WEBVTT - Ep 224: Score Keeping, Ear Lobes & the Toxicity 0:00:02.520 --> 0:00:08.880 Guess what decision we're about to make a horrible decisions. Hey, guys, 0:00:09.119 --> 0:00:15.920 welcome to another episode of horrible decisions. Like I'm your girl, Mandy, 0:00:16.120 --> 0:00:19.880 and I'm with my co ho right here next to me. 0:00:20.079 --> 0:00:28.080 Her name is Wheezy. W TF. Okay, anyways, team Juneteenth past. 0:00:28.400 --> 0:00:30.640 You know, it's just our week. We had African American 0:00:30.680 --> 0:00:37.400 May melanin. No, African American, No, that's February, February Black history. 0:00:38.200 --> 0:00:40.519 That's what I'm talking about. We just passed African American April, 0:00:40.920 --> 0:00:46.479 and you got melanin May. Now you got Juneteenth June. 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:49.000 You you made all that up. Yeah, Okay, I was like, 0:00:49.200 --> 0:00:52.200 I don't remember my calendares say those things. Well, maybe 0:00:52.240 --> 0:00:55.720 you don't have the calendar. That doctor. You have a 0:00:55.800 --> 0:00:58.600 doctor umar calendar. Bitch, you are not to be trusted 0:00:58.600 --> 0:01:03.000 in the winter months, it says, no Snowbuddy's doctor Ubar. 0:01:03.800 --> 0:01:07.280 Dr Ubar hates our creation, apparently because he doesn't think 0:01:07.520 --> 0:01:11.959 interracial dating should be even be a thing. He makes people, 0:01:12.120 --> 0:01:14.320 but we're here, we can't help. Here, we are, we 0:01:14.360 --> 0:01:17.080 can't help. Well, here we are happen. He hates our parents. 0:01:17.080 --> 0:01:19.720 Then no, he said, love your parents. He says mixed 0:01:19.760 --> 0:01:22.880 people are not a real thing. This is what he said. 0:01:23.040 --> 0:01:25.679 You're not gonna be half black. Do you think when 0:01:25.680 --> 0:01:28.280 you get chocolate milk it's because just half chocolate. Do 0:01:28.319 --> 0:01:33.560 they call it half chocolate milk? Noo? Maybe half chocolate 0:01:33.560 --> 0:01:38.039 syrup half milk. It's chocolate milk. Ain't not halpy. How 0:01:38.080 --> 0:01:40.720 do you think you gets from milk to chocolate donation. 0:01:43.920 --> 0:01:46.959 I'm not doing this to day. I'm not doing this 0:01:46.959 --> 0:01:49.160 one train to have Like, I just want to talk 0:01:49.200 --> 0:01:51.640 to him about gainess. I want to talk to him, right, 0:01:51.720 --> 0:01:55.440 he's so necessary for us, Like I know he's terribly hotep, 0:01:56.000 --> 0:01:58.680 but at the same time I terribly hot tip. I 0:01:58.760 --> 0:02:02.160 just also for us. Let me tell you why when 0:02:02.200 --> 0:02:05.040 he was on the breakfast class talking about wait, wait 0:02:06.600 --> 0:02:10.119 one moment, one moment, because a couple of weeks ago 0:02:10.680 --> 0:02:12.440 we said the hood healers should not be a part 0:02:12.440 --> 0:02:15.720 of our community. But now you're saying that doctor Umar 0:02:16.840 --> 0:02:21.359 is a necessity hood healer is dumb. She'd be saying 0:02:21.440 --> 0:02:24.360 doctor Umar a doctor. I don't know if he had 0:02:24.520 --> 0:02:27.040 I think he a doctor like Dr Dre Is he 0:02:27.080 --> 0:02:30.840 really he's like a real said? Does he have a doctorate? 0:02:30.960 --> 0:02:35.760 Or is he a doctor? You need white man's paperwork, 0:02:35.880 --> 0:02:37.640 That's what he said. But no, I do need to 0:02:37.680 --> 0:02:39.720 know is it like a PhD? Because you know, like 0:02:39.760 --> 0:02:44.200 a lot of people like get like honorary degrees from 0:02:44.639 --> 0:02:48.880 like universities. You're looking it up at him. He got 0:02:48.880 --> 0:02:52.480 a PhD? Or is he a doctor? That's the same thing, 0:02:52.520 --> 0:02:57.000 though technically I'm processing because if he got a PhD 0:02:57.000 --> 0:03:00.079 in sociology, I'm not counting that. According to Dr M R. 0:03:00.200 --> 0:03:04.880 Johnson dot com, I'm not trust is a doctor of 0:03:04.960 --> 0:03:08.440 clinical psychology and certified as a school psychologist who is 0:03:08.480 --> 0:03:13.080 considered an expert on education