WEBVTT - MID-WEEK MOM CHAT: Flow Session. 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:04.360 Hey, what's up y'all? So on this midweek mom chat, 0:00:04.760 --> 0:00:06.760 I was kind of thinking, like, what do I want 0:00:06.760 --> 0:00:09.399 to talk about? There's always so many things racing through 0:00:09.400 --> 0:00:11.440 my head. At this point in my life was sunny 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:20.919 and life and balancing um, motherhood and balancing a career 0:00:21.160 --> 0:00:24.880 that you're loving and trying to grow and feel called 0:00:24.920 --> 0:00:29.040 to do, and also we all need to make money. 0:00:29.720 --> 0:00:32.640 And when you have a kid, I don't know, it's 0:00:32.680 --> 0:00:38.479 like something happens where you just feel like this burn. 0:00:38.840 --> 0:00:41.720 It's like it's not that I didn't have a burn before, 0:00:41.800 --> 0:00:44.080 but it's like, now I have a kid, it's like, Okay, 0:00:44.240 --> 0:00:46.440 I gotta get focused and like I got a zero 0:00:46.600 --> 0:00:51.280 in on what I'm doing and making sure that I'm 0:00:51.320 --> 0:00:53.760 on the right path and everything is the line, and 0:00:53.800 --> 0:00:59.600 just kind of cutting out um bullshit for lack of 0:00:59.640 --> 0:01:02.279 a better term, It's like you don't have time just 0:01:02.360 --> 0:01:06.480 to I'm sorry, I like cussing, but you don't have 0:01:06.520 --> 0:01:08.480 time to dick off anymore, you know what I'm saying. 0:01:08.880 --> 0:01:11.160 Not that some of y'all probably haven't ever had time 0:01:11.200 --> 0:01:13.400 to do that, but I didn't have a kid until 0:01:13.440 --> 0:01:15.520 I was much later in life, thirty six years old, 0:01:15.520 --> 0:01:17.080 and Michael and I got married when we were I 0:01:17.160 --> 0:01:20.600 was thirty and he was twenty. No, I was thirty one, 0:01:20.680 --> 0:01:23.759 he was twenty eight. Yes, I'm a puma, you guys. 0:01:24.800 --> 0:01:27.880 I am three and a half years older than Michael. 0:01:28.720 --> 0:01:32.200 A cougar is when you're ten years or more older 0:01:32.200 --> 0:01:35.000 than your spouse, your husband, and a puma is when 0:01:35.040 --> 0:01:37.959 you're five years or less. At least that's what I 0:01:38.000 --> 0:01:43.200 have decided it to be some in puma um. And 0:01:43.280 --> 0:01:46.679 so Michael and I had a lot of time together, 0:01:47.000 --> 0:01:49.440 just like we started dating when he was twenty one 0:01:49.440 --> 0:01:51.480 and I was twenty four, so we had a lot 0:01:51.520 --> 0:01:53.640 of time to grow up together, like figure stuff out. 0:01:54.080 --> 0:01:56.400 If y'all have followed along, you know, we have our story. 0:01:56.480 --> 0:01:59.680 We broke up for a little while, and we really 0:01:59.680 --> 0:02:02.560 press suit our passions and our dreams and figured out 0:02:02.560 --> 0:02:04.760 ways to make money and have jobs doing that for 0:02:04.840 --> 0:02:08.880 a long time. But when it's just you and just 0:02:08.960 --> 0:02:12.799 you and your significant other, the heat's not quite as on. 0:02:12.960 --> 0:02:15.000 You just need to figure out how to make it happen, 0:02:15.040 --> 0:02:18.120 survive and pay your rent and your bills. But now 0:02:18.120 --> 0:02:20.519 that Sunny is here, I'm like, she's gonna have school 0:02:20.680 --> 0:02:23.840 and I gotta get her clothes, and she's about start 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:27.680 eating and diapers, and I mean, I don't even know 0:02:27.720 --> 0:02:29.520 what all is going to be coming on. Eventually, she's 0:02:29.520 --> 0:02:32.880 gonna want to do after school activities like swimmy, well, 0:02:32.880 --> 0:02:34.600 I want to teach her swimming because that's very important 0:02:34.600 --> 0:02:37.760 to me, to give her swim lessons, so they'll be 0:02:37.800 --> 0:02:40.560 like swim lessons and if she wants to do gymnastics, 0:02:40.600 --> 0:02:42.799 and who knows what she's gonna be into. She might 0:02:42.840 --> 0:02:48.799 love