WEBVTT - Stassi Schroeder 0:00:05.960 --> 0:00:07.000 Hello, Gorgeous. 0:00:07.040 --> 0:00:10.799 Today is a very special podcast because it is not 0:00:11.560 --> 0:00:17.799 just the three amigas, Amiga and Amigo, but I have Stace. 0:00:18.720 --> 0:00:22.200 This is very exciting. Let me just say, I fucking 0:00:22.640 --> 0:00:24.599 live for this setup. I feel like I'm on the 0:00:24.600 --> 0:00:27.200 Morning Show right now, like I'm in an audition, but 0:00:27.280 --> 0:00:28.680 I feel oddly comfortable. 0:00:29.080 --> 0:00:31.880 That's good, right, It's like a good kind of cast. 0:00:31.960 --> 0:00:33.239 It's like an actual one. 0:00:35.040 --> 0:00:36.360 I love it. I love it. 0:00:37.000 --> 0:00:39.280 I love it too. Did you like I did like 0:00:39.479 --> 0:00:41.559 the Versailles with your photo? 0:00:42.000 --> 0:00:42.640 I know you didn't. 0:00:43.640 --> 0:00:44.279 No, I did that. 0:00:44.720 --> 0:00:45.760 You photo shopped it? 0:00:45.840 --> 0:00:46.319 I did that? 0:00:46.440 --> 0:00:47.199 Are you joking? 0:00:47.360 --> 0:00:52.519 I swear to god. 0:00:50.440 --> 0:00:52.200 That's gonna bring tears to my eyes. 0:00:52.840 --> 0:00:53.920 It was so special. 0:00:54.320 --> 0:00:56.360 No, like that made me feel so good. I reposted 0:00:56.440 --> 0:00:58.320 and I was like, oh my god, the art like 0:00:58.600 --> 0:01:02.040 Versailles and then like my like yellow big bird Lufa dress, 0:01:02.120 --> 0:01:03.160 like I loved that dress. 0:01:04.120 --> 0:01:07.680 I trolled your Instagram and I was like, what photo 0:01:07.800 --> 0:01:09.760 would she look best in? 0:01:10.160 --> 0:01:13.400 Being placed at Versailles? And that's the one I choke. 0:01:13.520 --> 0:01:15.480 I can't believe you know how to photoshop? 0:01:15.760 --> 0:01:16.960 I know, isn't that hard? 0:01:17.240 --> 0:01:20.480 Yeah, it's like, la, you didn't even have venmo like 0:01:20.560 --> 0:01:21.720 four months ago. 0:01:22.360 --> 0:01:25.920 Which, by the way, didn't realize how annoying it was 0:01:25.959 --> 0:01:27.120 when someone didn't have Venmo. 0:01:27.440 --> 0:01:30.600 Shit, literally every time we went to dinner, and I'm like, 0:01:30.640 --> 0:01:33.360 this fucking bitch, she's so lucky she doesn't drink because 0:01:33.400 --> 0:01:35.399 it doesn't even matter. I'm like, you only had like 0:01:35.440 --> 0:01:37.560 one entree. I don't care, you know what I mean. 0:01:37.600 --> 0:01:40.320 But if you were to be drinking, yeah, and contributing 0:01:40.360 --> 0:01:43.679 to the alcohol cost and you didn't have Venmo, I 0:01:43.800 --> 0:01:45.120 want to cut you out as a friend. 0:01:46.680 --> 0:01:48.920 Oh Dan, maybe I should have not gotten it, because 0:01:48.920 --> 0:01:54.360 then I'd just be like balling on free meals stas. Yeah, no, Venmo, 0:01:54.760 --> 0:01:57.520 I finally got it. I learned how to photoshop somewhat. No, 0:01:57.680 --> 0:02:00.280 all you do is like screenshot the photo and then 0:02:00.320 --> 0:02:03.440 like hold the actual person in the photo and it 0:02:03.560 --> 0:02:05.320 copies it, and then you just paste it. 0:02:06.160 --> 0:02:08.359 You know what I'm talking about. Nope, I'm gonna show 0:02:08.400 --> 0:02:10.480 you how to do this, Okay, show me. No, it's 0:02:10.480 --> 0:02:10.880 so good. 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:14.280 People went insane when I told them that you were 0:02:14.320 --> 0:02:16.960 coming on the podcast. I literally have not had you on. 0:02:17.400 --> 0:02:21.400 I don't think since the very first episode of this podcast, 0:02:21.560 --> 0:02:25.359 since I was pregnant. The three of us meet or Brett. 