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Speaker 1: Before we get into today's episode, we've got to celebrate

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Speaker 1: the Black Effect Podcast Network is turning five, five years

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Speaker 1: of powerful voices, unforgettable moments, and a community that keeps growing.

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Speaker 2: This is the power of the platform. Now let's get

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Speaker 2: into it.

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Speaker 3: When a man.

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Speaker 4: Is leading correctly, life is perfect. When a man is

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Speaker 4: leading correctly, whatever correctly means to both of you, life

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Speaker 4: is grand. The big g man, what big r big, big,

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Speaker 4: fucking deep, I'm not.

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Speaker 1: I feel like every time something has gone wrong is

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Speaker 1: because it was that switch up.

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Speaker 2: It's inevitable, switches worse.

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Speaker 3: I can speak that because.

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Speaker 2: And I hate it, because you know, I did do

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Speaker 2: my research. I believe it, but I don't. I want

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Speaker 2: to finish you.

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Speaker 4: Boundaries, but so boom because we are traditionally and you

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Speaker 4: know doctrine to lead.

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Speaker 3: A great leader knows to set boundaries.

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Speaker 4: A great leader has to set boundaries. A great leader

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Speaker 4: has to have vision. Vision allows you to set boundary

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Speaker 4: because you can see that she's gonna fuck my life up.

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm, what's up, y'all? It's your girl lex P

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Speaker 1: and it's your girl Dre and the call and you

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Speaker 1: are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mind.

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Speaker 2: Where mind speaks sober thought.

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Speaker 5: We gotta guess, we gotta guess today.

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Speaker 1: Part of all, we have rapper, songwriter, music video director,

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Speaker 1: creative director, and a fashion god in the building.

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Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, swag on tea at all times.

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Speaker 2: We got Sudad James in the building at tea.

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Speaker 6: Now now you gotta tell them whatever. All of this

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Speaker 6: is just now off camera.

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Speaker 4: So for everybody watching, first of all, it's a blessing

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Speaker 4: to be here, so you gotta make it here.

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Speaker 3: You gotta earn it to be here.

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Speaker 4: So I was saying to him, today's just a great

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Speaker 4: day for me. But also one of the cool things

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Speaker 4: is I love fun facts. I love fun culture facts.

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Speaker 4: So you know, we clocking. We started off clocking, and

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Speaker 4: before we was clocking, everybody was saying, what's that tea?

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Speaker 3: Right? And we love it.

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Speaker 4: It's just saying, whether you heterosexual, heterosexual or whatever, it

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Speaker 4: becomes a part because that's what culture are lingoed.

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Speaker 3: It just becomes a part of it.

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Speaker 4: Right today, this brother got on I G and he

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Speaker 4: was like, you know where the t came from? He

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Speaker 4: said one of his old boys, And that's how he

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Speaker 4: said it to one of his old boys. So told

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Speaker 4: him that basically the whole idea of what's that tea

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Speaker 4: it comes from the word information and the word information

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Speaker 4: the tea is silent, so it's like, what's the t Like,

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Speaker 4: I want to know what's really going on. I hear

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Speaker 4: what you're telling me, but I want to know what's

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Speaker 4: the tea? And that just blew my mind.

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Speaker 2: He first explained to me. I was like, huh, but

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Speaker 2: I was information is silent.

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Speaker 1: If you asked me to spell information after I had

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Speaker 1: a few of them todd drinks, I'm gonna say s

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Speaker 3: Poured up, she poured up.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, that's an information is.

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Speaker 1: Colwris will say look down up when.

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Speaker 3: She died.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why I gotta know what's the truth.

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Speaker 3: But what's the teeth?

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Speaker 2: Okay? I love a good fun fact. How are you?

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Speaker 4: I am blessed, I am busy, I am grinding, and

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Speaker 4: it's all the things, all the things. To be honest

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Speaker 4: with you, Like I said to you before we started,

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Speaker 4: I'm a journey man. So I'm going to travel and

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Speaker 4: to travel for greatness, not just personal greatness.

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Speaker 3: Uh. Really good, ol g in minds. He was helping

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Speaker 3: me want some karate stuff.

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Speaker 4: Back in the day, he said that you are not

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Speaker 4: the master of anything that you don't have students in.

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Speaker 4: And that really struck with me because I was like, Yeah,

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Speaker 4: for myself personally, yeah I'm great, but like, what about

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Speaker 4: the people around me? What can I say about them?

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Speaker 4: What can speak for them? Like the people that's like

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Speaker 4: consistently around me, and they are a.

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Speaker 3: Reflection of you.

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Speaker 4: If you the boss and all that boss energy that

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Speaker 4: you because they are a reflection of your energy.

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Speaker 3: They are a reflection of who you are as a

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Speaker 4: And if your people ain't like you, that is a

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Speaker 3: You are to blame. You can say that, hey man,

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Speaker 3: I'm showing them what to do.

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Speaker 4: Nah, bro, they doing what you're allowing them to do

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Speaker 4: and what you're showing them to do. And mind you

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Speaker 4: don't getting mistaken. You got some people that's gonna mess

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Speaker 4: it up and they're gonna do right. It just ain't

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Speaker 4: gonna do right. But once again, you are not the

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Speaker 4: master of anything you don't have students in.

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Speaker 6: So do you feel like in saying it, do you

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Speaker 6: feel like we're responsible for the people around us.

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Speaker 2: To a certain extent, what I.

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Speaker 4: Truly do believe is that you are not in control

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Speaker 4: of your success. You are in control of the momentum

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Speaker 4: of your success. So you are the developer and the

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Speaker 4: designer of your eco system, your ecosystem. Ecosystem has everything

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Speaker 4: to do with the tone that you set and that

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Speaker 4: attracts the people that.

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Speaker 3: Come to you.

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Speaker 4: People will come to both of you because y'all are attractive,

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Speaker 4: but people stay because y'all are addictive.

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Speaker 2: And that's the fag and you ain't right, you know

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Speaker 2: what I'm saying.

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Speaker 4: So to be able to understand that I wouldever like

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Speaker 4: But at the end of the day, it's like, Okay,

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Speaker 4: when somebody get addicted to you or whatever, is like

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Speaker 4: as time goes it's like, why am I addicted? It

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Speaker 4: can't just be luss whatever LUSS runs out? You know that, right?

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Speaker 4: And so to take it back to what you're asking me, like,

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Speaker 4: I feel that that is a you are in control

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Speaker 4: because you set the tone for what you attract.

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Speaker 1: It's so crazy that you are talking about this because

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Speaker 1: on God, I promise I had a conversation with Beilee

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Speaker 1: today when I was getting ready and I'm getting ready,

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Speaker 1: and I was just like, man, I am so uncomfortable

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Speaker 1: if the people around me are uncomfortable, and I'm talking

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Speaker 1: my circle, everybody has to be comfortable. There's no way

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Speaker 1: I can sit in the things that I'm doing and

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Speaker 1: feel like, oh well, she on home, they ain't got

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Speaker 1: shit to do with me. Like I have always felt

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Speaker 1: like that, like it's my responsibility to put all of

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Speaker 1: I'm not, you know, up there, I ain't know you know,

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Speaker 1: jay Z beyond that, but I feel like if I

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Speaker 1: dots good.

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Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: And it's so crazy that you said that because I

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Speaker 1: was like feeling like I was feeling like that, like

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Speaker 1: is that my responsibility though?

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Speaker 2: Is it?

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Speaker 1: But I'm like, you know what, that's what makes me happy,

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Speaker 1: like me being in my position but also making sure

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Speaker 3: You know what I mean? Can I ask you a question?

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Speaker 3: Can I ask you a question?

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Speaker 4: And it's a little bit of a hot take, but well,

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Speaker 4: actually let me ask you this because you're talking about it,

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Speaker 4: because I identify what you're saying is.

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Speaker 3: A part of it.

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Speaker 4: Were not your pride, but more of like the competitor

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Speaker 4: in you is like I want to be like the boss.

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Speaker 4: I want to be the person that you'all depend on

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Speaker 4: in my friend's circle. Is that a part of it too?

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Speaker 1: You know what is not though, because honestly, I really

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Speaker 1: feel like because people think that, like I'm the funny

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Speaker 1: way funnier than me. Like I always say that I

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Speaker 1: do want to kick my feet up, I be wanting

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Speaker 1: them to be more. I want everybody around me because

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Speaker 1: as soon as I can kick these little corns up.

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Speaker 2: I'm doing it.

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Speaker 1: So I don't feel like that, I don't feel like

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Speaker 1: I want to be the leader and it has to

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Speaker 1: be me, me, me, cause I feel like my light

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Speaker 1: is always gonna shine.

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Speaker 2: Like she like Drea is a boss.

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Speaker 1: Like when we first started Poor Minds, and it was

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Speaker 1: like immediately once we started making money, she was like, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm starting to use beauty. And it wasn't like I

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Speaker 1: was feeling like, oh my gosh, Drea surpassing. I was like, yeah, bitch,

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Speaker 1: I got amused beauty on right now. As soon as

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Speaker 1: the Marihana chicks come in that, I'm finna kick my

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Speaker 1: feet up on.

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Speaker 2: The music beauty brand trip.

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Speaker 7: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: When you ain't even gonna have to be on a friend,

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Speaker 2: I'm going, I don't care, I'm gonna still go. But

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Speaker 2: I say I have to say no.

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Speaker 1: I want everybody around like if you surpassed me, hell.

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Speaker 2: The fuck you.

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Speaker 4: I love to hear you say that because I work

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Speaker 4: with so many, so many women in the line of

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Speaker 4: business that I do, and it's intentional and I just

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Speaker 4: really I never realized it until I started working women.

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Speaker 3: I was like, man, y'all are out for.

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Speaker 4: Each other and out for each other where it's like boom,

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Speaker 4: you can get behind it the way you say you

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Speaker 4: can get behind your friend. But then there's the other

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Speaker 4: side of it where it's like I am trying to

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Speaker 4: cut this bitch's throat.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm like, whoa.

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Speaker 3: What about the hello kitty hours and boyfriend? WHOA not

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Speaker 3: slit her throat?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Lit her fucking throat.

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Speaker 2: Women are just very competitive.

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Speaker 6: A lot of women, I feel like, are very competitive,

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Speaker 6: if by nature, but I just don't think that's how

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Speaker 6: you win in life. Like I definitely think you win

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Speaker 6: by pulling other people up and helping other people now,

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Speaker 6: but in saying that, I'm more of the type of

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Speaker 6: gonna push you more than what I feel like you

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Speaker 6: want to be pushed, because I can't want more for

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Speaker 6: you than what you want for yourself. And I think

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Speaker 6: a lot of the time us as people, when you

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Speaker 6: love somebody and you care about them and you feel

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Speaker 6: like they're not living up today full potential, you want

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Speaker 6: to push them. But if they don't see that for theirselves,

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Speaker 6: or they don't see their vision for themselves, then sometimes

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Speaker 6: I kind of feel like you doing it to no

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Speaker 6: end and you kind of wasting your time to yours.

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Speaker 6: And yeah, exactly right right now, No, no, I agree

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Speaker 6: with you.

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Speaker 4: I agree with you. You really have to. I mean, discernment.

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Speaker 4: What you said right there. The word that pulls to

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Speaker 4: me is discernment is so important for you as a boss.

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Speaker 4: You know, whatever version of a boss you feel you

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Speaker 4: are to be able to discern are.

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Speaker 3: You for me?

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Speaker 4: I am one of my superpowers is being able to

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Speaker 4: Because they feel like real kids, and so they eat

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Speaker 4: You know, anytime I'm talking to somebody, I'm always speaking

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 4: But I say that to say back to what we

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Speaker 4: things that they're not being recognized, you should talk about it, right,

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Speaker 4: And that's the point. Yes, And people should know because

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Speaker 3: As a woman, who you are as a man.

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Speaker 4: Let that speak for you, let the other person brag

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Speaker 3: Fucking, that's when you're doing some good fucking.

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Speaker 4: But if you say, if I'm telling your mind.

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Speaker 2: She was talking about.

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Speaker 3: I wanted a poor and you gave me.

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Speaker 2: A little drop. You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 4: That's the type of ship to make a woman hate you.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, but don't tell you that you hate. I

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Speaker 2: I'll tell you this though, but when when you got

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Speaker 6: Hate the worst time when we're reacting. When we're reacting,

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Speaker 1: Still into it. We want you to we going back

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Speaker 3: Oh, you're done about it.

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Speaker 2: You're done. It's the rape. Okay.

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Speaker 1: So before we get into the first topic, I do

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Speaker 4: I think all those fires that I spoke to you

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Speaker 3: We ad miss today. Okay. I was so jealous, like

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Speaker 7: For two seconds he was about to say, shit, man.

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Speaker 3: Black black, Oh don't judge me, period.

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Speaker 4: But the those fires that I spoke to y'all about

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Speaker 4: seven thousand fires, this industry has burnt away my.

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Speaker 3: Carrying energy, a lot of things.

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Speaker 1: I am.

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Speaker 3: I am a gun with no safety. I am.

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Speaker 4: You know how people be talking about like automatic sticks

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Speaker 4: and stuff like that, but it's illegal to have a switch.

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Speaker 3: It's like.

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Speaker 4: It's just like for me, it's like I've stripped away

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Speaker 3: So you don't speed and do something stupid. There's no

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Speaker 4: I'm going two hundred miles, I'm going three hundred because

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Speaker 4: I've done it. So now what you've seen is somebody

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Speaker 4: I'm the only one I feel I can hear it.

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Speaker 3: It feels right to me. When people have a problem.

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Speaker 4: With my nails, my heels, anything that I do, my hair,

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Speaker 3: I ain't never been able to change it. You ain't

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Speaker 3: It's like when.

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Speaker 2: I wish.

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Speaker 4: This is just like when you see me cut my hair.

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Speaker 4: Know that I ain't doing nothing else. Know that I

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Speaker 4: And don't talk to me.

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Speaker 3: Don't talk to me. I want one or five?

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Speaker 2: You have kids.

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Speaker 3: I have no kids.

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Speaker 2: You have no kids, you want onee or so I'm like,

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Speaker 3: I understand because because they're we lonely, and.

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Speaker 4: So I have four brothers and four sisters, but I

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Speaker 4: and I've got this far by myself. I didn't grow

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Speaker 3: Brothers and sisters. I grew up my mama. I grew

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Speaker 4: So I understand that you can be as successful as

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Speaker 4: you want to be by yourself and be lonely. I'm lonely,

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Speaker 4: but I'm not alone. I'm alone, but I'm not lonely

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Speaker 4: right way, I'm alone, but I'm not lonely. And so

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Speaker 4: I say that to say with the one of five, right,

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Speaker 4: already claiming that that's already a part of my DNA,

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Speaker 4: making you lame. I'm hurting your value. If I am

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Speaker 3: That's the truth. And that's the same thing with my children.

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Speaker 3: My child you know.

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Speaker 4: And and the one to five to more answer your

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Speaker 4: question is what I can afford stop having more children

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Speaker 4: than you can.

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Speaker 2: That's the word that's controversial. Now you shaking it up.

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Speaker 2: I don't like that. But he ain't lying out like

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Speaker 2: if people can't afford it, they shouldn't have. I've said

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Speaker 4: Don't don't walk into somebody's life to give them more

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Speaker 2: That's crazy because you're already putting them at a dc

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Speaker 2: Vani crazy.

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Speaker 4: You're gonna stop her for nine months, You're gonna stop her,

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Speaker 4: nine months. If you ain't ever been even good at

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Speaker 3: With your life or your jobs, or ever had other

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Speaker 3: type of kids, like you're like a business or a

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Speaker 3: dog or like I don't know, like things you know

445
00:22:08,680 --> 00:22:10,800
Speaker 3: that you had to actually take care of. You don't

446
00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:13,760
Speaker 3: know what you're doing. So all right, cool, the first one,

447
00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:15,600
Speaker 3: I'm going to give it to you. You deserved it,

448
00:22:16,000 --> 00:22:18,520
Speaker 3: she she, she wanted it. Great, y'all did it.

449
00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:23,280
Speaker 4: But moving two three two three and you're not at

450
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Speaker 4: two three level, that's scary.

451
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Speaker 2: And it's a choice.

452
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Speaker 3: It is a choice because you know what to do

453
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Speaker 3: with your business. You should. I mean, I'm a grown

454
00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:35,000
Speaker 3: man and I've been in control of my business forever.

455
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Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. All right, I was about

456
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Speaker 3: to say, but then I was like, you know what

457
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Speaker 3: you know?

458
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Speaker 6: I mean, the sectomies are available and their reversible. Just

459
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Speaker 6: wanted to put that out there.

460
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Speaker 3: That's what I said.

461
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Speaker 4: But you see, people don't want to invest in their

462
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Speaker 4: sex life. They don't want to invest in it. They

463
00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 4: just want to fuck. Yeah, I just want to be together.

464
00:22:53,920 --> 00:22:56,840
Speaker 4: They want to be addicted to us.

465
00:22:58,040 --> 00:22:59,920
Speaker 2: Because it's people are addicted to make it.

466
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Speaker 6: Children readers, Yeah, some people they they like have like

467
00:23:06,040 --> 00:23:08,560
Speaker 6: a they get turned on and aroused by the idea

468
00:23:08,600 --> 00:23:10,800
Speaker 6: of making children. It's like a certain word. I can't

469
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Speaker 6: remember what the term is called, but it's like a

470
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Speaker 6: real thing.

471
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Speaker 1: Well, I think, And that has to go with control too,

472
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Speaker 1: because sometimes in situations with women I can speak on

473
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Speaker 1: because I'm a woman, I've seen so a lot of

474
00:23:24,920 --> 00:23:27,760
Speaker 1: times a woman will have a baby because either she

475
00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:31,680
Speaker 1: wants to trap the guy or she wants to she

476
00:23:31,800 --> 00:23:34,639
Speaker 1: thinks it's gonna help the relationship, it's gonna bring us together.

477
00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:36,960
Speaker 1: And then on the male side, it'll be like they're

478
00:23:37,040 --> 00:23:41,240
Speaker 1: doing that because a control thing, Like they want to

479
00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:43,600
Speaker 1: have tabs on this woman. They want to So if

480
00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:46,920
Speaker 1: you have my child, you have to answer to me

481
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Speaker 1: whether especially when the woman is more successful too, because

482
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Speaker 1: a woman that's more successful and you're dating somebody who

483
00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:57,320
Speaker 1: is not as successful as you, they know that you're walking.

