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Speaker 1: test and I can't believe what the results said.

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Speaker 2: Maybe you know, she was the office you know, office lady. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: she's escorted, yeap. And maybe it's one of the other

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Speaker 2: office boys.

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Speaker 3: Baby.

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Speaker 2: Uh oh, yeah, he thought he was at daddy, but

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Speaker 2: he was just uh, you know, an uncle.

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Speaker 1: Ted's the daddy. Now yeah, he's just an uncle damn downgraded.

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Speaker 1: All right, Well, let's see what this mess is. Sam. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I twenty eight female, was with my ex husband for

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Speaker 1: about six years. During this time, we were trying for

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Speaker 1: a baby but had no success. About four years into

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Speaker 1: our marriage, our marriage hit a rough patch. My ex

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Speaker 1: had stress at work and slept with his coworker to

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Speaker 4: Hey, you know, some people squeeze stress balls. Some people

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Speaker 4: squeeze the dits of the girl at work exactly. Some essentially,

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Speaker 4: some people, you know, flow a garb in. Some people

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Speaker 2: You know, as long as you're you know, putting your

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Speaker 2: seat in the right place, no harm, no foul.

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Speaker 1: That seed ends up being tomato, tomato, tomato, tomato, babybato.

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Speaker 1: That's right, he confessed to me rather quickly. He does

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Speaker 1: other things quickly too. Oh got him, got him? And

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Speaker 1: a week later they sat me down and told me

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Speaker 4: Baby.

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Speaker 3: Wow, that's a big whammy to be wham with. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Not only I am I cheating on you, but you

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Speaker 2: know that that kid that we've been trying for the

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Speaker 2: last four years. Little office ladies, you know she she's

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Speaker 3: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yours not so much. Oh god. I was an

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Speaker 1: idiot back then, so I felt like I should forgive

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Speaker 1: him no what, because I truly believe he loved me,

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Speaker 3: Wait, she didn't take him back, did she?

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Speaker 1: I mean, as of right now, she forgave him.

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Speaker 2: Okay, she just forgave him, but didn't like Okay, all right.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if he deserves forgive.

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Speaker 1: I do not think so. I do not think so,

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Speaker 1: especially not like I just had.

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Speaker 2: You're al, Yes, I gave you for permission to explore

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Speaker 2: her body.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, but it wasn't. My ex's family treated

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Speaker 1: me like their own. But my ex's supposed daughter was

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Speaker 1: the apple of their eye. So as a result, my

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Speaker 1: ex's coworker was a frequent present in all of our lives.

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Speaker 2: Wait wait, so like OP is still going to her

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Speaker 2: exes like family events.

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Speaker 1: So it seems like she was very close right with

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Speaker 1: weird dynamic, bro, weird dynamic. Then the weirder thing is

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Speaker 1: the person he cheated with is now getting brought into

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Speaker 2: Well that makes like, honestly, that makes more sense. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: because it's like his new relationship, right because it doesn't

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Speaker 1: I don't know if it's developing into a a actual relationship. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm confused. Is OP and married to the guy? Still

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Speaker 1: at this point she's forgiven him and there's no divorce

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Speaker 3: That's crazy? Right now? What do you do?

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Speaker 1: Which is why she was saying like, oh, I thought

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Speaker 2: He has a baby with another woman, Like I can

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Speaker 2: see forgiving cheating maybe yeah, maybe maybe, but forgiving cheating

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Speaker 2: when it has resulted in a child.

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Speaker 1: Bro, which if you think about it, is and then

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Speaker 1: and the grandparents and everything like googling and googling over

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Speaker 2: Is and then you're just reminded that you couldn't have

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Speaker 2: the woman for that matter.

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Speaker 1: My in laws felt like they had to include the

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Speaker 2: God, I mean, I get it. It makes sense. The

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Speaker 2: only thing that doesn't make sense right here following the

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Speaker 1: Well, you know, she said earlier she like she felt

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Speaker 1: I'm probably like I love this family like I She's

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Speaker 3: Here right here.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that makes sense, that makes sense, But damn, bro,

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Speaker 2: I have a higher opinion of yourself, Op.