0:02:25.440 --> 0:02:28.160 Yeah, I only come on this podcast. You only asked 0:02:28.200 --> 0:02:29.760 me on when I'm pregnant. 0:02:30.240 --> 0:02:31.720 Well, I feel like I've been pregnant kind of a 0:02:31.760 --> 0:02:33.160 lot in the past couple of years. 0:02:33.160 --> 0:02:35.800 I feel like that. And in all fairness, no, like 0:02:36.080 --> 0:02:37.400 there was a long time where I was like, I'm 0:02:37.440 --> 0:02:39.680 not doing podcasts, so like, it feels good to be 0:02:39.720 --> 0:02:40.480 back with you. 0:02:41.040 --> 0:02:45.080 Asking you to do my podcast was like asking Beyonce. No, 0:02:45.200 --> 0:02:46.160 for real, Oh. 0:02:46.000 --> 0:02:51.000 My god, this is the first official studio in studio 0:02:51.080 --> 0:02:52.480 interview Lala's had. 0:02:52.760 --> 0:02:55.280 Really, where have you been doing your Oh yeah, their 0:02:55.320 --> 0:02:59.400 table did the table? Yeah, but the table is so cute, 0:02:59.639 --> 0:02:59.840 it was. 0:03:00.000 --> 0:03:01.240 That's great, But this is much better. 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:04.280 Honored to be first, honored to be in the same 0:03:04.280 --> 0:03:08.000 breath as Beyonce right now but always yeah. 0:03:07.919 --> 0:03:12.040 All, okay, so you're pregnant again. I think you're carrying 0:03:12.080 --> 0:03:13.960 different this time around. 0:03:14.160 --> 0:03:15.560 Duh. 0:03:15.639 --> 0:03:16.959 I'm surprised your shoes fit. 0:03:17.360 --> 0:03:20.400 No, for real, you guys. When I was pregnant with Harford, 0:03:20.440 --> 0:03:24.240 within the first I think it was week sixteen, I 0:03:24.320 --> 0:03:26.640 started to swell and I couldn't fit into any of 0:03:26.680 --> 0:03:29.240 my shoes. It was also covid. Okay, so I didn't 0:03:29.320 --> 0:03:31.600 leave my house. I just sat around watching the Great 0:03:31.639 --> 0:03:34.880 British Bake Off Show, baking all day and eating what 0:03:35.000 --> 0:03:38.200 I baked all day. So like, yes, I am carrying 0:03:38.360 --> 0:03:39.800 differently this time around. 0:03:40.000 --> 0:03:42.680 You think you ate more during that time than now? 0:03:42.920 --> 0:03:48.000 Yes, really, Lola baked goods morning, noon and night. 0:03:48.160 --> 0:03:50.760 You did bake a lot. Yes, a lot of people 0:03:50.760 --> 0:03:51.480 did in COVID. 0:03:51.560 --> 0:03:54.360 That's all I had to live for cupcakes. 0:03:54.800 --> 0:03:59.120 I remember who we went on a tripe? Where did 0:03:59.200 --> 0:04:00.480 we goo? 0:04:00.640 --> 0:04:02.400 No? I think it was like Mead, Oh, yeah, yeah 0:04:02.840 --> 0:04:06.240 it was. They're all the sand, They're all the sand. 0:04:07.080 --> 0:04:12.400 And Stacy fitting her little sausage feet into Chanelle's. I 0:04:12.480 --> 0:04:14.360 was like, I think we ought to give them up, girl, 0:04:15.000 --> 0:04:15.880 I think it's time. 0:04:16.040 --> 0:04:17.640 No, it was sad. It was definitely. You know, like 0:04:17.680 --> 0:04:20.159 those images of Kim Kardashian when she was pregnant and 0:04:20.200 --> 0:04:22.679 her feet are like bubbling out of her her heels, 0:04:23.080 --> 0:04:26.719 that that's what that was. I also think that women 0:04:26.839 --> 0:04:30.000 carry differently with girls. I think that actually you looked 0:04:30.000 --> 0:04:32.240 like a goddess. So like this theory doesn't make any sense, 0:04:32.279 --> 0:04:34.680 but like when you're pregnant with a girl, you get 0:04:34.680 --> 0:04:38.040 fugly but like when you're pregnant with a boy, they 0:04:38.040 --> 0:04:41.279 don't steal your beauty. Oh, so many people have written 0:04:41.279 --> 0:04:42.279 me that that I believe it. 0:04:44.360 --> 0:04:47.160 Wait now that makes me so nervous because I don't know. 0:04:47.520 --> 0:04:49.960 Like I didn't gain much weight with Ocean, but she 0:04:50.080 --> 0:04:53.160 was also small in the tummy. She came three weeks early, 0:04:53.839 --> 0:04:57.800 but I wouldn't know if I was fugly or not 0:04:58.040 --> 0:05:00.240 because it was COVID. I was in sweatpants and there 0:05:00.279 --> 0:05:02.040 was no reason to get ready or put makeup on. 0:05:02.160 --> 0:05:04.159 Like that's gotta be fun this time around because you 0:05:04.160 --> 0:05:05.239 can like actually get ready. 