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Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make a horrible decisions.

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Speaker 1: Hey guys, welcome to yet another episode of horrible decisions.

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Speaker 1: I'm your girl, man to be a full corp. Pumps okay,

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Speaker 1: pet to sall you baby? Yes, she big aka debt

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Speaker 1: bitch and Hi, I'm wheezy. You're getting their feet. They're

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Speaker 1: free on YouTube today. Um, we have very special guest.

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Speaker 1: Very special. This is our first couple of foursome, isn't no,

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Speaker 1: we don't have some couples of the year they want to.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'd be wanting to funk a lot of people.

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Speaker 1: I just don't say it on the mic. You never

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Speaker 1: said it to me before. Well, first off, both of

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Speaker 1: y'all come off very innocent. And I really don't like

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Speaker 1: to feel like I'm corrupting people because I don't want

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Speaker 1: to feel like I'm corrupting people. I like dealing with

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Speaker 1: like just bitches that spew Ho you don't white? Okay,

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Speaker 1: that's good. You speel sex like like like Classy said,

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Speaker 1: like Classy said, like, I don't know if you would

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Speaker 1: spit in my mouth if I asked you to, if

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Speaker 1: you asked me, if she asked me to A thousand percent.

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Speaker 1: It may not come natural to me, those he instincts

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Speaker 1: are correct, but Ida a team player in the bedroom,

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Speaker 1: so I would do as you ask, I love, And

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Speaker 1: you know what, y'all probably already got the voice if

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Speaker 1: you haven't yet. We are joined by YouTuber extraordinary, sexologist,

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Speaker 1: sexpert and everything great Shan Bootist and her man, and

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Speaker 1: we are joined by someone which, ironically, the last time

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Speaker 1: we had you on Shan, y'all weren't yet married, right,

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Speaker 1: but you were discussing married. I think you were engaged. No,

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Speaker 1: I think she was engaged. But and we talked about

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Speaker 1: it being her booty partner like it was her buddy,

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Speaker 1: her booty partner. Uh so you actually beat beat all

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Speaker 1: the odds and ended up marrying your booty call lover Jared,

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Speaker 1: who was here, who was also a podcast the Guys

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Speaker 1: with some really fine co host. Okay, I just want

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Speaker 1: to keep shot, sorry girl, love good. Oh yeah, go ahead,

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Speaker 1: tell them where they could find you enjoy the podcast

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Speaker 1: anywhere that you stream your favorite podcast. And he's not

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Speaker 1: telling you to enjoy it. That's the name, So don't

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Speaker 1: enjoy it. Do you know where I played your song

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Speaker 1: like whole but time? Really? Yeah? You are learning your

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Speaker 1: romantic I can tell him. So he's also an artist. Guys,

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Speaker 1: you know I swear. And then I said I don't

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Speaker 1: remember where I played it, and this girl was like,

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Speaker 1: is that Sham's man? I was like, damn, you can't play.

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Speaker 1: I loved the video. I'd love that you were in it.

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Speaker 1: You guys are honestly the definition to me of support.

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Speaker 1: You are just the most loving, supportive, arms wide open

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Speaker 1: women that I have ever met before. It's not just

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Speaker 1: our brand. Arms and legs are open people have ever

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Speaker 1: met before. I think that I don't know if you

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Speaker 1: get the credit you deserve for being such beautiful. I

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Speaker 1: want to call you like wounds no, because like you

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Speaker 1: guys house greatness, and like you give back to others

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Speaker 1: in such nourishing and enriching ways. I just never felt

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Speaker 1: an ounce of hate from you ever. I think it's

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Speaker 1: because we probably feel it from you. To My first

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Speaker 1: time meeting shan Um was at her house and I

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Speaker 1: was like having a really weird like moment in time

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Speaker 1: with love and like, I just felt like you were

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Speaker 1: very sincere. And I think just a lot of people

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Speaker 1: have done a lot of inter views with people and

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Speaker 1: they're just like ready to kick you out, you know

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Speaker 1: what I mean. It is not like I had to stay.

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Speaker 1: But you know, when someone can feel that you're hurting

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Speaker 1: a little bit. I think that good people. It's not

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Speaker 1: easy to tell, you know what I mean. I think

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Speaker 1: that's why you have so many fans. But we all

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Speaker 1: look the same and do the same thing. No, it's

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Speaker 1: have agreed a very different you know how. I know

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Speaker 1: that's not true because you even said we don't get

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Speaker 1: like people wouldn't know that or we don't get their

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Speaker 1: credit in that way, like you definitely give like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I can see why she's a mom not us, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I mean no, I mean like we talked about Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she was talking about yeah, I say, mom, you have

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Speaker 1: thinking she's talking about by racial nosts, what we do

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Speaker 1: look alike. And we talk about sex. I mean by

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Speaker 1: that is we could be competing with each other, We

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Speaker 1: and undercut. But it's not that at all, Right, we

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Speaker 1: ain't the rap girls. Well, I'm excited to do an

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Speaker 1: icebreaker with you guys, because um, Jared off Mike. I

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Speaker 1: told him that. Someone was like, oh my god, I

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Speaker 1: can't wait for you to talk sex with Jared because

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Speaker 1: I'm hearing that that's not true. Kevin takes the same thing,

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Speaker 1: Kevin the way I look, or is it the way

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Speaker 1: I look or the way so I'm not gonna like

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Speaker 1: we said your your braids were giving boy now when

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Speaker 1: it's just in a good way back pony's heel, It's like,

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Speaker 1: all he looks so nice, but that that's a secret power.

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Speaker 1: Not a secret power, that's a secret power. Those are

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Speaker 1: dangerous ones. So you're dangerous. Damn same to date, you're

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Speaker 1: very nice. You are very nice. Though okay, I'm very nice. Yes,

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Speaker 1: you are very nice. The tats that sucked it up

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Speaker 1: the vibe that I'm delicate. No, it's changed over the years.

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Speaker 1: Maybe the more I've gotten to No, Shaan, I'm like, Nah,

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Speaker 1: she wouldn't be with no cornball cornball a cornball? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't think. But when you said like wouldn't talk

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Speaker 1: about sex or wouldn't do certain things, that's why I said,

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Speaker 1: I will say too. In my first time meeting you

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Speaker 1: He was coming in setting up the lights and babe,

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Speaker 1: do you need anything else? And it was just I

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Speaker 1: felt the love. But now we're gonna get into the team,

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Speaker 1: so we're gonna start. Um. I got these questions from

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Speaker 1: a game shout out black owned last couple standing. But

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Speaker 1: me a pack of cards that could be oh my god,

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Speaker 1: you don't like break up for it because the questions

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Speaker 1: the less messy ones out, so this less messy, the

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Speaker 1: less messy. You and your partner and your kid are

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Speaker 1: about to get evicted and have no place to go.

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Speaker 1: Your partners X will give you the money to pay

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Speaker 1: the rent only if they could have sex one last time?

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Speaker 1: Do you accept the money? So thou let' rep been

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Speaker 1: That's why you could be on the street. I take

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Speaker 1: the money. We'll do it, Okay, No, no, baby, Be

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Speaker 1: honest with you, Jay, I would be completely comfortable with

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Speaker 1: you having sex with the X right now for no reason,

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Speaker 1: I think Jared's so good and bad that I like

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Speaker 1: my partner. I'll be honest with you. So I've literally

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Speaker 1: literally just like they're like, thank you for sharing your boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: But also this experience was so like amazing. So even

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Speaker 1: you say you don't want to ask, does that mean

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Speaker 1: the moment has come and you like, can you guys

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Speaker 1: That's being proposition. I mean I just think that I

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Speaker 1: receiving how you are, even how you were saying, your

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Speaker 1: fans have given you so much more than just like love,

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Speaker 1: They've given you support in other ways. I don't really

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Speaker 1: would you guys ever try a dating app together? No, personally,

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Speaker 1: have sex club three SEMs? Oh yeah, I go to

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Speaker 1: the sex club, not any sex club. You get invited

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Speaker 1: And now the one that I go to in Brooklyn

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Speaker 1: like and they curate um, the certain people that they might.

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Speaker 1: Really terrible to say, but did that work out for

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Speaker 1: He is not affectionate, so what's crazy? That's what this

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Speaker 1: I want to know not affectionate? Is it text message?

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Speaker 1: actually kind of what we just said. So it's hugs, backrubs, cuddling,

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Speaker 1: like this one go. But I love that and I

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00:22:31,680 --> 00:22:33,840
Speaker 1: appreciate that, And yes, it has gone better, and I

423
00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:37,480
Speaker 1: acknowledge I'm unreasonably needy when it comes to physical touch,

424
00:22:37,760 --> 00:22:40,360
Speaker 1: to the point I've never had anybody in my life satisfied.

425
00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:44,000
Speaker 1: And I will admit this out loud. Since having a baby,

426
00:22:44,040 --> 00:22:45,840
Speaker 1: I feel like I finally have gotten to a place

427
00:22:46,119 --> 00:22:49,560
Speaker 1: between having Ryu and getting that much physical affection and

428
00:22:49,640 --> 00:22:51,399
Speaker 1: having you where I don't feel like I'm at a

429
00:22:51,480 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 1: lack anymore. Well, I just sent you the article because

430
00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:57,040
Speaker 1: now you're gonna have to do a whole lot of research.

431
00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:01,440
Speaker 1: That's incredible that this dog is just sitting here cuddling you,

432
00:23:01,840 --> 00:23:04,320
Speaker 1: not moving, just being a complete piece with you. Dude.

433
00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:07,399
Speaker 1: This dog is so good. I'm terrified. Like I haven't

434
00:23:07,400 --> 00:23:10,680
Speaker 1: been horny for one for two the physical touch thing

435
00:23:10,800 --> 00:23:15,679
Speaker 1: totally feel the same. Um the partners that I have had,

436
00:23:16,040 --> 00:23:19,719
Speaker 1: some are good, some aren't, but more recently I had

437
00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:21,720
Speaker 1: a conversation about it and he was like, I don't

438
00:23:21,720 --> 00:23:23,879
Speaker 1: even know if I can like do as much as

439
00:23:23,920 --> 00:23:27,080
Speaker 1: you need. And I guess, okay, four days later about

440
00:23:27,080 --> 00:23:30,080
Speaker 1: a dog. Oh yeah, no, I ain't gonna. I used

441
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:31,720
Speaker 1: to come on the pod all the time, and me

442
00:23:31,720 --> 00:23:33,119
Speaker 1: and her actually used to talk about this a lot

443
00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:38,440
Speaker 1: of my previous like partners. Um, we didn't even really kiss.

444
00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:41,639
Speaker 1: There was no cuddling, there was no like massage like

445
00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:44,680
Speaker 1: it was really no, and we used to talk about

446
00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:47,159
Speaker 1: like just the lack of affection. We fucked, but the

447
00:23:47,240 --> 00:23:50,520
Speaker 1: intimacy was just never there. And again now having had

448
00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:53,320
Speaker 1: to see that, oh no, ain't never going back. I

449
00:23:53,359 --> 00:23:57,359
Speaker 1: need to cuddle like I like the spooning. I like

450
00:23:57,520 --> 00:23:59,840
Speaker 1: I will lean over in the car just to like

451
00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:03,239
Speaker 1: put my hand on your arm type ship. Now I

452
00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:06,119
Speaker 1: see how super needy I am for that physical touch.

453
00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:09,439
Speaker 1: That's probably now number three in the language. Pump it

454
00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:16,159
Speaker 1: up now, y'all notice a sex show. We need to

455
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:19,120
Speaker 1: get a little bit, a little bit Nancy up in hill.

