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Speaker 1: All right, guys, we're back with episode twenty two.

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Speaker 2: Oh twenty two. Oh we think we've grown now we

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Speaker 2: ready to move out.

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Speaker 1: We shoveled ourselves out of the snow. Oh yeah, we're grown.

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Speaker 1: We shuttled ourselves out of the snow to bring you,

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Speaker 1: guys another episode of brown Ambition.

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Speaker 2: Yes you're welcome. Well, honestly, Superman did the shoveling. I

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Speaker 2: just made lunch in hot chocolate, as you should. Now.

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Speaker 1: This storm was crazy. I hope everyone is nice and

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Speaker 1: a lot of our audience on the East Coast right now,

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Speaker 1: So I hope everyone's good. Sorry that it didn't fall

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Speaker 1: like I wish the blizzard had fallen like maybe today.

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Speaker 2: I know, I mean, it's no work Monday. I know

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Speaker 2: you know what, the streets are shoveled, the sidewalks are shoveled.

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Speaker 2: I'm into work.

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Speaker 1: Well, you know how it gets in New York City,

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Speaker 1: looking forward to that. It's gonna be fun, fun times.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. So it is time for Buzzworthy.

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Speaker 1: The most special time of the day. There's a lot

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Speaker 1: of cool stuff happening. Let's start with some good news.

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Speaker 1: Well is there good news?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Well, I guess the good news is that we talked

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Speaker 1: about the Flint River, I mean the Flint, Michigan water

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Speaker 1: people are finally paying attention. I mean, I think every

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Speaker 1: major news outlet had a Flint story.

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Speaker 2: Yes, right, and I've been seeing way more of my

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Speaker 2: friend's timelines. One of my friends, Niamaya at Nami Davis

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Speaker 2: and Philly, he actually did a water drive and his

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Speaker 2: people are really starting to pay attention, and you know,

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Speaker 2: it's starting to get like you said, it's it's tipped,

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Speaker 2: which is great because this is crazy. Honestly, it feels.

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Speaker 1: Like another country, like yeah, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: And then they had the What really disturbed me and

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Speaker 1: I think everybody else was that The New York Times

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Speaker 1: So that's why it took so long. And I mean,

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Speaker 1: I think the mayor will get kicked out. I don't

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Speaker 1: know what the what do they get impeached? What do

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Speaker 1: there's no exist for it.

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Speaker 2: And the thing is, though, like it's not like, you know,

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Speaker 2: I don't know, but this is one of those things

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Speaker 2: Oh it's brown, you know. Like sometimes I mean I

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Speaker 2: Black people are always complaining or this segment of the

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Speaker 2: This is one of those moments where it would not

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Speaker 1: They're right, and they have a point and their voices

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Speaker 1: to my friend Caris Jackman. We went to college together

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Speaker 1: And she is a reporter in Flint, Michigan, and I've

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Speaker 1: been watching her news reports on this water crisis long

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Speaker 2: Yes, Cris, thank you. Carees PSI, so what else is buzzing?

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Speaker 2: I know you said you were telling me earlier about

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, so she's starting a movement. This is so cute.

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Speaker 1: What is her name?

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Speaker 2: Is her mother named Janie? Because I'm like, wait, this

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Speaker 2: sounds like my friend jan is from Newark.

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Speaker 1: I think she's from Newark. Her last name is Diaz Marlee.

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Speaker 2: Yes, oh my gosh, yes, I'm really cool with her mom.

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Speaker 1: Ahead, New Jersey tweens. So she's only eleven. I think

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Speaker 2: Founded She's as I've volunteered with them a number of times.

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Speaker 1: That's so sweet. And she's gonna she's going to donate

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Speaker 1: That is a good that's a good sign of parenting

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Speaker 1: Janiss win there. Yeah, for teaching her to be skeptical

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Speaker 1: Now on the shade front for today's buzzworthy, Yeah, speaking,

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Speaker 1: Every day there's a new person speak like saying some

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Speaker 2: You know. And so but like my first boyfriend, it

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00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:36,199
Speaker 2: was too much, you know for him, and he kind of,

432
00:20:36,320 --> 00:20:38,720
Speaker 2: you know, he knew that there was more that I

433
00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:41,160
Speaker 2: was capable of, but I definitely was holding back as

434
00:20:41,160 --> 00:20:43,840
Speaker 2: a result of being from him being with him, because

435
00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:47,360
Speaker 2: it was a lot, and now that I'm with Superman,

436
00:20:47,440 --> 00:20:49,320
Speaker 2: I you know, I acknowledge that it's a lot, and

437
00:20:49,359 --> 00:20:52,119
Speaker 2: I try my best to, like, you know, bring balancing

438
00:20:52,800 --> 00:20:54,919
Speaker 2: to our relationship. But at the same time, what I

439
00:20:55,000 --> 00:20:57,480
Speaker 2: love is that I in no way feel like I

440
00:20:57,560 --> 00:21:00,760
Speaker 2: need to dim I don't need to not go after more.

441
00:21:00,800 --> 00:21:03,240
Speaker 2: I don't, you know. He pushes me to do better.

442
00:21:03,560 --> 00:21:05,879
Speaker 2: You know. It's just to me, like I'm more of

443
00:21:05,880 --> 00:21:08,840
Speaker 2: an adult now that I understand that, like I personally

444
00:21:08,840 --> 00:21:11,400
Speaker 2: have to seek balance, so I bring that, but balance

445
00:21:11,440 --> 00:21:14,920
Speaker 2: does not mean holding back, and so it's just great

446
00:21:14,960 --> 00:21:17,040
Speaker 2: being with somebody that appreciates that, you know. And then

447
00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:18,800
Speaker 2: he'll tell me that he's proud of me, and he'd

448
00:21:18,800 --> 00:21:21,480
Speaker 2: just say, you know, like the other morning, I was

449
00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:24,320
Speaker 2: up at like five am, like retightening my locks, and

450
00:21:24,320 --> 00:21:26,119
Speaker 2: he was just like, I wish people could see this,

451
00:21:26,320 --> 00:21:28,439
Speaker 2: that this is like what life looks like, so you

452
00:21:28,440 --> 00:21:31,720
Speaker 2: could get ready. I feel like okay, you know, or like,

453
00:21:31,760 --> 00:21:33,600
Speaker 2: you know, because I'm always like doing stuff and he's

454
00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:35,920
Speaker 2: like watching me pack my boxes and helping me bring

455
00:21:35,960 --> 00:21:38,200
Speaker 2: stuff to the car, and he's like, you know, people

456
00:21:38,200 --> 00:21:40,720
Speaker 2: think that it's all like lamorous, but I see how

457
00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:42,480
Speaker 2: much hard work you put in and I'm really proud

458
00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:43,840
Speaker 2: of you. And he's like, I just love the fact

459
00:21:43,880 --> 00:21:46,480
Speaker 2: that you're helping people, because he's a giver to and

460
00:21:46,520 --> 00:21:49,040
Speaker 2: a helper too, Like he's like the neighbor the neighborhood

461
00:21:49,080 --> 00:21:50,960
Speaker 2: like helper man. Everybody knows to knock on our door

462
00:21:51,520 --> 00:21:53,480
Speaker 2: and be like, can mister Drell come fix my Like

463
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Speaker 2: the other day the neighbor asks to like borrow our

464
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Speaker 2: house phone. I'm like the house phone. She was like, yeah,

465
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Speaker 2: ask Droll.

466
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Speaker 1: I'm assuming you have one.

467
00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:04,440
Speaker 2: Yes. I'm like, I mean I live here, so yes,

468
00:22:04,480 --> 00:22:06,639
Speaker 2: you could ask me. But they just know. Like I

469
00:22:06,720 --> 00:22:08,760
Speaker 2: was like, Drew, you told them they could have our

470
00:22:08,800 --> 00:22:11,199
Speaker 2: house phone And he's like, no, but it'll work in

471
00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:12,879
Speaker 2: their house. They don't have a phone, So I just

472
00:22:12,880 --> 00:22:14,560
Speaker 2: told them they they can hold it for a little bit.

