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Speaker 2: All right, the honorable kick a Leek is here, Judge

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Speaker 2: Kiki take it away.

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Speaker 3: All right, let's step into the courtroom. The gavel has

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Speaker 3: been hit, it says, please.

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Speaker 1: That was on your phone, wasn't it.

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Speaker 4: No, no, no, okay, it's my actual.

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Speaker 1: Gavel, right like you used to hit the phone with

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Speaker 1: the gather. I've evolved, Okay, I needed my phone.

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Speaker 2: That's how would you watch TikTok with the gavel through it?

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Speaker 1: I couldn't do that.

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Speaker 3: So all right, let's get into the court room. It says, hey,

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Speaker 3: Ki KEI, please don't judge me, girl, Okay, judged? All right, Sorry,

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Speaker 3: here we go. But I've been keeping a huge secret

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Speaker 1: Right after my.

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Speaker 3: Husband and I got married, we tried for two years

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Speaker 3: to conceive and we're unsuccessful. However, while on a girl's

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Speaker 3: few months later that I was pregnant. My husband and

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Speaker 3: I welcomed the baby girl. And I never told anyone.

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Speaker 1: About my name tom Oh my god, Yeah, she says.

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Speaker 3: Although I always kept in touch with the bartender. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: fast forward to now. My entire world got turned upside

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Speaker 3: My husband filed for divorce, and it's now threatening to

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Speaker 1: That ball headed lady?

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Speaker 5: Girl?

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Speaker 1: Girl, you are wild? Let me just see him. Well,

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Speaker 1: I gotta work this one out with you. Keith. Well,

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Speaker 1: first of all, what do you think?

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Speaker 3: Well, I mean, if she ever has heard the French

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Speaker 3: because I'm gonna just keep it real. If it was me,

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Speaker 3: I would have never spoken to that bartender again.

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Speaker 1: Okay, he would he would never exist.

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Speaker 3: As far as my husband knows, this is our baby,

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Speaker 3: I don't need to keep in touch. That's where you

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Speaker 3: went completely You were already wrong, but you went completely

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Speaker 3: there's all this evidence. You're probably sitting the bartender photos

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Speaker 3: You know, like, what what was your what were you

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Speaker 3: thinking about keeping in touch with him? And so now

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, this bartend.

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Speaker 3: Is gonna come home looking for his daughter or you know,

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Speaker 3: the husband is now fould for divorce, so he's gonna

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Speaker 1: This is crazy.

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Speaker 2: I mean, it doesn't sound like the bartender has much

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Speaker 1: It in touch. Yeah, but she, the daughter.

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Speaker 2: Has a right to know who her biological father is.

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Speaker 2: he doesn't seem to because, Okay, if I knew that

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Speaker 2: So I feel like if this dude really wanted to

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Speaker 3: That poor man, like, you know, they were trying for

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Speaker 2: But on the flip side, this was an adult decision

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Speaker 2: And and do you just as the guy be like, man,

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Speaker 1: Like I raised her. She's mine.

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Speaker 2: So we're just we you know what I mean, Because

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Speaker 1: So it's like, but it's not his secret to Keith.

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Speaker 3: You know, the responsibility shouldn't be on his on the

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Speaker 3: he didn't mess this up, he didn't create that.

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Speaker 1: He was like, he's a victim in this as well.

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Speaker 2: I agree, But I guess as I worked this out

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Speaker 1: It's that loud on the show. Trust me, that's this

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Speaker 2: You should my head, you should imagine what really goes

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Speaker 2: The flip side being do we displace the life of

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Speaker 6: Mean, I'm I'm with Kiki in this one. Like it's

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Speaker 6: it's not on the dad. But at the like this,

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Speaker 6: That mirror is going to be dissolved at some point

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Speaker 6: But that it's gonna come out like that relationship, I

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Speaker 1: That's gonna ruin all that aspect.

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Speaker 6: But if they're getting divorced, there's gonna be she's gonna

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Speaker 2: But but again, fundamentally, it changes nothing. It changes nothing

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Speaker 2: And so I don't know, is it best for the

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Speaker 1: Even think that she's abandoned, right.

