1 00:00:00,760 --> 00:00:03,720 Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Red and I 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:11,640 Speaker 1: Heart Radio podcast. Hello everybody, we're scrubbing in. It is January, 3 00:00:12,240 --> 00:00:16,600 Speaker 1: and guess what what. I still have my Christmas decorations up. 4 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:24,079 Speaker 1: Guess who doesn't have their Christmas decorations up? You're there, 5 00:00:24,079 --> 00:00:30,600 Speaker 1: pumpkins away. That's about all I have to say. Yeah, 6 00:00:30,960 --> 00:00:33,600 Speaker 1: I guess who woke up? Oh I didn't talk about 7 00:00:33,600 --> 00:00:37,600 Speaker 1: this on Monday. I woke up. It rained like hard 8 00:00:37,720 --> 00:00:40,400 Speaker 1: during the night and I had had my roof fixed 9 00:00:40,520 --> 00:00:43,919 Speaker 1: from the previous rain storm we had, and I was 10 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:47,200 Speaker 1: getting it was dripping onto my bed and then another place, 11 00:00:47,240 --> 00:00:49,680 Speaker 1: and the guy came to fix it. And then Monday 12 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:52,920 Speaker 1: I woke up do I dripped hitting me in the head, 13 00:00:53,800 --> 00:00:56,280 Speaker 1: and so I called and I was like, um I 14 00:00:57,200 --> 00:01:01,320 Speaker 1: it's still dripping onto my bed. He's like, okay, i'll 15 00:01:01,360 --> 00:01:03,320 Speaker 1: find it time next this week to come. I'm like, 16 00:01:04,040 --> 00:01:08,000 Speaker 1: I need dude, I need well. Once it stops raining, 17 00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:11,760 Speaker 1: it's fine, but you never know. In l A it 18 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:14,920 Speaker 1: might not ran again until October. Yeah. Like when he 19 00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:16,880 Speaker 1: fixed it the first time, he was like, okay, I 20 00:01:16,959 --> 00:01:18,280 Speaker 1: fixed it, and I was like, yeah, I guess we'll 21 00:01:18,319 --> 00:01:20,240 Speaker 1: find out next time it rains, which in my mind 22 00:01:20,280 --> 00:01:22,280 Speaker 1: I was like, could be a long time from now, 23 00:01:22,319 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 1: but no it didn't. Yeah, I I I feel as 24 00:01:27,240 --> 00:01:29,679 Speaker 1: though I'm like stuck in time. My apartment is stuck 25 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:32,160 Speaker 1: in December. Like it's just I feel like MLK is 26 00:01:32,240 --> 00:01:35,039 Speaker 1: kind of a deadline for getting down your Christmas decorations. 27 00:01:35,520 --> 00:01:37,840 Speaker 1: Not to Taylor Swift, yeah that's true. But you know 28 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:39,800 Speaker 1: what's interesting is is I don't just have like a 29 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:45,120 Speaker 1: tree with decorations. I have a whole like hullabaloo of 30 00:01:46,760 --> 00:01:48,120 Speaker 1: trying to get your words in there and know what 31 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:52,320 Speaker 1: I'm saying, I have like a whole. I have vignettes. 32 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:54,800 Speaker 1: I have different like Christmas vignettes all over my apartment. 33 00:01:54,840 --> 00:01:56,680 Speaker 1: So I have like a lot of Garland down the thing, 34 00:01:56,840 --> 00:02:00,680 Speaker 1: and like a couple of Santa Clauses and some uh 35 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:03,640 Speaker 1: Minora's and stuff. I mean, I have, like it's a lot. 36 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:06,000 Speaker 1: It's going to require a lot of time, and so 37 00:02:06,360 --> 00:02:08,359 Speaker 1: I think it'll be faster than you realize. Mine came. 38 00:02:08,440 --> 00:02:11,680 Speaker 1: I took everything down so quickly. Yeah, I got quite 39 00:02:11,680 --> 00:02:14,160 Speaker 1: a much bigger tree, and it was a real tree, 40 00:02:14,200 --> 00:02:18,280 Speaker 1: and it shed everywhere, which was not fun, but I 41 00:02:18,280 --> 00:02:20,480 Speaker 1: got it done pretty quickly, so I believe in you. Yeah, 42 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:23,040 Speaker 1: maybe I'll do it today. Yeah, or just keep it up. 43 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:25,320 Speaker 1: It's fun. Yeah, let's just see how long it takes. 44 00:02:25,720 --> 00:02:27,880 Speaker 1: It's just a true indication of how much I'm not 45 00:02:28,000 --> 00:02:31,000 Speaker 1: home anymore. Like I'm just not home. Like I literally 46 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:33,560 Speaker 1: come here, I work, and then I leave, So I'm 47 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:36,200 Speaker 1: not doing I don't even have groceries in my house anymore, 48 00:02:36,200 --> 00:02:39,840 Speaker 1: like when I got go grocery shopping groceries, that's not true. 49 00:02:40,080 --> 00:02:42,000 Speaker 1: I have groceries that I ate. I would like I 50 00:02:42,040 --> 00:02:44,959 Speaker 1: had meat and stuff that I would eat and have 51 00:02:45,120 --> 00:02:50,080 Speaker 1: snacks and almonds. But it's really crazy, like it's so 52 00:02:50,160 --> 00:02:53,639 Speaker 1: it's such a weird. Um, it's a weird thing when 53 00:02:53,639 --> 00:02:56,160 Speaker 1: you're like, my home doesn't feel like my home anymore. 54 00:02:56,480 --> 00:02:59,880 Speaker 1: Your office it's like my office. Yeah, yeah, it's weird. 55 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:02,480 Speaker 1: Well you know what that means. What do they say 56 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:06,560 Speaker 1: things are getting serious? That's exactly what that means. And 57 00:03:06,680 --> 00:03:08,560 Speaker 1: by the way, calling each other mommy and daddy, I 58 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:10,120 Speaker 1: know it's all kind of tongue in cheek, but it 59 00:03:10,200 --> 00:03:14,280 Speaker 1: is a big step. Yeah, that's a big leap forward 60 00:03:14,280 --> 00:03:17,280 Speaker 1: in the relationship. Well we are, we're Sunny's mommy, and daddy. 61 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:22,560 Speaker 1: You're not, but um, but referring to each other, are 62 00:03:22,639 --> 00:03:29,040 Speaker 1: you so? As she has him Sonny? Anyway, referring to 63 00:03:29,080 --> 00:03:31,520 Speaker 1: each other as mommy and daddy is a big leap 64 00:03:31,560 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 1: for I'm sorry, it is. That is very much testing 65 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:39,120 Speaker 1: the waters of actually becoming a mommy and daddy together. 66 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:43,160 Speaker 1: This is definitely testing the water as we are. It is. 67 00:03:43,200 --> 00:03:48,440 Speaker 1: It's like we're co parenting this for baby. But it's true. 68 00:03:48,480 --> 00:03:50,720 Speaker 1: I'm not. I mean, I was not never. I was 69 00:03:50,760 --> 00:03:54,240 Speaker 1: never home before we got the dog. Like I would 70 00:03:54,240 --> 00:03:56,560 Speaker 1: come here and I would shower and you know, switch 71 00:03:56,560 --> 00:03:58,920 Speaker 1: out my clothes and all that kind of stuff. I'm 72 00:03:59,040 --> 00:04:03,480 Speaker 1: never here anymore, like truly, just never hear it's weird. 73 00:04:04,160 --> 00:04:07,000 Speaker 1: Yeah that's what you wanted. No, it's yeah, it's weird 74 00:04:07,040 --> 00:04:09,800 Speaker 1: in the best way. But it's also a little bit um. 75 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:11,400 Speaker 1: I don't want to say it's like a nomad, but 76 00:04:11,440 --> 00:04:14,280 Speaker 1: you I do, I kind of a little bit. I 77 00:04:14,320 --> 00:04:16,000 Speaker 1: don't know, Like I'm like, oh, I don't have my 78 00:04:16,080 --> 00:04:17,800 Speaker 1: razors there, so I went, I am. I don't even 79 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:21,239 Speaker 1: know what I have here anymore. You know, like my underwear, 80 00:04:21,320 --> 00:04:23,760 Speaker 1: my all my underwears split up, you know what I mean? 81 00:04:23,760 --> 00:04:26,480 Speaker 1: Like that kind of stuff. It's just weird. I noticed 82 00:04:26,560 --> 00:04:28,839 Speaker 1: you bring the bag. You've been posting about the bags, 83 00:04:28,920 --> 00:04:31,039 Speaker 1: and and uh, I was gonna ask if you like 84 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:34,040 Speaker 1: have a separate set of clothes, because when Alice and 85 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:35,120 Speaker 1: I never live in a part, I was a big 86 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:37,080 Speaker 1: bad guy because I'm like, I don't know what I 87 00:04:37,120 --> 00:04:40,440 Speaker 1: want to wear this day. You know, I can't keep 88 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:42,560 Speaker 1: a separate set of clothes over there. So funny the 89 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:44,440 Speaker 1: amount of people that respond to when I post those 90 00:04:44,440 --> 00:04:46,960 Speaker 1: pictures of like how many bags am I carrying over 91 00:04:46,960 --> 00:04:49,760 Speaker 1: to this house tonight? They're like, oh, those days because 92 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:52,159 Speaker 1: I have a separate set, I have basically everything that 93 00:04:52,200 --> 00:04:54,880 Speaker 1: I need to just like sleep and live. Like I 94 00:04:54,920 --> 00:04:57,920 Speaker 1: about my toiletries and underwear and work out clothes and 95 00:04:58,000 --> 00:05:00,200 Speaker 1: sweats and things like that. But if we ever, if 96 00:05:00,200 --> 00:05:01,840 Speaker 1: it's ever like we want to go out somewhere and 97 00:05:01,880 --> 00:05:04,720 Speaker 1: I need like actual going out clothes, I don't have 98 00:05:04,800 --> 00:05:06,480 Speaker 1: really any of that stuff. So that's like what's in 99 00:05:06,560 --> 00:05:08,600 Speaker 1: the bag. What if you kept like just in one 100 00:05:08,640 --> 00:05:11,039 Speaker 1: of your favorite pairs of jeans and like three of 101 00:05:11,080 --> 00:05:13,039 Speaker 1: your favorite tops and a pair of heels, and that 102 00:05:13,080 --> 00:05:15,080 Speaker 1: way you always had an outfit for Yeah, well, at 103 00:05:15,080 --> 00:05:16,520 Speaker 1: this point, I don't care because I'm not We're not 104 00:05:16,600 --> 00:05:18,440 Speaker 1: doing anything, you know what I mean. So really the 105 00:05:18,640 --> 