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Speaker 3: My brother's ex wife made a controversial article about him

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Speaker 3: and it went viral. They say, all press is good press.

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Speaker 2: Right. You know how your.

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Speaker 3: Android homepage pulls articles that thinks she would like to

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Speaker 3: read into a feed?

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Speaker 2: Today the robots.

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Speaker 3: Brought me a very dubious, present and apparently popular article

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Speaker 3: featuring my ex sister in laws let's call her Eve,

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Speaker 3: from one of those Facebook driven click bait sides. The

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Speaker 3: article is about my brother. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 3: from really cool people, and if you want to your

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Speaker 3: own story, go to our slash Okay stories. I'm sub bred,

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Speaker 3: so I don't want to link it as it uses

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Speaker 3: her real name and.

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Speaker 2: Photos, but for context.

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Speaker 3: It got thirty three thousand shares and a video that

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Speaker 3: highlights the story, and it almost has two million views.

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Speaker 3: It's meant to be a love story about her real

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Speaker 3: profound struggle to leave her first husband, my brother who

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Speaker 3: will call Jim to be with her current partner. She

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Speaker 3: seems very happy with the new guy, which is great,

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Speaker 3: But she felt the need to introduce the story by

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Speaker 3: painting my brother as a fat shaming, dream crushing, emotionally

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Speaker 3: harmful be astered. Oh and she repeatedly returns to her

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Speaker 3: misery as his wife as a refrain. Let's be clear,

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Speaker 3: Jim's not a fat shaming, dream crushing, emotionally harmful disaster,

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Speaker 3: and nothing in this article revealed anything worrying about him.

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Speaker 3: To me, I know more about the situation from both

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Speaker 3: Jim and Eth than I honestly want to. Jim feels

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Speaker 3: things very deeply, but stinks at talking about it. His

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Speaker 3: big expressions of love usually involve kind acts, he never

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Speaker 3: mentions to anyone, and he hates spending money. He feels

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Speaker 3: deeply too, but her approach clashed with this. She's always

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Speaker 3: scaled the highs and lows of her life into public epics,

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Speaker 3: and her big expressions of love you involved big gifts.

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Speaker 3: They got married very young. She walked out on him

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Speaker 3: after ten plus years. They're both much better off. He

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Speaker 3: still blames himself for almost everything. The melodramatic article is

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Speaker 3: pretty par for the course, Eve, But as you might

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Speaker 3: deduce from the above, Jim is profoundly a private person.

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Speaker 3: He cares very much how others see him. I want

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Speaker 3: much he would want to curl up and pass away

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Speaker 3: reading this article. Jim and I weren't close growing up,

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Speaker 3: but we are now. Like a lot of siblings, we

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Speaker 3: are simultaneously polar opposites and the same person. I act

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Speaker 3: more like an Eve than Jim. Case in point, I'm

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Speaker 3: asking about this on a Reddit, but he and I

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Speaker 3: can react to emotional situations in very similar ways. If

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Speaker 3: something like this was out there about me, I would

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Speaker 3: want to know, especially since real names and photos are

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Speaker 3: involved in the article. He's not named, but it's a

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Speaker 3: small town, and I would be devastated if my loved

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Speaker 3: one's new and didn't tell me. I live in another state.

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Speaker 3: I have no idea if he knows about the story.

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Speaker 3: Jim isn't a heavy Facebook user, but it's an important

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Speaker 3: news source to a lot of his friends. My family

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Speaker 3: has a bad habit of hiding things in order to

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Speaker 3: ask them. My personal impulse to tell him is at

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Speaker 3: which is best for us help kind strangers, and we

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Speaker 3: got some relevant comments. But I remember whenever I had

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Speaker 3: a video that went viral that like around two million views,

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Speaker 2: It was like, dude, I just saw you on this video.

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Speaker 3: This is crazy. So if it keeps getting viral, but.

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Speaker 4: You know, it's just it's a matter of it sounds

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Speaker 4: like they like like they said, it's like they were

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Speaker 3: Flee Slayer, I think you should tell him you know

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Speaker 3: unfair to him, and ask if he's aware out of it.

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Speaker 3: If he does already know, he might appreciate a sympathetic

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Speaker 3: If he doesn't know, he will probably much prefer to

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Speaker 3: to who might not choose their words carefully. Opie says,

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Speaker 3: thank you very much. This is the way I'm going

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Speaker 3: to go. I appreciate the advice on softening the blow

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Speaker 3: while being honest, our beetic robotic. This seems outrageously far fetched.

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Speaker 3: Is your brother a British prince or something? How would

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Speaker 3: Google even know to recommend some clickbait obscure article about

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Speaker 3: people in another state? Opie says, Lol, Yeah, it's all

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Speaker 3: a bit wild to me. She writes for the township

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Speaker 3: paper sometimes, and usually I get those articles in my feed. Yesterday,

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Speaker 3: another local paper featured her in one of those reverse

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Speaker 3: parodies teachers have been doing because of quarantine, and I

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Speaker 3: look for more stuff involving her and game Boy Path says,

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Speaker 3: I don't want to link it as it uses real names.

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Speaker 3: Is Jim's full name listed in the article? How easily

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Speaker 3: could one deduce that the brother you personally know is

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Speaker 3: Jim is the same person that this author Eve is

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Speaker 3: talking about. I'm not a lawyer, but depending on the

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Speaker 3: nature of her writing, it may be slander if her

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Speaker 3: statements are both specific and falsifiable. Not to a lawyer,

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Speaker 3: but regardless of the legalities, if you're understanding of the

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Speaker 3: either he, a friend or a professional colleague could get

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Speaker 3: a hold of this article and its contents. You should

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Speaker 3: warn him. This could allow him to advance some notice

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Speaker 3: popular enough for that situation to happen. Then it's up

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Speaker 3: to you, hope, he says, thank you for the response.

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Speaker 3: I should half clarified. It contains the full names and

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Speaker 3: photos of his ex and her new partner, but my

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Speaker 3: brother is fortunately only referred to as the first husband.

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Speaker 3: You wouldn't have to do much sleuthing to google her

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Speaker 3: name and find his form wedding announcements, et cetera. But

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Speaker 3: it's not literally written in the article. Getting to the

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Speaker 3: edit edit, thank you all for the advice. I'm calling

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Speaker 3: them tomorrow after recruiting a close friend who could be

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Speaker 3: Some people have asked about the emotional abuse thing. I'm very,

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Speaker 3: very confident about my understanding of our situation, but I'm

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Speaker 3: not comfortable sharing all the gory details here. I've removed

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Speaker 3: too huge of an ahole. The article and its content

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Speaker 3: are part of a long documented pattern of each choices

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Speaker 3: in a variety of life areas. Jim has only had supportive,

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Speaker 3: positive relationships outside this one, and has since gotten remarried

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Speaker 2: But people who do.

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Speaker 3: Report abuse should always be heard and assumed to be honest,

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Speaker 2: Is a lawyer involved or not? I'm saying no. I'm

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna say that there's probably not enough there to

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Speaker 2: It's like I think, at the end of the day,

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Speaker 3: As a positive update as there can be, my brother

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Speaker 3: aka Jim, and his wife aka April and I video

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Speaker 3: They've been showered with support from all sides, which probably

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Speaker 3: at least appreciate the good intentions. We took a couple

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Speaker 3: the extra stress this inevitably puts on April than about himself.

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Speaker 3: Were better or worse. He told me he knows and

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Speaker 3: it's all bull and it doesn't quite feel real. I

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Speaker 3: experience with Eve's choices. Unfortunately, April's amazing and there really

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Speaker 3: And guys, we can process more stories with you. You

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Speaker 3: go to your favorite freaking Comcast app search up. Okay,

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Speaker 3: story time right there, dude, We got we got a

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Speaker 3: So they're already doing a great job helping him focus

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Speaker 3: on things that matter. Thank you again for all your help.

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Speaker 2: Good redditors. Edit.

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Speaker 3: This isn't a parable about how poor and innocent men

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Speaker 3: constantly have their lives ruined by horrible women through a

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Speaker 3: random accusations, harmful act. That parable is a BS narrative

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Speaker 3: need to just say that cheers.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 4: But see now I don't get that because they're like,

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Speaker 4: that's not a thing, except it's the exact thing that

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Speaker 4: this guy went through.

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Speaker 2: But it doesn't happen.

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Speaker 4: But it's like we can say that things happen, and

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Speaker 4: that also people exaggerate sometimes.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, people exactly.

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Speaker 4: Plus you gotta get clicks, dude, this is exactly got

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Speaker 4: to get Clixactly what happened to this guy?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: People, But anyway, Yeah, it's not like it's happening to

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Speaker 2: I think was the point of that edit. I like

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Speaker 2: how this has turned out.

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Speaker 4: I think I am a fan of It's like, hey,

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Speaker 4: immediately he knew about it, had a support system around

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Speaker 4: him taking any easier, taking it breezier, trying to hang tough.

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Speaker 2: That's all you can do it and it'll blow over.

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Speaker 2: It will at some point go away.

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Speaker 4: I think there were some good points made though about

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Speaker 4: that that if if there is money made off of

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Speaker 4: There are three main events that have unfolded throughout this

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Speaker 4: And I have absolutely had it. I've always been incredibly

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we're judging you right now, girl.

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Speaker 4: now brings us to Halloween of twenty twenty four. Prudence

438
00:19:42,880 --> 00:19:45,159
Speaker 4: decided to have some people over for a Halloween party

439
00:19:45,359 --> 00:19:48,560
Speaker 4: and extended the Olive branch by letting me know I

440
00:19:48,640 --> 00:19:51,080
Speaker 4: was welcome to join it. Since everyone she was inviting

441
00:19:51,160 --> 00:19:53,679
Speaker 4: was mutual friends, I was relieved, and I thought, maybe,

442
00:19:54,040 --> 00:19:56,480
Speaker 4: just maybe we could be civil or maybe even be

443
00:19:56,520 --> 00:19:57,080
Speaker 4: friends again.

444
00:19:57,119 --> 00:19:59,760
Speaker 2: But boy was wrong.

445
00:20:00,200 --> 00:20:02,480
Speaker 4: Things were okay for the majority of the night, but

446
00:20:02,520 --> 00:20:04,640
Speaker 4: there was a lot of booze flowing, and the later

447
00:20:04,720 --> 00:20:07,520
Speaker 4: it gets, the more of a problem that becomes. She

448
00:20:07,600 --> 00:20:09,959
Speaker 4: pulled me into a room and closed the door behind us,

449
00:20:10,000 --> 00:20:12,600
Speaker 4: got in my face and accused me of being wrong

450
00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:15,840
Speaker 4: in the argument we had about her dog. I asked

451
00:20:15,840 --> 00:20:18,399
Speaker 4: her why that even came up right now. She tried

452
00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:20,040
Speaker 4: to say that it had something to do with what

453
00:20:20,080 --> 00:20:22,520
Speaker 4: we were just talking about, but she had just been

454
00:20:22,560 --> 00:20:24,520
Speaker 4: wrestling with the guys she invited over.

455
00:20:24,600 --> 00:20:25,959
Speaker 2: We weren't talking about anything.

456
00:20:26,119 --> 00:20:28,000
Speaker 4: She was just wasted and she saw me, so it

457
00:20:28,040 --> 00:20:30,480
Speaker 4: came to mind, and she impulsively grabbed me and cornered me.

458
00:20:30,600 --> 00:20:32,320
Speaker 4: I just decided to let it go because I didn't

459
00:20:32,359 --> 00:20:34,439
Speaker 4: care about what she thought anymore at that point. A

460
00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:36,880
Speaker 4: few moments later, Pruden started making food in the air

461
00:20:36,920 --> 00:20:40,440
Speaker 4: fryer for everyone, but forgot she didn't started wrestling again.

