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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast Hello everybody,

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Speaker 1: we are sprubbing in.

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Speaker 2: Mm hmmm, Tanya forgot what she was just to say

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Speaker 2: for open spoiler alert.

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Speaker 1: We're in a different studio and when I don't hear

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Speaker 1: the jingle into the podcast, I am a little throne.

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Speaker 2: We just recorded an I'm a little throne.

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Speaker 1: Okay, it is Thursday Thursday, which means traders, traders.

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Speaker 2: Jas here's my favorite. First of all, I love her

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Speaker 2: and I love her accent. I love you.

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Speaker 1: Have to watch her season of Love Island. I've tried.

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Speaker 2: That's the only one I have tried to watch three times.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, how do you not like this show?

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Speaker 2: It's oh, you know what, I never watched a full season,

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Speaker 2: and now that I've watched USA USA and watched it

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Speaker 2: in its entirety, I think maybe I get it more.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: But also it's a lot of I do feel it's

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Speaker 2: a lot of.

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Speaker 1: Commitment the way that I want. I'm like the fact

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Speaker 1: that these people are just every day just in their bikinis,

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Speaker 1: like sitting down, standing up, like making these toasts to

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Speaker 1: each other. Like, I'm like, it's such a weird thing

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Speaker 1: that they're just like in their bikinis all day, just

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Speaker 1: like talking and chatting and like dating. It's so funny

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Speaker 1: to me.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it makes the Bachelor look like totally normal, Totally.

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't want to do anything in my bikini that

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Speaker 1: many days in a row.

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Speaker 2: You'd have to. You'd be like, I need have you

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Speaker 2: gotten the water? You'd be like to go change.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I'd be changing my bathings to every five minutes because

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Speaker 1: I don't want to get a uti.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so Traders at this point. At first, I was like, Okay,

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Speaker 2: I always am rooting for the Faithfuls to figure it out.

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Speaker 2: At this point, I want Rob to win because the

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Speaker 2: faith Balls are so dumb.

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Speaker 1: That I'm like, they're digmatized.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they're like so upsetsed with him. He could be

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Speaker 2: a cult leader.

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Speaker 1: It's you know what this season has made me realize,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you're gonna have to bleep that, huh.

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Speaker 1: I can't say stigmatize on Okay, run it by the

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Speaker 1: higher ups. It's like such a fascinating study of human

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Speaker 1: behavior because spoiler alert, when Candice got banished and they

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Speaker 1: found out that she was a trader and she was

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Speaker 1: going so hard for Rob and doing the trow a

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Speaker 1: vote for Rob the week before, like the fact that

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Speaker 1: nobody more picked up on it slightly, And then she

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Speaker 1: was just like, but why would she do that to you?

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Speaker 1: You're such a faithful And I'm like, how are you

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Speaker 1: guys so enamored with this man that you cannot see

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Speaker 1: that he's a trader.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, but he has something where he's like

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Speaker 2: put a spell on them, a spell.

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Speaker 1: Guys and girls are under us his spell.

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Speaker 2: Not even a single person. Like Natalie apologized to them

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Speaker 2: for getting Steven out, like for leading the charge against Steve,

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Speaker 2: and she's like, I'm really sorry, guys, Like you're apologizing

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Speaker 2: to the traders. And she's supposed to be a game player.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's a good game player, and she she's she's

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Speaker 1: under his spell.

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Speaker 2: They are.

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Speaker 1: It is so crazy to me, Like, I I don't

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Speaker 1: the producer is picking him to be a trader was brilliant.

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Speaker 2: I don't think they could have ever predicted that someone

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Speaker 1: It is, but I feel it's even alluding to it

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Speaker 1: all season, Like now that I'm like looking back on

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Speaker 1: other episodes, like I feel like Jam Jam was like

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Speaker 1: oh Rob, like come whisk me away, and like Johnny

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Speaker 1: was always like flirting with Rob, and like all the

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Speaker 1: girls like Derinda was like obsessed with me. Yeah, like

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Speaker 1: nobody but but and he was playing an amazing game,

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Speaker 1: Like I actually thought that he was a really good

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Speaker 2: Rob herader.