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Speaker 1: You deserve so much honestly, it did not help that

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Speaker 1: I suspected that my coworker had feelings for my ex

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Speaker 3: No, they they bang, bro, they have a kid together.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, she's not out of the reality distortion

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Speaker 2: field very much caught up.

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Speaker 1: People thought that she was my ex's wife instead of

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, yes, out hurts, but you gotta you gotta

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Speaker 2: leaveta you have to leave.

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Speaker 1: Especially this is a year after the baby's borne. This

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Speaker 2: And the disrespect bro insane disrespect.

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Speaker 1: The in laws too, like everybody.

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Speaker 3: I hate it.

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Speaker 1: It hit me that I was now treated as the

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Speaker 1: the yes yes, yes you and sister yeah you do.

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Speaker 1: I filed for divorce a few months later and left.

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Speaker 1: It was the hardest time of my life. But I

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Speaker 3: Amazing, So we're turning it around. We're turning it around.

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Speaker 1: Fast forward to now me and my new boyfriend are

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Speaker 3: Oh oh oh, I see it coming. Okay, okay, I'm

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Speaker 3: not gonna spoil it for anyone seen it, but if

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I see you, Say I see you in the

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Speaker 3: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: It crossed my mind then that maybe he was the

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Speaker 1: because this is almost.

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Speaker 2: Three years moved from Damn, and like the ex husband's

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Speaker 2: like damn. You know, like my kids starting to really

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Speaker 2: look like Jeff from accounting.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, crazy. He wants to just grab any

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Speaker 3: Weird, very interesting.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, always walking towards Jeff so strange he called Jeff dad.

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Speaker 1: Yeah weird. However, my new boyfriend was so happy about

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Speaker 1: my daughter's birth posted on Facebook and tagged me in

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Speaker 1: the post. I was still friends with my ex's sister

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Speaker 1: in law on Facebook and she saw the post. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so now she can break it to everybody.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, She.

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Speaker 1: Called me up and said that she was hurt that

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Speaker 1: I didn't let her know. Oh, that I could actually

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Speaker 1: first marriage could have been my ex's fault. It was

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Speaker 3: Test uh oh.

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Speaker 1: And put in the comments do you think he's the

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Speaker 3: Or not not real?

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Speaker 1: Not real? Yes, the poor baby girl was never my

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Speaker 2: Honestly, honestly, he deserves it. Yuh, he prosperity, he deserves it.

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Speaker 1: The coworker apparently was dating this terrible guy during the

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Speaker 3: Yikes.

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Speaker 1: Now my ex blames me for not telling him that

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Speaker 1: I was pregnant way before him having to father this girl.

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Speaker 1: He's doing pretty bad now and I couldn't help but

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Speaker 3: Told Oh, you don't owe him anything.

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Speaker 2: I want to know what everyone else thinks, Like, is

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Speaker 2: But I think, no way, no way. I mean, he

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Speaker 1: Family, they were still from all we can tell, still

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and that she he didn't advocate for her at all. No,

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Speaker 2: Like you know, it's it's kind of poetic that the

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Speaker 1: Him and had a baby with someone else. Rough, that's

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Speaker 1: I only replied with asking how his daughter is, because

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Speaker 1: She seems like an adorable kiddo and adores her dad face.

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Speaker 1: My ex's mistress is able to support the girl financially,

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Speaker 1: so my ex won't contribute to that, but he says

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Speaker 1: her family unit, dad, grandparents, and that sucks.

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Speaker 3: Sucks for the girl like that.

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Speaker 2: You know, the real victim here is the baby girl, you.

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Speaker 1: Over, absolutely because yeah, now it's like, is that whole

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Speaker 2: I mean maybe you know, she's young enough that she

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Speaker 2: probably won't know, but frick that that sucks.

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Speaker 3: I know, what would you do if you were.

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Speaker 2: Ope, I feel like OPI kind of made all the

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Speaker 1: Him yeah, which was like it wasn't even like a

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Speaker 1: usually a bad move, like it was a whole move.

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Speaker 1: It was too generous, way too generous.

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Speaker 3: But what do you think? Also, have you ever been

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Speaker 3: in a situation like this?

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Speaker 2: Let us talk comments, let us know, please please, I

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Speaker 2: hope you haven't been in a we don't.

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Speaker 3: All right, let's see him