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Speaker 1: I'll read this bow very little you old meal. Subject

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Speaker 1: been a minute subject. She's ruined my husband's reputation. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, I am a happily married, godly woman and

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Speaker 1: my husband is a godly man. We've been married for

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Speaker 1: After high school, I toured with a gospel choir throughout

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Speaker 1: come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter. She has

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Speaker 1: it because it didn't popped off. You have been out

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Speaker 1: really don't know how worldly that's gonna be. Sorry, all right,

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Speaker 1: house and she's showing up at mine. Whoa, whoa, whoa,

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Speaker 1: That was godly, She claimed. She was in my bed

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Speaker 1: Your godly husband has had a relationship with this woman.

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Speaker 1: This ain't no damn rumor. This is true. So all

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Speaker 1: You know all this here, y'all, this real guy. Later

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Speaker 1: tiny ain't gonna produce it. Pop wops you bop the

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Speaker 1: But tiny tiny ain't gonna get your number. Piste off.

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Speaker 1: Now this woman know and posted the capture he's tiny,

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Speaker 1: and or she telling me the truth? She's trying to

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lose respect because I don't really know

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Speaker 1: because nothing in your letter was God. And thank you

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Speaker 1: good much, all right, thank you, Steve. Leave your comments

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