1 00:00:01,639 --> 00:00:04,520 Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if 2 00:00:04,519 --> 00:00:07,960 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:08,280 --> 00:00:11,800 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com 4 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:14,480 Speaker 1: and we could be reading your letter live on the air, 5 00:00:14,560 --> 00:00:16,720 Speaker 1: just like we're going to read this one right here, 6 00:00:16,880 --> 00:00:20,000 Speaker 1: right now, and you never know, it could be yours. 7 00:00:20,520 --> 00:00:22,800 Speaker 1: It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on type 8 00:00:22,840 --> 00:00:26,160 Speaker 1: be guided for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank 9 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:29,960 Speaker 1: you nephew. Subject why is he in my brother's house? 10 00:00:30,920 --> 00:00:34,199 Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm writing for my brother because he 11 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:37,400 Speaker 1: is too upset to do it for himself. My brother 12 00:00:37,479 --> 00:00:40,199 Speaker 1: is thirty eight and his wife is thirty five, and 13 00:00:40,320 --> 00:00:42,520 Speaker 1: she has planned a trip for Labor Day with two 14 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:45,960 Speaker 1: girlfriends and a guy that has been her friend since 15 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:49,280 Speaker 1: they were eighteen years old. This guy was married before 16 00:00:49,560 --> 00:00:53,200 Speaker 1: and he has one child. Now he's no longer dating women. 17 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:56,120 Speaker 1: He told my brother that he is a great new 18 00:00:56,160 --> 00:00:58,720 Speaker 1: man in his life, but he keeps him away from 19 00:00:58,720 --> 00:01:02,040 Speaker 1: his friends because it is not serious yet. My brother 20 00:01:02,120 --> 00:01:05,759 Speaker 1: told this guy it's imperative that he meet the boyfriend. 21 00:01:05,920 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 1: And here's wife. My sister in law is always with 22 00:01:09,680 --> 00:01:12,600 Speaker 1: this guy, and my brother thinks she's cheating on him 23 00:01:12,920 --> 00:01:15,800 Speaker 1: right in his face. Now the guy is going on 24 00:01:15,920 --> 00:01:19,559 Speaker 1: vacation with his wife, so my brother got really skeptical. 25 00:01:20,600 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 1: But that's not the biggest issue. We need to know 26 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:26,960 Speaker 1: how far another man is allowed up in another man's house. 27 00:01:27,560 --> 00:01:30,600 Speaker 1: Last week, my brother came home and this man was 28 00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:33,520 Speaker 1: sitting in a shirt and shorts on the patio. His 29 00:01:33,560 --> 00:01:36,679 Speaker 1: wife was sleeping on the couch. The guy said they 30 00:01:36,680 --> 00:01:39,039 Speaker 1: had gone running in the neighborhood and he jumped in 31 00:01:39,080 --> 00:01:42,520 Speaker 1: the shower while she took a nap. The biggest issue 32 00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:45,600 Speaker 1: is that he took a shower in my brother's bathroom. 