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Speaker 1: No, he made one fatal, fatal mistake in my personal opinion,

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Speaker 1: the vote where it was between Ron and Lisa and

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Speaker 1: because then that made Candace, It made all of them

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Speaker 1: kind of like not trust him, and then Candace going

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Speaker 1: Like I'm like, I was like, now Rob is screwed

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Speaker 1: because Candace is going out so hard. Once they find

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Speaker 1: he should have voted for Ron. He would have been banished,

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Speaker 1: and then Lisa and Candace wouldn't have been like so

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Speaker 1: amazing gameplay.

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Speaker 2: In any other season.

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Speaker 1: That was his biggest mistake in my personal opinion.

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Speaker 2: They don't care. They're so far they're.

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Speaker 1: So far up it. I cannot believe it he's gonna win.

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Speaker 2: I meet him because I'm like, what is it about you?

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Speaker 2: Is it because I obviously he's very cute, Like I

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Speaker 2: think he's so cute, But I'm also like, is it

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Speaker 2: because he is? I almost feel like he has that

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Speaker 2: but like nonchalant, doesn't give anyone too much, so they're

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Speaker 1: Is so weird. I've never seen anything like it on television.

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Speaker 2: It's crazy.

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Speaker 1: It's crazy. If he doesn't win this season, I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: be shocked. I know no one's on him, even though

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Speaker 1: they Tea should be the.

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Speaker 2: Next one gone. When when Kristen was saying, if I

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Speaker 2: get murdered tonight, it's gonna be Eric, I'm like, she

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Speaker 2: has just set him up to throw Eric under the bus.

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Speaker 1: Oh cool, Rob? Yeah, yeah, I'm curious to what Rob

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Speaker 1: if he tries to help him.

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Speaker 2: It's going to be a big episode if they're able

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Speaker 2: to get him out.

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Speaker 1: Rob, I just don't.

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Speaker 2: I mean, no, it seems like there's no.

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Speaker 1: Chance he's going to the end. And he's like, I

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Speaker 1: think he's winning. That's my prediction. He's winning the whole thing.

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Speaker 2: Wow. Yeah, yeah, I mean I don't see a world

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Speaker 2: where he does unless he does something just really out

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Speaker 2: of no word.

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Speaker 1: That's unless Eric also tries throwing him under the bus.

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Speaker 1: I get a round table. I think he will. Why

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Speaker 1: he chose there, I know, I don't think he will.

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Speaker 2: I could just see Rob literally looking them directly in

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Speaker 2: the face and being like, I'm a Trader and they're like, no,

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Speaker 2: you're too much about face. Who say that?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Who's making you say that? But you know, The Trader's

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Speaker 1: finale is next week?

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Speaker 2: Oh so we have tonight and then we have next week.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm like, we're going to be in the Bahamas,

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Speaker 1: so we're gonna have to like VPN or do some things.

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Speaker 2: I'm so excited about the Bahamas. Yeah, but you're really

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Speaker 2: bummed about that.

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm missing the Season fifty Survivor premiere and the

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Speaker 1: Traders finally. So it's really a for a TV addict.

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Speaker 1: That's a big blockbuster week for me.

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Speaker 2: This is a big This is a big step for

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Speaker 2: you and your addiction.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it is a big step.

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Speaker 2: We had to plan a trip to the Bahamas to

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Speaker 2: get Tanya away from the television.

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Speaker 1: Yes, but these are also two shows that we watch

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Speaker 1: as a family, so.

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Speaker 2: They're having to wait for you.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what they're gonna do. I wouldn't hold

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Speaker 1: it against them if they watched without me. I would

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Speaker 1: allow that because I would want to watch. I'm trying

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Speaker 1: to give myself the grace to watch in the Bahamas

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Speaker 1: without them.

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Speaker 2: That makes Oh, I see, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, tip for tet.

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Speaker 2: You know what that I was gonna say that.

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Speaker 4: Was sacrifice love, sacrifice to sacrifice flus.

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Speaker 2: Speaking of jingles, we have some new Dear Banya jingles

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Speaker 2: that I am very excited to hear. But first we're

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Speaker 2: going to take a break. All right, we're back. So

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Speaker 2: we have more jingle submissions for Dear Bonnia. And before

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Speaker 2: we start the Dear Bonia segment, we thought why not

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Speaker 2: test him out here?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so have we have a few.

