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Speaker 1: Hello, Gorgeous.

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Speaker 2: Today is a very special podcast because it is not

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Speaker 2: just the three amigas, Amiga and Amigo, but I have Stace.

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Speaker 3: This is very exciting. Let me just say, I fucking

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Speaker 3: live for this setup. I feel like I'm on the

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Speaker 3: Morning Show right now, like I'm in an audition, but

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Speaker 3: I feel oddly comfortable.

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Speaker 1: That's good, right, It's like a good kind of cast.

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Speaker 1: It's like an actual one.

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Speaker 3: I love it. I love it.

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Speaker 1: I love it too. Did you like I did like

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Speaker 1: the Versailles with your photo?

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Speaker 3: I know you didn't.

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Speaker 1: No, I did that.

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Speaker 3: You photo shopped it?

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Speaker 1: I did that?

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Speaker 3: Are you joking?

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Speaker 1: I swear to god.

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Speaker 3: That's gonna bring tears to my eyes.

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Speaker 1: It was so special.

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Speaker 3: No, like that made me feel so good. I reposted

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Speaker 3: and I was like, oh my god, the art like

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Speaker 3: Versailles and then like my like yellow big bird Lufa dress,

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Speaker 3: like I loved that dress.

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Speaker 2: I trolled your Instagram and I was like, what photo

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Speaker 2: would she look best in?

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Speaker 1: Being placed at Versailles? And that's the one I choke.

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Speaker 3: I can't believe you know how to photoshop?

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Speaker 1: I know, isn't that hard?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like, la, you didn't even have venmo like

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Speaker 3: four months ago.

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Speaker 2: Which, by the way, didn't realize how annoying it was

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Speaker 2: when someone didn't have Venmo.

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Speaker 3: Shit, literally every time we went to dinner, and I'm like,

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Speaker 3: this fucking bitch, she's so lucky she doesn't drink because

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Speaker 3: it doesn't even matter. I'm like, you only had like

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Speaker 3: one entree. I don't care, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 3: But if you were to be drinking, yeah, and contributing

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Speaker 3: to the alcohol cost and you didn't have Venmo, I

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Speaker 3: want to cut you out as a friend.

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Speaker 2: Oh Dan, maybe I should have not gotten it, because

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Speaker 2: then I'd just be like balling on free meals stas. Yeah, no, Venmo,

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Speaker 2: I finally got it. I learned how to photoshop somewhat. No,

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Speaker 2: all you do is like screenshot the photo and then

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Speaker 2: like hold the actual person in the photo and it

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Speaker 2: copies it, and then you just paste it.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm talking about. Nope, I'm gonna show

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Speaker 1: you how to do this, Okay, show me. No, it's

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Speaker 1: so good.

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Speaker 2: People went insane when I told them that you were

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Speaker 2: coming on the podcast. I literally have not had you on.

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Speaker 2: I don't think since the very first episode of this podcast,

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Speaker 2: since I was pregnant. The three of us meet or Brett.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I only come on this podcast. You only asked

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Speaker 3: me on when I'm pregnant.

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Speaker 1: Well, I feel like I've been pregnant kind of a

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Speaker 1: lot in the past couple of years.

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Speaker 3: I feel like that. And in all fairness, no, like

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Speaker 3: there was a long time where I was like, I'm

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Speaker 3: not doing podcasts, so like, it feels good to be

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Speaker 3: back with you.

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Speaker 1: Asking you to do my podcast was like asking Beyonce. No,

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Speaker 1: for real, Oh.

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Speaker 4: My god, this is the first official studio in studio

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Speaker 4: interview Lala's had.

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Speaker 3: Really, where have you been doing your Oh yeah, their

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Speaker 3: table did the table? Yeah, but the table is so cute,

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Speaker 3: it was.

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Speaker 1: That's great, But this is much better.

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Speaker 3: Honored to be first, honored to be in the same

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Speaker 3: breath as Beyonce right now but always yeah.

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Speaker 2: All, okay, so you're pregnant again. I think you're carrying

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Speaker 2: different this time around.

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Speaker 3: Duh.

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Speaker 1: I'm surprised your shoes fit.

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Speaker 3: No, for real, you guys. When I was pregnant with Harford,

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Speaker 3: within the first I think it was week sixteen, I

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Speaker 3: started to swell and I couldn't fit into any of

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Speaker 3: my shoes. It was also covid. Okay, so I didn't

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Speaker 3: leave my house. I just sat around watching the Great

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Speaker 3: British Bake Off Show, baking all day and eating what

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Speaker 3: I baked all day. So like, yes, I am carrying

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Speaker 3: differently this time around.

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Speaker 1: You think you ate more during that time than now?

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Speaker 3: Yes, really, Lola baked goods morning, noon and night.

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Speaker 1: You did bake a lot. Yes, a lot of people

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Speaker 1: did in COVID.

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Speaker 3: That's all I had to live for cupcakes.

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Speaker 2: I remember who we went on a tripe? Where did

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Speaker 2: we goo?

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Speaker 1: No? I think it was like Mead, Oh, yeah, yeah

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Speaker 1: it was. They're all the sand, They're all the sand.

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Speaker 2: And Stacy fitting her little sausage feet into Chanelle's. I

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Speaker 2: was like, I think we ought to give them up, girl,

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Speaker 2: I think it's time.

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Speaker 3: No, it was sad. It was definitely. You know, like

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Speaker 3: those images of Kim Kardashian when she was pregnant and

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Speaker 3: her feet are like bubbling out of her her heels,

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Speaker 3: that that's what that was. I also think that women

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Speaker 3: carry differently with girls. I think that actually you looked

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Speaker 3: like a goddess. So like this theory doesn't make any sense,

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Speaker 3: but like when you're pregnant with a girl, you get

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Speaker 3: fugly but like when you're pregnant with a boy, they

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Speaker 3: don't steal your beauty. Oh, so many people have written

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Speaker 3: me that that I believe it.

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Speaker 2: Wait now that makes me so nervous because I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Like I didn't gain much weight with Ocean, but she

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Speaker 2: was also small in the tummy. She came three weeks early,

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Speaker 2: but I wouldn't know if I was fugly or not

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Speaker 2: because it was COVID. I was in sweatpants and there

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Speaker 2: was no reason to get ready or put makeup on.

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Speaker 2: Like that's gotta be fun this time around because you

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Speaker 2: can like actually get ready.

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Speaker 3: No, you have no idea. This whole experience has been

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Speaker 3: so different. Like I was scared at first and apprehensive

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Speaker 3: associate it with just like being stuck at home feeling depressed, yeah, baking,

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Speaker 3: not like not putting on clothes, just wearing sweatpants, all

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Speaker 3: reminded that, okay, well life's not like that. And so

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Speaker 3: this time I'm like, what can what? How do I

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Speaker 3: fill my days? How do I jam pack? Them as

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Speaker 3: much as possible. Like even if I'm at home, I

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Speaker 3: put on a cute outfit, I do my hair and

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Speaker 3: my makeup. I just it's so different. Everything about it

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Speaker 2: I believe that I've started saving images of like Rihanna

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Speaker 2: because she's my pregnancy fashion inspo, Like I can't wait

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Speaker 3: You're gonna kill it.

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Speaker 1: I want to kill it.

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Speaker 3: Will.

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Speaker 1: I'm so jealous of you. Why Because for.

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Speaker 2: Me, there's not many relationships that are in I've seen

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Speaker 1: Look at and go, I want that.

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Speaker 2: That's so nice, Lola, Well, it's true, and I talk

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Speaker 2: to you about this on your podcast, But just the

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Speaker 2: way that you and bow parent Hartford, the relationship that

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Speaker 2: the two of you have, you can just tell that

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Speaker 2: you enjoy each other so so much, And I'm wondering

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Speaker 2: And I hate when people ask me this question, but

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Speaker 2: you maintain every being when and when it's not so great?

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Speaker 1: What does that look like?

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Speaker 3: Well, I'll tell you what I'm failing at right now.

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Speaker 3: And I've noticed that I've failed at it for like

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Speaker 3: don't know how to also give myself to my friends

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Speaker 3: I've recognize is like it's suffering, Like I could be better,

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Speaker 3: I think that all of the things, like we both

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Speaker 1: Well you're like one hundred months pregnant, but I.

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Speaker 3: So while you look at us and say that I'm slacking,

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Speaker 2: But I feel that it's not even about like I'm

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Speaker 2: looking at just Instagram and going it's not real life.

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Speaker 2: Like I think you have been totally open and honest

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Speaker 3: Well, the difference between like this relationship and anything else

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Speaker 3: so like that informs everything that I do. Yeah, what

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Speaker 1: You have? Pregnancy breaks right now? Voice?

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Speaker 3: There was a spect part of it. The oh, the

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Speaker 3: fact that we put each other first sometimes before Hartford

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Speaker 3: So like I know that's like controversial to say, like

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Speaker 3: you should always put your kid first, but sometimes no,

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Speaker 3: same page there, okay. And then the third thing is

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Right, So if you're constantly making sure that the.

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Speaker 3: Right. I agree with That's how I feel because like,

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Speaker 2: No, and that's more toxic having that type of situation.

