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Speaker 1: Good morning, Charlemagne, paste up planning in this Monday, Martin

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Speaker 1: Luther King Day. Now, listen, we have a scheduled set

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Speaker 1: of vacation days. Martin Luther King Junior Day happened to

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Speaker 1: be one of them. Yes, we're not here, and I

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Speaker 1: know you're like, oh, y'all just took four weeks off.

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Speaker 1: You know why we took four weeks off because we

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Speaker 1: have vacation days that correct and we use them correct.

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Speaker 1: And since today is a corporate holiday and a holiday

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Speaker 1: all across the country, we're not here either. No, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: right now, I've probably just finished doing a party with

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Speaker 1: me and Martin Luther King on a flyer together. That's

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Speaker 1: so disrespectful and you're too old for that at this point.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. And listen, I'm gonna tell

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Speaker 1: you something else. Mind your business. And what I mean

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Speaker 1: by that is, I know you upset that we've been

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Speaker 1: going for four weeks and we're taking another vacation day off,

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Speaker 1: But mind your business. Okay, do we come to your

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Speaker 1: job and complain to you about you taking your vacation days.

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Speaker 1: That's true, all right, all right, Well, Humble Pope will

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Speaker 1: be joining us this morning. That's right. Humble got a

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Speaker 1: new book out called how to be Loved? Okay, or

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Speaker 1: how to be Loved? Because the D is in parentheses.

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Speaker 1: You like the Dan parenthes No, I don't like the

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Speaker 1: Dan parentesies. I like my D to be prominent, okay?

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Speaker 1: But how to be loved and is curcious loved by

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Speaker 1: Humble the pot. He'll be here to talk about love

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Speaker 1: this morning. All right, we'll get into that anymore, so

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Speaker 1: don't move. It's the breakfast Club. Good morning, wake up,

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Speaker 1: wake up wall This is your time to get it

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Speaker 1: off your chest. Whether you're a man or blessed, we

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Speaker 1: want to hear from you on the refless club. What

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Speaker 1: you sound like? You need an those job. I can't

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Speaker 1: hear you clearly, shut up. I want you to be

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Speaker 1: able to speak clearer. O. I can't. That was a

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Speaker 1: quick nose job. What up, man? Get it off your chests. Bro,

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Speaker 1: Rebel Jesus from Detroit, you mind doing from poetry? Your

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Speaker 1: name is Rebel Jesus, and you want to do poetry. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: go ahead, go Lord a mercy. I'm called an adopted

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Speaker 1: but a bird of a legend man that your prophet

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Speaker 1: sized many mini mini mini meny years ago. I wouldn't

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Speaker 1: even seib to colle But whatever it's true. Would you

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Speaker 1: believe that a church said you got you blieve? God said?

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Speaker 1: I can't. It's a funny youth, yo, b I can't. Yes, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you sound like silly bone. Listen to me, man Um,

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Speaker 1: that wasn't poetry, that was wrapped sir? There virtually the

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Speaker 1: same thing. Yeah, it rapp is poetry. I mean it

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Speaker 1: is poetry, but the way poets delivered is a little

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Speaker 1: bit different than you did. Just now, Okay I wasn't

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Speaker 1: I wasn't a fan do a different one. No, we

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Speaker 1: would appreciate if you say thank you for the opportunity

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Speaker 1: and you go figure out something else to do with

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Speaker 1: your life. But you have a blessed day, brother, rebel Jesus,

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Speaker 1: have a blessed day. Silly bone? Hello, who's this yo?

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Speaker 1: I don't want to say one thing what you want

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Speaker 1: to say? Why you didn't give um? Why didn't give

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Speaker 1: the girl? Who give um? Who hits the god with

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Speaker 1: the bowling ball? Um? Don't the day. That's a good question.

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Speaker 1: I haven't seen the video. I heard about it though, Yo,

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Speaker 1: that was some you get um the white guy name?

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Speaker 1: How would saying a song called freak like Me back

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Speaker 1: in the day love with Dina House? Yeah, I know

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Speaker 1: I love that SWNG too? Bro? Why are you give

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Speaker 1: um Jesus don't get the day? I don't even know

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Speaker 1: think she might be deserving of a donkey to day.

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Speaker 1: I think you're right, sir, she gotta get two donkeys

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Speaker 1: of this day. Okay? Why are you drinking that this

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Speaker 1: time of morning? Bro? You're just leaving the club. Why

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Speaker 1: are you ain't drinking? That's when you know somebody drunk? Why?

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Speaker 1: Why are you ain't drinking? Why are you drunk? Why

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Speaker 1: are you ain't drinking? Hello? Who's this Nick? The truck?

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Speaker 1: And Nick? You and your truck? Now by, I don't

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Speaker 1: tell this man to blow up? I got you right here.

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Speaker 1: What in the hell was that type of horn you

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Speaker 1: I just want to let everybody know. Man, it's a

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Speaker 1: new year. Stop working so much, man, it's more important

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Speaker 1: to spend time with your family and friends. Cut it out,

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Speaker 1: all that all that extra stuff y'all working for. It's

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Speaker 1: really not worth it to spend time with your family.

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Speaker 1: I agree with you, But how are we gonna make money?

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying stop working. I'm not. Let me rephrase it.

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying to stop working. Just stop like you're

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Speaker 1: you're praying myself Charlemagne. Working to pay your bills. After that,

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Speaker 1: all that over time, all that extra stuff to buys them,

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Speaker 1: to buechi or whatever it is you spend your money off,

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Speaker 1: it's not worth it. Oh yeah, ain't nobody you know what?

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Speaker 1: I agree with that because you got some idiots out

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Speaker 1: I agree with you on that. Yeah, I agree with you.

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Speaker 1: I agree to Nick. Spend spend the time with your family.

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Speaker 1: Find the time to spend time with your family if

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Speaker 1: you find time for everything else, make sure you're raised

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Speaker 1: significant if you're working over time for absolutely, let me

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Speaker 1: shout out my wife for a quick brand anniversary is

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Speaker 1: next month. Let me shout out then yellow, she said school.

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Speaker 1: She just started to score yesterday to be a teacher.

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Speaker 1: I want to wish you all the praise and happiness later.

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Speaker 1: Our anniversary is make the year on our next month,

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Speaker 1: on Valentine Day together we're I'm twenty nine and she's

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to see fifthy more. Hey, that's a lot

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Speaker 1: of pressure, man, having an anniversary on Valentine's Day. Lord,

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Speaker 1: have mercy now. I look at it as killing two

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Speaker 1: birds with one stone. Well, I know one thing. You

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Speaker 1: better get back to work so you have some money

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Speaker 1: for Valentine's Day and the anniversary. You're gonna need that

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Speaker 1: extra cat. Goodbye, nick, Oh see that's what That's what

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Speaker 1: it is. And don't take that money though. She's gonna

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Speaker 1: be happy. Just if we had the park. If you want,

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Speaker 1: there's gonna be somebody else. Take it to the park.

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Speaker 1: We'll blow the hall one more time for me, Nick, Hey,

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Speaker 1: who is that? You can't even tell his voice no more?

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Speaker 1: If I know jobs who that is? Who is? Goodbye?

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Speaker 1: Get it off your chests. Eight hundred five eight five

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Speaker 1: this up now. It was the Breakfast Club, Good morning,

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Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club. Did your time to get it off

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Speaker 1: your chests, whether you're mad or blast, so we better

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Speaker 1: have the same any we want to hear from you

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Speaker 1: on the Breakfast Club. I love who's that? Who's yeah?

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Speaker 1: That's all I mean? Who those about the old pepe

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Speaker 1: pe loans I tided to get through. I did a

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Speaker 1: little sixteen bars one through the here. Okay, go all right,

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Speaker 1: it's crazy, ill do me pushing that five some Bentley

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Speaker 1: trucks from p P loans, I was pushing some vegetable twy.

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Speaker 1: I got a loans from the thing. I started figuring

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Speaker 1: the P loans man. You think I'm a vegy in that?

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Speaker 1: Imagine miss Stephen a letter fun girls coming with your

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Speaker 1: old fifty stacks, a polly with a a money stealing

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Speaker 1: that one of the stee that eagles book outside. I

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Speaker 1: never sold so many prizes arranged and master fu on

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Speaker 1: selection I can't repeat. Some people teasing me about the

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Speaker 1: cass you boyd or for p P and ps. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I think you need to get a job. Listen, I

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Speaker 1: think you need to get a job. There's a lot

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Speaker 1: of tim jobs available because it's the holiday season, you

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Speaker 1: know what I mean. And I'm glad. I'm glad you

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Speaker 1: like now I was trash, like, yeah, was just garbage.

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Speaker 1: But I like the content that you're saying. You're saying

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Speaker 1: you gotta knee Sound road and you work for your

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Speaker 1: the vet leads and roses, they're going to jail. That's right.

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Speaker 1: I think that's what you were saying. You wasn't you

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Speaker 1: wasn't co signing. People are stealing, right? You know? He

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Speaker 1: I've never seen no cars in my life, That's what

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Speaker 1: and that's why we gotta. You gotta contact the problem

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Speaker 1: authorities when you see people that have participated in these

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Speaker 1: pp peace games, No, you should. You should contract the

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Speaker 1: proper authorities. Man, you see something, say something day, Hello,

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Speaker 1: who's this? Hey? Good morning? Ain't what's up? Brother? Get

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Speaker 1: just say I called last year around the actually one

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Speaker 1: and I told you guys, I have forgotten my mother's birthday.

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Speaker 1: I just want to wash your happy birthday again yesterday.

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Speaker 1: I'm don't get this calm. I want to washyt happy birthday.

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Speaker 1: And I want to ask y'all something about the economy, man, Like,

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Speaker 1: what do you think about what you think is gonna

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Speaker 1: go on with the economy for the next year. I'm

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Speaker 1: I think grocery prices are gonna go even higher. I

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Speaker 1: gonna be tight. So if you got money, hold to

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Speaker 1: it right and nay about the economy. If they don't

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Speaker 1: figure out this, that's the only thing we're gonna really

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Speaker 1: be in trouble. I'm telling you. I'm telling you. And

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Speaker 1: we know another thing too, is like these people, these

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Speaker 1: people don't understand how Hey, the American trucks, the American

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Speaker 1: trunk and industry is like it seems like it's a fall.

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Speaker 1: It's all fall. And if it's gonna do yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: how we're gonna get good. It's gonna be hard getting

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Speaker 1: good in the services already, it already takes a long

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Speaker 1: time to you. Yeah, nobody's gonna be doing work for

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Speaker 1: free out here. But they're trying to box you guys

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Speaker 1: That electric eighteen wheel is that they won't actually need drivers.

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Speaker 1: So I mean, that's that's gonna be really tough on

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Speaker 1: your industry. Let me ask you something, you trust the

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Speaker 1: Trump Trump going down a road eighty thousand pounds with

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Speaker 1: no driving it. I don't, I don't, But but if

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Speaker 1: you know, I mean, there's no more people anymore now,

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Speaker 1: which all electric, So all those people lost their jobs.

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Speaker 1: If you look at what they're doing in the trains

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Speaker 1: their jobs. So it's gonna be real difficult out there. Robots.

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Speaker 1: Take vy. I got I got an idea for you,

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Speaker 1: you wasn't telling no jokes. It was it was, yeah,

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Speaker 1: it was. It was. It was like improv, you know.

422
00:20:20,320 --> 00:20:22,719
Speaker 1: It was like I was just out there just wilding

423
00:20:22,720 --> 00:20:24,600
Speaker 1: out like I was with the crowd and you know

424
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Speaker 1: all that. Sorry for customs look ahead. But to that point,

425
00:20:27,480 --> 00:20:29,480
Speaker 1: I knew exactly when you when Kevin said stopped being

426
00:20:29,520 --> 00:20:31,920
Speaker 1: a bitch, I knew exactly what he was saying to you,

427
00:20:31,920 --> 00:20:35,400
Speaker 1: because that's what all ogs do. But do you have

428
00:20:35,440 --> 00:20:38,399
Speaker 1: to hit the stage that might not be your thing. Yeah,

429
00:20:38,480 --> 00:20:41,960
Speaker 1: I mean, but he's saying stop being a bitch, as

430
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Speaker 1: in like, go out there and try it before you

431
00:20:44,840 --> 00:20:46,840
Speaker 1: act like you're too good to be doing or don't

432
00:20:46,880 --> 00:20:49,399
Speaker 1: be out here acting like you you know, don't be

433
00:20:49,440 --> 00:20:52,399
Speaker 1: acting like you too and you ain't even tried something

434
00:20:52,440 --> 00:20:54,760
Speaker 1: that you know it could be potentially huge for you.

435
00:20:54,760 --> 00:20:57,359
Speaker 1: So you're not necessarily saying I have to be a

436
00:20:57,359 --> 00:20:59,800
Speaker 1: stand up community. He's just saying, like, yo, try it.

437
00:21:00,040 --> 00:21:02,120
Speaker 1: What do you Because on the flip side, they stand

438
00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:05,800
Speaker 1: up comedians that can't do what you do. One they

439
00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:07,800
Speaker 1: can't do they're not good in sketch like you might

440
00:21:07,880 --> 00:21:10,680
Speaker 1: be a great sketch performer. Not saying that you can't

441
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Speaker 1: be both. I'm just saying you might be. That might

442
00:21:12,760 --> 00:21:15,480
Speaker 1: be your lane. Right. Only time will tell. Only time,

443
00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:20,439
Speaker 1: we'll see if I get booed off another state or

444
00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:23,679
Speaker 1: not even boot another clap like that, Yeah, clap like man,

445
00:21:23,680 --> 00:21:25,520
Speaker 1: I might wrap it up or Drews, can we appreciate

446
00:21:25,520 --> 00:21:28,560
Speaker 1: you for joining us? Brother? It was give me instagrams

447
00:21:29,160 --> 00:21:32,760
Speaker 1: so we can wrap this up. Jesus Christ, only one time?

448
00:21:34,240 --> 00:21:36,920
Speaker 1: Last time? Man, you you on your way like drink kids.

449
00:21:36,960 --> 00:21:41,040
Speaker 1: Absolutely positively gonna be a big star in this industry.

