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Speaker 1: that I'm today. I want to talk about something that's
Speaker 1: been touching my heart, my soul, and I'm feeling some
Speaker 1: type of way about it. Talking about how the world sees,
Speaker 1: you know, women in comparison to how the world sees
Speaker 1: men when it comes to the workplace. Now that I
Speaker 1: am a mother of two, I am a single mom, means,
Speaker 1: like you know, I obviously don't have anybody else to
Speaker 1: help me in the process of this. There's so many
Speaker 1: challenges that come with making time, finding balance with your body,
Speaker 1: with yourself, with your health, with your fitness, with your
Speaker 1: mental with your dating life, with your friends, with your family.
Speaker 2: It is so much to balance and just take care
Speaker 2: of that. I'm just like, how are you supposed to
Speaker 2: do it?
Speaker 1: Because I feel like society can be so judgmental to women.
Speaker 1: People are judgmental when it comes to being a single mom.
Speaker 1: Oh you know, why couldn't you keep a man? Why
Speaker 1: didn't you get married first? Why didn't you da da
Speaker 1: da da. First of all, I want to clarify that
Speaker 1: because I've heard a lot of that before. Just because
Speaker 1: you're married doesn't mean that you're in a happy relationship.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: In many occasions, there's a lot of married women and
Speaker 1: men that are just there for society to look good
Speaker 1: for society, for their family standards, or for whatever extra
Speaker 1: word reason. For lac costumbre, I'm accustomed to this person.
Speaker 1: I might as well stay here because I don't want
Speaker 1: to start all over again. I've already invested too many years.
Speaker 1: I don't want to go back into the dating scenes.
Speaker 1: In many occasions, there's a lot of insecurities. But just
Speaker 1: because you're married, it doesn't mean that it's a happy household.
Speaker 2: I know a lot of married women that are still
Speaker 2: single parents.
Speaker 1: Take that back, I know a lot of married women
Speaker 1: who are still single parents. So don't let the whole
Speaker 1: marriage thing confuse you. In many occasions, Oh why couldn't
Speaker 1: you keep it together? Why don't you make it work?
Speaker 1: You know what, sometimes things just don't work out. There's
Speaker 1: no guidebook like I always say, on how to live
Speaker 1: your life. And just because you know someone now doesn't
Speaker 1: mean that you know this person ten years from now,
Speaker 1: even if you're living together, because people change.
Speaker 2: They evolve, they grow.
Speaker 1: You know. Today we're diving into the topic that affects
Speaker 1: calenless women across the world, the challenges phased by single
Speaker 1: women in the workforce, while also explore oring the double
Speaker 1: standards that exist when it comes to working parents, specifically
Speaker 1: focusing on why working moms often faced backlash compared to
Speaker 1: those that are you know, males. I know there's a
Speaker 1: lot of single fathers out there that work really hard.
Speaker 1: To shout out to all of you men out there,
Speaker 1: you know, putting in the work, doing what you got
Speaker 1: to do, taking care of your family, taking care of
Speaker 1: your kids, memos highert respect to you. Unfortunately or fortunately,
Speaker 1: I'm not sure how to put it, but there's less
Speaker 1: of y'all than there is of us, because you've got
Speaker 1: to give credit when credit is due. There's a lot
Speaker 1: of amazing fathers, men out there that have taken the
Speaker 1: responsibility of protecting and taking care of their children and
Speaker 1: their households while the mothers are out and about living
Speaker 1: their best lives or maybe for whatever other situations. Beto, Unfortunately,
Speaker 1: there's more single mothers in this world than there is men.
Speaker 1: And I think it's very unfair that men just get
Speaker 1: to pick up, you know, their luggages or things walk away,
Speaker 1: while the mother has all the responsibility of keeping these
Speaker 1: children alive. I've given them well education, making sure that
Speaker 1: they're well protected, and taking care of while still working,
Speaker 1: while still not losing their feminine side, you know, taking
Speaker 1: care of them as women. There's a lot to it,
Speaker 1: you know, So let's dive into the life of a
Speaker 1: single woman navigating it, you know, into her career. Now,
Speaker 1: I see myself having to think about where are my
Speaker 1: kids gonna be while I'm working?
