1 00:00:02,240 --> 00:00:06,320 Speaker 1: Well, we want to say thank you again. She's powerful, 2 00:00:06,480 --> 00:00:08,920 Speaker 1: She's one of the smartest people I've ever met in 3 00:00:09,000 --> 00:00:13,880 Speaker 1: my life. Georgia gubernatorial candidate Stacy Abrams, thank you so 4 00:00:13,960 --> 00:00:16,000 Speaker 1: much for joining us today. We have to get out 5 00:00:16,040 --> 00:00:18,840 Speaker 1: and vote, Steve. I mean, it's just imperative. We have 6 00:00:18,920 --> 00:00:21,480 Speaker 1: to get out and vote early voting. It's starting Scott too. 7 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:25,840 Speaker 1: I mean, look, the alternative is not good. Yeah. Look, 8 00:00:25,840 --> 00:00:28,040 Speaker 1: we've said he and we've dealt with this. I just 9 00:00:28,120 --> 00:00:34,800 Speaker 1: don't understand, Leon know what I'm I'm confused. I'm confused 10 00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:40,320 Speaker 1: for women. First of all, ro versus Wade should have 11 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:45,159 Speaker 1: been a female decision, purely to me. Yeah, I don't 12 00:00:45,200 --> 00:00:48,640 Speaker 1: even see why. Why why me and vote? They don't 13 00:00:48,720 --> 00:00:52,720 Speaker 1: know anything about what that is, birth, how it feels 14 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:55,000 Speaker 1: to be pregnant, none of that. Yeah, they don't. They 15 00:00:55,000 --> 00:00:57,880 Speaker 1: don't know about the decision that could be made. Men 16 00:00:57,920 --> 00:01:00,680 Speaker 1: should have been out of it for this party to 17 00:01:00,680 --> 00:01:06,200 Speaker 1: take a stand, for everybody in this country to make 18 00:01:06,240 --> 00:01:11,399 Speaker 1: a decision for you, with your body, your life, and 19 00:01:11,600 --> 00:01:16,679 Speaker 1: your productive sales, that you have to do this because 20 00:01:17,720 --> 00:01:23,680 Speaker 1: sex was committed. So now it just it it alarms 21 00:01:23,760 --> 00:01:27,480 Speaker 1: me that because you're just in a party, you're supposed 22 00:01:27,480 --> 00:01:31,959 Speaker 1: to agree with that when clearly I know you don't. Yeah, 23 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:36,000 Speaker 1: I just don't understand how a woman does not want 24 00:01:36,040 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 1: the choice vote for your reproductive rights, to just get 25 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:44,880 Speaker 1: out in boom period. It's just it's just the way 26 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:47,960 Speaker 1: women should be. And I don't even like to say 27 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:50,400 Speaker 1: this word what we should allow women to do? What 28 00:01:50,560 --> 00:01:53,920 Speaker 1: the hell? But I like, as a man, you're standing 29 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:56,840 Speaker 1: up for women and our rights, you know, and all 30 00:01:56,880 --> 00:02:00,960 Speaker 1: of that. More should do the same, um, you know. Again, 31 00:02:01,040 --> 00:02:03,280 Speaker 1: Thank you to Stacy Abrams. Please get out and vote 32 00:02:03,280 --> 00:02:07,400 Speaker 1: in November. We're gonna switch gears here now, Steve, it 33 00:02:07,520 --> 00:02:10,920 Speaker 1: is time for today's Strawberry Letter. If you need advice 34 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:14,880 Speaker 1: on relationships, on dating, work, parenting, sex, and more, please 35 00:02:14,919 --> 00:02:18,120 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and 36 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:21,560 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter 37 00:02:21,639 --> 00:02:23,280 Speaker 1: live on the air, and you never know it could 38 00:02:23,320 --> 00:02:27,400 Speaker 1: be yours. All right, that's it, buckle up, old on tight, 39 00:02:27,440 --> 00:02:29,760 Speaker 1: we got it for you. Here it ease Strawberry Letter. 40 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 1: Thank you nephew. Subject his cousin is spreading it around. 41 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:37,160 Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, My husband and I have been together 42 00:02:37,480 --> 00:02:40,960 Speaker 1: since we were seventeen and we've been married for three years. 