and mental health. That didn't 0:03:13.080 --> 0:03:16.280 sound like a like he got to do grow he 0:03:16.360 --> 0:03:20.840 an expert like we se experts? School doctor? Who? Yeah? 0:03:20.880 --> 0:03:23.160 What school do he go to? The school of hard? No, 0:03:23.280 --> 0:03:27.560 I was just gonna say that, bitch, I took your joke. 0:03:28.200 --> 0:03:32.639 Does that mean we're not funny? Yeah? That wasn't even 0:03:32.680 --> 0:03:36.200 a good No, right, that was real? Oh well I 0:03:36.280 --> 0:03:41.280 said it for us. It says Philadelphia College of pronounced 0:03:41.320 --> 0:03:44.160 this absolutely raw. Say that again. It's because he's Nickaragua 0:03:44.200 --> 0:03:48.160 and he can't do that. Ain't a real school. Apparently 0:03:48.200 --> 0:03:54.000 it is method yes, certified, not certified. What's the what's 0:03:54.040 --> 0:03:56.680 the other word? Uh, the school's got to be in 0:03:56.760 --> 0:04:01.320 order for your credit account. Yeah, private medical school with 0:04:01.520 --> 0:04:05.360 its main campus of Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, in additional locations in Swanny, 0:04:05.640 --> 0:04:10.240 Georgia and Moultrie, Georgia. The first off Swanny Philly. We're 0:04:10.240 --> 0:04:13.640 not counting none of them cities Philly. We count only 0:04:13.680 --> 0:04:17.880 count Philly work because of Meek. Are you serious? Man? 0:04:18.880 --> 0:04:21.200 But you have a lot more grads in Philly from 0:04:21.640 --> 0:04:24.880 the cheese Steaks. Okay, sorry, but I'm so sorry. Yes, 0:04:24.960 --> 0:04:30.279 please continue to support the Worrible Decision show. I like 0:04:32.120 --> 0:04:37.040 only because I like niggas with beards. So Dr Umar 0:04:37.160 --> 0:04:42.560 has beard and he said on the Breakfast Club and 0:04:42.600 --> 0:04:45.359 I never knew this. Apparently Joe Biden passed this like 0:04:45.480 --> 0:04:50.600 anti American Asian hate immediately. And there's a bunch of 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:53.600 anti lynching laws that can't get pasted in Congress or something. 0:04:53.839 --> 0:04:56.920 They've been like two hundred something I've never heard about. 0:04:57.240 --> 0:04:59.239 Do you know why you never heard of it? Because, bitch, 0:04:59.480 --> 0:05:03.520 you're not up on watching television. Because I found out 0:05:03.839 --> 0:05:08.960 through watching the Billy Holiday movie. Because Billy Holiday got 0:05:09.080 --> 0:05:13.599 uh pretty much the government was was uh planting drugs 0:05:13.600 --> 0:05:16.919 and stuff on her because of her because what is 0:05:16.960 --> 0:05:21.719 the song called rotten fruit, Uh, strange fruit. There we 0:05:21.760 --> 0:05:25.679 go and strange Fruit essentially was heard discussing the hanging 0:05:25.760 --> 0:05:29.360 bodies from lynching and the government was actually trying so 0:05:29.440 --> 0:05:32.040 hard to get her to not even sing about this, 0:05:32.839 --> 0:05:36.360 even though it was a current thing that was happening. 0:05:36.720 --> 0:05:40.760 And when you watch that specific movie, and I believe 0:05:40.760 --> 0:05:46.640 Billy did they win an oscar for that? Um when 0:05:46.760 --> 0:05:49.960 when they start the movie they talk about the matel laws, 0:05:49.960 --> 0:05:53.960 they talk about all of essentially the lynching laws that 0:05:54.000 --> 0:05:56.800 were trying to get past. And at the end it 0:05:56.880 --> 0:06:00.080 says that they've had over two hundred attempts and Congress 0:06:00.200 --> 0:06:03.480 or whoever approves of this ship still is not brought 0:06:03.560 --> 0:06:06.960 forth a non lynching law. And yeah, I didn't know 0:06:07.000 --> 0:06:11.320 there was two. Over two hundred, Yes, So that's insane, 0:06:11.400 --> 0:06:13.960 And tell me teach me that. And I mean, you know, 0:06:14.040 --> 0:06:15.960 granted I should be up on these things, obviously I 0:06:15.960 --> 0:06:18.480 should know them, but I feel like if this person 0:06:18.600 --> 0:06:22.120 can bring that to the table, then Billy Holliday brought 0:06:22.120 --> 0:06:23.680 it to the table. Let's not just don't know and 0:06:23.760 --> 0:06:25.560 bring it to the table on the Breakfast Club, and 0:06:25.960 --> 0:06:27.599 I don't know about ever seeing a clip like that 0:06:27.600 --> 0:06:29.600 on the Breakfast Club before, about the antel lynching laws. 0:06:29.600 --> 0:06:31.920 I feel like he is putting people onto ship and 0:06:31.960 --> 0:06:35.640 I do think that Dr Umar is a part of 0:06:35.680 --> 0:06:41.599 him is good for society. So real quicker, I need 0:06:41.720 --> 0:06:44.840 to know. I'm gonna run down the list of like 0:06:45.320 --> 0:06:48.559 five people real quick, because if you're saying the doctor 0:06:48.680 --> 0:06:51.000 Umar necessity, I need to know if these five people 0:06:51.120 --> 0:06:56.760 also are. Don't stop me until I finish, Okay, Joscelyn Hernandez, 0:06:57.120 --> 0:07:04.520 Derreck Jackson, Kevin Samuel's, Steve Harvey, Wendy Williams, Charlemagne only 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:06.960 based off of a couple of episodes ago. In our conversation, 0:07:07.240 --> 0:07:09.880 we have those five people that people do view our 0:07:10.560 --> 0:07:14.040 either problematic or work against our community. Easy to go 0:07:14.080 --> 0:07:17.800 on this one. Dr Umar is always talking about the 0:07:17.800 --> 0:07:20.559 plight of black people. One Derrick Jackson is love and dating. 0:07:20.720 --> 0:07:23.680 Who cares to Kevin Samuel's we don't even talk about. 0:07:23.680 --> 0:07:25.880 I don't even I really don't discuss him. I find 0:07:25.920 --> 0:07:27.520 him to be null and void when it comes to 0:07:27.840 --> 0:07:29.800 being able to support black women. He's gross to me. 0:07:30.200 --> 0:07:34.120 Third um who did you say, Wendy Williams. Yep, she 0:07:34.240 --> 0:07:37.080 was on there. Wendy Williams is gossip rag whatever. I 0:07:37.080 --> 0:07:38.840 think she's made great waves for black women in the 0:07:38.880 --> 0:07:44.080 space TV radio. But okay, Charlemagne puts black people on hires, 0:07:44.120 --> 0:07:48.760 black gives people a platform, right necessity? Um and dr Umar? 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:55.240 Who is the fifth person, Kevin Samuels, Wendy Williams, like 0:07:55.320 --> 0:07:58.480 Derek Jackson, Charlemayne, you went through all them. Maybe dr 0:07:58.600 --> 0:08:00.680 Umar was the no you went to. You actually just did. 0:08:00.720 --> 0:08:02.480 I think you just do more twice, not anything about 0:08:02.520 --> 0:08:06.480 it went, but you went through. Every time we watch 0:08:06.560 --> 0:08:08.960 him a meme or a clip, it is pro black. 0:08:09.280 --> 0:08:10.920 I do not see that with any of the other 0:08:10.920 --> 0:08:13.280 people you named. Every time thing not saying that they 0:08:13.320 --> 0:08:15.880 aren't pro black, or that Charlottegne doesn't isn't support of 0:08:15.880 --> 0:08:18.160 black people. But let's be fucking real here. That is 0:08:18.560 --> 0:08:24.080 Umar's brand. So guess who else's brand? That was Black 0:08:24.120 --> 0:08:26.080 Lives Matter? And look what they did with the funds. 0:08:26.320 --> 0:08:29.280 That's all I'm gonna say that. We also have someone 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:33.800 like you can't compare someone like Shaun King. He does 0:08:33.840 --> 0:08:38.400 speak for the plight and still has questionable acts. I 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:40.440 would just say, I'm not saying that Dr umar doesn't 0:08:40.440 --> 0:08:42.720 have question, but obviously when he thinks about how like 0:08:42.760 --> 0:08:50.520 homosexuality is sexual interracial dating, his music is radical, and 0:08:50.559 --> 0:08:52.760 we need radical people in the world. We can't. There's 0:08:52.800 --> 0:08:55.800 no perfect man or woman out there too. But you're 0:08:55.800 --> 0:08:57.520 gonna tell me he doesn't help us. He's not out 0:08:57.520 --> 0:09:01.760 here for us. I don't want him preaching again the 0:09:01.840 --> 0:09:04.920 thing that brought me here, like to