Speaker 1: Calling all my Sweetish to the forefront.
Speaker 2: I'm your host, Christophna.
Speaker 3: Hazel and this is the Keep It Positive Sweetish Show.
Speaker 3: Welcome to Keep it Positive, Sweetye, the place where we
Speaker 3: he'll grow and learn together. Toya and Red Russian have
Speaker 3: built something people don't just admire, they connect to it.
Speaker 3: Whether through marriage, business, reality, television, or social media. They've
Speaker 3: shown what it looks like to love each other publicly, intentionally,
Speaker 3: and without apology.
Speaker 1: This conversation is about.
Speaker 3: Modern black love, fatherhood, visibility, and building a light together
Speaker 3: while the world is watching. Here, Henley, please give a
Speaker 3: very warm welcome to the Russians. The Russians have built
Speaker 3: lies people have watched evolved publicly for years through business, family, reality, television, entrepreneurship,
Speaker 3: and now opening even more of.
Speaker 1: Their everyday lives through their content.
Speaker 3: But beyond all of that, what really stands out is
Speaker 3: the way Toya and Red show up for each other
Speaker 3: as husband and wife, parents, business partners, and leaders. They
Speaker 3: created a relationship rooted in friendship, honesty, and growth. This
Speaker 3: conversation is about marriage, fatherhood, protecting your peace, and what
Speaker 3: it really takes to build together while the world.
Speaker 1: Is watching kids, Heeley, please give a very warm welcome
Speaker 1: to my dear friends, the Russians.
Speaker 2: Hey, hey, bot, y'all on here.
Speaker 1: How are y'all doing?
Speaker 2: We're doing great, y'all look good.
Speaker 1: Everybody talking about how good y'all look at a unit.
Speaker 4: Appreciate you she dressed me? Yeah, I got it.
Speaker 2: You know you can be having to help them men out.
Speaker 1: Listen, help listen.
Speaker 3: You did a great job get them together, since I
Speaker 3: appreciate it. So we're gonna play a quick game to
Speaker 3: get started. And the game is called whose idea was it?
Speaker 3: So I'm gonna ask questions you just point to who's
Speaker 3: who would definitely be the person that this would apply
Speaker 3: to you. The first one is, let's film content for this.
Speaker 3: Who apologizes first?
Speaker 2: That's good, Okay, I gotta get better. That's good.
Speaker 3: Who starts an argument and then as confused. Who's more
Speaker 3: likely to say were good when they're definitely not good.
Speaker 1: Who's strict with the kids.
Speaker 2: I just want to let the kids just do.
Speaker 1: Most ass, Dude, they'd be like, don't tell.
Speaker 2: You, mama.
Speaker 3: Who spends more money? Who's more likely to check on
Speaker 3: everybody else before checking on themselves?
Speaker 2: M h, Well, I guess that's kind of both of
Speaker 2: us in a way.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, who's more likely to randomly start a deep
Speaker 3: conversation late at night?
Speaker 2: We're like, that is me for sure, Repon, I gotta
Speaker 2: get up at five o'cl.
Speaker 1: Thank y'all. So, but that was good.
Speaker 3: I actually love like seeing who each other things is
Speaker 3: the person that does certain things.
Speaker 1: That was great. You guys have.
Speaker 3: Done such a good job for years keeping your lives private,
Speaker 3: and now all of a sudden, you guys are putting
Speaker 3: your life out there. We've seen your life TOYR play
Speaker 3: out for years on TV.
Speaker 1: Red.
Speaker 3: I've known you for years and you've always worked behind
Speaker 3: the scenes. You've worked for when I knew you, work
Speaker 3: with NBA players making sure their businesses and day to
Speaker 3: day were running right, and you were always the guy
Speaker 3: behind the toy You've always been in front. So what
Speaker 3: made you, guys aside? Now is the time we want
Speaker 3: to put our life out there more.
Speaker 2: I guess like it came about with us just doing
Speaker 2: videos and just trying different things and whatever, and Red
Speaker 2: coming out of his shadow more so to him just
Speaker 2: being a team player. Really, Like you know, I'm like, okay,
Speaker 2: they let's do this, and then some stuff he'd be like, okay,
Speaker 2: we could do that. He started getting more and more comfortable.
Speaker 1: That was good. I me bean cracking up because I'm like,
Speaker 1: this is so real.
Speaker 2: He just thought getting more comfortable. When I saw he
Speaker 2: was on board or whatever, I'm like, okay, I don't
Speaker 2: want to force him to push him to do it
Speaker 2: for sure, you know. So when he came on board,
Speaker 2: I was like, let's do it.
Speaker 1: I love that. So I remember when y'all first met.
Speaker 1: He was keeping it a big seat.
Speaker 2: Oh yes, we both were listen.
Speaker 1: I was like, who is it. I'm like, listen.
Speaker 2: It was one of them you know how you go
Speaker 2: on a date with somebody and you post the food
Speaker 2: and not the man, and you post the place and
Speaker 2: not the man. That was me and him. We would
Speaker 2: go all kind of days, go all kinds of places,
Speaker 2: and never post each other, and then it's like I
Speaker 2: pop up pregnant. Everybody like what. But you know, we
Speaker 2: were feeling, you know, getting to know each other for
Speaker 2: real and enjoin each other in private.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Let's talk about the importance of that, because I think
Speaker 3: a lot of people now, especially in the social media world,
Speaker 3: were so quick to push our relationships out there before
Speaker 3: we actually cultivate and build that friendship.
Speaker 1: What was the importance of keeping it sacred for me?
Speaker 2: You know, I had just gone through a divorce and
Speaker 2: I spent a lot of time trying to like become whole,
Speaker 2: you know, like myself or whatever. And when I met Rid,
Speaker 2: we were really good friends, Like we talked a lot.
Speaker 2: It was something different. Were just getting to know each
Speaker 2: other and join each other's company, right, And I just
Speaker 2: felt like that ain't something I want to share with
Speaker 2: the world, Like I want to enjoy this moment, you know,
Speaker 2: with us getting to know each other. And it was
Speaker 2: so much better because we developed a friendship. You know,
Speaker 2: he was there for me doing a very rough patch
Speaker 2: in my life, and we our relationship got stronger in
Speaker 2: that period. And when we finally did, you know, go
Speaker 2: public or whatever, we were at a place where we
Speaker 2: was already like strong, like you know, so it really
Speaker 2: didn't matter.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that. Ray.
Speaker 3: What was it like for you coming into this relationship
Speaker 3: and you were a private person as well, Like a
Speaker 3: lot of people didn't know what you did, And I
Speaker 3: guess that was because of the people you worked with.
Speaker 3: You knew how to like keep the main thing, the
Speaker 3: main thing, what was it like like coming into this
Speaker 3: relationship and.
Speaker 1: Really feeling to you.
Speaker 3: But then she's like, I don't want I don't want
Speaker 3: people to know we talking like was there where you
Speaker 3: were Like what you mean, I'm.