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Speaker 3: Fully agree, la La. My parents divorced when I was

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Speaker 5: I feel like you should watch your parents argue and

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Speaker 4: Do you know what it seems like too, just that

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Speaker 3: And I feel like you do that.

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Speaker 3: it's just something I've been practicing, but I feel so

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Speaker 1: I think you.

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Speaker 2: I think you that you do take a step back

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Speaker 2: It was like, got on the phone, this is annoying me,

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Speaker 1: So I think you're like that, even at least in

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Speaker 2: So I can only imagine what it's like when you're

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Speaker 3: Thanks. Yeah, I guess I am.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: I think you're doing great, sweetie.

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Speaker 2: Speaking of your relationship, was there anything that you feel

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Speaker 2: Did you take a step back from that and say,

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Speaker 1: Or did that just kind of happen with Bo?

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Speaker 3: No? I knew No, I knew what because he because

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Speaker 3: Man Bun made me realize definitely what I don't want. Okay,

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Speaker 3: Man Bun made me feel bad about my job, bad

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Speaker 3: Reality TV, didn't like the quirky I don't think he

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Speaker 3: liked my basic bitchness. He didn't. There's so he wanted

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Speaker 3: And I found those two things in Bo, and it

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Speaker 2: And you had met Bo a couple times before and

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Speaker 2: never know, wait, someone didn't Kristen or someone want to

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Speaker 1: You're blurring it a little, Okay, tell me.

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Speaker 3: Kristen and Katie had wanted to set me up with

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Speaker 1: I love the honesty. You're blurring it. He didn't like me, he.

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Speaker 3: Didn't want to know. He saw my Instagram and he

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Speaker 3: was like no, like I don't think that this is

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Speaker 3: he's like, obviously, like I thought you were beautiful, and Sonny,

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Speaker 3: He's like, I just saw this like blonde, big boobed

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Speaker 2: But it's like, I guess I can take a break

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Speaker 3: Literally though nailed it, nailed it, nailed it.

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Speaker 2: And I love the two of you next to each

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Speaker 3: He loves the Rams most of the time. Yeah, all

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Speaker 1: I guess, decked to the fucking line. And it's the

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Speaker 2: That's manifest that you will Although talking about your co

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Speaker 1: I really got that ship down to with science.

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Speaker 3: You really, you really do?

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Speaker 4: Because I always tell all I'm like, don't be looking

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Speaker 3: No, see, that's true. That's that's the thing. I was

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Speaker 3: because one day you're not gonna have it, Like you

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Speaker 3: I was in no hurry to disrupt it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and you like loved your your apartment that you were.

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Speaker 3: Like, I love that apartment. It loved it.

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Speaker 1: I loved all of it. It was totally your vibe.

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Speaker 2: like when y'all have kids, And you're like, well, what

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Speaker 3: No, that did not happen. Oh okay, the market's crazy

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Speaker 3: right now, Lola. I'm gonna die in this house.

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Speaker 1: Literally, I could think of worse places to die.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. No, I know. And I feel like a brat

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Speaker 3: when I complain about it, because I am so in

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Speaker 2: But like Ocean has the tiniest closet ever, because I

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Speaker 3: Hearts. I guess Hartford doesn't have a closet. She has

442
00:20:54,440 --> 00:20:55,080
Speaker 3: an armoire.

443
00:20:55,359 --> 00:21:00,240
Speaker 1: Okay, that's all she needs, right the closer it's so

444
00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:02,400
Speaker 1: small that no, I had to give up your room

445
00:21:02,440 --> 00:21:03,080
Speaker 1: of a closet.

446
00:21:03,160 --> 00:21:04,520
Speaker 3: Yes I did, Yes, I did.

447
00:21:04,600 --> 00:21:05,680
Speaker 1: The new baby is it done?

448
00:21:06,520 --> 00:21:10,160
Speaker 3: No, it's not. And that's literally I cried like once

449
00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:14,080
Speaker 3: a day pregnancy hormones because I'm just like nothing's ready.

450
00:21:14,160 --> 00:21:16,600
Speaker 3: I do not feel prepared. When I was pregnant with Harford,

451
00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:19,600
Speaker 3: everything was done within like for the first four months

452
00:21:19,600 --> 00:21:22,359
Speaker 3: because COVID baking, I had nothing to fucking do. But

453
00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:25,440
Speaker 3: this time, nothing is done. And I feel like if

454
00:21:25,440 --> 00:21:28,359
Speaker 3: this baby were to come, like where the fuck would

455
00:21:28,359 --> 00:21:29,640
Speaker 3: I put him? What would I do?

456
00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:31,679
Speaker 1: I don't feel do you have a bassinet?

457
00:21:31,960 --> 00:21:34,560
Speaker 3: I do, but like nothing else is done.

458
00:21:34,680 --> 00:21:36,040
Speaker 1: That's okay, it's the second baby.

459
00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:38,240
Speaker 2: It's like those commercials where it's like first kid and

460
00:21:38,280 --> 00:21:40,080
Speaker 2: you're like freaking out about everything.

461
00:21:40,200 --> 00:21:42,720
Speaker 1: Second kids, you're like, it's like you just kind of

462
00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:43,720
Speaker 1: wing it a little bit more.

463
00:21:43,800 --> 00:21:44,360
Speaker 3: No, for sure.

464
00:21:44,400 --> 00:21:45,440
Speaker 1: How do you feel about the snow?

465
00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:47,800
Speaker 3: Hartford hated it, so I'm not doing I'm not getting

466
00:21:47,840 --> 00:21:48,200
Speaker 3: it again.

467
00:21:48,480 --> 00:21:50,679
Speaker 2: I saw the price tag on that, and I was like,

468
00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:51,840
Speaker 2: we ain't snowing.

469
00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:54,800
Speaker 3: Oh, none of you guys, speaking of what's the snow.

470
00:21:55,200 --> 00:21:59,120
Speaker 3: It's supposed to be this miracle crib, so it moves,

471
00:22:00,160 --> 00:22:03,920
Speaker 3: so the baby's constantly being rocked, which so many babies

472
00:22:03,960 --> 00:22:07,160
Speaker 3: like are obsessed with it sleep through the night right away.

473
00:22:07,480 --> 00:22:10,239
Speaker 3: Hartford did not like it. It was so expensive. We were

474
00:22:10,240 --> 00:22:13,080
Speaker 3: able to like sell it on Craigslist, but for a

475
00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:14,359
Speaker 3: fraction of the price.

476
00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:16,200
Speaker 1: It's like, what a couple thousand dollars.

477
00:22:16,240 --> 00:22:17,840
Speaker 3: I think it's like two thousand dollars. I think we

478
00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:19,800
Speaker 3: like sold it just to get it out of the house.

479
00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:23,000
Speaker 3: I think like three hundred dollars lost money on it.

480
00:22:23,400 --> 00:22:27,160
Speaker 3: I would say this, like, if this baby sucks it sleeping,

481
00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:30,760
Speaker 3: I would consider renting it to try it out. But

482
00:22:30,960 --> 00:22:33,040
Speaker 3: do not buy the snow. You guys. If I could

483
00:22:33,119 --> 00:22:36,119
Speaker 3: just give anyone any advice, just don't buy the fucking snow.

484
00:22:36,480 --> 00:22:38,240
Speaker 1: I don't think you should buy the snow either.

485
00:22:38,800 --> 00:22:41,120
Speaker 2: It Also, I think it's like a straight jacket in there,

486
00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:44,240
Speaker 2: so they're like attached to it and then it rocks them,

487
00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:45,840
Speaker 2: and then if they wake up even a little bit,

488
00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:48,399
Speaker 2: it starts rocking again. But a lot of my friends

489
00:22:48,440 --> 00:22:51,200
Speaker 2: who used the snow, their kids are.

490
00:22:51,080 --> 00:22:52,080
Speaker 1: In their bed now.

491
00:22:52,600 --> 00:22:54,879
Speaker 3: I hear that in the parents, in my parents.

492
00:22:55,720 --> 00:22:58,040
Speaker 4: Unless this new wants to be a sponsor of the podcast,

493
00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:02,000
Speaker 4: then all my little.

494
00:23:01,800 --> 00:23:04,439
Speaker 1: Ass off, don't give you one too.

495
00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:10,560
Speaker 2: People loved us talking about style on your podcast. Yes, okay,

496
00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:14,280
Speaker 2: the first thing I want to know is what is

497
00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:17,600
Speaker 2: one of your least favorite trends that has ever existed,

498
00:23:17,640 --> 00:23:20,359
Speaker 2: whether you took it on or not. Like, what trend

499
00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:23,560
Speaker 2: did you hate of all the times of trending?

500
00:23:24,240 --> 00:23:26,480
Speaker 3: Okay, And I won't be able to say, like my

501
00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:29,800
Speaker 3: absolute least favorite because I would need to give that

502
00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:32,520
Speaker 3: days and days of thought, of course. Okay, so right

503
00:23:32,560 --> 00:23:37,639
Speaker 3: now I'm going to say, like those big, like big

504
00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:41,200
Speaker 3: chunky sandals I just like, can't.

505
00:23:40,960 --> 00:23:43,480
Speaker 1: Get like Ferman munster looking sandals.