462
00:20:40,600 --> 00:20:43,639
Speaker 4: I found the food half burnt but still edible, and

463
00:20:43,680 --> 00:20:45,960
Speaker 4: so to be kind, I finished making the food for

464
00:20:46,080 --> 00:20:48,520
Speaker 4: her and played it. I didn't realize that while I

465
00:20:48,600 --> 00:20:50,600
Speaker 4: was doing that, she was going around telling people that

466
00:20:50,760 --> 00:20:53,200
Speaker 4: I'd put the food in but burnt it all. I'd

467
00:20:53,200 --> 00:20:56,000
Speaker 4: only realized when she came to me and also tried

468
00:20:56,040 --> 00:20:57,879
Speaker 4: to convince me that I put the food in, and

469
00:20:57,960 --> 00:21:00,679
Speaker 4: another guest corrected her, saying she act actually put it in.

470
00:21:01,080 --> 00:21:04,399
Speaker 4: After that, I politely excused myself to bed. I knew

471
00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:06,119
Speaker 4: it was about to get messy and I didn't want

472
00:21:06,160 --> 00:21:07,800
Speaker 4: to be a part of it. I cozied up into bed,

473
00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:10,480
Speaker 4: door closed, grateful. I made it through the night without

474
00:21:10,520 --> 00:21:13,760
Speaker 4: any major issues, and then there was a knock at

475
00:21:13,800 --> 00:21:18,040
Speaker 4: the door. Knock, knock, aty knock. I wonder who it

476
00:21:18,080 --> 00:21:18,439
Speaker 4: could be.

477
00:21:18,760 --> 00:21:20,960
Speaker 3: So we already got bad, got through the bad part.

478
00:21:21,119 --> 00:21:21,359
Speaker 2: Yeah.

479
00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:23,640
Speaker 4: Prudence came in to tell me she thought I went

480
00:21:23,680 --> 00:21:25,639
Speaker 4: to bed because of the food thing, and that.

481
00:21:25,520 --> 00:21:27,399
Speaker 2: She really didn't care who put the food in, and

482
00:21:27,440 --> 00:21:28,320
Speaker 2: it wasn't a big deal.

483
00:21:28,440 --> 00:21:31,000
Speaker 4: I don't know why I would do this, considering it

484
00:21:31,080 --> 00:21:33,760
Speaker 4: worked so well the last time, but I took the

485
00:21:33,840 --> 00:21:36,480
Speaker 4: opportunity to address the fact that I was a little

486
00:21:36,480 --> 00:21:38,440
Speaker 4: more upset about how she closed me in a room

487
00:21:38,440 --> 00:21:40,679
Speaker 4: and got in my face. She started saying she was

488
00:21:40,720 --> 00:21:43,840
Speaker 4: never talking about me, and I clarified that I was

489
00:21:43,880 --> 00:21:46,480
Speaker 4: referring to what she herself had said to me. She

490
00:21:46,560 --> 00:21:48,679
Speaker 4: just continued on about how she wasn't talking about me

491
00:21:48,720 --> 00:21:50,520
Speaker 4: to other people. So I just stopped her and told

492
00:21:50,560 --> 00:21:53,000
Speaker 4: her I don't want to talk anymore. She said, honey,

493
00:21:53,200 --> 00:21:56,679
Speaker 4: I wasn't trying to still be friends. I don't know

494
00:21:57,080 --> 00:21:59,040
Speaker 4: why you think I want to talk to you. I

495
00:21:59,040 --> 00:22:00,760
Speaker 4: stopped her and I said, no, no, no, I mean

496
00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:03,800
Speaker 4: this conversation right now. That pissed her off. She closed

497
00:22:03,840 --> 00:22:06,720
Speaker 4: my door and I just sighed whatever. I went to

498
00:22:06,760 --> 00:22:09,280
Speaker 4: get my phone that I had left out there, and

499
00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:11,439
Speaker 4: I heard her telling people that I was accusing her

500
00:22:11,480 --> 00:22:13,600
Speaker 4: of talking crap about me. I went into the room

501
00:22:13,680 --> 00:22:16,840
Speaker 4: and clarified again that no, I'm talking about what you

502
00:22:17,160 --> 00:22:19,919
Speaker 4: said to me. And then she started screaming, and I

503
00:22:19,960 --> 00:22:21,800
Speaker 4: mean blood curdling screaming.

504
00:22:21,960 --> 00:22:25,840
Speaker 2: That's not what you said, you're such a heavy liar.

505
00:22:28,880 --> 00:22:32,159
Speaker 4: I just said okay and turned around and went to

506
00:22:32,200 --> 00:22:35,000
Speaker 4: my room and closed the door. She literally followed me

507
00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:38,720
Speaker 4: and was screaming at me through my door. I opened

508
00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:40,679
Speaker 4: my door as she was yelling, and I had to

509
00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:43,080
Speaker 4: wipe her spit off my face from the screaming and

510
00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:45,080
Speaker 4: tell her she needs to leave me alone because I'm

511
00:22:45,119 --> 00:22:47,920
Speaker 4: not going back to jail over someone like her. At

512
00:22:47,920 --> 00:22:51,119
Speaker 4: that point, my brother Neville, heard the commotion finally and

513
00:22:51,160 --> 00:22:53,800
Speaker 4: came back downstairs. This was the beginning of a four

514
00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:56,680
Speaker 4: hour screaming match. I say match, but it was just

515
00:22:56,760 --> 00:22:58,959
Speaker 4: her screaming at me for letting her dog inside, then

516
00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:01,520
Speaker 4: for not helping her clean up after herself anymore because

517
00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:03,679
Speaker 4: she was mistreating me, for not wanting to share my

518
00:23:03,720 --> 00:23:06,639
Speaker 4: things anymore with her, because she was mistreating me, et cetera.

519
00:23:06,800 --> 00:23:09,520
Speaker 4: She started screaming in front of everyone, my secrets and

520
00:23:09,640 --> 00:23:11,920
Speaker 4: things that I've told her in confidence. She was calling

521
00:23:11,960 --> 00:23:15,399
Speaker 4: me the most vile things. She even said that my

522
00:23:15,520 --> 00:23:17,720
Speaker 4: cat doesn't deserve to leave my room. I could never

523
00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:20,960
Speaker 4: think anything bad about her dog. Thankfully, Neville saw the

524
00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:22,840
Speaker 4: second half of it all and he sat with me

525
00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:25,679
Speaker 4: for a while after Prudence was finally escorted off to

526
00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:28,520
Speaker 4: bed by Bart. I told Neville I was just grateful

527
00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:30,879
Speaker 4: that other people were there to witness what I've been

528
00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:33,240
Speaker 4: putting up with, and he apologized for not believing me

529
00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:35,080
Speaker 4: or listening to me when I tried to tell him

530
00:23:35,080 --> 00:23:37,440
Speaker 4: how bad it was. Even though Neville didn't really stand

531
00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:40,040
Speaker 4: up for me verbally that night, I was still glad

532
00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:42,879
Speaker 4: he stood with me while I endured all the things

533
00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:45,439
Speaker 4: she hurled at me. I thought that him witnessing that

534
00:23:45,640 --> 00:23:47,840
Speaker 4: was going to deter him from wanting to be with

535
00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:50,760
Speaker 4: her any further. I realized this is already incredibly long.

536
00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:52,280
Speaker 4: So if you guys want to hear about what went

537
00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:53,960
Speaker 4: down with the third main event, the one that has

538
00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:56,480
Speaker 4: me cutting off both my brother Neville and my roommate Prudence,

539
00:23:56,560 --> 00:23:59,679
Speaker 4: and by extension, cutting off Bartholomew sense he's Prudence's boyfriend.

540
00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:02,480
Speaker 4: Let me know, guys, guess what we're about to We're

541
00:24:02,480 --> 00:24:04,560
Speaker 4: about to know right now. We're just going right into it.

542
00:24:04,640 --> 00:24:07,840
Speaker 2: I wanted to preface with the fact that there were.

543
00:24:07,760 --> 00:24:11,800
Speaker 4: Countless instances of Prudence being toxic in between these main events.

544
00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:13,199
Speaker 2: I'm not going to get into that.

545
00:24:13,320 --> 00:24:15,080
Speaker 4: I also want to mention that the home we are

546
00:24:15,119 --> 00:24:18,040
Speaker 4: renting is actually one of my childhood homes. We moved

547
00:24:18,119 --> 00:24:21,080
Speaker 4: there in twenty ten. And just to reiterate, Neville is

548
00:24:21,119 --> 00:24:23,600
Speaker 4: my brother, Prudence is my ex best friend, and Bart

549
00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:26,439
Speaker 4: is Prudence's long term boyfriend. Okay, anyways, remember how I

550
00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:30,480
Speaker 4: said that Prudence's dog has food and attention aggression and attacked.

551
00:24:30,160 --> 00:24:32,360
Speaker 2: My cat multiple times. Well, she doesn't watch.

552
00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:35,440
Speaker 4: Her dog all the time, and her dog roams around unsupervised.

553
00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:37,600
Speaker 4: This wouldn't be a problem to me if she wasn't

554
00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:40,000
Speaker 4: aggressive towards my cat. I am always keeping her dog

555
00:24:40,040 --> 00:24:41,920
Speaker 4: from eating out of the cat box, which is by

556
00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:42,359
Speaker 4: my room.

557
00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:44,840
Speaker 2: Her dog gets locked out of whatever.

558
00:24:44,560 --> 00:24:47,320
Speaker 4: Room Prudence is in frequently because Prudence gets annoyed that

559
00:24:47,400 --> 00:24:49,520
Speaker 4: her dog has a lot of energy and doesn't just chill.

560
00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:52,400
Speaker 2: We need a new law where if you get a dog.

561
00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:56,040
Speaker 4: And then you deny its existence and right to behave

562
00:24:56,200 --> 00:24:59,199
Speaker 4: and be a dog jail. It was inconvenient that I

563
00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:01,520
Speaker 4: have to also watch her dog, but the argument I

564
00:25:01,600 --> 00:25:03,760
Speaker 4: knew would happened wasn't worth bringing it up. That is

565
00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:06,359
Speaker 4: until the pup started coming into my room. Like I've mentioned,

566
00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:08,639
Speaker 4: I love this dog so much. My concern is that

567
00:25:08,720 --> 00:25:10,400
Speaker 4: if I wasn't in my room to stop her from

568
00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:12,920
Speaker 4: coming in and my cat was eating, my cat could

569
00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:15,520
Speaker 4: be unalived. My cat is my baby. I love her

570
00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:17,360
Speaker 4: as if she were a human child. So I sent

571
00:25:17,400 --> 00:25:20,160
Speaker 4: this message in the roommate group chat. Hey guys, please

572
00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:23,040
Speaker 4: please please if you're going to let the dog roam,

573
00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:25,439
Speaker 4: keep an eye on her. She has started trying to

574
00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:27,760
Speaker 4: come into my room and it is a safety issue

575
00:25:27,760 --> 00:25:30,200
Speaker 4: for both of our pets. I love her very much,

576
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:32,080
Speaker 4: but that's just not acceptable.

577
00:25:32,119 --> 00:25:32,439
Speaker 2: Thank you.

578
00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:34,919
Speaker 4: And my brother Neville texted me this on the side

579
00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:38,159
Speaker 4: in private. Stop texting the group chat. They didn't intentionally

580
00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:40,240
Speaker 4: try to send the dog in there, and she's normally

581
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:43,840
Speaker 4: being watched. Please, I'm overhearing every single problem that everyone has.

582
00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:45,679
Speaker 4: You won't have to deal with it much longer.

583
00:25:45,840 --> 00:25:46,240
Speaker 2: Thank you.

584
00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:49,240
Speaker 4: Oh this is the point where I'd done lost my

585
00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:53,040
Speaker 4: ish Ay. She is most definitely not always watched. And

586
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:55,320
Speaker 4: b I'm not going to stop standing up for myself

587
00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:58,400
Speaker 4: just because he is uncomfortable. He said, it's just crazy.

