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Speaker 1: Jebels Second date Update. You can learn a lot about
Speaker 1: life through baseball. You know, when life throws the curveballs
Speaker 1: and knock him out of the park. Sometimes you step
Speaker 1: up to the play, you swing and you miss, but
Speaker 1: that's okay. Or sometimes you're the pitcher and sometimes you're
Speaker 1: the catcher. Either way, you're gonna have a good time.
Speaker 1: Those There are some famous sayings from baseball, and I
Speaker 1: bring them up because the guy on the phone for
Speaker 1: a second date update today his name is Matthew, and
Speaker 1: he met the girl that he wants to call at
Speaker 1: a co ed softball game. What's up, Matthew? How are you?
Speaker 1: I'm pretty good? How about you? Guys? Pretty good? Were
Speaker 1: you the pitcher or the catcher that day? I'm mainly
Speaker 1: bats and h you know, play third base. But man,
Speaker 1: your email said that you met the girl that you
Speaker 1: want to call. Her name is Tricia. Yeah, yeah, she's
Speaker 1: real sweet, okay, And it says here you met her
Speaker 1: at a co ed softball game. How'd that work? Yeah,
Speaker 1: she was on the opposite team. M Yeah, so that's
Speaker 1: you know, a little extra charm as well. Uh, let
Speaker 1: me guess she was pitching to you, she struck you out,
Speaker 1: and then you threatened to fight her. How softball friendly
Speaker 1: softball games go? Yeah, physical violence is that how it
Speaker 1: went down. It was more like when we all went
Speaker 1: to the bar, then you threatened to fight her. There
Speaker 1: was no fighting. No, okay, no fighting during the game
Speaker 1: or afterwards. It's different than any co ed sports league
Speaker 1: that I've been involved in. There's always a at some point.
Speaker 1: But so you met her at the bar, yes, yes,
Speaker 1: and had you had your eye on her like all game?
Speaker 1: Oh yes, all game for sure. What what about her
Speaker 1: stuck out to you? Oh? I mean her her legs
Speaker 1: just go on for days, you know, one of those
Speaker 1: girls with legs all the way up to her. But yeah,
Speaker 1: so she was really good at the game, and on
Speaker 1: top of it all, she seemed like a genuinely cool Rick.
Speaker 1: So how did you approach her at the bar? Well,
Speaker 1: I mean I grabbed her a drink and you know,
Speaker 1: said congrats for whooping her ass, and you know, then
Speaker 1: we just started talking about how long we had been
Speaker 1: playing and then one thing led to another and I
Speaker 1: ended up getting her number and we said it day
Speaker 1: to go hiking. Was the hike? Oh it was great.
Speaker 1: She met me where we were going to start out.
Speaker 1: What'd you say? I mean, I heard you. I was
Speaker 1: just like, what nice she met you? They're awesome. She
Speaker 1: met you where you're gonna start that's better than you
Speaker 1: at the end of the trail, I guess. And she
Speaker 1: was just as awesome as the first time you met her. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: Like she did great on the hike and we were
Speaker 1: able to talk. We weren't winded or anything. And I
Speaker 1: mean at the end, like when we said goodbye, like
Speaker 1: I didn't know, if you know, a kiss was feeling
Speaker 1: out but and I mean she was real sweaty. I
Speaker 1: was real sweaty. I didn't know, like we kind of
Speaker 1: just had a quick hug, but like it was still
Speaker 1: like you felt that connection there and we made plants
Speaker 1: for about a week later to go out again. Oh
Speaker 1: so you guys had a second date. No, see, like
Speaker 1: a day before she texted to cancel. She needed to
Speaker 1: cancel for some reasons. But so I don't know. And
Speaker 1: now it's like now I haven't really heard from her,
Speaker 1: so kind of feel blown off. Have you tried to
Speaker 1: reschedule that date that you had planned? I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: I sent one or two texts just saying, hey, sorry,
Speaker 1: scheduling didn't work. Is next weekend good? You know? And
Speaker 1: I I didn't really get an answer from any of that,
Speaker 1: can I ask? I mean, just looking back at the
Speaker 1: time you guys spend together between like the softball game
Speaker 1: and the hiking, do you think that she also thought
Speaker 1: of this as a romantic date. Well, I mean, I
Speaker 1: would hope it would be kind of obvious because I
Speaker 1: asked for her number. I said I would love to
Speaker 1: get together. Like to me that that sends a pretty
Speaker 1: clear signal of like, hey, I'm interested in you, right,
Speaker 1: you know, even if like things go slow or whatever.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Right, So, how long has
Speaker 1: it been since you've heard from her? It's been over
Speaker 1: a week since I talked with her, and she hasn't
Speaker 1: responded to the two texts I sent. Oh, just a
Speaker 1: sweaty hug at the end of the hike, that's all
Speaker 1: you got. Yeah, yeah, right, Well play a song, come back,
Speaker 1: call her and get your second date update. Okay, thanks man?