506
00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:46,919
Speaker 3: Yes, they're so masculine, or like even when people wear birkenstocks,

507
00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:49,359
Speaker 3: or like those big slides.

508
00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:51,679
Speaker 1: Do you hate those worse than the bucket hat? Oh?

509
00:23:51,840 --> 00:23:56,640
Speaker 3: Fuck, bucket hat shit? Never mind the bucket hats number one.

510
00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:58,680
Speaker 3: I'll say bucket hats number one. No one looks cute.

511
00:23:58,880 --> 00:24:01,880
Speaker 3: It literally takes away from your attractiveness, Like no one

512
00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:04,080
Speaker 3: looks good in a bucket hat. So like, don't do it, babies,

513
00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:06,480
Speaker 3: that's it. But even Hardford sometimes like, take the bucket

514
00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:07,840
Speaker 3: hat off. I can't.

515
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:11,680
Speaker 1: I showed up to Stoce's one time in a burbery

516
00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:14,439
Speaker 1: bucket hat. She did not give a damn. She's like,

517
00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:16,240
Speaker 1: it's hideous, take it off.

518
00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:18,720
Speaker 2: And I did buy some prouda Herman Monster shoes and

519
00:24:18,720 --> 00:24:19,760
Speaker 2: I've only worn them one time.

520
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:22,800
Speaker 3: Oh no, no, you're talking about the loafers, the lofers.

521
00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:24,439
Speaker 3: Oh I live for a loafer.

522
00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:27,879
Speaker 2: No, they're not a loafer. They are the exact sandal

523
00:24:27,920 --> 00:24:30,879
Speaker 2: that you're talking about. Okay, so bulky okay. And I

524
00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:33,119
Speaker 2: don't really know what I was thinking when I bought that.

525
00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:37,240
Speaker 3: I think that everyone who is wearing these big chunky

526
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:40,919
Speaker 3: sandals will all collectively look back at this moment in

527
00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:43,439
Speaker 3: time and say, what the fuck were we thinking?

528
00:24:43,520 --> 00:24:46,119
Speaker 2: What do you think it'll be in comparison to like back, like,

529
00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:47,680
Speaker 2: what will be the equivalent from back today?

530
00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:51,160
Speaker 3: Necklaces the way that I wore them? You love the stream,

531
00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:53,640
Speaker 3: But I look back and I'm like, what the fuck?

532
00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:57,600
Speaker 3: Why was I wear wearing armor with every outfit? I

533
00:24:57,640 --> 00:25:02,760
Speaker 3: would literally eat to the beach. Literally.

534
00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:04,840
Speaker 2: I don't know what's weirder, though, is you on a

535
00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:08,200
Speaker 2: beach or a statement necklace on the beach.

536
00:25:08,720 --> 00:25:11,240
Speaker 3: I'm not really like a beach girly like I'll go.

537
00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:14,560
Speaker 2: But nos is like, take me somewhere that's frigid and

538
00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:15,800
Speaker 2: it's very old.

539
00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:18,960
Speaker 3: I'm a city girl, city an old city girl.

540
00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:22,840
Speaker 4: So you don't like the chunky, so you're probably not

541
00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:24,200
Speaker 4: a What do you think about docs?

542
00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:27,760
Speaker 3: Do Martin? The platform?

543
00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:29,320
Speaker 1: Any docs? You hate them?

544
00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:32,440
Speaker 3: I don't hate them because I think there's a way

545
00:25:32,480 --> 00:25:35,199
Speaker 3: to style them that I think is interesting. Okay, So

546
00:25:35,280 --> 00:25:37,959
Speaker 3: like I just because I'm not wearing them doesn't mean

547
00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:39,800
Speaker 3: I can't appreciate them on somebody else.

548
00:25:40,119 --> 00:25:43,280
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, I can't picture you want a doc? Martin?

549
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:47,600
Speaker 3: No it's not me. You're like a delicate I prefer

550
00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:50,760
Speaker 3: a feminine shoe. Yes, it makes me feel my best.

551
00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:53,840
Speaker 2: Like there are times where I'll go to like Bloomingdale's

552
00:25:53,880 --> 00:25:56,520
Speaker 2: and be like, oh my gosh, Stas has not these

553
00:25:56,560 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 2: exact shoes because we know STOs is like, do not

554
00:25:59,400 --> 00:25:59,879
Speaker 2: buy what I have?

555
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:00,240
Speaker 3: No.

556
00:26:02,600 --> 00:26:04,879
Speaker 1: I put them on and I'm like, I look ridiculous.

557
00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:08,280
Speaker 4: Really, No, Can you do me a favorite and describe

558
00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:09,840
Speaker 4: your style in three words?

559
00:26:10,160 --> 00:26:12,400
Speaker 3: Oh my god, so funny that you just asked me this.

560
00:26:12,520 --> 00:26:15,879
Speaker 3: But I love this because I just had on Alison

561
00:26:16,680 --> 00:26:20,080
Speaker 3: what's her last bornstein? Okay, okay, she's the one on

562
00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:24,480
Speaker 3: TikTok who's gone viral, who who did did the three

563
00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:27,800
Speaker 3: word method for your style? And I was so excited

564
00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:29,560
Speaker 3: to have her on my podcast. The episode didn't come

565
00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:32,359
Speaker 3: out yet, and I've been like, Allison, I've been trying

566
00:26:32,400 --> 00:26:35,080
Speaker 3: to think of my three words for like a year now,

567
00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:37,560
Speaker 3: and I like all my words are boring when I

568
00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:41,639
Speaker 3: hear them together. Because I was like classic, chic, polished.

569
00:26:41,680 --> 00:26:44,280
Speaker 3: I'm like, that's fucking boring, like all three of those together.

570
00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:46,480
Speaker 3: And then she's like, I'm going to figure out your words,

571
00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:49,639
Speaker 3: and she went through my closet. Okay. She looked at

572
00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:51,639
Speaker 3: everything and she's like, I know, I know what it is.

573
00:26:51,680 --> 00:26:54,560
Speaker 3: She goes, classic is one of them, and she goes

574
00:26:54,600 --> 00:26:56,639
Speaker 3: and chic can be one of them. But she's like,

575
00:26:56,680 --> 00:27:03,159
Speaker 3: your other one is baroque. What is like versa Ill Okay, baroque,

576
00:27:03,480 --> 00:27:08,199
Speaker 3: like you know, like the style of Versailles. Yes, And

577
00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:10,120
Speaker 3: I'm like, that is it? Because she's like, you love

578
00:27:10,200 --> 00:27:13,960
Speaker 3: like a fluffy sleeve, you love jewels on everything, Like

579
00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:18,440
Speaker 3: there's this like element of like barokeness to your style,

580
00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 3: but you still dress pretty classic.

581
00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:22,560
Speaker 2: I originally thought you said broke, and I was like,

582
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:28,399
Speaker 2: hold up, she may be basic broke.

583
00:27:29,080 --> 00:27:31,000
Speaker 3: No, it's like the way that it got me excited.

584
00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:33,919
Speaker 3: I can't. It made my It made my year. It

585
00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:35,040
Speaker 3: made my year to hear that word.

586
00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:40,000
Speaker 2: That's actually so because when we went to Versailles. Yes,

587
00:27:40,040 --> 00:27:42,880
Speaker 2: to Versailles, you looked like if I were to put

588
00:27:42,920 --> 00:27:45,200
Speaker 2: you onto the wall, it would just blend.

589
00:27:45,320 --> 00:27:47,879
Speaker 3: Thank you, because I dress again for a theme.

590
00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:49,800
Speaker 1: Okay, so we have your three words.

591
00:27:49,920 --> 00:27:52,200
Speaker 3: What are your three words? Let's do it. Oh my god,

592
00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:52,639
Speaker 3: oh this.

593
00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:54,399
Speaker 1: Will be wait. I want to know because you're into

594
00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 1: this stuff.

595
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:57,919
Speaker 3: What would mine be Okay, I would say sexy or

596
00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:00,640
Speaker 3: something that has to do with that word, like something

597
00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:02,960
Speaker 3: that it doesn't have to exactly be that word, but

598
00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:05,360
Speaker 3: it could be a synonym for it. Okay, like you

599
00:28:05,359 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 3: you're a hot person, like you dress like a hot person.

600
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:07,919
Speaker 1: Thank you.

601
00:28:07,960 --> 00:28:10,320
Speaker 3: Okay, So like that has to be one of your words.

602
00:28:10,560 --> 00:28:14,439
Speaker 3: I think elevated should be one of your words. I'm okay.

603
00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:18,520
Speaker 3: So like sexy and elevated and then casual.

604
00:28:19,240 --> 00:28:20,480
Speaker 1: Bam, that's it.

605
00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:23,679
Speaker 3: Yeah, along the same lines, it's like you don't dress

606
00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:25,439
Speaker 3: up that I mean, yes, you do dress up, and

607
00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:28,119
Speaker 3: but even still when you dress up, it's there's an

608
00:28:28,200 --> 00:28:31,760
Speaker 3: element of like California casualness, sire, you know.

609
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:35,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's how I've always been, Like, yes, I want

610
00:28:35,720 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 2: to look good, but above all else, I'm trying to

611
00:28:38,200 --> 00:28:38,959
Speaker 2: be comfortable.