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Speaker 5: Everyone was very inspired, which is awesome. First, we're gonna

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Speaker 5: start off with it. This is from DJ Poppins, who

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Speaker 5: has contributed to this program before.

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Speaker 1: We're big fans, Big fans, Big fans.

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Speaker 5: Here is the submission from GJ. Poppins did a remix

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Speaker 5: of Sacrifice for Love, which we were just seeing. Here

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Speaker 5: is the submission from DJ Poppins for Dear Bonia, Oh.

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Speaker 6: You gotta call with the question on ya I have idea,

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Speaker 6: Dear Bonya.

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Speaker 1: It's still giving Miss Rachel, it still is it?

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Speaker 2: Maybe just the melody of the jingle because it us.

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Speaker 5: It might be us, It might be that might be

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Speaker 5: You're another one East. Here's Maureen. Maureen says, hey, there's Scrubs.

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Speaker 5: Longtime listener and fellow Gray is no longer watcher. I'm

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Speaker 5: no Haley Kyoko, but I love to fiddle around with

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Speaker 5: music making How to take a whack at a Dear

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Speaker 5: Bondy jingle? Tiny is very committed performance of up by

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Speaker 5: Shania Twain at the end of last week's pod was

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Speaker 5: my inspo. Hope you like it. Thanks for keeping me

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Speaker 5: company in the car. Lease heres, thanks Maureen. Here's your song.

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Speaker 2: Okay, who you gonna call?

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Speaker 1: Question?

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Speaker 6: I have idea dear Banya, I'm realizing it's it's totally

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Speaker 6: us lay out on the beat of our it's our

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Speaker 2: It has to be not so missus, Rachel.

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Speaker 1: Maybe we give some more rock tracks.

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Speaker 5: Let's see one more. This is from Brianna and this

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Speaker 5: is a new uh, a new idea for a jingle.

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Speaker 5: This is not your voice, this is singing.

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Speaker 4: Okay when you need a second opinion because you don't

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Speaker 4: know what to do right, Dear Banya, We're here for you.

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Speaker 2: Wow, here's the thing.

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Speaker 1: I like it too.

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Speaker 2: I like it too. All great. I'm realizing it's our

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Speaker 2: jingle that is hard to add music too without it

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Speaker 2: sound sounding like a children's show.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, one more, one more, Amy says, Hey, Banya and Meston,

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Speaker 5: this is my passage, dear Bonie, jingle would love to

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Speaker 5: hear we all think about it. Feel free to take

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Speaker 5: bits of it in tweak is however you want. I'm

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Speaker 5: a day one scruber and I love tuning in every

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Speaker 5: single week for the record, Tanya, I did love the

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Speaker 5: scrubb it of dub tagline and I find myself missing it.

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Speaker 2: Uh.

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Speaker 5: Hope to hear from you all soon over the airwaves.

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Speaker 5: Here's Amy's song, Oh you gotta.

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Speaker 2: Come the question on you?

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Speaker 7: I have an idea.

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Speaker 2: Wow, I like some addition. I don't know adition. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I like the ring because it's like the sound effect

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Speaker 2: I think that it's just finding a little more balance

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Speaker 1: Yes, it is on us, but I don't hate it.

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Speaker 2: Oh I I will say, do not put yourself in

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Speaker 2: I'll let you talk to this, but you were like,

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Speaker 1: And I also think too, like you're saying that she

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Speaker 1: But like I can't travel as much as I've been traveling.

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Speaker 1: Can we prioritize, like what's really important for you for

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Speaker 1: Like it's just coming up and being creative in different ways,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I have an honest conversation because you're

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Speaker 2: You probably know each other really well, like, yeah, I

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Speaker 2: Like steaming the clothes, getting everything ready, like just like

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Speaker 2: like you can just be transparent. She's not oblivious to

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Speaker 1: This is crazy and I feel like you're just doing

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're gonna feel lighter. So I would say give

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Speaker 1: Oh you gotta call with the question on ya. I

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Speaker 1: have an idea, we Dear Bonya, that.

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Speaker 2: That we miss some of these jingle options. We have

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Speaker 2: one more submission.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, yes, let us let us hear it Easton.

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Speaker 5: Let's play one more that we got this from honor.

