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Speaker 1: Welcome to Decisions Decisions. I don't think you should say
Speaker 1: the Decisions. It sounded like you was talking to Kursky.
Speaker 1: You definitely say to welcome, Welcome to the new podcast
Speaker 1: how are you want to say?
Speaker 3: Together the Decisions Decisions Welcome guys to another episode of Just.
Speaker 1: A Girl, What Girl? I am in love?
Speaker 3: I'm having sex girl, It's happening, baby, I am in
Speaker 3: a relasson stip.
Speaker 1: You should see me though.
Speaker 3: Not wanting to say the L word too early, so
Speaker 3: I just keep telling everyone we adore each other.
Speaker 1: Oh, you know you have to say you say adore
Speaker 1: is the word? Adore is the word.
Speaker 3: I'm not saying the L word. I said the L
Speaker 3: word for the first time in my last one. Never
Speaker 3: the fuck you couldn't waterboard it out of me first?
Speaker 3: He gotta feed water board.
Speaker 1: It's crazy.
Speaker 4: You always see girl me and dB I'm lazy. Welcome
Speaker 4: back to another episode of Decisions Decisions. We're alone, y'all
Speaker 4: because y'all been asking for it, by the way, bitch,
Speaker 4: run up the way y'all been trying to fight us
Speaker 4: in the YouTube comments.
Speaker 1: Can y'all respect our decision to have guessed because it's a.
Speaker 4: Decision decision for us to get somebody on, and y'all
Speaker 4: be upset about it?
Speaker 1: What then were supposed to do? We just running the.
Speaker 3: Show, and you know what we are gonna work on
Speaker 3: our first seven minutes. Can we not curse because you
Speaker 3: know the YouTube we already done say bitch and but sorry,
Speaker 3: I no doubt you gotta believe it again. Let's just
Speaker 3: work on being thoughtful with our words. Okay, I will talk.
Speaker 3: I guess I could talk about the innership and inn
Speaker 3: ship ship?
Speaker 1: Can we come on? Bracers? Are gonna do?
Speaker 3: We want to start with your ketchup or edon? Did
Speaker 3: randomly say you had a question for us?
Speaker 1: Yeah? We can get intil later that I guess. Damn
Speaker 1: I feel the pressure now.
Speaker 5: Okay, so as a recent a friend of a friend
Speaker 5: of a friend, definitely not me a promise, not me?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 5: So they received a letter okay, right, they received a
Speaker 5: letter from their current.
Speaker 1: Boyfriend from their current boyfriend.
Speaker 5: Current boyfriend of I think they said of five years
Speaker 5: right in this is he in a war?
Speaker 1: Why he wrote a letter?
Speaker 5: It's interesting, mind you. It's not even like a sentence
Speaker 5: like mail. No, it's a handed letter. In fact, it
Speaker 5: wasn't even ripped. It was in a book that he wrote.
Speaker 5: In the letter details everything he'd want in a woman. Okay, thoughtful,
Speaker 5: you would think, right? Considerably the friend of a friend
Speaker 5: of a friend who's not me. They didn't take very
Speaker 5: well to this letter. Okay, the letter was written to
Speaker 5: who to that to the partner, to the partner, listing
Speaker 5: different things that they'd want in a woman, and they
Speaker 5: felt like there were so many qualities within that letter
Speaker 5: that did not fit for a description. Okay, things like
Speaker 5: someone who someone like, for example, someone I don't have
Speaker 5: to micromanage.
Speaker 1: Oh that's a break up. That's that's passive, aggressive, and.
Speaker 5: Very probably probably someone I don't have the microphones. Someone
Speaker 5: who has a passion in life, someone who is strong, someone.
Speaker 1: Who to help me with my luggage upstairs. Right now.
Speaker 5: I have to ask you to have you guys, ever
Speaker 5: received certain requests of who you should be to your
Speaker 5: significant other relationship? And if you received this letter, what
Speaker 5: would you do?
Speaker 1: So two things.
Speaker 3: If I received the letter and I genuinely felt like
Speaker 3: the things that that person wanted didn't apply to me,
Speaker 3: then I would make the conscious decision that I'm not
Speaker 3: a good fit. I think a lot of times women
Speaker 3: like try to be something they're not. So for me,
Speaker 3: if I received a letter, I would do so example
Speaker 3: prime example, Oh my god, so my boyfriend is British.
Speaker 1: Okay, And before we like.
Speaker 3: So we started talking about the things that we like
Speaker 3: or don't like, or things that bother and I remember
Speaker 3: we were on the phone and he was like, you know,
Speaker 3: there's there's something that normally bothers me because I feel
Speaker 3: like I'm being mobbed. And he was like, so, like
Speaker 3: your British accent, like really is a problem because I
Speaker 3: feel like you're making fun of me when you get
Speaker 3: into your accent.
Speaker 1: And I was so real and honest with him.
Speaker 3: I said, listen, if you don't like me talking in accents,
Speaker 3: you don't want to be with me.
Speaker 1: You don't like me, because little do you know.
Speaker 3: When I'm drunk, when I'm hanging with my friends, when
Speaker 3: I'm just having regular conversations, I jump in and out
Speaker 3: of fucking accents that are terrible. And I know my
Speaker 3: British accent is awful, but I jump in and out
Speaker 3: of fucking accents like literally all the time with my homegrowth,
Speaker 3: and I might sound like a.
Speaker 1: British, Jamaican, Irish Australian who makes that's unfair.
Speaker 4: No, no, no, So I told him, I think their
Speaker 4: boyfriend deserves Soner.
Speaker 1: You just shut the fuck up. It is not unfair. Well,
Speaker 1: here's the thing, because what if.
Speaker 4: He was like, for example, when people make fun of
Speaker 4: American black women, they normally go to this southern ghetto
Speaker 4: head bobbing, very loving hip hop ask voice, what if
Speaker 4: he was like? What if you were like I don't
Speaker 4: feel like doing He was like, I don't feel like twenty.
Speaker 1: You know like that.
Speaker 3: That's that's an over dramatized stereotype. I do all accents.
Speaker 3: I don't just do British accents. I also don't sound
Speaker 3: good doing accents. So he came to me and said
Speaker 3: something because he thought it was me mocking him, and
Speaker 3: I said.
Speaker 1: No, this is me.
Speaker 3: I also gave him the choice, if that's something that
Speaker 3: you can't get past, we don't got to be together.
Speaker 1: Well, he's an actor who's dating a very bad actress.
Speaker 3: No, but not only that, he's an actor who has
Speaker 3: to talk like an American for roles. So I'm like, nigga,
Speaker 3: you you go in and out of your accent and
Speaker 3: not too. I can't tell you. You know, we date each other.
Speaker 3: I don't want to see you doing American accents because
Speaker 3: I feel like that's offensive.
Speaker 1: Like no, like, so what is it? Because you're doing
Speaker 1: it from something He's saying like when you no, I
Speaker 1: literally just start saying it. I don't even mock him
Speaker 1: like that.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 1: The only thing is he does say what, and I
Speaker 1: think that that's funny.
Speaker 3: It's like when he's like explaining something but it's what,
Speaker 3: so it just sounds funny. And he says wills a lot,
Speaker 3: and I know that's like an American term, but I'd
Speaker 3: never hear like Americans say, well you mean English?
Speaker 1: What do you mean but English? But said it's an
Speaker 1: American term.
Speaker 3: Like because Wilson is in the like, oh you mean English, bitch,
Speaker 3: but it's not like all English speak.
Speaker 5: You ain't see that what oh you mean English?
Speaker 1: I do?
Speaker 3: It's English, but I ain't never date nobody that says Willing.
Speaker 3: It's like wow, wow, you know, I.
Speaker 4: Remember the first smart guy I ever dated, and British
Speaker 4: people just by nature feel more poised and like.
Speaker 1: Oh he's very mature, and I say, it's all the time.
Speaker 4: And it really British, like a British gentleman. Like it's
Speaker 4: a thing, right, the first smart person. And I don't
Speaker 4: mean this like to be girl, easy to let us
Speaker 4: just someone that you could tell as well read.
Speaker 1: I felt like I was running behind him in conversation.
Speaker 4: Like he would just bring up something that was going
Speaker 4: on in the world whatever, and I'm like, yo, am
Speaker 4: I fucking dumb, Like it was really difficult for me
Speaker 4: and he wasn't from the States, but it also kind
Speaker 4: of just highlighted Damn, we're a little bit far back.
Speaker 1: Oh no, we are.
Speaker 3: He I'm eight years older than him, Like my homegirl
Speaker 3: is right years older than me. He sat and was
Speaker 3: able to keep up in conversation with me and my
Speaker 3: home gro He was almost forty and he's eight years
Speaker 3: younger than me. So definitely leaps and mounds. I know,
Speaker 3: Like there's been constant conversations when I talk to young niggas,
Speaker 3: like what the hell do y'all talk about?
Speaker 1: Me?
Speaker 3: And this motherfucker be on the phone for three four
Speaker 3: hours and it's like, damn, the conversation never gets stale.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, because you grew up in not America,
Speaker 3: that's one it is.
Speaker 1: Now you love him, he's great? Real quick? What's wrong
Speaker 1: with him? Does he snore? Now we slept together, you
Speaker 1: don't snore? Damn, nothing wrong? Not yet. I mean, I'm
Speaker 1: sure there's gonna be something I don't like.
Speaker 4: This is the I remember the first thing I couldn't
Speaker 4: stand about my boyfriend. It's the same thing I can't
Speaker 4: stand now love you. Oh wait, there's something I don't like.
Speaker 4: Ooh what bitch's allergic to Darry?