Speaker 2: Is my mom okay? Because my mom has a lot
Speaker 2: of health.
Speaker 1: Issues, and I'd be worried about leaving them with my
Speaker 1: mom all the time because I've had to call nine
Speaker 1: one one in like six occasions in one week at
Speaker 1: one point because of her health.
Speaker 2: You know, she hasn't been doing good just handling of
Speaker 2: like who's going to take care of them?
Speaker 1: Even having to take care of paying a babysitter before
Speaker 1: you go out to work, not even to party, but
Speaker 1: to work. The responsibility, the extra financial responsibility, it's a lot.
Speaker 1: I recently went to pre school. It's like a not
Speaker 1: a daycare center, but an academy rather better starts to
Speaker 1: educate the babies before they actually get into preschool and
Speaker 1: all those things, because there's a lot of children that
Speaker 1: are super advanced.
Speaker 2: So I was like, all right, cool boom, let me
Speaker 2: try to get my girls into one of these.
Speaker 1: That's an extra twenty five hundred dollars I have to
Speaker 1: pay a month, and financially, thank god, I can afford it.
Speaker 1: It just you know, puts my mind in the perspective.
Speaker 1: But what about those parents that financially can't, you know,
Speaker 1: And that's that much because it's two of them, so
Speaker 1: it's double you know, diapers and food and this and
Speaker 1: the attention and the school supplies and everything else. But
Speaker 1: I'm like, for those parents that realistically can barely they're
Speaker 1: afore their ends meet, how do they do it? You know,
Speaker 1: it's a lot. I don't know how they put it
Speaker 1: together in many occasions. You know, I take my babies
Speaker 1: with me wherever I go. I have an interview, I
Speaker 1: take them with me, I have this. I take them
Speaker 1: with me. Now that I'm doing the Dancing with the
Speaker 1: Stars competition, I have hours of rehearsals from like seven forty.
Speaker 2: Five till like six thirty.
Speaker 1: And by the time I come home, I'm super exhausted,
Speaker 1: And unlike everybody else that they get to go home
Speaker 1: and just.
Speaker 2: Rest, I am in mommy duties.
Speaker 1: I am changing diapers, you know, burping, giving milk this,
Speaker 1: that still being an active parent in my kids life.
Speaker 1: Because it's like, yeah, you're working so hard to make
Speaker 1: sure that your kids are good, but are you dedicating
Speaker 1: them the time that they need? Because kids don't know
Speaker 1: the difference, Like they don't really necessarily care about all
Speaker 1: the crap that you give them. They're more concerned about
Speaker 1: the time that you spend with them, you know, paying
Speaker 1: with them, bonding with them, creating that that bond as
Speaker 1: a parent, all that other stuff. So as women, after
Speaker 1: you're working and you're doing all those things, you still
Speaker 1: have to go be a mother. I still have to
Speaker 1: wake up at night when they're crying and do all
Speaker 1: those things because you know they're teething, and it's it's
Speaker 1: all these things that I feel that society overall puts
Speaker 1: so much pressure onto women, onto single women, single mothers,
Speaker 1: that I don't feel that men do.
Speaker 2: Why are men not getting.
Speaker 1: All this extra backlash for being absent fathers? Right?
Speaker 2: We used to say men occasions back in the days
Speaker 2: and still to this day.
Speaker 1: And I understand for the African American community for the
Speaker 1: most part, it was, you know, it was set up
Speaker 1: like this by the government, by society, you know, to
Speaker 1: take the black men out of the household so that
Speaker 1: in this in this way women would you know, request
Speaker 1: government assistance. And I've heard it all, I kind of
Speaker 1: have some background information on it.
Speaker 2: I get it.
Speaker 1: But what is the excuse today because today now we
Speaker 1: know what happened we know what the issue was, we
Speaker 1: know what can be done, we know how to fix it.
Speaker 1: So what really is the problem. Why are there so
Speaker 1: many men leaving women alone to take care of all
Speaker 1: the responsibility of taking care of a child while they
Speaker 1: decide to go, you know, live their life and date.