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Speaker 2: Huh.

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Speaker 3: Here we go high screaming and team apologies in advance

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Speaker 2: But this is what it would sound like.

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Speaker 7: He I think we need Yeah, you know what, perfect Okay, but.

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Speaker 5: the muffled idea.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like like, oh like should we call? Should we

441
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Speaker 1: not a lot to work with here?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we have a we have a lot of ideas.

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Speaker 2: Think you'll are the best thing.

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Speaker 1: Okay, We're gonna go to We're gonna take a quick break, Yu,

445
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Speaker 1: We're gonna come back because somebody's liking and boyfriend is

446
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Speaker 1: liking some thirst trap Instagram posts.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, all right, we're back.

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Speaker 7: He that.

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Speaker 1: Wow did you hear that?

450
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Speaker 5: A deep inhale?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, a severe sniff there. I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 5: This is from anonymous. Uh, dear Becket, Tanya Mark and Easton.

454
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Speaker 5: I've noticed my boyfriend quickly likes alone or free Oh

455
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Speaker 5: sorry frequently.

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Speaker 4: Uh.

457
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Speaker 5: I've noticed that my boyfriend frequently likes Alona Mars Instagram post,

458
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Speaker 5: especially ones where she's posing or looking sexy. She's obviously

459
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Speaker 5: a beautiful woman, and I totally understand we all have

460
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Speaker 5: celebrity crushes. That said, liking almost every single post feels

461
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Speaker 5: a bit much to me. I can't help but feel

462
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Speaker 5: a little insecure, especially since I don't look like her.

463
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Speaker 5: I'm not sure if this is something I should bring

464
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Speaker 5: up with him or if I'm overthinking it. For context,

465
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Speaker 5: for both thirty and I've been dating for about four months.

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Speaker 5: Thanks in advance for the advice.

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Speaker 1: Oh, the dating for four months makes it tricky, I know,

468
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Speaker 1: because you can't like, you can't show your cards fully.

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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, you can if not now.

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Speaker 1: When, if not two years in who you.

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Speaker 2: I think you should just say, hey, I have noticed

472
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Speaker 2: that you always like alone of Mars Instagram photos and

473
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Speaker 2: for whatever reason, it triggers an insecurity in me, and

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Speaker 2: I obviously want to make sure that I'm working on

475
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Speaker 2: that part of myself. But I, for me, it feels

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Speaker 2: it makes me feel a little disrespected. When you're liking

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Speaker 2: another girl's like sexy photos. Maybe you don't even say Alona,

478
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Speaker 2: maybe you just say I notice on Instagram, I see

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Speaker 2: your name pop up, and it'll be like a sexy

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Speaker 2: photo of.

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Speaker 1: A I feel like not saying maybe not saying that,

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Speaker 1: like you notice that he's liking all of her photos

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Speaker 1: specifically mm hmm, but maybe saying.

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Speaker 2: There's some people I follow where I see you.

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Speaker 1: It's the it's the sexy ones that really is like

486
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Speaker 1: the issue. It's not liking another sports photo, sport photos.

487
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Speaker 1: It's like, it's the sexy photos. And I feel like

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Speaker 1: that's what's throwing you. So I feel like that's the conversation,

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Speaker 1: Like that would if Robbie were liking photos of like

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Speaker 1: girls in their bikinis, it would make me feel a

491
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Speaker 1: certain type of way. Absolutely, I would not like it.

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Speaker 2: I think you're totally valid. I mean that's I think

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Speaker 2: you know, everyone's.

494
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Speaker 1: Different, Like four months are they if they're just dating,

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Speaker 1: If they're not boyfriend and girlfriend, then that's like his

496
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Speaker 1: door is.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, technically you're not official.

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Speaker 1: If you're not closed off, then like she doesn't really

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Speaker 1: have you know what I mean, she doesn't. I don't say, right,

500
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Speaker 1: but like you know, as you progress in your relationship,

501
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Speaker 1: it does make things more serious. It does give you

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Speaker 1: kind of more free rein to kind of have these conversations.

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Speaker 2: Right.

504
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Speaker 1: If they're just dating, they're not closed off, they're just chatting.

