WEBVTT - Parent Confessions 0:00:01.639 --> 0:00:06.199 Wind down and Michael Cochlin and I have heard radio podcast. 0:00:07.200 --> 0:00:14.240 It's our first recording International house, Crazy, so insane and sweet. 0:00:14.240 --> 0:00:20.279 Easton is slumber partying it with us. It's um, I 0:00:20.320 --> 0:00:22.239 know you guys are listening to this Monday morning, but 0:00:22.800 --> 0:00:25.959 real time right now for us. It's a nasty thunderstorm 0:00:26.040 --> 0:00:29.560 outside and but I kind of love it. I love 0:00:30.000 --> 0:00:34.440 Michael's yawning. So this is gonna be a great episode. No, 0:00:34.600 --> 0:00:37.320 I just I had love a good thunderstorm. I'm scared 0:00:37.360 --> 0:00:40.960 to drive in thunderstorms, but I like being at home 0:00:41.120 --> 0:00:45.080 in the screen and porch. I think, yes, driving in 0:00:45.159 --> 0:00:47.920 a thunderstorm isn't fun, but being in the car, like 0:00:47.960 --> 0:00:50.760 when you're a kid and your parents are driving the thunderstorm, 0:00:50.760 --> 0:00:53.800 it's just something cozy about it, so cozy I'll never forget. 0:00:54.080 --> 0:00:56.440 I know Katherine's listened to this. So I was in 0:00:56.440 --> 0:00:58.360 a car. We were going to pick up a dog, 0:00:59.080 --> 0:01:03.480 and dog, um the boxer that I had. Channas had 0:01:03.480 --> 0:01:07.560 more dogs and I can't remember. This is where dogs 0:01:07.600 --> 0:01:15.039 come to pass on no stop but no. So I 0:01:15.080 --> 0:01:16.800 we were going to pick up this dog and Katherine 0:01:16.880 --> 0:01:19.720 was driving, and it started to get like this really 0:01:19.840 --> 0:01:24.240 scary looking weather where it was like you're on the expressway, 0:01:24.280 --> 0:01:27.040 what do you do? So I'm like Catherine ball over 0:01:28.200 --> 0:01:31.200 and I was like screaming a passenger. It was the passenger, 0:01:31.200 --> 0:01:33.440 Why are you freaking out so much? Because there was 0:01:33.440 --> 0:01:35.480 about to be a tornado? Like it was a funnel cloud. 0:01:35.880 --> 0:01:37.640 It was terrifying. So we pulled over and went into 0:01:37.680 --> 0:01:40.480 a gas station. But that's just my biggest did you 0:01:40.480 --> 0:01:44.040 spot the funnel cloud? Okay, I swear it's in the 0:01:44.160 --> 0:01:46.880 five coming our way. We gotta get off. No, I truly, 0:01:47.040 --> 0:01:50.080 I'm obviously a big fan of Twister, but no, I 0:01:50.840 --> 0:01:54.760 literally you know, remember that one time to where the 0:01:55.000 --> 0:01:58.800 sirens were going off and I wouldn't go get I 0:01:58.840 --> 0:02:01.600 wouldn't go to CVS. I mean technically you shouldn't anyways 0:02:01.600 --> 0:02:04.200 because the are going off, But no, I mean I 0:02:04.280 --> 0:02:06.360 just I don't know. I get really scared thunderstorms when 0:02:06.360 --> 0:02:08.560 I'm driving. I mean, you just had to come out 0:02:08.560 --> 0:02:11.200 and run out of our room and like screamed for 0:02:11.280 --> 0:02:13.919 me and say, Michael, is our window going to cave in? 0:02:14.040 --> 0:02:17.240 Well it was doing that, Like, yeah, there's just thunder 0:02:17.520 --> 0:02:20.120 I know. I love it though, it's very crazy. Yeah, 0:02:20.120 --> 0:02:21.639 it's really a hidden that's around in the house. So 0:02:21.680 --> 0:02:24.079 I'm trying to catch them. But the move has been 0:02:24.160 --> 0:02:28.799 so exciting. Yeah, and not going on. Yeah, it's been fun. 0:02:29.200 --> 0:02:31.359 It's been stressful, but it has been fun, even though 0:02:31.360 --> 0:02:33.440 we still have so much more to do. And poor 0:02:33.480 --> 0:02:37.040 Easton sleeping on so our producer Amy was like, we'll 0:02:37.080 --> 0:02:39.120 put Eastern up in a hotel and like, no, Easton 0:02:39.200 --> 0:02:42.120 has to stay with us. But then now he's literally 0:02:42.120 --> 0:02:45.919 sleeping on the ground, mattress on the ground. He did 0:02:45.919 --> 0:02:47.360 you see how I put the headboard though, so it 0:02:47.440 --> 0:02:49.679 kind of feels like he's he's gonna be real bad. 0:02:50.320 --> 0:02:54.359 It's an optical illusion. Yeah, it totally is. But we're 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:57.799 happy are here Eastern things. Yes, having any other way, 0:02:58.000 --> 0:03:00.680 but no, it's really it's interesting. It's it's feels weird 0:03:00.720 --> 0:03:02.800 to be in the house. A lot of people have 0:03:02.800 --> 0:03:05.880 asked about the leak. Um if the leak has been 0:03:05.880 --> 0:03:09.720 fixed again. I find out about business in our life 0:03:09.960 --> 0:03:12.960 via my friends and family members because they text me 0:03:13.000 --> 0:03:14.640 about there's a leak in your house. I'm like, how 0:03:14.680 --> 0:03:16.919 do you even know? And then even though this has 0:03:16.960 --> 0:03:22.560 happened a thousand times, Oh, Jane instagramed, Uh so, yeah, 0:03:22.600 --> 0:03:26.960 so I guess you instagram. You know. Well, people say that, 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:29.519 you know, you have to be really careful of mold, 0:03:29.639 --> 0:03:31.600 and so that freaks me out because I don't want 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:36.880 because mold can make you so sick kids, adults, so 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:39.680 I'm fearful of that. So a lot of people were like, 0:03:39.880 --> 0:03:43.000 make sure you check because mold can grow so incredibly fast. 0:03:43.760 --> 0:03:45.280 So that was one of their main concerns. And then 0:03:45.320 --> 0:03:47.600 they said that maybe the flashing wasn't right in the windows. 0:03:48.440 --> 0:03:50.840 So what did the builders say? It was the windows. 0:03:51.840 --> 0:03:54.960 So they fixed it that night and then the window 0:03:55.000 --> 0:03:57.240 company came out the next day just to make sure. 0:03:58.680 --> 0:04:01.040 Oh so they didn't repatch it. No, they did repatch it. 0:04:01.080 --> 0:04:04.640 Oh they did. Okay, So I was, okay, we're gonna 0:04:04.680 --> 0:04:07.760 be okay, We're not going to drown in a house. Yeah, 0:04:07.760 --> 0:04:10.040 but it's it's it's been cool. It's uh, you know, 0:04:10.080 --> 0:04:14.080 it's it's a change being back here. We do miss 0:04:15.000 --> 0:04:18.200 our little, you know, a little humble house in Los Angeles. 0:04:18.240 --> 0:04:22.040 And when Jolie has to the other night, Jolie was 0:04:22.080 --> 0:04:25.360 being a complete b word and having to send her 0:04:25.400 --> 0:04:28.680 to the Beautiful Baby, having to send her to her 0:04:28.800 --> 0:04:31.440 room over and over again and assisting her in that 0:04:31.520 --> 0:04:36.680 going up and down, up and down the stairs was interesting. 0:04:37.000 --> 0:04:39.400 You know, I never thought I would miss square feet, 0:04:39.400 --> 0:04:42.479 but I missed fourteen ft. It's like, wow, we really 0:04:42.520 --> 0:04:46.000 don't need that much. It's okay, Yeah, it was great 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:48.520 and I kind of miss I missed that, I missed 0:04:48.560 --> 0:04:50.640 the I was telling Julie this the other day. I 0:04:50.680 --> 0:04:54.080 was like, I miss kind of that comfy, cozy feeling. Yeah, 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:56.200 we're you're you're kind of on top of each other 0:04:56.480 --> 0:04:59.479 and everyone. You just feel kind of connected and yeah, 0:05:00.480 --> 0:05:03.240 because there's nowhere else to go. Yeah, last night we're 0:05:03.360 --> 0:05:08.360 leaving and supper butts, welcome to the Cossin House. Is 0:05:08.480 --> 0:05:12.160 that a way to start it off? Our second night 0:05:12.160 --> 0:05:17.880 now sleeping? Sleeping? Oh, way to just start a good 0:05:17.960 --> 0:05:28.000 time coming on? But that's inevitable. Not all relationships are perfect. No, 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:30.960 So anyways, you said you wanted to bring something up, 0:05:31.760 --> 0:05:33.839 So there's something interesting and we'll get back more on 0:05:33.839 --> 0:05:36.920 the move and everything. But so I was at by 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:38.960 the way you're talking in a very like jazzy like. 0:05:39.120 --> 0:05:42.080 So anyways, that's just I think it's I think part 0:05:42.080 --> 0:05:44.320 of me is trying to be quiet because the kids 0:05:44.360 --> 0:05:48.160 are sleeping. So it's like I'm trying to keep because 0:05:48.200 --> 0:05:50.719 my voice carries, right, it has, you know, so it 0:05:50.800 --> 0:05:53.600 carries even if I'm trying to be quiet. Maybe it's 0:05:53.600 --> 0:05:58.400 just naturally fallen into the smooth jazz. I need your 0:05:58.480 --> 0:06:01.360 energy to be a little more up there. But do 0:06:01.360 --> 0:06:04.800 you want me await the kids? They're sleeping, Okay, alright, 0:06:04.880 --> 0:06:07.920 So anyway, so something I wanted to bring up, which 0:06:07.920 --> 0:06:11.760 I thought this this topic is of sensitive nature, and 0:06:11.800 --> 0:06:14.800 I don't I'm not trying to ruffle any feathers and 0:06:14.839 --> 0:06:20.719 piss anybody off. This is just me being curious about 0:06:20.720 --> 0:06:23.919 this topic. So I was at home Depot like the 0:06:24.000 --> 0:06:27.600 second day we got here, because I needed every single 0:06:27.680 --> 0:06:30.760 day since we like moved into this house, because I'll 0:06:30.760 --> 0:06:33.039 be like, hey we need this later, Hey I need 0:06:33.040 --> 0:06:36.640 a screwdriver, Hey I need and this is sorry to 0:06:36.680 --> 0:06:38.960 cut you off, but he'll say, hey, I'm going to 0:06:39.000 --> 0:06:41.120 home depot. Five hours later he comes home and I 0:06:41.160 --> 0:06:43.039 was like, do you just stand in every single aisle 0:06:43.040 --> 0:06:45.159 and go I kind of do. It's like when you 0:06:45.200 --> 0:06:47.400 go to the grocery store and you don't really know 0:06:47.440 --> 0:06:48.919 what you're gonna get, you so you just kind of 0:06:48.920 --> 0:06:51.800 meander down every aisle. I was. I'm kind of that 0:06:51.839 --> 0:06:53.440 way at home deepot. I'm like, I know I only 0:06:53.440 --> 0:06:55.960 need this in this, but let me take a look 0:06:55.960 --> 0:06:58.640 in plumbing. There's nothing to do in plumbing. I'll never 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:00.240 do anything in plumbing, but let me do just take 0:07:00.279 --> 0:07:02.960 a look see if there's anything I need. So I 0:07:03.000 --> 0:07:04.320 was in home depot and I had to get a 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:08.640 new grill for the house. And I asked a gentleman. 0:07:08.680 --> 0:07:09.960 I was like, Hey, is there anyone in the grill 0:07:10.000 --> 0:07:11.640 section that can help me? They're like, yeah, Sarah's over 0:07:11.680 --> 0:07:14.840 there and can give your hands. Said okay, great, So 0:07:14.880 --> 0:07:18.680 I walk over. You're telling this story, yeah, because I 0:07:18.720 --> 0:07:23.120 think I think it's interesting. So I walked over and 0:07:23.160 --> 0:07:28.720 there Sarah and it was a gentleman. Okay, I mean 0:07:29.800 --> 0:07:33.920 it looked like, talked like, walked like a male at 0:07:33.920 --> 0:07:37.280 a five o'clock shadow, mustache and all. But his name 0:07:37.360 --> 0:07:42.240 was just Sarah. His name is Sarah, and uh was 0:07:42.280 --> 0:07:44.920 he being a Sarah or was he a Sarah? Justs Hey, Mike, Like, 0:07:45.000 --> 0:07:48.320 so I have a friend named Stacy. He's very straight Stacy. 