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Speaker 1: Is there any part of your childhood, like any sort

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Speaker 1: of blankie or or bear or I don't know what

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Speaker 1: it could be, anything that you, as a grown up

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Speaker 1: you still have and that it's still maybe part of

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Speaker 1: the repertoire, you know, maybe it's still in the bed.

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Speaker 1: Maybe you still sleep with the blanket, Maybe you still

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Speaker 1: sleep with the bear. Maybe maybe you're a dude and

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Speaker 1: you're you know me, Mall gave you a bear back

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Speaker 1: in the day and you've kept it, and no matter what,

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Speaker 1: it has to be in the bedroom, it.

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Speaker 2: Has to be looking at you at all times.

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Speaker 1: I bring this up because there's a psychological trend out

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Speaker 1: of China that is now appearing in TikTok videos worldwide.

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Speaker 1: Stressed adults using overside oversized pacifiers to sleep, calm anxiety,

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Speaker 1: and even quit smoking. So adults using pacifiers now advocates

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Speaker 1: believe in the nostalgic comfort, but dentists and psychologists worn

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Speaker 1: of the dental damage, jawstrain, and the risk of suffocation,

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Speaker 1: experts a pacifiers may provide temporary relief, but real risks

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Speaker 1: and don't replace healthier long term stress tools. But yes,

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Speaker 1: you go to someone's house and they have a pacifier,

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Speaker 1: and you'd be like, what is that? Like, I everyone

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Speaker 1: to bed now, good night, and some people might you know,

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Speaker 1: they might put in there on visit line, and some

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Speaker 1: people might put on I don't know, a face mask

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Speaker 1: hair or something, I don't know what you headband or something,

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Speaker 1: but no pacifier. But to any of you guys, hang

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Speaker 1: on to anything from your childhood minimal judgment commentary with

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Speaker 3: We are right. I don't think I don't believe you.

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Speaker 3: You don't believe me that no judgment.

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Speaker 2: I'm not the worst culprit at all. You're probably worse

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Speaker 2: than me anyway.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So anyway, tell me about the blanket that you

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Speaker 1: still sleep with that.

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Speaker 4: I know I don't have anything. I don't think I

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Speaker 4: think you're deflecting right now. Well yeah, but no, I

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Speaker 4: don't think I have anything.

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Speaker 2: Nothing.

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Speaker 5: I mean, I dated a guy who had his baby blanket.

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Speaker 5: I've told the story, and I washed it and he

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Speaker 5: got very ticked off. He said only his mom could

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Speaker 5: wash it the right way.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, it was a little baby blanket with balloons

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Speaker 2: on it. Oh yeah it was. I guess it's almost

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Speaker 2: less about the blanket. Is it is about the commentary

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Speaker 5: There was a whole yea, you know, it was a

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Speaker 2: Took one that could wash it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it was giving.

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Speaker 2: It was giving.

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Speaker 3: We went back in time.

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Speaker 1: I was like, okay, yeah, can you imagine like activities

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Speaker 2: No, not that, not that, I don't know. We can't

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Speaker 2: use that.

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Speaker 3: We didn't do that with that, But activity did happen

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Speaker 3: with that in the bed. I mean it was there

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Speaker 1: Wow, And hey, mommy, can you come over cale and

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Speaker 1: use my blanket for something?

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Speaker 3: Like it was dirty?

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Speaker 2: And he didn't like that.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, that was I mean I know that by

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Speaker 1: There was a blanket that I had as a child

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Speaker 1: it soggy, but it was like, well that's because it

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Speaker 2: But he missed that. Okay, I'm talking to myself.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, she was, she was two, and and it was

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Speaker 1: But but she knew, she knew the soggy though, like

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Speaker 1: like if something because god, it was a total meltdown

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Speaker 1: if something happened to soggy, you know it. So there

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Speaker 1: But she would know, like if we gave her a

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Speaker 1: not soggy. Yeah, it's like, no, nobody did. Definitely is

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Speaker 2: Is what the name?