Speaker 1: All right, hanging rooking jubil in the morning update. I
Speaker 1: gotta say I'm skeptical of you, Matthew Am I suspect,
Speaker 1: yes you are. For what. Well, we do a lot
Speaker 1: of these second date updates, all right, and everything always
Speaker 1: sounds normal until we get the person on the phone,
Speaker 1: and then something weird comes out. Okay, Now, you said
Speaker 1: that you met this girl at a co ed softball game,
Speaker 1: you went to the bar after, asked for a number,
Speaker 1: and you guys went on a hike and had a
Speaker 1: great time, and nothing weird happened. That is all true. Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: if I call her and I find out that you've
Speaker 1: been going to all of her games since then, dressed
Speaker 1: up like no, no no, no, no, no, no no, buddy, I
Speaker 1: will be I will Okay. That thought did cross my mind,
Speaker 1: but I denied it. I didn't want to be a creeper.
Speaker 1: All right, good. I picked you in the stands like
Speaker 1: an NFL quarterbacks mom with her name on your shirt,
Speaker 1: sitting there like go tri shot, that's my girl. So,
Speaker 1: oh my god, you promise me you haven't done that.
Speaker 1: I have not done that. All right, he still doesn't
Speaker 1: trust you. Still, Still I'm a little weird of you.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna dial the phone of her right now, though,
Speaker 1: and get her on the phone and find out why
Speaker 1: she's not calling you back. Okay, Hello, Hi is Tricia there? Yes,
Speaker 1: this is she. Hey Tricia, how are you? My name
Speaker 1: is Jubil and I host a radio show called Brook
Speaker 1: and Jewel in the morning. Okay, I'm calling because one
Speaker 1: of our listeners sent an email about you. His name
Speaker 1: is Matthew, and he's sending us an email saying, you
Speaker 1: guys are supposed to go out on a date and
Speaker 1: then you stopped responding to him, and he wants to
Speaker 1: know why he's sent an email about that. Why would
Speaker 1: he do that? Because he liked you and he would
Speaker 1: like to go out again, but you just stopped talking
Speaker 1: to him. So he thought maybe we could help him
Speaker 1: out and figure out the answer. Look, I am not
Speaker 1: comfortable discussing us. If it's something way too personal, you
Speaker 1: don't have to tell us. But if it's I mean,
Speaker 1: he wants to know he liked you a lot. You
Speaker 1: got to put yourself in his shoes. You know how
Speaker 1: frustrating it can be if you feel like you connected
Speaker 1: with somebody and then they drop off. I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: I get that. And he's a good guy. I totally
Speaker 1: got that sense from him. Okay, so if he's a
Speaker 1: good guy, then why aren't you calling him back? Look,
Speaker 1: he was really cool. He's just not marriage material? Why
Speaker 1: is he not marriage material? Did you guys get into
Speaker 1: that conversation on your first date? No, No, we didn't
Speaker 1: like talk about it, but like you could just tell
Speaker 1: from the date you see immature or something. I mean, well,
Speaker 1: like here's where I am. I am not getting any
Speaker 1: younger and I absolutely want to get married someday and
Speaker 1: he's just not going to be that guy. That is
Speaker 1: really quick judgment to make after meeting someone just one time.
