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Speaker 1: Welcome to Decisions Decisions. I don't think you should say

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Speaker 1: the Decisions. It sounded like you was talking to Kursky.

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Speaker 1: You definitely say to welcome, Welcome to the new podcast

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Speaker 1: how are you want to say?

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Speaker 3: Together the Decisions Decisions Welcome guys to another episode of Just.

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Speaker 1: A Girl, What Girl? I am in love?

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Speaker 3: I'm having sex girl, It's happening, baby, I am in

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Speaker 3: a relasson stip.

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Speaker 1: You should see me though.

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Speaker 3: Not wanting to say the L word too early, so

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Speaker 3: I just keep telling everyone we adore each other.

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Speaker 1: Oh, you know you have to say you say adore

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Speaker 1: is the word? Adore is the word.

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Speaker 3: I'm not saying the L word. I said the L

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Speaker 3: word for the first time in my last one. Never

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Speaker 3: the fuck you couldn't waterboard it out of me first?

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Speaker 3: He gotta feed water board.

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Speaker 1: It's crazy.

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Speaker 4: You always see girl me and dB I'm lazy. Welcome

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Speaker 4: back to another episode of Decisions Decisions. We're alone, y'all

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Speaker 4: because y'all been asking for it, by the way, bitch,

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Speaker 4: run up the way y'all been trying to fight us

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Speaker 4: in the YouTube comments.

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Speaker 1: Can y'all respect our decision to have guessed because it's a.

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Speaker 4: Decision decision for us to get somebody on, and y'all

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Speaker 4: be upset about it?

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Speaker 1: What then were supposed to do? We just running the.

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Speaker 3: Show, and you know what we are gonna work on

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Speaker 3: our first seven minutes. Can we not curse because you

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Speaker 3: know the YouTube we already done say bitch and but sorry,

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Speaker 3: I no doubt you gotta believe it again. Let's just

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Speaker 3: work on being thoughtful with our words. Okay, I will talk.

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Speaker 3: I guess I could talk about the innership and inn

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Speaker 3: ship ship?

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Speaker 1: Can we come on? Bracers? Are gonna do?

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Speaker 3: We want to start with your ketchup or edon? Did

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Speaker 3: randomly say you had a question for us?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? We can get intil later that I guess. Damn

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Speaker 1: I feel the pressure now.

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Speaker 5: Okay, so as a recent a friend of a friend

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Speaker 5: of a friend, definitely not me a promise, not me?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 5: So they received a letter okay, right, they received a

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Speaker 1: Boyfriend from their current boyfriend.

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Speaker 5: Current boyfriend of I think they said of five years

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Speaker 5: right in this is he in a war?

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Speaker 1: Why he wrote a letter?

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Speaker 5: It's interesting, mind you. It's not even like a sentence

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Speaker 5: like mail. No, it's a handed letter. In fact, it

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Speaker 5: In the letter details everything he'd want in a woman. Okay, thoughtful,

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Speaker 5: you would think, right? Considerably the friend of a friend

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Speaker 5: well to this letter. Okay, the letter was written to

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Speaker 5: who to that to the partner, to the partner, listing

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Speaker 5: I have to ask you to have you guys, ever

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Speaker 3: So we started talking about the things that we like

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Speaker 1: And I was so real and honest with him.

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Speaker 3: I said, listen, if you don't like me talking in accents,

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Speaker 1: You don't like me, because little do you know.

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Speaker 1: British, Jamaican, Irish Australian who makes that's unfair.

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Speaker 4: No, no, no, So I told him, I think their

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Speaker 1: You just shut the fuck up. It is not unfair. Well,

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Speaker 3: I don't just do British accents. I also don't sound

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Speaker 1: Well, he's an actor who's dating a very bad actress.

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Speaker 3: No, but not only that, he's an actor who has

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Speaker 3: I don't want to see you doing American accents because

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Speaker 2: No.

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Speaker 1: The only thing is he does say what, and I

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Speaker 3: It's like when he's like explaining something but it's what,

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Speaker 1: What do you mean but English? But said it's an

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Speaker 3: but it's not like all English speak.

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Speaker 5: You ain't see that what oh you mean English?

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Speaker 3: It's English, but I ain't never date nobody that says Willing.

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Speaker 3: It's like wow, wow, you know, I.

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Speaker 4: Remember the first smart guy I ever dated, and British

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Speaker 1: Oh he's very mature, and I say, it's all the time.

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Speaker 4: And it really British, like a British gentleman. Like it's

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Speaker 1: Oh no, we are.

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Speaker 3: He I'm eight years older than him, Like my homegirl

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Speaker 1: Now you love him, he's great? Real quick? What's wrong

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Speaker 1: don't snore? Damn, nothing wrong? Not yet. I mean, I'm

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Speaker 1: sure there's gonna be something I don't like.

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Speaker 4: This is the I remember the first thing I couldn't

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Speaker 4: Ooh what bitch's allergic to Darry?

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Speaker 1: Oh yes, oh come on, you know what? I thought

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Speaker 3: I literally didn't cook for that nigga because I was like, oh,

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Speaker 3: how do I cook it out?

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, I'm like toes, but I'll take a

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Speaker 3: our first we went to cheesecake factory when we was

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Speaker 1: Like, oh my god, he about to die with me.

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Speaker 1: I'm about to be the last. But didn't you like

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Speaker 1: know that this was stuff? Well?

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Speaker 3: No, first off, we had we had a We had

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Speaker 3: when she felt so bad, she was like, well, most

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Speaker 3: people are lactose, so I didn't know it was like

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Speaker 1: Take back here, I'm coming for your head. I only

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Speaker 1: still got charge. I did, I did, my bitch.

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Speaker 4: I was so mad, bro I was the best that

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Speaker 1: Was My tips are huge in this top.

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Speaker 3: So because he jokes about me being a nappy ass

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Speaker 1: And wearely don't always know what you want. Like, I

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Speaker 3: So let's let's go over that live together to work

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Speaker 1: That's why I'll be talking about therapist like I might

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Speaker 4: Possibly because your desires aren't necessarily marriage and children. When

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Speaker 3: You believe in someone wasting in your time like you

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Speaker 3: Boom number one.

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Speaker 4: The nigga that dates the girl that is so ready

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Speaker 1: I wasn't ready.

439
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Speaker 4: So a lot of people feel like this is the

440
00:20:03,680 --> 00:20:09,280
Speaker 4: woman's fault. Right, However, I'm gonna be very honest with you. Okay,

441
00:20:09,480 --> 00:20:13,240
Speaker 4: I haven't been in my last three relationships, including this one.

442
00:20:14,200 --> 00:20:16,120
Speaker 1: First date was I don't know if.

443
00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:18,639
Speaker 4: I want a relationship kind of just with This is

444
00:20:18,640 --> 00:20:21,160
Speaker 4: an answer because it relieves the pressure from the man.

445
00:20:21,920 --> 00:20:25,520
Speaker 4: If a nigga met a bitch that was for him,

446
00:20:25,880 --> 00:20:28,640
Speaker 4: he wants the relationship. That's how I got in mind,

447
00:20:29,280 --> 00:20:31,560
Speaker 4: that's how you got in yours. He probably gave the

448
00:20:31,680 --> 00:20:32,560
Speaker 4: answer to someone else.

449
00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:33,879
Speaker 1: No, No, that in mind.

450
00:20:33,960 --> 00:20:35,600
Speaker 4: My nigga says, No, I'm saying you got in your

451
00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:37,359
Speaker 4: relationship because you're with someone that wants you.

452
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Speaker 3: He admitted that there was some things I did. He

453
00:20:40,680 --> 00:20:42,520
Speaker 3: was like, why do I like this bitch? He tried

454
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Speaker 3: to not like me.

455
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Speaker 1: I disagree.

456
00:20:44,440 --> 00:20:47,560
Speaker 4: I don't think any man is in a relationship unless

457
00:20:47,640 --> 00:20:49,879
Speaker 4: this is really somewhere they want to be. But I

458
00:20:49,920 --> 00:20:52,120
Speaker 4: think men have so many options. Mandy, you ain't gonna

459
00:20:52,119 --> 00:20:53,120
Speaker 4: take me off the get.

460
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Speaker 1: Me let me women. Let me stay on my hill

461
00:20:54,800 --> 00:20:57,880
Speaker 1: right now, women have I don't believe that.

462
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Speaker 4: I think if women had a bunch of our options,

463
00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:02,000
Speaker 4: you have a bunch of married women.

464
00:21:02,359 --> 00:21:06,000
Speaker 3: Let me continue than os. So okay, so we're talking

465
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Speaker 3: two different things.

466
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Speaker 1: No, let me keep going to differ. But this is

467
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Speaker 1: what I'm talking about.

468
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Speaker 4: My first sentiment was that a woman that's looking for

469
00:21:11,960 --> 00:21:15,720
Speaker 4: a relationship, looking for marriage, looking for children. Now I

470
00:21:15,800 --> 00:21:19,119
Speaker 4: believe This accountability falls on the man, because at some

471
00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:22,960
Speaker 4: point your selfishness needs to be acknowledged. There's only so

472
00:21:23,040 --> 00:21:25,800
Speaker 4: much sex, fun time, in intimacy and meals you can

473
00:21:25,840 --> 00:21:29,800
Speaker 4: pull out of someone to know like, damn, I'm really

474
00:21:29,840 --> 00:21:32,800
Speaker 4: not investing in this person in the way that they

475
00:21:32,800 --> 00:21:36,680
Speaker 4: want me to. Because their investment for that time, that pussy,

476
00:21:36,840 --> 00:21:40,679
Speaker 4: that energy, even the coddling, the intimacy, it's because she

477
00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:42,480
Speaker 4: is expecting you're gonna be her partner.

478
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Speaker 1: I am very tired of seeing this type of that.

479
00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:52,480
Speaker 1: What is this? The second type of guy.

480
00:21:52,560 --> 00:21:54,879
Speaker 4: The second type of guy that I was What was

481
00:21:54,880 --> 00:21:55,680
Speaker 4: the first thing I said?

482
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Speaker 1: What kind of guy?

483
00:21:56,720 --> 00:21:58,760
Speaker 3: The type of guy that knows that you want all

484
00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:02,320
Speaker 3: these things right, says not ready, continues to entertain you

485
00:22:02,880 --> 00:22:05,160
Speaker 3: even after he knows you're not the one for her.

486
00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:07,840
Speaker 4: The second type of bad guy to date to me

487
00:22:09,160 --> 00:22:11,639
Speaker 4: is the guy that is playing too much of the field.

488
00:22:13,119 --> 00:22:15,840
Speaker 4: Maybe this guy has an intent to marry dating too

489
00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:18,560
Speaker 4: many women at one time. This is why love is

490
00:22:18,600 --> 00:22:23,080
Speaker 4: blind kind of works for a momentary portion, right, love

491
00:22:23,119 --> 00:22:23,600
Speaker 4: isn't blind.

492
00:22:23,640 --> 00:22:26,160
Speaker 1: We need something needs to get up right. I need

493
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Speaker 1: to be a try.

494
00:22:26,720 --> 00:22:29,200
Speaker 4: But these people get so connected to each other because

495
00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:31,000
Speaker 4: they have so much time to learn about each other.

496
00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:35,879
Speaker 4: Men are spreading out way too far, dating too many women,

497
00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:39,480
Speaker 4: and they almost can't manage it. One of my homeboys

498
00:22:39,520 --> 00:22:42,240
Speaker 4: that's dating too many women right now literally said to me, like, bruh,

499
00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:45,119
Speaker 4: I'm about to lose one of my bitches because I

500
00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:47,240
Speaker 4: had to try to keep the other one. This bitch

501
00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:49,040
Speaker 4: had a birthday. I had to show up for her,

502
00:22:49,119 --> 00:22:50,600
Speaker 4: and the other one just kind of felt left out.

503
00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:53,640
Speaker 4: And he's like, it's it's you owe too much when

504
00:22:53,720 --> 00:22:56,320
Speaker 4: you start playing all these seeds in different places and

505
00:22:56,400 --> 00:22:59,040
Speaker 4: someone let's just say, these women are dating one or

506
00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:02,679
Speaker 4: two men and they're gonna need more from you than

507
00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:04,879
Speaker 4: you do. You got less of yourself to give, and

508
00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:07,600
Speaker 4: you end up fucking everybody over. And I'm telling you,

509
00:23:07,600 --> 00:23:11,679
Speaker 4: you building bitches out here, the savage the tides is

510
00:23:11,680 --> 00:23:14,200
Speaker 4: gonna change. It's already changed. That's why you have women

511
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:17,240
Speaker 4: having kids on their own. A lot of this has

512
00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:20,480
Speaker 4: to be some accountability on the fact that the options

513
00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:23,119
Speaker 4: that men have are leading them to make these decisions.

