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Speaker 2: All right, Thank you, nephew. Subject smother lover. Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 2: I'm a thirty nine year old woman dating a forty

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Speaker 2: five year old man. We met a year ago and

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Speaker 2: things started off fantastic and moved quickly. He is a

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Speaker 2: very sensitive and emotional man who has no difficulty expressing

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Speaker 2: his every emotion to me. After dating man that play

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Speaker 2: games and aren't serious about settling down with one woman,

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Speaker 2: my boyfriend's openness was refreshing, but now it's proving to

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Speaker 2: be way too much. He has started to complain about

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Speaker 2: me being too busy for him. Since I'm back at

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Speaker 2: work full time. Now, I get home and need a

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Speaker 2: few minutes to chill and relax. But he's in my

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Speaker 2: driveway every day this week. When I get home. He

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Speaker 2: wants to be right up under me every week, right

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Speaker 2: every week night, and keeps telling me that he's afraid

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Speaker 2: we're growing apart. He told me that he loved me.

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Speaker 2: He loved when we were quarantined together because we were inseparable.

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Speaker 1: I liked it too, because we were getting to know

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Speaker 1: each other.

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Speaker 2: Then he started bringing his work clothes to my house

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Speaker 2: and says it's too cold to go home every night

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Speaker 2: and he'd rather cuddle with me. This man loves to cuddle,

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Speaker 2: wine and make love to me whenever we're together. I

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Speaker 2: told him he's smothering me with his actions and smothering

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Speaker 2: me in the bed nightly.

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Speaker 1: I have to roll him off of me.

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Speaker 2: He says he can't sleep unless he's touching some part

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Speaker 2: of my body. Recently, I had a conversation about taking

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Speaker 2: a break or dialing it back a little bit because

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Speaker 2: he couldn't process. But he couldn't process a conversation without

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Speaker 2: crying and telling me that he can't live without me.

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Speaker 2: I love this type of attention and all of the affection,

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Speaker 2: but I'm afraid of falling too deeply for him because

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Speaker 2: he may have emotional issues. How do I handle this

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Speaker 2: relationship emotional issues?

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Something might be a little off here.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I'm sure get off of me has probably

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Speaker 2: crossed your mind, and you've said it a few times

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Speaker 2: because you know while you're with him, because all this

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Speaker 2: stuff here says you say he's doing it is a

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Speaker 2: little smothering and suffocating if he's in the driveway when

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Speaker 2: you get home and all of that.

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Speaker 1: But you also said that you moved quickly.

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Speaker 2: Now these are the type of red flags that slip

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Speaker 2: by when you move too quickly.

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Speaker 1: I think there's definitely.

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Speaker 2: Something going on with him because he is too much

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Speaker 2: and he has too much time on his hand. Why

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Speaker 2: is he sitting in your driveway before you can even

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Speaker 2: get home from work?

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Speaker 1: Where does he work? I mean?

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Speaker 2: And why is he crying and whining when you tell

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Speaker 2: him that you need to dial it back and take

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Speaker 2: a break. These are the things that attracted you to

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Speaker 2: him before you've been dating for a year, which is

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Speaker 2: a good amount of time. But I think there is

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Speaker 2: something a little off saying he can't live without you,

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Speaker 2: he's not being able to sleep without touching any part

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Speaker 2: of your body and making your body go numb. And

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Speaker 2: this we're not talking numb in a good way from

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Speaker 2: your perspective. And I will say this, Yes, women do

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Speaker 2: like to cuddle. Yes, we do love the affections and

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Speaker 2: attention of a man and all of that. We like

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Speaker 2: to basket and all that glow. But it does sound

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Speaker 2: like he's being a bit too needy and overbearing. So

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Speaker 2: I just say it's time to reassess your relationship and

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Speaker 2: maybe set some new boundaries.

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Speaker 4: Steve, I'm about to do the letter now. I want

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Speaker 4: to for on all sensitive or caring people. My response

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Speaker 4: is not for you. I would like to put a

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Speaker 4: disclaimer on my response. Again, if you are a sensitive

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Speaker 4: or caring person, my response, you're not going to like.

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Speaker 3: Let's go.

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Speaker 1: This.

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Speaker 4: Stephen Sherlley, I'm a thirty nine year old woman updating

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Speaker 4: a forty five year old man. We met a year

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Speaker 3: He is a very.

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Speaker 4: Sensitive and emotional man. Now let's stop right here. He

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Speaker 4: is a very sensitive and emotional man. Ladies, listen to me.

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Speaker 4: That in a man is a dangerous combination. The combination

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Speaker 4: is dangerous. Now you can be one or the other,

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Speaker 4: but you can't be both.

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Speaker 1: Why not.

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Speaker 4: You can be a sensitive man, or you can be

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Speaker 4: an emotional man, but you can't be both, because now

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Speaker 4: you are invading on a woman's right to be either.

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Speaker 4: Because if you both of them all the damn time,

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Speaker 4: where does she get to be.

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Speaker 3: Either one of those?

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Speaker 4: If you have a man that's emotional and sensitive, that's

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Speaker 4: a dangerous combination.

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Speaker 3: And the letter will start telling it immediately.

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Speaker 4: Who has no difficulty expressing every emotion to me?

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Speaker 3: Who do that?

