:52:48,279
Speaker 1: but never verbalized how he felt or referenced the time

1027
00:52:48,320 --> 00:52:51,000
Speaker 1: before when he liked me and ghosted me. This is

1028
00:52:51,040 --> 00:52:53,719
Speaker 1: on and off for two years. Finally I had enough,

1029
00:52:53,760 --> 00:52:55,480
Speaker 1: went out to dinner and I straight up asked him, Look,

1030
00:52:55,480 --> 00:52:58,200
Speaker 1: how do you feel? He liked me the whole time,

1031
00:52:58,560 --> 00:53:01,839
Speaker 1: but he was too nervous or scared or intimidated. I

1032
00:53:02,000 --> 00:53:04,279
Speaker 1: hated that I had the ball to bring all this

1033
00:53:04,400 --> 00:53:06,600
Speaker 1: up and find out how he felt instead of this

1034
00:53:06,760 --> 00:53:10,839
Speaker 1: grown man doing it himself. A few days later, I said,

1035
00:53:11,000 --> 00:53:13,800
Speaker 1: I think we're just better off as friends. Well, he

1036
00:53:13,880 --> 00:53:16,040
Speaker 1: got a girlfriend a few months later. They were together

1037
00:53:16,080 --> 00:53:18,400
Speaker 1: for a long time. I thought about him when COVID

1038
00:53:18,480 --> 00:53:21,040
Speaker 1: hit and after some deep stalking. I came to find

1039
00:53:21,040 --> 00:53:23,239
Speaker 1: out he was single again, and I texted him. We've

1040
00:53:23,239 --> 00:53:25,319
Speaker 1: talked on and off the last few months, but we

1041
00:53:25,360 --> 00:53:28,239
Speaker 1: haven't hung out. I'm twenty seven. I wanted to hear

1042
00:53:28,280 --> 00:53:30,320
Speaker 1: your opinions and whether I should pursue this, give it

1043
00:53:30,320 --> 00:53:37,640
Speaker 1: another shot, or just leave things be. You're quiet on

1044
00:53:37,680 --> 00:53:43,640
Speaker 1: the last one, So shoot your shot, girl, shoot your shot?

1045
00:53:45,040 --> 00:53:48,560
Speaker 1: Why not because she's already shot her shot with this guy?

1046
00:53:48,880 --> 00:53:52,080
Speaker 1: But they like, I think, how many years shot? Did

1047
00:53:52,120 --> 00:53:55,000
Speaker 1: she say? How many years they had in between? And

1048
00:53:55,120 --> 00:53:59,080
Speaker 1: she said for two years? And this is during COVID.

1049
00:54:00,600 --> 00:54:02,399
Speaker 1: I think, I think, I shoot your shot is fine,

1050
00:54:02,440 --> 00:54:05,719
Speaker 1: But I think, because here's here's why your shot. But

1051
00:54:05,760 --> 00:54:08,640
Speaker 1: don't like, don't like, don't keep shooting the same shot

1052
00:54:08,640 --> 00:54:13,320
Speaker 1: again again. But guys, as we've said before, are the worst.

1053
00:54:14,080 --> 00:54:18,640
Speaker 1: Guys take a long time to bake. He wasn't done yet.

1054
00:54:18,680 --> 00:54:22,520
Speaker 1: Before I would go open the oven, stick the toothpick

1055
00:54:22,560 --> 00:54:29,239
Speaker 1: in see if he's done yet. Analogies he might be.

1056
00:54:29,680 --> 00:54:31,879
Speaker 1: He might be a fully formed adult at this point.

1057
00:54:31,920 --> 00:54:35,000
Speaker 1: He wasn't before. It's worth checking in to find out.