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Speaker 3: Because I don't know you she was chewing you.

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Speaker 1: Did you not have like anything as a child that

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Speaker 2: I mean I just had a blankye, but that that

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Speaker 2: a gross word. I hate that word. I mean, she

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Speaker 1: Well, this sucking your thumb count someone texting my forty

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Speaker 1: five year old wife. Oh man, maybe we're calling this person.

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Speaker 1: I want to talk to this. Well, I need to

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Speaker 1: understand it.

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Speaker 2: For too long too. You didn't hear a secret here, Leonard?

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Speaker 2: Your wife such a.

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Speaker 1: Suck your thumb still to this day, I mean, are

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Speaker 2: That moved the whole thing. No, shame to it. She

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Speaker 2: don't care who is it called in the public. It's

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Speaker 6: Wow.

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Speaker 2: Wow, Wow, her teeth messed up? No, she has pretty

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Speaker 2: because i'm your little gap in there. But it's still cute.

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Speaker 2: Does she stick the thumb in the gap, careful free,

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Speaker 2: I said the thumb. Brother, I didn't know. Okay, all right,

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Speaker 2: I gotta this is getting the.

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Speaker 1: I guess it comforts her so she she'll get yourself

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Speaker 2: I guess it's her calmness. So look at this guy,

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Speaker 2: that Leonard, he's in love.

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Speaker 1: I want to know what Leonard does that this is

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Speaker 1: just okay at the house, like it's what it comes

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Speaker 1: home her thumb.

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Speaker 2: I want to know what she's hiding about you, Leonard.

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Speaker 2: I'm an open book. Okay, all right, man, have a

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Speaker 2: good day. I'm glad you called.

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Speaker 7: All right.

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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, you get her a pacifier.

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Speaker 6: Though, no, no, no, no, that should have been cut

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Speaker 6: from like age two, Like every day I think about that.

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Speaker 6: I'm like, I ask my baby's pacifiers soon because I

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Speaker 6: I want her to like self sooth and stuff.

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Speaker 8: Jason, I'm sorry, but I think that was the problem.

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Speaker 8: I think my parents took my passifire away too early,

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Speaker 8: and then that caused me.

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Speaker 2: That's that's how this all happened. I changed transfer to one.

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Speaker 2: I just said too.

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Speaker 8: Long, like still I'm too old, right, how old ground

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Speaker 2: I was still sucking my transfer of addiction.

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Speaker 3: You're not listening to me.

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Speaker 1: You both spoke at the same time. No, no, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: I heard sucking and transfer of addiction. I'm sorry. It

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Speaker 5: It had to be in private, like you would go

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Speaker 2: It would be just like a time thing. It was

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Speaker 2: this corner of like the sheet like I still position.

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Speaker 2: But it's so gross. I'm sorry. You thought the same thing.

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Speaker 2: I looked at you. You had the same look at you.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, it's fine.

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Speaker 3: I'm not sure enough for this conversation.

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Speaker 2: Trying you guys. That's not chasing my parents.

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Speaker 1: My Parris shook my passifier away, and that's how this happened.

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Speaker 3: We are so.

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Speaker 7: You thought the same thing, don't you. I look at Polya,

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Speaker 7: you thought the same thing. So shut up, God, Jason, Okay,

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Speaker 7: that's some fight. No, there's nothing wrong with what happened.

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Speaker 2: It would just explain a lot of There was a prong.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you, Jason. But but

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Speaker 1: that would be a scientific discovery if that's how this

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Speaker 2: Don't take early. Yeah, they talk better than they tell me.

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Speaker 2: These are the radio blocks on the Fred Show, like.

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Speaker 1: For running in our diaries, except we say them aloud.

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Speaker 1: We call them blogs kinky go.