33 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:49,360 Speaker 1: My brother uses the upstairs bathroom so his wife can 34 00:01:49,440 --> 00:01:52,680 Speaker 1: have the primary bathroom all to herself. There is a 35 00:01:52,720 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 1: shower downstairs in the other guest room, but this guy 36 00:01:56,760 --> 00:02:01,000 Speaker 1: went upstairs and used my brother's shower. My other feels 37 00:02:01,000 --> 00:02:03,800 Speaker 1: that this guy is way too comfortable in his house 38 00:02:04,120 --> 00:02:06,840 Speaker 1: and it's his wife's fault for letting him do it. 39 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:09,240 Speaker 1: I agree with my brother and his wife needs to 40 00:02:09,240 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 1: be checked and this guy should not go on vacation 41 00:02:12,560 --> 00:02:16,360 Speaker 1: with her. What if his boyfriend doesn't even exist. I 42 00:02:16,440 --> 00:02:18,560 Speaker 1: am trying to stay out of it, So I need 43 00:02:18,600 --> 00:02:25,760 Speaker 1: your advice on how my brother should handle this situation. Okay, Sis, 44 00:02:26,400 --> 00:02:29,440 Speaker 1: it just sounds like someone might get hurt in this situation. 45 00:02:29,919 --> 00:02:32,760 Speaker 1: I don't know. I just feel that in my spirit somehow, 46 00:02:33,360 --> 00:02:37,720 Speaker 1: huh of course. Yeah, A lady write the letter or guy. 47 00:02:37,960 --> 00:02:40,560 Speaker 1: A sister wrote the letter for her brother because her 48 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:43,040 Speaker 1: brother's too upset to write it. And I was just 49 00:02:43,080 --> 00:02:46,440 Speaker 1: going to get to that, Steve. It's confusing. This letter 50 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:51,080 Speaker 1: is really confusing. But from what I gather, the wife 51 00:02:51,440 --> 00:02:55,040 Speaker 1: you guys suspect is cheating on her husband your brother 52 00:02:56,680 --> 00:02:59,640 Speaker 1: with the guy who she said is gay to throw 53 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:02,400 Speaker 1: every one off. That's kind of what she's trying to 54 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:05,359 Speaker 1: say here. And not only is your brother mad about 55 00:03:05,360 --> 00:03:08,320 Speaker 1: the cheating he thinks that he thinks is going on, 56 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:11,200 Speaker 1: he really is angry that the guy is in his house, 57 00:03:11,360 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 1: using his shower and acting like it's okay because his 58 00:03:14,960 --> 00:03:19,920 Speaker 1: wife gave him permission, especially when there are other bathrooms 59 00:03:19,919 --> 00:03:24,240 Speaker 1: in the house. You're also asking for yourself and your brother, 60 00:03:24,480 --> 00:03:27,560 Speaker 1: how far should another man be allowed in a man's house. 61 00:03:28,320 --> 00:03:30,320 Speaker 1: And I'm going to tell you right now you shouldn't 62 00:03:30,360 --> 00:03:32,680 Speaker 1: even have to ask that question, because at your house 63 00:03:32,760 --> 00:03:36,160 Speaker 1: it's simple. You set the rules. It's a respect thing. 64 00:03:36,280 --> 00:03:38,760 Speaker 1: I don't care who it is. If you don't want 65 00:03:38,840 --> 00:03:40,760 Speaker 1: him in there, he shouldn't be in there, as simple 66 00:03:40,760 --> 00:03:43,640 Speaker 1: as that. I mean. And your wife, his wife, your 67 00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:46,720 Speaker 1: sister in law, should know better. She should never let 68 00:03:46,760 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 1: another man or anyone disrespect the household, especially your husband's things, 69 00:03:51,400 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 1: your husband's bathroom. She's wrong for this. I think it's 70 00:03:55,640 --> 00:03:58,120 Speaker 1: just a matter of time before the truth about her 71 00:03:58,480 --> 00:04:02,600 Speaker 1: and