Speaker 1: You've interviewed some of the most remarkable people in the world.
Speaker 1: I like to ask you if there's one or two
Speaker 1: things that have really impacted your thinking.
Speaker 2: I definitely think about a lot of the incredible experts
Speaker 2: we've had on sleep. And the reason I bring up
Speaker 2: sleep is because I think it's the one habit that
Speaker 2: incredibly impacts every other habit. When you get a good
Speaker 2: night's sleep, you're less likely to eat foods that are
Speaker 2: bad for you, You're more likely to have the energy
Speaker 2: to work out, You're going to feel more motivated and
Speaker 2: focused at work. It's the domino effect. And so for me,
Speaker 2: the things I've learned about sleep, the first.
Speaker 3: Is Hello Loves. I'm Andrea Waters King, and that was
Speaker 3: Jay Shetdy sharing a truth that we all need to hear.
Speaker 3: Welcome back to my legacy. Last week we explored love.
Speaker 3: Today we explore something just as powerful, wisdom. Ja Shetty
Speaker 3: and Roddy Deblukia open up about the teachings that shape them,
Speaker 3: the struggles that tested them, and the daily habits that
Speaker 3: guy I'm joined by my husband, Martin Luther King, the
Speaker 3: third eldest son of doctor Martin Luther King Junior, and
Speaker 3: Coretta Scott King, along with our good friends New York
Speaker 3: Times best selling authors Mark and Craig Kilberger. Let's pick
Speaker 3: up right where we left off. You're a great lesson
Speaker 3: in the languages of love, yes, and acknowledging that you
Speaker 3: know that we all love different ways and we receive
Speaker 3: love differently. You all kind of ask of what language
Speaker 3: does Roddy speak and show love? Or what language does
Speaker 3: Jay speak? And then how can I show them love
Speaker 3: in my language? And I just think that's such a beautiful,
Speaker 3: beautiful thing. And laughter. I love that you know you
Speaker 3: all are you know the laughter that you continue to bring,
Speaker 3: and I know that in our relationship that laughter is foundational.
Speaker 4: If you didn't you cry, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 5: Especially you know, when I first met Andrea, she was
Speaker 5: she was a serious as border health, serious health. That's
Speaker 5: pretty serious. Serious Andrea when she was twenty ish, like.
Speaker 6: I said, she she was like really serious.
Speaker 5: I don't know if I saw that, but all of
Speaker 5: a sudden, over the last like five years, she is
Speaker 5: becoming one of the most funny, prey people that I know,
Speaker 5: one of the most funniest persons, And it just adds
Speaker 5: so much to to our lives and people don't know
Speaker 5: my dad was humorous, got that from his mother. They
Speaker 5: see him as as very serious, which he always was publicly,
Speaker 5: but he also was extraordinarily humorous.
Speaker 3: Rod he's the comedian in our relation that was going
Speaker 3: to be so, what are some things that she does
Speaker 3: to make you wear?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 6: My god.
Speaker 2: Rather, he's the kind of person that wakes up in
Speaker 2: the morning, does a random dance move, like just for fun,
Speaker 2: I walk into the kitchen, there's no music playing, there's
Speaker 2: no music playing, but rather he's having a full on
Speaker 2: party just in her head.
Speaker 6: Yeah, And it's so much fun to watch.
Speaker 2: And just someone who's always looking at the bright side
Speaker 2: of life, someone who's always so well.
Speaker 4: The time you're painting me out to be, I can
Speaker 4: be a lot.
Speaker 7: It's okay, no you can't.
Speaker 2: She's but just yeah, she's hilarious in every possible way.
Speaker 2: She's making funny jokes.
Speaker 6: Everyone knows.
Speaker 2: Anyone who follows Rather on social media knows that she's hilarious.
Speaker 2: And and my team finds it really funny because on
Speaker 2: Valentine's Day or on our anniversary or whatever, I'll write
Speaker 2: these like long, soppy, romantic, heartfelt messages because that's who
Speaker 2: I am and RADI will post an AI video of
Speaker 2: me twerking.
Speaker 6: I'm not joking, it's.
Speaker 7: Will we share that on social media? Is that available?