473
00:22:14,640 --> 00:22:19,000
Speaker 2: I'm like, what is happening? So yeah, it's just having

474
00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:21,400
Speaker 2: someone who understands and gets that. So yes, I hope

475
00:22:21,440 --> 00:22:23,600
Speaker 2: that more. But I think his mother was a very

476
00:22:23,640 --> 00:22:27,240
Speaker 2: strong personality and worked in the community a lot and

477
00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:29,880
Speaker 2: had her own and so she was a great example

478
00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:33,040
Speaker 2: of like what that looks like in a woman. So yeah,

479
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Speaker 2: I hope that more women are raised to know that

480
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Speaker 2: they don't have to dim their light, and more men

481
00:22:38,560 --> 00:22:42,080
Speaker 2: are raised to embrace that and encourage that light to

482
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Speaker 2: shine even more.

483
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Speaker 1: Sometimes you don't even notice it's happening, Like you may

484
00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:49,439
Speaker 1: not even feel like you're in a relationship or working at

485
00:22:49,440 --> 00:22:52,240
Speaker 1: a job that makes you lesser than what you're capable of,

486
00:22:52,560 --> 00:22:54,679
Speaker 1: or you know, you may not realize it's strange for

487
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Speaker 1: your boyfriend or your husband to mope around the house

488
00:22:58,160 --> 00:22:59,959
Speaker 1: for three days after you hang out with your girl

489
00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:02,080
Speaker 1: girl friends one night, Like you may think that's normal.

490
00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:04,120
Speaker 1: You know, Oh, it's okay. I just have to walk

491
00:23:04,119 --> 00:23:06,520
Speaker 1: on eggshells because so and so was mad that I had,

492
00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:08,240
Speaker 1: you know, spent, I was out an hour late with

493
00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:11,240
Speaker 1: the girlfriends, or came home from work late. But it's

494
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Speaker 1: not normal, and you don't have to put up with that.

495
00:23:13,880 --> 00:23:15,399
Speaker 1: And I'm going to post this story, and I just

496
00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:17,800
Speaker 1: want every woman out there who's listening, if you're in

497
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Speaker 1: a situation like this where you feel like you're being

498
00:23:20,160 --> 00:23:23,040
Speaker 1: held back by somebody, whether it's a job or your partner,

499
00:23:23,080 --> 00:23:25,119
Speaker 1: like you don't have to put up with that start

500
00:23:25,160 --> 00:23:28,440
Speaker 1: planning now for your fu fund, Start putting a little

501
00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:29,960
Speaker 1: bit of waste so you can get the hell out

502
00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:31,760
Speaker 1: of there and get someplace where you're valued.

503
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Speaker 2: Yeah, Cause, like you said, you don't know. Sometimes I

504
00:23:34,520 --> 00:23:37,560
Speaker 2: didn't realize until Like with my first boyfriend, I didn't

505
00:23:37,560 --> 00:23:39,320
Speaker 2: really I thought everything was great because he was sweet,

506
00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:41,119
Speaker 2: he was kind, he was funny, he was good looking.

507
00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:44,320
Speaker 2: Everybody loved him. But there was this like nagging feeling

508
00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:46,920
Speaker 2: in the back of my head, like something's not right,

509
00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:51,400
Speaker 2: you know. And it wasn't until I thought about At

510
00:23:51,400 --> 00:23:53,080
Speaker 2: the time, I was like twenty six, and I remember

511
00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:55,119
Speaker 2: like we were talking about marriage, of course, because you know,

512
00:23:55,119 --> 00:23:56,760
Speaker 2: we were together for like five years. I'm like, oh,

513
00:23:56,800 --> 00:23:59,320
Speaker 2: marriage is the next step. And I remember having like

514
00:23:59,359 --> 00:24:03,119
Speaker 2: a panic attack and being like, wait, if we get married,

515
00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:05,920
Speaker 2: is life gonna stay like this? And that's when I knew,

516
00:24:06,440 --> 00:24:09,120
Speaker 2: like if I had to live exactly how I'm living now,

517
00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:12,639
Speaker 2: like is this enough? And it wasn't. And I just

518
00:24:12,640 --> 00:24:14,359
Speaker 2: remember being like, I don't know. I don't want us.

519
00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:16,440
Speaker 2: I don't want life to stay like this. I want

520
00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:18,560
Speaker 2: to do more, but I know he doesn't necessarily want

521
00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:22,040
Speaker 2: me to do more. And that's when like the light

522
00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:24,720
Speaker 2: bulb went on that like, you know, this might not

523
00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:26,840
Speaker 2: be as great as as I think it is. That

524
00:24:26,880 --> 00:24:28,480
Speaker 2: we're you know, as women, you're trained to think that

525
00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:30,520
Speaker 2: like if a man's not beating you, yelling at you,

526
00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:34,080
Speaker 2: or like you know, being like verbally or physically abusive,

527
00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:38,080
Speaker 2: you're like, well, everything's great, but that's like the bare minimum.

528
00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:40,199
Speaker 2: You know that there's so much more. And I was

529
00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:43,600
Speaker 2: just realizing, like you know, and even after I left,

530
00:24:43,840 --> 00:24:46,840
Speaker 2: it was hard, like the transition and he was bad,

531
00:24:47,040 --> 00:24:48,560
Speaker 2: you know, it was just like, well, you're not really

532
00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:50,439
Speaker 2: doing that much with your life and I wasn't. And

533
00:24:50,480 --> 00:24:52,959
Speaker 2: then finally I found my groove and just recently he

534
00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:54,680
Speaker 2: like hit me up. It was like, you know, wow,

535
00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:57,280
Speaker 2: like look at you now, you know, I'm proud of you.

536
00:24:57,520 --> 00:24:59,359
Speaker 2: And I was just like, yeah, this is the Tiffany

537
00:24:59,400 --> 00:25:01,160
Speaker 2: I was born to. But I could not be that

538
00:25:01,440 --> 00:25:03,320
Speaker 2: in that relationship, not because he was a bad guy,

539
00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:05,720
Speaker 2: but it was not how I wanted to be and

540
00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:07,600
Speaker 2: how he wanted me to be. We're two different things.

541
00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:10,399
Speaker 2: And now I just love what I love about Superman

542
00:25:10,480 --> 00:25:12,520
Speaker 2: is said, there is no how I want you to be.

543
00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:16,919
Speaker 2: There's just be whatever you want. His favorite phrase is

544
00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:22,200
Speaker 2: feel free when you're with me. So it's just like, well,

545
00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:24,880
Speaker 2: whatever that looks like, just remember balance, siffeity, and I'm

546
00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:27,760
Speaker 2: just like okay, and so yeah. So women, yes, you

547
00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:30,679
Speaker 2: might not realize, but if you can't see yourself the

548
00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:34,040
Speaker 2: life that you're living now with your booth, your significant other,

549
00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:36,359
Speaker 2: if you can't see that this would be the same

550
00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:39,359
Speaker 2: life ten twenty years from now. If you feel claustrophobic

551
00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:41,359
Speaker 2: or like, oh my god, I want more than this,

552
00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:52,800
Speaker 2: that I would really really caution you to rethink your choice.

553
00:25:54,160 --> 00:26:02,760
Speaker 2: It's time for brown break, like that brown break, brown break.

554
00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:04,880
Speaker 2: I feel like I still want a diddy. Somebody needs

555
00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:07,359
Speaker 2: to send us like a little a little song, a

556
00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:09,200
Speaker 2: little something so me and Manny don't have to sing

557
00:26:09,200 --> 00:26:11,639
Speaker 2: about brown breaks every time we get together.

