WEBVTT - #1 Daily Habit to Transform Your Life & How to Set Intentions That Actually Work 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:02.680 Hey everyone, Welcome back to On Purpose, the number one 0:00:02.720 --> 0:00:05.200 health podcast in the world. Thanks to each and every 0:00:05.200 --> 0:00:07.800 one of you that come back every week to listen, 0:00:08.080 --> 0:00:11.160 learn and grow. Now. I love giving you an inside 0:00:11.200 --> 0:00:14.520 look at some of my favorite conversations, ones where I 0:00:14.600 --> 0:00:17.520 felt like I've been really in the zone. And today's 0:00:17.760 --> 0:00:20.320 one is a conversation with a guest that you loved recently, 0:00:20.840 --> 0:00:25.040 Vision Laciani, the author of the six Phase Meditation method. 0:00:25.440 --> 0:00:27.320 For those of you that love that one, I think 0:00:27.440 --> 0:00:28.960 this one's going to be a huge one for you. 0:00:29.280 --> 0:00:34.720 We talk about everything from ego through to compassion, forgiveness, 0:00:35.080 --> 0:00:39.000 and mindfulness. Please do not miss this conversation and share 0:00:39.000 --> 0:00:41.120 it with a friend as well. I really hope that 0:00:41.159 --> 0:00:44.000 it uplifts and inspires you today. Thank you so much 0:00:44.000 --> 0:00:53.440 for listening. Jets. You know, out of some two hundred 0:00:53.440 --> 0:00:55.880 speakers last year in mind Value was awarded based on 0:00:55.920 --> 0:01:00.240 audience data, is the best speaker at mind Value US 0:01:00.320 --> 0:01:04.200 all seminars, all festivals, all events for the entire year 0:01:04.200 --> 0:01:08.200 of twenty eighteen. But what is also really wonderful to 0:01:08.200 --> 0:01:11.160 say about Jay is that in today's squirrel and this 0:01:11.200 --> 0:01:14.120 is something that lights me up in today's world, the 0:01:14.280 --> 0:01:20.200 number one personality on Facebook is not a Kadashian or 0:01:20.240 --> 0:01:27.840 a politician. It is Jay Setti, a monk, a monk 0:01:28.640 --> 0:01:33.720 former monk who makes wisdom go viral. Jay Setty's videos 0:01:33.760 --> 0:01:39.760 have been viewed four billion times, four billion times. Right, 0:01:40.440 --> 0:01:45.680 But and this is since he started in twenty sixteen 0:01:45.760 --> 0:01:51.000 January twenty sixteen. But here's the crazy thing. Three billion 0:01:51.080 --> 0:01:53.880 of that four billion happened in just the last twelve months. 0:01:54.960 --> 0:02:01.040 And his growth is exponential and growing, and he, perhaps 0:02:01.080 --> 0:02:04.720 more than almost anyone else I personally know, is helping 0:02:04.800 --> 0:02:11.079 create a world where wisdom becomes viral and something that 0:02:11.120 --> 0:02:15.000 you really want to consume. Jay, welcome to mind Value again. 0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:17.000 Thank you, Vision, Thank you so much. Thank you to 0:02:17.000 --> 0:02:21.920 all of you. I'm so grateful, Thank you. I'm so 0:02:22.000 --> 0:02:24.400 grateful and touched to be he Thank you for the opportunity, Vision, 0:02:24.440 --> 0:02:25.760 and thank you to all of you for being here 0:02:25.760 --> 0:02:28.200 as well. Thank you for being here when you could 0:02:28.240 --> 0:02:30.840 be anywhere in the world, you chose to be sitting 0:02:30.880 --> 0:02:34.079 on net Sea. So let's start with the opening question. Jane, 0:02:34.880 --> 0:02:38.359 you learned so much and you just got back from 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:41.440 meditating an India in an ushroom. You know you're constantly 0:02:41.440 --> 0:02:43.760 evolving yourself. What would be some words of advice you 0:02:43.760 --> 0:02:46.360 would give to the people in this room. That's a 0:02:46.400 --> 0:02:51.760 big question. So I take out twenty one to thirty 0:02:51.840 --> 0:02:53.960 days every year to go and live back with the 0:02:53.960 --> 0:02:55.440 monks where I used to live in India. So I 0:02:55.480 --> 0:02:57.760 lived in a monk for three years, and every day 0:02:57.760 --> 0:03:01.160 I made it a priority to continue my meditation practice, 