sit here and 0:09:04.920 --> 0:09:09.960 and speak down upon like he celebrates black love in 0:09:10.000 --> 0:09:12.920 a very radical way, and he wants black men. He 0:09:12.960 --> 0:09:16.319 always talks about black men, specifically with interracial dating. And 0:09:16.320 --> 0:09:18.679 and again I watched him say, like, I don't hate 0:09:18.960 --> 0:09:21.559 Asians or white people or whatever. I just am that 0:09:22.000 --> 0:09:23.760 much in support of my black people. And if you 0:09:23.800 --> 0:09:27.199 want to see black families grow and prosper and grow 0:09:27.280 --> 0:09:29.960 wealth within the black community, you do have to say, 0:09:30.040 --> 0:09:32.680 might be a little dr Umarish when it comes to 0:09:32.720 --> 0:09:36.800 black love. You just do maybe they wanted to come up. 0:09:37.000 --> 0:09:41.040 It does not really necessarily build more equity in black 0:09:41.160 --> 0:09:45.080 community things. I think keeping black love and generational wealth 0:09:45.520 --> 0:09:50.480 goes way beyond just the household. Unfortunately, it has a 0:09:50.520 --> 0:09:55.280 lot more to do with systematic systemic oppression, like going 0:09:55.320 --> 0:09:57.679 to get a bank loan to buy a home that 0:09:57.679 --> 0:10:02.000 could be passed going of yeah, but guess what what 0:10:02.120 --> 0:10:04.559 whether my wife or whether my wife her husband is 0:10:04.600 --> 0:10:07.520 black or is black or not, the bank is what's 0:10:07.559 --> 0:10:10.040 going to keep my family from being able to build 0:10:10.040 --> 0:10:12.599 generational wealth because they're the ones not approving me for 0:10:12.640 --> 0:10:19.120 the loan. These corporations are. That's my that's my choice. 0:10:19.120 --> 0:10:21.360 But I wouldn't be here without my white ass mama, 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:25.320 fucking my Jamaican daddy. He's not denouncing mixed kids. He's 0:10:25.360 --> 0:10:28.480 just celebrating black people and we don't even believe we exist, 0:10:28.559 --> 0:10:31.040 or he don't acknowledge us. He doesn't like the half term. 0:10:31.600 --> 0:10:34.360 Well funk him with that. You call yourself a black woman, 0:10:34.480 --> 0:10:37.000 I do, but guess what I call But I also 0:10:37.040 --> 0:10:40.480 have a co host like Bridget who says that she 0:10:40.720 --> 0:10:43.600 is by racial she doesn't identify as one. But also 0:10:43.640 --> 0:10:45.200 the fact that a black man could sit here and 0:10:45.240 --> 0:10:48.319 say how we can identify. Fuck you, you you don't get 0:10:48.360 --> 0:10:51.720 You don't get to say that either. I mean, here's 0:10:51.760 --> 0:10:55.320 where I agree with not on my outline. Guys, people 0:10:55.440 --> 0:10:58.760 get very choosy about their mixed girl and by racial bullshit. 0:10:58.840 --> 0:11:00.240 This is no shade of bridget at all out by 0:11:00.240 --> 0:11:03.040 the way, I'm just talking about people saying the mix right. Um, 0:11:03.080 --> 0:11:05.960 Shan Booty has been one someone I posted about a 0:11:05.960 --> 0:11:08.320 black woman something and they were like, oh, she don't 0:11:08.320 --> 0:11:10.800 call herself black. I'm like, Okay, no shape, but I 0:11:10.920 --> 0:11:13.880 call sham black. However she self identitized is fine. I 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:15.960 have used that word for her. I'm not asking people 0:11:15.960 --> 0:11:17.400 in the street what they calling themselves. You know what 0:11:17.440 --> 0:11:19.920 I'm saying, Like Shan represents a black woman to meet 0:11:19.920 --> 0:11:21.840 and strong black women is if she wants to say 0:11:21.880 --> 0:11:24.560 mix cool, say Bridge, I would call Bridgid a black girl, right. 