00:05:20,800 Speaker 1: movie premiere was the only time I've had to like 106 00:05:20,880 --> 00:05:23,159 Speaker 1: I had like, you know, some things because I didn't 107 00:05:23,160 --> 00:05:24,760 Speaker 1: know what I wanted to wear. But and the most part, 108 00:05:24,800 --> 00:05:26,680 Speaker 1: I'm wearing sweats these days. So it's like not a 109 00:05:26,720 --> 00:05:29,039 Speaker 1: big deal, but it is. I feel like my and 110 00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:31,599 Speaker 1: I'm such that person. The minute that Christmas is over, 111 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:33,840 Speaker 1: I'm packing up my things and I'm onto the new year, 112 00:05:33,880 --> 00:05:36,040 Speaker 1: and like, I just feel like my apartment being stuck 113 00:05:36,080 --> 00:05:41,880 Speaker 1: in Christmas is interesting. Yeah, you had a very busy 114 00:05:41,920 --> 00:05:45,320 Speaker 1: holiday season. This just just give yourself some grace. Give 115 00:05:45,360 --> 00:05:47,040 Speaker 1: yourself some grace. But maybe you know, I might turn 116 00:05:47,080 --> 00:05:49,279 Speaker 1: on some Christmas music after we do the podcast today, 117 00:05:49,920 --> 00:05:54,880 Speaker 1: Grab my grab my pooch, and down. We just took 118 00:05:54,880 --> 00:05:57,719 Speaker 1: ours down this weekend. And I had this thing set 119 00:05:57,760 --> 00:05:59,640 Speaker 1: up this year where like, um, I had everything on 120 00:05:59,680 --> 00:06:02,880 Speaker 1: times and like WiFi switches. It's like when the sun 121 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:04,839 Speaker 1: goes down, it would turn on the lights in the 122 00:06:04,839 --> 00:06:07,000 Speaker 1: house and then turn on the Christmas tree lights and 123 00:06:07,040 --> 00:06:10,599 Speaker 1: then turn on oh Christmas Tree on the stereo. And 124 00:06:10,920 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 1: I took everything down but I left the music automation. 125 00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:17,200 Speaker 1: So the last couple of nights, like when the sun 126 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:19,360 Speaker 1: goes down, it still plays O Christmas Tree it's been 127 00:06:19,400 --> 00:06:20,479 Speaker 1: and all of a a sudden, I will like take a 128 00:06:20,520 --> 00:06:23,560 Speaker 1: moment like put our arm at each other and Christmas. 129 00:06:24,080 --> 00:06:26,279 Speaker 1: There's nothing up stills, just the song. But it's probably 130 00:06:26,320 --> 00:06:28,080 Speaker 1: a sample of year like that. You know that is 131 00:06:28,400 --> 00:06:31,000 Speaker 1: energy about Christmas. That's just kind of nice. That's whatever. 132 00:06:31,040 --> 00:06:33,680 Speaker 1: Maybe I just leave it all year. Yeah, I know 133 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:37,920 Speaker 1: that I'm that girl. What is what is that girl 134 00:06:37,960 --> 00:06:41,600 Speaker 1: that leaves Christmas up all year? Wow, you're so judgy. 135 00:06:42,040 --> 00:06:45,200 Speaker 1: People with their pet instagrams and people leave their Christmas 136 00:06:45,279 --> 00:06:47,599 Speaker 1: lights off. There's a lot of that girls that you're becoming. Yeah, 137 00:06:48,160 --> 00:06:51,560 Speaker 1: you know, I got a message from this t word 138 00:06:51,760 --> 00:06:54,280 Speaker 1: and she was like I was looking back at all. 139 00:06:54,400 --> 00:06:57,600 Speaker 1: I saw her message she sent me recently, and then 140 00:06:57,640 --> 00:07:00,000 Speaker 1: I was reading all of the old messages she sent me, 141 00:07:00,040 --> 00:07:02,520 Speaker 1: and she's she does not like me because she thinks 142 00:07:02,560 --> 00:07:04,640 Speaker 1: I'm a bully to Tania. And then I'm always making 143 00:07:04,680 --> 00:07:07,880 Speaker 1: fun of Tania and I'm like, first of all, Tanya 144 00:07:08,160 --> 00:07:11,080 Speaker 1: does and says things just to get a reaction out 145 00:07:11,080 --> 00:07:13,080 Speaker 1: of me, and she knows how I'm going to react, 146 00:07:16,480 --> 00:07:19,120 Speaker 1: and I was like, totally true, but it's not totally wrong. 147 00:07:19,440 --> 00:07:21,680 Speaker 1: Do you consider me a bully to you? Not at all? 148 00:07:22,120 --> 00:07:24,000 Speaker 1: Not at all, all right, So shout out to the 149 00:07:24,080 --> 00:07:27,200 Speaker 1: T word. No, I don't think I remember her name. 150 00:07:27,600 --> 00:07:30,760 Speaker 1: Thembre T word is troll. But we don't say that 151 00:07:30,760 --> 00:07:34,160 Speaker 1: word anymore. Oh, I'm sorry, but I just think it's 152 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:36,600 Speaker 1: part of our part of our dynamic. And I sometimes 153 00:07:36,600 --> 00:07:40,280 Speaker 1: I've realized too, Like I realize I can acknowledge when 154 00:07:40,320 --> 00:07:42,680 Speaker 1: I'm being crazy or when I'm being weird, or when 155 00:07:42,680 --> 00:07:44,240 Speaker 1: I'm being a lot, you know what I mean. Like 156 00:07:44,320 --> 00:07:47,640 Speaker 1: I know I am those things. I'm unapologetically those things, 157 00:07:47,640 --> 00:07:49,160 Speaker 1: and I don't care that i'm those things. But I 158 00:07:49,200 --> 00:07:52,320 Speaker 1: know you know when I'm gonna get when you're going 159 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:55,040 Speaker 1: to get a reaction out of me, because I'm gonna 160 00:07:55,040 --> 00:07:56,880 Speaker 1: wait to tell you this on the podcast and I'm like, 161 00:07:56,920 --> 00:08:01,400 Speaker 1: oh no, here we go. It's always a genuine reaction, 162 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:05,320 Speaker 1: but I'm always prepared. Um. I love our friendship though, 163 00:08:05,560 --> 00:08:07,320 Speaker 1: do too, but we have a lot of questions about 164 00:08:07,360 --> 00:08:09,520 Speaker 1: our friendship. By the way, we're doing a listener questions 165 00:08:09,560 --> 00:08:13,640 Speaker 1: today on the podcast. In the extra episode. Um, so 166 00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:15,560 Speaker 1: I guess maybe we take a break and then come 167 00:08:15,600 --> 00:08:19,760 Speaker 1: back and start our start him off. Yeah, okay, great, 168 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:37,960 Speaker 1: all right, we'll be right back. Al Right, we are 169 00:08:38,080 --> 00:08:43,719 Speaker 1: back with some questions from our scrubbers. So, Mark, do 170 00:08:43,760 --> 00:08:45,880 Speaker 1: you want to take the lead on these? Sure, I'm 171 00:08:45,920 --> 00:08:47,280 Speaker 1: going to pick some of these. I'm not going to 172 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:48,840 Speaker 1: go into order, so I'm going to kind of keep 173 00:08:48,840 --> 00:08:52,800 Speaker 1: you two on your toes. Ari sent some nice ones. 174 00:08:52,920 --> 00:08:57,480 Speaker 1: Ari says, at this stage, respectively, do you think Red 175 00:08:57,480 --> 00:09:07,120 Speaker 1: Star our end game? I feel like I am Eastern Space, 176 00:09:07,960 --> 00:09:11,480 Speaker 1: like a little kid, like I see my future with 177 00:09:12,520 --> 00:09:15,360 Speaker 1: but like the whole like, what is that? Does that mean? Marriage? 178 00:09:15,520 --> 00:09:17,439 Speaker 1: Does that? What does that mean? I'm still trying to 179 00:09:17,480 --> 00:09:20,840 Speaker 1: figure out. But I see my future with so that 180 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:24,840 Speaker 1: is endgame? Yeah, but in game that that stressed. My 181 00:09:24,880 --> 00:09:27,440 Speaker 1: therapist said that I don't need to think in that 182 00:09:27,559 --> 00:09:29,800 Speaker 1: far in the future because it streusses me out. And 183 00:09:29,840 --> 00:09:33,880 Speaker 1: she said that's okay, okay, yeah, because ninety of the 184 00:09:35,240 --> 00:09:39,480 Speaker 1: loves like a direct answer about where our future is going, 185 00:09:39,600 --> 00:09:43,000 Speaker 1: and I'm like, I feel like that's a trap, because 186 00:09:43,080 --> 00:09:47,080 Speaker 1: like if I don't give a resounding yes and I 187 00:09:47,160 --> 00:09:49,559 Speaker 1: have any hesitation, then it's like, so you don't want 188 00:09:49,559 --> 00:09:51,959 Speaker 1: to be with me. It's like, no, there's there's just 189 00:09:52,559 --> 00:09:56,840 Speaker 1: some space in between there. So it would okay with 190 00:09:56,880 --> 00:09:59,240 Speaker 1: the idea if you were like I, I my plan 191 00:09:59,360 --> 00:10:00,839 Speaker 1: is for the two of of us to dine in 192 00:10:00,960 --> 00:10:05,959 Speaker 1: nursing home holding hands together. Okay with that future, Yeah, 193 00:10:06,080 --> 00:10:10,600 Speaker 1: but like I don't want that. I don't want to 194 00:10:10,600 --> 00:10:16,200 Speaker 1: be in a nursing home. Yeah, you ever moved that 195 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:19,240 Speaker 1: element of it? Yeah, I mean that would that would 196 00:10:19,280 --> 00:10:22,480 Speaker 1: probably be a great answer, But that's just so I 197 00:10:22,520 --> 00:10:25,480 Speaker 1: have commitment issues that I'm working, Like thom and Louise 198 00:10:25,520 --> 00:10:30,040 Speaker 1: going into the Gorge, yeah, something just like easy breezy 199 00:10:30,160 --> 00:10:34,320 Speaker 1: yeah yeah, quick into the sunset. Yeah. Again, does have 200 00:10:34,360 --> 00:10:38,719 Speaker 1: a weird, like dark, morbid connotation connected to it. So 201 00:10:38,840 --> 00:10:41,520 Speaker 1: I'm going to rephrase the question instead of endgame like 202 00:10:42,600 --> 00:10:47,080 Speaker 1: future game no no, no no no, and end game 203 00:10:49,160 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 1: you will be romantically involved with Oh right, yes, I 204 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:59,000 Speaker 1: believe So okay, yeah, there you Sorry. I hope that helped. 205 00:10:59,640 --> 00:11:02,280 Speaker 1: All right, question, this is a great name. So I 206 00:11:02,320 --> 00:11:06,880 Speaker 1: was drawn to Bebba Barnes, and BEBBA Barnes says, picture 207 00:11:06,880 --> 00:11:10,200 Speaker 1: an alternate life. You're not in Los Angeles. You're not 208 00:11:10,280 --> 00:11:12,559 Speaker 1: an entertainment. Where would you live and what would you do? 209 00:11:15,520 --> 00:11:19,320 Speaker 1: I know what I would do. What I would Um, 210 00:11:19,360 --> 00:11:21,840 Speaker 1: I would have my own shop at the farmer's market 211 00:11:22,800 --> 00:11:25,120 Speaker 1: and make almond milk, and it would be I'd be 212 00:11:25,160 --> 00:11:29,160 Speaker 1: the almond milk lady at farmer's market. I don't know, 213 00:11:30,040 --> 00:11:34,480 Speaker 1: somewhere somewhere all the almond milk is popular. So I 214 00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:41,800 Speaker 1: don't know remem where the almond milk is popular California. Um, 215 00:11:41,800 --> 00:11:45,680 Speaker 1: I need to go to an almond milk hot spot. Yeah, yeah, 216 00:11:45,800 --> 00:11:49,920 Speaker 1: somewhere along the West coast, maybe San Diego, maybe San Francisco, somewhere. 