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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter requires a little disclaimer at the beginning. If

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Speaker 1: The subject is I get excited very easily. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I really need your help and advice with an embarrassing problem.

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Speaker 1: I'm a twenty eight year old healthy black mail and

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Speaker 1: I am single. Since I was fourteen years old, I've

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Speaker 1: been having frequent erections. I have been to several urologists

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Speaker 1: and specialists, and each doctor told me that I'm completely normal.

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Speaker 1: I have talked to my male friends and older men,

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Speaker 1: and they all say that it does not sound normal,

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Speaker 1: but it also does not sound like a big problem.

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Speaker 1: But it is for me. I have my first professional

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Speaker 1: job and I wear suits to work daily with tailored pants.

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Speaker 1: It's very hard to conceal the blast. You heard me.

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Speaker 1: It's very difficult, very hard to conceal my bulge, and

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Speaker 1: I feel like everyone has noticed at one time or another.

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Speaker 1: I have tried all kinds of home remedies, and I

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Speaker 1: compress my big problem. I was out getting lunch the

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Speaker 1: other day and ended up having to go through a

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Speaker 1: drive through because I could not get out of the car.

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Speaker 1: It lasts forever when it happened, so I've been late

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Speaker 1: to work and business meeting some days. It happens the

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Speaker 1: worst times, no matter what's on my mind or what

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Speaker 1: I'm doing. It's caused problems in my last relationship because

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Speaker 1: it creeped out my girlfriend. And what in my last

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Speaker 1: relationship because it creeped out my girlfriend and she thought

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Speaker 1: I was some kind of freak. Creeped out on my girlfriend. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I think a word is missing there, and she thought

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Speaker 1: I was some kind of freak. It will usually go

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Speaker 1: away on its own, but most times I have to

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Speaker 1: help out the situation. If you know what I mean,

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Speaker 1: this thing is altering my lifestyle and starting to ruin

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Speaker 1: my confidence. Do you think I should discuss my situation

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Speaker 1: with my employer and my pastor. I don't want to

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Speaker 1: look like a pervert. Any advice would be helpful, all right, Um,

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Speaker 1: first of all, yeah, I just say a few things

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Speaker 1: and then you guys, Steve, Okay, I think you guys, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and I and I said that in my first line.

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Speaker 1: I don't think I'm qualified or should I say, equipped,

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Speaker 1: to answer this letter. I don't but that to never

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Speaker 1: stop me before now has it? Obviously I am not

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Speaker 1: a man, but but I do empathize with you. I mean,

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Speaker 1: we've all heard about ED. We've all heard about ED.

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Speaker 1: This is the exact but no, no, this is this

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Speaker 1: is a form of ED. This is a form of ED. Ever,

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Speaker 1: this is a form of that, the exact opposite of

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Speaker 1: what we all are familiar with. Um, of course I

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Speaker 1: would naturally tell you to go to the doctor and

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Speaker 1: get checked out. But you've been a neurologists, you've been

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Speaker 1: twenty eight. I know this happens when to teenage boys

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Speaker 1: a lot and stuff like that. Um, I would just

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Speaker 1: suggest you've got to keep going to the doctor until

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Speaker 1: you know you can get this situation under control. You

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Speaker 1: say you wear tailored pants until this situation is under control.

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Speaker 1: Maybe you shouldn't wear tailored pants. Um, you know, I

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Speaker 1: know you. Yeah, this this is a bad situation. I

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Speaker 1: wouldn't talk to my employer about it just yet, and

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Speaker 1: definitely not my pastor. Uh. And I understand you, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I understand you don't want to look like look like

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Speaker 1: a pervert. So um steve from that point. You know,

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Speaker 1: go ahead, you can take it now. But I have

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Speaker 1: different boy, Come on, don't even worry about it. I

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Speaker 1: got all this hill in that bottlem. Let me go

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Speaker 1: see what you your main problem is you think you've

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Speaker 1: they are you talking about. Boy, Listen to me. You're saying,

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Speaker 1: I'm a healthy twenty eight year old black man. All

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Speaker 1: of its sick. A sicker seals to die better. The

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Speaker 1: eight year old viral young men before that, ain't nothing

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Speaker 1: here old vibes. They read about it again. Work it

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Speaker 1: out for you, helf. Since I was fourteen years old,

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Speaker 1: I've been having frequent erections. Boy, everybody have frequently reactions

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Speaker 1: at fourteen? What did you talk to? You can't wake up?

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Speaker 1: He's your friend, He's with you all the time. I

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Speaker 1: was fifteen, I was looking at mine one day, going,

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Speaker 1: what do you want from me? Why are you here?

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Speaker 1: What are you going? I'm not ready for you yet.