Speaker 1: Ready to tell the world.
Speaker 5: Well, now you know you know me, and you knew
Speaker 5: me before all this. It was kind of different. Like
Speaker 5: I was telling her like, chill, shorty, you know what
Speaker 5: I'm saying.
Speaker 4: You know. I was like, yo, calm down, I know.
Speaker 1: That far.
Speaker 4: Crazy.
Speaker 5: Nah, Just like she said, we became real close and
Speaker 5: it was.
Speaker 3: Just like, let me just get this glitter off of you,
Speaker 3: because it's just that's a good that's a good woman.
Speaker 4: It was just.
Speaker 5: I wasn't in the rush, you know. I wasn't in
Speaker 5: the rush at all. Like I didn't mind just staying
Speaker 5: back because I didn't really want to be out there.
Speaker 5: I didn't want to be I was enjoying her. And
Speaker 5: then when we did come out and you know, the
Speaker 5: tea and different things like that, I knew what I
Speaker 5: was signing up for, you know, so I had to
Speaker 5: adjust and do that, but I really didn't care anything.
Speaker 5: I cared about it's protecting her, protecting her image and
Speaker 5: different things like that. Because I you know me, I
Speaker 5: don't care. I don't care about nothing.
Speaker 2: I think that's what. It was. Just so different and
Speaker 2: so like nachaliantic cool. You know some men just be thirsty. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's like relaxed, like Ray was like like damn, it
Speaker 2: was one of the you know how women love a
Speaker 2: challenge and it's like you you know, a person like
Speaker 2: you and they feeling you, but it's like they just
Speaker 2: so cool. Like I'm like, well, you a little too cool,
Speaker 2: but just.
Speaker 5: Thought I didn't even realize, Like it didn't really dawn
Speaker 5: on me until people some people said something about it,
Speaker 5: like her posting you might see my arm and you
Speaker 5: might see that, but I ain't even pay that. I
Speaker 5: ain't even paid attention, you know what I'm saying, Like
Speaker 5: it didn't even really it really didn't matter to me,
Speaker 5: and I wasn't in a rush to be like, yo,
Speaker 5: this is who I'm with or anything like that. Like
Speaker 5: my people knew because she would come around, she would
Speaker 5: doing different things like that, but I ain't really care.
Speaker 5: But when we did, I mean it was cool. I
Speaker 5: knew what I was signing up for, and like what
Speaker 5: you're saying about the content stuff and different things we're
Speaker 5: doing with that. I think it's another stage for us
Speaker 5: as far as working together and finding something that's fun.
Speaker 5: Like it's fun, you know what I'm saying, it's actually fun,
Speaker 5: Like we be doing stuff like y'all see it and
Speaker 5: y'all laugh, but like we probably shot it and was
Speaker 5: dying laughing, like you know what I'm saying, Like we
Speaker 5: in there like laugh were looking back at it, just
Speaker 5: like crying laughing like this is it. So I think
Speaker 5: the whole new content thing, we just started a YouTube
Speaker 5: series with couples. Times before we go out with couples,
Speaker 5: do an activity or something so.
Speaker 1: I can come out with yu.
Speaker 4: Yeah. So I think it's just new things and just
Speaker 4: you know.
Speaker 2: And most importantly, it's celebrating love because you hear so
Speaker 2: many negative things about love and people finding a person
Speaker 2: and not understanding that, like stop looking at other people
Speaker 2: in their situations and embrace what you have and embrace
Speaker 2: your person and date. It's so here to like date
Speaker 2: and have fun. So we bring other couples along and
Speaker 2: we do fun date activities with other couples and it
Speaker 2: just be just a breath of fresh air, like to
Speaker 2: hear them talk about each other and they all be like,
Speaker 2: I didn't know you felt that way, Like it just
Speaker 2: be the sweetest thing. So that's something we really enjoyed it.
Speaker 1: And I'm sure that's really good for them as well.
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 3: Okay, we got a new YouTube show that I can
Speaker 3: see turn it into a show.
Speaker 2: A couple of signs.
Speaker 1: I love it.
Speaker 3: That's amazing. Read you talk about I knew what I
Speaker 3: was getting into. A lot of people, even for me,
Speaker 3: like dating men know what they're getting into, but when
Speaker 3: they get into it, then.
Speaker 1: They're like, oh god, like I didn't know it was
Speaker 1: all this.
Speaker 3: Was there ever a moment that you had to really
Speaker 3: adjust to Toya's life. It's toy, this has been your
Speaker 3: life since you was a kid, basically, you know, you know,
Speaker 3: you had been exposed to so much in the entertainment
Speaker 3: industry at a very young age.
Speaker 1: Was there a moment where.
Speaker 3: Now you're like in her world where you were like,
Speaker 3: I knew what I was signed up for, but this
Speaker 3: is a lot.
Speaker 4: Nah.
Speaker 1: Really, you was like, I'm.
Speaker 5: Ready because I understood the business from working with four yeah,
Speaker 5: top athletes and stuff like that, so I know the business.
Speaker 4: I know it comes with it.
Speaker 5: So I've seen it so when I said I'm signing
Speaker 5: up for it, I know what I'm signing up for.
Speaker 5: Like I knew exactly when I came into when she
Speaker 5: came into my life and we started dating, it was
Speaker 5: nothing I seen that I haven't seen before. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 5: I just wasn't dealing with it. I wasn't in a
Speaker 5: relationship like that.
Speaker 3: But you know, yeah, yeah, I've experienced it firsthand where
Speaker 3: it's like you knew what this was.
Speaker 1: I've been living his life.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we ever.
Speaker 2: Had that, you not understanding my life or you because
Speaker 2: Red always was the type of person you know that
Speaker 2: you know him. He always played the back and he's
Speaker 2: okay with playing a back to this day, Like he'll
Speaker 2: push you to shine and he's okay with just being
Speaker 2: there like it never was. I want to be seen.
Speaker 2: I want to like that's why you don't care to
Speaker 2: poor him, Like, come on, Red, let's do this. But
Speaker 2: he just so chill.
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 3: What is one thing that you think is misunderstood about
Speaker 3: relationships going more public?
Speaker 2: I think I think the comparing thing. I think people
Speaker 2: like love to compare their situations to other people and
Speaker 2: wanted people to like be somebody that they're not instead
Speaker 2: of just this is the person you're with, like you
Speaker 2: either gonna make this work and are you gonna move on?
Speaker 2: You can't change them to be who you want them
Speaker 2: to be because they are who they are. So I
Speaker 2: think that's one thing that messes up a lot of
Speaker 2: relationships or whatever. And like the forcing to go public
Speaker 2: so fast, it just it just gives me. I just
Speaker 2: want to show I got a man, like, you know,
Speaker 2: without even knowing the person. It'd be a couple of
Speaker 2: weeks later monthsly, like why did I do it?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 5: I think I think it's the Internet. I think people
Speaker 5: don't realize the internet is so judgmental and we don't.