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Speaker 2: If you're not in an official relationship with him, I

506
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Speaker 2: don't think you say anything. Yeah, but take note of

507
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Speaker 2: it because maybe you don't want to date a guy

508
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Speaker 2: who's like always liking sexy photos. Look at who he's following.

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Speaker 2: If it's all just like girls and models and bikini models.

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Speaker 1: Like he's following puppy melons flag.

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Speaker 2: But if y'all are official, I think you just say hey,

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Speaker 2: I when I see you liking other girls photos on Instagram,

513
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Speaker 2: it makes those sexy photo, yeah, sexy photos. Yeah, I

514
00:25:43,160 --> 00:25:48,280
Speaker 2: think you clarify sexy photos. It just makes me feel

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Speaker 2: insecure and just feels disrespectful.

516
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Speaker 1: Or you could even say like I just don't like it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't like it. Yeah, it doesn't make me

518
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Speaker 2: feel like he's like too bad and he's.

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Speaker 1: Like, oh it matter them.

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Speaker 2: Then four months will be for one day. Yeah, I

521
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Speaker 2: just well could have that reaction, but I think you

522
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Speaker 2: just have an honest conversation. I don't think you come

523
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Speaker 2: at it attacking him just but hey, it makes me

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Speaker 2: feel insecure and I don't like it, and you know,

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Speaker 2: I just we're early on in our relationship. But that's

526
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Speaker 2: just a boundary for me. Yeah, because y'all are still

527
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Speaker 2: getting to know each other and like what you're.

528
00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:29,400
Speaker 1: Having conversations early on though it really is.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because you don't want to come across as like

530
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Speaker 2: needy what the word is. But here's the thing. You're

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Speaker 2: not being needy or or you're not You're not doing

532
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Speaker 2: anything wrong by not liking that. We're in like this

533
00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:46,120
Speaker 2: weird world where like we have photos of people at

534
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Speaker 2: our fingertips and the ability to like them, which then

535
00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:54,040
Speaker 2: could just lead to an innocent dum that turns into

536
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Speaker 2: something not innocent. It's just it's setting the boundary for yourself.

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Speaker 2: That's strength, it's.

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Speaker 1: Power, it is It's just really hard having those conversations.

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Speaker 4: I know.

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Speaker 2: But you can do this Anonymous.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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00:27:04,680 --> 00:27:08,159
Speaker 2: And if not, now when don't let it, don't let

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Speaker 2: it rest, like get in your head.

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Speaker 1: Who Yeah?

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Speaker 8: All right?

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Speaker 2: Our last dear bonya.

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Speaker 5: Our final one of the week. This is from Ashley

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00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:19,639
Speaker 5: a psychic flashback. I was listening to the May thirteenth,

549
00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:22,439
Speaker 5: twenty nineteen episode. Thanks for the specifics, and you were

550
00:27:22,440 --> 00:27:24,680
Speaker 5: talking about the guy that the psychic said Tanya would

551
00:27:24,680 --> 00:27:26,720
Speaker 5: meet and said you would be She said it would

552
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Speaker 5: be a parent, but I was thinking, now it's Robbie,

553
00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:32,879
Speaker 5: it was a parent. In the very next sentence, you

554
00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:35,399
Speaker 5: guys said Dipplo would be on and he has great hands.

555
00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:37,080
Speaker 5: Just knowing what I know now, it seems like fate

556
00:27:37,119 --> 00:27:39,560
Speaker 5: with Robbie. He just didn't know it yet. This episode

557
00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:41,720
Speaker 5: also had me cracking up because you guys told someone's

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00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:43,920
Speaker 5: sister that they were pregnant, and Tanya's fake voice had

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00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:46,560
Speaker 5: me laughing out loud. I love this podcast and I

560
00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 5: love you all so much. I love how Tanya is

561
00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:52,399
Speaker 5: so unapologetically herself, how markets choked up when something sweet happens,

562
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:55,120
Speaker 5: and how Easton loves things so fiercely and gets so excited,

563
00:27:55,359 --> 00:27:58,040
Speaker 5: and how effortlessly hilarious and cool Beca is. Thanks for

564
00:27:58,080 --> 00:27:59,600
Speaker 5: being you. Hope you have a magical day.

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00:28:00,080 --> 00:28:04,760
Speaker 1: How cool, hilarious and cool that could always gets the

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Speaker 1: cool card? You notice I never get the cool card.