her so called gay best friend comes out. So 72 00:04:02,760 --> 00:04:06,640 Speaker 1: tell her you're you're going on the trip too, and 73 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:08,600 Speaker 1: that will be nice time for the two of you 74 00:04:08,720 --> 00:04:11,600 Speaker 1: to reconnect and have some fun. That's what the husband 75 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:14,840 Speaker 1: should say. See how she reacts. If she protests just 76 00:04:14,960 --> 00:04:18,640 Speaker 1: a little too much, that then you'll know that your 77 00:04:18,680 --> 00:04:22,440 Speaker 1: instincts are right and you can deal with her accordingly. 78 00:04:22,520 --> 00:04:25,880 Speaker 1: But all signs are pointing to she's cheating with this guy, 79 00:04:25,960 --> 00:04:28,440 Speaker 1: the so called gay friend of hers. I mean, he 80 00:04:28,520 --> 00:04:32,200 Speaker 1: has too much leeway in the house, all of that. 81 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:35,760 Speaker 1: It's just too much. It's way too much, Steve, And 82 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:39,760 Speaker 1: it's very confusing. I know that you know what treasure. 83 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 1: Yeah it is. I'm so darrel confused here. It is 84 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:46,359 Speaker 1: very confused. Because let me read this letter with y'all 85 00:04:46,480 --> 00:04:50,080 Speaker 1: and let me just go as I'm feeling this letter. Okay, 86 00:04:50,279 --> 00:04:55,279 Speaker 1: we may not ever even get to the end. Why 87 00:04:55,360 --> 00:05:00,479 Speaker 1: is he in my brother's house? I'm confused with I'm 88 00:05:00,520 --> 00:05:03,880 Speaker 1: not a girl. Let me see this, Steven Shelley, I'm 89 00:05:03,880 --> 00:05:07,600 Speaker 1: writing for my brother because he is too upset to 90 00:05:07,680 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 1: do it for himself. Well, as we go through this letter, 91 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:13,600 Speaker 1: we're gonna find out that your brother is incapable of 92 00:05:13,600 --> 00:05:17,440 Speaker 1: doing several things for himself, not only write this letter, 93 00:05:18,320 --> 00:05:21,720 Speaker 1: but he's too upset to do it for himself. Okay, 94 00:05:21,839 --> 00:05:24,920 Speaker 1: you've been calling in this little boy. My brother thirty eight, 95 00:05:25,120 --> 00:05:28,080 Speaker 1: his wife thirty five. She's playing a trip for Labor 96 00:05:28,160 --> 00:05:31,159 Speaker 1: Day with two girlfriends and a guy that has been 97 00:05:31,200 --> 00:05:34,080 Speaker 1: her friends since they was eighteen years old. How many 98 00:05:34,120 --> 00:05:38,240 Speaker 1: times have I got to tell y'all about these male 99 00:05:38,640 --> 00:05:42,200 Speaker 1: friends that y'all keep thinking, just want to be your friend? 100 00:05:42,720 --> 00:05:45,880 Speaker 1: How many times we got to go over there? How 101 00:05:45,880 --> 00:05:49,599 Speaker 1: many letters do we need for y'all to get off 102 00:05:49,680 --> 00:05:53,040 Speaker 1: this trick trail and quit thinking this marriy go around, 103 00:05:53,120 --> 00:05:58,240 Speaker 1: don't come around. I'm so sickly up. This guy was 104 00:05:58,440 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 1: married before, he has one child, now he's no longer 105 00:06:03,200 --> 00:06:10,880 Speaker 1: dating women. Hello. Now I've heard of this. We've seen 106 00:06:10,920 --> 00:06:16,239 Speaker 1: it in famous people. A person starts living their truth 107 00:06:17,040 --> 00:06:21,440 Speaker 1: later on in life. That's lowable, that's doable, that's