558
00:26:12,000 --> 00:26:14,320
Speaker 1: Brown Ambition Podcasts at gmail dot com.

559
00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:18,600
Speaker 2: Yes, please, I'd like to hear a little song. So

560
00:26:18,640 --> 00:26:21,199
Speaker 2: my brown break is pretty like easy, So I'll like,

561
00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:22,879
Speaker 2: I'll go first, and then you got you can go second.

562
00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:24,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm afraid about mine, so you go first.

563
00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:27,600
Speaker 2: Yeah. So my brown break because I live in the

564
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Speaker 2: East Coast, because I'm snowed in, I'm taking a break

565
00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:33,439
Speaker 2: from snow. I know it's our first snow of the

566
00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:36,600
Speaker 2: of the winter season, but I'm over it already. Some

567
00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:39,639
Speaker 2: of you guys were complaining, like you know, because we

568
00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:41,399
Speaker 2: had like a very warm winter in the beginning. I

569
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:44,840
Speaker 2: mean honestly freaquently warm. It was like seventy degrees on Christmas,

570
00:26:44,840 --> 00:26:48,879
Speaker 2: which is like crazy, but I'm already sick of the snow.

571
00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:51,199
Speaker 2: It decided not to just like come on in like

572
00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:54,359
Speaker 2: light and just know it was a blizzard, like people

573
00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:56,399
Speaker 2: can't even see their cars. I'm sick of it. So

574
00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:59,000
Speaker 2: I'm taking a brown break from the snow. Thankfully, I

575
00:26:59,040 --> 00:27:01,479
Speaker 2: have a cold, so that means I can't shovel, so

576
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:03,320
Speaker 2: Superman is doing the shoveling today.

577
00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:06,920
Speaker 1: But thankfully I'm sick. I said, no one ever.

578
00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 2: That's what I tell myself. But yes, no more snow.

579
00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:12,919
Speaker 2: I'm good. I feel like we should have all our

580
00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:14,880
Speaker 2: snow in just one day and we could go about

581
00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:16,960
Speaker 2: our business because it just makes life so hard.

582
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:22,000
Speaker 1: You know what I say about this weather, snow laughing matter.

583
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:27,400
Speaker 2: Oh my god, ah, somebody come get She'll be here

584
00:27:27,440 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 2: all night, ladies and gentlemen, so clever.

585
00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:33,800
Speaker 1: Okay, while we're laughing, let me do my bro break.

586
00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:37,879
Speaker 1: Everybody's in a good mood. I need to take a

587
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:40,560
Speaker 1: brown break from so May Angelou is my spirit animal.

588
00:27:40,600 --> 00:27:43,199
Speaker 1: There was once upon a time when Oprah Winfrey was

589
00:27:43,280 --> 00:27:46,320
Speaker 1: my guiding light. She was my God, my Jesus, my

590
00:27:46,359 --> 00:27:50,080
Speaker 1: mother Mary, my Saint Teresa. She was the compass upon

591
00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:53,919
Speaker 1: which I followed for every decision in my life. I

592
00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:56,760
Speaker 1: was a highly impressionable teenager and I would rush home

593
00:27:57,080 --> 00:27:59,320
Speaker 1: to be home by three fifty five so I can

594
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Speaker 1: get my snack. And it's getting from the TV by

595
00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:04,480
Speaker 1: four pm to watch Oprah and say, what does Oprah

596
00:28:04,520 --> 00:28:06,800
Speaker 1: want me to eat today? What does Oprah want me

597
00:28:06,840 --> 00:28:09,560
Speaker 1: to read this week? What does Oprah want me to

598
00:28:09,600 --> 00:28:12,120
Speaker 1: buy for Christmas? Like? She and I think a lot.

599
00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:13,960
Speaker 1: I mean, she had a huge loyal she still has

600
00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:16,479
Speaker 1: a huge loyal fan base even though the show's done.

601
00:28:17,240 --> 00:28:19,040
Speaker 1: But I need a brown break from miss Winfrey.

602
00:28:20,080 --> 00:28:20,240
Speaker 2: Uh.

603
00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:24,359
Speaker 1: And what's prompting me to this huge pivot in my

604
00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:28,320
Speaker 1: life is this whole Weight Watchers situation. The fact that

605
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:32,480
Speaker 1: she bought a huge steak in this company, you know,

606
00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:35,160
Speaker 1: which I've had friends who've had success on Weight Watchers

607
00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:37,600
Speaker 1: and some who haven't. But it's a fine company. But

608
00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:39,719
Speaker 1: she bought a huge state steak in it, and then

609
00:28:39,760 --> 00:28:42,320
Speaker 1: she comes out as the new face of a She's

610
00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:44,200
Speaker 1: not only has a huge stake in it, but she's

611
00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:47,880
Speaker 1: also now like advertising for them. She has this really

612
00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 1: sappy commercial where she's talking about how it's going to

613
00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:54,320
Speaker 1: be the year of her best body and weight Watcher's

614
00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:57,160
Speaker 1: going to get her there. Apparently she's lost like twenty

615
00:28:57,160 --> 00:29:02,040
Speaker 1: three pounds since she joined weight Watchers in August. Okay, congratulations, Oprah.

616
00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:05,440
Speaker 1: I'm very happy for you, But like why, like it

617
00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:07,840
Speaker 1: bothers me because she has so much money already, why

618
00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:10,960
Speaker 1: does she need to make any more money from this

619
00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:13,200
Speaker 1: weight Watcher situation? And then why does she need to

620
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:17,400
Speaker 1: encourage people because the weight Watchers is not free? I

621
00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:19,440
Speaker 1: don't know what I guess. What I don't get is

622
00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:24,080
Speaker 1: like why anyone would take weight loss advice from Oprah

623
00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:28,280
Speaker 1: at this point? And maybe this is shady, but how

624
00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 1: many different diets has Oprah Winfree tried? Like I must have?

625
00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:34,880
Speaker 1: She pulled out the cart full of fat like pig fat?

626
00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:37,360
Speaker 1: Was it like sixty pounds or the fat that one time?

627
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:39,720
Speaker 1: I'll never forget when she had that one? What was

628
00:29:39,880 --> 00:29:42,840
Speaker 1: that like her like personal health guru guy who would

629
00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:45,400
Speaker 1: come on and they had the Oprah labels on different

630
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:48,240
Speaker 1: yogurts and different foods that you had to eat, and

631
00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:50,520
Speaker 1: like some of those yogurts had tons of sugar in them.

632
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:53,200
Speaker 1: I mean, she's tried all these different diets and she's

633
00:29:53,240 --> 00:29:55,720
Speaker 1: always been like trying to lose weight. And I feel like,

634
00:29:55,840 --> 00:29:58,320
Speaker 1: if anything, Oprah teaches you that, like there is no

635
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:01,400
Speaker 1: one weight loss system for everybody, and that not every

636
00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:03,440
Speaker 1: weight loss system is worth your money and time. And

637
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:05,080
Speaker 1: I wish you would just sit there. It's just like

638
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:06,960
Speaker 1: financial advice, Like why don't you just sit down and

639
00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:09,360
Speaker 1: tell people what they have to do lose weight is

640
00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:12,440
Speaker 1: to eat healthy food and move a little bit and

641
00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:16,760
Speaker 1: be patient. It'll take time. There's no panacea for weight loss.

642
00:30:16,760 --> 00:30:20,120
Speaker 1: There's no panacea for financial solvency. Like and it just

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Speaker 1: bothers me, like once again she's using her influence to

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Speaker 1: get people to spend money on a product that has

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Speaker 1: her face on it.

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Speaker 2: You know, yeah, I mean it's so funny you said

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Speaker 2: that the shade like, I mean, no shade to op

648
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Speaker 2: because lady Oh, I would love to come on your show.