612
00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:42,120
Speaker 3: Yeah. So like write those down and if you like

613
00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:44,280
Speaker 3: want to tweak them go for me.

614
00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:49,600
Speaker 2: We said sexy, yeah, casual, elevated, Wow.

615
00:28:49,280 --> 00:28:52,680
Speaker 3: Because you still you still always look put together and elevated,

616
00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:55,000
Speaker 3: like you never look like a casual like slob.

617
00:28:55,320 --> 00:28:57,160
Speaker 1: I think that's because I spend money on my shoes

618
00:28:57,160 --> 00:28:57,720
Speaker 1: and bags.

619
00:28:57,920 --> 00:29:00,360
Speaker 3: Oh that's what that's what I say too, Like I

620
00:29:00,400 --> 00:29:03,040
Speaker 3: don't spend money on clothes like that. Shit can be

621
00:29:03,040 --> 00:29:07,320
Speaker 3: from anywhere, Like yeah, but bags and shoes that's important.

622
00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:09,880
Speaker 3: What about jewelry, No, I'm big. I'm huge on jewelry.

623
00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:14,240
Speaker 2: I know you are always fingers dripping the neck, be drippen.

624
00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:17,239
Speaker 3: There is nothing that makes me more excited to like

625
00:29:17,320 --> 00:29:21,640
Speaker 3: put on like in the morning than jewelry overclothes, overshoes,

626
00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:24,600
Speaker 3: over purses, over makeup, overhair. Like I feel my best

627
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 3: when I'm in jewelry.

628
00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:30,520
Speaker 1: I relate to that with my hoops.

629
00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:32,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, see, we all have our things.

630
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:35,240
Speaker 1: What's the thing you own a pair of hoops?

631
00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:39,120
Speaker 3: I you know what I think I do because during

632
00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:43,200
Speaker 3: COVID we're like so big and everywhere, and I was like,

633
00:29:43,280 --> 00:29:45,280
Speaker 3: maybe I'm a hoops Gurly and I bought them. I

634
00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:47,400
Speaker 3: wore them once. I'm like, I'm not a hoops Gurly.

635
00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:49,680
Speaker 1: Okay, can we please do this one night?

636
00:29:49,840 --> 00:29:51,000
Speaker 3: We're gonna dress each other.

637
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:53,600
Speaker 2: Yes, we're going out to dinner. I'm dressing you, You're

638
00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:56,080
Speaker 2: dressing me. We're gonna feel very uncomfortable, but it's.

639
00:29:56,000 --> 00:30:00,440
Speaker 3: Okay once I get like peact again absolutely, because you're

640
00:30:00,480 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 3: not going to dress me in your sexy sexy, casual,

641
00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:03,800
Speaker 3: elevated style.

642
00:30:04,040 --> 00:30:06,160
Speaker 2: I want to dress you like Rihanna with a bump.

643
00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 2: I would have the best time, Oh my god, like

644
00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:13,560
Speaker 2: the best. I've never walked out showing my bump. Ever,

645
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 2: oh you're missing out, like ever. The only time I

646
00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:19,280
Speaker 2: got to do it was when we went to I

647
00:30:19,280 --> 00:30:21,920
Speaker 2: think Katie's house and I wore a crop top and like,

648
00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:24,240
Speaker 2: all we did was just sit there. I also think

649
00:30:24,280 --> 00:30:27,640
Speaker 2: I dyed my hair a little bit. Pink covid was

650
00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:28,480
Speaker 2: a weird time.

651
00:30:28,280 --> 00:30:31,120
Speaker 3: You did have pink covid suckedvid.

652
00:30:30,360 --> 00:30:31,400
Speaker 1: Was a very weird time.

653
00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:32,200
Speaker 3: It really was.

654
00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:34,000
Speaker 1: What's the ugliest you've ever felt?

655
00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:38,560
Speaker 3: Oh? Probably like no, no, I would go with like when.

656
00:30:38,440 --> 00:30:40,800
Speaker 2: Either without being pregnant, I want to know the ugliest

657
00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:42,840
Speaker 2: ever in your lifetime that you've ever felt.

658
00:30:42,960 --> 00:30:48,480
Speaker 3: I genuinely feel ugly pregnant without like my hair, makeup

659
00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:51,959
Speaker 3: and clothes. Like this weekend I've felt me and Harford

660
00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:53,760
Speaker 3: have been sick and we didn't leave the house and like,

661
00:30:54,120 --> 00:30:57,080
Speaker 3: so I didn't do anything to myself. Yeah, and I

662
00:30:57,360 --> 00:31:02,640
Speaker 3: truly feel like Quasimoto. I feel like a beast, Like

663
00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:04,880
Speaker 3: I'm not one of those people that loves being pregnant.

664
00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:08,000
Speaker 3: I do the best with it, Like I'm I'm so

665
00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:10,040
Speaker 3: thankful that I am so I like try to make

666
00:31:10,080 --> 00:31:12,000
Speaker 3: the most out of being pregnant. I feel guilty when

667
00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:14,120
Speaker 3: people message me and they're like, God, you know, you

668
00:31:14,160 --> 00:31:16,080
Speaker 3: make pregnancy look so easy and so fun, and I

669
00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:19,280
Speaker 3: love your attitude towards it. I'm like, fucking attitude towards it.

670
00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:21,560
Speaker 3: I hate this shit, Like, I hate this shit. I

671
00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:24,200
Speaker 3: can't wait to be hot, hot person again. So like,

672
00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:27,640
Speaker 3: I'm not somebody that loves being pregnant. I don't feel

673
00:31:27,640 --> 00:31:29,520
Speaker 3: good about myself when I'm pregnant.

674
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:31,800
Speaker 1: That is so crazy.

675
00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:35,240
Speaker 3: Maybe, but maybe postpartums worse though. Postpartums worse like those

676
00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:37,760
Speaker 3: like first couple months after you give birth, when your

677
00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:40,320
Speaker 3: belly's like deflated and like your thighs are still chafing,

678
00:31:40,360 --> 00:31:41,440
Speaker 3: and you're like, what the fuck is.

679
00:31:41,440 --> 00:31:43,719
Speaker 1: Like I felt so hot after I dropped Ocean out

680
00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:44,000
Speaker 1: of the game.

681
00:31:44,040 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 3: That's me because that is because within three days you

682
00:31:49,680 --> 00:31:55,360
Speaker 3: looked exactly how you did pre pregnancy. It was disgustingly

683
00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:58,200
Speaker 3: unfair and rude, rude.

684
00:31:58,440 --> 00:31:59,040
Speaker 1: That is true.

685
00:31:59,040 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 2: But what if my second this is what I'm nervous about,

686
00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:02,720
Speaker 2: is the second baby.

687
00:32:02,800 --> 00:32:06,560
Speaker 3: What if it like You'll be fine. You really, I laala,

688
00:32:06,760 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 3: you are gonna be more than fine.

689
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:10,600
Speaker 1: I'm starting to prep my body now.

690
00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:13,280
Speaker 3: You're never gonna have to worry about not being a

691
00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:13,800
Speaker 3: hot person.

692
00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:15,480
Speaker 1: Trust I kind of agree.

693
00:32:15,560 --> 00:32:18,640
Speaker 2: I agree, Okay from Stacy's mouth to fucking God. Yes,

694
00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:21,680
Speaker 2: I'm taking it up with the man. If that ever changes,

695
00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:22,240
Speaker 2: You're fine.

696
00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:24,920
Speaker 4: But do you ever look back at photos of yourself

697
00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:27,080
Speaker 4: the first time pregnant and be like I felt so ugly,

698
00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:28,080
Speaker 4: but look how cute I was?

699
00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:28,400
Speaker 5: No?

700
00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:32,840
Speaker 3: Really, no, I look back. I do this every night, Okay,

701
00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:36,160
Speaker 3: I look back just to make myself feel better at all,

702
00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:38,880
Speaker 3: like the exact week that I was pregnant with Hartford

703
00:32:38,920 --> 00:32:42,440
Speaker 3: at the week I am like currently, so that I

704
00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:44,560
Speaker 3: can see how much uglier I was than I am

705
00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:47,640
Speaker 3: right now, Oh my, to make myself feel better about

706
00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:50,800
Speaker 3: where I am right now? Are you?

707
00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:56,480
Speaker 2: Are you nervous about this second baby coming? Not because

708
00:32:56,480 --> 00:33:00,560
Speaker 2: it's a second child, but like, for example, I sit

709
00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:02,960
Speaker 2: there and with Ocean and like, in my mind, she

710
00:33:02,960 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 2: couldn't get any cuter, anymore perfect, And like I think about, okay,

711
00:33:06,520 --> 00:33:09,000
Speaker 2: when another baby comes into play, like.

712
00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:11,080
Speaker 1: Is it gonna be as cool?

713
00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:12,920
Speaker 2: Is it gonna be as cool as ocean to where

714
00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:14,880
Speaker 2: I'm like, Okay, I love you just as much, or

715
00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:15,760
Speaker 2: am I gonna be like.

716
00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:16,719
Speaker 1: I don't know about this.