acting or sports or something scholarly, not like her 0:02:48.840 --> 0:02:51.480 mother or her father. Neither one of us really love 0:02:51.560 --> 0:02:54.440 school that much. But I totally support school and I 0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:58.880 think it's awesome and you should definitely learn. Um, So 0:02:58.919 --> 0:03:00.760 I don't know, just a spy gets put under you 0:03:00.760 --> 0:03:02.720 where you're like, dang, I gotta make this happen. I 0:03:02.720 --> 0:03:07.720 gotta provide for my little babe. So where am I 0:03:07.720 --> 0:03:09.880 going with all this? So I always have something I'm 0:03:09.880 --> 0:03:13.560 thinking about, and I'm always having pressure, um, a little 0:03:13.560 --> 0:03:16.639 bit more pressure than I had before to just make 0:03:16.680 --> 0:03:20.560 it happen. And that's why I'm loving this podcast. I 0:03:20.560 --> 0:03:22.400 don't even know if I just made sense right then, 0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:24.080 I don't know why I started this podcast, what I 0:03:24.080 --> 0:03:25.840 was even talking about, and if I circled back around 0:03:25.840 --> 0:03:30.400 if it's making sense or not. Hopefully that made sense. Um, 0:03:30.480 --> 0:03:32.440 But I want to answer you all's questions today because 0:03:32.720 --> 0:03:35.560 I want to know what y'all want to know, like 0:03:35.880 --> 0:03:37.800 what I'm going through. If there's anything I'm going through 0:03:37.800 --> 0:03:39.800 that I can share with you guys, to just like 0:03:39.880 --> 0:03:43.200 let you know how I'm navigating this season of my life. 0:03:43.800 --> 0:03:47.320 I'm happy to share with you all because I think 0:03:47.360 --> 0:03:50.280 that's all on my phone still on. That's all that 0:03:50.360 --> 0:03:53.440 anybody is doing right now, is just navigating. Right Who 0:03:53.480 --> 0:03:56.520 texted me? I have a friend stopping by? And see 0:03:56.560 --> 0:03:58.520 that's another thing, Like I'm so grateful, Like I don't 0:03:58.560 --> 0:04:01.400 ever leave my house anymore. I'm so thankful to have 0:04:01.440 --> 0:04:03.560 friends that want to come over and see me because 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:07.320 I have. I mean, it's just so hard to leave 0:04:07.360 --> 0:04:09.720 the house. When we leave the house with Sunny, I 0:04:09.880 --> 0:04:16.039 literally have to pack up her carcy toys, several bottles 0:04:16.080 --> 0:04:17.799 just depending on how long we'll be out, my pump 0:04:17.839 --> 0:04:19.400 because I gotta pump because I can only go a 0:04:19.440 --> 0:04:22.640 few hours ut pumping. Um, so you gotta put all 0:04:22.640 --> 0:04:25.280 that in the bag. A blanket, all of our diapers, 0:04:25.360 --> 0:04:29.760 like everything, like you literally stroller. It is a process 0:04:29.839 --> 0:04:31.760 to leave the house. So I'm always very grateful and 0:04:31.760 --> 0:04:35.080 friends want to stop by and say hello. But I 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:37.240 just want to know what you guys want to talk 0:04:37.279 --> 0:04:41.080 about right now, because we're all in the big middle 0:04:41.080 --> 0:04:42.960 of this together. Like, no matter where you are in 0:04:42.960 --> 0:04:46.080 your life, whether you're single and you're looking for love 0:04:46.560 --> 0:04:49.600 and you're wondering if it's out there, or whether you 0:04:49.640 --> 0:04:54.279 are in a new relationship and you're wondering, is this 0:04:54.360 --> 0:04:56.840 the one? Are we gonna get married, We're gonna get engaged, 0:04:57.560 --> 0:04:59.760 And or if you are pregnant or just had a 0:04:59.839 --> 0:05:02.040 kid it or you can't have a baby, or you 0:05:02.080 --> 0:05:05.440 have older children, or you are dealing with loss of 0:05:06.120 --> 0:05:07.920 loss of a spouse or loss of a loved one, 0:05:07.960 --> 0:05:10.080 or loss of a career or just starting a career 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:13.039 or all of it. We're all in