514
00:23:23,400 --> 00:23:25,000
Speaker 3: It wasn't like that back in the day because it

515
00:23:25,040 --> 00:23:27,040
Speaker 3: was different. It wasn't ding ding ding ding ding on

516
00:23:27,080 --> 00:23:28,480
Speaker 3: your phone and I really.

517
00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:31,679
Speaker 1: Said they was having families with the bitch down the street.

518
00:23:32,000 --> 00:23:34,000
Speaker 1: They always had optioned. They just had the bitch down

519
00:23:34,000 --> 00:23:35,760
Speaker 1: the street, the bitch up the block. Maybe.

520
00:23:37,040 --> 00:23:40,879
Speaker 4: I mean, divorce rates are higher today, and when it

521
00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:44,480
Speaker 4: comes to why people are getting divorced, we rarely see

522
00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:46,280
Speaker 4: it being fucking money or anything like that. This time,

523
00:23:46,280 --> 00:23:49,320
Speaker 4: it's always some crazy headline about cheating. All I'm saying

524
00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:53,760
Speaker 4: is like, I really think the appetite of men sometimes

525
00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:54,320
Speaker 4: can get in a way.

526
00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:55,639
Speaker 1: They're getting in with the wrong partners.

527
00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:58,480
Speaker 4: You should be in relationships where women are also ethically

528
00:23:58,480 --> 00:24:00,960
Speaker 4: non monogamous and open to it, not just accepting it

529
00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:04,320
Speaker 4: because that was their only option. But I just find

530
00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:09,400
Speaker 4: that like a lot of the pain and heartache does

531
00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:11,560
Speaker 4: need to lie on a man sometimes because if these

532
00:24:11,560 --> 00:24:15,080
Speaker 4: women are truly being vocal, then you would know that

533
00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:16,520
Speaker 4: expectations are higher of you.

534
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Speaker 1: Think.

535
00:24:17,640 --> 00:24:19,119
Speaker 4: Why I brought that up, though, was because when you

536
00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:22,000
Speaker 4: said your ex was like, damn, I really feel like

537
00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:24,399
Speaker 4: it's easy for you to enter in relationships in a

538
00:24:24,440 --> 00:24:26,560
Speaker 4: way that men feel slightly safer.

539
00:24:26,520 --> 00:24:28,480
Speaker 1: Because you don't need that much from them.

540
00:24:29,320 --> 00:24:32,639
Speaker 4: Me wanting marriage and children looks like, oh, well she

541
00:24:32,760 --> 00:24:37,280
Speaker 4: needs this, You just want love, partnership, companionship.

542
00:24:37,720 --> 00:24:39,320
Speaker 1: Mine is a different ask.

543
00:24:39,960 --> 00:24:43,240
Speaker 4: It's a lifetime fucking ask, and so I think it's

544
00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:46,520
Speaker 4: just such a relief for men that want the same

545
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:47,120
Speaker 4: things as you.

546
00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:50,159
Speaker 3: That's the problem. I don't meet men know what the

547
00:24:50,200 --> 00:24:54,000
Speaker 3: same things as me. My boyfriend right now wants kids

548
00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:58,040
Speaker 3: in marriage, but we really like each other. We are

549
00:24:58,080 --> 00:25:01,200
Speaker 3: committed to being in a relationship. And I've also let

550
00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:04,520
Speaker 3: him know, which is where I never want the title

551
00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:07,280
Speaker 3: to be on me that I wasted his time because

552
00:25:07,280 --> 00:25:09,280
Speaker 3: I let it be known what I want out the gate,

553
00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:13,080
Speaker 3: and when he wants those things, I gave him the

554
00:25:13,400 --> 00:25:15,720
Speaker 3: freedom to go and get him for a woman.

555
00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:17,480
Speaker 1: If those are the things that he wants. I like that.

556
00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:21,280
Speaker 3: It like so to me when we talk about time wasters.

557
00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:28,280
Speaker 3: I would never accept from him if he got upset

558
00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:31,840
Speaker 3: and called me or said I wasted his time, because

559
00:25:31,880 --> 00:25:33,960
Speaker 3: I think I'm allowing him to do what I think

560
00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 3: most women should do.

561
00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:37,800
Speaker 1: If a man is telling you that your.

562
00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:40,480
Speaker 3: Vision doesn't align out the gate, and you choose to

563
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:42,880
Speaker 3: say to try to make it work with hopes that

564
00:25:42,920 --> 00:25:46,240
Speaker 3: he changes his mind, but you wasted your own time,

565
00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:48,240
Speaker 3: And I think that that's the problem.

566
00:25:48,400 --> 00:25:50,680
Speaker 1: We see here. If the goals don't align, no, so.

567
00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:53,119
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying. So you're saying that these are

568
00:25:53,160 --> 00:25:55,280
Speaker 3: the type of men that are time wasters. I think

569
00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:58,920
Speaker 3: a man that out the gate expresses that what he

570
00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:01,760
Speaker 3: wants at the time you want it does not align,

571
00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:04,479
Speaker 3: and you choose to stay with that one moment one moment,

572
00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:07,679
Speaker 3: and you choose to stay with that man in hopes

573
00:26:07,760 --> 00:26:11,840
Speaker 3: that love will change his mind, time will change his mind,

574
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:16,280
Speaker 3: or eventually you guys get to the same desires if

575
00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:19,240
Speaker 3: you go in expecting that to happen and it doesn't.

576
00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:22,959
Speaker 3: As a woman, bitch, you wasted your own time because

577
00:26:22,960 --> 00:26:26,360
Speaker 3: you went into the relationship with hope and delusion.

578
00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:29,240
Speaker 1: Disagree. I'm gonna tell you why. Okay, you have a dude,

579
00:26:29,320 --> 00:26:30,040
Speaker 1: you go on a date.

580
00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:33,640
Speaker 4: I actually pretty much talk about kids in marriage first

581
00:26:33,680 --> 00:26:35,879
Speaker 4: or second date because I know I'm out. If we

582
00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:40,159
Speaker 4: don't align, men will say things like and I know

583
00:26:40,359 --> 00:26:41,520
Speaker 4: this is just something.

584
00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:42,520
Speaker 1: Common or a shit.

585
00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:43,919
Speaker 4: I want two kids, I want to poor, I want

586
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:46,000
Speaker 4: a girl, I want this, I would love to move

587
00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:47,320
Speaker 4: to Westchester.

588
00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:49,000
Speaker 1: Whatever. They're gonna start their story.

589
00:26:48,800 --> 00:26:53,679
Speaker 4: Right, all of us having the same goals does not

590
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:56,480
Speaker 4: mean it's gonna happen with me, of course, but it's

591
00:26:56,600 --> 00:26:58,840
Speaker 4: very for you to say it doesn't align. It's very

592
00:26:58,880 --> 00:27:01,679
Speaker 4: easy to have a conversation where you're seeing, we have

593
00:27:02,200 --> 00:27:03,240
Speaker 4: things in common, whatever.

594
00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:07,679
Speaker 1: But sometimes it just ain't gonna be you saying something different.

595
00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:10,280
Speaker 1: I know, because I think maybe the verbiage you use

596
00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:10,520
Speaker 1: was one.

597
00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:13,280
Speaker 3: Now, the with you is always going to be silent.

598
00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:15,920
Speaker 3: A man can say what they want. Just because he's

599
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:18,520
Speaker 3: expressing that he wants it does not mean he wants

600
00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:21,439
Speaker 3: it with you in that conversation. A man can express

601
00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:23,760
Speaker 3: what they want, which is what I'm saying. If you

602
00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:27,000
Speaker 3: are sitting across from each other and you don't align

603
00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:28,920
Speaker 3: on your wants or needs or desires, and not even

604
00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:31,040
Speaker 3: by the sex of the children, are moving to Westchester, whatever,

605
00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:33,840
Speaker 3: If you know you want family planning and marriage down

606
00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:36,480
Speaker 3: the line, and you sit across from a man who says,

607
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:40,879
Speaker 3: I don't want those things maybe ever, and you choose

608
00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:43,879
Speaker 3: to continue pursuing him, got him. So that's what I'm saying.

609
00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:45,359
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying, The with you is always going

610
00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:47,560
Speaker 3: to be silent. A man telling me he wants kids

611
00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:50,320
Speaker 3: and marriage does not mean and I'm not gonna believe

612
00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:52,119
Speaker 3: he wants it with me just because he's telling me

613
00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:52,920
Speaker 3: it's what he wants.

614
00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:55,960
Speaker 4: Let me ask you, though, because it's interesting that out

615
00:27:55,960 --> 00:27:57,680
Speaker 4: of the people you were dating, I mean, it seemed

616
00:27:57,680 --> 00:27:59,240
Speaker 4: like you were the most connected with Actor Bay.

617
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:01,800
Speaker 1: But does it scare you as a.

618
00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:05,520
Speaker 4: Woman when you hear a man telling you marriage, children

619
00:28:05,520 --> 00:28:07,800
Speaker 4: and family is something they want and you want them.

620
00:28:08,119 --> 00:28:11,639
Speaker 3: I told so, I believe that nothing lasts forever, and

621
00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:16,160
Speaker 3: I also told him that I don't want to futurefuck

622
00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:18,800
Speaker 3: our ability to just enjoy each other in the present.

623
00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:22,560
Speaker 1: He doesn't want children or marriage within the.

624
00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:25,359
Speaker 3: Next couple of years, So to me, I'm excited to

625
00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:29,520
Speaker 3: enjoy a loving, carent relationship for as long as it lasts,

626
00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:31,560
Speaker 3: and as soon as it no longer lasts or we

627
00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:34,800
Speaker 3: no longer align with each other, I'm comfortable with just

628
00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:38,400
Speaker 3: experiencing what the relationship was and moving on with my life.

629
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:40,400
Speaker 1: I genuinely don't think we have.

630
00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:43,320
Speaker 3: To consider people lasting forever or always being on the

631
00:28:43,360 --> 00:28:47,240
Speaker 3: same page. Again, we're also we're also eight years apart,

632
00:28:47,520 --> 00:28:52,000
Speaker 3: so for me, I genuinely believe that he will go

633
00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:54,040
Speaker 3: through a lot more life changes in the next four

634
00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:56,640
Speaker 3: years than I will in the next four years, Like,

635
00:28:56,920 --> 00:28:59,240
Speaker 3: going from twenty six to thirty is going to be

636
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:01,800
Speaker 3: a lot different in his growth as a man and

637
00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:04,320
Speaker 3: an adult than what I'm going to experience from thirty

638
00:29:04,320 --> 00:29:06,600
Speaker 3: four to thirty eight. So we've already expressed that how.

639
00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:08,640
Speaker 4: Does it make him feel when you say nothing last

640
00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:11,880
Speaker 4: forever as an answer to life.

641
00:29:12,120 --> 00:29:13,520
Speaker 1: If he has a problem with that, you got to

642
00:29:13,520 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 1: take it up with a therapist. In God, nothing lasts forever. No,

643
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:19,240
Speaker 1: when you say it, like, well, how is he really

644
00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:19,880
Speaker 1: if he.

645
00:29:19,840 --> 00:29:23,440
Speaker 3: Thinks that love and relationships are supposed to last forever? Again,

646
00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:25,200
Speaker 3: he could take that up with therapists and is God.

647
00:29:25,480 --> 00:29:28,320
Speaker 3: I'm not here to coddle him in that belief because

648
00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:29,000
Speaker 3: that doesn't.

649
00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 1: Change for me. I genuinely believe a movie doesn't last forever.

650
00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:32,920
Speaker 1: A series.