484
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Speaker 5: Out that door like that because I'm back. Once you

485
00:24:00,560 --> 00:24:04,639
Speaker 5: walk all that, don't and they'll do it. They'll do it,

486
00:24:04,760 --> 00:24:07,919
Speaker 5: but they be like, let me shoot it up, shoot.

487
00:24:07,680 --> 00:24:08,439
Speaker 2: That club up.

488
00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:11,040
Speaker 1: But that's why I'm not gonna lie to you. Like

489
00:24:11,240 --> 00:24:13,960
Speaker 1: I just feel like the family dynamic is not what

490
00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:16,880
Speaker 1: it used to be. Nobody values family no more.

491
00:24:17,000 --> 00:24:18,639
Speaker 3: Why not it needs to be.

492
00:24:19,119 --> 00:24:21,520
Speaker 4: What I'm gonna put out there on the table is

493
00:24:21,680 --> 00:24:25,320
Speaker 4: that the contract needs to change. I think the contract

494
00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:31,680
Speaker 4: our expectations are not meeting the quality of life. People

495
00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:35,080
Speaker 4: are expecting tradition because traditionally this is how things went.

496
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Speaker 4: But in reality, if you really look at it, people

497
00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:42,320
Speaker 4: don't know how to be in a relationship and end

498
00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:44,159
Speaker 4: up having kids before they understand how to be in

499
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Speaker 4: a relationship.

500
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Speaker 3: You know, that's true.

501
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:48,840
Speaker 4: People date people, and people think that the people that

502
00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:50,919
Speaker 4: they have sex with the most is that's your person,

503
00:24:52,119 --> 00:24:53,359
Speaker 4: and that's not the case.

504
00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:56,359
Speaker 3: However, this is your sexual person.

505
00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:59,320
Speaker 4: But if you're not truly understanding or taking the time

506
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Speaker 4: to understand who that person's character.

507
00:25:02,119 --> 00:25:05,160
Speaker 3: Is, that's not your person. Buddy.

508
00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:08,119
Speaker 2: You are very emotionally intelling you are you are.

509
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Speaker 6: And I also felt like something just spoke to me

510
00:25:11,520 --> 00:25:13,840
Speaker 6: when you said that, and then when you spoke on that,

511
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Speaker 6: I don't know. I also just feel like back in

512
00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:19,240
Speaker 6: the day, to a certain extent, I do think that

513
00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:21,440
Speaker 6: there were happy families, but I think it was also

514
00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:24,560
Speaker 6: a lot of suffering, and people don't really talk about that.

515
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:28,240
Speaker 6: Like a lot of suffering to make the family got work,

516
00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:30,680
Speaker 6: and now people don't care.

517
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Speaker 2: To really do that anymore.

518
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Speaker 6: Like it's kind of like I'm choosing me. I do

519
00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:38,239
Speaker 6: want my kids to be happy. I don't want them

520
00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:40,840
Speaker 6: to experience a broken home. But also, if I'm not

521
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Speaker 6: happy in this situation, I'm not just staying for the

522
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:44,879
Speaker 6: sake of my kids. And I feel like a lot

523
00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:47,399
Speaker 6: of people don't touch on that. And that's something that

524
00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:51,480
Speaker 6: went on a lot back in the day with our parents, grandparents,

525
00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:52,879
Speaker 6: great grandparents, et cetera.

526
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Speaker 4: Our mother suffered, they did, my mother suffered. My father's

527
00:25:57,400 --> 00:26:00,920
Speaker 4: worked way too hard, and a mother's suffered. Nobody wants

528
00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:04,560
Speaker 4: to hear that, especially not people from that generation. Right,

529
00:26:05,160 --> 00:26:07,520
Speaker 4: But when we look at it as the intelligent adults

530
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:09,119
Speaker 4: that we are, you suffer.

531
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Speaker 3: Honey, you're not living. You're not going through that. Girl,

532
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 3: you did that, I'm not doing that.

533
00:26:17,520 --> 00:26:20,720
Speaker 4: And because your mother is still a woman, it's a

534
00:26:20,800 --> 00:26:22,880
Speaker 4: part of that where he can go both ways where

535
00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:25,200
Speaker 4: she could either be like that's my daughter or like

536
00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:26,040
Speaker 4: I hate that bitch.

537
00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:29,000
Speaker 2: Your own because you doing something that she didn't.

538
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:32,359
Speaker 3: Mama could be your biggest hater as a woman, and.

539
00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:35,840
Speaker 1: I'm so blessed recipes to my mother. But I'm so blessed,

540
00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:39,080
Speaker 1: Like I had a mother that was like my biggest fan.

541
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Speaker 3: My mom is your biggest hater?

542
00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:43,760
Speaker 2: Oh my god. Yes.

543
00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:45,880
Speaker 1: But I see a lot of women make videos they're

544
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:49,240
Speaker 1: talking about how their mom like was their first hater.

545
00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:50,240
Speaker 2: But crazy.

546
00:26:50,480 --> 00:26:53,000
Speaker 1: But I'll say this, though, you have to realize, first

547
00:26:53,040 --> 00:26:55,840
Speaker 1: of all, a lot of times they had the baby

548
00:26:55,920 --> 00:26:58,040
Speaker 1: to keep them to keep, to keep your dad, and

549
00:26:58,040 --> 00:26:59,560
Speaker 1: it didn't work. So every time they look at you,

550
00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:02,080
Speaker 1: you're remind her. And I'm not saying that it's okay

551
00:27:02,880 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 1: or that it's not or whatever, because I'm not judging

552
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:08,000
Speaker 1: because I don't know how that feels. But I will say, like,

553
00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:11,840
Speaker 1: I had a situation years years ago, and this guy

554
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:14,640
Speaker 1: was just like preaching to me like, oh, my mama

555
00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:15,680
Speaker 1: worked two jobs.

556
00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:17,000
Speaker 2: She did this, and she did that, and I talked

557
00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:17,760
Speaker 2: about this world.

558
00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:19,680
Speaker 1: Said and I told him, I said, your mom was depressed.

559
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:24,159
Speaker 1: You keep telling me your mom. You keep telling me

560
00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:26,200
Speaker 1: how much of a woman that your mom was. And

561
00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:28,159
Speaker 1: she had school jobs and she was taking care of

562
00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 1: all four of y'all. Y'all was in the two bedroom

563
00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:32,400
Speaker 1: apartment and she made it work. I said, your mom

564
00:27:32,520 --> 00:27:34,679
Speaker 1: was depressed, and I'm.

565
00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:36,680
Speaker 2: Surprised that she made it for her eighties because she

566
00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:39,200
Speaker 2: was ready to jump off the bridge. She couldn't take

567
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:42,359
Speaker 2: it no more. Goddamn it. You better be lucky she

568
00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:43,520
Speaker 2: made it to your graduation.

569
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Speaker 1: Hold, Annie, that's the thing we brag about Black struggle.

570
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:53,760
Speaker 1: That's what I was nothing to brag about.

571
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:54,679
Speaker 2: And then we.

572
00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:56,760
Speaker 1: Condemned people who like, oh, yeah, I grew up with

573
00:27:56,800 --> 00:27:58,639
Speaker 1: a pool in my backyard, and they'd be like, you

574
00:27:58,720 --> 00:27:59,760
Speaker 1: ain't been through nothing.

575
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:02,399
Speaker 2: You ain't been through shape or or.

576
00:28:02,480 --> 00:28:05,520
Speaker 6: They condemn people who decide to leave relationships that they're

577
00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:06,119
Speaker 6: unhappy in.

578
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:11,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, to be a single period, of course, but the breakthrough,

579
00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:13,800
Speaker 2: we're there, you know what I mean, Not this therapy.

580
00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:16,240
Speaker 3: Hey, that's the thing, man, that that is.

581
00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:19,680
Speaker 4: All these things are important, because all these things affect

582
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:22,239
Speaker 4: everything that's going on, the type of music that you hear,

583
00:28:22,680 --> 00:28:25,399
Speaker 4: the type of fashion, the type of just approach that

584
00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:26,600
Speaker 4: we take with each other when we.

585
00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:27,920
Speaker 3: See each other out in the wild.

586
00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:33,159
Speaker 4: You know, your mindset of whatever your roster, man looks like,

587
00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:34,320
Speaker 4: it's a reason that they're there.

588
00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:39,000
Speaker 3: And then whatever your roster You know what I'm saying,

589
00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:40,800
Speaker 3: it's the reason why they're there, you know.

590
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:46,240
Speaker 4: And you you build these different layers to protect your heart,

591
00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:51,160
Speaker 4: protect your business, both of you in the midst of it.

592
00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 3: And on the other side, it's good. Like really, to

593
00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:57,160
Speaker 3: take it back, what you said is like, really, women

594
00:28:57,360 --> 00:28:58,560
Speaker 3: stepped into that place.

595
00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:02,360
Speaker 4: Us as men, we've been there, bro, we've been like

596
00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:07,560
Speaker 4: having boundaries and doing bullshit. Yeah, like we've been having

597
00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:10,520
Speaker 4: our k either too, trying to our best to be

598
00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:14,080
Speaker 4: the most p that we can be on every type shit.

599
00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:18,240
Speaker 3: But now women have said like, Okay, it's our turn,

600
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:21,560
Speaker 3: it's our time. We're doing it. It's happening, and that's

601
00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:22,960
Speaker 3: what you're seeing right now.

602
00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:27,600
Speaker 4: And for because of that, the word tradition it couldn't

603
00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:30,840
Speaker 4: have a really negative connotation to it, because of the

604
00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:35,120
Speaker 4: fact of when people love tradition when it works in

605
00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:42,280
Speaker 4: their favor in fact, but when oh, things change and

606
00:29:42,400 --> 00:29:44,160
Speaker 4: it doesn't work in the favor, then you got people,

607
00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:45,120
Speaker 4: you know, going crazy.

608
00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:48,480
Speaker 1: It's crazy because a lot of men they hate patriarchy,

609
00:29:48,560 --> 00:29:49,320
Speaker 1: but they created it.

610
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:53,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean he said a word to when he

611
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:57,200
Speaker 6: said boundaries. Men have always said boundaries. Oh yeah, they

612
00:29:57,280 --> 00:29:59,720
Speaker 6: don't negotiate on their boundaries and us as women. We

613
00:29:59,800 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 6: will every time if me unhappy with something, he's going

614
00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:05,840
Speaker 6: to leave. It doesn't matter how the other person feels.

615
00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:09,040
Speaker 6: It's about me and my peace and my sanity. If

616
00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:11,640
Speaker 6: I'm not happy, I'm leaving. Women we will try to

617
00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:14,640
Speaker 6: like conform, and we'll try to make things work, and

618
00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:16,680
Speaker 6: we'll try to give grace and do all of these things.

619
00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:19,160
Speaker 6: When it's like you already bended so much on the

620
00:30:19,240 --> 00:30:22,080
Speaker 6: boundaries that you already said, and now you looking in

621
00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:24,400
Speaker 6: the mirror, you don't even know who you are anymore?

622
00:30:24,840 --> 00:30:29,760
Speaker 3: What are these boundaries that you put there because maneuvered

623
00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:30,360
Speaker 3: around them?

624
00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:35,200
Speaker 4: When your boundaries start getting you know, criticized or conflicted,

625
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:38,840
Speaker 4: it throws you off as a person spiritually, mentally, physically.

626
00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:41,880
Speaker 6: Why do you think it's easier for men to do that, though,

627
00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:43,920
Speaker 6: like to set boundaries than it is for women.

628
00:30:44,800 --> 00:30:49,640
Speaker 4: I mean, traditionally we are taught to conquer. Traditionally we're

629
00:30:49,680 --> 00:30:52,920
Speaker 4: supposed to leave in the midst of When I do

630
00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:57,240
Speaker 4: these type of interviews, and men always dm men like you.

631
00:30:57,360 --> 00:31:00,960
Speaker 3: Are you this this a trade that nigga a trading

632
00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:02,600
Speaker 3: right And I'm just telling truth.

633
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:04,640
Speaker 4: It is what it is because I look like this

634
00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:06,760
Speaker 4: I present myself like this, and then I have conversations

635
00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:11,480
Speaker 4: like this, right, but the actual question one more time.

636
00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:15,200
Speaker 6: Oh, I was just saying, why do you think men

637
00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:18,000
Speaker 6: it's easier for men to set boundaries than it is

638
00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:19,400
Speaker 6: for women to say it boundaries?

639
00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 3: Right?

640
00:31:19,840 --> 00:31:24,080
Speaker 4: And so to answer that question, from my opinion is

641
00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:26,840
Speaker 4: we When that's all I was gonna say, When a

642
00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:35,080
Speaker 4: man is leading correctly, life is perfect. When a man

643
00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:38,080
Speaker 4: is leading correctly, whatever correctly means to both of you,

644
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:41,080
Speaker 4: life is grand.

645
00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:47,720
Speaker 3: The big g man, what big r big god, big

646
00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:49,240
Speaker 3: fucking I'm.

647
00:31:49,120 --> 00:31:49,680
Speaker 2: Not gonna lie.

648
00:31:49,680 --> 00:31:52,200
Speaker 1: I feel like every time something has gone wrong, it

649
00:31:52,240 --> 00:31:55,080
Speaker 1: is because it was that switch up.

650
00:31:57,600 --> 00:31:59,520
Speaker 3: Switch is the worst. I can speak that because.

651
00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:02,920
Speaker 2: I'm just yes, and I hate it because you know

652
00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:04,240
Speaker 2: I did do my research.

653
00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:06,800
Speaker 7: It's part.

654
00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:12,480
Speaker 2: I believe. I want to finish.

655
00:32:13,920 --> 00:32:21,400
Speaker 4: Boundaries, but so boom because we are traditionally and you

656
00:32:21,480 --> 00:32:27,520
Speaker 4: know doctrine to lead, A great leader knows to set boundaries.

657
00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:29,720
Speaker 4: A great leader has to set boundaries. A great leader

658
00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:32,280
Speaker 4: has to have vision. Vision allows you to set boundary

659
00:32:32,920 --> 00:32:35,400
Speaker 4: because you can see that she's gonna fuck my life up.

660
00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:41,520
Speaker 3: Sometimes. Because that's what I speak about. The And if

661
00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:44,120
Speaker 3: you ever do the t on me or the research

662
00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:44,400
Speaker 3: on me.

663
00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:49,080
Speaker 4: Any woman that would have an issue with me is

664
00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:52,160
Speaker 4: because the switch came, and it's like, why the fuck

665
00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:54,200
Speaker 4: the switch, But because I had the vision to see

666
00:32:54,240 --> 00:32:57,160
Speaker 4: that I'm not good for you, not that you're not

667
00:32:57,240 --> 00:32:57,680
Speaker 4: good for me.

668
00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:03,120
Speaker 1: I'm not good for you, and you were honest with that,

669
00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:05,000
Speaker 1: like you told them that, like I'm not good for you,

670
00:33:05,080 --> 00:33:07,360
Speaker 1: but not good because of the vision that you are.

671
00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:09,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, where I'm going and what I'm seeing, who you are,

672
00:33:10,520 --> 00:33:12,920
Speaker 4: where I'm going and where I'm seeing, where you are

673
00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:15,280
Speaker 4: and what it takes for you to be where I'm at.

674
00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:17,959
Speaker 4: It's not fair because I already see where you're at

675
00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:21,120
Speaker 4: the where I don't have the extra time to put

676
00:33:21,160 --> 00:33:21,840
Speaker 4: that work into you.

677
00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:24,080
Speaker 3: I need you to already be beating me.

678
00:33:24,240 --> 00:33:27,240
Speaker 4: I'm like, I want you to even be better than me,

679
00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:31,280
Speaker 4: be better than I don't care, like I don't care,

680
00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:33,920
Speaker 4: Like I'm an incredible leader, so I don't care.

681
00:33:34,400 --> 00:33:37,600
Speaker 2: And I think you are more so talking about visions aligning.

682
00:33:37,280 --> 00:33:40,200
Speaker 4: To yeah, like you're like you don't do the same

683
00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:42,440
Speaker 4: thing that I do or work for me. You know,

684
00:33:42,600 --> 00:33:45,480
Speaker 4: I either want that type of wife or like, hey,

685
00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:49,200
Speaker 4: great vision. It aligns I want to support you President

686
00:33:49,320 --> 00:33:51,600
Speaker 4: first lady, you know what I'm saying type vibe like

687
00:33:52,160 --> 00:33:54,000
Speaker 4: be doing great ship that I could show. I just

688
00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:56,480
Speaker 4: want to show up, and my presence is a present

689
00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:58,680
Speaker 4: to what you're doing because it's already lived.

690
00:33:59,320 --> 00:34:04,320
Speaker 3: It's already you got bars for days like this is

691
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 3: you for real all the time? I know it.

692
00:34:08,280 --> 00:34:10,919
Speaker 4: But to answer your question, which it kind of puts

693
00:34:11,000 --> 00:34:13,960
Speaker 4: me in a in the doghouse, is I don't always

694
00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:16,640
Speaker 4: communicate that switch as I had as I grew old.

695
00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:20,239
Speaker 4: And that's the libra of that, because some people, to me,

696
00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:22,920
Speaker 4: don't deserve to know. It's like, bro, I'm out of here.

697
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:27,319
Speaker 7: That's me out of here that I'm happy to tell

698
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:28,000
Speaker 7: you nothing.

699
00:34:32,520 --> 00:34:36,719
Speaker 6: Now, but I'm like hey until I'm not like hey,

700
00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:40,239
Speaker 6: like I'm gonna I don't just I truly feel like

701
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:44,120
Speaker 6: I have never just one hundred ghosted somebody I was dating.

702
00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:47,080
Speaker 6: I feel like I told you what you were doing

703
00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:50,440
Speaker 6: that I did not like, that was irritating me, or

704
00:34:50,520 --> 00:34:53,080
Speaker 6: it needed to change or it didn't work for me.

705
00:34:53,440 --> 00:34:55,560
Speaker 2: And then if you didn't change it, then if I

706
00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:56,560
Speaker 2: stopped talking to you.

707
00:34:56,640 --> 00:34:59,759
Speaker 6: When I cut off communication, I'm not wrong and I

708
00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:02,040
Speaker 6: don't necessarily feel like I owe you that because I'm

709
00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:04,719
Speaker 6: done talking, like I don't care. I feel like people

710
00:35:04,840 --> 00:35:07,000
Speaker 6: keep talking when they want to work things out.

711
00:35:07,480 --> 00:35:08,040
Speaker 2: I think when you.

712
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:11,600
Speaker 6: Stop communicating with somebody, that's clear that like I'm done

713
00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:12,120
Speaker 6: with these.

714
00:35:12,239 --> 00:35:14,359
Speaker 3: I'm overar eat, ghost hate, I'm out.