1058
00:54:36,640 --> 00:54:38,880
Speaker 1: But she said. We've talked on and off over the

1059
00:54:38,960 --> 00:54:42,320
Speaker 1: last few months, but haven't hung out. So why why

1060
00:54:42,320 --> 00:54:45,280
Speaker 1: why isn't he shooting the shot? Because maybe he's nervous

1061
00:54:45,280 --> 00:54:47,600
Speaker 1: with Corona. I'm telling you, if I were single, i'd

1062
00:54:47,600 --> 00:54:49,279
Speaker 1: be and you know me, I would go on a

1063
00:54:49,400 --> 00:54:52,320
Speaker 1: date like no big deal. But if somebody asked me

1064
00:54:52,480 --> 00:54:54,839
Speaker 1: to date right now, I'd kind of be like, But

1065
00:54:55,360 --> 00:54:56,799
Speaker 1: he just said, how do you feel about going on

1066
00:54:56,800 --> 00:54:59,040
Speaker 1: a date? We talked about this so many times before

1067
00:54:59,120 --> 00:55:02,399
Speaker 1: on the morning show too, where guys are so they're

1068
00:55:02,400 --> 00:55:05,760
Speaker 1: so scared, they're so scared of rejection, they're so scared

1069
00:55:05,760 --> 00:55:08,719
Speaker 1: of putting themselves out there. There's such little woosses that

1070
00:55:08,800 --> 00:55:11,520
Speaker 1: they won't actually do it. They want to actually say it,

1071
00:55:11,600 --> 00:55:13,560
Speaker 1: that this guy would have just hung out with her

1072
00:55:13,640 --> 00:55:16,359
Speaker 1: for years, because god forbid, he tells her how he

1073
00:55:16,400 --> 00:55:19,160
Speaker 1: feels he might be in the same situation. So that's

1074
00:55:19,160 --> 00:55:21,719
Speaker 1: a red flag that he hasn't actually said anything. But

1075
00:55:21,800 --> 00:55:24,560
Speaker 1: the fact that you were the one rejected him before, Molly,

1076
00:55:24,960 --> 00:55:27,400
Speaker 1: I think it's worth you kind of opening the door

1077
00:55:27,440 --> 00:55:32,040
Speaker 1: crack again, giving him a chance to step through it. Yeah, okay,

1078
00:55:32,080 --> 00:55:34,160
Speaker 1: but he's got a step she she all she can

1079
00:55:34,160 --> 00:55:36,000
Speaker 1: do is open the door and if he doesn't step through.

1080
00:55:36,040 --> 00:55:38,640
Speaker 1: She's got to move on. Yeah, just drop the hanky,

1081
00:55:38,920 --> 00:55:42,800
Speaker 1: Just drop it really slow, let him pick it up

1082
00:55:42,840 --> 00:55:46,319
Speaker 1: and wipe his nose with it. It's not I did

1083
00:55:46,320 --> 00:55:52,680
Speaker 1: not know where he was going, honestly. Yeah, whatever he

1084
00:55:52,719 --> 00:55:55,839
Speaker 1: wants to do with it, Yeah, put it. I mean like, yeah,

1085
00:55:56,200 --> 00:55:59,560
Speaker 1: shoot your shot, but not don't shoot it so hard

1086
00:55:59,600 --> 00:56:02,640
Speaker 1: that he gets a free pass. Not put any effort in. Right,

1087
00:56:02,640 --> 00:56:05,240
Speaker 1: It's like you're not giving him like two free throws,

1088
00:56:06,200 --> 00:56:09,359
Speaker 1: but you're giving him Oh, she's a Lakers fan now,

1089
00:56:09,480 --> 00:56:15,080
Speaker 1: so here she is. Yeah, exactly, but you're giving him

1090
00:56:15,080 --> 00:56:19,440
Speaker 1: like a tip off. Another podcast, just more great advice

1091
00:56:19,480 --> 00:56:22,439
Speaker 1: and analogies for all of you. You open the door.

1092
00:56:22,560 --> 00:56:24,840
Speaker 1: But if you keep letting him not make any decisions,

1093
00:56:24,920 --> 00:56:26,400
Speaker 1: the next thing you know, he's gonna want to get

1094
00:56:26,480 --> 00:56:29,120
Speaker 1: married at the city Hall and you're gonna want it's

1095
00:56:29,120 --> 00:56:30,840
Speaker 1: gonna be a whole You're gonna end up like Anonymous.

