WEBVTT - Ep 230: The foursome (Ft. Shan Boody and Jared Brady) 0:00:02.520 --> 0:00:06.040 Guess what decision we're about to make a horrible decisions. 0:00:08.680 --> 0:00:13.680 Hey guys, welcome to yet another episode of horrible decisions. 0:00:13.720 --> 0:00:16.440 I'm your girl, man to be a full corp. Pumps okay, 0:00:16.640 --> 0:00:19.680 pet to sall you baby? Yes, she big aka debt 0:00:19.680 --> 0:00:22.960 bitch and Hi, I'm wheezy. You're getting their feet. They're 0:00:22.960 --> 0:00:27.160 free on YouTube today. Um, we have very special guest. 0:00:27.320 --> 0:00:31.560 Very special. This is our first couple of foursome, isn't no, 0:00:31.760 --> 0:00:34.000 we don't have some couples of the year they want to. 0:00:35.000 --> 0:00:36.720 I mean, I'd be wanting to funk a lot of people. 0:00:36.800 --> 0:00:38.360 I just don't say it on the mic. You never 0:00:38.400 --> 0:00:40.880 said it to me before. Well, first off, both of 0:00:40.960 --> 0:00:42.960 y'all come off very innocent. And I really don't like 0:00:43.000 --> 0:00:45.720 to feel like I'm corrupting people because I don't want 0:00:45.720 --> 0:00:48.159 to feel like I'm corrupting people. I like dealing with 0:00:48.200 --> 0:00:55.640 like just bitches that spew Ho you don't white? Okay, 0:00:55.680 --> 0:01:01.080 that's good. You speel sex like like like Classy said, 0:01:02.080 --> 0:01:05.640 like Classy said, like, I don't know if you would 0:01:05.640 --> 0:01:08.000 spit in my mouth if I asked you to, if 0:01:08.000 --> 0:01:11.080 you asked me, if she asked me to A thousand percent. 0:01:11.200 --> 0:01:13.240 It may not come natural to me, those he instincts 0:01:13.280 --> 0:01:16.760 are correct, but Ida a team player in the bedroom, 0:01:16.840 --> 0:01:18.679 so I would do as you ask, I love, And 0:01:18.720 --> 0:01:22.759 you know what, y'all probably already got the voice if 0:01:22.800 --> 0:01:28.200 you haven't yet. We are joined by YouTuber extraordinary, sexologist, 0:01:28.280 --> 0:01:37.600 sexpert and everything great Shan Bootist and her man, and 0:01:37.720 --> 0:01:39.959 we are joined by someone which, ironically, the last time 0:01:39.959 --> 0:01:42.920 we had you on Shan, y'all weren't yet married, right, 0:01:43.360 --> 0:01:47.000 but you were discussing married. I think you were engaged. No, 0:01:47.080 --> 0:01:49.480 I think she was engaged. But and we talked about 0:01:49.480 --> 0:01:53.000 it being her booty partner like it was her buddy, 0:01:52.720 --> 0:01:57.640 her booty partner. Uh so you actually beat beat all 0:01:57.680 --> 0:02:02.520 the odds and ended up marrying your booty call lover Jared, 0:02:02.760 --> 0:02:05.200 who was here, who was also a podcast the Guys 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:07.840 with some really fine co host. Okay, I just want 0:02:07.840 --> 0:02:12.600 to keep shot, sorry girl, love good. Oh yeah, go ahead, 0:02:12.639 --> 0:02:15.240 tell them where they could find you enjoy the podcast 0:02:15.800 --> 0:02:18.720 anywhere that you stream your favorite podcast. And he's not 0:02:18.760 --> 0:02:21.119 telling you to enjoy it. That's the name, So don't 0:02:21.200 --> 0:02:22.600 enjoy it. Do you know where I played your song 0:02:22.760 --> 0:02:26.400 like whole but time? Really? Yeah? You are learning your 0:02:26.560 --> 0:02:36.200 romantic I can tell him. So he's also an artist. Guys, 0:02:36.720 --> 0:02:39.239 you know I swear. And then I said I don't 0:02:39.680 --> 0:02:41.920 remember where I played it, and this girl was like, 0:02:41.960 --> 0:02:46.239 is that Sham's man? I was like, damn, you can't play. 0:02:48.320 --> 0:02:50.240 I loved the video. I'd love that you were in it. 0:02:50.760 --> 0:02:54.480 You guys are honestly the definition to me of support. 