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Speaker 3: Yes, okay, so deer blog. I know we've been down

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Speaker 4: But I have a wedding coming up for a friend

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Speaker 4: and you know, the friend group is tight. So everybody

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Speaker 4: But there's some controversy because not everyone on the invite.

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Speaker 4: So I got a call that said, hey, you girl,

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Speaker 3: I say yes. They said, did Big Tim get an

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Speaker 4: And I said yes, and they're like, hmmm, well that's

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Speaker 2: I didn't make the invite.

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Speaker 3: Right, But I was like, hmm, that's interesting. And so

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Speaker 4: Think of the question, like, when you're whole, you know,

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Speaker 1: I didn't realize if you were married, that you could

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Speaker 2: Me, Like I didn't.

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Speaker 1: I guess I figured that was a given. Like when

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Speaker 1: I'm going to Toledo for a wedding this week, so

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Speaker 1: I gotta go. You know, Sorry, you have a good weekend,

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Speaker 1: Like whose wedding is? And I'm so I know them too, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I know you weren't invited, like right, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I guess the only time that I would. I don't

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Speaker 1: gray area for me because I typically am not dating anyone,

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Speaker 1: and even if I were, I'm not married to them,

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Speaker 1: So like I sometimes will ask, and I know people

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Speaker 1: think that's rude, but it's like, I don't know. Am

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Speaker 1: I expected to show up by myself? Maybe I am,

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Speaker 1: but I just tell me no, Like can I bring

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Speaker 1: But I guess it's the etiquette would say it's based

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Speaker 1: on the way that the invitation's written, right.

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Speaker 3: I guess so.

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Speaker 4: And I just I just thought, if you have a

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Speaker 4: wedding and every person you invite, you just give them

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Speaker 4: a plus one, Whether they take a person or not,

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Speaker 4: you just offer it because maybe they want to bring,

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Speaker 4: you know, their bestie to hang with them tonight or may.

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Everybody wants somebody to kiss the some that a wedding,

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Speaker 3: you know, always sorry girl.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, weddings are a little weird to go to by yourself,

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Speaker 1: Like if it's a family wedding or something, that's one thing,

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Speaker 1: but I don't know, And I get that it would

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Speaker 1: hey can I bring someone? But I also know about

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Speaker 1: situations where people have just brought or RSVP plus one

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Speaker 1: and they didn't have one and they didn't know. So

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Speaker 1: I guess I would rather just clarify, like, hey, are

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Speaker 1: if you say like oh no, I've had people say

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Speaker 1: no it was just you, And it's fine because I

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Speaker 1: also would understand somebody who's like, I don't need to

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Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like, I don't don't go on

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Speaker 1: like hinge and I wouldn't do this, but like, don't

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Speaker 1: go get a dating app, you know, don't go match

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Speaker 1: with somebody and then bring that what I got to

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Speaker 1: pay for that I even know them, so I get that,

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Speaker 1: like in the dating world that can be a little

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Speaker 1: bit weird. But I did not know that you could

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Speaker 1: invite one half of a married couple and not.

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Speaker 4: The other right, and then here you go, you got

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Speaker 4: your technically single ran over here with Hartman, and now

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Speaker 4: everybody's looking like, well, why didn't I get an invite?

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Speaker 3: And I'm just like, I don't know the proper way

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Speaker 4: I just if it was me, I think I would

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Speaker 4: just invite whoever I want to invite and they would

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Speaker 4: get a plus one. Whatever you do with your plus

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Speaker 4: one is up to you. But you know, I don't

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Speaker 4: want to single anybody out. That's how I think.

