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Speaker 1: My daughter had an affair with my other daughter's husband,

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Speaker 1: so I uninvited her from Christmas. Did I go too far?

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Speaker 1: This is Okayop, the Home of the Craziest Stories in

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Speaker 1: the world. I'm Sam and John. Do you think OP

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Speaker 1: went too far?

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Speaker 2: You know? Uh, if you're trying to sleep with your

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Speaker 2: you know, sister in law basically brother in law.

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Speaker 1: I'm just trying to get closer to my family. Oh,

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Speaker 1: that's that might be a little a little too close

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Speaker 1: for the family, you know what I mean? We're close

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Speaker 1: to right now? What the Christmas season? Happy holidays, ho.

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Speaker 3: Ho in the right way.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I think we might have at least

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Speaker 1: one hoe in this story, So let's definitely to it.

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Speaker 1: Let us.

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Speaker 3: Spill that tea.

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Speaker 1: So Electronic Gas five seven sixty nine says. I am

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Speaker 1: the mother of four children, two older sons and two

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Speaker 1: younger daughter. All of them are adults and have moved

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Speaker 1: out a long time ago, which is not always a

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Speaker 1: given these days with housing crises and such. Yeah, Sam, Yeah, dude,

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Speaker 1: it's expensive to live outside of house these days. I've

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Speaker 1: always been close with my daughter Sally, while Penny has

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Speaker 1: always liked to have her own space, which I don't mind.

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Speaker 1: They're both beautiful, talented young woman that I thought I

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Speaker 1: couldn't be more proud of. I thought I thought so

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Speaker 1: because they are thoughts. No. Early Christmas this year, first

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Speaker 1: week of December, I was inviting everyone around for Christmas dinner,

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Speaker 1: gift giving, and the lots. When I phoned Penny yesterday

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Speaker 1: to clarify a few things, she mentioned that she and

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Speaker 1: her husband would not be coming. Why. When I asked,

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Speaker 1: she said they had separated for now as he had cheated.

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Speaker 2: Oh, Merry Christmas, Merry Christmas, I've cheated on you.

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Speaker 1: I gave this nick in a box to someone new

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Speaker 1: and they opened it. I said that it was surely

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Speaker 1: better to spend time with family if this was the case,

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Speaker 1: and maybe she should come home for some time. Like

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Speaker 1: who better to console you and comfort you than your family?

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Speaker 1: Exact God, who better to console and comfort your husband

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Speaker 1: than your family? Who better to bone husbands than family?

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Speaker 2: Put I see you in the comments if you know

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Speaker 2: it's about to happen.

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Speaker 1: She umped, and she awed, but then eventually she told

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Speaker 1: me he had an affair with none other than f

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Speaker 1: and Sally. There it is, and guess what, John, guess

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Speaker 1: what what? It? Wasn't a one time thing. Oh, don't

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Speaker 1: make it multiple times. It wasn't a two time thing.

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Speaker 1: Don't make John stop. It was two years. See each

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Speaker 1: other for the past two years. I felt sick for

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Speaker 1: the past six months. In our talk, Sally has eluded

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Speaker 1: that she has been seeing someone and was typically girl

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Speaker 3: You'll never guess it.

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Speaker 1: I uninvited Sally to the Christmas gathering and blocked her.

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Speaker 1: Oh he's mom, wow, op, he blocked salad stant no contact.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm able to deal with her

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Speaker 1: before Christmas. But this is family time, and family can't

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Speaker 1: hurt each other like that. I'm at a loss in

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Speaker 1: all honesty. Penny is now coming, which is good because

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Speaker 1: at this time she needs stability of people who love her.

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Speaker 1: In my opinion, the problem is that Sally naturally thinks

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Speaker 1: I'm in the wrong. It's out of my business, and

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Speaker 1: as her mother, I can't block her and remove her

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Speaker 1: I think she literally can do that. I brought you

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Speaker 1: My sister thinks I shouldn't get involved in their personal lives,

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Speaker 1: which I think is bs. My daughter needs us right now.

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Speaker 1: But then she tells me I have two daughters to

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Speaker 1: Which what do you think is that too far? I'll

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Speaker 1: OPI's taking it too far where it's like I am

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Speaker 2: I think I think it's totally fair to be like

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Speaker 2: like you you did this horrible thing. She needs her family.