Speaker 1: Oh yes, oh come on, you know what? I thought
Speaker 1: vegans were bad? Bro.
Speaker 3: I literally didn't cook for that nigga because I was like, oh,
Speaker 3: how do I cook it out?
Speaker 1: Butter on it?
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I'm like toes, but I'll take a
Speaker 3: shit like I can't not this nigga will die Like
Speaker 3: our first we went to cheesecake factory when we was
Speaker 3: shopping out in mother fucking Vegas, and he they brought
Speaker 3: him fucking bread with with with butter on it. They
Speaker 3: dipped the calamari and buttermilk, and I literally was.
Speaker 1: Like, oh my god, he about to die with me.
Speaker 1: I'm about to be the last. But didn't you like
Speaker 1: know that this was stuff? Well?
Speaker 3: No, first off, we had we had a We had
Speaker 3: a young server who literally when he said dairy allergy,
Speaker 3: when she felt so bad, she was like, well, most
Speaker 3: people are lactose, so I didn't know it was like
Speaker 3: a real allergy side and the motherfuckers only had the
Speaker 3: nerd cheese.
Speaker 1: Take back here, I'm coming for your head. I only
Speaker 1: had a nerd to remove his meal, not mine. I
Speaker 1: still got charge. I did, I did, my bitch.
Speaker 4: I was so mad, bro I was the best that
Speaker 4: anybody ever took my allergy serious.
Speaker 1: Was My tips are huge in this top.
Speaker 4: Was when I was at the Standard hotel and the
Speaker 4: drink had egg in it and they run it gave
Speaker 4: me bread, but honestly, like getting into the drink, uh
Speaker 4: it was. It wasn't a margarita because that's no, no,
Speaker 4: no whiskey sours. I know I can't drink. It was
Speaker 4: just some random fruity cocktail that they put egg in. Now,
Speaker 4: the server at the time suggested the drink to me
Speaker 4: knew my egg allergy at the top, so I just
Speaker 4: spent at a look at the cocktail and I'm.
Speaker 1: Like, you something good with tequila and they're like, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: blah blah blah. Damn. So actually she was probably a
Speaker 1: fan that had a hit out on your.
Speaker 3: Maybe you know what I mean, because she knew you
Speaker 3: had the egg g allergy, bitch, because they let me
Speaker 3: not even passed on the menu.
Speaker 1: I got you. I'm gonna give you this I'm trying
Speaker 1: to think of what I have an update on Asia.
Speaker 1: We haven't really gotten much about Asia, and you were
Speaker 1: there for almost a month.
Speaker 4: I know, I will tell anybody who's been dating someone
Speaker 4: for a year. So this trip we planned in the
Speaker 4: summer of last year, like we should go to Asia
Speaker 4: for three weeks, and we really were saying, like, let's see,
Speaker 4: we could last for three weeks. Bro got along so
Speaker 4: well that it was like, oh, of course we could
Speaker 4: live together. Like, but the trip was really a month
Speaker 4: because the Vegas I told some funny stories on Patreon
Speaker 4: about how you know, we ended up having to get
Speaker 4: escorted out the airport because of the whole VSA ty.
Speaker 1: But I will say the most impactful part of the trip.
Speaker 4: I have a friend of mine right now who's dating someone,
Speaker 4: and they were like, yeah, I love being with him,
Speaker 4: but I'm ready for my space sometimes really ready for
Speaker 4: my space. Like they live together currently, no when they date,
Speaker 4: when they're around each other, like after a certain number
Speaker 4: of days, she's capped.
Speaker 1: Out and is your friend me the bitch?
Speaker 4: And is I Like, So I'm talking about it with
Speaker 4: my partner and I remember when we first met. He
Speaker 4: was like, yeah, I like a three four day vacation
Speaker 4: with somebody, no more than that, like I need to reset.
Speaker 4: On this trip, we did so much shit together, to
Speaker 4: the point where we only took one shower without each other,
Speaker 4: and the showers was non sexual. Just always wanted to
Speaker 4: be around each other. And he said to me, I realize,
Speaker 4: whereas we're such solo independent, I don't need nobody for
Speaker 4: shit people both of us. He's like, my alone time
Speaker 4: doesn't feel as great anymore because I love spending time
Speaker 4: with you. And it was one of the nicest things
Speaker 4: anybody has said to me, because I've always felt like
Speaker 4: when I liked to share space, I'm very needy. And
Speaker 4: I found that that wasn't enough time. We wanted more
Speaker 4: than in four weeks. He was like, beach, I was
Speaker 4: I wantn't crying, but I was like fuck because I
Speaker 4: had to go back to LA He went back to
Speaker 4: New York like damn, Like this shit is really over.
Speaker 1: We get along so great. I think a few things
Speaker 1: I have.
Speaker 4: Noticed that it's a beautiful difference from this and other partners.
Speaker 4: There was a lot of things in my head on
Speaker 4: the way home, not doubting my relationship, doubting myself and
Speaker 4: wondering why other relationships lasted. For one, the solo time
Speaker 4: that we spend may look like quiet time while in
Speaker 4: the same room. I'm someone that needs to feel space
Speaker 4: by talking all the time. I'm a chatty person. I'm
Speaker 4: a social person. If I'm on standing online and take
Speaker 4: it too long, I'm going to talk next to the
Speaker 4: person that's just me. If we do a meet and greet,
Speaker 4: I'm the one who doesn't know how to shut up.
Speaker 1: You know that, Yeah, I do. I'd be like, Bennie,
Speaker 1: can you tell her? We got to get through this guy,
Speaker 1: Like I just don't know how to stop.
Speaker 4: So I think what I've learned is my boyfriend is
Speaker 4: not that way, and it's kind of drawn me to
Speaker 4: be a little more patient, a little more quiet.
Speaker 1: He said to me.
Speaker 4: We went to this really small private island. It was
Speaker 4: very white lotus, and he said to me, baby, I
Speaker 4: don't want you to say anything for an hour, not
Speaker 4: in this shut the fuck up way, but like you
Speaker 4: need some quiet too. He's like, yo, just read the book,
Speaker 4: just look at the water, just chill out, cause I'm like, oh,
Speaker 4: everybody's waking up now and now I can talk about
Speaker 4: And it.
Speaker 1: Was just you know my brain is always going.
Speaker 4: I realized that spending the time together isn't always an activity.
Speaker 4: We had a lot of time idle, and people really
Speaker 4: and including me in other relationships, I didn't know what
Speaker 4: to do with that idle time. If there were six
Speaker 4: hours where I was just chilling with someone, I felt
Speaker 4: like I needed to feel it or make an itinerary.
Speaker 4: And I'm not even very type A, but I'm like
Speaker 4: that I have this very I gotta entertain new energy.
Speaker 1: And that shit went out the window, and.
Speaker 4: I realized I really suffered in relationships when that idle
Speaker 4: time happened. Do I like who you are when there's
Speaker 4: no plan? Do I like who you are when I'm
Speaker 4: sitting around you for hours at a time and there's
Speaker 4: no entertainment for the TV? Can I coexist with you
Speaker 4: in this space when we both have nothing to do.
Speaker 4: I've found that other people kind of annoy me, like
Speaker 4: they really do get me to this point where I'm like,
Speaker 4: this is fun, but you can go now.
Speaker 3: It's so funny because you bringing that up, and maybe
Speaker 3: because before we got together we fucking talked for hours
Speaker 3: every day for seven months.
Speaker 1: But I'm very aware of.
Speaker 3: Who like the space that I do need, which is why,
Speaker 3: like my it worked out. He would be around, but
Speaker 3: he always got to go home, like and so even
Speaker 3: like we were having a jokey conversation where he was
Speaker 3: trying to convince me to move to la and I
Speaker 3: said it never gonna happen. So he's like, Okay, maybe
Speaker 3: I'll consider moving to Atlanta and I was like, yeah, well,
Speaker 3: i'll hope you look for an apartment because you won't
Speaker 3: be moving in with me, and it was like it
Speaker 3: was it was joky, but I also meant it like
Speaker 3: before he came over, like I take naps.
Speaker 1: I need my fucking nap.
Speaker 3: So because he jokes about me being a nappy ass
Speaker 3: bitch while he was there, I didn't want to resent
Speaker 3: him or be annoyed by him being in my presence
Speaker 3: because I wasn't able to do the things that I
Speaker 3: genuinely like to do and that I need every day,
Speaker 3: and so I loved that his response to that was well,
Speaker 3: that's fine, I'll just go to the gym so that
Speaker 3: you could have time to take your nap, And there
Speaker 3: was like not that I was pushing him away, but
Speaker 3: he knows how much that means to me, and he
Speaker 3: didn't want to like fuck up my day and I
Speaker 3: literally fuck up my day is very dramatic, but I
Speaker 3: think it's important for if you're a person that needs space,
Speaker 3: finding a way to communicate that and making sure your
Speaker 3: partner doesn't feel pushed away or opposite, if your partner
Speaker 3: is more of a recluse it.
Speaker 1: Needs quiet time, then being able to communicate.
Speaker 3: It to you without you feeling like they said, you'll
Speaker 3: shut the fuck up. So I just think like it's
Speaker 3: it's a self reflective thing and knowing what you actually
Speaker 3: really want and communicating it to your partner where I
Speaker 3: don't feel offended you.
Speaker 1: And wearely don't always know what you want. Like, I
Speaker 1: know I want space.
Speaker 4: I think I think a lot of people don't know
Speaker 4: how to say that in a way of like, but
Speaker 4: sometimes space isn't I need you to leave, It's just
Speaker 4: I need to be Because.