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Speaker 1: I'm going downstairs from breakfast. My mama. Damn die now

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Speaker 1: sitting up here talking about you and you're pros too. Yes,

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Speaker 1: it's every day. So now you don't go on to

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Speaker 1: you completely normal because medically ain't nothing wrong with you. Boy,

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Speaker 1: hold that thought, Steve, hold on, I say something when

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Speaker 1: I said that? Is it hard for you to hold

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Speaker 1: that thought? Steve? You guys are so elementary. All right,

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Speaker 1: we've been We'll have part two of Steve's response coming

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Speaker 1: up at twenty three minutes after the hour's subject of

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Speaker 1: today's Strawberry Letter, I get excited very easily. We'll be

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Speaker 1: back in twenty three minutes after the hour you're listening

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Speaker 1: to show. All right, we're gonna recap today's strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: Before we do that, we do need to do a

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Speaker 1: disclaimer to parents. If you have small children, you may

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Speaker 1: not want them to hear this letter. The subject is

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Speaker 1: I get excited very easily, Steve. It's twenty year old dude.

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Speaker 1: Man and rode in and say he a healthy black

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Speaker 1: mail and he's singling since he was fourteen years old.

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Speaker 1: He's been having frequently red every man listening to this

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Speaker 1: is going man and your fourteen yeah, and you ain't

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Speaker 1: but twenty eight they come frequently, they come, Oh goodness,

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Speaker 1: you know what is wrong with you? I got news

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Speaker 1: for you. It's gonna go await you're gonna be looking

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Speaker 1: for it's gonna be some money. You are talking to it. Hey, hey,

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Speaker 1: but having come, I'm up down. What's happening? Hey? Man?

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Speaker 1: Could you just come back every hour and then see

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Speaker 1: But no, no, no, you take your ass to the

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Speaker 1: doctor and guess what he told you is perfectly normal.

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Speaker 1: Well you this you one of them boys that staying

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Speaker 1: the gift horse in the mouth and don't even know it.

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Speaker 1: They're blessing you got right now. But also some men

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Speaker 1: say it don't sound right. Older men say it don't

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Speaker 1: sound it don't sound normal, But it also don't sound

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Speaker 1: like a big problem. That's cause old dudes no enjoy

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Speaker 1: this while it's happening. Boy saying you ain't gotten much longer,

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Speaker 1: sitting up in the hill tripping it. Well, no, I'm what.

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Speaker 1: Surely can I tell me matter say something? But I

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Speaker 1: just want to point that out. He's late for work

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Speaker 1: and he let me get he ain't missing. He missing

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Speaker 1: mecuse another reason? Sureley, you didn't let him? Man he here?

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Speaker 1: He missing no meetings cause of working all this hip.

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Speaker 1: He says, I have a first professional job and I

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Speaker 1: wear suits to work daily with Taylor pants. It's very

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Speaker 1: hard to conceal my budge. And I feel like everybody

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Speaker 1: has noticed at one time and pleaded pans, Boy, plead it, pans.

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Speaker 1: How about it? Carry your files in front of you,

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Speaker 1: hang your briefcase around your neck, put a require road

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Speaker 1: trip coat, get a where trench coat to work? Here?

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Speaker 1: Are you cold? You got the flue? Jay want me

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Speaker 1: to Jay say getting married? Hell, that's all Jay say,

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Speaker 1: getting married? You all listen to go away. Listen to me. Listen, man,

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Speaker 1: I've tried all kinds of home memories, and I've started

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Speaker 1: wearing really tight underwear. Here's you did. Under Armor makes

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Speaker 1: a bicycle short. Underwear is made by under Arm. Now

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Speaker 1: I've talked with several men and those of us that's blessed.

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Speaker 1: We have these situations. When you blessed, I know, I

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Speaker 1: know your years. Don't talk to jail about this. To

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Speaker 1: it even junior, that we all that's blessed. Men, under

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Speaker 1: Armor makes a bicycle short. Now, what you're gonna have

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Speaker 1: with this is you got to make and listen to

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Speaker 1: get it. Everybody looking up at you. Do you understand

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Speaker 1: what I'm telling you? Take Sideclops. Listen to me. Take

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Speaker 1: Sideclops and just put him at twelve o'clock. Cideclops has

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Speaker 1: If you put Cideclops at five o'clock, seven o'clock, eight

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Speaker 1: nine o'clock. You got a problem. You got to put

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Speaker 1: side clops at twelve hell a clock noon. That's now, Shirley.

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Speaker 1: For those of you that don't understand, you don't, okay,

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Speaker 1: well then listen to me. The clock has an hour

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Speaker 1: That's all you got to do. That's all you got

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Speaker 1: Your problem is solved, son. But see that. Hello, you

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Speaker 1: So now I'm trying to help you. But you all

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Speaker 1: Let's move on down. You say that it just happens

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Speaker 1: way too often. Now you if these Tommy John makes

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Speaker 1: me of a Sealist commercial that said, if you get

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Speaker 1: an erection lasted more than four hours, call your doctor.

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Speaker 1: I'm not calling the doctor. I have war than last

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Speaker 1: more than four hours. No, I'm taking selfish. I'm taking

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Speaker 1: selfish and I'm putting them on the time code, and

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Speaker 1: I'm sending the friends of man that I'm still I

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Speaker 1: want to have man still check me out two hours.

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Speaker 1: I'm not calling no damn doctor ever, and I'm gonna

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