1
00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:04,160
Speaker 1: This is John. This is og Okay storytime podcast hosts,

2
00:00:04,240 --> 00:00:06,840
Speaker 1: and we have some rocking stories for you coming up.

3
00:00:06,880 --> 00:00:09,639
Speaker 1: But before you rock out with your socks out, I

4
00:00:09,720 --> 00:00:11,479
Speaker 1: got a quick tum in an ad break from a

5
00:00:11,520 --> 00:00:13,520
Speaker 1: sponsors keeping the show rocking and rolling.

6
00:00:14,360 --> 00:00:17,439
Speaker 2: I hooked up with my neighbor and now he's stalking me.

7
00:00:17,840 --> 00:00:20,840
Speaker 2: Run girl, I twenty two female, made the mistake of

8
00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:24,760
Speaker 2: having spicy sleep with my neighbor. Thirty mail. We all

9
00:00:24,800 --> 00:00:26,160
Speaker 2: know the saying, the.

10
00:00:26,120 --> 00:00:29,440
Speaker 1: Boy next door, don't give him the door. No wait, wait,

11
00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:31,640
Speaker 1: the boy next door, don't give him the back door.

12
00:00:31,760 --> 00:00:33,080
Speaker 2: You just rhymed door with door.

13
00:00:33,280 --> 00:00:33,839
Speaker 1: It rhymed.

14
00:00:34,040 --> 00:00:36,680
Speaker 2: You could have said, don't be for the boy next.

15
00:00:36,440 --> 00:00:38,720
Speaker 1: Door, don't be for the boy next door.

16
00:00:38,920 --> 00:00:41,000
Speaker 2: The what I was talking about was don't crap or

17
00:00:41,040 --> 00:00:43,000
Speaker 2: you eat. We live in the same building and I

18
00:00:43,080 --> 00:00:45,319
Speaker 2: came home from a night out about two weeks ago

19
00:00:45,440 --> 00:00:47,720
Speaker 2: and met him in the hallway. We got talking and

20
00:00:47,760 --> 00:00:50,520
Speaker 2: he invited me back to his place. We had a drink.

21
00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:54,440
Speaker 2: One thing led to another, and we had spicy sleep.

22
00:00:56,160 --> 00:00:59,960
Speaker 2: Paid by the way, this comes from deleted and if

23
00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:01,280
Speaker 2: you want to spend your own stories, go to the

24
00:01:01,400 --> 00:01:02,920
Speaker 2: r slash Okay storytime separated.

25
00:01:03,040 --> 00:01:05,880
Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, and OHP says.

26
00:01:05,920 --> 00:01:09,520
Speaker 2: I have to admit the spicy sleep was pretty awkward

27
00:01:09,959 --> 00:01:14,880
Speaker 2: and bad. Oh I'm cringing as I write this. But

28
00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:17,360
Speaker 2: as we were doing it, he told me he loved me.

29
00:01:17,760 --> 00:01:21,080
Speaker 2: We had spoken about twice before this night. Crazy.

30
00:01:21,480 --> 00:01:23,880
Speaker 1: Sometimes it helps sometimes when you know you know.

31
00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:27,080
Speaker 2: So I got my first impression then maybe he was

32
00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:29,880
Speaker 2: a bit strange. I was really embarrassed by the whole

33
00:01:29,920 --> 00:01:32,679
Speaker 2: thing and decided to just avoid him, thinking he would

34
00:01:32,680 --> 00:01:35,120
Speaker 2: get the hint that it was just a wasted one

35
00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:38,240
Speaker 2: time thing and I wasn't interested that I kept seeing

36
00:01:38,319 --> 00:01:40,400
Speaker 2: him all the time. I think he must have worked

37
00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:42,479
Speaker 2: out what time I leave and get back from work,

38
00:01:42,560 --> 00:01:45,399
Speaker 2: because I started bumping into him way more than I

39
00:01:45,520 --> 00:01:45,800
Speaker 2: used to.

40
00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:47,760
Speaker 1: I don't know if he'll get the hint that you're

41
00:01:48,360 --> 00:01:50,280
Speaker 1: ignoring him. If you guys did that, he got the

42
00:01:50,320 --> 00:01:51,600
Speaker 1: hint that now he loves you.

43
00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:54,320
Speaker 2: So I feel like you gotta be like, hey, dude,

44
00:01:54,560 --> 00:01:58,360
Speaker 2: it's not I'm not feeling it. Especially when you see

45
00:01:58,400 --> 00:02:00,800
Speaker 2: them a lot, you gotta say, hey, dude, I'm not

46
00:02:00,920 --> 00:02:04,240
Speaker 2: feeling it. I kept the conversation short and acted uninterested.

47
00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:06,840
Speaker 2: Hoping he would back off. He persisted, and then a

48
00:02:06,840 --> 00:02:10,360
Speaker 2: few days ago he added me on Facebook, which I ignored.

49
00:02:10,440 --> 00:02:12,200
Speaker 2: The next time I saw him, he asked me why

50
00:02:12,240 --> 00:02:15,240
Speaker 2: I hadn't accepted his friend request. So I decided to

51
00:02:15,280 --> 00:02:17,840
Speaker 2: be more assertive and said something like the other night

52
00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:20,800
Speaker 2: was fun, but I'm really not interested in anything. He

53
00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:23,840
Speaker 2: was quite upbeat and replied, Okay, that's cool, but we

54
00:02:23,840 --> 00:02:26,120
Speaker 2: can still be friends. So I thought maybe I had

55
00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:28,119
Speaker 2: been a bit immature towards him, and now that I've

56
00:02:28,120 --> 00:02:30,840
Speaker 2: told him my intentions, we could be friends.

57
00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:32,040
Speaker 1: Yeh, and I love you.

58
00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:34,080
Speaker 2: We could be friends, and I love you so much,

59
00:02:34,320 --> 00:02:36,799
Speaker 2: I still think he's being over friendly with me. I'm

60
00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:39,360
Speaker 2: sure he's waiting to bump into me because I see

61
00:02:39,400 --> 00:02:43,519
Speaker 2: him constantly. He's not shy about asking personal questions about

62
00:02:43,520 --> 00:02:47,320
Speaker 2: ex boyfriends and stuff, which I find weird. On Facebook,

63
00:02:47,320 --> 00:02:50,600
Speaker 2: he has liked so many of my pictures and messaged

64
00:02:50,639 --> 00:02:54,320
Speaker 2: a couple times asking me to hang out. Is his

65
00:02:54,360 --> 00:02:57,160
Speaker 2: behavior weird or am I just being over dramatic? And

66
00:02:57,200 --> 00:02:59,560
Speaker 2: there is an update? No, he's being weird.

67
00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:01,280
Speaker 1: Weird, it's been weird.

68
00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:03,600
Speaker 2: I don't know how you prevent like, how you stop

69
00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:07,520
Speaker 2: him from being weird because you've already kind of said, hey,

70
00:03:07,720 --> 00:03:10,120
Speaker 2: not interested. I think you could be a little bit

71
00:03:10,200 --> 00:03:15,000
Speaker 2: more firm and say like, hey, yeah, you know, I'm flattered,

72
00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:19,400
Speaker 2: but really don't want anything. I got a lot of friends,

73
00:03:19,760 --> 00:03:21,359
Speaker 2: don't even want you to be my friends.

74
00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:24,360
Speaker 1: You know what's been helping me recently. How would Sandra

75
00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:26,400
Speaker 1: Bullick respond to this?

76
00:03:26,639 --> 00:03:27,360
Speaker 2: In what movie?

77
00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:28,080
Speaker 1: Any movie?

78
00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:31,360
Speaker 2: Well, and while you were sleeping, she's like kind of shot.

79
00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:36,000
Speaker 2: She would probably go along with the relationship. So you

80
00:03:36,040 --> 00:03:38,920
Speaker 2: gotta be careful about which movie. I'm thinking Oceans eight

81
00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:42,600
Speaker 2: that was gonna be my next How would Sandra Bullick

82
00:03:42,640 --> 00:03:45,040
Speaker 2: and Oceans eight respond to this? Yeah, because she's a

83
00:03:45,120 --> 00:03:46,560
Speaker 2: bad butt. She's a bad butt.

84
00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:48,400
Speaker 1: That's what I would do exactly. There you go.

85
00:03:48,480 --> 00:03:50,880
Speaker 2: That's your advice. Watch Ocean's eight. Oh or you no

86
00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:54,280
Speaker 2: Ocean's eleven, Oceans eight, ocean z Yeah, watch Oceans eight.

87
00:03:54,320 --> 00:03:56,240
Speaker 1: And if you're in a scenario, what do I do?

88
00:03:56,360 --> 00:04:00,040
Speaker 2: What would WWSB.

89
00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:04,320
Speaker 1: Wait ww sp I eight?

90
00:04:04,560 --> 00:04:08,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, there we go, solved it. Update. Thanks for the advice.

91
00:04:08,880 --> 00:04:12,080
Speaker 2: I've learned. My lesson about having spicy sleep with someone

92
00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:16,520
Speaker 2: I don't really know and can't avoid it happens the

93
00:04:16,600 --> 00:04:19,240
Speaker 2: first thing I did was delete and block him from Facebook,

94
00:04:19,279 --> 00:04:21,159
Speaker 2: but I still had to deal with him in person.

95
00:04:21,480 --> 00:04:25,040
Speaker 2: I coincidentally ran into him on Monday. He asked, have

96
00:04:25,120 --> 00:04:27,640
Speaker 2: you deleted your Facebook or something? Because I can't find

97
00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:35,320
Speaker 2: you anymore. Actually, he's probably like Pwinces.

98
00:04:35,480 --> 00:04:39,679
Speaker 1: I've seen that guy. I like claps his feet together. No, yeah,

99
00:04:39,760 --> 00:04:42,400
Speaker 1: that's concerning. Oh yeah yeah, and he goes ten in

100
00:04:42,480 --> 00:04:44,360
Speaker 1: the It's really cringe.

101
00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:46,600
Speaker 2: I told him he's a nice guy, but I feel

102
00:04:46,640 --> 00:04:49,080
Speaker 2: like I'm leading him on by hanging out together since

103
00:04:49,120 --> 00:04:52,640
Speaker 2: I'm really not interested. He replied that really does just

104
00:04:52,680 --> 00:04:54,599
Speaker 2: want to be friends, and that it would be more

105
00:04:54,680 --> 00:04:58,119
Speaker 2: awkward now if we're not. It's like a threat. I said,

106
00:04:58,320 --> 00:05:00,159
Speaker 2: I don't want to give you the wrong impression, so

107
00:05:00,240 --> 00:05:02,479
Speaker 2: I think it's best for now if we're not, and

108
00:05:02,680 --> 00:05:05,560
Speaker 2: quickly left. I felt bad saying it, but he was

109
00:05:05,600 --> 00:05:08,440
Speaker 2: overwhelming me. I haven't seen him since then, but last

110
00:05:08,520 --> 00:05:11,320
Speaker 2: night I got a rambling long letter through my door.

111
00:05:11,560 --> 00:05:13,120
Speaker 1: Oh dear Opie.

112
00:05:13,360 --> 00:05:17,080
Speaker 2: No no no, no, no no no. You didn't give

113
00:05:17,120 --> 00:05:20,640
Speaker 2: me much chance to speak the other night, and there's

114
00:05:20,760 --> 00:05:23,960
Speaker 2: more I wanted to say. Though. This might actually be

115
00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:27,280
Speaker 2: an easier way for me to explain my thoughts and feelings.

116
00:05:27,800 --> 00:05:30,520
Speaker 2: I know we had only talked a few times before

117
00:05:30,560 --> 00:05:36,080
Speaker 2: our trist right or what trist.

118
00:05:36,120 --> 00:05:39,159
Speaker 1: Bro that's old English, but I felt like there.

119
00:05:39,080 --> 00:05:42,920
Speaker 2: Was an obvious connection between us. I'm sure you must

120
00:05:42,920 --> 00:05:45,720
Speaker 2: have felt it too, or I didn't think you would

121
00:05:45,720 --> 00:05:49,040
Speaker 2: have come home with me that night. I'm not the

122
00:05:49,080 --> 00:05:52,440
Speaker 2: type of guy who sleeps with girls. I don't really know,

123
00:05:53,360 --> 00:05:56,440
Speaker 2: but I was extremely attracted to you, and when it

124
00:05:56,480 --> 00:06:01,680
Speaker 2: appeared you reciprocated my feelings, I wouldn't help myself. When

125
00:06:01,720 --> 00:06:05,840
Speaker 2: you told me you weren't interested in anything romantic, I understood,

126
00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:08,239
Speaker 2: even if it was not what I wanted to hear.

127
00:06:08,720 --> 00:06:11,320
Speaker 2: I don't know anything about your personal life, part of

128
00:06:11,360 --> 00:06:14,480
Speaker 2: the reason why I'm not usually interested in one night's stance,

129
00:06:14,720 --> 00:06:16,479
Speaker 2: and so of course I realized why you might not

130
00:06:16,520 --> 00:06:20,000
Speaker 2: be interested in me. However, I think it's strange you

131
00:06:20,040 --> 00:06:23,120
Speaker 2: don't at least want to be friends. We shared a

132
00:06:23,240 --> 00:06:27,200
Speaker 2: very intimate moment with each other, and you can't pretend

133
00:06:27,360 --> 00:06:31,600
Speaker 2: it never happened. It therefore seems only logical that we

134
00:06:31,720 --> 00:06:35,680
Speaker 2: become friends. It only makes it more awkward if we aren't.

