1 00:00:01,200 --> 00:00:04,160 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. If you 2 00:00:04,240 --> 00:00:08,080 Speaker 1: need advice on relationships, on sex, on parenting, on work, 3 00:00:08,119 --> 00:00:12,160 Speaker 1: on more, Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM 4 00:00:12,240 --> 00:00:16,120 Speaker 1: dot com by clicking on submit Strawberry Letter. That's all 5 00:00:16,160 --> 00:00:17,840 Speaker 1: you gotta do. And you never know. We could be 6 00:00:17,880 --> 00:00:21,560 Speaker 1: reading your letter just like this one live on the 7 00:00:21,680 --> 00:00:25,000 Speaker 1: air and it could be yours. You never know. You 8 00:00:25,239 --> 00:00:27,400 Speaker 1: never know. Buckle up a hole on type. We got 9 00:00:27,400 --> 00:00:31,040 Speaker 1: it fo you here it is Drawberry letter. Thank you, nephew. 10 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:36,000 Speaker 1: Subject to my husband's stray cat. Dear Stephen Shirley, My 11 00:00:36,120 --> 00:00:38,320 Speaker 1: husband and I are in our late thirties and my 12 00:00:38,400 --> 00:00:41,680 Speaker 1: husband is working on his bachelor's degree. He's been at 13 00:00:41,680 --> 00:00:44,839 Speaker 1: it for a few years because he also works full time. 14 00:00:45,240 --> 00:00:47,400 Speaker 1: He has an old friend that is a high school 15 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:50,199 Speaker 1: English teacher, and she's helped him a lot with his 16 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:53,720 Speaker 1: essays in public speaking class. She's come by our home 17 00:00:53,760 --> 00:00:56,120 Speaker 1: and sat with him for hours at our kitchen table, 18 00:00:56,480 --> 00:00:59,520 Speaker 1: trying to get him together so he can get this degree. 19 00:00:59,720 --> 00:01:02,640 Speaker 1: The farthest thing from my mind was him being attracted 20 00:01:02,680 --> 00:01:06,800 Speaker 1: to her. Then he started to say things like intelligence 21 00:01:06,840 --> 00:01:09,759 Speaker 1: as sexy. I thought he was referring to me because 22 00:01:09,760 --> 00:01:12,520 Speaker 1: I have a degree and I'm a licensed social worker. 23 00:01:13,040 --> 00:01:17,200 Speaker 1: He met her though, I noticed him texting her every morning, 24 00:01:17,280 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 1: so I read his texts a few times a few 25 00:01:19,800 --> 00:01:22,720 Speaker 1: weeks ago when he was in the shower. He texted 26 00:01:22,760 --> 00:01:27,640 Speaker 1: her good morning Queen every morning, and her responses hi King. 27 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:31,679 Speaker 1: Then it's basic stuff like have a great day, or 28 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:34,399 Speaker 1: read your syllabus. But the fact that she gets a 29 00:01:34,440 --> 00:01:38,080 Speaker 1: good morning Queen every day blew my mind. So my 30 00:01:38,160 --> 00:01:41,720 Speaker 1: spighty senses were up and I started paying attention to everything. 31 00:01:42,080 --> 00:01:45,200 Speaker 1: I noticed he changes his shirt impressions up before she 32 00:01:45,280 --> 00:01:49,040 Speaker 1: comes over, and he always has a little snack prepared. 33 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:51,720 Speaker 1: All of this was going on right under my nose 34 00:01:51,920 --> 00:01:55,200 Speaker 1: all along. I finally got the chance to tell her 35 00:01:55,240 --> 00:01:58,960 Speaker 1: to stay in her place. She called me Saturday to 36 00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:01,840 Speaker 1: let me know my husband is on track to receive 37 00:02:01,920 --> 00:02:04,400 Speaker 1: his degree in May, and she wants to throw him 38 00:02:04,440 --> 00:02:08,919 Speaker 1: a big party and she wants my help. I told 39 00:02:08,960 --> 00:02:12,320 Speaker 1: her she had life all effed up because she's not 40 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:15,160 Speaker 1: throwing a darned thing from my husband. I told her 41 00:02:15,200 --> 00:02:18,520 