717
00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:20,920
Speaker 3: I'm not worried about that. I'm worried that it's gonna

718
00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:25,520
Speaker 3: like totally disrupt all the things I love about my

719
00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:28,200
Speaker 3: life right now. Like I love my life right now.

720
00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:31,680
Speaker 3: I love our little family, and I love like how

721
00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:34,240
Speaker 3: we handle Hartford. I love how we do things together.

722
00:33:34,400 --> 00:33:36,560
Speaker 3: And everything that I hear about having a second baby

723
00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:39,160
Speaker 3: is like you don't really get to spend time with

724
00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:42,000
Speaker 3: your partner that much anymore because you're just like separated,

725
00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:45,280
Speaker 3: taking care of once, taking care of each kid. And

726
00:33:45,360 --> 00:33:48,360
Speaker 3: so I'm mainly worried about like what that will do,

727
00:33:48,680 --> 00:33:51,440
Speaker 3: how a second child will disrupt our flow.

728
00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:55,400
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm obviously not a parent of two kids, so

729
00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:59,520
Speaker 2: I'll probably be coming to you for advice. However, I

730
00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:02,800
Speaker 2: think if you and bo can really create for the

731
00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:04,760
Speaker 2: first I know it sounds like a really long time,

732
00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:08,200
Speaker 2: but think about it, it flies by. Hartford's already what over

733
00:34:08,239 --> 00:34:11,880
Speaker 2: two and a half. If you can say, okay, for

734
00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:14,319
Speaker 2: this amount of time, it's gonna take maybe a year

735
00:34:14,360 --> 00:34:16,719
Speaker 2: and a half two years of where things may be

736
00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:20,760
Speaker 2: a little bit funky because then once this baby boy

737
00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:23,120
Speaker 2: is you know, old enough.

738
00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:25,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, they're gonna be playing together totally.

739
00:34:25,320 --> 00:34:27,200
Speaker 3: And no, I And that's something that I tell Bow

740
00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:29,080
Speaker 3: all the time because he gets more stressed out with

741
00:34:29,200 --> 00:34:32,120
Speaker 3: like Hartford than I do. And I'm like, bo, this

742
00:34:32,239 --> 00:34:35,719
Speaker 3: is temporary. Everything that you're feeling right now is temporary.

743
00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:40,200
Speaker 3: This tantrum is temporary. How she's acting is temporary. When

744
00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:43,960
Speaker 3: this baby comes, that will be temporary. It like life's

745
00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:46,800
Speaker 3: always changing, so like when you feel like getting frustrated,

746
00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 3: just like, it's not always gonna be like this.

747
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:51,000
Speaker 1: That's so crazy that you're the one that's saying though.

748
00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:53,000
Speaker 3: No, it is so weird that like I have like

749
00:34:53,320 --> 00:34:57,040
Speaker 3: this like weird amount of patience when it's but like

750
00:34:57,120 --> 00:34:58,640
Speaker 3: I don't have patience with anything else.

751
00:34:58,840 --> 00:35:00,600
Speaker 2: It is crazy because when I see you with Hartford,

752
00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:03,799
Speaker 2: she could be having a meltdown and Starsy's like it'll end.

753
00:35:04,719 --> 00:35:06,200
Speaker 3: No but true, And I'm like I don't want to

754
00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:08,840
Speaker 3: match her energy and then all of a sudden like

755
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:11,680
Speaker 3: be wound up in fucking crazy because then she's gonna

756
00:35:11,680 --> 00:35:14,080
Speaker 3: think that like, oh, well that's that's the norm. No,

757
00:35:14,160 --> 00:35:15,359
Speaker 3: I'm like I gotta stay calm.

758
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:18,919
Speaker 4: It causes anxiety too, because love my parents to death.

759
00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:20,000
Speaker 3: But that's what my mom was.

760
00:35:20,040 --> 00:35:21,719
Speaker 4: She was like, if I got wound up, she got

761
00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:24,920
Speaker 4: wound up, and then I grew up with anxiety because

762
00:35:24,960 --> 00:35:25,239
Speaker 4: of it.

763
00:35:25,880 --> 00:35:30,040
Speaker 1: Good for you, Well you would have had it anyway.

764
00:35:30,640 --> 00:35:32,600
Speaker 1: Do you compare Hartford to other kids?

765
00:35:32,920 --> 00:35:35,960
Speaker 3: Fuck? Yeah, you're a liar if you say that, you're

766
00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:38,799
Speaker 3: not comparing your children. The other day also I heard

767
00:35:38,840 --> 00:35:42,640
Speaker 3: both said to Harford, he goes ocean would never do this.

768
00:35:44,040 --> 00:35:46,360
Speaker 3: And I was in the other room and I'm like,

769
00:35:47,120 --> 00:35:49,200
Speaker 3: we can't do that. Okay, we can say it behind

770
00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:54,160
Speaker 3: her back, but we cannot ever say that.

771
00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:56,360
Speaker 1: Wait, what was she doing? What was Hartford?

772
00:35:56,560 --> 00:35:58,600
Speaker 3: I don't know. One of the things whenever I tell

773
00:35:58,640 --> 00:36:01,080
Speaker 3: her no, she does the opposite, which I get is

774
00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:04,920
Speaker 3: a normal thing for toddlers, like totally normal, test their boundaries,

775
00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:08,000
Speaker 3: all that stuff. But it was just one of those things,

776
00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 3: like she she just she's disrupted all day long. Okay,

777
00:36:11,080 --> 00:36:12,719
Speaker 3: So like it's hard for me to pinpoint exactly what

778
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:16,120
Speaker 3: she was doing this one time. But I literally heard

779
00:36:16,360 --> 00:36:19,920
Speaker 3: in the other room say that, and I'm like, no, no,

780
00:36:20,040 --> 00:36:22,120
Speaker 3: we can't say that. We say that behind her back.

781
00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:25,560
Speaker 2: Bo my good parents. We only talk shit behind our

782
00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:29,400
Speaker 2: kids back. Yes, not to their faces, no, but with Ocean.

783
00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:31,400
Speaker 2: If I want her to do something, I have to

784
00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:33,160
Speaker 2: tell her not to do it. Like I'll be like,

785
00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:35,279
Speaker 2: because we had to take Santa Claus away, I told you.

786
00:36:35,480 --> 00:36:35,680
Speaker 3: Yeah.

787
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:39,279
Speaker 1: So I'm like, don't you brush your teeth? Don't you

788
00:36:39,320 --> 00:36:40,400
Speaker 1: brush your teeth?

789
00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:45,680
Speaker 3: That's actually And then she's like, that's pretty genius, genius.

790
00:36:45,800 --> 00:36:48,439
Speaker 3: I would like to try that. I'm gonna go home

791
00:36:48,480 --> 00:36:58,080
Speaker 3: today and be like, you better not fucking eat your dinner, bitch, bitch,

792
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:03,440
Speaker 3: I can't breath. You're gonna get so many messages from

793
00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:06,320
Speaker 3: people being like, that's sassy calling her kid a bit again,

794
00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:10,640
Speaker 3: don't worry, everyone relaxed. It's a joke ever to her face,

795
00:37:11,880 --> 00:37:13,600
Speaker 3: but it's all good.

796
00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:22,240
Speaker 2: So many people are asking about your Taylor swift Era's

797
00:37:22,320 --> 00:37:23,359
Speaker 2: tour experience.

798
00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:26,160
Speaker 3: Oh wow, did you go? No?

799
00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:29,240
Speaker 2: No, I got invited and I was like, I'm good,

800
00:37:29,520 --> 00:37:30,279
Speaker 2: and now I'm what.

801
00:37:31,719 --> 00:37:31,880
Speaker 3: I know.

802
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:34,920
Speaker 1: I know I didn't go, but congrats on going.

803
00:37:35,200 --> 00:37:37,120
Speaker 3: It was like one of the best experiences of my life.

804
00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:39,320
Speaker 2: It would have been mine too, And I was a

805
00:37:39,400 --> 00:37:41,000
Speaker 2: dumb ass and was like I don't really listen to

806
00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:41,600
Speaker 2: her music.

807
00:37:42,040 --> 00:37:44,480
Speaker 3: That would have been a really fun girls thing to

808
00:37:44,520 --> 00:37:48,359
Speaker 3: do together like that. That's actually that's a bummer. It's

809
00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:52,520
Speaker 3: a huge about that. Actually, do you like Beyonce? Of course,

810
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:57,120
Speaker 3: everyone loves Beyonce, and I hope to get tickets to Beyonce. You.

811
00:37:57,280 --> 00:37:58,960
Speaker 1: I want to see if you can come on the fourth.

812
00:37:59,640 --> 00:38:00,480
Speaker 3: It's on the fourth.

813
00:38:00,640 --> 00:38:03,239
Speaker 2: I'm going on the fourth. It's Beyonce's birthday and I'm

814
00:38:03,239 --> 00:38:06,560
Speaker 2: gonna go for my birthday. What the fourth of oh September.

815
00:38:06,640 --> 00:38:09,360
Speaker 1: Oh, you're giving birth like two days after Never.

816
00:38:09,200 --> 00:38:13,360
Speaker 3: Mind, for that's actually really sucky.