588
00:25:58,400 --> 00:26:02,320
Speaker 4: I've taken it this far, like what me take it

589
00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:02,800
Speaker 4: this far?

590
00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:05,200
Speaker 3: You're just sitting a text in a group chat. What's

591
00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:09,840
Speaker 3: actually happening in Prudence's world, you have nailed the ninety

592
00:26:09,920 --> 00:26:12,159
Speaker 3: nine thesis of get away from me.

593
00:26:12,520 --> 00:26:14,280
Speaker 2: I think I think this op needed.

594
00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:17,439
Speaker 4: The ninety nine thesis is of when the frick you

595
00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:20,880
Speaker 4: move out of a place because your roommates are cycle.

596
00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:26,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, i'd I'd be looking around and be like, get out, actually, guys.

597
00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:28,159
Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to yeah, And then they'll be like,

598
00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:29,040
Speaker 2: what do you mean?

599
00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:30,159
Speaker 5: Why are you moving?

600
00:26:30,440 --> 00:26:30,640
Speaker 4: Why?

601
00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:31,720
Speaker 5: Why are you moving?

602
00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:33,240
Speaker 2: You've been like the position that puts.

603
00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:35,359
Speaker 4: It, and you go, hey, I'm moving because look at

604
00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:36,760
Speaker 4: what you're doing right now.

605
00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:39,199
Speaker 2: That's why I'm moving.

606
00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:41,359
Speaker 3: If I couldn't moved right away, what I would do

607
00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:43,440
Speaker 3: is have a friend that could take care of my cat,

608
00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:45,320
Speaker 3: give it to them for now, find a new place

609
00:26:45,359 --> 00:26:47,800
Speaker 3: to get into, stay until my leases up, work, maybe

610
00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:50,000
Speaker 3: a second job so I can stay away from those people,

611
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:52,200
Speaker 3: and then just spend as last time as like anything

612
00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:56,080
Speaker 3: possible there please, And So I said, what's crazy is

613
00:26:56,119 --> 00:26:58,120
Speaker 3: how you've seen how she acts and you still want

614
00:26:58,119 --> 00:27:00,480
Speaker 3: to be with her behind your best friend back.

615
00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:02,960
Speaker 4: What's crazy is you won't support your own sister. What's

616
00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:06,480
Speaker 4: crazy is how delusional you all are. So Neville continued

617
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:08,640
Speaker 4: on about how I'm just creating drama and I need

618
00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:10,399
Speaker 4: to stop texting the group chat. You want to know

619
00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:13,639
Speaker 4: the reasons I texted for Prudence left the stovetop on

620
00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:16,840
Speaker 4: with an open flame and everything for hours overnight. Someone

621
00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:19,800
Speaker 4: didn't shut the fridge, so everything went bad overnight, making

622
00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:22,040
Speaker 4: my bathroom off limits to them and their guests because

623
00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:24,040
Speaker 4: they had someone come over who was fighting and crying

624
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:26,840
Speaker 4: all night with their significant other in my bathroom, keeping

625
00:27:26,840 --> 00:27:29,000
Speaker 4: me up until three am, and I woke up to

626
00:27:29,080 --> 00:27:31,720
Speaker 4: vomit everywhere in the morning, like at least clean it up,

627
00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:35,000
Speaker 4: and also just protecting my cat, so I'm not just like, oh,

628
00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:35,919
Speaker 4: you left the TV on?

629
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:36,639
Speaker 2: You know?

630
00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:39,119
Speaker 4: Want to know what she gets upset about, calling me

631
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:41,679
Speaker 4: weird for starting to write my name on my food,

632
00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:44,879
Speaker 4: you know, like normal roommate behavior, because she keeps eating

633
00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:47,000
Speaker 4: my food and I want to fixed income, so I

634
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:49,440
Speaker 4: can't just go get more whenever I want to, saying

635
00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:51,119
Speaker 4: I need to stop turning off her light in our

636
00:27:51,160 --> 00:27:53,360
Speaker 4: shared office when she leaves it on all night. How

637
00:27:53,359 --> 00:27:55,719
Speaker 4: then to look at my stuff in the shared office

638
00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:57,480
Speaker 4: space that she isn't even paying for.

639
00:27:57,600 --> 00:27:58,520
Speaker 2: I mean, she moved my.

640
00:27:58,480 --> 00:28:01,080
Speaker 4: Stuff out of the office after I'd already told her no,

641
00:28:01,400 --> 00:28:03,880
Speaker 4: which was crazy, because who do you think you are

642
00:28:04,280 --> 00:28:06,199
Speaker 4: and why do you think you have authority to do that?

643
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:08,680
Speaker 4: She just wants me to be the bad guy so badly.

644
00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:12,600
Speaker 4: She refuses to take any responsibility, and my brother telling

645
00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:15,840
Speaker 4: me to just let bygones be bygones because she refuses

646
00:28:15,880 --> 00:28:20,719
Speaker 4: to apologize is insane. Both Neville and Bartholomew enable her

647
00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:22,600
Speaker 4: to be the way she is. She hasn't ever had

648
00:28:22,680 --> 00:28:25,280
Speaker 4: any real consequences for her actions, and that's why.

649
00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:28,200
Speaker 2: She acts like a child at her big age.

650
00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:30,919
Speaker 4: And by the way, my children, you can listen to

651
00:28:30,960 --> 00:28:35,040
Speaker 4: full episodes with stories like this on iHeartRadio and Spotify

652
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Speaker 4: and Apple podcasts and wherever you listen to podcasts, just

653
00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:41,640
Speaker 4: search Okay story Time, and there you will find every single.

654
00:28:41,320 --> 00:28:42,800
Speaker 2: Story that we've ever said.

655
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Speaker 4: We do have a little bit more left here that

656
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Speaker 4: ope bringing up the fixed income. I think that is

657
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Speaker 4: probably a very big reason why they have not moved

658
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Speaker 4: out of the situation. Regardless, you have to figure out,

659
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Speaker 4: you have to start putting feelers, you have to contact

660
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Speaker 4: your friend. This is gonna end with that dog potentially

661
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Speaker 4: harming your cat, ye know, Like at that point, it's

662
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Speaker 4: like can't do it. You have to put a lot

663
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Speaker 4: of energy into moving out of this place as fast

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Speaker 4: as possible. I'm exhausted trying to beg my brother for support.

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Speaker 4: I'm exhausted trying to tiptoe around the house to avoid

666
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Speaker 4: everyone as much as possible. I was even having nightmares

667
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Speaker 4: every single night. Now they happen only once in a.

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Speaker 2: While, Thankfully.

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Speaker 4: It's just heartbreaking to lose my best friend and my

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Speaker 4: brother all at once. Since I've decided to let go

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Speaker 4: of all that, I do feel a little lighter. Although

672
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Speaker 4: the sadness isn't gone, it feels so relieving to put

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Speaker 4: down some of that stress. Thank you all for taking

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Speaker 4: the time to read why I have cut off my

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Speaker 4: brother and ex best friend.

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Speaker 2: The delulu is delulu ing and that is the end

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Speaker 2: of that story.

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Speaker 4: How are you going to really cut them off when

679
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Speaker 4: you live with them still is my biggest question, and

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Speaker 4: I have an answer for that.

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Speaker 2: I think it's time for somebody.

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Speaker 4: To expose the truth about your brother and the prudence blackmail.

683
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Speaker 4: I think if you just blow up that entire situation,

684
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Speaker 4: they end up moving out on their own. So somebody's moving,

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Speaker 4: somebody's leading.

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Speaker 3: Let's rego back about twentyish minutes.

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Speaker 2: I don't like black mounts. It's not blackmail. That's that's

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Speaker 2: not even a black that's that's black.

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Speaker 4: Mol black Mail is saying I'm gonna I have this thing,

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Speaker 4: and I would say it adjustment, don't. This is not blackmail.

691
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Speaker 4: This is just being like, Hey, Neville's making out with Prudence.

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Speaker 4: Nevill's hooking up with your girl. Go to Bartholomew and

693
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Speaker 4: say Nevill's hooking up with her. Okay, Okay, I just

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Speaker 4: I just thought you deserve to know.

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Speaker 2: I would have. I would want to know if I

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Speaker 2: was you No bad, not bad? What do you think you? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: And yeah, let that just let that blow itself like

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Speaker 4: you just watch it from a far hit your popcorn.

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Speaker 2: Ready, definitely lock the door, put the earmuffs on. I

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Speaker 2: don't know. Hey, it's Sean here. We're gonna get back

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Speaker 2: to this episode. But a quick three minute break with

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Speaker 4: I discovered the truth about me and my girlfriend's relationship.

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Speaker 4: So for a quick background, my girlfriend twenty four and

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Speaker 4: I twenty seven, have been dating for around eight months now.

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Speaker 4: I first met her at a funeral of all places.

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Speaker 4: I wasn't close to the deceased. They were a friend's uncle,

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Speaker 4: and I was just alonged to keep him company. By

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Speaker 4: Storytime Stumbrenny. In any case, I wasn't particularly sad looking.

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Speaker 4: I was talking with a family friend and smiling, which

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Speaker 4: she noticed and made a pretty morbid joke asking if

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Speaker 4: I put him in the casket.

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Speaker 2: It was so blunt.

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Speaker 3: I just sort of laugh snorted, and we got to

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Speaker 3: chatting all afternoon, ending up with her number in my phone.

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Speaker 2: By the end of it.

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Speaker 4: She was funny, witty, pretty, and a genuinely fun girl

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Speaker 4: to be around. So of course I took a chance

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Speaker 4: and asked her out, which she accepted rather eagerly. My

725
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Speaker 4: ego was through the roof at that. Little did I know.

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Speaker 4: I came home a little earlier from work last night.

727
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Speaker 4: I was covering a shift, and the bloke I was

728
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Speaker 4: covering came in anyway, so they didn't need me.

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Speaker 2: Anyway.

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Speaker 4: I came home earlier than planned and overheard my girlfriend

731
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Speaker 4: laughing with someone on her phone. I was about to

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Speaker 4: surprise her with a little jump skin when she said,

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Speaker 4: and I quote, I never meant for this whole thing

734
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Speaker 4: with my boyfriend to last so long. I'd never normally

735
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Speaker 4: date someone like him. So she spotted me shortly after,

736
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Speaker 4: saying that I admit I made a noise I can't

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Speaker 4: even begin to explain, and she heard me. I'd never

738
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Speaker 4: seen someone go that pale before. She was all wide,

739
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Speaker 4: teary eyed and quivering lips. Girlfriend then spent the next

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Speaker 4: hour or so confessing that she never planned to date me,

741
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Speaker 4: but once her friends found out she'd given me her number,

742
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Speaker 4: they found a pick of me online and apparently found

743
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Speaker 4: me too hilariously unattractive that girlfriend just had to fake

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Speaker 4: date me for a week to give me hope.

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Speaker 2: I wish I was joking.

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Speaker 4: Her friends and apparently girlfriend are all stuck in their

747
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Speaker 4: mean girl high school phase. Girlfriend agreed, but I guess

748
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Speaker 4: apparently forgot about it because we've been dating for eight months,

749
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Speaker 4: not one week. She told me that she was stupid

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Speaker 4: for agreeing with it, and that I really was a

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Speaker 4: good bloke and that she really did love me, but

752
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Speaker 4: she never expected to actually feel that way about me. Why,

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Speaker 4: Because I'm not her usual type of guy. When I

754
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Speaker 4: asked her to elaborate, she mumbled up, she didn't initially

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Speaker 4: find me attractive at all, but after dating for a

756
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Speaker 4: few weeks, she stopped caring about my looks. I admit

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Speaker 4: I sort of lost my temper here and called her

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Speaker 4: an immature waste of my time. I told her I

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Speaker 4: wished that she dumped me a week into dating, because

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Speaker 4: to find out all this crap eight months in when

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Speaker 4: I cared about her and loved her was effing foul

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Speaker 4: raining raining.