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Speaker 2: I mean, if you'd love to have me I'd love

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Speaker 2: to be on Super Soul Sunday anyway. With that being said,

651
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Speaker 2: you're right, she's not exactly like the person I would

652
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Speaker 2: go to for weight loss advice.

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Speaker 1: Right, And I'm not gonna make you talk ill of

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Speaker 1: her because maybe one day you'll be on Super Soul Sunday.

655
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Speaker 1: I don't want you to get in blacklist, so you

656
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Speaker 1: don't have to. This is my brown break. Ah, Me

657
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Speaker 1: and my potty mouth will not be on Super Soul

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Speaker 1: Sunday anytime soon, and I'm okay with that. I tried

659
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Speaker 1: to stop her.

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Speaker 2: Oh I tried.

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Speaker 1: And I thought she was sneaky because she had Gail

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Speaker 1: even before she came out as a face of weight

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Speaker 1: Watchers and like investing in the company. You know, I

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Speaker 1: follow Gail King on Instagram. I think she's funny. But

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Speaker 1: Gail started doing weight Watchers this past summer and was uploading, like,

666
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Speaker 1: was uploading pictures of like her scale every week, and

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Speaker 1: I'm like, she just started getting she knew that Gail's

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Speaker 1: followers or her followers, and she starts getting the wheels turning,

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Speaker 1: you know, starts greasing the wheels up, like, oh, weight Watchers,

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Speaker 1: let me think about that. And then oh, a couple

671
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Speaker 1: months later. By the way, my best friend Oprah has

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Speaker 1: a huge stake in the company and is now their spokesperson.

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Speaker 1: So we have a question from one of our listeners

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Speaker 1: named Lunay. What a pretty name, Lunay. I hope I'm

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Speaker 1: saying it right. She says, Hi, ladies, what are some

676
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Speaker 1: tips you can give to a college student looking to

677
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Speaker 1: get into investing. I'm interested, but I don't know where.

678
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Speaker 2: To start, h Louneelunee.

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Speaker 1: Well, first of all, we should point her to one

680
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Speaker 1: of our first episodes ever where we had a brilliant

681
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Speaker 1: financial advisor named Omney Romney come on the show and

682
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Speaker 1: talk specifically about how to get investing when you're just

683
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Speaker 1: starting out, and she had some really good tips. I

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Speaker 1: think it was episode three or four. I want to say, Okay,

685
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Speaker 1: so that's a good place to start off. And obviously

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Speaker 1: Ovney Romney is a certified financial planner investment advisor. She

687
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Speaker 1: has all the qualifications, so I would take her advice definitely.

688
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Speaker 1: But I can still some of her advice and tell

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Speaker 1: it to you, miss Luney. I would say, like, for

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Speaker 1: a college student, well, congratulations, we're even thinking about investing

691
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Speaker 1: at this age, This is a huge deal. I think

692
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Speaker 1: right now you're investing in a non monetary way by

693
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Speaker 1: just going to college. Of course, getting a college degree

694
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Speaker 1: will be the best way to earn more, depending on

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Speaker 1: what you study. But I think if you, if you,

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Speaker 1: I think the first thing you have to do is

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Speaker 1: really figure out are you ready to invest exactly?

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Speaker 2: That's what I was gonna say.

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Speaker 1: Do you have some credit card debt? How much student

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Speaker 1: loans do you have? You know, when you graduate college,

701
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Speaker 1: you're going to want to have money on hand that

702
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Speaker 1: you can immediately start putting toward your student loans. And

703
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Speaker 1: if you have all your extra savings tied up in

704
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Speaker 1: an investment account, that's not necessarily going to be as

705
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Speaker 1: useful to you for your immediate concern, which will be

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Speaker 1: probably paying off your loans and things like that. So

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Speaker 1: I would say, start off by looking at your finance.

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Speaker 1: What do you have coming in, what do you have

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Speaker 1: going out? How much do you need to be saving?

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Speaker 1: The first step to investing. And I know it doesn't

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Speaker 1: sound so sexy is a well that too, I was

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Speaker 1: going to say we were talking about before, like the

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Speaker 1: FU fund is having a little bit of money set

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Speaker 1: aside for an emergency for the unexpected phone call in

715
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Speaker 1: the night, the unexpected illness, unexpected medical bill, your car

716
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Speaker 1: breaks down. I mean, how many kids out there in

717
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Speaker 1: college are driving like old cars that could break down

718
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Speaker 1: in any moment, And you want to have cash on

719
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Speaker 1: hand for those for those times when something unexpected comes up.

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Speaker 1: So that's not putting money in the market, that's just

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Speaker 1: putting money in a savings account.

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Speaker 2: Agreed. I think that that definitely. Do you have a budget?

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Speaker 2: Do you have a savings plan? I think before you invest,

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Speaker 2: you should have, like you should have control over like

725
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Speaker 2: just your basic money money management skills, savings, paying down debt,

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Speaker 2: credit budgeting, you know, because if you invest without having

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Speaker 2: like the basic building blocks, then what happens is that

728
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Speaker 2: it's so very easy to lose all that you've put

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Speaker 2: into investing. That's what I did in my twenties. I

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Speaker 2: invested with a quote unquote air quote friend and ended

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Speaker 2: up a year later, not even a year later, a

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Speaker 2: few few weeks later, in thirty five thousand dollars worth

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Speaker 2: of credit card debt. That's another story for another day.

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Speaker 2: We need to sound effected, I know, and so it's

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Speaker 2: because I was super eager. I was like ooh, I'm

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Speaker 2: twenty Well at the time, I was like like twenty four,

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Speaker 2: twenty five, and I was like, okay, you know, I've

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Speaker 2: got a little savings, I got a little this, I'm ready.

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Speaker 2: But I had no i idea about anything, so I

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Speaker 2: just trusted him, was like, here's some money, you know.

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Speaker 2: And it just ended very, very very badly. And so

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Speaker 2: I wish that I would have one taken the time

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Speaker 2: for a little bit of education of like, you know,

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Speaker 2: reading some books. Like The Richest Man in Babylon is

745
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Speaker 2: a great book. You can find a free pdf easily online.

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Speaker 2: Just type in Richest Man in Babylon. It's like seventy

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Speaker 2: pages an hour or so.

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Speaker 1: Read.

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Speaker 2: Start with books. There's also this book of you're thinking

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Speaker 2: about stock market investing called like the Neatest Little Guide

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Speaker 2: stock Market Investing. I read that book. It was actually

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Speaker 2: a really good book and he doesn't talk in like

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Speaker 2: super financial terms, which was good. You can find it

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Speaker 2: on Amazon. I don't know the maybe Nandy will put

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Speaker 2: the link like in the in like our tumbler, but

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Speaker 2: I don't remember the the author's name. And then too,

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Speaker 2: there are all these great Facebook groups. So a friend

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Speaker 2: of mine, well she's not really a friend, you know,

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Speaker 2: like a Facebook friend, sure you know, but like her

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Speaker 2: name is Maybell, Maybel Sorell. What I like about Maybell

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Speaker 2: is that she's in her twenties and she like the

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Speaker 2: way I love budgeting, she loves investing, and so she

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Speaker 2: is a she Sally has her bachelor's degree in finance

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Speaker 2: and then her master's degree in something financial like economics, finance,

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Speaker 2: something like that. So she is a financial analyst. That's

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Speaker 2: what she does full time. But she loves investing so much.

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Speaker 2: She started this group for women called Girls on the Money.

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Speaker 2: It's a Facebook group, and Maybell just teaches and breaks

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Speaker 2: down investing in this easy, easy way. And so I

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Speaker 2: encourage you just to type in Girls on the Money

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Speaker 2: on Facebook and just join and just like soak in

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Speaker 2: the information. She also has like a like I think

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Speaker 2: it's a weekly newsletter where she will explain what's happening

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Speaker 2: in the market in an easy way. Honestly, she has

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Speaker 2: made me excited about investing in stocks and stuff because

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Speaker 2: she just like says it in such an easy way.

