WEBVTT - There isn't always a lesson

0:00:03.440 --> 0:00:07.560
<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

0:00:09.240 --> 0:00:15.320
<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

0:00:16.480 --> 0:00:21.360
<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is that there isn't always a lesson. While

0:00:21.360 --> 0:00:24.079
<v Speaker 1>it is human nature to try to draw conclusions when

0:00:24.120 --> 0:00:32.159
<v Speaker 1>something bad happens, sometimes bad things just happen. Acknowledging that

0:00:32.680 --> 0:00:36.160
<v Speaker 1>can keep you from cutting yourself off from good things

0:00:36.560 --> 0:00:40.640
<v Speaker 1>in the future. I am sure we can all call

0:00:40.720 --> 0:00:44.519
<v Speaker 1>to mind instances where people have drawn rather broad lessons

0:00:44.880 --> 0:00:49.400
<v Speaker 1>from bad experiences. The person who gets lost or suffers

0:00:49.440 --> 0:00:53.280
<v Speaker 1>from a stomach bug during an international trip and decides

0:00:53.400 --> 0:00:58.600
<v Speaker 1>to never travel internationally again. The person who has a

0:00:58.680 --> 0:01:03.080
<v Speaker 1>childcare snaphoo and decides this means that it is impossible

0:01:03.160 --> 0:01:06.960
<v Speaker 1>to successfully have a career and a family. The new

0:01:07.000 --> 0:01:11.000
<v Speaker 1>investor who decides to pay a bit too close of

0:01:11.040 --> 0:01:14.520
<v Speaker 1>attention to the stock market sees the market dip four

0:01:14.560 --> 0:01:17.800
<v Speaker 1>percent in a week and promptly pulls all their money

0:01:17.840 --> 0:01:22.560
<v Speaker 1>out for good. Unfortunately, this is often the way the

0:01:22.640 --> 0:01:27.679
<v Speaker 1>human brain works when something bad happens. We want to

0:01:27.720 --> 0:01:32.600
<v Speaker 1>know why. We hunt for a reason because the reason

0:01:33.319 --> 0:01:38.240
<v Speaker 1>suggests a solution. If we learn the lesson, then this

0:01:38.319 --> 0:01:42.039
<v Speaker 1>bad thing will never happen. To us again. And that

0:01:42.120 --> 0:01:46.120
<v Speaker 1>may be true for some things, but most likely bad

0:01:46.160 --> 0:01:50.720
<v Speaker 1>stuff will still happen from time to time. Bad stuff

0:01:50.760 --> 0:01:56.400
<v Speaker 1>happens even when people do everything right, and unfortunately, drawing

0:01:56.440 --> 0:02:00.800
<v Speaker 1>really broad lessons means that other bad things define will

0:02:00.920 --> 0:02:03.680
<v Speaker 1>happen to us as a result of learning these so

0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:07.880
<v Speaker 1>called lessons. There is a big and wonderful world out there.

0:02:09.000 --> 0:02:12.359
<v Speaker 1>Someone who decides it's just too scary to travel internationally

0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:17.480
<v Speaker 1>is never going to experience much of that world. There

0:02:17.560 --> 0:02:21.720
<v Speaker 1>is great satisfaction in building a fulfilling career and great

0:02:21.760 --> 0:02:26.000
<v Speaker 1>satisfaction in raising a happy family. Someone who decides it

0:02:26.080 --> 0:02:28.680
<v Speaker 1>is impossible to do both will cut him or herself

0:02:28.720 --> 0:02:33.000
<v Speaker 1>off from one of these sources of fulfillment. And keeping

0:02:33.040 --> 0:02:36.120
<v Speaker 1>all your money in a savings account at zero point

0:02:36.240 --> 0:02:41.400
<v Speaker 1>zero five percent interest means definitely losing money to inflation.

0:02:42.960 --> 0:02:46.920
<v Speaker 1>If there is a lesson to be learned, great, I

0:02:47.080 --> 0:02:50.560
<v Speaker 1>now keep diaper wipes in my purse after being caught

0:02:50.600 --> 0:02:54.360
<v Speaker 1>without them in a situation where a child's diaper change

0:02:54.400 --> 0:03:00.639
<v Speaker 1>really required the proper supplies. This is a useful lesson. However,

0:03:00.720 --> 0:03:04.120
<v Speaker 1>in many situations there either is no lesson or the

0:03:04.240 --> 0:03:09.320
<v Speaker 1>lesson could be much more narrowly construed. Perhaps our international

0:03:09.360 --> 0:03:13.000
<v Speaker 1>traveler could simply start with bottled water in any new destination.

0:03:14.360 --> 0:03:16.920
<v Speaker 1>Perhaps our person who believes it is impossible to have

0:03:17.000 --> 0:03:20.040
<v Speaker 1>it all could figure out a workable backup childcare plan

0:03:20.680 --> 0:03:25.560
<v Speaker 1>in any high stake situation. Perhaps our investor could learn

0:03:25.600 --> 0:03:29.560
<v Speaker 1>to invest conservatively a smaller percent of their assets in

0:03:29.560 --> 0:03:33.799
<v Speaker 1>the market and only in index funds, and they could

0:03:33.880 --> 0:03:37.920
<v Speaker 1>remind themselves to look at their portfolio once every six months.

0:03:39.320 --> 0:03:44.280
<v Speaker 1>That would be a reasonable lesson. Or maybe there is

0:03:44.320 --> 0:03:49.360
<v Speaker 1>no lesson. Stocks go up and stocks go down, so

0:03:49.440 --> 0:03:53.200
<v Speaker 1>it goes. Sometimes we all have bad days on the

0:03:53.280 --> 0:03:57.960
<v Speaker 1>job and bad days at home. Sometimes things we thought

0:03:58.000 --> 0:04:02.920
<v Speaker 1>would work don't oh well. By taking an oh well

0:04:03.080 --> 0:04:07.320
<v Speaker 1>approach or learning a very narrow lesson, we don't cut

0:04:07.320 --> 0:04:13.000
<v Speaker 1>ourselves off from lots of future positives, and that is

0:04:13.040 --> 0:04:19.480
<v Speaker 1>a much better lesson to learn. In the meantime, This

0:04:19.560 --> 0:04:23.479
<v Speaker 1>is Laura, Thanks for listening, and here's to making the

0:04:23.520 --> 0:04:33.120
<v Speaker 1>most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to hear

0:04:33.160 --> 0:04:35.919
<v Speaker 1>from you. You can send me your tips, your questions,

0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:39.760
<v Speaker 1>or anything else. Just connect with me on Twitter, Facebook

0:04:39.880 --> 0:04:45.080
<v Speaker 1>and Instagram at Before Breakfast Pod. That's b The number

0:04:45.120 --> 0:04:49.320
<v Speaker 1>four than Breakfast p o D. You can also shoot

0:04:49.320 --> 0:04:53.080
<v Speaker 1>me an email at Before Breakfast podcast at iHeart media

0:04:53.160 --> 0:04:55.800
<v Speaker 1>dot com that Before Breakfast is spelled out with all

0:04:55.800 --> 0:04:58.600
<v Speaker 1>the letters. Thanks so much, I look forward to staying

0:04:58.640 --> 0:05:06.599
<v Speaker 1>in touch. MM. Before Breakfast is a production of I

0:05:06.720 --> 0:05:10.599
<v Speaker 1>heart Radio. For more podcasts from I heart Radio, visit

0:05:10.640 --> 0:05:14.000
<v Speaker 1>the i heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you

0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:17.640
<v Speaker 1>listen to your favorite shows. H