Speaker 1: What about people that live together.
Speaker 3: So let's let's go over that live together to work
Speaker 3: from home. You live together, maybe both work from home.
Speaker 3: How would you communicate or how would you say someone
Speaker 3: could get space from the other person.
Speaker 4: Well, that is our current situation. We don't live together yet,
Speaker 4: but we both work for ourselves. So we were talking about.
Speaker 1: It, and he was talking about moving in together.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like all right, we clearly need a bedroom, like
Speaker 4: another bedroom for space, Like what does that look like?
Speaker 1: And also I was very honest with him.
Speaker 4: I was like, Yo, when we're together, I find myself
Speaker 4: rushing work sometimes when I'm around you, for spending the
Speaker 4: weekend together, I find myself learning a rush it so
Speaker 4: I don't leave you if you don't have work on
Speaker 4: a weekend. And he's like, that's crazy, because you need
Speaker 4: to learn how to exist as yourself when I'm around,
Speaker 4: because I'm not leaving.
Speaker 1: True, So how.
Speaker 4: To fucking Gila be wheezy for three hours today and
Speaker 4: not feel you know, whatever that is.
Speaker 1: So I think there's just a lot of.
Speaker 4: Unlearning of and I think it's women of really needing
Speaker 4: to be like I have to do this, I have
Speaker 4: to be available, I got to be this. I really
Speaker 4: believe it's a woman thing when women feel like this.
Speaker 1: That's why I'll be talking about therapist like I might
Speaker 1: be you.
Speaker 3: Might have to bleep it out. I don't know we're
Speaker 3: allowed to say that word anymore. But my mind really
Speaker 3: thinks like I like a nigga bro. I s to God,
Speaker 3: I don't be thinking like that. You're not as much
Speaker 3: you've been crying on this podcast. No, I is at
Speaker 3: you mean? No, I went through of course heartbreak. I'm
Speaker 3: gonna cry. I was fucking depressed last year, like God
Speaker 3: knows what. But when it comes to like how I
Speaker 3: want to have my time, me telling him, hey, baby,
Speaker 3: were not gonna rush the marriage the kids in those
Speaker 3: high talks, like, I genuinely feel like I approach relationships
Speaker 3: completely from the way that men are used to most women.
Speaker 3: And I think that that's why my ex genuinely didn't
Speaker 3: think I cared about him, because Okay.
Speaker 1: You need some space, I'll see when you like. I
Speaker 1: think it's.
Speaker 4: Possibly because your desires aren't necessarily marriage and children. When
Speaker 4: people are on the clock of their own body and
Speaker 4: they know what they want. So if you are approaching
Speaker 4: a romantic relationship and you're like, yo, children is my
Speaker 4: expectation out of this. So if I'm putting this time
Speaker 4: and energy into this and you're not the right partner,
Speaker 4: you suck me back for another life goal.
Speaker 3: You believe in someone wasting in your time like you
Speaker 3: believe in that, you believe that that's the man's fault
Speaker 3: or I think it can be. Okay, I say this
Speaker 3: because you don't think though that, and I'm curious because
Speaker 3: that's a good thing. Yes, we know we have the
Speaker 3: biological clock, and we choose partners knowing that we want
Speaker 3: certain else.
Speaker 4: I'll tell you a few men that I type of
Speaker 4: men that I think are time wasters.
Speaker 3: Okay, let's talk about it. What men are time wasters?
Speaker 3: Boom number one.
Speaker 4: The nigga that dates the girl that is so ready
Speaker 4: for a relationship, that is telling you she's dating for
Speaker 4: marriage and you say, hey, I'm not ready yet. Let's
Speaker 4: see where it goes.
Speaker 1: Okay, what what on? I agree, keep going on the
Speaker 1: rest of the list.
Speaker 4: But yes, answer is totally okay until you get to
Speaker 4: the point where you are positive she ain't it. And
Speaker 4: the answers that men start to give when being held
Speaker 4: accountable is like, well, I told you I was.
Speaker 1: I wasn't ready.
Speaker 4: So a lot of people feel like this is the
Speaker 4: woman's fault. Right, However, I'm gonna be very honest with you. Okay,
Speaker 4: I haven't been in my last three relationships, including this one.
Speaker 1: First date was I don't know if.
Speaker 4: I want a relationship kind of just with This is
Speaker 4: an answer because it relieves the pressure from the man.
Speaker 4: If a nigga met a bitch that was for him,
Speaker 4: he wants the relationship. That's how I got in mind,
Speaker 4: that's how you got in yours. He probably gave the
Speaker 4: answer to someone else.
Speaker 1: No, No, that in mind.
Speaker 4: My nigga says, No, I'm saying you got in your
Speaker 4: relationship because you're with someone that wants you.
Speaker 3: He admitted that there was some things I did. He
Speaker 3: was like, why do I like this bitch? He tried
Speaker 3: to not like me.
Speaker 1: I disagree.
Speaker 4: I don't think any man is in a relationship unless
Speaker 4: this is really somewhere they want to be. But I
Speaker 4: think men have so many options. Mandy, you ain't gonna
Speaker 4: take me off the get.
Speaker 1: Me let me women. Let me stay on my hill
Speaker 1: right now, women have I don't believe that.
Speaker 4: I think if women had a bunch of our options,
Speaker 4: you have a bunch of married women.
Speaker 3: Let me continue than os. So okay, so we're talking
Speaker 3: two different things.
Speaker 1: No, let me keep going to differ. But this is
Speaker 1: what I'm talking about.
Speaker 4: My first sentiment was that a woman that's looking for
Speaker 4: a relationship, looking for marriage, looking for children. Now I
Speaker 4: believe This accountability falls on the man, because at some
Speaker 4: point your selfishness needs to be acknowledged. There's only so
Speaker 4: much sex, fun time, in intimacy and meals you can
Speaker 4: pull out of someone to know like, damn, I'm really
Speaker 4: not investing in this person in the way that they
Speaker 4: want me to. Because their investment for that time, that pussy,
Speaker 4: that energy, even the coddling, the intimacy, it's because she
Speaker 4: is expecting you're gonna be her partner.
Speaker 1: I am very tired of seeing this type of that.
Speaker 1: What is this? The second type of guy.
Speaker 4: The second type of guy that I was What was
Speaker 4: the first thing I said?
Speaker 1: What kind of guy?
Speaker 3: The type of guy that knows that you want all
Speaker 3: these things right, says not ready, continues to entertain you
Speaker 3: even after he knows you're not the one for her.
Speaker 4: The second type of bad guy to date to me
Speaker 4: is the guy that is playing too much of the field.
Speaker 4: Maybe this guy has an intent to marry dating too
Speaker 4: many women at one time. This is why love is
Speaker 4: blind kind of works for a momentary portion, right, love
Speaker 4: isn't blind.
Speaker 1: We need something needs to get up right. I need
Speaker 1: to be a try.
Speaker 4: But these people get so connected to each other because
Speaker 4: they have so much time to learn about each other.
Speaker 4: Men are spreading out way too far, dating too many women,
Speaker 4: and they almost can't manage it. One of my homeboys
Speaker 4: that's dating too many women right now literally said to me, like, bruh,
Speaker 4: I'm about to lose one of my bitches because I
Speaker 4: had to try to keep the other one. This bitch
Speaker 4: had a birthday. I had to show up for her,
Speaker 4: and the other one just kind of felt left out.
Speaker 4: And he's like, it's it's you owe too much when
Speaker 4: you start playing all these seeds in different places and
Speaker 4: someone let's just say, these women are dating one or
Speaker 4: two men and they're gonna need more from you than
Speaker 4: you do. You got less of yourself to give, and
Speaker 4: you end up fucking everybody over. And I'm telling you,
Speaker 4: you building bitches out here, the savage the tides is
Speaker 4: gonna change. It's already changed. That's why you have women
Speaker 4: having kids on their own. A lot of this has
Speaker 4: to be some accountability on the fact that the options
Speaker 4: that men have are leading them to make these decisions.
Speaker 3: It wasn't like that back in the day because it
Speaker 3: was different. It wasn't ding ding ding ding ding on
Speaker 3: your phone and I really.
Speaker 1: Said they was having families with the bitch down the street.
Speaker 1: They always had optioned. They just had the bitch down
Speaker 1: the street, the bitch up the block. Maybe.
Speaker 4: I mean, divorce rates are higher today, and when it
Speaker 4: comes to why people are getting divorced, we rarely see
Speaker 4: it being fucking money or anything like that. This time,
Speaker 4: it's always some crazy headline about cheating. All I'm saying
Speaker 4: is like, I really think the appetite of men sometimes
Speaker 4: can get in a way.
Speaker 1: They're getting in with the wrong partners.
Speaker 4: You should be in relationships where women are also ethically
Speaker 4: non monogamous and open to it, not just accepting it
Speaker 4: because that was their only option. But I just find
Speaker 4: that like a lot of the pain and heartache does
Speaker 4: need to lie on a man sometimes because if these
Speaker 4: women are truly being vocal, then you would know that
Speaker 4: expectations are higher of you.
Speaker 1: Think.
Speaker 4: Why I brought that up, though, was because when you
Speaker 4: said your ex was like, damn, I really feel like
Speaker 4: it's easy for you to enter in relationships in a
Speaker 4: way that men feel slightly safer.
Speaker 1: Because you don't need that much from them.
Speaker 4: Me wanting marriage and children looks like, oh, well she
Speaker 4: needs this, You just want love, partnership, companionship.
Speaker 1: Mine is a different ask.
Speaker 4: It's a lifetime fucking ask, and so I think it's
Speaker 4: just such a relief for men that want the same
Speaker 4: things as you.