0:05:05.279 --> 0:05:07.839 No, you have no idea. This whole experience has been 0:05:07.960 --> 0:05:11.200 so different. Like I was scared at first and apprehensive 0:05:11.240 --> 0:05:13.919 to get to try and get pregnant again because I 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:19.360 associate it with just like being stuck at home feeling depressed, yeah, baking, 0:05:19.680 --> 0:05:22.440 not like not putting on clothes, just wearing sweatpants, all 0:05:22.480 --> 0:05:24.159 those things, and I'm like, I can't do that to 0:05:24.240 --> 0:05:26.400 myself again. And then I kind of had to be 0:05:26.440 --> 0:05:29.800 reminded that, okay, well life's not like that. And so 0:05:29.960 --> 0:05:32.440 this time I'm like, what can what? How do I 0:05:32.480 --> 0:05:34.600 fill my days? How do I jam pack? Them as 0:05:34.640 --> 0:05:36.840 much as possible. Like even if I'm at home, I 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:38.719 put on a cute outfit, I do my hair and 0:05:38.760 --> 0:05:42.240 my makeup. I just it's so different. Everything about it 0:05:42.279 --> 0:05:44.320 is so different. Just wait until you get pregnant again 0:05:44.600 --> 0:05:47.400 and you're able to just leave your house and film 0:05:47.600 --> 0:05:50.320 or just record your just it's so much more fun. 0:05:51.040 --> 0:05:54.920 I believe that I've started saving images of like Rihanna 0:05:55.320 --> 0:05:58.920 because she's my pregnancy fashion inspo, Like I can't wait 0:05:58.960 --> 0:06:01.960 to just like wear bikini tops out to craigs with 0:06:02.000 --> 0:06:03.080 like unbuttoned jeans. 0:06:03.120 --> 0:06:04.080 You're gonna kill it. 0:06:04.240 --> 0:06:05.240 I want to kill it. 0:06:05.480 --> 0:06:05.680 Will. 0:06:06.000 --> 0:06:10.800 I'm so jealous of you. Why Because for. 0:06:10.680 --> 0:06:14.640 Me, there's not many relationships that are in I've seen 0:06:14.680 --> 0:06:18.440 successful relationships like with my mom and dad, with my 0:06:18.720 --> 0:06:24.919 older brother, but within the front group, there's not many 0:06:25.000 --> 0:06:26.000 relationships that I. 0:06:25.920 --> 0:06:28.039 Look at and go, I want that. 0:06:28.040 --> 0:06:30.960 That's so nice, Lola, Well, it's true, and I talk 0:06:31.040 --> 0:06:34.360 to you about this on your podcast, But just the 0:06:34.360 --> 0:06:38.880 way that you and bow parent Hartford, the relationship that 0:06:38.920 --> 0:06:40.400 the two of you have, you can just tell that 0:06:40.480 --> 0:06:44.640 you enjoy each other so so much, And I'm wondering 0:06:44.760 --> 0:06:47.440 how you find that balance of like how am I 0:06:47.880 --> 0:06:51.280 a good wife? You obviously are a working mom and 0:06:51.279 --> 0:06:53.880 then you're a mom, So how do you find the balance? 0:06:53.880 --> 0:06:56.560 And I hate when people ask me this question, but 0:06:56.640 --> 0:06:58.760 people are going crazy and want to know, like how 0:06:58.839 --> 0:07:03.599 you maintain every being when and when it's not so great? 