456
00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:22,040
Speaker 1: And our next segment is the horr Derve and I

457
00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:25,320
Speaker 1: am leaving that to the both of you. So our

458
00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:29,040
Speaker 1: Horror Derve segment is the sex tip. Okay, and so

459
00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:31,000
Speaker 1: I need you all to think, no, let's have Jerry

460
00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:33,720
Speaker 1: give it. We want jar give it what you'd be doing,

461
00:24:36,280 --> 00:24:40,280
Speaker 1: so all right, and don't be delicate with it. Wait

462
00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:44,679
Speaker 1: wait wait wait wait, so uh something that I like

463
00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:47,679
Speaker 1: to do so for me, I really like going down

464
00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:50,240
Speaker 1: on a woman. It's like my thing to do. So

465
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:53,200
Speaker 1: that's how you know somebody good at it. Wait. Wait,

466
00:24:54,359 --> 00:24:56,480
Speaker 1: A trick that I like to do is like first year,

467
00:24:56,480 --> 00:24:58,239
Speaker 1: after you warm it up, you get a nice How

468
00:24:58,320 --> 00:25:00,680
Speaker 1: do you warm it up? We need deta yeh, lick

469
00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 1: around the vagina first before you hit the clip. Then

470
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:07,040
Speaker 1: you gotta look up and down, usually on the left

471
00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:10,600
Speaker 1: side right from usually on the left, your left to

472
00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:18,840
Speaker 1: her left. Um, it would be my left and so okay,

473
00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:21,879
Speaker 1: so aftern you warm it up, then you you you

474
00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:26,159
Speaker 1: can insert two fingers get in. Now there's a two

475
00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:28,320
Speaker 1: there's two spots that I like to hit. Mine is

476
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:31,639
Speaker 1: like a little bit deeper and before you hit the cervics,

477
00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:33,960
Speaker 1: don't hit the cervics is like the A spot and

478
00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:36,680
Speaker 1: you do it come here motion. Then you could come

479
00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:38,560
Speaker 1: down to the G spot, put a lot of pressure

480
00:25:39,400 --> 00:25:41,440
Speaker 1: and uh, and then kind of bounce between the two

481
00:25:41,480 --> 00:25:45,720
Speaker 1: as you're still looking up the clip. So here's my

482
00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:48,840
Speaker 1: question to you, Jared, because not everyone has the same

483
00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:51,959
Speaker 1: sexual preferences, and we talked about this even in your episode.

484
00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:56,120
Speaker 1: What do you do if a woman is not your fingers,

485
00:25:56,200 --> 00:25:59,920
Speaker 1: well not into fingers A lot of women don't like Yeah,

486
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 1: you obviously are checking in making sure that she's happy

487
00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:06,159
Speaker 1: about what's going on. The language that you use is

488
00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:08,800
Speaker 1: very important because I find that a lot of times

489
00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:11,400
Speaker 1: men go into it and they go what do you like?

490
00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:13,320
Speaker 1: Or they go into it and be like do you

491
00:26:13,359 --> 00:26:15,520
Speaker 1: like that? And so I usually like to go down

492
00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:18,720
Speaker 1: the line of like um, using adjectives like do you

493
00:26:18,720 --> 00:26:20,680
Speaker 1: want more pressure? Do you want me to orb around

494
00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:31,320
Speaker 1: this area? To the science now? Would you like me

495
00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:34,439
Speaker 1: to orb? Or being around the pits like it's like this,

496
00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:36,879
Speaker 1: so here if this is let me sure you're right here?

497
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:41,000
Speaker 1: Means or bits. He doesn't dropped the last two letters,

498
00:26:41,000 --> 00:26:44,080
Speaker 1: all right, wait wait wait, so this is if this

499
00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:48,920
Speaker 1: is the clip, it's like putting the stimulation around the clip,

500
00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:52,119
Speaker 1: not directly on it, because you know something it's sensitive.

501
00:26:52,240 --> 00:26:56,200
Speaker 1: Do you blow down here? Sometimes? Sometimes no, you don't

502
00:26:56,240 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 1: ever blow You suck, which I'm not even a massive

503
00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:02,720
Speaker 1: fan of sucking, but I also appreciate the variety. Tie

504
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:05,640
Speaker 1: but you do suck, and a lot of people like sucking.

505
00:27:05,960 --> 00:27:08,159
Speaker 1: Blowing is actually the one thing that you should not

506
00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:12,320
Speaker 1: do when somebody is pregnant. It's hazardous to the baby. Really,

507
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:16,800
Speaker 1: I don't blow inside I'm not blowing inside them, you know,

508
00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:19,800
Speaker 1: I don't wait wait, wait, okay, now we're really learning

509
00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:23,560
Speaker 1: some ship kill someone blowing in their vagina. But I

510
00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:28,480
Speaker 1: believe it has to be like like like It's definitely

511
00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:32,000
Speaker 1: not like blowing like a blo. I'm just talking about

512
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:37,160
Speaker 1: like a oh, like a like a hot Yeah, okay,

513
00:27:37,160 --> 00:27:41,200
Speaker 1: because I don't want to dick, but I don't. Who

514
00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:45,560
Speaker 1: is that? Yes, that's crazy. You needs to be wider,

515
00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:49,520
Speaker 1: that needs to be No, I haven't. You don't look

516
00:27:49,560 --> 00:27:52,280
Speaker 1: like you have. I know what. I think I could

517
00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:54,360
Speaker 1: be good at it. Though everybody's gonna want JAREDY think

518
00:27:54,680 --> 00:27:56,360
Speaker 1: after that you will have no. I would like that.

519
00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:59,320
Speaker 1: I would like that. I would like telling you imagine

520
00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:02,080
Speaker 1: watching this show and there so I'm talking about how

521
00:28:02,119 --> 00:28:05,120
Speaker 1: they were having trouble finding someone, and then visually y'all

522
00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:07,639
Speaker 1: glad in the d M. Their their acts are in

523
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:11,639
Speaker 1: the description of their episode. So or also called a

524
00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:14,120
Speaker 1: gas embolism, occurs when one or more air bubbles enter

525
00:28:14,119 --> 00:28:16,880
Speaker 1: a vein or artery and block it um. It can

526
00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 1: travel to your brain, heart lungs, cause a heart attack, stroke,

527
00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:27,400
Speaker 1: respiratory failure, and I have I think in rare instances,

528
00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:29,720
Speaker 1: blowing into the vagina can cause an air embolism. In

529
00:28:29,760 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 1: this case, it can occur if there's a terror, Jared,

530
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:34,680
Speaker 1: we have the same question. We do, I know we did.

531
00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:36,760
Speaker 1: Risk is higher in pregnant women who may have a

532
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:39,160
Speaker 1: chair in their placenta because again it's the tear in

533
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:45,680
Speaker 1: the vagina. This can happen during um scuba diving as well. Okay, yeah,

534
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:50,000
Speaker 1: so my question is you know when you you you know,

535
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:51,680
Speaker 1: you're messing around down there, and then you put it

536
00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 1: in and then you you have air in the vagina oye.

537
00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:57,480
Speaker 1: That was my ques exactly. So is that not dangerous?

538
00:28:57,520 --> 00:28:59,600
Speaker 1: Is that not dangerous when we queath? Maybe because it's

539
00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:02,240
Speaker 1: that's because the quef is going out. Yeah, but that's

540
00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:05,080
Speaker 1: in there, That's what it is. It's air that's in there.

541
00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:07,920
Speaker 1: And that's why I go because the air going in

542
00:29:08,320 --> 00:29:11,440
Speaker 1: it's causing it. So technically equip the air escapes, because yes,

543
00:29:12,640 --> 00:29:17,200
Speaker 1: because the air is escaping a kid. What are those

544
00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:21,280
Speaker 1: things called the farting putting? Yes, yeah, But at the

545
00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:23,360
Speaker 1: point of it is though at a certain position you

546
00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:26,280
Speaker 1: are trapping air in there. Yeah, and you're pushing it.

547
00:29:26,360 --> 00:29:28,800
Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, that which is interesting because there's

548
00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:31,440
Speaker 1: nothing that they say in terms of positions that's not safe.

549
00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:34,600
Speaker 1: So everything is safe except for blowing into vagina. Just

550
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:41,240
Speaker 1: nothing needs to be more safe. There's more unsafe. Maybe

551
00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:44,120
Speaker 1: the foot on your face that don't that's okay, it

552
00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:46,120
Speaker 1: doesn't feel good, but that doesn't mean it's not safe,

553
00:29:46,520 --> 00:29:48,160
Speaker 1: not safe that anything that will make you land in

554
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:52,000
Speaker 1: the belly. What's the wildest fetish that you came across

555
00:29:52,080 --> 00:29:56,040
Speaker 1: that you had to experience experience. I was gonna say,

556
00:29:56,080 --> 00:30:00,520
Speaker 1: we both how about that. I think the adult baby

557
00:30:00,560 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 1: diaper fetish has been the wildest. It's not the craziest

558
00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:05,360
Speaker 1: we had. Somebody asked for that. Oh yeah, he wore

559
00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:08,720
Speaker 1: a diaper on our episode, and we know he said personally,

560
00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 1: oh he said, or the diaper fetish was the craziest

561
00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:16,000
Speaker 1: one we've ever had on I think the craziest thing

562
00:30:16,040 --> 00:30:20,680
Speaker 1: someone's asked me for nothing. That nuts. I like the

563
00:30:20,680 --> 00:30:23,120
Speaker 1: cream pie eating during threesomes. So that's probably really like

564
00:30:23,240 --> 00:30:25,760
Speaker 1: too far for a lot of people. I think I'm

565
00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:29,200
Speaker 1: the one who asked for it. But also, like mind you,

566
00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:30,880
Speaker 1: we had to get to a point where we could

567
00:30:30,880 --> 00:30:32,719
Speaker 1: sleep without conduct like like you know what I mean,

568
00:30:32,720 --> 00:30:34,960
Speaker 1: we had to be each other's only partners. So maybe

569
00:30:34,960 --> 00:30:37,560
Speaker 1: there's like a rarity that you enjoy with it. That's

570
00:30:37,560 --> 00:30:40,200
Speaker 1: what gets you off because you know that you're doing

571
00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:43,720
Speaker 1: it with somebody that you trust. Maybe I think the

572
00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:47,200
Speaker 1: other thing too, is like I like going down on women,

573
00:30:47,720 --> 00:30:50,120
Speaker 1: and I love like when a dude comes like that

574
00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:53,360
Speaker 1: literally can make me come. It's ridiculous. I feel like

575
00:30:53,480 --> 00:30:57,000
Speaker 1: such a sub by saying that, like if you come outcome,

576
00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:58,960
Speaker 1: But it's true. There's been times where I can't get

577
00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:01,280
Speaker 1: off and then dude hasn't known it's because he hasn't

578
00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:04,280
Speaker 1: finished yet. Sometimes I just need to see it. It's sick.

579
00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:11,160
Speaker 1: That's not sick. There's too many people. Oh God, don't

580
00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:15,400
Speaker 1: listen to mom. I don't even know. For me, honestly,

581
00:31:15,440 --> 00:31:19,240
Speaker 1: I do it all. There's this one fetish that um

582
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:23,440
Speaker 1: I knew. Um I worked on the show and one

583
00:31:23,480 --> 00:31:25,719
Speaker 1: of the gentlemen that was on the show had this

584
00:31:25,840 --> 00:31:27,920
Speaker 1: thing about feet, which is normal, that's not that's not

585
00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:29,880
Speaker 1: that's not a normal thing. But then he showed me

586
00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:32,560
Speaker 1: a video where was in the girl's asked when she

587
00:31:32,640 --> 00:31:38,320
Speaker 1: was like on his day, no that, But he had

588
00:31:38,320 --> 00:31:41,960
Speaker 1: this video where she first she started with just barefoot

589
00:31:42,040 --> 00:31:45,120
Speaker 1: and she was stomping on his face right and then

590
00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:48,400
Speaker 1: and then she started on the no no, he started

591
00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:51,240
Speaker 1: she started putting on different hills and was stumping on

592
00:31:51,320 --> 00:31:54,680
Speaker 1: his face with different hills and different shoes. So that

593
00:31:54,720 --> 00:32:01,880
Speaker 1: doesn't his face his face, that doesn't Like I was like,

594
00:32:02,400 --> 00:32:05,000
Speaker 1: this is probably showed this to you to say like,

595
00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 1: look at this great thing this weekend. What happened was

596
00:32:09,240 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 1: somehow we gotten discussion. People were talking about fetishes and

597
00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:13,520
Speaker 1: he was like I just love to get kicked in

598
00:32:13,520 --> 00:32:16,640
Speaker 1: the face. And I was like, are you serious because

599
00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:18,840
Speaker 1: I thought he was joking at first, and he was like, no, seriously,

600
00:32:18,880 --> 00:32:21,400
Speaker 1: and then he pulled up the video of him getting

601
00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:24,000
Speaker 1: oh you know he paid for that, honey, Well, I

602
00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 1: think it's something like that, like it was his wife. See.