Speaker 3: That's the problem. I don't meet men know what the
Speaker 3: same things as me. My boyfriend right now wants kids
Speaker 3: in marriage, but we really like each other. We are
Speaker 3: committed to being in a relationship. And I've also let
Speaker 3: him know, which is where I never want the title
Speaker 3: to be on me that I wasted his time because
Speaker 3: I let it be known what I want out the gate,
Speaker 3: and when he wants those things, I gave him the
Speaker 3: freedom to go and get him for a woman.
Speaker 1: If those are the things that he wants. I like that.
Speaker 3: It like so to me when we talk about time wasters.
Speaker 3: I would never accept from him if he got upset
Speaker 3: and called me or said I wasted his time, because
Speaker 3: I think I'm allowing him to do what I think
Speaker 3: most women should do.
Speaker 1: If a man is telling you that your.
Speaker 3: Vision doesn't align out the gate, and you choose to
Speaker 3: say to try to make it work with hopes that
Speaker 3: he changes his mind, but you wasted your own time,
Speaker 3: And I think that that's the problem.
Speaker 1: We see here. If the goals don't align, no, so.
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying. So you're saying that these are
Speaker 3: the type of men that are time wasters. I think
Speaker 3: a man that out the gate expresses that what he
Speaker 3: wants at the time you want it does not align,
Speaker 3: and you choose to stay with that one moment one moment,
Speaker 3: and you choose to stay with that man in hopes
Speaker 3: that love will change his mind, time will change his mind,
Speaker 3: or eventually you guys get to the same desires if
Speaker 3: you go in expecting that to happen and it doesn't.
Speaker 3: As a woman, bitch, you wasted your own time because
Speaker 3: you went into the relationship with hope and delusion.
Speaker 1: Disagree. I'm gonna tell you why. Okay, you have a dude,
Speaker 1: you go on a date.
Speaker 4: I actually pretty much talk about kids in marriage first
Speaker 4: or second date because I know I'm out. If we
Speaker 4: don't align, men will say things like and I know
Speaker 4: this is just something.
Speaker 1: Common or a shit.
Speaker 4: I want two kids, I want to poor, I want
Speaker 4: a girl, I want this, I would love to move
Speaker 4: to Westchester.
Speaker 1: Whatever. They're gonna start their story.
Speaker 4: Right, all of us having the same goals does not
Speaker 4: mean it's gonna happen with me, of course, but it's
Speaker 4: very for you to say it doesn't align. It's very
Speaker 4: easy to have a conversation where you're seeing, we have
Speaker 4: things in common, whatever.
Speaker 1: But sometimes it just ain't gonna be you saying something different.
Speaker 1: I know, because I think maybe the verbiage you use
Speaker 1: was one.
Speaker 3: Now, the with you is always going to be silent.
Speaker 3: A man can say what they want. Just because he's
Speaker 3: expressing that he wants it does not mean he wants
Speaker 3: it with you in that conversation. A man can express
Speaker 3: what they want, which is what I'm saying. If you
Speaker 3: are sitting across from each other and you don't align
Speaker 3: on your wants or needs or desires, and not even
Speaker 3: by the sex of the children, are moving to Westchester, whatever,
Speaker 3: If you know you want family planning and marriage down
Speaker 3: the line, and you sit across from a man who says,
Speaker 3: I don't want those things maybe ever, and you choose
Speaker 3: to continue pursuing him, got him. So that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying, The with you is always going
Speaker 3: to be silent. A man telling me he wants kids
Speaker 3: and marriage does not mean and I'm not gonna believe
Speaker 3: he wants it with me just because he's telling me
Speaker 3: it's what he wants.
Speaker 4: Let me ask you, though, because it's interesting that out
Speaker 4: of the people you were dating, I mean, it seemed
Speaker 4: like you were the most connected with Actor Bay.
Speaker 1: But does it scare you as a.
Speaker 4: Woman when you hear a man telling you marriage, children
Speaker 4: and family is something they want and you want them.
Speaker 3: I told so, I believe that nothing lasts forever, and
Speaker 3: I also told him that I don't want to futurefuck
Speaker 3: our ability to just enjoy each other in the present.
Speaker 1: He doesn't want children or marriage within the.
Speaker 3: Next couple of years, So to me, I'm excited to
Speaker 3: enjoy a loving, carent relationship for as long as it lasts,
Speaker 3: and as soon as it no longer lasts or we
Speaker 3: no longer align with each other, I'm comfortable with just
Speaker 3: experiencing what the relationship was and moving on with my life.
Speaker 1: I genuinely don't think we have.
Speaker 3: To consider people lasting forever or always being on the
Speaker 3: same page. Again, we're also we're also eight years apart,
Speaker 3: so for me, I genuinely believe that he will go
Speaker 3: through a lot more life changes in the next four
Speaker 3: years than I will in the next four years, Like,
Speaker 3: going from twenty six to thirty is going to be
Speaker 3: a lot different in his growth as a man and
Speaker 3: an adult than what I'm going to experience from thirty
Speaker 3: four to thirty eight. So we've already expressed that how.
Speaker 4: Does it make him feel when you say nothing last
Speaker 4: forever as an answer to life.
Speaker 1: If he has a problem with that, you got to
Speaker 1: take it up with a therapist. In God, nothing lasts forever. No,
Speaker 1: when you say it, like, well, how is he really
Speaker 1: if he.
Speaker 3: Thinks that love and relationships are supposed to last forever? Again,
Speaker 3: he could take that up with therapists and is God.
Speaker 3: I'm not here to coddle him in that belief because
Speaker 3: that doesn't.
Speaker 1: Change for me. I genuinely believe a movie doesn't last forever.
Speaker 1: A series.
Speaker 3: We're always sad, right when a series that we fucking
Speaker 3: love says it's coming to an end. Me and fucking
Speaker 3: Wolf were just like man, dream Bill Festival, this is
Speaker 3: the last and final one. We would love for it
Speaker 3: to last forever, and it's not, And we're gonna deal
Speaker 3: with losing dream Bill as it is. Sometimes you have
Speaker 3: to just deal with the reality of life that things
Speaker 3: will come to an end. And I don't want to
Speaker 3: go into a relationship with the fallacy or with the
Speaker 3: id theology that this is something that's going to be forever.
Speaker 3: I just want to be able to enjoy it while
Speaker 3: we have it. And so again, when I talk about future,
Speaker 3: fucking this idea of even thinking of it coming to
Speaker 3: an end or us being on a different page in
Speaker 3: the next six months or one year or two years.
Speaker 3: Let's not fucking overwhelm ourselves with anxiety about what that's
Speaker 3: going to look like. Let's just fucking enjoy each other
Speaker 3: and love on each other until we don't anymore. And
Speaker 3: that's like what I want experience. I want to experience
Speaker 3: just healthy relationships without the idea of what life is
Speaker 3: going to inevitably bring.
Speaker 1: Do you know what's at the end? What you said
Speaker 1: feels like such women empowerment.
Speaker 5: Shit.
Speaker 4: If the roles were flipped and a man told a woman,
Speaker 4: let's just see where this relationship takes us in knowing
Speaker 4: they wanted children, but see I don't, we would demonize them. No,
Speaker 4: And knowing the women wanted children, we would demonize them.
Speaker 3: Well no, but yes, you have the power to then
Speaker 3: leave the relationship. That's the thing people should not be
Speaker 3: demonized for being honest. Okay, I want to be in
Speaker 3: a relationship where I just let this ship flow. You're
Speaker 3: telling me as a woman, you want babies like yesterday.
Speaker 3: As a woman, if this man just wants to let
Speaker 3: it flow, you have to be strong enough to realize
Speaker 3: that this is not the person that's going to bring
Speaker 3: you what you want, and you have to be okay
Speaker 3: with going back out into the fucking ghetto of dating
Speaker 3: and finding someone else that aligns with you. I think
Speaker 3: the problem is women, well, women so much. Women so
Speaker 3: much just want to be in a relationship so bad
Speaker 3: they're willing to make it seem like something's gonna work
Speaker 3: when they know it ain't gonna work.
Speaker 1: They know that.
Speaker 3: And again, because women have the biological clock working against them,
Speaker 3: all the blame is on you or a man that
Speaker 3: just wants to keep it easy flowing. I think the
Speaker 3: age difference makes it different for us, like him staying
Speaker 3: with me even for the next three or four years.
Speaker 3: He can always get with a woman that can procreate
Speaker 3: with him younger. He doesn't have the biological clock that.
Speaker 1: I mean, you're so crazy? Why am I crazy?
Speaker 4: Hold on, Wolf is over there, he can stay with
Speaker 4: me for four years and then if he wait, when
Speaker 4: he's ready for a kid and I'm still at the
Speaker 4: place where I don't want it, I'm gonna.
Speaker 5: Send him off the world to go what don't want though,
Speaker 5: But I'm talking about but I guess like marriage.
Speaker 3: I told him he could give me a ring, I
Speaker 3: like a cute ring, and we could go like and
Speaker 3: then we can have a ceremony.
Speaker 1: But I told him I'm not putting it on paper.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, I think most men would like that, Thank you,
Speaker 1: especially niggas with money. I'm a bitch with money. We
Speaker 1: not bruh.
Speaker 3: We don't need to put that ship on paper to
Speaker 3: signify our love to what these Republicans want marriage, I
Speaker 3: am happy. That's why he flew to Atlanta because he
Speaker 3: was like, I just really want a ceremony and I
Speaker 3: want to I want to be able to celebrate our
Speaker 3: love in front of my family, and if there's a
Speaker 3: way that I can still do that, I accept that answer.
