1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,880 Speaker 1: It's a jewel show and today is International Women's Day, 2 00:00:03,040 --> 00:00:06,800 Speaker 1: and just wanted to read the definition of International Women's 3 00:00:06,880 --> 00:00:10,239 Speaker 1: Day from the official website for do It, you would 4 00:00:10,280 --> 00:00:13,119 Speaker 1: do it? The definition for International Women's Day, according to 5 00:00:13,200 --> 00:00:16,240 Speaker 1: their website, is this International Women's Day sees a number 6 00:00:16,239 --> 00:00:19,840 Speaker 1: of missions to help forge a gender equal world, celebrating 7 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:26,400 Speaker 1: women's achievements and increasing visibility while calling out inequality is key. Hm, 8 00:00:26,640 --> 00:00:31,600 Speaker 1: that's the definition. Do you agree? Text in for one 9 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:35,360 Speaker 1: of six one Do you agree? Yeah? Do you agree? Alex, 10 00:00:38,640 --> 00:00:42,440 Speaker 1: I just didn't want to even really talk about or 11 00:00:42,479 --> 00:00:45,880 Speaker 1: I didn't really get why I should talk about International 12 00:00:45,920 --> 00:00:47,760 Speaker 1: Women's Day because I just don't get the point of it. 13 00:00:48,400 --> 00:00:49,839 Speaker 1: When you say you don't get the point of it, 14 00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:53,040 Speaker 1: what do you mean, Like, why do we even have 15 00:00:53,080 --> 00:00:55,280 Speaker 1: to have a day like that? Just goes a show 16 00:00:56,120 --> 00:00:58,720 Speaker 1: right there that there's an issue, but it's not getting 17 00:00:58,760 --> 00:01:02,560 Speaker 1: better right talking about it, I feel ultimately is not 18 00:01:02,600 --> 00:01:09,839 Speaker 1: going to change anything. I think. Just to answer why 19 00:01:09,959 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 1: I didn't want to do it in the first place 20 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:15,760 Speaker 1: is because I just feel like, ultimately, I don't think 21 00:01:15,800 --> 00:01:17,319 Speaker 1: anything is going to change, and I just feel like 22 00:01:18,360 --> 00:01:20,240 Speaker 1: a lot of men, which I don't I don't want 23 00:01:20,240 --> 00:01:21,760 Speaker 1: to put you guys in a box, but there are 24 00:01:21,760 --> 00:01:24,280 Speaker 1: certain ways that I have to explain something. Even when 25 00:01:24,319 --> 00:01:30,080 Speaker 1: you're not trying to be exclusive with women, you do 26 00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:37,400 Speaker 1: it without realizing it in your words. Because I like dudes, Yeah, 27 00:01:37,720 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 1: I get along, Like I have the same mentality, in 28 00:01:40,200 --> 00:01:44,440 Speaker 1: the same mindset as dudes. I just feel like my 29 00:01:44,560 --> 00:01:49,640 Speaker 1: thoughts are just more like dude thoughts they are, so 30 00:01:50,080 --> 00:01:54,320 Speaker 1: it pisses me off when I've been put in a 31 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:58,800 Speaker 1: box right my whole life. So why do I need 32 00:01:58,840 --> 00:02:01,680 Speaker 1: to talk about a day that we have to celebrate women, 33 00:02:01,680 --> 00:02:03,640 Speaker 1: which is confusing itself, like what are we celebrating? What 34 00:02:03,720 --> 00:02:06,200 Speaker 1: are we celebrating? I just don't get it because it 35 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 1: doesn't make sense to me how we're like if we're 36 00:02:08,360 --> 00:02:11,600 Speaker 1: not going to be making changes. I don't want to 37 00:02:11,639 --> 00:02:16,080 Speaker 1: talk about how cool your mom is, how awesome and 38 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 1: sweet your grandma is, or or what they've accomplished great. 39 00:02:20,080 --> 00:02:21,639 Speaker 1: I'm a hard working ass woman too, and I have 40 00:02:21,680 --> 00:02:24,680 Speaker 1: a compliation tone. I don't care. I don't care to 41 00:02:24,720 --> 00:02:27,160 Speaker 1: get the recognition like that. I just want to be equal. 