0:07:03.880 --> 0:07:04.800 What does that look like? 0:07:04.880 --> 0:07:06.760 Well, I'll tell you what I'm failing at right now. 0:07:06.839 --> 0:07:08.800 And I've noticed that I've failed at it for like 0:07:09.360 --> 0:07:12.800 a good chunk of time, Like every year, I'm like 0:07:12.880 --> 0:07:17.200 failing in the friendship area of my life. Like I 0:07:17.240 --> 0:07:20.440 do feel like I don't keep in touch with people 0:07:21.120 --> 0:07:24.480 very well because I'm like I'm there's so much I 0:07:24.520 --> 0:07:26.720 personally feel like is on my plate just being a 0:07:26.760 --> 0:07:29.880 mom and working and being a wife, that like I 0:07:29.920 --> 0:07:33.160 don't know how to also give myself to my friends 0:07:33.200 --> 0:07:35.960 the way that I used to. And I notice that 0:07:36.120 --> 0:07:39.400 and I don't like that about myself. But also it's 0:07:39.400 --> 0:07:42.280 like you can't have it all, like sometimes in life, 0:07:42.320 --> 0:07:45.800 like other things are going to suffer because you're focusing 0:07:46.280 --> 0:07:50.560 on something else. And I try to not expect in 0:07:50.640 --> 0:07:55.119 return from my friends too much because I'm not able 0:07:55.160 --> 0:07:57.720 to give it. So, like's that part of my life 0:07:57.720 --> 0:08:00.720 I've recognize is like it's suffering, Like I could be better, 0:08:00.920 --> 0:08:04.760 you know, okay, but I also feel like I'm not 0:08:04.880 --> 0:08:06.920 that great of a wife, Like I could totally have 0:08:06.960 --> 0:08:12.600 sex without way much way more, like truly I could. 0:08:13.040 --> 0:08:15.720 I think that all of the things, like we both 0:08:15.800 --> 0:08:20.320 respect each other so much, and we're both best friends 0:08:20.360 --> 0:08:23.840 and so we like the day to day of our lives. 0:08:23.920 --> 0:08:27.800 Like it works so well because I think that respect 0:08:27.840 --> 0:08:31.080 is there and that friendship, but I could be better 0:08:31.200 --> 0:08:35.120 at making him feel wanted. But like I'm tired all 0:08:35.160 --> 0:08:35.559 the time. 0:08:35.840 --> 0:08:38.760 Well you're like one hundred months pregnant, but I. 0:08:38.720 --> 0:08:41.120 Feel I know, I just feel guilty because he does 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:43.960 such a good job of making me feel wanted. Yeah, 0:08:44.080 --> 0:08:47.360 that like I've recognized that, Like I don't do that. 0:08:47.640 --> 0:08:51.240 So while you look at us and say that I'm slacking, 0:08:51.720 --> 0:08:53.680 like I can see that I'm slacking. 0:08:53.400 --> 0:08:56.480 But I feel that it's not even about like I'm 0:08:56.559 --> 0:08:59.960 looking at just Instagram and going it's not real life. 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:03.560 Like I think you have been totally open and honest 0:09:03.559 --> 0:09:08.200 with me about the pieces that sometimes are lacking, and 0:09:08.240 --> 0:09:11.320 it just feels like a very healthy relationship. Like obviously 0:09:11.360 --> 0:09:13.120 it's not going to be perfect all the time, and 0:09:13.160 --> 0:09:16.400 there are things that you could do differently and better, 0:09:16.679 --> 0:09:18.520 But I feel like the way that you and bo 0:09:18.760 --> 0:09:21.920 handle that is like the coolest part. 0:09:22.360 --> 0:09:25.360 Well, the difference between like this relationship and anything else 0:09:25.400 --> 0:09:28.600 I've ever experienced before. It's like three things. One is 0:09:28.720 --> 0:09:31.400 just like there is that respect for each other. I 0:09:31.480 --> 0:09:33.760 respect him so much and I know he respects me, 0:09:33.880 --> 0:09:37.520 so like that informs everything that I do. Yeah, what 0:09:37.640 --> 0:09:40.880 was those fun? Those three things? Literally? Like what was 0:09:40.880 --> 0:09:41.760 the two other things? 