this wave of life. 0:05:13.160 --> 0:05:15.160 We are all just rolling through this life. I want 0:05:15.160 --> 0:05:17.120 to share something with you guys that my friend Lady 0:05:17.160 --> 0:05:21.760 Crown or Crowd or ground Er Lady Crowder talked about 0:05:21.800 --> 0:05:24.279 the other day. Um she started a little Bible study 0:05:24.320 --> 0:05:27.120 for some of our girlfriends in Nashville and I just 0:05:27.160 --> 0:05:28.880 love it. She felt it on her heart to really 0:05:28.880 --> 0:05:31.680 start this just to like not to be preacher or anything, 0:05:31.720 --> 0:05:34.440 but just like let's get together and and claim God, 0:05:34.520 --> 0:05:37.240 like we don't have to. We don't have you know, 0:05:37.279 --> 0:05:39.160 it doesn't have to be this like holier than the 0:05:39.240 --> 0:05:40.840 all type thing. We can just get together and talk 0:05:40.880 --> 0:05:43.760 about God because why not? She said, What did she say? 0:05:43.800 --> 0:05:46.840 She said, I'm not gonna Oh, I'm not gonna quote her, right. 0:05:47.600 --> 0:05:49.600 She basically said she's not going to shy away from 0:05:49.640 --> 0:05:53.000 speaking up about God in her life because I feel 0:05:53.000 --> 0:05:54.479 like I've done that before, like in the past. That 0:05:54.520 --> 0:05:56.520 you don't really want to, like pray all the time 0:05:56.520 --> 0:05:58.320 out loud in front of people. You don't really want 0:05:58.320 --> 0:06:01.760 to like say God has blessed this situation, or like 0:06:01.800 --> 0:06:04.960 bring God into moments or pause and like take time 0:06:05.000 --> 0:06:07.560 to like send a prayer to God when you're going 0:06:07.600 --> 0:06:10.200 through something or something great happens, Like a lot of 0:06:10.200 --> 0:06:13.120 times we just don't acknowledge God in the midst of 0:06:13.120 --> 0:06:17.240 our lives, in our daily lives. We only acknowledge God 0:06:17.320 --> 0:06:22.000 like at church or on holidays or when we're desperately 0:06:22.040 --> 0:06:24.279 in need of a miracle. You know, it's like, but 0:06:24.400 --> 0:06:26.200 I want to Laney encouraged me to do this, Like 0:06:26.240 --> 0:06:28.680 I want to acknowledge God all the time, and the 0:06:28.720 --> 0:06:31.479 good and the bad, and to see Him working in 0:06:31.520 --> 0:06:34.400 my life through everything, because I feel like that is 0:06:34.440 --> 0:06:37.640 the way to get rid of anxiety for me. And 0:06:37.680 --> 0:06:39.760 I told you all this year, I am not going 0:06:39.960 --> 0:06:42.880 to deal with anxiety. I am actively working to get 0:06:42.960 --> 0:06:44.680 rid of anxiety. And I have tried every different way 0:06:44.680 --> 0:06:51.039 to get rid of it. Exercise, UM, get partying UM, 0:06:51.080 --> 0:06:55.040 hanging out with friends all the time, being super busy, 0:06:55.360 --> 0:06:59.640 career pursuing career UM. Back when Michael and I were 0:06:59.680 --> 0:07:03.320 before dating, like dating a lot and then with Michael, 0:07:03.440 --> 0:07:05.960 like we've just had such a fun life traveling and 0:07:06.360 --> 0:07:08.800 getting to explore and do all sorts of stuff. But like, 0:07:09.720 --> 0:07:14.320 you can't run away from your anxiety. You know, if 0:07:14.320 --> 0:07:16.080 it's there, you can like push it down, but like 0:07:16.080 --> 0:07:17.960 you've got to figure out how to look it in 0:07:18.000 --> 0:07:19.960 the face. And for me, the only way that I 0:07:20.000 --> 0:07:23.120 can get rid of my anxiety is having God active 0:07:23.120 --> 0:07:25.360 in my life at all the time and knowing that 0:07:25.400 --> 0:07:29.240 He is guiding my life and knowing that my life 0:07:29.280 --> 0:07:32.280 is blessed and no matter what happens. If even if 0:07:32.320 --> 0:07:35.520 it feels like it's something bad that's happening, that's still 0:07:35.560 --> 0:07:37.000 a part of the plane. It's going to lead me 0:07:37.040 --> 0:07:39.000 to blessings. And so I have to believe that or 0:07:39.040 --> 0:07:41.040 else this life is too much for me because I 0:07:41.080 --> 0:07:45.960 am a fragile soul. I am I get so affected 0:07:45.960 --> 0:07:48.560 by everything, and I'm just tired of being affected by everything. 