0:02:55.120 --> 0:02:59.480 You are just the most loving, supportive, arms wide open 0:02:59.600 --> 0:03:01.640 women that I have ever met before. It's not just 0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:07.240 our brand. Arms and legs are open people have ever 0:03:07.280 --> 0:03:08.679 met before. I think that I don't know if you 0:03:08.720 --> 0:03:14.120 get the credit you deserve for being such beautiful. I 0:03:14.160 --> 0:03:18.280 want to call you like wounds no, because like you 0:03:18.320 --> 0:03:20.799 guys house greatness, and like you give back to others 0:03:20.800 --> 0:03:23.320 in such nourishing and enriching ways. I just never felt 0:03:23.360 --> 0:03:25.400 an ounce of hate from you ever. I think it's 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:29.160 because we probably feel it from you. To My first 0:03:29.200 --> 0:03:32.640 time meeting shan Um was at her house and I 0:03:32.680 --> 0:03:35.720 was like having a really weird like moment in time 0:03:35.760 --> 0:03:37.640 with love and like, I just felt like you were 0:03:37.720 --> 0:03:40.880 very sincere. And I think just a lot of people 0:03:40.920 --> 0:03:42.440 have done a lot of inter views with people and 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:44.160 they're just like ready to kick you out, you know 0:03:44.200 --> 0:03:45.760 what I mean. It is not like I had to stay. 0:03:45.800 --> 0:03:47.720 But you know, when someone can feel that you're hurting 0:03:47.760 --> 0:03:52.960 a little bit. I think that good people. It's not 0:03:53.000 --> 0:03:55.240 easy to tell, you know what I mean. I think 0:03:55.360 --> 0:03:57.040 that's why you have so many fans. But we all 0:03:57.080 --> 0:03:59.920 look the same and do the same thing. No, it's 0:04:00.120 --> 0:04:04.160 have agreed a very different you know how. I know 0:04:04.240 --> 0:04:07.040 that's not true because you even said we don't get 0:04:07.120 --> 0:04:08.840 like people wouldn't know that or we don't get their 0:04:08.880 --> 0:04:11.880 credit in that way, like you definitely give like, oh, 0:04:11.960 --> 0:04:14.520 I can see why she's a mom not us, Okay, 0:04:14.560 --> 0:04:16.480 I mean no, I mean like we talked about Yeah, 0:04:16.520 --> 0:04:22.280 she was talking about yeah, I say, mom, you have 0:04:22.400 --> 0:04:25.520 maternal sweet like oh bitch, and here I ago. I'm 0:04:25.520 --> 0:04:29.840 thinking she's talking about by racial nosts, what we do 0:04:29.920 --> 0:04:32.400 look alike. And we talk about sex. I mean by 0:04:32.400 --> 0:04:34.040 that is we could be competing with each other, We 0:04:34.040 --> 0:04:35.960 could be at each other's throats and trying to undermine 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:38.279 and undercut. But it's not that at all, Right, we 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:43.640 ain't the rap girls. Well, I'm excited to do an 0:04:43.640 --> 0:04:46.960 icebreaker with you guys, because um, Jared off Mike. I 0:04:47.080 --> 0:04:50.520 told him that. Someone was like, oh my god, I 0:04:50.560 --> 0:04:52.720 can't wait for you to talk sex with Jared because 0:04:52.760 --> 0:04:55.720 he's so delicate and looks so easy. They said, he 0:04:55.760 --> 0:04:59.039 delicately talks about sex, So I think that we have 0:04:59.160 --> 0:05:01.159 to get it, get a the little yeah, a little 0:05:01.240 --> 0:05:03.840 runch say that. I don't know. That's the first time 0:05:03.880 --> 0:05:06.520 I'm hearing that that's not true. Kevin takes the same thing, 0:05:07.200 --> 0:05:11.200 Kevin the way I look, or is it the way 0:05:11.240 --> 0:05:12.440 I look or the way so I'm not gonna like 0:05:12.520 --> 0:05:15.280 we said your your braids were giving boy now when 0:05:15.279 --> 0:05:18.039 it's just in a good way back pony's heel, It's like, 0:05:18.600 --> 0:05:21.960 all he looks so nice, but that that's a secret power. 0:05:22.160 --> 0:05:24.400 Not a secret power, that's a secret power. Those are 0:05:24.480 --> 0:05:29.600 dangerous ones. So you're dangerous. Damn same to date, you're 0:05:29.680 --> 0:05:33.240 very nice. You are very nice. Though okay, I'm very nice. Yes, 0:05:33.360 --> 0:05:35.560 you are very nice. The tats that sucked it up 0:05:35.560 --> 0:05:38.000 for me like that made me feel like, oh, he's 0:05:38.120 --> 0:05:40.480 not what I thought he was. So you don't get 0:05:40.520 --> 0:05:44.599 the vibe that I'm delicate. No, it's changed over the years. 