Speaker 1: Welcome to a brand new Awkward Tuesday episode. It's Brooke
Speaker 1: and Jeffrey and you have found the Second Day podcast.
Speaker 1: Today's really a lesson and the grass is not always
Speaker 1: greener my friends. You know, on the other side, she
Speaker 1: wanted something before she fully thought it out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'd be the first woman to ever change
Speaker 2: a man successfully. That's all right.
Speaker 3: What do we got in the comments?
Speaker 2: Jazz A lou Baby said, I finally learned how to
Speaker 2: leave a rating and comment after listening for years.
Speaker 4: I listened to.
Speaker 2: Y'all every day, and one time I hugged Jose outside
Speaker 2: in the parking lot of a casino.
Speaker 5: I love it.
Speaker 1: I think I lugged Jose in a parking lot outside
Speaker 1: of casino before that thing you.
Speaker 6: Do with Jose.
Speaker 3: I love it.
Speaker 1: Hey, thanks for leaving your comments and figuring them out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, your brand new Awkward Tuesday starts right now.
Speaker 4: One of our listeners came on the show to complain
Speaker 4: about her boy friend, saying he is super hot, super successful,
Speaker 4: and super put together. And I know what you're all thinking,
Speaker 4: but no, she's not dating me. You're all thinking. The
Speaker 4: thing is her boyfriend. It's he's kind of too perfect
Speaker 4: and she says it's all her fault because it's causing
Speaker 4: actual problems in their relationship. You're going to understand why
Speaker 4: she had no choice but to reach out and ask
Speaker 4: for help the problems. You'll hear it in your brand
Speaker 4: new Awkward Tuesday phone call. Next It's Awkward Tuesday. It's
Speaker 4: awkward Tuesday phone call. It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning,
Speaker 4: and I just want to ask my co host Brooke
Speaker 4: real quick, is it ever okay for a woman to
Speaker 4: try and change a man. I don't know if.
Speaker 3: It's okay or not.
Speaker 1: It doesn't work, just I mean it wasted energy.
Speaker 4: Well, yeah, what if I told you one of our
Speaker 4: listeners tried it and it did work immediately wrong?
Speaker 3: Would she be on the phone with us?
Speaker 4: Well, if it works, that's a fair question. I'm a
Speaker 4: firm believer in that women always know what's best for
Speaker 4: a guy. Oh, yes, you do, jeff Okay do all
Speaker 4: of life. And our listener Alexandra did the impossible. She
Speaker 4: changed her man and regrets it, and she's coming to
Speaker 4: us for help. Alexandra, Luckily you've come to the right place.
Speaker 4: Welcome to the show.
Speaker 7: Thank you built them up.
Speaker 4: He's too good.
Speaker 1: Now he's doing too many dishes and fling too much laundry,
Speaker 1: too productive.
Speaker 4: It's a hard life, I'm sure, but we don't know
Speaker 4: the details of your situation. Tell us what's going on
Speaker 4: with you and your guy.
Speaker 6: So I've been dating my boyfriend for like two years now.
Speaker 4: What's his name?
Speaker 6: Ted?
Speaker 5: Ted?
Speaker 8: Ted?
Speaker 7: Okay, And I realized six months ago he was like
Speaker 7: too comfortable in the relationship, like he wasn't working out anymore.
Speaker 7: He was dressing kind of sloppy, and I was like.
Speaker 6: I have to do something here.
Speaker 4: That's not You don't want a man to be comfortable.
Speaker 1: I always like to fatten my man up a little
Speaker 1: bit because I don't want them to be hotter than
Speaker 1: me with me.
Speaker 3: Always try to sneak some butter into my husband's meal.
Speaker 4: Yeah all right, And I mean it's not like I'm
Speaker 4: not saying like you weren't attracted to him anymore, but
Speaker 4: it's like he was becoming a different type of boyfriend
Speaker 4: than you wanted.
Speaker 6: Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 7: So I told him I had a special birthday.
Speaker 8: Plan for him, like a birthday gift, and.
Speaker 7: I gave him a full makeover.
Speaker 4: So, oh wow, he used to.
Speaker 6: Cut his own hair Oh, you got it.
Speaker 4: That's resourceful. Yeah. He took him to like a nice barber.