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Speaker 2: I hate to say this, but that would be a

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Speaker 6: He would, but to find find years worth of email

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Speaker 1: Talking about he and his wife. That has nothing to

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Speaker 6: That's the same. Like his mentality could be like hey,

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Speaker 1: I have no responsibility for that. How do you turn

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Speaker 2: That's not He never knew nothing would ever be different,

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Speaker 2: but he knows everything.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so abandoned as a child, now everybody loses.

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Speaker 2: That's what I mean. That's what I mean. I think

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Speaker 1: Good morning? What do you think key Key's Court? What

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Speaker 4: I think that she should definitely tell the daughter, But honestly,

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Speaker 4: after getting a DNA test first, because just because she

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Speaker 4: had the affair with the guy, it may have been

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Speaker 4: a one night maybe a two night thing, it doesn't

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Speaker 4: necessarily mean that he's still the father. I would still

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Speaker 5: Really is your dad.

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Speaker 2: I mean, she can make a like nobody, how do

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Speaker 2: this girl's out here just making Margarita's like the secret

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Speaker 1: To everyone. How did you already know?

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Speaker 4: Oh my goodness, good morning to you all.

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Speaker 8: What I say is, this is a really sticky, nasty

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Speaker 9: But I think that it should not come out now

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Speaker 9: not the way to take this news. I can't even

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Speaker 2: because you're right, he's pissed right now and what he

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Speaker 2: really wants is revenge, hurt them, and it's going to

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Speaker 2: So it really is going to affect the daughter I

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Speaker 4: And I don't.

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Speaker 8: Yes, and I don't think she's his focus.

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Speaker 9: And that's why I say it's just going to be

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what I feel like.

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Speaker 2: You know again, I knew my birth father and he

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Speaker 1: Now, as a forty year old, I.

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Speaker 2: Now I don't want you anymore, and you could there

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Speaker 4: Yes, yeah, she's a thirteen year old girl.

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Speaker 8: Trust me, girls at this age are starting to have

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Speaker 8: You don't need this stick of dynamite thrown into the middle.

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Speaker 4: Of all that for this poor girl. It does, it does.

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Speaker 4: We told she's out of college age or something like that.

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Speaker 9: Wait till then.

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Speaker 1: Bring break to gobble.

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Speaker 4: And that's another thing.

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Speaker 3: The thing that I'm worried about is that we're asking

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Speaker 3: when she's wait and tell her when she's eighteen. She's like, oh,

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Speaker 1: What's best for the kids.

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Speaker 4: But yeah, that's I agree, Fred.

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Speaker 9: The thing is take take both of them out of.

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Speaker 8: There as far as yeah, I know, it's like perpetrating

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Speaker 4: Daughter and the daughter's feelings. And imagine, Kiki, I love you,

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Speaker 8: But you have to I mean, imagine being the recipient

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Speaker 4: I can't even I can't even.

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Speaker 8: Imagine how my world would turn up, se down and

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Speaker 4: It's going to destroy everything she knows in her trust.

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Speaker 1: So you say, people, the people.

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Speaker 2: Nothing, Yes, yeah, thank you so much. John, have a

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Speaker 2: great day you too. Hold on, Oh my gosh, Brendan Brandan,

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Speaker 2: you've been through this.

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Speaker 10: Uh?

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Speaker 7: Oh, yes, I've been through this.

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Speaker 11: What happened man, about six or seven months unto my

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Speaker 7: Was with somebody else. Right of course she got pregnant.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so did you test the DNA?

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Speaker 11: We did get a DNA test and it did come

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Speaker 11: out to be in mine. But throughout that full process,

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Speaker 7: The whole time.

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Speaker 11: Obviously, I was upset with the mom and that.

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Speaker 7: Was something that we had to work through on her own.

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Speaker 11: But I think it's better just to the truth always

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Brandon, did you talk about I'm starting to rupt you,

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Speaker 2: but did you talk before you knew that that the

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Speaker 2: going to handle it? Were you just going to continue

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Speaker 7: So the other guy wasn't even brought into the situation, bro.

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Speaker 11: From what I was understanding, But I mean I had

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Speaker 7: That seven six or seven months with the baby.