43 00:02:41,200 --> 00:02:43,680 Speaker 1: We are both twenty seven years old, but we feel 44 00:02:43,720 --> 00:02:46,280 Speaker 1: older than that because we did a lot of traveling 45 00:02:46,280 --> 00:02:49,400 Speaker 1: and having fun together before we settled down. I just 46 00:02:49,520 --> 00:02:52,600 Speaker 1: had our first child, and i've been home nursing the baby. 47 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:56,400 Speaker 1: My husband's thirty six year old cousin insisted on coming 48 00:02:56,440 --> 00:02:59,080 Speaker 1: to help us out with the baby because she's raised 49 00:02:59,120 --> 00:03:02,600 Speaker 1: five of her own children. She started having babies in 50 00:03:02,720 --> 00:03:05,600 Speaker 1: high school, and her kids are older now, so she's 51 00:03:05,639 --> 00:03:09,359 Speaker 1: free to do as she pleases. We gladly accepted her 52 00:03:09,360 --> 00:03:11,920 Speaker 1: to her help, and she has been with us for 53 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:15,440 Speaker 1: three weeks. She is excellent with the baby and she 54 00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:18,359 Speaker 1: helps me tidy up around the house. But after that 55 00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 1: she gets out in the streets. She goes out late 56 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:26,360 Speaker 1: at night because that's when the clubs are jumping. According 57 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:29,679 Speaker 1: to her, I'm not sure what clubs are open on weeknights, 58 00:03:29,680 --> 00:03:32,880 Speaker 1: but she has been hanging out from Wednesday to Sunday. 59 00:03:33,240 --> 00:03:36,240 Speaker 1: I've seen numerous hotel keys in a kitchen garbage can, 60 00:03:36,520 --> 00:03:38,240 Speaker 1: and I wonder why she's not trying to be a 61 00:03:38,280 --> 00:03:41,160 Speaker 1: little more discreet. I brought it up to my husband 62 00:03:41,200 --> 00:03:43,440 Speaker 1: the other night, and he was full of talk about 63 00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:46,080 Speaker 1: his cousin. He said he was too ashamed to admit 64 00:03:46,120 --> 00:03:49,000 Speaker 1: it to me, but his cousin is now and has 65 00:03:49,120 --> 00:03:53,120 Speaker 1: always been promiscuous, and he thought twice about having her 66 00:03:53,160 --> 00:03:55,920 Speaker 1: come to our home. He told me that she slept 67 00:03:56,000 --> 00:03:58,160 Speaker 1: with two of his friends since she's been with us, 68 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:01,800 Speaker 1: it's only been three weeks, and both of his friends 69 00:04:01,840 --> 00:04:05,800 Speaker 1: are married. I refrain from judging her, but I don't 70 00:04:05,840 --> 00:04:08,840 Speaker 1: want her in our social circle breaking up happy homes. 71 00:04:09,120 --> 00:04:11,200 Speaker 1: How do I talk to a woman that's older than 72 00:04:11,240 --> 00:04:14,640 Speaker 1: I am about changing her ways and maybe getting therapy. 73 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:19,760 Speaker 1: Something's got to be wrong here. Wow, that was a lot. 74 00:04:21,400 --> 00:04:24,320 Speaker 1: So this is what we have, all right? We have 75 00:04:24,360 --> 00:04:29,000 Speaker 1: a garden tool that breaks up families. Basically is what 76 00:04:29,120 --> 00:04:32,160 Speaker 1: your letter saying. She's breaking them up, sleeping with married men, 77 00:04:32,320 --> 00:04:35,839 Speaker 1: doing all that. But on the other hand, she takes 78 00:04:35,960 --> 00:04:39,880 Speaker 1: great care of your kids. Who thought this was a 79 00:04:39,920 --> 00:04:42,880 Speaker 1: great idea for her to come? Wait a minute, you 80 00:04:42,880 --> 00:04:46,280 Speaker 1: said in your letter, we gladly accepted her help. She's 81 00:04:46,440 --> 00:04:49,200 Speaker 1: excellent with the baby. You also said she helped you 82 00:04:49,279 --> 00:04:52,480 Speaker 1: tidy tidy up around the house. You needed the help, 83 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:54,880 Speaker 1: and we're glad to accept it. Was glad to accept 84 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:57,760 Speaker 1: it from her. What you didn't know was about her 85 00:04:57,839 --> 00:05:01,520 Speaker 1: extracurricular