Speaker 4: We don't, we don't realize.
Speaker 5: I mean people don't realize that, and they search for
Speaker 5: validation and accepting. So even if you havn't issues in
Speaker 5: your relationship, you're so scared of what the internet gonna say.
Speaker 5: So once people put the Internet in their business, they
Speaker 5: worried about this and worry about that because every everybody
Speaker 5: had problems.
Speaker 4: Yeah, everybody.
Speaker 5: Like if you sit down and talk to ten couples,
Speaker 5: out of eight or nine of those couples, y'all dealing
Speaker 5: with or have dealt with the same thing, but we
Speaker 5: are so caught up into the internet. Look like this,
Speaker 5: I gotta look like that, I gotta look like that.
Speaker 5: But it's just you know this what it is.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, the Internet is. It's a monster.
Speaker 4: It is.
Speaker 3: I feel like when we were growing up, it was
Speaker 3: if we didn't have all that, you know, so it
Speaker 3: was writing letters and like all you really talk to
Speaker 3: is your friends. Your friends and your family knew, but
Speaker 3: the world didn't know. I feel like now we live
Speaker 3: in an age where there's the possibility that the entire
Speaker 3: world could know your business based on what you put
Speaker 3: out there. What are things that you to do to
Speaker 3: protect your peace and the parts of your life that
Speaker 3: you do want to keep private.
Speaker 2: I feel like everything is not for everybody, you know,
Speaker 2: Like you get to these people get to these this
Speaker 2: place where they feel like, Okay, I'm going through this,
Speaker 2: I want to share this. It be something that backfires,
Speaker 2: like eventually, like in a backfire, just sharing it. Everything
Speaker 2: is not for everybody to know when we're going through
Speaker 2: stuff like we like every other couple, our relationship, it's
Speaker 2: not perfect. We go through things just like everybody else.
Speaker 2: But it's like being able to communicate with your person
Speaker 2: talk about it, you know what I'm saying, instead of
Speaker 2: like go and tell all of your friends putting your
Speaker 2: business out on the internet, Like what is that gonna do? Yes,
Speaker 2: I don't understand that whole era of that, but like
Speaker 2: we believe in like if we have issues or problems
Speaker 2: like talking to each other, it's important to have a village.
Speaker 2: That's true. But our you know his mom, like you
Speaker 2: know people that are not people that's going to drag us,
Speaker 2: you know, like in the internet.
Speaker 3: Girl and I even learn like evening the way we
Speaker 3: get over something.
Speaker 2: They'd be like, I'm holding on to it, right, I
Speaker 2: don't like Himna, I'll be guilty of there with my daughter.
Speaker 2: Right you tell me stuff about it, man, I'll be like,
Speaker 2: m hm, I don't.
Speaker 1: Know for sure.
Speaker 2: Everything. I love that its see yourself and work it
Speaker 2: out in your house.
Speaker 1: In your house, is it right there?
Speaker 3: You guys got married in twenty twenty two going on
Speaker 3: four years. I remember because you all got married right
Speaker 3: around my birthday. You couldn't make it to my forties
Speaker 3: because y'all were at CAO, y'all were in Kinlo getting married.
Speaker 3: And yeah, we're gonna try to make it. But it
Speaker 3: was just crazy. But what has it been like in
Speaker 3: these four years, Because like it's one thing to date
Speaker 3: and then you like you're blending families, you're blending businesses
Speaker 3: and so many different things.
Speaker 1: What is that journey been like for the two of you?
Speaker 2: Marriage is a lot of work, you know, because it's
Speaker 2: it's two people trying to become one, you know, operate
Speaker 2: as one, like you're gonna respect this person, you gotta move,
Speaker 2: you know, a certain way. So it does require a
Speaker 2: lot of work in respecting each other and just being
Speaker 2: on one accord. I think over the years, like with men,
Speaker 2: read we in a beginning, we built the friendship. So
Speaker 2: even if we do have problems to go through things
Speaker 2: like it's still a friendige Like some days I might
Speaker 2: not like you, but I love you, and that's my friend.
Speaker 2: I gotta tell my friend. I got to talk to
Speaker 2: my friends. So I feel like that's one thing in
Speaker 2: a marriage and a relationship that's so important and I
Speaker 2: can't stress that enough. Is becoming friends, like building that
Speaker 2: friendship with your partner to where like I gotta tell
Speaker 2: them that's my first thing. Like at night, were still
Speaker 2: gonna find a way to talk. But I was what
Speaker 2: I was trying to say. Over the years, we you know,
Speaker 2: we didn't have our ups and downs trying to like
Speaker 2: learn how to move as one. Yeah, because that's that's work.
Speaker 2: When you when you used to being your own, you know,
Speaker 2: doing your own thing and moving never having a really
Speaker 2: answer to nobody, and then you operating this way, but
Speaker 2: learning to come together and operate as one, it's work.
Speaker 5: But I think one of the biggest things with us,
Speaker 5: and I think both of us had kind of an
Speaker 5: issue with it that we got better with was and
Speaker 5: it's crazy. I saw it today when I was researching.
Speaker 5: We were so quick to correct each other instead of
Speaker 5: focusing on connecting. Like it was all like for me,
Speaker 5: I speak for me. I'm real big on if I
Speaker 5: don't understand something, I debate with you because I want
Speaker 5: you to show me where you're coming from. You know what,
Speaker 5: I want you to show me where you're coming from.
Speaker 5: But over the years with therapy, and I get it
Speaker 5: from I used to have a group of very successful
Speaker 5: guys and we always talked and it's always debates, debates,
Speaker 5: and we called it iron sharper and iron like we're
Speaker 5: debating about this, with debating about this, but you're showing me,
Speaker 5: you're showing me where you're coming from, and you're understanding
Speaker 5: and you're articulating it.
Speaker 4: And then over with.
Speaker 5: Therapy, I had to figure out with my people, with
Speaker 5: my village and stuff like that, it's not necessarily always
Speaker 5: good because they they're not going to get it. And
Speaker 5: instead of debating and instead of trying to correct, all right,
Speaker 5: you got it, how can we connect and how can
Speaker 5: we do that? And I think that was one of
Speaker 5: the things that we fought with and got better over
Speaker 5: the years.
Speaker 2: I was like, why do you have to debate everything
Speaker 2: that I'm saying? Got the great debate is not like this,
Speaker 2: but over time, like he said, with therapy and everything,
Speaker 2: it's definitely helped. Like now, I notice he don't do that.
Speaker 1: So what made you want to go to therapy or
Speaker 1: was it a choice to me?
Speaker 3: In your own words, it's a collective decision where he
Speaker 3: was like, yeah, I need to.
Speaker 1: Wow, that's amazing.
