Speaker 1: So we see all these different magazine photos that we
Speaker 1: see like the Megan Foxes wearing the crazy, crazy outfits
Speaker 1: and then the you know, ozempic Dashians like in half
Speaker 1: tops and looking all snatched and great, and you know,
Speaker 1: everybody's so body forward and body conscious and it's new Year,
Speaker 1: New you. And I know I'm thin, and you know
Speaker 1: I go on photo shoots and the the costume person,
Speaker 1: the wardroperson, like, oh my god, you're so fit or
Speaker 1: you're snatched or whatever word they use. It's not snatched,
Speaker 1: like you're tight or something. And my first thought is
Speaker 1: not to say thank you. My first thought is to say,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I don't exercise at all. People always say,
Speaker 1: oh my god, you must exercise all the times you
Speaker 1: work out every day, And I said, I don't work
Speaker 1: at at all. And then I feel guilty because I
Speaker 1: feel like it's like a humble brag, which it's not.
Speaker 1: It's like saying, I know, you know, I eat everything
Speaker 1: like it's so annoying, so I don't want to be
Speaker 1: So it's sort of like I hide the fact that
Speaker 1: I don't exercise. And I will say this to you
Speaker 1: people who are worried about exercising that eating is really important.
Speaker 1: It's probably the most important. That never binging is so critical,
Speaker 1: that indulging is also critical, because if you don't indulge,
Speaker 1: then you'll deprive and binge. It's a hard thing to understand,
Speaker 1: but I eat chocolate and ice cream every day, but
Speaker 1: I don't binge chocolate and ice cream every day. And
Speaker 1: I don't need a bowl of pasta and bread and
Speaker 1: wine and chocolate and ice cream every day. I picked
Speaker 1: my spots and I wrote about this in Naturally Thin,
Speaker 1: and it's basically, your diet is a bank account, so
Speaker 1: eating is much more important. I'll also find which is weird.
Speaker 1: I'll really be like I should be working out, I
Speaker 1: should be getting on the elliptical, I should do this,
Speaker 1: I should do that because I used to have some
Speaker 1: level of a practice. I used to be a person that,
Speaker 1: back in the day, like in my thirties, would go
Speaker 1: to spinning class every day, and then I'd be starving
Speaker 1: and tired. Uh. And then in the summers I get
Speaker 1: into a good habit where I do a beach walk
Speaker 1: every day, but that's really only two months and it's
Speaker 1: like four days a week, and I feel fit and amazing.
Speaker 1: But I'll tell you this dirty little secret. And I've
Speaker 1: heard other people say it too. When I'm exercising or
Speaker 1: working out, I gain weight and you'll say it's muscle,
Speaker 1: and I think it is, but it's not like I'm
Speaker 1: doing anything made or just walking on an elliptical, so
Speaker 1: I don't think it's real muscle. It's that I think
Speaker 1: you get more hungry and you're more structured to be like, okay,
Speaker 1: when are we eating after? So I will just say
Speaker 1: that weight is not really just attached to exercise. It's
Speaker 1: definitely more attached to food and not exercise. And then
Speaker 1: I want to get into just that. When someone says
Speaker 1: to me, you look great, the first thought I have
Speaker 1: is like, oh my god, imagine how great i'd look
Speaker 1: if I actually exercise, Like if my butt was tight
Speaker 1: and if it was high and perfect. And I talk
Speaker 1: about this to my fiance because I look good in
Speaker 1: clothes and yes, my butt could be like higher, But like,
Speaker 1: do I really care if I look good in clothes?
Speaker 1: How often are we in bating suits? And like how
Speaker 1: often are we in bathing suits where I'm strutting and
Speaker 1: someone's going to see a picture if I look cute
Speaker 1: a bathing suit I'll take a picture and I'll post it,
Speaker 1: but like otherwise, why do I care? And the truth is,
Speaker 1: I don't really like working out. Like when I do it,
Speaker 1: I like that I did it, and sometimes it's fun.