activities when she goes hits those streets at night 86 00:05:01,520 --> 00:05:04,360 Speaker 1: and hits the clubs. But your husband knew and didn't 87 00:05:04,400 --> 00:05:07,080 Speaker 1: tell you. He said he was too ashamed. And now 88 00:05:07,120 --> 00:05:10,120 Speaker 1: people are starting to talk and her sexual shenanigans have 89 00:05:10,200 --> 00:05:12,919 Speaker 1: hit pretty close to home with his two friends she 90 00:05:13,080 --> 00:05:16,480 Speaker 1: slept with. And you're feeling guilty now by association and 91 00:05:16,640 --> 00:05:18,800 Speaker 1: want to say anything but say something to her. But 92 00:05:18,839 --> 00:05:21,240 Speaker 1: what can you say to her? I mean, she's been 93 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:24,560 Speaker 1: doing this since high school. Yeah, it's a mess. But 94 00:05:24,680 --> 00:05:27,360 Speaker 1: unless you have someone on deck right now to help 95 00:05:27,360 --> 00:05:31,080 Speaker 1: you with the baby, and it doesn't seem like your 96 00:05:31,120 --> 00:05:35,360 Speaker 1: cousin is disrespecting your house, I say, continue your policy 97 00:05:35,360 --> 00:05:37,559 Speaker 1: of not judging her, but you've got to start looking 98 00:05:37,560 --> 00:05:40,080 Speaker 1: for someone else to help with the baby right away 99 00:05:40,120 --> 00:05:44,760 Speaker 1: because she does need to go. If this is the case, Steve, well, 100 00:05:44,839 --> 00:05:48,720 Speaker 1: let's see his cousin is spreading it around. Now we 101 00:05:48,839 --> 00:05:52,120 Speaker 1: know what the letter means, right, and what she's spreading 102 00:05:52,160 --> 00:05:57,240 Speaker 1: around ain't peanut butter, No it is, but she's spreading 103 00:05:57,240 --> 00:06:00,880 Speaker 1: it like it is peanut butter. And the life and 104 00:06:00,960 --> 00:06:03,799 Speaker 1: the circle of friends, y'all gout is a slice of bread, 105 00:06:05,279 --> 00:06:07,719 Speaker 1: and it's all over the damn bread. That's how I 106 00:06:07,800 --> 00:06:09,640 Speaker 1: like my peanut butter, though I don't like none of 107 00:06:09,640 --> 00:06:12,320 Speaker 1: the bread showing when I make my stand because I 108 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:15,520 Speaker 1: want every bite to have peanut butter on it. So 109 00:06:15,600 --> 00:06:19,400 Speaker 1: she's making sure that everybody get a bite got peanut 110 00:06:19,400 --> 00:06:23,040 Speaker 1: butter on it. Peynut, by the hell, get y'all peanuts here, 111 00:06:23,240 --> 00:06:28,520 Speaker 1: peanuts for everybody. She spread and he nut butter around 112 00:06:28,720 --> 00:06:31,800 Speaker 1: we come back. It's very simply how I'm gonna do this. 113 00:06:32,560 --> 00:06:36,640 Speaker 1: I'm gonna show you why. I'm gonna just show you why, 114 00:06:37,080 --> 00:06:38,680 Speaker 1: and I don't want to say what because I don't 115 00:06:38,680 --> 00:06:41,240 Speaker 1: want to give away. When I come back, it'll all 116 00:06:41,240 --> 00:06:43,840 Speaker 1: be clear. All right. We'll have part two of Steve's 117 00:06:43,920 --> 00:06:46,679 Speaker 1: response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. 118 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:51,320 Speaker 1: Today's strawberry letters. Subject is his cousin is spreading it around. 119 00:06:51,880 --> 00:06:57,480 Speaker 1: We'll be back right after this. You're listening show, all right, 120 00:06:57,480 --> 00:07:00,440 Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter. This subject 121 00:07:00,640 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 1: is his cousin is spreading it around. Now, I'm gonna 122 00:07:04,120 --> 00:07:07,400 Speaker 1: walk you through this letter, and there's a lot of 123 00:07:07,560 --> 00:07:11,960 Speaker 1: at the beginning is all irrelevant information. Stephen Sherley, my 124 00:07:12,040 --> 00:07:14,160 Speaker 1: husband I've been together since we were seventeen. We've been 125 00:07:14,160 --> 00:07:16,200 Speaker 1: married three years. Were both twenty seven years old, but 126 00:07:16,240 --> 00:07:18,400 Speaker 1: we feel older because that what We did a lot 127 00:07:18,400 --> 00:07:21,520 Speaker 1: of traveling, having fun together before we settled down. All 128 00:07:21,600 --> 00:07:25,640 Speaker 1: that's irrelevant information. We had our first child and I've 129 00:07:25,640 --> 00:07:27,800 Speaker 1: been home nursing the baby. Now we're get into it. 130 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:34,280 Speaker 1: My husband's thirty six year old cousin insisted on coming 131 00:07:34,320 --> 00:07:37,080 Speaker 1: to help us out with the baby because she has 132 00:07:37,160 --> 00:07:44,119 Speaker 1: raised five of her own thirty six with five. Now, 133 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:48,400 Speaker 1: let's get into how she got the five, why she 134 00:07:48,600 --> 00:07:51,920 Speaker 1: got the five, and why she's such a good babysit. 