0:03:01.240 --> 0:03:03.760 which is currently two hours a day. It's been that 0:03:03.800 --> 0:03:06.919 way for the last thirteen years. It's been the bedrock 0:03:06.960 --> 0:03:09.680 and foundation of my life. So to that very big 0:03:09.760 --> 0:03:13.120 question that vision asked me, my first piece of advice 0:03:13.160 --> 0:03:18.200 would be finding your daily rituals, finding your daily habits, 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:22.560 finding your practices that act as the foundation. Because we're 0:03:22.600 --> 0:03:27.360 living in such busy, hectic, crazy times. How many of 0:03:27.400 --> 0:03:30.360 you know that you have a schedule and still half 0:03:30.360 --> 0:03:33.079 of the things don't happen on that schedule, right? Anyone 0:03:33.120 --> 0:03:34.920 ever been in that position? Or how many of you 0:03:34.960 --> 0:03:37.240 go through that process where you start watching something really 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:41.000 educational on YouTube and then two videos later you're watching 0:03:41.040 --> 0:03:43.560 something about Justin Bieber's mum, right, and it's like and 0:03:43.680 --> 0:03:45.640 then and then you're like, how did how did I 0:03:45.760 --> 0:03:49.120 get there? Like? How did that happen, and you end 0:03:49.200 --> 0:03:51.880 up getting lost in this world. And so whether it's 0:03:51.880 --> 0:03:54.080 in a small way of getting lost through the content 0:03:54.800 --> 0:03:57.200 you know, rabbit hole, or whether it's getting lost by 0:03:57.280 --> 0:04:00.840 getting distracted from what's really meaningful to you. For me, 0:04:01.880 --> 0:04:04.840 refining my intentions on a daily basis is one of 0:04:04.840 --> 0:04:07.720 my favorite favorite habits. And so what I do every 0:04:07.800 --> 0:04:10.840 day is I'll look at the plethora of options that 0:04:10.880 --> 0:04:17.360 I have available, all of the things, whether it's deals, ideas, thoughts, projects, offers, 0:04:17.440 --> 0:04:20.240 whatever it is, and on top of all of them, 0:04:20.400 --> 0:04:24.760 I'll write down why I would do that, and if 0:04:24.800 --> 0:04:33.560 the reason is often ego, pride, envy, competition, jealousy, and 0:04:33.680 --> 0:04:40.560 sometimes it's compassion, love, joy, passion, purpose, meaning fulfillment. And 0:04:40.600 --> 0:04:42.800 so what I like to do is I like to 0:04:42.920 --> 0:04:45.640 refine my intentions, which I class as seeds and weeds 0:04:45.680 --> 0:04:48.880 every day. So I want to plant more seeds in 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:51.080 the guard of my life, seeds of things that are 0:04:51.080 --> 0:04:57.680 like compassion, love, purpose fulfillment, meaning, joy, service, and weeds 0:04:57.839 --> 0:05:02.120 are when we do things out of ego, envy, competition. 0:05:02.680 --> 0:05:05.280 And so every day I'm plucking out the weeds out 0:05:05.279 --> 0:05:07.560 of my life and I'm trying to plant more seeds. 0:05:07.920 --> 0:05:12.000 How many of you want to be gardeners with me? Yeah? 0:05:12.040 --> 0:05:16.520 And I do that every day because it's so easy 0:05:16.600 --> 0:05:21.279 for me to confuse the weeds as seeds. It's so 0:05:21.360 --> 0:05:24.800 often that I've let ego grow so strong inside of 0:05:24.839 --> 0:05:27.599 me and took me forever to notice that was a weed. 0:05:27.640 --> 0:05:28.760 So I have to do every day. So that's one 0:05:28.800 --> 0:05:30.560 of my biggest piece of advice. I do it every 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:33.200 single day. It's made a huge difference in making sure 0:05:33.200 --> 0:05:35.239 I make the right choices, the right decisions with people, 0:05:35.320 --> 0:05:38.760 places and projects that I'm involved in. When you refine 0:05:38.800 --> 0:05:42.120 their intention and it gets pure and pure and pure, 0:05:42.160 --> 0:05:43.840 and not that we're ever fully pure, but it gets 0:05:43.880 --> 0:05:46.119 pure and pure and purer. You'll just see magic happen 0:05:46.160 --> 0:05:48.920 around you. So many things will open up, things that 