Speaker 2: Bro.
Speaker 4: It's so crazy that the marriage conversations I'm having now,
Speaker 4: I've been through these, you know, like, this is what
Speaker 4: our wording looks like, this is what I look like.
Speaker 4: The more in love I get I'll be like, Okay,
Speaker 4: so when we're at the courthouse, like it went down
Speaker 4: from having cousins and siblings to I just want my
Speaker 4: parents and your parents.
Speaker 1: Like I don't know what it is. My brain is
Speaker 1: gone from I want this to like who girt is
Speaker 1: economy E to Asia.
Speaker 4: I swear to God, all I think about is like
Speaker 4: that's how I love. I am like definitely want marriage
Speaker 4: and I want to find this couple. I don't know
Speaker 4: if anyone has seen them. I'm going to tell you
Speaker 4: their page, go and shout them out. There's some fly
Speaker 4: ass niggas. They had a wedding in Mexico City. The
Speaker 4: way it started the cinematics, I thought it was a
Speaker 4: fucking horror movie, that's how good it looked. But they
Speaker 4: shared some photos of them getting married at a courthouse
Speaker 4: court courthouse. Him and I shared it at the same time,
Speaker 4: and I realized, damn them niggas went to dinner. It
Speaker 4: looked like they was alone after they got married at
Speaker 4: the courthouse. I'm like, Yeah, when people fucking love wedding,
Speaker 4: A lot of time is for everybody else, you know what.
Speaker 3: A lot of times the bride in the groom ended
Speaker 3: up being so exhausted, overwhelmed. Like there's so many stories
Speaker 3: that people don't even have sex on their wedding nights
Speaker 3: because they're so fucking drained and exhausted from entertaining.
Speaker 1: Motherfuck.
Speaker 5: Anytime I am C or DJ wedding, I let them know, Hey,
Speaker 5: I know this is your special day, but it's really
Speaker 5: their special day. Yeah, And I pointed the family and
Speaker 5: everyone else, because at the end of the day, they're
Speaker 5: gonna want to take pictures with you to make sure
Speaker 5: they get every moment. They want to see you look pretty,
Speaker 5: you look handsom. They want to be the rusion, they
Speaker 5: want to be the bridesmaids. Like.
Speaker 1: It's that's why I said, I don't want birthday parties.
Speaker 1: Me and Weezy be on tour. We'll be talking about
Speaker 1: active parties.
Speaker 3: The curation of making sure you have to host and
Speaker 3: throw and entertain brings about so much anxiety.
Speaker 1: I told them, I said, you want a ceremony, you
Speaker 1: got a plan it.
Speaker 4: I mean, don't get me wrong, I definitely want to
Speaker 4: get to that one day. But for me, at this age,
Speaker 4: I definitely want to just be married.
Speaker 1: Nigga.
Speaker 4: I'm telling you right now, I could be in the studio,
Speaker 4: and I feel like people would find out I'm married
Speaker 4: from the ring.
Speaker 3: By the way, y'all don't see my texes when I
Speaker 3: come in with a ring. Bit y'all married, Fuck y'all like,
Speaker 3: y'all better not look for that. What marriage specificate because
Speaker 3: it ain't gonna exist. But bitch, when I say it's
Speaker 3: a wife, bitch, I'm gonna hold the ring up and
Speaker 3: be like, it's a wife.
Speaker 4: I've posted so much less for miles, so I really
Speaker 4: feel like I'm gonna be married and people gonna be like,
Speaker 4: why did she hide it? And I'm like, when I
Speaker 4: tell you my photos, I think I took forty five photos,
Speaker 4: which isn't even what I do alone when I have
Speaker 4: good makeup. It was crazy and like I kind of wish,
Speaker 4: like I literally was like on the plane back, I
Speaker 4: was like, damn, I ain't really.
Speaker 1: We didn't take nothing. Oh.
Speaker 3: I told him when he came to Atlanta, we only
Speaker 3: had fucking photos in the aquarium with sharks and jellyfish
Speaker 3: behind us.
Speaker 4: I said, we could have took more photos. You feel me,
Speaker 4: I think we don't get sucked in it. But I'm
Speaker 4: also dating someone that doesn't give a shit about that phone.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, this nigga ain't even on social media. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tell you this though. I was cracking out, bitch.
Speaker 1: We was on that little island.
Speaker 4: It was three nights. I started getting real stressed out
Speaker 4: about something that was going on the track. Everything's great now,
Speaker 4: but when it was happening, he was like, listen, if
Speaker 4: Bredonda needs you, if Alex needs you, if your mom
Speaker 4: needs you, that's it.
Speaker 1: You don't have to shoot horrible decisions. Don't your meeting
Speaker 1: that meeting. I took it to him. Anyone that really
Speaker 1: needs you will call my phone. Put your phone in
Speaker 1: the safe and let it go. Girl. We was at
Speaker 1: the fool. I was like, let me go change my sandals. Bitch.
Speaker 1: I was in it. Uh God, just give me a TikTok. Bitch.
Speaker 1: I was dying. I hate it. I'm telling you I don't,
Speaker 1: just knowing I can't. And then you know what sucked.
Speaker 1: Oh my god.
Speaker 4: They started doing some cute little performance and they brought
Speaker 4: us all these little coconuts with the letters.
Speaker 1: Card.
Speaker 4: Didn't give my phone nothing nity thing. I'm just looking
Speaker 4: at nice shit with no photo. How are people gonna
Speaker 4: know I'm living luxury?
Speaker 1: But I'll puss that.
Speaker 4: That's the life I was living, bitch, and we was
Speaker 4: getting a massage. I was like, this is so nice, baby,
Speaker 4: I want to take nothing, dog, I need to let
Speaker 4: this shit go.
Speaker 1: But it's bad. I even got a little tech net.
Speaker 1: I had all posture rescued. Fucking massages.
Speaker 4: Like, I am a little too addicted to my phone,
Speaker 4: and it's interesting because I'm not a crazy person, but
Speaker 4: I just like having access for some reason.
Speaker 3: And the phone feels like, oh, I ain't gonna lie
Speaker 3: and I don't win my niggas this one and the
Speaker 3: last one. When I'm with somebody, I like phone be
Speaker 3: in a whole nother room.
Speaker 4: It do.
Speaker 1: But bitch, I was with, I was, I was with
Speaker 1: old Man River and now I'm with baby Bottle Pop.
Speaker 3: When I tell you, my friends came up with those,
Speaker 3: by the way, literally the opposite ends of the spectrum.
Speaker 3: And I ended up with two men who couldn't be
Speaker 3: further apart in age and generation and upbringing, and both
Speaker 3: of them do.
Speaker 1: Not be on phone. It's I love it to date
Speaker 1: somebody that's not tapped in because.
Speaker 4: Once because what I noticed it anytime I see people
Speaker 4: on dates, they're both on their fucking phones.
Speaker 1: So when I'm out because I'm with someone now who genuinely.
Speaker 3: Don't be on the like his sister runs his fucking
Speaker 3: Instagram account, and I say, good, nigga, I met you
Speaker 3: on the Graham.
Speaker 1: Get off that ship. I can be honest with you.
Speaker 4: I think when you're a person that like your intentional like.
Speaker 4: I don't think an Instagram crazy person or a TikToker
Speaker 4: can't tap into a dinner if they really need to.
Speaker 4: But I find that the phone is pastime. The phone
Speaker 4: is this thing of like I'm on a couch now
Speaker 4: boom type ship. I'm not going to interrupt my stands
Speaker 4: type ship like a Hyan heard a young the young
Speaker 4: Nigga reference. No, it's not a reference, it's a term.
Speaker 1: Now why in it's exactly it's exactly what you exactly
Speaker 1: what you said. Well, you're on the phone more than me,
Speaker 1: so you would know it. Well that's what I know.
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Speaker 4: our New York chapter. I wrote avoiding loneliness will only
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Speaker 4: say you can be happy by yourself. And I finally
Speaker 4: realized the most beautiful version of me doesn't arrive until
Speaker 4: I meet the ugliest me. So I want to ask, y'all,
Speaker 4: is it true that you really got to get to
Speaker 4: a dark and shitty place within yourself to have a
Speaker 4: fucking glow up? Have you ever had a fucking glow
Speaker 4: up in your life that you felt like just naturally
Speaker 4: came without you going through a hard road to get there?
Speaker 3: Now, I think my twenties was the dark ugliness, and
Speaker 3: I'm in my glow up currently.
Speaker 1: I think it's the same. Like, you don't know happiness
Speaker 1: unless you know sadness. You don't know.
Speaker 3: What it's like to make money unless you know what
Speaker 3: it feels like to be broke, Like I think that
Speaker 3: that's that's You don't know that a relationship is bad.
Speaker 3: I mean, you don't know a relationship is healthy unless
Speaker 3: you've been in a relationship that was bad, and so
Speaker 3: I think that's literally just the nuances of life, like duality,
Speaker 3: Like you don't know how to appreciate the good in
Speaker 3: life until you know what comes with the bad. And
Speaker 3: so I think like for me, my glow up is
Speaker 3: now like finding the strength of confidence, being financially secure,
Speaker 3: being like confident in myself, my looks, and all of
Speaker 3: those things bring about the best version of myself to
Speaker 3: where I can show up as the best version of
Speaker 3: myself for the world. I think that you know, when
Speaker 3: you're unhappy, when you're depressed, when you haven't dealt with
Speaker 3: your traumas, when you haven't gone to therapy and you're
Speaker 3: just existing as this broken person, you don't know how
Speaker 3: great you could really be before you You have to
Speaker 3: navigate those things first.