135 00:07:53,400 --> 00:07:58,400 Speaker 1: She started having babies in high school. Huh yeah, so 136 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:03,200 Speaker 1: she thirty six, you twenty seven. She just nine years 137 00:08:03,320 --> 00:08:07,760 Speaker 1: older than you. But she started having babies in high school. 138 00:08:08,600 --> 00:08:10,920 Speaker 1: The kids are older now, so she's free to do 139 00:08:10,960 --> 00:08:13,320 Speaker 1: as she pleases when the king. All five of them 140 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:17,440 Speaker 1: can't be that old. All five of them can't be eighteen. 141 00:08:19,280 --> 00:08:21,640 Speaker 1: You had some of these five kids after high school, 142 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:23,480 Speaker 1: so this is going to do what the hell you 143 00:08:23,520 --> 00:08:26,240 Speaker 1: want to do, unless you've trained the other kids to 144 00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:30,440 Speaker 1: be babysitters too. I don't know, but we're working on it. 145 00:08:30,960 --> 00:08:34,840 Speaker 1: We gratefully accepted her help and she's been with us 146 00:08:34,840 --> 00:08:39,000 Speaker 1: for three weeks. She is excellent with the baby. Well, 147 00:08:39,080 --> 00:08:45,960 Speaker 1: let's talk about that. If you got five, we got 148 00:08:46,040 --> 00:08:52,240 Speaker 1: five now. She ought to be good at babies by now. 149 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:57,560 Speaker 1: Fifth one puts you in the expert category and she 150 00:08:57,679 --> 00:09:00,520 Speaker 1: helps me tidy up around the house. But after that 151 00:09:00,720 --> 00:09:03,720 Speaker 1: she get out in the streets. This is why she 152 00:09:03,920 --> 00:09:07,240 Speaker 1: insisted on coming to stay with y'all because y'all stay 153 00:09:07,320 --> 00:09:11,360 Speaker 1: in an area that she liked to run in. She 154 00:09:11,600 --> 00:09:16,600 Speaker 1: liked y'all's area of the streets. That's why she go 155 00:09:16,640 --> 00:09:19,920 Speaker 1: out late at night, because that's when the clubs are jumping. 156 00:09:20,480 --> 00:09:23,520 Speaker 1: That's a true statement according to her. I'm not sure 157 00:09:23,559 --> 00:09:26,320 Speaker 1: what clubs are open on weeknights. Girl. There's a lot 158 00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:29,000 Speaker 1: of places open on weeknights, a whole lot of places. 159 00:09:30,520 --> 00:09:33,800 Speaker 1: But she's been hanging out from Wednesday to Sunday. That's 160 00:09:33,840 --> 00:09:40,400 Speaker 1: when they're open Thursday night and late at night Wednesday 161 00:09:40,440 --> 00:09:44,000 Speaker 1: Happy Hour, and then once you get once you leave 162 00:09:44,080 --> 00:09:48,120 Speaker 1: Happy Hour, then you go and experience the happy that 163 00:09:48,240 --> 00:09:52,480 Speaker 1: the hour presented. See the hour provides the happiness, and 164 00:09:52,520 --> 00:09:54,720 Speaker 1: then you're going, you don't want to blow these drinks 165 00:09:54,760 --> 00:09:57,480 Speaker 1: on nothing, so you take your little drunk and ass 166 00:09:57,559 --> 00:10:03,600 Speaker 1: on our And I've seen numerous hotel keys in the garbage, 167 00:10:03,600 --> 00:10:06,280 Speaker 1: in the kitchen garbage. That's where she put them, because 168 00:10:06,320 --> 00:10:08,079 Speaker 1: at the happy hour you got to go and use 169 00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:15,680 Speaker 1: these drunks. I wonder why she's not trying to be 170 00:10:15,760 --> 00:10:21,240 Speaker 1: a little more discreet. They in the trash, They in 171 00:10:21,400 --> 00:10:25,480 Speaker 1: the trash. Hard to be with the discreet with somebody 