0:07:48.440 --> 0:07:50.920 So is this a straight Stacy or no? This is 0:07:50.960 --> 0:07:55.760 a from my perspective, because they also had a pride 0:07:55.760 --> 0:07:59.480 pin on there. I come deep a vest was someone 0:07:59.520 --> 0:08:03.960 who was transitioning maybe into a woman. So I mean 0:08:04.280 --> 0:08:05.920 no issue at all. I was like, hey, Sarah, you 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:11.240 know whatever, and so this is where like even just 0:08:11.280 --> 0:08:14.560 saying it now like her at our time, do do 0:08:14.640 --> 0:08:21.280 I say she? Because like and when I when I 0:08:21.280 --> 0:08:26.080 think I wanted to thank her or him, I want, 0:08:26.120 --> 0:08:28.560 I want to say like yes ma'am or yes sir, 0:08:29.560 --> 0:08:32.240 and I didn't know what to say. We're just like 0:08:32.920 --> 0:08:39.600 I was just like, yes, Sarah, thank you, and she 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:42.400 or he was very very helpful and it was great, 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:46.280 and it was it was out of It wasn't me 0:08:46.320 --> 0:08:48.439 by being naive. It was just me being maybe hyper 0:08:48.440 --> 0:08:51.480 sensitive because I didn't want to offend them in any way. 0:08:52.280 --> 0:08:54.240 I just I didn't know you're saying them though? Is 0:08:54.240 --> 0:08:58.840 that people already take that offensively saying them, Uh, what 0:08:58.840 --> 0:09:01.240 do you mean? So you're I don't want to offend them. 0:09:01.480 --> 0:09:05.240 So even no matter how people are so hypersensitive about 0:09:05.240 --> 0:09:07.080 this topic to the big you're just calling us them. 0:09:07.320 --> 0:09:09.640 Well that but that's that's my thing of just saying, 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:13.080 but I also don't want to I don't want me 0:09:13.160 --> 0:09:15.400 to make the decision whether it's a he or she, 0:09:16.400 --> 0:09:20.400 that's up to Sarah, right, So how but how do 0:09:20.520 --> 0:09:23.160 I know? Like so it wasn't like a Stacy like 0:09:23.200 --> 0:09:26.760 where he wasn't like like Stacy is like very your 0:09:26.760 --> 0:09:29.800 football player Stacy. So it wasn't like he was looks 0:09:29.800 --> 0:09:32.239 like he was transitioning to be a girl. Yes, okay, 0:09:33.080 --> 0:09:36.400 so like the hair that said, yes, it definitely looked 0:09:36.400 --> 0:09:38.000 at but you knew it was a man. So your 0:09:38.080 --> 0:09:40.880 question is what how do you say because you because 0:09:40.880 --> 0:09:42.600 because we do say thank you, ma'am, thank you sir. 0:09:43.040 --> 0:09:44.760 So it's like, what do you say just can you 0:09:44.800 --> 0:09:48.360 just say just thank you? Yes? Yes. But that's that's 0:09:48.360 --> 0:09:50.360 why what made me think about this whole topic, because 0:09:50.760 --> 0:09:52.520 you said we we always say kind of yes sir, 0:09:52.600 --> 0:09:55.120 yes ma'am to people, and you know we've we talked 0:09:55.160 --> 0:09:58.240 about on a show about having the kids say yes ma'am, 0:09:58.320 --> 0:10:01.000 yes sir. And so it's just one of those things 0:10:01.000 --> 0:10:03.360 you just brought up the conversation topic in my head 0:10:03.400 --> 0:10:07.760 of what does he or she like? How does how 0:10:07.800 --> 0:10:11.760 does it just a random person someone like me or 0:10:11.760 --> 0:10:15.240 someone like you or someone like Easton how do we 0:10:15.520 --> 0:10:18.360 approach that or how do what's the what's the correct way? Like? 0:10:18.400 --> 0:10:21.320 What what? I'm even hypersensitive when you say a random person, 0:10:21.360 --> 0:10:25.520 So they're not a random So that's that's I'm just random. 0:10:25.520 --> 0:10:27.839 It could be another it could be someone else who's transitioning. 