1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,160 Speaker 1: Bugg a lot. Hold on tight. Here it is a 2 00:00:02,200 --> 00:00:06,280 Speaker 1: strawberry letter, and another one here we go subject married 3 00:00:06,360 --> 00:00:09,960 Speaker 1: men only. Is there really a signal that women put 4 00:00:09,960 --> 00:00:13,200 Speaker 1: off that tells a man that she only dates married men, 5 00:00:13,640 --> 00:00:16,319 Speaker 1: because that's all I seem to pull since I was 6 00:00:16,360 --> 00:00:19,520 Speaker 1: sixteen and now I'm twenty eight. If so, let me 7 00:00:19,600 --> 00:00:22,079 Speaker 1: know so I can clear it off my face. I 8 00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:25,440 Speaker 1: always thought it was because I was mature for my age, 9 00:00:25,600 --> 00:00:28,800 Speaker 1: but I even pulled broke married men. Don't laugh, but 10 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:31,240 Speaker 1: I believe if he was going to play, he had 11 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:34,720 Speaker 1: to pay. Low esteem has been an issue in the past. 12 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:38,120 Speaker 1: But one time with the man, I can't let go. 13 00:00:38,400 --> 00:00:41,159 Speaker 1: I can, but once I'm with the men, I can 14 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:44,440 Speaker 1: let them go. However they cannot let me go. We 15 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:48,120 Speaker 1: all still remain friends. We talked about everything and anything, 16 00:00:48,520 --> 00:00:51,800 Speaker 1: and I do suggest that they receive couples counseling. Okay, 17 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:54,920 Speaker 1: I know I'm still in the wrong. I'm not slow. 18 00:00:55,160 --> 00:00:58,040 Speaker 1: It's just a maneuver. I try to sick myself out 19 00:00:58,480 --> 00:01:02,639 Speaker 1: to get them to outside myself out. I couldn't get 20 00:01:02,680 --> 00:01:05,160 Speaker 1: that one, Okay. I try to psych myself out, uh 21 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:07,920 Speaker 1: to get them to leave me. It sucks, I know, 22 00:01:08,120 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 1: but the change the phone number move doesn't work when 23 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:14,200 Speaker 1: they know where you work and live. These are not 24 00:01:14,360 --> 00:01:17,000 Speaker 1: bad men. I believe they really just need someone to 25 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:20,319 Speaker 1: talk to. But like men, they can't separate the cookie 26 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:22,680 Speaker 1: from the friend. Thank you, and I hope you don't 27 00:01:22,680 --> 00:01:25,800 Speaker 1: clown me too bad. Well, we don't have to clown 28 00:01:25,840 --> 00:01:30,360 Speaker 1: you because you know you're clowning yourself. You really are. Uh, 29 00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:33,720 Speaker 1: every time you get with the merried man, you're clowning yourself. Uh. 30 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:36,039 Speaker 1: You say, do you have something on your face that 31 00:01:36,040 --> 00:01:38,720 Speaker 1: that puts this vibe out there? You know that you 32 00:01:38,840 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 1: only are interested in married men. Well, uh, no, Uh, 33 00:01:43,319 --> 00:01:46,160 Speaker 1: not necessarily the case, you know, but men do like 34 00:01:46,240 --> 00:01:48,720 Speaker 1: confidence in a woman, and it doesn't matter if you 35 00:01:48,800 --> 00:01:50,640 Speaker 1: pull them. I mean, I take it that you're an 36 00:01:50,640 --> 00:01:53,240 Speaker 1: attractive woman. So men are probably gonna hit on you, 37 00:01:53,360 --> 00:01:56,240 Speaker 1: single and marry. But it's up to you to say no. 38 00:01:56,680 --> 00:01:59,200 Speaker 1: It's up to you not to allow this to go down. 39 00:01:59,520 --> 00:02:02,080 Speaker 1: You say self esteem has been an issue in the past, 40 00:02:02,120 --> 00:02:05,760 Speaker 1: and apparently it still is, you know, because you keep 41 00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:08,560 Speaker 1: pulling the same kinds of guys. You keep dating these 42 00:02:08,600 --> 00:02:11,400 Speaker 1: same kinds of guys. Uh. You also say that you 43 00:02:11,440 --> 00:02:14,119 Speaker 1: know you're in the wrong, and and and people. I say, 44 00:02:14,160 --> 00:02:16,720 Speaker 1: people who know better usually do better. So I say, 45 00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:20,520 Speaker 1: you know, girl, let these men go, leave his married 46 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:23,920 Speaker 1: men alone. That you pull, uh, you know, and that's it. 47 00:02:24,240 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: Move on with your life, let him go. You already 48 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:30,520 Speaker 1: know what to do. Steve this this, this might help 49 00:02:30,520 --> 00:02:32,920 Speaker 1: a few people out here. Subject married me and only 50 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:37,600 Speaker 1: She opens up the letter with something really good. Is 51 00:02:37,639 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 1: that really a signal that women put off the tales 52 00:02:40,200 --> 00:02:43,519 Speaker 1: of man, that she only dates married men. They answer 53 00:02:43,560 --> 00:02:48,120 Speaker 1: to that is yes. The answer to that is yes. See, 54 00:02:48,240 --> 00:02:52,520 Speaker 1: we are hunters. We know how to hunt. If you look, 55 00:02:52,960 --> 00:02:55,680 Speaker 1: men are no different from animals that you see in 56 00:02:55,760 --> 00:02:58,919 Speaker 1: the while when they hunt. When you see a group 57 00:02:58,960 --> 00:03:02,160 Speaker 1: of wolves attack heard, who do they look for? The elderly, 58 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:07,760 Speaker 1: the sick, the weak, and the young. The elderly, the sick, 59 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:14,120 Speaker 1: the weak, and the young. Women, if if, if, if, 60 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 1: if you look broken, don't have self esteem, we well 61 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:23,600 Speaker 1: we got you. If you're young, not mature, we got you. 62 00:03:24,560 --> 00:03:27,000 Speaker 1: And if you seem like you ain't been keeping up 63 00:03:27,240 --> 00:03:30,280 Speaker 1: with the rest of everybody else, that's a weakness, we 64 00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:32,959 Speaker 1: got you. So yeah, they all signal that women put 65 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:35,520 Speaker 1: off the tales a man, that she only dates married 66 00:03:35,520 --> 00:03:39,840 Speaker 1: men is number one. You don't ask questions. That's the 67 00:03:39,880 --> 00:03:42,920 Speaker 1: first thing that lets the married man. No, it's okay. 68 00:03:43,200 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 1: You don't ask any questions. Can I have what's your 69 00:03:47,440 --> 00:03:50,920 Speaker 1: home number? Can I come by? What time? Why is this? See? 70 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:55,200 Speaker 1: So you run into these men and you don't ask 71 00:03:55,240 --> 00:03:58,120 Speaker 1: no questions. Then you find out they're married, or they 72 00:03:58,200 --> 00:04:01,040 Speaker 1: walk up to you, and then they tell you you're married. 