Speaker 2: He kind of got me into because at first, because
Speaker 2: it's like very cliche, I need a therapist, so I
Speaker 2: want to see my whatever, But he's been doing it
Speaker 2: since I met.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I go because like you just spoke on earlier,
Speaker 5: I don't tell my friends and family and stuff, especially
Speaker 5: about my relationship, like I don't.
Speaker 4: I don't.
Speaker 5: I don't do that. Like my friends can't tell you.
Speaker 5: Not one of my friends can tell you our deepest
Speaker 5: problem or anything like that, surface level, like they know
Speaker 5: what I'm going through a business, family or whatever, but
Speaker 5: if it's dealing with me and my wife, they can't
Speaker 5: tell They can't tell you what. They can't tell you that.
Speaker 5: So what I do. I go to therapy and I
Speaker 5: have an unbiased voice that I can talk to and unload.
Speaker 5: And like some therapy sessions, I kid you not, some
Speaker 5: therapy sessions, my therapist say one say, two words go
Speaker 5: and then the last word stop in between. Then all
Speaker 5: I do is talk. I just unload, and they're just
Speaker 5: there to listen. They might not he might not say nothing. Well,
Speaker 5: he won't say nothing in between, he won't come back,
Speaker 5: he won't say nothing. I just sit there and just unload.
Speaker 1: That's good.
Speaker 5: So I don't do the family and friends. I don't
Speaker 5: do the family and friends that I love that.
Speaker 3: And I think more men need to hear that because
Speaker 3: a lot of times guys talk about everything with their friends. Yeah,
Speaker 3: and a lot of times men aren't the best people
Speaker 3: to take advice from, you know. So I love that
Speaker 3: you protect that and you talk to someone that is
Speaker 3: a trusted therapist that you can unleash with and let it,
Speaker 3: let it out. But then also know that you have
Speaker 3: a soft learning place with your wife to say, Okay,
Speaker 3: these are the things that I want to address, you know.
Speaker 5: And I used to be like that. I used to
Speaker 5: always have that emmy, but it's really I really keen
Speaker 5: in on it now. But like even dealing with athletes
Speaker 5: and stuff like that my job when I work, like
Speaker 5: I didn't tell my friends because they used to be
Speaker 5: some of them just they ain't got them all now
Speaker 5: they feel a way about this person and no tell
Speaker 5: them was that they'll turn into and different things like that.
Speaker 4: So I then learn that.
Speaker 5: But now with your partner with your wife, like I
Speaker 5: just don't I can't do that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, talking about partner exactly. It's so important. And then
Speaker 3: you said that he's going to got you going to therapy.
Speaker 3: How has that shifted your mindset on things?
Speaker 2: It's helped me a lot because I you know, from
Speaker 2: my background what I come through, I should have been
Speaker 2: doing it. Yeah, you know, so it helped me. That
Speaker 2: was like one of my biggest changes in life. Like
Speaker 2: it just made me see things from a totally different perspective.
Speaker 2: I love the handle things different. So I thank him
Speaker 2: for that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and thank y'all for sharing, because I think the
Speaker 3: more that we talk about it, especially people, you two
Speaker 3: are people that people look up to, So the more
Speaker 3: we talk about it, it makes people be like, oh,
Speaker 3: there's nothing wrong with me.
Speaker 1: I can go talk to somebody. This is actually cotant.
Speaker 2: It's like so important to have a therapist, it really is.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you guys talk about partnership. What has it been
Speaker 3: like You've been really big into fitness. I know you
Speaker 3: work out with him, Like, I love the Wait No
Speaker 3: More that you all have going on, You're opening up
Speaker 3: a new gym. What has that been like really building
Speaker 3: partnerships together? Because you've had your businesses with hair care, entrepreneurship,
Speaker 3: all the things that you've done, and TV and film.
Speaker 1: What has been like merging those worlds together.
Speaker 2: It's totally different because fitness is definitely something like different
Speaker 2: for me, and that was the first business that we
Speaker 2: started together doing Wait No More. But you know, I
Speaker 2: allow him to lead and come on, I can jump
Speaker 2: in to help, like I'm always there to help, but
Speaker 2: that's his baby and I'm just supporting the support of wife.
Speaker 1: I love that. Where did Wait No More come from? Red?
Speaker 1: Or should I call you Robert?
Speaker 2: Which depends on.
Speaker 4: It?
Speaker 5: Came from the quick story shoot around in Miami. Me
Speaker 5: and my client sitting down on brick or eating pizza.
Speaker 5: Kid come up, Look the kid is overweight. Asked for
Speaker 5: a picture. He was like, okay, cool. The kid walk off.
Speaker 5: He was so frustrated. Why the parents let the kid
Speaker 5: get that big? Is that boom boom boom? And seeing
Speaker 5: his frustration, I said, bro, won't you do something about it?
Speaker 5: He like, how can? I? I said, let's do a
Speaker 5: fighting obesity for kids, and so get back to Atlanta.
Speaker 5: I get with a PR team, I get with management.
Speaker 5: We have a meeting. We're gonna do a day camp
Speaker 5: for kids. Long story short, that didn't work out. After that,
Speaker 5: I had two more clients. I tried to pitch the
Speaker 5: idea too nobody would bite on it, and my friend
Speaker 5: introduced me. My friend told me to come to invited
Speaker 5: me to a five K. Went to the five K.
Speaker 5: I didn't run, but I just went and seeing the
Speaker 5: turnout seeing the turn. It was in a black community
Speaker 5: and everything, and it just hit me like, I'm laying
Speaker 5: every night, I'm laying beside the perfect person that can
Speaker 5: help propel this fighting obesity thing. And I asked her,
Speaker 5: I said, let's do a five K. She was like,
Speaker 5: I'm not running, no five miles and I.
Speaker 1: Was like five thousand and then.
Speaker 5: So at that point we did our first five k.
Speaker 5: Oh fourth ward part. We did our first five K.
Speaker 5: We had over five hundred people come out, and the
Speaker 5: next year we did seven different cities. The following year
Speaker 5: we had a twelve city tour set up, but COVID hit.
Speaker 5: We had sponsorships, everything behind it, but COVID hit. And
Speaker 5: then after that, just getting to my fitness, going through
Speaker 5: my dad had prostate.
Speaker 4: The cancer.
Speaker 5: So just going through that, that's when I got super
Speaker 5: serious about it and then started training and just touching people, man,
Speaker 5: and I just gained a real passion for it. You know,
Speaker 5: I just gained a real passion for it, and I
Speaker 5: just stuck with it.
Speaker 3: So then you created products from that, like it turned
Speaker 3: into a full fledged business.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's amazing.
Speaker 3: My favorite part about that story is I realized I
Speaker 3: was laying next to the person.
Speaker 1: That can help me propel this.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Absolutely, And a lot of times I feel like that's
Speaker 3: in a lot of our situations where it's the people
Speaker 3: around us that we overlook, where it's like it was
Speaker 3: in my face the whole time. I got what I need,
Speaker 3: you have everything you need, but you just don't see
Speaker 3: it at the moment.