1096
00:56:30,920 --> 00:56:33,880
Speaker 1: So careful, the red flags are already there. That was

1097
00:56:33,880 --> 00:56:37,480
Speaker 1: a full circle moment um. That's all we have today.

1098
00:56:37,480 --> 00:56:40,280
Speaker 1: I know, Eastern you have something you want to share

1099
00:56:40,600 --> 00:56:43,239
Speaker 1: and need a little bit of help from everyone and

1100
00:56:43,320 --> 00:56:45,399
Speaker 1: some prayers. If you want to go ahead and cha yeah, yeah,

1101
00:56:45,440 --> 00:56:48,360
Speaker 1: this is a really really heartbreaking thing. UM. So my

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00:56:48,440 --> 00:56:51,520
Speaker 1: friend Chris Roman, he's a he's the guy that like

1103
00:56:51,760 --> 00:56:53,720
Speaker 1: we kind of cooked up the whole Carminal Corn Princess

1104
00:56:53,760 --> 00:56:55,880
Speaker 1: thing like that started between with as a joke between

1105
00:56:55,920 --> 00:56:59,000
Speaker 1: him and I. Uh, he's a very close friend of mine. Um,

1106
00:56:59,040 --> 00:57:00,879
Speaker 1: and he's going through something really really bad right now.

1107
00:57:01,480 --> 00:57:04,400
Speaker 1: He and his wife, Jordan's, she's a you know, they're

1108
00:57:04,480 --> 00:57:07,200
Speaker 1: really close with Alison and I. They were moving into

1109
00:57:07,200 --> 00:57:10,080
Speaker 1: their first home. Oh god, this is three weeks ago now,

1110
00:57:10,200 --> 00:57:12,360
Speaker 1: and uh, they were like loading a box and she

1111
00:57:12,400 --> 00:57:15,239
Speaker 1: stepped into a pothole and broke her ankle and like

1112
00:57:15,600 --> 00:57:17,960
Speaker 1: that's a bummer. Uh, and went to the hospital and

1113
00:57:17,960 --> 00:57:19,720
Speaker 1: she had to have surgery the next day. And it's

1114
00:57:19,760 --> 00:57:22,200
Speaker 1: like a totally routine thing like that happens all the time.

1115
00:57:22,920 --> 00:57:26,440
Speaker 1: And then uh, during the surgery, she went into cardiac

1116
00:57:26,520 --> 00:57:31,320
Speaker 1: arrest and uh, they they called Chris to come back

1117
00:57:31,400 --> 00:57:33,640
Speaker 1: because they're like, hey, something's gone wrong. And he came

1118
00:57:33,680 --> 00:57:37,120
Speaker 1: in and saw her flatlining like on the table, which

1119
00:57:37,160 --> 00:57:39,400
Speaker 1: is like a heartbreaking image. And they were able to

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00:57:39,400 --> 00:57:42,440
Speaker 1: bring her back, but she was gone for a while,

1121
00:57:42,520 --> 00:57:47,640
Speaker 1: so there was significant brain trauma. UM. So as it

1122
00:57:47,760 --> 00:57:53,080
Speaker 1: is now she's medically unconscious, but she's breathing on her own. Um,

1123
00:57:53,120 --> 00:57:57,240
Speaker 1: but she's you know, she's she's non responsive right now. Uh.

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00:57:57,320 --> 00:58:01,040
Speaker 1: And it's it's the type of thing you never think

1125
00:58:01,040 --> 00:58:03,960
Speaker 1: this kind of thing could happen, especially doing something so

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00:58:04,000 --> 00:58:06,320
Speaker 1: simple as like you're just like moving a box like

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00:58:06,360 --> 00:58:08,560
Speaker 1: she wasn't like on a motorcycle or like doing anything

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00:58:08,560 --> 00:58:14,480
Speaker 1: super risky. But I just can't stop thinking about their

1129
00:58:14,560 --> 00:58:17,919
Speaker 1: situation because like all you can right now, they're pretty

1130
00:58:17,960 --> 00:58:22,160
Speaker 1: much just like hoping she wakes up, um, and she's suiting.