0:05:45.320 --> 0:05:47.800 Maybe the more I've gotten to No, Shaan, I'm like, Nah, 0:05:47.880 --> 0:05:54.680 she wouldn't be with no cornball cornball a cornball? Yeah, 0:05:54.800 --> 0:05:57.280 I don't think. But when you said like wouldn't talk 0:05:57.320 --> 0:05:59.839 about sex or wouldn't do certain things, that's why I said, 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:03.279 I will say too. In my first time meeting you 0:06:03.320 --> 0:06:05.440 was I wanted to move in. I'm not gonna lie. 0:06:05.640 --> 0:06:08.000 He was coming in setting up the lights and babe, 0:06:08.000 --> 0:06:10.400 do you need anything else? And it was just I 0:06:10.520 --> 0:06:13.160 felt the love. But now we're gonna get into the team, 0:06:14.080 --> 0:06:17.600 so we're gonna start. Um. I got these questions from 0:06:17.640 --> 0:06:20.800 a game shout out black owned last couple standing. But 0:06:21.160 --> 0:06:23.840 again with us having are you familiar with Omar and 0:06:23.880 --> 0:06:25.720 the whole team over there? I feel like they sent 0:06:25.800 --> 0:06:27.560 me a pack of cards that could be oh my god, 0:06:27.680 --> 0:06:30.040 y'all may have to do this at home, and hopefully 0:06:30.120 --> 0:06:32.240 you don't like break up for it because the questions 0:06:32.240 --> 0:06:35.040 are intense, But it's to get you, guys to communicate 0:06:35.080 --> 0:06:37.159 as a couple and really see each other. I picked 0:06:37.200 --> 0:06:40.160 the less messy ones out, so this less messy, the 0:06:40.279 --> 0:06:43.720 less messy. You and your partner and your kid are 0:06:43.720 --> 0:06:45.840 about to get evicted and have no place to go. 0:06:46.440 --> 0:06:49.159 Your partners X will give you the money to pay 0:06:49.200 --> 0:06:52.760 the rent only if they could have sex one last time? 0:06:52.880 --> 0:07:00.120 Do you accept the money? So thou let' rep been 0:07:01.680 --> 0:07:04.839 so your partner's X will give you the money to 0:07:04.920 --> 0:07:07.599 pay the rent only if they can have sex one 0:07:07.640 --> 0:07:10.120 more time? Do you accept the money? Take the money. 0:07:10.160 --> 0:07:12.480 That's why you could be on the street. I take 0:07:12.520 --> 0:07:17.200 the money. We'll do it, Okay, No, no, baby, Be 0:07:17.320 --> 0:07:19.520 honest with you, Jay, I would be completely comfortable with 0:07:19.560 --> 0:07:21.840 you having sex with the X right now for no reason, 0:07:22.600 --> 0:07:24.680 just for the joy of it. I think also too, 0:07:25.000 --> 0:07:26.840 I think Jared's so good and bad that I like 0:07:26.880 --> 0:07:31.120 to lend him out because yes, I'm just a commodity 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:37.239 my partner. I'll be honest with you. So I've literally 0:07:37.800 --> 0:07:41.360 my friends can't spend the night over anymore at this point, 0:07:41.400 --> 0:07:44.360 everyone who has um has sucked me and my man 0:07:44.760 --> 0:07:47.960 and so literally though they said, well, they were like, 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:52.200 I'm we'll talk he slept over, she hasn't, But it's 0:07:52.320 --> 0:07:55.800 literally just like they're like, thank you for sharing your boyfriend. 