1 00:00:12,240 --> 00:00:16,079 Speaker 1: So we see all these different magazine photos that we 2 00:00:16,120 --> 00:00:19,560 Speaker 1: see like the Megan Foxes wearing the crazy, crazy outfits 3 00:00:19,560 --> 00:00:24,080 Speaker 1: and then the you know, ozempic Dashians like in half 4 00:00:24,120 --> 00:00:28,000 Speaker 1: tops and looking all snatched and great, and you know, 5 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:30,760 Speaker 1: everybody's so body forward and body conscious and it's new Year, 6 00:00:30,840 --> 00:00:32,680 Speaker 1: New you. And I know I'm thin, and you know 7 00:00:32,720 --> 00:00:35,600 Speaker 1: I go on photo shoots and the the costume person, 8 00:00:35,680 --> 00:00:38,120 Speaker 1: the wardroperson, like, oh my god, you're so fit or 9 00:00:38,120 --> 00:00:40,640 Speaker 1: you're snatched or whatever word they use. It's not snatched, 10 00:00:40,680 --> 00:00:44,159 Speaker 1: like you're tight or something. And my first thought is 11 00:00:44,159 --> 00:00:46,120 Speaker 1: not to say thank you. My first thought is to say, 12 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:48,320 Speaker 1: oh my god, I don't exercise at all. People always say, 13 00:00:48,320 --> 00:00:49,879 Speaker 1: oh my god, you must exercise all the times you 14 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:51,159 Speaker 1: work out every day, And I said, I don't work 15 00:00:51,200 --> 00:00:53,320 Speaker 1: at at all. And then I feel guilty because I 16 00:00:53,320 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 1: feel like it's like a humble brag, which it's not. 17 00:00:55,440 --> 00:00:57,360 Speaker 1: It's like saying, I know, you know, I eat everything 18 00:00:57,400 --> 00:00:59,200 Speaker 1: like it's so annoying, so I don't want to be 19 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:01,320 Speaker 1: So it's sort of like I hide the fact that 20 00:01:01,360 --> 00:01:04,040 Speaker 1: I don't exercise. And I will say this to you 21 00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:08,080 Speaker 1: people who are worried about exercising that eating is really important. 22 00:01:08,120 --> 00:01:11,760 Speaker 1: It's probably the most important. That never binging is so critical, 23 00:01:12,240 --> 00:01:15,600 Speaker 1: that indulging is also critical, because if you don't indulge, 24 00:01:15,640 --> 00:01:19,600 Speaker 1: then you'll deprive and binge. It's a hard thing to understand, 25 00:01:19,680 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 1: but I eat chocolate and ice cream every day, but 26 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:24,480 Speaker 1: I don't binge chocolate and ice cream every day. And 27 00:01:24,480 --> 00:01:26,679 Speaker 1: I don't need a bowl of pasta and bread and 28 00:01:26,800 --> 00:01:30,080 Speaker 1: wine and chocolate and ice cream every day. I picked 29 00:01:30,080 --> 00:01:32,600 Speaker 1: my spots and I wrote about this in Naturally Thin, 30 00:01:32,800 --> 00:01:35,319 Speaker 1: and it's basically, your diet is a bank account, so 31 00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:39,000 Speaker 1: eating is much more important. I'll also find which is weird. 32 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:40,520 Speaker 1: I'll really be like I should be working out, I 33 00:01:40,520 --> 00:01:42,160 Speaker 1: should be getting on the elliptical, I should do this, 34 00:01:42,200 --> 00:01:44,120 Speaker 1: I should do that because I used to have some 35 00:01:44,240 --> 00:01:46,640 Speaker 1: level of a practice. I used to be a person that, 36 00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:49,160 Speaker 1: back in the day, like in my thirties, would go 37 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:51,520 Speaker 1: to spinning class every day, and then I'd be starving 38 00:01:52,040 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: and tired. Uh. And then in the summers I get 39 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:56,280 Speaker 1: into a good habit where I do a beach walk 40 00:01:56,320 --> 00:01:58,720 Speaker 1: every day, but that's really only two months and it's 41 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:01,560 Speaker 1: like four days a week, and I feel fit and amazing. 