Speaker 1: to stand her place as the helper, and once my 42 00:02:18,600 --> 00:02:22,960 Speaker 1: husband graduates, she can lose his number. She called me crazy, 43 00:02:23,000 --> 00:02:26,079 Speaker 1: and hung up. Now my husband is furious and wants 44 00:02:26,120 --> 00:02:32,239 Speaker 1: me to apologize. Was I wrong? Well, I can't say 45 00:02:32,280 --> 00:02:34,959 Speaker 1: that you're wrong, because you handled the situation as you 46 00:02:35,080 --> 00:02:37,760 Speaker 1: saw it, and I'm sure as every other married woman 47 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:43,440 Speaker 1: sees it. Okay, she needed to be checked at that point. 48 00:02:43,480 --> 00:02:45,720 Speaker 1: She needed to be She was out of line, and 49 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:48,320 Speaker 1: so is your husband. I mean, it's not her place 50 00:02:48,400 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 1: to give your husband a party, and that's what this 51 00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:53,800 Speaker 1: letter is really about. That's your job. But she didn't 52 00:02:53,800 --> 00:02:56,400 Speaker 1: give you a chance. Did you not say anything, because 53 00:02:56,520 --> 00:02:59,120 Speaker 1: certainly you could have given him a party. She knows 54 00:02:59,120 --> 00:03:03,520 Speaker 1: exactly what she's doing, because what is up with? Good 55 00:03:03,560 --> 00:03:06,880 Speaker 1: morning queen and good morning king? What's that about? Or 56 00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:10,639 Speaker 1: Hi king? Good morning queen, Hi king? What is that? 57 00:03:10,760 --> 00:03:13,640 Speaker 1: What is that? She had one job and that was 58 00:03:13,680 --> 00:03:15,919 Speaker 1: to get him to the finish line. She did that. 59 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:19,360 Speaker 1: Now she says he's on track to graduate in May. 60 00:03:19,760 --> 00:03:24,960 Speaker 1: Congratulation to your husband. All the extra stuff she's trying 61 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:29,320 Speaker 1: to do is unnecessary. And another thing, does he think 62 00:03:29,400 --> 00:03:32,000 Speaker 1: you don't notice that he's freshening up and putting up, 63 00:03:32,480 --> 00:03:35,280 Speaker 1: putting on a clean shirt, and putting out snacks for her. 64 00:03:35,280 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 1: I mean that's good hospitality, I suppose, but I think 65 00:03:41,040 --> 00:03:43,560 Speaker 1: of anything he needs to do. He needs to tell 66 00:03:43,640 --> 00:03:46,800 Speaker 1: her to apologize to you for overstepping with the party. 67 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:51,960 Speaker 1: You don't need to apologize. You're definitely not crazy, like 68 00:03:52,040 --> 00:03:55,160 Speaker 1: she said. You are the wife who is not here 69 00:03:55,200 --> 00:03:58,560 Speaker 1: for another woman giving her man a party. That's just it. 70 00:03:58,840 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 1: You know, that's it in a nutshell. You don't like that, 71 00:04:01,960 --> 00:04:07,120 Speaker 1: and you let it be known. Ste Well, well, well, 72 00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:13,560 Speaker 1: there is so much confusion in this letter for me 73 00:04:14,840 --> 00:04:22,720 Speaker 1: because I'm torn in this letter because I want to 74 00:04:22,880 --> 00:04:28,320 Speaker 1: pick a side, but I can't pick a side. But 75 00:04:28,440 --> 00:04:33,600 Speaker 1: I'm on both sides. But I and I shouldn't be. 76 00:04:35,960 --> 00:04:40,400 Speaker 1: You're wrong, but you're right, but you're wrong. So let 77 00:04:40,480 --> 00:04:43,960 Speaker 1: me tell you where I'm starting to stroke. Your husband 78 00:04:43,960 --> 00:04:47,080 Speaker 1: and you and your late thirties. And your husband's working 79 00:04:47,120 --> 00:04:49,039 Speaker 1: on bachelor Greedy. He's been at it for a few 80 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:53,960 Speaker 1: years because he worked full time. He has an old 81 00:04:54,240 --> 00:04:59,159 Speaker 1: friend that is a high school English teacher, and she's 82 00:04:59,200 --> 00:05:04,040 Speaker 1: helped him a lot with his essays. An old friend. 