WEBVTT - Put a Ring On It

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<v Speaker 1>Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio Podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so it's just us today, Cat and I'm supporting.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not wearing a it looks like in the camera

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<v Speaker 2>I'm wearing a What are those things called when you

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<v Speaker 2>put them on your leg when you get married?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh I never got her? Yeah, I don't know if

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<v Speaker 3>I did. I can't even remember. Did you? Maybe I did.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure I feel like you would back because I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like they're more popular.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah no, no, I did, because I hate that thing,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, Like we're in the reception really like, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, why are we doing this in front of people?

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<v Speaker 3>It's so uncomfortable? Yep, yep, I had it, So are

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<v Speaker 3>you having one?

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<v Speaker 2>No? But it looks like I'm wearing my over my

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<v Speaker 2>third degree burn. I went by the way, Listen. Who

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<v Speaker 2>knew her irons were that dangerous?

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<v Speaker 3>It was scary looking there for a minute.

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<v Speaker 2>I know it was bad, but it's gotten so much better.

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<v Speaker 2>It's getting better. It finally doesn't hurt after almost two weeks.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh God, that's good.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean it hurts a little, but I'm like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>it's kind of like hurt still, But I know who knew.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, and me got a good second degree burned

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<v Speaker 1>from one, so I can only imagine.

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<v Speaker 2>But now that I'm like supporting, like it just looks

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<v Speaker 2>like I'm wearing it does well. But I'm sick of

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<v Speaker 2>wearing those you know, those bandage or what are those

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<v Speaker 2>things called the it's like the tape things that go

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<v Speaker 2>around and they stick, but you know when you'd get

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<v Speaker 2>your ivy draw.

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<v Speaker 3>Or something like, yeah, like the gauze stuff or what it's.

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<v Speaker 2>Not gauze sticks. Yeah, And so I'm trying to think

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<v Speaker 2>of the name, but it's not coming to me. But

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<v Speaker 2>it kept like annoying my skin. So I'm like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I I like to mcgiver things. I'm like, what do

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<v Speaker 2>I like, how do I get a thing that can

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<v Speaker 2>wrap around aid? Because the band aids are don't fit

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<v Speaker 2>like this area. So I took one of my old

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<v Speaker 2>leggings that I don't like, and I cut the legs

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<v Speaker 2>pretty small. The legging. I mean, I was seriously standing

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<v Speaker 2>in my room, going I can figure this out, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just like, okay, I have back together. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>all right, how can I do this? And then yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I just was like, oh, I've got these pair of

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<v Speaker 2>leggings and if I just cut the thigh parts out

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<v Speaker 2>of the legging, yeah, roll it up to my thigh.

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<v Speaker 3>So smart. Anyways, now that you've got it covered.

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<v Speaker 2>People are like, I don't care about your burn or

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<v Speaker 2>this is literally on your leg. I wish it has

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<v Speaker 2>been a saga.

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<v Speaker 1>I wish people understood the excitement of our world in

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<v Speaker 1>the sense that it's like the text are like, how's

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<v Speaker 1>Emmy because she's been sick, how's your leg good?

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<v Speaker 3>How's Roman? Like, that's literally our text back and forth.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, it's just life.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what's interesting is Sarah Bryce just said the

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<v Speaker 2>exact same thing because we were talking about I did

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<v Speaker 2>a one of those poop things. Oh yeah, And I'm like.

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<v Speaker 1>Can you be a little bit more specific about what

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<v Speaker 1>you mean by poop things?

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<v Speaker 3>Sure.

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<v Speaker 2>So I've been working with this guy over at Invigorate

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<v Speaker 2>Health in Franklin, and he's you guys have to me.