0:07:48.560 --> 0:07:50.400 So I just want to know that my life has purposed. 0:07:50.440 --> 0:07:52.920 And that's not how everyone wants to go through their life. 0:07:52.920 --> 0:07:56.760 And listen, I'm not here to preach anybody. I'm just 0:07:56.800 --> 0:08:00.640 telling you what I'm doing because I am over having 0:08:00.680 --> 0:08:03.920 anxiety and I love having God in my life. Like 0:08:04.040 --> 0:08:06.200 it makes me feel happy, it makes me feel light, 0:08:06.720 --> 0:08:09.160 It makes me feel like I can follow my calling 0:08:09.560 --> 0:08:12.360 with confidence because I know that it's coming from a 0:08:12.360 --> 0:08:15.360 bigger place and I'm not doing it for myself, Like yes, 0:08:15.400 --> 0:08:17.760 I want to reap the benefits of it and enjoy it, 0:08:17.840 --> 0:08:22.200 Like it's fun to follow your calling and experience success 0:08:22.240 --> 0:08:25.880 and fulfillment and things working out. Like I'm definitely not 0:08:25.920 --> 0:08:28.400 saying I don't want to enjoy that, but I want 0:08:28.400 --> 0:08:33.240 to enjoy They're all the rewards of working hard. Towards 0:08:33.280 --> 0:08:34.920 something because I feel like it's what I'm supposed to 0:08:34.960 --> 0:08:38.079 be doing with my life, and by listening to God, 0:08:38.120 --> 0:08:40.320 that's how I do that. And so I listen to 0:08:40.360 --> 0:08:44.000 God by following the open doors. When I feel stick 0:08:44.040 --> 0:08:45.839 in my stomach about something, or I get a not 0:08:45.960 --> 0:08:49.000 in my stomach, or if it feels resistance, or if 0:08:49.000 --> 0:08:51.040 it just like I cannot make a decision about something 0:08:51.040 --> 0:08:53.400 and I don't feel clear, or if I feel weird 0:08:53.480 --> 0:08:55.440 about it, or if I feel like I'm forcing something, 0:08:55.600 --> 0:08:57.160 then not to me is I need to stop, I 0:08:57.160 --> 0:08:58.880 need to pause, I need to wait, and like that's 0:08:58.880 --> 0:09:01.600 not time for me to move. For when something feels easy, 0:09:01.640 --> 0:09:03.280 even if I have like fear about it a little 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:07.040 bit because it's like a new chapter scary, or like WHOA, 0:09:07.080 --> 0:09:09.199 what's going to happen? As long as I feel good 0:09:09.200 --> 0:09:11.880 about it and easy and light and peaceful and everything's 0:09:11.920 --> 0:09:14.880 falling into place, then I pretty much roll with it. 0:09:15.480 --> 0:09:18.800 That's my governor these days. But Laney, and getting back 0:09:18.800 --> 0:09:22.960 to this, she said, to get to the harvest, you like, 0:09:23.160 --> 0:09:27.000 we're always in a season of abundance. I think about that, 0:09:27.320 --> 0:09:30.040 We're always in a season abundance because everything we're doing 0:09:30.120 --> 0:09:33.320 is working as towards abundance. So say, what we think 0:09:33.400 --> 0:09:35.360 we're trying to get to is the harvest, where like 0:09:35.360 --> 0:09:38.560 we have this beautiful field of wheat that is just 0:09:38.760 --> 0:09:42.240 healthy and growing and ready to be harvested by us. 0:09:42.600 --> 0:09:44.320 That's what we think the goal is. And that's what 0:09:44.400 --> 0:09:49.000 we think, that's what we think is. That is what 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:51.480 we think matters in life is getting to that harvest, 0:09:51.520 --> 0:09:53.160 and nothing else matters. And like, we just got to 0:09:53.200 --> 0:09:55.280 get to the harvest. Like the harvest is where it's at. 0:09:56.040 --> 0:09:59.840 If we're not in the harvest, we're struggling. Well, okay, 0:10:00.240 --> 0:10:02.079 all of that is a part of the harvest. Like 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:04.319 she laid this out so beautifully and I love it, 0:10:04.400 --> 0:10:07.680 y'all follow Laney. Her instagram