450
00:21:41,080 --> 00:21:43,639
Speaker 1: Everybody sees it, everybody knows it. All you gotta do

451
00:21:43,640 --> 00:21:45,600
Speaker 1: is keep your head on scraping skies the limit and

452
00:21:45,640 --> 00:21:47,400
Speaker 1: we might need you for a couple of days too. Yeah,

453
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Speaker 1: we're gonna have some celebrity hosts with us and some

454
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Speaker 1: guess and stuff like that, So we might need you

455
00:21:51,240 --> 00:21:54,080
Speaker 1: for a couple of days in tail, let's do it.

456
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Speaker 1: No for real? There were serious what what's the when

457
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Speaker 1: we're no? No, when we're moving, when we when we're

458
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Speaker 1: booking that we're moving to a new studio. Angelie has

459
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Speaker 1: her own show down, So we're not we're not rushing

460
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Speaker 1: to get a new co hold. So we're gonna rotate

461
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Speaker 1: guest holds for for a long long time. Yeah. Yeah,

462
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Speaker 1: so you know when you're in town, you got something

463
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Speaker 1: you want to promote, Just pull up the radio, all right,

464
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Speaker 1: but through give me Instagram. Yeah, tickets for the Cutter

465
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Speaker 1: with a shut tour. We'll be on for lifeisworld dot Com?

466
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Speaker 1: Y'all go get that? All right? Well it's Drew Ski.

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Speaker 1: oh five wanted to join it to the discussion with

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Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club, talk about it, Envy Charlemagne, the guy

478
00:23:12,240 --> 00:23:15,280
Speaker 1: we all the breakfast club. Now, if you're talking about

479
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Speaker 1: what we're not doing anymore in twenty twenty three, what

480
00:23:18,520 --> 00:23:20,720
Speaker 1: are we leaving in twenty twenty three, I mean twenty

481
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Speaker 1: twenty two. I'm gonna tell you something else, man. I

482
00:23:22,720 --> 00:23:25,280
Speaker 1: told you going into twenty twenty three. I really want

483
00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:27,040
Speaker 1: to see people grow up. And it's crazy to be

484
00:23:27,119 --> 00:23:29,880
Speaker 1: forty four years old and be telling other forty four

485
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Speaker 1: year olds that they need to grow up. But I

486
00:23:31,480 --> 00:23:33,000
Speaker 1: do really want to see men grow up. I want

487
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Speaker 1: us to be able to, you know, have conversations with

488
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Speaker 1: each other without the conflict. That's why I'm trying expressing

489
00:23:37,640 --> 00:23:39,440
Speaker 1: brothers to go to therapy to deal with that hurt,

490
00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:41,080
Speaker 1: that pain that they haven't signed them. But I'm gonna

491
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Speaker 1: tell you something else more. I've been hearing a lot

492
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Speaker 1: of forty somethings have conversations about like money and wealth

493
00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:50,679
Speaker 1: and things of that nature, and they're talking about it

494
00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:54,480
Speaker 1: from the perspective of what they're wearing. That sounds so crazy.

495
00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:56,520
Speaker 1: They're like, oh, such and such, you ain't getting no

496
00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:58,880
Speaker 1: money because you know, it doesn't have to be forty,

497
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Speaker 1: could be thirty or twenty or even basis in their

498
00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:04,240
Speaker 1: wealth off of jewelry, of cars, they having cash that

499
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Speaker 1: they could hold up today. Oh my god, Yeah, I

500
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Speaker 1: think we need to do well. Flew to my good

501
00:24:08,600 --> 00:24:11,160
Speaker 1: brother John Hope Brian Man. John Hope Brian says, if

502
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Speaker 1: the only asset you have is on your ass, you're

503
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Speaker 1: doing something wrong. Absolutely so please can we leave that

504
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Speaker 1: in twenty twenty two for all ages, but especially I

505
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Speaker 1: cannot believe it's for talking like that. That's crazy to me. Hello,

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Speaker 1: who's this? My name is Lisa. Hi, Lisa, Come on

507
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Speaker 1: and Lisa Mining. I'm calling because I'm leaving behind now

508
00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:42,160
Speaker 1: people and cheat and guys. Oh boy, we'll stop dating

509
00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:44,960
Speaker 1: everybody except for black men because black men don't cheat.

510
00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:48,000
Speaker 1: Blast men are the cheater? Could you stop? Why are

511
00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:51,560
Speaker 1: you like this? We should leave lying in twenty twenty two.

512
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Speaker 1: I tell such a tale. I'm sorry you got cheated

513
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Speaker 1: on mama. Yeah, and you're right, you should. We should

514
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Speaker 1: leave cheating as women and men in twenty twenty two,

515
00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:01,400
Speaker 1: and the ain't no black men cheating. No young young

516
00:25:01,480 --> 00:25:04,480
Speaker 1: black boys are cheating. But what black men are not cheating?

517
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Speaker 1: How what do you consider t J. Holmes huh okay

518
00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:14,080
Speaker 1: age to cheat? What do you mean I think that,

519
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Speaker 1: I think that we shouldn't. I don't know what you're

520
00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:18,600
Speaker 1: talking about. No, you just said how old? How old

521
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Speaker 1: are you? How old are you? Howld you? Mama? How

522
00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:23,600
Speaker 1: old are you? And how old was? How old was

523
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Speaker 1: the last white man that cheats on you? The white man?

524
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Speaker 1: How old? He's still a little boy, That's what I'm

525
00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:35,120
Speaker 1: telling you. He's still a young man. Like how old

526
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Speaker 1: was taken? Let me think. Let me see, I got

527
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Speaker 1: there around thirty six, thirty six. It took you to

528
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Speaker 1: be a grown man. It took me. I got there.

529
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Speaker 1: I got there around thirty six. But I'm not saying

530
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Speaker 1: that you should. I'm not saying you should wait that long.

531
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Speaker 1: Huh you married ever? I've been with my my wife

532
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Speaker 1: took him some time, my money four years. We've been

533
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Speaker 1: married since two thousand. For team, take up some time, Bud.

534
00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:05,080
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you the difference. Man. All jokes aside. Seriously,

535
00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:09,440
Speaker 1: it's all about being intentional about doing the work on themselves.

536
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:13,760
Speaker 1: If you're intentional about growth, if you're intentional about being

537
00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:16,640
Speaker 1: a good man, you will go do the work on yourself.

538
00:26:16,680 --> 00:26:19,240
Speaker 1: So you know, you don't have women calling up to

539
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Speaker 1: the radio station sad like how she sounds this morning?

540
00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:24,880
Speaker 1: She sounds very sad like this club, good morning, who

541
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Speaker 1: breakfast club? Already everybody's d n V. Charlemagne the guy.

542
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Speaker 1: We all the breakfast club. We got a special guest

543
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Speaker 1: in the building. And how to be loved ladies and gentlemen,

544
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Speaker 1: humble the public, flok you sorry, thank you so much

545
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:43,320
Speaker 1: for having me. What's up, my guy? What inspired this book? Man?

546
00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:45,320
Speaker 1: Trying to figure out where I kept going wrong and

547
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:47,720
Speaker 1: love so pretty much it's been like, how come I'm

548
00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 1: not feeling love? How come I'm not receiving love even

549
00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:53,840
Speaker 1: being in beautiful relationships? And then going down this journey

550
00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:56,280
Speaker 1: and trying to figure out what to do, and started

551
00:26:56,320 --> 00:26:59,800
Speaker 1: reading every love coach of the philosopher, all the religious

552
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Speaker 1: tes psychologist, everything and being at the front of the class,

553
00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:05,000
Speaker 1: taking as many notes as possible. And the first thing

554
00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:06,840
Speaker 1: I realized is like, I have so much love in

555
00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:09,879
Speaker 1: my life, I'm not receiving it that built up all

556
00:27:09,960 --> 00:27:12,520
Speaker 1: these walls. I thought all these walls were protecting me,

557
00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 1: but really they were just serving as a prison, keeping

558
00:27:15,080 --> 00:27:17,919
Speaker 1: me out. Because now it's because you don't love yourself.

559
00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:20,080
Speaker 1: I think I didn't know how to love myself. I

560
00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:23,600
Speaker 1: didn't understand even though it's extremely simple, not easy but simple.

561
00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:26,240
Speaker 1: I didn't understand how important it is if you don't

562
00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:28,679
Speaker 1: have love for yourself or you don't cultivate that relationship,

563
00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:31,119
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter what your relationship with anybody else is.

564
00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:33,560
Speaker 1: Did you find love? Did you actually find it all?

565
00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:36,119
Speaker 1: Is it still a mission? Still looking? So what I

566
00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:38,960
Speaker 1: realized is you can't find love. Love is always there

567
00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:42,040
Speaker 1: and it's about realizing love. So the analogy I like

568
00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:44,240
Speaker 1: uses like love is like a breeze and you have

569
00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:47,080
Speaker 1: to open your sales to love. It's not about looking

570
00:27:47,119 --> 00:27:48,600
Speaker 1: for the breeze, is about doing the work to open

571
00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:51,000
Speaker 1: the sales. Do you know the definition of love? Because

572
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 1: in my relationship, I didn't necessarily know the definition of

573
00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:57,520
Speaker 1: love to me, like, you know what people tell you

574
00:27:57,600 --> 00:27:59,800
Speaker 1: what love is, and I didn't know the actual death

575
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:02,080
Speaker 1: nition of what love is. Just so do you know

576
00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:04,359
Speaker 1: the definition or do you break that down. Yeah. So

577
00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:07,080
Speaker 1: there's a beautiful quote by Naval cont that says love

578
00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:09,760
Speaker 1: is what's left when all other emotions are gone. So

579
00:28:09,960 --> 00:28:12,399
Speaker 1: and I think what that is in got peace. So

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00:28:12,840 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 1: love isn't something that you have to find the choir

581
00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:17,600
Speaker 1: earn or when did you clean up the clutter, get

582
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:20,240
Speaker 1: rid of everything else? And then what's less is love?

583
00:28:20,359 --> 00:28:22,760
Speaker 1: Let me ask you a question one moment. So, if

584
00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:25,800
Speaker 1: you love somebody right and you know how people say

585
00:28:26,119 --> 00:28:28,240
Speaker 1: you know you might be. You might see a couple

586
00:28:28,320 --> 00:28:30,080
Speaker 1: and the man cheat to a woman or the woman

587
00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:32,720
Speaker 1: cheats on a man. Can they possibly love that person

588
00:28:32,800 --> 00:28:35,119
Speaker 1: if they would cheat on them or if they get

589
00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:37,840
Speaker 1: into an altercation or is it domestic violence? Could you

590
00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:40,719
Speaker 1: love that person and fight them? You know? I mean,

591
00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:43,440
Speaker 1: could you love that person and knowingly hurt them? It's

592
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:46,400
Speaker 1: that love. So the better way to frame it, and

593
00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:48,400
Speaker 1: this is a Peter Crone idea, is instead of saying

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Speaker 1: I love you, you say you show me where love is,

595
00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:52,560
Speaker 1: because again, the love is constant. What you're doing is

596
00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:54,600
Speaker 1: you develop a relationship with somebody and you create a

597
00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:57,760
Speaker 1: pathway of love. So then the problem is what we

598
00:28:57,840 --> 00:28:59,920
Speaker 1: do to mess up that pathways? We start focusing on

599
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:05,040
Speaker 1: things like control, power, attention, validation, all these things that

600
00:29:05,160 --> 00:29:07,160
Speaker 1: kind of feel like love, but they're not actually loved,

601
00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 1: because if they were actually loved, love is like I

602
00:29:10,320 --> 00:29:13,040
Speaker 1: don't need anything else, all these other things I need

603
00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:15,080
Speaker 1: more and more and more and more. It's not having everything,

604
00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:17,640
Speaker 1: it's not needing anything. So we're talking about stuff like this,

605
00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:21,120
Speaker 1: you're talking about unhealthy relationship dynamics and not have them

606
00:29:21,200 --> 00:29:23,040
Speaker 1: to do with love. And what that's actually doing is

607
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:25,880
Speaker 1: closing the pathways of love between you and somebody else

608
00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 1: like me and you. Over the years we've chatted, we

609
00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:31,320
Speaker 1: are creating a bond over time. Now if I do

610
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:34,480
Speaker 1: something disrespectful, I'm closing that bond. I'm closing that pathway.

611
00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:37,400
Speaker 1: So does that mean you don't necessarily love them the

612
00:29:37,440 --> 00:29:38,960
Speaker 1: way that you say you do? Right? Because if I

613
00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:42,240
Speaker 1: love something, or I'm in love with something or not

614
00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:44,600
Speaker 1: in love, but if I love something right, I'm gonna

615
00:29:44,600 --> 00:29:47,280
Speaker 1: do everything. Oh, I should do everything not to hurt

616
00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:49,280
Speaker 1: that person or not to show or not to close

617
00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:51,640
Speaker 1: that pathway, like you said, because if I close that pathway,

618
00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:53,840
Speaker 1: that means I'm not showing them love. That means I

619
00:29:54,040 --> 00:29:56,400
Speaker 1: actually don't love him. Like I say, I do. Yeah,

620
00:29:56,480 --> 00:29:58,880
Speaker 1: So part of loving yourself is going easy on yourself

621
00:29:58,920 --> 00:30:00,600
Speaker 1: because none of us are perfect, so we're all gonna

622
00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:03,120
Speaker 1: make mistakes. So it's looking at it from that perspective

623
00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 1: as well, not like what I should do when I

624
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:07,040
Speaker 1: love somebody's a lot of that's going to be cultured.

625
00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:09,400
Speaker 1: Depends on where you are in the world. The definition

626
00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:11,880
Speaker 1: of marriage is different, the definition of monogamy is different,

627
00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:14,600
Speaker 1: definition all these definitions are different. When you have love

628
00:30:14,680 --> 00:30:17,320
Speaker 1: for somebody, you are you are doing your best to

629
00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:20,160
Speaker 1: serve them. And what you realize is trying to serve

630
00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:22,520
Speaker 1: one person is completely different than trying to serve somebody else,

631
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:24,560
Speaker 1: And depending on where they're at, you know, and it's

632
00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:26,920
Speaker 1: not something I gotta win. I don't have to deserve it.

633
00:30:27,160 --> 00:30:28,880
Speaker 1: I don't have to be worthy of love. I don't

634
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:31,680
Speaker 1: have to be enough for love. Everybody we know in

635
00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:34,520
Speaker 1: our lives that we love, we know all their imperfections.