651
00:29:32,960 --> 00:29:35,960
Speaker 3: We're always sad, right when a series that we fucking

652
00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:38,200
Speaker 3: love says it's coming to an end. Me and fucking

653
00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:41,720
Speaker 3: Wolf were just like man, dream Bill Festival, this is

654
00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:44,120
Speaker 3: the last and final one. We would love for it

655
00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:46,200
Speaker 3: to last forever, and it's not, And we're gonna deal

656
00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:50,280
Speaker 3: with losing dream Bill as it is. Sometimes you have

657
00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:53,520
Speaker 3: to just deal with the reality of life that things

658
00:29:53,520 --> 00:29:55,840
Speaker 3: will come to an end. And I don't want to

659
00:29:55,880 --> 00:29:59,520
Speaker 3: go into a relationship with the fallacy or with the

660
00:29:59,680 --> 00:30:02,440
Speaker 3: id theology that this is something that's going to be forever.

661
00:30:02,800 --> 00:30:05,280
Speaker 3: I just want to be able to enjoy it while

662
00:30:05,320 --> 00:30:07,720
Speaker 3: we have it. And so again, when I talk about future,

663
00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:10,280
Speaker 3: fucking this idea of even thinking of it coming to

664
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:12,600
Speaker 3: an end or us being on a different page in

665
00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:14,880
Speaker 3: the next six months or one year or two years.

666
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:18,560
Speaker 3: Let's not fucking overwhelm ourselves with anxiety about what that's

667
00:30:18,560 --> 00:30:20,960
Speaker 3: going to look like. Let's just fucking enjoy each other

668
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:23,680
Speaker 3: and love on each other until we don't anymore. And

669
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:25,920
Speaker 3: that's like what I want experience. I want to experience

670
00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:30,120
Speaker 3: just healthy relationships without the idea of what life is

671
00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:31,360
Speaker 3: going to inevitably bring.

672
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Speaker 1: Do you know what's at the end? What you said

673
00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:35,400
Speaker 1: feels like such women empowerment.

674
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Speaker 5: Shit.

675
00:30:36,720 --> 00:30:40,400
Speaker 4: If the roles were flipped and a man told a woman,

676
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Speaker 4: let's just see where this relationship takes us in knowing

677
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:47,440
Speaker 4: they wanted children, but see I don't, we would demonize them. No,

678
00:30:47,520 --> 00:30:49,640
Speaker 4: And knowing the women wanted children, we would demonize them.

679
00:30:49,680 --> 00:30:54,160
Speaker 3: Well no, but yes, you have the power to then

680
00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:57,720
Speaker 3: leave the relationship. That's the thing people should not be

681
00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:01,280
Speaker 3: demonized for being honest. Okay, I want to be in

682
00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:03,520
Speaker 3: a relationship where I just let this ship flow. You're

683
00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 3: telling me as a woman, you want babies like yesterday.

684
00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:08,400
Speaker 3: As a woman, if this man just wants to let

685
00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:10,719
Speaker 3: it flow, you have to be strong enough to realize

686
00:31:10,960 --> 00:31:12,479
Speaker 3: that this is not the person that's going to bring

687
00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:14,600
Speaker 3: you what you want, and you have to be okay

688
00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:18,160
Speaker 3: with going back out into the fucking ghetto of dating

689
00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:20,960
Speaker 3: and finding someone else that aligns with you. I think

690
00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:24,760
Speaker 3: the problem is women, well, women so much. Women so

691
00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:27,560
Speaker 3: much just want to be in a relationship so bad

692
00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:30,800
Speaker 3: they're willing to make it seem like something's gonna work

693
00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:32,440
Speaker 3: when they know it ain't gonna work.

694
00:31:33,680 --> 00:31:34,320
Speaker 1: They know that.

695
00:31:34,600 --> 00:31:38,600
Speaker 3: And again, because women have the biological clock working against them,

696
00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:41,680
Speaker 3: all the blame is on you or a man that

697
00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:45,320
Speaker 3: just wants to keep it easy flowing. I think the

698
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:48,480
Speaker 3: age difference makes it different for us, like him staying

699
00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:50,560
Speaker 3: with me even for the next three or four years.

700
00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:53,080
Speaker 3: He can always get with a woman that can procreate

701
00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:55,600
Speaker 3: with him younger. He doesn't have the biological clock that.

702
00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:58,760
Speaker 1: I mean, you're so crazy? Why am I crazy?

703
00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:01,560
Speaker 4: Hold on, Wolf is over there, he can stay with

704
00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:03,880
Speaker 4: me for four years and then if he wait, when

705
00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:05,800
Speaker 4: he's ready for a kid and I'm still at the

706
00:32:05,800 --> 00:32:07,680
Speaker 4: place where I don't want it, I'm gonna.

707
00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:10,800
Speaker 5: Send him off the world to go what don't want though,

708
00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:12,640
Speaker 5: But I'm talking about but I guess like marriage.

709
00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:14,080
Speaker 3: I told him he could give me a ring, I

710
00:32:14,240 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 3: like a cute ring, and we could go like and

711
00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:18,000
Speaker 3: then we can have a ceremony.

712
00:32:18,080 --> 00:32:19,760
Speaker 1: But I told him I'm not putting it on paper.

713
00:32:20,120 --> 00:32:23,600
Speaker 1: Oh wow, I think most men would like that, Thank you,

714
00:32:24,320 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 1: especially niggas with money. I'm a bitch with money. We

715
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:27,280
Speaker 1: not bruh.

716
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:30,000
Speaker 3: We don't need to put that ship on paper to

717
00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:33,960
Speaker 3: signify our love to what these Republicans want marriage, I

718
00:32:34,080 --> 00:32:38,040
Speaker 3: am happy. That's why he flew to Atlanta because he

719
00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:40,160
Speaker 3: was like, I just really want a ceremony and I

720
00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:42,000
Speaker 3: want to I want to be able to celebrate our

721
00:32:42,040 --> 00:32:44,360
Speaker 3: love in front of my family, and if there's a

722
00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:47,280
Speaker 3: way that I can still do that, I accept that answer.

723
00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:47,880
Speaker 2: Bro.

724
00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:50,760
Speaker 4: It's so crazy that the marriage conversations I'm having now,

725
00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:54,720
Speaker 4: I've been through these, you know, like, this is what

726
00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:56,200
Speaker 4: our wording looks like, this is what I look like.

727
00:32:56,320 --> 00:32:58,720
Speaker 4: The more in love I get I'll be like, Okay,

728
00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:01,480
Speaker 4: so when we're at the courthouse, like it went down

729
00:33:01,560 --> 00:33:04,360
Speaker 4: from having cousins and siblings to I just want my

730
00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:05,280
Speaker 4: parents and your parents.

731
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:09,160
Speaker 1: Like I don't know what it is. My brain is

732
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:13,000
Speaker 1: gone from I want this to like who girt is

733
00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:16,320
Speaker 1: economy E to Asia.

734
00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:18,480
Speaker 4: I swear to God, all I think about is like

735
00:33:19,320 --> 00:33:22,080
Speaker 4: that's how I love. I am like definitely want marriage

736
00:33:22,640 --> 00:33:25,360
Speaker 4: and I want to find this couple. I don't know

737
00:33:25,400 --> 00:33:27,920
Speaker 4: if anyone has seen them. I'm going to tell you

738
00:33:27,960 --> 00:33:30,120
Speaker 4: their page, go and shout them out. There's some fly

739
00:33:30,280 --> 00:33:32,600
Speaker 4: ass niggas. They had a wedding in Mexico City. The

740
00:33:32,680 --> 00:33:34,560
Speaker 4: way it started the cinematics, I thought it was a

741
00:33:34,600 --> 00:33:37,280
Speaker 4: fucking horror movie, that's how good it looked. But they

742
00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:40,000
Speaker 4: shared some photos of them getting married at a courthouse

743
00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:42,560
Speaker 4: court courthouse. Him and I shared it at the same time,

744
00:33:43,360 --> 00:33:46,120
Speaker 4: and I realized, damn them niggas went to dinner. It

745
00:33:46,160 --> 00:33:47,720
Speaker 4: looked like they was alone after they got married at

746
00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:49,840
Speaker 4: the courthouse. I'm like, Yeah, when people fucking love wedding,

747
00:33:49,880 --> 00:33:52,480
Speaker 4: A lot of time is for everybody else, you know what.

748
00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:55,400
Speaker 3: A lot of times the bride in the groom ended

749
00:33:55,480 --> 00:33:59,040
Speaker 3: up being so exhausted, overwhelmed. Like there's so many stories

750
00:33:59,240 --> 00:34:01,440
Speaker 3: that people don't even have sex on their wedding nights

751
00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:03,800
Speaker 3: because they're so fucking drained and exhausted from entertaining.

752
00:34:03,840 --> 00:34:04,200
Speaker 1: Motherfuck.

753
00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:06,960
Speaker 5: Anytime I am C or DJ wedding, I let them know, Hey,

754
00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:09,080
Speaker 5: I know this is your special day, but it's really

755
00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:11,160
Speaker 5: their special day. Yeah, And I pointed the family and

756
00:34:11,200 --> 00:34:12,799
Speaker 5: everyone else, because at the end of the day, they're

757
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:14,879
Speaker 5: gonna want to take pictures with you to make sure

758
00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:16,960
Speaker 5: they get every moment. They want to see you look pretty,

759
00:34:17,040 --> 00:34:19,120
Speaker 5: you look handsom. They want to be the rusion, they

760
00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:20,279
Speaker 5: want to be the bridesmaids. Like.

761
00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:22,760
Speaker 1: It's that's why I said, I don't want birthday parties.

762
00:34:23,040 --> 00:34:24,759
Speaker 1: Me and Weezy be on tour. We'll be talking about

763
00:34:24,760 --> 00:34:25,280
Speaker 1: active parties.

764
00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:28,120
Speaker 3: The curation of making sure you have to host and

765
00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:31,080
Speaker 3: throw and entertain brings about so much anxiety.

766
00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:32,920
Speaker 1: I told them, I said, you want a ceremony, you

767
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:33,600
Speaker 1: got a plan it.

768
00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:35,960
Speaker 4: I mean, don't get me wrong, I definitely want to

769
00:34:36,040 --> 00:34:39,160
Speaker 4: get to that one day. But for me, at this age,

770
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:42,359
Speaker 4: I definitely want to just be married.

771
00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:42,759
Speaker 1: Nigga.

772
00:34:42,800 --> 00:34:44,800
Speaker 4: I'm telling you right now, I could be in the studio,

773
00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:46,440
Speaker 4: and I feel like people would find out I'm married

774
00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:46,799
Speaker 4: from the ring.

775
00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:48,480
Speaker 3: By the way, y'all don't see my texes when I

776
00:34:48,520 --> 00:34:51,040
Speaker 3: come in with a ring. Bit y'all married, Fuck y'all like,

777
00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:53,839
Speaker 3: y'all better not look for that. What marriage specificate because

778
00:34:53,840 --> 00:34:55,960
Speaker 3: it ain't gonna exist. But bitch, when I say it's

779
00:34:56,000 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 3: a wife, bitch, I'm gonna hold the ring up and

780
00:34:58,239 --> 00:34:59,240
Speaker 3: be like, it's a wife.

781
00:34:59,400 --> 00:35:01,839
Speaker 4: I've posted so much less for miles, so I really

782
00:35:01,880 --> 00:35:03,759
Speaker 4: feel like I'm gonna be married and people gonna be like,

783
00:35:04,000 --> 00:35:06,440
Speaker 4: why did she hide it? And I'm like, when I

784
00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:10,040
Speaker 4: tell you my photos, I think I took forty five photos,

785
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 4: which isn't even what I do alone when I have

786
00:35:13,320 --> 00:35:17,239
Speaker 4: good makeup. It was crazy and like I kind of wish,

787
00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:19,279
Speaker 4: like I literally was like on the plane back, I

788
00:35:19,360 --> 00:35:20,520
Speaker 4: was like, damn, I ain't really.

789
00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:22,040
Speaker 1: We didn't take nothing. Oh.

790
00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:23,960
Speaker 3: I told him when he came to Atlanta, we only

791
00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:26,800
Speaker 3: had fucking photos in the aquarium with sharks and jellyfish

792
00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:27,239
Speaker 3: behind us.

793
00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:32,440
Speaker 4: I said, we could have took more photos. You feel me,

794
00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:34,839
Speaker 4: I think we don't get sucked in it. But I'm

795
00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:37,280
Speaker 4: also dating someone that doesn't give a shit about that phone.

796
00:35:37,360 --> 00:35:39,359
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, this nigga ain't even on social media. I'm

797
00:35:39,360 --> 00:35:42,879
Speaker 1: gonna tell you this though. I was cracking out, bitch.