83 00:05:04,920 --> 00:05:10,359 Speaker 1: Ah See, this is where I I keep telling y'all 84 00:05:11,080 --> 00:05:16,119 Speaker 1: about these friendships. I keep telling women over and over 85 00:05:16,240 --> 00:05:21,440 Speaker 1: about these opposite sex friendships. I keep telling you. Now, 86 00:05:21,960 --> 00:05:24,839 Speaker 1: it could be the rare occasion way it works, but 87 00:05:24,960 --> 00:05:32,159 Speaker 1: it normally don't. Here we go that old friend high 88 00:05:32,160 --> 00:05:34,640 Speaker 1: school English teachers. She helped him a lot with his 89 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:38,720 Speaker 1: essays and public speaking class. She's come by a house 90 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:41,080 Speaker 1: and set with him for hours at y'all's kitchen table, 91 00:05:41,320 --> 00:05:44,960 Speaker 1: trying to get him together so he can get his degree. Now, 92 00:05:45,200 --> 00:05:48,640 Speaker 1: you all knowing women the way you do, ladies, you 93 00:05:48,839 --> 00:05:51,880 Speaker 1: know that one of the main characteristics of a woman 94 00:05:52,120 --> 00:05:58,240 Speaker 1: is nurturing. We love to take care of people. That 95 00:05:58,520 --> 00:06:00,719 Speaker 1: is one of the best quality. These are a lot 96 00:06:00,720 --> 00:06:05,800 Speaker 1: of women that innate nurturing skill that you have. Oh, 97 00:06:05,839 --> 00:06:12,039 Speaker 1: but it can be too much. Yeah, the furthest thing 98 00:06:12,200 --> 00:06:15,200 Speaker 1: from my mind was him being attracted to her and 99 00:06:15,360 --> 00:06:21,640 Speaker 1: why that's so far away? She attractive ation, And then 100 00:06:21,839 --> 00:06:29,080 Speaker 1: he started to say things like intelligence is sexy, that 101 00:06:29,360 --> 00:06:31,760 Speaker 1: this is why I have a problem his stupid ass. 102 00:06:31,760 --> 00:06:36,599 Speaker 1: Why would you open your damn mouth and intelligence is sexy? 103 00:06:36,760 --> 00:06:38,960 Speaker 1: When I come back, I'm gonna light your ass. Oh 104 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:44,799 Speaker 1: you bought this on yourself, stupid ass. Hang on, Steve, 105 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:46,960 Speaker 1: we'll get part two of your response coming up. At 106 00:06:46,960 --> 00:06:50,720 Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after be our subject. My husband stray cat. 107 00:06:50,839 --> 00:06:53,880 Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening 108 00:06:55,080 --> 00:06:58,280 Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve, let's recap 109 00:06:58,839 --> 00:07:04,320 Speaker 1: today's strawberry letters. The subject is my husband's straight. Well, 110 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:06,640 Speaker 1: we got this married couple that's in their late thirties 111 00:07:06,640 --> 00:07:08,760 Speaker 1: and the husband been in school trying to get his 112 00:07:08,839 --> 00:07:11,680 Speaker 1: bachelor's degree, but he works full time. He's got an 113 00:07:11,680 --> 00:07:14,920 Speaker 1: old friend of his. Once again, I've told you all 114 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:18,320 Speaker 1: about these opposite sex friends who comes by the house. 