Speaker 1: Actually we hung out twice. Oh okay, so two times
Speaker 1: is enough for you to know that now you know
Speaker 1: everything about him. How can you possibly know that he's
Speaker 1: not marriage material after two hangouts? Because after the second
Speaker 1: time we hung out, he took me back to his
Speaker 1: car and his car was full of stuff, like piles
Speaker 1: and piles, And are you saying that it was just messy,
Speaker 1: like there was like garbage and stuff in it. Well,
Speaker 1: like I didn't know, so I had asked. No, I
Speaker 1: was like, what's the deal with all your stuff? Are
Speaker 1: you moving or something, and he said no, And he
Speaker 1: said that he lives out of his van. He lives
Speaker 1: in his van. Yeah, and he does it by choice.
Speaker 1: What do you mean? I like, it's not that he's hopeless,
Speaker 1: it's that he wants to be homeless. Yeah, he chooses this. Really.
Speaker 1: What did he say to you to make you think that?
Speaker 1: He said, Look, it's this really great situation. I choose this.
Speaker 1: I feel it's better, I'm saving money. And I would
Speaker 1: look in there and there is a mattress, there's a
Speaker 1: juggle water hot plate. It's really weird. Normally, when you
Speaker 1: see a van with a mattress in it on a
Speaker 1: first date, that's a good sign. So you're saying you
Speaker 1: didn't want to see him again because he lives in
Speaker 1: his van. No, I don't know. I've been going back
Speaker 1: and forth over this, like for the past few days
Speaker 1: because like, he lives in a van. H. So you're
Speaker 1: saying you don't want to move into a van. If
Speaker 1: you guys ever got more serious, No, well, no, I
Speaker 1: don't know. That's the thing. You don't know if you
Speaker 1: want to move into a van, you might be willing
Speaker 1: to move into a van. No, I definitely don't want
Speaker 1: to live in a van, like that's the problem. But
Speaker 1: I mean, don't you think, Okay, greanted, this is a
Speaker 1: kind of an odd situation, but he has like a
Speaker 1: regular job, right, He has a really good job, and
Speaker 1: he makes like a ton of money, is to say
Speaker 1: of it. All, Right, so the guy just likes to
Speaker 1: live in a van. We seem really in love with
Speaker 1: his a living situation. And if that's the kid, I
Speaker 1: don't want to mess with it. You don't want to
Speaker 1: make the guy give up his house, you know, exactly,
Speaker 1: his green Vand well, Trisia, I do need to let
Speaker 1: you know that Matthew is actually on the other line listening,
Speaker 1: maybe in his van right now, and he wants to
Speaker 1: talk to you. What. Yeah, Matthew there, Oh yeah, yeah, hey, Trisia.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I am not in my van. Just
Speaker 1: to clarify, I'm I'm in my office. I'm at work
Speaker 1: right now. Well that's good now. Yeah, I'm just really
Speaker 1: surprised because like when we went out, I mean, you
Speaker 1: you seem to think it was really kind of cool
Speaker 1: what I was doing. Yeah, I said it was cool
Speaker 1: when I was looking at it, because I didn't just
Speaker 1: want to tell you it was weird. Right off. They Oh,
Speaker 1: now you're just one eighty on this, So I'm just
Speaker 1: I'm confused, Matthew, think about it. I mean, how could
Speaker 1: a girl see a van? I think I want to
Speaker 1: stay the night with him. I'm not sure where I'm
Speaker 1: going to go to the bathroom if i have to go.
Speaker 1: But since owning a van and living out of it
Speaker 1: is awesome, I have this freedom that everybody else is
Speaker 1: dreaming about. I say, all this money, it keeps going
Speaker 1: in the bank when everybody else is spending and going
Speaker 1: into debt on these houses that we can't afford, and
Speaker 1: they're never in because they're always at work all day
Speaker 1: for them. I mean, what's the point of it. The
Speaker 1: point is to actually have a place where you could
Speaker 1: hang out, not something that you can like drive from
Speaker 1: point A to point B like your home, traveling everywhere.
Speaker 1: That means I can hang out everywhere, Trish, hang out
Speaker 1: like the world is my home, and Trish, I'm not
Speaker 1: living in the stone age with this. Like I've got WiFi,
Speaker 1: you know, I can run things off this generator, like
Speaker 1: I have electricity. I have the basic things that I
Speaker 1: need and stay connected with the world. I can work
Speaker 1: remotely if I want to like he's got it all
Speaker 1: figured out. Trisha. It just sounds weird to me. I
Speaker 1: never pictured my boyfriend living in a van. But it
Speaker 1: may be fun, Trisha. I mean it's definitely an adventure. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's that's the word for it. It is an adventure.