0:11:24.840 --> 0:11:27.600 But I think with Dr Umar, he wants to show 0:11:27.640 --> 0:11:29.800 strength in numbers. And when you say you're a black 0:11:29.840 --> 0:11:32.240 woman much like you or I do, it does prove 0:11:32.240 --> 0:11:34.640 strength in numbers. There is a lot of strength and 0:11:34.679 --> 0:11:37.240 saying this is a black woman show over we're a 0:11:37.280 --> 0:11:40.720 mixed girl show. It just is. Yeah. But that's what 0:11:40.760 --> 0:11:42.760 I'm saying, Like, because what we're doing for the culture, 0:11:43.080 --> 0:11:47.200 We've also had people in our own community tell us 0:11:47.240 --> 0:11:50.079 that we can't call ourselves blacks. Who wouldn't say that 0:11:50.600 --> 0:11:54.840 white people we know Dr Umar wouldn't acknowledge us what 0:11:55.040 --> 0:11:58.079 that's not true. He's saying we're not half like a right. 0:11:58.200 --> 0:12:00.640 So then I come in and they call the black man. 0:12:00.720 --> 0:12:03.440 He like strong black woman, thank you for coming. And 0:12:03.480 --> 0:12:05.600 then one day I'm with my mama and he calling 0:12:05.640 --> 0:12:08.880 her a snow bunny. No, you gotta accept me and 0:12:09.000 --> 0:12:12.520 my mama. Yes, yes, she a cracker, but you take 0:12:12.600 --> 0:12:15.600 it about white people. I do to my mom too, 0:12:15.840 --> 0:12:17.920 So what the who cares? Because at the end of 0:12:17.880 --> 0:12:19.400 the day, you ain't go talk to about my mama. 0:12:19.400 --> 0:12:21.800 Only I could do that, bro, the same way you 0:12:21.920 --> 0:12:24.480 fun niggas they can't nobody else talk about, but you 0:12:24.520 --> 0:12:26.800 could talk about them. And then when I be like, oh, 0:12:26.840 --> 0:12:28.439 but your nigga ain't ship, You're gonna be like, girl, 0:12:28.440 --> 0:12:30.320 don't you dare talking about my eight ship niggas? He 0:12:30.320 --> 0:12:33.760 ain't talking about Mandy Mama. When he's saying the snow bunnies, Heyma, 0:12:34.080 --> 0:12:36.720 snow bunny, he's just saying they ain't for me. Bro. 0:12:36.760 --> 0:12:38.760 I'm gonna be real with you. I am low key 0:12:40.040 --> 0:12:42.120 how much you're all. I love doctor, not much, your 0:12:42.160 --> 0:12:46.200 hotel a whole first step next. But it's fine. You're there, 0:12:46.520 --> 0:12:49.360 you're taking a step towards the hotel. I know that 0:12:49.440 --> 0:12:53.120 he is very backwards as far as it comes to homosexuality, 0:12:53.360 --> 0:12:56.640 but unfortunately, like a lot of people that are like 0:12:56.760 --> 0:13:00.000 religious are that are we're not using the religion car 0:13:00.000 --> 0:13:04.679 anymore because has been rumored to have um be an 0:13:04.679 --> 0:13:07.680 abuser who like, there's a lot of ship about Malcolm 0:13:07.800 --> 0:13:11.960 X that is terrible, right terrible. However, I'm not going 0:13:12.000 --> 0:13:14.200 to not say that he was not important for the 0:13:14.200 --> 0:13:16.839 black community and should be somebody who should be following 0:13:16.840 --> 0:13:18.920 in his steps and in a lot of his ways. 0:13:19.320 --> 0:13:21.360 I'm like that you really just threw Malcolm X out 0:13:21.360 --> 0:13:24.080 there like that because dr did you see that block 0:13:24.080 --> 0:13:27.160 and white picture? He was too fie for you to 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:32.600 be talking about. I'm just saying X was fine. I 0:13:32.679 --> 0:13:34.800 know he got Hello pussy. I know he this is 0:13:34.840 --> 0:13:38.800 claimed to be Muslim, but he was definitely getting the 0:13:38.800 --> 0:13:42.400 rest of They say they cheating and he was cheating 0:13:42.400 --> 0:13:46.560 on his wife. They said was so was Mr King. Okay, 0:13:46.720 --> 0:13:49.679 So what I'm saying is there's somebody about there's something 0:13:49.720 --> 0:13:54.080 about every leader right at the show that raids truth 0:13:54.160 --> 0:13:58.360 to be lgbt Q aligned. Can we not see here 0:13:58.360 --> 0:14:02.559 and make an exception for homemophobic. Ask Dr Umar, this's 0:14:02.600 --> 0:14:06.480 is hard, bro, because this fighting present Hardamn bitch, he 0:14:06.640 --> 0:14:08.760 don't think all right, I don't agree with him on 0:14:08.760 --> 0:14:10.760 that ship. Let me pull out my phone because we're 0:14:10.760 --> 0:14:13.040 gonna get to the outline. Baby, welcome you all a 0:14:13.080 --> 0:14:15.720 horrible decision right now where we like to follow it out. 0:14:15.840 --> 0:14:20.440 We like donations. Let me go on no context, dr Umar. 0:14:21.200 --> 0:14:24.360 That's my favorite page. Bitch y'all ever been on no context? 