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<v Speaker 2>We we love Nate. He's been helping regulate the hormones.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was talking about gut stuff because now that

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<v Speaker 2>I've looked more into it, they're saying, how anxiety is

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<v Speaker 2>lots seventy seventy percent stemmed from gut and so I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, well, you know, how do you figure out

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<v Speaker 2>and he goes, the best way to do it is

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<v Speaker 2>take taking a poop sample, and I'm like, explain, So basically,

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<v Speaker 2>you poop into this thing, like this plastic or paper thing,

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<v Speaker 2>and then you scoop your poop out. Oh, and then

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<v Speaker 2>you put it into these tubes and then they send

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<v Speaker 2>it in to then see what's going on with your gut,

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<v Speaker 2>because then you can one thousand percent pinpoint Okay, this

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<v Speaker 2>is what is going on with your this is the

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<v Speaker 2>probatic you need, this is what's happening, like like just

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<v Speaker 2>completely target exactly what you need. And so I'm like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>I'd rather do that than just shoot in the dark

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<v Speaker 2>with things. So it was I was and I knew

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<v Speaker 2>Sarah Brice did it too, so I'm calling her. I'm like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>so wait, like how do you scoop it out? Like

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<v Speaker 2>is there like a spoon or like to like and

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<v Speaker 2>she was like, I miss our conversations from Hot Girl

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<v Speaker 2>Summer because now we're talking about scooping poop into jars

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<v Speaker 2>instead of you.

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<v Speaker 3>Know, men, men, they have changed a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm like, I know, I wouldn't trade it for

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<v Speaker 2>the world though it. But yeah, I mean, now we're

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<v Speaker 2>talking about just yeah, like sickness and poop and burns.

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<v Speaker 2>But whatever, it's not as exciting as people.

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<v Speaker 3>That's really not that's so funny.

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<v Speaker 2>But so I scooped it out and then he called

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<v Speaker 2>me and I had my meeting and it actually kind

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<v Speaker 2>of freaked me out. Wait why I so, I'm sure

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<v Speaker 2>it's fine, okay, but how did we even get on

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<v Speaker 2>that topic?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm talking about?

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<v Speaker 1>How boring?

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<v Speaker 2>Are sorry? I'm like, how did we get to my poop?

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<v Speaker 3>How did this? This is literally real life. I'm finding

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<v Speaker 3>out right now what's wrong with your poop?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh? I know, but it's so fascinating. Well, so basically,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, he hands you the diagram or like the

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<v Speaker 2>whole thing, you know, And I had texted him, didn't

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<v Speaker 2>I tell you? I texted him because I was talking

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<v Speaker 2>about my bird and you tell me? And then I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, hey, is my poop come in yet? Oh yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>And never followed up like he's like.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I haven't looked yet, but I will will in

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<v Speaker 2>the second. He's like, yeah, I haven't looked yet, but

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<v Speaker 2>I will in a second. And he goes, oh yeah, yep,

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<v Speaker 2>not good I was like, you can't tell me not good.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like he hasn't learned yet how to deal with you.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I go not good as I'm dying that good

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<v Speaker 2>or not good as in like fixable not good. He's like,

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<v Speaker 2>when can you meet? I was like, okay, so I'll

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<v Speaker 2>see you in an hour. Yeah, I'm like we were

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<v Speaker 2>in Wilmington, bless. I love going to Wilmington, by the way,

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<v Speaker 2>It's so fun. So go to his office and he

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<v Speaker 2>hands me the thing, so basically and I'm sure I'm fine,

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<v Speaker 2>but there's also a percentage that something could be not

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<v Speaker 2>great in there, so I have a well, first of all,

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<v Speaker 2>the inflammation is like off the charts, like you're supposed

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<v Speaker 2>to be under I think it was. I have to

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<v Speaker 2>look again, but I think it's supposed to be under

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<v Speaker 2>fifty inflammation. I'm four hundred. Oh wow, So like my

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<v Speaker 2>inflammation's off the charts. But what kind of scared me

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<v Speaker 2>was then I want to get too into it because

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not like trying to. I'm again, I'm sure I'm fine,

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<v Speaker 2>but having said that, this is like TM, I I'm

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<v Speaker 2>so sorry, but but this is also I kind of

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<v Speaker 2>want to Now I guess talk about it because it's

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<v Speaker 2>something he said. It didn't even make me think about it,

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<v Speaker 2>but now that we're almost forty, this is something that,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, whatever. So he's like okay. He's like, so

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<v Speaker 2>this one worries me a little bit, and I need

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<v Speaker 2>you to go get a colonoscopy. And I was like why.