73 00:04:01,240 --> 00:04:06,600 Speaker 1: And because you have no standards and requirements, now you next, okay, 74 00:04:06,840 --> 00:04:11,800 Speaker 1: because that's all I seem to pull since I was sixteen. Sixteen, 75 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:16,320 Speaker 1: you've been pulling married men since you were sixteen. You 76 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:19,440 Speaker 1: got more than a self esteem problem, young lady. You 77 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:21,160 Speaker 1: got some other problems, but they don't need to be 78 00:04:21,200 --> 00:04:24,880 Speaker 1: getting into that. I think you know what's wrong. Uh, 79 00:04:25,040 --> 00:04:27,360 Speaker 1: let me know if there's a way so I can 80 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:29,919 Speaker 1: clear it off my face. It ain't on your face, 81 00:04:30,120 --> 00:04:35,280 Speaker 1: it's in your conversation. You have no questions, no standards, 82 00:04:35,279 --> 00:04:38,760 Speaker 1: no requirements. So guess what me being married? What they 83 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:42,440 Speaker 1: got to do with anything? Um? You used to think 84 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:45,479 Speaker 1: it was because you were mature for your age. No, 85 00:04:45,800 --> 00:04:49,800 Speaker 1: it's the direct opposite. You've been immature for your age. 86 00:04:50,320 --> 00:04:53,080 Speaker 1: See acting fast and having sex don't make you more 87 00:04:53,120 --> 00:04:55,760 Speaker 1: of a lady or a woman. Ask any grown woman 88 00:04:55,839 --> 00:04:58,440 Speaker 1: if that makes you more of a lady or a woman, 89 00:04:58,480 --> 00:05:01,359 Speaker 1: and I'm almost certain they will tell you till the 90 00:05:01,480 --> 00:05:04,320 Speaker 1: lady that ain't got nothing to do with your womanhood 91 00:05:04,360 --> 00:05:07,960 Speaker 1: and your respectability. But you even pull broke me and 92 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:11,279 Speaker 1: don't laugh. Lo self estee has been an issue in 93 00:05:11,320 --> 00:05:14,760 Speaker 1: the past, Lady, your self esteem is still an issue. 94 00:05:15,320 --> 00:05:18,719 Speaker 1: Then when you then when you break it off, you 95 00:05:18,839 --> 00:05:21,679 Speaker 1: say that we still remain friends. We talk about everything 96 00:05:21,720 --> 00:05:27,599 Speaker 1: and anything, and I do suggest that they receive couples counseling. Lady, 97 00:05:28,120 --> 00:05:33,720 Speaker 1: you don't even mean that. That's just something you said 98 00:05:34,000 --> 00:05:37,080 Speaker 1: to try to clear your little raggedy conscious of the 99 00:05:37,160 --> 00:05:40,080 Speaker 1: wrong you've done. Let me do this wrong, but now 100 00:05:40,160 --> 00:05:42,280 Speaker 1: let me try to help you. You can't help a 101 00:05:42,360 --> 00:05:44,760 Speaker 1: man outside of his marriage with what's going on in 102 00:05:44,960 --> 00:05:48,960 Speaker 1: his marriage. You is a damn problem. So now what 103 00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:52,960 Speaker 1: is counseling to save it? Save it? We'll be back. 104 00:05:53,080 --> 00:05:55,320 Speaker 1: Come on, let's get to part two of your response 105 00:05:55,400 --> 00:05:59,240 Speaker 1: to today's Strawberry letter. All Right, you go, God love 106 00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:05,040 Speaker 1: this subject married men only. This woman has been sleeping 107 00:06:05,080 --> 00:06:09,279 Speaker 1: with married men since she was sixteen, She's no, she 108 00:06:09,440 --> 00:06:11,880 Speaker 1: was thinking it was because she was mature for her age, 109 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:14,000 Speaker 1: and she wants to know it's a signal that women 110 00:06:14,040 --> 00:06:15,960 Speaker 1: put off the tales of man that she only days 111 00:06:16,040 --> 00:06:18,440 Speaker 1: married men, or she thought that it was low self 112 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:20,640 Speaker 1: esteem has been an issue in the past. I'm trying 113 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:22,760 Speaker 1: to tell her that it's still an issue. And then 114 00:06:22,800 --> 00:06:24,520 Speaker 1: she said, even after she can break up with him, 115 00:06:24,520 --> 00:06:27,240 Speaker 1: after they're dating together, but they don't know how and 116 00:06:27,440 --> 00:06:29,680 Speaker 1: uh when they but they still want to talk to 117 00:06:29,720 --> 00:06:32,520 Speaker 1: her about anything and everything. And I do suggest that 118 00:06:32,560 --> 00:06:36,000 Speaker 1: they receive couples counseling, which is a statement that she 119 00:06:36,080 --> 00:06:41,159 Speaker 1: can't possibly really mean when you're the cause of the counseling. See, 120 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:45,440 Speaker 1: you can't be the cause and the answer. See, if 121 00:06:45,440 --> 00:06:49,800 Speaker 1: you're the problem, you're not the solution. So lady, come 122 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:52,840 Speaker 1: on now, Okay, I know I'm still in the wrong, 123 00:06:53,000 --> 00:06:57,039 Speaker 1: which means you haven't fixed the damn thing. She said, 124 00:06:57,080 --> 00:07:00,120 Speaker 1: I'm not slow, and you know, I try to like 125 00:07:00,240 --> 00:07:02,760 Speaker 1: myself out to get them to leave me. It sucks, 126 00:07:02,880 --> 00:07:05,640 Speaker 1: I know, but I change the numbers. They find out 127 00:07:05,640 --> 00:07:08,000 Speaker 1: where you lives in him. Now, then she says, these 128 00:07:08,040 --> 00:07:11,400 Speaker 1: are not bad men, Lady, you're a bad judge of character, 129 00:07:12,080 --> 00:07:14,560 Speaker 1: and from grown man who's married is sleeping with you 130 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:18,080 Speaker 1: and your sixteen that's not only a bad man, that's 131 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:22,920 Speaker 1: a gorilla. That's what men calling our circle gorillas. They 132 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:26,560 Speaker 1: just they just gorillas now, man, So that's just anybody. 133 00:07:26,760 --> 00:07:29,880 Speaker 1: A sixteen year old girl and you're married. Come on, man, 134 00:07:30,680 --> 00:07:33,520 Speaker 1: come on, you weigh out of line. And then she say, 135 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:37,120 Speaker 1: I believe that they really just need someone to talk to. 136 00:07:37,880 --> 00:07:40,800 Speaker 1: We always say that we need somebody to talk to 137 00:07:40,840 --> 00:07:44,640 Speaker 1: you because it plays on your nurturing side as women, 138 00:07:45,080 --> 00:07:48,520 Speaker 1: and you want to fix and heal and soothe and comfort, 139 00:07:48,760 --> 00:07:52,600 Speaker 1: so you listen. But now then she says, but it's 140 00:07:52,680 --> 00:07:56,880 Speaker 1: like men. They can't separate the cookie from the friend. 141 00:07:57,320 --> 00:08:00,040 Speaker 1: Are you stupid? Let me hit you to something of 142 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 1: those men. Oh, we can separate the cookie from the friend. 143 00:08:03,960 --> 00:08:07,040 Speaker 1: It's just guess what it's jack pop for us when 144 00:08:07,040 --> 00:08:11,200 Speaker 1: we find a friendly cookie. You don't have, all right, 145 00:08:11,760 --> 00:08:15,040 Speaker 1: all you are is the friendly cookie. That's all you are. 146 00:08:15,800 --> 00:08:17,520 Speaker 1: You send telling about some man. I don't know how 147 00:08:17,520 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 1: to differentiate the two. We ain't that stupid, all right, Steve, 148 00:08:21,360 --> 00:08:23,560 Speaker 1: We gotta get out of here. Thank you so very much. 149 00:08:23,600 --> 00:08:26,400 Speaker 1: Good hand Sir, you can email us or instagram us 150 00:08:26,400 --> 00:08:29,760 Speaker 1: your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter at My Girls Shirley 151 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:32,800 Speaker 1: and please join me this Thursday at one thirty p m. 152 00:08:32,920 --> 00:08:36,880 Speaker 1: Eastern Time for the Strawberry Letter Live after show on Facebook. 153 00:08:37,160 --> 00:08:39,880 Speaker 1: You're listening to The Steve Harvey Morning Show.