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Speaker 1: Thank you for you subject. I stayed all night and

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Speaker 1: heard everything. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm twenty nine years old

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Speaker 1: and I'm divorced. I've been seeing a man from my past.

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Speaker 1: We reunited after my divorce and he told me he

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Speaker 1: was in a situation with a woman. After months of

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Speaker 1: messing around with him, I found out he and this

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Speaker 1: woman were a lot more serious than he said they were,

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Speaker 1: so I let her know that we were messing around too,

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Speaker 1: so she did not get too comfortable. She copped an

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Speaker 1: attitude with me, and she called me a side chick.

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Speaker 1: Since she's not his wife, I figured he was fair game,

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Speaker 1: so I am still messing with him too. She told

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Speaker 1: our boyfriend that I called her, and all he said

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Speaker 1: was that I'm the number one woman in his life

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Speaker 1: and I shouldn't even worry about her. But I was

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Speaker 1: at his house Thursday night and we had taken a

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Speaker 1: bubble bath and I was warming up food I brought over.

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Speaker 1: We heard a car pull up and he said it

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Speaker 1: was the other woman. He panicked and told me to

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Speaker 1: go into his office, his home office, and lock the

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Speaker 1: door and he'd get rid of her. First off, she

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Speaker 1: had her own key and let herself in. He said,

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Speaker 1: welcome home, and I heard them kissing. He asked her

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Speaker 1: if she was hungry, because he picked up food after

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Speaker 1: the gym. He said he had just taken a hot

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Speaker 1: that she'd been so she'd been to Happy Hours and

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Speaker 1: she stopped by to do some freaky things to him

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Speaker 1: before she went home. He tried to stop her, but

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Speaker 1: he couldn't. They had the longest, loudest sex I had

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Speaker 1: ever heard. I started to leave out of the room,

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Speaker 1: but I did not feel like fighting a drunk woman.

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Speaker 2: He knocks on the door to wake me up. After

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Speaker 2: she left.

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Speaker 1: He said that I'm still number one, and he begged

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Speaker 1: me not to dump him. She did come on real

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Speaker 1: strong and he did try to stop her.

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Speaker 2: Should I let this slide or leave him alone?

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Speaker 3: Girl?

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Speaker 2: Come on, come on now, you gotta stop.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you were right there, locked up in the

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Speaker 1: closet in his home office. You heard everything you said.

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Speaker 1: It was the longest, loudest sex you ever heard. You

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Speaker 1: heard this with your own ears. What more do you

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Speaker 1: need to hear? This man is having his way with

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Speaker 1: the both of you, and you already knew this.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you called him early on in the letter

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Speaker 2: our boyfriend. He's winning.

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Speaker 1: He has absolutely no incentive to stop seeing the both

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Speaker 1: of you. He's living his best life right now. Apparently

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Speaker 1: all he had to do was tell you that you're

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Speaker 1: number one, and after that he can do whatever he wants.

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Speaker 2: He can do it. You're not number one.

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Speaker 1: These are just words that came out of his mouth.

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Speaker 1: He didn't mean any of this. No one, especially a

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Speaker 1: number one, would ever be treated like this. What are

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Speaker 1: you talking about? And don't make excuses for him. She

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Speaker 1: came on real strong and he did try to stop her.

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Speaker 1: He didn't try hard enough. I mean, they did what

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Speaker 1: they did. Okay, you heard it all. She has a

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Speaker 1: key to his house. When she came through the door,

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Speaker 1: he said, welcome home, and he tells you to lock

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Speaker 1: yourself in the home office.

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Speaker 2: He had to.

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Speaker 1: Wake you up because you fellas what is going on?

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Speaker 2: Stop this madness.

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Speaker 1: Okay, it doesn't sound like you're number one to me

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Speaker 1: or anyone else here, but it sure sounds like she is.

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Speaker 2: Here's a deal. He's got two women.

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Speaker 1: You're in a three ry relationship or a throttle if

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Speaker 1: you will.

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Speaker 2: And you're sharing a man. Is this what you want?

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Speaker 2: I mean, what is your endgame here?

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Speaker 3: What is it?