135
00:06:36,200 --> 00:06:38,080
Speaker 2: I just want to say, if you feel embarrassed or

136
00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:41,120
Speaker 2: worry that I think of you as sluty. Don't be

137
00:06:41,640 --> 00:06:45,160
Speaker 2: I don't judge you. That would be a terrible double standard.

138
00:06:45,600 --> 00:06:49,479
Speaker 2: Don't be careful because some men see your behavior as sluty,

139
00:06:50,200 --> 00:06:53,440
Speaker 2: especially if you refuse to talk to them after It

140
00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:55,719
Speaker 2: seems like he's one of those men.

141
00:06:55,880 --> 00:06:59,080
Speaker 1: Oh interesting, he's like some men, not me, Tom, I

142
00:06:59,080 --> 00:07:01,680
Speaker 1: would never think this, but some guys. Mind.

143
00:07:01,760 --> 00:07:03,839
Speaker 2: Some guys would think this, just like when a guy

144
00:07:03,880 --> 00:07:06,919
Speaker 2: doesn't call a girl after they sleep together, he's seen

145
00:07:06,960 --> 00:07:09,520
Speaker 2: as an a hole. Really, the point of me saying

146
00:07:09,520 --> 00:07:11,520
Speaker 2: all this is just to repeat that I understand you're

147
00:07:11,560 --> 00:07:14,280
Speaker 2: not interested in a relationship with me, and I respect that. However,

148
00:07:14,400 --> 00:07:15,400
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna say it.

149
00:07:15,600 --> 00:07:17,760
Speaker 1: I really like you back there.

150
00:07:18,520 --> 00:07:21,040
Speaker 2: You're a fun, smart and beautiful girl, and I would

151
00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:23,320
Speaker 2: love to get to know you more. I don't think

152
00:07:23,320 --> 00:07:26,160
Speaker 2: you can deny that we got along very well before

153
00:07:26,200 --> 00:07:29,520
Speaker 2: that night, and I don't think what happens should change anything.

154
00:07:30,160 --> 00:07:33,400
Speaker 2: Don't think you're leading me on. I'm a grown guy

155
00:07:33,560 --> 00:07:36,000
Speaker 2: and I know that no means no and can handle

156
00:07:36,200 --> 00:07:39,000
Speaker 2: just being friends with you. This is so long, but

157
00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:40,800
Speaker 2: I respect what you said to me, even if it

158
00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:43,040
Speaker 2: hurt a little and we'll keep my distance from you

159
00:07:43,120 --> 00:07:45,880
Speaker 2: for now. If you change your mind, and if you

160
00:07:45,880 --> 00:07:47,960
Speaker 2: ever want to talk to me or if you need anything,

161
00:07:48,520 --> 00:07:51,600
Speaker 2: you know where I live, and I will always welcome you.

162
00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:58,640
Speaker 2: That's what neighbors are for, right that evil evil? I'm scared.

163
00:07:58,880 --> 00:08:02,840
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, okay, as long. Yeah, this guy keeps his word.

164
00:08:03,160 --> 00:08:06,360
Speaker 1: Not a bad letter? What not a bad calls sluty?

165
00:08:06,640 --> 00:08:09,960
Speaker 2: He said, I'm not calling you sluty, but most people

166
00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:11,679
Speaker 2: would call you sluty he did.

167
00:08:12,000 --> 00:08:13,720
Speaker 1: But not a bad letter in the regards if he

168
00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:14,760
Speaker 1: got everything off his chick.

169
00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:15,360
Speaker 2: That's true.

170
00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:19,360
Speaker 1: Hopefully that's an ended here. M I agree, only if

171
00:08:19,360 --> 00:08:21,240
Speaker 1: he keeps his word. This is a great letter. I

172
00:08:21,320 --> 00:08:24,160
Speaker 1: would if there was someone like this in my life. Yeah,

173
00:08:24,160 --> 00:08:25,960
Speaker 1: I made a mistake and I did this, and they

174
00:08:25,960 --> 00:08:27,360
Speaker 1: gave me a letter like this. I would be so

175
00:08:27,440 --> 00:08:29,800
Speaker 1: happy knowing, Okay, it's over with you, it's over.

176
00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:32,360
Speaker 2: They're done. He's not gonna talk to me anymore, he

177
00:08:32,440 --> 00:08:33,199
Speaker 2: said he wouldn't.

178
00:08:33,320 --> 00:08:35,600
Speaker 1: Also if we went to a literature major. Yeah, I

179
00:08:35,600 --> 00:08:39,679
Speaker 1: guess you what what century was this letter written?

180
00:08:40,280 --> 00:08:43,280
Speaker 2: Just because the tryst you just really like the trust

181
00:08:43,480 --> 00:08:46,199
Speaker 2: I think I think this is this is just very

182
00:08:46,240 --> 00:08:48,440
Speaker 2: we I think we nailed it. This is the Fedora

183
00:08:48,800 --> 00:08:52,320
Speaker 2: nice guy. I think that's absolutely the energy that this

184
00:08:52,400 --> 00:08:53,040
Speaker 2: man is giving.

185
00:08:53,240 --> 00:08:57,559
Speaker 1: I thought it would be eighteen fifty sure something around

186
00:08:57,600 --> 00:08:57,880
Speaker 1: that time.

187
00:08:58,000 --> 00:08:59,080
Speaker 2: Eighteen fifty something.

188
00:08:59,320 --> 00:09:00,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, that knows what redd it is.

189
00:09:01,600 --> 00:09:04,280
Speaker 2: I feel bad because he obviously likes me and has

190
00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:06,600
Speaker 2: put a lot of emotional value on what happened. But

191
00:09:06,679 --> 00:09:10,199
Speaker 2: I can't deal with someone this intense. I've been through

192
00:09:10,840 --> 00:09:13,760
Speaker 2: a similar scenario where I've had to let down a

193
00:09:13,840 --> 00:09:17,400
Speaker 2: man and then he sent me a really weird text.

194
00:09:17,760 --> 00:09:20,160
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it was so weird.

195
00:09:20,679 --> 00:09:24,200
Speaker 2: It was really strange. So don't feel bad. Ope, you

196
00:09:24,520 --> 00:09:26,079
Speaker 2: let him down as nicely as you could.

197
00:09:26,280 --> 00:09:29,160
Speaker 1: There reports that letter I thought were nice.

198
00:09:29,320 --> 00:09:33,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, most of its most of it weird. His letter

199
00:09:33,360 --> 00:09:35,840
Speaker 2: confirmed that he is odd. So I'm glad I was

200
00:09:35,920 --> 00:09:38,880
Speaker 2: upfront with him. Yes, and there is a second update

201
00:09:40,280 --> 00:09:43,679
Speaker 2: to it. It never ends. It never ends. Ob he's

202
00:09:43,679 --> 00:09:47,520
Speaker 2: gonna have to move. Oh gosh, update too. He went

203
00:09:47,520 --> 00:09:49,080
Speaker 2: about a week without contacting me.

204
00:09:49,360 --> 00:09:50,720
Speaker 1: Wow, a whole week.

205
00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:53,720
Speaker 2: That's a new record. But yesterday I was getting stuff

206
00:09:53,760 --> 00:09:56,520
Speaker 2: out of my car and heard his voice say, Hey,

207
00:09:56,760 --> 00:10:00,080
Speaker 2: do you need a hand? I politely said hey, no, Oh,

208
00:10:00,640 --> 00:10:02,040
Speaker 2: I'm fine.

209
00:10:01,600 --> 00:10:04,040
Speaker 1: Thanks, step back, step back, She's.

210
00:10:03,920 --> 00:10:07,000
Speaker 2: Got like bear spray sh He got offended and started

211
00:10:07,000 --> 00:10:10,120
Speaker 2: getting mad at me. He said something like, what's your problem.

212
00:10:10,160 --> 00:10:12,480
Speaker 2: I'm only trying to help you. All I've ever done

213
00:10:12,520 --> 00:10:14,160
Speaker 2: is be nice to you, but you still act like

214
00:10:14,200 --> 00:10:17,079
Speaker 2: a witch. That was so nice of you to say that.

215
00:10:17,200 --> 00:10:19,160
Speaker 2: Was really nice of you to call it be a witch.

216
00:10:19,320 --> 00:10:20,360
Speaker 1: So nice man.

217
00:10:20,480 --> 00:10:23,720
Speaker 2: He stormed off before I could respond. I was shocked

218
00:10:23,720 --> 00:10:28,200
Speaker 2: and embarrassed because people around probably heard everything. Good. This morning,

219
00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:31,800
Speaker 2: I woke up to another letter, Dear o Pe, I

220
00:10:31,880 --> 00:10:34,880
Speaker 2: want to apologize for shouting at you earlier. I let

221
00:10:34,920 --> 00:10:37,319
Speaker 2: my anger get the best of me, and I'm sorry

222
00:10:37,400 --> 00:10:39,960
Speaker 2: about that. But I can't help but get frustrated at

223
00:10:39,960 --> 00:10:42,520
Speaker 2: your behavior. I get that you're not interested in me

224
00:10:42,559 --> 00:10:45,120
Speaker 2: and that you don't want to be my friend, even

225
00:10:45,160 --> 00:10:48,880
Speaker 2: if I do find it strange. However, when someone's trying

226
00:10:48,920 --> 00:10:51,760
Speaker 2: to help you, it's good manners to accept it for

227
00:10:51,880 --> 00:10:55,000
Speaker 2: at the very least be grateful. Again. I'm sorry, and

228
00:10:55,040 --> 00:10:57,000
Speaker 2: I realized I need to think about the way I acted,

229
00:10:57,320 --> 00:11:00,200
Speaker 2: and we'll try not to do it again. By the way,

230
00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:05,600
Speaker 2: this is how adults deal with awkward situations. They don't

231
00:11:05,679 --> 00:11:09,280
Speaker 2: pretend they never happen. I hope you accept my apology

232
00:11:09,280 --> 00:11:10,880
Speaker 2: in the little bit of advice I gave you.

233
00:11:11,160 --> 00:11:13,400
Speaker 1: Okay, number one, have you ever seen Seinfeld?

234
00:11:13,600 --> 00:11:15,280
Speaker 2: They avoid all of their problems.

235
00:11:15,520 --> 00:11:18,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, and those are adults. Yeah, that's how people kind

236
00:11:18,360 --> 00:11:21,040
Speaker 1: of respond, even though it's Stevie, it's how we think.

237
00:11:21,160 --> 00:11:24,080
Speaker 2: And I think you're you're definitely not acting like an

238
00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:25,560
Speaker 2: adult in this situation, Sir.

239
00:11:26,000 --> 00:11:28,880
Speaker 1: I think the only way to respond is with the

240
00:11:28,920 --> 00:11:31,120
Speaker 1: little voodoo doll that kind of looks.

241
00:11:30,920 --> 00:11:33,079
Speaker 2: Like him, and it's got a bunch of needles in it.

242
00:11:33,200 --> 00:11:35,680
Speaker 1: It's got all the needles in its head. Yeah, and

243
00:11:35,720 --> 00:11:36,480
Speaker 1: you give it to them.

244
00:11:36,679 --> 00:11:37,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you say.

245
00:11:37,559 --> 00:11:39,560
Speaker 1: I love you? Do you wait? Yeah?

246
00:11:39,679 --> 00:11:42,400
Speaker 2: Maybe do you do? You kind of reverse psychology him

247
00:11:42,520 --> 00:11:46,600
Speaker 2: matches freak here and and go really hard. I would worry,

248
00:11:46,640 --> 00:11:47,800
Speaker 2: I would worry something would.

249
00:11:47,679 --> 00:11:49,760
Speaker 1: Get Sometimes when you match someone's freak.

250
00:11:49,600 --> 00:11:51,199
Speaker 2: Like this, Yeah, they're too freaky.

251
00:11:51,480 --> 00:11:53,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, they show you another level.

252
00:11:53,480 --> 00:11:55,840
Speaker 2: This letter is worse because he's not even trying to

253
00:11:55,960 --> 00:11:59,760
Speaker 2: hide the insults and is being totally patronizing. He seems

254
00:11:59,760 --> 00:12:02,120
Speaker 2: to have gotten over his love for me, but now

255
00:12:02,240 --> 00:12:05,480
Speaker 2: has some grudge. If he really thinks all this about me?

256
00:12:05,559 --> 00:12:08,160
Speaker 2: Why does he even want to be friends? And there

257
00:12:08,280 --> 00:12:11,600
Speaker 2: is a third update. It doesn't stop. He wants to

258
00:12:11,600 --> 00:12:15,120
Speaker 2: be friends because he wants control over the situation. And

259
00:12:15,280 --> 00:12:18,560
Speaker 2: he feels upset that you've rejected him because he thinks

260
00:12:18,800 --> 00:12:21,760
Speaker 2: highly of himself and you're kind of showing him that

261
00:12:21,880 --> 00:12:25,199
Speaker 2: he's not that great, and he doesn't know how to

262
00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:26,000
Speaker 2: deal with that.