603
00:32:27,080 --> 00:32:30,040
Speaker 1: But but stuff like that like to me, especially because

604
00:32:30,040 --> 00:32:31,640
Speaker 1: it's not inter course, I think you can find more

605
00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:33,680
Speaker 1: people to do stuff like that for free. You think

606
00:32:33,760 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 1: you can find someone, not someone experience that people know.

607
00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:39,640
Speaker 1: I know, if you're, if you're, if you're, if you're

608
00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:42,720
Speaker 1: with a sex worker, Yeah, she's gonna want to. But

609
00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:46,320
Speaker 1: if it's just a regular girl and she and I

610
00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:48,680
Speaker 1: think she'll be open to do it, doing it before

611
00:32:49,080 --> 00:32:52,720
Speaker 1: she sucks dick or eats as right now? Would you

612
00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:55,320
Speaker 1: guys be comfortable stepping on someone's face if I was

613
00:32:55,360 --> 00:32:58,120
Speaker 1: in Central Park if someone asked me to do it, Okay,

614
00:32:58,640 --> 00:33:04,320
Speaker 1: I thought you were at send What are you fucking

615
00:33:04,400 --> 00:33:09,800
Speaker 1: kidding me? No? I believe in everyone being fulfilled in life, Okay,

616
00:33:10,040 --> 00:33:12,000
Speaker 1: And if I happen to be asked, I would do it.

617
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:15,200
Speaker 1: Hold on, hold on, let's go back. I said what

618
00:33:15,240 --> 00:33:18,600
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Uh huh. A dude comes up to you,

619
00:33:18,600 --> 00:33:22,120
Speaker 1: he's excuse me. I think you're beautiful. I love those shoes. Huh.

620
00:33:22,400 --> 00:33:24,080
Speaker 1: Would you mind if I just laid down right here

621
00:33:24,120 --> 00:33:26,360
Speaker 1: on the curb, not around the kids? But if I

622
00:33:26,440 --> 00:33:28,160
Speaker 1: just lay down on this curb and you just step

623
00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:31,959
Speaker 1: on my face, I'd probably be like, are you sure?

624
00:33:33,120 --> 00:33:35,680
Speaker 1: I mean, I might even be like, please tell me

625
00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:38,640
Speaker 1: on here that you approve that I do this. Would

626
00:33:38,680 --> 00:33:40,200
Speaker 1: you but have you what about in the sex club?

627
00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:42,800
Speaker 1: Would you definitely do it in the sex club? In

628
00:33:42,880 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 1: the sex club, No, I'm not really into kinks and

629
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:47,320
Speaker 1: fetishes around a whole lot of people, so like, I

630
00:33:47,360 --> 00:33:49,120
Speaker 1: just want to get sucked in some of the biggest

631
00:33:49,160 --> 00:33:53,840
Speaker 1: part but well known but I'm fully dressed. He want

632
00:33:53,880 --> 00:33:56,920
Speaker 1: to be kicked in the face. Okay, let her, Let

633
00:33:56,920 --> 00:33:59,280
Speaker 1: her have this moment of philanthropy. Okay, you know what

634
00:33:59,320 --> 00:34:03,360
Speaker 1: I mean, that's what I'm literally out here trying to

635
00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:04,719
Speaker 1: do good for the world, and you want to make

636
00:34:04,720 --> 00:34:07,960
Speaker 1: me feel bad about it. Then you want that I

637
00:34:07,960 --> 00:34:10,200
Speaker 1: don't know that you're talking about ending world hunger bit.

638
00:34:11,480 --> 00:34:14,439
Speaker 1: I mean, this could really make his day. That could

639
00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:17,400
Speaker 1: really for someone like that. Actually know what It's funny

640
00:34:17,440 --> 00:34:20,560
Speaker 1: because I did this podcast once where they were doing

641
00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:23,560
Speaker 1: like embarrassing sex stories on stage and somebody was telling

642
00:34:23,560 --> 00:34:26,400
Speaker 1: the story of a dude who they were about to

643
00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:28,480
Speaker 1: get intimate, and he was like, I really don't want

644
00:34:28,480 --> 00:34:30,960
Speaker 1: to make you uncomfortable, and this is something that's really

645
00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:32,799
Speaker 1: on me. But I know she's wearing socks and I

646
00:34:32,840 --> 00:34:34,680
Speaker 1: really get aroused when I see feet, And would you

647
00:34:34,719 --> 00:34:37,400
Speaker 1: mind taking your socks off. And she told it on

648
00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:40,920
Speaker 1: stage and everybody was dying of laughter, and she was like,

649
00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:45,359
Speaker 1: I was like, you fucking weirdo. How I was like,

650
00:34:45,600 --> 00:34:48,799
Speaker 1: imagine how scarring that is for that person, and how

651
00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:51,160
Speaker 1: much courage it took for them to actually ask for that.

652
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:52,920
Speaker 1: So the fact that if somebody did ask you in

653
00:34:52,960 --> 00:34:55,080
Speaker 1: Central Park to kick them in the face, it probably

654
00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 1: took them so much courage just as to ask. So

655
00:34:58,360 --> 00:35:01,200
Speaker 1: you probably I love sham, I love ship, you know,

656
00:35:01,360 --> 00:35:05,040
Speaker 1: or even people from burning buildings, because that's the tone

657
00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:11,239
Speaker 1: that you have right now, so much for him to ask,

658
00:35:11,880 --> 00:35:14,239
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean, I'm gonna lie. We talked about

659
00:35:14,239 --> 00:35:16,600
Speaker 1: it all the time, even for like the men listening

660
00:35:16,840 --> 00:35:19,759
Speaker 1: who maybe want to try pegging, or would like a

661
00:35:19,840 --> 00:35:23,120
Speaker 1: finger in their ass, or want to even share the

662
00:35:23,800 --> 00:35:25,600
Speaker 1: weirdest things that come to their mind. Like I know

663
00:35:25,640 --> 00:35:27,399
Speaker 1: that it's a lot for even men sometimes to share

664
00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:29,920
Speaker 1: what type of porn they're into out of the fear

665
00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:33,080
Speaker 1: of being judged. Westingly, we were talking about nipple play,

666
00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:36,000
Speaker 1: and you were the partner who didn't ask for it, right,

667
00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:39,120
Speaker 1: but enjoys it. Even for a lot of men to

668
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:44,280
Speaker 1: ask for their nipples and I'm like, it's just a nipples.

669
00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:45,880
Speaker 1: Never asked me to do it, and you like it

670
00:35:46,000 --> 00:35:48,759
Speaker 1: so much in it, I just really realized you were

671
00:35:48,800 --> 00:35:52,920
Speaker 1: into it. No, I didn't. I didn't even really fully

672
00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:55,200
Speaker 1: know that I wasn't into it until we started doing this.

673
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:57,840
Speaker 1: I imagine if I got into a new sexual partner,

674
00:35:57,920 --> 00:35:59,920
Speaker 1: I would be like, yeah, this is something that I

675
00:36:00,040 --> 00:36:03,120
Speaker 1: mento now. But we started a month and you said

676
00:36:03,120 --> 00:36:05,200
Speaker 1: because I did it. I mean I think, I think,

677
00:36:05,360 --> 00:36:08,000
Speaker 1: I think you can find I think you find out

678
00:36:08,080 --> 00:36:10,879
Speaker 1: too um even for a woman. Again, to me, even

679
00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:12,759
Speaker 1: her saying, is that not weird thing. A lot of

680
00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:15,480
Speaker 1: men don't want to admit it, but they do enjoy it.

681
00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:17,560
Speaker 1: So I think even a tip that I would give

682
00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:20,200
Speaker 1: is just to see if your man is into it.

683
00:36:20,560 --> 00:36:24,280
Speaker 1: Slow kissed down before you suck his dick, so slow

684
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:26,560
Speaker 1: kiss him from his mouth, then kiss his neck, and

685
00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:29,760
Speaker 1: then spend some time at the nipples. If he pushes

686
00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:31,879
Speaker 1: you down, maybe he doesn't like what you're doing there,

687
00:36:32,040 --> 00:36:34,279
Speaker 1: but a lot of men will like kind of let

688
00:36:34,320 --> 00:36:36,600
Speaker 1: you know that they actually do enjoy it. It's just

689
00:36:36,960 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 1: not a thing that I think men are brave enough

690
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:47,880
Speaker 1: to say, courage it to the bravery, the bravery respected

691
00:36:48,239 --> 00:36:51,759
Speaker 1: mother Mandy the first respond well too as well. A

692
00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:55,680
Speaker 1: satisfactory sex life elongates your lifespan, so you could be

693
00:36:55,719 --> 00:36:59,640
Speaker 1: adding years. I'm gonna be a lot to Alma hunted bitch,

694
00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:02,040
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get to say I've been here for ten

695
00:37:02,360 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 1: for ten decades makes you look younger and longer as well,

696
00:37:05,680 --> 00:37:08,520
Speaker 1: because it releases releases d h A, so you are

697
00:37:09,239 --> 00:37:12,000
Speaker 1: it's a. It's the It's like something that makes the

698
00:37:12,080 --> 00:37:19,440
Speaker 1: skin look more elastic, like collegen. Yes, drink well. I

699
00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:23,040
Speaker 1: just found a random link that said that that's why

700
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:26,399
Speaker 1: black don't crack because we produce collagen more. But it's

701
00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:30,399
Speaker 1: also the reason why we key Lloyd faster. Smart. Fact

702
00:37:31,360 --> 00:37:34,640
Speaker 1: really just be falling across the most random inter committed.

703
00:37:34,680 --> 00:37:41,759
Speaker 1: What was the term intimate enter intimacy? Yea intimate relationship.

704
00:37:43,280 --> 00:37:46,279
Speaker 1: So guys, the next part of the show is the

705
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:48,839
Speaker 1: Horrible Decision. And this is where I literally broke down

706
00:37:48,920 --> 00:37:51,040
Speaker 1: questions for the both of you, because not only are

707
00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:53,520
Speaker 1: you newly married, you were newly parents. And this is

708
00:37:53,560 --> 00:37:55,640
Speaker 1: something that me and Wheezy, even though she thinks she

709
00:37:56,000 --> 00:37:59,120
Speaker 1: pushed this dog out her coach, she didn't so there's

710
00:37:59,120 --> 00:38:01,680
Speaker 1: a lot of things that we have zero experience on

711
00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:04,120
Speaker 1: as far as being a parent, what it's like and

712
00:38:04,120 --> 00:38:07,960
Speaker 1: how it affects you. Did not I am post body,

713
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:10,200
Speaker 1: ain't come at my pussy. That dog ain't come out short.

714
00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:12,279
Speaker 1: I am a march STUPI almar. But you don't have

715
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:14,480
Speaker 1: to have something come out your pussy to be a mom.

716
00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:19,200
Speaker 1: To clarify, oh yeah, okay, sorry, ship adopted a child,

717
00:38:19,400 --> 00:38:23,520
Speaker 1: maybe at least let it be a human baby that

718
00:38:23,640 --> 00:38:27,799
Speaker 1: part um. So I wanted to talk about with the

719
00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:29,959
Speaker 1: both of you because I think you're learning. She's saying

720
00:38:29,960 --> 00:38:32,400
Speaker 1: a lot, she's giving you all hint it, she's ready

721
00:38:32,400 --> 00:38:35,000
Speaker 1: for some other things. But I wanted to ask you, guys,

722
00:38:35,160 --> 00:38:37,520
Speaker 1: how you were able to not only keep it spot,

723
00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:41,560
Speaker 1: keep it spicy pre pregnancy, but post pregnancy. Did you

724
00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:44,759
Speaker 1: feel hot when you're pregnant? You know, yes and no.

725
00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:48,479
Speaker 1: I felt like I intentionally forced myself to feel hot

726
00:38:48,520 --> 00:38:50,760
Speaker 1: even though I didn't because I knew that it would

727
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:53,720
Speaker 1: benefit me and benefit our relationship and benefit the baby.

728
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:55,920
Speaker 1: So I didn't feel it, but I was like, let

729
00:38:56,000 --> 00:38:59,360
Speaker 1: me put myself in a position, so I that's in lingerie.

730
00:38:59,440 --> 00:39:01,760
Speaker 1: I bought like full like little leather suit for myself.

731
00:39:01,840 --> 00:39:04,440
Speaker 1: So I did all the things to put myself in

732
00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:06,680
Speaker 1: the light to make myself feel safe. You were working out,

733
00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:08,440
Speaker 1: I was working out. I mean that didn't really help

734
00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:10,680
Speaker 1: that much though. What was your what was your favorite

735
00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:17,680
Speaker 1: body change during pregnancy? Breast thousand a thousand percent tits?