Speaker 1: Other people have more children with more women probably you know,
Speaker 1: repeat the copy paste. I know that in many occasions,
Speaker 1: the lack of having a father figure in the household
Speaker 1: for men does affect the way that they treat their children.
Speaker 1: It affects the way that they raise their children, that
Speaker 1: they perceive what a household and a family and a
Speaker 1: wife should be because they've never seen it.
Speaker 2: They've never experienced it.
Speaker 1: But just because you haven't had it doesn't mean that
Speaker 1: you can't try to do right because you have seen it.
Speaker 2: Not in your family, but you've seen it in others. Right.
Speaker 1: I've never I've never been around billionaires. I've never been
Speaker 1: I didn't come from a rich household. But I know
Speaker 1: I want to be rich, you know, But I know
Speaker 1: I want to follow that whatever it is. I haven't
Speaker 1: had it, but I know that I want it, so
Speaker 1: I work towards it.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: So to me, there's no excuse for a man to
Speaker 1: be a bad father and leave all the responsibility to
Speaker 1: a mother. Let's talk about the backlash at the workspace
Speaker 1: in many occasions. You know, we've even seen women that
Speaker 1: are working at fast food places that have to take
Speaker 1: their babies into work. You know, there's cooking fires and
Speaker 1: steamers and all types of things. But as a mother,
Speaker 1: when you have nowhere to leave your child financially, you
Speaker 1: may not be able to force daycare or any childcare
Speaker 1: at all.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: You may not have any family members, you may be
Speaker 1: solo in another state, in another country, or you may
Speaker 1: not just overall trust anyone. Whatever the case may be,
Speaker 1: you find yourself being a good mother, and being a
Speaker 1: good mother means that you protect your child and you
Speaker 1: take them with you because you just can't leave them
Speaker 1: at home these days, the way that your neighbors are
Speaker 1: set up and life is set up. Back in the days,
Speaker 1: they will leave the kids with like across the street Lavecina,
Speaker 1: you know, homemade kid down till they come back from work.
Speaker 1: Them days is gone. You can't trust anybody with your kids.
Speaker 1: You can't trust your neighbor. Oh home, my kid down
Speaker 1: for a couple of hours. That I get from back
Speaker 1: from work. You can't do that either, So what happens
Speaker 1: all the backlash of these mothers trying to take care
Speaker 1: of their children, you know, pay ends meet, and then
Speaker 1: at the same.
Speaker 2: Time maintain and take care of their children. It's it's hard.
Speaker 1: I see a lot of people that are judgmental to
Speaker 1: these working women that they're like, oh, well, why did
Speaker 1: you have four kids if you know you can't afford it?
Speaker 1: Who knows, you know, we could be very judgmental without
Speaker 1: really knowing somebody's story. What about if she was in
Speaker 1: a solid relationship with someone, someone that was holding her down,
Speaker 1: things didn't work out and eventually he stepped away, so
Speaker 1: now she's stuck with the responsibility. I think that we
Speaker 1: should be more loving, more caring, more affection, and more
Speaker 1: nurturing to these women that are holding all this weight
Speaker 1: on their own.
Speaker 2: Because being a parent is a twenty four hour job.
Speaker 1: We can't just turn it off, right, And I don't
Speaker 1: feel like we give each other enough respect for what
Speaker 1: each parent is doing the same way.
Speaker 2: I find crazy when a parent is the one being an.
Speaker 1: Active parent in a child's life, and here comes the
Speaker 1: other parent and decides to be disrespectful or have any
Speaker 1: personal feelings.
Speaker 2: So there's nothing you can say.
Speaker 1: If you have left the building and this person has
Speaker 1: been taking care of your responsibilities as well, whether it's
Speaker 1: a man or whether it's a woman, there is nothing
Speaker 1: the opposite parent can say or do because no matter what,
Speaker 1: this person stayed while you decided to leave.
Speaker 2: Girls, let's talk about it from firm.
Speaker 1: I've seen so many occasions and I know this must
Speaker 1: piss you off. I'm gonna keep my own personal situation
Speaker 1: to myself, but if you know, you know, there's no
Speaker 1: worse feeling than to seeing the father of your children
Speaker 1: not being an active parent to your child, but being
Speaker 1: an active parent to his girlfriends or his.