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<v Speaker 2>He's like well, he's like not only he was your

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<v Speaker 2>blood amount in your stool is like topping charts. He's like,

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<v Speaker 2>have you noticed blood in your stool? And I was

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<v Speaker 2>like yeah, but I just thought it was like normal.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like any you know and post baby I've

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<v Speaker 2>I just thought it was like, sorry, we've talked about

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<v Speaker 2>this before, but like hemorrhid maybe I was like maybe

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<v Speaker 2>I still had one up there and it was like

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<v Speaker 2>or I don't know, and he was just like this

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<v Speaker 2>should not be anywhere near this number. He's like, I

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<v Speaker 2>need you to get a quoenoscopy and I'm like, am

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<v Speaker 2>I okay? And he goes, well this marker he's like

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<v Speaker 2>you could maybe have rectal cancer and I was so

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<v Speaker 2>I just like immediately stair crying in the office and

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<v Speaker 2>I was like Nate, and he's like, I'm sure you're fine.

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<v Speaker 2>He's like, if it's if it happened post pregnancy. He's like,

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<v Speaker 2>most likely there's maybe a hemorrhid you don't know about,

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<v Speaker 2>or something that's like tearing every time you go to

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<v Speaker 2>the bathroom or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>That's good information to know because I mean we are

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<v Speaker 1>at forty And that literally made me think, oh, I've

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<v Speaker 1>never talked to Nate about taking a sample, but like

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<v Speaker 1>I should, you know, And then I mean I should

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<v Speaker 1>get the same test just to see, you know. I

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<v Speaker 1>mean we're getting older, those things that we forget, like

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<v Speaker 1>it's time. It's time to start doing these tests.

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<v Speaker 2>When we have to take care of like our body

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<v Speaker 2>is the des soul that is keeping us. Yeah, like

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<v Speaker 2>I want to be we both want to be our

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<v Speaker 2>healthiest versions for the kids. And it's like all right,

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<v Speaker 2>I started with the hormone now, then I went to

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<v Speaker 2>the food sensitivities. I'm like, all right, all right, gut,

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<v Speaker 2>that's the that's powering everything. So with the brain and

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<v Speaker 2>you know, just I'm I just want to be like

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<v Speaker 2>here as long as I can.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, I went.

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<v Speaker 1>I actually saw him before you did and kind of

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<v Speaker 1>got my second blood work back and a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>my numbers that were off are getting much better.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh ya.

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<v Speaker 1>And so it's just like that's the first time I've

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<v Speaker 1>ever actually okay, this went down. It should keep trending down,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and like this one's perfect now and this

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<v Speaker 1>one's like it's just you feel better? Yeah, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>I feel great. I mean I haven't done all the

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<v Speaker 1>things that you've done. I didn't do the obviously, haven't

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<v Speaker 1>done the gut thing. I didn't do the food sensitivities

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<v Speaker 1>because I don't feel like I really nothing no food

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<v Speaker 1>specific foods make me feel different, you know whatever, So

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't done that.

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<v Speaker 3>But yeah, I feel great. We just have certain vitamins

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<v Speaker 3>and stuff I'm on.

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<v Speaker 2>So the the interesting piece about the food sensitivity test

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<v Speaker 2>is I go, how will I know if when I

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<v Speaker 2>go back, because after so many months you can test

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<v Speaker 2>out the food again and see he's like, oh, you'll know,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm like, oh, really, well, I and I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know if it was in my brain, but I had

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<v Speaker 2>something that I didn't know had something in it. But

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh, my stomach like hurts and I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like really tired. And then I was like, wait

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<v Speaker 2>a minute, I went back and it had that that

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<v Speaker 2>fruit extract. I was like, holy, I bet, I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>but so there might be like maybe if someone's tired

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<v Speaker 2>or whatever, or you're feeling like it could be the

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<v Speaker 2>food you're eating that's causing it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just yeah, absolutely, it's it's very fascinating. I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's all very fascinating.

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<v Speaker 2>Having said that, I don't think I have the sea word,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what I mean. I think it was just

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure it's something from pregnancy, right, But now I'm like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>now I want to know. Oh yeah, sounds like you

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<v Speaker 2>need to immediately called.

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<v Speaker 3>How old are we supposed to get klonosopes anyway?

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's fifty because I remember, like I like people, Hey, Siri,

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<v Speaker 2>but I supposed to get a kolonoscopy? Hold, oh, forty five?