736
00:39:17,800 --> 00:39:20,800
Speaker 1: Like I never existed in that world before. I'm actually

737
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:23,160
Speaker 1: upset that you're not more enthusiastic about you know what

738
00:39:23,200 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 1: it is? What it is? I feel you know there

739
00:39:27,360 --> 00:39:32,640
Speaker 1: right now, they're not mine the right life source. Their

740
00:39:35,040 --> 00:39:37,399
Speaker 1: feel like that though, Like do you really feel like

741
00:39:37,840 --> 00:39:39,440
Speaker 1: there's like a there's a part of it that's like

742
00:39:41,160 --> 00:39:43,560
Speaker 1: watching and also to like because I mean now that

743
00:39:43,560 --> 00:39:47,120
Speaker 1: I'm breastfeed squeeze milk everywhere you guys watch sex Life

744
00:39:47,160 --> 00:39:50,439
Speaker 1: where a lot of people learned about that when you orgasm, Yeah,

745
00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:52,200
Speaker 1: that it drips out, Like did you notice last night?

746
00:39:52,239 --> 00:39:56,399
Speaker 1: I had? Okay, you look it up? Do you look

747
00:39:56,400 --> 00:40:00,279
Speaker 1: at it? I did get some of my mouth. Oh oh,

748
00:40:00,320 --> 00:40:01,960
Speaker 1: that's what we're doing. I have to I have to

749
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:04,120
Speaker 1: express for you, and I do have it in a bottle,

750
00:40:04,160 --> 00:40:05,239
Speaker 1: but it's been staying there for a while, so I

751
00:40:05,239 --> 00:40:07,000
Speaker 1: don't want to do that to you. Oh, it's not

752
00:40:07,120 --> 00:40:10,000
Speaker 1: unless you don't mind, she will suck your nipple. It's

753
00:40:10,320 --> 00:40:14,360
Speaker 1: sitting in the other studio. You never mind. Oh you

754
00:40:14,360 --> 00:40:18,680
Speaker 1: still want to give her a bottle? Never mind? But

755
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:22,120
Speaker 1: it's breast from a mother. I didn't. That doesn't make

756
00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:24,200
Speaker 1: it sexual if it's just breast milk, right, just get

757
00:40:24,239 --> 00:40:26,200
Speaker 1: a little bit, let me taste it. I can't. That's

758
00:40:26,239 --> 00:40:30,400
Speaker 1: how it works, I thought. I thought, No, I have to,

759
00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:34,680
Speaker 1: like you think, she just could just you and it

760
00:40:34,760 --> 00:40:37,239
Speaker 1: takes a while to turn on unless we started having sex,

761
00:40:37,239 --> 00:40:38,839
Speaker 1: and then then it just does its own thing, turn

762
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:40,279
Speaker 1: on like it would be like a slow It's like

763
00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:42,200
Speaker 1: a faucet, like you know, you heard it on Its

764
00:40:42,200 --> 00:40:44,319
Speaker 1: cold water for a long. It's just air for a bit,

765
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:46,719
Speaker 1: so even if the baby latches on, it's like a

766
00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:49,480
Speaker 1: minute of air and then it's sprays all over the

767
00:40:49,480 --> 00:40:51,960
Speaker 1: place like a carnival game, and then it goes to

768
00:40:52,040 --> 00:40:56,000
Speaker 1: one single stream. So it's a process. Yeah. Why I

769
00:40:56,000 --> 00:40:57,959
Speaker 1: feel like I thought another world. I did not even

770
00:40:57,960 --> 00:40:59,680
Speaker 1: know that. Yeah, I didn't know. I didn't know either

771
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:02,879
Speaker 1: to be during pregnancy. How was your sex drive? Hi?

772
00:41:03,360 --> 00:41:06,480
Speaker 1: You have double the blood volume? I had more orgasms.

773
00:41:06,840 --> 00:41:09,600
Speaker 1: My orgasms were faster and more intense, and I think

774
00:41:09,600 --> 00:41:12,080
Speaker 1: I got more sensation in my vagina, which I never

775
00:41:12,120 --> 00:41:15,720
Speaker 1: really had that much before. So I benefited from it.

776
00:41:15,840 --> 00:41:19,560
Speaker 1: But you, Jared hated and you got it always come

777
00:41:19,600 --> 00:41:23,319
Speaker 1: to you next. Jared hated pregnancy sex. So it is

778
00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:25,560
Speaker 1: a very strong word. Why was it? Did you feel

779
00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:28,040
Speaker 1: like you're gonna hurt her? Um? Well, you feel like

780
00:41:28,200 --> 00:41:32,360
Speaker 1: I was gonna get a dimple from your not not

781
00:41:32,560 --> 00:41:35,120
Speaker 1: that like so there. So the first time we had

782
00:41:35,160 --> 00:41:37,719
Speaker 1: sex when she U was pregnant, I couldn't get it

783
00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:42,719
Speaker 1: up because there was like this feeling of the child

784
00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:45,120
Speaker 1: is in the room. And then on top of that,

785
00:41:45,160 --> 00:41:46,719
Speaker 1: like I got and the child was the size of

786
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:49,839
Speaker 1: a figured at the time, like if I were you

787
00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:51,440
Speaker 1: and I would have felt like it was me not

788
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:57,240
Speaker 1: right aware Jared didn't want to three some with a baby,

789
00:41:57,760 --> 00:42:01,200
Speaker 1: but your mind. And we talked about it right away

790
00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:03,440
Speaker 1: like it wasn't like something that I was just like

791
00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:06,239
Speaker 1: hiding or you know, and it was the only time

792
00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:08,919
Speaker 1: that it happened. So then that happened, and then as

793
00:42:09,040 --> 00:42:12,240
Speaker 1: you know, we progressed. Obviously the bigger that she got,

794
00:42:12,440 --> 00:42:15,839
Speaker 1: like the sex changed, So it was just kind of

795
00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:20,120
Speaker 1: like we were having it. It wasn't the sex wasn't

796
00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:22,600
Speaker 1: about pleasure for us. It started becoming like we know

797
00:42:22,680 --> 00:42:25,160
Speaker 1: that this, this will benefit the baby in the long run.

798
00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:30,720
Speaker 1: Sex benefits. Yeah, yeah, releasing all of like stress release

799
00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:33,439
Speaker 1: and to go to sleep and and then when you're

800
00:42:33,440 --> 00:42:37,480
Speaker 1: closer to delivery, that actually helps the baby come out bad.

801
00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:40,160
Speaker 1: I knew, but I didn't know the other one. So

802
00:42:40,239 --> 00:42:43,160
Speaker 1: you're not one of the men that believed that pregnancy

803
00:42:43,200 --> 00:42:46,480
Speaker 1: pussy is so much better than I'm pregnant pussy. It

804
00:42:46,560 --> 00:42:52,080
Speaker 1: was great, but I think, like, um, it was this

805
00:42:52,120 --> 00:42:53,960
Speaker 1: is a weird word to use, but it was fluffier,

806
00:42:54,320 --> 00:42:57,200
Speaker 1: not a flow. That's not weird at all. I get it.

807
00:42:57,680 --> 00:43:00,480
Speaker 1: The walls puffed out. I remember with siss Is like

808
00:43:00,640 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 1: when she was ovulating. I can feel it in my

809
00:43:02,680 --> 00:43:05,440
Speaker 1: hand a little more lovely. Oh, is that what it is.

810
00:43:05,960 --> 00:43:08,880
Speaker 1: I'm actually new to the word fluffy. Yeah. I was

811
00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:11,280
Speaker 1: about to say, did it feel swollen, because I'm definitely

812
00:43:11,840 --> 00:43:14,239
Speaker 1: good word. I felt like, just feel different, but in

813
00:43:14,239 --> 00:43:18,160
Speaker 1: a good way. Yeah, it swollen is a good word. Yeah,

814
00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:21,799
Speaker 1: but fluffy is the word that Dr Peusche used. I

815
00:43:21,800 --> 00:43:24,960
Speaker 1: think I use an Okay, take credit for that, we

816
00:43:25,000 --> 00:43:27,920
Speaker 1: went to this doctor who does like Lady of Plastics,

817
00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:29,759
Speaker 1: and she gave me something called the OH shot, which

818
00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:32,839
Speaker 1: is something like the make sure. But she said, I've

819
00:43:32,840 --> 00:43:35,320
Speaker 1: never heard this before, that I have a very fluffy hymen,

820
00:43:35,760 --> 00:43:38,440
Speaker 1: that it's like a lot of tissue in there. I

821
00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:40,839
Speaker 1: did not know that before. So now this vision got

822
00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:46,759
Speaker 1: a pillow pussy. Everything perfect, Everything is perfect. I want

823
00:43:46,800 --> 00:43:51,000
Speaker 1: to mart in front of each other, Yes, really in

824
00:43:51,000 --> 00:43:54,840
Speaker 1: front of each other. Far. I can't believe that. Really

825
00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:58,719
Speaker 1: you think I'm proper? Which is you know, yes, I

826
00:43:58,719 --> 00:44:01,399
Speaker 1: don't think we all do. I mean, I don't think

827
00:44:01,400 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 1: people think that about me. Do you what that I'm

828
00:44:04,160 --> 00:44:06,600
Speaker 1: like proper? I think they kind of they can tell.

829
00:44:06,600 --> 00:44:09,920
Speaker 1: That's I think maybe your I mean, I did not

830
00:44:10,000 --> 00:44:15,279
Speaker 1: think you didn't fart. But I'm like, yeah, I'm not

831
00:44:15,360 --> 00:44:17,200
Speaker 1: trying to be shady and start a little. No, I'm

832
00:44:17,239 --> 00:44:19,680
Speaker 1: super gross. I'm a real gross person, that's for sure.

833
00:44:19,680 --> 00:44:22,000
Speaker 1: We think I'm gross. No, you're not a gross person.

834
00:44:23,040 --> 00:44:27,040
Speaker 1: Your body parts? So wait, how did the first part

835
00:44:27,120 --> 00:44:30,120
Speaker 1: come out? Oh? I couldn't even tell you. I like

836
00:44:30,200 --> 00:44:31,880
Speaker 1: talking about poop, like I you know what it is

837
00:44:31,880 --> 00:44:34,440
Speaker 1: for me. I don't like secrets, Like even when he

838
00:44:34,480 --> 00:44:36,040
Speaker 1: just said that, like he couldn't get it up and

839
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:38,239
Speaker 1: we talked about it immediately after. So it's not like

840
00:44:38,239 --> 00:44:40,279
Speaker 1: we're living in a world of like pretending to be

841
00:44:40,320 --> 00:44:43,440
Speaker 1: any delusion of delusion. Yeah, it's like, let's examine. We

842
00:44:43,600 --> 00:44:45,640
Speaker 1: had a YouTube channel together for like thirty seconds. It

843
00:44:45,719 --> 00:44:47,600
Speaker 1: was called the Examined Life. I think that's why we

844
00:44:47,640 --> 00:44:50,640
Speaker 1: actually bonded and we transformed from buddies to something more

845
00:44:50,719 --> 00:44:53,239
Speaker 1: is because we both realized we're people who wanted to

846
00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:56,200
Speaker 1: talk about everything, and like, look at life, moll angles.

847
00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:58,120
Speaker 1: What I also like about the two of you, And

848
00:44:58,239 --> 00:45:00,520
Speaker 1: I mean even any couple listening, I think a lot

849
00:45:00,520 --> 00:45:03,920
Speaker 1: of people assume when they tell their partner that they

850
00:45:03,960 --> 00:45:06,239
Speaker 1: don't like something about them. I think there's actually a

851
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:07,960
Speaker 1: lot of fear and telling your partner you don't like

852
00:45:08,080 --> 00:45:12,000
Speaker 1: something about them um off of maybe the fear of

853
00:45:12,000 --> 00:45:16,080
Speaker 1: confrontation or leading to an argument or making their partner insecure.

854
00:45:16,120 --> 00:45:19,879
Speaker 1: Now about that, and so was there something that left

855
00:45:19,960 --> 00:45:21,799
Speaker 1: for you guys to be this open with each other,

856
00:45:21,880 --> 00:45:23,719
Speaker 1: Like even the fact that you're saying like, yeah, I

857
00:45:23,760 --> 00:45:25,319
Speaker 1: want to see you with someone and hey, I don't

858
00:45:25,360 --> 00:45:27,040
Speaker 1: like that you make me want to try out this food.