217 00:11:50,000 --> 00:11:52,520 Speaker 1: You know. I'm a Cali, Cali girl, so I'd probably 218 00:11:52,840 --> 00:11:56,520 Speaker 1: hang loose over here, maybe Hawaii. Um, and I would 219 00:11:56,559 --> 00:11:59,920 Speaker 1: have a farmer's market. I'd have my own almond milk shop. 220 00:12:01,880 --> 00:12:05,760 Speaker 1: I love that. I would probably be in San Diego still, 221 00:12:05,920 --> 00:12:07,560 Speaker 1: if I hadn't moved l A, I'd probably be in 222 00:12:07,559 --> 00:12:11,160 Speaker 1: San Diego. I love San Diego, and I would honestly 223 00:12:11,320 --> 00:12:18,400 Speaker 1: probably be working just like random jobs and just having 224 00:12:18,440 --> 00:12:21,120 Speaker 1: the greatest time I had. I loved my life and 225 00:12:21,280 --> 00:12:24,120 Speaker 1: like I worked for a chiropractor. Shout out to Andrew's 226 00:12:24,160 --> 00:12:27,720 Speaker 1: chiropractic group, and I just had the greatest time. My 227 00:12:27,800 --> 00:12:31,920 Speaker 1: boss was awesome, my co workers were awesome, and I 228 00:12:32,040 --> 00:12:34,560 Speaker 1: just I had all my friends, like my best friend 229 00:12:34,559 --> 00:12:37,360 Speaker 1: he We always played like tennis and basketball together, so 230 00:12:37,360 --> 00:12:44,120 Speaker 1: we were always active. It was a good time. Mark 231 00:12:44,480 --> 00:12:47,120 Speaker 1: seems befuddled. No, I'm just looking for the next question 232 00:12:47,440 --> 00:12:57,720 Speaker 1: is going to come from Adelma Adela. I don't know. 233 00:12:57,720 --> 00:13:01,480 Speaker 1: It's just a collection of letters and anyway, on the 234 00:13:01,559 --> 00:13:05,840 Speaker 1: similar topic of the future and endgame, which I know 235 00:13:05,920 --> 00:13:08,320 Speaker 1: you both love. Uh, this person would like to know 236 00:13:08,440 --> 00:13:11,120 Speaker 1: what do you see your friendship looking like in fifty years? 237 00:13:11,120 --> 00:13:14,280 Speaker 1: So I would like to, you know, kind of put ourselves. 238 00:13:14,880 --> 00:13:18,840 Speaker 1: You guys are in your eighties. I'm in my fifth 239 00:13:18,960 --> 00:13:24,920 Speaker 1: and in my seventies, in twenty in thirty years, fifty years, 240 00:13:27,360 --> 00:13:30,800 Speaker 1: I am in my eighties. Thank you. I get there faster, 241 00:13:32,000 --> 00:13:34,160 Speaker 1: and I wanted some of the stuff is take us 242 00:13:34,200 --> 00:13:36,679 Speaker 1: through some time, you know, as as Tanya and Becca 243 00:13:36,800 --> 00:13:39,200 Speaker 1: in their eighties. What are you guys doing together? Oh 244 00:13:39,240 --> 00:13:43,720 Speaker 1: my god, so much future thinking today. This is my 245 00:13:43,840 --> 00:13:53,960 Speaker 1: therapy session. There is twenty seventy two. I'm probably Tanny 246 00:13:54,040 --> 00:13:57,720 Speaker 1: and I are probably catching up at a local Beverly 247 00:13:57,800 --> 00:14:01,160 Speaker 1: Hills luncheon spot. Yes, thin on the same side of 248 00:14:01,200 --> 00:14:04,840 Speaker 1: the table because Becca just eual I just gave up. 249 00:14:04,920 --> 00:14:09,120 Speaker 1: I got worn down down in her fifties. She started 250 00:14:09,160 --> 00:14:11,920 Speaker 1: really just she had a really persistent twenty years of 251 00:14:11,920 --> 00:14:14,520 Speaker 1: saying no, and then in around the fifties she gave up. 252 00:14:14,520 --> 00:14:16,440 Speaker 1: So now every meal that we have we sit on 253 00:14:16,480 --> 00:14:19,120 Speaker 1: the same side. That's because we're able to hear each 254 00:14:19,120 --> 00:14:21,080 Speaker 1: other better. To be able to hear each other better, 255 00:14:21,560 --> 00:14:25,080 Speaker 1: we've moved from our spicy margarita's um. We now drink 256 00:14:25,120 --> 00:14:33,280 Speaker 1: white Russians. Yeah, okay, uh, a little milk in our systems. Yeah, 257 00:14:33,320 --> 00:14:35,720 Speaker 1: so that's our new drink of choice. In our eighties. 258 00:14:36,640 --> 00:14:41,160 Speaker 1: We are in healthy, thriving relationships and our kids hold 259 00:14:41,160 --> 00:14:44,040 Speaker 1: are our kids at this point, Well, it's hard to 260 00:14:44,040 --> 00:14:46,560 Speaker 1: say so that they don't exist yet. They'd probably be 261 00:14:46,560 --> 00:14:50,000 Speaker 1: in their forties perhaps wow. Uh So our kids are 262 00:14:50,520 --> 00:14:56,200 Speaker 1: hot and fun and friends know they're smart, and they're 263 00:14:56,280 --> 00:15:00,400 Speaker 1: best friends, and and they like me more than Tanya, 264 00:15:00,400 --> 00:15:03,800 Speaker 1: but she's a really good mom. But they know they 265 00:15:03,840 --> 00:15:07,440 Speaker 1: liked us in different ways. And I don't know, I 266 00:15:08,080 --> 00:15:11,000 Speaker 1: might be just like the cool aunt, depending on just 267 00:15:11,280 --> 00:15:14,640 Speaker 1: if I can you know if I am. We're going 268 00:15:14,680 --> 00:15:18,200 Speaker 1: on a lot of picnics too. Lots of picnics, yeah, 269 00:15:18,920 --> 00:15:23,440 Speaker 1: lots of white Russian picnics. Yeah. I'm still ordering fries 270 00:15:23,480 --> 00:15:26,000 Speaker 1: and Tanya is still eating them, even though she orders 271 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:31,360 Speaker 1: a salad or tuna. Yeah, salad correct. Oh, that reminds me. 272 00:15:31,400 --> 00:15:33,960 Speaker 1: I found a really hot spot in in l A 273 00:15:34,040 --> 00:15:36,440 Speaker 1: where hawk eyes go for any of my single friends. 274 00:15:36,720 --> 00:15:42,680 Speaker 1: So this isn't great for the podcast, but yeah, I 275 00:15:42,720 --> 00:15:48,160 Speaker 1: think it's called the Croft or Croft Alley, and it's 276 00:15:48,280 --> 00:15:52,440 Speaker 1: on you know, my geography, not so good. It's somewhere 277 00:15:52,440 --> 00:15:55,760 Speaker 1: in Beverly Hills and it is this like cute little 278 00:15:55,800 --> 00:16:00,760 Speaker 1: cafe and not mel Rose. There's a second that they opened, 279 00:16:01,160 --> 00:16:03,160 Speaker 1: but I'm guessing that one's great too because it was 280 00:16:03,200 --> 00:16:05,760 Speaker 1: just popping with hotties. And so I made a mental 281 00:16:05,800 --> 00:16:09,520 Speaker 1: note to clock and tell my single friends because what 282 00:16:09,680 --> 00:16:16,480 Speaker 1: age range are we talking? Thirties forties? Okay? Yeah? This 283 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:18,600 Speaker 1: one in Beverly Hills on Brighton Way and one in 284 00:16:18,640 --> 00:16:24,320 Speaker 1: Melrose Place. He's still scrubbing in first sure, all of 285 00:16:24,400 --> 00:16:27,680 Speaker 1: the scrubbers and Eastern in Mark. We're all just here. 286 00:16:32,440 --> 00:16:35,240 Speaker 1: We have a lot of subgroups, though, there's like scrubbing in, 287 00:16:35,320 --> 00:16:39,120 Speaker 1: elderly scrubbing in. You know, there's a lot of different subgroups, 288 00:16:39,160 --> 00:16:41,520 Speaker 1: but they are all thriving. We're for sure still doing 289 00:16:41,520 --> 00:16:44,400 Speaker 1: the podcast we're in. We're in the metaverse at this 290 00:16:44,480 --> 00:16:48,520 Speaker 1: point doing virgin I'm not doing the metaverse. I'm doing 291 00:16:48,560 --> 00:16:51,560 Speaker 1: the real verse of scrubb That's how podcasts are. People 292 00:16:51,560 --> 00:16:53,240 Speaker 1: put a helmet on and they're in the room with 293 00:16:53,320 --> 00:16:59,400 Speaker 1: you as your avatar. Yeah. Yeah, you're virtually like in 294 00:16:59,440 --> 00:17:02,480 Speaker 1: the room with Yeah, it's definitely do that way. You 295 00:17:02,560 --> 00:17:04,959 Speaker 1: do this the live podcast from my funeral, you can 296 00:17:05,000 --> 00:17:07,600 Speaker 1: each do a eulogy. I think this is gonna be great. Yeah, 297 00:17:08,160 --> 00:17:15,240 Speaker 1: that's a great adele. That was a wickedly talented question, Becca, 298 00:17:15,520 --> 00:17:18,119 Speaker 1: really nice reference. Hey, let's keep going with the future thing. 299 00:17:18,160 --> 00:17:24,040 Speaker 1: One more future question from anxiety attack. A man says, 300 00:17:24,080 --> 00:17:26,159 Speaker 1: where do you see yourself in five years? Okay, so 301 00:17:26,240 --> 00:17:35,679 Speaker 1: more reasonable? All right, Tanya? Are you married? Yes? God, 302 00:17:37,000 --> 00:17:41,680 Speaker 1: let her be married? Yeah, five years for sure. Yeah, 303 00:17:41,720 --> 00:17:47,120 Speaker 1: I think there's a little baby baby. Yeah, Sunny's five Yeah, 304 00:17:47,160 --> 00:17:50,600 Speaker 1: oh my god, five ye. I don't know. It's interesting. 305 00:17:50,640 --> 00:17:55,360 Speaker 1: Five years to me feels like um quick. But also 306 00:17:55,400 --> 00:17:57,600 Speaker 1: I'll be forty by then, right, because I don't know 307 00:17:57,640 --> 00:18:02,320 Speaker 1: it'll be thirty nine, so almost forty not it ont do? Um, Yeah, 308 00:18:02,400 --> 00:18:05,040 Speaker 1: I see I see a lot. I see myself married. 309 00:18:05,080 --> 00:18:07,359 Speaker 1: I definitely see either one kid or a kid on 310 00:18:07,400 --> 00:18:11,480 Speaker 1: the way. I see myself having written maybe two books 311 00:18:11,480 --> 00:18:20,240 Speaker 1: at that point. Um. And I see myself possibly with 312 00:18:20,240 --> 00:18:25,200 Speaker 1: one more dog. Oh she's adding to the crew. Yeah. 313 00:18:25,960 --> 00:18:31,440 Speaker 1: I see myself traveling the world, having um a ton 314 00:18:31,520 --> 00:18:35,000 Speaker 1: of like crazy experiences, getting to do things, having my 315 00:18:35,040 --> 00:18:37,000 Speaker 1: own company. I don't know what it looks like, but 316 00:18:37,040 --> 00:18:40,359 Speaker 1: a very thriving, successful company. But when you're traveling, you're 317 00:18:40,359 --> 00:18:42,240 Speaker 1: still going to be back on Monday's through the podcast 318 00:18:42,600 --> 00:18:46,200 Speaker 1: or I'm doing them metaverse Glard style, doing it from 319 00:18:46,200 --> 00:18:48,680 Speaker 1: wherever the hell she is in the world. Yeah. Um, 320 00:18:49,600 --> 00:18:51,879 Speaker 1: I hope I have decided by that point if I 321 00:18:51,920 --> 00:18:55,280 Speaker 1: want kids or not. For sure, hopefully that decision has 322 00:18:55,320 --> 00:19:00,280 Speaker 1: been made and I just both crushing it in life 323 00:19:00,359 --> 00:19:03,440 Speaker 1: in life and your Mrs five P at this point, 324 00:19:03,480 --> 00:19:09,919 Speaker 1: I think. And I got Phoebe's from nine at that 325 00:19:10,680 --> 00:19:15,680 Speaker 1: bad age, so so kicking spunky, spunky as hell, Her 326 00:19:15,720 --> 00:19:19,360 Speaker 1: and Sonny your best friends. Yeah. Sunday's Instagram is thriving, 327 00:19:19,359 --> 00:19:23,080 Speaker 1: and let me tell you it's gone viral. She's gone viral. 