Speaker 6: Malletine's day? Okay?
Speaker 2: I was like, literally, I wrote this beautiful post and
Speaker 2: she's got a video of AI.
Speaker 4: You're a PDA person.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I struggle with that.
Speaker 7: I love the description in this image in the morning,
Speaker 7: you walking in dancing into the morning kitchen. So I'm
Speaker 7: the type of guy who rolls out of bed and
Speaker 7: you got.
Speaker 6: To drag me into the kitchen.
Speaker 7: I never loved cooking, so I got to be candid
Speaker 7: here writing your book Joyful, You focus on conscious cooking
Speaker 7: and the energy that we bring into our food. Is
Speaker 7: someone who sees cooking as a chore. How can we
Speaker 7: turn that into much more of a joyful practice?
Speaker 4: I well to be fair the morning thing. I am
Speaker 4: a morning person. I always have them. My mum has
Speaker 4: trained me to always wake up early. Didn't like it
Speaker 4: when I was younger, but I really appreciate it now
Speaker 4: because mornings are definitely my favorite time of day, So
Speaker 4: I think that's at my advantage. I definitely jump out
Speaker 4: of bed and I'm ready to go from the second
Speaker 4: them away. But how do I the Christians cooking.
Speaker 7: It's a joyful practice. It's so cool.
Speaker 4: Because I think after learning about Avader and also again
Speaker 4: watching my mom and my grandma cook throughout my whole life,
Speaker 4: I realize that it is so much more than just
Speaker 4: feel for the body like what It is such an
Speaker 4: act of service, and through that act you can share
Speaker 4: so much love in it, Like whenever you think about
Speaker 4: I deeply believe that the reason most of us feel
Speaker 4: if our parents used to cook for us, that something
Speaker 4: tasted so good and you felt, you feel that warmth
Speaker 4: and that love through the food that someone's cooked for you.
Speaker 4: There is an actual energetic force that goes into the
Speaker 4: food that you're cooking when you're cooking it. And even
Speaker 4: in Irada, it talks about how the energy that you
Speaker 4: have when you're touching the food, when you're cooking the food,
Speaker 4: when you're preparing the food, how you are feeling, the
Speaker 4: thoughts you're thinking, the energy that you have, the emotion
Speaker 4: that you're feeling, has the ability to be transferred into
Speaker 4: the food that you are creating for that person. And
Speaker 4: so when I learned that, I was like, that is
Speaker 4: phenomenal because you can literally heal someone's heart through cooking.
Speaker 4: You can bring someone happiness through thinking about joyful things
Speaker 4: or praying while cooking the meal. You can transform not
Speaker 4: just their body, but their mood, their energy levels, their heart,
Speaker 4: their mental stay. And so it became, it became so
Speaker 4: much more than just being in the kitchen for me.
Speaker 4: It became an act of love and service and healing
Speaker 4: for people that I love and wanted to care for.
Speaker 4: And so yeah, it really shifted my perspective of what
Speaker 4: cooking actually is. Like it's it's not just cooking, It's
Speaker 4: so much deeper than that.
Speaker 7: You have just shifted my perspective. Since I love it.
Speaker 7: I love the idea.
Speaker 3: I do that. I don't know if you realize this, Martin, Like,
Speaker 3: but at when I'm cooking, I change. There's always music
Speaker 3: plan in our house. Yeah, normally during the day. It
Speaker 3: can be anything from singing bowls to you know, jazz
Speaker 3: music to a lot of classical. And whenever I start cooking,
Speaker 3: I like, I'll put on the James Ingram or Jeffrey
Speaker 3: Osborne station, you like. So like the energy and the
Speaker 3: house shifts and I always pray as I'm cooking. I
Speaker 3: do that as as I never even told you in
Speaker 3: your under this that as I'm cooking, I'm I'm praying
Speaker 3: as I'm cooking, so that I love that.
Speaker 5: I want to monitor that a little closer.
Speaker 7: But what a beautiful practice, something so intentional that we
Speaker 7: can do in our own lives. I love that to
Speaker 7: channel our energy through our food to.
Speaker 1: Love one and the passion of our raveda just makes
Speaker 1: it so much more special as well.