859
00:45:27,239 --> 00:45:29,200
Speaker 1: A lot of people can't tell their partners what they

860
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:31,560
Speaker 1: don't like about each other. I think it started. You know,

861
00:45:31,760 --> 00:45:34,320
Speaker 1: the interesting thing about our relationship is that we started

862
00:45:34,320 --> 00:45:37,240
Speaker 1: out as fun buddies. So there was in the beginning,

863
00:45:37,280 --> 00:45:41,800
Speaker 1: our dynamic wasn't uh, there was no fear of losing

864
00:45:41,840 --> 00:45:47,160
Speaker 1: the person. You know, does that please? I actually want

865
00:45:47,160 --> 00:45:50,319
Speaker 1: to snap my finger, please get into this. Yeah. So

866
00:45:50,360 --> 00:45:52,560
Speaker 1: in the beginning where they're like, I was able to

867
00:45:52,600 --> 00:45:54,440
Speaker 1: put all of my all of me on the table

868
00:45:54,840 --> 00:45:56,680
Speaker 1: and know that it's not going to be judged because

869
00:45:56,719 --> 00:46:00,239
Speaker 1: it's not like a girlfriend, right, and you didn't care? Yeah,

870
00:46:00,239 --> 00:46:04,080
Speaker 1: and if you did and you were the same, Yeah,

871
00:46:04,160 --> 00:46:06,120
Speaker 1: Jared's younger than me. I wasn't sure if I'll be

872
00:46:06,160 --> 00:46:08,279
Speaker 1: able to stay in our country much longer. Like, there

873
00:46:08,320 --> 00:46:10,640
Speaker 1: was so much fuck it in what we shared in

874
00:46:10,680 --> 00:46:14,839
Speaker 1: the beginning, and that I think benefited too, because we're

875
00:46:14,880 --> 00:46:16,360
Speaker 1: never trying to make it anything more than what it

876
00:46:16,440 --> 00:46:18,840
Speaker 1: was in the moment. I love that because it's also

877
00:46:19,560 --> 00:46:21,799
Speaker 1: a lot of people don't assume that you could go

878
00:46:21,880 --> 00:46:26,239
Speaker 1: from a friend to marriage. A lot like and I

879
00:46:26,280 --> 00:46:28,239
Speaker 1: don't think a lot of people can. No, I don't either,

880
00:46:28,280 --> 00:46:30,080
Speaker 1: but I think I give them too much of them.

881
00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:32,680
Speaker 1: But also but no, this is the problem to what

882
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:34,920
Speaker 1: both of you guys are insinuating two is that when

883
00:46:34,920 --> 00:46:37,120
Speaker 1: we date and we're actually looking for a life partner,

884
00:46:37,320 --> 00:46:39,600
Speaker 1: we don't show up as our true selves. No, yeah,

885
00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:40,960
Speaker 1: you show up on the selves that you think they're

886
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:43,759
Speaker 1: gonna like. The only thing is I will say not

887
00:46:43,800 --> 00:46:49,800
Speaker 1: saying it like even over Like literally told me maybe

888
00:46:49,840 --> 00:46:51,719
Speaker 1: the third time we had success, said something about having

889
00:46:51,760 --> 00:46:53,920
Speaker 1: dinner again. He's like, yo, like I'm just letting you know,

890
00:46:54,000 --> 00:46:56,160
Speaker 1: like I haven't had a girlfriend in a minute my life,

891
00:46:56,160 --> 00:46:59,080
Speaker 1: selling for a girlfriend, don't want a girlfriend, and then

892
00:46:59,280 --> 00:47:02,160
Speaker 1: two years to their families, all that living in Mexico,

893
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:06,400
Speaker 1: like it was a lot. And I think sometimes not

894
00:47:06,520 --> 00:47:10,879
Speaker 1: even that men are um, I'm trying to find the word,

895
00:47:11,200 --> 00:47:13,040
Speaker 1: not that they're lying, because I do believe when a

896
00:47:13,040 --> 00:47:15,120
Speaker 1: man says what he wants or what he's looking for,

897
00:47:15,160 --> 00:47:17,279
Speaker 1: you should believe him and listen to him. But I

898
00:47:17,320 --> 00:47:20,279
Speaker 1: do think it's the no pressure because we are trying

899
00:47:20,320 --> 00:47:22,040
Speaker 1: so hard on that first date or that second date,

900
00:47:22,080 --> 00:47:24,520
Speaker 1: not even realizing it, just trying to make a good impression.

901
00:47:24,560 --> 00:47:26,399
Speaker 1: Like that's what we do in a job interview. That's

902
00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:27,759
Speaker 1: what we do on the first day, because that's really

903
00:47:27,760 --> 00:47:30,799
Speaker 1: what it is. And when you meet someone and it's

904
00:47:30,840 --> 00:47:33,759
Speaker 1: that no frill ship, you get to know they're really true,

905
00:47:33,840 --> 00:47:35,480
Speaker 1: like that's your friends. But the truth of the the matter

906
00:47:35,640 --> 00:47:37,359
Speaker 1: is that's not like we're saying it like this, but

907
00:47:37,440 --> 00:47:39,200
Speaker 1: there's so many times and jaredy also to say to him,

908
00:47:39,239 --> 00:47:41,040
Speaker 1: if you knew this about me before, would be would

909
00:47:41,040 --> 00:47:45,160
Speaker 1: we be together? He's like absolutely, not really being super needy,

910
00:47:45,360 --> 00:47:48,640
Speaker 1: being very corny, like making jokes that he's in front

911
00:47:48,640 --> 00:47:51,200
Speaker 1: of funny. I think I'd like to annoy you a lot. Yeah,

912
00:47:51,239 --> 00:47:54,920
Speaker 1: that's that one thing about that I will say, like

913
00:47:54,960 --> 00:47:58,200
Speaker 1: her version of flirting is like trying to piss me

914
00:47:58,239 --> 00:48:01,680
Speaker 1: off or you what, Like it's just really bad jokes. No,

915
00:48:01,920 --> 00:48:04,240
Speaker 1: it's like like I don't know how to explain it,

916
00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:06,600
Speaker 1: but like it's like you don't want to like nagging,

917
00:48:06,719 --> 00:48:11,160
Speaker 1: like I'm poking you. A lot of parts I tucked

918
00:48:11,160 --> 00:48:13,080
Speaker 1: away neatly because I was aware that I had to

919
00:48:13,120 --> 00:48:15,600
Speaker 1: wait until there was like some involvement in commitment to

920
00:48:15,600 --> 00:48:18,320
Speaker 1: be like this is who I truly am socially, and

921
00:48:18,440 --> 00:48:20,759
Speaker 1: instead of saying you look really good, you'll be like,

922
00:48:21,920 --> 00:48:24,719
Speaker 1: the hell you got all? She's really known as compliment,

923
00:48:26,600 --> 00:48:28,160
Speaker 1: you know. But I think at the end of the day,

924
00:48:28,320 --> 00:48:29,680
Speaker 1: the reason why I said, I'm not saying that not

925
00:48:29,719 --> 00:48:32,240
Speaker 1: everyone could do it because I'm like, we're something special.

926
00:48:32,320 --> 00:48:36,279
Speaker 1: I was really anal about maintaining the fun buddy relationship

927
00:48:36,320 --> 00:48:39,360
Speaker 1: and creating very clear boundaries because I was aware of

928
00:48:39,440 --> 00:48:41,840
Speaker 1: myself when would get me caught up and also my

929
00:48:41,920 --> 00:48:47,120
Speaker 1: biology naturally, so we only created relationships and revealed parts

930
00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:49,680
Speaker 1: of ourselves that fit with what we were at the time.

931
00:48:50,520 --> 00:48:53,480
Speaker 1: I never overinvested in him ever, So I never did

932
00:48:53,560 --> 00:48:55,799
Speaker 1: anything that made me feel like I'm trying to get

933
00:48:55,920 --> 00:48:57,920
Speaker 1: you know something that really great point because a lot

934
00:48:57,960 --> 00:49:00,440
Speaker 1: of people are trying to like cook to coop do

935
00:49:00,560 --> 00:49:02,520
Speaker 1: this stuff so they can get you to be theres

936
00:49:02,719 --> 00:49:06,400
Speaker 1: So who who wanted to take the fun buddy relationship beyond?

937
00:49:06,600 --> 00:49:13,719
Speaker 1: He was like that fluffy pussy got me, Jared, Yes,

938
00:49:13,800 --> 00:49:15,560
Speaker 1: it was you. You were the first person to say

939
00:49:15,600 --> 00:49:19,840
Speaker 1: I love you. Yeah, Yeah, he's so sweet. I love it.

940
00:49:20,760 --> 00:49:27,840
Speaker 1: She's like a yeah, so guys, I had to pe no,

941
00:49:28,280 --> 00:49:31,120
Speaker 1: they ain't gotta know that that's we edited. No, but

942
00:49:31,160 --> 00:49:32,560
Speaker 1: they might stay it on the video and it's a

943
00:49:32,800 --> 00:49:35,680
Speaker 1: it was like a pregnancy p You're like, you look

944
00:49:35,719 --> 00:49:39,759
Speaker 1: different now you look different afterp do you? I don't know.

945
00:49:39,920 --> 00:49:42,160
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, well, my friends is pregnant, maybe having

946
00:49:42,160 --> 00:49:44,880
Speaker 1: to pee, like it's gonna come out right now. Like

947
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:46,759
Speaker 1: I had a friend pulled the car over. Yeah I

948
00:49:46,800 --> 00:49:48,440
Speaker 1: can see that, and I was like, girl, are you

949
00:49:48,719 --> 00:49:51,960
Speaker 1: like we were in New York? Bro? Yeah, yeah, pushing

950
00:49:52,200 --> 00:49:54,120
Speaker 1: it gets like that. I get it. If you girl

951
00:49:54,080 --> 00:49:56,480
Speaker 1: a pe on yourself before you p and these on

952
00:49:56,600 --> 00:50:00,040
Speaker 1: twentieth and sucking lex Oh, ain't you I used to

953
00:50:00,160 --> 00:50:05,359
Speaker 1: Papa squad anywhere? Yeah, I don't want when No, New

954
00:50:05,440 --> 00:50:07,759
Speaker 1: York won't let you use the bathroom unless you're a

955
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:11,040
Speaker 1: customer Starbucks. Don't be like you gotta have a key

956
00:50:11,080 --> 00:50:13,240
Speaker 1: and 't receive. No, I'm just gonna pop a squat

957
00:50:13,280 --> 00:50:18,359
Speaker 1: well speak speak, You squatted and the whole baby came

958
00:50:18,400 --> 00:50:21,680
Speaker 1: out of you. Um, now that the baby is here,

959
00:50:22,040 --> 00:50:26,200
Speaker 1: how is your sex life now? It's been affected? It's

960
00:50:26,280 --> 00:50:29,440
Speaker 1: hold on. That's a big work. That's that's positive. Uh,

961
00:50:29,480 --> 00:50:32,799
Speaker 1: it's it's it's tough. Like the stage that she's at

962
00:50:32,880 --> 00:50:37,839
Speaker 1: right now is so much attention, so much like you know, involvement,

963
00:50:38,040 --> 00:50:41,160
Speaker 1: and so we barely get time to just be with us,

964
00:50:41,800 --> 00:50:43,600
Speaker 1: but we still find times like we had sex in

965
00:50:43,600 --> 00:50:49,640
Speaker 1: the closet. It's actually storage room sex, yeah, she does

966
00:50:50,760 --> 00:50:53,600
Speaker 1: room with us closet sex. Yeah, So like while y'all

967
00:50:53,600 --> 00:50:55,400
Speaker 1: are getting ready or like let's do it time that

968
00:50:55,800 --> 00:51:00,640
Speaker 1: there are always people at our house all as people,

969
00:51:00,680 --> 00:51:03,080
Speaker 1: so are windows of time of being alone and so

970
00:51:04,239 --> 00:51:06,320
Speaker 1: very very short. So when we do have like storage

971
00:51:06,360 --> 00:51:09,640
Speaker 1: room sex, it's when there's people upstairs. So it's a

972
00:51:09,719 --> 00:51:12,319
Speaker 1: limited amount of time that we have. Actually, in many

973
00:51:12,320 --> 00:51:17,360
Speaker 1: ways actually enjoy it more though, because I think before

974
00:51:17,360 --> 00:51:19,239
Speaker 1: you just you and me for so long there and

975
00:51:19,280 --> 00:51:22,920
Speaker 1: we work together, so there's like a constant opportunity to

976
00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:25,360
Speaker 1: be having sex, which kind of makes it less special

977
00:51:25,360 --> 00:51:28,200
Speaker 1: in many ways, Whereas now, like we're on this trip together,

978
00:51:28,239 --> 00:51:30,240
Speaker 1: we've had sex every day because it's like it's rare

979
00:51:30,800 --> 00:51:33,359
Speaker 1: to have that time. But also when we do have

980
00:51:33,440 --> 00:51:35,799
Speaker 1: sex or have those moments, I don't have to like

981
00:51:35,840 --> 00:51:38,000
Speaker 1: work up the drive or the desire like it's been

982
00:51:38,080 --> 00:51:40,600
Speaker 1: in me all these exchanges constantly like building it up,

983
00:51:40,640 --> 00:51:43,120
Speaker 1: So I think that it actually has made the sex better.