is Laney Crowder l A 0:10:07.840 --> 0:10:10.240 N E Y c R O W d R. She's 0:10:10.760 --> 0:10:17.760 really inspirational. Um. But it's got a rain first. You 0:10:17.840 --> 0:10:20.199 gotta go through the rain to even get the ground 0:10:20.240 --> 0:10:24.240 ready to start to plant. So you've got to go 0:10:24.320 --> 0:10:27.120 through that weather in the beginning before you're even ready 0:10:27.160 --> 0:10:30.600 to start your journey. So there's that that's essential. So 0:10:30.679 --> 0:10:34.480 here we are in the rain. Then now the grounds 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:36.360 we went through that weather in that rain, and now 0:10:36.400 --> 0:10:39.560 the ground is ready. Now you gotta go plow the field. 0:10:39.840 --> 0:10:42.440 That is labor and you don't see results of that 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:45.960 plowing for a long time. So now we're plowing the field. 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:50.240 We're out there, it's hot, we're sweating, we're tired. There's 0:10:50.360 --> 0:10:52.439 endless fields that have to be plowed. It feels like 0:10:52.480 --> 0:10:54.400 we're never going to get to the harvest, but we're 0:10:54.440 --> 0:10:58.680 doing it. You're plowing. So then you finished plowing. Guess what, 0:10:58.760 --> 0:11:00.959 Now you gotta wait for the rain to come again. 0:11:01.400 --> 0:11:03.880 I mean, holy cow, now the rain is coming again. 0:11:04.000 --> 0:11:06.480 So you just wait. You went through the weather already once. 0:11:06.559 --> 0:11:08.520 Now you plow the field. Now you gotta wait for 0:11:08.559 --> 0:11:12.480 the rain again. And then sometimes it doesn't even harvest, 0:11:12.640 --> 0:11:15.680 like you don't even get the good crop, and you 0:11:15.720 --> 0:11:20.560 have to start all over again. I mean, it's unfair. 0:11:21.120 --> 0:11:23.160 But then you finally go through all that process and 0:11:23.200 --> 0:11:26.280 you get to the harvest. And I love this too, 0:11:26.280 --> 0:11:28.880 because Laney said, even the wheat like bows down when 0:11:28.880 --> 0:11:30.679 it's ready to be picked. Like if you look at 0:11:30.679 --> 0:11:32.679 wheat when it's ready to harvest, it looks like it's 0:11:32.720 --> 0:11:36.000 bowing down. And that's really kind of like a metaphorical 0:11:36.160 --> 0:11:38.480 for even when you are on the harvest, do not 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:43.520 forget to realize who who has got us, who is 0:11:43.559 --> 0:11:45.640 in control, and it is God. Like take a bow, 0:11:45.880 --> 0:11:47.760 like you have gotten to your harvest, but get on 0:11:47.800 --> 0:11:50.760 your knees and thank God for it, because we're blessed 0:11:50.760 --> 0:11:52.719 to be in a harvest and you should enjoy it 0:11:53.200 --> 0:11:54.920 and you should reap the benefits of it. But it's 0:11:54.920 --> 0:11:57.840 still hard work. When you're in your harvest, you still 0:11:57.880 --> 0:11:59.720 have to work hard. It's not like, oh, I've made it. 0:11:59.760 --> 0:12:02.520 Let me kicked back by my pool with my robe 0:12:02.520 --> 0:12:06.320 and my san Gria and my pool boy and live 0:12:06.400 --> 0:12:08.600 my life of leisure for the rest of my life. No, 0:12:09.400 --> 0:12:12.319 once you're in your harvest, you gotta work even harder 0:12:12.600 --> 0:12:15.880 to like maintain that harvest and get that crop and 0:12:16.480 --> 0:12:19.360 reap the benefits of your hard work and enjoy it. 0:12:19.400 --> 0:12:21.400 Like you gotta get out there and work. So it's 0:12:21.440 --> 0:12:26.360 like you're never really you know, you never really arrive 0:12:26.520 --> 0:12:28.880 or make it. You're always working and there's always something 0:12:28.880 --> 0:12:31.520 you've got to go through, and you always have to 0:12:31.520 --> 0:12:36.679 remember that God is taking us through these seasons because 0:12:37.600 --> 0:12:41.360 there's a point in every different phase you learn something, 0:12:41.480 --> 0:12:44.360 