0:05:48.960 --> 0:05:51.200 you never emagine. So you have the answer to your question, 0:05:51.240 --> 0:05:53.440 but it does, and I'll just opens up so many 0:05:53.440 --> 0:05:56.920 other questions. He said, you get you try to get 0:05:56.920 --> 0:05:59.359 your intention purer and purer. And it sounds to me 0:05:59.400 --> 0:06:01.600 like what you're saying is you're going for the feeling 0:06:01.600 --> 0:06:07.719 that it's giving you joy, bliss, passion. Right How far 0:06:07.760 --> 0:06:09.760 ahead are you looking? Are you looking at your intentions 0:06:09.760 --> 0:06:11.480 for a day, for a week, for a month, for 0:06:11.560 --> 0:06:15.640 a year. I look at intentions from places that I go, 0:06:16.320 --> 0:06:19.240 people that I spend time with, projects that I'm involved in, 0:06:19.640 --> 0:06:21.839 so in every one of those areas, and that includes 0:06:22.120 --> 0:06:24.200 everything from what I'm doing right now by being here 0:06:24.200 --> 0:06:26.400 so I'm with all of you. So I planted a 0:06:26.440 --> 0:06:28.320 seed of an intention that I wanted to come here 0:06:28.360 --> 0:06:30.120 to be of service to all of you all the 0:06:30.120 --> 0:06:32.040 way through to what do I want to be doing 0:06:32.080 --> 0:06:34.080 in twelve months. I usually don't make plans for longer 0:06:34.120 --> 0:06:36.719 than twelve months because the world change is so fast 0:06:36.800 --> 0:06:39.760 and everything else, So that's usually as far ahead I 0:06:39.800 --> 0:06:42.880 think of that, you know my vision? Do you ever 0:06:42.920 --> 0:06:46.839 get intentions like binge? Watch Game of Thrones twenty four 0:06:46.839 --> 0:06:49.839 hours straight and then judge yourself for having that intention. 0:06:49.960 --> 0:06:52.040 So I was with someone that I was coaching yesterday 0:06:52.279 --> 0:06:54.960 and they said to me, says, Jay, be real with me, right, 0:06:55.000 --> 0:06:57.039 you know everyone always likes self, like, be real with me, Like, 0:06:57.120 --> 0:06:59.400 don't give me the monk cancer. You know it's only 0:06:59.400 --> 0:07:01.120 my sister says to me, don't go monk on me. 0:07:01.200 --> 0:07:03.640 J Eddy, Like, uh, you know, I don't want to 0:07:03.680 --> 0:07:06.320 hear another video my my my wife, and my sister 0:07:06.360 --> 0:07:08.880 do that often to me. So someone asked me yesterday, 0:07:08.960 --> 0:07:10.600 like be real with me, like what do you do 0:07:10.640 --> 0:07:12.800 when you just want to, you know, let go. So 0:07:12.840 --> 0:07:15.480 the honest answer is, I grew up in London. I'm 0:07:15.520 --> 0:07:23.400 a huge soccer fan or real football. And yes, finally 0:07:23.560 --> 0:07:27.760 someone says it on our stage. I never understood you Americans. 0:07:27.840 --> 0:07:32.440 It's not. I absolutely love football, and my favorite thing 0:07:32.440 --> 0:07:35.640 to do is play PlayStation with my buddies and play FIFA. 0:07:35.880 --> 0:07:38.160 I can do that for hours and hours and hours, 0:07:38.200 --> 0:07:40.400 and I'm pretty good too, So if anyone wants to 0:07:40.400 --> 0:07:42.360 play me a game of FIFA, I'm always up. That's yeah, 0:07:42.400 --> 0:07:44.880 I do. I do get that, And that's probably one 0:07:44.880 --> 0:07:47.360 of the there's two things I love in that sort 0:07:47.360 --> 0:07:49.880 of in that category, it's playing plays I'm playing Fifa, 0:07:50.280 --> 0:07:52.720 and the second is movies. I'm a huge fan of movies. 0:07:53.680 --> 0:07:56.720 I'm a huge fan of Christopher Nolan, specifically because of 0:07:57.160 --> 0:07:59.280 the stories that he writes and the movies he brings 0:07:59.280 --> 0:08:01.640 to life. So I love movies that help me learn 0:08:01.680 --> 0:08:04.600 and have messages inside them because I believe that movies 0:08:04.640 --> 0:08:08.160 have the power to shift culture and shift conversation. So 0:08:08.200 --> 0:08:10.640 I'm fascinated by the power of media and movies. So 0:08:10.880 --> 0:08:13.680 I love consuming that content because it gives me more 0:08:13.720 --> 0:08:17.200 ideas and inspiration. And I truly believe that