263
00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:28,600
Speaker 1: Like to know where the line is until we can

264
00:12:28,640 --> 00:12:29,720
Speaker 1: get a restraining order?

265
00:12:29,880 --> 00:12:32,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, once he starts harassing her, which he is,

266
00:12:33,000 --> 00:12:34,400
Speaker 2: but like, I guess.

267
00:12:34,320 --> 00:12:35,520
Speaker 1: How many more letters do we need?

268
00:12:35,679 --> 00:12:36,959
Speaker 2: We'll save all the letters.

269
00:12:37,080 --> 00:12:40,680
Speaker 1: Definitely, can we frame them? We start all our strong

270
00:12:40,720 --> 00:12:43,880
Speaker 1: guy friends around kind of have a situation, Yeah, frame

271
00:12:43,960 --> 00:12:46,920
Speaker 1: them and then boom, oh you know what you do? Maybe?

272
00:12:47,000 --> 00:12:49,440
Speaker 2: I mean, like I don't know if this would necessarily work,

273
00:12:49,480 --> 00:12:52,559
Speaker 2: but like you could get a guy friend and pretend

274
00:12:52,679 --> 00:12:55,280
Speaker 2: that the guy friend is like someone you're dating or

275
00:12:55,320 --> 00:12:58,199
Speaker 2: a boyfriend or something, and then have him because unfortunately,

276
00:12:58,640 --> 00:13:03,800
Speaker 2: sometimes guys only less and guys, So maybe that would work.

277
00:13:04,000 --> 00:13:06,160
Speaker 2: But there is a third update. I called my brother

278
00:13:06,280 --> 00:13:09,000
Speaker 2: and told him about the situation. He was adamant I

279
00:13:09,040 --> 00:13:12,800
Speaker 2: shouldn't contact him and should call the cops if he continues,

280
00:13:12,960 --> 00:13:15,680
Speaker 2: So I decided not to communicate with my neighbor, probably

281
00:13:15,720 --> 00:13:18,640
Speaker 2: the best. I regret telling my brother because he didn't

282
00:13:18,760 --> 00:13:21,720
Speaker 2: help the situation. Oh No, I had stayed at my

283
00:13:21,760 --> 00:13:24,480
Speaker 2: friend's house Friday night and came back Saturday morning in

284
00:13:24,520 --> 00:13:26,719
Speaker 2: the same clothes. He was in the hallway when I

285
00:13:26,760 --> 00:13:29,640
Speaker 2: got back. I'm sure he had been waiting for me,

286
00:13:29,960 --> 00:13:34,440
Speaker 2: and said, I don't appreciate getting threatening messages from your brother.

287
00:13:34,800 --> 00:13:36,640
Speaker 2: I found out that my brother had sent him a

288
00:13:36,679 --> 00:13:40,240
Speaker 2: message telling him to leave me alone. He started saying

289
00:13:40,280 --> 00:13:43,120
Speaker 2: stuff like why can't you tell me this yourself? Why

290
00:13:43,200 --> 00:13:45,720
Speaker 2: can't you at least stalk to me. He got angry,

291
00:13:45,880 --> 00:13:47,840
Speaker 2: repeating what he had said in the letters, and for

292
00:13:47,880 --> 00:13:51,280
Speaker 2: the first time actually scared me. Then he called me

293
00:13:51,320 --> 00:13:53,600
Speaker 2: a salute to my face and I said, if this,

294
00:13:53,760 --> 00:13:56,600
Speaker 2: I'm not listening to you anymore, leave me alone, and

295
00:13:56,679 --> 00:13:59,760
Speaker 2: went straight to my apartment. I think now that it's

296
00:14:00,160 --> 00:14:04,200
Speaker 2: you know, we're getting more and more verbal abuse, especially

297
00:14:04,240 --> 00:14:07,120
Speaker 2: after the parking lot thing and now here. I feel

298
00:14:07,160 --> 00:14:09,720
Speaker 2: like you could get you know, the car at least

299
00:14:09,800 --> 00:14:12,560
Speaker 2: put like in request to the police or something.

300
00:14:12,800 --> 00:14:13,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, just so.

301
00:14:13,520 --> 00:14:16,400
Speaker 2: You have a paper trail or request for restraining order

302
00:14:16,480 --> 00:14:17,400
Speaker 2: or something like that.

303
00:14:17,880 --> 00:14:21,560
Speaker 1: Also, if you were putting this scenario and some dude

304
00:14:22,040 --> 00:14:25,920
Speaker 1: who's making you feel this way, I'm not gonna message him. No,

305
00:14:26,080 --> 00:14:27,360
Speaker 1: I'm probably gonna show up.

306
00:14:27,440 --> 00:14:28,320
Speaker 2: You show up you.

307
00:14:28,440 --> 00:14:31,080
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I'm not going to store. Hey are you

308
00:14:31,240 --> 00:14:31,600
Speaker 1: this guy?

309
00:14:31,720 --> 00:14:31,880
Speaker 2: Yeah?

310
00:14:31,920 --> 00:14:34,760
Speaker 1: Okay, great? Yeah. If you ever say nother word to

311
00:14:34,840 --> 00:14:37,160
Speaker 1: this woman over here, things in the future will happen.

312
00:14:37,360 --> 00:14:39,720
Speaker 2: Yeah. Did you just like leave a letter like did

313
00:14:39,720 --> 00:14:42,560
Speaker 2: the brother just leave a letter that does nothing?

314
00:14:42,680 --> 00:14:46,840
Speaker 1: It does nothing show force. Ah, that makes me so mad.

315
00:14:47,520 --> 00:14:49,640
Speaker 2: I found out my brother had messaged him. You need

316
00:14:49,680 --> 00:14:52,080
Speaker 2: to leave my sister alone. You're creeping her out. If

317
00:14:52,080 --> 00:14:53,960
Speaker 2: you don't, there will be consequences.

318
00:14:54,000 --> 00:14:55,240
Speaker 1: Okay, we'll say that in person.

319
00:14:55,360 --> 00:14:57,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, go to him and say there will be God

320
00:14:58,440 --> 00:15:02,240
Speaker 2: get a gang of guys, yeah, even though, Yeah, who's

321
00:15:02,280 --> 00:15:03,120
Speaker 2: your entourage?

322
00:15:03,240 --> 00:15:07,000
Speaker 1: When I'm thinking, Seraf and I don't really have a

323
00:15:07,040 --> 00:15:09,520
Speaker 1: lot of scary looking friends.

324
00:15:11,120 --> 00:15:12,240
Speaker 2: You're so sweet looking.

325
00:15:12,520 --> 00:15:16,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, they're actually delightful. Maybe Christian, he's tall.

326
00:15:16,880 --> 00:15:18,960
Speaker 2: Even though I was worried this might have provoked him,

327
00:15:19,040 --> 00:15:22,320
Speaker 2: I decided to call the police. Smart. The next morning,

328
00:15:22,360 --> 00:15:27,040
Speaker 2: I woke up to another letter drop I'm sorry for

329
00:15:27,120 --> 00:15:29,760
Speaker 2: some of the things I said to you yesterday I

330
00:15:29,800 --> 00:15:32,000
Speaker 2: didn't mean them, but the heat of the moment got

331
00:15:32,000 --> 00:15:34,440
Speaker 2: to me. I did feel threatened by what your brother

332
00:15:34,560 --> 00:15:37,560
Speaker 2: said to me. All I've tried to do is talk

333
00:15:37,640 --> 00:15:40,400
Speaker 2: to the person I live next door to after I

334
00:15:40,480 --> 00:15:44,480
Speaker 2: had spicy sleep with them. You've made it pretty clear

335
00:15:44,560 --> 00:15:49,240
Speaker 2: you're not interested in me, and I've accepted that have you. However,

336
00:15:49,280 --> 00:15:51,560
Speaker 2: I've explained to you multiple times that I find it's

337
00:15:51,600 --> 00:15:54,080
Speaker 2: strange you don't want to talk, so I think you

338
00:15:54,080 --> 00:15:57,640
Speaker 2: should be more understanding to my feelings instead of just

339
00:15:57,840 --> 00:16:00,880
Speaker 2: labeling me a creep. I think we need to talk

340
00:16:00,960 --> 00:16:04,760
Speaker 2: like adults in person because I feel so frustrated that

341
00:16:04,800 --> 00:16:07,160
Speaker 2: you don't understand what I've tried to say to you

342
00:16:07,200 --> 00:16:09,440
Speaker 2: in my letters, and the only way to do it

343
00:16:09,480 --> 00:16:12,680
Speaker 2: now is face to face. I won't let my anger

344
00:16:12,720 --> 00:16:15,320
Speaker 2: get the better of me like it has previously, and

345
00:16:15,440 --> 00:16:17,640
Speaker 2: surely you must see this is a better idea than

346
00:16:17,680 --> 00:16:21,720
Speaker 2: getting your brother to send me messages. There was no

347
00:16:21,880 --> 00:16:24,720
Speaker 2: way I was going to talk to him in person again,

348
00:16:24,960 --> 00:16:27,840
Speaker 2: as the last two times we spoke he just got

349
00:16:27,880 --> 00:16:30,560
Speaker 2: angry with me and called me a salute and a witch.

350
00:16:30,760 --> 00:16:34,040
Speaker 2: I wanted the whole situation over now. So I called

351
00:16:34,120 --> 00:16:36,720
Speaker 2: the police. It was the non emergency line, and they

352
00:16:36,720 --> 00:16:39,120
Speaker 2: were actually very helpful, and they asked me to go

353
00:16:39,160 --> 00:16:40,880
Speaker 2: to the station and I had to show all the

354
00:16:40,920 --> 00:16:44,400
Speaker 2: stuff he sent me, the letters and Facebook messages. They

355
00:16:44,440 --> 00:16:47,240
Speaker 2: filed a report and originally they offered to call him,

356
00:16:47,400 --> 00:16:49,360
Speaker 2: but when I told them I didn't have his number,

357
00:16:49,760 --> 00:16:51,560
Speaker 2: they said they would go and talk to him.

358
00:16:51,640 --> 00:16:52,200
Speaker 1: Let me go.

359
00:16:52,360 --> 00:16:56,320
Speaker 2: Okay, finally, if your brother can't go in person, then

360
00:16:56,360 --> 00:16:59,160
Speaker 2: the police will. But there is a little bit left

361
00:16:59,240 --> 00:17:01,760
Speaker 2: to this story. Do you have any final thoughts?

362
00:17:02,000 --> 00:17:06,320
Speaker 1: Glad? I'm glad this you know the police will probably

363
00:17:06,359 --> 00:17:07,760
Speaker 1: put it into it, hope, I hope.

364
00:17:07,840 --> 00:17:08,399
Speaker 2: I hope so.

365
00:17:09,080 --> 00:17:11,520
Speaker 1: And I know for facts there are a lot of

366
00:17:11,520 --> 00:17:14,080
Speaker 1: you that have been through similar situations like this, which

367
00:17:14,320 --> 00:17:16,800
Speaker 1: I would have said, I'm sorry, I'm so sorry you

368
00:17:16,840 --> 00:17:19,400
Speaker 1: went through that, and no one should ever go through this.

369
00:17:19,720 --> 00:17:22,159
Speaker 2: It's not fun, not fun, not fun.

370
00:17:22,359 --> 00:17:25,440
Speaker 1: We're making an app called call your brother, called the

371
00:17:25,560 --> 00:17:26,000
Speaker 1: Right Brother.

372
00:17:26,119 --> 00:17:28,200
Speaker 2: There we go, oh that called the right brother.

373
00:17:28,119 --> 00:17:29,760
Speaker 1: Call the Right Brother, and then they will put it

374
00:17:29,840 --> 00:17:30,800
Speaker 1: into all this stuff.

375
00:17:30,960 --> 00:17:33,439
Speaker 2: You get you get a nice a nice person to

376
00:17:33,520 --> 00:17:37,879
Speaker 2: come come show up and yell at another guy for you.

377
00:17:38,040 --> 00:17:39,520
Speaker 1: Mm, yeah, you have.

378
00:17:39,440 --> 00:17:43,840
Speaker 2: Some, you have people who have been vetted by other women.

379
00:17:44,600 --> 00:17:47,199
Speaker 2: Go and uh, pully a creepy guy for you.

380
00:17:47,400 --> 00:17:49,360
Speaker 1: There we go and it comes in waves. On one

381
00:17:49,400 --> 00:17:51,320
Speaker 1: it's an it's like a little story. One, it's a

382
00:17:51,400 --> 00:17:54,760
Speaker 1: nice guy. Yeah, could you stop one it's like a

383
00:17:54,800 --> 00:17:56,439
Speaker 1: ruffer guy. And then it's a final boss.

384
00:17:56,600 --> 00:18:01,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's like five guys squirtle squad, squirrel and

385
00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:07,560
Speaker 2: they blast him with like water, it's like a fire rose.

386
00:18:07,920 --> 00:18:11,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's our services, Squirtle Squad.

387
00:18:12,359 --> 00:18:14,080
Speaker 2: I just want to make this clear for those He

388
00:18:14,200 --> 00:18:16,600
Speaker 2: responded to me before, saying going to the cops was

389
00:18:16,640 --> 00:18:19,359
Speaker 2: too far. No, it's not. This isn't a restraining order.