So make sure you're open to what you're learning. Make 0:12:44.400 --> 0:12:47.600 sure you're open to the lesson, Like, don't get so 0:12:47.679 --> 0:12:51.240 upset that you're not in a harvest season that you're 0:12:51.360 --> 0:12:53.920 missing the lesson you're supposed to be learning in the rain, 0:12:54.160 --> 0:12:56.719 in the raging season, because that's just as important as 0:12:57.040 --> 0:12:59.520 the harvest season. So I'm sorry if I'm like beating 0:12:59.559 --> 0:13:02.160 a dead are repeating myself a lot, but it is 0:13:02.200 --> 0:13:06.520 all necessary for abundance. So whatever season you're in, take 0:13:06.559 --> 0:13:09.400 a step back, try to get that three hundred foot view, 0:13:09.640 --> 0:13:12.520 like space view, like pertinct you're in an airplane, and 0:13:12.520 --> 0:13:14.400 like zoom out of your body and out of your life, 0:13:14.880 --> 0:13:17.040 and try to look at yourself from a three foot 0:13:17.240 --> 0:13:20.040 view from above and take a look at your life 0:13:20.440 --> 0:13:24.280 and see where the lessons are, see what you're learning, 0:13:24.760 --> 0:13:28.760 and be thankful, Be thankful for the season that you're 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:31.319 in because it is all a part of abundance. And 0:13:31.480 --> 0:13:33.520 so I hope that you received that message, because when 0:13:33.559 --> 0:13:36.120 Landy spoke that message, I received it and that made 0:13:36.160 --> 0:13:37.920 a lot of sense to me, and it made me 0:13:37.960 --> 0:13:41.000 really appreciate all the different seasons of my life because 0:13:42.000 --> 0:13:44.559 if we're just in constant harvest and life is easier. 0:13:44.640 --> 0:13:46.880 We're in our leisure by our pool, with our sangria 0:13:46.960 --> 0:13:50.240 and our pool. Boy, you can't live like that forever. 0:13:50.280 --> 0:13:52.520 That's just not how it isn't. If that's what you 0:13:52.559 --> 0:13:56.240 think happens when you reach success, then wipe that thought 0:13:56.280 --> 0:13:58.480 out of your mind, because that is not what success is. 0:13:58.679 --> 0:14:00.760 When you reach success, you couldn't away the fruits of 0:14:00.760 --> 0:14:03.160 your labor, but you still gotta work, and you have 0:14:03.200 --> 0:14:06.240 a responsibility once you have success to take care of 0:14:06.280 --> 0:14:08.280 all the people who are working for you and with 0:14:08.320 --> 0:14:10.679 you and believing in your vision, like, you can't let 0:14:10.679 --> 0:14:12.800 them down. You got to maintain your energy high. You 0:14:12.800 --> 0:14:15.240 got to maintain your focus, you got to maintain your drive, 0:14:15.280 --> 0:14:19.240 you gotta maintain your momentum because now when you hit 0:14:19.280 --> 0:14:21.200 that level, you have people who are relying on you 0:14:21.920 --> 0:14:23.800 and you can't let them down. You can't slack off. 0:14:24.320 --> 0:14:26.560 So it's actually like you got to even just stay 0:14:26.600 --> 0:14:29.800 better and better and better the more that you achieve. 0:14:30.280 --> 0:14:32.720 And that's why I just think you always got to 0:14:32.760 --> 0:14:35.360 remember what am I doing this for? What is my 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:38.440 bigger purpose? And if you're only doing it for yourself 0:14:38.480 --> 0:14:42.400 and for gains for yourself, you're not gonna ultimately get 0:14:42.440 --> 0:14:46.560 to that great fulfillment because we are here on this life, 0:14:46.600 --> 0:14:48.920 even if you're just serving your child, or even if 0:14:48.920 --> 0:14:51.520 you're just serving your parents, or even if you're just 0:14:51.680 --> 0:14:54.800 serving a friend or your husband or your wife or 0:14:54.840 --> 0:14:58.360 your spouse, or if you're just serving someone. Lauren Aikin 0:14:58.400 --> 0:15:00.800 said that I always say your name ros Atkins Aitken's Adkins. 