798
00:35:43,480 --> 00:35:44,560
Speaker 1: We was on that little island.

799
00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:47,160
Speaker 4: It was three nights. I started getting real stressed out

800
00:35:47,160 --> 00:35:50,319
Speaker 4: about something that was going on the track. Everything's great now,

801
00:35:50,400 --> 00:35:53,600
Speaker 4: but when it was happening, he was like, listen, if

802
00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:56,520
Speaker 4: Bredonda needs you, if Alex needs you, if your mom

803
00:35:56,640 --> 00:35:57,600
Speaker 4: needs you, that's it.

804
00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:00,719
Speaker 1: You don't have to shoot horrible decisions. Don't your meeting

805
00:36:00,800 --> 00:36:03,399
Speaker 1: that meeting. I took it to him. Anyone that really

806
00:36:03,520 --> 00:36:07,000
Speaker 1: needs you will call my phone. Put your phone in

807
00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:11,319
Speaker 1: the safe and let it go. Girl. We was at

808
00:36:11,360 --> 00:36:14,640
Speaker 1: the fool. I was like, let me go change my sandals. Bitch.

809
00:36:14,719 --> 00:36:19,680
Speaker 1: I was in it. Uh God, just give me a TikTok. Bitch.

810
00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:23,080
Speaker 1: I was dying. I hate it. I'm telling you I don't,

811
00:36:23,360 --> 00:36:25,520
Speaker 1: just knowing I can't. And then you know what sucked.

812
00:36:25,680 --> 00:36:26,200
Speaker 1: Oh my god.

813
00:36:26,360 --> 00:36:28,719
Speaker 4: They started doing some cute little performance and they brought

814
00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:30,440
Speaker 4: us all these little coconuts with the letters.

815
00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:30,839
Speaker 1: Card.

816
00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:35,439
Speaker 4: Didn't give my phone nothing nity thing. I'm just looking

817
00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:37,520
Speaker 4: at nice shit with no photo. How are people gonna

818
00:36:37,520 --> 00:36:38,320
Speaker 4: know I'm living luxury?

819
00:36:38,360 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 1: But I'll puss that.

820
00:36:39,320 --> 00:36:41,080
Speaker 4: That's the life I was living, bitch, and we was

821
00:36:41,080 --> 00:36:42,719
Speaker 4: getting a massage. I was like, this is so nice, baby,

822
00:36:42,719 --> 00:36:46,799
Speaker 4: I want to take nothing, dog, I need to let

823
00:36:46,880 --> 00:36:47,279
Speaker 4: this shit go.

824
00:36:47,960 --> 00:36:50,839
Speaker 1: But it's bad. I even got a little tech net.

825
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:54,560
Speaker 1: I had all posture rescued. Fucking massages.

826
00:36:54,640 --> 00:36:57,440
Speaker 4: Like, I am a little too addicted to my phone,

827
00:36:57,480 --> 00:37:01,759
Speaker 4: and it's interesting because I'm not a crazy person, but

828
00:37:02,560 --> 00:37:05,240
Speaker 4: I just like having access for some reason.

829
00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:07,960
Speaker 3: And the phone feels like, oh, I ain't gonna lie

830
00:37:08,239 --> 00:37:10,040
Speaker 3: and I don't win my niggas this one and the

831
00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:12,719
Speaker 3: last one. When I'm with somebody, I like phone be

832
00:37:12,880 --> 00:37:13,680
Speaker 3: in a whole nother room.

833
00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:14,040
Speaker 4: It do.

834
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:17,279
Speaker 1: But bitch, I was with, I was, I was with

835
00:37:17,600 --> 00:37:19,680
Speaker 1: old Man River and now I'm with baby Bottle Pop.

836
00:37:19,960 --> 00:37:23,279
Speaker 3: When I tell you, my friends came up with those,

837
00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:28,440
Speaker 3: by the way, literally the opposite ends of the spectrum.

838
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:31,920
Speaker 3: And I ended up with two men who couldn't be

839
00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:35,879
Speaker 3: further apart in age and generation and upbringing, and both

840
00:37:35,960 --> 00:37:36,440
Speaker 3: of them do.

841
00:37:36,560 --> 00:37:40,640
Speaker 1: Not be on phone. It's I love it to date

842
00:37:40,719 --> 00:37:43,040
Speaker 1: somebody that's not tapped in because.

843
00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:45,719
Speaker 4: Once because what I noticed it anytime I see people

844
00:37:45,760 --> 00:37:48,880
Speaker 4: on dates, they're both on their fucking phones.

845
00:37:49,120 --> 00:37:52,600
Speaker 1: So when I'm out because I'm with someone now who genuinely.

846
00:37:52,680 --> 00:37:55,200
Speaker 3: Don't be on the like his sister runs his fucking

847
00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:57,600
Speaker 3: Instagram account, and I say, good, nigga, I met you

848
00:37:57,680 --> 00:37:58,120
Speaker 3: on the Graham.

849
00:37:58,200 --> 00:37:59,680
Speaker 1: Get off that ship. I can be honest with you.

850
00:38:00,640 --> 00:38:03,520
Speaker 4: I think when you're a person that like your intentional like.

851
00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:06,080
Speaker 4: I don't think an Instagram crazy person or a TikToker

852
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:08,400
Speaker 4: can't tap into a dinner if they really need to.

853
00:38:09,000 --> 00:38:12,520
Speaker 4: But I find that the phone is pastime. The phone

854
00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:14,640
Speaker 4: is this thing of like I'm on a couch now

855
00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:17,840
Speaker 4: boom type ship. I'm not going to interrupt my stands

856
00:38:17,880 --> 00:38:24,359
Speaker 4: type ship like a Hyan heard a young the young

857
00:38:24,440 --> 00:38:28,160
Speaker 4: Nigga reference. No, it's not a reference, it's a term.

858
00:38:28,239 --> 00:38:31,800
Speaker 1: Now why in it's exactly it's exactly what you exactly

859
00:38:31,840 --> 00:38:33,400
Speaker 1: what you said. Well, you're on the phone more than me,

860
00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:36,239
Speaker 1: so you would know it. Well that's what I know.

861
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:40,880
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Speaker 4: we really do want you to support your favorite indie bookseller.

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Speaker 4: Check this description for this week's episode on where to

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Speaker 4: get it. Okay, I want to get into a new segment.

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00:39:30,840 --> 00:39:33,399
Speaker 4: We're going to be doing this to sell our book

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Speaker 4: and our pace. Right, So every single week on Decisions Decisions,

882
00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:38,439
Speaker 4: whenever we don't have a guest, we're gonna be digging

883
00:39:38,480 --> 00:39:41,680
Speaker 4: into a quote from our book. Whoever's up doing the outline,

884
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Speaker 4: We're going to give you something that we wrote and

885
00:39:43,920 --> 00:39:45,840
Speaker 4: dig into a little convo about it. So Wolfinett and

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Speaker 4: please join in. This is from I believe this from

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00:39:49,560 --> 00:39:54,480
Speaker 4: our New York chapter. I wrote avoiding loneliness will only

888
00:39:54,600 --> 00:39:59,480
Speaker 4: cause issues when you're finally sharing space. The growing mindfulness

889
00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:02,640
Speaker 4: is to your overall self seeing productivity and the energy

890
00:40:02,719 --> 00:40:06,320
Speaker 4: levels your brain starts to recover with all the external

891
00:40:06,400 --> 00:40:10,440
Speaker 4: stimuli that a clusterfuck of a city brings. Yes, community

892
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:13,880
Speaker 4: and companionship are necessary, but so is being able to

893
00:40:13,960 --> 00:40:17,760
Speaker 4: say you can be happy by yourself. And I finally

894
00:40:17,880 --> 00:40:21,879
Speaker 4: realized the most beautiful version of me doesn't arrive until

895
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:24,719
Speaker 4: I meet the ugliest me. So I want to ask, y'all,

896
00:40:25,360 --> 00:40:28,279
Speaker 4: is it true that you really got to get to

897
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:31,600
Speaker 4: a dark and shitty place within yourself to have a

898
00:40:31,640 --> 00:40:34,359
Speaker 4: fucking glow up? Have you ever had a fucking glow

899
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:38,000
Speaker 4: up in your life that you felt like just naturally

900
00:40:38,120 --> 00:40:41,359
Speaker 4: came without you going through a hard road to get there?

901
00:40:41,760 --> 00:40:44,680
Speaker 3: Now, I think my twenties was the dark ugliness, and

902
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:46,240
Speaker 3: I'm in my glow up currently.

903
00:40:47,880 --> 00:40:50,800
Speaker 1: I think it's the same. Like, you don't know happiness

904
00:40:50,880 --> 00:40:52,440
Speaker 1: unless you know sadness. You don't know.

905
00:40:54,080 --> 00:40:56,200
Speaker 3: What it's like to make money unless you know what

906
00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:58,840
Speaker 3: it feels like to be broke, Like I think that

907
00:40:59,520 --> 00:41:02,719
Speaker 3: that's that's You don't know that a relationship is bad.

908
00:41:03,360 --> 00:41:05,680
Speaker 3: I mean, you don't know a relationship is healthy unless

909
00:41:05,680 --> 00:41:07,800
Speaker 3: you've been in a relationship that was bad, and so

910
00:41:07,920 --> 00:41:10,719
Speaker 3: I think that's literally just the nuances of life, like duality,

911
00:41:10,880 --> 00:41:14,080
Speaker 3: Like you don't know how to appreciate the good in

912
00:41:14,239 --> 00:41:17,239
Speaker 3: life until you know what comes with the bad. And

913
00:41:17,320 --> 00:41:19,640
Speaker 3: so I think like for me, my glow up is

914
00:41:19,760 --> 00:41:23,040
Speaker 3: now like finding the strength of confidence, being financially secure,

915
00:41:23,520 --> 00:41:26,640
Speaker 3: being like confident in myself, my looks, and all of

916
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:28,880
Speaker 3: those things bring about the best version of myself to

917
00:41:28,920 --> 00:41:30,239
Speaker 3: where I can show up as the best version of

918
00:41:30,280 --> 00:41:33,399
Speaker 3: myself for the world. I think that you know, when

919
00:41:33,560 --> 00:41:36,640
Speaker 3: you're unhappy, when you're depressed, when you haven't dealt with

920
00:41:36,719 --> 00:41:39,279
Speaker 3: your traumas, when you haven't gone to therapy and you're

921
00:41:39,360 --> 00:41:43,200
Speaker 3: just existing as this broken person, you don't know how

922
00:41:43,440 --> 00:41:46,400
Speaker 3: great you could really be before you You have to

923
00:41:46,520 --> 00:41:47,720
Speaker 3: navigate those things first.

924
00:41:47,880 --> 00:41:50,520
Speaker 4: I learned another word recently that I wanted to talk

925
00:41:50,520 --> 00:41:53,200
Speaker 4: about with y'all. I don't know if anyone's heard this.

926
00:41:53,560 --> 00:41:56,480
Speaker 4: Have you heard of a glow down? No?

927
00:41:57,239 --> 00:41:57,919
Speaker 1: Well, low down?

928
00:41:58,480 --> 00:42:01,960
Speaker 4: At the top of the list people that are relevant

929
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:05,120
Speaker 4: to talk about today, they are saying on the tiktoks

930
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Speaker 4: and the instagrams, Tyler is the number one most recent

931
00:42:10,120 --> 00:42:15,360
Speaker 4: celebrity glowdown. Wait, I now need an explanation on this,

932
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Speaker 4: because wherever my mind is going, I disagree.

933
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Speaker 1: Why is Tyler a glowdown? People believe this is not me.

934
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Speaker 1: God don't come for me.

935
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Speaker 4: People believe that Kyla's glowdown is because the Internet started.

936
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Speaker 1: To high leak Tyler. Tyler Tyler. Okay, Tyler Tyler. Yeah.

937
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Speaker 4: People believe Tyler had a glowdown because they believe she

938
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Speaker 4: got up too quickly. People became obsessed with the song,

939
00:42:42,160 --> 00:42:45,480
Speaker 4: didn't have anything that went quickly as pop in mainstream

940
00:42:45,920 --> 00:42:49,040
Speaker 4: and social media started to dislike her.

941
00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:52,719
Speaker 3: So I think it's because, first off, I think this

942
00:42:52,880 --> 00:42:59,440
Speaker 3: is absolutely unfactual wrong, and I feel like Tylo is

943
00:42:59,520 --> 00:43:02,880
Speaker 3: literally I think I think I think pushed.