567
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Speaker 2: But you're so unapologetically yourself, which is cool?

568
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Speaker 1: Is it? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: It is cool.

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Speaker 1: It's fine. I'm fine with it, like I love it

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Speaker 1: out of all.

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Speaker 2: That's oh my gosh, it is so true. Yeah, but

573
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:23,960
Speaker 2: does have good hands she said.

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Speaker 1: It would be apparent, but it's and he's a parent,

575
00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:29,480
Speaker 1: but it's kind of crazy.

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Speaker 2: The initials were not right.

577
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Speaker 1: The initials were not right. No, not even.

578
00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:36,160
Speaker 2: Can you say them? No, since it's all is said

579
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Speaker 2: and done and you're married?

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00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:40,440
Speaker 1: No what what?

581
00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:40,480
Speaker 2: What?

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Speaker 1: Because I don't even want to Like, it's like bad vibes.

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Speaker 2: Do you know that episode of Friends when uh, Monica

584
00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:52,440
Speaker 2: and Chandler are married and then Phoebe's like, Monica, I

585
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Speaker 2: found this.

586
00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:55,440
Speaker 1: Guy that or she tells him like I thought that

587
00:28:56,400 --> 00:29:00,880
Speaker 1: perfect funny. Yeah, it's like that.

588
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:01,720
Speaker 2: It comes in.

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00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:03,680
Speaker 1: I don't need to buddy the water.

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00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:06,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you're Yeah, Yeah, things are going well.

591
00:29:06,720 --> 00:29:09,920
Speaker 1: And he has good hands and he's a parent, and

592
00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:11,800
Speaker 1: he's a parent. That is pretty crazy.

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00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:17,400
Speaker 2: Yeah. I love the attention to detail. I do too.

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Speaker 1: Actually, I appreciate the flashback too, because I feel like

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Speaker 1: I would be interested, especially in the like early days

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Speaker 1: when I was dating Robbie, the early days when you

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00:29:25,400 --> 00:29:27,880
Speaker 1: were dating Haley, and like weren't sharing like what you

598
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:28,480
Speaker 1: were saying.

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Speaker 2: Do you know what I mean? That feels so foreign

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Speaker 2: to me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that time in my life, I know, but it

602
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Speaker 1: was just yonder well it really, I mean it was

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Speaker 1: four years ago.

604
00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:44,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was thinking about what were we talking about?

605
00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:46,320
Speaker 1: Before you were published.

606
00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:52,080
Speaker 2: Hailey's fan started a trend where like it's the Girl's

607
00:29:52,080 --> 00:29:54,160
Speaker 2: like Girls new song playing from the trailer, and it's

608
00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 2: like girls Like Girls the music video and it's them

609
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Speaker 2: in twenty fifteen. And then it's like a swipe and

610
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Speaker 2: it's like girls Like Girls the movie and it's them now.

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Speaker 2: So I did it, and I was on The Bachelor.

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Speaker 2: My season of the Bachelor was airing when the music

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Speaker 2: video came out. Crazy, I know, a world ago, yeah really,

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Speaker 2: but like the world ago that brought me here. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you know, so what a full circle. I love you. Guys,

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Speaker 2: Thank y'all for always submitting Dear Bonya questions. They're always

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Speaker 9: wish ill on anybody, it's I think it's nice to

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Speaker 9: know that there's in life, that there are ups and downs,

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Speaker 9: and there's celebrations and there's trials, and we're all in

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Speaker 9: it together.

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Speaker 2: want to get to a place where there's not room room,

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Speaker 2: because it's not glory.

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Speaker 1: If we're not nothing, we're not We're students. We're students

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Speaker 1: of the craft, always learning, always trying to make this podcast.

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Speaker 2: We're trying to be better at what we do. Yes,

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Speaker 2: and that's all for now. I hope you all have

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Speaker 2: a wonderful weekend.

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Speaker 1: We love you so much.

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Speaker 2: We love you so much, and it's hope. The week,

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Speaker 2: the first week of the year of the Horse, is

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Speaker 2: going swimmingly.

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Speaker 1: Galloping, galloping into your feeling the.

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Speaker 2: Wind on your face. Yeah all right, We love you guys.

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