Speaker 4: I Rada basically just separates just how we have I guess,
Speaker 4: like our genes or you know, personality types. In our veda,
Speaker 4: it categorizes people into doshes and it's basically a mixture
Speaker 4: of the elements that are within our body that create
Speaker 4: our personality, our physical feats, our emotional balance during the day,
Speaker 4: basically every part of our life is we kind of
Speaker 4: navigate through these different elements, and so some people have
Speaker 4: more of one element than another, and therefore you fit
Speaker 4: into different categories according to that. And it's actually really
Speaker 4: useful because when I understood that Jay was a pitter,
Speaker 4: which means fire and water. You know, if you think
Speaker 4: about what fire is, fire is hot in nature, it
Speaker 4: eats everything up. It is like it's sharp and creates
Speaker 4: a lot of energy in the room, and so that
Speaker 4: also means so for example, for someone's digestion who is pitter,
Speaker 4: it means you need to be eating regularly. You have
Speaker 4: to you digest things very fast, which means that you
Speaker 4: need deep, like fulfilling nourishment in you to be able
Speaker 4: to work at the pace that your mind works at.
Speaker 4: I also know when imbalanced, you know, if you think
Speaker 4: about fire, it can lead to some sort of like
Speaker 4: agitation or sharpness. And so you then learn the qualities
Speaker 4: of the person that you spend the most amount of
Speaker 4: time with and understand what's required to balance that person out.
Speaker 4: So whether it's making sure his meals are there on
Speaker 4: time for himself, or or understanding that his digestion the
Speaker 4: types of foods that he needs to eat need to
Speaker 4: balance and be calling to counteract the fiery nature. So
Speaker 4: it sounds a bit more complicated than it is, but
Speaker 4: it's actually quite simple once you start to read about
Speaker 4: it and understand it and can really help to navigate
Speaker 4: the foods you eat, the environment that you're in, the
Speaker 4: workouts that you do, the things that you put on
Speaker 4: your skin, literally every part of your life can be
Speaker 4: adjusted according to your dosha.
Speaker 3: So then do you then roddy. Is that another way
Speaker 3: that you all speak each other's love languages? Like do
Speaker 3: he use Aravadic principles in some ways?
Speaker 4: Like you know that?
Speaker 3: Okay, so he's a eating Is that a way?
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like I know that I know the foods that
Speaker 4: he should and shouldn't be eating. So if I notice
Speaker 4: that he's in like a really intense period of his
Speaker 4: work or he's really he's like not burning out, but
Speaker 4: he's doing a lot of things, I know the types
Speaker 4: of foods that he probably should be eating to help
Speaker 4: balance that out. And in the same way, I think
Speaker 4: I also can I also know that if he doesn't eat,
Speaker 4: and he might be a little bit, you know, angry.
Speaker 4: I know, I understand where that comes from.
Speaker 6: I was about to say that I don't know, but
Speaker 6: I know when you're hungry.
Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly. And you also, like Kafas can tend to
Speaker 4: be really emotional, and I tend to be quite emotional
Speaker 4: and vatters have like a vata is air, which means
Speaker 4: my mind can switch from one thing to another. And
Speaker 4: it was really interesting when we first met and actually
Speaker 4: through our relationship, one thing that we've struggled with is
Speaker 4: he'll be telling a story or telling me something really meaningful,
Speaker 4: and my mind can switch from one thing to another
Speaker 4: quite fast. And so he's saying something, it's triggered something
Speaker 4: else in my mind, and I'm off topic onto something else,
Speaker 4: and he's barely finished saying what he's thinking of or
Speaker 4: finished talking about the topic he's on. And so I
Speaker 4: had to really explain that to him that it's not
Speaker 4: that I'm not listening, it's that my mind is connecting
Speaker 4: more dots than most people's does, and so my mind
Speaker 4: will connect things in a way that the other people's won't.
Speaker 4: And so I am I've had to learn to to
Speaker 4: figure that out. But he's also learned to be a
Speaker 4: bit give me a bit of grace with it too.
Speaker 4: So it has stopped a few arguments using an ex
Speaker 4: I know.
Speaker 6: As well.
