1
00:00:01,240 --> 00:00:04,120
Speaker 1: It's time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you

2
00:00:04,160 --> 00:00:07,880
Speaker 1: need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, please

3
00:00:07,920 --> 00:00:11,240
Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM dot com

4
00:00:11,240 --> 00:00:13,800
Speaker 1: and we could be reading your letter live on the air,

5
00:00:13,880 --> 00:00:15,720
Speaker 1: just like we're going to read this one right here,

6
00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:18,919
Speaker 1: right now. You never know, it could be yours. It

7
00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:22,360
Speaker 1: could be you never know. Buckle up and hold on tight.

8
00:00:22,440 --> 00:00:24,799
Speaker 1: We got it for you here it is Strawberry Letter.

9
00:00:25,440 --> 00:00:29,080
Speaker 1: Thank a few subject my husband and his life partner.

10
00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:32,960
Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been married for twenty seven years

11
00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:35,839
Speaker 1: to a man that made a beautiful life for me

12
00:00:36,360 --> 00:00:41,400
Speaker 1: and our four children. He's been to every school program, graduation,

13
00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:47,040
Speaker 1: medical appointment, and each child's extra curricular activities. He showered

14
00:00:47,080 --> 00:00:50,680
Speaker 1: me with gifts on special occasions and on ordinary days

15
00:00:50,680 --> 00:00:54,480
Speaker 1: of a week. This is why I can't believe what

16
00:00:54,560 --> 00:00:59,000
Speaker 1: I have found out recently. For the past eleven years,

17
00:00:59,040 --> 00:01:02,400
Speaker 1: he's been dealing with the woman that lives forty five

18
00:01:02,640 --> 00:01:07,600
Speaker 1: miles from our home and he has two children by

19
00:01:07,640 --> 00:01:11,280
Speaker 1: this woman. I want to get botox and was in

20
00:01:11,319 --> 00:01:13,760
Speaker 1: the waiting room with this woman and her ten year

21
00:01:13,800 --> 00:01:17,080
Speaker 1: old son. The boy's name is Julius, and he looks

22
00:01:17,280 --> 00:01:21,440
Speaker 1: exactly like my nineteen year old son. My husband's name

23
00:01:21,800 --> 00:01:25,560
Speaker 1: is Julius. This woman was wearing a ring on her

24
00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:29,400
Speaker 1: right hand that is identical to the right hand ring

25
00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:33,600
Speaker 1: my husband, Julius, gave me for Valentine's Day this year.

26
00:01:34,360 --> 00:01:37,319
Speaker 1: My heart was racing so fast. When I complimented her

27
00:01:37,319 --> 00:01:40,200
Speaker 1: on the ring and I showed her my ring, she

28
00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:43,960
Speaker 1: said her life partner gave it to her for Valentine's Day.

29
00:01:44,280 --> 00:01:49,560
Speaker 1: I asked her his name, and she said it's Julius.

30
00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:54,080
Speaker 1: She had no idea, no idea that my heart was

31
00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:57,000
Speaker 1: about to jump out of my body. Maybe she does

32
00:01:57,040 --> 00:02:00,000
Speaker 1: not know that Julius is married, and she was unaway

33
00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:04,560
Speaker 1: where that I'm his wife, or was she? I skipped

34
00:02:04,600 --> 00:02:07,440
Speaker 1: my appointment and went to Julius's job and asked him

35
00:02:07,480 --> 00:02:10,440
Speaker 1: to step outside. I told him that I've met his

36
00:02:10,520 --> 00:02:15,600
Speaker 1: life partner, and he dropped to his knees and cried uncontrollably.

37
00:02:16,160 --> 00:02:18,440
Speaker 1: He told me that he loves us both the same,

38
00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:21,720
Speaker 1: but he never ever would have let her come between

39
00:02:21,760 --> 00:02:25,640
Speaker 1: our marriage. He said he has two outside children, and

40
00:02:25,720 --> 00:02:29,560
Speaker 1: he pays her mortgage and spends a considerable amount of

41
00:02:29,600 --> 00:02:34,000
Speaker 1: time with her. And the children. I don't know what

42
00:02:34,080 --> 00:02:36,840
Speaker 1: to do now. I don't want to leave him, so

43
00:02:36,960 --> 00:02:40,600
Speaker 1: would I be crazy to stay? What should I do? Oh,