Speaker 8: I got him like a real actual barber.
Speaker 7: I got him a spaw treatment, I got him new clothes.
Speaker 7: I even got.
Speaker 5: Him like four sessions with a personal trainer.
Speaker 3: Oh my god.
Speaker 9: It'd be one thing if you said, hey, honey, you
Speaker 9: gotta hit the But if you were like, here's a
Speaker 9: plethora of gifts to improve your life.
Speaker 3: I would love that, wouldn't you feel? I mean, you
Speaker 3: would make you feel really taken care of.
Speaker 4: I don't know, it's a little bit insulted. If I'm like,
Speaker 4: by the way I set you up with a personal trainer,
Speaker 4: you're welcome.
Speaker 10: Have you ever watched a.
Speaker 3: Make over show?
Speaker 1: Nobody's insulted ever excited about him?
Speaker 4: We should ask how did Ted take it when you
Speaker 4: were basically showing him how to be a different person.
Speaker 7: I mean, he was fine, He's like, yeah, I'll do it.
Speaker 7: He was excited.
Speaker 5: He did it, and it was the worst possible thing
Speaker 5: that I could have ever done.
Speaker 3: Oh no, is he hooking up with a trainer?
Speaker 6: Oh?
Speaker 7: Well, he just like he looks really good. He's getting
Speaker 7: a lot of attention from a lot of people. He
Speaker 7: kind of just.
Speaker 6: Ran with it.
Speaker 5: So he's like buying himself more new clothes, he's working
Speaker 5: out on his own.
Speaker 1: God what ay, I get it that was your whole
Speaker 1: goal though. He sounds like he's confident, Like isn't that
Speaker 1: the type of man you want to be with?
Speaker 7: Yeah? I just I kind of even to like tourne
Speaker 7: it back and go back to being like sloppy, Like
Speaker 7: maybe he could just do like sloppy weekends or like
Speaker 7: I don't know, he's even dressing really nice on the
Speaker 7: weekends and going for runs at six.
Speaker 5: Am on Saturdays.
Speaker 6: Like we used to.
Speaker 7: Go to the bakery and get stones and coffee and I.
Speaker 6: Missed that and we can't do that anymore.
Speaker 4: Oh wow, is.
Speaker 3: He getting you up to to go on runs with him?
Speaker 4: For you're not like a fit couple now? No?
Speaker 6: No, God, no, absolutely not.
Speaker 7: It takes a shower trying to get a stone.
Speaker 4: Okay, have you talked to him about this at all
Speaker 4: to this point?
Speaker 7: No? No, I don't even know how to tell him
Speaker 7: because it's like it's so awkward.
Speaker 5: That I accidentally created this, Like how do I reverse
Speaker 5: what I just did?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 4: Wait, so that's the advice that you're looking to get
Speaker 4: from us here is how do you get him to
Speaker 4: backtrack on the progress that he's made.
Speaker 6: Yes, and just be normal again.
Speaker 3: It feels like it's going to backfire.
Speaker 1: I mean if you're putting all this energy into making
Speaker 1: yourself what you think is a better person, and then
Speaker 1: your partner comes and says, eh, don't.
Speaker 4: Like, well, maybe if to take Brooks tactic and go
Speaker 4: a little sneaky with it, put some butter into his
Speaker 4: food and not looking at cooked with large.
Speaker 5: It's not that I don't like the new version of him.
Speaker 5: I just need him to like take his foot off
Speaker 5: the gas a little bit.
Speaker 4: Okay. It's like it's like if you renovated the kitchen
Speaker 4: of your house and it looks great, and then your
Speaker 4: husband's like, oh, well, let's also redo the living room
Speaker 4: and let's add in a pool, and let's like the
Speaker 4: whole other second house.
Speaker 2: He's doing all good things.
Speaker 4: Well, I know, it's like he's taking the project too
Speaker 4: far out, like I want a pool. I mean, sure,
Speaker 4: maybe it was a bad metaphor, but he's gone farther
Speaker 4: than what she wanted.
Speaker 9: Do we need to talk, like, are you maybe just
Speaker 9: like a little insecure at this point?
Speaker 5: No, I just want to get my coffee and my
Speaker 5: stones on the weekend.