715
00:35:14,640 --> 00:35:15,879
Speaker 2: It ain't nothing else to talk about.

716
00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:18,560
Speaker 3: And so to go back to what we're saying, it's

717
00:35:18,760 --> 00:35:20,720
Speaker 3: a same exact person.

718
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:23,520
Speaker 4: Like I have deep prayers because I'd be having a

719
00:35:23,600 --> 00:35:25,160
Speaker 4: lot of things going on, so I'll be having to

720
00:35:25,239 --> 00:35:28,680
Speaker 4: ask God for we be having conversation, they get really

721
00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:29,160
Speaker 4: really deep.

722
00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 3: And when I get out of a.

723
00:35:30,080 --> 00:35:33,520
Speaker 4: Really good prayer or a really good meditation, sometimes things

724
00:35:33,560 --> 00:35:35,480
Speaker 4: just pop to me like I need to cut you off, yop,

725
00:35:36,320 --> 00:35:38,560
Speaker 4: Like it just literally like just like oh what the hell?

726
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:41,960
Speaker 3: Like I will ask God, who do I need to

727
00:35:42,040 --> 00:35:43,480
Speaker 3: cut off? Like what's going on?

728
00:35:43,680 --> 00:35:46,200
Speaker 4: Like something I don't feel spiritually right? Who do I

729
00:35:46,280 --> 00:35:47,919
Speaker 4: need to cut off? And if it show me, my girl,

730
00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:48,960
Speaker 4: you are gone?

731
00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:51,239
Speaker 6: And I feel like God, But I feel like God

732
00:35:51,280 --> 00:35:53,000
Speaker 6: will show people too, And that's where a lot of

733
00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:56,240
Speaker 6: people be fucking up, because God will show you and then.

734
00:35:56,120 --> 00:36:02,200
Speaker 2: They be like, what Jesus I didn't say him? And

735
00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:04,080
Speaker 2: That's why you can't ask for what you're not ready.

736
00:36:04,760 --> 00:36:07,400
Speaker 1: I really feel like this episode is so crazy because

737
00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:11,919
Speaker 1: I and I'm not look y'all knows up such telling

738
00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:16,720
Speaker 1: you last night that was in my prayer. I said, God,

739
00:36:17,320 --> 00:36:21,480
Speaker 1: please protect me from the people that are not supposed

740
00:36:21,520 --> 00:36:29,080
Speaker 1: to be around what you was thinking of that boy's

741
00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:32,560
Speaker 1: God protect me.

742
00:36:33,440 --> 00:36:35,480
Speaker 3: That's when I said, I just want to leave.

743
00:36:36,320 --> 00:36:36,960
Speaker 2: No, but I did.

744
00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:37,560
Speaker 7: I did.

745
00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:39,239
Speaker 2: I said that because I was like.

746
00:36:40,040 --> 00:36:43,640
Speaker 1: I am, I'm very forgiving. I like I am just

747
00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:46,960
Speaker 1: like my own worst enemy. But I will say I

748
00:36:47,080 --> 00:36:49,160
Speaker 1: did pray that last night. I was like, Man, please

749
00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:51,279
Speaker 1: protect me from the people that I have to watch.

750
00:36:51,360 --> 00:36:52,480
Speaker 1: I like to be around people that.

751
00:36:52,600 --> 00:36:54,160
Speaker 3: Like, I know you got my back.

752
00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:56,480
Speaker 2: I know we locked in and it ain't no switching up,

753
00:36:56,920 --> 00:36:57,560
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying.

754
00:36:58,040 --> 00:37:01,120
Speaker 1: So I had that prayer last night because and honestly,

755
00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:02,960
Speaker 1: I'm now at the stage where I feel like I'm

756
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:06,360
Speaker 1: more emotionally intelligent to where I'm paying attention to the signs.

757
00:37:06,480 --> 00:37:08,520
Speaker 2: Because that used to be me. I would pray, I

758
00:37:08,560 --> 00:37:11,759
Speaker 2: would pray God just show me, and he would show me.

759
00:37:12,360 --> 00:37:13,480
Speaker 2: And I mean it would be like.

760
00:37:15,440 --> 00:37:19,759
Speaker 1: I had God, cousin, get your ass up off that flow, bitch,

761
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:22,120
Speaker 1: and I would be like, but I love.

762
00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:25,840
Speaker 2: Him or I love how this is my friend, and

763
00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:26,839
Speaker 2: I just wouldn't listen.

764
00:37:26,920 --> 00:37:28,479
Speaker 1: But I feel like now it's like, girl, you're gonna

765
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:30,200
Speaker 1: save yourself a lot of pain and heart that if

766
00:37:30,200 --> 00:37:32,440
Speaker 1: you just listen and pay attention.

767
00:37:33,760 --> 00:37:36,239
Speaker 6: Not before we get into the first topic, I do

768
00:37:36,840 --> 00:37:40,640
Speaker 6: want to talk about your career a little bit, because

769
00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:43,799
Speaker 6: everybody knows you as this amazing artist, but I want

770
00:37:43,840 --> 00:37:46,440
Speaker 6: to talk about you a little bit more behind the scenes,

771
00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:48,640
Speaker 6: as like a producer and a writer, because you're an

772
00:37:48,680 --> 00:37:49,879
Speaker 6: amazing producer and writer.

773
00:37:50,239 --> 00:37:51,880
Speaker 2: Oh could you touch on that a little bit.

774
00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:54,799
Speaker 4: It started back in twenty fifteen when I first got

775
00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:58,680
Speaker 4: a chance to do a record for Rihanna and DJ Mustard.

776
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:01,640
Speaker 4: It was the first time somebody ever asked me to

777
00:38:01,680 --> 00:38:05,680
Speaker 4: come and do writing. And Rihanna didn't show up, so

778
00:38:05,920 --> 00:38:09,719
Speaker 4: I didn't get to meet her, and must didn't show

779
00:38:09,760 --> 00:38:14,759
Speaker 4: up either to me answer. But the beautiful thing about it,

780
00:38:14,880 --> 00:38:18,240
Speaker 4: I still took advantage of the opportunity because he sent beats,

781
00:38:18,640 --> 00:38:20,200
Speaker 4: and so I took one of the beats, and actually

782
00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 4: I made a song in that record and I'm going gold,

783
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:25,360
Speaker 4: and I made a good It helped me build a

784
00:38:25,440 --> 00:38:28,560
Speaker 4: whole fan base on the West coast because I showed

785
00:38:28,600 --> 00:38:32,200
Speaker 4: up and I'm a big sign of I didn't go

786
00:38:32,239 --> 00:38:34,279
Speaker 4: to school for anything, so I don't know anything. I

787
00:38:34,440 --> 00:38:37,839
Speaker 4: just experienced things and learned from there that old school shit.

788
00:38:38,520 --> 00:38:42,160
Speaker 4: And so in twenty fifteen when that happened, it you know,

789
00:38:42,360 --> 00:38:45,000
Speaker 4: made me more privy to oh, I'm all right, I'm

790
00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:45,600
Speaker 4: gonna write for people.

791
00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:46,319
Speaker 3: I'm a rite for people.

792
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:49,759
Speaker 4: And you know, wasn't landing nothing, landing nothing twenty fifth

793
00:38:49,840 --> 00:38:53,800
Speaker 4: they ended the twenty sixteen nothing, twenty seventeen nothing, and

794
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:57,880
Speaker 4: then twenty eighteen, Oh no, God just said all right,

795
00:38:57,920 --> 00:39:02,759
Speaker 4: it's time I got better and caught some stuff for

796
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:08,239
Speaker 4: Kevin Gates, then helped launch Bad Babies career, and then

797
00:39:08,400 --> 00:39:11,520
Speaker 4: from there it's just like people now, when you do

798
00:39:11,640 --> 00:39:13,960
Speaker 4: something in my industry, kind of like for the first

799
00:39:14,000 --> 00:39:17,680
Speaker 4: time or success comes there, everybody come under that door that.

800
00:39:17,719 --> 00:39:19,360
Speaker 3: You open, like, oh, hey, cook, can you write for her?

801
00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:21,080
Speaker 3: Can you write for her? Her?

802
00:39:21,360 --> 00:39:24,000
Speaker 4: Because nobody knows how to help women or work with women.

803
00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:27,840
Speaker 4: They just like to make money off of them. And

804
00:39:27,960 --> 00:39:29,440
Speaker 4: once I realized that, I was like, you know what,

805
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:33,440
Speaker 4: let me take my time and actually try and make

806
00:39:33,680 --> 00:39:37,280
Speaker 4: these women cold at what they do. Everybody was everybody

807
00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:38,640
Speaker 4: was cool with a woman being cool?

808
00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:44,840
Speaker 3: Was she cool? She cool? Want to be missy? You

809
00:39:44,880 --> 00:39:46,560
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying. And even in the midst of

810
00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:50,719
Speaker 3: Lauren like they persecuted her through everything. You know what

811
00:39:50,800 --> 00:39:53,560
Speaker 3: I'm saying. It's hard to be great as a woman.

812
00:39:53,880 --> 00:39:57,760
Speaker 4: And I saw that and I could share greatness because

813
00:39:58,000 --> 00:39:59,479
Speaker 4: I feel in my spirit I'm great.

814
00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:02,520
Speaker 3: I was like, I got extra greatness to share and so.

815
00:40:04,120 --> 00:40:07,719
Speaker 4: That helped me to then go from writing music to

816
00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 4: about like twenty twenty becoming the.

817
00:40:10,080 --> 00:40:13,480
Speaker 3: Creative director for this artist Boom. I was working with her.

818
00:40:14,360 --> 00:40:16,800
Speaker 4: We called this crazy record with like number three on

819
00:40:17,840 --> 00:40:19,719
Speaker 4: not because we want to brag about it. That's why

820
00:40:19,760 --> 00:40:21,680
Speaker 4: you don't see me talking about it, me talking to

821
00:40:21,760 --> 00:40:23,239
Speaker 4: you about it now, because you asked me, and I

822
00:40:23,280 --> 00:40:27,840
Speaker 4: appreciate that question. But we come into people's lives, women's

823
00:40:27,920 --> 00:40:33,279
Speaker 4: lives to make you incredible because nobody's trying to make

824
00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:34,000
Speaker 4: you incredible.

825
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:36,880
Speaker 3: I'm trying to make you incredible, Yes.

826
00:40:36,760 --> 00:40:38,840
Speaker 6: Because you do a lot of creative direction for a

827
00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:43,360
Speaker 6: lot of music here, makeup nails, directing it, cover whatever.

828
00:40:43,640 --> 00:40:46,959
Speaker 4: Like we have been able and blessed enough to work

829
00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:49,280
Speaker 4: with a lot of women at R and B and rapped.

830
00:40:50,560 --> 00:40:52,560
Speaker 3: To do all these things, you know.

831
00:40:53,520 --> 00:40:56,400
Speaker 4: And it's just one of those things where it's like,

832
00:40:57,040 --> 00:40:59,600
Speaker 4: because I've spent so much time working on my craft,

833
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:03,080
Speaker 4: not really chasing fame. So that's why it's like, I'm

834
00:41:03,160 --> 00:41:05,480
Speaker 4: famous as the fuck. But at the same time, if

835
00:41:05,520 --> 00:41:07,239
Speaker 4: you ask the second person, they'll be like, what you're

836
00:41:07,239 --> 00:41:08,840
Speaker 4: talking about a nigga for all I know him for

837
00:41:09,000 --> 00:41:11,680
Speaker 4: is all go everything. And I feel you, bro, know whatever,

838
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:12,680
Speaker 4: but you not.

839
00:41:13,040 --> 00:41:15,239
Speaker 3: You don't know me. You don't know what's going on, bro.

840
00:41:15,640 --> 00:41:18,640
Speaker 4: And and that's totally fine because the artists that I like,

841
00:41:18,760 --> 00:41:19,960
Speaker 4: you don't know what's going on with them.

842
00:41:20,280 --> 00:41:21,759
Speaker 3: What is Andre is doing right now?

843
00:41:22,040 --> 00:41:25,080
Speaker 2: We have no clue, but he doing a life with

844
00:41:25,200 --> 00:41:25,760
Speaker 2: that flu.

845
00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:30,640
Speaker 4: Blue and dropping Shoe Brew and dry ass albums, just

846
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:33,080
Speaker 4: being great, you know. And once again, what do we

847
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:37,440
Speaker 4: say about greatness? It goes unspoken. So I believe that

848
00:41:38,120 --> 00:41:42,680
Speaker 4: the most high my ecosystem, my universe around me helps

849
00:41:42,760 --> 00:41:45,800
Speaker 4: me to be great. And I'm once again whether my

850
00:41:45,920 --> 00:41:48,680
Speaker 4: Karate instructures to teach me you are not the master

851
00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:51,239
Speaker 4: of anything that you don't have students in so I'm

852
00:41:51,320 --> 00:41:54,040
Speaker 4: not looking at these artists or these young women that

853
00:41:54,080 --> 00:41:56,120
Speaker 4: we work with as students or anything like that. But

854
00:41:56,680 --> 00:41:59,680
Speaker 4: we are more here to be your accountability partner because

855
00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:03,640
Speaker 4: inability in my industry go so far. If it was

856
00:42:03,840 --> 00:42:06,600
Speaker 4: only if it wasn't the two of you, this would

857
00:42:06,600 --> 00:42:09,480
Speaker 4: be so hard by yourself. Oh yeah, you couldn't do it,

858
00:42:09,560 --> 00:42:12,040
Speaker 4: now that you couldn't do it. But because y'all have

859
00:42:12,239 --> 00:42:15,240
Speaker 4: each other, that's what makes this ship increble.

860
00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:17,960
Speaker 2: Don't need somebody to.

861
00:42:21,440 --> 00:42:28,120
Speaker 4: You felt it, not the little So that's that's what

862
00:42:28,280 --> 00:42:31,000
Speaker 4: it is. Is Like you know, I got Dad talks

863
00:42:31,000 --> 00:42:33,920
Speaker 4: on this my brand. Dad is a nickname that I

864
00:42:34,160 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 4: was given a long time ago. It's an acronym for

865
00:42:37,200 --> 00:42:40,640
Speaker 4: destroying all doubt. But a lot of people just like

866
00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:42,920
Speaker 4: your like if people got spirit animals. I'm like your

867
00:42:42,920 --> 00:42:43,520
Speaker 4: spirit father.

868
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:45,080
Speaker 1: I like that.

869
00:42:45,400 --> 00:42:45,680
Speaker 3: See that.

870
00:42:45,800 --> 00:42:47,800
Speaker 2: Though I can see you being a spirit fault, I

871
00:42:47,960 --> 00:42:50,240
Speaker 2: can't too. Like I am pleasantly surprised.

872
00:42:50,280 --> 00:42:52,160
Speaker 1: Like we met you at the BT Awards, I was like, okay,

873
00:42:52,239 --> 00:42:55,040
Speaker 1: he cool, Like he cool, but you are actually very

874
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:56,120
Speaker 1: extremely intelligent.

875
00:42:57,080 --> 00:42:57,279
Speaker 3: Like that.

876
00:42:57,880 --> 00:43:01,640
Speaker 2: We see each other time a ball? What we drinking?

877
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:02,960
Speaker 2: The ball? Okay?

878
00:43:03,200 --> 00:43:05,880
Speaker 8: So in honor of our guest, mister Trinidad James. We

879
00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:08,120
Speaker 8: are gonna call this one the Double Duck.

880
00:43:08,960 --> 00:43:17,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, that was wet.

881
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:18,279
Speaker 3: I like that.

882
00:43:24,560 --> 00:43:25,959
Speaker 2: So this is the Double Dutch.

883
00:43:26,040 --> 00:43:29,400
Speaker 8: It has some a black owned bourbon, It has some

884
00:43:29,640 --> 00:43:33,479
Speaker 8: coconut liqueur. We have some passion fruit puree, some lime juice,

885
00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:36,279
Speaker 8: and some pineapple syrup, and then we've garnished it with

886
00:43:36,400 --> 00:43:39,240
Speaker 8: a dehydrated pineapple and a skeward lime wheel.

887
00:43:39,360 --> 00:43:43,920
Speaker 2: So this is the Double Dutch. Cheers y'allus episode, and

888
00:43:44,000 --> 00:43:48,759
Speaker 2: it's so good. Tell us about it. Men's Honor a

889
00:43:48,800 --> 00:43:49,400
Speaker 2: little bottle.

890
00:43:50,440 --> 00:43:55,520
Speaker 3: We love you. I love just learning. I don't know anything.

891
00:43:56,000 --> 00:43:59,120
Speaker 3: I just learned ship shout out to Shout out to

892
00:43:59,200 --> 00:43:59,759
Speaker 3: my brother Eric.

893
00:44:01,440 --> 00:44:03,560
Speaker 4: I've known Eric for a long time from basketball because

894
00:44:03,600 --> 00:44:09,160
Speaker 4: that's my background, and he is like the global ambassador

895
00:44:09,719 --> 00:44:12,760
Speaker 4: for kind of really just putting people on black owned spirits.

896
00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:17,320
Speaker 4: Like he's immaculate with black owned spirits, and he's honestly

897
00:44:17,360 --> 00:44:19,719
Speaker 4: been teaching me. So Headman's Honor is one of the

898
00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:23,160
Speaker 4: brands that he's been showing me. And I've been kind of,

899
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:25,200
Speaker 4: like you know, coming to their events and seeing what's

900
00:44:25,239 --> 00:44:28,279
Speaker 4: going on here in Atlanta. Locally, and I don't think

901
00:44:28,280 --> 00:44:31,000
Speaker 4: they're from Atlanta, but just in Jennial. For me, I

902
00:44:31,120 --> 00:44:33,200
Speaker 4: just love supporting black owned businesses. That makes sense. I

903
00:44:33,400 --> 00:44:37,200
Speaker 4: love when we do great business. Good business is cute,

904
00:44:37,239 --> 00:44:40,279
Speaker 4: but great business is not that easy. And when people

905
00:44:40,360 --> 00:44:42,640
Speaker 4: do great business, for me, I like to just salute

906
00:44:42,640 --> 00:44:46,840
Speaker 4: it and you know, support it, which.

907
00:44:46,719 --> 00:44:50,520
Speaker 2: Is like an umbrella for different black owned brands. Oh

908
00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:55,520
Speaker 2: so a little song ten to one Sierra's rum is

909
00:44:55,600 --> 00:45:01,440
Speaker 2: also under what about wow? Uncle Neary? Who is Ernest?