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, I'm never not eve to who I'm with.
Speaker 5: I've never been that person. I'm never naive to who
Speaker 5: I'm with and what she had built over the years,
Speaker 5: who she is, Like my wife is highly respected. Like
Speaker 5: wherever I go, you know is oh that's Toy your husband.
Speaker 5: First it was Toy, your baby. Well now I'm gonna
Speaker 5: tell you now it's rain daddy.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah yeah.
Speaker 5: But I've never been I never been naive to that point.
Speaker 5: You know, I've never been nai you know who I'm
Speaker 5: with and.
Speaker 2: Saw your husband you know?
Speaker 1: Hell yeah you know. Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah, So I never been nice.
Speaker 2: I went from Regenie's mom to Rain's mom.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you will forever be that.
Speaker 3: My parents are still all your Crystal Travis's mom and dad,
Speaker 3: like they've completely lost their identity.
Speaker 1: Like I love it.
Speaker 3: Yes, I'm sure, there's a beautiful badge of honors to
Speaker 3: where let's talk about blending their families. You all have
Speaker 3: a beautiful daughter together, but you have children before.
Speaker 1: What is what was that like? Bringing your family together?
Speaker 2: Bringing our families together? You know, we're very family oriented
Speaker 2: people like he come from his mom and dad. When
Speaker 2: I tell you, I just they are sent from heaven.
Speaker 2: Truly want to one his parents. Our worlds are so different,
Speaker 2: you know, because he come from like a very like
Speaker 2: loving family and mine a little bit was dysfunctional, you know,
Speaker 2: so like just seeing how him and his family operating,
Speaker 2: how his parents is or whatever it was, it was
Speaker 2: so natural, right because it was all loved there, like
Speaker 2: they were all. I just came in and they embraced me.
Speaker 2: I love it from from the beginning or whatever, and
Speaker 2: we that's my baby's just like that's his babies, like
Speaker 2: we do everything together or whatever. But it was it
Speaker 2: was easy because they already had that built in. And
Speaker 2: then as we got stronger whatever, he introduced me to
Speaker 2: his kids and they all loved me.
Speaker 1: Of course it is and.
Speaker 5: She made and credit to her too, she made it
Speaker 5: real easy for you know what I'm saying. She made
Speaker 5: it real easy for me with the kids and different
Speaker 5: things like that. And then on the other hand, Reginae,
Speaker 5: it was nothing but love from a jump.
Speaker 4: Right, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5: And we always had that. Yo, I'm never trying to
Speaker 5: be your dad. I'm here for you, you know what
Speaker 5: I'm saying. Regardless of what I got to do, I'm
Speaker 5: here for you. But you know, so it wasn't never
Speaker 5: a bad you know dynamic.
Speaker 2: It's at the end of the day, it's about the kids. Yeah,
Speaker 2: Like we want to make sure that the kids are good.
Speaker 2: The kids are comfortable for sure, especially when somebody knew
Speaker 2: it's coming into the picture. You know, you want to
Speaker 2: meet their parents. You want to make sure that things
Speaker 2: have done the right way, because he gets messy when
Speaker 2: you're blending a family and you know you're the person
Speaker 2: you're blending family would have like other kids. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 2: you know, it's just a respect thing. And then with me,
Speaker 2: I try not to make it difficult because I don't
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't want to be added with y'all.
Speaker 2: I want to be we're one big family.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I love I love that you talk about the different
Speaker 3: backgrounds of your family and how his family is totally
Speaker 3: different than yours, where there's certain things that you had
Speaker 3: to unlearn when it came to family because you were
Speaker 3: used to maybe.
Speaker 1: You're family being a certain way, and he was like, no,
Speaker 1: we gotta do it this way.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean things that I had to unlearned.
Speaker 5: I would say, I don't think necessarily unlearned, but just
Speaker 5: take that wall down.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah.
Speaker 4: One thing about Toya.
Speaker 5: One thing about Toya, she was from the trauma she
Speaker 5: went through. Toya was so guarded. She was so guarded
Speaker 5: and so so guarded and so scared.
Speaker 4: She feared.
Speaker 5: She was very fearful, you know what I'm saying, not
Speaker 5: trying to go back, not trying to go back, not
Speaker 5: trying to deal with what she dealt with. She was
Speaker 5: so guarded. I made it here. I think I heard
Speaker 5: Lebron say that one time and it reminded me of her,
Speaker 5: like not going back to where I was. So she
Speaker 5: just had a wall up and just had to knock
Speaker 5: that down and just like yo, I'm here for you,
Speaker 5: Like it's weaken take on the whole world together, like
Speaker 5: it ain't no going back and forth. Regardless of what
Speaker 5: we go through, we can get through that.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, because after being heard and
Speaker 2: just going through everything I went through as a kid
Speaker 2: and just my trauma. So but I ain't gonna lie.
Speaker 2: He got I was like it took a minute to
Speaker 2: kind of you know, just just let it down, let
Speaker 2: the going down. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't even with a kid, like after I had rain,
Speaker 2: you took that. Yeah, wow, you're still guarded.
Speaker 5: I don't know what she'll do without please he just
Speaker 5: stay here. No, But honestly, like that's and just thinking
Speaker 5: about it now, like that's really something she dealt with
Speaker 5: and it's a test of where she and I think
Speaker 5: that's you know, you never seen me with a celebrity
Speaker 5: girl or anything like that. You've never seen that. And
Speaker 5: the thing that brought me and her close, it's just
Speaker 5: seeing everything she came because I saw Antonia. You know
Speaker 5: what I'm saying. I saw Antonia. Everybody's looking at Toy
Speaker 5: and just seeing everything she fought through, everything she went through,
Speaker 5: Like I think it just like yo, I like her,
Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying. I like her, and it's
Speaker 5: just that, you know, it's a test of what she
Speaker 5: have overcame over the years. Like just being that center
Speaker 5: point of her family everything, being blamed for everything, just
Speaker 5: going through this and nobody had that idea. But at
Speaker 5: the end of the day, I'm the one there where
Speaker 5: when she's crying, when she need comfort, when she needs this,
Speaker 5: but the internet seeing something else. But this is a
Speaker 5: real person going through real stuff, trying to heal everybody.
Speaker 5: She loved yourself in.
Speaker 1: Real time in front of everybody.
Speaker 3: That's a lot, still was that's a lot if you
Speaker 3: don't mind like share with us. What was a breaking
Speaker 3: point in that moment where you were like, I feel
Speaker 3: like I'm finally overcoming this. I know you talked about it,
Speaker 3: even after rain, you still have that wall up.
Speaker 1: I can't imagine.
Speaker 3: We've heard stories of what you went through, but I
Speaker 3: can't imagine what that's like in real time, living it
Speaker 3: out in public and trying to really heal while healing
Speaker 3: your family.