0:07:56.320 --> 0:08:01.440 But also this experience was so like amazing. So even 0:08:01.440 --> 0:08:03.360 for you to say that, I don't think most women, 0:08:04.080 --> 0:08:06.760 even though their partners are great, especially in the bedroom, 0:08:06.920 --> 0:08:09.280 would be open enough to kind of share. I love it, 0:08:09.320 --> 0:08:12.320 I live for even I fantasize about you and other 0:08:12.360 --> 0:08:15.200 people all the time when we're having sex. So do 0:08:15.280 --> 0:08:16.720 you know what it is too? I don't know if 0:08:16.760 --> 0:08:19.040 we know how to have a three summer, how to 0:08:19.080 --> 0:08:21.160 ask somebody else to enter into it, but I think 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:26.400 it would be one about okay. Well, for one, when 0:08:26.440 --> 0:08:28.360 you say you don't want to ask, does that mean 0:08:28.760 --> 0:08:31.120 the moment has come and you like, can you guys 0:08:31.160 --> 0:08:34.280 think the moment hasn't came? I think one, we don't 0:08:34.280 --> 0:08:37.360 go out enough to like catch a vibe with somebody 0:08:37.520 --> 0:08:39.960 and then come back or go to their house or anything, 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:42.319 So that's fair. Yeah, I don't think we ever been 0:08:42.320 --> 0:08:46.120 in a position to do that. Go I mean, prett baby, 0:08:46.120 --> 0:08:48.080 we went out. No, but I'm saying like we're not. 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:50.839 That's being proposition. I mean I just think that I 0:08:52.280 --> 0:08:54.319 receiving how you are, even how you were saying, your 0:08:54.320 --> 0:08:57.280 fans have given you so much more than just like love, 0:08:57.320 --> 0:09:00.000 They've given you support in other ways. I don't really 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:01.600 get that. So I just don't think maybe like my 0:09:01.760 --> 0:09:05.959 arms aren't open to receiving all the abundance, don't You're fine? 0:09:06.600 --> 0:09:12.000 I don't know what that drop the ball, you know 0:09:12.040 --> 0:09:15.920 what I was saying, This is kind of I think 0:09:15.960 --> 0:09:18.640 we're a little bit more relatable than you. No disrespect 0:09:18.679 --> 0:09:22.959 here me out like weird telling stories are There was 0:09:23.000 --> 0:09:25.240 the premise of being these nine to five girls talking 0:09:25.240 --> 0:09:29.720 about everyday experiences with sex, and people have watched this 0:09:29.800 --> 0:09:32.800 climb with us, and you have to talk from a 0:09:32.960 --> 0:09:35.800 very like we We asked questions a lot like I 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:37.360 don't know if that's right, you know what I mean, 0:09:37.760 --> 0:09:40.600 but you have you know it all. I think that's 0:09:40.600 --> 0:09:42.920 not true though, because today you stumped me. In the 0:09:42.960 --> 0:09:45.720 first one. You're speaking and you're looking at that camera 0:09:46.400 --> 0:09:53.240 he's giving I'm saying back like someone being like nah 0:09:53.400 --> 0:09:58.400 or almost intimidated, especially women, you know, because you just 0:09:58.640 --> 0:10:02.079 never know, even though you've discussed like feeling sexual and 0:10:02.080 --> 0:10:04.440 and and like being open to that. You even said that, 0:10:04.440 --> 0:10:06.520 I think on my episode, but I could see them 0:10:06.559 --> 0:10:09.560 being like unsure and the other thing I'm curious to know, 0:10:09.640 --> 0:10:16.079 would you guys ever try a dating app together? No, personally, 0:10:16.120 --> 0:10:18.680 I want to get the vibe off of somebody, you 0:10:18.720 --> 0:10:20.719 know what I mean, Like there's just something about in 0:10:20.720 --> 0:10:23.920 person things, so for you guys, you've had three sums. 0:10:23.960 --> 0:10:29.960 How does that six of Simpsons? And so I don't 0:10:29.960 --> 0:10:31.720 have sex club three SEMs? Oh yeah, I go to 0:10:31.760 --> 0:10:35.840 the sex club, not any sex club. You get invited 0:10:35.880 --> 0:10:38.720 to a certain one. Yeah, so there there's uh, there's 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:40.320 the one that we both are familiar with and we 0:10:40.360 --> 0:10:43.040 have the owner your ands w which is the members only. 0:10:43.400 --> 0:10:45.199 And now the one that I go to in Brooklyn 0:10:45.280 --> 0:10:47.200 is an all black one and it is invite only, 0:10:47.240 --> 0:10:50.160 like and they curate um, the certain people that they might. 