944
00:43:02,880 --> 00:43:05,439
Speaker 1: This is not my opinion. Push the Star was still great.

945
00:43:05,600 --> 00:43:08,600
Speaker 1: The album, by the way, was literally.

946
00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:11,360
Speaker 3: The playlist to Saint Croix, her entire album. I was

947
00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:14,239
Speaker 3: so shocked at how fucking dope it was. She has

948
00:43:14,320 --> 00:43:16,680
Speaker 3: so many great songs and more hits than Just Wanna.

949
00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:18,800
Speaker 3: So if you if you just don't, if you just

950
00:43:18,840 --> 00:43:22,359
Speaker 3: don't listen to Tyler, just say that. Secondly, I think

951
00:43:22,480 --> 00:43:28,680
Speaker 3: that she is our next upcoming Rihanna. I think she's phenomenal.

952
00:43:28,760 --> 00:43:30,920
Speaker 3: I think she's a fucking star and her right what.

953
00:43:31,080 --> 00:43:34,880
Speaker 3: I believe why someone would say that is because misery.

954
00:43:35,480 --> 00:43:39,120
Speaker 3: If you're in the darkness, you're upset at people who

955
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:41,520
Speaker 3: get so much success so quickly.

956
00:43:41,560 --> 00:43:42,200
Speaker 1: I think we saw that.

957
00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:46,799
Speaker 4: I think the internet's opinions seem louder than the real and.

958
00:43:46,840 --> 00:43:48,360
Speaker 1: That's not the reality. I think that we saw that

959
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:48,879
Speaker 1: with Ice.

960
00:43:48,880 --> 00:43:52,600
Speaker 3: Spice like to me, her glowdown is because her album

961
00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:55,680
Speaker 3: didn't do as well as it was anticipated. However, people

962
00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:58,080
Speaker 3: hated her because they felt like, why the fuck is

963
00:43:58,120 --> 00:44:00,680
Speaker 3: she the one that gets to have all of this?

964
00:44:00,960 --> 00:44:03,360
Speaker 4: Why is she at the met gallup? Why is she

965
00:44:03,719 --> 00:44:05,960
Speaker 4: in videos with this person? Why is she next to

966
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Speaker 4: next to uh Taylor Swift.

967
00:44:09,040 --> 00:44:12,880
Speaker 3: I think people hate to see someone reached success because

968
00:44:12,880 --> 00:44:16,040
Speaker 3: they're unhappy with their own.

969
00:44:16,280 --> 00:44:18,759
Speaker 4: Inability to I think any other strange thing to at

970
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:21,200
Speaker 4: least with black celebrities, that I've always found strange.

971
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Speaker 1: We don't want to see motherfuckers win. I get Tyler Skinny,

972
00:44:26,200 --> 00:44:27,319
Speaker 1: I get there's aria star.

973
00:44:27,680 --> 00:44:30,960
Speaker 4: I get that that there's darker skin talent that is

974
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Speaker 4: probably wait Or is better of a singer than Tyler.

975
00:44:34,040 --> 00:44:41,160
Speaker 1: I understand well, no, let's it's because she used the

976
00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:43,400
Speaker 1: word colored, which is a word that no, no, no,

977
00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:44,920
Speaker 1: this is Tyler being light.

978
00:44:45,360 --> 00:44:48,759
Speaker 4: If you're gonna have the biggest let's nigga, this isn't.

979
00:44:48,920 --> 00:44:51,200
Speaker 4: I hate to make it about color. That's life, bro.

980
00:44:52,000 --> 00:44:55,600
Speaker 4: Tyler is the biggest star to come out of Africa.

981
00:44:55,719 --> 00:44:56,280
Speaker 4: That's a woman.

982
00:44:56,440 --> 00:45:00,440
Speaker 1: Correct or am I wrong here? And look how she looks? Well,

983
00:45:00,440 --> 00:45:04,560
Speaker 1: I think Thames, I was Gonnas is probably bigger and has.

984
00:45:04,760 --> 00:45:07,120
Speaker 1: Actually you think Thames is bigger than Tyler. You think

985
00:45:07,160 --> 00:45:10,440
Speaker 1: white people know Sames. I would hope that's true. I think, though,

986
00:45:10,520 --> 00:45:13,640
Speaker 1: but don't I disagree with you, guys. I think Tyler

987
00:45:13,800 --> 00:45:16,759
Speaker 1: is bigger. I think, I mean, I think on the cover,

988
00:45:16,880 --> 00:45:20,359
Speaker 1: I think. I think Tyler makes pop music and leads

989
00:45:20,360 --> 00:45:22,360
Speaker 1: into pop music. Tames make more soulful.

990
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:24,400
Speaker 4: I think that's the point, though, Mandy, like, there's a

991
00:45:24,560 --> 00:45:27,640
Speaker 4: pop music star in Africa that looks like Tames. I'm

992
00:45:27,680 --> 00:45:31,800
Speaker 4: sure Tyla there. I'm sorry, No one's gonna convince me

993
00:45:31,960 --> 00:45:34,719
Speaker 4: that Tyla's looks in skin color and why she's as

994
00:45:34,800 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 4: huge as she is. It's fine, she's gorgeous, but that is.

995
00:45:38,040 --> 00:45:40,399
Speaker 1: Still saying she's a glowdown take away.

996
00:45:40,520 --> 00:45:40,560
Speaker 6: No.

997
00:45:40,680 --> 00:45:42,800
Speaker 4: I think I think a lot of this when you

998
00:45:43,000 --> 00:45:45,560
Speaker 4: when you talk about ice s pice right. Also someone

999
00:45:45,800 --> 00:45:48,480
Speaker 4: like I think there's a lot that the internet hates

1000
00:45:48,520 --> 00:45:52,400
Speaker 4: when it's like, fuck, how do we have someone when

1001
00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:54,280
Speaker 4: there's someone else scarlet someone.

1002
00:45:54,080 --> 00:45:55,319
Speaker 1: Else way better? Right?

1003
00:45:55,520 --> 00:45:59,719
Speaker 4: And so I think sometimes that noise starts to infect everybody.

1004
00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:02,839
Speaker 4: What Tyler did with the A word thing was shitty, yes,

1005
00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:06,319
Speaker 4: but at the same time, it's like, I'm not gonna

1006
00:46:06,360 --> 00:46:08,319
Speaker 4: hate this girl that much for it, Like I'm over

1007
00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:08,880
Speaker 4: it already.

1008
00:46:09,320 --> 00:46:10,920
Speaker 1: I think we really you are.

1009
00:46:11,040 --> 00:46:13,799
Speaker 3: But I think majority of people harness shit for people

1010
00:46:13,840 --> 00:46:16,440
Speaker 3: they really don't fucking know, right, And I think it's

1011
00:46:16,520 --> 00:46:20,279
Speaker 3: just it's people wanting to have just and luckily we

1012
00:46:20,360 --> 00:46:22,359
Speaker 3: still have the First Amendment. Y'all know they're taking rid

1013
00:46:22,360 --> 00:46:25,720
Speaker 3: of this shit. But luckily we're able to just hold space,

1014
00:46:25,880 --> 00:46:28,160
Speaker 3: have our opinions and exist. And I just think people

1015
00:46:28,320 --> 00:46:30,719
Speaker 3: harbor on the worst things.

1016
00:46:30,760 --> 00:46:31,320
Speaker 1: This is what I do.

1017
00:46:31,719 --> 00:46:34,040
Speaker 3: Anytime you want to see how miserable the goddamn world is,

1018
00:46:34,520 --> 00:46:37,359
Speaker 3: just go to the shade room. Find somebody you really

1019
00:46:37,400 --> 00:46:40,120
Speaker 3: fucking adore, that you really respect, what you think is gorgeous,

1020
00:46:40,400 --> 00:46:42,080
Speaker 3: and go look in the comments and see how many

1021
00:46:42,120 --> 00:46:44,719
Speaker 3: people have something negative to say about it, and then

1022
00:46:44,760 --> 00:46:46,520
Speaker 3: you can literally move on with your fucking life.

1023
00:46:47,360 --> 00:46:50,160
Speaker 4: Now reactionary, Let's talk about some other crazy shit in

1024
00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:53,480
Speaker 4: the world, factual, not opinion based. I don't know if

1025
00:46:53,480 --> 00:46:58,719
Speaker 4: you guys have seen the woman that had the wrong

1026
00:46:58,800 --> 00:47:01,760
Speaker 4: baby born inside of her, but here's a little clip

1027
00:47:02,000 --> 00:47:03,200
Speaker 4: about some recent craziness.

1028
00:47:03,280 --> 00:47:06,360
Speaker 6: A woman in Savannah, Georgia, has filed a lawsuit against

1029
00:47:06,440 --> 00:47:10,400
Speaker 6: coastal fertility specialists after giving birth to a child who

1030
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:14,319
Speaker 6: was not biologically hers due to an embryo mix up.

1031
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:19,040
Speaker 6: Christina Murray underwent in future fertilization in early twenty twenty three.

1032
00:47:19,440 --> 00:47:22,200
Speaker 6: When she gave birth in December, she immediately noticed that

1033
00:47:22,280 --> 00:47:26,000
Speaker 6: baby did not share her expected genetic traits. A DNA

1034
00:47:26,160 --> 00:47:29,360
Speaker 6: tess later confirmed that she had carried and delivered another

1035
00:47:29,480 --> 00:47:33,800
Speaker 6: couple's embryo. Murray is suing the clinic foreign negligence, stating

1036
00:47:33,880 --> 00:47:37,480
Speaker 6: that the mistake caused her pain and anguish. She initially

1037
00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 6: planned to raise the child, but after the biological parents

1038
00:47:40,640 --> 00:47:44,600
Speaker 6: were notified they saw custody. Facing a legal challenge she

1039
00:47:44,680 --> 00:47:48,240
Speaker 6: believed she could not win, Murray relinquished custody of the child.

1040
00:47:48,320 --> 00:47:52,120
Speaker 6: At five months old. The clinic issued a statement apologizing

1041
00:47:52,200 --> 00:47:55,440
Speaker 6: for what it called an unprecedented error, and stated that

1042
00:47:55,560 --> 00:47:59,800
Speaker 6: it has since implemented additional safeguards to prevent similar mistakes.

1043
00:48:00,360 --> 00:48:02,759
Speaker 1: Let's talk about a real recap of what I just said,

1044
00:48:03,360 --> 00:48:04,320
Speaker 1: what you just heard. Excuse me.

1045
00:48:04,680 --> 00:48:08,200
Speaker 4: A white woman in Georgia did IVF embryo, put the

1046
00:48:08,280 --> 00:48:11,680
Speaker 4: embryo inside of her baby is born. The baby's black.

1047
00:48:12,440 --> 00:48:14,600
Speaker 4: Come to find out it belonged to a couple from

1048
00:48:14,640 --> 00:48:17,440
Speaker 4: the clinic. She thought, fuck it, I'll just raise the baby.

1049
00:48:17,719 --> 00:48:21,799
Speaker 4: Them nigga said, hell, nah, bitch, that's our baby. They

1050
00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:23,239
Speaker 4: were about to go to court, and she was like,

1051
00:48:23,280 --> 00:48:24,800
Speaker 4: you know what, I'm not gonna lose this battle.

1052
00:48:24,800 --> 00:48:25,360
Speaker 1: I'll let it go.

1053
00:48:27,160 --> 00:48:32,080
Speaker 3: First off, I think that white woman deserves millions upon

1054
00:48:32,320 --> 00:48:34,640
Speaker 3: millions of dollars and a few more babies.

1055
00:48:34,800 --> 00:48:40,920
Speaker 1: On the opposite end, I have three or four friends.

1056
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:48,600
Speaker 3: That are currently going through egg freezing and embryos literally

1057
00:48:48,760 --> 00:48:52,279
Speaker 3: retrieval of eggs. Mind you, I'm learning so much about it.

1058
00:48:52,600 --> 00:48:55,400
Speaker 3: Or you can go through mind you, like seven thousand

1059
00:48:55,440 --> 00:48:57,640
Speaker 3: dollars a pop, so much work, especially if you don't

1060
00:48:57,640 --> 00:49:01,680
Speaker 3: have insurance. Insurance oftentimes also doesn't cover everything. The medication

1061
00:49:01,800 --> 00:49:03,399
Speaker 3: alone is like fourteen hundred dollars.