Speaker 2: Wife or his dating side chick or whoever it is.
Speaker 1: To the point is, you know, just being an active
Speaker 1: parent to somebody else's kid. There's no worse feeling than
Speaker 1: to seeing a father or a parent that's not active
Speaker 1: with their own children but is active with somebody else's kids,
Speaker 1: whether it is that you are spending time with them,
Speaker 1: taking them to the park, financially, being responsible, taking them
Speaker 1: to school, whatever, while you, on the other hand, have
Speaker 1: their child that is that came from them. There should
Speaker 1: be their responsibility and they take no action whatsoever. That
Speaker 1: must be the worst feeling. And by the way, if
Speaker 1: you've been there, done that, and you know what I'm
Speaker 1: talking about, hit me up with that review. Let me
Speaker 1: know what you've been through. Talk to me, Come on,
Speaker 1: speak up. I know I'm not the only one. I
Speaker 1: know you guys have been through it too. Also understanding
Speaker 1: that as a parent, you know you have to prioritize.
Speaker 2: The well being of your children.
Speaker 1: But at the same time, in many occasions you've worked
Speaker 1: your whole life for your career. You can lose your
Speaker 1: career because of mismanagement of you know, the time that
Speaker 1: you spend or the way that you take care of
Speaker 1: your child. Someone once told me, who's gonna want you now?
Speaker 1: Who's gonna want you now? With two kids. It's crazy
Speaker 1: to me because I know a lot of men who
Speaker 1: have fallen in love with these women that have four
Speaker 1: six kids, and they're like, I'm in it.
Speaker 2: You know, I'm in here.
Speaker 1: I like this woman, I love her, I'm down for it,
Speaker 1: and I'm down to come, you know, take whatever comes
Speaker 1: with her. But there's a lot of people with that
Speaker 1: mentality of like, once you have children, your price point
Speaker 1: goes down, your value in society goes down. You're not
Speaker 1: as worthy anymore, You're not as fresh, you're not as
Speaker 1: hip anymore. So now you have to even when it
Speaker 1: comes to dating, you have to look at a different
Speaker 1: perspective of people.
Speaker 2: The same thing with your career.
Speaker 1: You need to find a different perspective of people that
Speaker 1: can understand that if for any X Y reason you
Speaker 1: have to leave work right now immediately something happened with
Speaker 1: your child, you need to stop whatever you're doing by
Speaker 1: all means necessary, and you have to go handle that.
Speaker 1: I also want to talk about those single fathers out
Speaker 1: there that are putting in that work. You know, that's
Speaker 1: a terrible feeling I'm sure for men as well, because
Speaker 1: we barely even you know, we talk about those men
Speaker 1: who have decided to take the full responsibility take custody
Speaker 1: of their children for whatever X to Y reason it
Speaker 1: may be, and they are responsible for those kids, and
Speaker 1: they make sure they go to the football games, and
Speaker 1: they make sure she goes to ballet, and he works
Speaker 1: and he does this. And you know that for men
Speaker 1: is not their nature per se to be nurturers. That
Speaker 1: is women's natural intuition. And when it takes a man
Speaker 1: to do it. That is also something grand and I'm
Speaker 1: sure that men have to feel crazy as well when
Speaker 1: you are out here changing your whole life, you know,
Speaker 1: sleepless nights, putting in.
Speaker 2: That extra work, that extra ship.
Speaker 1: While the mother, now that no longer has that responsibility,
Speaker 1: is taking vacations, is traveling, is having a good time,
Speaker 1: It is living her best life because now she doesn't
Speaker 1: have to worry about keeping anybody alive, you know, And
Speaker 1: let's just not talk about what it is to take
Speaker 1: care of a kid as far as like, oh, your
Speaker 1: food and this and that. But there's doctor's appointments, you know,
Speaker 1: when they feel sick, when they are scared, when they
Speaker 1: need comforting, those beginning stages where they need their parents
Speaker 1: to be a good role model, all these things. How
Speaker 1: do you benance it out? I only have two, and
Speaker 1: I wonder back in the days, you know, my grandmother
Speaker 1: on my father's side had fourteen children. Can someone explain
Speaker 1: to me what type of drugs she was on, what
Speaker 1: was she doing, what was she eating? Like, how does
Speaker 1: she do it? How did our ancestors do They used
Speaker 1: to have like twenty kids and they were still alive
Speaker 1: and saying I have no idea because I have like
Speaker 1: the lack of sleep is really starting to get to me.