115 00:07:18,360 --> 00:07:21,040 Speaker 1: That's an English teacher helping with his essays and his 116 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:25,160 Speaker 1: speaking classes. And she's come to our house and set 117 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:28,640 Speaker 1: at the kitchen table for I was trying to get 118 00:07:28,720 --> 00:07:32,480 Speaker 1: him together to get his degree. Then she said, the 119 00:07:32,560 --> 00:07:36,000 Speaker 1: furthest thing from my mind was him being attracted to her. 120 00:07:36,440 --> 00:07:40,000 Speaker 1: How that so far from your mind. You don't have 121 00:07:40,080 --> 00:07:43,840 Speaker 1: a mind of a man. So now it's the furthest 122 00:07:43,880 --> 00:07:48,680 Speaker 1: thing from your mind. Then he started saying things like 123 00:07:48,800 --> 00:07:53,760 Speaker 1: me here where I lost it. He started saying things 124 00:07:53,840 --> 00:08:01,760 Speaker 1: like intelligences sexy. Why would you say that dog to 125 00:08:01,960 --> 00:08:10,440 Speaker 1: your wife? Why with your stupid because you in your thities, man, 126 00:08:10,680 --> 00:08:15,480 Speaker 1: you don't know why would you say that? Because c 127 00:08:16,400 --> 00:08:19,200 Speaker 1: what he's trying to say what he wanted to find 128 00:08:19,240 --> 00:08:26,600 Speaker 1: a way to verbalize the woman's sexiness because he just 129 00:08:26,720 --> 00:08:30,080 Speaker 1: can't help himself because he young. And but then he 130 00:08:30,200 --> 00:08:35,880 Speaker 1: tried to disguise it with intelligence is sexy. But now 131 00:08:35,920 --> 00:08:39,160 Speaker 1: you dumb it in him because you thought he was 132 00:08:39,240 --> 00:08:42,040 Speaker 1: referring to you because you got a degree and you 133 00:08:42,120 --> 00:08:49,359 Speaker 1: are licensed social worker. That's social working. That's intelligence, or degree, 134 00:08:49,640 --> 00:08:53,080 Speaker 1: that's intelligence. But all of ye y'all been man, He 135 00:08:53,240 --> 00:08:58,560 Speaker 1: never told you intelligence was sexy because he wasn't talking 136 00:08:58,640 --> 00:09:05,640 Speaker 1: about you. He met her though. I noticed him texting 137 00:09:05,679 --> 00:09:07,600 Speaker 1: her every morning. So I read this text a few 138 00:09:07,600 --> 00:09:12,240 Speaker 1: weeks ago when he was in the shower. Boy, if 139 00:09:12,320 --> 00:09:16,200 Speaker 1: you're texting other women, you can't lay your phone around 140 00:09:17,320 --> 00:09:22,400 Speaker 1: if you're gonna take a time showers from the show, 141 00:09:23,040 --> 00:09:25,440 Speaker 1: they got the stuff that they buy for kids when 142 00:09:25,440 --> 00:09:27,440 Speaker 1: they go to camp. They got this little thing they 143 00:09:27,440 --> 00:09:29,839 Speaker 1: fit around your neck where your phone going. This little 144 00:09:29,840 --> 00:09:32,920 Speaker 1: waterproof come on, so you can shower with your phone 145 00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:35,960 Speaker 1: hanging around your neck. Now they for twelve year old, 146 00:09:36,120 --> 00:09:39,040 Speaker 1: But if your asses go at twelve, do you need 147 00:09:39,040 --> 00:09:41,760 Speaker 1: the damn thing to go around your neck? Sew on 148 00:09:41,840 --> 00:09:48,120 Speaker 1: the road all right, So now I noticed him texting, 149 00:09:48,200 --> 00:09:50,280 Speaker 1: and I read a few texts while he was in 150 00:09:50,320 --> 00:09:53,240 Speaker 1: the shower. He texts her good morning queen every morning. 151 00:09:53,320 --> 00:09:56,600 Speaker 1: Her response is high King. Now surely that's the newling. 152 00:09:56,720 --> 00:09:59,800 Speaker 1: Go now we refer to each other. Okay, well, I'm 153 00:09:59,800 --> 00:10:03,079 Speaker 1: just saying so he trying to be cute high queen, 154 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:06,760 Speaker 1: high king, and he trying to keep it. Basically, that's 155 00:10:06,840 --> 00:10:10,160 Speaker 1: basic stuff. Like then it's basic stuff like have a 156 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:13,640 Speaker 1: good great day, or read your syllabus. Now that's a 157 00:10:13,720 --> 00:10:22,040 Speaker 1: good one. Read Jo syllabus that throws you off. Read 158 00:10:22,160 --> 00:10:26,920 Speaker 1: Joe syllabus, something I've never done in all of my 159 00:10:27,080 --> 00:10:30,960 Speaker 1: school years. I still don't know what that is. Because 160 00:10:31,080 --> 00:10:33,360 Speaker 1: I thought it was syllables, and I was going, well, 161 00:10:33,440 --> 00:10:37,360 Speaker 