390
00:18:19,560 --> 00:18:22,439
Speaker 2: He hasn't been charged or anything. All I've done is

391
00:18:22,480 --> 00:18:25,359
Speaker 2: file a police report and we have both agreed to

392
00:18:25,359 --> 00:18:27,520
Speaker 2: not contact each other, and if either one of us

393
00:18:27,520 --> 00:18:29,840
Speaker 2: contacts each other, then it will go further. I was

394
00:18:29,880 --> 00:18:32,439
Speaker 2: sort of expecting for him to send another letter after this,

395
00:18:32,600 --> 00:18:34,760
Speaker 2: but he hasn't. I know, it's only been a couple

396
00:18:34,760 --> 00:18:37,560
Speaker 2: of days, but I do feel better about the situation. Now.

397
00:18:37,840 --> 00:18:40,400
Speaker 2: I'm going to stay here for now. I might talk

398
00:18:40,440 --> 00:18:42,359
Speaker 2: to my landlord, but I don't think he'd let me

399
00:18:42,440 --> 00:18:44,480
Speaker 2: break my lease if I feel like I don't want

400
00:18:44,480 --> 00:18:46,160
Speaker 2: to stay, I think my brother would help me out

401
00:18:46,160 --> 00:18:48,480
Speaker 2: with money. Do you feel bad about what happened? And

402
00:18:48,560 --> 00:18:51,280
Speaker 2: of course I should never have had spicy sleet with him.

403
00:18:51,560 --> 00:18:54,919
Speaker 2: I don't think that's the takeaway. I think that he

404
00:18:54,960 --> 00:18:56,920
Speaker 2: should have been respectful after you did.

405
00:18:57,160 --> 00:18:59,600
Speaker 1: I'm also on the side you should meet someone's mother

406
00:18:59,640 --> 00:19:02,240
Speaker 1: before you have spicy sleep with them. At least know

407
00:19:02,280 --> 00:19:04,639
Speaker 1: what their parents are. So I'm gonna agree with you

408
00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:07,480
Speaker 1: on that one. Op, you should maybe feel that's a

409
00:19:07,480 --> 00:19:08,080
Speaker 1: tough one.

410
00:19:08,160 --> 00:19:11,600
Speaker 2: There's like ninety percent of people I feel like, don't

411
00:19:11,600 --> 00:19:12,040
Speaker 2: do that.

412
00:19:12,320 --> 00:19:17,080
Speaker 1: Well, I'm different, So I'm a woman's doctor. I gotta know, like,

413
00:19:18,200 --> 00:19:21,159
Speaker 1: I gotta see like the woman that made my woman,

414
00:19:21,240 --> 00:19:26,560
Speaker 1: and I gotta make sure like, okay, I gotta I understand. Oh.

415
00:19:26,680 --> 00:19:29,240
Speaker 2: The number one lesson I have learned is don't sleep

416
00:19:29,280 --> 00:19:32,360
Speaker 2: with your neighbor. But if anyone reading this finds themselves

417
00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:35,160
Speaker 2: in a similar situation, I guess my advice is trust

418
00:19:35,160 --> 00:19:37,959
Speaker 2: your instinct and go talk to the cops because they

419
00:19:38,000 --> 00:19:40,159
Speaker 2: can be helpful and it doesn't mean they're going to

420
00:19:40,200 --> 00:19:43,119
Speaker 2: start arresting people anyway. Thanks for all the advice, it

421
00:19:43,240 --> 00:19:44,000
Speaker 2: was appreciated.

422
00:19:44,320 --> 00:19:48,399
Speaker 1: My neighbor is ruining my spicy life move. This is

423
00:19:48,520 --> 00:19:52,359
Speaker 1: so incredibly ridiculous, but here it is. My boyfriend and

424
00:19:52,400 --> 00:19:55,439
Speaker 1: I have spicy sleep. Whether it's at six am or

425
00:19:55,560 --> 00:19:58,600
Speaker 1: four pm, our next door neighbors starts pounding on the

426
00:19:58,640 --> 00:20:02,639
Speaker 1: bedroom wall, then starts pounding on our apartment front door.

427
00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:04,760
Speaker 1: This has been going on for six months.

428
00:20:04,920 --> 00:20:08,280
Speaker 2: It's not because they're angry, it's because they're jealous trying

429
00:20:08,280 --> 00:20:08,600
Speaker 2: to join.

430
00:20:08,680 --> 00:20:11,320
Speaker 1: They trying to join by always come from psych CALLI

431
00:20:11,400 --> 00:20:13,000
Speaker 1: and if you want some of your own stories, go

432
00:20:13,119 --> 00:20:16,080
Speaker 1: to the r slash Okay story times subreddit. We're not loud.

433
00:20:16,600 --> 00:20:19,159
Speaker 1: Neither of us barely makes any noise when we have

434
00:20:19,320 --> 00:20:22,280
Speaker 1: spicy sleep. But then how does he know? After the

435
00:20:22,280 --> 00:20:25,120
Speaker 1: first time this occurred, my boyfriend went as far as

436
00:20:25,160 --> 00:20:28,520
Speaker 1: to replace his bed frame, put up soundproofing between the

437
00:20:28,560 --> 00:20:31,720
Speaker 1: bed and the wall, and usually pulls the bed away

438
00:20:31,720 --> 00:20:32,960
Speaker 1: from the wall before we start.

439
00:20:33,680 --> 00:20:35,480
Speaker 2: Say much else you can do?

440
00:20:36,200 --> 00:20:38,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, you gotta put on a movie. Yeah, pull the

441
00:20:38,840 --> 00:20:41,359
Speaker 1: bed away from the wall and then make sure no

442
00:20:41,359 --> 00:20:42,840
Speaker 1: one's home. That's usually yeah.

443
00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:45,399
Speaker 2: My parents when they first moved into like when they

444
00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:48,840
Speaker 2: first moved into their first apartment in La their neighbor

445
00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:53,639
Speaker 2: they had very thin walls. Their neighbors non stop with

446
00:20:54,000 --> 00:20:56,760
Speaker 2: to have spicy sleep together, and my parents were like

447
00:20:56,840 --> 00:20:59,640
Speaker 2: it was terrible, like it was crazy.

448
00:21:00,480 --> 00:21:04,159
Speaker 1: Good for them, Man, can't go crazy when our neighbor

449
00:21:04,200 --> 00:21:07,560
Speaker 1: pounds on the wall. We can't really continue having spicy sleep.

450
00:21:07,880 --> 00:21:11,520
Speaker 1: It breaks our concentration to spoils the mood completely. This

451
00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:15,320
Speaker 1: last occurrence was particularly bad. My boyfriend and if at

452
00:21:15,520 --> 00:21:18,840
Speaker 1: frisky at six am. The neighbors started pounding on our wall,

453
00:21:19,359 --> 00:21:22,760
Speaker 1: then started pounding on our door, and our dogs started barking.

454
00:21:23,000 --> 00:21:25,679
Speaker 1: Then he started screaming at someone in the hallway that

455
00:21:25,800 --> 00:21:29,200
Speaker 1: we have so much spicy sleep we must not have jobs.

456
00:21:29,560 --> 00:21:32,520
Speaker 1: Not even true, since our spicy sleep life has significantly

457
00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:34,040
Speaker 1: dropped because of this.

458
00:21:34,240 --> 00:21:37,200
Speaker 2: Do you guys just have really thin walls? Maybe you

459
00:21:37,280 --> 00:21:38,879
Speaker 2: gotta play like really loud music.

460
00:21:39,119 --> 00:21:42,680
Speaker 1: I really love where I live now it's it's forest.

461
00:21:42,960 --> 00:21:45,360
Speaker 2: Or you need to go talk to him and say

462
00:21:45,600 --> 00:21:46,560
Speaker 2: when are you gone?

463
00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:49,040
Speaker 1: Can we have a schedule? Yeah?

464
00:21:49,080 --> 00:21:51,600
Speaker 2: Please? When are we allowed to sleep together?

465
00:21:51,840 --> 00:21:54,920
Speaker 1: We try maybe once a couple of weeks now, and

466
00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:58,200
Speaker 1: even then it causes us anxiety that he could start

467
00:21:58,240 --> 00:22:01,359
Speaker 1: banging on the wall at any minute. My boyfriend doesn't

468
00:22:01,400 --> 00:22:05,160
Speaker 1: want me confronting him and just wants us to ignore him.

469
00:22:05,400 --> 00:22:07,840
Speaker 1: This is a two way street. He could ignore you, guys,

470
00:22:07,880 --> 00:22:10,160
Speaker 1: but he's not. So I think I feel like we're

471
00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:13,480
Speaker 1: giving the bully the satisfaction of winning, because, let's face it,

472
00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:14,320
Speaker 1: he's winning.

473
00:22:14,480 --> 00:22:16,679
Speaker 2: I think you guys gotta go him. I think you

474
00:22:16,760 --> 00:22:22,080
Speaker 2: guys gotta you gotta go full force. You gotta start

475
00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:25,520
Speaker 2: getting louder. Yeah, you're gonna start banging back.

476
00:22:25,960 --> 00:22:28,400
Speaker 1: Yeah.

477
00:22:28,520 --> 00:22:29,840
Speaker 2: I think that's the only way.

478
00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:33,960
Speaker 1: He's destroying our spicy sleep life and causing friction between

479
00:22:33,960 --> 00:22:36,960
Speaker 1: me and my boyfriend. We have a foster dog that's

480
00:22:36,960 --> 00:22:39,280
Speaker 1: scared of men, so this morning I was getting him

481
00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:41,600
Speaker 1: ready to go outside. I opened the door and the

482
00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:44,800
Speaker 1: neighbor is standing in the hallway. I immediately slam the

483
00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:48,080
Speaker 1: door closed, and my dog starts barking because he saw

484
00:22:48,119 --> 00:22:50,760
Speaker 1: the guy. A neighbor stands in the hallway screaming that

485
00:22:50,800 --> 00:22:53,720
Speaker 1: my dog needs to be put down. My goodness, I

486
00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:55,840
Speaker 1: waited for him to leave and then went out, only

487
00:22:55,840 --> 00:22:58,360
Speaker 1: for him to be standing outside of the building screaming

488
00:22:58,400 --> 00:23:00,800
Speaker 1: at me that my dog needs to put down. So

489
00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:02,760
Speaker 1: I lost it and curse to him, telling him to

490
00:23:02,760 --> 00:23:05,240
Speaker 1: shut up about my dog. First time this happened, he

491
00:23:05,400 --> 00:23:08,480
Speaker 1: tried to complain about us having spicy sleep at four

492
00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:11,719
Speaker 1: in the afternoon because it was upsetting his baby.

493
00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:15,840
Speaker 2: I think you pounding on the walls is upsetting your baby.

494
00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:20,080
Speaker 2: And also quiet hours are like probably eight to ten pm,

495
00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:23,879
Speaker 2: so you don't have literally any leg to stand on. Dude.

496
00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:26,399
Speaker 1: I told him it wasn't a problem and closed the

497
00:23:26,440 --> 00:23:28,959
Speaker 1: door on him. And my boyfriend left the apartment and

498
00:23:29,000 --> 00:23:31,399
Speaker 1: stood at the bottom of the building stairs listening to

499
00:23:31,440 --> 00:23:34,000
Speaker 1: the guy tell him that he was polite to me,

500
00:23:34,320 --> 00:23:36,960
Speaker 1: but I was rude to him. Sure, he's trying to

501
00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:39,520
Speaker 1: tell me what to do in my own home. After

502
00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:42,879
Speaker 1: interrupting our spicy sleep life. My boyfriend got mad at

503
00:23:42,880 --> 00:23:46,600
Speaker 1: me for losing my temper, which I totally did. I

504
00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:49,280
Speaker 1: think you should back up your girlfriend. When it comes

505
00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:51,200
Speaker 1: to the guy, you'll probably be like, I didn't really

506
00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:54,320
Speaker 1: appreciate the way you handled it. But at this point, man,

507
00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:57,199
Speaker 1: there's a reason your girlfriend's so mad. Yeah, because she

508
00:23:57,240 --> 00:23:58,720
Speaker 1: hasn't had the big oh in a while.

509
00:23:58,840 --> 00:24:02,159
Speaker 2: Oh okay, well, I was gonna say I think that

510
00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:04,560
Speaker 2: he could caught like the boyfriend could go to his

511
00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:06,840
Speaker 2: girlfriend and say like, hey, like, you know, let's handle

512
00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:09,040
Speaker 2: this a little differently, But when you're talking to the guy,

513
00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:11,520
Speaker 2: it's got to be like, don't talk to my girlfriend

514
00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:12,520
Speaker 2: like that, you know.

515
00:24:12,960 --> 00:24:18,119
Speaker 1: Yep, squirtles sky in front Squirtle squad. Yes, every time since,

516
00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:21,960
Speaker 1: I haven't done a dang thing, and apparently neither has

517
00:24:22,000 --> 00:24:25,160
Speaker 1: my boyfriend. He hasn't even talked to the landlord after

518
00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:28,080
Speaker 1: I asked him to, so I called the landlord myself.

