WEBVTT - Ep. 22 — Why every woman needs an "F-U" fund 0:00:16.079 --> 0:00:19.200 All right, guys, we're back with episode twenty two. 0:00:19.320 --> 0:00:21.480 Oh twenty two. Oh we think we've grown now we 0:00:21.560 --> 0:00:22.320 ready to move out. 0:00:22.400 --> 0:00:25.320 We shoveled ourselves out of the snow. Oh yeah, we're grown. 0:00:25.440 --> 0:00:27.440 We shuttled ourselves out of the snow to bring you, 0:00:27.440 --> 0:00:28.920 guys another episode of brown Ambition. 0:00:29.440 --> 0:00:32.320 Yes you're welcome. Well, honestly, Superman did the shoveling. I 0:00:32.440 --> 0:00:36.599 just made lunch in hot chocolate, as you should. Now. 0:00:36.640 --> 0:00:39.120 This storm was crazy. I hope everyone is nice and 0:00:39.200 --> 0:00:42.080 warm at home on the East Coast. I feel like 0:00:42.080 --> 0:00:43.920 a lot of our audience on the East Coast right now, 0:00:44.000 --> 0:00:47.240 So I hope everyone's good. Sorry that it didn't fall 0:00:47.479 --> 0:00:49.920 like I wish the blizzard had fallen like maybe today. 0:00:50.360 --> 0:00:53.920 I know, I mean, it's no work Monday. I know 0:00:54.480 --> 0:00:56.360 your boss is gonna make you go. He's gonna say, like, 0:00:56.400 --> 0:00:59.840 you know what, the streets are shoveled, the sidewalks are shoveled. 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:00.640 I'm into work. 0:01:00.960 --> 0:01:02.520 Well, you know how it gets in New York City, 0:01:02.800 --> 0:01:04.840 probably gets the same way in Jersey. Like after its 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:08.000 nos then you have four days of melting and it's 0:01:08.040 --> 0:01:11.399 just like black slushy rivers of dirt and grime. So 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:16.319 looking forward to that. It's gonna be fun, fun times. 0:01:16.959 --> 0:01:24.160 Yeah. So it is time for Buzzworthy. 0:01:22.720 --> 0:01:28.280 The most special time of the day. There's a lot 0:01:28.319 --> 0:01:31.360 of cool stuff happening. Let's start with some good news. 0:01:32.240 --> 0:01:33.399 Well is there good news? 0:01:33.440 --> 0:01:33.600 Oh? 0:01:33.840 --> 0:01:35.720 Well, I guess the good news is that we talked 0:01:35.720 --> 0:01:38.720 about the Flint River, I mean the Flint, Michigan water 0:01:38.800 --> 0:01:42.120 crisis last week, and we finally seemed to hit the 0:01:42.120 --> 0:01:45.560 tipping point in the American news media cycle to where 0:01:45.560 --> 0:01:48.200 people are finally paying attention. I mean, I think every 0:01:48.240 --> 0:01:50.640 major news outlet had a Flint story. 0:01:50.760 --> 0:01:53.960 Yes, right, and I've been seeing way more of my 0:01:53.960 --> 0:01:57.120 friend's timelines. One of my friends, Niamaya at Nami Davis 0:01:57.160 --> 0:01:59.240 and Philly, he actually did a water drive and his 0:01:59.320 --> 0:02:01.320 goal was to get like, I think, like a ten 0:02:01.400 --> 0:02:04.760 thousand bottles of water. He ended up collecting fifty thousand 0:02:04.800 --> 0:02:07.720 bottles and he's gonna be driving it down. Yeah. So 0:02:07.760 --> 0:02:10.560 people are really starting to pay attention, and you know, 0:02:10.600 --> 0:02:12.400 it's starting to get like you said, it's it's tipped, 0:02:12.400 --> 0:02:16.440 which is great because this is crazy. Honestly, it feels. 0:02:16.200 --> 0:02:18.560 Like another country, like yeah, you know what I mean. 0:02:18.600 --> 0:02:20.400 And then they had the What really disturbed me and 0:02:20.440 --> 0:02:22.160 I think everybody else was that The New York Times 0:02:22.280 --> 0:02:24.959 ran that story on letters or emails from the mayor 0:02:25.040 --> 0:02:29.680 and her team totally like making making light of making 0:02:29.760 --> 0:02:33.519 light of people who were complaining about the water and saying, 0:02:33.560 --> 0:02:35.160 like I think the quote was that they called them 0:02:35.160 --> 0:02:38.320 the oh, it's just an anti everything group complaining about 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:42.040 the water, when in fact, the water is literally poisoning people. 