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Speaker 5: I thought, you love me? I do?

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Speaker 4: I do?

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Speaker 6: I did love you, but I don't know it was

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Speaker 6: all fake this whole time.

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Speaker 5: Go to prom with someone else.

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Speaker 4: I'm staying with my mom at the moment because I

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Speaker 4: need space to think and vent. Would I be the

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Speaker 4: a hole if I dump my girlfriend for this? No,

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Speaker 4: of course not. No. Do the scene where he's crying

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Speaker 4: out the window, like he's like holding the pillow and

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Speaker 4: he's like, do.

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Speaker 5: You want to be in a wrong com Do you

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Speaker 5: want to do the sane move dump your girlfriend you

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Speaker 5: can be sane, or do you want to have a

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Speaker 5: little spice to life be in a rom call. You

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Speaker 5: have to make the decision yourself.

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Speaker 4: Let's get rom COMI Wow, okay, did not expect this

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Speaker 4: much feedback.

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Speaker 1: Boy.

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Speaker 4: So I've turned my phone back on and it's a

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Speaker 4: mess of text, voicemails and missed calls. I've only listened

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Speaker 4: to a couple, but she's absolutely sobbing her heart out

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Speaker 4: and pleading for me to come home so she could

786
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Speaker 4: explain nothing from her friends. Mind you jess her, which

787
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Speaker 4: says it all really no idea what to do? But

788
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Speaker 4: now I feel like rubbish?

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Speaker 2: Am I?

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Speaker 4: The A hole has no consensus here some comments? Is

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Speaker 4: she still friends with all those mean girls given that

792
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Speaker 4: she was chatting to one of them yesterday?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I think so? How much?

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Speaker 4: Or two says not the a hole Even if you

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Speaker 4: didn't care about the joke part of it. She didn't

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Speaker 4: go out with you because she wanted to, but was

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Speaker 4: pushed by her friends. And then what did she give

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Speaker 4: a play by play after your first date?

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Speaker 2: Too, said friends?

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Speaker 4: Did she share your intimate moments with the friends? Was

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Speaker 4: your first kiss us with Joe? Was she hesitant to

802
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Speaker 4: kiss you because of the joke?

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Speaker 5: Did she she even sing I love you baby in

804
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Speaker 5: the bleachers while you played soccer?

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Speaker 4: It's thoughts like that that would drive me nuts, because

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Speaker 4: at what point did her joke turn into real affection

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Speaker 4: or was she cringing and flinching for those first few dates?

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Speaker 2: How can you be with someone who thought you were

809
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Speaker 2: gross for how long? Weeks?

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Speaker 4: Days? Not the a hole? Op says, that's the same

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Speaker 4: crap on my mind. I mean, she didn't act strange

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Speaker 4: or hesitant when we started dating. It was funny and

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Speaker 4: cute and demanded we hold hands on our second date.

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Speaker 4: But was it all a funny story to tell her friends?

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Speaker 4: Was she laughing at how pathetically happy I was dating

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Speaker 4: someone out of my leave.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: It's driving me insane thing about it. I've already chucked up.

819
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Speaker 4: I just feel sick and tired and used. Would oh

820
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Speaker 4: you be able to forgive and move on, Opie says,

821
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Speaker 4: I honestly don't know. I love her, she loves me, apparently,

822
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Speaker 4: but I was a dare date to her, something funny

823
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Speaker 4: to give hope and then dump once she got her jollies.

824
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Speaker 4: That she gave up that plan is nice, I guess,

825
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Speaker 4: but I still feel ugly and laughed at. I really

826
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Speaker 4: don't know. I have no idea if she even cares.

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Speaker 4: I haven't even looked at my phone. It's been turned

828
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Speaker 4: off since last night. Struggling with the fact that my loving, funny,

829
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Speaker 4: very kind girlfriend is apparently a lying, using, mean girl

830
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Speaker 4: who only dated me to break my heart. Sure she didn't,

831
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Speaker 4: but she never told me about it. I found out

832
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Speaker 4: by accident. Was she laughing about it with her friends

833
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Speaker 4: for months? I have no idea, but the thought makes

834
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Speaker 4: me ill. I've already up chucked dressing over it downvoted

835
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Speaker 4: comment here. Really you want to leave her because she

836
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Speaker 4: loves you for you? I'm pretty sure there's romantic movies

837
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Speaker 4: with this setup. It's as the dare, but then he

838
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Speaker 4: or she fell in love with the person. Does it

839
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Speaker 4: really matter that it was the dare? She loves you

840
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Speaker 4: for you, your personality that's amazing. You probably already know

841
00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:13,000
Speaker 4: if she's prettier than you, and how her former boyfriends

842
00:36:13,120 --> 00:36:15,560
Speaker 4: look like. So the only surprise is that it wasn't

843
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:17,840
Speaker 4: love at first sight. What a strike of luck that

844
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Speaker 4: her friends had dared her to date you. If they hadn't,

845
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Speaker 4: maybe she wouldn't have found out what an amazing person

846
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Speaker 4: you are. Oh, he says, It's really got nothing to

847
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Speaker 4: do with how unattractive she finds me. It's more the

848
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Speaker 4: fact that for eight months she never told me the

849
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Speaker 4: truth that she's still friends with those girls. That I

850
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Speaker 4: had no idea, but can guess, given that I heard

851
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Speaker 4: her laughing about it, that she still laughs with her

852
00:36:36,880 --> 00:36:39,960
Speaker 4: friends about me. I feel used and ugly and small,

853
00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:43,240
Speaker 4: and yeah, that's the point is that you heard her going, aha,

854
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Speaker 4: I never thought I'd be dating this ugly sack of

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Speaker 4: crap first ap.

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Speaker 5: Oh, three months. Can you believe that the thing is?

857
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Speaker 5: Commented her. It would have been a rom com had

858
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Speaker 5: she dropped the friends and gone to the prom and

859
00:36:57,680 --> 00:36:59,719
Speaker 5: gone upstage and been like, I need to make a

860
00:36:59,719 --> 00:37:02,239
Speaker 5: fool of myself because I need you to know that

861
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Speaker 5: I love you, and then Avril Levine's I'm with You.

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Speaker 2: Place March fourteenth, two days later.

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Speaker 4: I eventually turned my phone back on after making the

864
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Speaker 4: original post and was bombarded with voicemails and texts and whatnot.

865
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Speaker 4: I only listened to a couple, and girlfriend was sobbing

866
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:19,319
Speaker 4: her heart out on all of them, more or less

867
00:37:19,320 --> 00:37:21,920
Speaker 4: begging me to come home and let her explain. Be fair,

868
00:37:21,960 --> 00:37:24,120
Speaker 4: I didn't really have much choice but to eventually go

869
00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:26,479
Speaker 4: back home anyway. It's a house chair and I pay

870
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Speaker 4: rent to live there. Plus my own mom was basically

871
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Speaker 4: nudging me back out to let girlfriend explain herself. Back

872
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Speaker 4: home the next day and she pretty much tore out

873
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Speaker 4: of her room and threw herself at me. She was

874
00:37:37,000 --> 00:37:39,520
Speaker 4: sobbing and trying to talk, but kept crying too hard

875
00:37:39,560 --> 00:37:42,080
Speaker 4: between her words to sound coherent. I know I should

876
00:37:42,080 --> 00:37:44,919
Speaker 4: have probably been angrier, but I hate seeing her cry.

877
00:37:44,960 --> 00:37:47,080
Speaker 2: And she wasn't just crying. She was sobbing so hard

878
00:37:47,120 --> 00:37:48,320
Speaker 2: she was having trouble breathing.

879
00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:50,000
Speaker 4: At a few points, I got her to sit down

880
00:37:50,040 --> 00:37:52,720
Speaker 4: and ask her to explain exactly why I should stay

881
00:37:52,760 --> 00:37:54,640
Speaker 4: with a woman who not only got with me as

882
00:37:54,640 --> 00:37:56,719
Speaker 4: a dare but also still laughed about it with her

883
00:37:56,800 --> 00:37:59,759
Speaker 4: vapid friends. Eight months on. A lot was said and

884
00:38:00,000 --> 00:38:01,960
Speaker 4: summarize it so this update doesn't take all night. She

885
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:04,920
Speaker 4: more or less said this fake names and paraphrasing girlfriend.

886
00:38:05,080 --> 00:38:06,879
Speaker 4: I didn't mean to ask you out on a dare.

887
00:38:07,040 --> 00:38:09,279
Speaker 4: I wanted to date you before they even knew about you.

888
00:38:09,360 --> 00:38:11,759
Speaker 4: I gave you my number first. Remember when Stacey and

889
00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:13,480
Speaker 4: Tina found out I gave you my number, they looked

890
00:38:13,480 --> 00:38:15,440
Speaker 4: you up on Facebook and found it hilarious that you

891
00:38:15,440 --> 00:38:17,400
Speaker 4: were even trying with me. So they got this stupid

892
00:38:17,440 --> 00:38:19,480
Speaker 4: effing dare thing and told me to do it to

893
00:38:19,520 --> 00:38:21,480
Speaker 4: give all uglies in the world hope me.

894
00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:24,080
Speaker 5: Wow, real mature, you do remember what you said on

895
00:38:24,120 --> 00:38:26,160
Speaker 5: the phone to whoever it was right? That you never

896
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:28,040
Speaker 5: meant for us to last this long. You told me

897
00:38:28,080 --> 00:38:29,960
Speaker 5: I wasn't your type? What's your type? Girlfriend?

898
00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:30,719
Speaker 4: Not me? Right?

899
00:38:31,040 --> 00:38:31,879
Speaker 5: Too ugly for you?

900
00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:36,920
Speaker 4: Stop seeing that You're not ugly, You're just not the

901
00:38:36,960 --> 00:38:38,560
Speaker 4: type of bloke. I'd have picked a date long term.

902
00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:42,480
Speaker 4: But I was wrong, babe. Look at us. We've lasted

903
00:38:42,520 --> 00:38:45,640
Speaker 4: nearly nine mine. I love you too much, I really do.

904
00:38:45,880 --> 00:38:46,960
Speaker 4: How can I prove it to you?

905
00:38:48,120 --> 00:38:50,360
Speaker 5: How? I don't know? Girlfriend? I'm not girlfriend?

906
00:38:50,800 --> 00:38:51,520
Speaker 2: No girlfriend?

907
00:38:51,719 --> 00:38:53,879
Speaker 5: I love you too, But all I can think about

908
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:55,960
Speaker 5: is you laughing about me behind my back to them.

909
00:38:56,000 --> 00:38:57,400
Speaker 5: How can I trust you anymore?

910
00:38:57,440 --> 00:39:01,400
Speaker 4: I mean, A wasn't meaningfully laughing you. I swear I

911
00:39:01,480 --> 00:39:03,640
Speaker 4: want one. I just do you know how to handle

912
00:39:03,719 --> 00:39:06,480
Speaker 4: Tina any other wee? She's always been like us, and

913
00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:08,320
Speaker 4: I just go along with it to keep the path.

914
00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:11,279
Speaker 5: So you'd rather keep the beast than stand up for me?

915
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:13,919
Speaker 4: Is that what you're saying, you're totally like to see

916
00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:14,759
Speaker 4: my words be able.

917
00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:16,160
Speaker 2: I'm not God?

918
00:39:16,239 --> 00:39:19,080
Speaker 5: Why should I stay with you? Girlfriend? Seriously, give me

919
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:22,239
Speaker 5: a reason. You laugh behind my back. You dated me

920
00:39:22,320 --> 00:39:25,319
Speaker 5: on a dare given to you by Tina and Stacy, right,

921
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:27,440
Speaker 5: and you're still friends with them. You chose them, and

922
00:39:27,480 --> 00:39:29,200
Speaker 5: they're cruelty over us and.