we're defined 0:08:17.200 --> 0:08:19.760 by the stories we tell ourselves. So when we see 0:08:19.840 --> 0:08:24.080 new stories through movies and media, I see changes in 0:08:24.080 --> 0:08:27.320 culture happening. FIFA, I can't justify, so that I just 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:29.880 have to that I just have to take. So we 0:08:29.920 --> 0:08:34.880 want to keep the questions spiritual and deep but also real. Yeah, 0:08:34.400 --> 0:08:41.079 I like, like, you just insulted Americans football football, But 0:08:41.880 --> 0:08:43.600 you say you spend twenty eight days of the year 0:08:43.679 --> 0:08:45.920 in ushram in India. Yes, okay, and you're like one 0:08:45.960 --> 0:08:48.439 of the most Like you're becoming one of the most 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:52.520 famous teachers on the planet. What do you do with 0:08:52.559 --> 0:08:56.079 that ushram? Do you check Facebook or Instagram while you're there? 0:08:57.679 --> 0:09:02.280 Good question. So I read an incredible study that changed 0:09:02.320 --> 0:09:05.440 the way I create and think, and it said that 0:09:05.440 --> 0:09:08.080 the human mind can't be logical and creative at the 0:09:08.120 --> 0:09:11.240 same time. How many of you have ever walked from 0:09:11.240 --> 0:09:15.040 a highly creative brainstorm where you were fueled with passion 0:09:15.120 --> 0:09:18.240 and then had to talk about numbers and business and right, 0:09:18.280 --> 0:09:21.000 it's tough, right, anyone ever found that quite difficult. It's 0:09:21.040 --> 0:09:23.160 quite challenging, and the mind's like trying to run from 0:09:23.160 --> 0:09:24.640 one side of the brain to the other side of 0:09:24.679 --> 0:09:28.079 the brain. So what I do is I create in depth. 0:09:28.120 --> 0:09:30.439 So I got really deep into my creation and then 0:09:30.520 --> 0:09:32.200 I got really deep into everything else that I have 0:09:32.240 --> 0:09:34.520 to do. So before I went to India, I created 0:09:34.559 --> 0:09:37.520 my content in advance, and so when I was in India, 0:09:37.520 --> 0:09:40.160 I was able to really switch off. So the beauty 0:09:40.160 --> 0:09:41.679 of being able to be in India for twenty one 0:09:41.760 --> 0:09:43.240 or thirty days, or wherever I am in the world 0:09:43.320 --> 0:09:46.080 for that matter, I'm then not having to think of 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:49.560 creativity as stress or pressure. I'm able to do creativity 0:09:49.600 --> 0:09:52.079 as a form of passion and service. And so when 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:53.480 I was in India, I was able to not look 0:09:53.480 --> 0:09:55.880 at Instagram, I was able to not look at face work. 0:09:56.080 --> 0:09:58.120 I was able to completely switch off for twenty one 0:09:58.200 --> 0:10:00.480 days when I was there earlier in January, and I 0:10:00.520 --> 0:10:02.800 started my year and the way I wanted to. So 0:10:02.840 --> 0:10:04.240 I was meditating for eight hours a day. I was 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:06.840 spending time with my teachers who are mind blowing and 0:10:06.880 --> 0:10:08.920 incredible and trying to learn from them and take in 0:10:09.000 --> 0:10:11.840 knowledge and wisdom from them and continuously praying to be 0:10:11.880 --> 0:10:14.079 of more service this year and make a difference this year. 0:10:14.160 --> 0:10:16.240 So that's how I chose to spend my January. I 0:10:16.280 --> 0:10:18.760 had so many people saying to me. They were just like, Jay, 0:10:18.800 --> 0:10:21.800 it's January. Things are going well in your career. How 0:10:21.840 --> 0:10:24.880 can you take twenty one days off right? That pressure, 0:10:24.920 --> 0:10:27.480 that noise like things are going good for you? How 0:10:27.480 --> 0:10:30.000 can you take time off hows like things are going good? 0:10:30.000 --> 0:10:32.840 Because I'm doing this all right? Like you know, I 0:10:32.880 --> 0:10:34.560 had one of my teachers that has kept saying to 0:10:34.559 --> 0:10:35.800 me for years. He