0:02:42.639 --> 0:02:44.920 So that's why it took so long. And I mean, 0:02:44.960 --> 0:02:46.359 I think the mayor will get kicked out. I don't 0:02:46.400 --> 0:02:48.320 know what the what do they get impeached? What do 0:02:48.360 --> 0:02:51.120 they resign? Like it's it's a it's an embarrassment and 0:02:51.160 --> 0:02:52.399 there's no exist for it. 0:02:53.160 --> 0:02:55.520 And the thing is, though, like it's not like, you know, 0:02:55.560 --> 0:02:57.200 some things it's very hard to prove. You're like, oh, 0:02:57.200 --> 0:02:58.880 I don't know, but this is one of those things 0:02:58.880 --> 0:03:01.000 where you're like, let me just turn on the faucet. 0:03:01.120 --> 0:03:04.959 Oh it's brown, you know. Like sometimes I mean I 0:03:05.000 --> 0:03:07.440 hate when people act like, you know, you can't complain 0:03:07.480 --> 0:03:09.320 because you don't want to be complaining all to all 0:03:09.400 --> 0:03:12.280 Black people are always complaining or this segment of the 0:03:12.320 --> 0:03:15.200 population always has something to say. But you know, what. 0:03:15.280 --> 0:03:17.080 This is one of those moments where it would not 0:03:17.120 --> 0:03:19.080 have been hard to fact check and say, you know what, 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:19.680 they're right. 0:03:21.680 --> 0:03:23.519 They're right, and they have a point and their voices 0:03:23.520 --> 0:03:26.160 should be heard. I mean, and it's sad that it 0:03:26.200 --> 0:03:28.200 takes this long. I have to give a shout out 0:03:28.240 --> 0:03:30.959 to my friend Caris Jackman. We went to college together 0:03:32.000 --> 0:03:34.480 at University of Georgia and we were in journalism school together. 0:03:34.520 --> 0:03:36.800 And she is a reporter in Flint, Michigan, and I've 0:03:36.800 --> 0:03:39.560 been watching her news reports on this water crisis long 0:03:39.640 --> 0:03:41.680 before I mean, of course she's local, but long before 0:03:41.720 --> 0:03:44.720 the national media finally took notice, she's been out there 0:03:44.760 --> 0:03:47.240 really covering it. So go ahead, Courris. I hope you 0:03:47.320 --> 0:03:51.960 get all the acclaim that you deserve. And just thanks 0:03:51.960 --> 0:03:52.960 for telling that story. 0:03:53.200 --> 0:03:59.880 Yes, Cris, thank you. Carees PSI, so what else is buzzing? 0:04:00.360 --> 0:04:02.160 I know you said you were telling me earlier about 0:04:02.400 --> 0:04:06.120 that young, young brown girl who started what is it, 0:04:06.360 --> 0:04:07.520 a thousand Black Girl books? 0:04:07.560 --> 0:04:09.880 Oh yeah, so she's starting a movement. This is so cute. 0:04:09.880 --> 0:04:12.720 It's this little girl. Where is she from? Where is 0:04:12.760 --> 0:04:15.280 she from? I love the quote from her. She says 0:04:15.280 --> 0:04:18.279 that she was tired of reading about sick of reading 0:04:18.279 --> 0:04:21.400 about white boys and dogs. So she started a book 0:04:21.480 --> 0:04:26.560 drive for books that feature black girls, which I'm impressors 0:04:26.600 --> 0:04:30.560 a thousand books with black girls featured. That's like more 0:04:30.560 --> 0:04:33.800 than I would ever think. And what was her name? 0:04:34.200 --> 0:04:35.040 What is her name? 0:04:35.440 --> 0:04:38.120 Is her mother named Janie? Because I'm like, wait, this 0:04:38.160 --> 0:04:39.800 sounds like my friend jan is from Newark. 0:04:40.880 --> 0:04:43.719 I think she's from Newark. Her last name is Diaz Marlee. 0:04:43.800 --> 0:04:46.640 Yes, oh my gosh, yes, I'm really cool with her mom. 