44
00:02:40,680 --> 00:02:43,679
Speaker 1: it's gonna be good. Sure. I don't have a lot

45
00:02:43,720 --> 00:02:46,520
Speaker 1: to say on this one. I don't. I don't have

46
00:02:46,560 --> 00:02:53,880
Speaker 1: a lot to say. I said a lot. Listen comment

47
00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:57,880
Speaker 1: bring it down. I'm disgusted by your husband's behavior. I

48
00:02:57,919 --> 00:03:00,360
Speaker 1: really am, and I don't know how he could have

49
00:03:00,400 --> 00:03:05,160
Speaker 1: gotten away with this for eleven years. Eleven years. I

50
00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:06,959
Speaker 1: know you want to stay in this, but you got

51
00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:09,400
Speaker 1: to get out of this marriage. It's over. Your husband

52
00:03:09,400 --> 00:03:13,240
Speaker 1: has caused you some unimaginable pain. I know he has

53
00:03:13,560 --> 00:03:17,079
Speaker 1: the worst, being unprotected sex with the so called life partner,

54
00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:20,840
Speaker 1: him saying he loves you both, and having two kids

55
00:03:20,960 --> 00:03:23,840
Speaker 1: by her. I know you're hurt. I know you're confused.

56
00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:26,480
Speaker 1: I know you're feeling betrayed right now. But after you

57
00:03:26,639 --> 00:03:29,720
Speaker 1: throw him out and get yourself together, you got to

58
00:03:29,720 --> 00:03:32,079
Speaker 1: try to pick up the pieces and move on from this.

59
00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:35,200
Speaker 1: He doesn't deserve you. He can have his life partner

60
00:03:35,240 --> 00:03:37,720
Speaker 1: as far as I'm concerned. Maybe then he'll see how

61
00:03:37,760 --> 00:03:40,760
Speaker 1: he hurt you and destroyed this family. I know you

62
00:03:40,760 --> 00:03:42,560
Speaker 1: said you love him, and you don't want to leave,

63
00:03:42,840 --> 00:03:45,040
Speaker 1: But what choice do you really have in this? You're

64
00:03:45,040 --> 00:03:48,520
Speaker 1: gonna be one of his two wives or whatever. I

65
00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:52,040
Speaker 1: mean eleven years of cheating. You will never ever be

66
00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:56,600
Speaker 1: able to trust this man again ever, And that makes

67
00:03:56,680 --> 00:04:00,800
Speaker 1: this marriage older or over because he broke the trust. Steve,

68
00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:07,160
Speaker 1: I'm a made counselor n't well? Well, let us review

69
00:04:07,760 --> 00:04:10,400
Speaker 1: in the order in only the ways that I can

70
00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:14,880
Speaker 1: trust and believe. I've been married twenty seven years to

71
00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:19,000
Speaker 1: a man that's listened to me. Y'all, has given me

72
00:04:20,080 --> 00:04:25,360
Speaker 1: a beautiful life for me and our four children. He

73
00:04:25,440 --> 00:04:31,440
Speaker 1: has been to every school program, graduation, medical appointment, all

74
00:04:31,480 --> 00:04:36,080
Speaker 1: the extracurriculum activities. He has showed this woman with gifts

75
00:04:36,760 --> 00:04:40,719
Speaker 1: on special occasions and on ordinary days of the week.

76
00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:46,600
Speaker 1: What a man, What a man, What a mighty good man.

77
00:04:47,240 --> 00:04:53,760
Speaker 1: These are salt and pepper lyrics in Vogue lyrics. This

78
00:04:53,839 --> 00:04:56,440
Speaker 1: is why I can't believe what I found out recently.

79
00:04:57,120 --> 00:05:01,039
Speaker 1: And she says for the past eleven years he's been

80
00:05:01,080 --> 00:05:04,160
Speaker 1: dealing with a woman that lives forty five miles from

81
00:05:04,200 --> 00:05:08,560
Speaker 1: my house and got two children by this woman. My

82
00:05:08,720 --> 00:05:15,760
Speaker 1: only comment in here is, oh Lord, then I went

83
00:05:15,880 --> 00:05:19,000
Speaker 1: to get both talks. Here we go. Now you don't

84
00:05:19,040 --> 00:05:21,919
Speaker 1: you're gonna hate me for this, But this is the