Speaker 4: I learned another word recently that I wanted to talk
Speaker 4: about with y'all. I don't know if anyone's heard this.
Speaker 4: Have you heard of a glow down? No?
Speaker 1: Well, low down?
Speaker 4: At the top of the list people that are relevant
Speaker 4: to talk about today, they are saying on the tiktoks
Speaker 4: and the instagrams, Tyler is the number one most recent
Speaker 4: celebrity glowdown. Wait, I now need an explanation on this,
Speaker 4: because wherever my mind is going, I disagree.
Speaker 1: Why is Tyler a glowdown? People believe this is not me.
Speaker 1: God don't come for me.
Speaker 4: People believe that Kyla's glowdown is because the Internet started.
Speaker 1: To high leak Tyler. Tyler Tyler. Okay, Tyler Tyler. Yeah.
Speaker 4: People believe Tyler had a glowdown because they believe she
Speaker 4: got up too quickly. People became obsessed with the song,
Speaker 4: didn't have anything that went quickly as pop in mainstream
Speaker 4: and social media started to dislike her.
Speaker 3: So I think it's because, first off, I think this
Speaker 3: is absolutely unfactual wrong, and I feel like Tylo is
Speaker 3: literally I think I think I think pushed.
Speaker 1: This is not my opinion. Push the Star was still great.
Speaker 1: The album, by the way, was literally.
Speaker 3: The playlist to Saint Croix, her entire album. I was
Speaker 3: so shocked at how fucking dope it was. She has
Speaker 3: so many great songs and more hits than Just Wanna.
Speaker 3: So if you if you just don't, if you just
Speaker 3: don't listen to Tyler, just say that. Secondly, I think
Speaker 3: that she is our next upcoming Rihanna. I think she's phenomenal.
Speaker 3: I think she's a fucking star and her right what.
Speaker 3: I believe why someone would say that is because misery.
Speaker 3: If you're in the darkness, you're upset at people who
Speaker 3: get so much success so quickly.
Speaker 1: I think we saw that.
Speaker 4: I think the internet's opinions seem louder than the real and.
Speaker 1: That's not the reality. I think that we saw that
Speaker 1: with Ice.
Speaker 3: Spice like to me, her glowdown is because her album
Speaker 3: didn't do as well as it was anticipated. However, people
Speaker 3: hated her because they felt like, why the fuck is
Speaker 3: she the one that gets to have all of this?
Speaker 4: Why is she at the met gallup? Why is she
Speaker 4: in videos with this person? Why is she next to
Speaker 4: next to uh Taylor Swift.
Speaker 3: I think people hate to see someone reached success because
Speaker 3: they're unhappy with their own.
Speaker 4: Inability to I think any other strange thing to at
Speaker 4: least with black celebrities, that I've always found strange.
Speaker 1: We don't want to see motherfuckers win. I get Tyler Skinny,
Speaker 1: I get there's aria star.
Speaker 4: I get that that there's darker skin talent that is
Speaker 4: probably wait Or is better of a singer than Tyler.
Speaker 1: I understand well, no, let's it's because she used the
Speaker 1: word colored, which is a word that no, no, no,
Speaker 1: this is Tyler being light.
Speaker 4: If you're gonna have the biggest let's nigga, this isn't.
Speaker 4: I hate to make it about color. That's life, bro.
Speaker 4: Tyler is the biggest star to come out of Africa.
Speaker 4: That's a woman.
Speaker 1: Correct or am I wrong here? And look how she looks? Well,
Speaker 1: I think Thames, I was Gonnas is probably bigger and has.
Speaker 1: Actually you think Thames is bigger than Tyler. You think
Speaker 1: white people know Sames. I would hope that's true. I think, though,
Speaker 1: but don't I disagree with you, guys. I think Tyler
Speaker 1: is bigger. I think, I mean, I think on the cover,
Speaker 1: I think. I think Tyler makes pop music and leads
Speaker 1: into pop music. Tames make more soulful.
Speaker 4: I think that's the point, though, Mandy, like, there's a
Speaker 4: pop music star in Africa that looks like Tames. I'm
Speaker 4: sure Tyla there. I'm sorry, No one's gonna convince me
Speaker 4: that Tyla's looks in skin color and why she's as
Speaker 4: huge as she is. It's fine, she's gorgeous, but that is.
Speaker 1: Still saying she's a glowdown take away.
Speaker 6: No.
Speaker 4: I think I think a lot of this when you
Speaker 4: when you talk about ice s pice right. Also someone
Speaker 4: like I think there's a lot that the internet hates
Speaker 4: when it's like, fuck, how do we have someone when
Speaker 4: there's someone else scarlet someone.
Speaker 1: Else way better? Right?
Speaker 4: And so I think sometimes that noise starts to infect everybody.
Speaker 4: What Tyler did with the A word thing was shitty, yes,
Speaker 4: but at the same time, it's like, I'm not gonna
Speaker 4: hate this girl that much for it, Like I'm over
Speaker 4: it already.
Speaker 1: I think we really you are.
Speaker 3: But I think majority of people harness shit for people
Speaker 3: they really don't fucking know, right, And I think it's
Speaker 3: just it's people wanting to have just and luckily we
Speaker 3: still have the First Amendment. Y'all know they're taking rid
Speaker 3: of this shit. But luckily we're able to just hold space,
Speaker 3: have our opinions and exist. And I just think people
Speaker 3: harbor on the worst things.
Speaker 1: This is what I do.
Speaker 3: Anytime you want to see how miserable the goddamn world is,
Speaker 3: just go to the shade room. Find somebody you really
Speaker 3: fucking adore, that you really respect, what you think is gorgeous,
Speaker 3: and go look in the comments and see how many
Speaker 3: people have something negative to say about it, and then
Speaker 3: you can literally move on with your fucking life.
Speaker 4: Now reactionary, Let's talk about some other crazy shit in
Speaker 4: the world, factual, not opinion based. I don't know if
Speaker 4: you guys have seen the woman that had the wrong
Speaker 4: baby born inside of her, but here's a little clip
Speaker 4: about some recent craziness.
Speaker 6: A woman in Savannah, Georgia, has filed a lawsuit against
Speaker 6: coastal fertility specialists after giving birth to a child who
Speaker 6: was not biologically hers due to an embryo mix up.
Speaker 6: Christina Murray underwent in future fertilization in early twenty twenty three.
Speaker 6: When she gave birth in December, she immediately noticed that
Speaker 6: baby did not share her expected genetic traits. A DNA
Speaker 6: tess later confirmed that she had carried and delivered another
Speaker 6: couple's embryo. Murray is suing the clinic foreign negligence, stating
Speaker 6: that the mistake caused her pain and anguish. She initially
Speaker 6: planned to raise the child, but after the biological parents
Speaker 6: were notified they saw custody. Facing a legal challenge she
Speaker 6: believed she could not win, Murray relinquished custody of the child.
Speaker 6: At five months old. The clinic issued a statement apologizing
Speaker 6: for what it called an unprecedented error, and stated that
Speaker 6: it has since implemented additional safeguards to prevent similar mistakes.
Speaker 1: Let's talk about a real recap of what I just said,
Speaker 1: what you just heard. Excuse me.
Speaker 4: A white woman in Georgia did IVF embryo, put the
Speaker 4: embryo inside of her baby is born. The baby's black.
Speaker 4: Come to find out it belonged to a couple from
Speaker 4: the clinic. She thought, fuck it, I'll just raise the baby.
Speaker 4: Them nigga said, hell, nah, bitch, that's our baby. They
Speaker 4: were about to go to court, and she was like,
Speaker 4: you know what, I'm not gonna lose this battle.
Speaker 1: I'll let it go.
Speaker 3: First off, I think that white woman deserves millions upon
Speaker 3: millions of dollars and a few more babies.
Speaker 1: On the opposite end, I have three or four friends.
Speaker 3: That are currently going through egg freezing and embryos literally
Speaker 3: retrieval of eggs. Mind you, I'm learning so much about it.
Speaker 3: Or you can go through mind you, like seven thousand
Speaker 3: dollars a pop, so much work, especially if you don't
Speaker 3: have insurance. Insurance oftentimes also doesn't cover everything. The medication
Speaker 3: alone is like fourteen hundred dollars.
Speaker 1: It's ridiculous.
Speaker 3: So going through IVF basically starts your eggs to get
Speaker 3: healthy for retrieval. Mind you, they can literally pull out.
Speaker 3: I think ten eggs is normally like a good amount
Speaker 3: that you could have. I have a friend right now
Speaker 3: that is producing four three like not enough to where basically,
Speaker 3: even if they're healthy, it doesn't mean that they'll form
Speaker 3: into an embryo.
Speaker 1: Mind you.
Speaker 3: Whether it forms into an embryo or not, you don't
Speaker 3: get your money back. So I can understand this black
Speaker 3: couple wanting their baby because the retrieval process and having
Speaker 3: a healthy baby actually born through IVF is a lot.
Speaker 1: And so I'm not against the black woman wanting her baby.
Speaker 1: Me too.
Speaker 3: Also, I also think there's no money in the world
Speaker 3: that is gonna make this white woman okay.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, bro at all. Let me tell you something.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. I really think that these
Speaker 1: are the only.
Speaker 4: White tears I would wipe away. Well, you know, you
Speaker 4: carried that baby for nine months. You had to deal
Speaker 4: with the fact that it wasn't your baby. She probably
Speaker 4: had to sit with herself and say it's fuck it. Man,
Speaker 4: God gave me this baby. Either way, I'm going to
Speaker 4: stick this through. And she grew a connection to this baby,
Speaker 4: and then Bro and we were just saying a few
Speaker 4: weeks weeks go in the episode with Kendrick, the biological attachment.