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:49.600 I'm like, wait a minute, that sounds funny. Yes, Jane's Das. 0:04:49.640 --> 0:04:52.320 She's a doctor, And oh my god, that's so funny 0:04:52.320 --> 0:04:54.680 that because we're I was just looking on Facebook. They 0:04:54.680 --> 0:04:57.359 were on the news somewhere. Yes, I know Janis and 0:04:57.440 --> 0:05:00.719 her daughter is amazing and her husban and it's amazing 0:05:01.040 --> 0:05:03.840 and it's just so funny. Yes, okay, well, well go. 0:05:03.760 --> 0:05:06.440 Ahead, New Jersey tweens. So she's only eleven. I think 0:05:06.480 --> 0:05:09.040 you're eleven years old, she said. She said, I told 0:05:09.080 --> 0:05:10.880 my mom I was sick of reading about white boys 0:05:10.880 --> 0:05:13.280 and dogs, and moms asked, what are you going to 0:05:13.360 --> 0:05:16.279 do about it? So she started this book drive where 0:05:16.279 --> 0:05:19.240 black girls are the main characters and The project was 0:05:19.279 --> 0:05:24.520 being supported by something called the Philadelphia's Grassroots Community Founders, 0:05:25.000 --> 0:05:27.719 which Janie her mother. Yeah, here we go, Janie. 0:05:27.480 --> 0:05:31.280 Founded She's as I've volunteered with them a number of times. 0:05:31.640 --> 0:05:34.000 That's so sweet. And she's gonna she's going to donate 0:05:34.000 --> 0:05:37.960 the books to a low resourced neighbor, a low resources library. 0:05:38.760 --> 0:05:40.800 And Saint Mary Jamaica. Is that in Jersey? 0:05:41.520 --> 0:05:47.960 Saint Mary Jamaica Queens? Yeah, it sounds like queens, but Jamaica, 0:05:48.520 --> 0:05:50.480 Like they just I remember, I just saw pictures of them. 0:05:50.560 --> 0:05:53.160 She her mother, Jane's what I love is that with 0:05:53.279 --> 0:05:56.640 the Grassroots organization, they take the girls different places in 0:05:56.680 --> 0:06:00.320 the diaspora. So they just got back from Ghana where 0:06:00.360 --> 0:06:01.880 they took the girls, you know, to kind of see 0:06:01.960 --> 0:06:05.000 like the root that the slaves took. And so her 0:06:05.000 --> 0:06:08.360 mother is so dynamic, and I'm not surprised at her 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:12.720 daughter like having those thoughts and feelings and implementing them, 0:06:12.760 --> 0:06:15.040 because that is her mother to the teeth. Like her 0:06:15.080 --> 0:06:18.800 mother is a is a doctor and has advocated for 0:06:19.400 --> 0:06:23.360 brown people to have proper nutrition and education, and so 0:06:23.600 --> 0:06:25.880 her daughter's just following right in her footsteps. They're both 0:06:25.920 --> 0:06:28.080 still brown girls. So we'll go ahead. 0:06:28.680 --> 0:06:30.200 That is a good that's a good sign of parenting 0:06:30.200 --> 0:06:31.360 because you know, when I was a little girl, and 0:06:31.400 --> 0:06:33.160 I think a lot of kids, like I read a 0:06:33.200 --> 0:06:35.240 lot of books that featured white characters. But I didn't 0:06:35.320 --> 0:06:37.680 think it was weird because that's all I knew, you know, 0:06:38.279 --> 0:06:40.080 I didn't even know enough to know that it was 0:06:40.160 --> 0:06:42.200 weird that there wasn't anybody who was brown in the 0:06:42.200 --> 0:06:46.080 books I was reading. So I think that's definitely like 0:06:47.560 --> 0:06:51.160 Janiss win there. Yeah, for teaching her to be skeptical 0:06:51.200 --> 0:06:53.960 of what she's skeptical and to ask for more of 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:55.800 the books that she has and that she's reading. 0:06:56.080 --> 0:06:57.479 Yeah, I love that. That's awesome. 0:06:58.360 --> 0:07:03.560 Now on the shade front for today's buzzworthy, Yeah, speaking, 0:07:04.560 --> 0:07:07.479 I know, speaking of speaking out when you see something 0:07:07.520 --> 0:07:10.960 that's wrong or when you're not seeing people of color featured. 