328 00:19:23,840 --> 00:19:25,280 Speaker 1: All right, Tania, this is a good one for you 329 00:19:25,320 --> 00:19:27,080 Speaker 1: because you brought this up actually in our meeting for 330 00:19:27,119 --> 00:19:29,560 Speaker 1: the radio show today. This is from Aubrey Goods, and 331 00:19:29,560 --> 00:19:32,240 Speaker 1: she says, how do I stay motivated about dating when 332 00:19:32,359 --> 00:19:36,080 Speaker 1: dating apps and dating in general suck. Let me tell 333 00:19:36,080 --> 00:19:39,600 Speaker 1: you something, Aubrey, Dating apps do not suck, and dating 334 00:19:39,760 --> 00:19:42,560 Speaker 1: does not suck. It's just a means to an end. 335 00:19:43,119 --> 00:19:47,199 Speaker 1: It might not be the fairy tale dating situation that 336 00:19:47,280 --> 00:19:49,600 Speaker 1: you expected for yourself, and let me tell you something, 337 00:19:50,480 --> 00:19:53,760 Speaker 1: nothing is that way. I think it's perspective, you know, 338 00:19:53,920 --> 00:19:57,320 Speaker 1: like everyone's going to go on a bad date or two, 339 00:19:57,440 --> 00:19:59,160 Speaker 1: or in my case, I went on bad day after 340 00:19:59,160 --> 00:20:01,280 Speaker 1: a bad day for six years, and it's just like 341 00:20:01,359 --> 00:20:03,880 Speaker 1: you gotta keep going. You have to keep pushing through. 342 00:20:04,080 --> 00:20:06,800 Speaker 1: If you get into really bad lulls, like you get 343 00:20:06,840 --> 00:20:09,560 Speaker 1: really sad about it, give yourself a minute to not 344 00:20:09,760 --> 00:20:11,720 Speaker 1: date and just kind of have fun and do whatever. 345 00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:14,280 Speaker 1: But I think when you're sitting there and you're saying 346 00:20:14,320 --> 00:20:16,920 Speaker 1: that dating sucks and dating apps suck, they're gonna suck. 347 00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:19,840 Speaker 1: So you have to change your mentality, and you have 348 00:20:19,920 --> 00:20:22,240 Speaker 1: to kind of think positively and just know it only 349 00:20:22,240 --> 00:20:27,040 Speaker 1: takes one guy. It just takes one person to change everything. 350 00:20:27,119 --> 00:20:28,720 Speaker 1: So it's just like a numbers game. You just gotta 351 00:20:28,800 --> 00:20:30,679 Speaker 1: keep it going, you know. You know what they say, 352 00:20:32,040 --> 00:20:38,280 Speaker 1: the persistent rabbit never made or no, yeah, you have 353 00:20:38,400 --> 00:20:42,080 Speaker 1: something something, there's something that, there's something there, but it's 354 00:20:42,119 --> 00:20:46,600 Speaker 1: like persistent, the persistent rabbist, and rabbit gets the carrot. 355 00:20:47,440 --> 00:20:50,520 Speaker 1: That's it. Yeah, it wasn't. It wasn't graceful, but we 356 00:20:50,560 --> 00:20:53,600 Speaker 1: got Yeah. So Aubrey, let me tell you something. You're 357 00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:55,520 Speaker 1: gonna have moments where it sucks and you're gonna cry 358 00:20:55,520 --> 00:20:59,560 Speaker 1: and you're gonna hate it, but flip it around. So 359 00:21:00,119 --> 00:21:10,840 Speaker 1: doggies out dirty, look around funny. All right, that was 360 00:21:10,840 --> 00:21:13,080 Speaker 1: a question for Tania. Becca, here's one for you. What 361 00:21:13,240 --> 00:21:15,960 Speaker 1: was your favorite date and least favorite date when you 362 00:21:16,040 --> 00:21:20,080 Speaker 1: were on the Bachelor. Oh my gosh, I'm like, what 363 00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:23,320 Speaker 1: dates did I go on? I don't even think they 364 00:21:23,359 --> 00:21:25,080 Speaker 1: referring to the man. I think they mean like the 365 00:21:25,160 --> 00:21:30,760 Speaker 1: experiences on Chris Soul season. My favorite was there was 366 00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:33,480 Speaker 1: a there was like an obstacle course mud run where 367 00:21:33,520 --> 00:21:36,800 Speaker 1: we all had to wear wedding dresses and it was 368 00:21:36,880 --> 00:21:38,720 Speaker 1: so fun. All the girls hated it. I thought it 369 00:21:38,800 --> 00:21:46,200 Speaker 1: was so fun um And then on Ben's season we 370 00:21:47,160 --> 00:21:52,560 Speaker 1: went to we had a fun day in Vegas where 371 00:21:52,640 --> 00:21:55,399 Speaker 1: we married couples. But it wasn't that fun because I 372 00:21:56,320 --> 00:21:58,480 Speaker 1: was laughing so hard that I was about to like, 373 00:21:58,840 --> 00:22:00,840 Speaker 1: I was so embarrassed, like to stop laughing. I was 374 00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:04,879 Speaker 1: like having crisis laugher laughter panic. So my favorite is 375 00:22:04,920 --> 00:22:07,120 Speaker 1: probably in Mexico City, we did like a cooking date 376 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:09,000 Speaker 1: with the chef and we were on teams and Jojo 377 00:22:09,119 --> 00:22:11,159 Speaker 1: and I were a team and it was like hilarious 378 00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:15,280 Speaker 1: and chaotic, but we didn't win. They're fine. I've never 379 00:22:15,400 --> 00:22:18,840 Speaker 1: had like the really romantic, extravagant dates, so like when 380 00:22:18,880 --> 00:22:20,760 Speaker 1: I look back on my dates on The Bachelor, they 381 00:22:20,800 --> 00:22:24,520 Speaker 1: were very like yeah, I mean they were, they were 382 00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:27,040 Speaker 1: just the group dates were fun, but like the one 383 00:22:27,080 --> 00:22:33,679 Speaker 1: on ones weren't very like Bachelor. You know, all right, 384 00:22:33,720 --> 00:22:38,000 Speaker 1: here's a fun one growthest habit. Your significant other has 385 00:22:40,040 --> 00:22:47,000 Speaker 1: my smacking it, that's and it's not it's like chewing loudly, 386 00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:51,960 Speaker 1: so it's not really it's not smacking. Because because I 387 00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:54,800 Speaker 1: have I have expressed how much I can't handle smacking. 388 00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:58,600 Speaker 1: It's just the chewing is loud, even if the mouth 389 00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:03,480 Speaker 1: is closed that would but what are they like? I've 390 00:23:03,560 --> 00:23:05,639 Speaker 1: also I've been accused of this as well, of being 391 00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:08,159 Speaker 1: allowed to cheer even though I keep my mouth closed. 392 00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:10,159 Speaker 1: I don't know what to do with it. There's no 393 00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:12,800 Speaker 1: what am I supposed to do about it? Mark, I'm 394 00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:15,160 Speaker 1: sitting here trying to tell you there's no solution. It's 395 00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:17,800 Speaker 1: just I have missed a pho phonia or whatever it 396 00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:22,159 Speaker 1: is where mouth noises are very loud to me, and 397 00:23:22,720 --> 00:23:26,240 Speaker 1: they there's nothing. I don't expect anything to be done. 398 00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:29,280 Speaker 1: I just it is how I feel. Is it the 399 00:23:29,320 --> 00:23:32,679 Speaker 1: shape of our skull just transmits the sound louder than 400 00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:37,880 Speaker 1: or something to something? Mark, I've had many meals next 401 00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:39,960 Speaker 1: to you, and I've never noticed you to be a smacker, 402 00:23:40,160 --> 00:23:42,400 Speaker 1: So thank you. I'm not a smacker because I don't 403 00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:46,600 Speaker 1: open my mouth. So it's okay, that's okay, well okay, 404 00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:50,280 Speaker 1: but I will say ninety of my be I get 405 00:23:50,440 --> 00:23:53,080 Speaker 1: really grossed out easily by like everything, and I'm very 406 00:23:53,200 --> 00:23:57,240 Speaker 1: rarely grossed out by ninny of pipe. So that's good, good, Yeah, yeah, 407 00:23:57,600 --> 00:23:59,119 Speaker 1: I know. Honestly, I had to really think about that 408 00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:06,160 Speaker 1: one because everything he does like mesmerizes me really, But yeah, 409 00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:11,359 Speaker 1: I know I'm in that phase. Um uh. When he 410 00:24:11,480 --> 00:24:14,520 Speaker 1: shaves his facial hair and stuff, he like leaves that 411 00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:17,440 Speaker 1: in the sink, which is but he has his own sink, 412 00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:20,040 Speaker 1: so I'm like whatever, but that is gross. Yeah, I 413 00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:21,800 Speaker 1: could see that. Yeah, that's something I think a lot 414 00:24:21,800 --> 00:24:23,480 Speaker 1: of people find you. Is it mixed in with a 415 00:24:23,520 --> 00:24:26,600 Speaker 1: shaving cream? No, he doesn't use shaving cream. He uses 416 00:24:26,720 --> 00:24:29,840 Speaker 1: like the it's not a razor. It's like a buzzer, 417 00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:33,080 Speaker 1: you know, it's like it's like and so it's just 418 00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:35,520 Speaker 1: the hair. There's nothing like mixed in with it. Um. 419 00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:38,240 Speaker 1: I think if we had the same faucet it would 420 00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:41,760 Speaker 1: gross me out more. Sure, But that's a good one. 421 00:24:41,840 --> 00:24:47,440 Speaker 1: That's a good answer. Um. Dark question. Rachel Lyndeen says, 422 00:24:47,520 --> 00:24:50,200 Speaker 1: do you think Gray's has run its course and it's 423 00:24:50,240 --> 00:24:53,960 Speaker 1: time for it to end? You know, it's hard to say, 424 00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:57,399 Speaker 1: because I think that there are glimmers of hope, you 425 00:24:57,440 --> 00:24:59,240 Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like we'll have an episode or 426 00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:01,760 Speaker 1: we'll have something that gets us giddy again, gives us 427 00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:05,200 Speaker 1: the Fannie flutters um, but then they just take it 428 00:25:05,359 --> 00:25:11,080 Speaker 1: right back down to Candy Cane Lane. Yeah, I'm gonna 429 00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:15,600 Speaker 1: it's I'm I think because there's episodes sprinkled in there 430 00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:18,160 Speaker 1: where it does feel like old Grays. I don't think 431 00:25:18,240 --> 00:25:21,879 Speaker 1: it's I can't say it's run its course, but I 432 00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:27,400 Speaker 1: definitely think there's obvious shift in like the writing and everything. 