fine. 108 00:06:23,080 --> 00:06:29,480 Speaker 1: But now I don't know at what point he decided 109 00:06:30,080 --> 00:06:33,960 Speaker 1: he no longer dating women because he was making kids 110 00:06:33,960 --> 00:06:36,880 Speaker 1: a minute ago, so there had to be some type 111 00:06:36,880 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 1: of thought. Steve, Oh, girl coming up in twenty three 112 00:06:42,440 --> 00:06:49,240 Speaker 1: minutes alf hour time. Coming up today's strawberry letter? Why 113 00:06:49,320 --> 00:06:51,120 Speaker 1: is he in my brother's house? We'll be back right 114 00:06:51,160 --> 00:06:56,360 Speaker 1: after this. You're listening show, all right? Come on, Steve, 115 00:06:56,440 --> 00:06:59,120 Speaker 1: Let's recap today's strawberry letter, the subject why is he 116 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:02,400 Speaker 1: in my brother's house? This letter is beyond me ridiculous, y'all. 117 00:07:02,440 --> 00:07:04,240 Speaker 1: I ain't even touched on any points, so let me 118 00:07:04,279 --> 00:07:06,919 Speaker 1: try to do it quickly. Why is he in my 119 00:07:07,040 --> 00:07:10,480 Speaker 1: brother's house? I'm writing for my brother because he's too 120 00:07:10,560 --> 00:07:13,520 Speaker 1: upset to do it for himself. Your brother too upset 121 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:16,200 Speaker 1: to righte, He too upset to do a lot of 122 00:07:16,240 --> 00:07:19,160 Speaker 1: things in this letter. Let's get to it. Ye, My 123 00:07:19,240 --> 00:07:21,560 Speaker 1: brother thirty eight is wife thirty five. She's playing a 124 00:07:21,560 --> 00:07:23,600 Speaker 1: trip for Labor Day with two girlfriends. And a guy 125 00:07:23,640 --> 00:07:25,800 Speaker 1: that's been her friends since they were eighteen years old. 126 00:07:26,160 --> 00:07:30,240 Speaker 1: I'd have told y'all about these opposite sex friends. I 127 00:07:30,360 --> 00:07:34,240 Speaker 1: have told y'all about this, but y'all don't believe me. 128 00:07:35,160 --> 00:07:38,720 Speaker 1: So this is another strawberry letter to help you understand. 129 00:07:39,560 --> 00:07:43,760 Speaker 1: This guy was married before, he has one child. Now 130 00:07:43,840 --> 00:07:48,640 Speaker 1: he's no longer dating women, but he's still friends with 131 00:07:48,760 --> 00:07:53,040 Speaker 1: your your wife though jo on date women no more, 132 00:07:53,800 --> 00:07:57,400 Speaker 1: But he didn't cut your wife out. He told my 133 00:07:57,520 --> 00:08:01,640 Speaker 1: brother that he has at new man in his life, 134 00:08:02,240 --> 00:08:05,400 Speaker 1: but he keeps him away from his friends because it 135 00:08:05,600 --> 00:08:14,240 Speaker 1: is not serious yet. Man, what First of all, if 136 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:18,320 Speaker 1: you are my wife's friend me and you, ain't that 137 00:08:18,520 --> 00:08:22,560 Speaker 1: cool you telling me about a new man you got, 138 00:08:23,160 --> 00:08:25,960 Speaker 1: but you don't bring him around your friends yet because 139 00:08:25,960 --> 00:08:30,520 Speaker 1: it ain't that serious. Wait a minute, we ain't all 140 00:08:30,680 --> 00:08:34,319 Speaker 1: discovered the news yet that you don't date women no more, 141 00:08:35,160 --> 00:08:38,360 Speaker 1: So then you ain't brought him around your friends because 142 00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:41,880 Speaker 1: you don't know if it's serious yet. Have you told 143 00:08:41,920 --> 00:08:44,360 Speaker 1: your new friend that you don't date women no more? 144 00:08:45,960 --> 00:08:48,760 Speaker 1: Or maybe you've been running in this circle the whole time. 145 00:08:50,240 --> 00:08:52,880 Speaker 1: I don't know what's happening right here, but because of 146 00:08:53,160 --> 00:08:56,920 Speaker 1: hr I'm not gonna comment. I'm just gonna try to 147 00:08:57,000 --> 00:09:02,760 Speaker 1: keep moving. Okay, then my brother, your brother told this 148 00:09:02,920 --> 00:09:07,880 Speaker 1: guy's imperative that he meet the boyfriend and his Why what, man, 149 00:09:08,360 --> 00:09:12,040 Speaker 1: I don't give a damn what you doing. I ain't 150 00:09:12,040 --> 00:09:17,080 Speaker 1: gotta meet your damn Boyfrid. But here's why. Though my 151 00:09:17,200 --> 00:09:20,600 Speaker 1: sister in law is always with this guy that didn't 152 00:09:20,720 --> 00:09:25,480 Speaker 1: stopped liking women and date me and now and got 153 00:09:25,520 --> 00:09:29,040 Speaker 1: a child and used to be married. My sister in 154 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:31,280 Speaker 1: law is always with this guy. My brother in law 155 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:35,120 Speaker 1: thinks he's cheating on him right in his faith. Hold up, 156 00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:39,560 Speaker 1: So your brother thinks that his wife is cheating with 157 00:09:39,720 --> 00:09:43,959 Speaker 1: the guy that don't don't date women no more? That 158 00:09:43,960 --> 00:09:46,920 Speaker 1: then came up to him and now he wants to 159 00:09:47,000 --> 00:09:50,080 Speaker 1: meet this guy's new guy. But he didn't told him 160 00:09:50,080 --> 00:09:52,120 Speaker 1: and he don't wanted to meet yet because he don't know. 161 00:09:52,160 --> 00:09:54,719 Speaker 1: If it says that fam missed me with this, just say, 162 00:09:54,960 --> 00:09:58,600 Speaker 1: why is the ass whipping I started yet? Because I'm 163 00:09:58,600 --> 00:10:00,319 Speaker 1: trying to figure out if I think my wife is 164 00:10:00,400 --> 00:10:02,440 Speaker 1: cheating with a man. And then he come up in 165 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:05,800 Speaker 1: my face and strike up any conversation I want to 166 00:10:05,840 --> 00:10:08,280 Speaker 1: meet this new guy? Well, it ain't serious yet, so 167 00:10:08,320 --> 00:10:11,400 Speaker 1: I ain't gonna bring her man pop dead in your jaw, 168 00:10:11,960 --> 00:10:17,080 Speaker 1: dead in your damn jaw. Now the guy is going 169 00:10:17,160 --> 00:10:22,760 Speaker 1: on vacation with his wife, So my brother got real skeptical. 170 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:30,439 Speaker 1: But that's not the biggest issue. What it's more, keep reading. 171 00:10:30,880 --> 00:10:33,640 Speaker 1: We need to know how far another man is allowed 172 00:10:33,720 --> 00:10:38,439 Speaker 1: up in another man's house. Wait a minute, much. I 173 00:10:38,559 --> 00:10:43,120 Speaker 1: needn't know how you ain't allowed in my house, not 174 00:10:43,320 --> 00:10:45,880 Speaker 1: how far you ain't. You can't knock on the door, 175 00:10:46,000 --> 00:10:49,400 Speaker 1: rang the doughbell, you can't call my damn house. I 176 00:10:49,520 --> 00:10:53,280 Speaker 1: wish I would come home and you in it. Pardon 177 00:10:53,360 --> 00:10:56,400 Speaker 1: I can't take and all right, let's go. Last week, 178 00:10:56,480 --> 00:10:59,160 Speaker 1: my brother came home and this man was sitting in 179 00:10:59,200 --> 00:11:02,040 Speaker 1: the shirt and shorts on the patio. His wife was 180 00:11:02,080 --> 00:11:07,680 Speaker 1: sleep on the couch, knocked out. Probably that's she sleep 181 00:11:07,840 --> 00:11:11,320 Speaker 1: on the couch, knocked out. The guy said they had 182 00:11:11,360 --> 00:11:14,040 Speaker 1: gone running in the neighborhood and he jumped in the 183 00:11:14,080 --> 00:11:18,640 Speaker 1: shower while she took a nap. What right hold of? 184 00:11:19,960 --> 00:11:24,240 Speaker 1: You're so cool and comfortable You and my wife went running. 