Speaker 1: And I don't understand how they did it, but I
Speaker 1: respect it. I respect this so so much. And then
Speaker 1: here's something I also see different. Back in those days,
Speaker 1: no matter if the women had, you know, twenty kids,
Speaker 1: the father was still in the household, whether he was
Speaker 1: consistently working, but came home.
Speaker 2: That image of a father figure.
Speaker 1: It is so important in a household, not only for
Speaker 1: the wife, but for the role model for.
Speaker 2: The kids as well. Every little girl needs a father.
Speaker 1: Every little girl needs to feel protected, to feel safe,
Speaker 1: every little girl wants to go to the payground, and
Speaker 1: you know, if you do something to her saying I'm
Speaker 1: going to tell my daddy, you know, wait till my
Speaker 1: dad comes. You know, that feeling of protection of you
Speaker 1: know someone has your back.
Speaker 2: Yes, your mother does.
Speaker 1: But because our nature is to be nurishing, every every
Speaker 1: gender has its role right. We naturally are born with
Speaker 1: different instincts and that's what keeps the world balanced.
Speaker 2: That's just what that is. But every little boy also
Speaker 2: needs a father at home.
Speaker 1: Every little boy needs to have that role model that
Speaker 1: they can look up to to learn how to stand behaviors,
Speaker 1: how I'm supposed to sit, How is my father treating
Speaker 1: my mother? How is he treating my grandmother and my sister.
Speaker 1: Whatever you do, they will mimic. They will copy paste that.
Speaker 1: You know, even when you think that they're not looking,
Speaker 1: they are paying attention. They are a reflection of you,
Speaker 1: your behavior, the way that you're raising them, what you're eating,
Speaker 1: if you're working out, if you eat badly, if you
Speaker 1: have an attitude, if you're disrespectful, if you are a
Speaker 1: bully as an adult, your children will mimic what you
Speaker 1: are doing and they.
Speaker 2: Will be a representation of you.
Speaker 1: So therefore, I feel that in many occasions we don't
Speaker 1: really bother to pay attention to how important it is
Speaker 1: to have both, you know, both role models in the household.
Speaker 1: It is extremely important. And even if for any x
Speaker 1: y reason, you guys as a couple do not work out,
Speaker 1: because it happens in many occasions, we have to learn
Speaker 1: how to be adults. Civilized adults get to that space
Speaker 1: because you know, I know there's beef, there's anger.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: Eventually, eventually you have to become adult enough, mature enough,
Speaker 1: grown enough to say, okay, we're not getting along, We
Speaker 1: don't understand each other. The vibe is not right anymore.
Speaker 1: But guess what, we're stuck together forever. And now we're
Speaker 1: stuck together forever as a family. Like you may not
Speaker 1: like me, I may not like you, whatever, but we
Speaker 1: have to do this for the for the well being
Speaker 1: and the sake of these children. So that part is
Speaker 1: very important because that will also help you understand the
Speaker 1: other parents' perspective. As far as goncho, you know, this
Speaker 1: guy has to go to work, Let me hold the
Speaker 1: weight this week. Vice versa wife, my ex wife for
Speaker 1: the mother and my kids has to work. Let me
Speaker 1: hold the weight this week. Because if you're both at
Speaker 1: the parents, you understand the responsibility, the weight, the stress,
Speaker 1: the everything that it takes to raise these children. I
Speaker 1: also feel that for those that are the boss, if
Speaker 1: you are the boss, if you're the one that has
Speaker 1: the employees, if you are the whatever it may be
Speaker 1: at your workspace, and you know that there is a parent,
Speaker 1: and you know that there is a parent having a
Speaker 1: difficult moment where they're children, as far as they have
Speaker 1: to leave to go to the daycare center pick up
Speaker 1: the kids, or the kids may be sick or what
Speaker 1: are I really feel that it is important for us
Speaker 1: as a community, as a village to be more understanding
Speaker 1: of each other's situation, whether you have kids or you
Speaker 1: may not have kids. Sometimes I feel like some bosses
Speaker 1: can be real tough on some you know, on some
Speaker 1: parents that are just out there working to be able
Speaker 1: to feed their family.