42 00:02:02,040 --> 00:02:04,720 Speaker 1: But I'll tell you this dirty little secret. And I've 43 00:02:04,720 --> 00:02:07,680 Speaker 1: heard other people say it too. When I'm exercising or 44 00:02:07,720 --> 00:02:11,040 Speaker 1: working out, I gain weight and you'll say it's muscle, 45 00:02:11,120 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 1: and I think it is, but it's not like I'm 46 00:02:12,560 --> 00:02:15,120 Speaker 1: doing anything made or just walking on an elliptical, so 47 00:02:15,120 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 1: I don't think it's real muscle. It's that I think 48 00:02:17,160 --> 00:02:19,640 Speaker 1: you get more hungry and you're more structured to be like, okay, 49 00:02:19,639 --> 00:02:22,079 Speaker 1: when are we eating after? So I will just say 50 00:02:22,120 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 1: that weight is not really just attached to exercise. It's 51 00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:28,400 Speaker 1: definitely more attached to food and not exercise. And then 52 00:02:28,440 --> 00:02:31,440 Speaker 1: I want to get into just that. When someone says 53 00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:33,120 Speaker 1: to me, you look great, the first thought I have 54 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:34,920 Speaker 1: is like, oh my god, imagine how great i'd look 55 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:37,360 Speaker 1: if I actually exercise, Like if my butt was tight 56 00:02:37,760 --> 00:02:40,200 Speaker 1: and if it was high and perfect. And I talk 57 00:02:40,280 --> 00:02:43,000 Speaker 1: about this to my fiance because I look good in 58 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:45,880 Speaker 1: clothes and yes, my butt could be like higher, But like, 59 00:02:45,960 --> 00:02:48,040 Speaker 1: do I really care if I look good in clothes? 60 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:50,160 Speaker 1: How often are we in bating suits? And like how 61 00:02:50,200 --> 00:02:52,320 Speaker 1: often are we in bathing suits where I'm strutting and 62 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:54,079 Speaker 1: someone's going to see a picture if I look cute 63 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:55,880 Speaker 1: a bathing suit I'll take a picture and I'll post it, 64 00:02:55,919 --> 00:02:59,160 Speaker 1: but like otherwise, why do I care? And the truth is, 65 00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 1: I don't really like working out. Like when I do it, 66 00:03:02,800 --> 00:03:04,919 Speaker 1: I like that I did it, and sometimes it's fun. 67 00:03:04,960 --> 00:03:07,160 Speaker 1: But I don't sleep alat. But if I've slept, I 68 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:10,639 Speaker 1: would never wake up from sleep to exercise, like I 69 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:14,560 Speaker 1: would never do that. That seems crazy. Sleep is so important, 70 00:03:14,720 --> 00:03:17,079 Speaker 1: so I wake up, and then I also like having 71 00:03:17,120 --> 00:03:18,919 Speaker 1: a coffee and I like laying around in my bed, 72 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:20,200 Speaker 1: and I don't want to be like, let me get 73 00:03:20,240 --> 00:03:22,040 Speaker 1: up and go work out, and then I'm too crazy 74 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:23,840 Speaker 1: as a person to begin with, so I'm gonna be like, 75 00:03:23,919 --> 00:03:25,080 Speaker 1: let me get up and work out and then do 76 00:03:25,160 --> 00:03:27,800 Speaker 1: the next thing and then chet. I just don't love 77 00:03:27,840 --> 00:03:30,440 Speaker 1: working out that much, so I don't do it. And 78 00:03:30,480 --> 00:03:32,320 Speaker 1: many of you haters will say it's not that it's 79 00:03:32,320 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 1: for your heart and whatever, because I run around this 80 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 1: house and run around everywhere and to the store and 81 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:39,960 Speaker 1: to the restaurant, and I run around like a hummingbird, 82 00:03:40,000 --> 00:03:43,120 Speaker 1: like a maniac, which also maybe why I'm thin. But 83 00:03:43,200 --> 00:03:45,600 Speaker 1: I can tell you that when the stomach has like 84 