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Speaker 1: I lost my wife three years ago, started dating again.

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Speaker 1: A new girlfriend wants to visit my wife's grave. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: probably pretty good scenario, right, What the new girlfriend wants

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Speaker 1: to visit his wife's deceased wife's grave?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, by yourself.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. I know, we have no goddame.

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Speaker 1: So this comes from a throw Ari Sad Sad Boon,

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Speaker 1: who says, I am one of many who lost someone

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Speaker 1: in the.

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Speaker 3: Damn twenty twenty. Y'all know what that's talking about.

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Speaker 1: She was my world and we had all of our

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Speaker 1: future set up. She wanted children to by twenty twenty one,

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Speaker 1: and then she was gone. And this is op talking,

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Speaker 1: I believe about their deceased wife. I felt I had

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Speaker 1: lost all sense of purpose, and after an agonizing year,

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Speaker 1: I moved away, not too far, but not too close either.

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Speaker 1: I didn't feel like I could breathe in that town. Still,

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Speaker 1: every Saturday I get back and I visit her resting place.

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Speaker 1: I just functioned for about two years. I'm not depressed

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Speaker 1: or anything like that, but I just function until I

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Speaker 1: met who we will call Ada, started talking and hanging

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Speaker 1: out together. We got a bit haughty with people. I

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Speaker 1: believe I'm reading that correctly, as in like oho, she.

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Speaker 2: Can be a bit haughty with people she doesn't know well,

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Speaker 2: like like kind of like a like a.

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Speaker 3: Dick, Yes, there we go, thank you, kind of like

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Speaker 3: a dick. I don't know words.

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Speaker 1: She can be a bit haughty like a dick with

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Speaker 1: people she doesn't know well. But I was surprised to

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Speaker 1: find out how sweet and kind she was under the ice.

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Speaker 1: It is quite an intro to this new person who's

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Speaker 1: like helping, helping their world out everything. She likes to

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Speaker 1: do most of the talking herself, which is fine with

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Speaker 1: me because I never know what to say. She knows

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Speaker 1: everything about my wife, and this doesn't discourage her. She

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Speaker 1: knows I am doing therapy and still morning, but she

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Speaker 1: never left me alone.

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Speaker 3: I interpret that as a positive.

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Speaker 1: I asked her to tell me if I do anything

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Speaker 1: or say anything that makes her feel uncomfortable, like she's

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Speaker 1: not a priority. She said that as of now, I

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Speaker 1: am doing nothing of the sort. She knows what I

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Speaker 1: do every Saturday morning, which is visit his deceased wife's grave,

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Speaker 1: and never objected to it. But today she said she

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Speaker 1: would like to quote unquote meet her as an accompany

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Speaker 1: me in visiting her grave. That's kind of sweet, Opie says.

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Speaker 1: I feel conflicted about this. I respect and feel touched

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Speaker 1: by her wish, and on another, it feels weird for

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Speaker 1: a guy to take their new girlfriend where the wife

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Speaker 1: is buried. How should I approach us? Is it too soon?

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Speaker 3: Should I ask her to wait for that?

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Speaker 2: I feel like you let her visit?

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Speaker 3: Dude? Yeahs understand wanting to have that kind of as

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Speaker 3: my like your own solo time. I could.

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Speaker 1: I could see, like I've most definitely never been in

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Speaker 1: op scenario, and I could see just the way that

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Speaker 1: feelings can get complicated around those type of things, being unsure.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, maybe he just wants like that to just

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Speaker 2: be like him and his wife exactly, you know, and

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Speaker 2: he doesn't want like a weird like after the grave

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Speaker 2: threesome with my girlfriend girlfriend.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, hey, okay, so relevant comments.

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Speaker 1: Your wife would want you to continue your life, especially

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Speaker 1: since Ada wants to integrate her into your relationship. Yes,

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Speaker 1: Opie says, we have talked about it many times, that

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Speaker 1: we both wanted to be happy if one of us

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Speaker 1: passed on.

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Speaker 2: Never had that talk with your girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: I haven't, damn no, I've never crossed my mind Honestly,

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Speaker 1: I'm not a very morbid person.

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Speaker 3: When do you have that talk?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, what do you talk?

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Speaker 3: John Soon? I guess that's crazy. So back to the story.

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Speaker 3: Never thought it actually happened.

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Speaker 1: Ada has been nothing but respectful and tactful when I

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Speaker 1: talk to her or show her things and pictures. OPI

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Speaker 1: clarifies on when he visits his wife to clarify, I

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Speaker 1: don't do anything dramatic like talking to her grave or

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Speaker 3: I just keep it.