636
00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:36,800
Speaker 1: None of that just qualifies them from love. None of

637
00:30:36,880 --> 00:30:39,600
Speaker 1: that means they don't deserve to be loved. And then also,

638
00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:41,720
Speaker 1: you know, you guys are both parents. You would have

639
00:30:41,800 --> 00:30:44,040
Speaker 1: held your children and loved them immediately. You know, love

640
00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:46,920
Speaker 1: doesn't requires to do or be anything. You know, when

641
00:30:46,960 --> 00:30:50,280
Speaker 1: you say a person who said person can show me love?

642
00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:52,280
Speaker 1: What the quote? You show me where love is? You

643
00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:54,600
Speaker 1: show me what love is. I don't know if that

644
00:30:54,760 --> 00:30:57,720
Speaker 1: can be received if you don't, if you don't know

645
00:30:57,840 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 1: what love is like you know, I'm talking to humble

646
00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:01,520
Speaker 1: like I didn't have humble long bery needs to me

647
00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:03,720
Speaker 1: and humble talk. But like your first, last, and best

648
00:31:03,800 --> 00:31:05,680
Speaker 1: love should be self love. If you don't know what

649
00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:09,280
Speaker 1: love feels like, you won't even know what you're being showed.

650
00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:12,880
Speaker 1: And it's the same, the exact same recipe for me

651
00:31:12,960 --> 00:31:15,200
Speaker 1: and you to develop a stronger bond, it's got to

652
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:18,040
Speaker 1: be vulnerability for you and you to develop a stronger bond.

653
00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:20,560
Speaker 1: It's got to be vulnerability, you know, for you and

654
00:31:20,680 --> 00:31:22,720
Speaker 1: your wife to develop a stronger bonds, gotta be vulnerability.

655
00:31:22,880 --> 00:31:24,400
Speaker 1: You guys have to go out on dates. You guys

656
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:26,400
Speaker 1: have to be sharies things which you have to be.

657
00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:28,400
Speaker 1: You have to be willing to take a risk of

658
00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:31,520
Speaker 1: getting hurt. And the same thing with yourself. Journaline being

659
00:31:31,560 --> 00:31:35,719
Speaker 1: honest with yourself. Prayer, irrespective of what your religious beliefs are.

660
00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:38,560
Speaker 1: When people pray, that is the time they are the

661
00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:41,200
Speaker 1: most honest about what they want and the most honest

662
00:31:41,240 --> 00:31:43,720
Speaker 1: about what they're grateful for. So it's not performative. When

663
00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:46,280
Speaker 1: you do that, you become much more vulnerable with yourself

664
00:31:46,680 --> 00:31:48,880
Speaker 1: instead of looking at this on some surface level stuff

665
00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:52,280
Speaker 1: where people are literally just outsourcing the antidote to their

666
00:31:52,320 --> 00:31:56,160
Speaker 1: loneliness by having another person around. But the antidote to

667
00:31:56,200 --> 00:31:59,200
Speaker 1: loneliness isn't having people around you, it's being connected. Now,

668
00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:01,040
Speaker 1: what do you think we get to the point where,

669
00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:02,960
Speaker 1: like you know, one of your Instagram phase, we know

670
00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:05,720
Speaker 1: you would come in, you know, looked upon the book

671
00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:07,880
Speaker 1: and you posted a picture of yourself and no shirt on. Right,

672
00:32:08,400 --> 00:32:12,400
Speaker 1: where do we change where people would make fun of

673
00:32:12,600 --> 00:32:15,240
Speaker 1: or talk about people that weren't in shape? Right? Where

674
00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:17,880
Speaker 1: people talking about dad bods? And I just remember a

675
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 1: time growing up as a kid, everybody in the beach

676
00:32:20,600 --> 00:32:23,720
Speaker 1: was all sides, shapes, big, small, people in shape, people

677
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:25,120
Speaker 1: not in shape. But where do we get to that

678
00:32:25,200 --> 00:32:27,960
Speaker 1: place in society where it's like people only love a

679
00:32:28,080 --> 00:32:30,400
Speaker 1: certain type of body, where they feel like if anything

680
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:34,400
Speaker 1: is not that chiseled and eight pack or six pack. Now,

681
00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:36,760
Speaker 1: why you go to those job, bro? It's a personal bro,

682
00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:38,600
Speaker 1: What's the next man you're gonna get on the steroid.

683
00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:42,000
Speaker 1: It's a personal bro like you shard of when do

684
00:32:42,040 --> 00:32:43,880
Speaker 1: we get to that place as a society where it

685
00:32:43,920 --> 00:32:46,080
Speaker 1: almost feels like we don't love ourselves, that we want

686
00:32:46,120 --> 00:32:48,680
Speaker 1: to be somebody else and shut up? I think, you know,

687
00:32:48,880 --> 00:32:51,920
Speaker 1: damn those jobs. I think the first thing iss trying

688
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:54,480
Speaker 1: to figure out where these ideas come from. So, from

689
00:32:54,520 --> 00:32:58,480
Speaker 1: a science perspective, healthy body right from manage between eighteen

690
00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:01,600
Speaker 1: and twenty two percent, right for a woman it's even higher.

691
00:33:01,960 --> 00:33:04,160
Speaker 1: So the doctors out there saying a woman should never

692
00:33:04,200 --> 00:33:06,760
Speaker 1: have a six pack, and for men, you know that

693
00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:08,560
Speaker 1: should not be a long term man, shouldn't have a

694
00:33:08,560 --> 00:33:14,280
Speaker 1: six pack, should not actually like that purpose. But however,

695
00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:16,200
Speaker 1: you know, so for example, like I've you know, I've

696
00:33:16,240 --> 00:33:18,720
Speaker 1: been hired to model in situations before. They didn't hire

697
00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:20,240
Speaker 1: me in a model because I'm beautiful, It's because I

698
00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:22,960
Speaker 1: was sample sized. I'm the size and the shoulder length,

699
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:25,240
Speaker 1: you know, and depending on what I eat, the belly

700
00:33:25,280 --> 00:33:27,480
Speaker 1: goes down. But at the same time as the question

701
00:33:27,640 --> 00:33:29,840
Speaker 1: is who defines all of this, where do we get

702
00:33:29,880 --> 00:33:32,720
Speaker 1: these ideas from? Well, these ideas come from businesses that

703
00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:35,840
Speaker 1: want to sell your stuff for money. So it's realizing that, look,

704
00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:38,280
Speaker 1: we're being taught there. You watch a Disney movie that's

705
00:33:38,280 --> 00:33:40,680
Speaker 1: teaching you about love. You watch porn that's teaching you

706
00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:42,520
Speaker 1: about love. You watch a wrong calm that's teaching you

707
00:33:42,560 --> 00:33:44,800
Speaker 1: about love, You watch a reality here. All these things

708
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:46,560
Speaker 1: are suddenly teaching us about love. And we have to

709
00:33:46,600 --> 00:33:48,760
Speaker 1: realize these ideas aren't artists. And I think that's the

710
00:33:48,840 --> 00:33:50,760
Speaker 1: big thing. A lot of times we think we own

711
00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:52,640
Speaker 1: our thoughts, but they're just put into us and then

712
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:55,440
Speaker 1: they start sounding like us, our parents, we grew up,

713
00:33:55,800 --> 00:33:58,760
Speaker 1: our parents, who ever raised us. That's the first model

714
00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:01,960
Speaker 1: of love we have out of how functional, dysfunctional, and

715
00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:04,760
Speaker 1: then that becomes comfort. So this type of love we

716
00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:07,560
Speaker 1: saw growing up becomes our comfort food. And if it's dysfunctional,

717
00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:09,480
Speaker 1: then we lean into that. And what I'm because people

718
00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:10,960
Speaker 1: would be like, you wrote a book, you won't married

719
00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:12,200
Speaker 1: you and this you went that. I'm like, that's not

720
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:14,560
Speaker 1: what this book is about. This book is not about

721
00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:18,399
Speaker 1: finding a partner. This book is about not worrying either way,

722
00:34:18,800 --> 00:34:21,319
Speaker 1: being happy with how your life is. And this book

723
00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:24,720
Speaker 1: is about loving yourself as you are. So the purpose

724
00:34:24,760 --> 00:34:26,520
Speaker 1: of that was because an activity you're having the book

725
00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:28,880
Speaker 1: is look at yourself in the mirror and not be

726
00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:31,440
Speaker 1: judgmental and be grateful. So I'm like, all right, I'm

727
00:34:31,480 --> 00:34:33,759
Speaker 1: gonna do that. That video has two million views. Too

728
00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:35,320
Speaker 1: many people see me in my underwear, and it's like

729
00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:37,239
Speaker 1: that scared the crap allowed me to do it. What

730
00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:41,040
Speaker 1: the print looked like? Though? Nothing? You know, you gotta

731
00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:43,640
Speaker 1: put the factor in everything. You know what I'm saying.

732
00:34:44,800 --> 00:34:48,000
Speaker 1: But you because you should look. You should look and say, okay,

733
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:49,279
Speaker 1: what does your print look like? Because if you got

734
00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:51,080
Speaker 1: a big print, people you're looking like, damn, you don't

735
00:34:51,080 --> 00:34:52,400
Speaker 1: look like he packing all that too. If you look

736
00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:54,279
Speaker 1: like you're packing too, man, people to watch it, how

737
00:34:54,320 --> 00:34:56,880
Speaker 1: do we get here? So question? Do you believe in

738
00:34:56,960 --> 00:35:00,320
Speaker 1: love languages? You know this, It's been the big versation

739
00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:02,160
Speaker 1: in the last year, people talking about the love language.

740
00:35:02,160 --> 00:35:04,759
Speaker 1: What your love language? I think there's only one love

741
00:35:04,840 --> 00:35:07,640
Speaker 1: language that's to be seen and understood. And then you know,

742
00:35:07,840 --> 00:35:09,440
Speaker 1: they just took that and made it more detail to

743
00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:12,719
Speaker 1: be seen and understood. The physical touch through gifts through

744
00:35:13,000 --> 00:35:14,719
Speaker 1: I don't even know what the other ones are feel like,

745
00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:17,600
Speaker 1: they just made it specific. I look at it like horoscopes.

746
00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:19,040
Speaker 1: Everyone just wants to be a part of a certain

747
00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:21,200
Speaker 1: team and they want to be like unique to that.

748
00:35:21,640 --> 00:35:23,640
Speaker 1: But as I said love to me, we should focus

749
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:26,279
Speaker 1: on love as the verb, like love is service. Start

750
00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:28,800
Speaker 1: focusing on what you require as much as giving it

751
00:35:28,880 --> 00:35:30,680
Speaker 1: out if you want to realize That's what I'm saying

752
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:32,640
Speaker 1: that instead of finding love, it's more like realizing love.

753
00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:34,719
Speaker 1: You want to realize love. The easiest way to do

754
00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:37,719
Speaker 1: that is by loving people and love them because it's

755
00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:39,560
Speaker 1: a gift that you have, not because it's a loan

756
00:35:39,680 --> 00:35:41,600
Speaker 1: that you want paid back. We got more of one

757
00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:44,120
Speaker 1: of my favorite young minds on the planet, Humble the Poet,

758
00:35:44,360 --> 00:35:48,400
Speaker 1: on the Breakfast Club wanting everybody is DJ Envy. John Amaine,

759
00:35:48,440 --> 00:35:50,439
Speaker 1: the guy we are to Breakfast Club was still kicking

760
00:35:50,480 --> 00:35:52,600
Speaker 1: it with Humble the Poet. Now, they said that you

761
00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:54,880
Speaker 1: haven't spoke to your mother in a while because of

762
00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:58,239
Speaker 1: a comment she made about XPRS. Is that true? Well,

763
00:35:58,480 --> 00:36:01,320
Speaker 1: when I wrote it, so what happens happened? Because you

764
00:36:01,400 --> 00:36:03,719
Speaker 1: love your mom, but you can't speak to your mom. Yeah,

765
00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:05,920
Speaker 1: so it's it's it's again, it's understanding. So I was

766
00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:08,800
Speaker 1: in an extremely serious relationship and then it ended. It

767
00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:11,640
Speaker 1: ended over the pandemic and my mom, you know, it

768
00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 1: was crazy over her. So what would happen is, uh,

769
00:36:14,560 --> 00:36:17,040
Speaker 1: I moved. I moved to la after the pandemic, so

770
00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:19,120
Speaker 1: I'd call I call him with my mom every day,

771
00:36:19,120 --> 00:36:20,800
Speaker 1: and every day she would just from my shield. You know,

772
00:36:20,840 --> 00:36:22,560
Speaker 1: it would have been a year now that you guys

773
00:36:22,600 --> 00:36:24,719
Speaker 1: would have been together. It would have been this. And

774
00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:26,600
Speaker 1: I was like, look, Mom, like you're you're making me

775
00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:29,279
Speaker 1: feel bad. I understand how you feel. You're doing this.

776
00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:32,120
Speaker 1: So the way, the way, that was the last chapter

777
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:33,919
Speaker 1: of the book. So what it was. I finished this book,

778
00:36:33,960 --> 00:36:36,920
Speaker 1: let's say January twenty twenty two. Finished, you know, I

779
00:36:36,960 --> 00:36:38,719
Speaker 1: gotta go through it like a nine month process editing

780
00:36:39,239 --> 00:36:41,680
Speaker 1: the day before the book was due for print, which

781
00:36:41,719 --> 00:36:43,759
Speaker 1: was this September, I was like, okay, it's been nine months.

782
00:36:43,760 --> 00:36:46,120
Speaker 1: I gotta write something. So I wrote that last chapter.

783
00:36:46,280 --> 00:36:49,520
Speaker 1: So in that last chapter, in that September, I had

784
00:36:49,560 --> 00:36:52,680
Speaker 1: spent like a month avoiding talking to my mom. Had

785
00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:56,080
Speaker 1: a job men that I mean immigrant families. Man's pretending

786
00:36:56,080 --> 00:36:59,319
Speaker 1: didn't exist. It cut you off. Well, it's not even

787
00:36:59,360 --> 00:37:01,080
Speaker 1: a cut. You just like, look Mom, like you're not

788
00:37:01,560 --> 00:37:04,920
Speaker 1: I understand you're upset over this breakup and and it sucks,

789
00:37:05,120 --> 00:37:07,120
Speaker 1: and it breaks my heart that it's breaking your heart.