0:07:11.120 --> 0:07:14.760 The oscarsh Yeah, have been in the news like I've been. 0:07:14.800 --> 0:07:17.400 Every day there's a new person speak like saying some 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:21.280 foolishness about the oscars. People are banning it, people are 0:07:21.320 --> 0:07:24.680 not banning it. This week the oscars. Finally, I guess 0:07:24.720 --> 0:07:27.640 the culmination of all this was the oscars have decided 0:07:27.680 --> 0:07:30.600 to change the way that they select members of their 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:34.160 voting I guess the only select members of the oscars, 0:07:34.200 --> 0:07:37.640 whatever group it is, the Academy Awards, Academy Motion pictured 0:07:37.720 --> 0:07:42.160 Arts can vote for the OSCARS. So they're making some changes, 0:07:42.160 --> 0:07:43.760 and I'm not so sure what the changes are, but 0:07:43.800 --> 0:07:45.760 apparently it's going to make it so that more people 0:07:45.800 --> 0:07:48.640 of color, well actually more people of color and women 0:07:49.120 --> 0:07:52.720 for that matter, can actually vote. Okay, because like something 0:07:52.760 --> 0:07:55.360 crazy like ninety nine or ninety five percent of OSCAR 0:07:55.440 --> 0:07:59.600 voters or white men that are wh surprise, that's insane, 0:08:00.040 --> 0:08:01.800 and they wonder that's what makes it like when you 0:08:01.840 --> 0:08:04.360 have when you hear facts like that, and then you 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:07.480 see there's been a couple of actors. One of them, 0:08:07.640 --> 0:08:13.119 Charlotte Rampling, she's nominated for Best Actress Oscar nomination. She's British, 0:08:13.400 --> 0:08:15.520 came out saying that she thinks that all the people 0:08:15.560 --> 0:08:18.239 saying that the Oscars are so white, that that's racist 0:08:18.240 --> 0:08:23.280 against white people. Charlotte she's older, so you know, me 0:08:23.400 --> 0:08:25.040 give her a couple of you can give her a 0:08:25.040 --> 0:08:27.560 little bit of slack, but I feel like to look 0:08:27.560 --> 0:08:31.680 at a voting like you can't say that it's just 0:08:31.800 --> 0:08:33.760 it's based entire. I think there's so many different factors 0:08:33.800 --> 0:08:35.600 at play here that I'm making the Oscar so white. 0:08:35.600 --> 0:08:37.200 One is that there's not a ton of material for 0:08:37.240 --> 0:08:39.920 black actors. Two, it's like a lot of people like 0:08:39.960 --> 0:08:42.080 Lupita Niungo came out saying this too, is that this 0:08:42.160 --> 0:08:44.880 year there weren't so many roles that black actors were 0:08:44.880 --> 0:08:51.280 playing that fit into the stereotypical black character slaves, maids, 0:08:51.440 --> 0:08:54.360 that kind of thing. And then three, but you can't 0:08:54.360 --> 0:08:57.360 discount the fact that when you have a when everyone 0:08:57.400 --> 0:09:01.440 who's voting casting a vote is white and older and male, 0:09:02.440 --> 0:09:05.000 there's a ton of bias at play there, and they're 0:09:05.080 --> 0:09:07.840 gonna pick people who fit into their standards of what 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:10.160 they think good art is or stories that are worth telling. 0:09:10.240 --> 0:09:13.480 And people are egotistical, like they think stories that feature 0:09:13.520 --> 0:09:16.320 them are worth telling. And that's exactly that's a huge 0:09:16.360 --> 0:09:18.560 reason why you see the Oscar nominations come out the 0:09:18.559 --> 0:09:19.199 way that they have. 0:09:19.640 --> 0:09:21.360 You know you're right, though, because people, I mean, you 0:09:21.440 --> 0:09:24.560 relate to what what you're used to. So if you're 0:09:24.640 --> 0:09:27.439 used to you know your life, your story, your surroundings, 0:09:27.480 --> 0:09:30.280 and that's what you relate to. So it just I 0:09:30.280 --> 0:09:34.400 think it's just crazy to be shocked there, like, wait, no, 0:09:34.400 --> 0:09:37.880 no brown people were nominated. Well yeah, because there's no 0:09:37.920 --> 0:09:40.600 brown people making the nominations, and so yes, they should 0:09:40.640 --> 0:09:43.000 have it should have been you know, this should have 0:09:43.120 --> 0:09:44.880 this shift should have happened a long time ago. So 0:09:44.880 --> 0:09:46.960 I'm glad that it's happened. I just think like the 