1: I do read them as I'm pronouncing words. What I 162 00:10:37,440 --> 00:10:44,480 Speaker 1: thought syllabus was a syllable. I thought syllabus was syllables plural, 163 00:10:44,640 --> 00:10:46,800 Speaker 1: like more than one syllable. So I was going, I 164 00:10:46,880 --> 00:10:50,319 Speaker 1: do that when I read thank y'all and so. Anyway, 165 00:10:50,440 --> 00:10:52,679 Speaker 1: so the fact that she gets a good morning queen 166 00:10:52,720 --> 00:10:55,800 Speaker 1: every day blew my mind. So my spotty senses were up, 167 00:10:55,880 --> 00:10:58,280 Speaker 1: and I started paying attention to everything I noticed. He 168 00:10:58,400 --> 00:11:01,480 Speaker 1: changes his shirt and freshens up she comes over and 169 00:11:01,679 --> 00:11:05,120 Speaker 1: he always has a little snack prepared. Well, if you're 170 00:11:05,120 --> 00:11:09,400 Speaker 1: gonna be sitting in the kitchen at the table for hours, 171 00:11:10,160 --> 00:11:13,760 Speaker 1: then you're gonna want a snack. Now he been at work, 172 00:11:13,920 --> 00:11:18,280 Speaker 1: he want to freshen up. Didn't you hear him say 173 00:11:18,920 --> 00:11:26,480 Speaker 1: intelligence is sexy? Stupid ass? All this was going on 174 00:11:26,640 --> 00:11:28,839 Speaker 1: right under my nose all along. I finally got the 175 00:11:28,960 --> 00:11:31,280 Speaker 1: chance to tell her to stay at her place. She 176 00:11:31,400 --> 00:11:33,560 Speaker 1: called me Saturday to tell me her husband's on track 177 00:11:33,600 --> 00:11:35,839 Speaker 1: to receive his degree and mate and she wants to 178 00:11:35,880 --> 00:11:40,800 Speaker 1: throw him a big party and she wants my health. Oh, 179 00:11:41,040 --> 00:11:45,360 Speaker 1: now she's stupid too. Yeah, you call a wife and 180 00:11:45,360 --> 00:11:47,560 Speaker 1: say I've been to throw a big party for your 181 00:11:47,640 --> 00:11:53,840 Speaker 1: husband and I won't chill health. What lady, you already 182 00:11:54,040 --> 00:11:58,800 Speaker 1: notice a f in the fly? I told her you 183 00:11:58,800 --> 00:12:04,079 Speaker 1: got you got, you got life. Flet up? No you do, No, 184 00:12:04,280 --> 00:12:07,839 Speaker 1: you got me twisted, you got this thing fleffed up. 185 00:12:08,200 --> 00:12:11,120 Speaker 1: Because she's not throwing a damn thing from my husband. 186 00:12:11,240 --> 00:12:13,840 Speaker 1: I told him stay in her place, and as the helper. 187 00:12:14,440 --> 00:12:18,079 Speaker 1: As the helper once my husband graduates, she could lose 188 00:12:18,160 --> 00:12:20,800 Speaker 1: his number. She called me crazy and hung up, Not 189 00:12:20,960 --> 00:12:23,280 Speaker 1: my husband and fuss and wants me to apologize. Was 190 00:12:23,320 --> 00:12:28,040 Speaker 1: I wrong? Well, he wasn't wrong, but you was wrong. 191 00:12:28,440 --> 00:12:30,880 Speaker 1: And what your husband is using now here's an office 192 00:12:30,920 --> 00:12:33,640 Speaker 1: and part your husband is stress because he can't lose 193 00:12:33,679 --> 00:12:40,880 Speaker 1: his tutor who is sexually intelligent. And so now he 194 00:12:40,960 --> 00:12:45,719 Speaker 1: gonna make you the heavierness because you're crazy. Are you crazy? Yes? Yes, 195 00:12:45,760 --> 00:12:49,839 Speaker 1: you praised were you're wrong for this? No? No you aren't. 196 00:12:51,480 --> 00:12:53,800 Speaker 1: Should you have done it that way? Yes you should have. 197 00:12:53,880 --> 00:12:56,040 Speaker 1: You jeopardized him getting the greed. The boy probably ain't 198 00:12:56,040 --> 00:13:00,480 Speaker 1: gonna ever get a damn the green now after this. Nah. 199 00:13:00,600 --> 00:13:05,600 Speaker 1: He hit us up on Instagram at Steve Harvey FM 200 00:13:05,640 --> 00:13:08,199 Speaker 1: to comment on today's Strawberry Letter. You can also check 201 00:13:08,240 --> 00:13:12,359 Speaker 1: out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. Coming up next, 202 00:13:12,360 --> 00:13:16,800 Speaker 1: Sports Talk with Junior. We'll be right back. 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