910
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:09,120
Speaker 2: I forgot? I forgot the u C I know art

911
00:45:09,320 --> 00:45:12,200
Speaker 2: is I know a little artist Ernie. I know Arnest,

912
00:45:12,239 --> 00:45:16,200
Speaker 2: you know around the way. That's what you got him confused.

913
00:45:16,239 --> 00:45:16,719
Speaker 2: That's all right.

914
00:45:16,760 --> 00:45:21,399
Speaker 1: I knew what you meant the nearest right here, that's

915
00:45:21,440 --> 00:45:23,279
Speaker 1: all you meant. That's all right, that's all right.

916
00:45:23,280 --> 00:45:25,600
Speaker 4: But Amazon and everybody, you know, if you come to

917
00:45:25,640 --> 00:45:28,879
Speaker 4: Atlanta or they in different parts of pockets of the US,

918
00:45:29,760 --> 00:45:33,440
Speaker 4: if you like supporting black owned spirits, Amazon and Uncle NAAR's,

919
00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:37,759
Speaker 4: you know. For me, I'm not signed to anybody, just

920
00:45:38,000 --> 00:45:40,200
Speaker 4: like supporting black owned business when I can. You know

921
00:45:40,280 --> 00:45:43,760
Speaker 4: when I when I am doing one of these spirits,

922
00:45:44,080 --> 00:45:46,040
Speaker 4: you will know for sure, for sure, because the bottom

923
00:45:46,080 --> 00:45:46,719
Speaker 4: will be nice.

924
00:45:47,480 --> 00:45:49,520
Speaker 2: That's right, the creative and.

925
00:45:51,160 --> 00:45:51,320
Speaker 6: It is.

926
00:45:51,719 --> 00:45:53,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, this drink I had messed up.

927
00:45:53,920 --> 00:45:54,720
Speaker 2: I really coming.

928
00:45:55,760 --> 00:45:59,839
Speaker 3: We we like almost hey, hey, all right now, all right,

929
00:46:00,200 --> 00:46:01,520
Speaker 3: go ahead, what we got? What we got?

930
00:46:02,320 --> 00:46:02,600
Speaker 2: Okay.

931
00:46:02,680 --> 00:46:05,120
Speaker 6: So for topic number one, we really wanted to talk

932
00:46:05,160 --> 00:46:09,600
Speaker 6: about can you be successful as an artist today without

933
00:46:09,840 --> 00:46:13,239
Speaker 6: going viral? First, because obviously you came up at a

934
00:46:13,320 --> 00:46:17,400
Speaker 6: time where we didn't. I mean, social media was I

935
00:46:17,520 --> 00:46:20,839
Speaker 6: do feel like privalent, but not what it is now.

936
00:46:21,400 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 6: Like now you have so many people that are literally

937
00:46:23,760 --> 00:46:27,280
Speaker 6: getting signed and becoming artists because they had a clip

938
00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:30,440
Speaker 6: go viral or a song go viral. So how do

939
00:46:30,520 --> 00:46:32,200
Speaker 6: you feel about that? Do you think that is something

940
00:46:32,239 --> 00:46:35,080
Speaker 6: that is necessary for an artist's career today.

941
00:46:36,160 --> 00:46:38,960
Speaker 3: I think that you have to have a social media

942
00:46:39,080 --> 00:46:40,560
Speaker 3: presence period.

943
00:46:41,760 --> 00:46:44,319
Speaker 4: I think that if you started music today in twenty

944
00:46:44,440 --> 00:46:48,720
Speaker 4: twenty five and you did not care nothing about going viral,

945
00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:52,960
Speaker 4: I believe that if you, but you're a great artist.

946
00:46:53,200 --> 00:46:57,200
Speaker 3: So like are you Sexy Red? Right? You didn't know

947
00:46:57,239 --> 00:47:00,239
Speaker 3: anything about her and now she is everywhere. He's a

948
00:47:00,280 --> 00:47:07,560
Speaker 3: goddess right with the Internet really helped Sexy's career. But

949
00:47:07,640 --> 00:47:09,360
Speaker 3: if she never had the Internet.

950
00:47:09,760 --> 00:47:13,680
Speaker 4: And she really just stayed consistent. Oh she'll still go crazy,

951
00:47:14,440 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 4: But it's just according to who you want to be.

952
00:47:16,320 --> 00:47:21,440
Speaker 4: You see a lot of people once again tradition, you know,

953
00:47:21,640 --> 00:47:24,239
Speaker 4: clouds what success looks like for you because you think

954
00:47:24,239 --> 00:47:27,239
Speaker 4: it's supposed to look like this, bl blah blah blah.

955
00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:31,919
Speaker 4: I signed a three million dollar deal. How everybody's like, man,

956
00:47:32,000 --> 00:47:35,640
Speaker 4: don't sleep on the independent grind if that's who you are,

957
00:47:36,239 --> 00:47:41,160
Speaker 4: because the other side, which is not the independent, it

958
00:47:41,280 --> 00:47:45,319
Speaker 4: comes with a lot of ghost stress that you don't

959
00:47:45,360 --> 00:47:47,160
Speaker 4: know about it. Like you you know you have a

960
00:47:47,200 --> 00:47:49,160
Speaker 4: bunch of money, but then it's like how do you

961
00:47:49,280 --> 00:47:52,000
Speaker 4: feel as a person, And to some people to be

962
00:47:52,040 --> 00:47:52,640
Speaker 4: like man, I don't care.

963
00:47:52,640 --> 00:47:58,040
Speaker 3: I want to be rich cool. Hey, sure, but that

964
00:47:59,760 --> 00:48:03,560
Speaker 3: has a toll that it takes on you emotionally and consistently.

965
00:48:03,600 --> 00:48:05,200
Speaker 4: And you got to look at the consistency of these

966
00:48:05,239 --> 00:48:10,040
Speaker 4: people who you know, move that are not independent compared

967
00:48:10,120 --> 00:48:12,920
Speaker 4: to like how somebody is when you come and they're

968
00:48:12,920 --> 00:48:14,160
Speaker 4: successful and independent.

969
00:48:14,520 --> 00:48:18,120
Speaker 3: So to answer your question, yes you can be. But

970
00:48:18,520 --> 00:48:21,200
Speaker 3: if you know that your work ethic is trash, forget

971
00:48:21,239 --> 00:48:22,880
Speaker 3: about it. Now.

972
00:48:22,960 --> 00:48:24,600
Speaker 1: Correct me if I'm wrong, because I don't know anything

973
00:48:24,640 --> 00:48:25,640
Speaker 1: about the music industry.

974
00:48:25,680 --> 00:48:26,799
Speaker 2: But I do feel like.

975
00:48:28,400 --> 00:48:33,200
Speaker 1: Like industry, like the record labels used to invest in

976
00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:36,680
Speaker 1: artists development, Like when music was good, they're like, we're

977
00:48:36,719 --> 00:48:39,879
Speaker 1: gonna push this record because it's a good record. Now,

978
00:48:40,680 --> 00:48:45,000
Speaker 1: like artists are getting one song record deal, right, so

979
00:48:45,200 --> 00:48:46,960
Speaker 1: they can push this song because they see it going

980
00:48:47,040 --> 00:48:50,040
Speaker 1: up on TikTok. And it's like, I feel like that's

981
00:48:50,080 --> 00:48:52,800
Speaker 1: why people feel like certain genres are dead and stuff,

982
00:48:52,840 --> 00:48:54,920
Speaker 1: because they feel like it's not a hit if it's

983
00:48:54,920 --> 00:48:57,279
Speaker 1: not viral on TikTok. So do you feel like that's

984
00:48:57,360 --> 00:48:59,239
Speaker 1: what's happening and why people feel like music is so

985
00:48:59,400 --> 00:49:03,080
Speaker 1: bad now because the record labels aren't investing in artist

986
00:49:03,200 --> 00:49:05,720
Speaker 1: development and pushing actual good music.

987
00:49:06,680 --> 00:49:09,560
Speaker 3: Yes, that's that. That is a part of it. So yes,

988
00:49:10,440 --> 00:49:12,200
Speaker 3: for you not to know music, he definitely said some

989
00:49:12,280 --> 00:49:12,919
Speaker 3: real good stuff.

990
00:49:16,440 --> 00:49:18,399
Speaker 1: Some things that I hear and I'm like, this song

991
00:49:18,719 --> 00:49:21,680
Speaker 1: is ours. And then I'll hear some songs that I

992
00:49:21,880 --> 00:49:23,720
Speaker 1: was like, I discover artist.

993
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:26,239
Speaker 2: I'm like, what the fuck? I always say.

994
00:49:26,239 --> 00:49:28,440
Speaker 6: I feel like links could have been a r in

995
00:49:28,680 --> 00:49:31,120
Speaker 6: like another life, if this wasn't her career, that could

996
00:49:31,160 --> 00:49:36,360
Speaker 6: have been like probably very gordeous a lot alive legend.

997
00:49:38,800 --> 00:49:44,160
Speaker 4: To answer your question, Corporate is corporate man, and corporate

998
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:45,800
Speaker 4: is not culture.

999
00:49:46,160 --> 00:49:51,160
Speaker 3: Corporate is the tool that us. Corporate is the bank

1000
00:49:51,280 --> 00:49:51,920
Speaker 3: for culture.

1001
00:49:52,960 --> 00:49:56,719
Speaker 4: Corporate uses culture in order to be rich, to stay rich,

1002
00:49:59,680 --> 00:50:03,160
Speaker 4: are development. It really should start with the people around you.

1003
00:50:04,840 --> 00:50:07,680
Speaker 4: That's really where you start. Because what I think is

1004
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:11,080
Speaker 4: happened is this. It's Labels when they did it. They

1005
00:50:11,120 --> 00:50:13,840
Speaker 4: did it for so many years spending money into artists development.

1006
00:50:14,120 --> 00:50:17,440
Speaker 4: Yea that they look they put the formula on the

1007
00:50:17,480 --> 00:50:17,880
Speaker 4: table for.

1008
00:50:17,920 --> 00:50:19,719
Speaker 3: You to learn it and do what you need to do.

1009
00:50:20,280 --> 00:50:21,960
Speaker 4: Labels look at it now. It's like, man, I'm not

1010
00:50:22,040 --> 00:50:23,920
Speaker 4: gonna spend that more money there. It's like I showed

1011
00:50:23,920 --> 00:50:25,880
Speaker 4: you what to do. Take the blueprint and do it.

1012
00:50:26,360 --> 00:50:28,640
Speaker 4: Because the ones that do it, we want to come

1013
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:31,080
Speaker 4: in when you're doing it, because we showed you how

1014
00:50:31,120 --> 00:50:32,880
Speaker 4: to do it. You wouldn't know how to move like

1015
00:50:32,920 --> 00:50:34,320
Speaker 4: a label if the labels never showed you how to

1016
00:50:34,400 --> 00:50:34,560
Speaker 4: do it.

1017
00:50:34,960 --> 00:50:35,920
Speaker 3: And people take.

1018
00:50:36,680 --> 00:50:39,320
Speaker 4: People take the information that they learned when Labels was

1019
00:50:39,360 --> 00:50:42,120
Speaker 4: spending money on artists development, and they're the ones who

1020
00:50:42,239 --> 00:50:44,840
Speaker 4: come and I'll show other people like this how you

1021
00:50:44,880 --> 00:50:46,400
Speaker 4: do this. So you shouldn't do that or you shouldn't

1022
00:50:46,400 --> 00:50:48,479
Speaker 4: do this, and you shouldn't do that. So I feel

1023
00:50:48,520 --> 00:50:51,279
Speaker 4: like big labels, you know, they are looking at It's

1024
00:50:51,320 --> 00:50:54,200
Speaker 4: like why spend it on that? Like the blueprint is

1025
00:50:54,239 --> 00:50:57,000
Speaker 4: out there. TikTok is show you everything. YouTube will show

1026
00:50:57,000 --> 00:50:59,400
Speaker 4: you everything. YouTube is a world within the internet.

1027
00:50:59,560 --> 00:51:03,439
Speaker 6: Do you feel like people chasing viralities like killing their

1028
00:51:03,719 --> 00:51:09,120
Speaker 6: creative juices and you know, are you sacrificing originality for cliques?

1029
00:51:09,800 --> 00:51:15,120
Speaker 4: It's a choice, it's a choice. Nobody knows anything. People

1030
00:51:16,080 --> 00:51:21,080
Speaker 4: just want to be seen, That's true. People are lonely.

1031
00:51:22,400 --> 00:51:27,600
Speaker 1: Attention is so bad. Have we seen people on the

1032
00:51:27,680 --> 00:51:32,920
Speaker 1: internet eating corn stars and just why are you eating cornstar?

1033
00:51:33,719 --> 00:51:34,560
Speaker 3: I want you attention.

1034
00:51:34,800 --> 00:51:36,480
Speaker 4: I want you to talk about why are you eat

1035
00:51:36,560 --> 00:51:39,840
Speaker 4: corn because you're going to talk about your podcast and

1036
00:51:39,960 --> 00:51:40,920
Speaker 4: you are talking about it.

1037
00:51:42,200 --> 00:51:43,200
Speaker 3: The corn stars people are.

1038
00:51:43,160 --> 00:51:49,360
Speaker 2: Like, I just think it's.

1039
00:51:51,000 --> 00:51:55,239
Speaker 6: Literally and like it's different when you eat corn star

1040
00:51:55,320 --> 00:51:57,080
Speaker 6: stuff because some people what is it called some people

1041
00:51:57,160 --> 00:52:00,160
Speaker 6: have pika where they like literally needed because I think

1042
00:52:00,160 --> 00:52:01,920
Speaker 6: they have like low iron or something like that.

1043
00:52:02,200 --> 00:52:03,680
Speaker 2: They don't need it. They just need to take their

1044
00:52:03,719 --> 00:52:04,279
Speaker 2: iron pier.

1045
00:52:04,440 --> 00:52:06,320
Speaker 6: Well, yeah, but they do it because it's more of

1046
00:52:06,400 --> 00:52:09,200
Speaker 6: a craving because of something else going on with like

1047
00:52:09,400 --> 00:52:12,480
Speaker 6: their iron versus people who are literally getting on the

1048
00:52:12,560 --> 00:52:14,480
Speaker 6: internet just eating corn starts just.

1049
00:52:14,520 --> 00:52:18,080
Speaker 4: So they can go viral, smacking myself in the face

1050
00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:19,840
Speaker 4: of yeah it's a little weird.

1051
00:52:20,120 --> 00:52:21,080
Speaker 3: I want your attention.

1052
00:52:21,440 --> 00:52:22,880
Speaker 2: Yes it's crazy.

1053
00:52:23,000 --> 00:52:25,920
Speaker 4: But as you know, just like a child, it's like

1054
00:52:27,480 --> 00:52:31,880
Speaker 4: people are they are lonely and alone. It's just a

1055
00:52:31,960 --> 00:52:37,360
Speaker 4: different time because people are getting lost in the attention

1056
00:52:37,520 --> 00:52:40,680
Speaker 4: of the Internet. They're not what's happening is I think

1057
00:52:40,719 --> 00:52:44,319
Speaker 4: that they're not investing into other people and they want

1058
00:52:44,440 --> 00:52:49,600
Speaker 4: to be valued through what the Internet thinks about them

1059
00:52:50,440 --> 00:52:53,120
Speaker 4: and not the neighborhood, Like your neighborhood.

1060
00:52:52,600 --> 00:52:53,520
Speaker 3: Has no value no more.

1061
00:52:54,320 --> 00:52:55,920
Speaker 1: And that's so crazy to me because I feel like

1062
00:52:56,239 --> 00:52:59,799
Speaker 1: being valued on the internet but not being valued.

1063
00:52:59,560 --> 00:53:03,279
Speaker 6: In the in real life crazy and also thinking you

1064
00:53:03,440 --> 00:53:06,160
Speaker 6: valued on the internet but you're not actually being paid.

1065
00:53:06,280 --> 00:53:09,160
Speaker 6: It's crazy. I mean, a lot of people be just

1066
00:53:09,200 --> 00:53:11,359
Speaker 6: wanting to go viral. They don't even be making no money.

1067
00:53:11,480 --> 00:53:14,279
Speaker 4: That is now that part of it right there is

1068
00:53:14,360 --> 00:53:17,839
Speaker 4: where it's like, that's what's messing up. The people who

1069
00:53:18,040 --> 00:53:20,000
Speaker 4: just like fuck it, I'm.

1070
00:53:19,960 --> 00:53:23,320
Speaker 1: Lit and they'd be like, well, I'm getting paid for this,

1071
00:53:24,120 --> 00:53:25,800
Speaker 1: Like if your video is under a minute, I know

1072
00:53:25,920 --> 00:53:26,400
Speaker 1: you ain't.

1073
00:53:26,200 --> 00:53:30,040
Speaker 3: Getting paid forget about it, Like you're a liar. You're like,

1074
00:53:30,360 --> 00:53:35,040
Speaker 3: I know that you're lying. Yeah, what do you You're

1075
00:53:35,040 --> 00:53:35,520
Speaker 3: a liar?

1076
00:53:36,160 --> 00:53:39,120
Speaker 1: Yes, It's just I think we're in weird times because,

1077
00:53:39,160 --> 00:53:41,480
Speaker 1: like I said, like, I just feel like when I

1078
00:53:41,760 --> 00:53:44,719
Speaker 1: came up and the internet became a thing, right, you

1079
00:53:45,000 --> 00:53:47,400
Speaker 1: actually though you had to have something about you, you

1080
00:53:47,600 --> 00:53:49,759
Speaker 1: still have to have that it factor, you know what

1081
00:53:49,800 --> 00:53:52,040
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Oh my gosh, what was the girl's name?

1082
00:53:52,600 --> 00:53:54,920
Speaker 1: I can't remember. JD had signed her a long time ago.

1083
00:53:55,000 --> 00:53:57,800
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, y'all came remember name. I've been drinking. It's

1084
00:53:57,880 --> 00:54:00,239
Speaker 1: the wrong. But she used to get on the on

1085
00:54:00,400 --> 00:54:02,640
Speaker 1: YouTube and she would sing and she could just sing

1086
00:54:03,480 --> 00:54:05,000
Speaker 1: Dondrea Yeah.

1087
00:54:05,040 --> 00:54:09,280
Speaker 2: And she could I mean she could sing oh my god.