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Speaker 2: She's in her twenties, she's fun, she's cute. She just

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Speaker 2: and so you want to look for kind of environments

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Speaker 2: like that where you can learn first before you kind

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Speaker 2: of dip your toe into the market.

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Speaker 1: And if you want to start insting, I mean, if

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Speaker 1: you say you have some extra cash on the hand,

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Speaker 1: maybe you know this is pretty common, like you may

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Speaker 1: have had a relative who passes away and all of

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Speaker 1: a sudden you have a little bit of an inheritance

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Speaker 1: and you're wondering, what do I do with this little windfall.

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Speaker 1: There are some basic things you can do. You can

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Speaker 1: go to like a regular broker, like a Trio Schwab,

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Speaker 1: a Vanguard Fidelity, td AM Ror Trade. All of these

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Speaker 1: funds have low minimum balances for opening up an ira.

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Speaker 1: And again, an ira is something you put money into

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Speaker 1: and you can't take it out until you're ready for retirement.

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Speaker 1: So you have to kind of figure out are you

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Speaker 1: wanting to invest for long term retirement things like that

795
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Speaker 1: that you're not going to touch until you're in your

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Speaker 1: fifties and sixties, or do you want to just invest,

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Speaker 1: you know, to build some wealth on the side. And

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Speaker 1: and you know, maybe asking for advice from someone or

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Speaker 1: looking for advice from someone like a Maybell what's her

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Speaker 1: last name, Maybel Cereal.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Syria, Yeah, Syria. Yeah, h so like just type in,

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Speaker 2: just typeing Girls on the Money, That's where you'll find it.

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Speaker 1: Girls in the Money. I think the most important question

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Speaker 1: now is like what are you investing for? Is it

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Speaker 1: long term growth or is it investing for wealth? Like

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Speaker 1: right now that you'll use, you know, a couple of

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Speaker 1: years out and that'll really tell you where to start.

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Speaker 1: But opening up an IRA any one of those financial

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Speaker 1: firms that I just mentioned is pretty easy enough, Like

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Speaker 1: they usually require you to start with about one thousand

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Speaker 1: dollars five hundred to one thousand dollars and Tiffany's listing

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Speaker 1: a bunch of books. One of the books that I

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Speaker 1: read when I was just starting to learn about investing

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Speaker 1: for work was Investing for Dummies. I'm not even gonna

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Speaker 1: lie I may have ripped the cover off because I

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Speaker 1: wasn't so embarrassed reading it on the train. But Investing

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Speaker 1: for Dummies it it just tells you the basics. You know,

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Speaker 1: what is a stock, what are bonds? What is a

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Speaker 1: mutual fund? These are very technical questions that can be complicated,

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Speaker 1: and you should read a book. You should educate yourself.

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Speaker 1: You don't want to read a book. Investopedia dot com

822
00:38:55,920 --> 00:38:58,879
Speaker 1: is the best thing on the planet for answering those

823
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Speaker 1: little questions like that. And if you're not ready, you

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Speaker 1: don't think you're ready for opening up an IRA or

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00:39:06,719 --> 00:39:09,520
Speaker 1: opening up an investment account like an e trade or

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Speaker 1: something like that. There's this new app like we talked

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Speaker 1: about before called Acorns, and do you use it? I

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Speaker 1: don't think use it personally? Do you like it?

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Speaker 2: So? Yes, Acorns? So Acorns. I actually use Acorns because

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Speaker 2: I kind of wanted to test it out. So what

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Speaker 2: I do like about here's the kind of the pros

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Speaker 2: and the cons for what I can see. So what

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Speaker 2: I like about Acorns is that when you log in,

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Speaker 2: you don't have to know how to do anything except

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Speaker 2: for like, you know, what's your name, And they're going

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Speaker 2: to ask you a series of questions, and those questions

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Speaker 2: you should answer as honestly as possible because they're going

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Speaker 2: to determine what kind of investor you are. It's like

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Speaker 2: five profiles like are you conservative, are you somebody who's aggressive?

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Speaker 2: Are you in the middle? So they'll choose from the

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Speaker 2: five based upon your answers, and then they will invest

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Speaker 2: your money based upon those five profiles. That's why it's

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Speaker 2: important to be honest, and so what I like about

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Speaker 2: acorns is that it kind of tells you, like, you

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Speaker 2: answer these questions like where are you currently, how much

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Speaker 2: do you want to have, and they'll tell you what

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Speaker 2: you should be investing a month to reach those goals,

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Speaker 2: and then you can invest whatever you want. I think

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Speaker 2: right now I'm practicing with twenty five dollars a month,

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Speaker 2: and so it takes twenty five dollars out of my

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Speaker 2: savings account of a month. And my favorite part of

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Speaker 2: acorns is this thing called the roundup. So it's attached

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Speaker 2: to one of my checking accounts, and whenever I use

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Speaker 2: that checking account, it'll round up to the nearest dollar

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Speaker 2: and put that change into my Acorn investment. So it's

856
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Speaker 2: kind of fun. So it's like, Okay, the money is

857
00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:36,800
Speaker 2: kind of going in and it's going to this profile.

858
00:40:36,920 --> 00:40:39,360
Speaker 2: So that's the good stuff. It's easy, you know, you

859
00:40:39,360 --> 00:40:41,520
Speaker 2: don't have to really do much other than answer some questions.

860
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 2: So the bad stuff. So I ran it by Maybell,

861
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:46,680
Speaker 2: who I was telling you about, so she could kind

862
00:40:46,680 --> 00:40:48,680
Speaker 2: of take a look with her professional eye, and she's like,

863
00:40:48,719 --> 00:40:50,440
Speaker 2: you know, she likes the ease of it. But what

864
00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:53,200
Speaker 2: she didn't like is that you can't readily see where

865
00:40:53,200 --> 00:40:57,600
Speaker 2: your money's being invested like currently. So it'll send you

866
00:40:57,640 --> 00:41:01,120
Speaker 2: a monthly breakdown, so I get to see my money monthly,

867
00:41:01,360 --> 00:41:04,239
Speaker 2: like what it's doing, but it doesn't show like I

868
00:41:04,280 --> 00:41:05,920
Speaker 2: would love to be able to go on Acorns and

869
00:41:05,920 --> 00:41:09,200
Speaker 2: it says, hey, Tiffany, your money. Your account increased by

870
00:41:09,239 --> 00:41:11,600
Speaker 2: twenty percent or it went down by thirty percent or

871
00:41:11,640 --> 00:41:13,880
Speaker 2: whatever that is, but you don't see that right away.

872
00:41:13,960 --> 00:41:15,759
Speaker 2: It's kind of like you get a monthly report, so

873
00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:18,200
Speaker 2: there's good and bad. To me, it's good if you're

874
00:41:18,239 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 2: just starting and you just kind of want to like

875
00:41:20,280 --> 00:41:21,759
Speaker 2: poke your head in and put a little bit of

876
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:24,200
Speaker 2: money in, but it's not to me. Acorns is definitely

877
00:41:24,239 --> 00:41:25,400
Speaker 2: not a long term solution.

878
00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:28,319
Speaker 1: As you get more sophisticated, you'll definitely want to move

879
00:41:28,360 --> 00:41:32,439
Speaker 1: that money out and into something like a Vanguard, which

880
00:41:32,520 --> 00:41:34,799
Speaker 1: does give you all that rich data and shows your

881
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:37,840
Speaker 1: historical data. And I think this is I think the

882
00:41:37,840 --> 00:41:39,560
Speaker 1: best thing about acorns. Is this a good place to

883
00:41:39,560 --> 00:41:40,359
Speaker 1: get your feet wet?