519
00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:31,320
Speaker 1: The landlord's response is he doesn't want to get involved,

520
00:24:31,600 --> 00:24:33,600
Speaker 1: but I can call the police if the neighbor pounds

521
00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:36,120
Speaker 1: on my door again. What are my options? The police

522
00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:38,439
Speaker 1: have been called on this guy multiple times in this

523
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:43,200
Speaker 1: building for multiple reasons. Ironically, he would have screaming matches

524
00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:45,480
Speaker 1: with his girlfriend so bad that other people in the

525
00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:48,600
Speaker 1: building would call the cops. Ye still cause this crap.

526
00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:51,800
Speaker 1: So I don't see how that's going to help. Plus

527
00:24:51,840 --> 00:24:54,320
Speaker 1: it takes hours for the police to show up. My

528
00:24:54,400 --> 00:24:57,720
Speaker 1: boyfriend doesn't want me confronting the neighbor. My boyfriend won't

529
00:24:57,760 --> 00:25:01,640
Speaker 1: confront the neighbor. My landlord isn't any Meanwhile, that dude

530
00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:05,280
Speaker 1: is causing so much damage and talking crap about my dog,

531
00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:08,480
Speaker 1: which makes me red. I don't know how he knows

532
00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:11,879
Speaker 1: we're having spicy sleep. My boyfriend doesn't make any sounds

533
00:25:11,960 --> 00:25:15,399
Speaker 1: louder than a gasp. I cover my mouth when I okay,

534
00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:17,840
Speaker 1: make sounds. You don't need to tell us all this.

535
00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:22,240
Speaker 1: We have very specific, same routine every time. That doesn't

536
00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:25,840
Speaker 1: last long. The frame was replaced after the first neighbor

537
00:25:25,880 --> 00:25:29,440
Speaker 1: freaked out. There's soundproofing foam between the bed and the wall,

538
00:25:29,840 --> 00:25:32,720
Speaker 1: and my boyfriend usually moves the bed away from the

539
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:33,879
Speaker 1: wall before we start.

540
00:25:33,920 --> 00:25:35,879
Speaker 2: Okay, well, clearly none of that is working if he

541
00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:36,879
Speaker 2: knows every time.

542
00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:39,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, she talks a little bit more about what they do.

543
00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:42,280
Speaker 1: So my boyfriend has nixed the idea of having super

544
00:25:42,320 --> 00:25:48,560
Speaker 1: loud spicy sleep. Ah, come on, playing loud music, playing corn,

545
00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:53,479
Speaker 1: or various other lat means of antagonizing the neighbor. Since

546
00:25:53,680 --> 00:25:56,399
Speaker 1: this is a shared space, I'm not going to do

547
00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:59,240
Speaker 1: stuff behind his back while he's at work. We have

548
00:25:59,320 --> 00:26:00,560
Speaker 1: an update, lame.

549
00:26:01,200 --> 00:26:03,359
Speaker 2: The boyfriend doesn't want to do anything.

550
00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:05,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, he just wants to.

551
00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:07,520
Speaker 2: Let his girlfriend get yelled at, which is so much

552
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:08,560
Speaker 2: scarier for her.

553
00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:12,359
Speaker 1: That is pretty scary. Uh. He dumped the boyfriend.

554
00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:14,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, i'd dump him and move.

555
00:26:14,480 --> 00:26:14,840
Speaker 1: Dang.

556
00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:17,280
Speaker 2: I wouldn't done him move, but I would move.

557
00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:20,280
Speaker 1: Uh. Yeah, I would definitely be looking for other places.

558
00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:22,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, like, if this is going to keep going, go

559
00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:25,240
Speaker 2: find somewhere the thicker walls and.

560
00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:27,639
Speaker 1: It is weird the guy knows every time you're doing it.

561
00:26:27,760 --> 00:26:30,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I just I'm just assuming that nothing they're

562
00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:34,359
Speaker 2: doing is actually working. Okay, if he knows every time,

563
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:37,160
Speaker 2: like you know, probably not that soundproof.

564
00:26:37,400 --> 00:26:39,320
Speaker 1: We have an update. I don't know what's going on

565
00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:41,640
Speaker 1: with the neighbor. My dog is barked at him when

566
00:26:41,680 --> 00:26:44,680
Speaker 1: a dog walker has taken him out immediately brought them

567
00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:47,200
Speaker 1: both back inside until my neighbor went into his apartment,

568
00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:49,720
Speaker 1: and my neighbor didn't say a word. I have no

569
00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:52,600
Speaker 1: idea of seeing someone he didn't recognize was the difference

570
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:55,760
Speaker 1: if he didn't feel like it or if the landlord

571
00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:59,280
Speaker 1: had another talk with him. I thirty female ended it

572
00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:01,240
Speaker 1: with my my boyfriend thirty mail.

573
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:06,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, I honestly support that. He wasn't doing anything

574
00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:07,119
Speaker 2: to support you.

575
00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:09,480
Speaker 1: I was gonna I thought it was a little extreme,

576
00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:10,439
Speaker 1: but I was leaning that way too.

577
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:12,960
Speaker 2: I was leaning towards it. I only didn't want to

578
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:15,840
Speaker 2: say it because I thought that was too extreme because

579
00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:18,199
Speaker 2: you were like, oh really, but now I fully support

580
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:19,440
Speaker 2: you breaking up with your boyfriend.

581
00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:21,800
Speaker 1: I only said really in the context if we don't

582
00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:24,040
Speaker 1: we haven't seen how this guy is. He might be

583
00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:24,680
Speaker 1: a nice guy.

584
00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:26,960
Speaker 2: I don't know anything else except for how he's handling

585
00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:27,600
Speaker 2: this situation.

586
00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:28,160
Speaker 1: But act.

587
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:32,240
Speaker 2: But Opie also said that it was causing other problems

588
00:27:32,240 --> 00:27:35,000
Speaker 2: in the relationship, so it's probably kind of an amalgamation.

589
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:37,640
Speaker 1: After I made the previous post, my ex and I

590
00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:41,199
Speaker 1: had a long conversation with their couple's therapists, where their

591
00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:44,320
Speaker 1: therapist took my ex aside and said we shouldn't do

592
00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:47,920
Speaker 1: anything confrontational regard to the neighbor. She told me she

593
00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:51,359
Speaker 1: appreciated that I'm a firecracker, but felt that it could

594
00:27:51,359 --> 00:27:54,000
Speaker 1: get me or my ex hurt. But something that came

595
00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:56,879
Speaker 1: up in the sessions is my ex swearing up and

596
00:27:56,920 --> 00:28:00,320
Speaker 1: down if someone was disrespectful to me, he would in me.

597
00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:03,560
Speaker 1: Our therapist felt that this was true, but.

598
00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:06,200
Speaker 2: He didn't but he likes so he's saying, if someone

599
00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:10,680
Speaker 2: disrespected you, I defend you. Yeah, but he like specifically didn't.

600
00:28:10,520 --> 00:28:14,159
Speaker 1: What oh dude, I heard a fire fire line. It

601
00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:17,159
Speaker 1: was words that don't back up actions. Is manipulation?

602
00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:20,040
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, he's saying. He's like, oh, yeah, totally. It's

603
00:28:20,080 --> 00:28:22,800
Speaker 2: like the thing of like if a guy's like, yeah,

604
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:27,159
Speaker 2: there was a robber, I'd like beat him up, and

605
00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:29,359
Speaker 2: then in the actual situation they run away or something.

606
00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:29,560
Speaker 2: You know.

607
00:28:29,760 --> 00:28:33,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, except when I started thinking about certain past events

608
00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:36,360
Speaker 1: important contexts. My ex and I had an open relationship,

609
00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:39,320
Speaker 1: so sleeping with other people was totally fine. He has

610
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:41,480
Speaker 1: a female best friend he had slept with prior to

611
00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:44,560
Speaker 1: our relationship, who at the beginning of our relationship the

612
00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:46,320
Speaker 1: really nasty things about me.

613
00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:47,040
Speaker 2: Yikes.

614
00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:50,360
Speaker 1: He shut it down initially, then forgot about her being

615
00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 1: nasty to me and started making plans to sleep with her. Yeah.

616
00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:55,400
Speaker 2: This guy sting.

617
00:28:56,440 --> 00:29:01,040
Speaker 1: Literally only has enough blood for one head. Yeah that's

618
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:01,680
Speaker 1: what I'm thinking.

619
00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:03,440
Speaker 2: Wait, that was good. Did you come over that?

620
00:29:03,400 --> 00:29:06,000
Speaker 1: That's a big saying that.

621
00:29:06,800 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, you could have said I did, and I would

622
00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:09,760
Speaker 2: have believed you.

623
00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:14,600
Speaker 1: I wouldn't lie to you. However, he was surprised when

624
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:18,760
Speaker 1: I was offended once when I was walking our previous dog, Princess.

625
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:24,560
Speaker 1: He starts, Princess, we live in a metal world. She

626
00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:27,240
Speaker 1: started being on the ground and a man started yelling

627
00:29:27,280 --> 00:29:29,920
Speaker 1: at me because he had placed a cardboard box I

628
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:32,840
Speaker 1: foot away from where she was being I got mad

629
00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:34,760
Speaker 1: and yelled back that he should have put it on

630
00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:36,959
Speaker 1: the ground if he didn't want it to get dirty.

631
00:29:37,440 --> 00:29:40,400
Speaker 1: Later that night, my ex took Princess out for another walk,

632
00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:43,480
Speaker 1: and this same man followed my ex down the block

633
00:29:43,720 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 1: to complain about me. You need to change where you live.

634
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:49,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, everyone's complaining about you. Well, maybe you're in the

635
00:29:49,720 --> 00:29:52,560
Speaker 2: f I'm like, if all of your neighbors are complaining

636
00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:54,959
Speaker 2: about you, you and your dog, and every time anyone

637
00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:58,000
Speaker 2: says anything about your dog, you're like, don't talk about

638
00:29:58,040 --> 00:29:58,800
Speaker 2: my dog.

639
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:02,200
Speaker 1: Really weird place. Yeah, or you're the problem.

640
00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:03,520
Speaker 2: You're the problem.

641
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:06,440
Speaker 1: All my exes did will say okay and walk away.

642
00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:10,240
Speaker 2: Honestly, in that situation, he's probably the best. I understand

643
00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:12,240
Speaker 2: the over arching issue here.

644
00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:14,720
Speaker 1: When I ask why he didn't defend me, he said

645
00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:17,320
Speaker 1: he didn't want a physical fight to break out. Then

646
00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:20,840
Speaker 1: today happened. Our current dog is a foster who is

647
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:23,920
Speaker 1: reactive towards everything. He had a really rough start in

648
00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:27,240
Speaker 1: life with his previous owners, who never walked him socialized

649
00:30:27,320 --> 00:30:29,320
Speaker 1: him and kept him tied to a grate for most

650
00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:32,760
Speaker 1: of his life. As a result, he lunges at all dogs, cats,

651
00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:36,760
Speaker 1: and the occasional stranger human. We can't tell what specifically

652
00:30:36,800 --> 00:30:40,160
Speaker 1: triggers him about which strange humans, but we know if

653
00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:42,720
Speaker 1: we have him on a relaxed leash and notice someone

654
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:45,040
Speaker 1: behind us or ahead of us, we need to roll

655
00:30:45,120 --> 00:30:47,680
Speaker 1: him in and keep him close in case he lunges.

656
00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:50,600
Speaker 1: I'm doing so much to train this out of him.

657
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:54,240
Speaker 1: My ex doesn't join me on walks unless it's around

658
00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:57,200
Speaker 1: the block, doesn't like walking our dog for longer than

659
00:30:57,240 --> 00:30:59,600
Speaker 1: ten minutes, and never picks up poop.

660
00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:01,360
Speaker 2: Shouldn't be a dog owner.

661
00:31:01,760 --> 00:31:04,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, At the end of the day, so our dog

662
00:31:04,920 --> 00:31:08,120
Speaker 1: pooped on grass and we had a brief discussion about

663
00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:10,680
Speaker 1: how my ex never picks up poop While my ex

664
00:31:10,800 --> 00:31:13,080
Speaker 1: is holding our dog's leash. I go to pick up

665
00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:15,920
Speaker 1: the poop and my ex neither doesn't notice the person

666
00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:18,880
Speaker 1: walking towards us or forgets the real in the dog.

667
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:21,640
Speaker 1: The dog is on a loose leash and runs towards

668
00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 1: the person walking towards us. The person is totally understandably

669
00:31:25,040 --> 00:31:28,560
Speaker 1: scared and then starts feeling filth about how he will

670
00:31:28,760 --> 00:31:30,480
Speaker 1: be mean to our dog. I look at the guy

671
00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:32,960
Speaker 1: and want to say something, but my brain goes, no,

672
00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 1: your ex doesn't like it when you confront people. So

673
00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:38,880
Speaker 1: I look at my ex who just stands there and

674
00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:42,920
Speaker 1: does nothing as a guy walks very slowly away screaming

675
00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:45,920
Speaker 1: about beating up our dog the entire time.

676
00:31:46,200 --> 00:31:49,160
Speaker 2: Oh man, I think he just wants like a guy

677
00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:52,000
Speaker 2: who's gotta be like the protector, you know. She wants

678
00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:55,680
Speaker 2: a guy's gotta be like in your face, gonna stand

679
00:31:55,760 --> 00:31:57,240
Speaker 2: up for uh.