433 00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:29,600 Speaker 1: But I'm gonna be here till the end. You know 434 00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:32,080 Speaker 1: what show I was really get that when we were 435 00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:40,119 Speaker 1: talking about being eighty the Extra Sam Good Sam. I 436 00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:42,720 Speaker 1: think it's a bush show. I think I want to 437 00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:44,680 Speaker 1: start watching that. And then The Resident I was getting 438 00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:47,960 Speaker 1: really into. It's another medical drama that I really liked, 439 00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:50,640 Speaker 1: and I think I stopped just because the season stopped. 440 00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:52,280 Speaker 1: I never started again, but I think I'm gonna pick 441 00:25:52,320 --> 00:25:54,320 Speaker 1: it back up, you know, like a old pair of 442 00:25:54,400 --> 00:25:58,800 Speaker 1: jeans in your closet. Well, this is another greatest question 443 00:25:58,880 --> 00:26:02,400 Speaker 1: from Kirsten k E h R s T. And Kirsten says, 444 00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:05,280 Speaker 1: and I might be misinterpreting the question, but this is 445 00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:07,919 Speaker 1: kind of how I like it. If you were cast 446 00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:11,720 Speaker 1: in Graves Tomorrow as an existing character, which character would 447 00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:13,760 Speaker 1: you be like? On soap propers they used to do that, 448 00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:16,280 Speaker 1: like the character of Bob is now being played by 449 00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:19,040 Speaker 1: so and so. So if if a current character they 450 00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:21,480 Speaker 1: recast them as one as and you got to choose 451 00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:25,960 Speaker 1: whoever you wanted, who would it be? I guess I'd 452 00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:28,200 Speaker 1: want to be Maggie so I can make out with Anthony. 453 00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:35,399 Speaker 1: That's a good one, honestly, so sad Jackson's gone. That's 454 00:26:35,440 --> 00:26:42,560 Speaker 1: where my head went initially, I'm going Meredith lead character energy. Yeah, 455 00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:46,520 Speaker 1: I like it. That's a good one. All right, Let's 456 00:26:46,520 --> 00:26:50,520 Speaker 1: see what else we have here? Um hm, that's an 457 00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:53,760 Speaker 1: interesting one. That's another future one though, that's how you 458 00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:58,400 Speaker 1: feel about that, Bring on a green one. What would 459 00:26:58,400 --> 00:27:03,560 Speaker 1: your dream proposed be? You want to go first? I 460 00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:08,160 Speaker 1: don't so you don't know, you know, giving Becca like hives. 461 00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:12,760 Speaker 1: I've never had hives, but I'm about to have them. Yeah, SOBC, 462 00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:16,680 Speaker 1: we can just assume it's the JumboTron o. I definitely 463 00:27:16,720 --> 00:27:19,040 Speaker 1: know what I don't want, and that is something I 464 00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:21,600 Speaker 1: don't want. I don't want a lot of I don't 465 00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:25,080 Speaker 1: want a crowd around me. I want it to be private. 466 00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:27,680 Speaker 1: I'm I really want to celebrate with the people I 467 00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:30,560 Speaker 1: love after but I want the proposal to be private 468 00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:39,959 Speaker 1: but live streamed. Yeah, live streamed on the podcast. Basically, yeah, um, 469 00:27:40,160 --> 00:27:43,480 Speaker 1: you know what's interesting, I you don't like you. I 470 00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:45,560 Speaker 1: think when I was in my twenties, I envisioned like 471 00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:48,520 Speaker 1: my wedding, and I had everything down to like the 472 00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:50,840 Speaker 1: color of the flowers I wanted, and you know, all 473 00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:53,000 Speaker 1: that kind of stuff. And I think that when you 474 00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:55,960 Speaker 1: have something picture in your head in such a specific way, 475 00:27:56,640 --> 00:28:00,959 Speaker 1: that's where all the mind aimes come into play. When 476 00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,040 Speaker 1: that doesn't happen, that doesn't become your reality, you know 477 00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:05,240 Speaker 1: what I mean. So in terms of proposal, I don't 478 00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:09,679 Speaker 1: I don't think too much about, uh, what I wanted 479 00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:11,520 Speaker 1: to be, because what I really want it to be 480 00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:15,840 Speaker 1: is I wanted to be really really meaningful between you know, 481 00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:21,359 Speaker 1: me and my partner. I wanted to be something that 482 00:28:21,640 --> 00:28:25,840 Speaker 1: he knows is going to It's just I wanted to 483 00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:28,080 Speaker 1: be something really meaningful for the both of us. That 484 00:28:28,160 --> 00:28:30,720 Speaker 1: makes sense. Yeah, So it's like, I don't know what 485 00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:36,720 Speaker 1: I wanted to look like per se um, What I like, 486 00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:39,680 Speaker 1: you know, somebody playing a string quartet in the background. Sure, 487 00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:45,440 Speaker 1: I like butter butterflies being released at the same time. Sure, no, 488 00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:47,800 Speaker 1: I'm joking, Um, but I wanted to be something really 489 00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:49,760 Speaker 1: really meaningful. That's all that really matters to me, really 490 00:28:49,800 --> 00:28:57,640 Speaker 1: really meaningful and captured question from Casey Barber, who are 491 00:28:57,680 --> 00:29:01,920 Speaker 1: your future bridesmaids? Oh, I would like to add my 492 00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:05,440 Speaker 1: proposal that I want something. I want to be surprised, 493 00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:09,800 Speaker 1: and I'd like the I like a creative thought of like, yes, 494 00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:13,000 Speaker 1: I am so with you on that surprise is great. 495 00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:15,320 Speaker 1: I am so tired of these couples that are like, well, 496 00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:17,920 Speaker 1: we picked out the ring together, so it's happening any 497 00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:20,200 Speaker 1: day now, Like that's not That's not how it should 498 00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:22,640 Speaker 1: be in my humble opinion. And I also think the 499 00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:24,640 Speaker 1: person should put some effort into it. I can hear 500 00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:26,840 Speaker 1: about this like oh, yeah, we were going to bed 501 00:29:26,960 --> 00:29:28,600 Speaker 1: one night and he was on his side of the 502 00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:30,800 Speaker 1: bed and he just decided to propose at that point, Like, no, 503 00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:33,480 Speaker 1: that's not how this should go. Put some thought into 504 00:29:33,600 --> 00:29:36,680 Speaker 1: it and surprise somebody. That's what I like. That's yeah, 505 00:29:37,040 --> 00:29:41,880 Speaker 1: really thoughtful. Yeah. Um, so I don't know my future 506 00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:43,360 Speaker 1: brides bids. You don't know who you're gonna be close 507 00:29:43,400 --> 00:29:44,880 Speaker 1: with in five years. But let's say if you had 508 00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:49,720 Speaker 1: to get married tomorrow, maybe who would your bridesmaids be? Mine? 509 00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:53,120 Speaker 1: Would be, do I do I have a limit? What's 510 00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:54,640 Speaker 1: your wedding? What do you mean I don't have a limit. 