0:14:24.400 --> 0:14:29.920 Dr Umar? Shit, my brother, Please, no white people in 0:14:30.080 --> 0:14:33.120 my live. Remember when we said that he was quoting that, 0:14:33.800 --> 0:14:36.160 I wasn't quoting him. I don't be liking white people 0:14:36.160 --> 0:14:39.760 outside of my mama. So and even my mama could 0:14:39.800 --> 0:14:41.560 collar green is better than some black folks. So she 0:14:41.600 --> 0:14:43.680 had a little soul in the sounds like you and 0:14:43.760 --> 0:14:45.840 Dr m a line on some particular views there with 0:14:45.960 --> 0:14:49.880 the collar greenes no that you don't really like. I 0:14:50.000 --> 0:14:52.040 was like, who want to talk about collar green? Your 0:14:52.040 --> 0:14:54.560 mom was so fun, dr Umar. My mom would not fun, 0:14:54.680 --> 0:14:57.480 dr Umar, because my mom likes niggers with accents from 0:14:57.520 --> 0:15:04.560 the Caribbean Western easy got abe, that's Africa my mom 0:15:04.680 --> 0:15:07.680 saying he got at my mom has pro created with 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:10.280 a Haitian man and a Jamaican man, if that gives 0:15:10.280 --> 0:15:12.600 you any intel. He gotta look though, he looked like 0:15:12.640 --> 0:15:14.160 he war on kind of slide. He looks like he 0:15:14.200 --> 0:15:17.640 cannot cook. He looks like he cannot cook ox sails. 0:15:17.680 --> 0:15:23.320 So there's that. Anyways, guys, for our vanilla ship this week. 0:15:23.400 --> 0:15:26.040 If you guys are just tuning in, um, our vanilla 0:15:26.120 --> 0:15:29.640 ship is kind of sucks in the news something adjacent. 0:15:29.840 --> 0:15:33.920 This week, We're gonna do relationships. Um, you know, because 0:15:33.920 --> 0:15:38.680 I'm in one or whatever. I'm with you. I'm I'm 0:15:38.760 --> 0:15:42.080 joining you. I am joining your little corny as laugh, 0:15:42.240 --> 0:15:51.880 I am joining up every episode. What Yes, So this 0:15:51.960 --> 0:15:55.240 week's vanilla Ship comes from Vice dot com UM and 0:15:56.240 --> 0:15:58.960 what they were doing good articles. They do really good articles. 0:15:59.320 --> 0:16:02.840 I guess well, I wasn't decisions anyway. I was about 0:16:02.840 --> 0:16:06.120 to say, yeah, we was on him twice. UM. Anyways, 0:16:06.160 --> 0:16:09.440 this one is ironic because it's actually talking about keeping 0:16:09.560 --> 0:16:13.240 score in relationships. Now. It starts by saying that keeping 0:16:13.320 --> 0:16:17.840 score in relationships normally isn't healthy, um, and that you 0:16:17.880 --> 0:16:20.560 shouldn't because it's never going to be fifty fifty. However, 0:16:20.600 --> 0:16:24.200 a psychologist by the name of Jennifer ven zill Um. 0:16:24.280 --> 0:16:28.000 She is a therapist at the Mayo Clinic. Like Mayle names, 0:16:28.040 --> 0:16:36.160 I guess told Vice that some level you know, um. 0:16:36.280 --> 0:16:39.440 She told Vice that some level of scorekeeping is just 0:16:39.640 --> 0:16:44.560 honestly standard human behavior. And in relationship therapy issues of 0:16:44.600 --> 0:16:48.040 equality and equity come up all of the time. She 0:16:48.200 --> 0:16:51.200 says that it's actually equity. Remember we were talking about 0:16:51.200 --> 0:16:54.880 that when we did our contract. Yeah, we that's never 0:16:56.080 --> 0:16:59.480 but bitch, that's what weight molding you. I just don't 0:16:59.560 --> 0:17:04.200 drop the po this quick. Uh. She said that it's 0:17:04.200 --> 0:17:07.080 actually normal for us to perceive differences and what we're 0:17:07.119 --> 0:17:10.400 doing versus what our partners are doing. You very well, 0:17:10.440 --> 0:17:13.920 made doing more, you make you very well, maybe doing 0:17:13.960 --> 0:17:16.800 more than your partner. And in some cases, keeping score 0:17:16.840 --> 0:17:18.919 can ensure that you're getting the support you need and 0:17:18.960 --> 0:17:23.240 deserving the