0:09:47.000 --> 0:09:48.920 whole I'm not gonna lie. It was kind of like 0:09:48.960 --> 0:09:51.720 giggly how everything kind of went down was like, so, 0:09:51.920 --> 0:09:54.960 you know, first Jada, you know, she asked for people 0:09:54.960 --> 0:09:57.640 to to to kind of like, you know, I guess 0:09:57.880 --> 0:09:59.400 to say that they weren't gonna go like, you know, 0:09:59.440 --> 0:10:01.520 we're gonna work. I was honest, you know. 0:10:01.720 --> 0:10:03.800 And so yeah, I wonder if she talked to Will 0:10:03.880 --> 0:10:05.800 first before she put that video up, because he was 0:10:05.880 --> 0:10:07.040 quiet for a couple of days. 0:10:07.040 --> 0:10:09.960 You know. Yeah, it just was like, Okay, I get it, 0:10:10.000 --> 0:10:12.839 your husband wasn't nominated. So so that's that's what people 0:10:12.840 --> 0:10:15.840 were kind of like, well, Jada, if he was nominated, 0:10:15.840 --> 0:10:17.600 we would have never heard from you. And so I'm 0:10:17.640 --> 0:10:19.440 not going to take away from Jada saying that she's 0:10:19.440 --> 0:10:21.079 because some people were like, oh, we never hear from 0:10:21.120 --> 0:10:24.120 you when when other important issues happened, But that's not 0:10:24.160 --> 0:10:29.040 true Jada. It's a big, big supporter of like like 0:10:29.360 --> 0:10:33.120 initiatives to help like sex trafficking and people who are 0:10:33.200 --> 0:10:35.800 kind of like in the sex slave trade field or whatever. 0:10:36.480 --> 0:10:38.480 So Jada definitely is somebody who stands up for what 0:10:38.520 --> 0:10:40.720 she believes in. But it's just that they've never heard 0:10:40.720 --> 0:10:43.719 from you as it relates to race. And what was 0:10:43.800 --> 0:10:46.200 kind of funny was that just a year ago, or 0:10:46.200 --> 0:10:48.280 not even a year ago, Will Smith had just done 0:10:48.480 --> 0:10:51.440 an interview where he basically said he doesn't there's not 0:10:51.520 --> 0:10:55.400 much racism in the in the acting world, and he 0:10:55.440 --> 0:10:57.800 doesn't really see it and if it does happen, you know, 0:10:57.840 --> 0:10:59.439 he chooses not to focus on it. So it was 0:10:59.520 --> 0:11:03.240 kind of like, so, when you win, it's cool, but 0:11:03.400 --> 0:11:06.920 now that you didn't get a nomination for concussion, it's 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:08.520 not so cool. So people were kind of dragged her 0:11:08.520 --> 0:11:11.320 for that a little bit. But to me, we'll put 0:11:11.320 --> 0:11:13.640 the shade cherry. The shade cherry on top of the 0:11:13.640 --> 0:11:16.360 shade ice cream was did you see on vib the 0:11:16.400 --> 0:11:18.679 first on viv go Off? Did you watch that video? 0:11:18.840 --> 0:11:21.000 Oh? Yeah, we posted on the Brown Ambition. Yeah, I 0:11:21.000 --> 0:11:23.360 posted on the Brown ambition page. It was epic. It 0:11:23.440 --> 0:11:26.240 was epics. We'll say her name, Janet Hubert. 0:11:26.559 --> 0:11:30.719 Yes AKA according to I awesomely love the AKA on Viv. 0:11:31.640 --> 0:11:33.719 Not two point one, but I guess zero point one, 0:11:33.880 --> 0:11:36.880 one point zero the first on Viv, the brown chocolate 0:11:36.880 --> 0:11:40.080 onn Fit Viv. She went off. It is clear this 0:11:40.120 --> 0:11:44.079 woman is holding off to all her biddenness. I mean 0:11:44.080 --> 0:11:45.319 some of what she said. I was like, Okay, I 0:11:45.360 --> 0:11:47.440 feel her, But some of it I was like, really, 0:11:48.120 --> 0:11:49.720 like you're still mad, damn. 0:11:49.760 --> 0:11:52.560 Twenty years later she did she well, she brought up 0:11:52.600 --> 0:11:56.040 some I mean honestly, like you could nitpick Jaden Will, like, 0:11:56.120 --> 0:11:58.599 of course he has been nominated. He lives in a 0:11:58.600 --> 0:12:01.760 bubble where he's the dark of Hollywood, one of the 0:12:01.760 --> 0:12:05.559 few black actors to be like widespread love love by Hollywood. 