0:10:50.400 --> 0:10:54.040 It's it's great, yeah, but in an environment that's not 0:10:54.120 --> 0:10:57.520 like so I'm normally it happens within like clubs or bars, 0:10:58.080 --> 0:11:01.640 and most of the time it has been like listen listeners, 0:11:01.679 --> 0:11:04.280 like all of two thousand nineteen people listen to horrible station. 0:11:04.440 --> 0:11:07.679 Really terrible to say, but did that work out for 0:11:07.720 --> 0:11:10.439 the best all of you? Only one person was like 0:11:10.520 --> 0:11:13.280 a weirdo fan um and I only know this because 0:11:13.280 --> 0:11:15.000 she faced timed her home girl while she was drunk 0:11:15.000 --> 0:11:19.040 in my apartment. Was like, yeah, this wheezy house and 0:11:19.080 --> 0:11:21.240 if that's just weird, god, that's not bad. Though, that's 0:11:21.240 --> 0:11:22.760 not that's not too bad. That could have gotten a 0:11:22.760 --> 0:11:24.720 whole lot of days. But that just leads you into 0:11:24.800 --> 0:11:27.760 what else are you capable of doing? If you could 0:11:27.760 --> 0:11:31.240 do that in my face? Yeah, certain people, if I 0:11:31.280 --> 0:11:33.000 had a three, if I had sex with them, I'm 0:11:33.000 --> 0:11:35.520 definitely telling people about it, and I'm making a video 0:11:35.520 --> 0:11:48.160 in their apartment. Be but Okay, I don't believe. I 0:11:48.200 --> 0:11:50.319 don't believe I wouldn't get caught making it. So she 0:11:50.400 --> 0:11:53.720 probably Yeah, that's she didn't do it while you were aware. 0:11:53.880 --> 0:11:56.520 I wasn't a famous person's house recently, not for sex, 0:11:56.600 --> 0:11:58.440 like a party type thing, And I was like, bit, 0:11:58.559 --> 0:12:03.200 look at his best room, Like, um, you are okay, 0:12:03.240 --> 0:12:06.400 I'll tell you. I want to ask you'all another place shim. 0:12:06.559 --> 0:12:10.800 So the next one, your husband doesn't like your best 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:14.439 friend of twenty years sham and says she has to go. 0:12:15.480 --> 0:12:18.560 Do you drop your friend or lose their husband? Jared 0:12:18.559 --> 0:12:22.200 would rarely ever answer the question if I would. I would. 0:12:22.520 --> 0:12:25.360 I'm saying I would drop the friend, Okay, not because 0:12:25.679 --> 0:12:29.840 because I just trust your instincts so much and you 0:12:29.920 --> 0:12:31.920 just would never ever do that. So for you to 0:12:31.960 --> 0:12:33.400 do that, you would have to know that this person. 0:12:33.440 --> 0:12:34.800 You would have to see something in that. Yeah. Crow 0:12:34.840 --> 0:12:37.160 warts people in their sleep. Yeah, I I would drop 0:12:37.200 --> 0:12:39.640 the friend too. It's just like you're with somebody that's 0:12:39.640 --> 0:12:42.520 a life partner. They provide more than just a friendship. 0:12:43.240 --> 0:12:45.040 You have to go with that because I want to 0:12:45.040 --> 0:12:48.839 say that Dick, Jared, huh, that's more than the friendship. Yes, 0:12:48.880 --> 0:12:55.199 that's kind of it like that. What I mean to 0:12:55.240 --> 0:12:58.480 say is that, like you know, with your partner, your 0:12:58.520 --> 0:13:00.959 partner knows you probably more intimate lead then your friend. 0:13:01.360 --> 0:13:03.440 And so if she can, if she could spot that 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:06.600 there's a bad person around me, I gotta trust that instinct. 0:13:06.679 --> 0:13:08.280 You know, I can make a case for it. I 0:13:08.280 --> 0:13:10.079 could be like, well, you know, am I allowed one 0:13:10.120 --> 0:13:13.679 bad friend? You know you're you're allowed one bad friend? Right? 0:13:13.800 --> 0:13:15.120 Do you do? You know? Do you all both know 0:13:15.120 --> 0:13:16.760 who it is? I know who you're one bad friend is, 0:13:16.800 --> 0:13:19.320 but that person has been edged away over time, and 0:13:19.360 --> 0:13:21.680 I didn't shove, but I've definitely been nudging or just 0:13:21.720 --> 0:13:24.320 blowing from a distance, like going, and I'm blowing from 0:13:24.679 --> 0:13:28.480 my bad friend, not just me, like I'm the one. 0:13:28.480 --> 0:13:31.080 Friends ain't bad. Friends are not bad, even though the boyfriends. 