relationship, for example, in terms of perceived inequity 0:17:23.640 --> 0:17:27.960 if we're talking in straight since gender relationships, gender differences 0:17:28.040 --> 0:17:31.879 between household division of labor are huge historically now we 0:17:31.920 --> 0:17:39.119 talk about um essentially the patriarchy and the right I 0:17:39.520 --> 0:17:41.720 do the dishes, you pay the bills. I think that 0:17:42.440 --> 0:17:47.160 right now with the modern day woman we're also working. However, 0:17:47.200 --> 0:17:51.800 there's still that perception that household chores, the dishes, the laundry, 0:17:52.119 --> 0:17:56.320 doing certain things around the home are woman tasks, and 0:17:56.359 --> 0:17:58.800 then the men just are supposed to provide in a way. 0:17:59.040 --> 0:18:02.159 And this has let's do a lot of inequality and 0:18:02.240 --> 0:18:05.360 almost resentment to your partner, because if you're working your 0:18:05.400 --> 0:18:08.080 nine to five, your partner's working his nine to five, 0:18:08.359 --> 0:18:11.800 and then you're still expected to come home, clean, take 0:18:11.840 --> 0:18:15.200 care of the kids, because those are your roles in patriarchy, 0:18:15.400 --> 0:18:18.359 you can start to resent your partner solely because you 0:18:18.400 --> 0:18:22.679 are probably exuding. You feel more more of the sweat 0:18:22.720 --> 0:18:27.680 equity in the relationship. Um. And so this article is 0:18:27.720 --> 0:18:31.280 actually saying it's not a bad idea to keep score. 0:18:31.720 --> 0:18:33.920 I wanted to ask you only because we've talked about 0:18:34.000 --> 0:18:39.560 two Yeah you do, yep, I know you think that 0:18:39.720 --> 0:18:41.560 we can argue, then I suck your dick. Then we 0:18:41.600 --> 0:18:43.879 are used and I make you an avocado toast. Were even, 0:18:44.359 --> 0:18:51.439 but but I know avocado toast as a makeup, right. 0:18:51.560 --> 0:18:55.320 Someone said, someone visited recently, you know I can't keep 0:18:55.400 --> 0:19:01.639 up with I can't And he was like, I was like, 0:19:03.040 --> 0:19:10.919 and he was talk stopped. So I didn't make stop 0:19:11.440 --> 0:19:14.320 because she's really be sucking digger making avocado tolds to 0:19:14.320 --> 0:19:16.840 make up wear niggas. And then later that day I 0:19:16.880 --> 0:19:18.280 was then you want lunch? She was like yeah, I 0:19:18.400 --> 0:19:20.720 made like scallops and like little thing, and then I 0:19:20.800 --> 0:19:22.399 made a salad and he used to pick it through 0:19:22.400 --> 0:19:24.680 the salad. He was like, you just had to put 0:19:29.359 --> 0:19:32.000 is a healthy fat? I do, like, dude, I'll even 0:19:32.040 --> 0:19:36.720 do avocado smoothie. Those are good, okay, them is really 0:19:36.720 --> 0:19:39.399 really good. It's giving help, especially when you add the 0:19:39.440 --> 0:19:42.040 light bubbles in it. And I don't do it. I 0:19:42.080 --> 0:19:49.479 got bubble the bubble tea. I'm talking about the bubbles. Okay, 0:19:50.760 --> 0:19:53.240 what is the problem. I don't know. It is the bubbles. 0:19:53.720 --> 0:19:56.400 People do get it. I get like an avocado smoothie 0:19:56.440 --> 0:19:59.320 now with the bubbles with like a cheese phone. You thought, 0:19:59.640 --> 0:20:02.719 what cheese? Oh my god, it's delicious. Y'all know I'm 0:20:02.760 --> 0:20:06.200 in Queen's now that cheese a cheese foam. Oh yeah, 0:20:06.240 --> 0:20:08.520 I know. You like cheese in the smoothie on the 0:20:08.520 --> 0:20:10.639 avocado smoothie with the bubbles at the bottom and then 0:20:10.640 --> 0:20:13.480 there's a foam on top. When you drink it is 0:20:13.520 --> 0:20:18.000 a whole milk replacement, not a ship, just listening. I 0:20:18.040 --> 0:20:20.720 ain't gonna hold you. That's probably when I had shipped 0:20:20.720 --> 0:20:24.280 on my sheets that Oh my gosh, shot smoothie. It 0:20:24.359 --> 0:20:26.719 didn't probably want. My booty was running, but it was 0:20:26.800 --> 0:20:32.360 so good I couldn't help it, and I got it again. 0:20:33.080 --> 0:20:35.040 I just made sure my nigga wasn't coming over that night. 