0:10:28.280 --> 0:10:29.959 Random persons, you just pick them out of a hat. 0:10:29.960 --> 0:10:32.320 It doesn't matter. We should get Caitlyn Jenner on the show. 0:10:32.880 --> 0:10:38.120 We should or someone that has either is transitioning like 0:10:38.200 --> 0:10:41.080 that would be a very interesting conversation because it's a 0:10:41.080 --> 0:10:44.600 great idea. Honey, we I think a lot of people 0:10:44.640 --> 0:10:46.360 maybe want to know that because that is more of 0:10:46.400 --> 0:10:49.640 an ongoing not ongoing. How do I say that? That's 0:10:49.880 --> 0:10:51.240 you have to be so politic like I don't want 0:10:51.240 --> 0:10:54.920 to say anything wrong. You have to be careful with 0:10:55.040 --> 0:10:58.960 how you choose your words right, right, And that's all 0:10:58.960 --> 0:11:02.840 it is. It's it's it's an ongoing transition for people. 0:11:03.080 --> 0:11:05.640 Where it's we're more aware of it, right because people 0:11:05.679 --> 0:11:07.800 are speaking out a bit about it. People are are 0:11:07.800 --> 0:11:10.200 being more open and honest about it. But why do 0:11:10.240 --> 0:11:11.679 you have to identify as one or the other? I 0:11:11.720 --> 0:11:15.480 guess that's my question. Why can't you just say thank you? Like, 0:11:15.520 --> 0:11:17.640 why do I have to identify them? Yeah, like why 0:11:17.640 --> 0:11:19.840 does it have to be one or the other? It doesn't, 0:11:20.320 --> 0:11:23.160 It doesn't, but that I'm not saying it does. I'm 0:11:23.160 --> 0:11:28.520 just saying it sparked my curiosity on someone in that situation, 0:11:28.600 --> 0:11:35.240 who's transitioning, What what they prefer like? What? Like? What? Yeah? 0:11:35.360 --> 0:11:37.319 Just what would they prefer? Like? What would offend them? 0:11:37.320 --> 0:11:40.959 What wouldn't? Like would if someone's in transition, would they 0:11:41.000 --> 0:11:46.199 be offended if you said sir? Wouldn't addressed like a female? 0:11:46.320 --> 0:11:50.240 If I said sir even though his or her name 0:11:50.280 --> 0:11:54.040 was Sarah and look like here she was transitioning? Or 0:11:54.000 --> 0:11:56.600 would they be offended if I said, ma'am, even though 0:11:56.920 --> 0:11:59.400 he or she looks like a male, but the name 0:11:59.480 --> 0:12:01.839 is Sarah. Uh here is a certain way they probably 0:12:01.920 --> 0:12:04.719 like whatever. So it's just it's just one of the 0:12:04.800 --> 0:12:07.440 things I'm just curious because because I want to be 0:12:07.480 --> 0:12:10.880 sensitive to people's feelings, because I want to be able 0:12:10.920 --> 0:12:12.560 to call them what they want to be called, because 0:12:12.800 --> 0:12:16.080 they deserve that, you know, whoever, and I say they 0:12:16.160 --> 0:12:19.800 as whoever is transitioning, deserve to be called whatever they 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:22.840 want to be called. So it's just it's but like 0:12:22.840 --> 0:12:24.640 you said, I think it's a great idea to get someone, 0:12:24.920 --> 0:12:27.920 whether it's a Caitlyn Jenner or someone who is in transition, 0:12:28.840 --> 0:12:31.560 to come on and talk about it, so to just 0:12:31.600 --> 0:12:35.120 to educate, because that's a lot of us aren't educated. Yeah, 0:12:35.240 --> 0:12:37.200 I know that's true. And a lot of people too. 0:12:37.320 --> 0:12:40.480 We had, um, we had a gig guy come up 0:12:40.480 --> 0:12:44.000 to us saying that we should talk about this. So 0:12:44.160 --> 0:12:46.800 I think that's definitely an interesting topic that we should 0:12:46.800 --> 0:12:48.839 talk about. Yeah, I think so too. I'm curious to 0:12:49.080 --> 0:12:52.160 people's opinions too, So email at wind down at my 0:12:52.280 --> 0:12:56.080 heart radio dot com. Good topic, Thank you, and then 0:12:56.080 --> 0:13:00.360 now let's take a break. Sure, all right, now that 0:13:00.400 --> 0:13:03.240 we're in the new house, we are so happy that 0:13:03.360 --> 0:13:06.000 we're sleeping amazing. But it's also because we have the 0:13:06.040 --> 0:13:09.559 Sleep Number bed. So I've talked about this before in 0:13:09.600 --> 0:13:11.760 the podcast. 