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Speaker 1: Clean, water the flowers and replace the dead ones, check

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Speaker 1: the wear and tear around the stone, and clean the

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Speaker 1: glass with her picture. Damn it, you're saying about not

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Speaker 1: wanting to have someone in that space. Yeah, it's like

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Speaker 1: it's almost like it's almost like when you're meditating or something,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, which I think is okay. I think it's okay.

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Speaker 1: Op adds another comment with some details some details I

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Speaker 1: left out from the original post. Ada and I met

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Speaker 1: last April and we hit it off immediately. We are

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Speaker 1: not currently living together, and we divide our time between

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Speaker 1: home permanently. She has been clear she would like our

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Speaker 1: relationship to blossom into something long term, and she is

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Speaker 1: fine with a long engagement before the eventual marriage.

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Speaker 2: Tiffany Gomes has I already told my husband that if

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Speaker 2: I die, has to die sad and lonely.

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Speaker 3: Let's go Timmy love the energy.

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Speaker 1: She is very clear and nobs about what she wants

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Speaker 1: and needs, but at the same time, she is patient

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Speaker 1: and understanding. I love this woman and want to make

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Speaker 1: her happy, so more on Ada. Ada is very headstrong

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Speaker 1: and determined person, but on this I find a patience

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Speaker 1: and a kindness in her that are close to infinite.

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Speaker 1: She doesn't get upset when I'm a bit sad or

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Speaker 1: thinking about my late wife. She understands when we first

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Speaker 1: it felt a little weird and also a little bit

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Speaker 1: like cheating on my late wife, which, like, dude, it's

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Speaker 1: all what we I mean, We've had several of these

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Speaker 1: stories and it's just so tough because you never left

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Speaker 1: the relationship. Yeah, you know, it's such a tough thing

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Speaker 1: to go through again. No anger or upset on her part.

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Speaker 1: She said she would probably feel the same if she

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Speaker 1: was in my shoes.

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Speaker 2: And but he did have the the what he said,

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Speaker 2: he had the conversation with his wife about like wanting

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Speaker 2: them to have relationships if they if either of them died. So, yeah,

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Speaker 2: shouldn't ever feel like you're cheating on your late partner

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Speaker 2: because I think like your partner probably wants you to

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Speaker 2: be happy. But I totally understand that it's like weird.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like Opie's what I'm interpreting is like

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Speaker 1: op He's like, I know, logically, I've already made peace

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Speaker 1: there's just kind of this like weird, subconscious kind of

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Speaker 1: feeling that he still has plink around. Understandable, ladies and gentlemen,

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Speaker 1: there's an update.

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Speaker 3: There is an update. Let's freaking get it's an update.

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Speaker 3: Let's do it. I talked about this with my therapist.

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Speaker 3: A great idea.

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Speaker 1: She feels that, based on what she knows about Ada

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Speaker 1: and the way she's always behaved about this, that bringing

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Speaker 1: her to my wife's grave will probably be a very

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Speaker 1: positive thing. I told Ada that if she she feels

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Speaker 1: like it, I would be glad to take her with

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Speaker 1: me this Saturday.

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Speaker 2: What says how does the Golden rule apply with passpouses?

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Speaker 1: Sam, Break it down. Break it down, buddy, that's all you.

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Speaker 1: The mic is yours, the floor is yours.

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Speaker 2: Just keep reading.

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Speaker 3: We're going to keep reading, ladies and gentlemen. Ada was

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Speaker 3: happy to hear this.

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Speaker 1: She usually works on Saturday mornings, but said that she

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Speaker 1: would take the morning off from me. I felt a

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Speaker 1: bit of an emotion. I can't define about this, but

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Speaker 1: I think it's a good thing. And there's another update.

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Speaker 1: We're going to roll right on into some additional info

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Speaker 1: and an update. Some redditors and some people around us

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Speaker 1: were worried that my relationship with Ada is a rebound.

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Speaker 1: I admit that I too was worried about that, and

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Speaker 1: Ada told me she didn't have long lastic expectations at first.

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Speaker 1: We began dating in April of twenty twenty three. But

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Speaker 1: as things progressed and she saw my intentions are serious

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Speaker 1: and I'm committed, her doubts about me were gone. She

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Speaker 1: says we were made of the same stuff. We were

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Speaker 1: too loyal, committed and hard working people, and she wants

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Speaker 1: a future with me, and so do I with her.