0:12:05.840 --> 0:12:07.320 And of course, yeah, like you said, they picked the 0:12:07.360 --> 0:12:09.800 one year when he's not nominated to come and all 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:12.400 of a sudden say that oscars are racist. But then 0:12:12.440 --> 0:12:14.880 she brings she like digs way back into history to 0:12:15.040 --> 0:12:17.240 French prince days because like she was kicked off the 0:12:17.240 --> 0:12:20.720 show or like dismissed from the show. Right, yeah, she 0:12:20.800 --> 0:12:24.200 said that will Will basically or she tried to get 0:12:24.440 --> 0:12:26.640 you know, just like other casts of other TV shows 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:29.160 had done, they tried to get together and have Will 0:12:30.400 --> 0:12:33.400 stand together to ask for more or equal pay for 0:12:33.480 --> 0:12:36.680 the episodes. And he was like, my salary is my salary, 0:12:36.760 --> 0:12:39.559 and your salary is your salary. And I think she's 0:12:39.600 --> 0:12:42.200 still holding a little grudge about that, just a little. 0:12:43.520 --> 0:12:44.680 I mean, who can blame her? 0:12:45.000 --> 0:12:47.040 Yeah, I mean like that part I understood, but I 0:12:47.040 --> 0:12:48.760 just thought it was kind of like gigly and funny. 0:12:48.800 --> 0:12:51.120 I was like, oh, like, look at her going in, 0:12:51.200 --> 0:12:52.480 Like I said, some of the like a lot of 0:12:52.480 --> 0:12:54.640 what she said was lost because of the bitterness. But 0:12:55.280 --> 0:12:56.840 you know, I could see what she was saying, like, 0:12:56.880 --> 0:12:58.680 you know, they have a production company. They have not 0:12:58.800 --> 0:13:02.600 been exactly like big supporters of like putting out new 0:13:02.640 --> 0:13:03.920 Brown talent, and they. 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:05.760 Put off themselves. They put out Will. 0:13:06.080 --> 0:13:08.080 Yes, and so she's just like so I could feel 0:13:08.120 --> 0:13:09.480 her on that. So I was kind of like, okay, 0:13:09.520 --> 0:13:12.200 But all in all, the shade was epic. 0:13:12.760 --> 0:13:15.200 Spike Lee came out even before Jada and he said 0:13:15.240 --> 0:13:17.560 he was boycotting the Oscars. I feel like if I 0:13:17.600 --> 0:13:21.000 feel like okay, I'll you know, Spike Lee, who has 0:13:21.120 --> 0:13:25.480 done so much for black film to promote black artistry. 0:13:25.640 --> 0:13:29.400 Just at a film about Shiraq those you know, incredibly 0:13:29.520 --> 0:13:31.760 the gang violence that happens in Chicago. Like he's done 0:13:31.840 --> 0:13:34.280 so much, Like he's put in the work. I don't 0:13:34.320 --> 0:13:35.880 know if Will Smith has put in the work to 0:13:35.920 --> 0:13:38.640 the point where he can stand up and say we 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:42.240 should boycott the Oscars. Hollywood is not supporting these stories, like, 0:13:42.280 --> 0:13:45.080 I don't think Will Smith has done much to do 0:13:45.120 --> 0:13:47.280 that himself. So I take Spike Lee a little bit 0:13:47.280 --> 0:13:49.040 more seriously than I take Jada and Will as how 0:13:49.040 --> 0:13:49.760 I feel about it. 0:13:50.040 --> 0:13:51.120 Yeah, no, you're right. 0:13:51.640 --> 0:13:54.960 But at the end of the day, I'm glad that 0:13:54.960 --> 0:13:57.200 the conversation is happening. I feel like this is gonna 0:13:57.200 --> 0:14:00.800 be good for their ratings. Chris Rock, Chris Rock is hosting. 0:14:00.840 --> 0:14:03.680 I'm sure he'll take some liberty with his jokes. 