42 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:35,119 Speaker 1: So unless I thought things would change in my lifetime 43 00:02:35,520 --> 00:02:37,600 Speaker 1: or that my voice would make a change, even if 44 00:02:37,600 --> 00:02:41,040 Speaker 1: it changes one guy's mind, that's not good enough for 45 00:02:41,040 --> 00:02:42,760 Speaker 1: me to talk about it because it's not going to 46 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:48,640 Speaker 1: make a difference as far as equality goes, because I've 47 00:02:48,680 --> 00:02:53,000 Speaker 1: seen it my whole life, year after year. People can 48 00:02:53,000 --> 00:02:55,160 Speaker 1: talk about it all day long, but until people make changes, 49 00:02:55,720 --> 00:02:58,720 Speaker 1: it doesn't mean anything. Can I just take a break 50 00:02:58,720 --> 00:03:02,680 Speaker 1: for a second, Yeah, for sure. All right, we'll play 51 00:03:02,720 --> 00:03:07,480 Speaker 1: a song, come back, and then dive into this some more. 52 00:03:07,639 --> 00:03:10,560 Speaker 1: If you're cool with that. Yeah, I just need okay, 53 00:03:10,560 --> 00:03:12,440 Speaker 1: I just need a minute. All right, we'll play a song, 54 00:03:12,680 --> 00:03:14,160 Speaker 1: come back, we'll talk about this some more. It's a 55 00:03:14,200 --> 00:03:16,280 Speaker 1: jewel show. It's a jewel show if you're just tuning in. 56 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:19,120 Speaker 1: We had to pause for a moment because we're talking 57 00:03:19,160 --> 00:03:21,960 Speaker 1: about International Women's Day and Alex was just sharing her 58 00:03:22,000 --> 00:03:24,800 Speaker 1: point of view that she feels like nothing she says 59 00:03:24,840 --> 00:03:27,240 Speaker 1: today or just in general, is really going to make 60 00:03:27,240 --> 00:03:29,919 Speaker 1: a difference and really matters. And Alex is the only 61 00:03:29,960 --> 00:03:32,560 Speaker 1: person I've known, She's the only woman I've heard go, 62 00:03:32,960 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 1: what's the point Our voices don't really matter? Like it's 63 00:03:36,360 --> 00:03:38,760 Speaker 1: not gonna change anything. I might make one person think 64 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:41,200 Speaker 1: a little differently for a second, but ultimately at the 65 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:43,280 Speaker 1: end of the day, in my lifetime, nothing's gonna change. 66 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:45,280 Speaker 1: And I was like, you really feel that way? She 67 00:03:45,360 --> 00:03:48,480 Speaker 1: was like yeah. And then I heard from also other 68 00:03:48,520 --> 00:03:50,720 Speaker 1: women when she would talk about it agree with her. 69 00:03:51,120 --> 00:03:55,320 Speaker 1: It was not I think it's more common. I'm I'm speculating, 70 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 1: and Alex, you can tell me if I'm right wrong. 71 00:03:57,200 --> 00:03:59,400 Speaker 1: But I think that feeling that you're talking about right 72 00:03:59,400 --> 00:04:03,000 Speaker 1: now is more then people give credit to like that. 73 00:04:03,160 --> 00:04:05,000 Speaker 1: That's one of the things that has not talked about 74 00:04:05,200 --> 00:04:07,160 Speaker 1: if you're talking about International Women's Day is the fact 75 00:04:07,200 --> 00:04:09,320 Speaker 1: that there are a lot of women that feel just 76 00:04:09,400 --> 00:04:12,600 Speaker 1: like Alex does, that it doesn't matter. Yeah, and the 77 00:04:12,640 --> 00:04:15,640 Speaker 1: World Economic Forum agrees with me, Brad. Can you read 78 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:19,400 Speaker 1: the quote, Yeah, a gender parody won't be attained for 79 00:04:19,440 --> 00:04:22,200 Speaker 1: one hundred years globally, and in the US that figure 80 00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:26,000 Speaker 1: rises to one hundred and fifty one years. Wow, me 81 00:04:26,080 --> 00:04:28,240 Speaker 1: talking about this is not going to change anything in 82 00:04:28,279 --> 00:04:30,839 Speaker 1: my lifetime. And then I see this quote yesterday. It's 83 00:04:30,839 --> 00:04:34,640 Speaker 1: just how it is. Like men are controlling in the workforce, 84 00:04:35,000 --> 00:04:36,480 Speaker 1: and it's just how it is. It's like men are 85 00:04:36,520 --> 00:04:39,240 Speaker 1: the moneymakers, men are the head of household, they're the breadwinner. 