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Speaker 1: We are looking for a new place to share and

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Speaker 1: I'm looking for the ring to make my proposal.

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Speaker 3: WHOA, We're there, We're there.

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Speaker 1: I will admit that one of my biggest concerns is

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Speaker 1: that I don't want to take advantage of her good will,

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Speaker 1: even if unintentionally her kindness and patience are near infinite.

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Speaker 1: But I told her I don't want our relationship to

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Speaker 1: be all about my past. It would not be fair

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Speaker 1: for her. She reassured me that she didn't feel taken

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Speaker 1: feel loved and appreciated for who he is. But at

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Speaker 1: me she's willing to accept to be with me. Being

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Speaker 1: that Opie's current situation, she sounds kind of great. She

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Speaker 1: sounds pretty freaking incredible. Yeah, great, great matchup.

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Speaker 2: Like, honestly, I feel like green flag if your current

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Speaker 2: the grave, Like, that's a weird green flag, but I'm

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Speaker 2: gonna say it's a green flat, it's a green flag flag.

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Speaker 1: This might be the first like wholesome dead spouse story.

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Speaker 1: I'm struggling to think of one where when they were

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Speaker 2: Like, yeah, yeah, the story about is this wife dying?

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Speaker 2: I really love, But usually I see what they're like,

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Speaker 2: jealous or misa sounds really healthy.

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Speaker 3: Love.

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Speaker 2: Bubble says, green flags for support.

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Speaker 3: I agree.

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Speaker 1: Remember the last the last one we did was they

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Speaker 1: was I just a rebound or something? Started acting really immature.

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Speaker 1: I think maybe even cheating on them or something.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, that sounds good.

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Speaker 3: Positive.

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Speaker 1: To my surprise, everyone approves of us. My parents, ate,

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Speaker 1: his parents, and my late wife's mother. We never got backlash.

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Speaker 1: I mean, when you have the late wife's mother's approval.

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Speaker 3: H that's a win. You're You're in the clear, my friends.

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Speaker 3: Opi continues to say.

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Speaker 1: However, I had unexpected things come up.

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Speaker 3: Tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: I have to cover for a sick coworker, which means

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Speaker 1: I'll be taken all morning and a great part of

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Speaker 1: the afternoon. It happens, And when it happens, I either

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Speaker 3: We are in Europe.

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Speaker 1: It's evening here, and I asked Ada if she wanted

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Speaker 1: to come along, and she readily agreed, so we didn't

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Speaker 1: talk much during the drive. When we arrived, we made

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Speaker 1: our way to my wife's tombstone and I said, well.

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Speaker 3: Here she is.

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Speaker 1: I fetched the water for the flowers and start my

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Speaker 1: usual routine. AIDA's just crouched as if to examine it.

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Speaker 1: Then she helped me with the caretaking routine, removing the

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Speaker 1: We took hend a walk around the cemetery, which might

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Speaker 1: and Ada, who's quite the stoic, got a little emotional.

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Speaker 1: I don't doubt that in any different circumstance, my late

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Speaker 3: Damn. I wish to.

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Speaker 1: Thank all of you guys for the beautiful comments and

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Speaker 3: That give meaning to it.

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Speaker 1: I just want to say that whenever you are suffering,

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Speaker 3: Wow.

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Speaker 2: What a great ending to this story. Found ring while

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Speaker 2: it in fraiskoot groups. Is this ring real even worth

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Speaker 2: a picture of the ringw Okay, So a comment sheet

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Speaker 2: it's anyway says I'm pretty sure those are sold at

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Speaker 2: K Jewelers. If you take it in, they might have

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Speaker 2: a serialized on the main stone, possible like a little code.

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Speaker 2: Then common from OP. I posted all over areas hiking

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Speaker 2: There is a K Jewelers, though, I can go Monday

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Speaker 2: and see if anything turns up. So basically OPA found

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Speaker 2: we're on like a little little hunt for the owners.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 2: Then a comment from bubblebe fifty four. I have a

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Speaker 2: CA's Jewelry. It will always have a serial number on it,

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Speaker 2: and I recommend taking it in or take it to

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Speaker 2: the police department after you get the serial number from K's,

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Speaker 2: give them all the info you got and where you

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Speaker 2: found it. Do not leave the ring at the store.

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Speaker 2: Take it to the police department. And then we have

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Speaker 2: an update comment from Ope. Thanks, I'll try to remember

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Speaker 2: to drop it by with an update if CA's any

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Speaker 2: help updates. Took it to ks Oh. They can't identify it.