0:14:03.960 --> 0:14:07.319 Yes, a hopefully, because you know, Chris Brock is known 0:14:07.360 --> 0:14:09.840 for like his honest comedy. So I think so too. 0:14:10.800 --> 0:14:14.360 I can't wait. And then last, but not least, Oh, So, 0:14:14.440 --> 0:14:16.760 I love this story that I read and I've posted 0:14:16.720 --> 0:14:18.680 it on my social It really resonated with women. I 0:14:18.720 --> 0:14:22.480 feel like, so everyone always talks about having an emergency fund, 0:14:22.800 --> 0:14:24.760 a rainy day fund, a nine to one to one fund, 0:14:24.800 --> 0:14:26.640 whatever you want to call it. But like, one of 0:14:26.720 --> 0:14:30.000 my favorite ways to categorize or to call this, like 0:14:30.080 --> 0:14:32.960 special little amount of cash you have set aside for 0:14:32.960 --> 0:14:37.240 a rainy day is an FU fund, which is I 0:14:37.240 --> 0:14:39.280 think some people like Tyra Banks sort of made this 0:14:39.320 --> 0:14:41.040 a popular way of calling it, but I just love 0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:44.560 it because, like that is literally what the purpose of 0:14:44.600 --> 0:14:47.720 this little pot of money that you set aside is, 0:14:47.800 --> 0:14:50.720 Like it is giving you the power to walk away 0:14:50.760 --> 0:14:53.320 from situations that you don't want to be in, whether 0:14:53.400 --> 0:14:59.280 it is a abusive partner or a boss who's harassing 0:14:59.320 --> 0:15:01.000 you that you don't I want to work for anymore, 0:15:02.440 --> 0:15:05.040 you know. And there was a story on the Billfold, 0:15:05.040 --> 0:15:08.040 which is like a personal finance a blog which everyone 0:15:08.080 --> 0:15:10.520 should check out. They'd get really cool writing from a 0:15:10.520 --> 0:15:13.920 bunch of different, like unique writers. And I don't know 0:15:13.960 --> 0:15:16.320 if you've read it, but the story is called a 0:15:16.360 --> 0:15:19.360 story of a fuck off Fund. Part of my French. 0:15:20.760 --> 0:15:22.440 You Couldn't Wait maybe was like I can't wait, I 0:15:22.440 --> 0:15:23.240 can't wait, I can't wait. 0:15:23.640 --> 0:15:26.120 No, I mean, you know you well, she calls it 0:15:26.440 --> 0:15:29.040 a fuck off fund on an fu fund, but the 0:15:29.080 --> 0:15:31.680 writer is Paulette per Hash, and I thought it was 0:15:31.720 --> 0:15:34.240 really well done. She starts off the story by like 0:15:34.760 --> 0:15:38.120 talking about all these situations like giving you an alternate reality, 0:15:38.240 --> 0:15:41.600 like your life without an f you fund, where your 0:15:41.640 --> 0:15:44.800 boss grabs your ass and you keep the job anyway 0:15:44.880 --> 0:15:46.840 and you keep your mouth shut because you don't you know, 0:15:46.880 --> 0:15:50.560 you can't pay rent this month, Or your boyfriend pushed 0:15:50.600 --> 0:15:52.600 you against a wall when you're having an argument and 0:15:52.640 --> 0:15:55.400 you stay with him because you can't imagine covering the 0:15:55.400 --> 0:15:58.360 cost of a security deposit in a moving truck to 0:15:58.400 --> 0:16:01.040 get out of that situation. And then she does the 0:16:01.040 --> 0:16:02.760 flip side at the end. She's like, Oh, and what 0:16:02.800 --> 0:16:04.320 if your life were different. What if you had this 0:16:04.520 --> 0:16:06.960 f off fund and you could say screw you to 0:16:07.040 --> 0:16:10.400 your boss and leave a work situation that's not healthy 0:16:10.440 --> 0:16:12.160 for you, or you can say I'm dumping you to 0:16:12.240 --> 0:16:17.200 a deadbeat boyfriend who's hurting you physically, emotionally, whatever. And 0:16:18.000 --> 0:16:20.080 it really resonated with me as someone who I was 0:16:20.160 --> 0:16:22.600 raised by a single mom who had to leave some 0:16:22.640 --> 0:16:25.800 situations like this on her own. And I'm not going 0:16:25.840 --> 0:16:28.480 to say she necessarily had an f off fund, but 0:16:28.600 --> 0:16:31.080 she had the ability to walk away from some not 0:16:31.200 --> 0:16:34.840 great situations for her kids, for us, or for her, 0:16:34.920 --> 0:16:38.800 and I always I carry that with me every day 0:16:38.800 --> 0:16:41.720 when it comes to my own finances, like I save 0:16:41.840 --> 0:16:44.560 money so that I am free to do whatever the 0:16:44.600 --> 0:16:47.760 hell I want when things aren't working out in the 0:16:47.800 --> 0:16:49.760 way that I want them to work out at No. 0:16:49.960 --> 0:16:52.440 I think that that's