1062
00:49:03,440 --> 00:49:04,160
Speaker 1: It's ridiculous.

1063
00:49:04,440 --> 00:49:09,359
Speaker 3: So going through IVF basically starts your eggs to get

1064
00:49:09,440 --> 00:49:13,000
Speaker 3: healthy for retrieval. Mind you, they can literally pull out.

1065
00:49:13,520 --> 00:49:15,720
Speaker 3: I think ten eggs is normally like a good amount

1066
00:49:15,760 --> 00:49:17,359
Speaker 3: that you could have. I have a friend right now

1067
00:49:17,480 --> 00:49:23,600
Speaker 3: that is producing four three like not enough to where basically,

1068
00:49:24,120 --> 00:49:26,480
Speaker 3: even if they're healthy, it doesn't mean that they'll form

1069
00:49:26,520 --> 00:49:27,240
Speaker 3: into an embryo.

1070
00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:27,840
Speaker 1: Mind you.

1071
00:49:27,920 --> 00:49:30,000
Speaker 3: Whether it forms into an embryo or not, you don't

1072
00:49:30,040 --> 00:49:33,120
Speaker 3: get your money back. So I can understand this black

1073
00:49:33,200 --> 00:49:38,080
Speaker 3: couple wanting their baby because the retrieval process and having

1074
00:49:38,160 --> 00:49:42,080
Speaker 3: a healthy baby actually born through IVF is a lot.

1075
00:49:42,719 --> 00:49:46,480
Speaker 1: And so I'm not against the black woman wanting her baby.

1076
00:49:46,640 --> 00:49:46,960
Speaker 1: Me too.

1077
00:49:47,280 --> 00:49:50,520
Speaker 3: Also, I also think there's no money in the world

1078
00:49:50,800 --> 00:49:54,920
Speaker 3: that is gonna make this white woman okay.

1079
00:49:54,760 --> 00:49:56,879
Speaker 1: Oh my god, bro at all. Let me tell you something.

1080
00:49:56,920 --> 00:49:58,680
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. I really think that these

1081
00:49:58,719 --> 00:49:59,400
Speaker 1: are the only.

1082
00:49:59,280 --> 00:50:02,360
Speaker 4: White tears I would wipe away. Well, you know, you

1083
00:50:02,760 --> 00:50:05,920
Speaker 4: carried that baby for nine months. You had to deal

1084
00:50:06,000 --> 00:50:08,360
Speaker 4: with the fact that it wasn't your baby. She probably

1085
00:50:08,360 --> 00:50:10,040
Speaker 4: had to sit with herself and say it's fuck it. Man,

1086
00:50:10,160 --> 00:50:12,520
Speaker 4: God gave me this baby. Either way, I'm going to

1087
00:50:12,560 --> 00:50:15,640
Speaker 4: stick this through. And she grew a connection to this baby,

1088
00:50:16,000 --> 00:50:19,040
Speaker 4: and then Bro and we were just saying a few

1089
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Speaker 4: weeks weeks go in the episode with Kendrick, the biological attachment.

1090
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Speaker 1: The chemistry that feeling like you're and it's like it's gone. Yo.

1091
00:50:27,440 --> 00:50:29,760
Speaker 4: I make fun of my mom for this all the time, okay,

1092
00:50:29,920 --> 00:50:32,400
Speaker 4: But when I got Niena, my mom was like, I

1093
00:50:32,440 --> 00:50:33,120
Speaker 4: want a dog too.

1094
00:50:33,640 --> 00:50:35,160
Speaker 1: I was like, well, I'm only give you a thousand

1095
00:50:35,160 --> 00:50:36,800
Speaker 1: dollars to get a dog, and the only.

1096
00:50:36,680 --> 00:50:38,440
Speaker 4: One she could find as tiny as she wanted was

1097
00:50:38,480 --> 00:50:40,520
Speaker 4: in Fort Lauderdale at the time, so she drove from

1098
00:50:40,520 --> 00:50:41,760
Speaker 4: her land of the Fort Lauderdale.

1099
00:50:41,800 --> 00:50:43,400
Speaker 1: I don't know if anyone hurt me tell the story.

1100
00:50:43,440 --> 00:50:46,040
Speaker 4: Before she waited to get this dog in a CBS

1101
00:50:46,239 --> 00:50:49,279
Speaker 4: had the cash in hand, and nobody showed up, and

1102
00:50:49,400 --> 00:50:50,680
Speaker 4: she called me and said.

1103
00:50:50,800 --> 00:50:52,880
Speaker 1: I feel like I just had a miscarriage.

1104
00:50:53,280 --> 00:50:56,240
Speaker 4: I have all my toys at home. I'm so ready

1105
00:50:56,320 --> 00:50:59,120
Speaker 4: for this fucking dog and I don't have anything. And

1106
00:50:59,200 --> 00:51:01,360
Speaker 4: she would score and it was kind of funny but

1107
00:51:01,520 --> 00:51:04,600
Speaker 4: kind of cute, but kind of sad, and I realized like, yo.

1108
00:51:04,840 --> 00:51:06,319
Speaker 3: If I was a good daughter, you would have said

1109
00:51:06,320 --> 00:51:08,040
Speaker 3: I got your two thousand on the next Well, you know,

1110
00:51:08,120 --> 00:51:09,799
Speaker 3: I did raise that budget for your mama.

1111
00:51:09,920 --> 00:51:10,200
Speaker 2: I did.

1112
00:51:10,600 --> 00:51:11,960
Speaker 4: But by the way I think they was when a

1113
00:51:12,000 --> 00:51:13,440
Speaker 4: robber ass and I think they saw she was an

1114
00:51:13,440 --> 00:51:14,879
Speaker 4: old lady, and I was like, nah, we ain't gonna

1115
00:51:14,880 --> 00:51:17,279
Speaker 4: do it, because why would you have somebody meet you with.

1116
00:51:17,320 --> 00:51:18,920
Speaker 1: The cash in a parking lot?

1117
00:51:18,960 --> 00:51:20,759
Speaker 4: Anyway, I yelled, I can't believe she did say this

1118
00:51:20,920 --> 00:51:23,800
Speaker 4: to say my mom Actually, like she was depressed for

1119
00:51:23,920 --> 00:51:25,799
Speaker 4: weeks because she got so ready.

1120
00:51:25,880 --> 00:51:28,040
Speaker 1: She was looking at the photos. The baby wasn't ready

1121
00:51:28,080 --> 00:51:29,640
Speaker 1: to get the dog, wasn't you know what I mean?

1122
00:51:30,440 --> 00:51:34,560
Speaker 1: Imagine nine months it did, five months of having a baby,

1123
00:51:34,600 --> 00:51:36,719
Speaker 1: five months after raising it and then having to give

1124
00:51:36,880 --> 00:51:38,920
Speaker 1: up custody. Is she in the wrong though?

1125
00:51:39,160 --> 00:51:39,200
Speaker 5: Like?

1126
00:51:39,320 --> 00:51:41,719
Speaker 1: What wrong? Who the woman?

1127
00:51:42,000 --> 00:51:44,000
Speaker 5: Because it's like no, no, like the black woman for

1128
00:51:44,080 --> 00:51:47,200
Speaker 5: taking the baby as well just I mean not even

1129
00:51:47,719 --> 00:51:50,399
Speaker 5: putting an effort into just only onto the baby.

1130
00:51:50,480 --> 00:51:51,600
Speaker 1: Is that that tough?

1131
00:51:51,920 --> 00:51:51,960
Speaker 2: No?

1132
00:51:52,239 --> 00:51:53,040
Speaker 1: I don't think she's wrong.

1133
00:51:53,120 --> 00:51:55,120
Speaker 3: Balls were around this, but I don't think she's wrong,

1134
00:51:55,680 --> 00:51:58,080
Speaker 3: especially because as a woman, like even though you went

1135
00:51:58,120 --> 00:52:00,279
Speaker 3: through that, bro, if you know any other one that

1136
00:52:00,360 --> 00:52:03,560
Speaker 3: went through the same and wanted wanted their kid.

1137
00:52:04,200 --> 00:52:07,400
Speaker 1: This is where I think the only motherfucker's in the

1138
00:52:07,440 --> 00:52:09,440
Speaker 1: wrong year is the clinic, right.

1139
00:52:09,600 --> 00:52:13,279
Speaker 3: I don't think how this ended up either woman is wrong.

1140
00:52:14,320 --> 00:52:16,479
Speaker 3: I'm sure she wanted to keep this baby, but also

1141
00:52:17,680 --> 00:52:20,600
Speaker 3: we don't know, like we don't know. But honestly, like

1142
00:52:20,680 --> 00:52:23,000
Speaker 3: I said, I don't think that woman is ever going

1143
00:52:23,080 --> 00:52:25,359
Speaker 3: to be mentally okay with it. And I do think

1144
00:52:25,440 --> 00:52:28,640
Speaker 3: that there is something to say about the black woman

1145
00:52:29,160 --> 00:52:31,560
Speaker 3: and now her connection to this child because she didn't

1146
00:52:31,640 --> 00:52:35,759
Speaker 3: carry that child. So it sucks for everybody involved. I

1147
00:52:35,800 --> 00:52:38,320
Speaker 3: wonder how you find that out way later though, Nigga,

1148
00:52:38,360 --> 00:52:38,880
Speaker 3: the baby.

1149
00:52:38,680 --> 00:52:39,200
Speaker 1: Came out black.

1150
00:52:39,680 --> 00:52:43,120
Speaker 3: I mean, I wonder if they would have found out

1151
00:52:43,160 --> 00:52:45,200
Speaker 3: if that baby came out white, if it would have

1152
00:52:45,239 --> 00:52:47,719
Speaker 3: been the same outcome. She may have never known, you

1153
00:52:47,800 --> 00:52:50,279
Speaker 3: know what I mean, If the baby came out white

1154
00:52:50,280 --> 00:52:52,480
Speaker 3: and it wasn't switched up with a black baby embryo.

1155
00:52:52,480 --> 00:53:05,200
Speaker 1: She may have never realized that biological look get into

1156
00:53:05,239 --> 00:53:06,120
Speaker 1: little sex history.

1157
00:53:06,200 --> 00:53:09,000
Speaker 4: So sex history for the ending of our show, we're

1158
00:53:09,000 --> 00:53:11,000
Speaker 4: gonna be talking about the history of the brothel.

1159
00:53:11,360 --> 00:53:11,480
Speaker 1: Now.

1160
00:53:11,560 --> 00:53:13,960
Speaker 4: The reason I wanted to do this was because in

1161
00:53:14,080 --> 00:53:15,919
Speaker 4: true easy fashion, gotta have some fun.

1162
00:53:16,320 --> 00:53:17,640
Speaker 1: Now I didn't.

1163
00:53:17,719 --> 00:53:21,799
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna say I googled prostitutes Thailand, but I did.

1164
00:53:22,360 --> 00:53:25,759
Speaker 4: And something that kept continuing to come up was not

1165
00:53:25,920 --> 00:53:29,880
Speaker 4: not plaza Now, not not plaza is in Bangkok?

1166
00:53:31,000 --> 00:53:34,319
Speaker 1: It is Have you been? Because I I just went

1167
00:53:34,360 --> 00:53:36,960
Speaker 1: to the ping pong show. I wasn't looking. A lot

1168
00:53:37,000 --> 00:53:40,640
Speaker 1: of people just went because it's not I'll tell you, okay.

1169
00:53:40,719 --> 00:53:42,400
Speaker 4: So a lot of when I was telling people, they

1170
00:53:42,440 --> 00:53:43,680
Speaker 4: were like, oh, I went to that too, Like I

1171
00:53:43,680 --> 00:53:46,360
Speaker 4: thought it was just strip clubs. So it's a plaza

1172
00:53:46,960 --> 00:53:50,880
Speaker 4: filled with bars and strip clubs. I would say, it

1173
00:53:50,960 --> 00:53:53,960
Speaker 4: literally looks like a mall, four floors, escalators, like it

1174
00:53:54,040 --> 00:53:56,279
Speaker 4: looks like if it wasn't a strip club, it would

1175
00:53:56,320 --> 00:53:59,000
Speaker 4: be a fucking hot topic or so shit like for real.

1176
00:53:59,200 --> 00:54:02,600
Speaker 1: Okay, So each strip club has like a theme.