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I'd love to 0:14:18.760 --> 0:14:21.360 hear what you, Mike and his friends have to say 0:14:21.400 --> 0:14:23.880 about this. My friends and I have dealt with our 0:14:23.920 --> 0:14:28.720 boyfriends following so many hot sexy girls on Instagram. It 0:14:28.800 --> 0:14:32.280 really makes us feel uncomfortable and self conscious. Obviously, we 0:14:32.320 --> 0:14:34.520 have all talked to our boyfriends and they'll say they 0:14:34.560 --> 0:14:37.840 deleted them, or we'll delete them and slowly follow some back. 0:14:38.200 --> 0:14:44.960 What are your thoughts on this interesting floor is yours? 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:49.560 Don't go? Go right ahead? Said, and my friends like 0:14:49.600 --> 0:14:51.800 what my friends think of it? Yeah? I mean what 0:14:52.120 --> 0:14:54.680 you know, we can say like maybe what Ethan thinks 0:14:54.720 --> 0:15:03.720 of it? You know? Um? Okay, okay, since you're trying 0:15:03.720 --> 0:15:07.120 to find your words. What if what if I on 0:15:07.160 --> 0:15:10.960 my Instagram? You went on my page and I followed 0:15:11.920 --> 0:15:18.680 a bunch of sexy guys that were, you know, sexy 0:15:19.440 --> 0:15:24.640 and had their shirt off a lot descriptive, and you know, 0:15:24.960 --> 0:15:27.200 you're on my phone or you're seeing my Instagram and 0:15:27.240 --> 0:15:30.480 you're seeing me going through my feed and it's all 0:15:30.640 --> 0:15:35.840 these sexy guys. Would something come up for you? Are 0:15:35.840 --> 0:15:43.240 they sexy? They're sexy? Like they're they're they're like, you know, sexy. Okay, 0:15:43.360 --> 0:15:47.640 I got like, like what you know? Uh, Like I 0:15:47.680 --> 0:15:49.920 was gonna name someone, but like you, I don't need 0:15:49.920 --> 0:15:55.000 to name anybody. So I'm just saying, you know, I 0:15:55.040 --> 0:15:59.760 don't know. No, but I'm just saying, damn it, Tory, no, 0:16:00.520 --> 0:16:04.560 um no no no. But but how would that make 0:16:04.640 --> 0:16:06.480 you feel, so I think it's a double standard, And 0:16:06.520 --> 0:16:09.400 unfortunately that's what I think this is. The Instagram thing 0:16:09.440 --> 0:16:12.080 is a double standard because I think it's guys are 0:16:12.120 --> 0:16:15.920 like whatever, like, yeah, I'm following this sexy workout model. 0:16:16.960 --> 0:16:20.520 But if a girl was to be following that sexy 0:16:20.640 --> 0:16:24.960 workout guy, is that a double standard? Is that okay? 0:16:25.120 --> 0:16:28.960 Should you be following people that you are looking at 0:16:29.080 --> 0:16:32.720 in a sexy way and thinking, wow, they're sexy when 0:16:32.720 --> 0:16:35.680 you're in a relationship? What are you? Why are you 0:16:35.680 --> 0:16:42.280 grinning like that they're smiling? Um? First, I mean life 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:44.280 is a double standard. I mean there's so many double 0:16:44.320 --> 0:16:49.480 standards and it's not fair. And to truthfully answer your question, yes, 0:16:49.600 --> 0:16:51.600 like you know, I don't have any social media. If 0:16:51.640 --> 0:16:54.760 I've looked over while you're going through your feet and 0:16:54.800 --> 0:16:58.480 I just saw shirtless guys left and right, then they'll 0:16:58.480 --> 0:17:00.720 be like what, like what isnt this? Do you have 0:17:00.800 --> 0:17:03.840 following that you know? And I think the same breath 0:17:03.920 --> 0:17:09.080 for guys where