Speaker 2: Put yourself in their shoes once in a while.
Speaker 1: I understand that you have to keep your level of
Speaker 1: ethic and professionalism no matter what the workspace may be,
Speaker 1: but also try to be more understanding, because God knows
Speaker 1: what this person may be going through once they leave
Speaker 1: this work space and has to go back home to
Speaker 1: take care of their children.
Speaker 2: In many occasions, I.
Speaker 1: Know a lot of people that dress really nice to
Speaker 1: go to work, and when they go home, they might
Speaker 1: be living in a tiny.
Speaker 2: Studio with like five six kids. You know. I've even
Speaker 2: seen people who go to work looking very nice and
Speaker 2: you will never know that they're sleeping in front of
Speaker 2: the wall right inside their car. You know, you never
Speaker 2: really know what another person is going through.
Speaker 1: So in the workspace, try to be more understanding, Try
Speaker 1: to be more forgiving, try to be more flexible, because
Speaker 1: one day you might be doing something good for somebody else,
Speaker 1: and you pray and hope that one day somebody will
Speaker 1: take care of you and have your back no matter.
Speaker 2: What the situation is.
Speaker 1: I think that the backlash from your workspace sometimes is
Speaker 1: so unnecessary instead of us trying to support each other
Speaker 1: as a community. Especially you have a good employee, you
Speaker 1: know they're a good employee, it's just that you can
Speaker 1: tell that they're going through some situation at home.
Speaker 2: Try to be a helping hand and this goes.
Speaker 1: I feel like sometimes it's important to put the message
Speaker 1: out because you never know who you may be, you know, touching.
Speaker 1: Try to be a helping hand because it's already a
Speaker 1: tough world out here.
Speaker 2: It's already so tough, you know, out here for women,
Speaker 2: for men as well.
Speaker 1: It's tough for everyone, and it makes it even worse
Speaker 1: when you go to work somewhere you have to go
Speaker 1: every day get you're realistically just there to be able
Speaker 1: to provide for your family. Because every person that's working,
Speaker 1: and I want you to take consideration of that as well.
Speaker 1: Every woman you see, every elderly person you see still
Speaker 1: at the workspace, you know, sometimes you go to the Walmart,
Speaker 1: to the Target, to the ross, whatever, and you see
Speaker 1: this elderly person, whether they're working security or whether they're
Speaker 1: working in the.
Speaker 2: Back whatever it is.
Speaker 1: Every single person I've seen, pregnant women about to give
Speaker 1: birth still working. Every single person you see at the
Speaker 1: workspace is working to be able to provide for their family,
Speaker 1: for themselves, for their family, for survival. It's so terrible
Speaker 1: to go to the workspace and have backlash and have
Speaker 1: bad energy and have people look down upon you or
Speaker 1: have people judge you for.
Speaker 2: Whatever reasons it may be.
Speaker 1: Let's be more nurturing, more understanding when it comes to
Speaker 1: those things. And like I said before, I know there's
Speaker 1: a really big double standard when it comes to men
Speaker 1: and when it comes to women at the workspace. Listen,
Speaker 1: if you've been through it, if you know where I'm
Speaker 1: coming from, if you feel my pain, if you feel
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, hit me with that review, tell me,
Speaker 1: talk to me. What have you been through? Has anybody
Speaker 1: ever made you feel that you're you know you're worthless,
Speaker 1: or you know you're not worthy because you're not doing
Speaker 1: the best job that you could be at your workspace,
Speaker 1: because you have to take care of your kids, because
Speaker 1: you're trying to manage. What about your family? Has your
Speaker 1: family been judgmental towards you because you know you've had
Speaker 1: to be like yo, listen, can you take care of
Speaker 1: the babies or the baby you know, for a couple
Speaker 1: of hours to get out of work. Have they been helpful?