1088
00:54:09,920 --> 00:54:12,200
Speaker 1: And it was like that when Jackie ain't a first

1089
00:54:12,280 --> 00:54:14,160
Speaker 1: came on the scene, like she really knew how to

1090
00:54:14,239 --> 00:54:16,400
Speaker 1: do makeup. Like it wasn't like, oh she can do

1091
00:54:16,480 --> 00:54:19,320
Speaker 1: makeup for like dark skinned women. No, she could do

1092
00:54:19,440 --> 00:54:21,640
Speaker 1: makeup for anybody, you know what I'm saying. So I

1093
00:54:21,680 --> 00:54:23,200
Speaker 1: feel like when I came up, I was like I

1094
00:54:23,200 --> 00:54:27,239
Speaker 1: don't what you had to do something, you know what

1095
00:54:27,280 --> 00:54:29,040
Speaker 1: I'm saying. I feel like it's just so different now.

1096
00:54:29,080 --> 00:54:32,520
Speaker 1: But it's bled over to music now too. It's bled

1097
00:54:32,560 --> 00:54:34,000
Speaker 1: over to music now because you could just do a

1098
00:54:34,040 --> 00:54:37,120
Speaker 1: little when Sierra did the one two step, that was

1099
00:54:37,160 --> 00:54:37,480
Speaker 1: a hit.

1100
00:54:37,920 --> 00:54:39,719
Speaker 2: They trying to do the one two step, but they ain't.

1101
00:54:39,800 --> 00:54:44,040
Speaker 6: It ain't given that and everybody be remixing everything too sometimes,

1102
00:54:44,040 --> 00:54:45,680
Speaker 6: which I feel like it's kind of a little bit

1103
00:54:45,760 --> 00:54:49,160
Speaker 6: in my opinion, killed originality. Like I know, artists have

1104
00:54:49,239 --> 00:54:52,239
Speaker 6: been using samples for a really, really long time, but

1105
00:54:52,360 --> 00:54:54,080
Speaker 6: now I feel like you said all time, h.

1106
00:54:54,520 --> 00:54:55,760
Speaker 3: That what I'm saying, it doesn't.

1107
00:54:56,320 --> 00:54:58,800
Speaker 4: People are not chasing the originality the way they used to,

1108
00:55:00,400 --> 00:55:04,520
Speaker 4: and it's unfortunate. It's very very unfortunate. But at the

1109
00:55:04,600 --> 00:55:06,760
Speaker 4: end of the day, you have to stand on your standards.

1110
00:55:07,480 --> 00:55:08,200
Speaker 4: That's what you gotta do.

1111
00:55:08,760 --> 00:55:11,560
Speaker 1: Because and to go to your point, samples used to

1112
00:55:11,640 --> 00:55:14,120
Speaker 1: be like you had to really listen to it, like

1113
00:55:14,239 --> 00:55:18,160
Speaker 1: is this not they just taking a whole beat and

1114
00:55:18,239 --> 00:55:20,120
Speaker 1: they add a snare on there.

1115
00:55:23,719 --> 00:55:29,799
Speaker 2: That's what they everything everything. Okay, all right, We're gonna

1116
00:55:29,800 --> 00:55:31,120
Speaker 2: move on to the next topic. Because we used to

1117
00:55:31,120 --> 00:55:34,520
Speaker 2: getting chatty. I love a good deep convo.

1118
00:55:35,120 --> 00:55:37,879
Speaker 1: We'll be getting to it today. Okay, So topic too

1119
00:55:38,200 --> 00:55:42,399
Speaker 1: is believe it are not? Okay, We're gonna talk about

1120
00:55:42,440 --> 00:55:48,080
Speaker 1: conspiracy theories, like what's the conspiracy theory that you fully believe?

1121
00:55:48,239 --> 00:55:50,680
Speaker 1: Or you be like, okay, y'all tripping like it's not

1122
00:55:51,000 --> 00:55:54,359
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Now, we have some written down,

1123
00:55:54,440 --> 00:55:55,880
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna talk about mine.

1124
00:55:56,040 --> 00:55:58,360
Speaker 3: Okay, but sure that.

1125
00:56:00,080 --> 00:56:02,560
Speaker 1: This is stupid, but I don't I believe it. I

1126
00:56:02,680 --> 00:56:06,360
Speaker 1: really do think it's true. Like I believe that pigeons

1127
00:56:06,400 --> 00:56:10,920
Speaker 1: were man made? Why I have never seen a baby pigeon.

1128
00:56:11,760 --> 00:56:13,960
Speaker 1: I don't see baby pigeons. I see pigeons that but like,

1129
00:56:14,000 --> 00:56:16,000
Speaker 1: what's up, as nigga? Can I have some of your sandwich?

1130
00:56:16,160 --> 00:56:18,439
Speaker 2: What if they being protected until they could fly away?

1131
00:56:18,760 --> 00:56:23,680
Speaker 6: No pigeons were man made. Pigeons are not real. I

1132
00:56:23,719 --> 00:56:25,759
Speaker 6: don't feel like every baby. I don't think you meant

1133
00:56:25,800 --> 00:56:27,359
Speaker 6: to see every baby of something.

1134
00:56:27,400 --> 00:56:28,640
Speaker 2: I've seen every baby.

1135
00:56:28,760 --> 00:56:30,560
Speaker 1: The only thing I haven't seen a baby of I

1136
00:56:30,600 --> 00:56:33,120
Speaker 1: haven't seen a baby pigeon, and I haven't seen a

1137
00:56:33,200 --> 00:56:34,040
Speaker 1: baby Samuel L.

1138
00:56:34,160 --> 00:56:38,840
Speaker 2: Jackson. That's it. Then he might be man made too, Damn.

1139
00:56:39,040 --> 00:56:40,880
Speaker 3: I'm just saying, Damn.

1140
00:56:41,880 --> 00:56:49,640
Speaker 2: Pigeons aren't real. Pigeon shaped it up. I don't know what. Yeah,

1141
00:56:50,440 --> 00:56:54,040
Speaker 2: that pictures are you can show me.

1142
00:56:54,120 --> 00:56:59,160
Speaker 1: I have never seen a baby pigeon in person, pigeons

1143
00:56:59,440 --> 00:57:00,560
Speaker 1: in parson saying.

1144
00:57:00,880 --> 00:57:06,399
Speaker 3: Who is that? I don't believe it. That's a girl. Hell.

1145
00:57:06,600 --> 00:57:10,640
Speaker 2: Now, what I'm saying is that might be here for damn,

1146
00:57:12,040 --> 00:57:12,560
Speaker 2: that is it?

1147
00:57:12,760 --> 00:57:17,320
Speaker 3: That as hell? But always we're gonna stop, We're gonna do.

1148
00:57:17,760 --> 00:57:19,400
Speaker 1: I say all that to say because I feel like

1149
00:57:19,440 --> 00:57:21,160
Speaker 1: in New York you see pigeons everywhere.

1150
00:57:21,200 --> 00:57:24,760
Speaker 2: You never see a nest? Where are they going? Where

1151
00:57:24,800 --> 00:57:26,560
Speaker 2: are you? You donne took my sand with you? Done

1152
00:57:26,600 --> 00:57:27,320
Speaker 2: grab my chip?

1153
00:57:27,840 --> 00:57:28,040
Speaker 3: Where?

1154
00:57:28,120 --> 00:57:30,720
Speaker 1: And they just go in the alley with other big pigeons.

1155
00:57:31,600 --> 00:57:33,360
Speaker 1: Pigeons aren't real, and you cannot convince me.

1156
00:57:33,400 --> 00:57:36,640
Speaker 2: That they are. That was a man made experience experiment

1157
00:57:36,960 --> 00:57:38,000
Speaker 2: that got taken out of hand.

1158
00:57:38,880 --> 00:57:40,320
Speaker 3: You want to say yours, you want me to go?

1159
00:57:41,200 --> 00:57:46,400
Speaker 2: I feel like for me it's COVID nineteen. I want

1160
00:57:46,440 --> 00:57:49,040
Speaker 2: to do think that that was a conspiracy theory.

1161
00:57:49,360 --> 00:57:53,240
Speaker 3: I want to throw where the admins at good God, almody.

1162
00:57:54,200 --> 00:57:57,120
Speaker 1: Now you can't say that we lost a lot of

1163
00:57:57,280 --> 00:57:58,800
Speaker 1: it's a lot of fallish soldiers.

1164
00:57:58,920 --> 00:57:59,960
Speaker 2: It is the COVID nine.

1165
00:58:00,160 --> 00:58:01,680
Speaker 6: But I feel like it's been a lot of falling

1166
00:58:01,760 --> 00:58:03,320
Speaker 6: So just that have happened with a lot of things

1167
00:58:03,400 --> 00:58:05,200
Speaker 6: that people think are conspiracy theory.

1168
00:58:05,560 --> 00:58:07,480
Speaker 1: Oh but you think that that was like something that

1169
00:58:08,040 --> 00:58:12,280
Speaker 1: people that it wasn't like an accident. No, oh, okay,

1170
00:58:12,360 --> 00:58:14,360
Speaker 1: that makes sense, you spit.

1171
00:58:14,680 --> 00:58:14,880
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1172
00:58:15,160 --> 00:58:16,800
Speaker 6: I don't want to say something Nils that I think

1173
00:58:16,920 --> 00:58:19,040
Speaker 6: is a conspiracy theory because it's real controversial.

1174
00:58:19,080 --> 00:58:22,080
Speaker 2: But I ain't gonna say that, want to Yeah, I'm

1175
00:58:22,120 --> 00:58:23,760
Speaker 2: sure it's another virus like to do that.

1176
00:58:23,960 --> 00:58:24,560
Speaker 3: That's what she do.

1177
00:58:24,920 --> 00:58:29,160
Speaker 2: It's another viwerry though, but it's making a day. Oh,

1178
00:58:30,520 --> 00:58:34,479
Speaker 2: we're not gonna talk about that when I'm thinking my dream.

1179
00:58:36,240 --> 00:58:37,040
Speaker 3: We're gonna move forward.

1180
00:58:37,200 --> 00:58:43,280
Speaker 4: Yes, I believe that everybody has another person look like them.

1181
00:58:44,600 --> 00:58:45,920
Speaker 3: So what happened to me?

1182
00:58:45,960 --> 00:58:50,320
Speaker 4: One time I'm in New York City. I'm moving, I'm

1183
00:58:50,320 --> 00:58:51,840
Speaker 4: moving around. I like to walk when in New York

1184
00:58:51,840 --> 00:58:53,320
Speaker 4: because I like to just walk with the city and

1185
00:58:53,440 --> 00:58:56,720
Speaker 4: catch the flow. And were walking, me and my guy

1186
00:58:56,800 --> 00:58:58,960
Speaker 4: Jay are actually he would be right here now, and

1187
00:58:59,080 --> 00:59:02,760
Speaker 4: were walking, and this guy coming down on the bike.

1188
00:59:03,000 --> 00:59:04,760
Speaker 3: White guy on the bike or whatever. Boom, boom.

1189
00:59:04,800 --> 00:59:06,360
Speaker 4: I stopped so that he can go, because you know,

1190
00:59:06,440 --> 00:59:08,320
Speaker 4: the bikes, they run the world. You can't tell them

1191
00:59:08,400 --> 00:59:11,200
Speaker 4: niggas nothing. We keep walking, we go two blocks and

1192
00:59:11,240 --> 00:59:14,360
Speaker 4: we make a ripe. As we're walking up on this

1193
00:59:14,480 --> 00:59:18,160
Speaker 4: block that we're walking up on, boom, this guy walking

1194
00:59:18,240 --> 00:59:22,960
Speaker 4: towards me. Inside of my head, I'm like, oh my god,

1195
00:59:24,440 --> 00:59:26,320
Speaker 4: that's the same dude I just saw on the bike,

1196
00:59:26,880 --> 00:59:29,600
Speaker 4: but he not on the bike in a different outfit,

1197
00:59:29,720 --> 00:59:33,840
Speaker 4: the same exact, same exact white man. I didn't say

1198
00:59:33,880 --> 00:59:37,720
Speaker 4: nothing because I'm like, I'm a conspiracy theory. I want

1199
00:59:37,760 --> 00:59:41,240
Speaker 4: to sound crazy. My god, J already said, ain't that

1200
00:59:41,320 --> 00:59:43,520
Speaker 4: the same dude? He just said it out of blue?

1201
00:59:43,760 --> 00:59:45,680
Speaker 4: Would I say, nigga, yes, said it's the same person.

1202
00:59:45,960 --> 00:59:48,480
Speaker 4: That was the same and it's no way possible that

1203
00:59:48,560 --> 00:59:51,480
Speaker 4: he would have took the bike. It's no way possible.

1204
00:59:52,040 --> 00:59:54,360
Speaker 4: I mean, and then look, if it was twins, well

1205
00:59:54,400 --> 00:59:59,320
Speaker 4: then God work in mysterious ways, right sure, sure, and do.

1206
01:00:00,040 --> 01:00:03,960
Speaker 3: Don't doubt them now now, but what is the odds?

1207
01:00:04,560 --> 01:00:07,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, like come on, like God wanted, Yeah, I'm not

1208
01:00:07,960 --> 01:00:10,680
Speaker 4: looking for white men in New York, Like, that's not

1209
01:00:10,800 --> 01:00:14,120
Speaker 4: why I'm outside, like, oh, let me go find these Caucasians.

1210
01:00:15,320 --> 01:00:17,160
Speaker 3: We're not doing that. That's not what we're doing it

1211
01:00:17,320 --> 01:00:17,720
Speaker 3: right right now?

1212
01:00:17,840 --> 01:00:18,480
Speaker 7: You know what I'm saying.

1213
01:00:19,320 --> 01:00:20,800
Speaker 3: We're not Caucasian hunting out here.

1214
01:00:22,760 --> 01:00:23,960
Speaker 2: So I've got enough of it.

1215
01:00:24,280 --> 01:00:27,560
Speaker 1: I'm with you on that because I Another conspiracy theory

1216
01:00:27,640 --> 01:00:31,040
Speaker 1: that I believe is I think that every time we

1217
01:00:31,200 --> 01:00:34,480
Speaker 1: make like a life changing decision, right, I think like

1218
01:00:34,600 --> 01:00:37,320
Speaker 1: a space I'm about to start talking about space again,

1219
01:00:37,400 --> 01:00:40,200
Speaker 1: y'all know how I get. Yeah, space is the most

1220
01:00:40,440 --> 01:00:46,360
Speaker 1: interesting thing you will ever dive into learn about. It

1221
01:00:46,560 --> 01:00:49,560
Speaker 1: is crazy, and once you get into it, you can't stop.

1222
01:00:50,160 --> 01:00:54,840
Speaker 1: So I decided to believe like every there is. I

1223
01:00:54,920 --> 01:00:57,640
Speaker 1: can't talk about how big the universe is because you

1224
01:00:57,760 --> 01:01:00,120
Speaker 1: can't fathom it, you can't really understand it. But I

1225
01:01:00,280 --> 01:01:02,960
Speaker 1: truly think like every time we make a decision, it's

1226
01:01:03,000 --> 01:01:06,320
Speaker 1: like another planet. Like if you go right instead of left,

1227
01:01:06,720 --> 01:01:09,040
Speaker 1: there's another planet that went right and you're down here

1228
01:01:09,160 --> 01:01:11,240
Speaker 1: going left. But this is what your life would have

1229
01:01:11,360 --> 01:01:14,720
Speaker 1: looked like. I do think like there's different planets and

1230
01:01:14,800 --> 01:01:19,160
Speaker 1: we're all it's a different version of us. It's a

1231
01:01:19,200 --> 01:01:23,640
Speaker 1: different version of us. Yes, If y'all like and people

1232
01:01:23,640 --> 01:01:25,400
Speaker 1: are gonna be like, Lex, you sound crazy. But if

1233
01:01:25,520 --> 01:01:30,360
Speaker 1: y'all understood how big the universes, I'm not just talking

1234
01:01:30,360 --> 01:01:32,800
Speaker 1: about the Milkyway, because the Milky Way as big as fuck,

1235
01:01:33,280 --> 01:01:33,760
Speaker 1: and it's.

1236
01:01:33,640 --> 01:01:37,400
Speaker 2: A this to the whole thing all to the universe,

1237
01:01:37,800 --> 01:01:43,439
Speaker 2: and we can't even see like past a certain amount

1238
01:01:43,480 --> 01:01:44,040
Speaker 2: of light years.

1239
01:01:44,680 --> 01:01:46,880
Speaker 1: If y'all think that Earth is the only planet with

1240
01:01:47,160 --> 01:01:49,240
Speaker 1: living human beings, y'all are crazy.

1241
01:01:49,320 --> 01:01:51,440
Speaker 2: Oh, I for sure believe in other beings.

1242
01:01:53,320 --> 01:01:56,439
Speaker 4: Which version I'm asking both of you this question, Which

1243
01:01:56,640 --> 01:01:59,280
Speaker 4: version of yourself would you like to meet that wasn't

1244
01:01:59,280 --> 01:02:00,240
Speaker 4: the version that's right now.

1245
01:02:01,600 --> 01:02:05,640
Speaker 1: I would like to meet the version of me that

1246
01:02:06,000 --> 01:02:10,760
Speaker 1: stood on business and was like unapologetically herself, just the

1247
01:02:10,880 --> 01:02:15,000
Speaker 1: billy badass.

1248
01:02:13,280 --> 01:02:15,760
Speaker 2: Version that was just like I don't give a fuck

1249
01:02:16,160 --> 01:02:16,840
Speaker 2: because I give.

1250
01:02:16,760 --> 01:02:20,280
Speaker 3: A fuck, right right, No tears like she don't find

1251
01:02:20,520 --> 01:02:21,160
Speaker 3: I would.

1252
01:02:20,960 --> 01:02:22,560
Speaker 1: Love because I would love to see like where she

1253
01:02:22,720 --> 01:02:24,240
Speaker 1: is right now, because she's on another planet.

1254
01:02:24,640 --> 01:02:27,160
Speaker 2: I know she's richest fuck living, having a ball.

1255
01:02:27,840 --> 01:02:29,040
Speaker 7: Oh, I don't know.

1256
01:02:29,240 --> 01:02:31,640
Speaker 6: It's like I feel like I don't forget the version

1257
01:02:31,680 --> 01:02:34,800
Speaker 6: of me that wasn't scoring about like I would love

1258
01:02:34,880 --> 01:02:36,760
Speaker 6: to meet that version of myself because I don't even

1259
01:02:36,760 --> 01:02:39,479
Speaker 6: feel like I remember that person, Okay, because I feel

1260
01:02:39,520 --> 01:02:41,880
Speaker 6: like when you really think about it, for most of us,

1261
01:02:42,040 --> 01:02:45,040
Speaker 6: like trauma started as a child, so you don't even

1262
01:02:45,080 --> 01:02:48,360
Speaker 6: really remember that version of yourself and how happy you were,

1263
01:02:48,400 --> 01:02:49,440
Speaker 6: and so just.