goes, if you want to move 0:10:35.840 --> 0:10:37.760 three steps forward, you have to go three steps deep. 0:10:38.720 --> 0:10:40.800 And so if I'm not going forward, I know it's 0:10:40.800 --> 0:10:43.880 because I haven't gone deep. So for me, that's a 0:10:43.880 --> 0:10:45.640 big priority for me. And that's what I try and 0:10:45.679 --> 0:10:47.400 do and I'm I try and do that every day. 0:10:47.400 --> 0:10:51.559 But I also believe in immersive experiences. So a lot 0:10:51.559 --> 0:10:53.160 of us today we live in this world which is 0:10:53.160 --> 0:10:54.840 like ten minutes to day. Do it for ten minutes today, 0:10:54.840 --> 0:10:56.760 everything will be great. And that is great, there's nothing 0:10:56.760 --> 0:11:00.920 wrong with that. But imagine you spent with a boy 0:11:01.000 --> 0:11:02.760 or girl, your partner, whoever it was someone that you 0:11:02.800 --> 0:11:05.520 just started dating. Imagine you spent ten minutes a day 0:11:05.559 --> 0:11:08.240 with them. How long would it take you to figure 0:11:08.240 --> 0:11:09.760 out whether you wanted to fall in love with them 0:11:09.840 --> 0:11:14.000 or not? Probably a long time. And so when you 0:11:14.040 --> 0:11:16.560 go immersive, you spend a weekend away with someone you 0:11:16.600 --> 0:11:19.520 know whether you like them or not. In meditation, mindfulness, 0:11:19.559 --> 0:11:21.959 all these habits are the same. The more you immerse yourself, 0:11:22.920 --> 0:11:25.440 the more you get an experience that stays with you, 0:11:25.480 --> 0:11:27.680 the more that you can live with that experience and 0:11:28.080 --> 0:11:30.439 keep going back to it for ten minutes a day. 0:11:30.520 --> 0:11:33.599 So I really believe in immersive experiences. I love the 0:11:33.640 --> 0:11:35.960 ten minute a day advice, but I also deeply believe 0:11:36.000 --> 0:11:44.280 in having an deep, immersive, absorbed experience that completely takes 0:11:44.320 --> 0:11:46.679 over your whole body, mind, and soul, and then you're 0:11:46.679 --> 0:11:48.360 able to carry that forever. So I try and do 0:11:48.400 --> 0:11:51.160 that once a year. That's amazing, beautifully said, thank you, 0:11:51.240 --> 0:11:56.319 thank you so much, thank you. So you're a monk, 0:11:56.640 --> 0:12:01.120 I used to be. I'm married now, okay, but you 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:03.440 still go back to montitude or whatever they call it, 0:12:05.320 --> 0:12:09.360 mongtitude like monk refresher course. So the monks are not 0:12:09.440 --> 0:12:13.199 very good at branding as you. So, so when you're 0:12:13.200 --> 0:12:14.960 there hanging out with these other monks, do they like 0:12:15.679 --> 0:12:19.640 ask you to teach them how to do Instagram or like, like, 0:12:19.720 --> 0:12:22.320 what how do other monks relate to you when you 0:12:22.360 --> 0:12:24.360 go back to the ushroom. One of the things I 0:12:24.440 --> 0:12:27.520 love to be with the monks again is that they 0:12:27.559 --> 0:12:33.520 don't care, like, they have no agenda, they have no desire, 0:12:33.720 --> 0:12:36.200 they don't want to learn anything about what I'm up to. 0:12:36.280 --> 0:12:39.199 And I love that because I get to switch off 0:12:39.240 --> 0:12:42.840 from that identity too, And it's beautiful to be able 0:12:42.880 --> 0:12:46.160 to let go of every identity that you've taken on 0:12:46.400 --> 0:12:49.240 and then just be. And so when I go there 0:12:49.760 --> 0:12:53.720 and I'm able to remove any identity that is attached 0:12:53.720 --> 0:12:56.320 to my ego, any identity that's attached to who I 0:12:56.360 --> 0:12:59.280 think I've become, et ceterates, it's nice to be humbled again. 0:13:00.240 --> 0:13:03.200 It's nice to be it's nice to be not noticed 0:13:03.200 --> 0:13:05.560 for a particular thing, but be dealt with in a 0:13:05.640 --> 0:13:08.640 human way and a completely human connection. So yeah, no, 0:13:08.720 --> 0:13:11.120 they don't they don't care about Instagram. So that's amazing. Now, 0:13:11.200 --> 0:13:13.200 I notice you have a tattoo on your net. I do. 