817
00:38:13,520 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 1: What if you gave birth at the Beyonce concert?

818
00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:18,720
Speaker 3: I was literally thinking about that at Taylor Swift because

819
00:38:18,719 --> 00:38:22,080
Speaker 3: I was in pain. Wait really no, it was It's

820
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:26,120
Speaker 3: such a long night and you get there early and

821
00:38:26,160 --> 00:38:28,040
Speaker 3: then she goes on for so long that I'm like,

822
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:32,640
Speaker 3: this is I am physically hurting so badly, but I'm

823
00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:35,719
Speaker 3: having so much fun. I mean, you had good seats. No,

824
00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:38,160
Speaker 3: it was incredible. I went with free People, and like,

825
00:38:38,440 --> 00:38:40,319
Speaker 3: I will be loyal to free People forever and ever

826
00:38:40,440 --> 00:38:41,280
Speaker 3: until I die.

827
00:38:41,480 --> 00:38:45,160
Speaker 1: Like you went with free People. What a perfect Taylor

828
00:38:45,239 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 1: Swift brand.

829
00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:48,920
Speaker 3: Right, to go, I know, And I was like so

830
00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:51,759
Speaker 3: excited to pick out clothes from their website to wear

831
00:38:51,800 --> 00:38:54,360
Speaker 3: to tailor swift and then I'm like, I'm pregnant. I

832
00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:56,560
Speaker 3: can't wear any of this fucking shit. All I could

833
00:38:56,760 --> 00:38:58,319
Speaker 3: all I could get was like, Okay, I guess this

834
00:38:58,400 --> 00:39:02,160
Speaker 3: blazer will fit me, like fun, like whatever.

835
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:03,759
Speaker 1: Was it the most?

836
00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:07,160
Speaker 2: Because I know that Hartford's is swifty, yes, but are

837
00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:07,920
Speaker 2: you as swifty?

838
00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:11,359
Speaker 3: I so I never know whether I'm allowed to call

839
00:39:11,400 --> 00:39:13,920
Speaker 3: myself a swifty or not because like I don't know,

840
00:39:14,680 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 3: like the chance, you know, I don't know all of

841
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:20,080
Speaker 3: the like you know, they're like chance.

842
00:39:20,160 --> 00:39:21,759
Speaker 1: Oh, I thought it was just it meant like you

843
00:39:21,880 --> 00:39:22,720
Speaker 1: liked her or you didn't.

844
00:39:22,840 --> 00:39:26,839
Speaker 3: No, it's like way serious and I don't want yeah

845
00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 3: if it feels like it, and like you have to

846
00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:31,839
Speaker 3: know like all Easter eggy things and everything about her

847
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:34,960
Speaker 3: life and I don't know that. I just really love

848
00:39:35,000 --> 00:39:37,279
Speaker 3: her music and I love to play it and I

849
00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:39,560
Speaker 3: like her. I like every time I see an interview

850
00:39:39,560 --> 00:39:42,040
Speaker 3: with her, I'm like, God, she's so fucking likable. Like

851
00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:46,200
Speaker 3: I'm I root for Taylor Swift always. I hope that

852
00:39:46,200 --> 00:39:48,640
Speaker 3: that makes me a swifty but I'm not gonna pretend

853
00:39:48,719 --> 00:39:50,720
Speaker 3: that I'm like some die hard.

854
00:39:50,600 --> 00:39:52,720
Speaker 1: Fan that in this room makes you a swifty.

855
00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:54,200
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm a swifty.

856
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:55,600
Speaker 1: You're a swifty. You're a fan.

857
00:39:55,920 --> 00:39:58,760
Speaker 2: Like I don't need you to be like collecting friendship

858
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:00,239
Speaker 2: bracelets and know the.

859
00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:03,560
Speaker 1: Channels, all right, that's when I put you into.

860
00:40:03,560 --> 00:40:06,719
Speaker 3: I loved I loved the friendship bracelets like that was

861
00:40:06,760 --> 00:40:07,200
Speaker 3: so fun.

862
00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:10,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, they like exchanged them, right, Yeah, it was really fun.

863
00:40:11,040 --> 00:40:13,799
Speaker 2: It was like four hours, right, yes, just her part?

864
00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:17,800
Speaker 2: What yeah, I mean just her part openers.

865
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:21,520
Speaker 3: The openers. In addition to that, it's a lot. No,

866
00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:24,320
Speaker 3: it's a long fucking night. She's like an athlete.

867
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:26,520
Speaker 1: Wait, she's on stage for four hours.

868
00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:28,360
Speaker 3: It was I feel like it was over three and

869
00:40:28,360 --> 00:40:30,640
Speaker 3: a half. It's definitely three and a half. Yeah, I

870
00:40:30,640 --> 00:40:33,320
Speaker 3: feel like it was four Yes, she is on stage.

871
00:40:33,400 --> 00:40:37,280
Speaker 1: John Head producer John said, it's four hours, four hours,

872
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:38,000
Speaker 1: and you go.

873
00:40:39,960 --> 00:40:40,160
Speaker 3: Did not?

874
00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:41,920
Speaker 1: You didn't remember? We heard about that.

875
00:40:41,960 --> 00:40:44,200
Speaker 3: So many people were asking me, like what era are you?

876
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:47,480
Speaker 3: And I thought that meant like what era is my favorite?

877
00:40:47,760 --> 00:40:50,200
Speaker 3: Like what Taylor Swift era? So I was going around

878
00:40:50,239 --> 00:40:53,399
Speaker 3: telling everyone reputation because that's my favorite and people were

879
00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:56,800
Speaker 3: looking at me like I was batshit crazy, and finally,

880
00:40:56,840 --> 00:40:58,880
Speaker 3: like I talked about it on my podcast and everyone

881
00:40:58,920 --> 00:41:01,319
Speaker 3: was saying, no, when people ask your era, that means

882
00:41:01,320 --> 00:41:04,919
Speaker 3: which one are you in? And Reputation's all about like revenge.

883
00:41:05,440 --> 00:41:07,759
Speaker 1: Oh that's where I'm at then, but that is.

884
00:41:07,719 --> 00:41:10,200
Speaker 3: Not where I'm at, So people were probably taking aback, be.

885
00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:13,480
Speaker 2: Like really like that not her newest album? No, what's

886
00:41:13,600 --> 00:41:14,600
Speaker 2: Vigilante Shit on?

887
00:41:14,800 --> 00:41:17,600
Speaker 3: I love that one Midnights? So what I is your

888
00:41:17,640 --> 00:41:20,399
Speaker 3: era like when I'm in right now?

889
00:41:20,680 --> 00:41:23,240
Speaker 4: Well, like, yeah, it's when people ask you the correct

890
00:41:23,280 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 4: answer would be what Fearless now?

891
00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:30,000
Speaker 3: But I don't think so. I feel like maybe nineteen

892
00:41:30,040 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 3: eighty nine. It's extreat one. It's just so like boppy

893
00:41:34,239 --> 00:41:35,040
Speaker 3: and fun.

894
00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:38,240
Speaker 2: It's not what Lovers is on or whatever or Trouble

895
00:41:38,880 --> 00:41:39,680
Speaker 2: True bad Love.

896
00:41:40,080 --> 00:41:42,000
Speaker 3: I can't get track of I can't keep track of

897
00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:44,040
Speaker 3: all the songs that are on each one, but I

898
00:41:44,080 --> 00:41:47,000
Speaker 3: will say I do have a new favorite now. Reputation

899
00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:50,720
Speaker 3: used to be my favorite. Okay, Midnights for sure, often

900
00:41:50,760 --> 00:41:53,520
Speaker 3: after seeing her, like it's the one with Vigilante Shit,

901
00:41:53,600 --> 00:41:58,279
Speaker 3: It's there's there's just such like a wide range of

902
00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:02,279
Speaker 3: cool music right that I'm like, this is this is

903
00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:04,719
Speaker 3: what's fucking up? Like this is elevated.

904
00:42:04,920 --> 00:42:06,440
Speaker 1: Okay, I want to become a swiftie.

905
00:42:06,440 --> 00:42:09,080
Speaker 2: I think I'm going to dedicate the next few months

906
00:42:09,200 --> 00:42:12,160
Speaker 2: to like understanding what it means. I'm gonna make the

907
00:42:12,160 --> 00:42:14,960
Speaker 2: friendship bracelets or whatever. Like, I don't have that much

908
00:42:15,000 --> 00:42:16,480
Speaker 2: going on. I can fit that into my head.

909
00:42:16,520 --> 00:42:20,040
Speaker 3: You have the most going on, I do you? Yes?

910
00:42:20,880 --> 00:42:21,719
Speaker 1: And what my mind?

911
00:42:22,719 --> 00:42:24,600
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, my mind can still talk me into a

912
00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:27,319
Speaker 2: dark hole. So clearly there is enough time for me

913
00:42:27,400 --> 00:42:28,440
Speaker 2: to do something different.

914
00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:29,399
Speaker 3: You know what I mean?

915
00:42:30,000 --> 00:42:33,400
Speaker 2: Well, if I'm like very busy, but yet my mind

916
00:42:33,440 --> 00:42:36,640
Speaker 2: can still go to like strange places.