984
00:51:43,360 --> 00:51:44,759
Speaker 1: I don't think I've had bad sex with you in

985
00:51:44,760 --> 00:51:48,040
Speaker 1: a long time. Yeah, And when I say it affected,

986
00:51:48,120 --> 00:51:51,799
Speaker 1: it wasn't. The sex itself is out time and when

987
00:51:51,840 --> 00:51:54,160
Speaker 1: you can also for sure, I mean like when we

988
00:51:54,160 --> 00:51:56,960
Speaker 1: first got together, we never never not had sex, you know,

989
00:51:57,040 --> 00:51:58,680
Speaker 1: two times in a row day we saw each other,

990
00:51:58,840 --> 00:52:00,920
Speaker 1: and then we within together and we had sex every

991
00:52:00,920 --> 00:52:03,120
Speaker 1: single day for a year, and then the next year

992
00:52:03,160 --> 00:52:05,680
Speaker 1: it was like maybe you know, six times a week,

993
00:52:05,719 --> 00:52:08,399
Speaker 1: and then the next year it was like maybe three

994
00:52:08,440 --> 00:52:10,480
Speaker 1: times a week, and then the next year and then

995
00:52:10,480 --> 00:52:12,600
Speaker 1: now we're probably at like how many years have been together,

996
00:52:13,280 --> 00:52:19,680
Speaker 1: twoft and now you're at what once or twice a week? Yeah,

997
00:52:20,320 --> 00:52:22,719
Speaker 1: And that hasn't affected either of you because clearly both

998
00:52:22,760 --> 00:52:26,200
Speaker 1: of you didn't have really high sex drives. Has age

999
00:52:26,480 --> 00:52:28,279
Speaker 1: and life slowed that down or do you still have

1000
00:52:28,320 --> 00:52:30,600
Speaker 1: that sex drive just not enough time. It's still the

1001
00:52:30,640 --> 00:52:33,600
Speaker 1: same sex drive, just not enough time. And I think

1002
00:52:34,080 --> 00:52:37,359
Speaker 1: you know, with age comes understanding, So there's like a

1003
00:52:37,400 --> 00:52:39,719
Speaker 1: part of it that's like I understand that this is

1004
00:52:39,760 --> 00:52:42,040
Speaker 1: just the process that we're going through now. It doesn't

1005
00:52:42,040 --> 00:52:44,560
Speaker 1: mean that we won't get back there. But I will say,

1006
00:52:44,560 --> 00:52:46,239
Speaker 1: like like we did a video we talked about this

1007
00:52:46,280 --> 00:52:48,400
Speaker 1: where people were like kind of upsetting the comments about it,

1008
00:52:48,440 --> 00:52:51,000
Speaker 1: but we said that we never turn each other down,

1009
00:52:51,520 --> 00:52:53,399
Speaker 1: Like if he comes on to me no matter what,

1010
00:52:53,480 --> 00:52:54,879
Speaker 1: if I want to or I don't, I don't ever

1011
00:52:54,880 --> 00:52:59,640
Speaker 1: turn him down. Well, it looks like it makes it

1012
00:52:59,680 --> 00:53:07,880
Speaker 1: seem like like like like, I mean, if you have

1013
00:53:07,880 --> 00:53:11,000
Speaker 1: a partner, schedules, bro like to remind each other, and

1014
00:53:11,000 --> 00:53:13,560
Speaker 1: I think that not turning each other down is a

1015
00:53:13,600 --> 00:53:15,799
Speaker 1: great commitment. Well, if you have a partner who's going

1016
00:53:15,880 --> 00:53:17,360
Speaker 1: to be like, I don't care. If you're having the

1017
00:53:17,360 --> 00:53:19,279
Speaker 1: worst day ever and you're on your period and you're

1018
00:53:19,320 --> 00:53:21,879
Speaker 1: on your side in so much pain you're sucking meat,

1019
00:53:21,920 --> 00:53:23,840
Speaker 1: then that's a terrible rule. But I don't have that

1020
00:53:23,920 --> 00:53:26,080
Speaker 1: kind of partner, so I don't know. I was about

1021
00:53:26,080 --> 00:53:29,960
Speaker 1: to say, it's definitely subjective to the relationship only because

1022
00:53:30,480 --> 00:53:32,279
Speaker 1: like I do believe that you should be able to

1023
00:53:32,280 --> 00:53:34,120
Speaker 1: tell your partner no the same way you could tell

1024
00:53:34,640 --> 00:53:39,120
Speaker 1: an unwanted person or person essentral park. Yeah, like you

1025
00:53:39,120 --> 00:53:41,919
Speaker 1: can always tell someone else, So I do get why

1026
00:53:42,040 --> 00:53:44,160
Speaker 1: it would get pushed back. But again, I think it's

1027
00:53:44,160 --> 00:53:46,600
Speaker 1: subjective to the type of relationship you have, Like my

1028
00:53:46,680 --> 00:53:51,640
Speaker 1: partner now or did was x whatever I heard about

1029
00:53:51,680 --> 00:53:53,960
Speaker 1: it because I'm single but I'm not, but I am

1030
00:53:54,000 --> 00:53:58,560
Speaker 1: I it's a hot girl summer um. Um, Like, I

1031
00:53:58,640 --> 00:54:00,880
Speaker 1: don't do period sex. And I know that there's a

1032
00:54:00,880 --> 00:54:03,560
Speaker 1: lot of men they're like, I run red lights and

1033
00:54:03,600 --> 00:54:06,120
Speaker 1: for me that's a that's a no. It's a hard no.

1034
00:54:06,640 --> 00:54:09,520
Speaker 1: And so even if you're as horny as you are,

1035
00:54:10,080 --> 00:54:12,360
Speaker 1: that is one thing that I'm sorry, I'm not interested

1036
00:54:12,360 --> 00:54:14,239
Speaker 1: in it, and so to me, I should be able

1037
00:54:14,239 --> 00:54:19,759
Speaker 1: to say that without like another one like yeah, just

1038
00:54:19,800 --> 00:54:24,080
Speaker 1: some period bled no blo. Um. I have courage. It

1039
00:54:24,120 --> 00:54:27,480
Speaker 1: takes okay, not courage your body, courage and bravery. That

1040
00:54:27,640 --> 00:54:30,640
Speaker 1: that should be the title. Little all right, before we

1041
00:54:30,680 --> 00:54:32,080
Speaker 1: get out of here, let's get really quick to the

1042
00:54:32,080 --> 00:54:35,279
Speaker 1: whole mail. It's called unchanged this hole, um, and I

1043
00:54:35,360 --> 00:54:37,520
Speaker 1: want you guys to help us as well with the

1044
00:54:37,560 --> 00:54:40,120
Speaker 1: advice for this. I'm twenty six and I got married

1045
00:54:40,120 --> 00:54:43,000
Speaker 1: almost three years ago to my currently thirty four year

1046
00:54:43,040 --> 00:54:46,239
Speaker 1: old husband after being together for almost six years. Since

1047
00:54:46,280 --> 00:54:50,400
Speaker 1: about our relationship hasn't been in a great place. However,

1048
00:54:50,760 --> 00:54:53,200
Speaker 1: I remain optimistic in hopes that we would get through

1049
00:54:53,239 --> 00:54:55,680
Speaker 1: it kind of similar what you just said. The major

1050
00:54:55,760 --> 00:54:59,000
Speaker 1: issue in our relationship has actually been money ever since,

1051
00:55:00,080 --> 00:55:02,799
Speaker 1: my husband hasn't really been a strong financially provider of

1052
00:55:02,880 --> 00:55:05,880
Speaker 1: the house. This is mainly due to his need of

1053
00:55:05,960 --> 00:55:08,880
Speaker 1: pursuing a creative career and not wanting to work for

1054
00:55:09,000 --> 00:55:13,600
Speaker 1: the man anymore. Well I supported this man, Listen, Well,

1055
00:55:13,640 --> 00:55:16,439
Speaker 1: I've supported this man through two failed dreams, and now

1056
00:55:16,480 --> 00:55:18,439
Speaker 1: he is on number three and I know I don't

1057
00:55:18,440 --> 00:55:22,080
Speaker 1: have the emotional, mental, or financial resources to continue to

1058
00:55:22,239 --> 00:55:25,160
Speaker 1: support him. After listening to your podcast and hearing the

1059
00:55:25,280 --> 00:55:28,279
Speaker 1: variety of perspectives from some of your previous guests, I

1060
00:55:28,280 --> 00:55:30,880
Speaker 1: have finally come to accept that my marriage is possibly

1061
00:55:30,920 --> 00:55:34,239
Speaker 1: a failure. I now know that it isn't that I

1062
00:55:34,280 --> 00:55:40,680
Speaker 1: want one moment all on Oh. I now know what

1063
00:55:40,719 --> 00:55:42,640
Speaker 1: it is that I want from a partner, and my

1064
00:55:42,719 --> 00:55:45,960
Speaker 1: husband isn't cutting it. I'm ready to be unchained and

1065
00:55:45,960 --> 00:55:48,359
Speaker 1: go out into the world and live my whole home

1066
00:55:48,560 --> 00:55:52,440
Speaker 1: ass life. My question for you, ladies and guests is

1067
00:55:52,480 --> 00:55:54,960
Speaker 1: how do I go about telling my husband that I

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00:55:55,000 --> 00:55:59,640
Speaker 1: want a divorce. We don't have any kids, we don't

1069
00:55:59,400 --> 00:56:01,400
Speaker 1: at Anna say, how about go out there and have

1070
00:56:01,480 --> 00:56:03,960
Speaker 1: the summer like this is all happened? You know she

1071
00:56:04,000 --> 00:56:06,120
Speaker 1: wants to know how she comes to her partner says

1072
00:56:06,160 --> 00:56:08,200
Speaker 1: that she says that they don't have any kids, so

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00:56:08,239 --> 00:56:11,359
Speaker 1: no worries about that, but she does currently have four

1074
00:56:11,400 --> 00:56:14,120
Speaker 1: months left on the lease, and she's worried that she

1075
00:56:14,280 --> 00:56:16,800
Speaker 1: if she tells him too soon, she'll be left to

1076
00:56:16,840 --> 00:56:19,919
Speaker 1: support a home by herself. You are not worried about too,

1077
00:56:20,000 --> 00:56:22,240
Speaker 1: And she said she said at the moment, she can't

1078
00:56:22,239 --> 00:56:24,920
Speaker 1: support the home by herself. So that's why she really mean,

1079
00:56:25,000 --> 00:56:27,239
Speaker 1: since he can't and she can't. I think that they're

1080
00:56:27,280 --> 00:56:30,399
Speaker 1: both now stuck in a relationship because they are both financially.

1081
00:56:30,680 --> 00:56:32,440
Speaker 1: I just noticed that you're wearing orange. You're on the

1082
00:56:32,480 --> 00:56:34,239
Speaker 1: orange mike. You're wearing green, You're on the green mike.