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:15.840 And I noticed that there's even a Facebook group called 0:13:15.840 --> 0:13:20.840 what is Jay Shatty's tattoo? I'm serious, there's a Facebook 0:13:20.880 --> 0:13:23.040 group dedicated to his tattoo. That's how big this guy 0:13:23.120 --> 0:13:25.880 is getting. Soon there'll be Facebook groups for your ankles, 0:13:25.920 --> 0:13:29.080 your left thumb. It's gonna get weird. Jay, deal with fame, 0:13:29.520 --> 0:13:32.600 But what the hell is that tattoo? So it can 0:13:32.640 --> 0:13:35.040 be yeah, you know, I'm gonna I'll tell the story 0:13:35.040 --> 0:13:36.800 about it. I got my first tattoo when I was 0:13:36.800 --> 0:13:39.840 sixteen years old, and I never asked my parents for permission. 0:13:39.880 --> 0:13:42.240 I went and got it, came home, I was bleeding slightly, 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:44.400 and it happened to be on the same day we 0:13:44.400 --> 0:13:47.880 had family visiting from India. And for anyone who knows 0:13:47.920 --> 0:13:53.040 anything about Indian families like respect to like elders and family, 0:13:53.040 --> 0:13:55.000 it's important and there's a good values. But I walk 0:13:55.040 --> 0:13:57.240 in with my neck like half bleeding, and I have 0:13:57.320 --> 0:14:00.120 this tattoo. In my family, my mom is just like, like, 0:14:00.240 --> 0:14:02.520 you know, she's completely shocked, and my dad's like covering 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:04.280 it up, cover it up, like trying to get me 0:14:04.320 --> 0:14:07.240 a college here anyway. So I used to be a 0:14:07.360 --> 0:14:10.400 huge fan of spoken word and rap music going up, 0:14:10.480 --> 0:14:13.720 growing up, I've always loved language and words, and so 0:14:13.920 --> 0:14:17.040 I was a huge fan of hip hop and spoken words. 0:14:17.040 --> 0:14:19.520 So I have a fist holding a microphone on my 0:14:19.640 --> 0:14:22.040 neck because it used to be the logo of the 0:14:22.120 --> 0:14:24.280 Source magazine in the nineteen nineties, which is one of 0:14:24.280 --> 0:14:26.880 the biggest hip hop magazines of its time. And I 0:14:26.920 --> 0:14:28.640 remember getting it done at sixteen and a lot of 0:14:28.640 --> 0:14:29.960 people would be like, what's that on your neck and 0:14:29.960 --> 0:14:32.200 I'd say it's a microphone and they'd be like, oh, cool, 0:14:32.200 --> 0:14:33.840 what are you doing. I'd say i'd spoken word and 0:14:33.880 --> 0:14:35.600 rap and they said, oh, you should perform at our club. 0:14:35.680 --> 0:14:37.560 So it was so we know, I've never been asked 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:39.720 about that on stage, and we're like, how useful is 0:14:39.760 --> 0:14:44.760 this information to anyone? Are we at mind Valley? Are 0:14:44.760 --> 0:14:49.040 we at tattoo Parlor? I mean I don't know. Yeah, no, 0:14:49.160 --> 0:14:50.920 But you know what it's it's so nice to get 0:14:51.000 --> 0:14:53.440 to to also learn about the real you. There's so 0:14:53.560 --> 0:14:56.800 much wisdom from Jay out there. We wanted to bring 0:14:56.800 --> 0:14:58.440 in some of your realness because I know you as 0:14:58.480 --> 0:15:02.440 a friend and you're like just epically cool. So we'd 0:15:02.440 --> 0:15:06.160 love to take some questions from the audience. Okay, now 0:15:06.280 --> 0:15:08.200 here are the rules. When we do panels like this, 0:15:09.280 --> 0:15:10.920 I try to make sure that the question that is 0:15:10.960 --> 0:15:12.920 asked is a question that is going to serve at 0:15:13.000 --> 0:15:15.320 least seventy percent of the people in the room. Okay, 0:15:15.520 --> 0:15:17.640 so we have a question for Jay, raise your hand, 0:15:17.680 --> 0:15:19.640 and we have Mike run as Ready, let's start with 0:15:19.680 --> 0:15:23.360 shaman Drek. So you know, one of the things that 0:15:23.440 --> 0:15:25.000 I wanted to ask is not want to get your 0:15:25.080 --> 0:15:28.880 viewpoint on it, because in Shamanism we have this viewpoint 0:15:28.920 --> 0:15:32.720 that spirituality is not separate from life. It means it's 0:15:32.720 --> 0:15:35.400 someone who's spiritual, even if they don't meditate or work 0:15:35.400 --> 0:15:37.160 with crystals or learning of these things, it means they're 0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:39.680 willing to evolve. I want to know what your thought 0:15:39.840 --> 0:15:42.720 is about that. Yeah, I completely agree. I think that's 0:15:42.760 --> 0:15:46.760 beautiful and completely aligns with me. I don't think See, 0:15:46.960 --> 0:15:49.080 we look at everything about oh what can I learn? 