critical because you're right. I mean, 0:16:53.720 --> 0:16:57.920 there's something freeing about knowing that you're somewhere because you 0:16:58.000 --> 0:16:59.800 want to be. I remember my dad telling me that, 0:17:00.480 --> 0:17:02.440 I think because he and my mom had five girls, 0:17:02.440 --> 0:17:04.639 but him in particular, because I think he was super 0:17:04.680 --> 0:17:07.800 sensitive to the fact that he had all girls. And 0:17:07.880 --> 0:17:10.480 so I remember him really drilling into my head, like 0:17:10.520 --> 0:17:13.080 you know, about how to manage my finances and how 0:17:13.080 --> 0:17:17.399 to be financially independent, and you know, him telling me basically, 0:17:17.480 --> 0:17:19.800 one day, you know, one day I want you to 0:17:19.960 --> 0:17:21.919 you know, if you decide to get married or be 0:17:22.000 --> 0:17:24.760 with somebody, that you're there because you want to be, 0:17:24.880 --> 0:17:27.639 not because you have to be. Yes. So I just remember, 0:17:27.680 --> 0:17:30.160 because I like, we're African, so it's a very male 0:17:30.440 --> 0:17:34.600 dominant dominated like a culture, and so it's like, you know, 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:37.119 what does your father have to say, you know, follow 0:17:37.160 --> 0:17:38.600 the leader of the man in your life, and so 0:17:39.359 --> 0:17:41.439 my dad is like falls right in alignment with like 0:17:41.480 --> 0:17:44.040 that typically. So I remember being so shocked when he 0:17:44.080 --> 0:17:47.320 said that, because you know, it's almost like he was 0:17:47.359 --> 0:17:49.760 going against what are typically our culture teaches. And he 0:17:49.840 --> 0:17:52.040 was just like, yeah, that's cool. But for my daughters now, 0:17:52.720 --> 0:17:55.800 like I want you to not have to worry about 0:17:55.840 --> 0:17:57.399 your finances. And that's why I'm like the way I 0:17:57.440 --> 0:17:59.680 am now. You know, every boyfriend will I've ever dated 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:03.160 will tell you that Tivity does not need any any 0:18:03.240 --> 0:18:05.840 help for me, Like I'm always there and not because 0:18:05.840 --> 0:18:08.639 I need to be there financially. And so yeah, if 0:18:08.640 --> 0:18:10.399 you can have that your job to just imagine, if 0:18:10.400 --> 0:18:11.680 you know you didn't have to stay here, you could 0:18:11.720 --> 0:18:12.879 just be like, you know what, I'm here because I 0:18:12.880 --> 0:18:15.520 want to be. I think everyone woman or man should 0:18:15.520 --> 0:18:17.560 have few fund absolutely. 0:18:17.600 --> 0:18:19.199 You know. I've worked at jobs that I hated and 0:18:19.240 --> 0:18:21.639 I couldn't leave and it was torturous, Like there's nothing 0:18:21.720 --> 0:18:23.760 worse than being at a job that you hate every day. 0:18:24.640 --> 0:18:26.840 I've been laid off from a job and had no 0:18:27.000 --> 0:18:31.520 money and had to live off of unemployment and I'm 0:18:31.560 --> 0:18:34.119 never going back there. I just I having grown up 0:18:34.160 --> 0:18:36.240 with a single mom raising four kids and then being 0:18:36.680 --> 0:18:39.560 you know, had these like professional experiences that weren't so great, 0:18:39.600 --> 0:18:41.800 like I'm never going luckily, I haven't had a terrible 0:18:41.800 --> 0:18:46.480 relationship yet, but I I sleep better at night knowing 0:18:46.480 --> 0:18:49.840 that I have not like my bags packed ready to go, 0:18:49.920 --> 0:18:52.320 but I have I have a ticket out at any 0:18:52.359 --> 0:18:54.840 time I want. And you know, my fiance knows that 0:18:54.920 --> 0:18:57.320 about me. He knows that I have my own pot 0:18:57.320 --> 0:19:00.240 of money. And well, you know, as we're approaching like 0:19:00.320 --> 0:19:03.159 marriage together and even probably you and Superman talk about this, 0:19:03.280 --> 0:19:06.400 like how you merge your finances, Like maybe we will 0:19:06.440 --> 0:19:08.000