it's like like why why would you 0:17:09.119 --> 0:17:13.679 follow this Instagram model? Does she promote something that you like? 0:17:14.320 --> 0:17:17.399 Does like does she have a political view that you like? No? No, 0:17:17.600 --> 0:17:23.760 she's just half naked, right, so there's no like, there's 0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:27.359 no there's no other reason to follow somebody like that 0:17:27.520 --> 0:17:34.280 other for other than the intrigue, the aesthetic intrigue of it. 0:17:35.320 --> 0:17:38.920 So so in Tori's thing, does she have a point 0:17:38.960 --> 0:17:43.080 to be upset? And yeah, because if if that's how 0:17:43.119 --> 0:17:46.760 it makes her feel and that's you know, then she 0:17:46.800 --> 0:17:48.240 has the right to feel that way, and she has 0:17:48.240 --> 0:17:49.600 the right to tell him like, look, this makes me 0:17:49.600 --> 0:17:52.960 feel uncomfortable. Now there are I'm sure there are relationships 0:17:53.040 --> 0:17:56.520 just like you know, if we talk to people that 0:17:56.560 --> 0:17:59.080 have an open relationship or this or that, Okay, if 0:17:59.080 --> 0:18:01.720 that works for them, fine. There's probably some people that 0:18:01.760 --> 0:18:05.320 they don't care who the other one follows because their 0:18:05.359 --> 0:18:08.360 relationship is fine, there's no issues or whatever, and they 0:18:08.480 --> 0:18:11.000 just mind their own business and they follow who they 0:18:11.000 --> 0:18:13.280 want to follow. So I'm not I'm not sitting here 0:18:13.280 --> 0:18:16.280 saying that nobody should do that, because there's relationships that 0:18:16.400 --> 0:18:19.120 probably both of them do it and they're fine with it. 0:18:19.200 --> 0:18:23.840 But majority speaking, yes, I think it's an issue because 0:18:24.480 --> 0:18:29.160 what's the point. Well, going back to you know, your 0:18:29.200 --> 0:18:30.920 page when we first started dating, I mean, you were 0:18:30.960 --> 0:18:36.000 following really pretty girls. Why is that really a problem? Though? 0:18:36.800 --> 0:18:39.520 It's not are you really following? Do guys really follow 0:18:39.560 --> 0:18:42.720 the pretty girls because they get that endorphin hit of 0:18:42.840 --> 0:18:46.800 usci sexy for a second while you're while you're swiping through. Yeah, 0:18:46.800 --> 0:18:49.360 I think it's just something to look at because I mean, 0:18:49.680 --> 0:18:52.440 you know, you go through that stuff so quick, right, 0:18:52.480 --> 0:18:54.640 and so you just go and scroll and scroll and scrolling, 0:18:55.440 --> 0:18:57.679 and you see it, okay, and then you go that 0:18:57.760 --> 0:18:59.399 keep going, go the next thing, whether a news thing, 0:18:59.440 --> 0:19:01.840 whether the sport thing with it, whether it you know, 0:19:02.040 --> 0:19:06.240 an attractive woman, whatever it may be. Like people, that's 0:19:06.280 --> 0:19:10.120 just people are in our generation scroll, you know, so 0:19:10.280 --> 0:19:12.359 back when I have social media before you and I 0:19:12.560 --> 0:19:18.400 like even but you know what I mean, like, yeah, 0:19:18.440 --> 0:19:22.320 I mean, you know, in my opinion, in our opinion, 0:19:22.880 --> 0:19:25.600 we don't think there's a place for it. And I 0:19:25.600 --> 0:19:28.960 think Tori has a reason or has a legitimate it. 0:19:29.240 --> 0:19:33.919 You know, she's allowed to be upset by it. But 0:19:34.080 --> 0:19:36.080 here's to switch it though, So you're not allowed to 0:19:36.080 --> 0:19:39.960 look at an attractive person when they walk by. I'm 0:19:39.960 --> 0:19:45.160 not saying that. It's kind of the same as Instagram. 0:19:45.320 --> 0:19:49.200 You can't control if someone attractive walks by you. If 0:19:49.240 --> 0:19:51.840 you just happen to if you happen to we walk 0:19:51.840 --> 0:19:54.080 in one direction, another attractive person is walking in the 0:19:54.080 --> 0:19:58.879 opposite direction. You can control who you follow on social media. 