0:20:37.080 --> 0:20:41.399 What's on something? No, A dick in your mouth is 0:20:41.480 --> 0:20:46.320 just wild to me. You drink avocado, you gotta bring it. 0:20:46.320 --> 0:20:48.520 It's a cheese foam, bring it on. Third, I don't 0:20:48.520 --> 0:20:51.359 think it's like real cheese. I mean, I don't know 0:20:51.400 --> 0:20:54.119 why they call it cheese foam. Maybe it's just milk, 0:20:54.400 --> 0:20:56.480 the same milk that's used to make cheese or something. 0:20:56.480 --> 0:21:00.880 Do you drink a real milk? No? Not on purpose, 0:21:02.680 --> 0:21:05.760 like I don't buy real milk, but like if I'm 0:21:05.800 --> 0:21:11.320 out and about and I eat something that's made with milk, oops, 0:21:12.880 --> 0:21:15.040 like you don't you're not like doesn't taller? Oh I am, 0:21:15.520 --> 0:21:21.560 so I go directly on, but I am. Oh as 0:21:21.560 --> 0:21:24.680 soon as I'm like, this is not all man, i'd 0:21:24.720 --> 0:21:28.960 be bit. Let me tell you, I loving nut milk. Now, 0:21:29.640 --> 0:21:37.040 that's really like it's bush. I don't like milk, like, 0:21:37.160 --> 0:21:40.840 not like a cashew, not at the dick, because that's 0:21:40.920 --> 0:21:43.800 not that's nut milk. I'm such a cum slat, like 0:21:43.840 --> 0:21:47.320 it's sick. She loves she does, dude, you know, do 0:21:47.359 --> 0:21:49.439 you know I've been starting to like it. But the 0:21:49.480 --> 0:21:53.360 thing is my man stays hard, so like he'll come 0:21:53.359 --> 0:21:55.760 all over my face and then we'll be going for 0:21:55.800 --> 0:21:58.080 a second round, and I'm like, baby, you gotta hurry 0:21:58.160 --> 0:21:59.720 up and come again, because now the whole side of 0:21:59.760 --> 0:22:04.960 my face it feels like concrete, the whole side of 0:22:04.960 --> 0:22:09.680 my face. Be like, babe, I can't move like a math, 0:22:10.320 --> 0:22:14.520 you know. But after a while, I'm you know, it's 0:22:14.560 --> 0:22:17.280 it's a little my way. What have you been doing? Honestly, 0:22:18.800 --> 0:22:25.320 a little book tight nigga? That ship dry. My face 0:22:26.240 --> 0:22:29.000 is numb on one side, like it's literally like I've 0:22:29.040 --> 0:22:32.360 got one of them, like mun math. And it's like 0:22:33.440 --> 0:22:36.240 before we go to the third round, I have to 0:22:36.280 --> 0:22:37.840 wash my face. I was gonna act and I want 0:22:37.840 --> 0:22:40.199 to be too t m I. But how many, just 0:22:41.920 --> 0:22:43.840 how many blasts you take to the face until you're 0:22:43.880 --> 0:22:47.640 like no more. I've never had enough. And it's been 0:22:47.640 --> 0:22:49.600 like I'm not gonna lie. Well, you know I've come 0:22:49.640 --> 0:22:51.720 like ten times, and well my man has come ten 0:22:51.760 --> 0:22:57.199 times in a morning. Um, I'm not gonna lie. I 0:22:57.320 --> 0:22:59.800 just say, switch it up, so come on my back, 0:23:00.040 --> 0:23:04.120 then come on my face. Then I'd be like inside me, please, inside, 0:23:04.600 --> 0:23:07.600 Why you do that? Because I just like but also 0:23:07.800 --> 0:23:10.080 I like to keep count of the of the nuts, 0:23:10.600 --> 0:23:12.320 so I like, I like further to be like a 0:23:12.440 --> 0:23:13.960 rotating thing, so I could be like, well he came 0:23:13.960 --> 0:23:16.879 on my ask twice, inside of me one and a 0:23:16.920 --> 0:23:19.960 half and then on my face three. Yeah. Yeah, this 0:23:20.040 --> 0:23:23.159 is all like one session. But I like this is 0:23:23.200 --> 0:23:24.919 how I really keep counting. I like to be like, 0:23:24.960 --> 0:23:28.000 well you came here this many times, here, this many times, here, 0:23:28.040 --> 0:23:30.160 this many times? Does it get clear right? Like I've 0:23:30.200 --> 0:23:32.400 noticed like when dudes come over and over it gets 0:23:32.400 --> 0:23:35.080 a little clearer. Oh, it was so cute. The other 0:23:35.160 --> 0:23:37.320 day he came on pussy right and then we was 0:23:37.359 --> 0:23:39.840 just laying He had his little last dick right here, 0:23:41.000 --> 0:23:43.240