1264
01:02:49,480 --> 01:02:54,920
Speaker 3: An unscoring version of this stuff like yes, yes, yes, yes, yes,

1265
01:02:55,440 --> 01:02:56,000
Speaker 3: your version.

1266
01:02:56,600 --> 01:03:01,240
Speaker 4: I would love to meet the man I went to

1267
01:03:02,280 --> 01:03:04,840
Speaker 4: four years of college, got my doctorate, like just the

1268
01:03:05,080 --> 01:03:08,800
Speaker 4: education version of myself, Like just like that person, like

1269
01:03:08,960 --> 01:03:11,800
Speaker 4: went to school and do no street shit, no rap shit,

1270
01:03:12,240 --> 01:03:12,640
Speaker 4: none of that.

1271
01:03:12,880 --> 01:03:13,160
Speaker 3: Just like.

1272
01:03:15,240 --> 01:03:17,840
Speaker 4: Traditional version if you would have took the Yeah, like

1273
01:03:18,040 --> 01:03:20,520
Speaker 4: it was really good in high school, really good in college,

1274
01:03:20,680 --> 01:03:22,080
Speaker 4: really like just killed it.

1275
01:03:22,160 --> 01:03:25,320
Speaker 2: Like y'all, hey it's out.

1276
01:03:25,440 --> 01:03:28,840
Speaker 3: I'm telling y'all, no hair got the waves a little fade,

1277
01:03:29,320 --> 01:03:30,000
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying.

1278
01:03:30,200 --> 01:03:32,840
Speaker 1: I feel like by the time like a Earth can

1279
01:03:32,920 --> 01:03:34,760
Speaker 1: reach like another type of Earth that's out there, Like

1280
01:03:34,880 --> 01:03:37,120
Speaker 1: it's gonna be way, like we're gonna be long gone.

1281
01:03:37,200 --> 01:03:38,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's gonna happen.

1282
01:03:38,320 --> 01:03:41,200
Speaker 1: Now, it's gonna be somebody that figures out how to

1283
01:03:41,360 --> 01:03:43,400
Speaker 1: travel light years or to get something.

1284
01:03:43,680 --> 01:03:45,080
Speaker 2: It's gonna be somebody that comes on.

1285
01:03:45,120 --> 01:03:47,240
Speaker 4: They show us in the movies. They travel, you know,

1286
01:03:47,960 --> 01:03:49,200
Speaker 4: multi verses all the time.

1287
01:03:49,520 --> 01:03:51,520
Speaker 2: They and they go through like the black hole and

1288
01:03:51,640 --> 01:03:52,320
Speaker 2: it takes them.

1289
01:03:52,440 --> 01:03:55,120
Speaker 4: Oh, Spider Man got seventeen thousand versions of I'm saying,

1290
01:03:55,240 --> 01:03:58,000
Speaker 4: think I got a Mexican version, an Asian version.

1291
01:03:58,160 --> 01:04:00,840
Speaker 2: Show black Bird.

1292
01:04:04,080 --> 01:04:04,680
Speaker 7: Cut up?

1293
01:04:05,400 --> 01:04:07,520
Speaker 2: Really is a pig version of you out there in

1294
01:04:07,600 --> 01:04:08,160
Speaker 2: the universe.

1295
01:04:08,400 --> 01:04:10,200
Speaker 4: He better has some good shoes on. I'm gonna be

1296
01:04:10,280 --> 01:04:13,160
Speaker 4: pissed if any version of me don't have good shoes on.

1297
01:04:13,320 --> 01:04:18,280
Speaker 4: For me, you gotta have a good none of any

1298
01:04:18,400 --> 01:04:19,800
Speaker 4: version of me better has some good shoes on it.

1299
01:04:19,840 --> 01:04:21,760
Speaker 4: I'm gonna fight and kill the ship out of him.

1300
01:04:22,040 --> 01:04:25,160
Speaker 2: I'm glad you brought up your shoes. Bring us into

1301
01:04:25,160 --> 01:04:25,680
Speaker 2: the next topic.

1302
01:04:25,800 --> 01:04:26,480
Speaker 3: Let's get it now.

1303
01:04:26,760 --> 01:04:33,000
Speaker 2: It's time to get into the bowl a bow about.

1304
01:04:36,440 --> 01:04:40,600
Speaker 2: So today we're gonna talk about masculinity and sexuality.

1305
01:04:40,680 --> 01:04:43,840
Speaker 3: Okay, oh ship talking to me about this is We're

1306
01:04:43,880 --> 01:04:44,840
Speaker 3: gonna fil.

1307
01:04:44,640 --> 01:04:48,800
Speaker 1: Right the good top well, because I think it's important

1308
01:04:48,880 --> 01:04:51,400
Speaker 1: to have a conversation about it. Because I mean, I'm

1309
01:04:51,440 --> 01:04:54,439
Speaker 1: gonna be blunt. This is Look, this is the room talking.

1310
01:04:54,440 --> 01:04:56,000
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be blunt. I think a lot of people

1311
01:04:56,040 --> 01:04:57,360
Speaker 1: probably look at you and be like, oh, he gets

1312
01:04:57,400 --> 01:04:59,160
Speaker 1: his nails done, he wears heels, he's gay.

1313
01:04:59,720 --> 01:05:02,520
Speaker 2: You know he likes men. But you know, we go

1314
01:05:02,760 --> 01:05:04,880
Speaker 2: back brothers.

1315
01:05:04,920 --> 01:05:07,080
Speaker 1: They used to love a good hell, a crop top

1316
01:05:07,200 --> 01:05:10,440
Speaker 1: and a crop to Prince used to have them cheeks

1317
01:05:10,480 --> 01:05:13,720
Speaker 1: out and he cheky and our prince was fine.

1318
01:05:13,840 --> 01:05:16,600
Speaker 3: That's what I'm moving. The cheeks too, not just like

1319
01:05:16,720 --> 01:05:17,440
Speaker 3: turn around.

1320
01:05:20,240 --> 01:05:25,959
Speaker 4: Crazy magic city check make Braik Prince that magic city cheeks.

1321
01:05:26,280 --> 01:05:28,479
Speaker 2: I'm telling you he knew how to make that right cheeks,

1322
01:05:28,520 --> 01:05:29,600
Speaker 2: left cheek bomb.

1323
01:05:31,000 --> 01:05:31,040
Speaker 3: That.

1324
01:05:31,280 --> 01:05:35,800
Speaker 1: I want to talk about your style. You know, people

1325
01:05:35,880 --> 01:05:38,400
Speaker 1: would look at you like you're a certain type of way,

1326
01:05:39,000 --> 01:05:42,920
Speaker 1: so talk about it though. I'm gonna let you talk about.

1327
01:05:42,920 --> 01:05:44,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I wanted to talk about your nails.

1328
01:05:44,800 --> 01:05:48,440
Speaker 6: When we met you at the BS Awards, I was like,

1329
01:05:48,560 --> 01:05:50,880
Speaker 6: oh my god, your nails are so fab you got

1330
01:05:50,960 --> 01:05:51,880
Speaker 6: met a nails that men.

1331
01:05:52,640 --> 01:05:53,320
Speaker 2: I'm not creative.

1332
01:05:53,920 --> 01:05:54,440
Speaker 3: No competition.

1333
01:05:54,560 --> 01:05:56,760
Speaker 2: It ain't no competition, but it is though, you know

1334
01:05:56,760 --> 01:05:59,680
Speaker 2: what I mean. You ate, I'm just a French tip girly.

1335
01:05:59,720 --> 01:06:01,880
Speaker 2: I don't much. Yeah, I'm like, if I had somebody

1336
01:06:01,920 --> 01:06:02,520
Speaker 2: that could do him.

1337
01:06:02,440 --> 01:06:03,240
Speaker 3: Like that, I would get.

1338
01:06:03,280 --> 01:06:03,760
Speaker 2: I would get.

1339
01:06:05,120 --> 01:06:08,120
Speaker 3: Whenever you're in LA, I'll take it to the girls. Tachi.

1340
01:06:08,240 --> 01:06:21,200
Speaker 3: What's but so? All right? Man, do not as a man,

1341
01:06:22,240 --> 01:06:26,000
Speaker 3: do not do what other men do. Do what is

1342
01:06:26,080 --> 01:06:26,680
Speaker 3: good for you.

1343
01:06:27,840 --> 01:06:30,760
Speaker 4: I do not want any man, or any young man

1344
01:06:31,280 --> 01:06:34,360
Speaker 4: or your son or anything to be like me, because he,

1345
01:06:34,480 --> 01:06:35,240
Speaker 4: first of all, he can't.

1346
01:06:36,920 --> 01:06:40,000
Speaker 3: He cannot. How I got here.

1347
01:06:41,480 --> 01:06:44,800
Speaker 4: Is a journey. I'm a journey man. I'm on to travel.

1348
01:06:44,800 --> 01:06:48,160
Speaker 4: I'm on a journey for greatness. What I do in

1349
01:06:48,240 --> 01:06:51,920
Speaker 4: the midst of with myself is totally and solely for me.

1350
01:06:53,600 --> 01:06:56,560
Speaker 4: I've never kissed a man, been kissed by man, has

1351
01:06:56,600 --> 01:06:58,960
Speaker 4: sex with a man, man has sex with me, none

1352
01:06:59,000 --> 01:06:59,160
Speaker 4: of that.

1353
01:06:59,600 --> 01:07:01,440
Speaker 3: If a man look good, he look good, right.

1354
01:07:02,600 --> 01:07:05,360
Speaker 1: But even you saying that, they'll be like, ah, but

1355
01:07:05,480 --> 01:07:08,480
Speaker 1: I feel like, what's wrong with that? I don't even

1356
01:07:08,520 --> 01:07:10,840
Speaker 1: look at you know, if a nigga fine or not.

1357
01:07:10,960 --> 01:07:12,080
Speaker 1: I don't care what man say.

1358
01:07:12,200 --> 01:07:13,480
Speaker 2: Y'all know or not.

1359
01:07:14,000 --> 01:07:18,360
Speaker 4: Niggas always know. Like I literally heard that somebody say

1360
01:07:18,440 --> 01:07:21,800
Speaker 4: the other day, yesterday. Maybe he's like a couple days

1361
01:07:22,000 --> 01:07:23,800
Speaker 4: he's like, oh, yeah, you know, the east Side nigga

1362
01:07:23,880 --> 01:07:26,400
Speaker 4: find a here, that's what they're known for. And in

1363
01:07:26,560 --> 01:07:28,680
Speaker 4: my mind I was like he just said that or whatever.

1364
01:07:28,800 --> 01:07:32,080
Speaker 4: But but that's what they're pretty boys. Like back in

1365
01:07:32,120 --> 01:07:34,640
Speaker 4: the day, like them, the pretty boys. You called another

1366
01:07:34,680 --> 01:07:35,520
Speaker 4: man a pretty.

1367
01:07:35,240 --> 01:07:37,720
Speaker 3: Boy or whatever could be looked at as like hey man,

1368
01:07:37,840 --> 01:07:38,320
Speaker 3: what the hell?

1369
01:07:38,480 --> 01:07:42,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, But once again the obvious in the room is like, bro,

1370
01:07:42,120 --> 01:07:44,080
Speaker 4: he looks better than you. Look at him at you.

1371
01:07:44,680 --> 01:07:48,600
Speaker 2: If you call somebody ugly, you can recognize somebody's unattractive.

1372
01:07:48,640 --> 01:07:49,360
Speaker 2: You can recognize it.

1373
01:07:50,960 --> 01:07:54,480
Speaker 4: When they're when their greatness speaks, when their greatness speaks.

1374
01:07:54,960 --> 01:07:58,080
Speaker 4: Like we said, the great person not going to say nothing.

1375
01:07:58,560 --> 01:08:00,960
Speaker 4: You're gonna do the talking because that person.

1376
01:08:00,800 --> 01:08:02,080
Speaker 3: Is making you feel uneasy.

1377
01:08:03,160 --> 01:08:06,680
Speaker 4: So I say all that to say, whereas like everything

1378
01:08:06,720 --> 01:08:08,640
Speaker 4: that I do is intention is not lucky. I have

1379
01:08:08,880 --> 01:08:11,960
Speaker 4: never chased clout because God did not make me that way.

1380
01:08:12,440 --> 01:08:16,799
Speaker 4: If you look at my birthright of all go everything

1381
01:08:16,880 --> 01:08:19,200
Speaker 4: and truting that Jay is that's how I started. If

1382
01:08:19,280 --> 01:08:22,400
Speaker 4: you look at that man where he started, anything that

1383
01:08:22,439 --> 01:08:25,280
Speaker 4: I'm doing now should not surprise you because I've always,

1384
01:08:25,320 --> 01:08:27,800
Speaker 4: once again walked to the beat of my own drum.

1385
01:08:29,720 --> 01:08:33,919
Speaker 4: The issue that is happening now is that because everybody

1386
01:08:34,000 --> 01:08:35,800
Speaker 4: is so influenced by influencers.

1387
01:08:35,880 --> 01:08:37,760
Speaker 3: That's why influencer is literally a.

1388
01:08:37,880 --> 01:08:41,920
Speaker 4: Million dollar job, because that means that you can make

1389
01:08:42,040 --> 01:08:48,479
Speaker 4: yourself a leader. You can make yourself influence people because

1390
01:08:48,520 --> 01:08:51,840
Speaker 4: of that. That is what throws people off, because they're

1391
01:08:51,880 --> 01:08:54,559
Speaker 4: looking at it as like you're a bad representation. They're

1392
01:08:54,600 --> 01:08:56,639
Speaker 4: looking at it like, hey, you're a leader. I think

1393
01:08:56,680 --> 01:08:58,439
Speaker 4: that you're a leader, but you're not the type of

1394
01:08:58,520 --> 01:09:02,040
Speaker 4: leader that I want you to be. And it's like whoa, hey, hey, hey, hey,

1395
01:09:04,000 --> 01:09:07,519
Speaker 4: what I say you You should more pay attention to

1396
01:09:09,439 --> 01:09:12,200
Speaker 4: what I say and then understand why I do what

1397
01:09:12,320 --> 01:09:15,559
Speaker 4: I do, because what you do for yourself should always

1398
01:09:15,640 --> 01:09:20,000
Speaker 4: still be based on like why you feel this way

1399
01:09:20,600 --> 01:09:25,560
Speaker 4: when I get my nails done consistently and to this

1400
01:09:25,840 --> 01:09:31,479
Speaker 4: level because I love art, Like I would have never

1401
01:09:31,560 --> 01:09:32,559
Speaker 4: been a French tip girl.

1402
01:09:34,960 --> 01:09:37,880
Speaker 3: I would have never been. I would no no no

1403
01:09:37,960 --> 01:09:40,280
Speaker 3: no no no no no no no no, I just

1404
01:09:40,360 --> 01:09:42,679
Speaker 3: I would have never just because I mean, look look

1405
01:09:42,720 --> 01:09:42,960
Speaker 3: at me.

1406
01:09:43,200 --> 01:09:43,400
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1407
01:09:43,760 --> 01:09:45,720
Speaker 2: I just love to vibrate.

1408
01:09:45,760 --> 01:09:47,960
Speaker 3: Because I don't want to talk about how great I am.

1409
01:09:48,720 --> 01:09:49,960
Speaker 3: I want my fashion.

1410
01:09:50,080 --> 01:09:54,040
Speaker 4: I want myself to express that when like it's not

1411
01:09:54,120 --> 01:09:57,120
Speaker 4: like Prince started off cheeks, he got the cheek.

1412
01:09:59,240 --> 01:09:59,840
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying.

1413
01:10:00,040 --> 01:10:03,240
Speaker 4: And I say all this the same way it's like anybody.

1414
01:10:03,360 --> 01:10:06,920
Speaker 4: Everybody will still always have a problem with me presenting

1415
01:10:07,000 --> 01:10:09,280
Speaker 4: myself like this, like this, like this.

1416
01:10:09,680 --> 01:10:10,200
Speaker 7: I love it.

1417
01:10:10,360 --> 01:10:12,840
Speaker 3: I love you know, but that's the thing about it.

1418
01:10:12,960 --> 01:10:16,479
Speaker 4: Like for me, I ain't even women have a problem,

1419
01:10:16,560 --> 01:10:19,680
Speaker 4: but like I've been living a great life, like in

1420
01:10:19,800 --> 01:10:22,960
Speaker 4: my journey, any woman that I've ever dealt with, they

1421
01:10:23,040 --> 01:10:26,240
Speaker 4: made me like this, you know what I'm saying. And

1422
01:10:26,560 --> 01:10:31,920
Speaker 4: I and it's never been a problem because a woman

1423
01:10:32,000 --> 01:10:38,080
Speaker 4: could tell if you're not a man, you can have

1424
01:10:38,200 --> 01:10:38,519
Speaker 4: none of this.

1425
01:10:38,760 --> 01:10:39,120
Speaker 7: I will.

1426
01:10:40,160 --> 01:10:45,600
Speaker 4: I could take you to some men that if we

1427
01:10:45,800 --> 01:10:48,320
Speaker 4: just put them right there, you'll be like, jeezus Christ,

1428
01:10:48,560 --> 01:10:49,800
Speaker 4: this nigga find a ship.

1429
01:10:50,520 --> 01:10:53,479
Speaker 3: This nigga gave us hell. And he ain't got none

1430
01:10:53,520 --> 01:10:54,479
Speaker 3: of this stuff that I got on.

1431
01:10:54,600 --> 01:11:00,840
Speaker 4: Right, none of this I mean, waves abs, all the

1432
01:11:01,360 --> 01:11:04,760
Speaker 4: tatty at the neck nigga, all that, whatever you think

1433
01:11:05,240 --> 01:11:05,599
Speaker 4: or whatever.

1434
01:11:05,800 --> 01:11:07,760
Speaker 3: And he don't want nothing to do with y'all.

1435
01:11:08,400 --> 01:11:10,560
Speaker 6: No, it's so funny that you said that, because I

1436
01:11:10,680 --> 01:11:14,000
Speaker 6: was literally just gonna ask you that, like, has you

1437
01:11:14,240 --> 01:11:16,519
Speaker 6: being how you are, as creative as you are, wanting

1438
01:11:16,560 --> 01:11:18,720
Speaker 6: to express yourself the way that you do, has it

1439
01:11:18,880 --> 01:11:21,760
Speaker 6: hindered your day in life, but you already answered that. Well,

1440
01:11:21,920 --> 01:11:24,120
Speaker 6: something that really comes to mind for me is that

1441
01:11:24,760 --> 01:11:26,880
Speaker 6: back in the day, like I feel like, and not

1442
01:11:27,000 --> 01:11:29,439
Speaker 6: to compare you to a pimp, but pimps used to

1443
01:11:29,560 --> 01:11:32,920
Speaker 6: dress real flamboyantly and they were really expressive well how

1444
01:11:32,960 --> 01:11:34,960
Speaker 6: they dressed, and nobody ever considered them gay.