923
00:39:29,120 --> 00:39:29,799
Speaker 2: What we have.

924
00:39:29,920 --> 00:39:33,799
Speaker 4: But we've been like friends for years though. I give

925
00:39:33,920 --> 00:39:37,000
Speaker 4: up at this point. It was just back and forth

926
00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:39,399
Speaker 4: of me trying to walk away and her professing her

927
00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:42,759
Speaker 4: love and defending her friendship with the wonder Twins while

928
00:39:42,800 --> 00:39:44,920
Speaker 4: trying to make me sit back down. I don't know, guys,

929
00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:47,960
Speaker 4: I'm back home. She's constantly trying to have another talk.

930
00:39:48,120 --> 00:39:50,080
Speaker 4: I'm tired, don't know what to do. I don't know

931
00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:53,080
Speaker 4: what to say. Advice would be wonderful because I'm very

932
00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 4: tempted to just pack it in. And there are some

933
00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:58,320
Speaker 4: comments here. Comment ones is I have too much pride

934
00:39:58,320 --> 00:40:00,680
Speaker 4: to stay. I'd be second guessing every all the time.

935
00:40:00,719 --> 00:40:03,920
Speaker 4: How exhausting comment to from what I've read. Girlfriend failed

936
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:06,760
Speaker 4: to resolve the situation. She continues to defend her friends,

937
00:40:06,800 --> 00:40:09,960
Speaker 4: dismissing their behavior by saying it's just the way they are.

938
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:13,560
Speaker 4: She remains close with these friends, laughs with them at

939
00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:16,680
Speaker 4: Op's expense, joins in their jokes about him, and allows

940
00:40:16,680 --> 00:40:19,880
Speaker 4: them to disrespect him without taking any action. Despite all this,

941
00:40:20,280 --> 00:40:23,239
Speaker 4: she chooses to maintain her friendship with them. To me,

942
00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:25,960
Speaker 4: this feels like siding with her friends over her boyfriend.

943
00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:28,880
Speaker 4: Where has she stood up for him? Where has she

944
00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:32,200
Speaker 4: defended him? Where has she expressed disagreement with the jokes

945
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:35,960
Speaker 4: and the disrespectful comments aimed at him? I just don't

946
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:38,800
Speaker 4: see it. And there's a third comment. Okay, this update

947
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:42,280
Speaker 4: just confirms she's not taking responsibility. She's trying to gaslight

948
00:40:42,360 --> 00:40:45,640
Speaker 4: you with twisting my words and I love you, but

949
00:40:45,719 --> 00:40:49,879
Speaker 4: her actions speak louder. She chose those friends over you,

950
00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:52,560
Speaker 4: and she's still trying to justify it. Keeping the peace

951
00:40:52,680 --> 00:40:55,480
Speaker 4: is just a cop out for not having a backbone.

952
00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:57,719
Speaker 4: You deserve someone who will stand up for you, not

953
00:40:57,800 --> 00:41:00,000
Speaker 4: laugh at you behind your back. And her I didn't

954
00:41:00,160 --> 00:41:03,960
Speaker 4: mean to act. Oh my god, believe she still knew

955
00:41:04,040 --> 00:41:06,359
Speaker 4: what she was doing. Don't let her tears and love

956
00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:10,000
Speaker 4: declarations manipulate you. She's shown you who she is. Believer,

957
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:13,640
Speaker 4: Pack your stuff and go. You'll find someone who respects you,

958
00:41:13,719 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 4: and there's another update. This should be the final update.

959
00:41:16,960 --> 00:41:19,360
Speaker 4: You'll see why. So here it is. I'll be brief

960
00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:22,759
Speaker 4: with this because frankly, I'm done with it all. I

961
00:41:22,800 --> 00:41:24,920
Speaker 4: tried one last time to get any sort of sense

962
00:41:24,960 --> 00:41:27,080
Speaker 4: from girlfriend. I sat her down and told her that

963
00:41:27,200 --> 00:41:29,920
Speaker 4: I'm hurt and beyond disappointed that she didn't have the

964
00:41:29,960 --> 00:41:32,160
Speaker 4: spine to stand up to her friends, that she'd rather

965
00:41:32,280 --> 00:41:35,400
Speaker 4: keep the peace over defending the man she repeatedly claims

966
00:41:35,400 --> 00:41:38,920
Speaker 4: to love. Girlfriend got angry, told me I was putting

967
00:41:38,920 --> 00:41:41,120
Speaker 4: her in a position she couldn't possibly win. If she

968
00:41:41,160 --> 00:41:43,279
Speaker 4: had to go at her friends, she'd lose them but

969
00:41:43,440 --> 00:41:46,400
Speaker 4: keep me, But if she refused, she'd keep them but

970
00:41:46,560 --> 00:41:49,120
Speaker 4: likely lose me. She told me she genuinely didn't know

971
00:41:49,200 --> 00:41:51,560
Speaker 4: what the f to do. I said that as long

972
00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:55,359
Speaker 4: as she's enabling Tina and Stacy's crappy personalities, he'll never

973
00:41:55,400 --> 00:41:58,200
Speaker 4: stop being their doormat. She just went quiet at that

974
00:41:58,280 --> 00:42:01,040
Speaker 4: point and said it was only Tina and then just

975
00:42:01,200 --> 00:42:03,239
Speaker 4: kind of shrugged. So I told her that the fact

976
00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:06,080
Speaker 4: she was even struggling to make a choice between them

977
00:42:06,200 --> 00:42:08,880
Speaker 4: and defending our relationship was enough of an answer for me.

978
00:42:09,000 --> 00:42:11,120
Speaker 4: I told her that while I'm not the most attractive

979
00:42:11,239 --> 00:42:14,400
Speaker 4: fella and her friend not the most attractive blow. I

980
00:42:14,480 --> 00:42:17,480
Speaker 4: told her that while I'm not the most attractive bloke,

981
00:42:17,600 --> 00:42:20,040
Speaker 4: her and her friends were far uglier than I could

982
00:42:20,080 --> 00:42:21,280
Speaker 4: ever be, and I deserved.

983
00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:23,480
Speaker 2: But you're ugly on the inside.

984
00:42:23,520 --> 00:42:26,800
Speaker 5: Yeah, you're a real I might not be the hottest man, but.

985
00:42:26,719 --> 00:42:30,680
Speaker 4: You're ugly on the inside, and only say it. And

986
00:42:30,719 --> 00:42:32,759
Speaker 4: I'm going to call you Sea.

987
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:39,239
Speaker 2: I want you to want me. I need you to

988
00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:42,000
Speaker 2: watch that movie I broke up with her. It was

989
00:42:42,080 --> 00:42:42,920
Speaker 2: messy easy.

990
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:46,680
Speaker 4: She got physical, not violent, just grab it on to

991
00:42:46,719 --> 00:42:51,040
Speaker 4: me real tight, trying to kiss me. While that's pathetic,

992
00:42:51,120 --> 00:42:52,600
Speaker 4: she was also full on cry.

993
00:42:52,719 --> 00:42:53,440
Speaker 2: It was crazy.

994
00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:55,759
Speaker 4: I've seen her cry and get mad, but I've never

995
00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:59,480
Speaker 4: seen her like that before. It genuinely disturbed me. I left,

996
00:42:59,480 --> 00:43:01,279
Speaker 4: and I'm back at my mom's for a bit. Now.

997
00:43:01,320 --> 00:43:03,280
Speaker 4: I know I'm not a kid anymore. I'm twenty seven,

998
00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:04,759
Speaker 4: but my mom and I have always had a really

999
00:43:04,800 --> 00:43:07,279
Speaker 4: good relationship. So I told her everything. You listened and

1000
00:43:07,400 --> 00:43:10,320
Speaker 4: didn't interrupt until I was finished. And then she pretty

1001
00:43:10,360 --> 00:43:12,360
Speaker 4: much said, what a lot of you told me. You

1002
00:43:12,400 --> 00:43:14,240
Speaker 4: told me I'm handsome.

1003
00:43:14,560 --> 00:43:21,799
Speaker 6: Handsome, it's so handy, boy. And then she's that's that's

1004
00:43:21,840 --> 00:43:24,120
Speaker 6: Witchkota's mom did today you so hand.

1005
00:43:24,160 --> 00:43:28,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, she would see like the Grandma's like, you're gonna

1006
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:29,680
Speaker 4: have so many girlfriends.

1007
00:43:29,840 --> 00:43:32,200
Speaker 5: You know you're gonna have so many girlfriends. Look at

1008
00:43:32,200 --> 00:43:33,400
Speaker 5: this little lady Kila.

1009
00:43:33,800 --> 00:43:36,239
Speaker 4: She told me that girlfriend is a silly girl who

1010
00:43:36,239 --> 00:43:38,839
Speaker 4: will never have any kind of meaningful relationship as long

1011
00:43:38,840 --> 00:43:41,239
Speaker 4: as she lets her friends bully her around. And then

1012
00:43:41,280 --> 00:43:43,759
Speaker 4: she told me that I'm young, and I'll find someone

1013
00:43:43,800 --> 00:43:46,200
Speaker 4: who loved me so much that she'll fight tooth and

1014
00:43:46,280 --> 00:43:49,759
Speaker 4: nail to defend me. I won't lie. I cried a bit.

1015
00:43:49,920 --> 00:43:52,040
Speaker 4: It felt good to feel worth something for a while.

1016
00:43:52,040 --> 00:43:55,279
Speaker 4: Aw I didn't really realize how little I felt that

1017
00:43:55,320 --> 00:43:57,759
Speaker 4: way with girlfriend until that conversation with Mom.

1018
00:43:57,840 --> 00:43:59,759
Speaker 2: She even made me an apple crumble.

1019
00:44:00,120 --> 00:44:02,239
Speaker 5: Yay.

1020
00:44:00,840 --> 00:44:05,120
Speaker 4: Mom made me apple crumble after she told me I

1021
00:44:05,200 --> 00:44:06,960
Speaker 4: was huntsome, and I felt I was on top of

1022
00:44:06,960 --> 00:44:09,920
Speaker 4: the woe. My younger brother twenty mail, still lives with

1023
00:44:09,960 --> 00:44:13,800
Speaker 4: her too. He's been dominating my butt at chess. Bloke's

1024
00:44:13,840 --> 00:44:16,040
Speaker 4: a wizard, I swear. Mom and I had a long

1025
00:44:16,120 --> 00:44:18,919
Speaker 4: chat about my living arraignments and have decided that I'm

1026
00:44:18,960 --> 00:44:20,719
Speaker 4: going to move back in with her in a couple

1027
00:44:20,760 --> 00:44:24,000
Speaker 4: of months. I've spoken to the agency and unfortunately they

1028
00:44:24,040 --> 00:44:27,120
Speaker 4: won't let me end the contract early without a payout

1029
00:44:27,120 --> 00:44:29,360
Speaker 4: for the remaining months. So I'm just gonna stick around

1030
00:44:29,480 --> 00:44:30,359
Speaker 4: till then and.

1031
00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:32,319
Speaker 5: Go, Honestly, if you're already going to be living with

1032
00:44:32,360 --> 00:44:34,040
Speaker 5: your mom, why not just live with your mom? Like,

1033
00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:36,040
Speaker 5: presumably are you paying to live with your mom? Because

1034
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:37,400
Speaker 5: if you're not paying to live with your mom, you

1035
00:44:37,440 --> 00:44:38,319
Speaker 5: might as well just like.

1036
00:44:38,400 --> 00:44:40,160
Speaker 4: You can go pick up your stuff slowly wait to

1037
00:44:40,200 --> 00:44:42,600
Speaker 4: move on from my crappy x and be like, oh,

1038
00:44:42,600 --> 00:44:43,719
Speaker 4: where do you live with my mom?