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Speaker 2: Don't settle for this. This is craziness, Steve.

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Speaker 4: I got tired. Yeah, about three quarters into the letter.

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Speaker 4: I was just exhausted trying to keep up with all

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Speaker 4: this ignorance. You're twenty nine and divorced. You seeing a

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Speaker 4: man from your past. We reunited after my divorce. Now

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Speaker 4: you in the rebound stage. You want to still feel wanted,

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Speaker 4: like somebody wants you, so you go get somebody you

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Speaker 4: had in the past. So he told you he was

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Speaker 4: in a situation with a woman.

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Speaker 3: He told you.

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Speaker 4: Now the fact that he don't tell you the extent

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Speaker 4: that ain't got nothing to do with it. He told

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Speaker 4: you I've been a situation with the woman. After months

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Speaker 4: of messing around with him, I found out that he

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Speaker 4: and this woman were a lot more serious than he

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Speaker 4: said and they were No, no, no, no, no no.

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Speaker 4: He told you he in a situation with a woman.

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Speaker 4: Now you're talking about you find out it's a lot

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Speaker 4: more serious than he said.

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Speaker 3: He told you.

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Speaker 4: So now you found out it's a lot more serious

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Speaker 4: and he said they were. So I let her know

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Speaker 4: we were messing around too, so she didn't get too comfortable.

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Speaker 3: What you thought that.

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Speaker 4: Was a good idea? Wait a minute, this is how

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Speaker 4: you think you.

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Speaker 3: Secure a man.

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Speaker 4: Call the other woman and tell her you messing around

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Speaker 4: with him too. That you think if you break them up,

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Speaker 4: that's gonna put y'all together?

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Speaker 3: Is that what you thought?

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Speaker 4: Keeps kidding me? So then I told her not to

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Speaker 4: get you comfort. She capped the attitude with me and

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Speaker 4: called me a side kick because that's what you are,

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Speaker 4: and she know it. Since she's not his wife. I

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Speaker 4: figured he was fad game. So I'm still messing with him. Okay,

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Speaker 4: so you signed up for the bull crap. Told you

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Speaker 4: he was in a situation. You call the woman to

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Speaker 4: tell her not to do comfortable, not to get you comfortable.

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Speaker 3: She shocked you with the news, I am comfortable.

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Speaker 4: You the side kick, baby baby, baby be Zack, you're

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Speaker 4: the other.

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Speaker 2: Oh the oh.

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Speaker 1: We'll have part two of your response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter subject

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Speaker 1: I stayed all night and heard everything.

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Speaker 2: We'll got back into it right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 2: Hardy Morning Show.

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Speaker 1: All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 2: I stayed all night and heard everything.

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Speaker 4: Twenty nine year old divorced woman been seeing this man

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Speaker 4: from a past he got together with after this. She

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Speaker 4: got together with him after her divorce. He told this

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Speaker 4: woman he was in a situation.

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Speaker 3: True told me.

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Speaker 4: After months were messing with him, she found out that

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Speaker 4: this woman was a lot more serious than he said

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Speaker 4: they were. No, no, no, he told you they was in

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Speaker 4: a situation. So then I let her know that we

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Speaker 4: were messing around too, so she didn't get too comfortable.

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Speaker 3: What wait a minute, you told.

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Speaker 4: Her that you and this dude messing around to in

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Speaker 4: her not to get too comfortable. She caught the attitude

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Speaker 4: with me and told and called me a side chick. Well,

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Speaker 4: you are. She knows it, and we're gonna find out

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Speaker 4: in the letter why you decided chick.

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Speaker 3: But you already decide chick.

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Speaker 4: When he told you he was in a situation with

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Speaker 4: a woman, you signed up for it anyway. You signed

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Speaker 4: the agreement to be the side chick. When he told

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Speaker 4: you he was already with somebody.

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Speaker 3: Susists he's not his wife.

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Speaker 4: I figured he was fat game, so I'm still messing

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Speaker 4: with him. I can't tell you how many women lose

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Speaker 4: out on that, the little thinking right.

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Speaker 3: There you're doing.