680
00:31:57,280 --> 00:31:58,920
Speaker 1: And I think you got you got.

681
00:31:58,680 --> 00:32:03,560
Speaker 2: Someone who's non confrontational. And I think just going forward.

682
00:32:03,560 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 2: Now you know what you want and what you're looking for,

683
00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:10,000
Speaker 2: and you can be a little bit more particular about

684
00:32:10,040 --> 00:32:11,280
Speaker 2: that when you're dating people.

685
00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:16,160
Speaker 1: Agreed, I'm seeing giant teddy bear. Man. Yeah, but he

686
00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:20,000
Speaker 1: moves very slowly and he's very protective. That's kind of

687
00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:20,800
Speaker 1: the vioulding.

688
00:32:20,840 --> 00:32:21,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's what you want.

689
00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:25,120
Speaker 1: So after this we got home, I completely lost it.

690
00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 1: I had a fight with my ex where I told

691
00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:29,440
Speaker 1: him he has a clear pattern of doing nothing when

692
00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:33,840
Speaker 1: either I'm disrespected or our family as a unit is threatened.

693
00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:37,080
Speaker 1: Every time he has the same excuse that could turn

694
00:32:37,120 --> 00:32:39,959
Speaker 1: into a physical confrontation. On top of that, he has

695
00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:43,560
Speaker 1: previously kept me from confronting people, and it's affecting my

696
00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:46,920
Speaker 1: ability to stand up for myself and what I care for.

697
00:32:47,440 --> 00:32:50,120
Speaker 1: I told him today we could have walked away on

698
00:32:50,160 --> 00:32:52,760
Speaker 1: his own given me the dog and told me to

699
00:32:52,800 --> 00:32:56,720
Speaker 1: walk away, said sorry, I didn't have a proper hold

700
00:32:56,760 --> 00:32:59,240
Speaker 1: on the dog, but now I do, so you're not

701
00:32:59,320 --> 00:33:03,280
Speaker 1: in danger or my personal confrontational favorite shut up the

702
00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:07,120
Speaker 1: dogs under control f off, and I told him it

703
00:33:07,160 --> 00:33:07,520
Speaker 1: was over.

704
00:33:07,840 --> 00:33:13,600
Speaker 2: I will say, with reactive dogs, you gotta like really

705
00:33:13,640 --> 00:33:15,520
Speaker 2: be on it. And I don't think that you can

706
00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:19,240
Speaker 2: kind of confront in those situations because you are in

707
00:33:19,320 --> 00:33:21,280
Speaker 2: the wrong, Like, yeah, that guy is like awful and

708
00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:24,440
Speaker 2: shouldn't be like being all that hatred, but like, yeah,

709
00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:28,080
Speaker 2: your dog lunged at him. Yeah, dogs can be dangerous

710
00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:30,080
Speaker 2: and you have to if you have a reactive dog,

711
00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:31,080
Speaker 2: you really gotta be on it.

712
00:33:31,160 --> 00:33:31,320
Speaker 1: You know.

713
00:33:31,360 --> 00:33:34,080
Speaker 2: I've seen situations where like a person with a reactive

714
00:33:34,120 --> 00:33:38,760
Speaker 2: dog gets really protective of their dog and starts, you know,

715
00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:42,120
Speaker 2: kind of fighting back, and it's like, okay, honestly, you

716
00:33:42,200 --> 00:33:46,520
Speaker 2: just need to bring the situation down apologize. If they

717
00:33:46,600 --> 00:33:49,000
Speaker 2: keep spewing hatred, you walk away. I honestly think that

718
00:33:49,160 --> 00:33:51,280
Speaker 2: is the best situation, like best way to go about

719
00:33:51,320 --> 00:33:52,880
Speaker 2: it in that situations when.

720
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:54,960
Speaker 1: You are at faults.

721
00:33:55,240 --> 00:33:57,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, because your dog almost you know, or did lunge

722
00:33:57,880 --> 00:33:59,800
Speaker 2: at someone. That's the only thing I will say.

723
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:02,760
Speaker 1: You should go work on a horse ranch and have

724
00:34:02,800 --> 00:34:04,400
Speaker 1: a house with a bunch of land where you can

725
00:34:04,440 --> 00:34:07,680
Speaker 1: keep all your dogs. This feels like the best for you. Yeah,

726
00:34:07,720 --> 00:34:08,680
Speaker 1: I would love that for you.

727
00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:10,120
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think when you have a react to dog,

728
00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:12,520
Speaker 2: you have to be like not reactive person, you know,

729
00:34:13,160 --> 00:34:15,960
Speaker 2: like you can't two reactive people. Is not because you

730
00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:18,480
Speaker 2: seem like a reactive person, Opie, And I feel like

731
00:34:18,560 --> 00:34:20,240
Speaker 2: that is not a good energy match.

732
00:34:20,400 --> 00:34:22,760
Speaker 1: I won't say I'm in the right honestly, don't feel

733
00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:24,960
Speaker 1: like it. But I know I feel more helpless with

734
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:27,359
Speaker 1: him than I have in the past on my own.

735
00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:30,240
Speaker 1: And that's the end of that one. Like another favorite

736
00:34:30,239 --> 00:34:32,279
Speaker 1: saying I'm on being with you is like being with

737
00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:33,520
Speaker 1: myself but harder.

738
00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:36,759
Speaker 2: Dang, wow, there we go, there we go.

739
00:34:36,760 --> 00:34:39,279
Speaker 1: Good for you, Opie. I hope, yeah, I hope you

740
00:34:39,360 --> 00:34:40,879
Speaker 1: find some peace in your life.

741
00:34:40,600 --> 00:34:43,920
Speaker 2: And some thicker walls but that's the end of that story,

742
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:45,480
Speaker 2: and we've got another one coming. Rind up.

743
00:34:45,520 --> 00:34:47,520
Speaker 1: Hey y'all, it's John og Host here. We're gonna get

744
00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:48,759
Speaker 1: back to the story. So but here's a quick three

745
00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:51,640
Speaker 1: minute break from as for more sponsors. Okay, so quick, okay,

746
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:53,920
Speaker 1: story Tom. I live in a in a place where

747
00:34:53,920 --> 00:34:56,680
Speaker 1: there's like a car garage. So we got this one neighbor.

748
00:34:56,719 --> 00:34:59,840
Speaker 1: He's a little a little odd from a few times

749
00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:02,200
Speaker 1: seen him, I don't know, I don't get like a

750
00:35:02,239 --> 00:35:06,880
Speaker 1: good vibe from him. So I had this like diet doctor,

751
00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:11,239
Speaker 1: like a diet coke bottle, like a near where like

752
00:35:11,280 --> 00:35:13,879
Speaker 1: I was parked or whatever it was. It was in

753
00:35:13,920 --> 00:35:16,880
Speaker 1: my area. I like it moved off to the side.

754
00:35:17,280 --> 00:35:19,160
Speaker 1: But I didn't put that there because I don't drink that, naw,

755
00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:22,000
Speaker 1: And my roommate Alex doesn't drink that either, So it's

756
00:35:22,040 --> 00:35:25,319
Speaker 1: just like, okay, weird. But yesterday when I was getting

757
00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 1: out of my car, I looked in that neighbor he's

758
00:35:28,239 --> 00:35:31,400
Speaker 1: like my car neighbor. I looked in his car and

759
00:35:31,440 --> 00:35:34,759
Speaker 1: I saw the exact kind of bottle, like that coke

760
00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:36,239
Speaker 1: bottle in his car.

761
00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:37,960
Speaker 2: He's putting it in your area.

762
00:35:38,200 --> 00:35:40,200
Speaker 1: So I guess he must have like left one in

763
00:35:40,239 --> 00:35:43,239
Speaker 1: the area and then just let it sit over there

764
00:35:43,239 --> 00:35:46,000
Speaker 1: where it was. Alex got it thankfully.

765
00:35:45,600 --> 00:35:47,799
Speaker 2: But yeah, I was like, that's weird.

766
00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:49,279
Speaker 1: Dude, that's your trash.

767
00:35:49,000 --> 00:35:53,040
Speaker 2: And trash is like right there too, Like he could

768
00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:55,080
Speaker 2: have thrown it out, like the trash can aren't they

769
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:55,680
Speaker 2: like right there?

770
00:35:55,920 --> 00:35:58,200
Speaker 1: No, no, you have to go upstairs. Yeah, but he

771
00:35:58,280 --> 00:36:01,200
Speaker 1: just didn't pick up his trash. So that's strike one,

772
00:36:01,400 --> 00:36:03,719
Speaker 1: trick one, my dude. Next time I see it happen,

773
00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:04,839
Speaker 1: I'm gonna put it on his car.

774
00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:06,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, put it in his car as you should.

775
00:36:06,400 --> 00:36:06,839
Speaker 1: There you go.

776
00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:08,880
Speaker 2: That's that's on him.

777
00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:10,920
Speaker 1: Yep. I'm gonna do the next one. Ready for us.

778
00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:13,399
Speaker 2: I've had enough of my free loading.

779
00:36:13,120 --> 00:36:14,480
Speaker 1: Friend found to pay up.

780
00:36:14,680 --> 00:36:18,000
Speaker 2: I am a very kind and caring person, and I

781
00:36:18,080 --> 00:36:20,719
Speaker 2: take after my dad. He was very charitable and he

782
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:22,759
Speaker 2: liked to help people who were in need. He was

783
00:36:22,760 --> 00:36:25,319
Speaker 2: a very rich man. So this friend and I got

784
00:36:25,360 --> 00:36:27,920
Speaker 2: along well, and occasionally we would take our children to

785
00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:30,440
Speaker 2: parks and county fairs, movies, et cetera.

786
00:36:30,560 --> 00:36:33,120
Speaker 1: Oh that's home, my great grandpa was. Oh, I try

787
00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:33,600
Speaker 1: to be like that.

788
00:36:33,880 --> 00:36:36,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you are. Thanks her three kids have

789
00:36:36,719 --> 00:36:40,160
Speaker 2: behavioral issues. She lets them get away with anything. She

790
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:43,560
Speaker 2: just sits back and smiles while her kids destroy everything

791
00:36:43,600 --> 00:36:47,040
Speaker 2: in other people's homes. By the way, this comes from

792
00:36:47,080 --> 00:36:49,399
Speaker 2: Snoo Riffers five seven oh three and if you want

793
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:51,960
Speaker 2: to spend your own stories, go to the yr slash Okay, storytime,

794
00:36:52,000 --> 00:36:54,239
Speaker 2: separate it. Her boyfriend, the father of two of her

795
00:36:54,239 --> 00:36:57,719
Speaker 2: three children, is not around much one dime, she insisted

796
00:36:57,719 --> 00:37:00,600
Speaker 2: on taking her minivan to a county fair. I would

797
00:37:00,640 --> 00:37:02,719
Speaker 2: have preferred to take my own vehicle and just come

798
00:37:02,760 --> 00:37:05,480
Speaker 2: home when my kids six and three got tired. So

799
00:37:05,600 --> 00:37:08,080
Speaker 2: my friend Angie asked if we can go have season

800
00:37:08,120 --> 00:37:10,640
Speaker 2: The gas fair enough, but I gave her fifty dollars

801
00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:13,360
Speaker 2: and told her forty dollars for gas and ten dollars

802
00:37:13,360 --> 00:37:16,480
Speaker 2: for parking. The next day, she's moved up, came over

803
00:37:16,560 --> 00:37:19,200
Speaker 2: bright and early to pick us up. She said, we

804
00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:21,400
Speaker 2: need gas, and we go to the gas station and

805
00:37:21,440 --> 00:37:25,520
Speaker 2: she looks at me says we need gas. I said, okay,

806
00:37:25,719 --> 00:37:27,480
Speaker 2: forty dollars is going to get you a full tank

807
00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:30,840
Speaker 2: of gas. She still kept looking at me and my purse.

808
00:37:31,560 --> 00:37:34,520
Speaker 2: I reminded her that I already gave her the money.

809
00:37:34,800 --> 00:37:38,440
Speaker 2: She said that's for food and tickets for her kids fifteen, twelve,

810
00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:41,640
Speaker 2: and nine. Oh oh, so wait, I'm sorry, I'm paying.

811
00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:44,600
Speaker 2: I'm paying for your kids to go out.

812
00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:47,600
Speaker 1: Interesting that that's new. And I guess she wants to

813
00:37:47,640 --> 00:37:49,520
Speaker 1: give you a round so she can start, you know,

814
00:37:49,680 --> 00:37:50,960
Speaker 1: hugging you like a piggie bank.

815
00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:53,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's thinking, well, my kids really want a truro

816
00:37:54,560 --> 00:37:56,359
Speaker 2: and I just thought you would be buying that.

817
00:37:56,400 --> 00:37:58,200
Speaker 1: I would like to know why they picked a pig

818
00:37:58,280 --> 00:37:59,200
Speaker 1: for the piggie bank.

819
00:37:59,239 --> 00:37:59,960
Speaker 2: It's a good question.

820
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:01,959
Speaker 1: I don't know. Some one of the comments helped me how.