Speaker 1: What was that breaking point for you?
Speaker 2: For me, it was like I was, I was I
Speaker 2: started to see like what I was like, see myself,
Speaker 2: like toy, this is not okay, Like you you literally
Speaker 2: trying to save everybody and you're losing you.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 2: So it was one of the moments where I had
Speaker 2: to get back to me, like and my family that
Speaker 2: I'm creating, because I spend so much time like trying
Speaker 2: to I don't know, pour into everybody else and everything else.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, I have a beautiful family here, my
Speaker 2: kids watching me hurt, they watching me go through things
Speaker 2: over and over again. It's like a cycle just constantly
Speaker 2: being repeated. And I said it's time for me to
Speaker 2: make a change. And I told myself that I was
Speaker 2: gonna change. I'm not doing this no more. I'm I'm
Speaker 2: gonna go to therapy, you know, get some help. My
Speaker 2: husband was right there, you know, by my side or whatever,
Speaker 2: and I got through it. And now today I can
Speaker 2: honestly say, totally different person I have that I don't
Speaker 2: give up attitude. It's about me and mine I love,
Speaker 2: like the family I'm creating. I just can't go backwards what.
Speaker 2: I just don't like the way it made me.
Speaker 1: It really did.
Speaker 2: It's about two years.
Speaker 3: It was kudos to you for, like you know what
Speaker 3: I'm saying, really fighting for that and fighting for love
Speaker 3: because some people like give up so quick. I feel
Speaker 3: like we are in this microwave society where we want,
Speaker 3: we want it now, but to have a partner that
Speaker 3: will stick beside you and somebody.
Speaker 1: Who sees you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know that that's the biggest part. He saw you,
Speaker 3: not the toy that the world sees.
Speaker 2: So that's I saw seeing my kids like me taking
Speaker 2: like oh it was I don't ever want to go
Speaker 2: back to that. Yeah, girl, Yeah, just my kids just
Speaker 2: seeing me just so hurt all the time, like feeling defeated. Yeah.
Speaker 2: And it was like, yo, like you know, I'm looking
Speaker 2: at my husband watching this and my kids watching this.
Speaker 2: It's like, toy, it's time for you to focus on Yeah.
Speaker 3: And you I've watched your sh and seeing like even
Speaker 3: the sit down with your family and that sometimes those
Speaker 3: are the biggest fights.
Speaker 2: I was like, my girl is baby you was?
Speaker 3: I was like, who it was a lot and what
Speaker 3: people expect, the expectations and getting over like what people
Speaker 3: expect from you, and it's just like this, I just
Speaker 3: you owe this to me energy, you know, and the
Speaker 3: fact that you were.
Speaker 1: Able to get over that. I love that.
Speaker 2: It was amazing.
Speaker 3: I did want to ask you, going from what we
Speaker 3: can say a talkic relationship to finally be in love properly,
Speaker 3: what does it feel like if you want to.
Speaker 2: It feels till red hot oof, like it feels very
Speaker 2: safe to just know you with someone who truly love you,
Speaker 2: who appreciate you, who make you feel seen, who make
Speaker 2: you feel heard, and who make you feel safe. Because
Speaker 2: as women, that's really what we want, you know, And
Speaker 2: nothing is perfect, and no one is perfect. We have
Speaker 2: our disagreements and things we don't see eye to eye with,
Speaker 2: but I just still feel like that's my person no
Speaker 2: matter what. Yeah, you know, I feel like I found
Speaker 2: my person, somebody I could deal with, grow with, get
Speaker 2: old with, like the family I always wanted and pray for,
Speaker 2: like the things that we do. I remember years ago,
Speaker 2: I used to literally pray for these moments of just
Speaker 2: having a family and just pouring into my kids and
Speaker 2: showing them all this love and being able to have
Speaker 2: a partner that's doing life with me like a present
Speaker 2: for they, you know, like it's just it just feels amazing.
Speaker 1: Honestly, How doesn't make you feel read to hear that?
Speaker 4: Great?
Speaker 5: Absolutely great, because that's at this point in my life.
Speaker 5: That's what it's always been a family.
Speaker 4: Man.
Speaker 5: But as you know, just traveling the different crews I'm with,
Speaker 5: working with my friends, and different things like that they
Speaker 5: had a big place in my life. You know what
Speaker 5: I'm saying, moving around had a big place in my life.
Speaker 5: Now the biggest place of my life is my family.
Speaker 5: So I'm working all week like it's a whole different,
Speaker 5: whole different switch. I'm working all week and I'm looking
Speaker 5: forward to the weekends to chill with my wife, to
Speaker 5: chill and like, I really feel like we're out of
Speaker 5: the city. We're in the middle of nowhere, and it
Speaker 5: just feels so good coming home.
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 3: Let me tell you, he just said a word, because
Speaker 3: I've heard so many husbands say, like when I get home,
Speaker 3: I just need to sit in the car because I
Speaker 3: don't even want to walk in the house.
Speaker 1: To say, it feels so good to go home.
Speaker 4: It just feels so good.
Speaker 1: A lot of people don't have that. That's not the relationship.
Speaker 4: So good to come on.
Speaker 5: And I tell myself every every single day how blessed
Speaker 5: I am. Like every single day I tell myself and
Speaker 5: my first thing I do in the shower, I have
Speaker 5: a talk with God and I just say thank you,
Speaker 5: how and just be grateful for my life.
Speaker 2: That's absolutely used to say all the time. Like he
Speaker 2: used to talk about peace. Like the number one thing
Speaker 2: in life for me is peace. And I used to
Speaker 2: be literally looking at him like crazy with the side eye.
Speaker 2: Fast forward because I was younger and in my mind
Speaker 2: was just at a different place back then. It was
Speaker 2: for I just want to travel, I just want to
Speaker 2: do this. I want to do this, I want to
Speaker 2: I was just at a different place in my life.
Speaker 2: I was not where I am today. When I tell
Speaker 2: you he said a word, because that is literally what
Speaker 2: I live for the most. That's the best thing you
Speaker 2: could ever have. It's a peace of mind. Just be
Speaker 2: at peace like and that's I feel like that's where
Speaker 2: our life is right now. Like we block out all
Speaker 2: of chaos and the crazy stuff. Like I didn't cut
Speaker 2: ties with people that I just I can't. I don't
Speaker 2: even talk. It's people I ain't talk to in like
Speaker 2: two years. Family. Wow, Like I have to just let
Speaker 2: it go because it's it does not bring peace in
Speaker 2: my life. Peace in my life. You gotta go.
Speaker 1: I don't know who you.
Speaker 5: Are, and that's how I am. I'm I'm like that too.
Speaker 5: It's just like I do. It's people that I do
Speaker 5: genuinely miss, Yeah, like I missed them. I miss the
Speaker 5: relationship we had. I miss them, but I'm so cool
Speaker 5: I am, but I'm.