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<v Speaker 1>Say I think it got younger because they're diagnosing younger crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>So you know we're not far from meeting them anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, let you know how it goes.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, let me know.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I don't want to make sure my thought,

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<v Speaker 2>but I know I don't know. At least I think

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<v Speaker 2>you go to sleep. I was talking to surely girlfriend

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<v Speaker 2>about it, who had undone. Surely I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>Hopefully right, Okay, let me know before I call Nate,

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm not doing this.

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<v Speaker 3>If you're not asleep, he's not doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>But I know, but I'm saying, before I called Nate,

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<v Speaker 1>schedule mine.

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<v Speaker 3>But lord, how did we get here?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my goodness? Is there anything you want to discuss?

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<v Speaker 1>Let's see, we were talking about this the other day

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<v Speaker 1>and I need your take on it. Okay, I'm scared

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<v Speaker 1>j Lo and Ben? Oh lord, what is going on?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you see where like he was out without his

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<v Speaker 1>wedding ring and then now she was just on a

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<v Speaker 1>carpet with her wedding ring and then they were together,

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<v Speaker 1>but like sources are saying they're not together.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, it's just I don't know. I don't know

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<v Speaker 3>what I think. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>But it just had me thinking about, like how much

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<v Speaker 1>we literally scrutinize every second of someone's relationship, Like he

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<v Speaker 1>could have just forgotten to wear his ring, Like you

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<v Speaker 1>remember that time I forgot well a couple of times

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<v Speaker 1>I took my rings off to work out.

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<v Speaker 2>Can we just talk about that moment, the fact that

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<v Speaker 2>you forgot to wear your wedding ring. You were going to, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>you were going to the hope Grows event. We yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>this is going to just go on the same ride

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<v Speaker 2>that we just went on with my poop. So Catherine,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm I'm filming in West Virginia. Catherine is on her

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<v Speaker 2>way to the Hope Grows event where Windown was being

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<v Speaker 2>honored for talking about mental health and we're getting the

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<v Speaker 2>Hope Grows Award for bringing awareness. And You're like, but

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<v Speaker 2>first some stopping at Target. Okay, like why are you

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<v Speaker 2>going to Target? But I need to take you back

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<v Speaker 2>for a minute. Okakay, You're gone, okay, right, So I'm

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<v Speaker 2>so sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, so I'm already anxious because you're anxious when I'm gone, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>especially for this kind of thing, like.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, okay, because the speaking, like we got to speak and.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just me to Kristin and I'm just like so

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<v Speaker 1>all day I'm like texting Kristen and I'm like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>but like I'm literally only saying this much, like I

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<v Speaker 1>need you to carry this, and she's off on like

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what she's She's like not even paying attention,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, And so I'm like frantically getting ready. I

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<v Speaker 1>can't remember what I was doing with the kids, but

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<v Speaker 1>I had worked out, probably not even that morning, probably

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<v Speaker 1>the day before, because I've been doing this badly, not

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<v Speaker 1>just my ring, all my rings. And I get in

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<v Speaker 1>the car and I'm like, oh my god, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>have my rings on. I was like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>Amy's going to.

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<v Speaker 2>Be there's our therapist.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, but I currently do not see Amy. I actually

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<v Speaker 1>had only technically seen Amy to help come to a

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<v Speaker 1>decision on my marriage. Right, Okay, that's very important to note.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm like, oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm living because of what the circumstances coming in.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, no, you can laugh all you want, and mind you.

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<v Speaker 1>Nick was supposed to come and now cannot come. Why

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't he come in because he was stuck with an

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<v Speaker 1>out of town client whose flight got backed up. Delaight, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>this is their only time to look at houses. I'm like, babe,

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<v Speaker 1>you know I hate this stuff. Anyway, literally didn't affect

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<v Speaker 1>me in the least, but I knew when I walked

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<v Speaker 1>in Nick was not going to be there, and I

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<v Speaker 1>had no wedding ring on, and I was like, I

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<v Speaker 1>cannot see Amy like this.

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<v Speaker 2>So she's like, I'm at Target getting a wedding ring,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm like, what are you doing. She's like, I

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<v Speaker 2>have to I can't have amy see me thought, I'm.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, who cares? Oh I forgot your ring?