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Speaker 2: Maybe there's to support her. Yeah, I do I think

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Speaker 1: I if this was me, if I was Opie I

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I would just be like, I think, I think

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Speaker 2: Just She must be just super emotionally charged right now, which, yeah,

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Speaker 1: So thankfully my husband is cooperating with Sally at the moment,

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Speaker 1: but he is also in solidarity with me. So are

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Speaker 1: we in the wrong for uninviting a daughter for Christmas? Again?

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Speaker 1: Put your answers in the comments. I would love to

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Speaker 1: know and guess who just texted us? But Nick Witters

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Speaker 1: so edit. My husband showed me that this has gotten

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Speaker 1: a lot of responses, too many for us to answer

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Speaker 1: them all, but we will be reading them before bed.

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Speaker 1: So I got this is this is a cute little bedtime.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like this is so snuggle Reddit, tell

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Speaker 2: me in with my hot chocolate right before Christmas and

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Speaker 2: some of that juicy juicy tea to get right into

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Speaker 2: the bedtime action.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, oh yeah. No, better doorplay than a Reddit story.

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Speaker 1: That's right, your kids. A small update, Penny's mother in

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Speaker 1: is ope the a hole? Yes or no? What do

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Speaker 3: You know what?

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Speaker 2: If you're forcing me to say it, I think I

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Speaker 3: Obviously.

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Speaker 2: The cheating sister is an a hole for sure, right,

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Speaker 2: that is like, hands down, no questions asked.

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Speaker 1: We all understand that.

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Speaker 2: I do think the mom is a little bit of

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Speaker 2: an a hole, like one percent over the line, oh

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Speaker 2: maybe a few percent. It is over the line because

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Speaker 2: it is such a immediate extreme reaction bringing it down.

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Speaker 2: When is there some potential conflict resolution.

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Speaker 1: Next slash context Is there any content?

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Speaker 3: Is there any context dismissing?

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Speaker 2: I think basically opis like, you're not my daughter anymore, right,

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Speaker 2: which like is the most is the most extreme action

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Speaker 2: you know, route to go with the new contact and everything.

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Speaker 2: But I think like sitting down and diving into it

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Speaker 1: Don't I feel like, don't just believe what your other

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and again like the sister deserves, you know, some punishment.

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Speaker 3: But I would.

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Speaker 1: Also say Opie is not the a hole, but they

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Speaker 1: like like generally just because they're trying to do right

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Speaker 1: think that there's just a way better way to go

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Speaker 2: Ohp is Darth Vader. In her pursuit of trying to

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Speaker 5: I got a question for you guys.

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Speaker 6: Have you ever had any family drama to where like

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Speaker 1: Or Christmas just recently really like this yeah yeah, like

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Speaker 1: prom all right, you know ver fuck let me let me.

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Speaker 1: I'll okay, story time, Okay, story time, okay, story time.

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Speaker 1: I'll leave it for the end. Let's do it, so

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Speaker 1: juicy update you ready, Let's do it? Hello all. My

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Speaker 1: Jane is having similar feelings to me. A lot of

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Speaker 1: I think at this point we have to accept that

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Speaker 3: One hundred percent.

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Speaker 1: Not your fault. And so Jane is the mother in

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Speaker 1: I'm sexy reindeer myself. So let's go on to some

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Speaker 1: more negative things. I wrote my letter to Sally during

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Speaker 1: also discussed why I will continue to have a relationship

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Speaker 3: Yes, they're very good.

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Speaker 1: She won't be welcome to any family gatherings with Penny

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Speaker 1: where she feels comfortable, totally understandable, makes sense. I told

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Speaker 1: all intents and purposes, already uninvited herself when she was

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Speaker 1: That level of Reddit, it's curs at least my cousin

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Speaker 2: Sweetie, your grandparents walked off the roof of a building

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Speaker 4: It's going to go to school and be like Bobby's

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Speaker 5: Where am I mind continue their relationship? I will never

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Speaker 1: wonderful day. Thank you very much for the kind words

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Speaker 1: when I last spoke. And John, what so these updates?

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Speaker 2: This juicy update is going to be a Sam, I don't,

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Speaker 2: I don't. I know, I know, but I don't want

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Speaker 1: What do you think? What's your what's your prediction?