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Speaker 11: I didn't want I didn't want nobody else to be

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Speaker 2: Yeah but mm hmm, yeah, yeah, it makes sense. We'm

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Speaker 2: glad it worked out. I mean, are you I'm sure?

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Speaker 1: Go ahead?

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Speaker 7: No, no, you guys did you.

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Speaker 1: Did you reconcile with the baby's mom? Are you guys

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Speaker 7: Oh?

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Speaker 11: Yeah, I mean that it's still my child after DNA,

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Speaker 11: So everything's good. You know, you move past stuff. Wow,

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Speaker 11: didn't stay together, but you know that's something you got

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Speaker 11: to do as a man. You know, people go through stuff.

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Speaker 11: At that point, we weren't exactly together, so you can't

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Speaker 7: Yeah, okay, but I was just more upset. I wasn't.

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Speaker 7: I didn't know about that until seven months into you know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, can I ask how do I find out?

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Speaker 7: She just all of a sudden had had uh had

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Speaker 3: I respect her for that. I respect her for telling

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Speaker 1: Exactly cheat on you. I guess it was a blurry area.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, good anyway, Yeah.

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Speaker 11: In a way, she did, you know, cheat, But in

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Speaker 7: UH for work. So speaking, we moved past it.

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Speaker 11: But my biggest thing is I think show always see

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Speaker 7: Situation where there's a lot of stuff that could be

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Speaker 1: Okay, Hey Brendan, thank you for sharing that.

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Speaker 1: Have a good dame, Glad it worked out good.

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Speaker 7: I have a good one. Man.

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Speaker 2: Hey Teresa, good morning, good morning. Though hey love you

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Speaker 2: to just to recapping Kiki's court here, so make sure

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Speaker 2: I get this right. Kiki Uh, a woman and her

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Speaker 2: And you know, we're sort of debating here what the

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Speaker 10: I think all three adults are nassy.

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Speaker 4: I think the husband.

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Speaker 10: That's getting a divorce from the wife is massy because

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Speaker 10: a DNA task. I would assume, because they're like still

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why are they looking for thirteen years and

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Speaker 2: he's made no effort to do anything. I mean, I

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Speaker 2: guess I don't want victor. I don't want to villainize

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Speaker 10: Yeah yeah, I mean maybe he has a life and kids.

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Speaker 4: I don't know, but it's like everyone in this situation

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Speaker 10: So I think they just need to do what's best

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Speaker 10: She's BA only goes through all this other stuff.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, yeah, thank you, Teresa. I'm glad you called

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Speaker 2: have a good day. There's so many layers here too.

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Speaker 2: I mean, like the girl's gonna wonder why didn't the

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Speaker 2: she's gonna feel a band in some way? What does

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Speaker 2: him as much anymore? Because he's not really my dad

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Speaker 2: quote unquote, but he is he is her dad because

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Speaker 2: because that's who raised her, you know that she probably

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Speaker 3: I understand, but I feel like the longer we let

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Speaker 3: seeing a lot of people on the text saying that

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Speaker 6: So she could be like, yo, you got divorced when

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Speaker 6: I was thirteen, right, Like you've known me since.

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Speaker 10: Then, Right, my own situation is going to be like

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Speaker 10: not cheat responsibly, yes.

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Speaker 2: Fred Shiw constitution bad like she number one. Hold on

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Speaker 2: so this Lisa, Hi, good morning, welcome. This happened to

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Speaker 2: you almost exactly like this.

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Speaker 4: Yes, yes, it's crazy. So long story shorts. When I

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Speaker 4: was thirteen years old, we were having Thanksgiving at my house.

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Speaker 4: I'm I'm going to be fifty six now, so this

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Speaker 4: was a long time ago, and this girl who I

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Speaker 4: thought was my cousin decides to tell me you're not

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Speaker 4: my cousin, you're my sister. And I was like what,

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Speaker 4: I go, what are you talking about?

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Speaker 10: Damn?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, she goes, you're my sister. So we went into

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Speaker 4: the living room where everybody was that where all the

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Speaker 4: adults were at boy, and she tells her mom, who

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Speaker 4: I thought was my aunt. Yes what tell her Mommy?