Speaker 4: Okay, good, okay ask Yeah.
Speaker 1: I understand that was like, it sounds like one of
Speaker 1: the precious moments of your guys' relationship or those like
Speaker 1: lazy Sunday.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and they just aren't happening anymore.
Speaker 4: And we're gonna try to bring those back for you
Speaker 4: when we give you solid advice.
Speaker 3: Is that what we're gonna get.
Speaker 4: Yeah, We'll figure out a way to get your boyfriend
Speaker 4: Ted to go back to his old ways.
Speaker 3: Yeah, just a little bit.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, Yes, we made ten steps forward, we need
Speaker 4: to take two steps back when we do an awkward
Speaker 4: Tuesday phone call right after this. It's awkward.
Speaker 3: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 4: It's awkward Tuesday phone call. They say you can't change
Speaker 4: a man, Well they were wrong, and our listener Alexandra
Speaker 4: is living proof because after a couple of years together,
Speaker 4: she wanted to help her boyfriend Ted just lock.
Speaker 3: It up a little bit, that's a good way to
Speaker 3: say it.
Speaker 4: And you'll get in a better shave, take care of
Speaker 4: himself a little more. So. She set him up with
Speaker 4: a haircut, spa treat, mints, a few sessions with a
Speaker 4: personal trainer, and now she regrets it of sort of
Speaker 4: because she's happy that he's making positive changes, but her
Speaker 4: feeling is maybe he's taken this to the extreme, to
Speaker 4: the point he's jogging at six am every Saturday.
Speaker 3: Who likes a person like that? Right?
Speaker 2: I like running, and even I don't like that.
Speaker 4: That's why Alexandra wants our help on how to convince
Speaker 4: her boyfriend to just balance out his new persona a
Speaker 4: little bit with the old, sloppy ones she fell in
Speaker 4: love with. So it just needs a little balance. Is
Speaker 4: it possible? We don't know, but we're going to try
Speaker 4: to give her a little bit of advice. Brooke, what
Speaker 4: do you think?
Speaker 1: Okay, I think you need to make him a little
Speaker 1: jealous of what you're doing. What do you mean, well,
Speaker 1: I mean I think that you tell him that the
Speaker 1: guys at work have started this brunch boys club and
Speaker 1: you are finally invited. And since he's busy on a
Speaker 1: run every Saturday morning, I can't get scones with you.
Speaker 3: You might as well join the hotties from work for
Speaker 3: their bottomless mimosas.
Speaker 1: Then he'll want to stay home and snuggle you and
Speaker 1: get you scones again.
Speaker 4: I was kind of sold on brunch Boys.
Speaker 3: The group.
Speaker 4: I don't know, but what do you think, Alexandra?
Speaker 6: You know what, I'm desperate. I'll go with anything at
Speaker 6: this point.
Speaker 3: I'm going to take that as a compliment for my advice.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I love a little desperation on the show, Jose
Speaker 4: any advice for her?
Speaker 9: Well, if you think about it, six months ago, when
Speaker 9: you asked him to change, he was open to it,
Speaker 9: and that's really rare with guys.
Speaker 4: So that's why you just have to feel.
Speaker 9: Positive in this conversation because you're asking him to just
Speaker 9: slightly change, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4: Which is a way easier convo than the first one.
Speaker 3: So you just wanted to openly ask, Yeah.
Speaker 9: Be confident if he if he received the first one,
Speaker 9: well he'll receive this one.
Speaker 8: Great.
Speaker 4: Okay, maybe if you bring up the first change.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and the first.
Speaker 2: One came with like one hundreds of dollars worth of stuff.
Speaker 4: So okay, do a little Yeah, So al Xandra, this
Speaker 4: advice comes with a little bit more scones, maybe, do
Speaker 4: you think, Yeah, maybe you could toss that in there. Yeah,
Speaker 4: just asking him to change, yeah, well and bringing up
Speaker 4: how how much he has changed the first time you asked?
Speaker 4: And how proud you are of him?
Speaker 3: Did she ask him? She kind of sneakily.
Speaker 4: I mean you forced him, but that's okay.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I can definitely bring up his change
Speaker 5: because it is dramatic, but I am proud of him. Yeah.
Speaker 9: Tickets like an anti fitness camp, you know what I mean? Wait?