790
00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:08,759
Speaker 1: But I can't do nothing. And this has been a

791
00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:11,920
Speaker 1: constant theme of my I think a lot of immigrant

792
00:37:11,960 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 1: kids in general, a lot of kids in general. It's like,

793
00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:17,080
Speaker 1: your dreams can include other people's names. Your dreams and

794
00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:19,200
Speaker 1: your goals have to be your dreams and goals. Your

795
00:37:19,320 --> 00:37:21,239
Speaker 1: dreams can't be for my son to get married and

796
00:37:21,280 --> 00:37:23,320
Speaker 1: for me to have grandkids. That can't be your dream.

797
00:37:23,560 --> 00:37:25,799
Speaker 1: You're just putting pressure on somebody else to be something

798
00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:28,200
Speaker 1: that they're not where they are right now. We can't

799
00:37:28,239 --> 00:37:31,279
Speaker 1: fall in love with other people's potential. You can only

800
00:37:31,320 --> 00:37:33,920
Speaker 1: fall in love with your potential. So that's what the

801
00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:36,200
Speaker 1: challenge was. So there was just a time where it

802
00:37:36,360 --> 00:37:38,000
Speaker 1: just got so much where it's like, you know, I

803
00:37:38,080 --> 00:37:40,600
Speaker 1: could feel tension every time I saw her call, because

804
00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:43,040
Speaker 1: the questions are always the same, are you eating, what

805
00:37:43,160 --> 00:37:45,480
Speaker 1: did you learn how to cook? How's your puppy? And

806
00:37:45,640 --> 00:37:48,640
Speaker 1: then you know what, you would have been better had

807
00:37:48,680 --> 00:37:50,279
Speaker 1: you just stayed here, had you went and just got

808
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:54,280
Speaker 1: it searching for love? Boy, it was through this journey,

809
00:37:54,360 --> 00:37:57,160
Speaker 1: as I said, like I was in a great relationship

810
00:37:57,200 --> 00:37:59,160
Speaker 1: with a great person, but I wasn't able to receive,

811
00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:01,560
Speaker 1: you know, because I did not have a healthy relationship

812
00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:03,520
Speaker 1: with myself. I had this, as I said, I had

813
00:38:03,520 --> 00:38:05,480
Speaker 1: all these walls up. I had this idea that I

814
00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:07,600
Speaker 1: need to be independent. I had all this idea that

815
00:38:08,080 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 1: you know, I'm on the grind. I had to do

816
00:38:09,760 --> 00:38:12,520
Speaker 1: all these different things now and then and then also

817
00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:16,400
Speaker 1: realizing ideas like codependency. So what ends up happening is

818
00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:19,520
Speaker 1: when you when you break up with somebody, what you're

819
00:38:19,600 --> 00:38:22,280
Speaker 1: really breaking up? What's the version of you in that relationship.

820
00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:24,920
Speaker 1: You're not breaking up with the person, you're breaking up

821
00:38:24,920 --> 00:38:27,680
Speaker 1: with who you are in that relationship, realizing that what's

822
00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:30,319
Speaker 1: required for you to keep that relationship up. There there

823
00:38:30,360 --> 00:38:33,360
Speaker 1: was a tension there because it's like, you know, family expectations,

824
00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:36,279
Speaker 1: all these different things. And that wasn't me living my

825
00:38:36,400 --> 00:38:39,480
Speaker 1: authentic life. And it wasn't for any other reason than

826
00:38:39,600 --> 00:38:42,560
Speaker 1: me not doing the work internally to be authentic about

827
00:38:42,600 --> 00:38:44,360
Speaker 1: that and be honest with me, like, wait a minute,

828
00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:46,919
Speaker 1: what is this? And a lot of that's trial and error,

829
00:38:47,200 --> 00:38:48,800
Speaker 1: you know. And I'm in therapy now, and one of

830
00:38:48,840 --> 00:38:51,520
Speaker 1: the big things my therapist says, is your goal is

831
00:38:51,560 --> 00:38:54,279
Speaker 1: to quickly realize somebody isn't good for you. That's your goal.

832
00:38:54,320 --> 00:38:57,239
Speaker 1: How quickly can you realize there's an incompatibility? And you know,

833
00:38:57,480 --> 00:38:59,879
Speaker 1: though you know, some days are more successful than than others.

834
00:39:00,200 --> 00:39:02,239
Speaker 1: And that goes back to another idea, which is love.

835
00:39:02,719 --> 00:39:05,319
Speaker 1: A big idea that people I think have misunderstood about love.

836
00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:07,440
Speaker 1: If they think it's glue. I love my partner enough

837
00:39:07,480 --> 00:39:09,880
Speaker 1: that's enough to keep us together. Love is not glue.

838
00:39:10,440 --> 00:39:14,720
Speaker 1: Love is fuel relationships. All relationships, romantic friendships, business, everything

839
00:39:14,800 --> 00:39:18,040
Speaker 1: require work. The love that you have is the fuel

840
00:39:18,120 --> 00:39:20,279
Speaker 1: to make you work at it. Your chance just be like,

841
00:39:20,360 --> 00:39:22,160
Speaker 1: I love you, so that's enough to keep us together.

842
00:39:22,719 --> 00:39:25,560
Speaker 1: The work that the unsexy work, the day to day

843
00:39:25,640 --> 00:39:27,879
Speaker 1: unsexy work, is was going to keep a relationship together. Man,

844
00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:30,719
Speaker 1: everything you're saying is so true. And you know when

845
00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 1: you talk about sometimes we say, oh we've we've outgrown somebody, right,

846
00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:37,680
Speaker 1: And I'm not even talking about like inter relationships. I'm

847
00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:39,680
Speaker 1: talking about with friends. It's not even that you just

848
00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:42,680
Speaker 1: outgrew that person. You actually did break up with that person.

849
00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:44,200
Speaker 1: And the reason you broke up with them is because

850
00:39:44,239 --> 00:39:47,719
Speaker 1: you broke up you broke off the unhealthy versions of

851
00:39:47,800 --> 00:39:51,000
Speaker 1: yourself and y'all might have been trauma bonding. So sometimes

852
00:39:51,040 --> 00:39:52,840
Speaker 1: when we say we are grown people, because oh, that

853
00:39:52,880 --> 00:39:54,359
Speaker 1: person is still on the same thing that we used

854
00:39:54,400 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 1: to be on. That person hasn't dealt with their trauma

855
00:39:56,680 --> 00:39:59,799
Speaker 1: yet I've dealt with mine. We had a trauma bond.

856
00:40:00,120 --> 00:40:02,000
Speaker 1: Now that I broke those parts in me off, me

857
00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:05,440
Speaker 1: and that person ended up breaking up. Yeah, yeah, completely.

858
00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:07,560
Speaker 1: And that's a really good way of putting it where

859
00:40:07,560 --> 00:40:09,719
Speaker 1: it's realizing that, look, it's not about the other person,

860
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 1: it's about you. So instead of having expectations of other people,

861
00:40:13,320 --> 00:40:16,400
Speaker 1: just have standards for yourself and blade these are my standards.

862
00:40:16,880 --> 00:40:18,800
Speaker 1: The people who live up live up to it, I

863
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:21,120
Speaker 1: will invest in them, and the people that don't, you know,

864
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:23,160
Speaker 1: best of luck to you. I can still love you

865
00:40:23,239 --> 00:40:25,520
Speaker 1: from afar. And I think the important thing with that

866
00:40:25,760 --> 00:40:29,280
Speaker 1: is you're allowed to change and evolve your standards because

867
00:40:29,320 --> 00:40:31,400
Speaker 1: we don't know what we don't know, you know, so

868
00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:33,400
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, you know when you you know,

869
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:36,360
Speaker 1: I know you're big on investing, But the idea behind

870
00:40:36,480 --> 00:40:40,200
Speaker 1: that really is thinking long term. You're deferring gratification, You're

871
00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:42,920
Speaker 1: buying the thing that will let you buy the thing. Right.

872
00:40:43,680 --> 00:40:46,640
Speaker 1: That's a mindset, you know. That's that's the marshmallow test

873
00:40:46,680 --> 00:40:48,799
Speaker 1: that they give kids. You know, wait five minutes, here's

874
00:40:48,800 --> 00:40:51,320
Speaker 1: a marshmallow. If you don't eat it in five minutes,

875
00:40:51,480 --> 00:40:53,319
Speaker 1: then we'll give you too much meadows. It's teaching them

876
00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:56,600
Speaker 1: to defer gratification. Now, you got to be around people

877
00:40:56,600 --> 00:40:59,480
Speaker 1: who share that mindset, even if they're not investing, you know,

878
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:01,960
Speaker 1: And so now that could be your standard of who

879
00:41:02,000 --> 00:41:04,200
Speaker 1: you're going to devote your time. And because your time

880
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:05,880
Speaker 1: is one of the most valuable things you have. So

881
00:41:06,239 --> 00:41:09,200
Speaker 1: we have to continually instead of having expectations of anybody,

882
00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:12,080
Speaker 1: just to find our standards. But like these are my standards,

883
00:41:12,480 --> 00:41:14,440
Speaker 1: you live up to the standards, you know. I can

884
00:41:14,520 --> 00:41:17,480
Speaker 1: invest in you if you don't, no disrespect. I accept

885
00:41:17,560 --> 00:41:19,920
Speaker 1: you as you are, but I can't invest time, energy,

886
00:41:20,000 --> 00:41:24,080
Speaker 1: attention and work to create a pathway of love with you. Absolutely.

887
00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 1: You know what else too, Man, I like it that

888
00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:28,720
Speaker 1: you keep talking about vulnerability because I think that sometimes

889
00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:32,080
Speaker 1: in relationships, I don't even know what we think. Vulnerability

890
00:41:32,200 --> 00:41:34,680
Speaker 1: is what I'd be thinking sometimes, Vulnerability, man, is letting

891
00:41:34,719 --> 00:41:37,680
Speaker 1: people see that dark side, like like letting people see

892
00:41:37,719 --> 00:41:39,719
Speaker 1: that that shadow side, you know what I mean, that

893
00:41:39,840 --> 00:41:42,919
Speaker 1: side that we try to keep to ourselves. I'm not talking,

894
00:41:42,960 --> 00:41:45,520
Speaker 1: I'm just talking about like like sometimes you might be

895
00:41:45,640 --> 00:41:48,480
Speaker 1: thinking some real epped up stuff. You know, can you

896
00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:50,880
Speaker 1: tell your significant other that? Or can you tell somebody

897
00:41:50,960 --> 00:41:53,040
Speaker 1: you love that or somebody that loves you and they

898
00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:55,840
Speaker 1: still love you. Yeah, So that's really good because I

899
00:41:55,880 --> 00:41:57,440
Speaker 1: think the other thing is we always think about zero

900
00:41:57,440 --> 00:41:59,920
Speaker 1: to one hundred. It's like either you're not vulnerable with somebody,

901
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:02,719
Speaker 1: you're completely vulnerable, and there's a lot in between. So

902
00:42:03,360 --> 00:42:06,000
Speaker 1: what I learned in therapy is had two vulnerable stories

903
00:42:06,000 --> 00:42:08,279
Speaker 1: in your pocket that you could tell a stranger that

904
00:42:08,320 --> 00:42:10,840
Speaker 1: won't scare them away, and that's the way to establish

905
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:13,320
Speaker 1: a bond. So one of mine, for example, is speaking

906
00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:16,200
Speaker 1: about dogs. I had a dog growing up. He lived

907
00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:18,880
Speaker 1: out his life for eleven years. Broke my heart to

908
00:42:18,920 --> 00:42:21,000
Speaker 1: put him to sleep. He was eleven years old. His

909
00:42:21,120 --> 00:42:23,200
Speaker 1: hips went, broke my heart to put him to sleep,

910
00:42:23,520 --> 00:42:29,080
Speaker 1: avoided getting another dog, became everybody's backseat dog owner, telling

911
00:42:29,160 --> 00:42:32,319
Speaker 1: them how to raise their dogs, and then eventually somebody said, hey,

912
00:42:32,360 --> 00:42:34,520
Speaker 1: there's this puppy available. Do you want it, and I'm like, no, no, no,

913
00:42:34,640 --> 00:42:36,320
Speaker 1: I'm over dogs. They got to move to America and

914
00:42:36,400 --> 00:42:38,640
Speaker 1: do with all this. Eventually Snap got the dog and

915
00:42:38,800 --> 00:42:41,640
Speaker 1: it may be super happy. This vulnerability in the story

916
00:42:41,920 --> 00:42:45,000
Speaker 1: not enough vulnerability is scare stranger away. And what happens

917
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:47,960
Speaker 1: is when you're vulnerable with somebody. The reason we fear

918
00:42:48,040 --> 00:42:50,120
Speaker 1: being vulnerable is we fear judgment, we fear a shame.

919
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 1: But what I've realized is when I'm vulnerable with people,

920
00:42:53,280 --> 00:42:56,200
Speaker 1: it invites them to be vulnerable with me. That may

921
00:42:56,320 --> 00:42:58,319
Speaker 1: allow someone to tell me a story about a loss

922
00:42:58,360 --> 00:43:00,520
Speaker 1: that they had. The other one is losing my grandmother,

923
00:43:00,800 --> 00:43:03,440
Speaker 1: talking about you know, being a little kid and sleeping

924
00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:05,800
Speaker 1: in the bed with her, and and and and tracing

925
00:43:05,880 --> 00:43:08,800
Speaker 1: all the veins or the wrinkles in her hands, and

926
00:43:09,040 --> 00:43:11,400
Speaker 1: you know, just hearing your stories, not understanding what she

927
00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:13,279
Speaker 1: said because she didn't have any teeth, and just this

928
00:43:13,400 --> 00:43:15,920
Speaker 1: beautiful story and how much I miss her. Again, that

929
00:43:16,080 --> 00:43:18,319
Speaker 1: allows someone to connect with you on a deeper level.