0:19:59.160 --> 0:20:02.000 You can control who you look at on social media, 0:20:02.480 --> 0:20:05.040 So I think that's a difference. One is a natural occurrence. 0:20:05.359 --> 0:20:08.919 One is something that is in your hands. What do 0:20:08.960 --> 0:20:10.879 you think about guys that look at other girls when 0:20:10.920 --> 0:20:13.639 they're with their girlfriends or wives, because that is that 0:20:13.760 --> 0:20:17.520 is the number one thing that makes me so annoyed 0:20:18.800 --> 0:20:22.520 when guys do that, because it's just guys. When a 0:20:22.560 --> 0:20:24.320 girl walks with a guy, they're not staring at the 0:20:24.359 --> 0:20:28.840 other guy. But when when you're telling me what that 0:20:28.960 --> 0:20:32.560 when you've dated people in the past and you're with them, 0:20:32.760 --> 0:20:36.640 if he's saw an attractive man, I don't not when 0:20:36.640 --> 0:20:38.960 I'm like holding the person's hand and walking through them 0:20:38.960 --> 0:20:41.680 all like this just happened the other day and I'm walking, 0:20:42.040 --> 0:20:44.280 Oh no, it was in the airport and this guy 0:20:44.400 --> 0:20:46.960 was with with his wife or girlfriend, whoever it was, 0:20:47.440 --> 0:20:53.040 and he's stairs and I'm like, sure me, or maybe 0:20:53.040 --> 0:20:55.640 you're staring to me. You weren't there. I was struggling 0:20:55.720 --> 0:21:00.879 by myself. So it just that just bothers me because 0:21:01.119 --> 0:21:03.240 I don't. I don't like that for the girl, And 0:21:03.359 --> 0:21:05.480 I'm like, why are you looking? Why are you looking 0:21:05.480 --> 0:21:07.159 at someone else? How much do you want to just 0:21:07.640 --> 0:21:10.879 blow his spot up in that moment? Oh more than anything? 0:21:11.480 --> 0:21:13.959 Like why are you looking at me? And it's not 0:21:14.000 --> 0:21:17.000 because I'm whatever, Like he doesn't freaking know I'm Alex 0:21:17.000 --> 0:21:20.760 from One Tree Hill like he you're regardless of your career, 0:21:20.960 --> 0:21:23.560 you're a beautiful woman. But I'm just saying I don't 0:21:23.600 --> 0:21:24.879 like it when a guy does that because I think 0:21:24.920 --> 0:21:28.359 it's so disrespectful to the girl that he's standing next 0:21:28.359 --> 0:21:32.159 to you. If he wasn't walking next to his significant 0:21:32.200 --> 0:21:35.280 other and he looked at you, would that be an issue. 0:21:35.800 --> 0:21:37.760 Maybe he's just looking, like to see where he's going. 0:21:38.880 --> 0:21:41.600 So now it's it's now it's he's just looking at 0:21:41.680 --> 0:21:43.440 something past. I still don't think you should. I still 0:21:43.480 --> 0:21:45.840 I just feel like, when if you're in a relationship 0:21:45.840 --> 0:21:48.200 and you're married, you should. You shouldn't be walking around 0:21:48.240 --> 0:21:49.960 and looking. If you happen to look up and you're 0:21:50.000 --> 0:21:52.480 at a Starbucks and you look in line, I'm looking 0:21:52.480 --> 0:21:54.600 at Eastern right now? O. Hey given it like a 0:21:54.640 --> 0:21:58.080 little nod. But when they blatantly are walking and kind 0:21:58.080 --> 0:22:01.920 of look to you renecking, then yeah, in no way. 0:22:02.280 --> 0:22:04.359 But I feel like a lot of married men and 0:22:04.720 --> 0:22:09.320 in relationship people guys do that. It's so obvious. I mean, 0:22:09.359 --> 0:22:12.000 I've keep doing it before, you know what I mean, 0:22:12.119 --> 0:22:14.440 And you're like, I'm just looking, But I mean it's 0:22:14.480 --> 0:22:16.080 just I think it's just a guy thing. I'm not 0:22:16.240 --> 0:22:18.240 like trying to like throw you under the rug. I 0:22:18.320 --> 0:22:20.600