917
00:42:36,440 --> 00:42:38,200
Speaker 1: About like oh my god, what is my life going

918
00:42:38,280 --> 00:42:38,920
Speaker 1: to turn out to be?

919
00:42:39,320 --> 00:42:42,120
Speaker 2: Then we need to figure out something that's productive to

920
00:42:42,239 --> 00:42:45,920
Speaker 2: place in to those moments so that the mind doesn't venture.

921
00:42:46,400 --> 00:42:49,200
Speaker 1: The mind needs no time to venture right now? Okay,

922
00:42:49,280 --> 00:42:50,000
Speaker 1: what do you mean?

923
00:42:50,080 --> 00:42:52,600
Speaker 3: Yeah? What time of day is your mind venturing?

924
00:42:53,000 --> 00:42:54,640
Speaker 1: Nighttime? Once I put the kid to bed.

925
00:42:55,160 --> 00:42:58,560
Speaker 3: Okay, you should start watching like Outlander or something.

926
00:42:59,200 --> 00:43:03,879
Speaker 2: I've been watching Housewives actually, okay, like rewatch, not the

927
00:43:04,120 --> 00:43:06,319
Speaker 2: Desperate Housewives, not the what did I say?

928
00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:07,520
Speaker 3: You said? Desperate Housewives.

929
00:43:07,560 --> 00:43:10,480
Speaker 1: Desperate Housewives on to melatonin.

930
00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:11,839
Speaker 3: So not Real Housewives.

931
00:43:12,080 --> 00:43:15,480
Speaker 2: No, I want to know if you can tell me

932
00:43:16,239 --> 00:43:18,360
Speaker 2: would you two things? The first thing I want to

933
00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 2: talk about is would you ever do reality TV again?

934
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:22,760
Speaker 2: Because when I see you, I'm like, this bitch hasn't

935
00:43:22,760 --> 00:43:25,960
Speaker 2: figured out. Go live your best life, keep the cameras away.

936
00:43:26,000 --> 00:43:27,080
Speaker 2: But how do you feel about it?

937
00:43:27,360 --> 00:43:30,240
Speaker 3: Yeah? I know I would do it again, Like I

938
00:43:30,239 --> 00:43:33,080
Speaker 3: I it would just have to be something that I'm

939
00:43:33,080 --> 00:43:37,000
Speaker 3: not changing my life to fit in to that show.

940
00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:38,680
Speaker 2: Right, you know what I mean, Like keep your life

941
00:43:38,719 --> 00:43:40,640
Speaker 2: the way it is and then have cameras come in

942
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:42,279
Speaker 2: and cover what this is.

943
00:43:42,480 --> 00:43:44,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, if it worked out that way, which I don't

944
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:46,520
Speaker 3: know that it would. You know, I don't know that

945
00:43:46,520 --> 00:43:48,520
Speaker 3: that's interesting to people. I don't. I don't know if

946
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:50,880
Speaker 3: that's ever going to be something that's on the horizon.

947
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:54,600
Speaker 3: But I'm it's such like a complicated answer like that.

948
00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:57,000
Speaker 3: I feel like people like like want a black and

949
00:43:57,000 --> 00:43:59,640
Speaker 3: white answer from me, like they want when people ask

950
00:43:59,719 --> 00:44:01,880
Speaker 3: me this, like would you do gratitude again? They just

951
00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:04,520
Speaker 3: want like yes or no. But it really would just

952
00:44:04,560 --> 00:44:07,600
Speaker 3: depend on what it is. I'd probably be so nippicky

953
00:44:07,640 --> 00:44:10,839
Speaker 3: about it that by the the end of like the discussions,

954
00:44:10,840 --> 00:44:12,719
Speaker 3: they'd be like, God, you're exhausting. We don't even want

955
00:44:12,760 --> 00:44:14,399
Speaker 3: you anymore. Do you know what I mean?

956
00:44:14,640 --> 00:44:14,920
Speaker 1: Yes?

957
00:44:14,960 --> 00:44:16,919
Speaker 2: And I know that people like a black and white

958
00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:20,080
Speaker 2: answer when it comes to this topic, but I so

959
00:44:20,280 --> 00:44:23,080
Speaker 2: relate to what you just said. It's like, I don't

960
00:44:23,080 --> 00:44:24,480
Speaker 2: want anybody disrupting what.

961
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:25,319
Speaker 1: I have going on.

962
00:44:25,640 --> 00:44:26,120
Speaker 3: Yeah.

963
00:44:26,320 --> 00:44:29,120
Speaker 1: Do you you have your name picked out for the boy?

964
00:44:29,360 --> 00:44:29,800
Speaker 3: Yeah?

965
00:44:30,000 --> 00:44:33,360
Speaker 1: Can you share with us the names you did not pick? Yeah?

966
00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:36,640
Speaker 1: I want to know the names that you didn't choose.

967
00:44:37,160 --> 00:44:39,959
Speaker 3: Okay, the main one. Yeah, people are gonna hate it.

968
00:44:40,080 --> 00:44:43,239
Speaker 1: Tell us it can't be worse than Utah, which is

969
00:44:43,239 --> 00:44:44,480
Speaker 1: why I want.

970
00:44:45,120 --> 00:44:46,640
Speaker 3: When you said that to me, I'm like, get out,

971
00:44:47,920 --> 00:44:50,480
Speaker 3: get your bucket hat and get the fucking house.

972
00:44:51,760 --> 00:44:55,360
Speaker 2: Take your Jesus sandals, your budget hat, and the name Utah.

973
00:44:55,560 --> 00:44:57,120
Speaker 1: Okay, fuck out, you guys.

974
00:44:57,160 --> 00:45:00,439
Speaker 3: The main one that I was gonna name this boy, Yeah,

975
00:45:00,560 --> 00:45:03,880
Speaker 3: it was Luring what l O R I n.

976
00:45:03,920 --> 00:45:06,960
Speaker 2: G so basically what people call me, but with an

977
00:45:07,160 --> 00:45:11,640
Speaker 2: ing on the end. Yeah, I am so offended Luring.

978
00:45:12,040 --> 00:45:13,879
Speaker 3: I mean I thought it was so fun.

979
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:16,680
Speaker 1: It's so bad, Stacy, I can't lie to you.

980
00:45:16,800 --> 00:45:18,919
Speaker 3: What the fuck? Okay, let's look at these other ones.

981
00:45:20,080 --> 00:45:22,920
Speaker 3: Oh my god, these are so embarrassing. Okay, I didn't okay,

982
00:45:23,040 --> 00:45:24,719
Speaker 3: Bo said no to every single one of these, so

983
00:45:24,760 --> 00:45:27,319
Speaker 3: they weren't like properly Like It's not like we were

984
00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:29,400
Speaker 3: going to name him this like Luring was literally the

985
00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:31,920
Speaker 3: only one that we agreed on except for this current name.

986
00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:34,680
Speaker 2: I'm shocked that Bow would agree to die. Okay, what's

987
00:45:34,719 --> 00:45:35,720
Speaker 2: the next because it's cool?

988
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 3: Okay, and you can call him Lore and Lare's our

989
00:45:38,120 --> 00:45:40,520
Speaker 3: favorite podcast to listen to, Bow and I, so I

990
00:45:40,560 --> 00:45:43,600
Speaker 3: was like, that's cute. We can call him Lawre l

991
00:45:43,640 --> 00:45:44,200
Speaker 3: O R E.

992
00:45:44,600 --> 00:45:45,839
Speaker 1: I don't like it. Fuck off.

993
00:45:46,200 --> 00:45:51,000
Speaker 3: Okay, you guys, these are bad. I wrote Wolf from

994
00:45:51,840 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 3: Wolf's so bad throw Fox f A w K E S.

995
00:46:00,360 --> 00:46:01,160
Speaker 1: I'm not mad at that.

996
00:46:02,280 --> 00:46:05,000
Speaker 3: Credence, Oh you know what, I really liked Crescent.

997
00:46:05,800 --> 00:46:06,680
Speaker 1: Not mad at that either.

998
00:46:06,760 --> 00:46:08,000
Speaker 3: I thought Crescent was cool.

999
00:46:08,280 --> 00:46:11,040
Speaker 1: Fox and Crescent. I'm not mad about, okay.

1000
00:46:11,360 --> 00:46:14,400
Speaker 3: Clement now, oh my god. You know what one? I

1001
00:46:14,480 --> 00:46:18,560
Speaker 3: was actually really hardcore thinking about AUSO s SI because

1002
00:46:18,600 --> 00:46:19,640
Speaker 3: it rhymes with stuss.

1003
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:26,280
Speaker 2: You should have just done Assi. I just or tossy

1004
00:46:26,960 --> 00:46:30,480
Speaker 2: only I'm sweating. I'm sweating for you. They're so bad,

1005
00:46:30,680 --> 00:46:32,680
Speaker 2: They're so bad. And then to think of the name

1006
00:46:32,719 --> 00:46:36,240
Speaker 2: that you chose, I'm like, thank god, And like, how

1007
00:46:36,360 --> 00:46:38,920
Speaker 2: was that even in the list of names of names

1008
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:39,799
Speaker 2: that were so bad?

1009
00:46:40,800 --> 00:46:43,560
Speaker 3: I know, I know, because la la. This is the thing.