821
00:38:02,080 --> 00:38:04,120
Speaker 2: I saw my husband pull up his truck and my

822
00:38:04,200 --> 00:38:06,600
Speaker 2: kids wanted to be with Tad. I just told Angie

823
00:38:06,680 --> 00:38:09,160
Speaker 2: that I think we'll all just go home and she

824
00:38:09,239 --> 00:38:12,120
Speaker 2: and her kids can go by themselves. I was really

825
00:38:12,160 --> 00:38:12,879
Speaker 2: pissed by then.

826
00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:16,440
Speaker 1: Just let everyone know. This is evil Angie, not my Angie.

827
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:17,600
Speaker 2: This is not good Angie.

828
00:38:17,680 --> 00:38:20,320
Speaker 1: I don't know who this woman is, no affiliation.

829
00:38:19,920 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 2: To our Angie. And occasionally when a group of us

830
00:38:22,120 --> 00:38:24,040
Speaker 2: would have a girl's night out, she would come too,

831
00:38:24,280 --> 00:38:26,239
Speaker 2: eat and drink, and then she would reach over and

832
00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:28,960
Speaker 2: whisper that she doesn't have any money.

833
00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:29,720
Speaker 1: Girl.

834
00:38:30,000 --> 00:38:32,920
Speaker 2: She goes, I don't have any money.

835
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:33,560
Speaker 1: Girl.

836
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:37,200
Speaker 2: I paid a couple of times, but insisted she pay

837
00:38:37,320 --> 00:38:40,080
Speaker 2: me back. I waited weeks for the money before we

838
00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:43,560
Speaker 2: all went out again as usual. She leans in and

839
00:38:43,560 --> 00:38:47,120
Speaker 2: whispers that she doesn't have any cash or a card

840
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:47,640
Speaker 2: to pay.

841
00:38:48,040 --> 00:38:48,400
Speaker 1: Girl.

842
00:38:49,680 --> 00:38:51,960
Speaker 2: I said, I only have forty dollars and that's enough

843
00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:54,080
Speaker 2: to pay for my order and my share of the tip.

844
00:38:54,400 --> 00:38:57,360
Speaker 2: She turned red and got emotional. My friends chipped in

845
00:38:57,400 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 2: to pay for a share, and later we decided not

846
00:38:59,760 --> 00:39:04,200
Speaker 2: to include her anymore because we can't support freeloaders. Yeah,

847
00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:06,160
Speaker 2: you shouldn't be going out if you don't have the

848
00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:08,960
Speaker 2: money to go out. End of story. Unless your friends

849
00:39:09,040 --> 00:39:12,120
Speaker 2: explicitly say, like you said, your friends, I'm sorry, like

850
00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:14,200
Speaker 2: I can't afford to go out right now, and they say, oh,

851
00:39:14,400 --> 00:39:15,560
Speaker 2: like we're gonna pay for you.

852
00:39:15,360 --> 00:39:17,239
Speaker 1: You know, well, I'll say if you had money, I

853
00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:20,120
Speaker 1: said what you wanted to eat? Yeah, And that's contextual,

854
00:39:20,360 --> 00:39:23,759
Speaker 1: and that's between friends in this scenario. Thanks to the

855
00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:25,640
Speaker 1: last till the check shows.

856
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:28,120
Speaker 2: Up, because she goes, ooh, I've already eaten. I don't

857
00:39:28,120 --> 00:39:30,399
Speaker 2: have any money to pay for this, right.

858
00:39:30,440 --> 00:39:32,000
Speaker 1: I think they're looking for a cleaner in the bag.

859
00:39:32,080 --> 00:39:33,760
Speaker 2: I was about to say, this is like that episode

860
00:39:33,760 --> 00:39:38,000
Speaker 2: of Victorious where Tory and I think Kat are eating

861
00:39:38,080 --> 00:39:40,720
Speaker 2: at the sushi place and they don't have enough money

862
00:39:40,760 --> 00:39:42,400
Speaker 2: to pay for the sushi, and so then they have

863
00:39:42,440 --> 00:39:44,880
Speaker 2: to be little dish cleaners.

864
00:39:44,960 --> 00:39:47,680
Speaker 1: What do restaurants do in that scenario? I wonder, I

865
00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:50,799
Speaker 1: think you get like arrested really where the police are good,

866
00:39:50,880 --> 00:39:53,400
Speaker 1: Like I'm gonna get arrested for well, you even get arrested,

867
00:39:53,440 --> 00:39:55,440
Speaker 1: but the police can get called there. Yeah, because like

868
00:39:55,640 --> 00:39:57,480
Speaker 1: for a mcdouble, you have to pay first for you

869
00:39:57,480 --> 00:39:57,960
Speaker 1: get the food.

870
00:39:58,080 --> 00:40:00,960
Speaker 2: Yeah. Mmm. I have always helped her, even after she

871
00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 2: moved away. I would give them groceries and anything I

872
00:40:03,680 --> 00:40:06,600
Speaker 2: had extra. She even called ones to see if we

873
00:40:06,640 --> 00:40:09,440
Speaker 2: had any booze left over from a previous party. She

874
00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:11,720
Speaker 2: was going to drive to at least ten liquor stores

875
00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:14,440
Speaker 2: to get here for half a bottle of rum. I

876
00:40:14,480 --> 00:40:17,560
Speaker 2: don't drink hard booze anyway, and we're just not big drinkers.

877
00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:20,120
Speaker 2: I told her I had poured it out and thrown

878
00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:23,759
Speaker 2: the bottle away. Her kids are so badly behaved that

879
00:40:23,880 --> 00:40:27,600
Speaker 2: every one of us dreads seeing them. They are entitled

880
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:30,000
Speaker 2: and they have to eat everything and leave it halfway

881
00:40:30,080 --> 00:40:33,400
Speaker 2: because they saw something else, waste it and go on.

882
00:40:34,120 --> 00:40:37,080
Speaker 2: So I was in the hospital last week for eight days.

883
00:40:37,320 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 1: Oh wait, what you can't just skip like that.

884
00:40:39,840 --> 00:40:42,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're skipping forward. She's in the hospital now. My

885
00:40:43,080 --> 00:40:45,400
Speaker 2: husband went to the grocery store to grab some things

886
00:40:45,840 --> 00:40:48,000
Speaker 2: and he ran into Angie with her kids in tow.

887
00:40:48,360 --> 00:40:50,640
Speaker 2: He told her that I was at home recovering from

888
00:40:50,719 --> 00:40:53,680
Speaker 2: a pretty big surgery and my aunt was here to help.

889
00:40:54,000 --> 00:40:56,840
Speaker 2: He'd been home for barely ten minutes when Angie and

890
00:40:56,880 --> 00:40:57,719
Speaker 2: her kids showed up.

891
00:40:57,800 --> 00:40:59,759
Speaker 1: Oh heck, are they trying to rob?

892
00:41:00,400 --> 00:41:03,920
Speaker 2: They're like ha ha oh pie'ce benridden. It's finally on

893
00:41:04,160 --> 00:41:07,520
Speaker 2: time to strike. Oh no, we didn't think to check

894
00:41:07,560 --> 00:41:10,440
Speaker 2: the security cameras before My husband answered the door, and

895
00:41:10,480 --> 00:41:13,680
Speaker 2: they all pushed past him, even as he was saying,

896
00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:16,720
Speaker 2: I told you she's not up for company. The kids

897
00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:20,200
Speaker 2: immediately tried going upstairs, and my aunt didn't let them.

898
00:41:20,719 --> 00:41:23,280
Speaker 2: The reason they were there was because the oldest one's

899
00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:26,440
Speaker 2: birthday was the next day. He kept asking me to

900
00:41:26,440 --> 00:41:29,120
Speaker 2: give him some cash for his birthday. I want cash

901
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 2: for my birthday. Give me money, And he's like, I

902
00:41:32,239 --> 00:41:36,799
Speaker 2: am in bed recovering from surgery now, and he's like,

903
00:41:36,840 --> 00:41:38,480
Speaker 2: but mom said, you'd give me money.

904
00:41:38,960 --> 00:41:41,160
Speaker 1: I just wants that's it.

905
00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:45,120
Speaker 2: H I said, Nope, no more birthday gifts or cash.

906
00:41:45,200 --> 00:41:47,680
Speaker 2: That I've been nice to everyone and people take advantage

907
00:41:47,719 --> 00:41:50,000
Speaker 2: of me, and that I was not up for company

908
00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:53,759
Speaker 2: and every time they all have high expectations, I said,

909
00:41:53,800 --> 00:41:56,760
Speaker 2: I really needed them to go home. They all left

910
00:41:56,760 --> 00:41:58,760
Speaker 2: in a huff, and Angie called one of our friends

911
00:41:58,800 --> 00:42:01,719
Speaker 2: in the group to witch about how I've changed and

912
00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:05,080
Speaker 2: was mean and basically a knucklehead to our kids.

913
00:42:05,400 --> 00:42:07,799
Speaker 1: Dude, get a reality check, chump check?

914
00:42:08,040 --> 00:42:08,439
Speaker 2: Oh what?

915
00:42:08,840 --> 00:42:12,759
Speaker 1: Yeah? Okay? Yesterday for everyone knowing, I was on the

916
00:42:12,800 --> 00:42:14,919
Speaker 1: live stream, yeah, and the code and I were talking

917
00:42:14,920 --> 00:42:17,400
Speaker 1: about how this guy was getting put down by his

918
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:19,560
Speaker 1: girlfriend and he decided to break up. I was like,

919
00:42:19,600 --> 00:42:22,439
Speaker 1: sometimes those scenarios you need chump check, where you see

920
00:42:22,440 --> 00:42:25,279
Speaker 1: if you're the Trump and the scenario, and I'm gonna

921
00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:28,160
Speaker 1: work on building an app, yeah, where you put your name.

922
00:42:28,320 --> 00:42:30,920
Speaker 2: Second app we have in this episode. Wait, what's the

923
00:42:30,960 --> 00:42:32,879
Speaker 2: other app is find a Brother?

924
00:42:33,120 --> 00:42:33,680
Speaker 1: Find a brother?

925
00:42:33,800 --> 00:42:34,879
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, right brother.

926
00:42:34,960 --> 00:42:36,640
Speaker 1: We have find the Right Brother. And then we have

927
00:42:36,680 --> 00:42:38,879
Speaker 1: this one called chump check, where you put your name

928
00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:42,800
Speaker 1: put like your relationship your mom, dad, brother or sister,

929
00:42:42,960 --> 00:42:46,120
Speaker 1: you know whatever in this case friend, and then you

930
00:42:46,120 --> 00:42:48,759
Speaker 1: give a little context about what's going on, and then

931
00:42:48,800 --> 00:42:52,640
Speaker 1: from that we make quiz answers or questions.

932
00:42:52,719 --> 00:42:54,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like the yes or no thing like if

933
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:56,840
Speaker 2: this yes, if this no?

934
00:42:57,080 --> 00:42:59,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, And then from there you put a referral

935
00:43:00,400 --> 00:43:02,680
Speaker 1: for your friend, and then it also gets sent a

936
00:43:02,719 --> 00:43:04,320
Speaker 1: link to cross reference.

937
00:43:04,440 --> 00:43:08,000
Speaker 2: Oh, I like it, and there they find out that

938
00:43:08,000 --> 00:43:08,839
Speaker 2: they're the chump, and.

939
00:43:08,800 --> 00:43:10,239
Speaker 1: Then we'll see who the chump is.

940
00:43:10,440 --> 00:43:11,200
Speaker 2: It's good stuff.

941
00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:13,759
Speaker 1: I think this is what's needed here. That's what the

942
00:43:13,760 --> 00:43:14,400
Speaker 1: world needs.

943
00:43:14,600 --> 00:43:17,240
Speaker 2: Does wanting to rest and recover at home without people

944
00:43:17,280 --> 00:43:20,600
Speaker 2: coming over uninvited make me an ale? And also for

945
00:43:20,680 --> 00:43:23,439
Speaker 2: not feeding them or giving them sodas and other things

946
00:43:23,520 --> 00:43:26,839
Speaker 2: they wanted. And there's some comments, let's get into them,

947
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:30,399
Speaker 2: com and one not the ale. I'm sorry it took

948
00:43:30,520 --> 00:43:33,200
Speaker 2: so long, but it's good that you stuck up for yourself.

949
00:43:33,320 --> 00:43:36,000
Speaker 2: I would have cut contact with her long ago. I

950
00:43:36,120 --> 00:43:38,319
Speaker 2: tend to be kind and giving, but I'll ghost you

951
00:43:38,360 --> 00:43:40,319
Speaker 2: if you don't treat me with the respect. If you're

952
00:43:40,320 --> 00:43:43,239
Speaker 2: feeling emboldened, tell her not to expect anything from you

953
00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:47,000
Speaker 2: anymore unless it's on your terms and you offer it yourself.

954
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:50,680
Speaker 2: Whether it's conscious or not, I bet it is. She's

955
00:43:50,840 --> 00:43:53,640
Speaker 2: using you. If your friends didn't think she was using you,

956
00:43:53,680 --> 00:43:55,520
Speaker 2: they would have kept inviting her when you went out.

957
00:43:55,680 --> 00:43:57,080
Speaker 2: This lady isn't your friend.

958
00:43:57,160 --> 00:43:58,000
Speaker 1: She's a leech.