511 00:29:55,120 --> 00:30:07,800 Speaker 1: Oh okay, my sister's Tanya, Jojo, Laura, Brittany Ali, Oh 512 00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:11,000 Speaker 1: my god, during one of those. But I might just 513 00:30:11,200 --> 00:30:14,080 Speaker 1: have everyone be a part of the like like dressed 514 00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:16,120 Speaker 1: and like that, but not make them stand up there, 515 00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:18,680 Speaker 1: you know, just kind of be like my bridesmaids, but 516 00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:21,239 Speaker 1: not do the hole making them stand because that sounds mean, 517 00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:24,320 Speaker 1: I know, you know what's funny. As I have that 518 00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:28,880 Speaker 1: same thought, I don't want to have my friends all 519 00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:31,640 Speaker 1: wear the same dress and stand up there with like 520 00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:34,680 Speaker 1: a weird hair. Do I want all my bridesmaids to 521 00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:38,080 Speaker 1: be in the same color? But not they can choose 522 00:30:38,120 --> 00:30:41,280 Speaker 1: the color as long as they all float photo. But 523 00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:44,480 Speaker 1: I also, like I get so much and like I 524 00:30:44,640 --> 00:30:47,320 Speaker 1: get my knees, I have to like bend my knees 525 00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:49,440 Speaker 1: so I don't lock them because I get so like 526 00:30:49,600 --> 00:30:52,640 Speaker 1: nervous standing in front, just standing there. So I don't 527 00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:54,520 Speaker 1: know if I'll do that, but if I do, they're 528 00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:57,200 Speaker 1: gonna have a palette to choose from and wear dress. 529 00:30:57,280 --> 00:31:03,920 Speaker 1: But also um yeah in Taylor Banks, that's I think 530 00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:08,480 Speaker 1: I have ten. I mean my wife had like seven 531 00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:10,240 Speaker 1: or eight, and I did have to find guys that 532 00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:12,479 Speaker 1: would not normally have made the cut. I don't want 533 00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:16,400 Speaker 1: to name names, but deeper than on it, that's what 534 00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:19,560 Speaker 1: I don't want. I don't want to like either one 535 00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:21,920 Speaker 1: of us have to like fill a certain number because 536 00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:23,520 Speaker 1: the other one of us has too many, you know 537 00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:26,000 Speaker 1: what I mean. Like, I don't want that. So I 538 00:31:26,080 --> 00:31:29,240 Speaker 1: think I might go that way where I have like 539 00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:31,680 Speaker 1: a bridal party, but it's not they're not standing up 540 00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:33,480 Speaker 1: there with me, but they're in like a specific color 541 00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:35,320 Speaker 1: and they all have a different job, like they read 542 00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:38,240 Speaker 1: something different. I might and my sister stand up with 543 00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:44,600 Speaker 1: me and then if you know, depending on who chooses. 544 00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:52,840 Speaker 1: But what big? What big? What's big? If we're talking 545 00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:55,520 Speaker 1: about your future wedding and you're I'm answering the question, 546 00:31:55,760 --> 00:31:58,880 Speaker 1: I know it's a big deal, Tony. What you can't 547 00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:01,280 Speaker 1: do when someone who has like anxiety about the future 548 00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:04,920 Speaker 1: is makeing a big Sorry sorry, that's a lesson. Lesson 549 00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:09,280 Speaker 1: one on one anxiety one on one. It you know, 550 00:32:09,360 --> 00:32:11,560 Speaker 1: I'm super cool. I'm going with the flow girl like 551 00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:15,000 Speaker 1: I am chill as Jill, we've almost been together for 552 00:32:15,120 --> 00:32:17,560 Speaker 1: four years, so like, that's not that big. It's just 553 00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:22,560 Speaker 1: big because I'm like, it's hypothetical. I am scoring so scuoremy, 554 00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:27,680 Speaker 1: it's interesting. All right, let's take a break and then 555 00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:29,760 Speaker 1: we'll get there. A couple more questions are a little deeper, 556 00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:48,240 Speaker 1: so we'll get into those when we come back. Hey, guys, 557 00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:51,440 Speaker 1: Been and Ashley from the Almost Famous podcast. It's that 558 00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:56,360 Speaker 1: time of year where drama fills the air. The Bachelors 559 00:32:56,440 --> 00:33:00,200 Speaker 1: back with an all new season premiering January three. There's 560 00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:03,640 Speaker 1: a new host, Jesse Palmer, and a brand new bachelor, Clayton. 561 00:33:04,360 --> 00:33:06,880 Speaker 1: Clayton is a Midwest boy that has that great smile, 562 00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:10,840 Speaker 1: nice teeth, and he's really tall as let's call it 563 00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:15,600 Speaker 1: what it is. He's a beefcake. Okay. Well, Clayton seems 564 00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:18,800 Speaker 1: to be a good guy though, and he can't wait 565 00:33:18,920 --> 00:33:22,280 Speaker 1: to find love, get married, and have kids. And he 566 00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:25,280 Speaker 1: believes more than anything that his future wife is on 567 00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:28,360 Speaker 1: this show. It sounds like a fairy tale but also 568 00:33:28,640 --> 00:33:31,600 Speaker 1: a bit of an emotional world coaster, because Clayton tells 569 00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:35,600 Speaker 1: three different women he's falling in love with him. Technically, 570 00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:39,560 Speaker 1: he told one, I couldn't be more sure that I'm 571 00:33:39,640 --> 00:33:43,000 Speaker 1: falling in love with you, and another one, I'm falling 572 00:33:43,040 --> 00:33:45,880 Speaker 1: in love with you, and the third one, I am 573 00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:49,280 Speaker 1: in love with you. You don't miss a thing. It's 574 00:33:49,320 --> 00:33:52,560 Speaker 1: some years of over analyzing everything that guys say. But 575 00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:56,200 Speaker 1: his heart is in the right place. But other parts 576 00:33:56,280 --> 00:33:59,960 Speaker 1: of him as we find out what he admits, it's 577 00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:04,160 Speaker 1: two different women that he was intimate with both of them. Yeah, 578 00:34:04,200 --> 00:34:05,800 Speaker 1: I don't think it's gonna go over Well, we'll be 579 00:34:05,920 --> 00:34:09,080 Speaker 1: breaking down it all on this famous podcast Ben It's 580 00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:12,640 Speaker 1: married now Well Ashley is a mob will change our 581 00:34:12,680 --> 00:34:17,040 Speaker 1: opinions of what we think is acceptable single behavior. Good question. 582 00:34:17,920 --> 00:34:20,880 Speaker 1: Listen to almost Famous on the I Heart Radio app, 583 00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:28,560 Speaker 1: on Apple podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. All right, 584 00:34:28,600 --> 00:34:32,719 Speaker 1: we're back going deeper. This is the deeper deeper MC. 585 00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:35,400 Speaker 1: As a people pleaser, how do you let go of 586 00:34:35,480 --> 00:34:43,719 Speaker 1: people's opinions of you? Do you have the answer for this? Um? 587 00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:48,560 Speaker 1: You know, yes, I do. I have what works for me. UM. 588 00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:52,640 Speaker 1: I think that I have come to a realization, and 589 00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:56,560 Speaker 1: it's recently that I want to live my life for myself. 