1039
00:44:43,719 --> 00:44:44,359
Speaker 2: Would my mom?

1040
00:44:44,680 --> 00:44:44,960
Speaker 4: Mom?

1041
00:44:45,080 --> 00:44:47,680
Speaker 2: You know what? Honestly, but mom sounds good.

1042
00:44:47,680 --> 00:44:50,879
Speaker 4: It's a very American slash Western culture thing till yeah,

1043
00:44:51,000 --> 00:44:51,440
Speaker 4: to be like.

1044
00:44:51,400 --> 00:44:53,640
Speaker 5: No, you can't live with your parents. It's like super

1045
00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:55,760
Speaker 5: super common in most other places.

1046
00:44:55,400 --> 00:44:57,920
Speaker 4: Like pretty much everywhere else, like stay close together. But

1047
00:44:57,960 --> 00:45:00,480
Speaker 4: also like people don't move as much as a Americans do.

1048
00:45:00,719 --> 00:45:03,480
Speaker 4: Americans move around all the time, and a lot of places,

1049
00:45:03,560 --> 00:45:06,719
Speaker 4: a lot of people are like pretty pretty uh not stagnant,

1050
00:45:06,760 --> 00:45:08,600
Speaker 4: that's not the right word, but like stationary.

1051
00:45:08,800 --> 00:45:09,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's there.

1052
00:45:09,440 --> 00:45:12,640
Speaker 4: We go. There's like a radius that they don't typically leave,

1053
00:45:12,719 --> 00:45:15,359
Speaker 4: and it allows families to stay closer together. It's gonna

1054
00:45:15,360 --> 00:45:17,560
Speaker 4: be awkward since we have to live in the same

1055
00:45:17,600 --> 00:45:20,040
Speaker 4: house for a bit longer, but I'll manage. I know

1056
00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:21,759
Speaker 4: some of you really wanted me to work it out

1057
00:45:21,760 --> 00:45:23,720
Speaker 4: with her, but frankly, I have too much self respect

1058
00:45:23,760 --> 00:45:25,600
Speaker 4: to stay with someone who doesn't care enough to defend

1059
00:45:25,640 --> 00:45:26,280
Speaker 4: me from her friends.

1060
00:45:26,320 --> 00:45:27,600
Speaker 2: Who are those people telling you that?

1061
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:27,719
Speaker 1: Like?

1062
00:45:27,760 --> 00:45:29,799
Speaker 2: Were they? Her friends were a bunch of like bots that.

1063
00:45:29,800 --> 00:45:32,279
Speaker 5: She made Besides that one common it was like, it's

1064
00:45:32,280 --> 00:45:34,160
Speaker 5: like a rom calm, Like, who's saying that?

1065
00:45:34,280 --> 00:45:35,960
Speaker 4: Not to mention whatever the heck she was trying to

1066
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:38,879
Speaker 4: do before I dipped out. It seriously freaked me out,

1067
00:45:38,920 --> 00:45:41,719
Speaker 4: and by the way, you would be seriously freaked out

1068
00:45:41,840 --> 00:45:45,399
Speaker 4: by how many full episodes with stories like this we

1069
00:45:45,560 --> 00:45:49,319
Speaker 4: have available for you to listen to on Spotify, on iHeartRadio,

1070
00:45:49,520 --> 00:45:52,239
Speaker 4: on Apple podcasts, wherever you get your podcasts.

1071
00:45:52,320 --> 00:45:54,839
Speaker 2: Just search the name of our show, Okay, story time,

1072
00:45:54,880 --> 00:45:57,840
Speaker 2: and you will find a little treasure trove of you

1073
00:45:58,000 --> 00:46:00,640
Speaker 2: to dig through. We have a little bit most story here.

1074
00:46:00,760 --> 00:46:02,120
Speaker 2: I'm leaving, You're leaving.

1075
00:46:02,320 --> 00:46:05,200
Speaker 5: I'm gone, dude, I've been gone man, I'm leaving me.

1076
00:46:05,440 --> 00:46:07,919
Speaker 5: I'm I'm falling in love with the neighbor next door.

1077
00:46:08,040 --> 00:46:09,600
Speaker 2: I'm leaving, I'm showing up.

1078
00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:13,920
Speaker 5: And then she's the girl next door is playing as

1079
00:46:13,960 --> 00:46:15,120
Speaker 5: I walk over to her out.

1080
00:46:15,040 --> 00:46:17,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, Banks, Reddit, you all help me make a choice

1081
00:46:17,840 --> 00:46:20,480
Speaker 4: between staying and sacrificing my self respect to be with

1082
00:46:20,520 --> 00:46:22,440
Speaker 4: a woman who doesn't truly love me as much as

1083
00:46:22,440 --> 00:46:24,560
Speaker 4: she claim for leaving her in the hopes that i'd

1084
00:46:24,600 --> 00:46:27,120
Speaker 4: find someone better run day. I hope I chose right,

1085
00:46:27,360 --> 00:46:29,879
Speaker 4: but I guess only time will tell. Thank you all.

1086
00:46:30,000 --> 00:46:32,000
Speaker 4: There's some comments here still not the a hole. You

1087
00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:34,279
Speaker 4: made the right choice. Listen to your mommy. She's the

1088
00:46:34,320 --> 00:46:37,279
Speaker 4: only woman in this whole mess that has any sort

1089
00:46:37,320 --> 00:46:39,520
Speaker 4: of sense in her head. As for you crying about it,

1090
00:46:39,560 --> 00:46:43,000
Speaker 4: all good pry. You apparently needed it. I wouldn't even

1091
00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:44,920
Speaker 4: wait until you've paid it all off, op, get your

1092
00:46:44,920 --> 00:46:46,960
Speaker 4: things and go stay with your mom. No telling what

1093
00:46:47,000 --> 00:46:49,319
Speaker 4: your ex will do. You've got two months left, right

1094
00:46:49,560 --> 00:46:51,360
Speaker 4: and off tim get out of there. Come in er

1095
00:46:51,400 --> 00:46:53,840
Speaker 4: two says good for you. I'm proud of you for

1096
00:46:53,840 --> 00:46:56,759
Speaker 4: standing up for yourself. Please have someone with you when

1097
00:46:56,800 --> 00:46:59,680
Speaker 4: you go gather your things and record if needed to

1098
00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:02,600
Speaker 4: help protect yourself. He's unhinged and will likely lash out

1099
00:47:03,200 --> 00:47:05,680
Speaker 4: come in you three says so sorry, man, but seriously

1100
00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:08,399
Speaker 4: pay out the lease. Absolutely nothing good will come from

1101
00:47:08,440 --> 00:47:10,439
Speaker 4: living with your ex. He'll either keep trying to force

1102
00:47:10,440 --> 00:47:13,040
Speaker 4: you to reconsider or switch over after her tox friends

1103
00:47:13,040 --> 00:47:15,200
Speaker 4: get into her head and start treating you like crap.

1104
00:47:15,280 --> 00:47:17,640
Speaker 4: Neither of those are worth staying for, and the cost

1105
00:47:17,719 --> 00:47:19,919
Speaker 4: to get out of it will be so worth it.

1106
00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:22,879
Speaker 2: Best of luck going forward, and that is.

1107
00:47:22,880 --> 00:47:26,440
Speaker 5: The end of freaking lovely. You got out of there.

1108
00:47:26,640 --> 00:47:28,600
Speaker 5: Got out of there to have a rom com moment.

1109
00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:31,360
Speaker 5: But that's okay. There is a lot of different rom complots.

1110
00:47:31,360 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 2: We don't have to do this one rom realism.

1111
00:47:34,760 --> 00:47:36,400
Speaker 5: We can do Tending How to Lose a Man at

1112
00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:37,040
Speaker 5: ten Days.

1113
00:47:37,120 --> 00:47:40,239
Speaker 4: We could do the Devil Wears Prada. That's not a

1114
00:47:40,320 --> 00:47:44,000
Speaker 4: rom com kinda No, it's crazy. Well, yeah, who's the

1115
00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:45,880
Speaker 4: guy from the Sight of the Concords.

1116
00:47:46,120 --> 00:47:47,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's not a rom com though, Well, I mean

1117
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:49,880
Speaker 5: he's already dating someone in that and then they like

1118
00:47:49,920 --> 00:47:50,680
Speaker 5: almost break up.

1119
00:47:50,760 --> 00:47:55,239
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Speaker 2: get back to these stories. But here's three minutes of

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00:47:58,920 --> 00:48:02,000
Speaker 5: My boyfriend's best my friend crossed boundaries and I won't

1123
00:48:02,040 --> 00:48:02,640
Speaker 5: tolerate it.

1124
00:48:02,840 --> 00:48:06,239
Speaker 4: I will not tolerate this act of aggression.

1125
00:48:06,280 --> 00:48:09,319
Speaker 5: This story happened in twenty twenty two. My twenty one

1126
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:13,320
Speaker 5: female boyfriend's twenty three male mom, Camille thirty eight female,

1127
00:48:13,320 --> 00:48:16,040
Speaker 5: got married in June twenty twenty two. It was a

1128
00:48:16,120 --> 00:48:18,879
Speaker 5: beautiful day and we were all so excited for this day,

1129
00:48:18,960 --> 00:48:20,759
Speaker 5: as was I because I tried my best to help

1130
00:48:20,760 --> 00:48:22,839
Speaker 5: her with anything possible. By the way, this comes from

1131
00:48:22,880 --> 00:48:25,560
Speaker 5: Ashley JTPSV and if you want to smit your own stories,

1132
00:48:25,560 --> 00:48:28,080
Speaker 5: good our slashokey story Time suppared it. His mom is amazing.

1133
00:48:28,280 --> 00:48:29,840
Speaker 5: I did not grow up with a mom, so she

1134
00:48:29,960 --> 00:48:31,799
Speaker 5: was truly like a mother to me. When I got

1135
00:48:31,840 --> 00:48:34,279
Speaker 5: punted out of my dad's house at eighteen, she took

1136
00:48:34,320 --> 00:48:36,080
Speaker 5: me in and helped me get up back on my feet.

1137
00:48:36,160 --> 00:48:38,839
Speaker 5: She supports me to this day. The wedding was beautiful.

1138
00:48:38,960 --> 00:48:41,160
Speaker 5: My boyfriend Isaac walked her down the aisle and it

1139
00:48:41,200 --> 00:48:43,680
Speaker 5: was the most beautiful moment. But I wasn't the only

1140
00:48:43,680 --> 00:48:46,120
Speaker 5: one who thought so. My boyfriend Isaac invited four of

1141
00:48:46,160 --> 00:48:48,560
Speaker 5: his closest friends to the wedding Mike twenty five male,

1142
00:48:48,719 --> 00:48:52,640
Speaker 5: Jennifer twenty one female, Liam twenty two male, and Ashley

1143
00:48:52,840 --> 00:48:55,200
Speaker 5: twenty two female. I've met these friends from the very

1144
00:48:55,239 --> 00:48:57,680
Speaker 5: beginning of me and Isaac's relationship. I love them. My

1145
00:48:57,760 --> 00:49:00,480
Speaker 5: boyfriend is very family and friend oriented, and I could

1146
00:49:00,480 --> 00:49:03,040
Speaker 5: see why these people were close to him, because they're

1147
00:49:03,040 --> 00:49:05,680
Speaker 5: amazing friends. When the reception was over, we all went

1148
00:49:05,719 --> 00:49:07,840
Speaker 5: into the venue and waited to be seated. I walked

1149
00:49:07,840 --> 00:49:10,239
Speaker 5: over to my boyfriend's friends and started talking with him.

1150
00:49:10,320 --> 00:49:13,839
Speaker 5: Ashley immediately said, Wow, Isaac looks so good in a suit.

