1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,040 Speaker 1: My wife is forcing me not to adopt my sister 2 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:06,280 Speaker 1: after my dad passed, so I'm divorcing her. 3 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:08,840 Speaker 2: You know, how dare you try and adopt your sister? 4 00:00:09,080 --> 00:00:13,600 Speaker 2: That is like disgusting, disgusting. I can't believe you would 5 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:16,600 Speaker 2: care for your family. Yeah, like, why don't you just 6 00:00:16,840 --> 00:00:19,600 Speaker 2: not care for your family and let them suffer? 7 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:21,880 Speaker 1: I don't know, I say, I think we have a 8 00:00:22,440 --> 00:00:27,000 Speaker 1: policy on this show. Oh yeah, always make your family suffer. Bingo, yeah, bingo, 9 00:00:27,080 --> 00:00:28,040 Speaker 1: mango yuca a manga. 10 00:00:28,120 --> 00:00:28,480 Speaker 2: That's right. 11 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:31,880 Speaker 1: I twenty eight male, have been married to my wife, 12 00:00:31,960 --> 00:00:35,080 Speaker 1: twenty eight female for two years. We do not have kids, 13 00:00:35,360 --> 00:00:37,680 Speaker 1: and we did not plan to. I have a little sister, 14 00:00:37,760 --> 00:00:40,520 Speaker 1: eleven female. Due to the age gap, I am more 15 00:00:40,600 --> 00:00:43,320 Speaker 1: like another father than a brother. Yeah, that's that's a 16 00:00:43,360 --> 00:00:46,200 Speaker 1: big age pretty big age gap. My father passed away 17 00:00:46,200 --> 00:00:49,680 Speaker 1: from pancreatic cancer. Damn. There are two options for my sister. 18 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:52,560 Speaker 1: Either I take her in or my uncle dad's brother 19 00:00:52,600 --> 00:00:55,959 Speaker 1: takes her in. So we asked who she wanted, and 20 00:00:56,080 --> 00:00:58,840 Speaker 1: she chose me. It's kind of cute and sad at 21 00:00:58,840 --> 00:01:00,520 Speaker 1: the same time. Yeah, heartbreaking. 22 00:01:00,600 --> 00:01:02,920 Speaker 2: It's at least nice that like she has someone to 23 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:06,080 Speaker 2: go to that, yeah, and relationship trusts that the brother 24 00:01:06,120 --> 00:01:06,959 Speaker 2: wants to be there for her. 25 00:01:07,959 --> 00:01:12,360 Speaker 1: Here is the problem. My wife and I decided we 26 00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:15,560 Speaker 1: do not want kids, so she does not want to 27 00:01:15,600 --> 00:01:19,039 Speaker 1: adopt my sister, especially since my uncle can yeo, I mean, 28 00:01:19,280 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 1: kes Bro. 29 00:01:19,840 --> 00:01:24,440 Speaker 2: That's that's that's a bit drastic. 30 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:28,679 Speaker 1: Yikes, I mean, especially considering the circumstances like have a heart. 31 00:01:29,240 --> 00:01:31,680 Speaker 2: Literally it's like, no, I want to be able to, 32 00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:33,639 Speaker 2: you know, hop on a plane and go to Cancun 33 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:36,160 Speaker 2: with the girls without having to get a babysitter. 34 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:40,200 Speaker 1: It's not like like this is this is so much different. 35 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:42,880 Speaker 1: This is so much It's also like it's only like 36 00:01:43,120 --> 00:01:46,560 Speaker 1: you can you can probably like maybe the mainly staying 37 00:01:46,560 --> 00:01:49,920 Speaker 1: with the brother, but like she could probably stay with 38 00:01:49,920 --> 00:01:51,400 Speaker 1: the uncle like every once in a while if they 39 00:01:51,400 --> 00:01:53,240 Speaker 1: wanted to go do something. So it's not like there's 40 00:01:53,280 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 1: not other support structures where they would be totally tied down. 41 00:01:58,560 --> 00:02:02,720 Speaker 2: But consider this, Sam, She not only will she not 42 00:02:02,800 --> 00:02:05,160 Speaker 2: be able to go get the cheap margaritas and cancuon, 43 00:02:05,880 --> 00:02:10,440 Speaker 2: she will lose money by paying for this breathing thing. 44 00:02:10,639 --> 00:02:11,280 Speaker 1: That is true. 45 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:16,720 Speaker 2: That is breathing thing sacks. This shit sack is sucking 46 00:02:16,760 --> 00:02:18,880 Speaker 2: away her can coon margarita money. 