Speaker 1: That would have been trying to tell you. I don't know, man.
Speaker 1: I mean, you have a great personality, You're a really
Speaker 1: cool guy, but the whole living in advancing is just
Speaker 1: a giant turn off for me. Just give it a weekend, Trisha, Like,
Speaker 1: can you're going on a luxurious camping trips two nights
Speaker 1: and I will convince you. I promise two nights. That
Speaker 1: is a big ask, sir. So you want me to
Speaker 1: spend two nights in your van when we've only been
Speaker 1: on one official date together. You're the one who was
Speaker 1: thrown around the marriage word of you know, needing to
Speaker 1: find marriage material. So like, two nights is not going
Speaker 1: to kill you. I mean, I say two nights is
Speaker 1: a drop in the plank. In that case, Tricia, would
Speaker 1: you like to go out with Matthew on a second date?
Speaker 1: We will pay for it. I mean, I guess the
Speaker 1: date would be two nights in his van. But whatever,
Speaker 1: would you like to go out with him again? You know,
Speaker 1: I'm still kind of on the fence about it. I
Speaker 1: am going to say no to two nights in the van.
Speaker 1: I'm just up to hanging out with him again. Okay,
Speaker 1: so you'll go out on a date with him, but
Speaker 1: you won't sleep in the van. Yes, I will go
Speaker 1: out on a date. I will not spend the two
Speaker 1: nights in a van. Well, congratulations, Matthew. That's a successful
Speaker 1: second date. I can work with that, all right, So
Speaker 1: you guys go out on your date. Matthew, you try
Speaker 1: to convince her that living in a van is better
Speaker 1: than living in a house. And I wish you both luck. Tricia,
Speaker 1: freedom is in our future. You got a text it
Speaker 1: at seven eight, five nine two about the second day
Speaker 1: update that just says business in the streets, road trip
Speaker 1: in the sheets. Kind of makes sense if you missed
Speaker 1: today a second date update, Uh, Tricia. This dude met
Speaker 1: Tricia at a co ed softball game and then they
Speaker 1: went on a hike and she wasn't calling him back.
Speaker 1: So we got Tricia on the phone and she said
Speaker 1: that he's not marriage material and the reason why is
Speaker 1: because he lives out of his van. Yeah, it's by choice.
Speaker 1: He's not homeless. He has a great job and makes
Speaker 1: a lot of money. But I guess this dude, his
Speaker 1: name's Matthew by the way, lives out of his van
Speaker 1: by choice. Yeah. He says he does it because he's
Speaker 1: saving a ton of money and he has a lot
Speaker 1: of freedom. Yeah, and he's not tied down by any
Speaker 1: houses or anything like that. He can just move his
Speaker 1: van around wherever, just like a lot of people do.
Speaker 1: Look up hashtag van life all over the place. Man,
Speaker 1: I'm sure. And I guess they did go out, though
Speaker 1: they agreed to go out uh with She said she'd
Speaker 1: go out with him, but turned down his offer for
Speaker 1: two nights of staying in the van. So she doesn't
Speaker 1: want to stay in the van, but she would go
Speaker 1: on another date, mostly because he probably has a lot
Speaker 1: of extra money to spend or something. I just want
Speaker 1: to warn her. I dated a guy who lived in
Speaker 1: his car, and after we broke up, we got in
Speaker 1: a fight and he refused to leave. He just parked
Speaker 1: in front of my house. And then I had another
Speaker 1: guy show up the next day to go on on
Speaker 1: a date with him. He's like, hey, there's some guys
Speaker 1: sleeping in the car in front of your house. I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't mind him. I don't know, that's weird. I
Speaker 1: don't know. I am home. Yeah, your home's actually in
Speaker 1: my way right now. Yeah, you're hard to get rid
Speaker 1: of when they can just move their house right in
Speaker 1: front of your house. Yeah, good luck to those two.
Speaker 1: Uh they continue their relationship. Maybe he can actually stay
Speaker 1: in her house once in a while, like an RV
Speaker 1: year a Winnebago. Yeah. Remember, if you want to do
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Speaker 1: email us and we will call the person who didn't
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