85
00:05:22,400 --> 00:05:28,800
Speaker 1: problem in this whole damn left to get both talk

86
00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:34,840
Speaker 1: if you had just accepted the way God made you

87
00:05:34,839 --> 00:05:38,480
Speaker 1: now instead of trying to improve on what he had

88
00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:44,480
Speaker 1: already done. You're married to a wonderful man that is

89
00:05:44,520 --> 00:05:47,520
Speaker 1: giving you a beautiful life and made every school appointment

90
00:05:47,640 --> 00:05:51,440
Speaker 1: he's been to the graduation, extracurriculum activities and the Shower

91
00:05:51,520 --> 00:05:56,080
Speaker 1: of Gift. But oh no, you dine there thinking you

92
00:05:56,160 --> 00:05:58,560
Speaker 1: one of these people on social media that un took

93
00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:02,240
Speaker 1: your old ass down here to get yourself some damn

94
00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:06,240
Speaker 1: boat tops and sitting up in the room and in

95
00:06:06,279 --> 00:06:08,840
Speaker 1: the room with a woman and her ten year old

96
00:06:08,880 --> 00:06:12,280
Speaker 1: son and the boy named Julius, and he looked exactly

97
00:06:12,320 --> 00:06:17,400
Speaker 1: like my nineteen year old son. Obviously this is an

98
00:06:17,400 --> 00:06:20,240
Speaker 1: attractive man because he's not down there getting himself with

99
00:06:20,320 --> 00:06:25,039
Speaker 1: both tops. But every woman he picked got Kenny. I

100
00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:27,280
Speaker 1: don't know what he's doing y'all in that being room

101
00:06:27,360 --> 00:06:31,680
Speaker 1: that's recordings, but this boy, right he'll is bringing it.

102
00:06:31,800 --> 00:06:34,400
Speaker 1: He is bringing it. So both y'all got to go

103
00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:40,720
Speaker 1: get fillers. Whoa hats off to homing this all right?

104
00:06:40,839 --> 00:06:45,520
Speaker 1: He held it a handbasket. Yeah, all right. We'll have

105
00:06:45,600 --> 00:06:48,360
Speaker 1: part two of your response coming up. Today's strawberry letter,

106
00:06:48,760 --> 00:06:51,240
Speaker 1: My husband and his life partner. We'll get into it

107
00:06:51,400 --> 00:06:56,800
Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening show, all right, Come on, Steve,

108
00:06:56,880 --> 00:07:03,080
Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. My husband and his life partner.

109
00:07:03,960 --> 00:07:07,760
Speaker 1: The name of this letter should be old Far Yeah,

110
00:07:11,240 --> 00:07:15,040
Speaker 1: twenty seven years too, and they got four children. He's

111
00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:18,680
Speaker 1: been every school appointment, extra curricular and activity, medical appointment,

112
00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:22,600
Speaker 1: graduations and everything to students outstanding. He has showered this

113
00:07:22,600 --> 00:07:25,640
Speaker 1: woman with gifts on every special occasion and on ordinary

114
00:07:25,720 --> 00:07:29,240
Speaker 1: days too. She has no complaint. He is a wonderful man.

115
00:07:29,720 --> 00:07:32,000
Speaker 1: Now she's shocked to find out that this man has

116
00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:34,880
Speaker 1: been dealing with a woman that lived forty five miles

117
00:07:34,960 --> 00:07:38,120
Speaker 1: from my house. They had two children with this woman.

118
00:07:38,720 --> 00:07:42,880
Speaker 1: And you know how she found this out? Tell them

119
00:07:43,360 --> 00:07:46,280
Speaker 1: she took herself down there to get some damn both toxx.

120
00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:53,400
Speaker 1: All this is because of both appointment. If you had

121
00:07:53,520 --> 00:07:58,080
Speaker 1: just left your mouth the way it was sitting up

122
00:07:58,120 --> 00:08:01,120
Speaker 1: in here, going down here, getting your eyes, get your

123
00:08:01,160 --> 00:08:06,320
Speaker 1: frown took out all this here Feller all this feeler

124
00:08:06,400 --> 00:08:08,960
Speaker 1: like like you're a damn celebrity or something. All your

125
00:08:09,040 --> 00:08:15,000
Speaker 1: man stay you didn't have both keys, stay regular people

126
00:08:15,040 --> 00:08:18,480
Speaker 1: get both took Steve. For the past eleven years, he'd