47 00:02:19,120 --> 00:02:23,400 Speaker 1: That is can coon margarita money is sacred, sacred. Did 48 00:02:23,440 --> 00:02:27,320 Speaker 1: you gotta get that spicy hallopenia? Come on, come on, dude, 49 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:29,600 Speaker 1: so good and you can get also like with the 50 00:02:29,680 --> 00:02:33,200 Speaker 1: dollar conversion, like you can get so many margaritas, and 51 00:02:33,320 --> 00:02:34,480 Speaker 1: you need those margaritas. 52 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:37,000 Speaker 2: Guess what the dollar conversion is for the ship. 53 00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:41,440 Speaker 1: Sack negatived not thing, bro. 54 00:02:42,360 --> 00:02:44,519 Speaker 2: Kiss this good vod dude, She's. 55 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:46,600 Speaker 1: Gonna need all those margharita is to get over how 56 00:02:46,680 --> 00:02:49,520 Speaker 1: terrible she of a person. She is not accepting this 57 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:51,000 Speaker 1: eleven year olds just like. 58 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:54,840 Speaker 2: This, this eleven year old just breathing and reading my 59 00:02:54,919 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 2: money away audacity. 60 00:02:56,880 --> 00:02:58,800 Speaker 1: But my sister has no parents now, and I want 61 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:00,920 Speaker 1: to make sure she's able to recover her and be healthy. 62 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:03,079 Speaker 1: And since she wants to be with me, I will 63 00:03:03,080 --> 00:03:05,000 Speaker 1: not force her to be with our uncle, I mean, 64 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:07,480 Speaker 1: which makes total sense, makes a lot of sense. This 65 00:03:07,520 --> 00:03:09,720 Speaker 1: is causing a lot of tension with my wife. Things 66 00:03:09,800 --> 00:03:13,240 Speaker 1: escalated and finally told her I am doing this whether 67 00:03:13,280 --> 00:03:16,359 Speaker 1: she agrees to or not. She can either accept it 68 00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:18,200 Speaker 1: or we get divorced. 69 00:03:18,680 --> 00:03:20,639 Speaker 2: Oh, my man is drawing a. 70 00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:22,880 Speaker 1: Line of that. That's an ultimatum, dude, But honestly, like 71 00:03:22,919 --> 00:03:27,040 Speaker 1: I totally understand the ultimatum like that, like like that, like, 72 00:03:27,080 --> 00:03:30,200 Speaker 1: what do you do in this situation? Dude? Also his 73 00:03:30,360 --> 00:03:33,680 Speaker 1: wife again red flags in these relationships, Like his wife 74 00:03:33,760 --> 00:03:37,440 Speaker 1: seems totally like like not able to understand the gravity 75 00:03:37,440 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 1: of this situation, not at all, just like to have 76 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:47,640 Speaker 1: a heart. I don't know, God, impossible. We have not 77 00:03:47,840 --> 00:03:50,320 Speaker 1: talked since then. What can I do in this situation? 78 00:03:51,360 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 1: I have like a fucking eyelash. I okay, my sister 79 00:03:56,320 --> 00:03:58,960 Speaker 1: is staying with my uncle until I prepare things needed 80 00:03:58,960 --> 00:04:01,200 Speaker 1: for her to live with me. Yes, my uncle talked 81 00:04:01,240 --> 00:04:03,120 Speaker 1: with her and she said she still wants to live 82 00:04:03,160 --> 00:04:05,560 Speaker 1: with me. I live closer to my dad than my uncle, 83 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 1: so it's easier for her with me. I will adopt 84 00:04:09,160 --> 00:04:11,040 Speaker 1: my sister. I know I'm going to do it, and 85 00:04:11,080 --> 00:04:13,680 Speaker 1: I feel like my marriage is doomed. I just posted 86 00:04:13,760 --> 00:04:16,320 Speaker 1: here because maybe someone can give me an idea if 87 00:04:16,360 --> 00:04:17,159 Speaker 1: there's another way. 88 00:04:17,360 --> 00:04:18,039 Speaker 2: And is there? 89 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:21,479 Speaker 1: Well, there is an update, oh dear. And you know 90 00:04:21,520 --> 00:04:24,120 Speaker 1: why we love updates because everything gets resolved. Oh yeah, 91 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:24,799 Speaker 1: the updates. 92 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:28,360 Speaker 2: Updates always mean everything is peachy keen, and we're gonna. 93 00:04:28,160 --> 00:04:30,280 Speaker 1: Go loo key, Like a lot of times updates are 94 00:04:30,360 --> 00:04:32,440 Speaker 1: that Like a lot of times updates get resolved. 