Speaker 1: But I don't sleep alat. But if I've slept, I
Speaker 1: would never wake up from sleep to exercise, like I
Speaker 1: would never do that. That seems crazy. Sleep is so important,
Speaker 1: so I wake up, and then I also like having
Speaker 1: a coffee and I like laying around in my bed,
Speaker 1: and I don't want to be like, let me get
Speaker 1: up and go work out, and then I'm too crazy
Speaker 1: as a person to begin with, so I'm gonna be like,
Speaker 1: let me get up and work out and then do
Speaker 1: the next thing and then chet. I just don't love
Speaker 1: working out that much, so I don't do it. And
Speaker 1: many of you haters will say it's not that it's
Speaker 1: for your heart and whatever, because I run around this
Speaker 1: house and run around everywhere and to the store and
Speaker 1: to the restaurant, and I run around like a hummingbird,
Speaker 1: like a maniac, which also maybe why I'm thin. But
Speaker 1: I can tell you that when the stomach has like
Speaker 1: the lines and my butt is flat and like the
Speaker 1: little thin person cellulite, I just don't really care. And
Speaker 1: if you're a person that looks good and clothes and
Speaker 1: can work it out or figure it out short of health,
Speaker 1: barring health and how you feel and skin and endorphins
Speaker 1: and it helps you sleep and all that ship. But
Speaker 1: if you're who gives a ship, like when I'm in
Speaker 1: my yoga mode, I feel good. That's when I feel
Speaker 1: the best. When I'm doing yoga, I'll feel happy about it.
Speaker 1: But this is another dirty secret. Sometimes I'll do yoga
Speaker 1: and then my body starts to hurt, like not right then,
Speaker 1: but like I'll get these cracks out, and then later
Speaker 1: my body is hurting, and I'm like, but I fucking
Speaker 1: just said yoga what you do to resolve your body hurting.
Speaker 1: So it's all upside down. Do what you feel when
Speaker 1: you you feel it. Do what you can when you can.
Speaker 1: Take a nice twenty minute walk, do stretching, do meditation,
Speaker 1: do yoga. If you're away somewhere, do snowboard, do ski,
Speaker 1: do take a walk on the beach. I just it's
Speaker 1: a new year, and it's not that much of a
Speaker 1: new me as it pertains to exercise. So sorry, not
Speaker 1: that sorry. Holidays last forever. I like that we started
Speaker 1: Halloween talking about Thanksgiving, and we started Thanksgiving talking about Christmas.
Speaker 1: I like decorating. I like it lasting. I like an
Speaker 1: everlasting gob stopper. I got it the holiday thing. New
Speaker 1: Year's Day, got it. Hungover New Year New You make
Speaker 1: your resolutions, rest football check. The second became a holiday
Speaker 1: this year to the second is a holiday. So then
Speaker 1: that was a full fledged holiday, and then the day
Speaker 1: after was then I'm swamped just getting back in now
Speaker 1: just seeing this. Now we know you are on a holiday,
Speaker 1: so as I saw, is everybody else. I don't give
Speaker 1: a ship. This is the third. We took the fucking
Speaker 1: second and added it's the pile. Now it's the goddamn third.
Speaker 1: Nobody cares. Let's get going, like the holidays are just
Speaker 1: something that we just like suck on for months and months.
Speaker 1: And also you'll find this, people want to milk the
Speaker 1: holidays every which way, but Sunday, like it's a whole scam,
Speaker 1: Like the holidays have become starting when it's got December
Speaker 1: in it, everyone's fucking checked out, like starting probably December twelve.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, well, because do you know why holiday parties?
Speaker 1: That was when it all started holiday parties, holiday party
Speaker 1: season because you gotta leave work, earlie gotta be hungover,
Speaker 1: so that's a holiday. And then it goes right into January.
Speaker 1: So life is just a fucking holiday, I guess because
Speaker 1: I found that everybody wants to be loosey goosey, and
Speaker 1: I've gotten so attacked for like not loving full remote. Sorry.
Speaker 1: I work in a business where I like to be
Speaker 1: with people, and I like a hybrid model. If you're
Speaker 1: doing a certain job, remote is perfectly great. If you
Speaker 1: have certain things and tasks that you have to get
Speaker 1: done in a certain period of time and you're performing remote, fabulous.