1151
00:49:13,880 --> 00:49:16,239
Speaker 5: I've never seen him one before. I just agreed, because, yeah,

1152
00:49:16,239 --> 00:49:18,319
Speaker 5: he looked dang good. By the way. I've never been

1153
00:49:18,360 --> 00:49:20,600
Speaker 5: a jealous partner. I've never had it in me. I

1154
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:22,920
Speaker 5: was always okay with him having girl best friends, as

1155
00:49:22,960 --> 00:49:25,080
Speaker 5: I always had guy best friends as well, so I

1156
00:49:25,080 --> 00:49:27,200
Speaker 5: didn't really react when she said this. As we all

1157
00:49:27,239 --> 00:49:30,200
Speaker 5: sat down, Ashley told my boyfriend Isaac to sit next

1158
00:49:30,239 --> 00:49:32,280
Speaker 5: to her so he could sit across from me instead

1159
00:49:32,320 --> 00:49:34,200
Speaker 5: of next to me. I thought this was a bit odd,

1160
00:49:34,239 --> 00:49:36,200
Speaker 5: but Jennifer was already sitting next to me, so it

1161
00:49:36,239 --> 00:49:38,680
Speaker 5: was fine. We all started eating and talking and Ashley

1162
00:49:38,760 --> 00:49:41,800
Speaker 5: kept wanting to take selfies with my boyfriend Isaac for memories.

1163
00:49:41,880 --> 00:49:44,799
Speaker 5: She's always recorded everything. She's a small YouTube channel, so

1164
00:49:44,840 --> 00:49:47,560
Speaker 5: again I didn't truly see anything wrong with this, except

1165
00:49:47,600 --> 00:49:49,839
Speaker 5: for the fact that she wasn't really recording anyone else.

1166
00:49:49,920 --> 00:49:51,960
Speaker 5: For the wedding, I was on cake duties. I had

1167
00:49:51,960 --> 00:49:54,040
Speaker 5: made a four layer faux cake for his mom and

1168
00:49:54,200 --> 00:49:56,640
Speaker 5: ordered the actual sheet cake for her. When we finished eating,

1169
00:49:56,680 --> 00:49:58,520
Speaker 5: they let me know to go to the kitchen and

1170
00:49:58,560 --> 00:50:00,920
Speaker 5: put a slice of the real ca in the space

1171
00:50:00,960 --> 00:50:03,520
Speaker 5: empty for the real one so his mom and stepdad

1172
00:50:03,560 --> 00:50:05,560
Speaker 5: could cut the cake for pictures. I left the table,

1173
00:50:05,600 --> 00:50:07,640
Speaker 5: and as I was finishing, I heard his mom the

1174
00:50:07,680 --> 00:50:11,360
Speaker 5: bride yelling at the distance. I ran out immediately. Apparently,

1175
00:50:11,400 --> 00:50:13,600
Speaker 5: while I walked away, a random woman who looked to

1176
00:50:13,600 --> 00:50:16,120
Speaker 5: be about mid thirties walked into the wedding, pretending to

1177
00:50:16,160 --> 00:50:18,279
Speaker 5: be a guest, saying she came with the DJ. When

1178
00:50:18,320 --> 00:50:20,800
Speaker 5: the DJ was asked, he said he had never seen

1179
00:50:20,840 --> 00:50:23,680
Speaker 5: this woman in his life. The random woman started recording

1180
00:50:23,680 --> 00:50:26,400
Speaker 5: the wedding, saying racial slurs to his mom. My boyfriend's

1181
00:50:26,400 --> 00:50:28,120
Speaker 5: mom is from Philly, so if you knew her, you

1182
00:50:28,239 --> 00:50:30,279
Speaker 5: know she does not play. Why did this woman just

1183
00:50:30,320 --> 00:50:31,680
Speaker 5: show up to a wedding and say Rachel?

1184
00:50:32,320 --> 00:50:35,760
Speaker 2: Why did she roll in and start slurring? That's so strange.

1185
00:50:35,760 --> 00:50:38,120
Speaker 5: Why She then started yelling at her to get out,

1186
00:50:38,280 --> 00:50:40,560
Speaker 5: snatch the random woman's phone out of her hand, and

1187
00:50:40,680 --> 00:50:42,560
Speaker 5: was pulling her out of the venue. My boyfriend was

1188
00:50:42,560 --> 00:50:45,360
Speaker 5: falling along behind her and sober his friends, but Ashley

1189
00:50:45,400 --> 00:50:48,160
Speaker 5: was holding onto his arm tight. Everyone was outside and

1190
00:50:48,239 --> 00:50:50,279
Speaker 5: my boyfriend and his friends went to talk to the

1191
00:50:50,280 --> 00:50:52,920
Speaker 5: security guard and told him what happened because the random

1192
00:50:52,960 --> 00:50:55,359
Speaker 5: woman had apparently sat in my seat with them while

1193
00:50:55,400 --> 00:50:57,880
Speaker 5: I was gone. The woman left in handcuffs and everything

1194
00:50:57,920 --> 00:51:00,920
Speaker 5: was fine for now. Later on, after her everything, the

1195
00:51:00,960 --> 00:51:04,640
Speaker 5: party began. We all started dancing and drinking. It was

1196
00:51:04,680 --> 00:51:07,720
Speaker 5: a fun time. Then one of my boyfriend's moms, bridesmaids

1197
00:51:07,719 --> 00:51:10,960
Speaker 5: and best friends, Patricia thirty seven, female, pulled me aside

1198
00:51:11,040 --> 00:51:12,919
Speaker 5: and wanted to talk to me. She asked me who

1199
00:51:12,960 --> 00:51:15,160
Speaker 5: actually was and why she was so close to my boyfriend.

1200
00:51:15,280 --> 00:51:17,440
Speaker 5: I explained how she was one of his closest friends

1201
00:51:17,440 --> 00:51:19,720
Speaker 5: and how that's just how she is. She then told me, girl,

1202
00:51:19,960 --> 00:51:21,080
Speaker 5: you're way better than me.

1203
00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:21,960
Speaker 2: She looks like.

1204
00:51:21,920 --> 00:51:24,040
Speaker 5: She's trying to make it seem like she's his girlfriend,

1205
00:51:24,080 --> 00:51:26,640
Speaker 5: not you. I was a bit confused. I had never

1206
00:51:26,680 --> 00:51:28,720
Speaker 5: seen it that way, and assured her that would never happen.

1207
00:51:28,800 --> 00:51:31,439
Speaker 5: My boyfriend had been introducing me to his family all night,

1208
00:51:31,560 --> 00:51:33,160
Speaker 5: since a lot were coming in from out of town,

1209
00:51:33,200 --> 00:51:34,839
Speaker 5: and it was my first time meeting a lot of them,

1210
00:51:34,880 --> 00:51:37,600
Speaker 5: so there's no way anyone else would think that. Then

1211
00:51:37,640 --> 00:51:40,080
Speaker 5: I remembered earlier when we were outside, one of my

1212
00:51:40,120 --> 00:51:43,320
Speaker 5: boyfriend's uncles was standing behind me and was asking another

1213
00:51:43,360 --> 00:51:46,239
Speaker 5: man there if the girl holding Isaac's arm was his girlfriend.

1214
00:51:46,280 --> 00:51:48,440
Speaker 5: That was when I turned around, introduced myself and told

1215
00:51:48,480 --> 00:51:50,520
Speaker 5: them no, that I was his girlfriend. I didn't say

1216
00:51:50,520 --> 00:51:53,560
Speaker 5: anything to my boyfriend's mom's bridemay at that moment. I

1217
00:51:53,680 --> 00:51:55,279
Speaker 5: just laughed it off and went on with a night.

1218
00:51:55,480 --> 00:51:57,759
Speaker 5: Probably not even an hour later, another one of my

1219
00:51:57,760 --> 00:52:00,640
Speaker 5: boyfriend's family members pulled me aside near the bathroom and

1220
00:52:00,760 --> 00:52:03,319
Speaker 5: asked me if Ashley liked Isaac. Is he just from

1221
00:52:03,560 --> 00:52:05,760
Speaker 5: a whole family of postures. There's a lot of people

1222
00:52:05,760 --> 00:52:06,600
Speaker 5: per starting the spot.

1223
00:52:06,680 --> 00:52:09,960
Speaker 2: These are some people who don't know how to be delicate.

1224
00:52:10,000 --> 00:52:11,120
Speaker 5: Why are we making trouble on?

1225
00:52:11,200 --> 00:52:11,319
Speaker 4: Oh?

1226
00:52:11,400 --> 00:52:12,200
Speaker 2: Pease stop it?

1227
00:52:12,280 --> 00:52:17,000
Speaker 5: For Op's boyfriend's mom's wedding. Stop being troublesome as you're

1228
00:52:17,040 --> 00:52:19,960
Speaker 5: so troubling. I was like, what, No, not that I'm

1229
00:52:20,000 --> 00:52:22,439
Speaker 5: aware of why? She tells me, Well, it really looks

1230
00:52:22,480 --> 00:52:24,160
Speaker 5: like that, and from what I've heard, I'm not the

1231
00:52:24,160 --> 00:52:27,919
Speaker 5: only one that thinks this. Uh oh, got just gossipping

1232
00:52:28,040 --> 00:52:28,800
Speaker 5: at the wedding.

1233
00:52:28,960 --> 00:52:31,319
Speaker 4: Why aren't we trying to, like, you know, I mean,

1234
00:52:31,400 --> 00:52:33,080
Speaker 4: maybe it's coming from a good place of like, hey,

1235
00:52:33,080 --> 00:52:34,640
Speaker 4: wake up, wake up, she's trying to steal your man.

1236
00:52:34,680 --> 00:52:35,000
Speaker 2: Wake up.

1237
00:52:35,080 --> 00:52:38,160
Speaker 5: That's when my face turned red. I was so embarrassed

1238
00:52:38,160 --> 00:52:40,560
Speaker 5: and everything hit me all at once. She has always

1239
00:52:40,560 --> 00:52:42,480
Speaker 5: acted like this, and it made me realize that my

1240
00:52:42,560 --> 00:52:45,480
Speaker 5: non jealous ways let a lot slip throughout our relationship.

1241
00:52:45,560 --> 00:52:47,920
Speaker 5: I decided in that moment to pull my boyfriend to

1242
00:52:47,960 --> 00:52:50,439
Speaker 5: the side to have talk. As I was talking to him,

1243
00:52:50,480 --> 00:52:52,279
Speaker 5: I could tell he was already a bit upset, but

1244
00:52:52,400 --> 00:52:54,120
Speaker 5: trying to be in a good mood for his mom,

1245
00:52:54,239 --> 00:52:56,840
Speaker 5: because we had found out that morning his great grandmother,

1246
00:52:57,040 --> 00:53:00,560
Speaker 5: his mom's grandma, had passed away after a long time sick.

1247
00:53:00,920 --> 00:53:01,120
Speaker 2: No.

1248
00:53:01,400 --> 00:53:03,360
Speaker 5: I knew this as well, but was keeping it quiet

1249
00:53:03,400 --> 00:53:05,600
Speaker 5: so his mom wouldn't find out. When I was talking

1250
00:53:05,600 --> 00:53:07,800
Speaker 5: to my boyfriend. I was telling him what his family

1251
00:53:07,840 --> 00:53:10,399
Speaker 5: was telling me, and that I was feeling a little embarrassed.

1252
00:53:10,480 --> 00:53:12,560
Speaker 5: I explained how that's one thing I hate to be,

1253
00:53:12,800 --> 00:53:14,520
Speaker 5: especially in front of a bunch of family of his

1254
00:53:14,680 --> 00:53:15,319
Speaker 5: I'm meeting for.

1255
00:53:15,280 --> 00:53:15,879
Speaker 2: The first time.