0:09:42.240 --> 0:09:44.240 You have? Pregnancy breaks right now? Voice? 0:09:44.400 --> 0:09:48.400 There was a spect part of it. The oh, the 0:09:48.400 --> 0:09:51.760 fact that we put each other first sometimes before Hartford 0:09:51.840 --> 0:09:55.839 because we feel like if that foundation isn't there, then 0:09:55.880 --> 0:09:58.040 like how are we going to be there for her? 0:09:58.120 --> 0:10:00.200 So like I know that's like controversial to say, like 0:10:00.240 --> 0:10:04.480 you should always put your kid first, but sometimes no, 0:10:05.080 --> 0:10:09.600 because because I feel like we both know that, like 0:10:09.760 --> 0:10:12.440 if we're not cool, then how are we gonna be 0:10:12.480 --> 0:10:16.000 cool for our kids? So at least we're on the 0:10:16.040 --> 0:10:19.040 same page there, okay. And then the third thing is 0:10:19.080 --> 0:10:21.480 the way that we parent. It's like we both it's 0:10:21.480 --> 0:10:25.320 not a competition of like who's doing better or who's 0:10:25.360 --> 0:10:27.960 like had to work harder, you know what I mean? Like, 0:10:28.000 --> 0:10:29.880 I feel like so much of the time I've seen 0:10:29.960 --> 0:10:32.120 couples that they're like, well I did this all day, 0:10:32.160 --> 0:10:33.599 or I was with the baby all day, or like 0:10:33.640 --> 0:10:36.760 blah blah blah, that we don't do that. It's like 0:10:36.800 --> 0:10:38.679 if I see that like he's struggling or like needs 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:41.120 a nap or something, it's like, okay, tap out, like 0:10:41.200 --> 0:10:43.720 I'll do it. I don't mind. It's there's no competition. 0:10:44.000 --> 0:10:47.040 I love that it feels like a partnership. And those 0:10:47.040 --> 0:10:48.640 are like the three things that I feel like has 0:10:48.640 --> 0:10:51.040 like really worked for us. 0:10:51.440 --> 0:10:51.960 Yeah. 0:10:52.480 --> 0:10:57.320 So I learned that if you go into couples therapy, 0:10:57.480 --> 0:11:03.600 they always say that the relationship always comes before the child. Really, yes, 0:11:03.960 --> 0:11:06.840 because without a healthy relationship, you don't have a healthy 0:11:06.840 --> 0:11:07.800 home for your child. 0:11:08.120 --> 0:11:11.760 Yeah. Right, So if you're constantly making sure that the. 0:11:11.800 --> 0:11:15.760 Kid is good, but you and your co parent or 0:11:15.960 --> 0:11:20.440 partner are not, then that fucks up the entire dynamic 0:11:20.480 --> 0:11:20.840 of the home. 0:11:21.040 --> 0:11:23.240 Right. I agree with That's how I feel because like, 0:11:23.280 --> 0:11:24.839 think about it, like when you're in a fight or 0:11:24.880 --> 0:11:28.640 an argument with your partner, like, oh my god, if 0:11:28.640 --> 0:11:32.120 bo and I are fighting, like I'm so testy with Hartford, 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:35.400 and like my I have a short fuse and I'm 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:38.120 just irritating, and then like the energy and the vibe 0:11:38.120 --> 0:11:40.240 and the house is thick and so like, that's not 0:11:40.360 --> 0:11:42.840 what I want for my kids. 0:11:43.440 --> 0:11:46.760 No, and that's more toxic having that type of situation. 0:11:46.960 --> 0:11:49.760 Two parents in the same home who aren't getting along, 0:11:50.160 --> 0:11:53.240 then two parents who decide let's go our separate ways. 0:11:53.280 --> 0:11:55.400 And yes, the child will be bounced back and forth, 0:11:55.440 --> 0:11:57.480 but at least they're being bounced back and forth to 0:11:57.559 --> 0:11:58.199 healthy homes. 