930
00:43:18,560 --> 00:43:20,440
Speaker 1: You got to tell them all the shadow stuff where

931
00:43:20,440 --> 00:43:22,719
Speaker 1: you can work your way up, you know, And I

932
00:43:22,760 --> 00:43:24,920
Speaker 1: think that's a really important thing. Vulnerable and again, be

933
00:43:25,000 --> 00:43:28,160
Speaker 1: vulnerable with yourself being like, well, why did that thing

934
00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:30,000
Speaker 1: that you know, Charlotte, many say to me, why did

935
00:43:30,040 --> 00:43:32,200
Speaker 1: that bother me? And write it out, you know, and

936
00:43:32,320 --> 00:43:34,920
Speaker 1: and the easiest way to journal. Here's a step by

937
00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:37,919
Speaker 1: step with the journal. Step one, just write about the event.

938
00:43:38,200 --> 00:43:41,960
Speaker 1: Step two, write about your feelings about how that situation

939
00:43:42,080 --> 00:43:43,879
Speaker 1: made you feel. Just write them all out, however made

940
00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:46,760
Speaker 1: you feel, made you feel upset, jealous, angry, happy, excited, whatever.

941
00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:49,080
Speaker 1: You realize the majority of emotions we have are on

942
00:43:49,120 --> 00:43:51,160
Speaker 1: the negative side, because that's how we learn to survive.

943
00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:54,359
Speaker 1: Step three, look at those feelings that you wrote out

944
00:43:54,400 --> 00:43:56,560
Speaker 1: and write your thoughts about it and be like, okay,

945
00:43:56,840 --> 00:43:59,880
Speaker 1: I understand. Okay, the reason I felt insecure about that

946
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:02,399
Speaker 1: because the way he said it sounded like that kid

947
00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:04,360
Speaker 1: in the seventh grade, but the way you know. And

948
00:44:04,400 --> 00:44:06,000
Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, you start building this thing

949
00:44:06,080 --> 00:44:08,480
Speaker 1: called self awareness. You're picking up on your patterns, and

950
00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:10,719
Speaker 1: now you realize you don't own your emotion. I am

951
00:44:10,840 --> 00:44:13,960
Speaker 1: not happy, I'm feeling happiness. I'm not anxious, I'm feeling anxious.

952
00:44:14,320 --> 00:44:17,520
Speaker 1: You separate yourself from it because every single emotion everybody

953
00:44:17,600 --> 00:44:22,000
Speaker 1: has ever felt was impermanent. They all go away good

954
00:44:22,040 --> 00:44:24,600
Speaker 1: ones and a bad one. So this journaling will allow

955
00:44:24,640 --> 00:44:26,880
Speaker 1: you to be vulnerable with yourself and be honest with yourself,

956
00:44:26,920 --> 00:44:29,160
Speaker 1: and you'll build a deeper connection with yourself, and then

957
00:44:29,160 --> 00:44:32,000
Speaker 1: you'll be able to better articulate to other people. You

958
00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:35,120
Speaker 1: know how they can be around you and you're just

959
00:44:35,160 --> 00:44:37,759
Speaker 1: setting boundaries, and your boundaries are about you, not about them.

960
00:44:38,160 --> 00:44:40,120
Speaker 1: We got more with Humble a Poet when we come back,

961
00:44:40,200 --> 00:44:42,160
Speaker 1: don't move. It's the Breakfast Club the morning, don't want

962
00:44:42,160 --> 00:44:46,160
Speaker 1: to get everybody is DJ guy. We are to Breakfast Club.

963
00:44:46,239 --> 00:44:48,000
Speaker 1: Was still kicking it with Humble a Poet. You know,

964
00:44:48,080 --> 00:44:49,879
Speaker 1: the last chapter in the book is called the last

965
00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 1: book I'll ever right now, you've written four super successful books.

966
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:56,840
Speaker 1: You don't really mean that, right. So the way I

967
00:44:56,960 --> 00:44:59,520
Speaker 1: try to write so again, First I think to myself,

968
00:44:59,600 --> 00:45:02,040
Speaker 1: like what more important than love? What else? Is it? All? Right?

969
00:45:02,760 --> 00:45:05,040
Speaker 1: And as I said, I wrote that last chapter the

970
00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:07,000
Speaker 1: day the book was to hit print, so they didn't

971
00:45:07,000 --> 00:45:09,400
Speaker 1: even get edited. And you know that that didn't go

972
00:45:09,440 --> 00:45:11,799
Speaker 1: to the editing process, and it was like what else

973
00:45:11,920 --> 00:45:13,200
Speaker 1: is left for me to say? And I was looking

974
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:16,000
Speaker 1: at it, squeezing out, you know, my sponge to hit

975
00:45:16,080 --> 00:45:18,480
Speaker 1: it and I try to write books with that idea,

976
00:45:18,640 --> 00:45:20,920
Speaker 1: so you know, going into that and then also with

977
00:45:21,000 --> 00:45:23,600
Speaker 1: just other opportunities coming my way. It's something that I've

978
00:45:23,600 --> 00:45:26,880
Speaker 1: been exploring. I think recently helping out a couple of

979
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:28,879
Speaker 1: friends in the world of anxiety has made me thinking

980
00:45:28,880 --> 00:45:31,080
Speaker 1: about anxiety a lot. And the idea of moving in

981
00:45:31,080 --> 00:45:33,080
Speaker 1: New York. I was like, oh, there's a beautiful book there.

982
00:45:33,200 --> 00:45:35,920
Speaker 1: Moved to New York and write about anxiety like that fits.

983
00:45:36,320 --> 00:45:38,319
Speaker 1: So there's a lot of ideas there and then maybe

984
00:45:38,360 --> 00:45:40,120
Speaker 1: in the form of an audiobook or something like that,

985
00:45:40,320 --> 00:45:42,680
Speaker 1: just watching how the industry changes and stuff. But I

986
00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:44,680
Speaker 1: wrote this book with the idea this is gonna be

987
00:45:44,680 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 1: a last book, and I also talked about it being

988
00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:49,320
Speaker 1: the most expensive book because it's just you know, writing

989
00:45:49,400 --> 00:45:51,760
Speaker 1: this book, man, I had to let go of layers

990
00:45:51,840 --> 00:45:54,560
Speaker 1: of myself and it's cool to be vulnerable, but it

991
00:45:54,680 --> 00:45:59,040
Speaker 1: also it does make you vulnerable, you know. And I'm

992
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:00,960
Speaker 1: way more emotional than I used to be because I

993
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:03,360
Speaker 1: I shed a lot of walls and then that was

994
00:46:03,440 --> 00:46:05,839
Speaker 1: cool for writing and creating art, but that ain't cool

995
00:46:05,840 --> 00:46:07,760
Speaker 1: when you're out reaching out to people, trying to do stuff,

996
00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:10,040
Speaker 1: trying to get you know, get on people's shows, do

997
00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:12,800
Speaker 1: whatever hearing knows all of that that made me super

998
00:46:13,080 --> 00:46:15,000
Speaker 1: mindful of it. I'm getting to do it. And as

999
00:46:15,040 --> 00:46:17,279
Speaker 1: I said, I'm thinking a lot about anxiety and I'll

1000
00:46:17,320 --> 00:46:18,960
Speaker 1: do some research for the next couple of months on that,

1001
00:46:19,320 --> 00:46:20,719
Speaker 1: and this is something good that I want to write

1002
00:46:20,719 --> 00:46:22,959
Speaker 1: about it. I'm heavily inspired by Kendrick, and I feel

1003
00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:27,319
Speaker 1: like he speaks when there's something we're saying. I mean,

1004
00:46:27,320 --> 00:46:29,200
Speaker 1: there's a lot of great books on anxiety. There's one

1005
00:46:29,520 --> 00:46:34,880
Speaker 1: called Shook One Anxiety one. Guys, guy, it looks like

1006
00:46:34,920 --> 00:46:39,719
Speaker 1: Marris Chestnut. What is a good one? Chesnut? That guy

1007
00:46:39,760 --> 00:46:41,680
Speaker 1: does not look nothing like Marris Chestnu. What you said

1008
00:46:41,680 --> 00:46:45,399
Speaker 1: about Kendrick is interesting too, because Kendrick explored a lot

1009
00:46:45,719 --> 00:46:50,279
Speaker 1: of conversations about love that men don't have. And I

1010
00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:53,280
Speaker 1: think one of those relationships is definitely the relationship between

1011
00:46:53,320 --> 00:46:56,560
Speaker 1: a father and a son, because that is the first

1012
00:46:56,719 --> 00:47:00,120
Speaker 1: man that you love and the first man that as

1013
00:47:00,160 --> 00:47:03,160
Speaker 1: supposed to love you. But if you grew up in

1014
00:47:03,160 --> 00:47:05,840
Speaker 1: a certain era, like bebe forty four years old, my

1015
00:47:05,960 --> 00:47:07,880
Speaker 1: dad grew up in the time in the nineteen hundreds

1016
00:47:08,239 --> 00:47:11,640
Speaker 1: when they definitely didn't know how to love theirselves. They

1017
00:47:11,840 --> 00:47:14,040
Speaker 1: definitely didn't have the tools in any way, shape or

1018
00:47:14,080 --> 00:47:16,279
Speaker 1: form today and still that in us. And then we're

1019
00:47:16,360 --> 00:47:18,680
Speaker 1: kind of like the first generation that has the luxury

1020
00:47:18,760 --> 00:47:22,520
Speaker 1: of healing. And so now we're looking at them like, oh, goddamn,

1021
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:24,800
Speaker 1: why do you still like it? Mean so, but you

1022
00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:27,160
Speaker 1: still I don't know if you want to call it toxic.

1023
00:47:27,239 --> 00:47:29,719
Speaker 1: It's toxic into word, but it's it's like a dysfunctional

1024
00:47:30,480 --> 00:47:33,000
Speaker 1: thing because I love you, yeah, but you kind of

1025
00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 1: asked me up. And then that goes back to this

1026
00:47:34,640 --> 00:47:36,359
Speaker 1: idea of going easy on yourself. When you go easy

1027
00:47:36,360 --> 00:47:37,879
Speaker 1: on yourself and go easy on other people, and it's

1028
00:47:37,880 --> 00:47:40,160
Speaker 1: like you knew what you knew, Like they came from

1029
00:47:40,200 --> 00:47:43,160
Speaker 1: a world like that, you know, and it's you know,

1030
00:47:44,239 --> 00:47:47,480
Speaker 1: maybe in forty years, you know, when your children are adults,

1031
00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:50,120
Speaker 1: they're gonna be dramatically more evolved as an individual than

1032
00:47:50,160 --> 00:47:52,480
Speaker 1: you are. They're gonna look at you that's prehistoric with

1033
00:47:52,600 --> 00:47:54,520
Speaker 1: your mindsets and whatever, and we don't even know what

1034
00:47:54,719 --> 00:47:57,520
Speaker 1: those things are. You know, Like back then, people who

1035
00:47:57,640 --> 00:47:59,080
Speaker 1: have lead pain, you know, I think it was in

1036
00:47:59,120 --> 00:48:01,560
Speaker 1: the seventies. People before the seventies, people were driving without

1037
00:48:01,560 --> 00:48:03,640
Speaker 1: seat belts, there are things that we think are common sense,

1038
00:48:03,680 --> 00:48:05,120
Speaker 1: and you realize that there was a time that people

1039
00:48:05,120 --> 00:48:10,120
Speaker 1: didn't even think about bags. We don't know what twenty

1040
00:48:10,239 --> 00:48:12,680
Speaker 1: twenty three's ignorance is, Like, oh my, we were carrying

1041
00:48:12,719 --> 00:48:14,560
Speaker 1: these devices in our pockets the whole time, and now

1042
00:48:14,600 --> 00:48:16,920
Speaker 1: we all wonder like why we got certain diseases or

1043
00:48:17,000 --> 00:48:18,520
Speaker 1: what have you, or we were eating all this food,

1044
00:48:18,560 --> 00:48:21,080
Speaker 1: and so they're gonna look at us the same win.

1045
00:48:21,120 --> 00:48:22,360
Speaker 1: It's just you're gonna be like, look, I knew what

1046
00:48:22,400 --> 00:48:24,360
Speaker 1: I knew. And I always think about that with my

1047
00:48:24,440 --> 00:48:26,600
Speaker 1: parents because I definitely grew up in a world it

1048
00:48:26,760 --> 00:48:29,320
Speaker 1: was like my family to this day is the subtle

1049
00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:32,719
Speaker 1: signal they always had my back, but I only went

1050
00:48:32,840 --> 00:48:35,920
Speaker 1: to them in emergencies. You know. I knew if she

1051
00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:37,719
Speaker 1: hit the fan, I can go to my family and

1052
00:48:37,719 --> 00:48:39,759
Speaker 1: they will have my back. But what if I was

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1054
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1055
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Speaker 1: And then you start thinking that you're a burden to

1056
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Speaker 1: took somebody advice, but I mean just the vulnerability of it.

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Speaker 1: You value through the vulnerability. I think, yeah, you should

1059
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1060
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1063
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1064
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Speaker 1: the little things we did, and we became overly self regulated.

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Speaker 1: I don't need nobody. I don't need nobody. And this

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Speaker 1: is a conversation of having somebody yesterday, Like there's no

1067
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Speaker 1: such things self made. We all need each other. We're

1068
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Speaker 1: all interdependent. You know, even if you did the grind

1069
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Speaker 1: and it felt like you did it by yourself, you

1070
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1071
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1074
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Speaker 1: need each other. That's why folks are so anxious now

1075
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Speaker 1: because I can't rely on anybody to keep me secure.

1076
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Speaker 1: Like when you walk in a room and it's mad people.

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1078
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1079
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1081
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1082
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1083
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Speaker 1: that's a beautiful way to look at it. It's surface here.

1084
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1085
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1087
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Speaker 1: And if you want to realize love is looking inwards.