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<v Speaker 2>Like big deal?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah I did.

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<v Speaker 1>I was running late and I ran to Target and

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<v Speaker 1>bought all the rings I could find.

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<v Speaker 2>So this is interesting. So this leads me to this

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<v Speaker 2>interesting topic because the pro like you wanted the perception

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<v Speaker 2>like be like, why did you Why did you care

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<v Speaker 2>that you didn't have your ring on? Did you want?

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<v Speaker 1>To be completely honest, it has never There's been a

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<v Speaker 1>few times two that I've been around you, specifically where

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<v Speaker 1>I did not have my ring on and you assumed

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<v Speaker 1>something was wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>Well that was like during the early days.

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<v Speaker 1>No, when like one day we did the podcast. Do

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<v Speaker 1>you think I was working out in the early days? No,

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<v Speaker 1>I just started working out. Literally we did a podcast

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<v Speaker 1>one day, I think I knew and then another.

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<v Speaker 2>No, what you know? You guys had your.

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<v Speaker 3>Since we've been together back together? Oh, back together, Yes,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm saying in the last month. I just started this

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<v Speaker 3>thing in January.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so confused.

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<v Speaker 1>I have never not worn my ring ever, right until

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<v Speaker 1>I actually started lifting weights.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, So like I thought like maybe like you right.

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<v Speaker 1>Was good, But I'm saying, okay, God, the way you

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<v Speaker 1>react did both times, and one of the even that

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<v Speaker 1>that was the second time.

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<v Speaker 3>You're like, but what's really going on?

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, I can't have this conversation because Janna

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<v Speaker 1>is like my therapist, and then Amy is going to

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<v Speaker 1>be like, what's going on? Like, I'm not having this

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<v Speaker 1>conversation because it literally means nothing. I just forgot my rings,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. So anyway, all that to say, none of

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<v Speaker 1>the rings fit. I'm like trying to hold a ring

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<v Speaker 1>on my finger. She did ask about him not being there,

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<v Speaker 1>and she did seem very disappointed. So thankfully I had

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<v Speaker 1>some ring on my fingers, so she didn't ask me

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<v Speaker 1>about that. All that to say, people judge, not that

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<v Speaker 1>you were judging, but people judge caring exactly, Oh, Perc,

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<v Speaker 1>Like are you sure everything's okay?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>But like to me, that's also the difference.

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<v Speaker 1>And this is where it kind of goes to j

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<v Speaker 1>Lo and Bin if something's truly going on and we're

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<v Speaker 1>really I'm not taking my ring off for people to

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<v Speaker 1>ask me that.

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<v Speaker 2>So this is an interesting thing because it leads me

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<v Speaker 2>back to when I played that game. So I did

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<v Speaker 2>back in what year was this what it was back

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<v Speaker 2>in when we did Momuary wind Down? Yes, and I

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<v Speaker 2>had just found out that he had cheated again, and

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<v Speaker 2>I took my ring off, and I wanted people to

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<v Speaker 2>notice that my ring was off. Yep. I didn't want

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<v Speaker 2>to say that we weren't together, or that we were

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<v Speaker 2>on a break or that, but I did want people

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<v Speaker 2>to notice, yeah, that's so messed up to even admit that. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, it's truth, but I wanted to. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know why. I just it's not that I wanted the attention.

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<v Speaker 2>I just I almost wanted him to know, like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>he messed up again and I'm not okay, and I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know what I'm doing.

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<v Speaker 1>That's like my innertilob Well, I think it was kind

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<v Speaker 1>of your way of telling other people, like, y'all think

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<v Speaker 1>he's good, but he's not where we're right and I

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<v Speaker 1>knew that, and so again I'm the opposite.

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<v Speaker 3>No way is right or wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>I would never do that because I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about those things. When things are not good, I

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<v Speaker 1>do not want to so we could be again. I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't take my ring off when we were getting divorced, right,

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<v Speaker 1>It took Nick taking his off before I even I

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<v Speaker 1>just don't you know, for that conversation.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so all that to say, that's why, but I

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<v Speaker 3>did get a ring.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's interesting now though, because I wouldn't do that

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<v Speaker 2>now because of that's the speculation gives me so much

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<v Speaker 2>peaky anxiety. Oh yeah that I'm like, it will stay

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<v Speaker 2>on until we are officially yeh.