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Speaker 2: These mf rs are going to bang each other to

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Speaker 1: Got cheated on. So what am I gonna do? That's

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Speaker 1: what's gonna happen. That's John's prediction. Let me know what

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Speaker 1: you're right. So I hope this message finds you well.

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Speaker 1: A lot has changed since we last Oh.

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Speaker 1: So I'd like to up you because I am finding

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Sally and Michael have continued their relationship. I don't

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Speaker 3: I'm low key like, why even try. Just if you're

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Speaker 1: I mean, that's what you did when you hooked up

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Speaker 1: It's been a difficult transition, to put it mildly. Being

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Speaker 1: Everything has just been so painful to deal with, and

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Speaker 1: I just cannot stop crying. Even after all this time.

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Speaker 1: hope you all have been doing well. Kind regards. OPI.

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Speaker 2: Wow, that okay, OPI is a tragically beautiful.

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Speaker 1: Rgically beautiful. I feel for you. O pee dang, that's.

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Speaker 5: It's all the sister's fault. Yeah, think about it. The

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Speaker 2: Goly, wow, you you gave us a sally.

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Speaker 1: You killed your father.

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Speaker 3: Damn Sally.

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Speaker 1: Maybe that's too harsh, but that is har that's too harsh.

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Speaker 1: But I mean with Sally's bitch and so is and

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, total bitch. Not not the not the vibes,

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Speaker 5: That's Penny's old man in Sally's new man.

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Speaker 1: So like, it seems like OPI doesn't want a relationship

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Speaker 2: important thing is it seems that op is uh operating

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00:21:45,480 --> 00:21:47,479
Speaker 2: in the functional way where it's like she probably has

440
00:21:47,520 --> 00:21:50,600
Speaker 2: to have some sort of interactions with Sally, she keeps

441
00:21:50,600 --> 00:21:54,240
Speaker 2: a cordial there. She tries to interact with Michael as

442
00:21:54,560 --> 00:21:57,879
Speaker 2: little as humanly possible, So I think I think that's

443
00:21:57,920 --> 00:21:59,640
Speaker 2: at least a decent way to go about it.

444
00:22:00,080 --> 00:22:02,080
Speaker 3: As for like how she feels.

445
00:22:01,720 --> 00:22:04,560
Speaker 2: Of kind of like continuing to be basically has the

446
00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:07,600
Speaker 2: wall up and is kind of like a kind of

447
00:22:07,600 --> 00:22:12,240
Speaker 2: like abandon abandoned hope. I mean, I think, again, everything

448
00:22:12,320 --> 00:22:16,440
Speaker 2: changes if a child's introduced, but I think that especially

449
00:22:16,440 --> 00:22:20,880
Speaker 2: after just two years, the skepticism is still deserved. Yeah,

450
00:22:20,960 --> 00:22:24,640
Speaker 2: and you know, especially with Michael. But I think if

451
00:22:24,640 --> 00:22:28,720
Speaker 2: she left like a little door open for improvement, that'd

452
00:22:28,720 --> 00:22:32,760
Speaker 2: be good. But ultimately the kicker is the damage can

453
00:22:32,840 --> 00:22:33,280
Speaker 2: kind of.

454
00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:34,960
Speaker 1: Never be repaired. Yeah, that's the problem.

455
00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:37,200
Speaker 2: I feel like, I feel like, even in a couple,

456
00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:40,159
Speaker 2: which obviously this is terrible, someone could cheat once and

457
00:22:40,320 --> 00:22:43,240
Speaker 2: never cheat for another fifty years of marriage, and it's like, Okay,

458
00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:45,159
Speaker 2: you've prepared the trust. You know, at the end of

459
00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:47,359
Speaker 2: a fifty year marriage, if you did that, but like

460
00:22:47,560 --> 00:22:50,919
Speaker 2: you still like stole your sister's love. Yeah, like that

461
00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:53,640
Speaker 2: will never be undone even if they did weren't ended

462
00:22:53,720 --> 00:22:54,040
Speaker 2: up together.

463
00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:58,080
Speaker 1: So question now for you, Yes, if you had two

464
00:22:58,160 --> 00:23:02,159
Speaker 1: daughters of your own, God, yep, and you're in the

465
00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:05,840
Speaker 1: situation of op yeah, would you kind of cut one

466
00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:06,840
Speaker 1: of those daughters off?