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Speaker 1: That's the easiest way to do this, because then you

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Speaker 1: don't have this situation where it's like, well, Kiky's boyfriend

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Speaker 1: got invited, but my wife didn't or my husband didn't,

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Speaker 1: and I think that's more important than a boyfriend. And

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Speaker 1: then you get into all that, and then you could

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Speaker 1: also make the argument, I don't care what you think,

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Speaker 1: it's my wedding. Well that part, but I also think

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Speaker 1: if it's your wedding, you're gonna you might alienate yourself

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Speaker 1: from people by doing it this way. True, you know

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Speaker 1: what I mean, Like, your friend might be irritated with you,

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Speaker 1: And I'm not saying it's there right because again it's

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Speaker 1: your day, but like, why would you leave my husband

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Speaker 4: In this particular friend, she says she did not RSVP.

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Speaker 4: She's like, I'm just not because it's only from me.

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Speaker 5: I think married or long term someone should get a

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Speaker 5: plus one. I understand if someone's single, you're not giving

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Speaker 5: them one if things are tight money or space, but

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Speaker 5: I think it shouldn't matter married or long term you've

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Speaker 2: I think you both should have plus ones.

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Speaker 3: Not going as wild right, I was like, oh.

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Speaker 1: Boy, I'm with you though about it, just kind of

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Speaker 1: assuming that people are going to bring a plus one

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Speaker 1: because you're going to invite couples and you're going to

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Speaker 1: invite singles, and some of the couples won't come right

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Speaker 1: because I get when you invite people, you're thinking in

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Speaker 1: your head, well, three quarters of these people are going

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Speaker 1: you can, you're going to pay for and whatever. I

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Speaker 1: guess I figure it kind of all shakes out.

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I was just like, I don't want to be in

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Speaker 3: the middle of this. I don't want to be I

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Speaker 3: don't know.

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Speaker 2: Someone texted me.

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Speaker 1: I was a maid of honor and I found out

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Speaker 1: three days before her wedding that my spouse was not

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Speaker 2: Your spouse wasn't.

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Speaker 3: Invited to brides or people? Just do this.

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Speaker 6: I don't get it. You're already doing the wedding and

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Speaker 6: doing the whole circus. Like, just pay that little hundred

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Speaker 6: dollars plate, let's up. I don't get it, Like what

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Speaker 6: why are you trying to like me? This big shot

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Speaker 6: of like your husband can't call, or you're a boy

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Speaker 6: or whatever. I give plus a right, gibb. I've given

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Speaker 6: a plus one when I got married because I was like, well,

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Speaker 6: just bring whoever. Like Caylen didn't bring a significant other.

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Speaker 6: She brought a good friend and that was okay with that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she told her boyfriend at the time, you don't get.

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Speaker 3: No kid exactly, she don't get to come.

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Speaker 6: No.

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Speaker 5: I asked your permission because I know obviously, like I

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Speaker 5: don't want you to have to pay for just someone

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Speaker 5: who's just a friend. But I also don't want to

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Speaker 5: bring a random if I'm single, I think that's disrespectful.

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Speaker 3: So I'd rather bring a girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I would as a single person, even if I

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Speaker 1: absolutely ask. Just to be clear, I love it about

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Speaker 1: you know, if it's cool depending on the status. And again,

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Speaker 1: you have every right to tell me no, like no,

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Speaker 1: like we were just planning on you and you're paying

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Speaker 2: To your day.

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Speaker 1: It's fine, we're getting married next year and we're finishing

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Speaker 1: up our list. But every name on it has either

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Speaker 1: the partner we know or it will say plus one.

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Speaker 1: I think it's proper etiquette, and I guess it's how

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Speaker 1: Danita Listener number one texted that it does have to

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Speaker 1: do with what the invitation says. Typically it'll say mister

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Speaker 1: and missus, or it'll say mister, or it'll say and guest.

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Speaker 1: But I've also had a plus one where it didn't

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Speaker 2: And I'm not married and never I never have.

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Speaker 1: A girlfriend, so I'm always in this position, so I

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Speaker 1: don't know. Jesse Lope, this is what I've been saying,

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Speaker 1: This is what I've been saying, waiting on the phone.

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Speaker 2: Will do more. Fredshell next