Speaker 3: So, Jay, what would you say, because Radi has obviously
Speaker 3: inspired so many people with her books and her you know,
Speaker 3: cooking and help, what would be one habit that she
Speaker 3: inspired one bad? If you would say habit that she
Speaker 3: inspired you to change?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it would. It would definitely be my sugar
Speaker 2: into it. And I think this is a really important
Speaker 2: one for everyone because I think people just don't understand
Speaker 2: the dangers of sugar and how much of it we're consuming,
Speaker 2: and especially in America where I feel like so much
Speaker 2: of our food is just naturally filled with it, and
Speaker 2: how much of our diets have become infiltrated with packaged
Speaker 2: foods most of the things we're eating and not natural
Speaker 2: whole foods. And so I would say my diet as
Speaker 2: a whole has been completely reorganized and reshifted through radhi
Speaker 2: End And it's actually a re it's a reinvent. It's
Speaker 2: a redefining of taste buds. Like it's not even like now,
Speaker 2: it's not like, oh my gosh, I'm craving this and
Speaker 2: I can't have it. It's almost like recognizing that our
Speaker 2: taste buds are so badly programmed because of what we've
Speaker 2: been conditioned to eat for so long, and so we
Speaker 2: think we need it more than we do. So I
Speaker 2: think I definitely still have a sweet tooth and I
Speaker 2: love a chocolate Freight's cake if.
Speaker 6: I can get with it, But.
Speaker 2: Definitely made me much healthier my diet, And yeah, that
Speaker 2: would easily be the biggest one.
Speaker 6: That would easily be the biggest one.
Speaker 5: Ray if someone wanted to change their overall wellness and energy.
Speaker 5: What one or two things could they do?
Speaker 4: Honestly, I'd say in this day and age, one of
Speaker 4: the biggest things to change is I always think of
Speaker 4: the eighty twenty rule, but in this case, I mean
Speaker 4: like eighty percent of the food not coming from a
Speaker 4: packet and twenty percent of the food coming from a packet,
Speaker 4: Like if you can make sure that the balance is
Speaker 4: that way, because for a lot of people the balance
Speaker 4: is actually the other way. It's eighty percent coming from
Speaker 4: a packet and twenty percent coming from whole foods, and
Speaker 4: so I think that is causing a lot of the
Speaker 4: rise and a lot of health issues. So that's one,
Speaker 4: and I think the second thing would be I've noticed
Speaker 4: that the fall in the amount of people that want
Speaker 4: to cook at home, and most of us are eating
Speaker 4: foods from restaurants or takeaways, and actually we don't know
Speaker 4: the oils that people are using, we don't know the ingredients.
Speaker 4: We are really unaware of the consciousness that people are
Speaker 4: cooking it with. And so the second part to that
Speaker 4: would be try and cook more meals at home, like
Speaker 4: connect to your food, understand what's going into it, like
Speaker 4: read the labels, start to educate yourself. You know, I
Speaker 4: think we've put so much of our health into other
Speaker 4: people's hands, and I think that it's really difficult nowadays
Speaker 4: because there is way too much information online. Everybody's telling
Speaker 4: you you should or shouldn't eat this. But in our Veda,
Speaker 4: I just learned how important it is to start to
Speaker 4: listen to your body. Most of us are so disconnected
Speaker 4: to our body that we don't even notice when we're
Speaker 4: having digestive issues. We don't realize that when I'm eating this,
Speaker 4: it's actually causing joint pain. When I'm eating this, it's
Speaker 4: making me feel lethargic and not energized. Like the bottom
Speaker 4: line is anything that we eat or drink, it should
Speaker 4: be creating vitality, energy and likeness in the body. Like
Speaker 4: you should feel like you can still get up and
Speaker 4: do things as soon as you're eating foods and it's
Speaker 4: making you lethargic, it's making you feel heavy, and it's
Speaker 4: draining energy from you. That's a sign and the food
Speaker 4: that you're eating may just not be right for you.
Speaker 4: And so the third part of that would be education.
Speaker 4: Don't leave it to other people to tell you what
Speaker 4: you should be doing for your body. Start to learn,
Speaker 4: and the best way of doing that to start off
Speaker 4: with is start listening. When I'm eating this, How am
Speaker 4: I feeling when I'm eating this? How is my digestion?