467
00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:09,760
Speaker 2: So we've we've had this scenario come up many times

468
00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:11,360
Speaker 2: on the show where it's like, would you cut off

469
00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:15,040
Speaker 2: your own child? I'm a big softie in all honesty,

470
00:23:15,200 --> 00:23:19,440
Speaker 2: and I feel like I would have a really really

471
00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:20,840
Speaker 2: hard time.

472
00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:24,160
Speaker 1: Cutting out my own child from my life. I think

473
00:23:24,200 --> 00:23:27,119
Speaker 1: so too. I would struggle with that tremendously. I mean

474
00:23:27,160 --> 00:23:30,360
Speaker 1: I've heard of like like parents being like, yeah, if

475
00:23:30,400 --> 00:23:33,520
Speaker 1: my kid killed someone. I mean, like that happens all

476
00:23:33,560 --> 00:23:36,160
Speaker 1: the time, Like kids kill people and then their parents

477
00:23:36,160 --> 00:23:39,800
Speaker 1: are like still visiting them in jail because they still rock,

478
00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:42,399
Speaker 1: you know. So I think I would be in the

479
00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:44,679
Speaker 1: same in the same boat. But what would you do?

480
00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:49,240
Speaker 1: So if you're if your kid stole your other kid's

481
00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:51,000
Speaker 1: significant other, what would you do?

482
00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:51,600
Speaker 3: What do you do?

483
00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:55,040
Speaker 1: Would you cut the the cheeter off? And also if

484
00:23:55,080 --> 00:23:58,800
Speaker 1: your kid killed your other kid?

485
00:23:59,119 --> 00:24:01,879
Speaker 3: God, I'm not gonna still draw the line.

486
00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:08,520
Speaker 1: I draw the line there, know you think, but should

487
00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:11,480
Speaker 1: we get into okay, story time, let's do it. John,

488
00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:15,320
Speaker 1: Do you want to tell me your tragic story about

489
00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:19,080
Speaker 1: how your dad destroyed the magic of Christmas?

490
00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:21,919
Speaker 2: Maybe this is a glass shattering moment because I I

491
00:24:21,960 --> 00:24:26,240
Speaker 2: low key just assumed everyone had this experience mostly but

492
00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:28,320
Speaker 2: for the most part. So when I was in I

493
00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:31,440
Speaker 2: was in fourth grade. My sister though, was in second grade,

494
00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:33,960
Speaker 2: right or was it in fourth or fifth like something

495
00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:43,800
Speaker 2: like that, right at the same time. Yes, so guys,

496
00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:45,840
Speaker 2: is this could you guys tell me this is.

497
00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 3: Like not normal where it's like do you reach the

498
00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:48,680
Speaker 3: shirtin age?

499
00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:51,400
Speaker 2: So anyway, so we're like driving in the car, right

500
00:24:51,560 --> 00:24:54,040
Speaker 2: and who knows how this got started, but I can

501
00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:56,720
Speaker 2: also remember it like it's happening right now.

502
00:24:56,920 --> 00:24:58,760
Speaker 1: Does your whole world was shattered?

503
00:24:59,359 --> 00:24:59,639
Speaker 5: He is?

504
00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:02,120
Speaker 2: He He was like, uh, we had like big red

505
00:25:02,200 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 2: you know Ford ex floor drive around and then he's like, yeah,

506
00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:07,680
Speaker 2: you know, you know how there's like different fun things

507
00:25:07,680 --> 00:25:09,440
Speaker 2: that are like fun and like pretend and it's like

508
00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:13,480
Speaker 2: such such a fun time. Well you know, uh, Santa,

509
00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:14,520
Speaker 2: you know it's a great thing.

510
00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:16,120
Speaker 1: It like brings happiness.

511
00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:17,040
Speaker 3: And Christmas cheer to boys and girls.

512
00:25:17,080 --> 00:25:19,360
Speaker 2: I was like, it's a fucking live but like there

513
00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:22,560
Speaker 2: isn't a literal like Santa Claus or something something like that.