1445
01:11:35,680 --> 01:11:38,800
Speaker 4: And you know that that comes from the aspect of

1446
01:11:39,360 --> 01:11:43,000
Speaker 4: when you are really free, you everything. You a man,

1447
01:11:43,080 --> 01:11:45,439
Speaker 4: you're a woman, you everything. All this shit look at

1448
01:11:45,439 --> 01:11:48,560
Speaker 4: on me like this is me challenging the universe. I

1449
01:11:48,600 --> 01:11:50,000
Speaker 4: ain't even seeing y'all no more.

1450
01:11:50,680 --> 01:11:54,040
Speaker 3: I am. I'm in a different spectrum. Like I don't

1451
01:11:54,080 --> 01:11:56,960
Speaker 3: even see these nails. I just have these nails. You

1452
01:11:57,000 --> 01:11:59,519
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying, Like, I don't this my Jordan

1453
01:11:59,600 --> 01:12:06,680
Speaker 3: one right here? You know that, you know.

1454
01:12:08,240 --> 01:12:11,439
Speaker 4: That that that is just once again, you are looking

1455
01:12:11,600 --> 01:12:16,479
Speaker 4: at the black experience from a free perspective. Like I

1456
01:12:16,560 --> 01:12:19,559
Speaker 4: started off this particular topic on, I am not trying

1457
01:12:19,640 --> 01:12:22,200
Speaker 4: to influence you. I am not trying to give you

1458
01:12:22,360 --> 01:12:25,000
Speaker 4: pointers on what to look like or who to be right,

1459
01:12:25,120 --> 01:12:27,640
Speaker 4: I am just truly walking to the beat of my

1460
01:12:27,680 --> 01:12:28,080
Speaker 4: own drum.

1461
01:12:28,320 --> 01:12:30,680
Speaker 1: I love that, and I think the confidence shows too,

1462
01:12:30,880 --> 01:12:33,880
Speaker 1: Like when you're doing certain things because you're trying to

1463
01:12:34,000 --> 01:12:35,719
Speaker 1: be something people.

1464
01:12:35,880 --> 01:12:37,719
Speaker 2: That's when it comes off like weird.

1465
01:12:37,920 --> 01:12:39,519
Speaker 3: You can't even talk. You can't even talk about it.

1466
01:12:39,800 --> 01:12:42,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's like now who you are?

1467
01:12:43,040 --> 01:12:48,400
Speaker 6: Okay, Well now it's time Hey into dub Hey the

1468
01:12:48,520 --> 01:12:50,639
Speaker 6: about boo about Boo?

1469
01:12:53,160 --> 01:12:54,680
Speaker 3: So the bop tell me about it.

1470
01:12:55,120 --> 01:12:57,559
Speaker 2: It's our music that we've been jamming this week.

1471
01:12:58,880 --> 01:13:02,240
Speaker 1: So I have been cleaning. I've been in a cleaning

1472
01:13:02,320 --> 01:13:04,760
Speaker 1: mode and I listened to an album. I want to say,

1473
01:13:04,800 --> 01:13:07,200
Speaker 1: this album came out maybe, I'm like, let me see,

1474
01:13:07,200 --> 01:13:09,519
Speaker 1: I have to look it up two thousand and nine.

1475
01:13:10,280 --> 01:13:14,519
Speaker 1: And when I say, this is one of my favorite albums,

1476
01:13:14,560 --> 01:13:16,680
Speaker 1: and I was like, you know, the mind is so

1477
01:13:16,840 --> 01:13:19,280
Speaker 1: interesting because you cannot listen to something for a very

1478
01:13:19,360 --> 01:13:21,640
Speaker 1: long time and then when you hear it, it's like,

1479
01:13:21,760 --> 01:13:24,000
Speaker 1: oh yeah, this album came out in two thousand and nine.

1480
01:13:24,800 --> 01:13:35,400
Speaker 1: Do y'all remember the band LaRue This Time Baby, So

1481
01:13:36,080 --> 01:13:39,920
Speaker 1: the album that they had dropped in two thousand and nine,

1482
01:13:40,800 --> 01:13:44,200
Speaker 1: I'm not kidding is one of the best albums ever,

1483
01:13:44,960 --> 01:13:48,600
Speaker 1: like Start to Finish No Skips. Now, if you like

1484
01:13:48,840 --> 01:13:52,800
Speaker 1: the electronic dance music type music, you'll like it.

1485
01:13:53,000 --> 01:13:54,320
Speaker 2: If not, don't even listen to it.

1486
01:13:54,439 --> 01:13:58,240
Speaker 3: You've Vegas a couple of times, yes, But you know the.

1487
01:13:58,320 --> 01:14:00,640
Speaker 1: Reason I like this album now and I replayed it

1488
01:14:00,720 --> 01:14:02,760
Speaker 1: I was listening to it, It's because they had that

1489
01:14:03,120 --> 01:14:06,400
Speaker 1: bas in there, so it kind of gives like it

1490
01:14:06,439 --> 01:14:08,320
Speaker 1: doesn't give like hip hop vibe, but you can hear

1491
01:14:08,400 --> 01:14:12,639
Speaker 1: that bas in there. And the thing she was talking about,

1492
01:14:12,760 --> 01:14:16,760
Speaker 1: like struggling in relationships and going through it. And there's

1493
01:14:16,800 --> 01:14:20,040
Speaker 1: this one song called cover My Eyes and she's talking

1494
01:14:20,040 --> 01:14:22,560
Speaker 1: about how she's in love with this man and she

1495
01:14:22,640 --> 01:14:24,320
Speaker 1: saw him with another woman and she had to cover

1496
01:14:24,400 --> 01:14:24,800
Speaker 1: her eyes.

1497
01:14:24,880 --> 01:14:27,080
Speaker 2: I'm like, we all going through it, man, you know

1498
01:14:27,120 --> 01:14:29,400
Speaker 2: what I'm saying. And I was listening to it and

1499
01:14:29,439 --> 01:14:32,080
Speaker 2: I was like, Wow, this is what we call a

1500
01:14:32,200 --> 01:14:33,320
Speaker 2: perfect album.

1501
01:14:33,760 --> 01:14:35,639
Speaker 1: And I think I talked about it a long time ago,

1502
01:14:35,680 --> 01:14:38,080
Speaker 1: like when it was Wine down Wednesday, but I ran

1503
01:14:38,160 --> 01:14:39,320
Speaker 1: it back the other day and I'm.

1504
01:14:39,240 --> 01:14:41,080
Speaker 2: Like, man, I think this is the album that you

1505
01:14:41,160 --> 01:14:44,280
Speaker 2: would appreciate. You have to listen to it. It's the

1506
01:14:44,400 --> 01:14:46,640
Speaker 2: first album. It's the album that has bulletproof on it.

1507
01:14:47,320 --> 01:14:49,280
Speaker 1: So just listen to it, and I'm gonna hit you

1508
01:14:49,400 --> 01:14:50,800
Speaker 1: in like a week and see what you think about

1509
01:14:50,840 --> 01:14:54,320
Speaker 1: it because it's so good from start to finish.

1510
01:14:55,080 --> 01:14:56,720
Speaker 2: So that's my bop of the week.

1511
01:14:56,800 --> 01:15:00,320
Speaker 1: LaRue's first album is the self titled album LaRue. If

1512
01:15:00,360 --> 01:15:02,320
Speaker 1: you went to the different type of music, listen get

1513
01:15:02,360 --> 01:15:04,679
Speaker 1: my phone ja Yeah, I put.

1514
01:15:05,320 --> 01:15:05,880
Speaker 2: That on there.

1515
01:15:07,680 --> 01:15:10,200
Speaker 6: My fop of the week is Chris Brown and Brison

1516
01:15:10,280 --> 01:15:13,760
Speaker 6: Tiller have a new song. It's called It Depends, and

1517
01:15:14,280 --> 01:15:17,000
Speaker 6: it's actually because we were just talking about samples. US

1518
01:15:17,080 --> 01:15:18,920
Speaker 6: shirt is on the song because they use the sample

1519
01:15:18,960 --> 01:15:22,479
Speaker 6: from Nice and Slow. And I really really love these songs.

1520
01:15:22,600 --> 01:15:26,240
Speaker 6: I love I love when people do do samples.

1521
01:15:25,840 --> 01:15:26,360
Speaker 2: The right way.

1522
01:15:26,760 --> 01:15:28,400
Speaker 3: I knew that song was I ain't look.

1523
01:15:28,479 --> 01:15:32,559
Speaker 4: I literally got that listen to because I said Chris

1524
01:15:32,680 --> 01:15:35,080
Speaker 4: Brown being first of all, shout out to Chris Brown.

1525
01:15:36,240 --> 01:15:39,559
Speaker 3: God is good. Yes, but they don't really work together

1526
01:15:39,600 --> 01:15:41,559
Speaker 3: like that, Chris Brown and the person till they don't.

1527
01:15:41,920 --> 01:15:44,559
Speaker 3: But Chris Brown is strategic. Let Chris don't. Nobody work

1528
01:15:44,560 --> 01:15:45,960
Speaker 3: hard in Chris Brown and the R and B Y.

1529
01:15:46,800 --> 01:15:50,000
Speaker 3: I agree, but he's strategic the time. And I said,

1530
01:15:50,080 --> 01:15:51,559
Speaker 3: it's like when you waited to work with Drake when

1531
01:15:51,560 --> 01:15:54,200
Speaker 3: it didn't Nobody that timing.

1532
01:15:54,040 --> 01:15:59,480
Speaker 2: Was crazy because everybody do they hate each other exactly

1533
01:16:00,000 --> 01:16:02,120
Speaker 2: these songs ever worse.

1534
01:16:02,680 --> 01:16:06,200
Speaker 4: The song still I still Chris Brown, the person that

1535
01:16:06,280 --> 01:16:09,440
Speaker 4: dropped thirty songs, forty songs the album this album way,

1536
01:16:09,960 --> 01:16:10,240
Speaker 4: It's like.

1537
01:16:10,400 --> 01:16:12,680
Speaker 3: Y'all keep thinking, y'all keep thinking them boot. I know

1538
01:16:12,840 --> 01:16:15,080
Speaker 3: that song good. I know it is.

1539
01:16:15,280 --> 01:16:17,519
Speaker 2: I promise you could trace me. It's a really really

1540
01:16:17,560 --> 01:16:18,000
Speaker 2: good I know.

1541
01:16:18,200 --> 01:16:20,160
Speaker 6: Like I said, I love when people's when people do

1542
01:16:20,680 --> 01:16:21,840
Speaker 6: samples the right way.

1543
01:16:22,240 --> 01:16:23,559
Speaker 2: Yeah, I live.

1544
01:16:24,240 --> 01:16:31,360
Speaker 1: Bryceon Tailor, Yeah, bryceon Taylor is fire problem. Sometimes I

1545
01:16:31,439 --> 01:16:33,719
Speaker 1: feel like, now what you've been jamming?

1546
01:16:34,240 --> 01:16:36,120
Speaker 4: Ooh, you know, I'm all over the place. So what

1547
01:16:36,280 --> 01:16:46,320
Speaker 4: I've been loving is two songs, Uh, all right, three songs.

1548
01:16:46,360 --> 01:16:49,040
Speaker 4: I'm a lie every three songs on the album give

1549
01:16:49,120 --> 01:16:53,760
Speaker 4: us three the three songs. One is Loretta Lynne. It's

1550
01:16:53,800 --> 01:16:56,479
Speaker 4: a song called you Ain't Woman enough. The lyrics on

1551
01:16:56,560 --> 01:17:01,920
Speaker 4: there aren't saying. The lyrics on there are in sane insane,

1552
01:17:03,720 --> 01:17:07,320
Speaker 4: You ain't woman to forget about it, penmanship insane.

1553
01:17:08,080 --> 01:17:09,120
Speaker 2: Now what genre is this?

1554
01:17:09,479 --> 01:17:15,360
Speaker 4: This is Americana nineteen sixties, trying to be the perfect

1555
01:17:15,400 --> 01:17:17,320
Speaker 4: woman or whatever. Instillin't enough?

1556
01:17:18,439 --> 01:17:19,400
Speaker 3: So you know what I'm saying that?

1557
01:17:21,280 --> 01:17:22,840
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, Yeah.

1558
01:17:27,720 --> 01:17:32,200
Speaker 4: The next song is Sliding family Stone called a song

1559
01:17:32,240 --> 01:17:37,720
Speaker 4: called Family Affair Instant Family Affair. It feels so good.

1560
01:17:37,800 --> 01:17:40,240
Speaker 4: I just love things. It's just like I weren't even

1561
01:17:40,280 --> 01:17:42,320
Speaker 4: in cleaning mode. I was just in thinking mode and

1562
01:17:42,400 --> 01:17:49,479
Speaker 4: it came on and it made my complete body feel good. Yes, okay, oh,

1563
01:17:49,960 --> 01:17:56,840
Speaker 4: thank you very much. And then last song, completely different genre.

1564
01:17:57,280 --> 01:18:00,120
Speaker 4: There's some twins from Atlanta, they called the am G

1565
01:18:00,320 --> 01:18:04,519
Speaker 4: Twins MG Twins from Atlanta. They got a song called

1566
01:18:04,560 --> 01:18:09,439
Speaker 4: No Gimmicks and it just feel like when.

1567
01:18:09,400 --> 01:18:12,559
Speaker 3: Future was ready to go and be that man. Okay,

1568
01:18:12,640 --> 01:18:16,080
Speaker 3: it made me feel like, oh my god, this is crazy.

1569
01:18:16,160 --> 01:18:16,960
Speaker 2: It's turn up time.

1570
01:18:17,040 --> 01:18:17,639
Speaker 3: That's turn.

1571
01:18:20,439 --> 01:18:20,639
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1572
01:18:20,800 --> 01:18:24,360
Speaker 2: Let me let me add that on in now. Okay.

1573
01:18:25,080 --> 01:18:26,640
Speaker 1: I got another song I want you to listen to to.

1574
01:18:27,240 --> 01:18:30,479
Speaker 1: It's called heat Waves by Glass Animals. It's kind of

1575
01:18:30,520 --> 01:18:32,280
Speaker 1: like in that same genre of what I was giving before.

1576
01:18:32,320 --> 01:18:33,360
Speaker 1: But listen to that song too.

1577
01:18:34,160 --> 01:18:36,720
Speaker 3: Glass Animals are done. Got it all right?

1578
01:18:37,400 --> 01:18:38,200
Speaker 2: That was some good but.

1579
01:18:41,640 --> 01:18:44,479
Speaker 3: Now it's Oh the album was Eclipse. I'm sorry, Oh

1580
01:18:44,560 --> 01:18:45,160
Speaker 3: the new album.

1581
01:18:46,000 --> 01:18:49,840
Speaker 1: Oh, I was so wait quick story times now. He

1582
01:18:49,880 --> 01:18:51,800
Speaker 1: said that I was riding the car the other day

1583
01:18:51,880 --> 01:18:53,799
Speaker 1: and I had to make a snap. I made a Snapchat.

1584
01:18:53,840 --> 01:18:55,760
Speaker 1: I said, I don't know what's going on because I

1585
01:18:55,840 --> 01:18:57,559
Speaker 1: usually I don't listen to a lot of rap music.

1586
01:18:57,840 --> 01:19:00,280
Speaker 2: And I said, this album is for boys, but I

1587
01:19:00,640 --> 01:19:03,120
Speaker 2: like it. That is so good That niggas was on there,

1588
01:19:05,920 --> 01:19:07,519
Speaker 2: but I grew up on.

1589
01:19:09,479 --> 01:19:14,559
Speaker 1: That album is so good because you know we always

1590
01:19:14,560 --> 01:19:20,040
Speaker 1: see push your t Yes. Melie said, let me let

1591
01:19:20,120 --> 01:19:21,080
Speaker 1: y'all know why I'm big bro.

1592
01:19:21,280 --> 01:19:25,360
Speaker 2: Y'all forgot about me. Oh, and he reminded us real

1593
01:19:25,520 --> 01:19:28,360
Speaker 2: fucking quick that album No Skips.

1594
01:19:29,000 --> 01:19:30,519
Speaker 3: I really listened to the whole thing. I was like,

1595
01:19:31,200 --> 01:19:34,240
Speaker 3: I was driving through Washington. I said, real rap, this

1596
01:19:34,400 --> 01:19:34,840
Speaker 3: is good.

1597
01:19:35,160 --> 01:19:37,600
Speaker 2: When we were talking about real rap, like this is

1598
01:19:37,640 --> 01:19:40,320
Speaker 2: what they were talking about at the top. It's good.

1599
01:19:40,760 --> 01:19:41,200
Speaker 2: It's good.

1600
01:19:41,280 --> 01:19:43,519
Speaker 1: I was like, because it's crazy. Because my friend was like, oh,

1601
01:19:43,560 --> 01:19:45,000
Speaker 1: the clips just dropping the new album. I was like,

1602
01:19:45,080 --> 01:19:47,519
Speaker 1: I don't know, like you know, like I'm just I

1603
01:19:47,680 --> 01:19:50,400
Speaker 1: listened to stuff. I dibble and dabble. He said, let

1604
01:19:50,439 --> 01:19:52,840
Speaker 1: me run it when he did that tiny dashk and

1605
01:19:52,920 --> 01:19:57,240
Speaker 1: he was, oh, let me go see what he talking about.

1606
01:19:57,320 --> 01:19:59,240
Speaker 3: That's why I stay out of people be That's why

1607
01:19:59,280 --> 01:20:01,519
Speaker 3: I stay out to people beef. I just want to

1608
01:20:01,560 --> 01:20:03,560
Speaker 3: hear the music. But I'm here for the music. You

1609
01:20:03,640 --> 01:20:05,160
Speaker 3: are not my friend music.

1610
01:20:06,040 --> 01:20:07,720
Speaker 6: That song that the Clips had back in the day

1611
01:20:07,760 --> 01:20:11,479
Speaker 6: with for Real, I can't remember. No, the hot Damn

1612
01:20:11,640 --> 01:20:14,800
Speaker 6: song Hot Damn you know.