Speaker 4: How is my mind? Am I feeling focused and clear?
Speaker 4: Or am I feeling foggy? You know, there are such
Speaker 4: simple questions we can ask ourselves to really start to
Speaker 4: tune into the ins and outs of what we're eating
Speaker 4: and how it's affecting us. So I would say less
Speaker 4: packaged foods, cooking more meals at home, and educating yourself
Speaker 4: because your health is in your hands. It shouldn't be
Speaker 4: in someone else's hands.
Speaker 7: More of this inspiring and powerful conversation after the break,
Speaker 7: Welcome back to My Legacy with Jay Shetty and his
Speaker 7: wife Roddy.
Speaker 1: Jay. We're so excited that you're about to take your
Speaker 1: podcast on Purpose on the road where people can see
Speaker 1: you live with of course some surprise guests as well.
Speaker 1: And what comes to mind is, over the years you've
Speaker 1: interviewed some of the most remarkable people in the world
Speaker 1: and gained their insight and wisdom on issues about happiness
Speaker 1: and living a fulfilled life. I like to ask you
Speaker 1: if there's one or two things from one of your
Speaker 1: guests or multiple guests that have really impacted your thinking
Speaker 1: in those areas.
Speaker 6: Yeah. Absolutely, Yeah.
Speaker 2: I feel so grateful that I get to, after six
Speaker 2: years of building this incredible community, I get to go
Speaker 2: on tour and meet those people and hold those hands
Speaker 2: and give them hugs and look into their eyes and
Speaker 2: thank them for listening to us. You know, the hundreds
Speaker 2: of millions of people who have been doing that every
Speaker 2: single week for six years now.
Speaker 6: It's really really exciting. So we're starting with North America.
Speaker 2: When I think about my guests, I definitely think about
Speaker 2: a lot of the incredible experts we've had on sleep.
Speaker 2: And the reason I bring up sleep is because I
Speaker 2: think it's the one habit that incredibly impacts every other habit.
Speaker 2: When you get a good night's sleep, you're less likely
Speaker 2: to eat foods that are bad for you, You're more
Speaker 2: likely to have the energy to work out, You're going
Speaker 2: to feel more motivated and focused at work. It's the
Speaker 2: domino effect. And what I've learned about sleep is that
Speaker 2: a lot of us are not trying to build up
Speaker 2: our sleep like we build up other parts of our life.
Speaker 2: We want to gain mastery at our careers. We want
Speaker 2: to get good at our relationships, but so much of
Speaker 2: that is based on the quality of our sleep. If
Speaker 2: you have slept well, you're less irritable, you're less agitated,
Speaker 2: you're less likely to get angry or frustrated when something
Speaker 2: doesn't go your way because you have that foundational calm.
Speaker 2: And so for me, the things I've learned about sleep,
Speaker 2: the first is set a bedtime routine. Try and sleep
Speaker 2: at the same time every single day, again at least
Speaker 2: five days a week. Second is, try and sleep in
Speaker 2: what's known as cave like darkness. A lot of us
Speaker 2: today have flashing lights from TVs, from remote controls, from
Speaker 2: our our phones, whatever it may be. Try and sleep
Speaker 2: in cave like darkness as best as you can. Try
Speaker 2: and sleep in a temperature that's sixty three to sixty
Speaker 2: eight sixty nine fahrenheit, that's the recommended temperature, slightly cooler.