0:15:49.720 --> 0:15:52.960 And actually half of learning, in my opinion, is really unlearning. 0:15:53.680 --> 0:15:56.440 Everyone already has the answer inside of them. You're not 0:15:56.520 --> 0:15:58.240 really learning anything new. You're just trying to get rid 0:15:58.280 --> 0:16:01.080 of all the bad lessons you learned, and everyone has that. 0:16:01.200 --> 0:16:03.120 So it's not so much about like, oh is this 0:16:03.160 --> 0:16:05.400 person going from here to here. It's not really that. 0:16:05.520 --> 0:16:08.120 It's like it's someone going from here to here. And 0:16:08.360 --> 0:16:10.520 for me, one of the ways I've always thought about 0:16:10.640 --> 0:16:13.600 is you can't take the world further than where you 0:16:13.720 --> 0:16:18.760 visited internally. So for me, every person that we're meeting 0:16:18.800 --> 0:16:22.760 already has that journey right there, and all you're asking 0:16:22.800 --> 0:16:25.080 them to do is look inwards as opposed to outwards. 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:27.000 So no, I've completely agree with you, and I think 0:16:27.040 --> 0:16:29.240 that's a beautiful point that you've shared, and I think 0:16:29.240 --> 0:16:30.880 it's something nice for us to know. So we don't 0:16:30.960 --> 0:16:33.760 judge and label people. We don't walk around and think, oh, 0:16:33.760 --> 0:16:38.800 those are spiritual people, those are not spiritual people, because yeah, 0:16:38.800 --> 0:16:42.400 we're all we're all spiritual people, and it's just that 0:16:42.520 --> 0:16:45.240 some are covered. It's like the sun's always out, but 0:16:45.360 --> 0:16:47.560 often it's covered with the clouds. Rarely here a bit 0:16:47.600 --> 0:16:51.240 more lately, but it's the sun is always out, it's 0:16:51.280 --> 0:16:53.520 just get covered by the clouds, and that's us. We've 0:16:53.520 --> 0:16:55.960 just been covered. And we get covered by those clouds 0:16:55.960 --> 0:17:00.200 and they cloud our identity, they cloud our perception. And 0:17:00.240 --> 0:17:02.320 so all we're doing for ourselves and others is clearing 0:17:02.320 --> 0:17:04.919 out the clouds and the more we do that for ourselves, 0:17:05.000 --> 0:17:06.199 the more we can do it for others. And the 0:17:06.240 --> 0:17:07.320 more we do it for others, and the more we 0:17:07.359 --> 0:17:10.920 do it for ourselves. And is meditation the only process 0:17:10.960 --> 0:17:12.919 that you used to clear out the clouds or is 0:17:12.920 --> 0:17:15.919 there other things that you explore? I think meditation today 0:17:16.280 --> 0:17:19.560 is a tool, and it's a great tool in your 0:17:19.560 --> 0:17:22.359 tool kit, But it's really about how we're processing the 0:17:22.359 --> 0:17:24.919 whole time, how we're living the whole time outside of that. 0:17:25.359 --> 0:17:27.560 And so when I do two hours of meditation a day, 0:17:27.640 --> 0:17:29.720 that my teachers would always say to me, or what 0:17:29.760 --> 0:17:32.680 are you doing for the other twenty two hours you're awake? Right? 