0:11:58.400 --> 0:12:01.440 Fully agree, la La. My parents divorced when I was 0:12:01.880 --> 0:12:05.400 four or five, and I have zero trauma from that. 0:12:05.960 --> 0:12:09.640 All I have are like happy memories of just like, yeah, 0:12:09.720 --> 0:12:13.040 two happy homes and my parents then were friends totally, 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:16.079 and like I never really saw. Of course, you should 0:12:16.080 --> 0:12:18.440 see fighting, like you should see realistically, like what a 0:12:18.480 --> 0:12:20.320 relationship is going to be like. But it was never 0:12:20.440 --> 0:12:22.600 anything that I'm like, oh, this was like a dark 0:12:22.679 --> 0:12:23.520 place to live in. 0:12:23.640 --> 0:12:25.280 Like it scarred you. It didn't do that. 0:12:25.400 --> 0:12:25.480 No. 0:12:26.200 --> 0:12:29.560 Yeah, I think watching parents like have an argument and 0:12:29.600 --> 0:12:32.120 then seeing how they come out of it is definitely important. 0:12:32.320 --> 0:12:35.360 I mean, I feel like that's kind of what we 0:12:35.360 --> 0:12:36.080 were exposed to. 0:12:36.520 --> 0:12:38.640 I feel like you should watch your parents argue and 0:12:38.679 --> 0:12:41.240 then make up because it feels like you can stand 0:12:41.280 --> 0:12:44.480 up for yourself and it won't ruin a relationship. Excuse me, 0:12:44.600 --> 0:12:47.720 it won't ruin a relationship totally right, So yeah. 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:49.440 No, I think it's I really agree. 0:12:49.640 --> 0:12:51.520 Do you know what it seems like too, just that 0:12:51.600 --> 0:12:56.640 I'm noticing with you, I feel like you make conscious efforts. 0:12:56.760 --> 0:12:59.760 And I say that because you just had mentioned you 0:12:59.840 --> 0:13:02.000 wake up and get ready every day, Like for me, 0:13:02.679 --> 0:13:06.680 that is such a conscious decision, even in like your appearance, 0:13:06.720 --> 0:13:08.719 You're like, I feel better about myself. I'm gonna wake 0:13:08.800 --> 0:13:11.800 up and get ready every day now with your relationship, 0:13:11.960 --> 0:13:14.200 I feel like you're probably the type of person who 0:13:14.240 --> 0:13:18.400 makes a conscious effort, like maybe I'm not doing this, 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:20.720 I'm gonna make an effort, a conscious effort to do that. 0:13:20.760 --> 0:13:24.200 And I was just having that conversation with my boyfriend 0:13:24.200 --> 0:13:27.480 of seven years with just friendships. I don't know how 0:13:27.520 --> 0:13:30.840 mothers do it, but I'm like hot juggling friends and 0:13:30.880 --> 0:13:34.199 my relationship right now, and we just talked about like, Okay, 0:13:34.200 --> 0:13:36.440 maybe I need to put more of a conscious effort 0:13:36.520 --> 0:13:40.040 into like more time with me and my partner versus 0:13:40.040 --> 0:13:40.760 me and my friends. 0:13:40.760 --> 0:13:41.880 And I feel like you do that. 0:13:41.960 --> 0:13:44.559 Do you think do you are you like conscious about 0:13:44.559 --> 0:13:47.239 that and you're like I need to make these decisions 0:13:47.360 --> 0:13:49.360 versus it coming naturally or. 0:13:49.840 --> 0:13:52.360 Now that you say that, I'm like thinking about thinking 0:13:52.400 --> 0:13:57.400 about like my whole life, but like I do spend 0:13:57.480 --> 0:13:59.920 a lot of time thinking about like what makes me 0:14:00.240 --> 0:14:03.720 feel good, what makes the energy and like my home good, 0:14:03.880 --> 0:14:07.400 like what makes and then I make decisions based off that, 0:14:07.640 --> 0:14:09.880 Like I know that if I don't do my hair 0:14:09.920 --> 0:14:11.920 and makeup