1177
00:54:03,880 --> 00:54:06,200
Speaker 4: One of them the girls were like kind of super

1178
00:54:06,280 --> 00:54:10,000
Speaker 4: thick blonde hair, almost like American looking. There was another

1179
00:54:10,080 --> 00:54:13,200
Speaker 4: one of lady boys went to bed you already noticed better.

1180
00:54:13,280 --> 00:54:14,839
Speaker 4: Witch is another one where they had like the super

1181
00:54:14,880 --> 00:54:18,160
Speaker 4: wide eyes like anime dolls. Another one where they were

1182
00:54:18,239 --> 00:54:23,040
Speaker 4: just straight bob like very like you went you.

1183
00:54:23,120 --> 00:54:25,320
Speaker 1: Went or you just looked at it. Oh ya, this

1184
00:54:25,400 --> 00:54:26,319
Speaker 1: looks this sounds cool.

1185
00:54:26,520 --> 00:54:33,640
Speaker 4: So we go and basically this is how you acquire

1186
00:54:33,680 --> 00:54:37,719
Speaker 4: the plus. So I'm just thinking it's a strip club. Actually, no,

1187
00:54:37,800 --> 00:54:39,040
Speaker 4: I did it. I just thought we was want to

1188
00:54:39,080 --> 00:54:40,080
Speaker 4: pull a bitch out the strip club.

1189
00:54:40,120 --> 00:54:40,640
Speaker 1: That's what I thought.

1190
00:54:41,600 --> 00:54:45,319
Speaker 4: We get there and I'm like, we were staying at

1191
00:54:45,320 --> 00:54:46,759
Speaker 4: the w I'm like, I don't really want to bring

1192
00:54:46,840 --> 00:54:48,920
Speaker 4: a bitch back to our room, and he was like, no,

1193
00:54:49,120 --> 00:54:51,000
Speaker 4: I think one of these places will probably have a

1194
00:54:51,040 --> 00:54:53,080
Speaker 4: bed back here, That's what he was saying. Like, I

1195
00:54:53,160 --> 00:54:55,719
Speaker 4: think that's I think these places have rooms because think

1196
00:54:55,760 --> 00:54:56,640
Speaker 4: of the massage followers.

1197
00:54:56,680 --> 00:54:58,200
Speaker 1: He's like, maybe it'll be a happy ending thing.

1198
00:54:58,800 --> 00:55:03,840
Speaker 4: Not the case attached to Nanoplaza is a hotel for

1199
00:55:04,000 --> 00:55:06,920
Speaker 4: five hundred bat which is equivalent to about twenty US dollars.

1200
00:55:07,400 --> 00:55:10,399
Speaker 1: You can get two hours at the hotel. That's that's look.

1201
00:55:10,640 --> 00:55:12,799
Speaker 1: I would say it's sixty.

1202
00:55:12,719 --> 00:55:16,520
Speaker 4: Fourteen sixty for five hundred five, yes, oh whatever rounded

1203
00:55:16,560 --> 00:55:19,400
Speaker 4: out now, I would say it was equivalent to like

1204
00:55:19,400 --> 00:55:24,000
Speaker 4: a Courtyard Marriotte, not a fucking na like you would think. Okay,

1205
00:55:24,440 --> 00:55:27,919
Speaker 4: so you get into these bars almost every single one

1206
00:55:28,200 --> 00:55:29,719
Speaker 4: of these women has a number on them.

1207
00:55:31,040 --> 00:55:33,640
Speaker 1: You go in, you know, they're like what you like?

1208
00:55:33,719 --> 00:55:36,120
Speaker 1: What you like? What they're loud? You're like, damn, let

1209
00:55:36,200 --> 00:55:38,839
Speaker 1: me try to get sexy. So you go, you get

1210
00:55:38,840 --> 00:55:39,200
Speaker 1: a drink.

1211
00:55:39,560 --> 00:55:42,200
Speaker 4: They're rotating on this thing in some of the bars

1212
00:55:42,280 --> 00:55:44,279
Speaker 4: that are bigger, and I would say, maybe it's twenty

1213
00:55:44,360 --> 00:55:47,960
Speaker 4: girls on a spinning fucking pole and they're all going around.

1214
00:55:47,760 --> 00:55:50,319
Speaker 1: And we're like, ooh, that's pretty. What is that number?

1215
00:55:50,360 --> 00:55:52,799
Speaker 4: Say thirteen, Like you're really looking. So when you bring

1216
00:55:52,880 --> 00:55:58,440
Speaker 4: the girl down, you can negotiate with her. After negotiating

1217
00:55:58,520 --> 00:56:00,640
Speaker 4: with her, you have to pay a house feed to

1218
00:56:00,719 --> 00:56:03,239
Speaker 4: take them out, which is a thousand bys. So I'm

1219
00:56:03,320 --> 00:56:04,359
Speaker 4: now twenty four.

1220
00:56:04,960 --> 00:56:08,839
Speaker 1: Yeah, thirty dollars. You can negotiate whatever you want.

1221
00:56:09,520 --> 00:56:09,640
Speaker 5: Uh.

1222
00:56:10,440 --> 00:56:13,000
Speaker 4: Basically after that you then take them to the hotel

1223
00:56:13,160 --> 00:56:17,279
Speaker 4: and you do your thing. So when we were outside,

1224
00:56:18,280 --> 00:56:21,000
Speaker 4: I started looking at these other women. It was a

1225
00:56:21,040 --> 00:56:23,320
Speaker 4: lot of African selling pussy outside, which kind of was

1226
00:56:23,400 --> 00:56:25,480
Speaker 4: like wild to me. I was like Niking a thaighland

1227
00:56:25,520 --> 00:56:28,680
Speaker 4: of sale pussy and then women in his jobs and

1228
00:56:28,800 --> 00:56:30,800
Speaker 4: I don't even think they were really Muslim.

1229
00:56:31,239 --> 00:56:33,360
Speaker 1: I think it was just a fantasy I saw a

1230
00:56:33,400 --> 00:56:34,759
Speaker 1: few I.

1231
00:56:34,760 --> 00:56:38,400
Speaker 4: Would say a little like like a uk Battye type thing, Ossie,

1232
00:56:38,520 --> 00:56:41,600
Speaker 4: like OnlyFans girls looks. But when we were outside, I'm like,

1233
00:56:41,760 --> 00:56:44,719
Speaker 4: I wonder why they're on a street because when I

1234
00:56:44,800 --> 00:56:47,239
Speaker 4: think of like a street walker, I'm not thinking I'm

1235
00:56:47,239 --> 00:56:49,279
Speaker 4: gonna see people like this one.

1236
00:56:49,520 --> 00:56:52,480
Speaker 1: You have to be a Thai citizen to sell or

1237
00:56:52,520 --> 00:56:54,600
Speaker 1: to be working in those clubs. I googled it. You

1238
00:56:54,680 --> 00:56:56,239
Speaker 1: have to be a Thai citizen. You have to have

1239
00:56:56,320 --> 00:56:57,240
Speaker 1: no criminal record.

1240
00:56:57,880 --> 00:57:00,360
Speaker 4: So a lot of these women if they ever went

1241
00:57:00,400 --> 00:57:02,239
Speaker 4: to jail for a week, like you know, real punishable

1242
00:57:02,280 --> 00:57:04,520
Speaker 4: things in Thailand that could be small, you can't work

1243
00:57:04,560 --> 00:57:06,919
Speaker 4: in these industries. So if you ever as a sex

1244
00:57:07,040 --> 00:57:11,040
Speaker 4: worker been you know, soliciting pussy boom, you can't do it.

1245
00:57:11,160 --> 00:57:13,120
Speaker 3: We talked about this actually at our live show at

1246
00:57:13,160 --> 00:57:17,520
Speaker 3: Sony Hall. Was it Germany or one of these countries.

1247
00:57:17,760 --> 00:57:21,880
Speaker 3: I think Switzerland actually recently past the thing where sex

1248
00:57:22,000 --> 00:57:26,960
Speaker 3: workers can almost have licenses and it provides them with yes,

1249
00:57:27,360 --> 00:57:32,840
Speaker 3: with healthcare, parental leave, and health insurance, which is probably

1250
00:57:32,920 --> 00:57:34,320
Speaker 3: what Thailand is trying to do.

1251
00:57:34,720 --> 00:57:38,760
Speaker 1: A safer space or prostitution as illegal in th Highland,

1252
00:57:39,880 --> 00:57:43,120
Speaker 1: Well maybe they don't call it prostitution. But right, that's

1253
00:57:43,160 --> 00:57:43,560
Speaker 1: what this is.

1254
00:57:43,720 --> 00:57:46,160
Speaker 4: Okay, So that's so weird. Okay, so that's what what

1255
00:57:46,320 --> 00:57:48,520
Speaker 4: else I was gonna say. Prostitution is not legal, but

1256
00:57:49,040 --> 00:57:51,120
Speaker 4: even though there's a lot of sex tourism, it's weird,

1257
00:57:51,280 --> 00:57:54,040
Speaker 4: like dial dos are illegal, like it's just mad shit.

1258
00:57:54,080 --> 00:57:58,720
Speaker 4: But anyway, so to get into the oldest profession, the

1259
00:57:58,840 --> 00:58:02,080
Speaker 4: tag of it is actually that old. We say it's

1260
00:58:02,080 --> 00:58:05,640
Speaker 4: the soldiers profession, but it's not. Anthropologists say that prostitution

1261
00:58:05,800 --> 00:58:09,120
Speaker 4: didn't actually seem to exist when there were primitive societies.

1262
00:58:10,680 --> 00:58:13,600
Speaker 4: There was no sex for sale amongst the Aboriginals of

1263
00:58:13,640 --> 00:58:15,960
Speaker 4: Australia before a white man a wife, Nor was there

1264
00:58:16,040 --> 00:58:20,760
Speaker 4: brothels and societies when there was ancient Egyptian people or

1265
00:58:20,960 --> 00:58:22,080
Speaker 4: tribes and jungles.

1266
00:58:22,160 --> 00:58:25,520
Speaker 1: Like prostitution seems to be something that we.

1267
00:58:27,080 --> 00:58:30,600
Speaker 4: Came about when civilization came about, when things had a cost,

1268
00:58:31,240 --> 00:58:36,720
Speaker 4: that's when prostitution became a thing. So when cities and

1269
00:58:37,120 --> 00:58:39,800
Speaker 4: communities became civilized.

1270
00:58:39,160 --> 00:58:41,640
Speaker 3: And had a structure to follow you that is, don't

1271
00:58:41,720 --> 00:58:43,760
Speaker 3: tell me a bitch was not fucking for some chickens,

1272
00:58:45,040 --> 00:58:49,800
Speaker 3: Like it wasn't like the dollargon exchange. But if it

1273
00:58:49,880 --> 00:58:51,680
Speaker 3: was like, you're not gonna tell me a bitch wasn't

1274
00:58:51,720 --> 00:58:52,800
Speaker 3: fucking for a roof over her?

1275
00:58:52,960 --> 00:58:54,720
Speaker 1: Well, the first recorded.

1276
00:58:54,400 --> 00:58:58,400
Speaker 4: Instances of pussy for sale was not a brothel, was

1277
00:58:58,480 --> 00:59:00,760
Speaker 4: not for chicken, it wasn't a temple, and it was

1278
00:59:00,800 --> 00:59:01,840
Speaker 4: a religious ritual.

1279
00:59:02,080 --> 00:59:02,800
Speaker 1: Oh the church.

1280
00:59:02,920 --> 00:59:06,720
Speaker 4: Don't be bad you telling everybody that prostitution began in

1281
00:59:06,800 --> 00:59:12,760
Speaker 4: the church Jesus in Sumria Babylonia. Prostitutes were those who

1282
00:59:12,800 --> 00:59:15,640
Speaker 4: had sex for religious ritual, not other type of gain.

1283
00:59:15,960 --> 00:59:18,480
Speaker 4: And sex in the temple was supposed to offer even

1284
00:59:18,560 --> 00:59:22,040
Speaker 4: more special blessings to men and women alike, and there's

1285
00:59:22,120 --> 00:59:24,960
Speaker 4: plenty of that in the Bible, though prostitutes in Jewish

1286
00:59:25,000 --> 00:59:28,400
Speaker 4: scriptures seemed to imply that they would do that in

1287
00:59:28,520 --> 00:59:30,120
Speaker 4: trade for a home, a place to say.