1010
00:46:43,600 --> 00:46:46,880
Speaker 3: There are so many popular names that I really love, Like,

1011
00:46:47,000 --> 00:46:49,200
Speaker 3: I love all the popular names, but I just don't

1012
00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:52,120
Speaker 3: want my kid to have the same name as everyone else. Oh,

1013
00:46:52,120 --> 00:46:54,080
Speaker 3: I actually really liked Easton, but I can't do it

1014
00:46:54,080 --> 00:46:54,839
Speaker 3: because I know one.

1015
00:46:55,160 --> 00:46:56,320
Speaker 1: Easton's super cute.

1016
00:46:56,360 --> 00:46:58,400
Speaker 3: It's a great name. But like I, if I know

1017
00:46:58,600 --> 00:47:00,600
Speaker 3: one person, the name is off the list.

1018
00:47:00,800 --> 00:47:03,040
Speaker 2: I don't know one person who has the name of

1019
00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:04,879
Speaker 2: the baby that's coming next month.

1020
00:47:04,960 --> 00:47:06,520
Speaker 3: Me neither. Yeah, me neither, bitch.

1021
00:47:06,760 --> 00:47:09,760
Speaker 2: And I'm not going to tell you my names until

1022
00:47:10,040 --> 00:47:13,160
Speaker 2: I'm it's set in stone, because then you're gonna have

1023
00:47:13,160 --> 00:47:14,040
Speaker 2: to pretend to like it.

1024
00:47:14,239 --> 00:47:18,160
Speaker 3: I agree with that, because the name that now we've chosen. Yeah,

1025
00:47:18,200 --> 00:47:20,960
Speaker 3: when I do tell people the name, I'm like, if

1026
00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:23,239
Speaker 3: you don't like it, lie to me, keep it to

1027
00:47:23,239 --> 00:47:25,560
Speaker 3: yours because I love it and nothing's going to talk

1028
00:47:25,600 --> 00:47:26,239
Speaker 3: me out of it.

1029
00:47:26,320 --> 00:47:30,360
Speaker 2: So like, don't Yeah, don't even try. Yeah, okay, what's

1030
00:47:30,800 --> 00:47:32,759
Speaker 2: my last question before I let you go? What is

1031
00:47:32,800 --> 00:47:35,520
Speaker 2: your biggest fear with this baby coming.

1032
00:47:36,000 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 3: I think I've kind of already touched on that.

1033
00:47:38,480 --> 00:47:42,000
Speaker 1: The disrupting, Yeah, that it's just that, like the birthing experience.

1034
00:47:42,200 --> 00:47:45,160
Speaker 1: Oh no, because you had a pretty easy labor with.

1035
00:47:45,440 --> 00:47:48,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, I did, so, Like, I'm just like hoping, and

1036
00:47:48,200 --> 00:47:51,600
Speaker 3: everybody says that for the most part, your second labor

1037
00:47:51,680 --> 00:47:53,879
Speaker 3: is easier than the first. Really, so if I had

1038
00:47:53,920 --> 00:47:56,640
Speaker 3: it easy the first time, then I'm hoping. I think

1039
00:47:56,640 --> 00:47:59,400
Speaker 3: my worst fear, this is my worst fear. I'll tell you, Okay,

1040
00:47:59,440 --> 00:48:01,480
Speaker 3: this is it. The epidural is not going to kick

1041
00:48:01,480 --> 00:48:03,239
Speaker 3: in or it's not going to be right, okay, and

1042
00:48:03,280 --> 00:48:04,440
Speaker 3: I'm going to feel everything.

1043
00:48:04,520 --> 00:48:06,840
Speaker 2: I always ask pregnant people this question, and I'm like,

1044
00:48:06,880 --> 00:48:10,240
Speaker 2: but don't get dark, Like obviously our biggest fear is weird,

1045
00:48:10,320 --> 00:48:11,800
Speaker 2: of course, but I'm like, yes.

1046
00:48:11,640 --> 00:48:14,280
Speaker 1: No, like the surface lever biggest fear yours is.

1047
00:48:14,239 --> 00:48:16,480
Speaker 3: That the epidural won't kick in because you hear about that,

1048
00:48:16,600 --> 00:48:18,440
Speaker 3: or like your labor goes by so quickly that there

1049
00:48:18,520 --> 00:48:21,200
Speaker 3: was no time for it or something. I'm like, no, no,

1050
00:48:21,719 --> 00:48:25,040
Speaker 3: I'm not doing this without it. I'm not. I refuse.

1051
00:48:25,200 --> 00:48:25,880
Speaker 1: I refuse to.

1052
00:48:26,120 --> 00:48:28,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, because mine kind of went out for a second, no,

1053
00:48:29,200 --> 00:48:31,880
Speaker 2: during my labor and I was like, what is happening?

1054
00:48:32,520 --> 00:48:36,319
Speaker 2: What is happening like something like disconnected, so and it

1055
00:48:36,360 --> 00:48:37,200
Speaker 2: was very painful.

1056
00:48:37,280 --> 00:48:39,319
Speaker 3: No, but like I don't understand, like how because you

1057
00:48:39,320 --> 00:48:44,440
Speaker 3: have to get fisted. That might be fun one of them. No,

1058
00:48:44,520 --> 00:48:47,480
Speaker 3: like literally like I remember just like that, you know,

1059
00:48:47,600 --> 00:48:49,520
Speaker 3: like they literally like stick their whole hand to see

1060
00:48:49,520 --> 00:48:52,560
Speaker 3: how much you're dilated. And they're like, and I can't

1061
00:48:52,840 --> 00:48:53,279
Speaker 3: do that.

1062
00:48:53,400 --> 00:48:56,319
Speaker 1: You're at about eighth sonam discussing.

1063
00:48:55,760 --> 00:48:57,320
Speaker 3: I cannot do that unless I have.

1064
00:48:57,400 --> 00:48:59,880
Speaker 1: Well, that's because you're being fisted by your partner.

1065
00:49:00,400 --> 00:49:02,320
Speaker 3: I'm I'm not being fisted by my partner.

1066
00:49:02,400 --> 00:49:05,080
Speaker 2: Whatever, you get a dick inside of you, Okay, I'm

1067
00:49:05,120 --> 00:49:06,680
Speaker 2: just saying I'm not going to be having sex to

1068
00:49:06,680 --> 00:49:07,560
Speaker 2: get pregnant this round.

1069
00:49:07,640 --> 00:49:09,640
Speaker 3: No, I know, I don't think there's anything wrong with

1070
00:49:09,680 --> 00:49:10,120
Speaker 3: saying that.

1071
00:49:10,400 --> 00:49:14,000
Speaker 1: So fist away during the labor experience. I'm welcome to

1072
00:49:14,080 --> 00:49:14,279
Speaker 1: do this.

1073
00:49:14,960 --> 00:49:17,080
Speaker 3: So in order to like check to see how much

1074
00:49:17,120 --> 00:49:19,239
Speaker 3: you're dilated, they pretty much have to stick their whole

1075
00:49:19,360 --> 00:49:22,640
Speaker 3: entire hand up your vagina. I'm not joking.

1076
00:49:23,000 --> 00:49:23,520
Speaker 1: It's fine.

1077
00:49:23,960 --> 00:49:25,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't think I have.

1078
00:49:25,680 --> 00:49:28,600
Speaker 3: And then your doctor I forgot about this part has

1079
00:49:28,640 --> 00:49:33,880
Speaker 3: to like literally massage but like aggressively open your vagina

1080
00:49:33,960 --> 00:49:36,880
Speaker 3: went once you're ready to like actually start pushing. I

1081
00:49:36,960 --> 00:49:40,239
Speaker 3: remember our doctor, the same one doing that, and I

1082
00:49:40,480 --> 00:49:42,719
Speaker 3: just forget I'd like buried that and forgot about it.

1083
00:49:43,160 --> 00:49:45,000
Speaker 3: And now I'm remembering that all over again.

1084
00:49:46,480 --> 00:49:47,959
Speaker 1: This is my hell.

1085
00:49:48,160 --> 00:49:51,600
Speaker 2: You're right, I've kind of blocked all of that out.

1086
00:49:52,880 --> 00:49:55,600
Speaker 2: I'm just so excited for you and your life and

1087
00:49:55,640 --> 00:49:58,359
Speaker 2: where you're at, and I'm so grateful that I.

1088
00:49:58,040 --> 00:50:00,000
Speaker 1: Got to have you on the podcast today.

1089
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:01,279
Speaker 3: This was so fucking fun.

1090
00:50:01,440 --> 00:50:01,920
Speaker 1: Was it easy?

1091
00:50:02,040 --> 00:50:04,120
Speaker 3: Yes? I will literally come back anytime.

1092
00:50:04,320 --> 00:50:07,280
Speaker 1: I'm taking you up on that, so like truly like give.

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Speaker 3: Me two months after I get first, and then like

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Speaker 3: I'll literally let's do the day thing.

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Speaker 1: All right. I love you so much, you guys.

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Speaker 2: Thank you for listening to another episode of the Give

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Speaker 2: Them Lama podcast, And I will catch you guys next

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Speaker 2: week