590 00:34:56,840 --> 00:34:59,360 Speaker 1: So I want to do things that feel right for me, 591 00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:02,759 Speaker 1: that feel that makes me happy, that bring me joy, 592 00:35:03,280 --> 00:35:05,000 Speaker 1: and not in a selfish way, Like obviously I'm not 593 00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:07,799 Speaker 1: gonna like if you know, slashing people's tires doesn't bring 594 00:35:07,840 --> 00:35:08,960 Speaker 1: me joy, you know what I mean? Like, I don't 595 00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:11,279 Speaker 1: want to I'm not gonna be disruptive and like destructive 596 00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:13,800 Speaker 1: to anybody else. But when it comes to things and 597 00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:15,400 Speaker 1: decisions that I make, like, I just want to do 598 00:35:15,480 --> 00:35:17,800 Speaker 1: stuff that feels good to me and the life that 599 00:35:17,920 --> 00:35:20,200 Speaker 1: I want to create, and it might not look like 600 00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:26,600 Speaker 1: what other people think or expect or want. And this 601 00:35:26,719 --> 00:35:28,880 Speaker 1: isn't just like random people Instagram. These are like intimate 602 00:35:29,040 --> 00:35:33,000 Speaker 1: you know, family, friends, and you just have I want 603 00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:34,640 Speaker 1: to live. I don't want to have regrets. And I 604 00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:37,399 Speaker 1: think when you're a people pleaser, you live a life 605 00:35:37,640 --> 00:35:41,279 Speaker 1: filled with a lot of regret and I don't want that. Yeah, 606 00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:44,880 Speaker 1: I am always working on my people pleasing And I 607 00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:47,600 Speaker 1: listened to this podcast recently where they were talking about 608 00:35:47,600 --> 00:35:50,120 Speaker 1: how people pleasing is actually kind of a selfish thing 609 00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:53,080 Speaker 1: because it's like how can I please them enough to 610 00:35:53,320 --> 00:35:58,680 Speaker 1: get the like, uh approval of someone, So it's kind 611 00:35:58,719 --> 00:36:02,080 Speaker 1: of like you're ultimately seek validation, which kind of makes 612 00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:05,239 Speaker 1: it like a selfish thing that you're doing. So I've 613 00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:07,320 Speaker 1: tried to put it into that perspective that like me 614 00:36:07,640 --> 00:36:13,440 Speaker 1: pleasing someone else really just ultimately leads to me feeling 615 00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:16,160 Speaker 1: resentful because I'm doing it for the purpose of myself, 616 00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:19,439 Speaker 1: if that makes sense. So I'm really trying to live 617 00:36:19,640 --> 00:36:22,719 Speaker 1: with that mentality and also think like it's my life. 618 00:36:22,800 --> 00:36:25,960 Speaker 1: I have one life and like to let other people's 619 00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:27,920 Speaker 1: opinions or like what I feel like I have to 620 00:36:28,040 --> 00:36:31,279 Speaker 1: do for people guide me just doesn't feel like it's 621 00:36:31,360 --> 00:36:34,120 Speaker 1: going to I think I would. If I continue to 622 00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:35,759 Speaker 1: live my life like that, I'm going to look back 623 00:36:35,840 --> 00:36:38,440 Speaker 1: and be like, I wish I wouldn't have cared so much. 624 00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:45,400 Speaker 1: I do not want that, all right, good answers Frank 625 00:36:45,600 --> 00:36:48,359 Speaker 1: sam M. I don't know. Uh. They say, what's your 626 00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:56,719 Speaker 1: biggest physical insecurity and your biggest mental insecurity? Mental insecurity 627 00:36:56,880 --> 00:37:05,120 Speaker 1: is interesting. Physicals easy. Yeah, I have this pooch that 628 00:37:05,280 --> 00:37:08,080 Speaker 1: just drives me nuts. I can't get rid of her. 629 00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:10,839 Speaker 1: I've embraced her, I look at her, I touch her, 630 00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:14,719 Speaker 1: and I am grateful that you know she's there now. 631 00:37:15,520 --> 00:37:19,800 Speaker 1: But I remember when I was just like crushing myself, 632 00:37:19,880 --> 00:37:21,960 Speaker 1: working out, eating good and like, I just can't get 633 00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:26,080 Speaker 1: rid of it. It's just there, you know. So I 634 00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:29,960 Speaker 1: think that annoys me and say that to me, but 635 00:37:30,080 --> 00:37:32,560 Speaker 1: also again I've embraced it, and I'm like, it's there, 636 00:37:34,160 --> 00:37:38,719 Speaker 1: she's there. Is that what's I referred to as a poopa? Yeah, 637 00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:41,239 Speaker 1: but it's not like my upper pussy area. It's like 638 00:37:41,960 --> 00:37:46,120 Speaker 1: it's like right below It's not it's like right below 639 00:37:46,200 --> 00:37:48,960 Speaker 1: my belly button. It's interesting. It's like this like little 640 00:37:49,120 --> 00:37:53,120 Speaker 1: like I don't know, it's weird. So I'd say that's mine. 641 00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:58,560 Speaker 1: My physical would probably be my arms. I just wish 642 00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:00,759 Speaker 1: they were like toner and skinnier. I don't do much 643 00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:07,920 Speaker 1: to fix them. So so like my insecurities are and 644 00:38:08,200 --> 00:38:10,440 Speaker 1: it's always something. I mean, even if I got my 645 00:38:10,600 --> 00:38:12,680 Speaker 1: arms in shape, i'd find something else in my body 646 00:38:12,800 --> 00:38:16,879 Speaker 1: just because that's how we are, you know, unfortunately, how 647 00:38:16,960 --> 00:38:21,680 Speaker 1: we think of our body sometimes. But um, I would 648 00:38:21,719 --> 00:38:28,400 Speaker 1: say my mental insecurity would probably be my people pleasing 649 00:38:28,600 --> 00:38:34,080 Speaker 1: and like caring what people think about me. Yeah, well 650 00:38:34,200 --> 00:38:36,240 Speaker 1: you know I don't have it. It's not the people pleasing, 651 00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:38,759 Speaker 1: but I think that I have. Um. I'm always trying 652 00:38:38,800 --> 00:38:42,000 Speaker 1: to be everything to everybody in my life, and I 653 00:38:42,160 --> 00:38:45,040 Speaker 1: have come to this conclusion that like I just can't 654 00:38:45,239 --> 00:38:48,960 Speaker 1: do that, Like I just I like physically don't have 655 00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:51,319 Speaker 1: it in me anymore. And I constantly like I'm letting 656 00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:55,600 Speaker 1: people down. Um. And so that's been like a hard, 657 00:38:56,080 --> 00:38:58,319 Speaker 1: hard thing. But what's so interesting is like I've been 658 00:38:58,360 --> 00:39:00,239 Speaker 1: talking to my therapist about it because I was like, 659 00:39:00,840 --> 00:39:03,000 Speaker 1: you know, we just got this puppy, and that it's 660 00:39:03,080 --> 00:39:06,399 Speaker 1: a lot more time consuming than I had expected. Um. 661 00:39:07,120 --> 00:39:09,040 Speaker 1: And then I have work, and then I have a 662 00:39:09,120 --> 00:39:11,120 Speaker 1: friend that you know, I have my relationship, and then 663 00:39:11,160 --> 00:39:12,800 Speaker 1: I also have a friend that's going through a breakup 664 00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:16,120 Speaker 1: and I feel like I just like can't I can't 665 00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:17,560 Speaker 1: do it all and I can't be the friend that 666 00:39:17,600 --> 00:39:19,960 Speaker 1: I want to be to her because of everything that 667 00:39:20,239 --> 00:39:22,160 Speaker 1: I just actually have this puppy that I can't leave. 668 00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:24,040 Speaker 1: You know, I'm like trying to do everything and I 669 00:39:24,520 --> 00:39:27,799 Speaker 1: get really hard on myself and I don't put myself first. 670 00:39:27,840 --> 00:39:29,560 Speaker 1: I put myself last, and I feel like that's not 671 00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:33,600 Speaker 1: a good place to be. Just burnout and then you're 672 00:39:33,680 --> 00:39:36,960 Speaker 1: nothing to anyone because you're like I have nothing. I 673 00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:38,759 Speaker 1: have done that too, where I get to a point 674 00:39:38,800 --> 00:39:42,239 Speaker 1: where I'm like I've given everything that I have and 675 00:39:42,400 --> 00:39:47,879 Speaker 1: now I am a shell of a human. So yeah, 676 00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:50,319 Speaker 1: it's interesting, do you know what I um? So I'm 677 00:39:50,320 --> 00:39:54,200 Speaker 1: obsessed with Molly May. She's this girl from Love Island, 678 00:39:54,320 --> 00:39:56,160 Speaker 1: but she is like she owned her own business and 679 00:39:56,200 --> 00:39:58,520 Speaker 1: she's really cool. And she was on this podcast and 680 00:39:58,600 --> 00:40:01,000 Speaker 1: I was listening to her interview the guy it's the 681 00:40:01,160 --> 00:40:04,880 Speaker 1: podcast is called Diary of a CEO, and he asked 682 00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:08,040 Speaker 1: her do you have any friends? And she was said 683 00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:10,400 Speaker 1: something along lines of like no, I don't have any friends. 684 00:40:10,600 --> 00:40:12,840 Speaker 1: I just work all day. I have my boyfriend and 685 00:40:12,920 --> 00:40:14,960 Speaker 1: that's it. She's like friends take up too much time, 686 00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:17,520 Speaker 1: too much mental capacity, Like I wouldn't She goes, I 687 00:40:17,520 --> 00:40:20,080 Speaker 1: wouldn't be like where I am and able to work 688 00:40:20,120 --> 00:40:23,000 Speaker 1: as much if I had friends, And I was like 689 00:40:23,880 --> 00:40:27,040 Speaker 1: what an interesting? Isn't that weird? Because like I don't 690 00:40:27,120 --> 00:40:30,839 Speaker 1: think i'd be where I am in a bad way 691 00:40:30,920 --> 00:40:35,080 Speaker 1: without my friends, Like my friends are so crucial to 692 00:40:35,200 --> 00:40:39,200 Speaker 1: my life, like whether it's work related or personal, like 693 00:40:39,520 --> 00:40:41,200 Speaker 1: my friend. I think the mentality is like you can't 694 00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:42,839 Speaker 1: work as hard, you can't work as late, you can't 695 00:40:43,280 --> 00:40:45,600 Speaker 1: do as much work wise because you have to like 696 00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:47,400 Speaker 1: spend a lot of time, you know, Like friendships are 697 00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:50,759 Speaker 1: relationships you need to nurture them. And so it was 698 00:40:50,800 --> 00:40:52,560 Speaker 1: like so interesting because I was like, wow, it is 699 00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:54,160 Speaker 1: true to think about it, like all the amount of 700 00:40:54,200 --> 00:40:56,680 Speaker 1: time you spend with your friends and it's so important. 701 00:40:56,760 --> 00:40:59,239 Speaker 1: But I was like, wow, what a weird But I 702 00:40:59,320 --> 00:41:01,839 Speaker 1: think if you and like minded friends, you can make 703 00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:05,240 Speaker 1: that work and support each other while you're working hard 704 00:41:06,080 --> 00:41:08,960 Speaker 1: and make time once a month to have a dinner 705 00:41:09,680 --> 00:41:14,800 Speaker 1: set up with your boyfriend. Right, we have time for 706 00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:18,760 Speaker 1: one more. That's kind of a sweet one from case Syllagen. 