0:13:31.080 --> 0:13:33.920 I'm the friend that once my friends get boyfriends, I'm 0:13:33.960 --> 0:13:36.120 the friend out of nowhere. They don't want them. When 0:13:36.160 --> 0:13:38.240 I say, I mean like drag you out, not even 0:13:38.360 --> 0:13:40.920 like make you Like I'm not saying like that, but 0:13:41.040 --> 0:13:43.080 like they can be like yeah, I know when you 0:13:43.080 --> 0:13:44.920 go out with easy you get too crazy and like 0:13:45.440 --> 0:13:47.920 girl I would be in FaceTime like she talking to 0:13:47.960 --> 0:13:49.600 her man would be on the couch. Oh my god. Yeah, 0:13:49.800 --> 0:13:53.360 and I'm let's go, I mean ready. But also I 0:13:53.360 --> 0:13:56.679 don't feel like that bad. I mean I like that 0:13:56.720 --> 0:13:59.360 side of you, and I like when you come home drunk. 0:13:59.400 --> 0:14:01.679 I like all of at So I mean kind of drunk? 0:14:01.679 --> 0:14:03.720 Are you? What kind of what kind of drunking? Guy? 0:14:05.760 --> 0:14:08.319 I just sucked in the bathroom of a bar. I'd 0:14:08.360 --> 0:14:11.400 be ready, but like I'll be desperate for that one 0:14:11.480 --> 0:14:14.320 dick that I want. Like it's not like I'll take 0:14:14.360 --> 0:14:17.040 anybody saying because I love text in the middle of it, 0:14:17.120 --> 0:14:18.480 like I'm sucked up. I can't wait to get you. 0:14:18.600 --> 0:14:20.320 Oh my god, blah blah blah, show me what you 0:14:20.400 --> 0:14:25.320 wearing like I'm extra so shan hood wink me when 0:14:25.320 --> 0:14:28.000 it came to drinking, Wait, what do that mean? Like 0:14:28.000 --> 0:14:30.840 like fake me out because I don't drink. Oh wait, 0:14:30.880 --> 0:14:32.720 so you were you were not? Really? Wait we went 0:14:32.760 --> 0:14:35.200 to a club and I bought her a drink and 0:14:35.240 --> 0:14:38.200 she was that's not she had to drink, like she 0:14:38.240 --> 0:14:40.040 had to drink. And I remember midway through and she 0:14:40.040 --> 0:14:42.000 started acting like she was drunk and everything. I'm just 0:14:42.080 --> 0:14:45.760 having a great time. No, she was acting. She was acting, 0:14:45.800 --> 0:14:47.560 and I was like, damn, this is cool. You're fun, 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:49.960 you're drinking. And then we got together and now when 0:14:49.960 --> 0:14:51.720 we go out, I have to be the only one drinking, 0:14:52.240 --> 0:14:54.600 so I'm not. I'm but I enjoy it, so I'm 0:14:54.600 --> 0:14:58.160 just like continue, yes, yes, thank god. Yeah, I would 0:14:58.160 --> 0:15:00.240 hate to be with someone that didn't drink. And was like, 0:15:00.320 --> 0:15:05.760 is that's your third Yeah, can go out with non drinkers. 0:15:06.240 --> 0:15:08.000 I don't mind what I went on drinkers as long 0:15:08.040 --> 0:15:13.520 as they're the energy is the same. You know. Um 0:15:13.760 --> 0:15:15.920 we have I won't say his name, but there's a 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:19.080 friend of mine who doesn't drink or smoke and people 0:15:19.240 --> 0:15:22.320 ask if he does cocaine because he's so hyper and 0:15:22.400 --> 0:15:24.400 he's a party host and m C and like he's 0:15:24.400 --> 0:15:27.640 just got the fucking vibe and like, I don't know 0:15:27.680 --> 0:15:29.320 how some people could do that because I need a 0:15:29.320 --> 0:15:33.000 litlst them to like be all like but when you 0:15:33.040 --> 0:15:34.840 have it, you have it. And I think we got 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:37.040 to get over that ship in her head sometimes because 0:15:37.080 --> 0:15:39.680 I'm definitely that person. Even if someone doesn't want to drink, 0:15:39.720 --> 0:15:41.600 but they do, I'm like, that's a little bit, you're 0:15:41.640 --> 0:15:45.080 gonna leave me alone. Not the peer pressure, but like no, 0:15:45.320 --> 0:15:51.800 not like d u I peer pressure. Last question, and 0:15:51.880 --> 0:15:54.720 this one actually came