1131
00:58:22,160 --> 00:58:25,880
Speaker 1: You know, they're they're like twenty five, they're very young. Um.

1132
00:58:25,960 --> 00:58:29,640
Speaker 1: She was admitted to a rehab facility that they're going

1133
00:58:29,680 --> 00:58:32,439
Speaker 1: to move her to next week, but I mean it's

1134
00:58:32,440 --> 00:58:36,040
Speaker 1: been several weeks at this point. Uh. And it's like

1135
00:58:36,960 --> 00:58:38,680
Speaker 1: it's the type of thing where like right now, what

1136
00:58:38,800 --> 00:58:41,840
Speaker 1: we can really do is like pray and like hope

1137
00:58:41,880 --> 00:58:47,080
Speaker 1: that something miraculous happens. So that's like what I'm asking

1138
00:58:47,440 --> 00:58:51,320
Speaker 1: people to do is like you know, like I'm not

1139
00:58:51,720 --> 00:58:56,080
Speaker 1: a very religious person, but this is like definitely like

1140
00:58:56,440 --> 00:59:00,200
Speaker 1: got in my mind to go to certain places, and

1141
00:59:00,480 --> 00:59:04,200
Speaker 1: I just think that like with the power of positive thinking,

1142
00:59:04,280 --> 00:59:08,240
Speaker 1: Like that's you know, a really powerful tool with this UM.

1143
00:59:08,280 --> 00:59:11,280
Speaker 1: So you know, if if if people have some time

1144
00:59:11,280 --> 00:59:13,040
Speaker 1: in their day to just send some good vibes to

1145
00:59:13,080 --> 00:59:15,160
Speaker 1: my my friend Chris and his wife Jordans, like they

1146
00:59:15,200 --> 00:59:18,840
Speaker 1: really really need it right now. Yeah, I mean I

1147
00:59:18,920 --> 00:59:22,320
Speaker 1: know we have. If everyone, I think there's power and

1148
00:59:22,360 --> 00:59:25,240
Speaker 1: prayer and positive thinking and the amount of people that

1149
00:59:25,280 --> 00:59:28,200
Speaker 1: are listening to this podcast, if everyone can just join

1150
00:59:28,240 --> 00:59:31,080
Speaker 1: in and at some point in your day just think

1151
00:59:31,120 --> 00:59:33,280
Speaker 1: about this couple and what they're going through and pray

1152
00:59:33,360 --> 00:59:38,160
Speaker 1: for a miracle and um just support them. I know.

1153
00:59:38,280 --> 00:59:40,960
Speaker 1: I saw Alison posted their go fund me too, because

1154
00:59:41,000 --> 00:59:44,760
Speaker 1: like the hospital bills, it's like just such an unexpected

1155
00:59:45,680 --> 00:59:49,480
Speaker 1: situation and like not being financially prepared, and just any

1156
00:59:49,480 --> 00:59:51,280
Speaker 1: way we can do to help them out, whether whether

1157
00:59:51,280 --> 00:59:55,760
Speaker 1: it's praying, if you can donate, donate, UM, but I

1158
00:59:55,760 --> 00:59:59,800
Speaker 1: I believe in the power of multiples coming together. I'm

1159
01:00:00,080 --> 01:00:01,360
Speaker 1: to pray right now. Do you guys want to pray

1160
01:00:01,480 --> 01:00:04,840
Speaker 1: right now? Yes? I mean I know we can't hear

1161
01:00:04,880 --> 01:00:09,360
Speaker 1: we can hold hands. Her name is Jordan, name Chris Chris, right,

1162
01:00:10,280 --> 01:00:11,280
Speaker 1: do you want to start or doing me to do

1163
01:00:11,280 --> 01:00:15,240
Speaker 1: the whole thing. Okay, dear Lord, please please, we are

1164
01:00:15,600 --> 01:00:19,200
Speaker 1: holding hands. We are here praying for a miracle for Jordan's,