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Speaker 1: You can't solve internal issues with external solutions. It's never

1090
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1092
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1093
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1094
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1095
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Speaker 1: Loneliness is the punishment, and the difference is just getting

1097
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Speaker 1: to know yourself, spending time with yourself understanding, Okay, this

1098
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Speaker 1: is I'm full of anxiety. Why, oh well, I'm so

1099
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1100
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1101
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1102
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1106
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1107
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1109
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1110
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Speaker 1: good example I heard recently is names. Somebody can mention

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1112
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1113
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1114
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1115
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1116
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1117
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1118
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1119
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Speaker 1: to say it completely goes away, but you're disinfecting it

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Speaker 1: So whenever you start feeling anxious about something, that anxiety

1124
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1126
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1131
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1132
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Speaker 1: And it works. It definitely works. And again and the idea,

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1134
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1135
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1136
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Speaker 1: And the reason we have to actively tell our hero

1137
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1139
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1140
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1141
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1146
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Speaker 1: Wow donkey to Dave goes to an Arizona priest named

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Speaker 1: Andrea Arrango. Okay, here's a priest, a Catholic priest, who

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Speaker 1: quite possibly has bought a whole bunch of you a

1176
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Speaker 1: first class ticket to Hell. There's thousands of y'all walking

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00:54:34,600 --> 00:54:39,560
Speaker 1: around right now with illegitimate baptisms. What is Uncle Charlotte

1178
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Speaker 1: talking about this morning. What is the good Brotherlannards saying

1179
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Speaker 1: in regards the illegitimate baptisms, exactly what I say, all right,

1180
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Speaker 1: some of your baptisms are nulling, boy, fraudulent, unauthorized, unsanctioned, unofficial, unlicensed,

1181
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Speaker 1: un whatever. Okay, okay, whatever you had happened under the

1182
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Speaker 1: water don't count because Priest Andre's arrange didn't say it right.

1183
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Speaker 1: He didn't say to baptism right. It's like a spell.

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Speaker 1: You know how your iPhone has ten Harry Potter spells

1185
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Speaker 1: that work, would Siri, But they don't work if you

1186
00:55:09,160 --> 00:55:11,719
Speaker 1: don't pronounce it right. That's kind of what happened which

1187
00:55:11,719 --> 00:55:14,719
Speaker 1: your baptism. One word, one word kept you from being

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Speaker 1: cleansed of all your things. I can't make this kind

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Speaker 1: of foolsness up. Let's go to Fox ten Phoenix for

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Speaker 1: the report. Police. One word has made a divine difference

1191
00:55:23,120 --> 00:55:26,759
Speaker 1: when it comes to the first sacrament in the Catholic faith. Baptisms.

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Speaker 1: Phoenix priest Father Andres Arango resigned and apologized after he

1193
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Speaker 1: had changed a pivotal word in the baptismal right. The

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00:55:34,920 --> 00:55:37,600
Speaker 1: priest had been saying, we baptize you in the name

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Speaker 1: of the Father and of the Son and of the

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Speaker 1: Holy Spirit. The correct version starts with I baptize you.

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Speaker 1: Orango had been part of the Catholic Diocese in Phoenix

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Speaker 1: since two thousand and five. He posted an apology letter

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Speaker 1: through the diocese saying, in part he would dedicate his

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Speaker 1: energy to remedy the situation. Other sacraments taken after, like confirmation,

1201
00:55:57,800 --> 00:56:00,839
Speaker 1: marriage and Holy Orders could also will be invalid if

1202
00:56:00,880 --> 00:56:04,960
Speaker 1: the baptism itself is invalidated. I can't keep up at

1203
00:56:05,000 --> 00:56:06,960
Speaker 1: this level of perfection y'all got going on in two

1204
00:56:07,320 --> 00:56:10,480
Speaker 1: twenty two. This kind of perfection you have to have. Now,

1205
00:56:10,760 --> 00:56:12,320
Speaker 1: I can't deal with it. You know, if just the

1206
00:56:12,360 --> 00:56:14,480
Speaker 1: kind of perfection you have to have, I'm screwed. Okay,

1207
00:56:14,640 --> 00:56:18,719
Speaker 1: I'm confused by this. Instead of saying I baptize you

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Speaker 1: in the name of the Father and of the Son

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00:56:20,719 --> 00:56:25,279
Speaker 1: and of the Holy Spirit. During baptism, Priest Andre said we.

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00:56:26,360 --> 00:56:28,840
Speaker 1: And the issue with using we is that it is

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00:56:29,080 --> 00:56:32,600
Speaker 1: not the community that baptizes a person. Rather it is

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00:56:32,719 --> 00:56:38,000
Speaker 1: Christ and him alone who presides at all of the baptisms.

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00:56:38,280 --> 00:56:44,000
Speaker 1: And so it is Christ Jesus who baptizes God. You know,

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Speaker 1: my heart and I try to only say what it

1215
00:56:46,360 --> 00:56:48,200
Speaker 1: is that you want me to say. And in this moment,

1216
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Speaker 1: the spirit is telling me to scream. Cap cap cap

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Speaker 1: trap cap cap. Where is Bresident Joe Biden when I

1218
00:56:54,200 --> 00:56:57,520
Speaker 1: need him? Huh, let me hear it. Oh, we'll pull

1219
00:56:57,560 --> 00:57:00,439
Speaker 1: it up when you can't. Okay, there's a cap. That's

1220
00:57:00,719 --> 00:57:04,720
Speaker 1: say it again. President, there's a cap that's right. Priests, arrango,

1221
00:57:04,960 --> 00:57:09,360
Speaker 1: it is I, it is I. When you're getting baptized,

1222
00:57:09,400 --> 00:57:12,440
Speaker 1: as in you, you are baptizing people in the name

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00:57:12,480 --> 00:57:15,480
Speaker 1: of the Holy Spirit. Even if you say we to

1224
00:57:15,719 --> 00:57:20,280
Speaker 1: me means you, God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit. That's the collective.

1225
00:57:20,360 --> 00:57:24,320
Speaker 1: That's we. That's a group, that's to me goes, that's

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Speaker 1: Destiny's child, that's woutan clan, It's a collective. Okay. The

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00:57:27,560 --> 00:57:30,960
Speaker 1: lie the cap is that it is Christ and him

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00:57:31,040 --> 00:57:34,840
Speaker 1: alone who presides at all of the sacraments, and it

1229
00:57:34,960 --> 00:57:39,200
Speaker 1: is Christ Jesus who baptizes. Jesus might be there in spirit,

1230
00:57:39,680 --> 00:57:42,360
Speaker 1: but Jesus didn't dunk you under that water. Jesus not

1231
00:57:42,560 --> 00:57:46,400
Speaker 1: physically there with you, but that priest Andreas standing there. Okay,

1232
00:57:46,480 --> 00:57:49,080
Speaker 1: he's there, and him dunking you in the name of God,

1233
00:57:49,200 --> 00:57:51,800
Speaker 1: Jesus and the Holy Spirit. That sounds about right to me.

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00:57:52,360 --> 00:57:55,320
Speaker 1: So why is Priest Arrango getting dunkey here today? I'll

1235
00:57:55,360 --> 00:57:58,800
Speaker 1: tell you why for stepping down, for resigning, for causing

1236
00:57:58,880 --> 00:58:01,120
Speaker 1: all of this fuss for no damn reason. Do you

1237
00:58:01,240 --> 00:58:05,040
Speaker 1: really think God, okay, g O D the Almighty who

1238
00:58:05,080 --> 00:58:08,160
Speaker 1: forgives us for all our sins if we repent, is

1239
00:58:08,160 --> 00:58:11,640
Speaker 1: tripping because you said we and not I? Seriously? Does

1240
00:58:11,720 --> 00:58:15,840
Speaker 1: intention not matter? Baptism represents the forgiveness in cleansing from

1241
00:58:15,920 --> 00:58:20,160
Speaker 1: sin that comes through faith in Jesus Christ. Okay. Baptism

1242
00:58:20,240 --> 00:58:23,200
Speaker 1: publicly acknowledges one's confession of faith and belief in the

1243
00:58:23,280 --> 00:58:26,360
Speaker 1: Gospel message. It also symbolizes the sinner's entrance into the

1244
00:58:26,400 --> 00:58:29,680
Speaker 1: community of believers. You think all of that changed because

1245
00:58:29,760 --> 00:58:34,560
Speaker 1: the priest said we and not I. Huh? When if

1246
00:58:34,560 --> 00:58:36,280
Speaker 1: you ask me, I is the right thing to say?

1247
00:58:36,320 --> 00:58:39,520
Speaker 1: Because like I said, I, as in you, Priest Andreas,

1248
00:58:39,600 --> 00:58:42,000
Speaker 1: are the person doing the baptism and doing it in

1249
00:58:42,080 --> 00:58:44,480
Speaker 1: the name of God, Jesus and the Holy goalst. That

1250
00:58:44,640 --> 00:58:46,240
Speaker 1: sounds like the right thing to do to me. It's

1251
00:58:46,280 --> 00:58:48,520
Speaker 1: like when you accept an award at an award show

1252
00:58:48,600 --> 00:58:52,160
Speaker 1: for someone who is not there. You say, I accept

1253
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Speaker 1: this award on their behalf. You could even say, we

1254
00:58:55,120 --> 00:58:57,680
Speaker 1: accept this award on their behalf. You could even say,

1255
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Speaker 1: I accept this award in the name of God, in

1256
00:59:00,360 --> 00:59:02,560
Speaker 1: the Holy Ghost. All that is all good to me.

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Speaker 1: It's fine. The award will get to who it belongs to,

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00:59:05,800 --> 00:59:08,240
Speaker 1: just like the meaning of being baptized will get to

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00:59:08,600 --> 00:59:12,360
Speaker 1: the person being baptized, regardless of if a priest miss

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Speaker 1: is a word. We're in a teachable moments people, instead

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Speaker 1: of stepping down, Can this priest not talk about how

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00:59:18,480 --> 00:59:20,920
Speaker 1: he just made a mistake? Is this even considered a mistake?

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00:59:21,520 --> 00:59:23,760
Speaker 1: Is this something that even has to be acknowledged? Would

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00:59:23,840 --> 00:59:26,840
Speaker 1: anyone even notice if he didn't say anything? Like? What

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00:59:27,000 --> 00:59:29,880
Speaker 1: are we doing? Man? We are holding people to a

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Speaker 1: standard of perfection that Jesus couldn't even reach. And this

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00:59:33,880 --> 00:59:36,840
Speaker 1: is why Jesus not coming back. It's why Jesus sends

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Speaker 1: all your prayers to his fan folder. Why would he

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00:59:39,280 --> 00:59:41,880
Speaker 1: come back? Jesus is like, no, no, no, y'all holding

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Speaker 1: people to a standard of perfection that I'm not even

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Speaker 1: familiar with. Okay, Jesus even thinks y'all taking this perfection

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00:59:47,720 --> 00:59:50,840
Speaker 1: of Christ thing way too far, and that is why

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00:59:51,120 --> 00:59:54,560
Speaker 1: God put it on my spirit to give priests Andreas

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Speaker 1: Zarrango a holy he hat. This is ridiculous. I'm missing

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Speaker 1: a word. You know how many words I miss, how

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01:00:06,320 --> 01:00:09,440
Speaker 1: many words I mispronounced? But God knows my heart. You

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01:00:09,560 --> 01:00:12,200
Speaker 1: know my intention. You know what I'm trying to say.

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01:00:12,360 --> 01:00:15,400
Speaker 1: That's why even if I say something and I miss

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01:00:15,480 --> 01:00:18,880
Speaker 1: a word or mispronounced it, you still feel it. You

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01:00:19,000 --> 01:00:20,480
Speaker 1: still know what I was trying to say. You can

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01:00:20,520 --> 01:00:24,800
Speaker 1: still respond because it's about intention. I don't know, I

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Speaker 1: ain't know. God. Just don't call you a jerk. You

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Speaker 1: know I'm call me God love me, he or she

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01:00:29,400 --> 01:00:31,760
Speaker 1: loved me? Okay, touch me when I tell you I

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Speaker 1: am blessed, Black and Dolly favors. You see me, Look

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Speaker 1: at me. That's a globe. Do you see me? That's

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Speaker 1: a globe. Okay, but act like you know right? All right? Well,

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Speaker 1: thank you for that dunk in to day? Yes, indeed,

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Speaker 1: a right, don't move. It's the breakfast club. Good morning,

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Speaker 1: the breakfast club. Yeah, I gotta pack the kids lunch

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Speaker 1: and snacks. And I've been packing donuts and uh popems,

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01:01:00,120 --> 01:01:02,680
Speaker 1: you know, fruit snacks and you know, ham and cheese

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01:01:02,800 --> 01:01:05,480
Speaker 1: or salami and cheese sandwiches. And that's just because you're

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01:01:05,480 --> 01:01:07,280
Speaker 1: a lazy ass dad who don't know how to cook.

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01:01:07,480 --> 01:01:08,960
Speaker 1: That's all it is. If you knew how to cook,

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01:01:08,960 --> 01:01:12,120
Speaker 1: you'd be feeding your kids. Uh you know better, better

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01:01:12,200 --> 01:01:14,200
Speaker 1: meals than that. And you want to run. You want

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01:01:14,280 --> 01:01:15,920
Speaker 1: to run just as much as your kids too. But

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Speaker 1: people were like, envy, where's the whe's the fruit with

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Speaker 1: the carriage with the vegetable? So I agree with them.

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Speaker 1: This morning, you know, I went there and I got

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Speaker 1: some strawberries, I got some grapes, I got some of

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01:01:24,000 --> 01:01:25,640
Speaker 1: their favorite fruit, and I put it in their bags

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01:01:25,640 --> 01:01:28,320
Speaker 1: as well. But on the way in, I was reading

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01:01:28,360 --> 01:01:30,880
Speaker 1: this thing about fat kids, and I guess I can't

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01:01:30,960 --> 01:01:32,880
Speaker 1: use fat man. Why do you who says you can't

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01:01:33,000 --> 01:01:37,040
Speaker 1: use fat? All right? Well, children struggling with being fat

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01:01:37,360 --> 01:01:40,479
Speaker 1: and obesity should be evaluated and treat worse than fat.

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Speaker 1: Obesity sounds crazy. I'd rather be fat than obese. They're

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Speaker 1: saying the weight sounds dangerous. Soon as they tell you

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01:01:46,200 --> 01:01:47,720
Speaker 1: the playing over with, you don't want to get on it, right,

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01:01:47,760 --> 01:01:50,720
Speaker 1: You're right, okay, you right. So they're saying the practice

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Speaker 1: of watchful waiting. That's where you just you know, wait

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01:01:53,160 --> 01:01:55,160
Speaker 1: and saying, hey, my kid is gonna outgrow it. That's it.

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Speaker 1: That doesn't usually happen. They said, if your kid is

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01:01:57,760 --> 01:01:59,160
Speaker 1: as fat as a kid, they're gonna be fat as

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Speaker 1: a team. So they're saying, fourteen point four million young

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Speaker 1: people in the US are pretty big, and they said

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Speaker 1: it leads to long health problems, high blood pressure, diabetes,

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Speaker 1: and depression. Well, we're not talking about poverty, you know.