127
00:08:18,480 --> 00:08:20,320
Speaker 1: been dealing with this woman, and I went down here

128
00:08:20,360 --> 00:08:22,600
Speaker 1: to get botox, and you're sitting in the waiting room

129
00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:26,360
Speaker 1: with this woman and her ten year old son. Who's

130
00:08:26,400 --> 00:08:35,080
Speaker 1: the likelihood of that unless the botech doctor botox doctor

131
00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:38,560
Speaker 1: is a friend of his. And once again he was

132
00:08:38,600 --> 00:08:41,240
Speaker 1: getting a two for one, see the twoth for one,

133
00:08:41,320 --> 00:08:43,160
Speaker 1: gonna make his ass pay, And I'm gonna tell you

134
00:08:43,200 --> 00:08:45,800
Speaker 1: what's it. So he got a friend of his, he

135
00:08:45,840 --> 00:08:49,480
Speaker 1: played golf with that do botox. He said. Both of

136
00:08:49,520 --> 00:08:52,000
Speaker 1: his women down there to the botox friend didn't know

137
00:08:52,000 --> 00:08:54,600
Speaker 1: they're gonna book the appointment on the same day. She's

138
00:08:54,600 --> 00:08:57,000
Speaker 1: sitting up in the room with this woman and her son,

139
00:08:57,120 --> 00:09:00,240
Speaker 1: ten year old son. The boy's name is Julius, and

140
00:09:00,280 --> 00:09:02,880
Speaker 1: he looked exactly like her, my nineteen year old son.

141
00:09:03,360 --> 00:09:07,360
Speaker 1: My husband's name is Julius. Oh lord gie. This woman

142
00:09:07,440 --> 00:09:09,360
Speaker 1: was wearing a ring on her right hand that was

143
00:09:09,400 --> 00:09:12,400
Speaker 1: identical to the right hand to ring my husband Julius

144
00:09:12,440 --> 00:09:15,840
Speaker 1: gave me for Valentine's Day. Another damn two for one

145
00:09:16,800 --> 00:09:18,760
Speaker 1: right here. If he would just pay four price for

146
00:09:18,880 --> 00:09:23,880
Speaker 1: something he didn't, said, everybody down him. Oh lord, a

147
00:09:24,080 --> 00:09:30,120
Speaker 1: cheap cheater. Anyway, my heart was racing so fast. When

148
00:09:30,160 --> 00:09:33,600
Speaker 1: I complimented husband on the ring and I showed her

149
00:09:33,640 --> 00:09:36,320
Speaker 1: my ring, she said her life partner gave it to

150
00:09:36,400 --> 00:09:40,080
Speaker 1: her own Valentine's Day. I asked her his name, and

151
00:09:40,240 --> 00:09:45,360
Speaker 1: she said, it's Julius. She had no idea that my

152
00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:48,440
Speaker 1: heart was about to jump out of my body. Maybe

153
00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:51,600
Speaker 1: she does not know that Julius is married, and she

154
00:09:51,760 --> 00:09:54,920
Speaker 1: was unaware that I'm his wife. Of course she don't know.

155
00:09:56,840 --> 00:10:01,880
Speaker 1: You didn't know for eleven years, she the side piece. Yeah,

156
00:10:02,320 --> 00:10:05,319
Speaker 1: she had no idea the Jewish man and was unaware

157
00:10:05,360 --> 00:10:09,920
Speaker 1: that I'm his wife or washing. So now here we go.

158
00:10:10,080 --> 00:10:13,800
Speaker 1: I skipped, and then she gonna talk about I skipped

159
00:10:13,800 --> 00:10:16,040
Speaker 1: my appointment and went to junior job. Oh nah, you

160
00:10:16,040 --> 00:10:21,160
Speaker 1: don't want the boat top. Oh na, Oh you're gonna

161
00:10:21,200 --> 00:10:26,160
Speaker 1: just mess around now, damn the feller. I skipped my

162
00:10:26,160 --> 00:10:28,640
Speaker 1: appointment and went to Julia's job and asked him to

163
00:10:28,640 --> 00:10:34,280
Speaker 1: step outside. This the cold part of women, she said.