Speaker 1: I support it. I love it. There's some jobs on
Speaker 1: my team, but I remote no problem. If you're working
Speaker 1: semi hybrid remote, it feels a little bit like the
Speaker 1: days that the persons not in person don't feel exactly
Speaker 1: the same. So you can choose to like task out
Speaker 1: what's better for those days, because those could be days
Speaker 1: to someone just has to get things done. But it's
Speaker 1: not always the same. And I also mind that during
Speaker 1: a holiday time, if it's if people are remote, that's
Speaker 1: where it gets murky. So it's December six and it's
Speaker 1: around the holidays, and I've left to go on vacation,
Speaker 1: which is always gonna be hybrid because I'm still gonna
Speaker 1: be doing social media, I'm still gonna be doing rants,
Speaker 1: doing my podcast. So I've left to go on vacation.
Speaker 1: It feels like because I've left to go on vacation,
Speaker 1: then everybody else feels like they should be sort of
Speaker 1: on some hybrid vacation. And then if it's like January
Speaker 1: third and I want everyone to get back to it,
Speaker 1: they're like, oh, I'm now on vacation. I'm like, but
Speaker 1: I thought we were doing sort of vacation like that
Speaker 1: last week because it was Lucy Goosey. So my point is, like,
Speaker 1: with work and people that you work for and work
Speaker 1: with defined terms of what remote and hybrid and what
Speaker 1: off and on our are critical like the Lucy Goosey
Speaker 1: you're sort of a holiday sort of working sort of
Speaker 1: not means that then we have to stay Lucy goose
Speaker 1: you with us getting back to work in the beginning
Speaker 1: of January, meaning you can't be like, oh, no, today,
Speaker 1: I'm fully off when I'm like, okay, well I thought
Speaker 1: we were. We were partially off those other days. So
Speaker 1: I'm realizing that in the workplace, you have to be
Speaker 1: crystal clear. A work day off is a work day off.
Speaker 1: Don't bother the person, let them be. Everybody around them
Speaker 1: knows it's a full work day off. Because I found
Speaker 1: that this remote hybrid stuff means everything is remote and
Speaker 1: hybrid and people don't know what's what's sort of stringent,
Speaker 1: Like I have a businessman manager that says is off
Speaker 1: and off. I think he said, I'm obviously and January
Speaker 1: one and second this year, that's what we're doing. That's
Speaker 1: what most people are doing. But that means that the
Speaker 1: twenty two, unless it's vacation days, are not off. And
Speaker 1: I sort of thought I was some sort of ogre
Speaker 1: if I didn't give everybody off between December six and
Speaker 1: January nine. So I was like, oh, so I came
Speaker 1: back and I thought we're all gonna get be back
Speaker 1: cooking January three, and people had different ideas about that.
Speaker 1: So I learned you have to be really structured with
Speaker 1: being loose. So if we're gonna be loose, you know,
Speaker 1: let's say someone's gonna come in, stay late at work,
Speaker 1: eight o'clock at night, be a structured but like, okay,
Speaker 1: that's fine. You start tomorrow, start later to make that
Speaker 1: time up so like you feel valued and you don't
Speaker 1: feel like you know it's all over the place. If
Speaker 1: we're gonna do December sixteenth, I'm going away. We all
Speaker 1: know it's going to be quieter. That's option A. Then
Speaker 1: let's do lucy goosey sort of lucy goosey days. But
Speaker 1: then let's do some loosey goosey days um that are
Speaker 1: supposed to be holidays. Like then veterans Stahl be lucy
Speaker 1: goosey too, because we chose to make non holidays lucy goosey.
Speaker 1: We have to define terms of what's off and on
Speaker 1: and what's loosey goosey. But I find or, like you're Jewish,
Speaker 1: can you tell us six months ahead of time the
Speaker 1: days that you really need off? You need Hanukka, you
Speaker 1: need Russia, Shana, you need jump to pour, you want
Speaker 1: to pass over. It's tell us the day, okay, because
Speaker 1: then you can't take that and then also take all
Speaker 1: the Christian days and vice versa. So everybody wants to
Speaker 1: make everything work for it themselves. And I find that
Speaker 1: people do take creative license with that, and I think
Speaker 1: things need to be very, very defined and structured and
Speaker 1: January three this year became a it's a holiday because
Speaker 1: we're swamped from being off from the holiday, so everything
Speaker 1: came in today, so that's like a swamp holiday