00:03:45,640 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 1: the lines and my butt is flat and like the 85 00:03:48,600 --> 00:03:53,440 Speaker 1: little thin person cellulite, I just don't really care. And 86 00:03:53,480 --> 00:03:56,680 Speaker 1: if you're a person that looks good and clothes and 87 00:03:56,680 --> 00:04:01,240 Speaker 1: can work it out or figure it out short of health, 88 00:04:01,320 --> 00:04:04,680 Speaker 1: barring health and how you feel and skin and endorphins 89 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:06,240 Speaker 1: and it helps you sleep and all that ship. But 90 00:04:06,280 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 1: if you're who gives a ship, like when I'm in 91 00:04:09,200 --> 00:04:11,200 Speaker 1: my yoga mode, I feel good. That's when I feel 92 00:04:11,240 --> 00:04:14,440 Speaker 1: the best. When I'm doing yoga, I'll feel happy about it. 93 00:04:14,520 --> 00:04:17,400 Speaker 1: But this is another dirty secret. Sometimes I'll do yoga 94 00:04:17,880 --> 00:04:20,360 Speaker 1: and then my body starts to hurt, like not right then, 95 00:04:20,400 --> 00:04:22,400 Speaker 1: but like I'll get these cracks out, and then later 96 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:23,800 Speaker 1: my body is hurting, and I'm like, but I fucking 97 00:04:23,839 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 1: just said yoga what you do to resolve your body hurting. 98 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:29,560 Speaker 1: So it's all upside down. Do what you feel when 99 00:04:29,800 --> 00:04:31,880 Speaker 1: you you feel it. Do what you can when you can. 100 00:04:32,240 --> 00:04:35,400 Speaker 1: Take a nice twenty minute walk, do stretching, do meditation, 101 00:04:35,480 --> 00:04:39,279 Speaker 1: do yoga. If you're away somewhere, do snowboard, do ski, 102 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:41,680 Speaker 1: do take a walk on the beach. I just it's 103 00:04:41,720 --> 00:04:43,560 Speaker 1: a new year, and it's not that much of a 104 00:04:43,640 --> 00:04:47,440 Speaker 1: new me as it pertains to exercise. So sorry, not 105 00:04:47,680 --> 00:05:03,599 Speaker 1: that sorry. Holidays last forever. I like that we started 106 00:05:03,640 --> 00:05:06,719 Speaker 1: Halloween talking about Thanksgiving, and we started Thanksgiving talking about Christmas. 107 00:05:06,720 --> 00:05:09,160 Speaker 1: I like decorating. I like it lasting. I like an 108 00:05:09,200 --> 00:05:13,560 Speaker 1: everlasting gob stopper. I got it the holiday thing. New 109 00:05:13,640 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 1: Year's Day, got it. Hungover New Year New You make 110 00:05:17,720 --> 00:05:21,560 Speaker 1: your resolutions, rest football check. The second became a holiday 111 00:05:21,600 --> 00:05:23,760 Speaker 1: this year to the second is a holiday. So then 112 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:26,080 Speaker 1: that was a full fledged holiday, and then the day 113 00:05:26,120 --> 00:05:30,080 Speaker 1: after was then I'm swamped just getting back in now 114 00:05:30,480 --> 00:05:32,880 Speaker 1: just seeing this. Now we know you are on a holiday, 115 00:05:32,960 --> 00:05:34,600 Speaker 1: so as I saw, is everybody else. I don't give 116 00:05:34,600 --> 00:05:36,880 Speaker 1: a ship. This is the third. We took the fucking 117 00:05:36,920 --> 00:05:39,479 Speaker 1: second and added it's the pile. Now it's the goddamn third. 118 00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:43,320 Speaker 1: Nobody cares. Let's get going, like the holidays are just 119 00:05:43,400 --> 00:05:46,680 Speaker 1: something that we just like suck on for months and months. 120 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:50,200 Speaker 1: And also you'll find this, people want to milk the 121 00:05:50,240 --> 00:05:53,279 Speaker 1: holidays every which way, but Sunday, like it's a whole scam, 122 00:05:53,360 --> 00:05:57,400 Speaker 1: Like the holidays have become starting when it's got December 123 00:05:57,440 --> 00:06:01,080 Speaker 1: in it, everyone's fucking checked out, like starting probably December twelve. 124 00:06:01,480 --> 00:06:04,280 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, well, because do you know why holiday parties? 