172 00:10:25,600 --> 00:10:29,240 Speaker 1: looking through the trash. That's you because you throw it 173 00:10:29,280 --> 00:10:31,600 Speaker 1: in my kitchen trash and let's it's on the top, 174 00:10:31,800 --> 00:10:33,880 Speaker 1: laying straight out of me, and I'm not gonna see it. 175 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:37,120 Speaker 1: All right, here we go. I brought it up to 176 00:10:37,200 --> 00:10:40,360 Speaker 1: my husband another night, and he was full of talk 177 00:10:40,400 --> 00:10:43,320 Speaker 1: about his cousin. He said it was too ashamed to 178 00:10:43,360 --> 00:10:46,679 Speaker 1: admit it to me, But his cousin is now and 179 00:10:46,760 --> 00:10:52,320 Speaker 1: has always been promiscuous. We got five kids, now, I've 180 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:56,320 Speaker 1: seen numerous hotel keys in the kitchen garbage. Came she 181 00:10:56,480 --> 00:11:00,800 Speaker 1: got five kids, gonna be some hotels in the trad 182 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:05,760 Speaker 1: You know what what you need to find in the trash, 183 00:11:05,880 --> 00:11:08,880 Speaker 1: It's some some condom rappers. It's what you need to 184 00:11:08,920 --> 00:11:11,440 Speaker 1: find in the tred but we're not finding that in 185 00:11:11,480 --> 00:11:14,640 Speaker 1: the trash. We finding hotel keys. Need to find some 186 00:11:14,760 --> 00:11:18,120 Speaker 1: damn rappers in the damn trash. It's what you need 187 00:11:18,160 --> 00:11:23,280 Speaker 1: to find. But we're not my cousins and promiscuous. And 188 00:11:23,840 --> 00:11:26,160 Speaker 1: he thought twice about having her come to the house. 189 00:11:26,559 --> 00:11:29,520 Speaker 1: He told me that she's slept with two of his friends. 190 00:11:30,679 --> 00:11:35,200 Speaker 1: Once again, that's how you get five kids, sleep with 191 00:11:35,280 --> 00:11:39,160 Speaker 1: two more friends. You know what she's been since she's 192 00:11:39,200 --> 00:11:43,040 Speaker 1: been with us, and it's only been three weeks, and 193 00:11:43,120 --> 00:11:45,320 Speaker 1: so you can sleep with two people in three weeks. 194 00:11:46,200 --> 00:11:50,280 Speaker 1: That's how you get five kids, two people in three weeks. 195 00:11:50,280 --> 00:11:52,160 Speaker 1: That ain't nothing. It ain't a man. Don't here reading 196 00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:54,880 Speaker 1: that going what now? You women can tell me what? 197 00:11:55,360 --> 00:11:57,360 Speaker 1: She just slept with two people in three weeks. That's 198 00:11:57,400 --> 00:12:00,240 Speaker 1: shocking to y'all. That ain't shocking to no man. This 199 00:12:00,400 --> 00:12:04,640 Speaker 1: letter I refrained from judge and her the whole letter 200 00:12:04,800 --> 00:12:08,040 Speaker 1: Judge and her, she got five kids. This letter was 201 00:12:08,040 --> 00:12:12,520 Speaker 1: written in judgment. I don't want her in our social circle, 202 00:12:12,559 --> 00:12:15,800 Speaker 1: breaking up happy home. Ain't nobody fitting to tell this? 203 00:12:15,920 --> 00:12:19,600 Speaker 1: But you how do I talk to a woman that's 204 00:12:19,640 --> 00:12:21,880 Speaker 1: older than me. She only nine years older than you. 205 00:12:22,640 --> 00:12:24,600 Speaker 1: How do I talk to her about changing her ways 206 00:12:24,600 --> 00:12:30,800 Speaker 1: and maybe getting therapy? Therapy? Look, Steve's gotta be wrong, Hill. 207 00:12:32,280 --> 00:12:35,400 Speaker 1: My bodyguard had a book that didn't the name of 208 00:12:35,400 --> 00:12:37,800 Speaker 1: the book. If you won't close you in your relationship 209 00:12:37,880 --> 00:12:41,640 Speaker 1: start with your legs. That was the name of a 210 00:12:41,800 --> 00:12:49,360 Speaker 1: very famous book. If you won't close you start on 211 00:12:49,559 --> 00:12:56,880 Speaker 1: today's Strubberry he Bode the Bodyguard. Boost your comments on 212 00:12:57,000 --> 00:13:00,679 Speaker 1: Today's Strubberry Letter at Steve Harper FM on Instagram and Facebook, 213 00:13:00,679 --> 00:13:04,120 Speaker 1: and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. Now 214 00:13:04,160 --> 00:13:06,400 Speaker 1: coming up with forty six minutes after the hour, it 215 00:13:06,520 --> 00:13:10,400 Speaker 1: is Junior with Sports Talk. 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