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Speaker 4: And after dating men to play games and ain't serious

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Speaker 4: about settling down with one woman? My boyfriend's openness was refreshing.

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Speaker 4: I bet it was at first, but soon as she

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Speaker 4: say that in the letter, but now it's proving to

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Speaker 4: be way too much. Why because surely it's a dangerous combination.

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Speaker 4: You can't have a man that's sensitive and emotional. It's

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Speaker 4: too much, because even a woman don't want that in

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Speaker 4: a man. Oh he's so sensitive, Oh he's emotional both.

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Speaker 4: He's about to drive my ass trade. You'll see we

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Speaker 4: come back. I got it for you, all right.

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Speaker 2: today's mother lover will get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 2: let's recap today's strawberry letter, the subject's mother lover.

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Speaker 4: All right, This thirty nine year old woman is dating

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Speaker 4: a man who's forty five. He's very sensitive and emotional.

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Speaker 4: Now I say it on the break before. That's a

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Speaker 4: dangerous combination.

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Speaker 3: Ladies.

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Speaker 4: A man can be one or the other, but he

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Speaker 4: cannot be both. Surely ask me why I said, because

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Speaker 4: it invades on a woman's space. To be either, because

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Speaker 4: a woman, Kate, when does she get to be emotional

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Speaker 4: or sensitive if your man is already that all the time.

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Speaker 4: She said that her openness, he said, her openness was

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Speaker 4: refreshing at first, but now it's gotten to be the

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Speaker 4: way too much.

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Speaker 3: See, So now let's get into the letter.

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Speaker 4: He started to complain about me being too busy for

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Speaker 4: him out back to work full time. I get home

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Speaker 4: and I need a few minutes to chill and relax.

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Speaker 4: But he's been in my driveway every day this week

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Speaker 4: when I get home. Oh god, he in the driveway.

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Speaker 4: I'm talking about as soon as you get home, you

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Speaker 4: can't chill, You can't have your own thoughts.

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Speaker 3: You want to decompress. You've been at work. So now

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Speaker 3: he's stalking and he sprungs.

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Speaker 4: He wants to be right up under me every night,

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Speaker 4: and keeps telling me he's afraid we're growing apart. That's

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Speaker 4: another word when your man tells you he's afraid. What

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Speaker 4: woman he wants? A scary ass man.

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Speaker 3: I'm afraid.

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Speaker 4: He told me he loved me when we were quarantined

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Speaker 4: together because we were inseparable, well.

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Speaker 3: Everybody was quarantine.

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Speaker 4: Quarantine was very revealing, though, you either found out you

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Speaker 4: hated a person or you really enjoyed the person.

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Speaker 3: But then there's also a middle ground.

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Speaker 4: A lot of people said, well, be nice to get

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Speaker 4: back to work, so we can just separate from each

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Speaker 4: other at least grow to miss each other. But I

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Speaker 4: still love him and like him. I just don't like

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Speaker 4: him as much all the time. You done got tired

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Speaker 4: of his ass. He didne started bringing work clothes to

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Speaker 4: home every night and he rather cuddle with me. This

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Speaker 4: is another dangerous statement. You got a man that loves

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Speaker 4: to cuddle. Now, ladies, I know you think coloring is cute,

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Speaker 4: but not all the time. Watch why watch this man

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Speaker 4: loves to cuddle, whine, and make love to me whenever

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Speaker 4: we together. This is another scary ass combination. He likes

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Speaker 4: to cuddle, wine and make love. What making is this?

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Speaker 3: Okay? So let me try to work.

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Speaker 4: Through this here, because I ain't never done that, so

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Speaker 4: it's gonna take me a minute. He likes to cuddle,

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Speaker 4: wine and make love. All right, here we go, All

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Speaker 4: right now? We now we love it. Were in the

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Speaker 4: hear this. Now you you want him to handle his bier,

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Speaker 4: But what is your ass crying for? What is the wine?

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Speaker 3: Now?

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Speaker 4: We through making love and we threw whining. Now he cuddling.

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Speaker 4: But now you got to come down off that crime. Right,

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Speaker 4: So now you cuddling and you hear his hit. Okay,

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Speaker 4: but I'm coming down off the winding and I'm breathing

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Speaker 4: her because I was we was loved, because I'm sensitive

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Speaker 3: Do y'all see what I'm going with this here now?

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 4: And then he literally lays on half your body until

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Speaker 3: Oh so now we're talking about this where therapy come

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Speaker 3: in at? Now?

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Speaker 4: See it ain't no therapist. But I'm a judge. Now,

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Speaker 4: so let me just tell you what I have figured

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Speaker 4: out this he left me. See, he used to either

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Speaker 4: suck his thumb. He had a.

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Speaker 3: Blanket or a teddy bear.

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Speaker 4: He had all this and that got burned up in

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Speaker 4: his mama's house fire back in ninety four. All that

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Speaker 4: All that got burned up in the house fire. So

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Speaker 4: now he done met you. Now you it you the

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Speaker 3: See, and now.

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Speaker 4: You told him y'all had a conversation about down in

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Speaker 4: their back a little bit and he couldn't process the conversation.

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Speaker 4: So guess what he did while you start telling. He

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Speaker 4: started crying because he emotional ancestry. And then he told

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Speaker 3: Well, let's see see.

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Speaker 4: Once you tell me what you can't do proven because

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