1165
01:00:19,280 --> 01:00:21,680
Speaker 1: for Chris. Please put your hands over Jordan. Bring her

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01:00:21,720 --> 01:00:24,120
Speaker 1: back to us. Bring her back. Lord, We know you

1167
01:00:24,120 --> 01:00:28,040
Speaker 1: can make these miracles happen. Please please, please just put

1168
01:00:28,040 --> 01:00:31,880
Speaker 1: your hand over this family and guide her in Jesus name. Amen,

1169
01:00:33,760 --> 01:00:36,919
Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you very much. I like this type

1170
01:00:36,920 --> 01:00:39,720
Speaker 1: of thing shouldn't happen to anyone. But the thing that

1171
01:00:39,760 --> 01:00:42,960
Speaker 1: like I just can't. I have such a hard time rationalizing,

1172
01:00:43,040 --> 01:00:47,400
Speaker 1: is like Jordan's her line of work. She she like

1173
01:00:48,400 --> 01:00:50,960
Speaker 1: does so much community outreach. She worked at a food bank.

1174
01:00:51,120 --> 01:00:52,919
Speaker 1: Her she just got a new job where she's working

1175
01:00:52,920 --> 01:00:55,640
Speaker 1: with refugee families and like getting them places to live

1176
01:00:55,720 --> 01:00:58,400
Speaker 1: and like resources and stuff like like literally all she

1177
01:00:58,440 --> 01:01:01,720
Speaker 1: does is like give to people. And then you know,

1178
01:01:01,840 --> 01:01:04,480
Speaker 1: and then she was doing something so simple, uh and

1179
01:01:04,640 --> 01:01:08,040
Speaker 1: had this like incredibly horrible thing happened. It's like it's

1180
01:01:08,040 --> 01:01:10,960
Speaker 1: just so hard to like wrap my I've just been

1181
01:01:11,200 --> 01:01:15,200
Speaker 1: going crazy thinking about it. Um. But but anyway, I

1182
01:01:15,280 --> 01:01:18,360
Speaker 1: just thank you very much for letting me, for supporting

1183
01:01:18,840 --> 01:01:21,360
Speaker 1: them and everything. I appreciate it from the bottom of

1184
01:01:21,360 --> 01:01:24,160
Speaker 1: my heart. I can't honestly can't imagine because I'm heartbroken

1185
01:01:24,200 --> 01:01:29,560
Speaker 1: just hearing your story. So UM, so yeah, if everyone

1186
01:01:29,640 --> 01:01:31,919
Speaker 1: can and we'll put it. We'll put a slipe out

1187
01:01:31,920 --> 01:01:33,840
Speaker 1: for the go fund me and the scrubbing in in

1188
01:01:33,840 --> 01:01:37,880
Speaker 1: the Facebook group and the on the Instagram, so look

1189
01:01:37,880 --> 01:01:42,800
Speaker 1: out for that. UM. Anything helps obviously. UM. But with

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01:01:42,840 --> 01:01:47,440
Speaker 1: that said, we will be back next week, and I

1191
01:01:47,480 --> 01:01:50,280
Speaker 1: hope everyone has a great week. If anything, that's such

1192
01:01:50,280 --> 01:01:54,560
Speaker 1: a reminder of just be kind of people, be gentle

1193
01:01:54,680 --> 01:01:57,040
Speaker 1: with yourself, and just know that you don't know what

1194
01:01:57,160 --> 01:02:00,080
Speaker 1: anyone's going through, So when you go to speek to

1195
01:02:00,200 --> 01:02:03,320
Speaker 1: people that are strangers online or whatever it is, be

1196
01:02:03,400 --> 01:02:07,920
Speaker 1: kind because everyone's going through different things right now, and UM,

1197
01:02:07,960 --> 01:02:09,919
Speaker 1: we can all use a little bit more of that

1198
01:02:10,360 --> 01:02:14,160
Speaker 1: in this time. UM. But we love you all and

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01:02:14,280 --> 01:02:16,600
Speaker 1: we will be back next week. I love you