0:15:00.880 --> 0:15:04.360 She's married to Thomas Raett and they she just has 0:15:04.400 --> 0:15:09.480 a a Stuart Uh servants heart, like she's got just 0:15:09.560 --> 0:15:13.200 a heart to serve. And she is very involved with children, 0:15:13.280 --> 0:15:16.960 orphan children in Haiti, and that's a big part of 0:15:16.960 --> 0:15:19.200 her mission. And I interviewed her and they adopted a girl, 0:15:19.360 --> 0:15:23.880 a little sweet girl, Willow Gray from Haiti, and um, 0:15:24.000 --> 0:15:26.080 she was talking about how life is fulfiling when you're 0:15:26.120 --> 0:15:29.040 serving others and that's how she has true happiness. And 0:15:29.080 --> 0:15:31.040 I just thought that was really profound because here she 0:15:31.200 --> 0:15:34.640 is married to Thomas Rhett, one of the biggest country 0:15:34.680 --> 0:15:39.200 stars on the planet right now, and she's talking about 0:15:39.240 --> 0:15:41.800 serving others when she could be living a life of 0:15:41.880 --> 0:15:44.400 pure leisure if she wanted to, but she's not. She's 0:15:44.480 --> 0:15:48.320 using her life to help the world and make a 0:15:48.360 --> 0:15:52.880 difference and change change the world. And she's one of 0:15:52.960 --> 0:15:55.280 the most joyful people that I personally know, and she's 0:15:55.320 --> 0:15:57.040 one of the most inspiring people to all of us. 0:15:57.040 --> 0:15:59.640 That's why the world's in love with her and Thomas 0:15:59.720 --> 0:16:01.960 Rhett because they're in love with what she's doing with 0:16:02.000 --> 0:16:04.400 her life. And it's beautiful to see someone in the 0:16:04.480 --> 0:16:09.240 spotlight who's really helping others and really making a difference. 0:16:09.440 --> 0:16:14.480 And so I just think that serving others wherever you 0:16:14.480 --> 0:16:17.920 can serve someone in your life is really great. And 0:16:17.960 --> 0:16:19.760 I need to work on that because I've been getting 0:16:19.760 --> 0:16:22.480 snappy with Michael lately. Sorry, I'm just rabbit trailing all 0:16:22.480 --> 0:16:25.280 over the place when you have a new baby and 0:16:25.280 --> 0:16:28.360 you're running your career by yourself, Like I don't have 0:16:28.400 --> 0:16:30.520 anyone helping me with my podcast. I do now that 0:16:30.560 --> 0:16:33.160 I'm partner with Bobby Bones and My Heart, which has 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:35.560 been such a blessing to be on his network, the 0:16:35.640 --> 0:16:39.360 Nashville Podcast Network. He has a producer, Mike d who's awesome, 0:16:39.440 --> 0:16:42.920 who has a movie podcast, U Mike's Movie Podcast. It's 0:16:42.960 --> 0:16:46.000 such a great podcast. Mike is really a smart guy, 0:16:46.200 --> 0:16:50.480 Like he's very awesome. He's he just is very talented, 0:16:50.480 --> 0:16:52.400 can do a lot of things, and he loves movies 0:16:52.400 --> 0:16:56.520 and he like breaks down movies and gives you explanations 0:16:56.520 --> 0:16:58.160 of why you see this movie, what you shouldn't, what's 0:16:58.160 --> 0:17:00.560 cool about it, and like really good. It's a really 0:17:00.600 --> 0:17:03.120 good review of movies and stuff. And then he has 0:17:03.200 --> 0:17:06.119 cool like podcasts about old movies and he's very creative 0:17:06.119 --> 0:17:08.320 with it. So check it out. Mike's movie podcast Mike 0:17:08.400 --> 0:17:13.920 d Um. Ever since being partnered with Bobby and It's 0:17:13.920 --> 0:17:15.520 Not work, it has been awesome because Mike's helped me 0:17:15.640 --> 0:17:19.120 edit and like brought some commercials to the podcast, which 0:17:19.160 --> 0:17:20.760 has been great because I've been able to align with 0:17:20.840 --> 0:17:23.440 brands that I believe in that I like to support 0:17:23.560 --> 0:17:26.760 and incorporate them into my podcast because this is a 0:17:26.800 --> 0:17:29.280 real podcast and it's great. Mike will shoot me nim 0:17:29.400 --> 0:17:30.639 and be like, hey, do you like this brand? Like 0:17:30.720 --> 0:17:32.919 check this out? And if I don't align with it, 0:17:32.920 --> 0:17:34.520 I won't talk about it. But if I do, I do, 0:17:34.640 --> 0:17:36.280 And