from a Patreon episode as well, 0:15:54.760 --> 0:15:58.600 where Wheezy shared this um. But both of you, I 0:15:58.600 --> 0:16:00.840 would like each of you to tell your partner about 0:16:00.840 --> 0:16:02.640 the last time they gave you a gift that you 0:16:02.720 --> 0:16:08.080 didn't like. Man, we're just talking about how much I'm 0:16:08.080 --> 0:16:09.760 not a good gift giver, so I like not to 0:16:09.880 --> 0:16:12.160 offense this at all. But also the truth is I 0:16:12.240 --> 0:16:15.240 very rarely give you gifts. Oh you know what's so 0:16:15.280 --> 0:16:17.960 sad that Jared said? He was like, nobody has ever 0:16:18.080 --> 0:16:22.040 given you a Valentine's Day gift before? That's me. He 0:16:22.120 --> 0:16:25.320 gives me gifts. Ever, I'm just not good. I'm very 0:16:25.360 --> 0:16:29.200 generous though, yes I can't say about myself that sounds corny, 0:16:29.240 --> 0:16:31.360 but you are, you are, you are. But I'm not 0:16:31.400 --> 0:16:33.280 a good gift giver, So I don't you would rather 0:16:33.360 --> 0:16:35.720 you would rather be like, let's go to the store 0:16:35.800 --> 0:16:39.080 and you pick out what you want, rather than like, oh, 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:46.920 let me into it, yeah, and the rest out the 0:16:46.920 --> 0:16:49.320 whole time, Well, you're not like I just don't enjoy 0:16:49.360 --> 0:16:51.600 the experience, and I'm just like, man, I'd rather just 0:16:51.640 --> 0:16:54.200 be like, go dinner, whatever you want. I can't say 0:16:54.240 --> 0:16:55.920 that there was a gift that she didn't like, that 0:16:55.960 --> 0:16:57.480 I didn't like that she gave me, but I will 0:16:57.520 --> 0:16:59.760 say that there's a lot of times when we're going 0:16:59.760 --> 0:17:02.240 out to eat and she tries to force me to 0:17:02.360 --> 0:17:04.760 eat something that I don't like, and I know that 0:17:04.840 --> 0:17:07.200 I don't like it, and she's just like just try, 0:17:07.359 --> 0:17:11.000 just like, like, what's an example, um, because that's me. 0:17:11.200 --> 0:17:14.560 For one, you heard earlier she puts, uh, vine or 0:17:14.560 --> 0:17:17.399 what is it, vinegar, vinegar on her apple side, vinegar 0:17:17.440 --> 0:17:21.360 on her popcorn. I don't want that. That's not that's 0:17:21.359 --> 0:17:23.280 an extreme. Jared doesn't want to try anything, which is 0:17:23.320 --> 0:17:26.720 probably like an octopus like I don't mind, I'm gonna 0:17:26.760 --> 0:17:28.720 venturely eat, but I know it don't sound like because 0:17:28.720 --> 0:17:30.240 we know you're turning to the bone. So what should 0:17:30.240 --> 0:17:34.159 be making him like? Love? That's one thing him and 0:17:34.200 --> 0:17:36.280 my dad bonded off of that, Jared will eat any 0:17:36.320 --> 0:17:41.280 West Indian, any Indiana. That's right, I actually do like it. 0:17:41.400 --> 0:17:44.359 Like in l A, we can't get doubles. Okay, I 0:17:44.560 --> 0:17:48.679 miss eating which any West Indian people out there. Jared 0:17:48.760 --> 0:17:52.400 once was like, what what are those Caribbean burgers? So 0:17:53.119 --> 0:17:59.720 not Caribbean murder that was cute? Were good though they 0:17:59.720 --> 0:18:02.520 are good? What is it? Tell us the food? It 0:18:02.560 --> 0:18:05.119 could be anything, Honestly, to God, anything that comes from me. 0:18:05.160 --> 0:18:07.159 I think that. I think because I pressure you so 0:18:07.280 --> 0:18:09.879 much too, I feel like you're more if you offered it, 0:18:09.920 --> 0:18:11.639 he would say yes. If I offered it, he'd be 0:18:11.680 --> 0:18:14.440 like no and get aggressive about it. That's not just true, 0:18:14.520 --> 0:18:16.439 that's not true. If I know I'm not gonna like it, 0:18:16.480 --> 0:18:18.600 I just won't. Okay, what's your Jared pet peeves? Since 0:18:18.600 --> 0:18:24.680 it ain't get my pet peeve? Jared, um, Oh my gosh, 0:18:25.440 --> 0:18:27.639 I know. I hey, am, I don't have a perfect man. 0:18:27.720 --> 0:18:29.560 But I trying to think of like