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Speaker 1: Let me see the demographics of those kids. Let me

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01:02:13,000 --> 01:02:15,800
Speaker 1: see the locations where those kids live at. And I

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01:02:15,880 --> 01:02:18,480
Speaker 1: bet you, I bet you that they live in food deserts.

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01:02:18,520 --> 01:02:20,640
Speaker 1: And you know, there's plenty of studies that show, you know,

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01:02:20,680 --> 01:02:22,880
Speaker 1: people who live in food deserts are at an elevated

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Speaker 1: risk for obesity. You know what I mean. If you

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Speaker 1: got inadequate access to food, then you're more than likely

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Speaker 1: gonna eat cheap, high calorie stuff. You're gonna eat snacks,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna eat all the fast foods. You're gonna eat

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Speaker 1: from the Chinese restaurant in the hood. You're gonna do

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01:02:35,680 --> 01:02:38,040
Speaker 1: that constantly, you know what I mean, And that will

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Speaker 1: lead to obesity when you're young. I think that the

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Speaker 1: reason a lot of those kids probably do grow out

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Speaker 1: of it, you know, because hopefully as they get older,

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Speaker 1: they're getting better financial situations and they pick up more

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Speaker 1: healthier habits. Some people majority don't end up in better

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01:02:54,360 --> 01:02:57,640
Speaker 1: financial situations, so they keep those same piss poor habits

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Speaker 1: with them throughout their whole life, you know what I mean,

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01:03:00,040 --> 01:03:01,880
Speaker 1: and then they spend their whole life trying to survive

1340
01:03:02,320 --> 01:03:04,640
Speaker 1: off snats. But I do agree, I do agree that

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Speaker 1: we have to attack this problem at a younger age

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01:03:06,720 --> 01:03:08,960
Speaker 1: because you teach habits right and one of those things.

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01:03:09,040 --> 01:03:12,120
Speaker 1: If you're teaching kids about eating right and exercising and

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01:03:12,240 --> 01:03:14,520
Speaker 1: working out, they're going to continue to do that when

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01:03:14,520 --> 01:03:16,760
Speaker 1: they get older, when their teens, and I think we

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Speaker 1: have to create these habits and not just say you

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Speaker 1: know what, we'll see what happens. Or you know, a

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Speaker 1: lot of times parents, even myself, we give our kids

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Speaker 1: foods that are not bad because, like you said, where

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Speaker 1: we're running, we're doing this, we're doing that, but we

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Speaker 1: have to make sure we watch what our kids eat

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Speaker 1: as well. You're not wrong in me, but you're speaking

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Speaker 1: from a place of of having something, you know what

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Speaker 1: I mean. You can't do any of that you just

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Speaker 1: said with no money. Like these folks are literally just

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Speaker 1: out here trying to survive. It's not even a thing

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Speaker 1: of them practicing bad habits because they want to. They're

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Speaker 1: doing they're eating like this because they have to survive.

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Speaker 1: Their literal foods. Had to access to good food, right,

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Speaker 1: but you know, or to go to whole foods and

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01:03:55,720 --> 01:03:57,560
Speaker 1: buy the fresh fruits and vegetables and all that kind

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Speaker 1: of credit. As a kid, I didn't, you know, we

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Speaker 1: didn't have whole food and things like that, but my

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Speaker 1: mom made sure I didn't have McDonald's. Every day she cooked,

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Speaker 1: whether it was we had some wild stuff. As a kid,

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Speaker 1: cook a lot. Well, we did have writing beans, but

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Speaker 1: we had you know, of course you did. You know

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Speaker 1: what forget it, get it princess right being hello, Hey, yeah,

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Speaker 1: y'a family matters, Good morning. I wasn't thinking of family

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Speaker 1: matter you talking about it anyway? The TV theme songs

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Speaker 1: we play, yes, good morning, yeah, good morning to you all.

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Speaker 1: So listen, guys, it's super multifacted it right. I think

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Speaker 1: the best politically correct word will be overweight, just because

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Speaker 1: people take side and run with it any other kind

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Speaker 1: of way. So just stay overweight kids. That a man,

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Speaker 1: because you can flip overweight to your overweight as Oh man,

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Speaker 1: we've anna let every stay overweight kids. That just sounds different.

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Speaker 1: You've got too many simple minded people that's gonna go

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Speaker 1: hard on him. You're right man to say overweight, right,

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Speaker 1: you're right. So listen in regards to what you was saying,

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Speaker 1: we are depreciated, right. Um. In regards to community, we

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01:04:59,760 --> 01:05:02,360
Speaker 1: know that it's easier for some communities that have five

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01:05:02,440 --> 01:05:05,320
Speaker 1: dollars and get that little season pizza and know that

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01:05:05,480 --> 01:05:08,160
Speaker 1: we'll have to not worry about tonight and we'll figure

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01:05:08,200 --> 01:05:10,760
Speaker 1: it out tomorrow. Right. And then we have the other

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01:05:10,920 --> 01:05:13,520
Speaker 1: families who are letting their kids in and out the pantry.

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01:05:13,600 --> 01:05:16,720
Speaker 1: We buy in everything ding dongs wing want gets ahoy

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01:05:17,080 --> 01:05:21,400
Speaker 1: everything right, and we're really not caring because we don't

1389
01:05:21,440 --> 01:05:23,320
Speaker 1: want to hit them talk or whatever. The reason is.

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Speaker 1: Maybe we didn't have healthy eating habits growing up. So

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Speaker 1: when it comes to the surgery portion, now there is

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Speaker 1: lap in, there is gastric keep, and then there's gastric

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01:05:34,720 --> 01:05:37,160
Speaker 1: five pass. Now that has to go with your PCP

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01:05:37,440 --> 01:05:41,000
Speaker 1: having history, bnobes having It's just a lot of different

1395
01:05:41,040 --> 01:05:43,520
Speaker 1: factors that go into that that are tied at a

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Speaker 1: young age. We'll be able to have that, right. Can

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Speaker 1: I ask you something real quick, though, If you can't

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Speaker 1: even afford healthy food, how are you going to afford surgery?

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Speaker 1: Medicare Medicare Medicare, we'll pay, We'll pay for that, right,

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01:06:01,080 --> 01:06:03,400
Speaker 1: No Medicaid part of me. Medicare is for older so

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01:06:03,600 --> 01:06:06,680
Speaker 1: Medicaid bill pay for that. Giving your doctor as saying

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01:06:06,760 --> 01:06:10,000
Speaker 1: this person needs that, this is medically necessary, they will

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Speaker 1: be able to get in one hundred percent paid for.

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01:06:12,360 --> 01:06:15,360
Speaker 1: If you're a worker and you have insurance, you're insurance

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01:06:15,400 --> 01:06:17,840
Speaker 1: will pay for it. You pay your deductible out of pocket.

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01:06:18,160 --> 01:06:20,320
Speaker 1: If you out here and you got money, you can

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01:06:20,360 --> 01:06:23,000
Speaker 1: pay for whatever you want. You can get your kids

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01:06:23,040 --> 01:06:25,240
Speaker 1: to get whatever they want at whatever age, when you

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Speaker 1: got whatever type of farms. Are we clear? Yes, But

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01:06:27,680 --> 01:06:30,960
Speaker 1: that's the problem most of us don't. Like we're talking

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01:06:31,040 --> 01:06:34,720
Speaker 1: like the majority of people out here aren't financially struggling, struggling,

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01:06:34,880 --> 01:06:37,200
Speaker 1: and that surgery to me sounds like a temporary solution

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01:06:37,280 --> 01:06:40,120
Speaker 1: to a permanent problem. With those pills. You have to

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Speaker 1: go give these communities the resources they need to not

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01:06:44,160 --> 01:06:47,040
Speaker 1: just survive, but to thrive. You're getting surgery for a

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01:06:47,120 --> 01:06:50,120
Speaker 1: kid at six and then they still can't afford proper food.

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Speaker 1: And we just talk about earlier. When you get these surgeries,

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01:06:52,960 --> 01:06:54,840
Speaker 1: you gotta work out and it right. How can you

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01:06:54,960 --> 01:06:57,880
Speaker 1: do that if you in a impoverished neighborhood. But we'll

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Speaker 1: take your call some more eight hundred five five five one.

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01:07:00,560 --> 01:07:02,840
Speaker 1: But I agree with you. I think those the medication

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01:07:03,000 --> 01:07:06,080
Speaker 1: and those surgeries are temporary fixes because you don't want

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01:07:06,120 --> 01:07:08,520
Speaker 1: your child on, you know, on pills for the rest

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01:07:08,560 --> 01:07:10,360
Speaker 1: of their life. To just stay a little bit, you know.

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Speaker 1: Then let's talk about it when we come back. It's

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Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club. Good morning, e n G. Charlemagne, the

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Speaker 1: guy we are the Breakfast Club, naptew just joining us.

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Speaker 1: We were talking about a new study that came out

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Speaker 1: and they were saying children struggling struggling with obesity should

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01:07:26,000 --> 01:07:29,920
Speaker 1: be evaluated and treated early and aggressively, including medications for

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01:07:30,000 --> 01:07:32,560
Speaker 1: kid as young at twelve and surgery for those that

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01:07:32,640 --> 01:07:37,200
Speaker 1: are thirteen. They're saying the old practice of watching, watchful

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01:07:37,240 --> 01:07:39,880
Speaker 1: waiting or delaying treatment to see if the kids outgrow

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01:07:39,960 --> 01:07:42,560
Speaker 1: it is stupid and don't do it. They're saying fourteen

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01:07:42,640 --> 01:07:45,000
Speaker 1: point four million young people in the US are left untreated,

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Speaker 1: and obesity can cause health problems high blood pressure, diabetes, depression,

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01:07:49,320 --> 01:07:51,760
Speaker 1: and security. I hate how that study is not talking

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01:07:51,760 --> 01:07:53,880
Speaker 1: about poverty. I hate how that study is not talking

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01:07:53,920 --> 01:07:56,480
Speaker 1: about you know, food deserts, you know. I hate how

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01:07:56,560 --> 01:07:59,040
Speaker 1: that study is not talking about individuals who love living

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01:07:59,120 --> 01:08:01,800
Speaker 1: food deserts are had an elevated risk for obesity. I

1442
01:08:01,880 --> 01:08:04,760
Speaker 1: hate that that study isn't talking about how inadequate access

1443
01:08:04,760 --> 01:08:08,080
Speaker 1: to food, you know, is gonna lead, you know, to

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01:08:08,200 --> 01:08:11,040
Speaker 1: obesity because folks gonna eat cheap, high calorie stuff. You

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01:08:11,080 --> 01:08:13,120
Speaker 1: know how fast food restaurant's got better deals in the

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01:08:13,200 --> 01:08:16,160
Speaker 1: healthy places. You can peach six people with five dollars

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01:08:16,200 --> 01:08:18,840
Speaker 1: that most of these damned fast food places. But you know,

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01:08:18,920 --> 01:08:22,240
Speaker 1: an apple, apple casts six dollars one apple. Yeah, now

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01:08:22,240 --> 01:08:23,519
Speaker 1: you're right. I want to I want to shout out

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Speaker 1: to uh. I believe it's called Fittitian. It's a restaurant

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01:08:27,200 --> 01:08:29,320
Speaker 1: that's in the New York area. They branching and I

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Speaker 1: went there the other day and I bought a fruit bowl,

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01:08:31,479 --> 01:08:33,200
Speaker 1: a big size fruit bowl, and it was it was

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01:08:33,280 --> 01:08:35,000
Speaker 1: five dollars, and I was surprised. I'm like it's really

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01:08:35,000 --> 01:08:36,120
Speaker 1: five dollars and they had you know, I had a

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01:08:36,160 --> 01:08:38,240
Speaker 1: granola had all the food in it. So let me

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01:08:38,439 --> 01:08:41,320
Speaker 1: let me it's fittian, fittitian shout out to them. All right,

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01:08:41,360 --> 01:08:43,120
Speaker 1: let me let's go to the phone lines. Hello, who's

1459
01:08:43,120 --> 01:08:46,920
Speaker 1: this hey going around the store to how you guys

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01:08:47,000 --> 01:08:54,040
Speaker 1: doing this morning? I'm doing well? How are you guys?

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Speaker 1: Blessed Black and Holly Favor? What's your what's your opinion?

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Speaker 1: What's your thoughts? Mama? So my thought is, especially from

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Speaker 1: a medical perspective. I'm a medical professional of working cardiology. UM,

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Speaker 1: I definitely think we should allow these kids to have

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01:09:06,479 --> 01:09:09,800
Speaker 1: access to weight loss medication. One thing you mentioned was

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Speaker 1: something about lifeul suction. That's not the that's not what

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01:09:12,400 --> 01:09:14,320
Speaker 1: they said. That says the kids can have weight loss

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Speaker 1: surgery such as bypass, gaster bypass or sleeve something like

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01:09:19,240 --> 01:09:21,320
Speaker 1: that to help them lose the way. But we do

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01:09:21,520 --> 01:09:24,120
Speaker 1: know that we see down the line of these kids

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Speaker 1: end up with heart disease and other problems. And you'll

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Speaker 1: be surprised, or maybe you won't be surprised, but I

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01:09:29,120 --> 01:09:31,840
Speaker 1: used to do football physicals. You'll be surprised when they

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01:09:31,960 --> 01:09:35,559
Speaker 1: those guys come in young kids only thirteen years old,

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01:09:35,600 --> 01:09:39,160
Speaker 1: what high blood pressure already you know, and want to

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01:09:39,160 --> 01:09:41,839
Speaker 1: play football. And so then we talk about things happening

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01:09:41,920 --> 01:09:44,960
Speaker 1: like you know, collapsing on the field, right um and

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01:09:45,040 --> 01:09:47,960
Speaker 1: stuff like that. So um, definitely I think we should,

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Speaker 1: you know, give these kids a shot at, you know,

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Speaker 1: having a healthier weight and living a healthier life. And

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Speaker 1: I agree with you, M. Charlemagne on the you know,

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Speaker 1: making access to healthier food. And you know, right now,

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01:10:01,280 --> 01:10:04,519
Speaker 1: the food prices are incredible, you know, ropery store prices

1484
01:10:04,560 --> 01:10:08,240
Speaker 1: are crazy, and that is definitely your problem. But also

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Speaker 1: it is that our kids just don't exercise and you know,

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Speaker 1: do the things that they used to do. We used

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01:10:13,760 --> 01:10:15,840
Speaker 1: to play outside, you know, down the kids are in

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01:10:15,920 --> 01:10:17,880
Speaker 1: front of the TV all day or playing video games

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Speaker 1: all day, right, that is true, I think, I think,

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Speaker 1: I think it's a combination of the lack of physical activity,

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Speaker 1: but more importantly, man, the poverty, the food desert these

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01:10:26,240 --> 01:10:27,960
Speaker 1: folks live in. Man Like, when you live in these

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01:10:28,000 --> 01:10:31,400
Speaker 1: food deserts, you don't have access to good, high chuality food.