0:17:32.680 --> 0:17:35.000 That would always be the question. And so I read 0:17:35.040 --> 0:17:37.760 a study recently that said that men and women were 0:17:37.840 --> 0:17:41.240 asked either to sit alone with their thoughts for fifteen minutes, 0:17:41.920 --> 0:17:43.480 or if they didn't want to do that, they could 0:17:43.480 --> 0:17:47.720 give themselves an electric shark. Is a true study. Sixty 0:17:47.720 --> 0:17:53.879 percent of men chose an electric shark, true story, and 0:17:54.080 --> 0:17:59.920 thirty percent of women chose an electric shark. These are real, normal, 0:18:00.080 --> 0:18:04.320 more people. And when they were asked why they did that, 0:18:04.320 --> 0:18:05.679 they just said, I don't think, I said, what am 0:18:05.680 --> 0:18:08.800 I going to do? For fifteen minutes, and so for me, 0:18:08.800 --> 0:18:11.000 meditation is an important part of the cloud, but it's 0:18:11.000 --> 0:18:16.200 also reflection, introspection, journaling, the ability to have a connection 0:18:16.240 --> 0:18:18.280 that's deeper than you, sitting down with people who can 0:18:18.280 --> 0:18:20.639 help you move the clouds because it's not always you 0:18:20.720 --> 0:18:22.320 on your own. You need others to come in and 0:18:22.359 --> 0:18:25.000 help you do that. So it's multiple things. It's multiple things. 0:18:25.000 --> 0:18:27.760 I think meditations are a key facet of it, but 0:18:27.880 --> 0:18:30.080 not the be all and end all of it. So 0:18:30.080 --> 0:18:32.399 we noticed that you speak a lot about relationships, a 0:18:32.480 --> 0:18:36.199 large proportion of the videos on relationships. And I'm just 0:18:36.200 --> 0:18:39.679 going to be asked this question, but you did have 0:18:39.760 --> 0:18:41.879 training as a monk, and normally when monks give it 0:18:41.960 --> 0:18:48.240 vison relationship, it's simply two words, don't screw. Why Where 0:18:48.240 --> 0:18:52.119 does that interest in relationships come from? My fascination comes 0:18:52.200 --> 0:18:55.240 from for relationships from having failed a lots of relationships. 0:18:55.400 --> 0:18:59.600 So growing up, I had countless relationships that didn't work out, 0:19:00.040 --> 0:19:02.160 and I was always trying to learn, like what does 0:19:02.240 --> 0:19:06.320 love mean? What is love? What is the ideal relationship? 0:19:06.640 --> 0:19:08.919 Why didn't that work out with that person, etc. So 0:19:08.960 --> 0:19:11.760 I was constantly reflecting and then when I became a monk. Obviously, 0:19:11.800 --> 0:19:14.720 I was celibate for three years and didn't have any 0:19:14.760 --> 0:19:17.560 relationships during that time, and at that time a lot 0:19:17.560 --> 0:19:19.640 of people would come and complain to me about their relationships. 0:19:19.680 --> 0:19:21.560 It's really funny when people do that. It's like, you're 0:19:21.600 --> 0:19:23.600 not married, you will know what to do in my life. 0:19:23.600 --> 0:19:25.960 And I'm like, oh, it doesn't work that way. So, 0:19:26.520 --> 0:19:28.360 and I was always fascinated by I was getting asked 0:19:28.359 --> 0:19:29.919 so many questions about relationships, and I was like, well, 0:19:29.960 --> 0:19:32.920 I don't have any real life experience of figuring it out. 0:19:33.640 --> 0:19:36.879 So when I left and when I met my wife, 0:19:37.119 --> 0:19:39.119 and now that we've been together for six years and 0:19:39.160 --> 0:19:41.680 married for three years, I was always reflecting on why 0:19:41.720 --> 0:19:44.760 things do work with us and the parts that we 0:19:44.840 --> 0:19:47.080 are challenged by. And so for me, it's been a 0:19:47.119 --> 0:19:49.960 personal journey of growth. And so the videos I've made 0:19:49.960 --> 0:19:52.359 have been from personal lessons I've learned from helping others, 0:19:52.359 --> 0:19:55.240 coaching others, and working on my own relationship. And that's 0:19:55.520 --> 0:19:58.000 the trifect around all my videos is I listened to 0:19:58.040 --> 0:20:01.160 someone who shares a challenge with So if you ever 0:20:01.200 --> 0:20:02.760 share a challenge with me, you have to be okay 0:20:02.800 --> 0:20:04.280 with the fact, you may end up as a story 0:20:04.280 --> 0:20:06.640 in one of my videos. I'm just throwing it out there. 0:20:06.960 --> 0:20:09.080 The second thing I try and find is I try 0:20:09.119 --> 0:20:12.320 and find a scientific study to verify what I'm about 0:20:12.359 --> 0:20:14.960 to say as a solution. And the third thing that 0:20:15.000 --> 0:20:16.600 I do is I try and find a piece of 0:20:16.640 --> 0:20:20.560