Speaker 4: Yeah, they force you to eat cakes every Yeah, all right,
Speaker 4: that'll be our backup plan, plane.
Speaker 3: I want to go to that camp.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's not for you, cake camp. Yes, it's right
Speaker 4: after the brunch boys made all right, great, we gave
Speaker 4: you all the device that we have. You can choose
Speaker 4: to use as much of it as you want or
Speaker 4: none of it. It's up to you. But I'm going
Speaker 4: to dial your boyfriend's number. Let you make your awkward
Speaker 4: call here.
Speaker 6: Good luck, thank you?
Speaker 7: All right, here we go?
Speaker 8: Hellop, Hey Dan? Sorry, who's what it's me?
Speaker 10: Hi?
Speaker 8: Oh? Sorry? Your phone cut out? And I don't know
Speaker 8: you're not calling from your numbers.
Speaker 6: What's going on? Oh that's weird. I don't know.
Speaker 10: What do you do?
Speaker 8: I am at the moment, making lunch and getting ready
Speaker 8: for my afternoon jag.
Speaker 6: You're going for a run again, didn't you go this morning?
Speaker 8: So I've been reading something online that says you can
Speaker 8: kind of do shorter runs more often, kind of boost
Speaker 8: your endurance. I'm experimenting with that this week.
Speaker 5: Oh no, wow, Okay, you're really going for with this
Speaker 5: healthcare kong?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 8: Yeah, I mean you get me started on something that
Speaker 8: has really a good change my life, you know the
Speaker 8: best word.
Speaker 5: And you have worked so hard and I am so
Speaker 5: proud of you, and you were doing so good. But
Speaker 5: what if you just did like the same but like less?
Speaker 8: What I don't get it, like.
Speaker 5: Instead of two runs a day, maybe like two runs
Speaker 5: a week or like two runs a month, you know,
Speaker 5: stuff like that.
Speaker 8: Maybe what's what's going on? What is this?
Speaker 5: Like you're just always so busy with this health thing?
Speaker 5: Like do you even remember that we used to have scones?
Speaker 5: Like do you know what that tastes like?
Speaker 4: Still?
Speaker 6: Did you forget?
Speaker 5: Like they were so buttery and they had like blueberries
Speaker 5: and chocolate chips and like.
Speaker 6: They were warm and you put jam on them, Like
Speaker 6: do you know that?
Speaker 7: Like did you do you forget?
Speaker 8: I haven't forgotten, but I mean the way you just
Speaker 8: described that sounds awful.
Speaker 5: At this point, the blueberries are organic, like, get over it.
Speaker 8: Whoa, Oh, I feel like I've kind of hit a
Speaker 8: stride in this sort of new, less butter more vegetables
Speaker 8: part of my life.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 8: They say like look good, feel good, and man, I
Speaker 8: feel real good. I mean I might getting compliments from people,
Speaker 8: you know, like even your sister said, I look really cute.
Speaker 6: Oh wait what.
Speaker 8: When we were at your cousins for the baby shower
Speaker 8: of and he texted me after her said it was
Speaker 8: like nice to meet me and I looked really cute.
Speaker 6: No, she did not, she did no, she no, she
Speaker 6: did not. She never said that to anyone.
Speaker 8: What are you talking about here? She never says anybody's attractive.
Speaker 6: Nobody, no, nobody, Like she is up to something.
Speaker 8: Are you serious? What's going on?
Speaker 7: You don't know her like I know her? Okay.
Speaker 10: In high school they called her the Medusa of men.
Speaker 10: Like you look at her once and you're done.
Speaker 8: What is going on? What was that?
Speaker 4: That's a sound effect that we played because you're on
Speaker 4: the radio right now, Ted, why.
Speaker 3: Well, we're trying to save you from the Medusa of men.
Speaker 4: Apparently, I guess that.
Speaker 6: Wasn't the that's a real thing.
Speaker 7: She wants you Ted?
Speaker 4: Well, yeah, yeah, you're jumping to a lot of conclusions here, Alexandra. First,
Speaker 4: we need to tell Ted that this is a segment
Speaker 4: we do. It's called an awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 5: That doesn't matter. Okay, It matters that he's gotten too
Speaker 5: hot and he knows it and she knows it.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 3: Do you really think your sister's trying to steal your man?