95 00:04:32,680 --> 00:04:36,200 Speaker 2: That is true, And then other times I talked to 96 00:04:36,240 --> 00:04:38,760 Speaker 2: my wife again. She still refused and she does not 97 00:04:38,839 --> 00:04:42,040 Speaker 2: want kids, so we are basically deciding to go our 98 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:45,040 Speaker 2: separate ways. She said, you were really choosing your sister 99 00:04:45,279 --> 00:04:48,680 Speaker 2: over me. That's shit, sack sack. 100 00:04:49,279 --> 00:04:50,839 Speaker 1: I told her, I do not want to go into 101 00:04:50,839 --> 00:04:53,719 Speaker 1: this discussion again, but if that is what you want 102 00:04:53,960 --> 00:04:55,760 Speaker 1: to but if that is what you want to hear. 103 00:04:56,200 --> 00:05:00,320 Speaker 1: But if that is what you want to hear, then fine, Yes, 104 00:05:00,400 --> 00:05:03,280 Speaker 1: my sister takes priority right now, I am choosing her 105 00:05:03,320 --> 00:05:07,320 Speaker 1: over you. This was our last conversation. I've been living 106 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:09,680 Speaker 1: with my sister for one week now. Being a single 107 00:05:09,760 --> 00:05:13,159 Speaker 1: fatherish brother is definitely challenging, but I'm actually kind of 108 00:05:13,200 --> 00:05:13,680 Speaker 1: enjoying it. 109 00:05:14,560 --> 00:05:18,840 Speaker 2: Wow. Man, that just went down in the worst possible way. 110 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:22,080 Speaker 1: I mean, I but it's like this is like I 111 00:05:22,080 --> 00:05:24,520 Speaker 1: feel like this wife just is not understanding at all. 112 00:05:24,600 --> 00:05:28,719 Speaker 1: Like I like, if you're going through I mean, obviously 113 00:05:28,720 --> 00:05:33,159 Speaker 1: it changes her life too. Yeah, and I do understand that, 114 00:05:33,880 --> 00:05:38,360 Speaker 1: but like if she's not willing to to to do 115 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:41,920 Speaker 1: this and like take care of this person that you 116 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:46,200 Speaker 1: really care for, then she's probably not the one then totally. 117 00:05:46,240 --> 00:05:48,919 Speaker 2: And also it's like like you were saying, it's like, Okay, 118 00:05:49,920 --> 00:05:52,040 Speaker 2: we'll bring her in, but it's like all right, look, 119 00:05:52,120 --> 00:05:54,240 Speaker 2: we can bring her in, but like I don't want to, 120 00:05:55,240 --> 00:05:57,600 Speaker 2: you know, I want you to be the main one responsible, 121 00:05:57,640 --> 00:05:59,760 Speaker 2: you know, like driving our twur things and all that. 122 00:05:59,839 --> 00:06:03,800 Speaker 2: Like if if you can like really like take responsibility 123 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:06,240 Speaker 2: and still give me some leniency in my life. Like 124 00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:09,279 Speaker 2: clearly there's there's some things in her life that she 125 00:06:09,320 --> 00:06:11,760 Speaker 2: wants to have freedom, yeah from without the children. 126 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:14,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe you know, maybe OP is like op he 127 00:06:15,040 --> 00:06:17,560 Speaker 1: is the main one responsible for her, and he's probably 128 00:06:17,600 --> 00:06:19,680 Speaker 1: like like maybe the stipulation could be like hey, like 129 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:21,320 Speaker 1: I don't want to take care of kids, I'm not 130 00:06:21,320 --> 00:06:23,440 Speaker 1: good at it or whatever exactly, and so it's like okay, 131 00:06:23,520 --> 00:06:26,480 Speaker 1: like no sweat, I will take care of my sister 132 00:06:26,520 --> 00:06:28,359 Speaker 1: and then it'll be okay. Yeah, and like me like 133 00:06:28,400 --> 00:06:31,920 Speaker 1: me and my uncle basically, but damn bro, this Yeah, 134 00:06:31,960 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 1: this relationship with done so bad. 135 00:06:33,880 --> 00:06:35,880 Speaker 2: And you know, sometimes you just can't let the ship 136 00:06:35,920 --> 00:06:36,560 Speaker 2: sex in your life. 137 00:06:36,600 --> 00:06:39,279 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Yeah, but also like this is this is 138 00:06:39,279 --> 00:06:42,760 Speaker 1: a this is a test of relationship and uh and 139 00:06:42,960 --> 00:06:45,520 Speaker 1: they failed, but hey, that's a good thing. That's a 140 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:49,000 Speaker 1: good thing. You move on to better and brighter pastures, 141 00:06:49,080 --> 00:06:49,920 Speaker 1: get someone better. Op.