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Speaker 2: They can only tell me it is a Leo's diamond

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Speaker 2: SESSI a Leo collection. My buddy, who does security at

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Speaker 2: the hospital I work at, is a sheriff. I'll talk

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Speaker 2: to him and see what the best course of action is.

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Speaker 2: That really will wait until Monday, as that's when I work. Next,

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Speaker 2: I'll call the little information center of the park where

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Speaker 2: I found it as well. I went to another case

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Speaker 2: and they were even less helpful than the first one. Also,

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Speaker 2: the police were no help at all as well. I

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Speaker 2: need to make an update post. I found the owner

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Speaker 2: of the ring. It'll be January at least before I

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Speaker 2: can get it back to them, as they are six

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Speaker 2: hours away from me and I leave tomorrow for Germany

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Speaker 2: until January. The lady who has all the documents proving

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Speaker 2: taking it there would not even be helpful. So then

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Speaker 2: a comment says silly Bunny twenty two. They say if

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Speaker 2: it was a Hallmark movie. She was hiking with her

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Speaker 2: hot shot businessman boyfriend who was on business calls. The

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Speaker 2: their businesses, but drop the ring. But he's just too

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Speaker 2: busy slash important to look for it and it was

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Speaker 2: a cheap placeholder. He promises to get her a much

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Speaker 2: better one at Tiffany's back in the city. Poor girl

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Speaker 2: is just waiting for that handsome woodsy man to show

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Speaker 2: up with the cheap ring and sweep her off her

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Speaker 2: feet because family and quality time are most important to him.

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Speaker 2: And there is an updates. So the owner of the

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Speaker 2: ring found me from one of the posts I made

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Speaker 2: the documentation proving the ring was hers. Turns out she

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Speaker 2: lost the ring months ago. Unfortunately, I will not be

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Speaker 2: able to get the ring to her until at least January,

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Speaker 2: as we do not live close to each other and

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Speaker 2: I'll be out of the country from Sunday until January.

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Speaker 2: The owner was very frantic about it initially and was

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Speaker 2: talked to him for a bit. He was fine at

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Speaker 2: the timeline and said we can figure it out. When

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Speaker 2: I'm back in town. All they were nice people who

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Speaker 2: were happy the ring was actually found and it wasn't

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Speaker 2: some intricate scam. This is awesome. Some info on the

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Speaker 2: steps I took trying to authenticate her claim to the ring,

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Speaker 2: et cetera. When I found the ring, I went to

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Speaker 2: k Jewelers. The guy there showed me the code on

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Speaker 2: the paperwork to verify it, et cetera. Well well and

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Speaker 2: send me the paperwork. I went to KYS again, different

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Speaker 2: this case said they couldn't discuss anything about the ring

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Speaker 2: with me since I was not the owner. They refused

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Speaker 2: they could just look at the number, take it down

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Speaker 2: and not tell me. That way, the lady could call

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Speaker 2: him verified et cetera with them, and they said no

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Speaker 2: to that as well. The owner called the store while

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Speaker 2: I was there, explaining the situation, and they still would

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Speaker 2: not do anything. I understand the reasoning, but it was

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Speaker 2: very frustrating and wasted forty five minutes of a busy deck.

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Speaker 2: The owner went to the police in town when she

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Speaker 2: first lost the ring and they refused to take report,

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Speaker 2: so that would have been fruitless. Also the reason I

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Speaker 2: didn't just take it straight there, as this is not

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Speaker 2: very surprising to hear knowing the police here. Basically the

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Speaker 2: of rude people on Facebook thinking I was trying to

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Speaker 2: post after it got counterproductive. All in all and extremely

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Speaker 2: to the owner and ended up having to spend hours

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Speaker 2: basically everyone. Oh well, it worked out in the end,

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Speaker 2: at least it will have once I'm back for my trip.

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Speaker 3: I also got it.

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Speaker 2: Cleaned and bought a box as well, so it'll be

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Speaker 2: in good shape when she gets back. And that's a

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Speaker 2: halfway ever ending story. That's where it ends. Basically, OP

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Speaker 2: found the ring and got it back to the rifle owner,

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Speaker 2: which is fucking awesome. We love to hear it, we

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Speaker 2: love to see it, we love to be it, we

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Speaker 2: love to do it. That's awesome, But you know what

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Speaker 2: I want to dig into. What this next story?

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Speaker 1: Oh fuck,