1083
00:56:36,239 --> 00:56:38,399
Speaker 1: I think telling your husband that you want to get

1084
00:56:38,400 --> 00:56:40,840
Speaker 1: a divorce, if you haven't tried to work at it,

1085
00:56:41,000 --> 00:56:44,279
Speaker 1: might be kind of a shitty thing to do. It

1086
00:56:44,320 --> 00:56:49,839
Speaker 1: sounds like they've tried it, sounds she's been Um. If

1087
00:56:49,840 --> 00:56:52,359
Speaker 1: you're concerned about the time frame, um, fake it till

1088
00:56:52,360 --> 00:56:54,560
Speaker 1: you get you about sixty days? Right? Is she per

1089
00:56:54,600 --> 00:56:56,600
Speaker 1: to keep them cheaper to keep her like? That's what

1090
00:56:56,640 --> 00:56:59,440
Speaker 1: they say, like and you need a playing girl. But

1091
00:56:59,520 --> 00:57:02,600
Speaker 1: divorce is also takes some time, right, Yeah, but like

1092
00:57:02,760 --> 00:57:04,640
Speaker 1: imagine if someone told you that, well, it takes a

1093
00:57:04,680 --> 00:57:07,520
Speaker 1: year being separated and not living together. So in effect,

1094
00:57:07,560 --> 00:57:10,200
Speaker 1: you have to dissolve the relationship for a year and

1095
00:57:10,200 --> 00:57:12,680
Speaker 1: then you can file for a divorce. But I still

1096
00:57:12,719 --> 00:57:16,760
Speaker 1: have to make the you have to file separation first. Yes, really,

1097
00:57:16,920 --> 00:57:19,520
Speaker 1: and I didn't file the separation very safe. I'm pretty

1098
00:57:19,560 --> 00:57:21,200
Speaker 1: you have to be separated for a year before you

1099
00:57:21,200 --> 00:57:22,800
Speaker 1: can file for divorce. And now I'm not even quite

1100
00:57:22,800 --> 00:57:24,480
Speaker 1: sure because you're so shocked that I don't know. Ye,

1101
00:57:25,680 --> 00:57:28,120
Speaker 1: like people be like, I'm yeah, but no, it's I

1102
00:57:28,440 --> 00:57:30,680
Speaker 1: definitely know. It takes time. It does. It takes a

1103
00:57:30,720 --> 00:57:33,160
Speaker 1: lot of time because it's like there's like pepperwork that

1104
00:57:33,160 --> 00:57:34,880
Speaker 1: has to be signed on both ends, and sometimes if

1105
00:57:34,880 --> 00:57:36,920
Speaker 1: there's one partner who doesn't want it, they take forever

1106
00:57:36,960 --> 00:57:39,160
Speaker 1: to sign it. They don't sign it, they throw it away.

1107
00:57:39,200 --> 00:57:41,880
Speaker 1: They that's the TV. Let's say. I think even outside

1108
00:57:41,880 --> 00:57:44,720
Speaker 1: of marriage, this has been a constant um struggle for

1109
00:57:44,720 --> 00:57:48,480
Speaker 1: a lot of relationships, especially during covid um. People wanting

1110
00:57:48,520 --> 00:57:51,240
Speaker 1: to separate, but now they both know they need each

1111
00:57:51,240 --> 00:57:54,320
Speaker 1: other because they live together, and how do I pay

1112
00:57:54,320 --> 00:57:57,720
Speaker 1: bills by myself without my partner during this crisis. So

1113
00:57:57,880 --> 00:57:59,800
Speaker 1: you know what is it takes so much mental energy

1114
00:57:59,840 --> 00:58:02,480
Speaker 1: to maintain an unhealthy relationship that doesn't bring you joy.

1115
00:58:02,560 --> 00:58:05,040
Speaker 1: You'd be surprised at how much more productive you can

1116
00:58:05,080 --> 00:58:07,760
Speaker 1: be outside of that partnership. So you're looking at it

1117
00:58:07,800 --> 00:58:10,320
Speaker 1: now like the version of you that exists today can't

1118
00:58:10,360 --> 00:58:12,560
Speaker 1: afford to live alone. But the version of you when

1119
00:58:12,560 --> 00:58:15,080
Speaker 1: you free yourself from this connection that is draining you

1120
00:58:15,120 --> 00:58:17,600
Speaker 1: and dragging you down, probably can make it work and

1121
00:58:17,600 --> 00:58:20,680
Speaker 1: figure it out. Um, I can say that I went

1122
00:58:20,720 --> 00:58:22,920
Speaker 1: from making twelve thousand a year to what we make

1123
00:58:22,960 --> 00:58:25,000
Speaker 1: now as a result of a positive partnership. But even

1124
00:58:25,040 --> 00:58:27,800
Speaker 1: just living alone and getting away from my toxic X,

1125
00:58:27,840 --> 00:58:29,880
Speaker 1: it was just a day night version. It just it

1126
00:58:29,920 --> 00:58:32,560
Speaker 1: takes a lot of brain power to manage an unsuccessful,

1127
00:58:32,640 --> 00:58:35,440
Speaker 1: unhealthy relationship, So get out of that. Prioritize that over

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00:58:35,560 --> 00:58:38,360
Speaker 1: finances is I would give that advice a thousand per

1129
00:58:38,360 --> 00:58:40,280
Speaker 1: cent across the board. I also think the coolest thing

1130
00:58:40,320 --> 00:58:42,560
Speaker 1: someone said to me about marriage is that marriage is

1131
00:58:42,560 --> 00:58:45,000
Speaker 1: the only thing that we do where we celebrate the intent.

1132
00:58:45,280 --> 00:58:48,520
Speaker 1: Like in university, you celebrate the completion, right, that's the

1133
00:58:48,520 --> 00:58:52,400
Speaker 1: graduation marriage is like we're intending to give this a try.

1134
00:58:52,480 --> 00:58:56,320
Speaker 1: We're celebrating the intent. It's okay if that intention doesn't

1135
00:58:56,360 --> 00:58:58,919
Speaker 1: work out. And even she said someone said the word

1136
00:58:58,920 --> 00:59:01,720
Speaker 1: failure or she surrot my Malian marriage is a failure. No, no,

1137
00:59:01,920 --> 00:59:04,920
Speaker 1: it's the opposite. It's like if you're a party, Yeah,

1138
00:59:05,160 --> 00:59:07,840
Speaker 1: the party is over. It was a success, but now

1139
00:59:07,880 --> 00:59:10,720
Speaker 1: everyone can go home, like if we have done what

1140
00:59:10,800 --> 00:59:13,680
Speaker 1: we came together to do. Maybe we didn't make forever,

1141
00:59:13,840 --> 00:59:16,400
Speaker 1: but we accomplished whatever we did in these years, and

1142
00:59:16,440 --> 00:59:18,600
Speaker 1: I want to call it right now while we're ahead

1143
00:59:18,640 --> 00:59:20,760
Speaker 1: and say this was great for what it was. It

1144
00:59:20,840 --> 00:59:22,720
Speaker 1: was a successful marriage, But now I want to move

1145
00:59:22,800 --> 00:59:31,840
Speaker 1: on to other successful ventures. Like no, yeah, I would say, um,

1146
00:59:31,880 --> 00:59:35,200
Speaker 1: just just pull that trigger as soon as possible, um,

1147
00:59:35,240 --> 00:59:37,600
Speaker 1: because I find that if you start to find different

1148
00:59:37,640 --> 00:59:40,640
Speaker 1: excuses on why you're not gonna pull it, maybe when

1149
00:59:40,680 --> 00:59:43,640
Speaker 1: you come down to that sixty day mark, you're gonna

1150
00:59:43,680 --> 00:59:46,280
Speaker 1: be like maybe should I Or there's gonna be one

1151
00:59:46,320 --> 00:59:48,120
Speaker 1: other thing that's going to hold you back from pulling

1152
00:59:48,120 --> 00:59:50,520
Speaker 1: that trigger. So I'd say you just do it and

1153
00:59:50,640 --> 00:59:53,120
Speaker 1: uh and see what happens. You only live once and

1154
00:59:53,400 --> 00:59:59,160
Speaker 1: you pro divorce so that I love that about Yeah,

1155
00:59:59,280 --> 01:00:01,800
Speaker 1: I love that. So divorce Actually, yeah, I think that

1156
01:00:01,840 --> 01:00:05,080
Speaker 1: that's also good thing to be now because it seems like,

1157
01:00:05,160 --> 01:00:07,000
Speaker 1: oh like, we're gonna make this work, and if it's

1158
01:00:07,040 --> 01:00:08,440
Speaker 1: not gonna work, we're not gonna sit in here and

1159
01:00:08,440 --> 01:00:12,120
Speaker 1: be unhappy. There's so many marriages where they stay because

1160
01:00:12,200 --> 01:00:17,480
Speaker 1: there's in divorce. There's a whole other version of content

1161
01:00:17,480 --> 01:00:23,240
Speaker 1: I can create around divorce. So anyway, right here we

1162
01:00:23,440 --> 01:00:27,120
Speaker 1: speaking of content. Where can our listeners listen to the

1163
01:00:27,160 --> 01:00:30,560
Speaker 1: both of you and find content from y'all? You could

1164
01:00:30,560 --> 01:00:32,160
Speaker 1: find me. I don't know which one is like camera,

1165
01:00:32,240 --> 01:00:33,800
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna look at one of these. I think

1166
01:00:33,840 --> 01:00:36,720
Speaker 1: this one right here, this middle one. Okay, you can

1167
01:00:36,760 --> 01:00:40,320
Speaker 1: find me enjoy the podcast or enjoy Jared Brady across

1168
01:00:40,360 --> 01:00:44,520
Speaker 1: all platforms, and uh yeah that's everywhere because oh hell

1169
01:00:49,120 --> 01:00:57,360
Speaker 1: yes kiss kiss. Oh oh well, there's per mention, the

1170
01:00:57,520 --> 01:01:04,960
Speaker 1: vibe I'm like to get out expect that out of

1171
01:01:05,000 --> 01:01:08,200
Speaker 1: You have a podcast coming out which we did an

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Speaker 1: episode for today. We're going to be an episode by

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01:01:10,120 --> 01:01:13,520
Speaker 1: time probably airs October six, where all podcasts are available

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01:01:13,760 --> 01:01:18,000
Speaker 1: called Lovers and Friends. Congrats on your podcast A very

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01:01:18,120 --> 01:01:19,840
Speaker 1: long time coming. I know you had one that came

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01:01:19,840 --> 01:01:21,880
Speaker 1: out with your audiobook or something. I feel like, well,

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01:01:21,880 --> 01:01:24,920
Speaker 1: that's a audio book which also listened to that. Nice.

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Speaker 1: We loved your but thank you so much. I appreciate

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Speaker 1: another one. Thanks kiss yo. Looking looking at the chand like,

1180
01:01:34,080 --> 01:01:38,240
Speaker 1: are you serious? Right now? This will be the clip

1181
01:01:38,360 --> 01:01:41,240
Speaker 1: just so you know it's gonna go all over the internet. Look,

1182
01:01:41,640 --> 01:01:43,000
Speaker 1: you don't want to kiss him, first of all, I

1183
01:01:43,040 --> 01:01:46,760
Speaker 1: mean I'm not saying I want to turning red now,

1184
01:01:47,280 --> 01:01:49,520
Speaker 1: not the one who flirts with all the guests. And

1185
01:01:49,560 --> 01:01:52,520
Speaker 1: now I never had a guess with a husband. I

1186
01:01:52,600 --> 01:01:55,919
Speaker 1: was into. Well, now she's giving you permission to kiss them.

1187
01:01:56,240 --> 01:01:58,560
Speaker 1: Is this gonna be on like TV? Okay, let's not

1188
01:01:58,600 --> 01:02:02,400
Speaker 1: do it. It It feels like it's getting cool. It's all fine.

1189
01:02:03,160 --> 01:02:05,439
Speaker 1: You don't want to eat a guy. She's not doing

1190
01:02:05,440 --> 01:02:08,800
Speaker 1: that right now, I'm doing well. Guys, are gonna leave

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Speaker 1: want for us on the bonus clip. Oh we could,

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Speaker 1: What if I'm in a bow clip? And this has

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Speaker 1: been another episode of Horrible Decisions. Hey guys, I've been

1201
01:02:42,160 --> 01:02:43,920
Speaker 1: listening to Horrible Decisions for a bit now, and I

1202
01:02:43,960 --> 01:02:46,480
Speaker 1: thought you might have some advice or could relate to

1203
01:02:46,520 --> 01:02:49,120
Speaker 1: the current problem that I have. First off, long story short,

1204
01:02:49,160 --> 01:02:51,680
Speaker 1: I recently, in the last two years, came out as By.