Speaker 1: The chemistry that feeling like you're and it's like it's gone. Yo.
Speaker 4: I make fun of my mom for this all the time, okay,
Speaker 4: But when I got Niena, my mom was like, I
Speaker 4: want a dog too.
Speaker 1: I was like, well, I'm only give you a thousand
Speaker 1: dollars to get a dog, and the only.
Speaker 4: One she could find as tiny as she wanted was
Speaker 4: in Fort Lauderdale at the time, so she drove from
Speaker 4: her land of the Fort Lauderdale.
Speaker 1: I don't know if anyone hurt me tell the story.
Speaker 4: Before she waited to get this dog in a CBS
Speaker 4: had the cash in hand, and nobody showed up, and
Speaker 4: she called me and said.
Speaker 1: I feel like I just had a miscarriage.
Speaker 4: I have all my toys at home. I'm so ready
Speaker 4: for this fucking dog and I don't have anything. And
Speaker 4: she would score and it was kind of funny but
Speaker 4: kind of cute, but kind of sad, and I realized like, yo.
Speaker 3: If I was a good daughter, you would have said
Speaker 3: I got your two thousand on the next Well, you know,
Speaker 3: I did raise that budget for your mama.
Speaker 2: I did.
Speaker 4: But by the way I think they was when a
Speaker 4: robber ass and I think they saw she was an
Speaker 4: old lady, and I was like, nah, we ain't gonna
Speaker 4: do it, because why would you have somebody meet you with.
Speaker 1: The cash in a parking lot?
Speaker 4: Anyway, I yelled, I can't believe she did say this
Speaker 4: to say my mom Actually, like she was depressed for
Speaker 4: weeks because she got so ready.
Speaker 1: She was looking at the photos. The baby wasn't ready
Speaker 1: to get the dog, wasn't you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Imagine nine months it did, five months of having a baby,
Speaker 1: five months after raising it and then having to give
Speaker 1: up custody. Is she in the wrong though?
Speaker 5: Like?
Speaker 1: What wrong? Who the woman?
Speaker 5: Because it's like no, no, like the black woman for
Speaker 5: taking the baby as well just I mean not even
Speaker 5: putting an effort into just only onto the baby.
Speaker 1: Is that that tough?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: I don't think she's wrong.
Speaker 3: Balls were around this, but I don't think she's wrong,
Speaker 3: especially because as a woman, like even though you went
Speaker 3: through that, bro, if you know any other one that
Speaker 3: went through the same and wanted wanted their kid.
Speaker 1: This is where I think the only motherfucker's in the
Speaker 1: wrong year is the clinic, right.
Speaker 3: I don't think how this ended up either woman is wrong.
Speaker 3: I'm sure she wanted to keep this baby, but also
Speaker 3: we don't know, like we don't know. But honestly, like
Speaker 3: I said, I don't think that woman is ever going
Speaker 3: to be mentally okay with it. And I do think
Speaker 3: that there is something to say about the black woman
Speaker 3: and now her connection to this child because she didn't
Speaker 3: carry that child. So it sucks for everybody involved. I
Speaker 3: wonder how you find that out way later though, Nigga,
Speaker 3: the baby.
Speaker 1: Came out black.
Speaker 3: I mean, I wonder if they would have found out
Speaker 3: if that baby came out white, if it would have
Speaker 3: been the same outcome. She may have never known, you
Speaker 3: know what I mean, If the baby came out white
Speaker 3: and it wasn't switched up with a black baby embryo.
Speaker 1: She may have never realized that biological look get into
Speaker 1: little sex history.
Speaker 4: So sex history for the ending of our show, we're
Speaker 4: gonna be talking about the history of the brothel.
Speaker 1: Now.
Speaker 4: The reason I wanted to do this was because in
Speaker 4: true easy fashion, gotta have some fun.
Speaker 1: Now I didn't.
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna say I googled prostitutes Thailand, but I did.
Speaker 4: And something that kept continuing to come up was not
Speaker 4: not plaza Now, not not plaza is in Bangkok?
Speaker 1: It is Have you been? Because I I just went
Speaker 1: to the ping pong show. I wasn't looking. A lot
Speaker 1: of people just went because it's not I'll tell you, okay.
Speaker 4: So a lot of when I was telling people, they
Speaker 4: were like, oh, I went to that too, Like I
Speaker 4: thought it was just strip clubs. So it's a plaza
Speaker 4: filled with bars and strip clubs. I would say, it
Speaker 4: literally looks like a mall, four floors, escalators, like it
Speaker 4: looks like if it wasn't a strip club, it would
Speaker 4: be a fucking hot topic or so shit like for real.
Speaker 1: Okay, So each strip club has like a theme.
Speaker 4: One of them the girls were like kind of super
Speaker 4: thick blonde hair, almost like American looking. There was another
Speaker 4: one of lady boys went to bed you already noticed better.
Speaker 4: Witch is another one where they had like the super
Speaker 4: wide eyes like anime dolls. Another one where they were
Speaker 4: just straight bob like very like you went you.
Speaker 1: Went or you just looked at it. Oh ya, this
Speaker 1: looks this sounds cool.
Speaker 4: So we go and basically this is how you acquire
Speaker 4: the plus. So I'm just thinking it's a strip club. Actually, no,
Speaker 4: I did it. I just thought we was want to
Speaker 4: pull a bitch out the strip club.
Speaker 1: That's what I thought.
Speaker 4: We get there and I'm like, we were staying at
Speaker 4: the w I'm like, I don't really want to bring
Speaker 4: a bitch back to our room, and he was like, no,
Speaker 4: I think one of these places will probably have a
Speaker 4: bed back here, That's what he was saying. Like, I
Speaker 4: think that's I think these places have rooms because think
Speaker 4: of the massage followers.
Speaker 1: He's like, maybe it'll be a happy ending thing.
Speaker 4: Not the case attached to Nanoplaza is a hotel for
Speaker 4: five hundred bat which is equivalent to about twenty US dollars.
Speaker 1: You can get two hours at the hotel. That's that's look.
Speaker 1: I would say it's sixty.
Speaker 4: Fourteen sixty for five hundred five, yes, oh whatever rounded
Speaker 4: out now, I would say it was equivalent to like
Speaker 4: a Courtyard Marriotte, not a fucking na like you would think. Okay,
Speaker 4: so you get into these bars almost every single one
Speaker 4: of these women has a number on them.
Speaker 1: You go in, you know, they're like what you like?
Speaker 1: What you like? What they're loud? You're like, damn, let
Speaker 1: me try to get sexy. So you go, you get
Speaker 1: a drink.
Speaker 4: They're rotating on this thing in some of the bars
Speaker 4: that are bigger, and I would say, maybe it's twenty
Speaker 4: girls on a spinning fucking pole and they're all going around.
Speaker 1: And we're like, ooh, that's pretty. What is that number?
Speaker 4: Say thirteen, Like you're really looking. So when you bring
Speaker 4: the girl down, you can negotiate with her. After negotiating
Speaker 4: with her, you have to pay a house feed to
Speaker 4: take them out, which is a thousand bys. So I'm
Speaker 4: now twenty four.
Speaker 1: Yeah, thirty dollars. You can negotiate whatever you want.
Speaker 5: Uh.
Speaker 4: Basically after that you then take them to the hotel
Speaker 4: and you do your thing. So when we were outside,
Speaker 4: I started looking at these other women. It was a
Speaker 4: lot of African selling pussy outside, which kind of was
Speaker 4: like wild to me. I was like Niking a thaighland
Speaker 4: of sale pussy and then women in his jobs and
Speaker 4: I don't even think they were really Muslim.
Speaker 1: I think it was just a fantasy I saw a
Speaker 1: few I.
Speaker 4: Would say a little like like a uk Battye type thing, Ossie,
Speaker 4: like OnlyFans girls looks. But when we were outside, I'm like,
Speaker 4: I wonder why they're on a street because when I
Speaker 4: think of like a street walker, I'm not thinking I'm
Speaker 4: gonna see people like this one.
Speaker 1: You have to be a Thai citizen to sell or
Speaker 1: to be working in those clubs. I googled it. You
Speaker 1: have to be a Thai citizen. You have to have
Speaker 1: no criminal record.
Speaker 4: So a lot of these women if they ever went
Speaker 4: to jail for a week, like you know, real punishable
Speaker 4: things in Thailand that could be small, you can't work
Speaker 4: in these industries. So if you ever as a sex
Speaker 4: worker been you know, soliciting pussy boom, you can't do it.
Speaker 3: We talked about this actually at our live show at
Speaker 3: Sony Hall. Was it Germany or one of these countries.
Speaker 3: I think Switzerland actually recently past the thing where sex
Speaker 3: workers can almost have licenses and it provides them with yes,
Speaker 3: with healthcare, parental leave, and health insurance, which is probably
Speaker 3: what Thailand is trying to do.
Speaker 1: A safer space or prostitution as illegal in th Highland,
Speaker 1: Well maybe they don't call it prostitution. But right, that's
Speaker 1: what this is.
Speaker 4: Okay, So that's so weird. Okay, so that's what what
Speaker 4: else I was gonna say. Prostitution is not legal, but
Speaker 4: even though there's a lot of sex tourism, it's weird,
Speaker 4: like dial dos are illegal, like it's just mad shit.
Speaker 4: But anyway, so to get into the oldest profession, the
Speaker 4: tag of it is actually that old. We say it's
Speaker 4: the soldiers profession, but it's not. Anthropologists say that prostitution
Speaker 4: didn't actually seem to exist when there were primitive societies.