1613
01:20:17,000 --> 01:20:25,800
Speaker 2: Was a great song. Hot you know from was a

1614
01:20:25,880 --> 01:20:26,360
Speaker 2: great song.

1615
01:20:29,000 --> 01:20:35,639
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's a big cut.

1616
01:20:35,800 --> 01:20:39,920
Speaker 2: That's a yeahs. My favorite bar from the from the

1617
01:20:39,960 --> 01:20:44,280
Speaker 2: Clips you know it the Chinchilla. I put this on

1618
01:20:44,560 --> 01:20:46,599
Speaker 2: my My beef was pold.

1619
01:20:47,840 --> 01:20:48,320
Speaker 5: Shut up?

1620
01:20:48,920 --> 01:20:54,160
Speaker 2: Come on now, they've been spending for clips.

1621
01:20:54,520 --> 01:20:57,640
Speaker 3: That's what good rap does. It makes women feel great men,

1622
01:20:58,040 --> 01:20:59,639
Speaker 3: That's what great rap does. Yah.

1623
01:21:00,840 --> 01:21:03,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, shut up. Every We love everybody in the beast.

1624
01:21:03,400 --> 01:21:07,000
Speaker 1: We just we just talked about it, all right, Okay,

1625
01:21:07,240 --> 01:21:09,439
Speaker 1: so uh now it's time to move on what we

1626
01:21:09,520 --> 01:21:10,160
Speaker 1: got next row.

1627
01:21:10,479 --> 01:21:13,920
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1640
01:21:51,960 --> 01:21:53,760
Speaker 6: of the show of the show, which is pour your

1641
01:21:53,840 --> 01:21:56,040
Speaker 6: heart out. If you have any questions, send them to

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1644
01:22:03,320 --> 01:22:04,519
Speaker 3: I like that, pour your heart out.

1645
01:22:06,120 --> 01:22:07,639
Speaker 2: You can ask us a let question.

1646
01:22:08,000 --> 01:22:08,080
Speaker 3: Now.

1647
01:22:08,080 --> 01:22:10,599
Speaker 6: I used to write a testimonials. What have you writing

1648
01:22:10,600 --> 01:22:17,120
Speaker 6: a testimonials? Okay, hey, beautiful women, my name is Loay.

1649
01:22:17,560 --> 01:22:20,559
Speaker 6: Can y'all please come to Charleston, South Carolina? I need

1650
01:22:20,640 --> 01:22:23,840
Speaker 6: advice on a relationship I was recently in. I broke

1651
01:22:23,960 --> 01:22:26,960
Speaker 6: up with my boyfriend because his mother was always calling him,

1652
01:22:27,439 --> 01:22:30,280
Speaker 6: like every hour, even when we were on dates. Am

1653
01:22:30,320 --> 01:22:30,960
Speaker 6: I wrong for that?

1654
01:22:31,680 --> 01:22:34,679
Speaker 3: What? Do you think? It can go both ways?

1655
01:22:34,760 --> 01:22:34,960
Speaker 9: Man?

1656
01:22:37,600 --> 01:22:39,840
Speaker 4: When a when a When a man loves his mother,

1657
01:22:40,720 --> 01:22:46,880
Speaker 4: it's different, right, And it's not like a good man

1658
01:22:47,560 --> 01:22:48,720
Speaker 4: can't love his mother too.

1659
01:22:49,800 --> 01:22:52,800
Speaker 3: I think that in her issue. Man, I could be wrong.

1660
01:22:53,680 --> 01:22:56,920
Speaker 4: I think what what the issue comes is when you're

1661
01:22:57,080 --> 01:23:00,720
Speaker 4: not getting the that the tension that you like, when he.

1662
01:23:00,760 --> 01:23:01,880
Speaker 3: Doesn't know how to balance.

1663
01:23:03,160 --> 01:23:06,320
Speaker 4: Like I said, a great leader got his mama in check,

1664
01:23:06,520 --> 01:23:08,960
Speaker 4: his daddy in check, and girl in check. Like a

1665
01:23:09,040 --> 01:23:12,040
Speaker 4: great leader got everybody in check. Him and his mama

1666
01:23:12,080 --> 01:23:14,160
Speaker 4: are best of friends. Girl, You ain't never gonna match that.

1667
01:23:14,479 --> 01:23:16,400
Speaker 4: He loved his mama. They damned it doing everything, but

1668
01:23:16,520 --> 01:23:16,840
Speaker 4: fuck it.

1669
01:23:17,160 --> 01:23:18,920
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. They love each other.

1670
01:23:19,400 --> 01:23:23,479
Speaker 4: You know she made that, nigga. But a great leader

1671
01:23:23,600 --> 01:23:27,040
Speaker 4: knows how to balance his time. And I don't think

1672
01:23:27,080 --> 01:23:29,120
Speaker 4: he was a great leader, And so I think she

1673
01:23:29,200 --> 01:23:29,800
Speaker 4: did the right thing.

1674
01:23:30,040 --> 01:23:33,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, So you mean like more so like if we're

1675
01:23:33,160 --> 01:23:34,439
Speaker 2: on to day, my mom know.

1676
01:23:34,560 --> 01:23:41,080
Speaker 4: Not to call, or just like whenever a man feels

1677
01:23:41,080 --> 01:23:43,240
Speaker 4: like he has to answer every call from his mother

1678
01:23:43,880 --> 01:23:45,920
Speaker 4: or whatever. You know what I'm saying, it's like, your

1679
01:23:46,000 --> 01:23:48,120
Speaker 4: mother can't just call you in the emergencies. Your mother

1680
01:23:48,160 --> 01:23:50,360
Speaker 4: should be able to call you. But if your mother

1681
01:23:50,479 --> 01:23:52,960
Speaker 4: here is like if you have a great relationship with her.

1682
01:23:52,920 --> 01:23:54,000
Speaker 3: Already knew he was going on this day.

1683
01:23:54,800 --> 01:23:57,000
Speaker 4: She already knew he was going to day, nigga, she

1684
01:23:57,080 --> 01:24:02,559
Speaker 4: knew yesterday you told her because y'all right. So if

1685
01:24:02,600 --> 01:24:05,080
Speaker 4: you're a real leader, she's not calling you at eight am,

1686
01:24:05,560 --> 01:24:07,040
Speaker 4: A PM, I PM.

1687
01:24:07,160 --> 01:24:08,600
Speaker 3: She's not calling you during that time. She's not.

1688
01:24:08,960 --> 01:24:12,040
Speaker 4: So once again, if he's a great leader, you don't

1689
01:24:12,080 --> 01:24:14,479
Speaker 4: have to worry about those type of things. Now, what

1690
01:24:14,600 --> 01:24:18,280
Speaker 4: I've a little bit of my devil horn, very devil's advocate,

1691
01:24:18,920 --> 01:24:20,639
Speaker 4: is that just to make sure that you're not cutting

1692
01:24:20,680 --> 01:24:23,679
Speaker 4: them off and you're not trying to understand the dynamic

1693
01:24:23,800 --> 01:24:26,280
Speaker 4: that he has that he I love my mother and

1694
01:24:26,479 --> 01:24:28,760
Speaker 4: like you know, because once again, girls be beefing with

1695
01:24:28,840 --> 01:24:29,160
Speaker 4: their mother.

1696
01:24:29,720 --> 01:24:31,760
Speaker 3: I would ever say you beefing with your mother? You

1697
01:24:31,840 --> 01:24:34,120
Speaker 3: don't understand what it is that I love my mama.

1698
01:24:34,680 --> 01:24:36,240
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying, And that can throw off

1699
01:24:36,439 --> 01:24:39,800
Speaker 4: the energy there. You know, if you i'll judge a

1700
01:24:39,880 --> 01:24:40,959
Speaker 4: woman off how you treat.

1701
01:24:40,720 --> 01:24:43,240
Speaker 2: Your mama, I agree say, and I'll judge a man off.

1702
01:24:43,240 --> 01:24:45,920
Speaker 4: It is well, of course, as you should, as you should,

1703
01:24:45,960 --> 01:24:47,439
Speaker 4: but i'll judge a woman off here.

1704
01:24:47,439 --> 01:24:49,800
Speaker 3: You treat your mama whatever because you should.

1705
01:24:49,840 --> 01:24:52,880
Speaker 1: That says a lot about a party whoa and even

1706
01:24:52,920 --> 01:24:55,080
Speaker 1: if it's not their fault, but a relationship that a

1707
01:24:55,160 --> 01:24:57,440
Speaker 1: person has with their parents says a lot about.

1708
01:24:57,200 --> 01:24:57,960
Speaker 3: How they develop.

1709
01:24:59,360 --> 01:25:02,719
Speaker 4: How you carefu your dad in his old age, your mother,

1710
01:25:03,160 --> 01:25:04,960
Speaker 4: what type of relation the things that you say about

1711
01:25:04,960 --> 01:25:08,320
Speaker 4: her is like, that's gonna stick with me, dog, It's

1712
01:25:08,320 --> 01:25:09,000
Speaker 4: gonna stick with me.

1713
01:25:09,280 --> 01:25:10,920
Speaker 3: Like I'm not even trying to judge you.

1714
01:25:11,320 --> 01:25:13,639
Speaker 4: I am not trying to, but it's going to stick

1715
01:25:13,680 --> 01:25:16,800
Speaker 4: with it because I love my mother, because she's earned

1716
01:25:16,800 --> 01:25:19,760
Speaker 4: my love, you know what I'm saying. So it's just like, look,

1717
01:25:20,040 --> 01:25:23,639
Speaker 4: everybody's relationship don't have to be the same, but hey,

1718
01:25:24,000 --> 01:25:26,040
Speaker 4: if I were to, if I really care a lot

1719
01:25:26,040 --> 01:25:27,479
Speaker 4: about you and I want to be with you, that

1720
01:25:27,640 --> 01:25:29,120
Speaker 4: mean they might be a point time where I need.

1721
01:25:29,000 --> 01:25:29,880
Speaker 3: You to take care of my mama.

1722
01:25:30,920 --> 01:25:32,880
Speaker 2: And if you treat your mama like that, I mean you're.

1723
01:25:32,760 --> 01:25:34,400
Speaker 3: Gonna treat my MoMA like that. Now we're gonna have

1724
01:25:34,439 --> 01:25:34,920
Speaker 3: a problem.

1725
01:25:35,080 --> 01:25:35,600
Speaker 2: I feel you.

1726
01:25:35,720 --> 01:25:37,880
Speaker 6: I have a friend that I actually cut off like

1727
01:25:38,040 --> 01:25:39,640
Speaker 6: back in the day because I didn't used to like

1728
01:25:40,000 --> 01:25:41,960
Speaker 6: I used to try to turn a blind eye to

1729
01:25:42,080 --> 01:25:45,240
Speaker 6: it for a little bit, but eventually I was like,

1730
01:25:45,280 --> 01:25:46,840
Speaker 6: I can't be friends with you no more because I

1731
01:25:46,840 --> 01:25:48,439
Speaker 6: don't like the way she will talk to her mom.

1732
01:25:48,640 --> 01:25:50,719
Speaker 2: Sure would be so disrespectful.

1733
01:25:50,040 --> 01:25:52,600
Speaker 6: Towards her mom, and I just couldn't believe sometimes that

1734
01:25:52,720 --> 01:25:54,600
Speaker 6: I would see her talk to her mom like that.

1735
01:25:54,840 --> 01:25:55,880
Speaker 2: It was so off putting.

1736
01:25:56,000 --> 01:25:57,800
Speaker 4: You make me, you make my spirit feel a type

1737
01:25:57,800 --> 01:25:59,360
Speaker 4: of way, the way if you treat the people in

1738
01:25:59,400 --> 01:25:59,760
Speaker 4: your family.

1739
01:26:00,040 --> 01:26:01,200
Speaker 3: Do you say you care about Yeah?

1740
01:26:01,920 --> 01:26:04,439
Speaker 2: I agree, I agree, all right?

1741
01:26:04,600 --> 01:26:08,240
Speaker 1: Question number two, Hey, Dre and Lex Lex, I love, love,

1742
01:26:08,320 --> 01:26:10,160
Speaker 1: love how funny you are and how direct you are

1743
01:26:10,240 --> 01:26:13,200
Speaker 1: with things. Drea, I really love how you eat every

1744
01:26:13,240 --> 01:26:15,720
Speaker 1: outfit up. More of the story is I've been with

1745
01:26:15,840 --> 01:26:19,200
Speaker 1: my boyfriend for almost four years now, and I always

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Speaker 1: have to remind him to be romantic or to do

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Speaker 1: small gestures for me, like buying me flowers or asking

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Speaker 1: how my day was.

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Speaker 2: Simple things like that, things I believe I always do

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Speaker 2: for him.

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Speaker 1: Lately, it's gotten more serious with me asking him to

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Speaker 1: contribute more in the relationship since we'll be moving in

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Speaker 1: together soon. I recently noticed that I've been the only

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Speaker 1: one asking to spend time together or do anything in general.

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Speaker 2: What should I do?

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Speaker 4: So let's break it down in the context clues. You

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Speaker 4: spent four years with a manager you didn't move in with. Ooh,

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Speaker 4: that's the first thing. You spent four years with a

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Speaker 4: man you didn't move in with, So that mean you

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Speaker 4: spend four years understanding what type of man he is.

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Speaker 3: How he treats his house is how you treat y'all's house.

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Speaker 4: The things that's dirty in his house will be dirty

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Speaker 4: in y'all's house if you don't clean it, So you

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Speaker 4: have to Now I think she has to look at

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Speaker 4: what type of woman are you trying to be? If

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Speaker 4: you really want to continue to build four more years

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Speaker 4: together with this person, are you going to make up

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Speaker 4: for his faults? Because some things are not going to

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Speaker 4: change with him because the things that are makes him great.

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Speaker 3: A man is only trying to be great, right, And

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Speaker 3: I think we have to.

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Speaker 1: Stop looking at people's potential. Sometimes you just gotta look

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Speaker 1: at a person for what they are, who they are,

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Speaker 1: and accept it or not.

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Speaker 3: Get there.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes it's time to run stay with the person. Sometimes

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Speaker 2: you just gotta be like, Okay, this is who they

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Speaker 2: are because.

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Speaker 1: I think, and I'm not even talking about the flowers.

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Speaker 1: Why is he not even asking how y'all day was?

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Speaker 2: That's a little weird.

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Speaker 4: The Girl Girls twenty five years from now, twenty years

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Speaker 4: from now, they are going to be laughing at you

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Speaker 4: because girl, you stupid, Like this is the era of

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Speaker 4: being able to get the hell out of it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and you you're an idiot. You're an idiot.

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Speaker 4: The girls ten years from now you're telling your story

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Speaker 4: or seeing your story.

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Speaker 3: She's an idiot. Yeah, you're an idiot.

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Speaker 2: You really don't have to stay because this is you

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Speaker 2: spent four years with this man.

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Speaker 3: Y'all didn't move in.

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Speaker 4: I mean you got to come over to his place

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Speaker 4: and see exactly who he is for four years straight.

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Speaker 3: The Queen there is periods.

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Speaker 6: This is some good advice there was from a man perspective,

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Speaker 6: because I feel like we always believe an advice, you know,

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Speaker 6: and they'd.

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Speaker 2: Be like, oh, well now you got it from a man,

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Speaker 2: so exactly. All right.

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Speaker 1: Obviously they know where to find you and all that

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Speaker 1: good stuff. But what you got coming up, let the

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Speaker 1: people know all that good stuff.

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Speaker 3: I'm out here journeying.

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Speaker 1: Uh.

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Speaker 4: We got our collab with the Atlanta Dream here coming out.

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Speaker 4: I'm performing at the halftime show. We did clothing with them.

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Speaker 4: I'm wearing one of our jackets that were did with them,

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Speaker 4: the socks and learning dream logos, you know, more collabsed

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Speaker 4: with the brand. We got new music coming out, new

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Speaker 4: project coming out.

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Speaker 3: So that bag which is awesome.

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Speaker 4: Ready for World Cup next year, you know, getting the

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Speaker 4: businesses together so that we make sure that, you know,

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Speaker 4: we get some of that money that money hunt too.

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Speaker 4: But all in all though, I mean, if you really

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Speaker 4: want to know what I got going on, really tap in,

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Speaker 4: because I'm really just protecting culture, combining culture, always trying

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Speaker 4: to do something that keeps our people and people inspired.

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Speaker 2: I love that, and I'm glad you're reminded me. The

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Speaker 2: World Cup is next year. It's going to be crazy

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Speaker 2: about to be wild already, know, thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: Amazing time up it up.

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Speaker 3: Period, and y'all make.

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Speaker 2: Sure y'all tune in next week. We'll see y'allo.

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Speaker 4: Poor Minds Records distribution. I got the all the ways

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Speaker 4: with me. Everybody, make sure you tap in. What's the

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Speaker 4: man of factory on that baby? Makeup must be from

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Speaker 4: Virginia Beach, Sit a rump, shake up make up brother,

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Speaker 4: double touch her playing with my paper girl?

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Speaker 9: You the pope lease her? You my biggest hater. If

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Speaker 9: you want to go, let's go. Oh the you wanna go,

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Speaker 9: let's go. If you wanna go, let's go the If

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Speaker 9: you wanna go, let's go.

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Speaker 3: The way I say thug at the Fizz.

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Speaker 10: I get crazy off the mans half the things out

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Speaker 10: THEE did. I won't never get the cred until I'm

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Speaker 10: dead or decease. For my unreleased release, haters, make a

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Speaker 10: meme of me until my news nine leak for a Grammy.

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Speaker 4: I'm going John Cena, the Bougie Brother, the Pretty Nails,

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Speaker 4: My Chanelle, Nina, her big dog Pepper Stepper, her big

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Speaker 4: Diva Sharon. Need a paum baby with lips like Gina,

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Speaker 4: So let me know what's the man affected on that baby?

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Speaker 4: Make up must be from Virginia Beach rom Shake or

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01:31:11,880 --> 01:31:15,400
Speaker 4: make a brother double Dutch her playing with my paper girl,

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Speaker 4: You the Poelice her you my biggest hay that.

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Speaker 7: If you want to go, let's come. Oh the what

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Speaker 7: you wanna go?

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Speaker 3: Let's go?

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Speaker 2: Oh then go, let's go, oh the go, Let's go. Hey,

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Speaker 2: I'm going all away, Hey, hey.

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Speaker 6: Hey, thanks for listening and celebrating five years of the

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Speaker 6: Black Effects Podcast Network with us. Keep following, sharing, and streaming,

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Speaker 6: because the next five years are about to be even

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Speaker 6: bigger thing

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Speaker 2: Is they donty b