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<v Speaker 3>But like something happens if you ax. That's the thing.

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<v Speaker 1>If you excellently don't wear yours one day, you're in

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<v Speaker 1>a place like j Lo and Ben where people are

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<v Speaker 1>going to assume something is wrong. So he could have

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<v Speaker 1>just not had his on. Maybe they're not together. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>they are, but I mean we're making assumptions.

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<v Speaker 2>I really don't want to say anything. I think it

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<v Speaker 2>sucks to have the all the eyeballs, you know, because

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<v Speaker 2>you just don't really know what's going on. Right. It's

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<v Speaker 2>the kind of the same thing with Kate Middleton. Everyone

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<v Speaker 2>thought they were having issues and then she had freaking cancer.

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<v Speaker 2>No that was so you know, and that was that

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<v Speaker 2>was I think a wake up call for a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of people that did talk about them, because there was

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of people, podcasters and news people that came

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<v Speaker 2>back and apologized for saying something because you know, they

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<v Speaker 2>something was really that's it's awful and it's so bad.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, I mean, I'm sure there's what marriages doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>have issues, right, you know, so I'm sure there where

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<v Speaker 2>there's smokeler's fire. And having said that, it's you know,

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<v Speaker 2>it just it sucks because people like that that are

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<v Speaker 2>in the spotlight can't can't do things privately, can't go

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<v Speaker 2>through a marriage that has hard times privately, right, you

0:18:41.040 --> 0:18:43.520
<v Speaker 2>can't have a relationship privately. Now that's the life they chose.

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<v Speaker 2>You can say that in all the things, but you know,

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<v Speaker 2>it's just there's so many eyes and that's got to

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<v Speaker 2>be really hard to have people. I mean, I only

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<v Speaker 2>have it on the smallest degree, Like I can't even

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<v Speaker 2>imagine having it like that, so many eyeballs, so much

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<v Speaker 2>prier sure so much. And for her, like I feel

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<v Speaker 2>for because she just like she loves to love and

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like I and she's just you know, I

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<v Speaker 2>want everyone to be happy. Yeah, you know, I truly do.

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<v Speaker 2>I want everyone to be happy, and I just you know,

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<v Speaker 2>obviously she's had a couple of marriages and I hate

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<v Speaker 2>like that that piece for me is the hardest piece,

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<v Speaker 2>like even marrying Alan, is the comments of the people

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<v Speaker 2>that are going to come in and go, oh, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>hope this fourth time, I'm like, you have no idea,

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<v Speaker 2>like the journey and like what that that first marriage

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<v Speaker 2>is and not that he tried to kill me, you

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<v Speaker 2>know what I mean? Like so and then there's me

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<v Speaker 2>like trying to defend it again, but like okay, so

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<v Speaker 2>what so what She's been married four times? So what

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<v Speaker 2>I'm getting married these may times?

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<v Speaker 3>Like okay, yeah, you.

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<v Speaker 2>Know, like I'm not going to fault someone for loving

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<v Speaker 2>and trying. Yeah, you know, no for sure. And I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think she should, Like I don't feel like anyone

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<v Speaker 2>should have the hate and the nuggetivity around loving and trying.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, and I hope. I

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<v Speaker 2>just can't imagine the uh that kind of circus of

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<v Speaker 2>publicly living like that trying to figure out because it's hard.

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<v Speaker 2>It's hard enough like being in a marriage closed closed doors.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, and I think it also kind of shows both

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<v Speaker 1>sides of it, like you're you understand that side of it,

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<v Speaker 1>but like I think you can also under the stand

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<v Speaker 1>the side of like they are in the public eye

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<v Speaker 1>and we do talk about these things, like me and

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<v Speaker 1>you were talking about them, like, oh, what is going on?

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<v Speaker 1>I think there's a fine line, like people want to

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<v Speaker 1>know what's going on in people's lives. We're even guilty

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<v Speaker 1>of it. We're even like what is going on with Jen?

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<v Speaker 1>And you know?

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<v Speaker 2>Like so I think they say that about our friend,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I'm like, oh, what's going on? How are you know?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just saying that.