514
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:26,320
Speaker 2: And so I said to him, I think it might

515
00:25:26,359 --> 00:25:28,479
Speaker 2: have been on the way home from church. Uh, And

516
00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:30,000
Speaker 2: I think I said to him, but I was like.

517
00:25:30,160 --> 00:25:32,640
Speaker 3: But but Dad, so so Santa.

518
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:36,560
Speaker 2: I can't see Santa and he's not real and I

519
00:25:36,880 --> 00:25:38,080
Speaker 2: can't I can't see God.

520
00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:39,600
Speaker 1: What about him?

521
00:25:41,560 --> 00:25:41,840
Speaker 3: God?

522
00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:45,919
Speaker 2: I literally I think I threw him for the craziest

523
00:25:46,000 --> 00:25:49,520
Speaker 2: loop he just was not prepared for at all. And

524
00:25:49,560 --> 00:25:53,560
Speaker 2: then my sister, like, to my memory, my sister was like, Okay,

525
00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:56,439
Speaker 2: just like Super chill, just like Super. I could be

526
00:25:56,480 --> 00:25:59,560
Speaker 2: misremembering that, but what I then remember is she then

527
00:25:59,600 --> 00:26:03,680
Speaker 2: went to school and started telling everyone in her class like, oh,

528
00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:08,280
Speaker 2: did you know that Santa's actually not real? So like

529
00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:11,760
Speaker 2: she got in trouble because like kids, parents were like

530
00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:15,760
Speaker 2: some rascals running around telling our children that Santa isn't

531
00:26:15,760 --> 00:26:18,159
Speaker 2: real in like first or second grade, Like.

532
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:23,560
Speaker 1: Dude, that's rough. Yeah, fourth grade, I still believed in Santa.

533
00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:24,800
Speaker 1: I think in fourth grade.

534
00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:25,520
Speaker 3: I was still rock.

535
00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:27,800
Speaker 2: I had I had one my best friend Joseph who

536
00:26:27,840 --> 00:26:31,240
Speaker 2: was literally putting reindeer food in a bowl in sixth grade,

537
00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 2: I was like.

538
00:26:32,560 --> 00:26:37,199
Speaker 1: Homie, dude, my dad would eat the carrots and he

539
00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:42,800
Speaker 1: would like jump on the roof and yeah, and like

540
00:26:42,880 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 1: it was like, oh, that's Santa. And then he would

541
00:26:44,840 --> 00:26:48,359
Speaker 1: ring the you would ring the Santa bells. And my

542
00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:52,360
Speaker 1: sister I think she pretended that she believed until she

543
00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:56,679
Speaker 1: was like fifteen. I think at least at least pretended.

544
00:26:57,400 --> 00:27:00,600
Speaker 1: I don't know if she legitimately believe, but yeah, yeah,

545
00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:02,640
Speaker 1: it pretended at least until he was like fifteen.

546
00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:03,080
Speaker 3: Wow.

547
00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:05,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, what is age? What is the age? I don't

548
00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:07,280
Speaker 1: think you ever tell your kid. I think you try

549
00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:09,280
Speaker 1: to preserve like the magic of Christmas forever.

550
00:27:09,359 --> 00:27:10,960
Speaker 2: But what is the age that you think is like

551
00:27:11,000 --> 00:27:13,679
Speaker 2: a reasonable age to like to know to figure it

552
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:14,880
Speaker 2: out even if you're not told.

553
00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:16,120
Speaker 1: Probably like sixth grade.

554
00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:20,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, sixth feels and developmentary school. Honestly, it's like the perfect.

555
00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:22,080
Speaker 1: I wonder if any kids, because like we didn't have

556
00:27:22,119 --> 00:27:23,800
Speaker 1: like the Internet in the same way, I wonder if

557
00:27:23,800 --> 00:27:25,760
Speaker 1: any kids like believe in Santa anymore?

558
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:28,760
Speaker 2: Well, I mean they still have like this, I'm really

559
00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:30,920
Speaker 2: going to date myself I guess, but like my parents

560
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:32,679
Speaker 2: will be playing like good Morning America and they like

561
00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:34,680
Speaker 2: just got word from the North Pole like that, and

562
00:27:34,720 --> 00:27:36,760
Speaker 2: they'd be like, see you look, Santa's on the news

563
00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:37,439
Speaker 2: or like whatever.