884
00:41:40,520 --> 00:41:43,520
Speaker 2: Yes, for sure, that's to me. Learning, that's what it's

885
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 2: really good for. It's like, Okay, I don't know how

886
00:41:45,160 --> 00:41:47,399
Speaker 2: to do anything Okay, well I could put twenty bucks

887
00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:49,359
Speaker 2: a month in Okay, they give me this thing once

888
00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:51,399
Speaker 2: a month, let me read it. And then once you're

889
00:41:51,440 --> 00:41:53,600
Speaker 2: kind of like, oh okay, I get it. Now, let

890
00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:56,399
Speaker 2: me start making more deliberate choices on my own. So

891
00:41:56,600 --> 00:41:58,359
Speaker 2: it's like one of these apps that helps you save,

892
00:41:58,440 --> 00:42:01,000
Speaker 2: but you don't get that much of interest like those,

893
00:42:01,040 --> 00:42:03,200
Speaker 2: but it pulls the money out of your account, and

894
00:42:03,280 --> 00:42:05,719
Speaker 2: so yes, you don't make much money off that money,

895
00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:07,680
Speaker 2: but it just starts to have it off for you.

896
00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:09,839
Speaker 1: You know, don't believe anyone who tells you that you're

897
00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:12,400
Speaker 1: gonna make millions of dollars. You have to start little

898
00:42:12,440 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 1: by little. Yeah, you know, if you can only put

899
00:42:14,000 --> 00:42:16,720
Speaker 1: on a hundred bucks today a thousand bucks, don't expect

900
00:42:16,719 --> 00:42:18,400
Speaker 1: to make a million in a year. Like these are

901
00:42:18,440 --> 00:42:21,960
Speaker 1: really long term solutions. Long investment is should be a

902
00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:24,680
Speaker 1: long term strategy. You know, you're playing the long game.

903
00:42:25,160 --> 00:42:27,680
Speaker 1: And another good thing about getting your feet wet now

904
00:42:27,719 --> 00:42:30,040
Speaker 1: is you're gonna learn what kind of investor you are. Yes,

905
00:42:30,239 --> 00:42:32,160
Speaker 1: when you're young, you may be okay investing in the

906
00:42:32,160 --> 00:42:35,080
Speaker 1: stock market and being a little risky, as you have

907
00:42:35,160 --> 00:42:38,600
Speaker 1: more to lose, you're gonna want to be more risk averse.

908
00:42:38,600 --> 00:42:41,319
Speaker 1: You're gonna want to be more safe with your money.

909
00:42:41,360 --> 00:42:43,719
Speaker 1: You're not gonna want to throw it all in the

910
00:42:43,719 --> 00:42:47,239
Speaker 1: market and see what happens. And the market if you have,

911
00:42:47,280 --> 00:42:49,759
Speaker 1: if you've been paying attention to the news lately, the

912
00:42:49,840 --> 00:42:52,680
Speaker 1: market is going insane right now, Like it's been crashing.

913
00:42:52,760 --> 00:42:54,600
Speaker 1: It's been since the beginning of the new year. The

914
00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:57,319
Speaker 1: market's been down like I don't even know how many.

915
00:42:57,560 --> 00:43:00,200
Speaker 1: Like I checked my portfolio, for example, and I'm just

916
00:43:00,239 --> 00:43:03,040
Speaker 1: investing in a Vanguard for one k and my portfolio

917
00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:07,480
Speaker 1: is down seven percent for the year. And I could

918
00:43:07,480 --> 00:43:10,200
Speaker 1: go in and start fiddling, diddling with things, and you know,

919
00:43:10,560 --> 00:43:14,399
Speaker 1: trying to pick different investments. But I'm investing for Mandy

920
00:43:14,440 --> 00:43:16,800
Speaker 1: Woodrow fifty years down the line, and I feel like

921
00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:20,200
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be fined. But it tests your ability to

922
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:24,239
Speaker 1: handle these market swings ups and downs, and you want

923
00:43:24,239 --> 00:43:29,240
Speaker 1: to pick an investment strategy that matches your tolerance for risk.

924
00:43:30,040 --> 00:43:32,080
Speaker 1: Like if you feel like you're gonna go drive off

925
00:43:32,080 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 1: a cliff every time the market goes down, Yeah, maybe

926
00:43:34,560 --> 00:43:35,920
Speaker 1: you don't need to be in the market at a hall.

927
00:43:36,320 --> 00:43:38,120
Speaker 2: Yes, maybe you need to do something. And that's a

928
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:40,320
Speaker 2: little bit more that's less volatile.

929
00:43:40,440 --> 00:43:43,520
Speaker 1: You know, Like I feel like sometimes making money isn't

930
00:43:43,560 --> 00:43:47,239
Speaker 1: worth the anxiety. There's a reason why people who work

931
00:43:47,280 --> 00:43:50,279
Speaker 1: in finance have heart attacks and like you know, high

932
00:43:50,320 --> 00:43:54,000
Speaker 1: blood pressure, because it's stressful. And sometimes for regular everyday

933
00:43:54,000 --> 00:43:56,120
Speaker 1: investors it's not worth putting that stress on yourself.

934
00:43:56,719 --> 00:43:58,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree, But miss.

935
00:43:58,600 --> 00:44:01,840
Speaker 1: Luney, congrats, that's not even thinking about investing. Hopefully that

936
00:44:01,880 --> 00:44:04,000
Speaker 1: was a little bit helpful for you. And if you

937
00:44:04,000 --> 00:44:07,399
Speaker 1: guys have more specific money questions about investing, maybe we'll

938
00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:09,800
Speaker 1: have Abny come back on and answer some questions herself,

939
00:44:09,840 --> 00:44:13,879
Speaker 1: since she is the true expert. Yes she can be. Yeah,

940
00:44:13,880 --> 00:44:15,279
Speaker 1: she doesn't know it yet, but we just made her

941
00:44:15,280 --> 00:44:22,680
Speaker 1: our official Brown Ambition they Maybe we'll have Maryella Marybell on.

942
00:44:23,040 --> 00:44:25,000
Speaker 2: Yeah she lives in the Bronx so she's not too

943
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:27,759
Speaker 2: far so yeah, she's dope. That would be great, just

944
00:44:27,800 --> 00:44:29,640
Speaker 2: different voices for sure.

945
00:44:30,000 --> 00:44:32,000
Speaker 1: All right, and again, if you guys have questions, email

946
00:44:32,080 --> 00:45:16,920
Speaker 1: us at Brown Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com.

947
00:45:17,160 --> 00:45:19,560
Speaker 3: All we do is win, win, win, no matter what.

948
00:45:20,239 --> 00:45:22,640
Speaker 3: I don't know the rest of the words. So what

949
00:45:23,280 --> 00:45:29,960
Speaker 3: I just want to say today is a win win excellent.

950
00:45:30,000 --> 00:45:31,120
Speaker 1: I was gonna see where you went with that.

951
00:45:31,280 --> 00:45:32,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was gonna. I was wondering. I'm like, where's

952
00:45:32,760 --> 00:45:35,719
Speaker 2: my back? I mean, where's my where's my Kelly? To

953
00:45:35,719 --> 00:45:36,200
Speaker 2: my Beyonce?

954
00:45:36,280 --> 00:45:38,000
Speaker 1: I left you hanging? Yeah she did. I was like,

955
00:45:38,120 --> 00:45:39,719
Speaker 1: I was like Michelle at that time. She fell off

956
00:45:39,719 --> 00:45:40,520
Speaker 1: the stage.

957
00:45:40,800 --> 00:45:44,520
Speaker 2: And you're out. Okay, fair Franklin, we see you're angry.

958
00:45:45,280 --> 00:45:48,120
Speaker 1: Oh man, Okay. So win's for the week. I'm gonna

959
00:45:48,120 --> 00:45:49,840
Speaker 1: go first. You want me to, Yeah, you go first.

960
00:45:50,320 --> 00:45:53,600
Speaker 1: My win for the week is I love reading about so.