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01:10:31,479 --> 01:10:34,519
Speaker 1: You're gonna eat cheap, high calorie stuff. But even as parents,

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01:10:34,600 --> 01:10:36,360
Speaker 1: even if if that is the case, we have to

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01:10:36,400 --> 01:10:38,519
Speaker 1: get our kids out more. And I know a lot

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01:10:38,560 --> 01:10:40,679
Speaker 1: of times it's easy to you know, to have our

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01:10:40,880 --> 01:10:43,920
Speaker 1: you know, I phones and iPads and video games and

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01:10:43,960 --> 01:10:46,439
Speaker 1: TV babysit our kids. But we have to get back

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01:10:46,479 --> 01:10:48,559
Speaker 1: out there with those kids. Make them go play basketball,

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01:10:48,640 --> 01:10:51,000
Speaker 1: make them go jump rope and make them dance, make

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01:10:51,040 --> 01:10:53,439
Speaker 1: them go to chair. There's so many free events and

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01:10:53,560 --> 01:10:56,520
Speaker 1: free activities that these kids could do that keep them exercising.

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Speaker 1: This week. Like I said, my wife is away and

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01:10:59,400 --> 01:11:02,639
Speaker 1: my kids have so many damn activities, and I would

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01:11:02,640 --> 01:11:04,320
Speaker 1: be mad at my wife, like couldn't this gracious? But

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01:11:04,439 --> 01:11:06,240
Speaker 1: now I get it. I understand it. They're out and

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01:11:06,280 --> 01:11:08,559
Speaker 1: about the exercise and they're running around and they're doing

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Speaker 1: a lot. Well, I'll tell you this, and I agree

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Speaker 1: with you, and I'm not making excuses, but man, do

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01:11:14,160 --> 01:11:16,320
Speaker 1: you feel safe just letting your kids go out? You

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01:11:16,360 --> 01:11:18,240
Speaker 1: feel safe just letting your kids go run around? I

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01:11:18,280 --> 01:11:21,040
Speaker 1: think about growing up to South Carolina. Man, We used

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01:11:21,080 --> 01:11:24,280
Speaker 1: to be out all day, no cell phones, on the bikes,

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01:11:24,320 --> 01:11:26,679
Speaker 1: from dirt road to dirt road, running through cornfields, running

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01:11:26,680 --> 01:11:29,080
Speaker 1: through the woods. Parents knew what we were at our

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01:11:29,080 --> 01:11:32,200
Speaker 1: guess they knew we were around, but nowadays, I would

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01:11:32,360 --> 01:11:35,040
Speaker 1: never feel comfortable. Yeah right, just letting my kids just

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01:11:35,200 --> 01:11:38,880
Speaker 1: go wrong for a few hours by theirselfs Hell no, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I guess right. Hello, who's this Leo? Leo? Good morning thoughts, brom.

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Speaker 1: I basically think that it all starts with the parents.

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01:11:47,520 --> 01:11:50,360
Speaker 1: We need to encourage more healthy or eating habits, you know,

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01:11:50,479 --> 01:11:53,759
Speaker 1: so that our kids follow through my parents. My family

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01:11:53,800 --> 01:11:57,280
Speaker 1: has a history of work, very overweight, and I've done

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01:11:57,320 --> 01:11:59,600
Speaker 1: a lot of things to get a healthy weed. And

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to encourage my daughter now he's about four,

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Speaker 1: to start eating you know, pretty good. And like that, man,

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Speaker 1: all they're almost been doing great in life. Because even

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01:12:09,240 --> 01:12:11,760
Speaker 1: if it starts with the parents, which is true, the

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01:12:11,920 --> 01:12:17,360
Speaker 1: parents poor too, like like like poverty. Poverty is just

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01:12:17,439 --> 01:12:20,759
Speaker 1: as generational. It's poor eating habits because if the parents

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Speaker 1: couldn't afford to eat, well, you think they can afford

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01:12:23,920 --> 01:12:26,880
Speaker 1: to feed their kids, well, come on, man, Like I

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Speaker 1: don't know, man, I just feel like poverty is the

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01:12:28,960 --> 01:12:30,559
Speaker 1: root of the issue, man, because you know, a lot

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Speaker 1: of these people that we're talking about, they live in

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Speaker 1: food deserts. And everybody knows that if you live in

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01:12:34,960 --> 01:12:37,719
Speaker 1: a food desert, you're at an elevated risk for obesity

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01:12:37,800 --> 01:12:40,800
Speaker 1: because you don't have, you know, adequate access to good

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01:12:40,800 --> 01:12:43,960
Speaker 1: food to you eating all the cheap, high calorie nonsense.

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01:12:44,640 --> 01:12:50,920
Speaker 1: All right, well, it's the Breakfast Club. Come on the

1542
01:12:51,160 --> 01:13:05,400
Speaker 1: Breakfast Club. Call me you opinion to the breakfast Club top.

1543
01:13:07,360 --> 01:13:10,840
Speaker 1: I get five five one five one morning. Everybody is

1544
01:13:10,920 --> 01:13:15,080
Speaker 1: DJ Envy Charlemagne, the guy. We all the breakfast club. Naphew,

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01:13:15,120 --> 01:13:18,400
Speaker 1: you're talking about what we're not doing anymore in twenty

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01:13:18,520 --> 01:13:21,160
Speaker 1: twenty three. What are we leaving in twenty twenty three,

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01:13:21,240 --> 01:13:23,599
Speaker 1: I mean twenty twenty two. I'm gonna tell you something else, man,

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01:13:23,640 --> 01:13:26,160
Speaker 1: I told you going into twenty twenty three. I really

1549
01:13:26,200 --> 01:13:27,960
Speaker 1: want to see people grow up. And it's crazy to

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01:13:28,040 --> 01:13:30,719
Speaker 1: be forty four years old and be telling other forty

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01:13:30,760 --> 01:13:32,439
Speaker 1: four year olds that they need to grow up. But

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01:13:32,439 --> 01:13:33,920
Speaker 1: I do really want to see men grow up. I

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01:13:33,920 --> 01:13:35,960
Speaker 1: want us to be able to, you know, have conversations

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01:13:36,000 --> 01:13:38,320
Speaker 1: with each other without the conflict. That's why I'm trying

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01:13:38,320 --> 01:13:40,519
Speaker 1: expressing brothers to go to therapy to deal with that hurt,

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01:13:40,600 --> 01:13:42,160
Speaker 1: that pain that they haven't sided in. But I'm gonna

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01:13:42,160 --> 01:13:43,960
Speaker 1: tell you something else. But I've been hearing a lot

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01:13:44,040 --> 01:13:49,200
Speaker 1: of forty somethings have conversations about like money and wealth

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01:13:49,320 --> 01:13:51,680
Speaker 1: and things of that nature, and they're talking about it

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01:13:52,000 --> 01:13:55,559
Speaker 1: from the perspective of what they're wearing. That sounds so crazy.

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01:13:56,160 --> 01:13:57,920
Speaker 1: They're like, oh, such, such, you ain't getting no money

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01:13:58,000 --> 01:14:01,200
Speaker 1: because you know they not wearing design are They just

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01:14:01,240 --> 01:14:05,879
Speaker 1: started wearing designer. That is like the silliest, most foolish

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01:14:05,960 --> 01:14:08,639
Speaker 1: thing I've ever heard of forty something. You old human

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01:14:08,720 --> 01:14:10,200
Speaker 1: being said, Oh, it doesn't have to be forty, could

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01:14:10,200 --> 01:14:12,599
Speaker 1: be thirty or twenty or even basically their wealth off

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01:14:12,680 --> 01:14:15,639
Speaker 1: of jewelry, of cars, they having cash that they could

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Speaker 1: hold up to that. Oh my god, Yeah, I think

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01:14:17,760 --> 01:14:20,160
Speaker 1: we need to We flew to my good brother John

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01:14:20,240 --> 01:14:23,000
Speaker 1: Hope Brian Man. John Hope Brian says, if the only

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01:14:23,080 --> 01:14:26,800
Speaker 1: asset you have is on your ass, you're doing something wrong.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely so please can we leave that in twenty twenty

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01:14:29,400 --> 01:14:32,920
Speaker 1: two for all ages, but especially I cannot believe it's

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01:14:33,200 --> 01:14:36,200
Speaker 1: talking like that. That's crazy to me. Hello, who's this

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01:14:37,400 --> 01:14:40,639
Speaker 1: My name is Lisa. Hi, Lisa, Come on a Lisa.

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01:14:42,800 --> 01:14:49,320
Speaker 1: I'm calling because I'm leaving behind no people and and guys.

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01:14:49,800 --> 01:14:52,400
Speaker 1: Some guys don't know how to be comed. Oh boy,

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01:14:52,439 --> 01:14:55,160
Speaker 1: we'll stop dating, uh, everybody except for black men because

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01:14:55,200 --> 01:14:58,360
Speaker 1: black men don't cheat. Blast men are the cheaters. Could

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01:14:58,400 --> 01:15:00,240
Speaker 1: you stop? Why are you telling lives like the we

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01:15:00,240 --> 01:15:04,040
Speaker 1: should leave lying in twenty twenty two? Tell such a tale.

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01:15:04,560 --> 01:15:06,519
Speaker 1: I'm sorry you got cheated on, mama. Yeah, and you're right,

1583
01:15:06,800 --> 01:15:08,920
Speaker 1: you should. We should leave cheating as women and men

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01:15:08,960 --> 01:15:11,400
Speaker 1: in twenty twenty two. And the ain't no black men cheating?

1585
01:15:11,479 --> 01:15:14,559
Speaker 1: No young young black boys are cheating. But what black

1586
01:15:14,640 --> 01:15:16,599
Speaker 1: men are not cheating? How? What? What do you consider

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01:15:16,680 --> 01:15:23,200
Speaker 1: t J? Holmes? Huh okay age bracket for them not

1588
01:15:23,320 --> 01:15:25,280
Speaker 1: to cheat? What do you mean I think that I

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01:15:25,360 --> 01:15:27,680
Speaker 1: think that we shouldn't. I don't know what you're talking about. No,

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01:15:27,840 --> 01:15:30,120
Speaker 1: you just said how old? How old are you? How

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01:15:30,200 --> 01:15:31,960
Speaker 1: old are you? Howld you? Mama? How old are you?

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01:15:33,280 --> 01:15:35,280
Speaker 1: And how old was how old was the last white

1593
01:15:35,320 --> 01:15:39,559
Speaker 1: man that cheatings on you? For white man? Black? How old?

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01:15:40,720 --> 01:15:42,720
Speaker 1: He's still a little boy, That's what I'm telling you.

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01:15:42,840 --> 01:15:46,439
Speaker 1: He's still a young man. Like does how old it

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01:15:46,520 --> 01:15:51,360
Speaker 1: takes uman? Let me think. Let me see, I got

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01:15:51,400 --> 01:15:57,200
Speaker 1: there around thirty six, thirty six, it took me up.

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01:15:57,240 --> 01:15:58,800
Speaker 1: I got there. I got there around thirty six. But

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01:15:58,840 --> 01:16:00,280
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that you should. I'm not saying you

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01:16:00,280 --> 01:16:06,040
Speaker 1: should wait that long. Huh you married, I've been with

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01:16:06,120 --> 01:16:09,040
Speaker 1: my wife. Took him some time, my money four years,

1602
01:16:09,120 --> 01:16:12,519
Speaker 1: we've been married since two thousand and forteen, took up

1603
01:16:12,560 --> 01:16:14,479
Speaker 1: some time my mind. I'm gonna tell you the difference. Man.

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01:16:14,800 --> 01:16:18,840
Speaker 1: All jokes aside. Seriously, it's all about being intentional about

1605
01:16:18,960 --> 01:16:22,759
Speaker 1: doing the work on themselves. If you're intentional about growth,

1606
01:16:23,160 --> 01:16:26,160
Speaker 1: if you're intentional about being a good man, you will

1607
01:16:26,280 --> 01:16:28,840
Speaker 1: go do the work on yourself. So you know, you

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01:16:28,880 --> 01:16:31,240
Speaker 1: don't have women calling up to the radio stations sad

1609
01:16:31,360 --> 01:16:33,439
Speaker 1: like how she sounds this morning. She sounds very sad

1610
01:16:33,560 --> 01:16:36,640
Speaker 1: like this club. God morning morning. Everybody is DJ n

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01:16:36,760 --> 01:16:39,519
Speaker 1: V Charlemagne the guy. We are the breakfast club, and

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01:16:39,640 --> 01:16:40,720
Speaker 1: I was time to get up out of here. You

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01:16:40,760 --> 01:16:43,080
Speaker 1: got a positive note, bro, positive note, since today is

1614
01:16:43,200 --> 01:16:45,760
Speaker 1: MLK day. Man is a quote from Martin Luther King Junior.

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01:16:45,800 --> 01:16:47,920
Speaker 1: Man Luther King Junior once said people fail to get

1616
01:16:47,920 --> 01:16:50,240
Speaker 1: along because they fear each other. They fear each other

1617
01:16:50,320 --> 01:16:52,160
Speaker 1: because they don't know each other. They don't know each

1618
01:16:52,200 --> 01:16:55,080
Speaker 1: other because they have not communicated with each other. Express

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01:16:55,120 --> 01:16:58,639
Speaker 1: some communication with somebody today, Breakfast Club. You don't finish

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01:16:58,680 --> 01:16:59,000
Speaker 1: for y'all,