or put on a cute outfit every day, 0:14:12.320 --> 0:14:14.480 that day is not going to be that great, Like 0:14:14.559 --> 0:14:16.840 I'm gonna I'm just not gonna look back on that 0:14:16.960 --> 0:14:19.960 day and be like nailed it. So like I make 0:14:20.040 --> 0:14:22.040 it efford to do that, and I think I do 0:14:22.120 --> 0:14:24.280 that with every area of my life. And I don't 0:14:24.280 --> 0:14:27.160 know that I that if it came naturally or if 0:14:27.160 --> 0:14:31.400 it's just something I've been practicing, but I feel so 0:14:31.400 --> 0:14:33.360 you're making me feel so wise right now. 0:14:34.240 --> 0:14:34.760 I think you. 0:14:35.080 --> 0:14:38.800 I think you that you do take a step back 0:14:38.840 --> 0:14:42.720 from your reality and process and see where things need 0:14:42.760 --> 0:14:46.120 to shift. Because even in our friendship, you know, you 0:14:46.160 --> 0:14:48.840 were very vocal to me about things that like we're 0:14:48.920 --> 0:14:51.880 not working and I feel like we had a conversation. 0:14:52.040 --> 0:14:56.200 It was like, got on the phone, this is annoying me, 0:14:56.360 --> 0:14:57.960 and I would like to see a change. 0:14:58.680 --> 0:15:01.000 So I think you're like that, even at least in 0:15:01.040 --> 0:15:01.600 our friendship. 0:15:01.640 --> 0:15:03.600 So I can only imagine what it's like when you're 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:05.400 at home with BO or with Hartford. 0:15:05.800 --> 0:15:07.720 Thanks. Yeah, I guess I am. 0:15:07.960 --> 0:15:09.360 We're here to build a bit yup. 0:15:09.480 --> 0:15:09.800 Thank you. 0:15:10.240 --> 0:15:12.120 I think you're doing great, sweetie. 0:15:15.560 --> 0:15:20.200 Speaking of your relationship, was there anything that you feel 0:15:20.280 --> 0:15:24.120 after your relationship with that one guy with the man hair, 0:15:24.240 --> 0:15:26.920 the man Bun. Yeah, after that relationship, because that was 0:15:26.960 --> 0:15:28.360 the last one before you got with Bo. 0:15:28.560 --> 0:15:29.320 Right, Yeah. 0:15:29.320 --> 0:15:31.160 Did you take a step back from that and say, 0:15:31.200 --> 0:15:32.960 this is what I'm looking for in a dude, and 0:15:32.960 --> 0:15:34.720 this is what they have to bring to the table 0:15:34.720 --> 0:15:37.120 in order for me to settle down with them. 0:15:37.200 --> 0:15:38.600 Or did that just kind of happen with Bo? 0:15:38.840 --> 0:15:41.480 No? I knew No, I knew what because he because 0:15:42.040 --> 0:15:46.360 Man Bun made me realize definitely what I don't want. Okay, 0:15:46.520 --> 0:15:48.920 Man Bun made me feel bad about my job, bad 0:15:48.920 --> 0:15:49.960 about my career. 0:15:49.720 --> 0:15:51.160 About reality TV, didn't like. 0:15:51.120 --> 0:15:53.880 Reality TV, didn't like the quirky I don't think he 0:15:54.040 --> 0:15:56.960 liked my basic bitchness. He didn't. There's so he wanted 0:15:57.000 --> 0:15:59.760 to change me all the time. I just felt like 0:15:59.800 --> 0:16:03.800 I constantly having to be somebody that I wasn't with him, 0:16:04.480 --> 0:16:06.680 and that would And then also the other thing was 0:16:06.680 --> 0:16:09.080 that man Bun never made an effort to be around 0:16:09.080 --> 0:16:12.480 my friends. So after Man Bun, I was like, if 0:16:12.520 --> 0:16:14.520 I'm gonna end up with someone, that person will want 0:16:14.560 --> 0:16:16.280 to be around my friends and will make an effort 0:16:16.320 --> 0:16:20.760 with my friends, and he's going to love all the 0:16:20.800 --> 0:16:23.160 things about me, or at least fucking pretend you know 0:16:23.240 --> 0:16:26.760 what I mean, like pretend that you like that I'm 0:16:26.760 --> 0:16:29.560 a basic bitch, you know, I mean, be my biggest cheerleader. 