Speaker 5: Why would she text him and not have me on
Speaker 5: the thread and then tell him that he's cute?
Speaker 8: Question? Why are we on the radio?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Do you want want me to explain to Alexandra or
Speaker 4: do you want to tell.
Speaker 6: You can tell him it's fun.
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, it's like a group chat.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 4: So Alexandra reached out to us because, first of all,
Speaker 4: she is so proud of you on the progress that
Speaker 4: you've made in the last six months in the lifestyle changes,
Speaker 4: like obviously you're looking good and everybody's noticing. She does, though,
Speaker 4: miss a little bit of your relationship before when you
Speaker 4: used to, like she said, go get scones together, and the.
Speaker 3: Relaxed part of your relationship is missing.
Speaker 4: You may have over indexed just like a touch for her.
Speaker 8: But I mean isn't it better to avoid the process
Speaker 8: cards than the all that craft?
Speaker 1: No, but it's like everything in moderation, right, like a
Speaker 1: little bit here, a little bit there.
Speaker 8: Yeah, So I don't know. I said, you want me
Speaker 8: to go back to the way I was.
Speaker 5: I mean a little bit because I'm getting asked up
Speaker 5: by these people called like the brunch boys, and I
Speaker 5: don't think you want me to go out with them?
Speaker 8: Always deduced? Are these real things?
Speaker 1: She just wants you to hang out on a Saturday
Speaker 1: morning and be lazy with her for.
Speaker 4: A little bit. She would you be so serious about
Speaker 4: the working out?
Speaker 3: Apparently she also doesn't want you to text her sister now.
Speaker 8: Yeah, I'm not trying to be like the sidon do
Speaker 8: anything over here?
Speaker 4: Whoa drake mccaldi went too far? She can make up
Speaker 4: words and he can't.
Speaker 8: Yeah, what the hell? Man?
Speaker 4: Well we're on the radio, is all that? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Have we accomplished anything here?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 3: Where are we at?
Speaker 5: I just want to hang out and have a scone
Speaker 5: without veggies on the side.
Speaker 4: And without her sister present anywhere nearby.
Speaker 8: Yes, I will come home. We will block your sister
Speaker 8: on all of the social media. We will I will
Speaker 8: eat the pastry with you and enjoy the heck out
Speaker 8: of it.
Speaker 4: Okay, Well, we set out trying to find the healthy
Speaker 4: balance in the life that you were going to words
Speaker 4: in the life that you had, Alexandra. Do you feel
Speaker 4: like we found it?
Speaker 6: I think we're good.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: You a really awesome boyfriend.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so like a great dude.
Speaker 8: Bro.
Speaker 4: Oh no, Brooks trying to slide in. Hang Up, Hang
Speaker 4: Up the Men Part two, look Out Part number. Brook
Speaker 4: and Jeffrey in the morning. It's Brook and Jeffrey in
Speaker 4: the morning. Can someone remind me to make my reservation
Speaker 4: for six with the brunch Boys this weekend? I would
Speaker 4: really hate to miss it.
Speaker 3: Is it a brunch Boys club? Because it just is
Speaker 3: such a good name.
Speaker 4: Don't Yeah? I think we need to start it if
Speaker 4: it doesn't exist.
Speaker 3: Can I be invited to?
Speaker 4: Absolutely? Not only the hot guys of the studio get in?
Speaker 4: Brook You gave the best advice you've given in years.
Speaker 4: I did what Yeah? The brunch Boys? Oh okay, that
Speaker 4: was amazing. It didn't help them at all, but it
Speaker 4: sounds like they didn't need it anyway. They're one of
Speaker 4: those couples that actually listens to each other. Can compromise,
Speaker 4: and plus they're getting scones together. I mean it's pretty.
Speaker 2: Much pertinct they just called to be on the phone
Speaker 2: and brag about themselves.
Speaker 3: He seemed Humblefolt. That was the gross thing.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, although I do picture him at the
Speaker 4: bakery secretly spitting out his chocolate scone into his napkin
Speaker 4: underneath the table.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's not going to actually like eating it.
Speaker 4: No he's not, oh man. But you know what actually
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