1205
01:02:51,800 --> 01:02:53,840
Speaker 1: It's been crazy trying to be true to myself because

1206
01:02:53,840 --> 01:02:56,040
Speaker 1: in my background, my mom was highly against the idea

1207
01:02:56,040 --> 01:02:57,920
Speaker 1: of a woman being with anyone else but a but

1208
01:02:58,040 --> 01:03:00,120
Speaker 1: a man. But when I came out is By, I

1209
01:03:00,120 --> 01:03:03,400
Speaker 1: started experimenting with threesomes, guys, girls, all that. And then

1210
01:03:03,440 --> 01:03:06,120
Speaker 1: one day I started realizing, I keep thinking about a

1211
01:03:06,160 --> 01:03:08,560
Speaker 1: threesome with two men who were either by or gay

1212
01:03:08,680 --> 01:03:11,040
Speaker 1: or whatever. I just wanted to try it, and I did,

1213
01:03:11,120 --> 01:03:13,720
Speaker 1: and I loved it. So now I'm into that a lot,

1214
01:03:13,760 --> 01:03:16,000
Speaker 1: and I never knew it before. Fast forward to last year,

1215
01:03:16,040 --> 01:03:17,520
Speaker 1: my X and I got back together. We've been on

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01:03:17,560 --> 01:03:19,680
Speaker 1: and off for seven years. I had no intention of

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01:03:19,720 --> 01:03:22,120
Speaker 1: going back after he was so upset about me coming

1218
01:03:22,120 --> 01:03:23,840
Speaker 1: out to him is by during the last time we

1219
01:03:23,920 --> 01:03:26,640
Speaker 1: broke up. But nevertheless, here we are. I do love him.

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01:03:26,640 --> 01:03:28,360
Speaker 1: Our sex has been amazing. I just wish he was

1221
01:03:28,400 --> 01:03:30,720
Speaker 1: more open to the idea of a threesome. Maybe I'm

1222
01:03:30,760 --> 01:03:32,360
Speaker 1: not even asking for him to try a threesome with

1223
01:03:32,360 --> 01:03:35,200
Speaker 1: another man. I know that's a far as stress stretch,

1224
01:03:35,240 --> 01:03:37,480
Speaker 1: but damn, can I watch you another girl? Can we

1225
01:03:37,520 --> 01:03:39,600
Speaker 1: fuck this girl together? I have needs. I can't deny

1226
01:03:39,640 --> 01:03:42,080
Speaker 1: my sexuality, and it's sad as hell, but I take

1227
01:03:42,120 --> 01:03:44,440
Speaker 1: it slow because I know I just should have been

1228
01:03:44,440 --> 01:03:46,400
Speaker 1: open from a jump, and I've always known I was

1229
01:03:46,440 --> 01:03:49,400
Speaker 1: into both. I was afraid because I was so shameful.

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Speaker 1: My question is, do you think there are any ways

1231
01:03:51,600 --> 01:03:54,040
Speaker 1: I can introduce the idea successfully to have a threesome.

1232
01:03:54,240 --> 01:03:56,160
Speaker 1: I definitely don't want to just bring it up bluntly

1233
01:03:56,200 --> 01:03:58,520
Speaker 1: like I have in the past, because he'll probably think

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01:03:58,520 --> 01:04:01,240
Speaker 1: he's gonna have to compete with a woman. Um. Sorry,

1235
01:04:01,240 --> 01:04:03,320
Speaker 1: it's lengthy with the story needed context. Until I figured

1236
01:04:03,320 --> 01:04:04,800
Speaker 1: out I'll be watching porn. Of all the things I

1237
01:04:04,800 --> 01:04:09,400
Speaker 1: wish I could try, shall now see why you brought

1238
01:04:09,440 --> 01:04:11,560
Speaker 1: a shot on Patreon. I'm so sick of he'se goddamn,

1239
01:04:11,560 --> 01:04:14,600
Speaker 1: how do I get a threesome of My partner asked questions. No,

1240
01:04:15,720 --> 01:04:18,480
Speaker 1: this one's a little bit different because it's just she's

1241
01:04:18,520 --> 01:04:21,240
Speaker 1: just announcing that she's bisexual. So I think it's a

1242
01:04:21,280 --> 01:04:24,000
Speaker 1: reverse right. It's normally men trying to bring women in

1243
01:04:24,080 --> 01:04:28,640
Speaker 1: on a threesome. And I had a situation with hospital

1244
01:04:28,720 --> 01:04:31,800
Speaker 1: dick and with the Jesus dude I dated where they

1245
01:04:32,120 --> 01:04:36,800
Speaker 1: really felt like and believed that other women were just

1246
01:04:36,880 --> 01:04:39,200
Speaker 1: as bad as other men. In my head, fucked up.

1247
01:04:39,280 --> 01:04:41,520
Speaker 1: I have a sex podcast. I was like, but it's

1248
01:04:41,520 --> 01:04:43,160
Speaker 1: just a bit. I'm not trying to suck another nigga.

1249
01:04:44,160 --> 01:04:46,520
Speaker 1: And I will say this if there is any ladies

1250
01:04:46,600 --> 01:04:48,960
Speaker 1: listening to the podcast. I know we don't often talk

1251
01:04:49,000 --> 01:04:54,760
Speaker 1: about men saying no to threesomes, but I do believe,

1252
01:04:55,640 --> 01:04:58,600
Speaker 1: and both men that told me no have big dicks.

1253
01:04:58,960 --> 01:05:01,520
Speaker 1: I don't think it's a confiden it's issue. I truly

1254
01:05:01,520 --> 01:05:03,880
Speaker 1: believe it has to do with where someone feels like

1255
01:05:03,920 --> 01:05:07,200
Speaker 1: they stand with you. Hear me out. I don't think

1256
01:05:07,240 --> 01:05:09,800
Speaker 1: that men feel safe in threesomes unless they know who

1257
01:05:09,800 --> 01:05:11,680
Speaker 1: the funk they are to you, Like, I think there's

1258
01:05:11,680 --> 01:05:13,960
Speaker 1: a reason that people that go to swingers resorts have

1259
01:05:14,000 --> 01:05:17,320
Speaker 1: been together forever and they're oldest fuck Like, I don't

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01:05:17,360 --> 01:05:20,360
Speaker 1: think that, especially you being on and off seven years

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Speaker 1: with someone introducing someone else into the bedroom makes sense

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01:05:23,600 --> 01:05:24,920
Speaker 1: when they don't even know what the funk they have

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01:05:25,000 --> 01:05:27,080
Speaker 1: going on with you. And maybe you could say he

1264
01:05:27,120 --> 01:05:29,760
Speaker 1: knows you well or whatever, but like on and off

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01:05:29,800 --> 01:05:31,880
Speaker 1: for seven years, on and off a lot, and it

1266
01:05:31,920 --> 01:05:34,040
Speaker 1: sounds like you're more off been on for a nigga

1267
01:05:34,040 --> 01:05:36,120
Speaker 1: did not know you've been by the whole time. And

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01:05:36,160 --> 01:05:39,600
Speaker 1: if you mean then that to me, is you coming

1269
01:05:39,680 --> 01:05:43,760
Speaker 1: from a completely emo place, because niggas are okay with

1270
01:05:43,840 --> 01:05:47,480
Speaker 1: threesomes before they know where you stand with them, like clearly,

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01:05:47,640 --> 01:05:50,040
Speaker 1: But I'm saying that I'm talking about in case where

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01:05:50,040 --> 01:05:53,200
Speaker 1: men don't your boyfriend a man I've had a threesome with,

1273
01:05:53,480 --> 01:05:56,000
Speaker 1: These aren't the men were talking about. We're talking about

1274
01:05:56,000 --> 01:05:58,680
Speaker 1: the men that aren't comfortable and where where it comes from?

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01:05:58,720 --> 01:06:01,200
Speaker 1: Maybe right, So I mean, That's where I'm putting my

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01:06:01,240 --> 01:06:03,080
Speaker 1: input in. And I know we can all talk about

1277
01:06:03,080 --> 01:06:04,720
Speaker 1: men we funk that I've had a recent with, but

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01:06:04,800 --> 01:06:08,280
Speaker 1: I'm curious to know what y'all think as far as

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01:06:08,680 --> 01:06:10,720
Speaker 1: a man who is not not a man who is,

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01:06:10,720 --> 01:06:12,520
Speaker 1: but a man who's not. I mean, I just think

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01:06:12,520 --> 01:06:17,120
Speaker 1: it could come from a lot more deeper rooted things, uh,

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01:06:17,280 --> 01:06:21,920
Speaker 1: such as religion, such as their views on sexuality. Um,

1283
01:06:21,960 --> 01:06:24,800
Speaker 1: because I mean, I did have someone early on that

1284
01:06:24,840 --> 01:06:28,880
Speaker 1: I was talking to and well, this wasn't recent at all.

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01:06:29,040 --> 01:06:31,440
Speaker 1: You know who I'm talking about, but he actually did

1286
01:06:31,480 --> 01:06:34,080
Speaker 1: not like the fact that I liked other women and

1287
01:06:34,120 --> 01:06:37,160
Speaker 1: didn't feel like he would ever really care for me

1288
01:06:37,240 --> 01:06:40,360
Speaker 1: to be with another woman, and came to me like,

1289
01:06:40,720 --> 01:06:42,480
Speaker 1: if I feel like you have to bring in another

1290
01:06:42,520 --> 01:06:44,720
Speaker 1: woman to the bedroom or that you want to play

1291
01:06:44,800 --> 01:06:49,080
Speaker 1: with women, it's because you don't feel fully satisfied with me.

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01:06:49,680 --> 01:06:52,800
Speaker 1: And so I think that outside of religion, outside of

1293
01:06:52,840 --> 01:06:56,520
Speaker 1: what the relationship is, a man could have some insecurities

1294
01:06:57,040 --> 01:07:00,680
Speaker 1: if you want to bring someone in the room at all, like,

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01:07:00,800 --> 01:07:03,080
Speaker 1: and I think that that's really where a lot of

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01:07:03,120 --> 01:07:06,640
Speaker 1: that stems from. It's more so him a man feeling

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01:07:06,680 --> 01:07:09,720
Speaker 1: inadequate to please you fully and that's why you're seeking

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01:07:09,760 --> 01:07:15,200
Speaker 1: someone else. Yeah, there's article I read because when you

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01:07:15,320 --> 01:07:17,439
Speaker 1: try to like search advice about this. It's all about

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01:07:17,480 --> 01:07:19,280
Speaker 1: women asking my boyfriend wants to have a threesome, what

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01:07:19,320 --> 01:07:22,160
Speaker 1: do I do. There's this article on bold dot com.

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01:07:22,160 --> 01:07:24,720
Speaker 1: It's Bold with the Apian and it says, my boyfriend

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01:07:24,760 --> 01:07:26,520
Speaker 1: and I try to have a threesome and it destroyed us.

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01:07:26,520 --> 01:07:31,600
Speaker 1: And there's something really interesting about this. She says. At first,

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01:07:31,720 --> 01:07:34,320
Speaker 1: I was freaked out. It was moving so fast. Maybe

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01:07:34,360 --> 01:07:36,200
Speaker 1: I should have told him I was nervous, but I

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01:07:36,280 --> 01:07:40,200
Speaker 1: just wanted to be spontaneous. And see, I feel like

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01:07:40,240 --> 01:07:42,560
Speaker 1: if someone is telling you know before it's even happening,

1309
01:07:42,600 --> 01:07:45,400
Speaker 1: like this is a blessing in disguise. Threesomes can end

1310
01:07:45,680 --> 01:07:49,120
Speaker 1: so badly if you all don't know where you stand.

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01:07:49,760 --> 01:07:53,520
Speaker 1: And I think that, honestly, it's better left undone than

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01:07:53,560 --> 01:07:57,000
Speaker 1: trying to fund someone else with someone that doesn't want

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01:07:57,040 --> 01:07:59,320
Speaker 1: to do it. Like, you know, we hear about men

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01:07:59,440 --> 01:08:01,920
Speaker 1: kind of core sing women into threesomes so much, and

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01:08:01,960 --> 01:08:04,360
Speaker 1: I think that as women, we've got to really respect

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01:08:04,400 --> 01:08:07,640
Speaker 1: fucking boundaries. And if you've got to fund someone else

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01:08:07,760 --> 01:08:11,000
Speaker 1: that bad and you're that your kinks are that important,

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01:08:11,080 --> 01:08:12,320
Speaker 1: then girl in the game, you