86 00:04:39,360 --> 00:04:42,640 Speaker 1: Is like why because someone for a long time ago 87 00:04:42,720 --> 00:04:45,159 Speaker 1: said it should be like that pretty much. But I 88 00:04:45,160 --> 00:04:47,000 Speaker 1: don't feel like that. I don't feel like I want 89 00:04:47,000 --> 00:04:48,000 Speaker 1: to be like that. I don't want to be a 90 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:50,599 Speaker 1: stay at home I think that something that's really frustrating 91 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:53,240 Speaker 1: to me is that all the like the positions that 92 00:04:54,440 --> 00:04:57,520 Speaker 1: women are in is not what I aspire to be in. 93 00:04:58,000 --> 00:04:59,760 Speaker 1: I want to be further than that, and women don't 94 00:04:59,760 --> 00:05:02,040 Speaker 1: get the opportunity. Yeah, I want to be the I 95 00:05:02,120 --> 00:05:03,520 Speaker 1: won't what if I want to be the red runner, 96 00:05:03,960 --> 00:05:06,200 Speaker 1: which I was for a long time and I had 97 00:05:06,240 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 1: fun and I enjoyed it, and I'm a hustler and 98 00:05:08,200 --> 00:05:12,000 Speaker 1: I'm business minded. And yet at a previous job when 99 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:15,599 Speaker 1: I was younger, my boss asked me to because out 100 00:05:15,640 --> 00:05:18,040 Speaker 1: of nowhere, and after saying no, he says, well, can 101 00:05:18,080 --> 00:05:20,000 Speaker 1: I just finish over here? Then myself and then rubs 102 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:22,640 Speaker 1: it in the carpet. That's what I have to deal 103 00:05:22,640 --> 00:05:25,520 Speaker 1: with while getting paid half as less as my peer. 104 00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:31,560 Speaker 1: And also I dealt with somebody who stalked me for 105 00:05:31,600 --> 00:05:36,200 Speaker 1: five years and when hr was finally contacted, not by 106 00:05:36,240 --> 00:05:38,839 Speaker 1: me because I was too scared, and ended up giving 107 00:05:40,240 --> 00:05:43,760 Speaker 1: my entire statement. He wasn't fired and we were still 108 00:05:43,760 --> 00:05:45,800 Speaker 1: in the same building, and I don't think I was 109 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:49,600 Speaker 1: ever more scared in my entire life. And and so 110 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:52,960 Speaker 1: when when I say that, I didn't want to talk 111 00:05:52,960 --> 00:05:56,280 Speaker 1: about it to begin with, like they say, celebrate, which 112 00:05:56,360 --> 00:05:58,159 Speaker 1: is just confusing to me because those are what like 113 00:05:58,240 --> 00:06:02,000 Speaker 1: I remember, and that's what like those are. Just that's 114 00:06:02,040 --> 00:06:05,039 Speaker 1: just a tip of the iceberg that doesn't even I mean, 115 00:06:05,080 --> 00:06:11,800 Speaker 1: that's just one and it's just really overwhelming to think about. 116 00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:16,200 Speaker 1: And I don't know what the point of it would be. 117 00:06:16,880 --> 00:06:19,640 Speaker 1: Even though I still don't care to talk about it 118 00:06:19,640 --> 00:06:23,360 Speaker 1: because it's really really like hurtful and sad and it 119 00:06:23,360 --> 00:06:28,280 Speaker 1: doesn't make sense to me, I realize that it is 120 00:06:28,520 --> 00:06:33,960 Speaker 1: still important. And so I'm putting my my stubbornness aside 121 00:06:34,600 --> 00:06:39,400 Speaker 1: and saying my two cents because Jewel and Brad and 122 00:06:39,400 --> 00:06:42,719 Speaker 1: Evan think that the things that I bring up and 123 00:06:42,720 --> 00:06:47,360 Speaker 1: and say in my way is really impactful. So I 124 00:06:47,400 --> 00:06:55,080 Speaker 1: hope that that's I guess what we accomplished today. And 125 00:06:55,839 --> 00:07:00,720 Speaker 1: like I said before, if one person changes something cool, Bro, 126 00:07:01,839 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 1: you could be a small business. You could be a 127 00:07:03,279 --> 00:07:05,400 Speaker 1: medium sized business. Like I just say business because that's 128 00:07:05,400 --> 00:07:08,320 Speaker 1: where the most inequality is and like, that's who I 129 00:07:08,360 --> 00:07:10,360 Speaker 1: am is, Like I've gone through a lot, and that's 130 00:07:10,360 --> 00:07:14,960 Speaker 1: where like most of my experiences and that's where you know, 131 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:17,480 Speaker 1: Alex and I are married, by the way, you didn't 132 00:07:17,520 --> 00:07:20,720 Speaker 1: know that, Uh, But Alex and I are married. And 133 00:07:20,800 --> 00:07:27,200 Speaker 1: she's the business minded person, oh definitely. Uh. And that's 134 00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:31,320 Speaker 1: where where her passion lies. So that's what she focuses on, 135 00:07:31,720 --> 00:07:36,240 Speaker 1: you know. And I've heard all the stories and the 136 00:07:36,360 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 1: reasons why for her it's about business. It's not even 137 00:07:40,080 --> 00:07:43,360 Speaker 1: about the household, you know, which I think for a 138 00:07:43,400 --> 00:07:46,080 Speaker 1: lot of other people it is. That's where it resonates. 