Speaker 4: I am so cool with it.
Speaker 5: It's fine, Like yo, I wish you the best, I
Speaker 5: wish you the best, but I am so I am so,
Speaker 5: I'm one thousand percent cool with it.
Speaker 4: I've cool you on that.
Speaker 3: No, And I think that's okay. You know, that's life,
Speaker 3: that's evolution.
Speaker 1: Grow, we do grow, we grow like I've seen it.
Speaker 3: I'm literally over here like I wanted to cry. I'm like, dang,
Speaker 3: like Red really grew up.
Speaker 2: Yeah that week, But isn't a beautiful listen?
Speaker 1: So yeah, I love it. I love it.
Speaker 4: Red.
Speaker 3: You are a father, you know, And for fathers who
Speaker 3: are maybe trying to figure it out. You know, you
Speaker 3: guys have like really worked on this. But for the
Speaker 3: fathers that are out there because Father's Day is coming up,
Speaker 3: for fathers who are trying to figure it out with
Speaker 3: blended families and how to make things work, what is
Speaker 3: some advice that you could give to them?
Speaker 5: Man, it's hard, it's hard, and everybody won't be blessed
Speaker 5: with a toya. Come on, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 5: Because because I don't think people realize the dynamic people
Speaker 5: go through trying to show up for their kids, show
Speaker 5: up for their wife, show up for their family, like
Speaker 5: different things like that. It's hard. It's just one I
Speaker 5: think we gotta take accountability.
Speaker 4: All right.
Speaker 5: I chose to have a child with this person and
Speaker 5: we got we gotta get through this. Like it didn't work.
Speaker 5: We gotta get through this and just realize like, Okay,
Speaker 5: it's gonna be a sacrifice. Yeah, we can't. We can't
Speaker 5: sit there and just think everything go go our way.
Speaker 5: It's gonna be a sacrifice and you just gotta try
Speaker 5: to figure out what's you know best for the kids.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Do you think that men sometimes get discouraged from showing
Speaker 3: softness or commitment and emotional presence in our society?
Speaker 5: Absolutely, because we was taught to be hard. We was
Speaker 5: taught to be I just said this on our Couples
Speaker 5: Time episode. It's just I doe became. I got to
Speaker 5: the point where I be seeing them so sensitive when
Speaker 5: it comes to the kids, like rain can do something.
Speaker 5: I'd be like, look at this punk that I just
Speaker 5: know I'm a punk, Like like.
Speaker 2: She you know what I'm saying, Like really all of
Speaker 2: them like I just.
Speaker 5: My son, like and you know it's just we talk
Speaker 5: and we just talked to be so hard, be so tough,
Speaker 5: but it's just and I'm just saying for me, man,
Speaker 5: my kids, my kids is my everything. So it's just
Speaker 5: a special place in my heart that like they really
Speaker 5: can do what they want to do.
Speaker 2: Like it's just like no, it cannot in our house
Speaker 2: all the time. And they all really eyes when I
Speaker 2: when I step in, because the daddy is just gonna
Speaker 2: let them just it's ice cream at midnight if they
Speaker 2: up like they.
Speaker 5: But they and the thing is though, but the thing
Speaker 5: is every each one of my kids know and respect me.
Speaker 5: So when I say no, it's no. When I say
Speaker 5: they're not gonna play with me, they know when they
Speaker 5: getting over on me or whatever whatever, they know that
Speaker 5: because when I say do this or do that, it
Speaker 5: ain't no, They're not gonna play with that.
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5: It ain't no thing where they gonna You know, they
Speaker 5: still have that fear of their father, you know what
Speaker 5: I'm saying. So the other stuff I'm allowing.
Speaker 4: And I know I'm allowing.
Speaker 2: You know because if I call me like I'm calling
Speaker 2: you that she respect her dad even though she runs
Speaker 2: circles around my dad. When I say I'm calling your dad,
Speaker 2: she gonna I know that's right. I love that. And
Speaker 2: it ain't like he gonna talk mean to well.
Speaker 4: What she do?
Speaker 1: What she doing?
Speaker 2: He's like, a, you know, like Rain do this. I'd
Speaker 2: be like Red is an amazing father. When I tell
Speaker 2: yesterday Rain had ice cream Social as school, it just
Speaker 2: be like the little things, like we don't miss nothing
Speaker 2: at our kids.
Speaker 5: This is offscript. I'm sorry, this is offscript. But she
Speaker 5: had I love the school she goes to. I love
Speaker 5: her school.
Speaker 4: What the hell is an ice cream soa anything?
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna lie y'all. Was like, we gotta go
Speaker 2: to what?
Speaker 4: I get up at three o'clock. I get up at
Speaker 4: three o'clock.
Speaker 5: I dropped forty five minutes back home, take a shower,
Speaker 5: About to take me a nap because I have to
Speaker 5: go back out. She said, we gotta go to ice
Speaker 5: cream Social. So I look at her like no, no, no, no.
Speaker 5: She said, we got to go to Rain school. She
Speaker 5: having something. So then I get dress and stuff. You
Speaker 5: didn't tell me.
Speaker 2: What it was when we was pulling up.
Speaker 4: When we pulled up, she said ice cream Social. I'm
Speaker 4: like what is that we go outside and watch our
Speaker 4: kids eat ice cream.
Speaker 2: We literally take the ice cream out of the pack,
Speaker 2: put it in a in a bowl, put toppings. It's
Speaker 2: a line of put toppings on the ice cream, and
Speaker 2: we washed them and any won't be bothering us.
Speaker 5: She was all the ways, gave me a hug, introduced
Speaker 5: me to our friend. Then they went and sat down.
Speaker 2: But if we wasn't there, it would have been my
Speaker 2: mom didn't come.
Speaker 4: No, my thing is why I had to go.
Speaker 2: Because we're we're a team.
Speaker 4: But no, since I didn't get it, I was so mad.
Speaker 2: I really should have left you out of that.
Speaker 4: I was so mad.
Speaker 5: And then the other dad that me and him, he said, man,
Speaker 5: I feel like I'm at a zoo somewhere, Like what
Speaker 5: are we doing?
Speaker 2: Rains?
Speaker 4: School have all every week? Every week.
Speaker 2: They're not planting in a garden garden day. If they're
Speaker 2: not doing this that, I scream.
Speaker 1: Social.
Speaker 2: They're singing in the on the black top. They doing
Speaker 2: something something, They're gonna find something. I tell you, I
Speaker 2: love it. Though we're in the mayor be right there.
Speaker 1: Your kids.
Speaker 2: Look I missed this. You know I didn't have those
Speaker 2: My dad did, like come to like important things like
Speaker 2: a birthday and stuff like that, but stuff at school
Speaker 2: and stuff now. So they be looking like, dam y'all
Speaker 2: go to everything and raising none of that. I'll be like, oh, shoot,
Speaker 2: you didn't, baby, I was young. I barely made it.