Speaker 1: Have they judged you? Have they made you pay your
Speaker 1: own family? Is it okay if your own family that's
Speaker 1: supposed to have your back ask you, you know, oh
Speaker 1: well then pay me and I'll take care of your kid.
Speaker 1: How do you feel about that? At your job, are
Speaker 1: you allowed to bring your kids? Do they have a
Speaker 1: space for children? I think that's an amazing thing. I
Speaker 1: don't think every job, every workspace has that capacity, but
Speaker 1: if it could, and it did, I think it would
Speaker 1: be so important and so great.
Speaker 2: Imagine going to work and knowing that on.
Speaker 1: The first floor or right there, you know, there's a nursery,
Speaker 1: there's a daycare, there's a space where your child is
Speaker 1: taking care of and protected, and your lunch break you
Speaker 1: can go and see them, take care of them, and
Speaker 1: still continue focusing on your career, your goals and expectations,
Speaker 1: because just because you're a parent, it doesn't mean that
Speaker 1: you have to let go all of your dreams of
Speaker 1: becoming whatever it is. It doesn't mean you have to
Speaker 1: let go of everything you've worked for your whole life,
Speaker 1: your whole career to accomplish.
Speaker 2: It doesn't mean.
Speaker 1: It just means that you need to modify. Now it's
Speaker 1: time to modify the plan. Now we got a new
Speaker 1: addition to the original goal. How do we go about it?
Speaker 1: How do we move around it? That I really feel
Speaker 1: is important. Like I said before, if you a boss,
Speaker 1: as a real boss, Bosses are leaders. Bosses lead right,
Speaker 1: and part of that is being understanding and understanding your employees,
Speaker 1: the people that work for you, the people that help
Speaker 1: move this ship. Because yes, you may be the boss
Speaker 1: and they just may be your employees, but without them,
Speaker 1: you ain't got no business.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: So part of that is you may have an amazing
Speaker 1: ass secretary whatever it is, human resource nurse, whatever it
Speaker 1: may be. If this person is having a difficult moment
Speaker 1: because they may not know how to administrate everything, try
Speaker 1: to become a helping hand.
Speaker 2: I think that's important too, because we.
Speaker 1: Talk talk about what it is to be have backlash
Speaker 1: for being a single mother, trying to balance everything out,
Speaker 1: but at the same time, in the workspace that you're at.
Speaker 1: If the people that surround you aren't trying to be understanding,
Speaker 1: aren't trying to be helpful, aren't trying to you know,
Speaker 1: then that might be a cue for you to have
Speaker 1: to figure out another place of work. Because now, once
Speaker 1: you have kids, your priority becomes your kids. Like no
Speaker 1: matter what, there is no job that you know goes
Speaker 1: before your kids. There is no job that can be
Speaker 1: a priority before your kids. You know, you have to
Speaker 1: modify your lifestyle after that.
Speaker 2: So listen to this. Here's something that you can take
Speaker 2: home with you.
Speaker 1: Right, we've tackled the hardship you know, phased by single
Speaker 1: women in the workspace, in the workforce, jumped into the
Speaker 1: complexity of working mothers, the backlash of society, family, you know,
Speaker 1: the dating scene and everything else, and question the double
Speaker 1: standards surrounding the work you know, the working dads, because
Speaker 1: they're also a working dads out there. That I want
Speaker 1: to give you guys props as well. I know that
Speaker 1: usually when we talk about like Mother's Days and things
Speaker 1: like that, mothers have more more and more, I don't know,
Speaker 1: we get more celebrated than men.
Speaker 2: But there's not a lot, but there are.
Speaker 1: A lot of amazing, amazing fathers out there that deserve
Speaker 1: all the credit and all the praise as well, So
Speaker 1: shout outs to you. Change begins when awareness and open
Speaker 1: conversations start. It is important for us to talk about
Speaker 1: it so that we can become aware of the issue
Speaker 1: and figure out how can we resolve it and move
Speaker 1: forward from here.
Speaker 2: If we don't know what the problem is, then how
Speaker 2: are you supposed to fix it?
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