139 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 1: So when when she's talking about business, like she's a 140 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:53,320 Speaker 1: she's a strong business minded person. She can run a business. 141 00:07:53,320 --> 00:07:58,080 Speaker 1: She runs this business, really, and so she speaks from 142 00:07:58,080 --> 00:08:03,200 Speaker 1: from that perspective and the fact that I as a dude, 143 00:08:03,920 --> 00:08:07,400 Speaker 1: I was a white male, have had so many conversations 144 00:08:07,400 --> 00:08:10,760 Speaker 1: with her where she's broken stuff down to me in 145 00:08:10,840 --> 00:08:13,920 Speaker 1: the way that she does, which is different than I've 146 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:17,960 Speaker 1: heard any woman explain it to me before. And also 147 00:08:18,440 --> 00:08:22,120 Speaker 1: being in a place where you're not defensive automatically, So 148 00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:24,160 Speaker 1: I did want to say, if you're a dude, that's 149 00:08:24,200 --> 00:08:26,440 Speaker 1: listening to this and right away you're like, oh, whatever, 150 00:08:26,560 --> 00:08:28,960 Speaker 1: it's not that way. It is that way, and I 151 00:08:28,960 --> 00:08:30,520 Speaker 1: can tell you that it is that way, and even 152 00:08:30,560 --> 00:08:33,520 Speaker 1: if you feel like you don't feel that way, because 153 00:08:33,520 --> 00:08:36,520 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm very I'm all. I've always felt 154 00:08:36,520 --> 00:08:39,160 Speaker 1: like I'm all about equality. I don't care who you are, right, 155 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:43,000 Speaker 1: I actually really like strong women. It's like, one of 156 00:08:43,040 --> 00:08:45,640 Speaker 1: the most beautiful things about Alex to me is how 157 00:08:46,280 --> 00:08:50,200 Speaker 1: he does strong. She is even when she's upset with me. 158 00:08:51,080 --> 00:09:01,280 Speaker 1: I love it because I'm not the same passion. But 159 00:09:02,200 --> 00:09:05,200 Speaker 1: she's been able to explain to me that, oh, even 160 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:08,200 Speaker 1: the way I feel, and as supportive as I feel 161 00:09:08,520 --> 00:09:11,319 Speaker 1: and as inclusive as I feel, there's things I do 162 00:09:11,440 --> 00:09:14,000 Speaker 1: on accident that I didn't even realize was a thing 163 00:09:14,880 --> 00:09:19,240 Speaker 1: because it's been so ingrained on a regular basis. Work 164 00:09:19,400 --> 00:09:22,080 Speaker 1: in meetings where where I don't even want to talk 165 00:09:22,120 --> 00:09:24,400 Speaker 1: because I don't want to be in charge. I want 166 00:09:24,480 --> 00:09:28,600 Speaker 1: her like I want anybody else to be in charge 167 00:09:28,600 --> 00:09:30,520 Speaker 1: with me. I'm not. I'm not a very good like 168 00:09:30,840 --> 00:09:33,560 Speaker 1: leader in that way, and I know that it's not 169 00:09:33,600 --> 00:09:35,960 Speaker 1: my strong suit, it's not my skill set. So I'd 170 00:09:36,040 --> 00:09:37,840 Speaker 1: rather be quiet in a meeting. But there are things 171 00:09:37,840 --> 00:09:40,440 Speaker 1: that I do in meetings that like our slights to 172 00:09:40,480 --> 00:09:43,400 Speaker 1: her and I'm sure other women that are there or 173 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:45,200 Speaker 1: have been there before, that I didn't even realize I 174 00:09:45,240 --> 00:09:49,000 Speaker 1: was doing. And it's definitely because that's the way it's 175 00:09:49,160 --> 00:09:52,040 Speaker 1: been made to be in the workplace for women. So 176 00:09:53,120 --> 00:09:56,800 Speaker 1: I can understand every single word that Alex says. When 177 00:09:56,840 --> 00:09:59,679 Speaker 1: she says it's hard to understand the point of being 178 00:09:59,720 --> 00:10:02,160 Speaker 1: told to talk about International Women's Day, it makes sense 179 00:10:02,160 --> 00:10:06,200 Speaker 1: to me. Yeah, yeah, thank you for breaking it down. So, yes, 180 00:10:06,280 --> 00:10:09,320 Speaker 1: today we are going to celebrate women, but we're also 181 00:10:09,360 --> 00:10:12,120 Speaker 1: going to call out inequalities as we see them. Okay, Jebel, 182 00:10:12,160 --> 00:10:16,960 Speaker 1: do your thing, do your little thing over there. Okay, ah, got, 183 00:10:16,960 --> 00:10:20,079 Speaker 1: You're a beast. It's the Jebel Show.