0:16:29.560 --> 0:16:31.880 And I found those two things in Bo, and it 0:16:32.000 --> 0:16:34.320 was just like something that I had never really or 0:16:34.320 --> 0:16:36.520 I hadn't felt in a really long time. And I 0:16:36.560 --> 0:16:39.360 think that's also something that makes this relationship work, Like 0:16:39.440 --> 0:16:42.160 I never feel like I have to change myself or 0:16:42.200 --> 0:16:44.080 be something different when I'm with Bo. 0:16:44.520 --> 0:16:47.280 And you had met Bo a couple times before and 0:16:47.320 --> 0:16:49.680 like hung out and it was like, no, no, I 0:16:49.680 --> 0:16:53.320 never know, wait, someone didn't Kristen or someone want to 0:16:53.360 --> 0:16:55.200 set you guys up, and you were like you met 0:16:55.200 --> 0:16:56.920 and it was like no, and then one night you 0:16:57.000 --> 0:16:59.320 like hooked up or something or did I make this 0:16:59.440 --> 0:17:00.000 up in my head? 0:17:00.160 --> 0:17:02.440 You're blurring it a little, Okay, tell me. 0:17:02.400 --> 0:17:04.439 Kristen and Katie had wanted to set me up with 0:17:04.480 --> 0:17:07.679 Boe for a while and he didn't want to meet me. 0:17:10.560 --> 0:17:13.640 I love the honesty. You're blurring it. He didn't like me, he. 0:17:13.600 --> 0:17:16.399 Didn't want to know. He saw my Instagram and he 0:17:16.520 --> 0:17:18.520 was like no, like I don't think that this is 0:17:18.560 --> 0:17:21.920 going to work. Whenever I talk about this to him now, 0:17:22.000 --> 0:17:24.639 he's like, obviously, like I thought you were beautiful, and Sonny, 0:17:24.680 --> 0:17:27.879 He's like, I just saw this like blonde, big boobed 0:17:27.920 --> 0:17:31.000 reality star who probably gets like bottle service and clubs 0:17:31.040 --> 0:17:33.280 and stuff like you know what I mean, Like just 0:17:33.359 --> 0:17:36.639 not anything that like would fit in with like my 0:17:36.720 --> 0:17:38.240 life or would want to be with me, Like we 0:17:38.280 --> 0:17:41.040 wouldn't be a good match. So it took a while 0:17:41.119 --> 0:17:43.679 for him to want to meet me. Then when I 0:17:43.760 --> 0:17:47.280 met him, I just want him over with my sparkling personality. 0:17:50.359 --> 0:17:51.960 But it's like, I guess I can take a break 0:17:52.000 --> 0:17:56.200 from Barney's beanery with STOs. 0:17:58.320 --> 0:18:02.399 Literally though nailed it, nailed it, nailed it. 0:18:02.520 --> 0:18:04.119 Such a perfect fit. 0:18:04.320 --> 0:18:06.240 And I love the two of you next to each 0:18:06.280 --> 0:18:09.280 other because you got bo with like most of the 0:18:09.320 --> 0:18:10.159 time a Rams had on. 0:18:10.200 --> 0:18:12.960 He loves the Rams most of the time. Yeah, all 0:18:13.000 --> 0:18:17.080 the time, fual. 0:18:17.520 --> 0:18:21.280 Little button up shirt, jeans, vans, and then stossy just 0:18:22.240 --> 0:18:23.480 in the most basic way. 0:18:23.680 --> 0:18:28.639 I guess, decked to the fucking line. And it's the 0:18:28.680 --> 0:18:33.320 best thing to see. I want that you will find. 0:18:33.359 --> 0:18:38.000 That's manifest that you will Although talking about your co 0:18:38.160 --> 0:18:40.480 parenting and relationship, I'm like, I kind of got that 0:18:40.560 --> 0:18:41.200 with my mom. 0:18:42.840 --> 0:18:45.280 I really got that ship down to with science. 0:18:45.840 --> 0:18:47.160 You really, you really do? 0:18:47.520 --> 0:18:48.040 Were you? 0:18:48.760 --> 0:18:51.560 Because I always tell all I'm like, don't be looking 0:18:51.640 --> 0:18:54.360 for it, not like you are, and that's when it'll come. 0:18:54.400 --> 0:18:57.000