so I love that. I think that's been such 0:17:36.280 --> 0:17:41.800 a blessing. Um So, but besides that, I'm completely on 0:17:41.840 --> 0:17:44.400 my own. Everything about this is self motivated, and I've 0:17:44.440 --> 0:17:46.960 loved having Bobby is a springboard because he's been able 0:17:47.000 --> 0:17:50.439 to give me great advice about like where to just 0:17:50.480 --> 0:17:53.159 like what moves to make next, and to help me 0:17:53.200 --> 0:17:56.240 like come up with a game plan. But I don't 0:17:56.240 --> 0:18:01.440 have an assistant or anybody doing anything. So between running 0:18:01.480 --> 0:18:06.560 my podcast, booking my interviews, making my videos, just doing 0:18:06.800 --> 0:18:09.359 like writing descriptions, and then I do a lot of 0:18:09.359 --> 0:18:13.880 other like brand work and just I'm writing a book. 0:18:13.880 --> 0:18:16.080 I started writing my book. Um, I wrote all of 0:18:16.119 --> 0:18:18.199 the foreword out, I wrote all the chapters out, I 0:18:18.200 --> 0:18:19.920 wrote everyone who will be featured. I'm gonna write a 0:18:19.960 --> 0:18:22.760 book based on my podcast. It's gonna be called Get Real, 0:18:22.840 --> 0:18:24.439 I think, Well, I don't know what will be called eventually, 0:18:24.520 --> 0:18:27.439 but I'm gonna write a story about lessons learned and 0:18:27.480 --> 0:18:29.879 stories told from boss babes before their boss babes on 0:18:29.920 --> 0:18:32.360 how they achieved and maintained happiness and success. And I'm 0:18:32.359 --> 0:18:34.880 gonna feature a lot of stories told on this podcast. 0:18:34.880 --> 0:18:36.280 It's gonna be like a chicken suit for the soul, 0:18:37.080 --> 0:18:40.400 but stories based from from amazing women from this podcast. 0:18:41.080 --> 0:18:44.880 So between doing all that, taking care of Sonny pumping 0:18:44.920 --> 0:18:47.840 four times a day, which takes like literally almost four 0:18:47.840 --> 0:18:52.240 hours a day, Um, getting meals ready, thankfully. Michael Cook's 0:18:52.400 --> 0:18:56.640 a lot sometimes taking a shower, which doesn't really happen 0:18:56.680 --> 0:18:59.760 that often. Sometimes I just get so burnt out of 0:18:59.760 --> 0:19:06.200 inner gene that I forget to be gentle with Michael 0:19:06.359 --> 0:19:09.520 instead of just being more like getting the business done 0:19:09.520 --> 0:19:11.119 that we need to get done in the day because 0:19:11.119 --> 0:19:13.679 we're now we're both like and he's like, he has 0:19:13.720 --> 0:19:15.600 a new single out, Drinking Song. You've got to check 0:19:15.640 --> 0:19:19.200 it out. It's awesome. It's been getting a great response. 0:19:19.320 --> 0:19:22.400 Check out a Thousand Horses Drinking Song. It's out everywhere. 0:19:22.720 --> 0:19:24.399 They have a new album coming out. He has a 0:19:24.400 --> 0:19:28.359 new record deal on Warner Brothers and Electra. Dave Cobb 0:19:28.480 --> 0:19:32.320 is one of the best producers at the of our 0:19:32.320 --> 0:19:34.600 time right now. He produced Chris Stapleton, he did The 0:19:34.680 --> 0:19:42.119 High Women, He's done Um, Jason Isabel, Brandy Carlyle. He's 0:19:42.240 --> 0:19:45.879 freaking epic. I'm missing a ton of people. But he's 0:19:45.920 --> 0:19:47.960 done A Thousand Horses all their albums and this one 0:19:48.040 --> 0:19:49.439 is the best one they've ever done. And their song, 0:19:49.560 --> 0:19:51.760 Drinking Song, is getting great momentium. Michael is about to 0:19:51.760 --> 0:19:54.720 go to Europe for three weeks, so it's like between 0:19:54.760 --> 0:19:58.080 all the things that we're doing and having a baby. 0:19:58.119 --> 0:20:00.480 Sometimes I just get like a little snappy with Michael. 0:20:00.520 --> 0:20:03.520 And it's not fair because I'm just out of energy 0:20:03.520 --> 0:20:05.240 and it's easy to just be kind of like not 0:20:05.880 --> 0:20:08.000 thoughtful as thoughtful as I need to be with him. 0:20:08.000 --> 0:20:10.840 And I've been noticing it lately, and I don't like it. 0:20:10.880 --> 0:20:13.120