1256
00:53:16,040 --> 00:53:18,320
Speaker 5: He was telling me that what they're saying is crazy,

1257
00:53:18,400 --> 00:53:20,480
Speaker 5: and that I know how she is already assuring me

1258
00:53:20,680 --> 00:53:22,880
Speaker 5: that they're friends and that nothing would ever happen with her,

1259
00:53:23,000 --> 00:53:25,160
Speaker 5: especially if he's with me. I then explained, how I

1260
00:53:25,239 --> 00:53:27,760
Speaker 5: know all of this, and I've never felt any jealousy

1261
00:53:27,800 --> 00:53:30,000
Speaker 5: towards her because I know they're good friends and that's

1262
00:53:30,000 --> 00:53:31,920
Speaker 5: always been fine. But I just wanted him to have

1263
00:53:31,960 --> 00:53:34,319
Speaker 5: more boundaries with her. And even though I know there's

1264
00:53:34,400 --> 00:53:36,400
Speaker 5: nothing between them, it's just the way it looks. It

1265
00:53:36,440 --> 00:53:37,359
Speaker 5: makes us look bad.

1266
00:53:37,480 --> 00:53:40,960
Speaker 2: It's a matter of principle. At that point, I believe a.

1267
00:53:40,920 --> 00:53:43,880
Speaker 5: Switch flipped in him and he started getting upset, saying

1268
00:53:43,920 --> 00:53:45,560
Speaker 5: he didn't really have time for this, he was just

1269
00:53:45,560 --> 00:53:47,239
Speaker 5: trying to have a good time. At this point, I

1270
00:53:47,280 --> 00:53:50,200
Speaker 5: started tearing up because daddy issues ellowop, but I just

1271
00:53:50,280 --> 00:53:52,840
Speaker 5: excused myself and went to the bathroom. As I was

1272
00:53:52,880 --> 00:53:55,719
Speaker 5: in there cleaning myself up. Ashley and Jennifer followed me,

1273
00:53:55,880 --> 00:53:58,160
Speaker 5: and they were asking me what was wrong. I turned

1274
00:53:58,200 --> 00:54:01,560
Speaker 5: around and explained the situation. Ashley looked at me and laughed.

1275
00:54:01,680 --> 00:54:04,120
Speaker 5: She started acting very clueless and said how she just

1276
00:54:04,160 --> 00:54:06,279
Speaker 5: loves Isaac and his family a lot, so of course

1277
00:54:06,320 --> 00:54:08,279
Speaker 5: she wants to seem closer to him in front of

1278
00:54:08,280 --> 00:54:10,719
Speaker 5: his family than me. So she just admitted it. Hm,

1279
00:54:11,239 --> 00:54:13,080
Speaker 5: so she was just like, yeah, that's totally normal.

1280
00:54:13,440 --> 00:54:15,440
Speaker 2: She's like, yeah, I want his family to like me

1281
00:54:15,560 --> 00:54:17,760
Speaker 2: more than you. Yikes, is that weird?

1282
00:54:17,920 --> 00:54:21,080
Speaker 5: I was baffled. I told her that was exactly the problem.

1283
00:54:21,200 --> 00:54:23,760
Speaker 5: The only reason I hadn't been by my boyfriend's side

1284
00:54:23,800 --> 00:54:26,120
Speaker 5: the whole time was because I was helping his mom

1285
00:54:26,120 --> 00:54:28,600
Speaker 5: out during the wedding, from decorating to helping her with

1286
00:54:28,640 --> 00:54:30,640
Speaker 5: her dress and being in charge of the cake, which

1287
00:54:30,680 --> 00:54:33,120
Speaker 5: obviously I was more than happy to do. After that,

1288
00:54:33,120 --> 00:54:35,640
Speaker 5: that's when Ashley said, well, I didn't do anything wrong,

1289
00:54:35,840 --> 00:54:38,880
Speaker 5: and Jennifer turned to her and said, well, you're very friendly.

1290
00:54:39,080 --> 00:54:41,239
Speaker 5: You can be too much sometimes, and yeah, there's never

1291
00:54:41,239 --> 00:54:43,359
Speaker 5: been a problem before because we all know how you are,

1292
00:54:43,480 --> 00:54:45,240
Speaker 5: but to act like this in front of Isaac's family

1293
00:54:45,280 --> 00:54:48,120
Speaker 5: is very inappropriate, especially in front of everyone, like, you

1294
00:54:48,200 --> 00:54:48,960
Speaker 5: have the right.

1295
00:54:48,800 --> 00:54:54,040
Speaker 4: To dang Jennifer, Snap, dang Jennifer, Jenifer just snap.

1296
00:54:54,120 --> 00:54:56,279
Speaker 5: Thank goodness, Jennifer was in the bathroom. She's got your

1297
00:54:56,320 --> 00:54:59,399
Speaker 5: back up. Yeah, that's when Ashley gaped and said, I'm

1298
00:54:59,400 --> 00:55:01,759
Speaker 5: just being my If she doesn't like that, then she

1299
00:55:01,840 --> 00:55:04,680
Speaker 5: should just handcuff herself to a man with her insecure.

1300
00:55:04,760 --> 00:55:07,759
Speaker 5: But I don't condone violence, but in that moment, she

1301
00:55:07,840 --> 00:55:13,520
Speaker 5: deserved it. I slapped her and walked out. Ah, you

1302
00:55:13,560 --> 00:55:16,239
Speaker 5: lost your high ground now, dude, you lost it. You

1303
00:55:16,320 --> 00:55:20,200
Speaker 5: lost your high ground. Will Smith does that you? Dude?

1304
00:55:20,320 --> 00:55:21,040
Speaker 2: Is that you will?

1305
00:55:21,200 --> 00:55:24,799
Speaker 5: After like obviously crazy comment from her, that's what made

1306
00:55:24,840 --> 00:55:27,240
Speaker 5: you slap her. Yeah, you're the able for the slap.

1307
00:55:27,440 --> 00:55:30,040
Speaker 5: I was done. I wasn't going to deal with this.

1308
00:55:30,360 --> 00:55:33,240
Speaker 5: My head was spinning going back thinking of everything I missed.

1309
00:55:33,360 --> 00:55:35,840
Speaker 5: Liam and Mike were outside and I told them everything.

1310
00:55:35,880 --> 00:55:38,000
Speaker 5: They were assuring me that they had noticed her actions

1311
00:55:38,000 --> 00:55:40,319
Speaker 5: too and made me feel less crazy. But putting my

1312
00:55:40,360 --> 00:55:42,000
Speaker 5: hands on her was also wrong.

1313
00:55:42,400 --> 00:55:42,640
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1314
00:55:42,680 --> 00:55:44,439
Speaker 5: I should have been the bigger person and just left

1315
00:55:44,440 --> 00:55:46,759
Speaker 5: her alone, because no matter what, she's never going to

1316
00:55:46,840 --> 00:55:49,680
Speaker 5: truly change. But you know what, else never changes the

1317
00:55:49,719 --> 00:55:52,080
Speaker 5: fact that you can listen to full episodes of stories

1318
00:55:52,320 --> 00:55:54,840
Speaker 5: just like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or

1319
00:55:54,880 --> 00:55:57,120
Speaker 5: iHeartRadio and search a bookcase story time.

1320
00:55:57,200 --> 00:55:58,760
Speaker 2: That'll never change.

1321
00:55:59,080 --> 00:56:01,480
Speaker 4: I love that that little burst of perspective we got

1322
00:56:01,480 --> 00:56:03,440
Speaker 4: at the end there where they're like, yeah, I guess

1323
00:56:03,440 --> 00:56:05,160
Speaker 4: I should have done that, because nothing's gonna make her.

1324
00:56:05,120 --> 00:56:08,640
Speaker 5: Change exactly like that was. Yeah, So you can't really

1325
00:56:09,080 --> 00:56:12,359
Speaker 5: done that, especially not on the day of your your

1326
00:56:12,400 --> 00:56:17,480
Speaker 5: boyfriend's mom's wedding or the day of her boyfriend's grandmother's passing.

1327
00:56:17,719 --> 00:56:19,920
Speaker 5: The day it seems like you started. You were stirring

1328
00:56:19,960 --> 00:56:22,520
Speaker 5: up a lot of drama that could have that could

1329
00:56:22,520 --> 00:56:24,440
Speaker 5: have been dealt with people. To be fair, she didn't.

1330
00:56:24,200 --> 00:56:26,440
Speaker 4: Really stir it up. She just got caught in the shoes. Yeah,

1331
00:56:26,920 --> 00:56:28,200
Speaker 4: she got caught in the cyclone.

1332
00:56:28,280 --> 00:56:28,680
Speaker 2: That's fair.

1333
00:56:28,800 --> 00:56:30,880
Speaker 5: Like she didn't start it up. Other people were starting drama.

1334
00:56:30,960 --> 00:56:33,120
Speaker 5: Ashley was starting drama. But we don't need to, We

1335
00:56:33,160 --> 00:56:35,719
Speaker 5: don't need to, you know, put a fan on the cyclone, you.

1336
00:56:35,640 --> 00:56:38,720
Speaker 2: Know, yeah, it's already cycloned, already, it's already spinning.

1337
00:56:39,160 --> 00:56:41,680
Speaker 5: After that, Ashley left and we ended up enjoying the

1338
00:56:41,680 --> 00:56:44,240
Speaker 5: rest of the night. I do sometimes still feel guilty,

1339
00:56:44,320 --> 00:56:46,600
Speaker 5: as my boyfriend and Ashley do not really talk anymore

1340
00:56:46,760 --> 00:56:48,719
Speaker 5: or hang out as much as they used to. That's

1341
00:56:48,719 --> 00:56:51,040
Speaker 5: on her. But you guys tell me, am I the

1342
00:56:51,080 --> 00:56:54,640
Speaker 5: ale for slapping my boyfriend's girl busfriend at his mom's wedding.

1343
00:56:54,960 --> 00:56:56,080
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1344
00:56:56,320 --> 00:56:58,799
Speaker 2: Sorry, Yeah, especially when you put it like that, it's like.

1345
00:56:59,120 --> 00:57:03,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, like she's easy a hole for how she was acting,

1346
00:57:03,080 --> 00:57:06,960
Speaker 5: but yeah, yeah, you're really a hole for slapping. Yeah.

1347
00:57:07,200 --> 00:57:09,520
Speaker 4: Maybe if the other stuff hadn't have happened, you could

1348
00:57:09,520 --> 00:57:12,640
Speaker 4: have gotten away with that. But like with the passing

1349
00:57:13,000 --> 00:57:17,640
Speaker 4: and the slurring and the yeah, you just needed to

1350
00:57:17,680 --> 00:57:19,800
Speaker 4: like be like, I'm gonna turn the other cheek, Yeah,

1351
00:57:19,960 --> 00:57:23,080
Speaker 4: just be like okay, instead of crazy smacking her in

1352
00:57:23,120 --> 00:57:23,680
Speaker 4: her cheeks.

1353
00:57:23,760 --> 00:57:25,600
Speaker 5: Yeah, just be like, yeah, she's not gonna talk. I'm

1354
00:57:25,600 --> 00:57:27,640
Speaker 5: not gonna talk to you anymore, Ashley, and then walk out.

1355
00:57:27,720 --> 00:57:28,640
Speaker 5: Jennifer already had.

1356
00:57:28,560 --> 00:57:30,280
Speaker 4: Your back, yeah, And then you have the conversation with

1357
00:57:30,320 --> 00:57:33,240
Speaker 4: your boyfriend and then he's like, oh, yeah, no, that's yeah,

1358
00:57:33,480 --> 00:57:34,400
Speaker 4: this is what she told me.

1359
00:57:34,560 --> 00:57:36,520
Speaker 2: I guess I won't be hanging out with her.

1360
00:57:36,640 --> 00:57:38,120
Speaker 5: But that is the end of that story.