564
00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:39,480
Speaker 3: I mean, they still got to have that, right, like.

565
00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:41,280
Speaker 2: Coco mail and then do they got Cocoa mail and

566
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:42,320
Speaker 2: like Santa reporting it?

567
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:42,600
Speaker 5: Yeah?

568
00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:44,720
Speaker 6: But like for the for Internet, I wonder if like

569
00:27:44,840 --> 00:27:48,560
Speaker 6: for you know, parent you know that parent mode, safe mode,

570
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:50,560
Speaker 6: if like looking up is Santa real.

571
00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:51,840
Speaker 5: Like is blocked?

572
00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:54,200
Speaker 3: You know what? You know. The other thing I thought

573
00:27:54,280 --> 00:27:55,280
Speaker 3: was it would be hilarious.

574
00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:57,520
Speaker 2: What if there's like a whole section of like kids

575
00:27:57,600 --> 00:28:00,480
Speaker 2: Internet where there's like like the True Six Suposers and

576
00:28:00,520 --> 00:28:01,880
Speaker 2: there's like Andrew Taylor be.

577
00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 4: Like listen up real time, just don't believe in Santa

578
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:08,920
Speaker 4: Claus because that's for me and we're toddlers.

579
00:28:10,080 --> 00:28:13,120
Speaker 1: I remember in fourth grade, like there was some kid

580
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:15,320
Speaker 1: that was like I don't believe in Santa or whatever,

581
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:18,800
Speaker 1: and then this other kid was like, what do you

582
00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:22,399
Speaker 1: have to say about this? And from the Scholastic book

583
00:28:22,440 --> 00:28:30,280
Speaker 1: fair it was an autobiography. I don't I remember it.

584
00:28:30,640 --> 00:28:33,439
Speaker 1: It was either an autobiography or biography, and I remember

585
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:36,800
Speaker 1: being like, oh shit, like Santa has like an autobiography,

586
00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 1: and so I like read it and I'm like, oh damn,

587
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 1: I guess yeah, this confirmed I believe in Santa Claus.

588
00:28:42,320 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 5: Dude, he is a sucker for autobiography.

589
00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:48,960
Speaker 1: I just finished. They're very convincing, the very they are. Yeah,

590
00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:52,640
Speaker 1: but I do have my own. Okay, story time, Okay,

591
00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:57,640
Speaker 1: let's get into it. Oh yeah, so about family drama. Yes,

592
00:28:57,800 --> 00:29:01,640
Speaker 1: So our friend, mutual friend Jack Gordon watches videos, he's great,

593
00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:04,160
Speaker 1: invited me to this thing like YouTube prom where it

594
00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:06,880
Speaker 1: was like, you take a bunch of people. I am

595
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:10,240
Speaker 1: recently single, and well, I guess not that recently anymore.

596
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:16,120
Speaker 1: I'm I recently single. And I was like supposed to

597
00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:18,680
Speaker 1: take a date and my cousin was in town. She's

598
00:29:18,840 --> 00:29:21,720
Speaker 1: from Arizona. So I took my cousin and I didn't

599
00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:24,240
Speaker 1: take and like, like I only could invite one people,

600
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:26,760
Speaker 1: like one person as my plus one. Yeah, and so

601
00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:30,240
Speaker 1: I couldn't invite more people. But apparently it got through

602
00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:34,160
Speaker 1: the like the family grape vine, we were that I

603
00:29:34,240 --> 00:29:38,880
Speaker 1: intentionally excluded all my other cousins. I have like fifty cousins.

604
00:29:39,640 --> 00:29:41,800
Speaker 1: And then we met up at a dinner that was

605
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 1: supposed to be only like the the main family like that,

606
00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:47,800
Speaker 1: like all the my my aunts and uncles, all my

607
00:29:47,800 --> 00:29:50,480
Speaker 1: aunts and uncles and me and my other cousin were there.

608
00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:54,160
Speaker 1: And then one of my aunts was like, they're there.

609
00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:56,840
Speaker 1: There's blackmail in the family, and she's texting my other

610
00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:59,760
Speaker 1: cousins saying like they're intentionally excluding you. You need to

611
00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 1: glue them. And it's caused this massive family drama to

612
00:30:05,160 --> 00:30:10,240
Speaker 1: the point that we changed our Thanksgiving plans because that

613
00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:12,720
Speaker 1: that that that that aunt was so mad.