961
00:45:53,760 --> 00:45:56,560
Speaker 1: I love reading about women who are just like, way

962
00:45:56,600 --> 00:46:00,239
Speaker 1: more intelligent and successful than I'll ever be, probably like

963
00:46:00,320 --> 00:46:03,239
Speaker 1: in careers that I could never imagine having. So this

964
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:07,680
Speaker 1: story is about one of only eighty black female physicists

965
00:46:07,760 --> 00:46:09,520
Speaker 1: in the US. Can you believe that?

966
00:46:09,520 --> 00:46:10,200
Speaker 2: That's crazy?

967
00:46:10,440 --> 00:46:11,920
Speaker 1: That's the job that I would never even like, I

968
00:46:11,920 --> 00:46:15,120
Speaker 1: can't even imagine having. So I'm already interested. So one

969
00:46:15,160 --> 00:46:17,719
Speaker 1: of the only eighty black female physicists in America just

970
00:46:17,760 --> 00:46:23,200
Speaker 1: broke this major barrier for women in science. Hadiya Nicole Green.

971
00:46:23,280 --> 00:46:27,080
Speaker 1: She's the thirty five year old physicist and professor from

972
00:46:27,120 --> 00:46:31,680
Speaker 1: Tuski University. She's the first woman to win a five

973
00:46:31,760 --> 00:46:34,399
Speaker 1: year grant award, and just wait till you hear she's

974
00:46:34,400 --> 00:46:36,360
Speaker 1: doing with this. She's taking this one point one million

975
00:46:36,400 --> 00:46:41,960
Speaker 1: dollar grant and she's researching how lasers can kill cancer. Awesome,

976
00:46:42,120 --> 00:46:43,960
Speaker 1: Like just the same way we spend money on lasers

977
00:46:43,960 --> 00:46:46,680
Speaker 1: for hair removal. Yeah, ladies, I know you do. The

978
00:46:46,760 --> 00:46:50,160
Speaker 1: lasers can like kill cancer cells, which I think is

979
00:46:50,160 --> 00:46:53,200
Speaker 1: just extraordinary. So apparently she's the first black woman to

980
00:46:53,239 --> 00:46:57,640
Speaker 1: win this grant, which is ahead Hadiya. And this technology

981
00:46:57,640 --> 00:47:00,200
Speaker 1: can help, Like if you've ever seen anyone like how

982
00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:03,759
Speaker 1: to love one or yourself personally go through chemotherapy where

983
00:47:03,760 --> 00:47:08,120
Speaker 1: you're literally poisoning yourself. It can have just horrible effects

984
00:47:08,160 --> 00:47:11,480
Speaker 1: on you, makes you so sick. It's really rough to

985
00:47:11,480 --> 00:47:14,160
Speaker 1: watch people go through that. And the technology that Hadiyas

986
00:47:15,320 --> 00:47:19,480
Speaker 1: is researching could replace chemotherapy potentially.

987
00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:21,640
Speaker 2: That would be amazing. Oh see, how dya you just

988
00:47:22,360 --> 00:47:23,960
Speaker 2: I just love when brown girls rule of the world.

989
00:47:24,000 --> 00:47:26,960
Speaker 2: So that's what black girl magic looks like, not actual magic.

990
00:47:27,200 --> 00:47:32,200
Speaker 2: Hadia is not doing incantations. That's from our last podcast.

991
00:47:32,440 --> 00:47:33,800
Speaker 2: She's just doing dope stuff.

992
00:47:34,920 --> 00:47:36,759
Speaker 1: I love her personal story too. I was reading this.

993
00:47:36,840 --> 00:47:38,759
Speaker 1: So the story is on take part dot com. I'll

994
00:47:38,800 --> 00:47:42,360
Speaker 1: put a link on our on our tumblr, branambitionpodcast dot com.

995
00:47:42,560 --> 00:47:44,960
Speaker 1: So her personal story, she was raised by her aunt

996
00:47:45,000 --> 00:47:50,040
Speaker 1: and uncle, who both fought cancer. Her aunt refused chemotherapy

997
00:47:50,680 --> 00:47:54,480
Speaker 1: for ovarian cancer and died when Hadiya was only twenty

998
00:47:54,520 --> 00:47:58,480
Speaker 1: two and had just graduated college with a degree in physics.

999
00:47:58,480 --> 00:48:01,839
Speaker 1: And then her uncle was diagnosed with sophageal cancer. So

1000
00:48:01,880 --> 00:48:05,440
Speaker 1: this I can tell her research has a real personal element.

1001
00:48:05,920 --> 00:48:08,680
Speaker 1: I like that, she says. This is a quote from

1002
00:48:08,719 --> 00:48:11,000
Speaker 1: her She says, I didn't hit a lottery. It's very

1003
00:48:11,040 --> 00:48:15,080
Speaker 1: structured funding for specific purposes. And yes, I applied multiple

1004
00:48:15,120 --> 00:48:19,120
Speaker 1: times until I got it. That perseverance and tenacity is

1005
00:48:19,160 --> 00:48:22,400
Speaker 1: critical for anyone black, white, female or male who seeks

1006
00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:25,719
Speaker 1: to build a career in science. So I just love that,

1007
00:48:25,719 --> 00:48:27,680
Speaker 1: she I love. She points out too, that she kept

1008
00:48:27,680 --> 00:48:31,480
Speaker 1: trying and trying and trying, and to be one of

1009
00:48:31,560 --> 00:48:33,800
Speaker 1: eighty female physicists in the United States.

1010
00:48:33,840 --> 00:48:34,400
Speaker 2: That's dope.

1011
00:48:34,680 --> 00:48:37,520
Speaker 1: Talk about looking around and not seeing yourself in your career.

1012
00:48:37,560 --> 00:48:38,920
Speaker 2: I know, can you imagine?

1013
00:48:39,239 --> 00:48:40,440
Speaker 1: Well that's it for the show.

1014
00:48:40,760 --> 00:48:41,919
Speaker 2: No, you forgot my win.

1015
00:48:42,200 --> 00:48:49,880
Speaker 1: Oh shoot, sorry, sorry, I just switched.

1016
00:48:49,600 --> 00:48:51,800
Speaker 2: From many weel and you'll se why I say Many's

1017
00:48:51,800 --> 00:48:53,319
Speaker 2: a hater, So she's not a hater for real. We're

1018
00:48:53,360 --> 00:48:56,360
Speaker 2: just teasing. But I wanted to share win something that

1019
00:48:56,480 --> 00:49:01,400
Speaker 2: was really proud of. Uh So just this week, this

1020
00:49:01,560 --> 00:49:03,439
Speaker 2: past like a few days ago, a couple of days ago,

1021
00:49:03,800 --> 00:49:08,480
Speaker 2: I did a segment for Good Morning America, which you

1022
00:49:08,520 --> 00:49:10,359
Speaker 2: know I always watched much CP. I mean, I knew

1023
00:49:10,440 --> 00:49:13,200
Speaker 2: Good Morning America. Obviously it's like big, but I didn't

1024
00:49:13,200 --> 00:49:17,760
Speaker 2: realize how big until my friend and publicist Drina Whitfield

1025
00:49:17,840 --> 00:49:20,680
Speaker 2: of whitpr Plug Plug. She was like, Uh, it's the

1026
00:49:20,760 --> 00:49:25,040
Speaker 2: number one watched morning you know news show or just

1027
00:49:25,160 --> 00:49:29,319
Speaker 2: morning show period nationwide. It's Good Morning America. Then to

1028
00:49:29,320 --> 00:49:32,359
Speaker 2: Today's Show, then CBS Morning, and I was like, it is.