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 3: In closing, I do want to ask you both. I
Speaker 3: know you have a couple of time. Is there any
Speaker 3: more businesses?
Speaker 1: You have?
Speaker 3: The gym opening up? Is there anything else you can
Speaker 3: tell us? We want to make sure we can support
Speaker 3: you and get the word out.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: We do have our YouTube channel, it's called the Russian World.
Speaker 2: We do the series called Couple Time. There. We have
Speaker 2: our new wait no More studios, which is like not
Speaker 2: that far from here, is in Atlanta, open and real soon.
Speaker 2: We're gonna have our grand opening real soon.
Speaker 1: Make sure we get the invite. Will comes.
Speaker 2: I still have my I just did a rebrand of
Speaker 2: my before bedheads the luxury here tized and bonnets and
Speaker 2: stuff like that, so I'm trying to do something like
Speaker 2: different with that.
Speaker 1: Thank you for keeping us cute totnight.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we gotta keep it cute at night. Yes, yeah,
Speaker 2: I really love when I want.
Speaker 1: I know that's right.
Speaker 2: And what else.
Speaker 4: That's we got a lot of stuff going on.
Speaker 3: Yes, I'm loving the content. It is so funny now
Speaker 3: that one where.
Speaker 1: We'rell on his leg and the next minute it was naked.
Speaker 2: I hollered my mother in last it. What are y'all doing?
Speaker 2: I said, I'm sorry, it was that's me. Yeah.
Speaker 5: Immediately said, well, you don't went all the way with
Speaker 5: this content. You don't got naked.
Speaker 2: Red. It's so funny though, y'all. Like he's funny without
Speaker 2: trying to be funny. So some stuff I'll be like, okay,
Speaker 2: let's do this, like and he'd be like okay, but
Speaker 2: then he brings me crazy stuff.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, it's so good.
Speaker 5: And she shut short and to go back to what
Speaker 5: you said. But I do want to give her her
Speaker 5: props or like she's been absolutely killing it this year.
Speaker 5: My baby was the Grand Marshal for Disney Black History Parade,
Speaker 5: Like that was that was insane, Like you know, and
Speaker 5: stuff she's doing with Disney and just major brands and stuff.
Speaker 5: But like she got a lot of stuff going on.
Speaker 5: She over here trying to downplay it.
Speaker 1: I love it.
Speaker 5: Hot a five K with the Mayor and Montgomery this weekend,
Speaker 5: Like she.
Speaker 2: My little you know I'll be doing my pretty Girls walk.
Speaker 1: Yes, I love the walk it off.
Speaker 2: So I'm gonna do that in Montgomery this week.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm proud of you. That is a nice thank
Speaker 1: you for hyping her up and.
Speaker 4: You I got take this time. I gotta take this time.
Speaker 5: See y'all know Crystal, I knows, I know, christ And
Speaker 5: I want to say I'm so proud of you. And
Speaker 5: you know, for the last few years you always get
Speaker 5: a random text and I tell you I love you
Speaker 5: and I'm proud of you just seeing everything you've accomplished.
Speaker 5: Now we got the hair care that is about to
Speaker 5: go crazy and just all the stuff, this, the pod,
Speaker 5: the movies, TV show.
Speaker 4: I am super proud.
Speaker 5: Of you, sitting down our conversations, hugging each other, being
Speaker 5: there for like, I really love with what you have
Speaker 5: done where you disguise the limit. I love your team.
Speaker 5: You got amazing team, and yo, I love I love it.
Speaker 1: Thank you, congratulations, thank you, thank you. I love y'all seriously,
Speaker 1: before we get out of here.
Speaker 3: In this season, we are leaning more into being unapologetic.
Speaker 1: That's what the hair care line is called.
Speaker 3: But it's called that because I am walking in a
Speaker 3: season of just being unapological, Like you said.
Speaker 1: I don't give up about what you say.
Speaker 3: This is I'm doing what's good for me in this season.
Speaker 3: For both of you, What are you most unapologetic about?
Speaker 2: What I'm most unapologetic about?
Speaker 1: Just me?
Speaker 2: For me, just being okay with saying no that was
Speaker 2: something that for the longest it was hard for me
Speaker 2: to do. I just be like, oh, but I could
Speaker 2: do it, but no, And I'm standing on that and
Speaker 2: I'm unapologetic about it.
Speaker 1: Period. I love it.
Speaker 2: If I don't feel comfortable with it, or if it's
Speaker 2: something I don't want to do, I'm moving in a season.
Speaker 2: If I don't want to do it and it don't
Speaker 2: feel right with me, I'm not doing that period.
Speaker 1: For sure. That's good. I love that.
Speaker 3: Oh what are you being unapologetic about?
Speaker 4: Like? Nothing?
Speaker 5: Like, whatever it is it is, I don't care, like
Speaker 5: I really don't care. I don't again if my family straight.
Speaker 5: That's that's what it is.
Speaker 2: Like.
Speaker 5: I ain't apologizing. No, Fine, you take it how you
Speaker 5: want to take it.
Speaker 4: Yes, you roll how you want to roll with it.
Speaker 4: It is. I love it, hey, that's what it is.
Speaker 1: That is what it is.
Speaker 3: I love you both and thank y'all so much for
Speaker 3: sitting down. I know our community loves you. Make sure
Speaker 3: you guys tap into their YouTube channel Russian World, watch
Speaker 3: Couples Time, and if you're in Atlanta, hit the gym,
Speaker 3: do everything whatever you can do, tap in with them.
Speaker 1: I love everything you are doing.
Speaker 3: You're doing amazing things and making an impact, and you
Speaker 3: keep it in positive Sweety while.
Speaker 1: Doing it, so we appreciate it.
Speaker 2: Swedy.
Speaker 1: Yes, thank you, guys.
Speaker 2: Thank you.
Speaker 3: What I appreciate most about this conversation is that it
Speaker 3: reminds us that healthy love is not just about chemistry.
Speaker 3: It's about friendship, intention, growth, and choosing each other over
Speaker 3: and over again.
Speaker 1: Even while building publicly.
Speaker 3: Toya and Red have found a way to protect the
Speaker 3: foundation underneath it all.
Speaker 1: Thank you both for.
Speaker 3: Your honesty, your warmth, and for allowing us into your world.
Speaker 3: Thank you also for tuning into another episode of Keep
Speaker 3: It Positive, Sweety. Don't forget to download the season eleven
Speaker 3: kIPS reflection Guide at Chris ornehesl dot com. Subscribe and
Speaker 3: share this episode with someone who needs it. And if
Speaker 3: you ever need advice, positivity, or just want to share
Speaker 3: what you're going through, email us at Keep It Positive.
Speaker 3: Outcomes at gmail dot com. As always, stay blessed, stay encouraged,
Speaker 3: and you already know, keep it positive.
Speaker 1: Sweety. I'll see you guys next time.