Speaker 2: We actually sleep better when it's a little bit cooler
Speaker 2: than what we think. And the last one is have
Speaker 2: a bedtime routine. You know, eat a few hours before
Speaker 2: you get into before you're going to go to bed,
Speaker 2: stop looking at phone an hour before bed. Really create
Speaker 2: that energy to be able to switch off and so
Speaker 2: sleep has been something I've focused on with a lot
Speaker 2: of my amazing guests, and the fulfillment and sleep can
Speaker 2: give so much fulfillment and peace in life. I think
Speaker 2: it would change so much of our day. And the
Speaker 2: other one I'd say that has really moved me is
Speaker 2: a lot of the advice that I've received on people
Speaker 2: talking about childhood trauma and the need to revisit our
Speaker 2: inner child. I think what we don't realize is so
Speaker 2: much of what we see today is not someone's adult self,
Speaker 2: but their child's self stuck in their adult body. And
Speaker 2: so when you're looking at someone, if you were to
Speaker 2: look at them as a child, you could actually understand
Speaker 2: why they say the things they do, and why they
Speaker 2: demand the things they want, and why they behave the
Speaker 2: way they do, and why they act the way they
Speaker 2: do because it's their child's self. And I think if
Speaker 2: all of us were able to look at not just
Speaker 2: other people that way, but look at ourselves that way,
Speaker 2: and look at our child self and say, where have
Speaker 2: I not fulfilled my childhood dreams? Where have I not
Speaker 2: met my child in a child?
Speaker 6: Where have I not.
Speaker 2: Really reconciled with that in a child? I think life
Speaker 2: would change incredibly. I think the way we talk to ourselves.
Speaker 2: I think if we talk to ourselves as if we
Speaker 2: were talking to a younger child, we would transform the
Speaker 2: hate and the harshness and the pain that we inflict
Speaker 2: on ourselves, just through the self criticism and the self
Speaker 2: judgment and the self harsh talk that we have in
Speaker 2: our mind constantly, from the moment we wake up and
Speaker 2: we look in the mirror and comment on our weight,
Speaker 2: to the moment we go to work and comment on
Speaker 2: our intellect, and the moment we get home and comment
Speaker 2: on our effort and enthusiasm. We're constantly criticizing ourselves, and
Speaker 2: so I think the need to see each other as children,
Speaker 2: see ourselves as children, makes such a big difference and
Speaker 2: would hugely transform the planet we live on. And there's
Speaker 2: a beautiful quote by Russell Barklay that I love where
Speaker 2: he said that the people who need the most love
Speaker 2: often ask for it in the most unloving ways. And
Speaker 2: I think that's what we are, the child self in us.
Speaker 2: We're not asking for love in adult ways. We're asking
Speaker 2: for love in childlike ways. And if we can heal
Speaker 2: that and recognize that in ourselves and the people around us,
Speaker 2: then we have the opportunity to truly have maturity, which
Speaker 2: is what I think we're also deeply looking for and seeking.
Speaker 2: So those are the couple of things that come to
Speaker 2: mind from the podcast.
Speaker 3: We have a book WOW called what Is What Is
Speaker 3: My Legacy?
Speaker 1: Contributed to our book and we're so grateful.
Speaker 3: For all authors of that book. And one of the
Speaker 3: things that we talk about one is the importance of
Speaker 3: your inner child. And one of the things that that
Speaker 3: I talk about in the in my portion of the
Speaker 3: book is that I have, in fact, I have a
Speaker 3: lot of them around a childhood picture of myself in
Speaker 3: a frame next to my bed. So that's one of
Speaker 3: the first things that I see see in the morning
Speaker 3: and last things at night. And we also talk to
Speaker 3: people and even encourage them to even put as your screensaver,
Speaker 3: a little version of your of yourself as your screen saver,
Speaker 3: to you know, constantly reinforced and seeing that that little
Speaker 3: person of you and and connecting with that, that that
Speaker 3: inner child.
Speaker 1: Jane ready, just thank you guys so much for contributing
Speaker 1: to What Is My Legacy. We're very grateful. And one
Speaker 1: of the things that really stood out based on this
Speaker 1: conversation is not just how trauma is within us, especially
Speaker 1: childhood trauma, but also through oup A genetics, trauma can
Speaker 1: be passed down from generation to generation to generation. You know,
Speaker 1: do you have any insights on that topic.
Speaker 2: I personally think that it's something we have to reflect on,
Speaker 2: and a simple way I like to reflect on it
Speaker 2: is something I call the gifts and the gaps. And
Speaker 2: so I believe there are certain gifts we got from
Speaker 2: our parents, and we now expect others to give us
Speaker 2: those same gifts. And there are certain gaps that our
Speaker 2: parents left and we now want others to fill those gaps.