Speaker 4: There was no sex for sale amongst the Aboriginals of
Speaker 4: Australia before a white man a wife, Nor was there
Speaker 4: brothels and societies when there was ancient Egyptian people or
Speaker 4: tribes and jungles.
Speaker 1: Like prostitution seems to be something that we.
Speaker 4: Came about when civilization came about, when things had a cost,
Speaker 4: that's when prostitution became a thing. So when cities and
Speaker 4: communities became civilized.
Speaker 3: And had a structure to follow you that is, don't
Speaker 3: tell me a bitch was not fucking for some chickens,
Speaker 3: Like it wasn't like the dollargon exchange. But if it
Speaker 3: was like, you're not gonna tell me a bitch wasn't
Speaker 3: fucking for a roof over her?
Speaker 1: Well, the first recorded.
Speaker 4: Instances of pussy for sale was not a brothel, was
Speaker 4: not for chicken, it wasn't a temple, and it was
Speaker 4: a religious ritual.
Speaker 1: Oh the church.
Speaker 4: Don't be bad you telling everybody that prostitution began in
Speaker 4: the church Jesus in Sumria Babylonia. Prostitutes were those who
Speaker 4: had sex for religious ritual, not other type of gain.
Speaker 4: And sex in the temple was supposed to offer even
Speaker 4: more special blessings to men and women alike, and there's
Speaker 4: plenty of that in the Bible, though prostitutes in Jewish
Speaker 4: scriptures seemed to imply that they would do that in
Speaker 4: trade for a home, a place to say.
Speaker 1: So wow, right, the first actual who.
Speaker 3: Was they fucking the past like the leader of the congregation,
Speaker 3: I don't know, it doesn't say or they were just fucking.
Speaker 1: In the church.
Speaker 4: Maybe just fucking like listen, let's like manifesting like a
Speaker 4: sex magic thing. Bro No, they was fucking the leader
Speaker 4: of the congregation. Okay, like we need to get we said,
Speaker 4: be sounding a little culty.
Speaker 1: We need to get some land. Let's go fuck and
Speaker 1: build this up, and we gotta fuck the man who
Speaker 1: owned the land, otherwise we can't get it.
Speaker 3: You gotta you gotta fuck the owner of anything to
Speaker 3: get You gotta fuck a man with money to get money.
Speaker 3: You got a fucking man with a home to have
Speaker 3: a home over your head. They was sucking the leader
Speaker 3: of the church.
Speaker 4: The first brothels brothels that were actual proper like rooms
Speaker 4: in a you know, was ancient Egypt, when where the
Speaker 4: influence they believe was from Greek travelers. They would later
Speaker 4: have pharaohs dancing with women and musicians trying to have
Speaker 4: sex with them in certain spaces, and then boom, they
Speaker 4: finally created one. When you watch Game of Thrones, I
Speaker 4: don't know if you ever finished the season. I never
Speaker 4: saw got Okay, that's right, you never watched it. In
Speaker 4: Game of Thrones, you see them going into rooms and
Speaker 4: women all over the floor and shit.
Speaker 1: But I am curious if it started in Egypt.
Speaker 3: I wonder if these brothels existed, like when them giants lived,
Speaker 3: you know, the ones that built the pyramids, Because what
Speaker 3: if like a giant camel, what giants? You didn't see
Speaker 3: the giants you mean like a bigfoot thing. No, like
Speaker 3: there's like giants like so you know, No Nigga was
Speaker 3: only like six two no no, no, no no. They
Speaker 3: were giant giants.
Speaker 1: Giants going around. You think giants made like giants giants.
Speaker 1: I don't know what's going around. They was like twelve
Speaker 1: foot niggas.
Speaker 3: What if the twelve foot giants went to the brothel
Speaker 3: and as a woman like, I wonder if they added
Speaker 3: text to the because they had to have big dicks.
Speaker 1: They were giants.
Speaker 4: You haven't seen the giants that build the pyramids. You
Speaker 4: know what I'm gonna say about adding tax for big dicks?
Speaker 1: Though? Where Mandy ate? Low key wrong? Do you know what?
Speaker 1: Hold on? Wait wait serious?
Speaker 4: Ty girl from non A Plaza told my man the
Speaker 4: last time she had sex with a black Eye, he
Speaker 4: was too big, too rough. And she didn't even say
Speaker 4: big in size. She said he was like football. He
Speaker 4: was just too rough with me until now only Europeans.
Speaker 1: Well, being rough is different from being large in size.
Speaker 1: Why you know what I mean?
Speaker 3: Like, unfortunately I didn't change the shame. What happened is
Speaker 3: unfortunately maybe she had a bad experience.
Speaker 1: You know, I've met giants with a black man.
Speaker 3: But I will say my homegirl, who used to be
Speaker 3: an escort, she literally because she would fuck anywhere from
Speaker 3: like four to six guys in a day, I think
Speaker 3: six with her max. She literally didn't want to fuck
Speaker 3: black guys because they mostly had bigger dicks. That's a consensus.
Speaker 3: They can go longer there, they're stronger, their dicks are bigger.
Speaker 3: So she was like, bro, if I'm taking six dicks
Speaker 3: with a black man, I could really only take one.
Speaker 3: So she's not probably be reading a fuck wanted smaller dick.
Speaker 4: But also, you know the couple thing like I mentioned yesterday,
Speaker 4: I think that also kind of like calms you down
Speaker 4: as a sex worker.
Speaker 1: But we went to this place called Susie Wong's.
Speaker 4: It's in Puque and I think it's in Bangkok, and
Speaker 4: it's this ass spanking bar. They just spank you. They're
Speaker 4: known for that shit. They don't let you use your
Speaker 4: phone because I would have been got bad footage. But
Speaker 4: we were talking to this bitch.
Speaker 1: She was fine. She was thirteen thousand by how much
Speaker 1: is that that was a bad bitch. I'm not even
Speaker 1: thousand by thirteen times thirty.
Speaker 4: Three eighty Oh yeah, because I remember me and him
Speaker 4: was like how much? Just didn't get everybody else telling
Speaker 4: a six listen nah but okay, So basically she was
Speaker 4: telling me she was like really attracted to her man
Speaker 4: and a lot of the girls were getting excited by
Speaker 4: him but scared. So I think this girl because it
Speaker 4: was kind of feeling like a little like offensive. But
Speaker 4: she said something to me that made sense. She said,
Speaker 4: all of the European tourists get so drunk they can't
Speaker 4: end up sucking you, Okay, they just get wipe boy wasted.
Speaker 1: She's like, UK Australia, they paid me all of the money.
Speaker 4: I sit there, they do cocaine, they pass out or
Speaker 4: they're drinking and they can't fuck. And then by that
Speaker 4: time I'm like, okay, I got my money. I think
Speaker 4: the niggas be coming in there from New York, like, ay, bitch, you.
Speaker 1: Put the honey peg hello, straight from the juice bar,
Speaker 1: right from the juice.
Speaker 4: Bar in bro And they probably talking like America money,
Speaker 4: I paid you thousand dollars.
Speaker 1: Bit you better take a shower way. I'm going prepared,
Speaker 1: I will say too.
Speaker 3: Maybe we'll have to do a part too, because I
Speaker 3: do want to get into brothels coming not only to
Speaker 3: of course, we know, uh the Stadtle ranch out in Nevada,
Speaker 3: which is crazy because that is like prostitution is illegal
Speaker 3: in the state of Nevada, however not that city.
Speaker 1: No no, no, no no, or the opposite, yes or
Speaker 1: the opposite. I remember I got my prostitution license on
Speaker 1: sex sales. Yeah, I wonder.
Speaker 3: Also, they used to have brothels literally here in Times Square.
Speaker 3: So I would love to like dig into the history
Speaker 3: of brothels within America because the rules have always been
Speaker 3: so anti sex work.
Speaker 1: I just want to know how those were even able
Speaker 1: to be in septicide.
Speaker 4: I want to talk about also the religious, like I
Speaker 4: watched the actually watch this y'all and for when we
Speaker 4: dig into it next time. There is a documentary on
Speaker 4: Viceland called Prostitutes of God dev Dosi girls in India
Speaker 4: and they have sex to feed their families. The money
Speaker 4: goes to the temple and then goes to their families.
Speaker 4: Like it's some wild shit, but yeah, I love I
Speaker 4: just sold pussy for fun. If these stories all over
Speaker 4: the place.
Speaker 1: Anyway, if you want to read our prostitution.
Speaker 4: Tales coming to buy no holes Barren, thank you. There's
Speaker 4: only like two and there we each have one and
Speaker 4: that's it. You're not getting tails like it's a whole bunch.
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Speaker 3: gonna be drinking coffee like a motherfucker and y'all, just
Speaker 3: so you know as well, if y'all want to party
Speaker 3: with me, I'll be in Malta for Avisaska.
Speaker 1: Baby.
Speaker 3: I told y'all I'm a carnival chaser. So y'all pull
Speaker 3: up if you're coming to Malta May fifteenth to nineteen.
Speaker 3: Let me know if you're gonna see me. If you
Speaker 3: can't make it to Malta, pull up on me and Jamaica. Baby,
Speaker 3: we had Heatonism, not just last week.
Speaker 1: International pus. But you don't want to talk about you
Speaker 1: want to talk about in America.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because I'm okay. I'm outside with this pussy. I'm
Speaker 3: outside with the pussy anyways, y'all. Thank y'all for much
Speaker 3: bucking tuning in.
Speaker 1: Bye bye,