164
00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:37,720
Speaker 1: I told him I met your life partner, and he

165
00:10:37,840 --> 00:10:42,120
Speaker 1: dropped to his knees and cried, uncontrolled this eleven years

166
00:10:42,120 --> 00:10:44,040
Speaker 1: a hold in this secret. I knew getting here where

167
00:10:44,040 --> 00:10:47,200
Speaker 1: he crying. He told me he loves us both the same,

168
00:10:47,600 --> 00:10:50,040
Speaker 1: but he never ever would have let her come between

169
00:10:50,080 --> 00:10:59,960
Speaker 1: our magic? What what of Julius? What? Or four? Confessed

170
00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:05,640
Speaker 1: I shouldn't in five minutes and eleven years secret? And

171
00:11:05,760 --> 00:11:08,760
Speaker 1: you gave him all up in five minutes just because

172
00:11:08,800 --> 00:11:13,720
Speaker 1: she's saying, I met your life pardner. You fell on

173
00:11:13,760 --> 00:11:17,160
Speaker 1: your knees and start crying, uncontrolled me after eleven years

174
00:11:17,160 --> 00:11:22,199
Speaker 1: of concealing six kids from two different women. And then

175
00:11:22,280 --> 00:11:26,560
Speaker 1: she confronts you. You know I love her, I love

176
00:11:26,640 --> 00:11:29,400
Speaker 1: you both, just saint, But I ain't him come to you,

177
00:11:29,440 --> 00:11:32,520
Speaker 1: no man, He said, he got two outside children. He

178
00:11:32,520 --> 00:11:36,080
Speaker 1: pays her mortgage. You told her you paid him mortgage. Yeah,

179
00:11:36,480 --> 00:11:39,479
Speaker 1: taking money out of the house and spend a considerable

180
00:11:39,520 --> 00:11:41,880
Speaker 1: amount of time with her and the children. I don't

181
00:11:41,880 --> 00:11:43,880
Speaker 1: know what to do now. I don't want to leave him,

182
00:11:43,880 --> 00:11:46,520
Speaker 1: so should I? It would be crazy to stay. What

183
00:11:46,600 --> 00:11:49,520
Speaker 1: should I do? First of all, you shouldn't have wrote

184
00:11:49,600 --> 00:11:54,640
Speaker 1: up that's started because I don't. I don't know how

185
00:11:54,679 --> 00:11:56,800
Speaker 1: to tell you. There's so many ways to go about

186
00:11:56,880 --> 00:12:05,000
Speaker 1: this right here. Yeah, let me just talk Julius for stupid, Yeah,

187
00:12:05,040 --> 00:12:08,640
Speaker 1: hell man's boy trying to save money, two for one,

188
00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:12,480
Speaker 1: ring cold about the same damn jewelry she Now you

189
00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:15,160
Speaker 1: just send the here down into the same damn boat

190
00:12:15,160 --> 00:12:17,760
Speaker 1: TALKX doctor. You living in the town that ain't a

191
00:12:17,840 --> 00:12:20,360
Speaker 1: random eating the end you The name is damn board.

192
00:12:20,440 --> 00:12:23,640
Speaker 1: You like you like laying on ever get bought back

193
00:12:23,640 --> 00:12:26,680
Speaker 1: to you and your young juniors look Jeff like the

194
00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:31,840
Speaker 1: old junior. It's backing off as soon as she finds

195
00:12:31,840 --> 00:12:40,160
Speaker 1: out right here. I love her the same as I

196
00:12:40,240 --> 00:12:44,120
Speaker 1: love you. We got to include ch I ain't a mob.

197
00:12:45,280 --> 00:12:53,079
Speaker 1: I cain't. Shirley says, leave him. Yeah, there's no marriage.

198
00:12:54,040 --> 00:12:57,520
Speaker 1: This is over. She'll never be able to trust him.

199
00:12:57,559 --> 00:13:02,360
Speaker 1: All right, we're hot to come. You are sister wive

200
00:13:03,840 --> 00:13:06,880
Speaker 1: now officially a white lady on HBO, and you are

201
00:13:07,080 --> 00:13:09,400
Speaker 1: sister wife and you live in Utah. Deal with you.

202
00:13:09,559 --> 00:13:12,679
Speaker 1: Thank you for car Coming up next, it is Junior

203
00:13:12,720 --> 00:13:16,199
Speaker 1: and Sports Talk. Right after this, you're listening to the

204
00:13:16,400 --> 00:13:17,800
Speaker 1: same Harvey Morning Show.