125 00:06:04,680 --> 00:06:07,119 Speaker 1: That was when it all started holiday parties, holiday party 126 00:06:07,120 --> 00:06:09,800 Speaker 1: season because you gotta leave work, earlie gotta be hungover, 127 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:12,800 Speaker 1: so that's a holiday. And then it goes right into January. 128 00:06:12,839 --> 00:06:15,159 Speaker 1: So life is just a fucking holiday, I guess because 129 00:06:15,160 --> 00:06:18,560 Speaker 1: I found that everybody wants to be loosey goosey, and 130 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:22,799 Speaker 1: I've gotten so attacked for like not loving full remote. Sorry. 131 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:25,599 Speaker 1: I work in a business where I like to be 132 00:06:25,720 --> 00:06:28,040 Speaker 1: with people, and I like a hybrid model. If you're 133 00:06:28,080 --> 00:06:30,479 Speaker 1: doing a certain job, remote is perfectly great. If you 134 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:32,760 Speaker 1: have certain things and tasks that you have to get 135 00:06:32,800 --> 00:06:36,520 Speaker 1: done in a certain period of time and you're performing remote, fabulous. 136 00:06:36,560 --> 00:06:38,719 Speaker 1: I support it. I love it. There's some jobs on 137 00:06:38,760 --> 00:06:42,960 Speaker 1: my team, but I remote no problem. If you're working 138 00:06:43,200 --> 00:06:46,120 Speaker 1: semi hybrid remote, it feels a little bit like the 139 00:06:46,240 --> 00:06:50,359 Speaker 1: days that the persons not in person don't feel exactly 140 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:53,159 Speaker 1: the same. So you can choose to like task out 141 00:06:53,200 --> 00:06:55,640 Speaker 1: what's better for those days, because those could be days 142 00:06:55,640 --> 00:06:57,960 Speaker 1: to someone just has to get things done. But it's 143 00:06:58,000 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 1: not always the same. And I also mind that during 144 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:04,159 Speaker 1: a holiday time, if it's if people are remote, that's 145 00:07:04,160 --> 00:07:07,560 Speaker 1: where it gets murky. So it's December six and it's 146 00:07:07,600 --> 00:07:11,200 Speaker 1: around the holidays, and I've left to go on vacation, 147 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:15,040 Speaker 1: which is always gonna be hybrid because I'm still gonna 148 00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:16,760 Speaker 1: be doing social media, I'm still gonna be doing rants, 149 00:07:16,760 --> 00:07:18,840 Speaker 1: doing my podcast. So I've left to go on vacation. 150 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:20,960 Speaker 1: It feels like because I've left to go on vacation, 151 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:24,480 Speaker 1: then everybody else feels like they should be sort of 152 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:29,440 Speaker 1: on some hybrid vacation. And then if it's like January 153 00:07:29,480 --> 00:07:31,360 Speaker 1: third and I want everyone to get back to it, 154 00:07:31,360 --> 00:07:33,680 Speaker 1: they're like, oh, I'm now on vacation. I'm like, but 155 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:36,400 Speaker 1: I thought we were doing sort of vacation like that 156 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:39,520 Speaker 1: last week because it was Lucy Goosey. So my point is, like, 157 00:07:39,600 --> 00:07:42,120 Speaker 1: with work and people that you work for and work 158 00:07:42,200 --> 00:07:46,960 Speaker 1: with defined terms of what remote and hybrid and what 159 00:07:47,120 --> 00:07:51,480 Speaker 1: off and on our are critical like the Lucy Goosey 160 00:07:51,560 --> 00:07:54,400 Speaker 1: you're sort of a holiday sort of working sort of 161 00:07:54,440 --> 00:07:59,920 Speaker 1: not means that then we have to stay Lucy goose 162 00:08:00,040 --> 00:08:02,080 Speaker 1: you with us getting back to work in the beginning 163 00:08:02,080 --> 00:08:04,679 Speaker 1: of January, meaning you can't be like, oh, no, today, 164 00:08:04,760 --> 00:08:08,080 Speaker 1: I'm fully off when I'm like, okay, well I thought 165 00:08:08,080 --> 00:08:10,400 Speaker 1: we were. We were partially off those other days. So 166 00:08:10,440 --> 00:08:12,240 Speaker 1: I'm realizing