a specific thing 0:18:29.640 --> 0:18:31.800 that really bothers me because we all think it. We 0:18:31.880 --> 0:18:34.000 all think you guys the perfect couple. So tell us 0:18:34.040 --> 0:18:37.800 something because this is sad. The worst thing is the food. 0:18:37.960 --> 0:18:39.200 This is not the worst thing. You just when you ask. 0:18:39.320 --> 0:18:41.040 Since you said the worst gift, you said the worst gift, 0:18:41.320 --> 0:18:45.359 you gotta thank you so much. Um, I don't know. Listen, 0:18:45.400 --> 0:18:46.880 I'll come back to it. There's probably tons of best 0:18:47.600 --> 0:18:49.440 I feel terrible. Well, we got some questions, so we 0:18:49.520 --> 0:18:52.920 don't get there. So we're gonna get into look our 0:18:53.000 --> 0:18:55.159 vanilla ship that comes from the New York Times. And 0:18:55.160 --> 0:18:57.480 I thought that this would be really great, especially even 0:18:57.520 --> 0:19:00.680 seeing that you guys clearly have different level. Language is everything? Uh, 0:19:00.760 --> 0:19:02.600 this one is actually and I want to know. That's 0:19:02.640 --> 0:19:04.120 what I'll say. Let me say that it's a big one. 0:19:06.160 --> 0:19:10.880 He is not affectionate, so what's crazy? That's what this 0:19:10.960 --> 0:19:12.800 is about. And I want to know if you are 0:19:12.800 --> 0:19:17.880 familiar with the term inter intimate relationships. No, I'm not familiar. 0:19:19.320 --> 0:19:22.959 I want to know not affectionate? Is it text message? 0:19:22.960 --> 0:19:27.200 Is it physical touch? Is it affirmation? What affection? Would 0:19:27.240 --> 0:19:31.960 you want? More physical? More physical? For sure? Physical? Yea 0:19:32.000 --> 0:19:34.520 more physical touch? A thousand that's not associated with sex. 0:19:35.520 --> 0:19:37.960 That's my number one, Jared. This is where you softly 0:19:37.960 --> 0:19:46.600 put your hand on her shoulder. Yeah, and see what's yours? 0:19:47.480 --> 0:19:52.840 My love language? Quality time? Quality time? Yeah, that's now 0:19:53.520 --> 0:19:55.879 and acts of service only because I've never received it 0:19:55.960 --> 0:20:01.920 until recently that I know. Now, there's a backstory to 0:20:02.040 --> 0:20:05.000 my physical touch thing. You know, there's this back story. 0:20:05.080 --> 0:20:08.359 There's there's things there that I'm working through. Um, are 0:20:08.400 --> 0:20:11.320 you sharing it? I could share it? Yeah, So when 0:20:11.320 --> 0:20:14.080 I like my first experience with like physical touch, I 0:20:14.119 --> 0:20:19.320 remember I was in middle school or freshman year, and 0:20:19.440 --> 0:20:22.119 I was I had a girlfriend and I was walking 0:20:22.160 --> 0:20:24.159 with her, holding her hand, and my dad came to 0:20:24.200 --> 0:20:26.600 pick me up and he saw me holding hands with 0:20:26.640 --> 0:20:30.080 this girl and embarrassed me in front of the entire 0:20:30.200 --> 0:20:33.679 like school. Which have you guys ever seen yours dad before? No, 0:20:34.320 --> 0:20:39.040 pull him up right now. He's big, No her his dad. 0:20:39.200 --> 0:20:41.359 He was not at all what you would expect when 0:20:41.440 --> 0:20:44.280 you hear that story. He's grown up, he's grown a lot. 0:20:44.400 --> 0:20:46.359 He's yeah, he's he's a lot better now. We have 0:20:46.400 --> 0:20:48.679 a great relations Back then, was there rules that you 0:20:48.720 --> 0:20:52.320 weren't supposed to have girlfriends? Yes? So, oh yeah there 0:20:52.320 --> 0:20:56.080 it is. Which was your dad? That's his dad? Oh damn, 0:20:56.160 --> 0:21:05.639 that's dad. Yeah, maybe I could come Okay, now I 0:21:05.680 --> 0:21:08.879 could see it. Let me see. He looked like a daddy. 0:21:09.720 --> 0:21:11.480 He looked like a dady said, it's not at always 0:21:11.480 --> 0:21:14.160 you think I see it. He looked like black daddy yea. 0:21:14.800 --> 0:21:16.480 And there was rules to not have it. And but 0:21:16.720 --> 0:21:19.040 also I knew it was out of protection because you know, 0:21:19.160 --> 0:21:21.200