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<v Speaker 1>I Yes, I think I'm also kind of defending the

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<v Speaker 1>other side in a sense that.

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<v Speaker 2>The people ask.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, like the people that are asking. I don't defend

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<v Speaker 1>hate ever, but I do under stand people wanting to

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<v Speaker 1>know and the intrigue behind it. We've built this world

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<v Speaker 1>where it's like, even I want to know what's new

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<v Speaker 1>with you know, Jen and Ben? Now you know, so,

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<v Speaker 1>I just I understand that, but I think that like

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<v Speaker 1>until you're on the other side, like you have been,

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<v Speaker 1>of the hate behind it, then it's hard to understand

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<v Speaker 1>how that affects people.

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<v Speaker 4>Ol.

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<v Speaker 3>Martin out now.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh my god, guys. He's a fellow Puerto rican A

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<v Speaker 2>Now listen to he said Aado on America's number one

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<v Speaker 2>He said, So, I don't even know if it's so

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<v Speaker 2>much the hate, but I think it's the failure so

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<v Speaker 2>like and this this is actually gonna get me like emotional.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's like you, I don't think people like do

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<v Speaker 2>you think I wanted to be married that many times?

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<v Speaker 2>Like truly like.

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<v Speaker 3>You just want to find love.

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<v Speaker 2>It's embarrassing, right right, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I mean that's I mean, that's such a that's

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<v Speaker 1>always been a really hard thing for you. And I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think people understand fully understand that, you know. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's I'm sure the same for her, and you know, like.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why I feel bad for her almost Yeah, like

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<v Speaker 2>like I like want this for her as much as

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<v Speaker 2>I want it for me. There's the right for that

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<v Speaker 2>where it's like, oh, I just like I want her

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<v Speaker 2>to be so happy. They want everyone to happy. I

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<v Speaker 2>want happy, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, And you all are the kind of the people

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<v Speaker 1>like that I mean, I don't know her. I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>making an assumption, but I know you're the kind of

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<v Speaker 1>person you wanted to get married once and be happy

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<v Speaker 1>for the rest of your life. Like my god, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's like the most important thing to you. Like that's

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<v Speaker 1>what you But it's almost like you're you're embarrassed and

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<v Speaker 1>you're being faulted for trying to find true love and

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<v Speaker 1>that's not fair. But I understand the embarrassment behind it,

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<v Speaker 1>and I hate that.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it's just because everyone just reads like headlines and

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<v Speaker 2>so I just feel like, I mean, Alan is the

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<v Speaker 2>first person who I didn't feel like I had to

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<v Speaker 2>defend my past like normally, Like I went on this

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<v Speaker 2>one date with this guy and he was like, so

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<v Speaker 2>you've been married a lot, And that's always kind of

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<v Speaker 2>been the conversation where I'm like, yeah, when I was nineteen,

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<v Speaker 2>I met someone and I knew him for you know,

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<v Speaker 2>a few days went to Vegas. It was an idiot.

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<v Speaker 2>He tried to kill me. They and all that in court. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I walked on the aisle to someone else and I

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<v Speaker 2>realized within a week that I made a stupid decision.

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<v Speaker 2>I was trying to be chosen. I was very young

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<v Speaker 2>and I was still like, had a lot to do,

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<v Speaker 2>but I knew it wasn't gonna work. And so those

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<v Speaker 2>two are like war marriages to me. Right, to me,

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<v Speaker 2>I always say, I've been married once, which was with Mike,

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<v Speaker 2>And do do people honestly think that I wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>not be in that marriage? Like I did not want

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<v Speaker 2>my husband to cheat on me countless times? Right, I

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<v Speaker 2>would have loved to have been married to him, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Having said that, you know, I'm now grateful for, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>the love that I do have now because it wasn't right.