1029
00:49:32,880 --> 00:49:34,239
Speaker 2: But then I just thought, oh, they're gonna have me

1030
00:49:34,280 --> 00:49:36,120
Speaker 2: come on and do my normal budgetist to shick like

1031
00:49:36,160 --> 00:49:38,279
Speaker 2: this is how you budget, this is how you save,

1032
00:49:39,000 --> 00:49:42,080
Speaker 2: and no, it turned into like an intimate portrayal of

1033
00:49:42,239 --> 00:49:44,319
Speaker 2: just me and my life and how I kind of

1034
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:49,080
Speaker 2: came from struggling financially and how I dug my way

1035
00:49:49,080 --> 00:49:51,319
Speaker 2: out of that struggle, and how I went on to

1036
00:49:51,400 --> 00:49:55,239
Speaker 2: then start my business and this movement, the live richerr Challenge,

1037
00:49:55,600 --> 00:49:57,200
Speaker 2: and so it was just so crazy because I'm just

1038
00:49:57,239 --> 00:49:59,800
Speaker 2: not used to people asking me questions about me personally,

1039
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:03,200
Speaker 2: and it's just, I don't know, it's kind of surreal.

1040
00:50:03,239 --> 00:50:04,800
Speaker 2: When they were taping, I'm like, wait, you want to

1041
00:50:04,840 --> 00:50:06,520
Speaker 2: know what about me personally? You want pictures of me

1042
00:50:06,560 --> 00:50:09,640
Speaker 2: when I was twenty? You want so I just can't wait.

1043
00:50:09,680 --> 00:50:11,400
Speaker 2: I mean by the time this airs that they'll probably

1044
00:50:11,400 --> 00:50:13,440
Speaker 2: have been out because it's gonna air on Monday, but

1045
00:50:13,480 --> 00:50:15,080
Speaker 2: I'll be sure to get like a clip and share.

1046
00:50:15,840 --> 00:50:18,080
Speaker 2: But yeah, so that's like a huge win for me

1047
00:50:18,120 --> 00:50:20,000
Speaker 2: because not too long ago, nobody cared.

1048
00:50:21,080 --> 00:50:21,560
Speaker 1: I cared.

1049
00:50:22,440 --> 00:50:24,120
Speaker 2: No, oh yeah, may forget who was one of the

1050
00:50:24,200 --> 00:50:27,160
Speaker 2: first to raise story aside by Mandy. So we're having

1051
00:50:27,160 --> 00:50:28,800
Speaker 2: a party. I don't know if you're free on Thursday.

1052
00:50:28,840 --> 00:50:31,400
Speaker 2: We're gonna be partying it up again. Oh oh the

1053
00:50:31,920 --> 00:50:34,640
Speaker 2: challenge party. Yes, the graduation party. So we're gonna get down.

1054
00:50:34,719 --> 00:50:36,279
Speaker 2: It's gonna be right next door to the old place.

1055
00:50:36,360 --> 00:50:38,560
Speaker 2: But I'm gonna post stuff on Facebook about the party.

1056
00:50:38,760 --> 00:50:43,000
Speaker 2: But yeah, yeah, definitely Mandy cared, and she she actually

1057
00:50:43,040 --> 00:50:46,000
Speaker 2: fought for me to be featured on Yahoo Finance, which

1058
00:50:46,120 --> 00:50:48,440
Speaker 2: was like so amazing because that was huge. I mean,

1059
00:50:48,440 --> 00:50:51,920
Speaker 2: it's still huge, and you know, but and that's why

1060
00:50:51,960 --> 00:50:55,160
Speaker 2: it's so important to have people, you know, at different levels,

1061
00:50:55,200 --> 00:50:57,239
Speaker 2: Brown folks at different levels, because if Mandy had not

1062
00:50:57,280 --> 00:50:59,239
Speaker 2: been there to fight for me, Yahoo would not have

1063
00:50:59,280 --> 00:51:01,440
Speaker 2: done that story. No shade yahu, but they would not

1064
00:51:01,480 --> 00:51:03,200
Speaker 2: have done that story about me. It was Mandy that

1065
00:51:03,239 --> 00:51:06,560
Speaker 2: made that happen and like forced it through and so

1066
00:51:07,200 --> 00:51:09,239
Speaker 2: you know, and like really paved the way for this

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Speaker 2: to happen. Now. So many times, you know, especially like

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Speaker 2: me being brown, people don't really take like brown people

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Speaker 2: in finance very seriously, and so they don't unfortunately, and

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Speaker 2: so slowly but surely people are starting to. And that's

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Speaker 2: really what I hope that happens with this whole Good

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Speaker 2: Morning America interview, that you know, maybe this starts to

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Speaker 2: open up the door to mainstream America and media that like,

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Speaker 2: brown people care about money and we want you to

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Speaker 2: talk to us, and we want help and we want

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Speaker 2: resources as well, and so yeah, it's just I don't

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Speaker 2: even think My publicist, Drina was like, I don't think

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Speaker 2: you realize tiffany how this is gonna change. You know,

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Speaker 2: this is gonna this is a shift in like, you

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Speaker 2: know what you've been growing as a budget Nissa, and

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Speaker 2: I don't think I realized, but I'm definitely open to

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Speaker 2: that shift because it means that can help more people.

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Speaker 2: And ultimately, my ultimate goal has always been to be

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Speaker 2: a cert and whatever that looks like, whether I was

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Speaker 2: a preschool teacher, whether I'm giving advice online, or whether

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Speaker 2: I'm sharing my story. So it's just would you say.

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Speaker 1: I hope you're the first, because like I can't think

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Speaker 1: of any other personal finance gurus who are of color

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Speaker 1: who have broken through to that like Jeane Chatsky, Dave

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Speaker 1: Ramsey level, and we need someone like that so desperately.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what it is, but like there's been

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Speaker 1: this like invisible ceiling, like why why isn't Lynette Californi

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Speaker 1: Cox at that level yet? You know, yeah, you know,

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Speaker 1: Patrese is coming at Patrice Washington, and I feel like

1095
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Speaker 1: this could be it, Like you paved the way and

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00:52:33,600 --> 00:52:35,440
Speaker 1: you'll make it so much easier for everyone else. That's

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Speaker 1: sort of to be accepted by the mainstream America. And

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Speaker 1: I mean it's all it's all down to your work, though,

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Speaker 1: your vision, your work, the budget Neista was your business,

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Speaker 1: you know, and I knew there was something special. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I wrote that story about you when I was a

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Speaker 1: business insider. Yeah, because you were so unique and your

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Speaker 1: voice was so needed and so different. And I'm just

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Speaker 1: as I'm just surprised it took Gma this long on

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Speaker 1: I'm happy for you.

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Speaker 2: You know. Mandy's like one of my biggest cheerleaders, so

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Speaker 2: you know, don't try. She's an undercover hater. But you know,

1108
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Speaker 2: when I'm singing stuff, you see, how shall she do me?

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Speaker 2: I haven't even done Hey, hey, hey, and so long. Look, Okay,

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna be back with that next week.

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Speaker 1: People love it.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, I just want to say, like, you know,

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Speaker 2: I'm just really grateful and so yes, that is my

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Speaker 2: win and that was an awesome show. I hope you

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Speaker 2: guys enjoyed. You can hit uswear Mandy Well, I'll do

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Speaker 2: the ones that I know. Facebook, we'd love to hear

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Speaker 2: some of your opinions on like the stuff that we post,

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00:53:32,520 --> 00:53:36,200
Speaker 2: well the stuff that Mandy posts. We're Brown Ambition on Facebook,

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Speaker 2: the BA podcast on Twitter, and.

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Speaker 1: Brown Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com. Yes, our website

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Speaker 1: also was Brown Ambition Podcast dot com if you want

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00:53:48,360 --> 00:53:50,520
Speaker 1: to go there and check things out. We have some

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Speaker 1: interesting links to all this stuff we talked about, and

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Speaker 1: definitely we'll be embedding the video from Tiffany's GMA debut.

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Speaker 2: I know. With that, we sign off and we bid you.

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Speaker 1: Ad happy snow shoveling East Coast.

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Speaker 2: Not me though,