185 00:11:25,200 --> 00:11:29,600 Speaker 1: You didn't took a shower in my house? In my house, 186 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:32,640 Speaker 1: just ain't our house. No more. See when it comes 187 00:11:32,679 --> 00:11:36,240 Speaker 1: to a man, the man, no, it's the other man's house. 188 00:11:37,000 --> 00:11:39,280 Speaker 1: I don't care what the wife say. You already know 189 00:11:39,320 --> 00:11:42,640 Speaker 1: you need to check with this man. The biggest issue 190 00:11:43,280 --> 00:11:45,800 Speaker 1: is that he took a shower in my brother's bathroom. 191 00:11:45,920 --> 00:11:50,800 Speaker 1: Hold on, dog, you're in my room. Man. My brother 192 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:53,120 Speaker 1: uses the upstairs bathroom to his wife can have the 193 00:11:53,120 --> 00:11:56,040 Speaker 1: primary bathroom all to himself. There's a shower down stairs 194 00:11:56,120 --> 00:11:58,640 Speaker 1: in the other guest room, but this guy went upstairs 195 00:11:58,640 --> 00:12:01,559 Speaker 1: and used my brother's show. You ain't what I'm standing 196 00:12:01,640 --> 00:12:03,760 Speaker 1: because that's why the bad room man might as well 197 00:12:03,800 --> 00:12:06,040 Speaker 1: go around the corner. Why you think she downstairs knocked 198 00:12:06,080 --> 00:12:09,760 Speaker 1: out on the couch? Right man, I'm here, I'm in 199 00:12:09,800 --> 00:12:13,960 Speaker 1: here whopping so much. Ask I'm telling right now you 200 00:12:14,000 --> 00:12:16,640 Speaker 1: can't count the asses. Let's getting the whoop. Everybody that 201 00:12:16,720 --> 00:12:19,319 Speaker 1: got some the lawn boarding, got something on the way 202 00:12:19,360 --> 00:12:21,800 Speaker 1: in the milkman, the mail man that got some as 203 00:12:22,400 --> 00:12:25,520 Speaker 1: car repair dude and got to ask whoopen? You don 204 00:12:25,600 --> 00:12:27,600 Speaker 1: got to ask whoop from right man? He don't even 205 00:12:27,640 --> 00:12:31,320 Speaker 1: have ass, no ball. My brother feels that this guy's 206 00:12:31,360 --> 00:12:33,959 Speaker 1: way too comfortable in this house and his wife's fault 207 00:12:34,000 --> 00:12:36,400 Speaker 1: for letting him do it. No dog is your fault 208 00:12:36,520 --> 00:12:39,040 Speaker 1: because you letting him do it. You let this man 209 00:12:39,120 --> 00:12:40,880 Speaker 1: come up in your house and sit round and you 210 00:12:40,920 --> 00:12:43,280 Speaker 1: ain't at the house. Oh man, This ain't on your wife, 211 00:12:43,280 --> 00:12:45,960 Speaker 1: that's on you. You're being disrespected on so many levels. 212 00:12:46,120 --> 00:12:49,120 Speaker 1: This is an ignorant ass letter. Should I agree with 213 00:12:49,160 --> 00:12:50,959 Speaker 1: my brother and his wife needs to be checked and 214 00:12:51,040 --> 00:12:53,480 Speaker 1: this guy should not go on vacation with her. What 215 00:12:53,720 --> 00:12:56,880 Speaker 1: is his boyfriend doesn't exist. I'm trying to stay out 216 00:12:56,880 --> 00:12:58,520 Speaker 1: of it, so I need your advice on her. My 217 00:12:58,520 --> 00:13:02,440 Speaker 1: brothers can't handle this situation. Your brother need to star 218 00:13:02,760 --> 00:13:08,640 Speaker 1: Wolman somebody all right, Thank you, Steve. Coming up next, 219 00:13:08,720 --> 00:13:13,200 Speaker 1: it is Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this, you're 220 00:13:13,240 --> 00:13:15,720 Speaker 1: listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show.