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<v Speaker 2>But I did not want to get divorced. Yeah, Like

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<v Speaker 2>I would not have stayed for that many years affair

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<v Speaker 2>after affair, Right, I don't want that, but I do

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<v Speaker 2>want love, you know. And and so that's that's the

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<v Speaker 2>piece too, Like even just with the upcoming wedding, it's

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<v Speaker 2>there's embarrassment with it, and you know, people don't know

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<v Speaker 2>the whole story. They just see a headline and they

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<v Speaker 2>just go and they think with Jen too, like oh,

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<v Speaker 2>she's so you know X, Y and Z because she's

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<v Speaker 2>been married so many times. Well, no, she's just she's

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<v Speaker 2>growing and learning and we make mistakes and yeah, so

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<v Speaker 2>that's why I like, I'm just like, that's why I'm

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<v Speaker 2>an interested invested in it in a way because I

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<v Speaker 2>I have like this, I just want her to be happy.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you're rooting for him, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I want I'm rooting for like, you know, the the

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<v Speaker 2>love because it has been it's been a journey for her.

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<v Speaker 2>And whereas again where I just like, I'm not saying

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like j Lo, but marriage where I am. So

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<v Speaker 2>I want that like love for her and the happily

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<v Speaker 2>ever after because I feel in my soul that I

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<v Speaker 2>have my happily ever after and I'm so grateful now

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<v Speaker 2>for those past relationships that have led me to Alan.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, sorry, you're fine.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, because it's clearly like a that's my one piece

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<v Speaker 2>that like, yeah, you can throw, you can say all

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<v Speaker 2>the million things to me, but that's always the one

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<v Speaker 2>that like hurts because it's I have shame around it, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and I don't because it led me here. So it's

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<v Speaker 2>like it's it's like a twofold.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but also like we're I'm not supposed to feel

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<v Speaker 1>shame for our past. We're not like it led you

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<v Speaker 1>to a certain place, Like that's not what God wants

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<v Speaker 1>for you. He wants you to be to learn from that,

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<v Speaker 1>but he also is trying to show you like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it was a windy road and all that, but like

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<v Speaker 1>if it wasn't for that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and now I'm so grateful because I'm like, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't I can't imagine a world without Roman. I can't

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<v Speaker 2>imagine a world without Alan. Like I'm I'm I love

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<v Speaker 2>like I daily. I'm like, thank you, Mike, and you know,

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<v Speaker 2>to myself because I'm like, I know, I don't do

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<v Speaker 2>that anymore, but I did, you know, because I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>this is a beautiful life that I'd never imagined I

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<v Speaker 2>could ever have, and a beautiful love and so I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not like I I And that's what even with Alan,

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<v Speaker 2>when I told him, I was like, do you want

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<v Speaker 2>to know about the things, And He's just like I

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<v Speaker 2>don't care. He's like, I love who you are and

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<v Speaker 2>how that's shaped you. And I mean, obviously he knows

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<v Speaker 2>now and we've talked about it. But that was one

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<v Speaker 2>of my favorite things about him when I first met him,

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<v Speaker 2>because he it didn't even make him flinch. Yeah, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>it didn't make me feel crazy, didn't make me feel

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<v Speaker 2>like I had to defend myself. He was just like,

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<v Speaker 2>you're a warrior and I love you and you know. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>so that again, that piece has been great and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not like though there is pieces of shame in it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just because of the comments and stuff. But I'm

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<v Speaker 2>so grateful for that path. Yeah done, moving on. Absolutely,

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<v Speaker 2>I just want everyone to be happy. That is the

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<v Speaker 2>take that. That is the headline that I just I

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<v Speaker 2>just want everyone to be happy.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh what else?

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<v Speaker 2>That's about all I got for you now that I'm yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>That's this is what's going on in our world over here.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like I should just like lean into it though,

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<v Speaker 2>Like when I get on the plane, when I get

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<v Speaker 2>on the plane to go to Scotland for our wedding,

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<v Speaker 2>shed is be like fourth.

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<v Speaker 3>Time here we go.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I feel I should just play into it.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like you should.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean again, you're gonna have people saying things either way,

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<v Speaker 1>So either like make fun of yourself or.

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<v Speaker 2>I kind of have like I did the other day

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<v Speaker 2>on the story, I'm like, never done the second dress.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd like if it just kind of makes me, you know, cackle.

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<v Speaker 2>You can't hurt me because it already hurt me more so,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm already doing it to myself people anyways, all right, Well,

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<v Speaker 2>on that note, we need to try on some bridesmaid

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<v Speaker 2>dresses that we have in the closet, so all right,

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<v Speaker 2>see you next way. See ya bye,