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Speaker 1: Everybody. It's Bill Courtney with an army and normal folks,

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Speaker 1: welcome to shop top number seventy four, Michael Orr's number.

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Speaker 1: I don't even know if I said it was Michael

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Speaker 1: Or's jersey number. Should I ask you this? Do you know?

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Speaker 2: Like, what's going on with Michael Her and the twoies?

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Speaker 2: Should we talk about this or no?

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Speaker 1: Talk about it? I think he's suing them saying he

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Speaker 1: didn't get any money from the movie, and clearly he's

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Speaker 1: being misled by some handlers. Yeah, the Two's did not

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Speaker 1: take any money for Michael Arr.

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Speaker 1: It is sad though, how the relationships falling apart, Absolutely pitiful.

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Speaker 1: How the relationship's falling apart. And oh, I could go deeply.

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Speaker 2: And he's basically saying they don't love me, They basically

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Speaker 2: just use me.

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Speaker 1: I don't believe that at all. Yeah, And I'm going

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Speaker 1: to tell you something. Leah Towey brings a lot of

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Speaker 1: heat on herself and because she is so opinionated as

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Speaker 1: a fellow Memphian, she's so opinionating everything else. But I

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Speaker 1: will tell you i've met her, she's been nothing but

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Speaker 1: kind to me. But that has nothing to do with

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Speaker 1: the fact that Certainly Michael Wore helped Brocrest win games.

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Speaker 1: Certainly Michael Wore went to Old Miss primarily because the

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Speaker 1: two E's or Old Miss Royalty and all of that.

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Speaker 1: But the two E's and the two's children loved Michael

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Speaker 1: and treated him like a brother and a son, and

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Speaker 1: they did not take any money from Michael. They if

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Speaker 1: the very hopsite, they gave a lot to Michael Wore.

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Speaker 1: And whoever's handlers are advisors are that are having him

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Speaker 1: an attack mode on them right now? To me, I

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Speaker 1: think it is really really sad.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, to be clear that they need no more money too,

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Speaker 2: he's got like one hundred, one hundred and fifty restaurants.

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Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, well I will twenty seconds say this. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: There are people who said that I coach Shipman asks

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Speaker 1: only to make a movie. Yeah, and that is I

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Speaker 1: mean I was an asked six years before anybody ever

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Speaker 1: called about any cameras. Right. And while that's very very

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Speaker 1: few people have said that, it has been said, but

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Speaker 1: vitriol like that can be starred up in her relationships,

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Speaker 1: and it has heard of you. I think I show it.

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Speaker 1: So I kind of feel sorry for not only the twoies,

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Speaker 1: but also Michael. All of that is noise and it's

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Speaker 2: I think I saw Chavis defend you once on that online.

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Speaker 2: I think I saw someone post I don't. I'm giving

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Speaker 2: just letting you know. I'm paying Shaves some credit that

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Speaker 2: he stuck up for you.

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Speaker 1: I would I would expect that i'd stick up for him.

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Speaker 1: But I'm glad he did. But you know, it's listen,

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Speaker 1: there are people who think we didn't land on the moon.

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Speaker 1: I could. I could make it rain golden eggs and

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Speaker 1: we could find some who had about the litter. All right,

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Speaker 1: So it is what it is, and we're not gonna

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Speaker 1: worry about naysayers and Debbie Downers and all them. Okay,

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Speaker 1: but we are going to talk about family meals and

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Speaker 1: what the American College of Pediatricians say about it. And

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Speaker 1: I love this topic because before we go to break,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to say this. The Courtney family, as the

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Speaker 1: children come up, even when their friends, and when their

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Speaker 1: to twelve, we had a rule it's called stack them.

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Speaker 1: And before dinner began, everybody took their cell phone, put

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Speaker 1: allowed to touch them or use them during family dinners.

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Speaker 1: I rely on my handheld device a lot because my text,

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Speaker 2: And I don't know if you've heard this, but when

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Speaker 1: My kids all have jobs. Now when I'm gonna try

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Speaker 1: back to shop talking number seventy four, Michael will number

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Speaker 1: here we go. Over the past three decades, family time

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Speaker 1: The experience at the meal table has also to client

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Speaker 1: wish they had more family dinners. Studies have found that

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Speaker 1: The one meta analysis of fifty studies oh meta analysis

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Speaker 1: nutritional benefits for the children. These characteristics are turning off

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Speaker 1: or mill duration. As early as nineteen forty three, researchers

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Speaker 1: sociological and cultural viewpoint. Family table talk is an assential

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Speaker 1: communication techniques, and problem solving skills. Family meals are powerful

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Speaker 1: for many reasons. First, meal time impact all of our

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Speaker 1: And I'm like ridiculous, But the question is, what are

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Speaker 2: I mean, you are setting your kids up for failure. Basically,

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Speaker 1: How about interpersonal relationships? How about learning? How about learning

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Speaker 2: It out of that article, I think, but they had

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Speaker 1: What good thing happened today? What bad thing happened to

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Speaker 2: And none of your kids are lacking words.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they're all abundant their words. That's it.

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Speaker 2: Hey, one thing just to harb onto, you were a

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, and I said that five seven, not one,

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Speaker 1: But that's it, Alex is right. Shopped out number seventy four. Guys,

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Speaker 1: The American College of Pediatrics teaches us what we already know,

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Speaker 2: Example of this too is also doing your extended family.

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Speaker 2: Kevin's you know, Wilson, our friend has talked about they've

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Speaker 2: And it's like seventy people at these family meals every

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Speaker 1: And that's great.

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Speaker 2: And not everybody always in town every single week, so

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Speaker 2: The importance of being uncommon, as you say.

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Speaker 1: It's very important to be uncommon. Okay, that's it. Shop

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Speaker 1: It's good for you, it's good for your kids, good

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