707 00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:25,319 Speaker 1: What is your favorite thing about the other person's partner. Um, 708 00:41:25,480 --> 00:41:28,239 Speaker 1: I'd say my favorite thing is that, uh, you know, 709 00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:30,880 Speaker 1: for so long, I think Becca always used to say like, 710 00:41:30,960 --> 00:41:33,800 Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm capable of having these feelings, 711 00:41:33,840 --> 00:41:37,440 Speaker 1: Like I think I'm just like emotionally inept or like 712 00:41:37,680 --> 00:41:43,960 Speaker 1: emotionally like not there, No, I'm serious emotionally void. And 713 00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:48,120 Speaker 1: ever since came into her life, I feel like she 714 00:41:48,360 --> 00:41:51,840 Speaker 1: now she finally knows what that feeling is like, and 715 00:41:51,960 --> 00:41:56,400 Speaker 1: that that feeling of deep love and wanting to be 716 00:41:56,480 --> 00:41:59,440 Speaker 1: with somebody all the time and sacrificing for somebody and 717 00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:03,759 Speaker 1: calm remising for somebody, and um, it's just been like 718 00:42:03,800 --> 00:42:07,000 Speaker 1: a really beautiful thing to see her really experienced love 719 00:42:07,080 --> 00:42:09,360 Speaker 1: for the first time in her life, in her you know, 720 00:42:10,320 --> 00:42:17,759 Speaker 1: late twenties. So your favorite quality is oh, sorry, it 721 00:42:17,840 --> 00:42:21,720 Speaker 1: was a favorite quality just that I'm happy. Specifically, it says, 722 00:42:22,400 --> 00:42:25,320 Speaker 1: what is your favorite thing about the other person is perfect? 723 00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:29,520 Speaker 1: That's great. Yeah. My favorite thing about Red Star is 724 00:42:29,880 --> 00:42:36,920 Speaker 1: how much he has not only I don't I hate 725 00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:40,719 Speaker 1: to say, allowed Tanya to just totally be herself, but 726 00:42:40,920 --> 00:42:43,960 Speaker 1: he's like encouraged her to be herself, and like he 727 00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:49,120 Speaker 1: has embraced who she is, and um, even the things 728 00:42:49,280 --> 00:42:53,000 Speaker 1: that he might you know, like wearing matching sweatshirts or 729 00:42:53,000 --> 00:42:55,960 Speaker 1: sweatsuits together, like sitting on the same side of the table, 730 00:42:56,000 --> 00:42:58,320 Speaker 1: Like even if it's not initially his idea, he's just 731 00:42:58,480 --> 00:43:02,719 Speaker 1: always open to whatever Tanya wants her needs. And I 732 00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:07,440 Speaker 1: always hope she would find someone who didn't like dim her, 733 00:43:07,680 --> 00:43:09,320 Speaker 1: you know, or make her feel like she needed to 734 00:43:09,400 --> 00:43:13,960 Speaker 1: dim her light or herself. And I feel like he open. 735 00:43:15,120 --> 00:43:19,200 Speaker 1: I feel like he you know, like not only he 736 00:43:19,400 --> 00:43:23,000 Speaker 1: just he encourages it. He like wants her to shine brighter. 737 00:43:23,719 --> 00:43:27,279 Speaker 1: And I think that's a really special quality to find 738 00:43:27,320 --> 00:43:30,880 Speaker 1: in someone, especially watching your best friend search for someone 739 00:43:31,120 --> 00:43:35,319 Speaker 1: and have like you know, bad dates and guys who 740 00:43:35,640 --> 00:43:39,959 Speaker 1: didn't hold up to her standards to see her find 741 00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:45,040 Speaker 1: someone who um treats her the way she deserves to 742 00:43:45,120 --> 00:43:48,480 Speaker 1: be treated and also adds so much to who she 743 00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:51,160 Speaker 1: already is. It's it's really cool. You know what's so 744 00:43:51,360 --> 00:43:55,239 Speaker 1: cool is somebody UM deemed me last week I think, 745 00:43:55,320 --> 00:43:58,880 Speaker 1: and they were like, um, they are hardcore scrubber, and 746 00:43:58,960 --> 00:44:01,400 Speaker 1: they wanted to go back and re listened to like 747 00:44:01,520 --> 00:44:03,360 Speaker 1: all of our old podcasts, so they're kind of like 748 00:44:03,440 --> 00:44:06,920 Speaker 1: going back from day one and listening in order. And 749 00:44:07,080 --> 00:44:08,759 Speaker 1: she gave me I wish I would have screenshot at it, 750 00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:11,400 Speaker 1: because um, she gave me the name of the episode 751 00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:16,280 Speaker 1: and the time of the time stamp of Becca talking 752 00:44:16,360 --> 00:44:18,880 Speaker 1: about my future partner and like all the things that 753 00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:21,440 Speaker 1: she wanted out of them, like and what I deserved. 754 00:44:21,640 --> 00:44:23,839 Speaker 1: And she was like, it's crazy because all the things 755 00:44:23,920 --> 00:44:26,640 Speaker 1: Becca is saying is how I feel like Red Star 756 00:44:26,880 --> 00:44:28,640 Speaker 1: is for you now. And I was like, Oh, that's 757 00:44:28,640 --> 00:44:31,439 Speaker 1: so crazy. We have this time capsule of like things 758 00:44:31,480 --> 00:44:33,239 Speaker 1: that we've said or wanted, you know what I mean? Like, 759 00:44:33,280 --> 00:44:39,640 Speaker 1: how crazy is that? Yeah, we manifested him and you 760 00:44:40,080 --> 00:44:43,239 Speaker 1: you were so against the dating apps and yeah, I 761 00:44:43,280 --> 00:44:45,520 Speaker 1: was a second guy I met on dating apps and 762 00:44:45,600 --> 00:44:48,040 Speaker 1: then like, look, it's like our relationship hasn't been easy. 763 00:44:48,040 --> 00:44:51,399 Speaker 1: You know, we broke up and um, you know, it's 764 00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:53,759 Speaker 1: just like things are tough, and you know, I think 765 00:44:53,800 --> 00:44:58,520 Speaker 1: we're at an age we're like, well, we're all we 766 00:44:59,040 --> 00:45:04,000 Speaker 1: all stuff. We all are like yeah, so anyways, and 767 00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:05,839 Speaker 1: then fifty years from now, it's going to be very 768 00:45:05,920 --> 00:45:09,240 Speaker 1: interesting when you're great grandchildren are listening back to Grandma 769 00:45:09,320 --> 00:45:12,200 Speaker 1: Tati's old podcasts from when she was young and single. 770 00:45:12,800 --> 00:45:15,279 Speaker 1: I know, like and then the whole foods, right, and 771 00:45:15,320 --> 00:45:16,600 Speaker 1: then I'm like, on the flip side, I'm getting a 772 00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:19,160 Speaker 1: d M somebody asking me the name of my vibrator. 773 00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:21,919 Speaker 1: You know, like it's like, I don't know what. Oh yeah, 774 00:45:22,080 --> 00:45:28,719 Speaker 1: your grandkids are gonna have some fun with that. Emotional 775 00:45:31,320 --> 00:45:33,799 Speaker 1: sleep just does things to me. That's new moment. By 776 00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:36,000 Speaker 1: the way, Tony is not petting me. If you'll see 777 00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:40,239 Speaker 1: this video, I still do. They can't see anything. She's 778 00:45:40,320 --> 00:45:46,759 Speaker 1: just stroking what looks like stroking my arm. Um, all right, 779 00:45:46,840 --> 00:45:48,600 Speaker 1: is that the end of the questions. I think that 780 00:45:48,680 --> 00:45:51,240 Speaker 1: was a good that's going to wrap up our Thursday 781 00:45:51,400 --> 00:45:57,040 Speaker 1: edition of Scrubbing in Thursday for Thursday Thursday the new Friday. 782 00:45:57,080 --> 00:45:59,600 Speaker 1: They say, yeah, I remember you telling me that when 783 00:45:59,680 --> 00:46:04,280 Speaker 1: you told me everyone goes out on Thursdays on Mondays 784 00:46:04,320 --> 00:46:08,040 Speaker 1: are becoming hot too. Nothing going out on a Monday 785 00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:13,000 Speaker 1: to me personally, people, you need to relax. Yeah, um, alright, Well, 786 00:46:13,040 --> 00:46:15,720 Speaker 1: I hope you enjoyed this episode. We'll be back Monday 787 00:46:15,840 --> 00:46:19,759 Speaker 1: with more goodness for you and for yours, and I 788 00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:22,160 Speaker 1: hope you all have a great weekend. Go green Bay 789 00:46:22,239 --> 00:46:25,040 Speaker 1: this weekend? Am I right? Saturday? Go green Bay? Yeah, 790 00:46:25,200 --> 00:46:27,640 Speaker 1: that's what they say, Green Bay all the way. Are 791 00:46:27,719 --> 00:46:31,000 Speaker 1: you Are you a Aaron Rodgers fan? Well, I have 792 00:46:31,080 --> 00:46:35,320 Speaker 1: a difficult relationship with Aaron Rodgers. Yeah, but yes, I 793 00:46:35,400 --> 00:46:38,360 Speaker 1: am an Aaron rod short answer. He pisses me off sometimes, 794 00:46:38,440 --> 00:46:40,279 Speaker 1: but yes, I am an Aaron Rodgers fan. Who are 795 00:46:40,320 --> 00:46:44,600 Speaker 1: they playing? They're playing in the San Francisco Saturday night. 796 00:46:44,680 --> 00:46:48,239 Speaker 1: That's Jimmy Garofalo. It's right at Lambeau Field where it 797 00:46:48,280 --> 00:46:50,239 Speaker 1: should be in the teens or maybe even a little 798 00:46:50,239 --> 00:46:52,640 Speaker 1: bit colder than that, So there's an advantage for the 799 00:46:52,760 --> 00:46:57,560 Speaker 1: home team. That's the idea, right, Yeah, Tony's a huge 800 00:46:57,600 --> 00:47:03,120 Speaker 1: football fan, so cute. Um. Alright, have a great weekend, 801 00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:05,799 Speaker 1: love you all. Next, well we should talk about Valentine's Day. 802 00:47:05,880 --> 00:47:08,840 Speaker 1: Just put a pin in that great thank you, like 803 00:47:08,920 --> 00:47:12,000 Speaker 1: about what we're doing. Yeah, wellow some ideas around because 804 00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:14,640 Speaker 1: honestly i'm a little just like tapped. Maybe we'll just 805 00:47:14,760 --> 00:47:17,080 Speaker 1: have a nice dinner in and with your new puppy. 806 00:47:17,880 --> 00:47:19,759 Speaker 1: Keep it, don't save it for next thing. Yeah, we'll 807 00:47:19,760 --> 00:47:21,960 Speaker 1: say okay, alright, bye bye,