614
00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:14,600
Speaker 3: What does your mom think about this?

615
00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 1: She thinks it's a bs T. She think it's a

616
00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:21,120
Speaker 1: bunch of bullshit. Yeah, yeah, dude, So yeah, the drama

617
00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:24,600
Speaker 1: is happening dramas. It was so dumb.

618
00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:29,320
Speaker 2: That's crazy, And like like how how did you you

619
00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 2: obviously said like there's only one plus one?

620
00:30:32,760 --> 00:30:34,720
Speaker 1: Do you think they don't believe me? I don't know.

621
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:39,280
Speaker 1: Well I think they there's a liar. I don't know.

622
00:30:39,360 --> 00:30:42,640
Speaker 1: I mean, so, I think the big issue was there

623
00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:46,800
Speaker 1: was this like aunts and uncle's dinner, so my grandparents

624
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:50,640
Speaker 1: and like the core ten children and we weren't supposed

625
00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:53,400
Speaker 1: to be there, but I was picking up Alex from

626
00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:56,280
Speaker 1: I was picking up my cousin from there to take

627
00:30:56,320 --> 00:30:59,280
Speaker 1: her to YouTube prom and then my aunt was saw

628
00:30:59,360 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 1: us to there, and then she's like, why I wasn't

629
00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:03,840
Speaker 1: he Why wasn't my son invited?

630
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:05,840
Speaker 3: And uh was super.

631
00:31:05,640 --> 00:31:07,719
Speaker 1: Pissed and felt like, oh, he's being excluded even though

632
00:31:07,720 --> 00:31:10,280
Speaker 1: we're there for like fifteen minutes before we left. She

633
00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:15,080
Speaker 1: just a whole big ordeal. And then apparently at the

634
00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:18,840
Speaker 1: dinner she started just like fucking dreaming everyone and she's

635
00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 1: like like like just like like cursing at people around

636
00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:23,280
Speaker 1: the table. Yeah, it's kind of nuts.

637
00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:24,200
Speaker 3: Wow.

638
00:31:24,440 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, wait, was this on your mom or dad's side

639
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:27,080
Speaker 5: that said.

640
00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:28,040
Speaker 3: You know what's for sure?

641
00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:40,080
Speaker 1: This segment is definitely gonna help what oh the situation? Yeah, bro,

642
00:31:40,280 --> 00:31:43,080
Speaker 1: I hope not. I hope not.

643
00:31:43,680 --> 00:31:44,600
Speaker 3: Sam is so funny.

644
00:31:44,640 --> 00:31:47,840
Speaker 2: He's like, we have a podcast with hundreds of thousands

645
00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:50,719
Speaker 2: of people. He's like, no one's gonna watch this. I'm like, no,

646
00:31:51,040 --> 00:31:53,520
Speaker 2: hundreds of thousands of people watch it. No one that

647
00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:55,080
Speaker 2: I know is going to watch it.

648
00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:57,719
Speaker 1: You never know, dude, I don't think anyone I know,

649
00:31:57,960 --> 00:32:01,240
Speaker 1: Like I still until we get like to even if

650
00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:04,360
Speaker 1: we had ten million listeners per episode it's true. I

651
00:32:04,360 --> 00:32:06,520
Speaker 1: would just expect none of my family to listen to it.

652
00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:09,360
Speaker 1: It's true, unless until they start saying, hey, I was

653
00:32:09,360 --> 00:32:12,440
Speaker 1: listening to your podcast, yeah, and you said this. Then

654
00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:14,000
Speaker 1: I'll be like, okay, I'll scale it down.

655
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:17,480
Speaker 3: What if they're listening but not telling you to the.

656
00:32:17,480 --> 00:32:20,280
Speaker 1: Continue so I've said so much shit they would definitely

657
00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:22,920
Speaker 1: say something or or are they like.

658
00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:24,920
Speaker 2: Guys, let's keep it under wrap so he can we

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Speaker 2: can get more juice out of them.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know that since conspiracy put

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Speaker 1: on your tinfoil hat. But with that, do you have

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Speaker 1: a story for me, Johnny boy?

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Speaker 3: I do