1288
00:59:30,840 --> 00:59:35,520
Speaker 1: So wow, right, the first actual who.

1289
00:59:35,120 --> 00:59:37,880
Speaker 3: Was they fucking the past like the leader of the congregation,

1290
00:59:38,040 --> 00:59:40,280
Speaker 3: I don't know, it doesn't say or they were just fucking.

1291
00:59:40,040 --> 00:59:40,439
Speaker 1: In the church.

1292
00:59:40,960 --> 00:59:43,480
Speaker 4: Maybe just fucking like listen, let's like manifesting like a

1293
00:59:43,520 --> 00:59:46,360
Speaker 4: sex magic thing. Bro No, they was fucking the leader

1294
00:59:46,400 --> 00:59:48,800
Speaker 4: of the congregation. Okay, like we need to get we said,

1295
00:59:49,280 --> 00:59:50,600
Speaker 4: be sounding a little culty.

1296
00:59:50,360 --> 00:59:52,320
Speaker 1: We need to get some land. Let's go fuck and

1297
00:59:52,880 --> 00:59:54,440
Speaker 1: build this up, and we gotta fuck the man who

1298
00:59:54,480 --> 00:59:55,920
Speaker 1: owned the land, otherwise we can't get it.

1299
00:59:56,400 --> 00:59:58,440
Speaker 3: You gotta you gotta fuck the owner of anything to

1300
00:59:58,480 --> 01:00:00,560
Speaker 3: get You gotta fuck a man with money to get money.

1301
01:00:00,800 --> 01:00:02,120
Speaker 3: You got a fucking man with a home to have

1302
01:00:02,200 --> 01:00:04,320
Speaker 3: a home over your head. They was sucking the leader

1303
01:00:04,360 --> 01:00:04,760
Speaker 3: of the church.

1304
01:00:05,240 --> 01:00:10,720
Speaker 4: The first brothels brothels that were actual proper like rooms

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Speaker 4: in a you know, was ancient Egypt, when where the

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Speaker 4: influence they believe was from Greek travelers. They would later

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Speaker 4: have pharaohs dancing with women and musicians trying to have

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Speaker 4: sex with them in certain spaces, and then boom, they

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Speaker 4: finally created one. When you watch Game of Thrones, I

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Speaker 4: don't know if you ever finished the season. I never

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Speaker 4: saw got Okay, that's right, you never watched it. In

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Speaker 4: Game of Thrones, you see them going into rooms and

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Speaker 4: women all over the floor and shit.

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Speaker 1: But I am curious if it started in Egypt.

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Speaker 3: I wonder if these brothels existed, like when them giants lived,

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Speaker 3: you know, the ones that built the pyramids, Because what

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Speaker 3: if like a giant camel, what giants? You didn't see

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Speaker 3: the giants you mean like a bigfoot thing. No, like

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Speaker 3: there's like giants like so you know, No Nigga was

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Speaker 3: only like six two no no, no, no no. They

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Speaker 3: were giant giants.

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Speaker 1: Giants going around. You think giants made like giants giants.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what's going around. They was like twelve

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Speaker 1: foot niggas.

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Speaker 3: What if the twelve foot giants went to the brothel

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Speaker 3: and as a woman like, I wonder if they added

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Speaker 3: text to the because they had to have big dicks.

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Speaker 1: They were giants.

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Speaker 4: You haven't seen the giants that build the pyramids. You

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Speaker 4: know what I'm gonna say about adding tax for big dicks?

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Speaker 1: Though? Where Mandy ate? Low key wrong? Do you know what?

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Speaker 1: Hold on? Wait wait serious?

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Speaker 4: Ty girl from non A Plaza told my man the

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01:01:35,880 --> 01:01:38,600
Speaker 4: last time she had sex with a black Eye, he

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01:01:39,000 --> 01:01:42,000
Speaker 4: was too big, too rough. And she didn't even say

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01:01:42,040 --> 01:01:45,320
Speaker 4: big in size. She said he was like football. He

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01:01:45,520 --> 01:01:49,000
Speaker 4: was just too rough with me until now only Europeans.

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Speaker 1: Well, being rough is different from being large in size.

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Speaker 1: Why you know what I mean?

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Speaker 3: Like, unfortunately I didn't change the shame. What happened is

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01:01:55,640 --> 01:01:57,480
Speaker 3: unfortunately maybe she had a bad experience.

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Speaker 1: You know, I've met giants with a black man.

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Speaker 3: But I will say my homegirl, who used to be

1344
01:02:01,440 --> 01:02:05,840
Speaker 3: an escort, she literally because she would fuck anywhere from

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Speaker 3: like four to six guys in a day, I think

1346
01:02:07,520 --> 01:02:10,760
Speaker 3: six with her max. She literally didn't want to fuck

1347
01:02:10,840 --> 01:02:14,680
Speaker 3: black guys because they mostly had bigger dicks. That's a consensus.

1348
01:02:14,960 --> 01:02:18,440
Speaker 3: They can go longer there, they're stronger, their dicks are bigger.

1349
01:02:18,760 --> 01:02:21,200
Speaker 3: So she was like, bro, if I'm taking six dicks

1350
01:02:21,440 --> 01:02:23,200
Speaker 3: with a black man, I could really only take one.

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01:02:23,480 --> 01:02:26,360
Speaker 3: So she's not probably be reading a fuck wanted smaller dick.

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Speaker 4: But also, you know the couple thing like I mentioned yesterday,

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Speaker 4: I think that also kind of like calms you down

1354
01:02:31,360 --> 01:02:32,280
Speaker 4: as a sex worker.

1355
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Speaker 1: But we went to this place called Susie Wong's.

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Speaker 4: It's in Puque and I think it's in Bangkok, and

1357
01:02:37,200 --> 01:02:40,200
Speaker 4: it's this ass spanking bar. They just spank you. They're

1358
01:02:40,240 --> 01:02:42,120
Speaker 4: known for that shit. They don't let you use your

1359
01:02:42,120 --> 01:02:44,120
Speaker 4: phone because I would have been got bad footage. But

1360
01:02:44,520 --> 01:02:45,440
Speaker 4: we were talking to this bitch.

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Speaker 1: She was fine. She was thirteen thousand by how much

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01:02:48,160 --> 01:02:51,720
Speaker 1: is that that was a bad bitch. I'm not even

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01:02:51,760 --> 01:02:53,960
Speaker 1: thousand by thirteen times thirty.

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Speaker 4: Three eighty Oh yeah, because I remember me and him

1365
01:02:56,200 --> 01:02:58,080
Speaker 4: was like how much? Just didn't get everybody else telling

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01:02:58,160 --> 01:03:02,400
Speaker 4: a six listen nah but okay, So basically she was

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01:03:02,440 --> 01:03:05,440
Speaker 4: telling me she was like really attracted to her man

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01:03:05,920 --> 01:03:08,080
Speaker 4: and a lot of the girls were getting excited by

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01:03:08,160 --> 01:03:11,320
Speaker 4: him but scared. So I think this girl because it

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01:03:11,400 --> 01:03:13,520
Speaker 4: was kind of feeling like a little like offensive. But

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01:03:13,680 --> 01:03:15,919
Speaker 4: she said something to me that made sense. She said,

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01:03:16,440 --> 01:03:19,160
Speaker 4: all of the European tourists get so drunk they can't

1373
01:03:19,240 --> 01:03:22,840
Speaker 4: end up sucking you, Okay, they just get wipe boy wasted.

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01:03:23,200 --> 01:03:26,680
Speaker 1: She's like, UK Australia, they paid me all of the money.

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01:03:26,800 --> 01:03:29,800
Speaker 4: I sit there, they do cocaine, they pass out or

1376
01:03:29,880 --> 01:03:32,080
Speaker 4: they're drinking and they can't fuck. And then by that

1377
01:03:32,160 --> 01:03:34,160
Speaker 4: time I'm like, okay, I got my money. I think

1378
01:03:34,200 --> 01:03:36,160
Speaker 4: the niggas be coming in there from New York, like, ay, bitch, you.

1379
01:03:36,160 --> 01:03:39,680
Speaker 1: Put the honey peg hello, straight from the juice bar,

1380
01:03:40,920 --> 01:03:41,800
Speaker 1: right from the juice.

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01:03:41,560 --> 01:03:44,120
Speaker 4: Bar in bro And they probably talking like America money,

1382
01:03:44,160 --> 01:03:45,520
Speaker 4: I paid you thousand dollars.

1383
01:03:45,600 --> 01:03:47,720
Speaker 1: Bit you better take a shower way. I'm going prepared,

1384
01:03:48,000 --> 01:03:48,640
Speaker 1: I will say too.

1385
01:03:48,720 --> 01:03:49,960
Speaker 3: Maybe we'll have to do a part too, because I

1386
01:03:50,000 --> 01:03:54,240
Speaker 3: do want to get into brothels coming not only to

1387
01:03:54,680 --> 01:03:59,000
Speaker 3: of course, we know, uh the Stadtle ranch out in Nevada,

1388
01:03:59,040 --> 01:04:02,920
Speaker 3: which is crazy because that is like prostitution is illegal

1389
01:04:03,000 --> 01:04:04,959
Speaker 3: in the state of Nevada, however not that city.

1390
01:04:05,080 --> 01:04:07,520
Speaker 1: No no, no, no no, or the opposite, yes or

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01:04:07,560 --> 01:04:09,800
Speaker 1: the opposite. I remember I got my prostitution license on

1392
01:04:09,880 --> 01:04:11,240
Speaker 1: sex sales. Yeah, I wonder.

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01:04:11,920 --> 01:04:14,840
Speaker 3: Also, they used to have brothels literally here in Times Square.

1394
01:04:15,440 --> 01:04:17,680
Speaker 3: So I would love to like dig into the history

1395
01:04:17,720 --> 01:04:21,840
Speaker 3: of brothels within America because the rules have always been

1396
01:04:22,000 --> 01:04:24,400
Speaker 3: so anti sex work.

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Speaker 1: I just want to know how those were even able

1398
01:04:27,320 --> 01:04:28,000
Speaker 1: to be in septicide.

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Speaker 4: I want to talk about also the religious, like I

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01:04:30,720 --> 01:04:33,400
Speaker 4: watched the actually watch this y'all and for when we

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01:04:33,480 --> 01:04:35,840
Speaker 4: dig into it next time. There is a documentary on

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Speaker 4: Viceland called Prostitutes of God dev Dosi girls in India

1403
01:04:40,000 --> 01:04:43,959
Speaker 4: and they have sex to feed their families. The money

1404
01:04:44,000 --> 01:04:45,600
Speaker 4: goes to the temple and then goes to their families.

1405
01:04:45,640 --> 01:04:48,800
Speaker 4: Like it's some wild shit, but yeah, I love I

1406
01:04:48,920 --> 01:04:51,800
Speaker 4: just sold pussy for fun. If these stories all over

1407
01:04:51,880 --> 01:04:52,280
Speaker 4: the place.

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01:04:53,120 --> 01:04:55,280
Speaker 1: Anyway, if you want to read our prostitution.

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Speaker 4: only like two and there we each have one and

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Speaker 4: that's it. You're not getting tails like it's a whole bunch.

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Speaker 1: it's a lot of chapters.

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Speaker 3: We got eighteen chapters, individual stories on top of an introduction,

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Speaker 3: we are hosting no live shows from us this year,

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Speaker 3: gonna be drinking coffee like a motherfucker and y'all, just

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Speaker 3: so you know as well, if y'all want to party

1427
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Speaker 3: with me, I'll be in Malta for Avisaska.

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Speaker 1: Baby.

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Speaker 3: I told y'all I'm a carnival chaser. So y'all pull

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Speaker 3: up if you're coming to Malta May fifteenth to nineteen.

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Speaker 3: Let me know if you're gonna see me. If you

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Speaker 3: can't make it to Malta, pull up on me and Jamaica. Baby,

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Speaker 3: we had Heatonism, not just last week.

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Speaker 1: International pus. But you don't want to talk about you

1435
01:06:04,200 --> 01:06:05,400
Speaker 1: want to talk about in America.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because I'm okay. I'm outside with this pussy. I'm

1437
01:06:09,440 --> 01:06:13,560
Speaker 3: outside with the pussy anyways, y'all. Thank y'all for much

1438
01:06:13,640 --> 01:06:14,320
Speaker 3: bucking tuning in.

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Speaker 1: Bye bye,