that in the workplace, you have to be 167 00:08:12,280 --> 00:08:15,040 Speaker 1: crystal clear. A work day off is a work day off. 168 00:08:15,080 --> 00:08:18,120 Speaker 1: Don't bother the person, let them be. Everybody around them 169 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:21,760 Speaker 1: knows it's a full work day off. Because I found 170 00:08:21,760 --> 00:08:25,080 Speaker 1: that this remote hybrid stuff means everything is remote and 171 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:30,240 Speaker 1: hybrid and people don't know what's what's sort of stringent, 172 00:08:30,280 --> 00:08:34,160 Speaker 1: Like I have a businessman manager that says is off 173 00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:37,760 Speaker 1: and off. I think he said, I'm obviously and January 174 00:08:37,800 --> 00:08:40,439 Speaker 1: one and second this year, that's what we're doing. That's 175 00:08:40,440 --> 00:08:42,439 Speaker 1: what most people are doing. But that means that the 176 00:08:42,480 --> 00:08:46,560 Speaker 1: twenty two, unless it's vacation days, are not off. And 177 00:08:46,600 --> 00:08:48,320 Speaker 1: I sort of thought I was some sort of ogre 178 00:08:48,640 --> 00:08:51,520 Speaker 1: if I didn't give everybody off between December six and 179 00:08:51,800 --> 00:08:55,360 Speaker 1: January nine. So I was like, oh, so I came 180 00:08:55,360 --> 00:08:57,480 Speaker 1: back and I thought we're all gonna get be back 181 00:08:57,520 --> 00:09:00,800 Speaker 1: cooking January three, and people had different ideas about that. 182 00:09:00,960 --> 00:09:03,840 Speaker 1: So I learned you have to be really structured with 183 00:09:04,400 --> 00:09:08,000 Speaker 1: being loose. So if we're gonna be loose, you know, 184 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:10,760 Speaker 1: let's say someone's gonna come in, stay late at work, 185 00:09:10,920 --> 00:09:13,240 Speaker 1: eight o'clock at night, be a structured but like, okay, 186 00:09:13,280 --> 00:09:15,720 Speaker 1: that's fine. You start tomorrow, start later to make that 187 00:09:15,760 --> 00:09:17,880 Speaker 1: time up so like you feel valued and you don't 188 00:09:17,920 --> 00:09:21,040 Speaker 1: feel like you know it's all over the place. If 189 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:24,720 Speaker 1: we're gonna do December sixteenth, I'm going away. We all 190 00:09:24,800 --> 00:09:29,240 Speaker 1: know it's going to be quieter. That's option A. Then 191 00:09:29,320 --> 00:09:32,000 Speaker 1: let's do lucy goosey sort of lucy goosey days. But 192 00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:38,000 Speaker 1: then let's do some loosey goosey days um that are 193 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:40,480 Speaker 1: supposed to be holidays. Like then veterans Stahl be lucy 194 00:09:40,480 --> 00:09:44,400 Speaker 1: goosey too, because we chose to make non holidays lucy goosey. 195 00:09:44,520 --> 00:09:47,440 Speaker 1: We have to define terms of what's off and on 196 00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:51,040 Speaker 1: and what's loosey goosey. But I find or, like you're Jewish, 197 00:09:51,080 --> 00:09:53,160 Speaker 1: can you tell us six months ahead of time the 198 00:09:53,240 --> 00:09:56,000 Speaker 1: days that you really need off? You need Hanukka, you 199 00:09:56,040 --> 00:09:58,440 Speaker 1: need Russia, Shana, you need jump to pour, you want 200 00:09:58,440 --> 00:10:01,160 Speaker 1: to pass over. It's tell us the day, okay, because 201 00:10:01,160 --> 00:10:04,040 Speaker 1: then you can't take that and then also take all 202 00:10:04,080 --> 00:10:07,520 Speaker 1: the Christian days and vice versa. So everybody wants to 203 00:10:07,559 --> 00:10:10,040 Speaker 1: make everything work for it themselves. And I find that 204 00:10:10,120 --> 00:10:12,880 Speaker 1: people do take creative license with that, and I think 205 00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:16,880 Speaker 1: things need to be very, very defined and structured and 206 00:10:17,440 --> 00:10:22,760 Speaker 1: January three this year became a it's a holiday because 207 00:10:22,760 --> 00:10:25,960 Speaker 1: we're swamped from being off from the holiday, so everything 208 00:10:26,000 --> 00:10:30,120 Speaker 1: came in today, so that's like a swamp holiday