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Speaker 4: Tell her that she's your daughter. And everybody got silent,

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Speaker 4: including my mom and dad, who I thought were my

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Speaker 4: mom and dad. And that, to me, that was confirmation.

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Speaker 4: And I went to my room. I flipped out. I

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Speaker 4: destroyed everything that my parents gave me. So, I know,

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Speaker 4: you know, it's a long story, and I don't want

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Speaker 4: to get into more details, but I think thirteen years

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Speaker 4: was a very young age to find this out. My

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Speaker 4: parents eventually told me after I calmed down, you know, later,

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Speaker 4: that they were going to tell me when I was older.

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Speaker 4: But you know, because I was involved in sports and

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Speaker 4: dance and everything, they wanted me to stay focused on

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Speaker 4: my life and not you know, be an emotional wreck,

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Speaker 4: which I was. So you know, I did it, but

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Speaker 4: we get over it, and I love my parents dearly

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Speaker 4: who raised me. Never talk to my biological I'm about

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Speaker 4: it again, and that just created a hate relationship with

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Speaker 4: my biological sister. To this day. I don't talk to her.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, I don't mean to pry too much. I

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Speaker 2: know there were details you didn't want to share, But

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Speaker 2: did your dad cheap with your mom's sister?

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Speaker 1: Is that what happened?

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Speaker 4: No, No, it was that's I'm saying. It's a completely opposite.

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Speaker 4: You know, it's not a story, but it was more

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Speaker 4: focus of the girl being thirteen, and I think I

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Speaker 4: was too young to find out. But no, my mom,

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Speaker 4: just my biological mom, took off to Mexico because she

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Speaker 4: didn't want to deal with me because she already had

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Speaker 4: my sister who was a year old, and you know,

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Speaker 4: just left me with her sister.

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Speaker 1: How could they tell that that girl like your cousin

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Speaker 1: or you know what I mean.

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Speaker 4: Oh no, well I guess I guess my biological sister

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Speaker 4: knew at the time, but her our biological brother told

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Speaker 4: her you better not ever say anything to her.

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. Telling her is telling a little girl.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, wow, wow, Hey, Lisa, thank you for sharing that.

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Speaker 2: I'm glad. It sounds like you were able to work

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Speaker 2: it out and you have a good relationship with your parents,

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Speaker 2: you know, in spite of all this.

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Speaker 1: So but thank you for calling myself of daughters.

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Speaker 4: I think thirteen years is to you, especially in today's

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Speaker 4: society with a lot of these kids already dealing, you know,

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Speaker 4: going through CLOVID and just you know, the generation. It

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Speaker 4: is so different today. I really think the little girl

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Speaker 4: would struggle, and the dad is, like you said, he's angry,

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Speaker 4: But I don't think he should tell her because he's

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Speaker 4: going to tell her because he's angry.

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Speaker 1: At the very least, he needs to be a parent.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, wait until she's a little older.

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Speaker 2: He needs to work through it with therapy or with

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Speaker 2: the wife or whatever he need. He needs to get

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Speaker 2: to a place where he's not so angry. Yeah, at

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Speaker 2: the very minimum, but yeah at lista. Thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: Have a great day you guys as well.

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Speaker 4: I love you guys so much. You need my morning

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Speaker 4: so much better when I'm into my hour commute to work.

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Speaker 2: Oh God, bless you. You know, I'm sorry for the hour commute.

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Speaker 2: But if it's ninety minutes, that's also okay. Yeah, you know,

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Speaker 2: likes Honestly, if you want to go the long way,

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Speaker 2: it's all, it's cool. We don't mind. By Lisa Bye.

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Speaker 4: Guys, have a good day.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because that's the thing.

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Speaker 2: If he doesn't handle this right, he The sad part

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Speaker 2: is if the if the guy who raised this girl

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Speaker 2: doesn't handle it right, he loses his wife, his daughter.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what I mean. And he didn't even

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Speaker 1: do it.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and he can't go to Cabbo. I'll be honest, man,

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Speaker 5: I mean, Saloom is saloon is very trendy. I hope

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Speaker 5: it wasn't Saloom.

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Speaker 1: That would be more Fred Show Next