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Speaker 4: She told our boyfriend that I called her and all

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Speaker 4: he said was I'm number one woman in his life

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Speaker 4: and I shouldn't.

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Speaker 3: Worry about her. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, let me

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Speaker 3: ask you. So when he was typing of this letter,

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Speaker 3: you ain't read none of it. You read you even

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Speaker 3: you even capitalize the word our.

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Speaker 4: She told our boyfriend, I call her, and he said,

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Speaker 4: I'm number one woman, as I shouldn't worry about her.

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Speaker 3: Oh, but then here go you problem.

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Speaker 4: It was that is how Thursday night, y'all had took

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Speaker 4: a bubble bath.

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Speaker 3: And you was warming up food that you fought over.

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Speaker 4: We heard the car pull up. He said it was

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Speaker 4: the other woman. Oh, showtime. Now, this is why I

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Speaker 4: call this showtime. Car pulled up. It's the other woman showtime.

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Speaker 4: He pantied, told me to go into his home office

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Speaker 4: and locked the door, and he get rid of her.

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Speaker 3: What he could tell you anything.

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Speaker 4: You took your raggedy ass, your slade chick hands in

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Speaker 4: the office and locked the door as she was told

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Speaker 4: to do. Yes, yes, first off, she had her own

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Speaker 4: key and let her in, and he said, welcome home.

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Speaker 3: Again. He told you.

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Speaker 4: To go in the home office, lock the door, be quiet,

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Speaker 4: don't come out. Shut up. She came in the door

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Speaker 4: with the keith. He said, welcome home. Your asses aside,

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Speaker 4: and I heard them kiss it. He asked her if

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Speaker 4: she was hungry, because he picked up some food after

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Speaker 4: the gym. That's the food you bought, my man right then,

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Speaker 4: and now we are locking the door.

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Speaker 3: Y'all. Ain't got the damn thing in him. All that

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Speaker 3: PM changed.

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Speaker 4: I bought all that, all of them, that number seven, that's

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Speaker 4: my favorite. You not getting that Google got paid. Keep

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Speaker 4: your damn hand off that egg for you. Ain't none

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Speaker 4: of that, y'all, and not ask for extra writ I

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Speaker 4: just shrimped every beat.

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Speaker 3: Nothing to do.

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Speaker 4: That that's the food y'all picked up.

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Speaker 3: He said he picked it up for Jim.

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Speaker 4: He said he's just taken a hot bath because he

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Speaker 4: was so after the workout. Y'all took a buffer bath together.

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Speaker 4: He'd have told her he just got off the bath

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Speaker 4: tub because it's.

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Speaker 3: Still steamy in there.

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Speaker 4: She said she been happy, y'all and stopped by to

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Speaker 4: do some freaking things in fo she went home.

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Speaker 3: Tried to stop her, but he could, did he right?

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Speaker 2: I don't want something mean?

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Speaker 3: Get up, get up?

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Speaker 4: But you you know, girl, stop, get up, don't do that.

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Speaker 4: Get up baby, Come on now, don't do that. Get

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Speaker 4: a pillow, stop, stop, don't do that, get up on,

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Speaker 4: tell get up, off your knee, get up.

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Speaker 3: Well, I'm sorry stop what How hard did he try

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Speaker 3: to stop?

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Speaker 2: Not very hard.

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Speaker 3: They had the longest loudest sex I have ever heard.

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Speaker 4: Homeboy was in there trying not to, but something told

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Speaker 4: him to go ahead. They had the longest loudest sex

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Speaker 4: I have ever heard ever.

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Speaker 3: That's why she got to keep.

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Speaker 4: That's why he said, welcome home.

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Speaker 3: Because it's the loudest, longest sick.

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Speaker 4: Your sex is quiet and short, her sex is long

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Speaker 4: and loud. You're in that old you you you, you babysick.

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Speaker 3: She's what Steve, you you babysix? You could you could?

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Speaker 3: I'm good, start in you better? Oh what you doing

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Speaker 3: to me?

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Speaker 4: I didn't feel like I started to leave out the room,

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Speaker 4: but I ain't feel like fighting a drunk woman.

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