959
00:43:58,400 --> 00:44:01,719
Speaker 2: Opie says thank you. Just last year before Christmas, I

960
00:44:01,760 --> 00:44:05,080
Speaker 2: saw her at Target for kids toys, and my husband

961
00:44:05,120 --> 00:44:07,399
Speaker 2: and I decided to give her eighty dollars for her

962
00:44:07,800 --> 00:44:10,319
Speaker 2: to buy her kids something on our behalf, and as

963
00:44:10,360 --> 00:44:12,400
Speaker 2: we were leaving, she came up running to ask us

964
00:44:12,440 --> 00:44:14,799
Speaker 2: to loan her twenty dollars because she wanted to buy

965
00:44:14,800 --> 00:44:17,560
Speaker 2: a Disney movie. We looked at her and I said

966
00:44:17,840 --> 00:44:20,400
Speaker 2: I just gave you eighty dollars and that she should

967
00:44:20,440 --> 00:44:22,360
Speaker 2: use that money. She said, I need to buy something

968
00:44:22,360 --> 00:44:24,480
Speaker 2: else with that money, but I'll pay you back. Before

969
00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:27,480
Speaker 2: I could say anything, my husband said absolutely not, and

970
00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:30,440
Speaker 2: that we have gifts to buy for other kids. Reply says,

971
00:44:30,520 --> 00:44:32,120
Speaker 2: I have a friend that used to do this type

972
00:44:32,120 --> 00:44:35,040
Speaker 2: of thing. The difference was that they were easily one

973
00:44:35,080 --> 00:44:38,520
Speaker 2: of my kindest friends. After the first dozen times I

974
00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:41,200
Speaker 2: heard I'll pay you back, I told them that I'd

975
00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:43,840
Speaker 2: still be friends, but our friendship would no longer have

976
00:44:44,040 --> 00:44:48,080
Speaker 2: any money involved. Smart we're still friends today, okay. Or

977
00:44:48,120 --> 00:44:50,600
Speaker 2: I just learned that you couldn't lend them money, which

978
00:44:50,680 --> 00:44:53,520
Speaker 2: is hard if they're nice. Yeah, yeah, it's like, oh,

979
00:44:53,520 --> 00:44:56,160
Speaker 2: they're so nice, but I can't. I can't give them money.

980
00:44:56,280 --> 00:44:59,000
Speaker 2: In your case, though she doesn't sound like she gives back,

981
00:44:59,200 --> 00:45:01,920
Speaker 2: it's very much a one way street. There's nothing left

982
00:45:01,920 --> 00:45:04,360
Speaker 2: in this relationship for you. It's nice to care for

983
00:45:04,440 --> 00:45:07,239
Speaker 2: your friends, but don't forget to care for yourself too.

984
00:45:07,680 --> 00:45:10,399
Speaker 2: Opie says, my problem is I have a bleeding heart,

985
00:45:10,440 --> 00:45:12,920
Speaker 2: which I got from my dad. We always help the

986
00:45:13,040 --> 00:45:15,480
Speaker 2: less fortunate. I am glad you put a stop to

987
00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:17,839
Speaker 2: your friends mooching. I don't think I want to even

988
00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:20,640
Speaker 2: be friends with her, mostly because of her needs and

989
00:45:20,719 --> 00:45:23,160
Speaker 2: her kids. I was more than kind to them and

990
00:45:23,280 --> 00:45:26,319
Speaker 2: even help them with groceries. Don't tell my husband. It's

991
00:45:26,320 --> 00:45:29,040
Speaker 2: a really bad feeling to realize that people use you

992
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:30,960
Speaker 2: and they hate it when you put a stop to

993
00:45:31,040 --> 00:45:34,400
Speaker 2: it and get mad. M reply says, give your bleeding

994
00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:35,879
Speaker 2: heart to the people who deserve it.

995
00:45:35,880 --> 00:45:38,400
Speaker 1: Not the ale facts. It's hard to see who to

996
00:45:38,440 --> 00:45:40,480
Speaker 1: give it to. When the person run in front of

997
00:45:40,520 --> 00:45:42,040
Speaker 1: you needs it as well.

998
00:45:42,080 --> 00:45:44,319
Speaker 2: Common two says, not the a hole. Givers have to

999
00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:47,360
Speaker 2: set limits because takers never do. This woman is not

1000
00:45:47,560 --> 00:45:50,240
Speaker 2: your friend. Common three says, not the a hole. Stop

1001
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:52,480
Speaker 2: feeling bad. You're a good friend and she's a mooch.

1002
00:45:52,760 --> 00:45:55,080
Speaker 2: I'm guessing she would have dumped you long ago if

1003
00:45:55,080 --> 00:45:57,160
Speaker 2: it weren't for you giving her money all the time.

1004
00:45:57,320 --> 00:45:59,880
Speaker 2: I doubt she will ever be a better friend, So timed,

1005
00:46:00,200 --> 00:46:02,680
Speaker 2: let the friendship go. Your friend group will probably also

1006
00:46:02,719 --> 00:46:05,840
Speaker 2: get sick of her completely. And there is an update, folks,

1007
00:46:06,080 --> 00:46:09,400
Speaker 2: But any final thoughts before we jump into this update.

1008
00:46:09,640 --> 00:46:11,640
Speaker 1: I had to go by the rule of thumb. Yeah,

1009
00:46:11,640 --> 00:46:14,920
Speaker 1: if I see this person, am I excited? Do I

1010
00:46:15,120 --> 00:46:17,120
Speaker 1: enjoy the person I am when I get home at

1011
00:46:17,120 --> 00:46:19,279
Speaker 1: the end of the day after hanging out with them?

1012
00:46:19,360 --> 00:46:22,280
Speaker 2: Yeah? I mean, like, what do they offer to you? Yeah?

1013
00:46:22,440 --> 00:46:24,480
Speaker 2: Because I want to be excited to call all my

1014
00:46:24,560 --> 00:46:27,160
Speaker 2: friends and hang out with them. And like, obviously there

1015
00:46:27,160 --> 00:46:31,120
Speaker 2: are you know, shifts and stuff and sometimes seasons. Yeah,

1016
00:46:31,160 --> 00:46:34,840
Speaker 2: there's seasons. But for the most part, if you're dreading

1017
00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:38,879
Speaker 2: talking to your friend or seeing them every time.

1018
00:46:38,920 --> 00:46:40,000
Speaker 1: Then they shouldn't be your friends.

1019
00:46:40,040 --> 00:46:42,320
Speaker 2: They shouldn't be your friend. But there's an update.

1020
00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:45,120
Speaker 1: John here og host. We're gonna get back to these stories,

1021
00:46:45,160 --> 00:46:47,480
Speaker 1: but a quick three minute break from ass for more sponsors.

1022
00:46:47,920 --> 00:46:50,160
Speaker 2: Thank you for all the support many of you showed.

1023
00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:52,879
Speaker 2: I couldn't let the family be homeless, so I called

1024
00:46:52,920 --> 00:46:55,160
Speaker 2: a friend who works for a homeless shelter that works

1025
00:46:55,160 --> 00:46:57,719
Speaker 2: with families with underage kids. They're going to go in

1026
00:46:57,760 --> 00:47:00,160
Speaker 2: the shelter and have room and board, and eventually they

1027
00:47:00,160 --> 00:47:02,880
Speaker 2: will get two connecting bedrooms as they become available.

1028
00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:06,160
Speaker 1: Way are they homeless? Wow? Yeah, that was dang. I

1029
00:47:06,200 --> 00:47:09,520
Speaker 1: guess dang, I guess you Yeah, I guess.

1030
00:47:09,560 --> 00:47:12,800
Speaker 2: So. Yeah, they will get breakfast, lunch, dinner with snacks,

1031
00:47:12,840 --> 00:47:15,000
Speaker 2: et cetera. They have to be in by a certain

1032
00:47:15,000 --> 00:47:16,920
Speaker 2: time every night and won't be allowed to come and

1033
00:47:16,960 --> 00:47:19,600
Speaker 2: go as they please after nine pm. I believe there's

1034
00:47:19,640 --> 00:47:21,880
Speaker 2: more to this story, but goodness, I mean, I do

1035
00:47:21,960 --> 00:47:24,080
Speaker 2: want to say, like, she might be a terrible friend,

1036
00:47:24,080 --> 00:47:26,120
Speaker 2: but I don't want anyone who has kids to be

1037
00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:28,880
Speaker 2: in this situation. So it's good that you helped her

1038
00:47:28,880 --> 00:47:29,960
Speaker 2: find a safe place.

1039
00:47:30,080 --> 00:47:31,680
Speaker 1: I was about to say, you know, it's not.

1040
00:47:31,760 --> 00:47:34,880
Speaker 2: Ideal at all, because they don't have a house, but

1041
00:47:34,960 --> 00:47:36,880
Speaker 2: they have a roof over their head, which is good

1042
00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:38,840
Speaker 2: for you know, especially when you have young kids. But

1043
00:47:38,920 --> 00:47:39,680
Speaker 2: I mean for anyone.

1044
00:47:39,760 --> 00:47:42,560
Speaker 1: But hopefully you can sleep good tonight knowing you yeah,

1045
00:47:42,640 --> 00:47:45,080
Speaker 1: you still care and love them, but you just can't

1046
00:47:45,080 --> 00:47:46,400
Speaker 1: evolve yourself in the scenario.

1047
00:47:46,520 --> 00:47:48,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, but there's a little bit left. The mother will

1048
00:47:48,920 --> 00:47:51,200
Speaker 2: have to get random tests done to make sure she's

1049
00:47:51,280 --> 00:47:54,000
Speaker 2: not using They will all be required to follow house

1050
00:47:54,080 --> 00:47:56,759
Speaker 2: rules and guidelines, and the mother will have to find

1051
00:47:56,760 --> 00:47:59,600
Speaker 2: a job and save any money she earns. They have

1052
00:47:59,640 --> 00:48:01,880
Speaker 2: to save now for their first and last month's front

1053
00:48:01,960 --> 00:48:04,719
Speaker 2: and deposit. The kids will have school buses pick them

1054
00:48:04,760 --> 00:48:06,960
Speaker 2: up and drop them off. It's a six to twelve

1055
00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:09,319
Speaker 2: month program and they will have to be on their

1056
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:12,080
Speaker 2: best behavior. That's a really good program.

1057
00:48:12,160 --> 00:48:14,960
Speaker 1: This is awesome. It's kind of cool to see how

1058
00:48:15,600 --> 00:48:19,360
Speaker 1: this probe. These people are interviewing, intervening in these people's

1059
00:48:19,360 --> 00:48:22,640
Speaker 1: lives and giving them more structure. I feel like sometimes

1060
00:48:22,840 --> 00:48:25,880
Speaker 1: a lack of structure, it can be difficult. Yeah, and

1061
00:48:25,920 --> 00:48:27,719
Speaker 1: they're giving them that and it might be a good

1062
00:48:27,800 --> 00:48:29,480
Speaker 1: role model for kids because they probably didn't have any

1063
00:48:29,480 --> 00:48:30,239
Speaker 1: structure going up.

1064
00:48:30,320 --> 00:48:33,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, And also it's really hard to save money while

1065
00:48:33,800 --> 00:48:36,399
Speaker 2: you're actively trying to keep yourself off the streets. So

1066
00:48:37,200 --> 00:48:40,200
Speaker 2: providing them a safe place is going to be really helpful.

1067
00:48:40,360 --> 00:48:42,760
Speaker 2: There will be help for them with their behavioral issues.

1068
00:48:43,000 --> 00:48:45,600
Speaker 2: This former friend, Angie has found out it's me who

1069
00:48:45,680 --> 00:48:48,319
Speaker 2: arranged all this, and she wants to thank me, but

1070
00:48:48,400 --> 00:48:51,040
Speaker 2: I prefer that she just leaves us alone and takes

1071
00:48:51,080 --> 00:48:53,640
Speaker 2: advantage of this opportunity. You didn't want to move in

1072
00:48:53,640 --> 00:48:56,160
Speaker 2: with her mother because she has rules as well, so

1073
00:48:56,239 --> 00:48:58,120
Speaker 2: I don't know how they will deal with the rules

1074
00:48:58,120 --> 00:48:59,959
Speaker 2: at the shelter. I think I have done my share.

1075
00:49:00,440 --> 00:49:02,400
Speaker 2: Now the ball is in her court. If she doesn't

1076
00:49:02,400 --> 00:49:05,239
Speaker 2: want her kids taken away. Wow, well I wish that

1077
00:49:05,280 --> 00:49:07,319
Speaker 2: woman luck because I don't want her to have her

1078
00:49:07,400 --> 00:49:10,480
Speaker 2: kids taken away. But yeah, it makes sense. Balls court now, Yeah, OK,

1079
00:49:10,719 --> 00:49:13,640
Speaker 2: you did what you could. You were getting taken advantage of.

1080
00:49:14,160 --> 00:49:16,680
Speaker 2: You don't want to burn yourself to keep her warm,

1081
00:49:16,800 --> 00:49:18,560
Speaker 2: so you did what you did, and you did what

1082
00:49:18,640 --> 00:49:20,799
Speaker 2: you could. But that's the end of that story and

1083
00:49:20,840 --> 00:49:23,200
Speaker 2: the end of this episode. So if you love us,

1084
00:49:23,239 --> 00:49:26,799
Speaker 2: make sure to subscribe We Love You and see it tomorrow.