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Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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Speaker 1: Today's tip is that there isn't always a lesson. While

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Speaker 1: it is human nature to try to draw conclusions when

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Speaker 1: something bad happens, sometimes bad things just happen. Acknowledging that

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Speaker 1: can keep you from cutting yourself off from good things

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Speaker 1: in the future. I am sure we can all call

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Speaker 1: to mind instances where people have drawn rather broad lessons

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Speaker 1: from bad experiences. The person who gets lost or suffers

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Speaker 1: from a stomach bug during an international trip and decides

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Speaker 1: to never travel internationally again. The person who has a

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Speaker 1: childcare snaphoo and decides this means that it is impossible

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Speaker 1: to successfully have a career and a family. The new

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Speaker 1: investor who decides to pay a bit too close of

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Speaker 1: attention to the stock market sees the market dip four

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Speaker 1: percent in a week and promptly pulls all their money

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Speaker 1: out for good. Unfortunately, this is often the way the

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Speaker 1: human brain works when something bad happens. We want to

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Speaker 1: know why. We hunt for a reason because the reason

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Speaker 1: suggests a solution. If we learn the lesson, then this

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Speaker 1: bad thing will never happen. To us again. And that

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Speaker 1: may be true for some things, but most likely bad

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Speaker 1: stuff will still happen from time to time. Bad stuff

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Speaker 1: happens even when people do everything right, and unfortunately, drawing

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Speaker 1: really broad lessons means that other bad things define will

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Speaker 1: happen to us as a result of learning these so

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Speaker 1: called lessons. There is a big and wonderful world out there.

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Speaker 1: Someone who decides it's just too scary to travel internationally

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Speaker 1: is never going to experience much of that world. There

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Speaker 1: is great satisfaction in building a fulfilling career and great

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Speaker 1: satisfaction in raising a happy family. Someone who decides it

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Speaker 1: is impossible to do both will cut him or herself

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Speaker 1: off from one of these sources of fulfillment. And keeping

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Speaker 1: all your money in a savings account at zero point

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Speaker 1: zero five percent interest means definitely losing money to inflation.

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Speaker 1: If there is a lesson to be learned, great, I

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Speaker 1: now keep diaper wipes in my purse after being caught

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Speaker 1: without them in a situation where a child's diaper change

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Speaker 1: really required the proper supplies. This is a useful lesson. However,

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Speaker 1: in many situations there either is no lesson or the

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Speaker 1: lesson could be much more narrowly construed. Perhaps our international

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Speaker 1: traveler could simply start with bottled water in any new destination.

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Speaker 1: Perhaps our person who believes it is impossible to have

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Speaker 1: it all could figure out a workable backup childcare plan

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Speaker 1: in any high stake situation. Perhaps our investor could learn

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Speaker 1: to invest conservatively a smaller percent of their assets in

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Speaker 1: the market and only in index funds, and they could

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Speaker 1: remind themselves to look at their portfolio once every six months.

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Speaker 1: That would be a reasonable lesson. Or maybe there is

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Speaker 1: no lesson. Stocks go up and stocks go down, so

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Speaker 1: it goes. Sometimes we all have bad days on the

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Speaker 1: job and bad days at home. Sometimes things we thought

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Speaker 1: would work don't oh well. By taking an oh well

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Speaker 1: approach or learning a very narrow lesson, we don't cut

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Speaker 1: ourselves off from lots of future positives, and that is

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Speaker 1: a much better lesson to learn. In the meantime, This

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Speaker 1: is Laura, Thanks for listening, and here's to making the

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Speaker 1: most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to hear

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