Speaker 2: And I think the key in both of those scenarios
Speaker 2: is learning to give yourself those gifts and fill those
Speaker 2: gaps yourself. And so I think that's a very simple
Speaker 2: entry level way into this topic or conversation that can
Speaker 2: be really big, really scary, really challenging, which ideally you
Speaker 2: do with the therapist and someone who's trained to guide
Speaker 2: you through that journey. But for those who are moving
Speaker 2: into that space themselves, think about what habits you repeat
Speaker 2: because they're triggered from your parents.
Speaker 6: What habits you.
Speaker 2: Have today that maybe aren't yours but have come from
Speaker 2: something in your past, and very quickly you'll be able
Speaker 2: to make literal adjustments that can save your future from
Speaker 2: your past. And that's what i'd say to people. It's
Speaker 2: anyone who wants to save their future from their past.
Speaker 2: We have to go backwards and heal our trauma in
Speaker 2: order to move forward in a healed state. And so
Speaker 2: that requires the ability to look back and go, where
Speaker 2: did I pick that up? Why do I react like that?
Speaker 2: Where does that trigger come from? And as soon as
Speaker 2: you map it out, it's almost like this light bulb
Speaker 2: moment where you go, oh my gosh, I had no idea,
Speaker 2: and now you can actually edit your path forward.
Speaker 6: So that's the entry point i'd say for most people.
Speaker 7: For those listening on social media, I want to share
Speaker 7: something with loved ones, save our future from our past.
Speaker 7: That's something to share to their friends. I love that phrase.
Speaker 1: Ready, you've also had some amazing people in your podcast,
Speaker 1: and thank you so much for what you do and
Speaker 1: sharing such wisdom. Is there a guest or two or
Speaker 1: a word of wisdom you can share from what's been
Speaker 1: shared with you? For our listeners, I.
Speaker 4: Would say the people that have recently stood out to me.
Speaker 4: One was gosh, Terry Cole. Actually, she talked a lot
Speaker 4: about the way that we connect in relationships, and you know,
Speaker 4: it was a very enlightening moment when she was talking
Speaker 4: about how we can help the people that we love.
Speaker 4: And you know, I think we have this habit of
Speaker 4: wanting to save people in our life when they're struggling,
Speaker 4: save people in our life when they have are going
Speaker 4: through low moments. And that's one thing. You know, Actually,
Speaker 4: it reminds me of when I was struggling with things
Speaker 4: and Jay could have saved me, and instead he chose
Speaker 4: to give me aid that in that area, he didn't
Speaker 4: choose to fix it for me, he would help me
Speaker 4: fix it for myself. And she spoke about that so deeply, saying,
Speaker 4: most of the time we're trying to play savior to
Speaker 4: make ourselves feel less uncomfortable, but actually you are disempowering
Speaker 4: them by fixing it for them. You are not giving
Speaker 4: them the tools and techniques to be able to do
Speaker 4: that for themselves ever again. Instead you're being the savior,
Speaker 4: taking the power away from them. And I found that
Speaker 4: so fascinating. Yeah, I thought I thought that was a
Speaker 4: really that was a topic that I had to digest
Speaker 4: a lot because I always struggle when people around me,
Speaker 4: or family or anyone is struggling. I struggle not to
Speaker 4: intervene and try and fix the situation because I feel
Speaker 4: uncomfortable that they're going through it.
Speaker 2: But I realized it's.
Speaker 4: So much more about giving people the tools and techniques
Speaker 4: rather than stepping in to play savior.
Speaker 3: That's a big one, not only in romantic relationships, that's
Speaker 3: a big one in parenting. To when to know when
Speaker 3: that they need that struggle in order to garner that
Speaker 3: that muscle, and when to you know, kind of stepping
Speaker 3: back and not be in the instant savior even for
Speaker 3: our children.
Speaker 4: Yes, exactly. So another one that was amazing actually was
Speaker 4: Mindy Peal. She shares a lot about female hormones and
Speaker 4: the way a woman should be living according to her
Speaker 4: cycle rather than living according to a twenty four.
Speaker 3: Hours yes, because we should come there, Yes.
Speaker 4: And I thought that's something I think a lot of
Speaker 4: women could really use, because hormonal issues are really going
Speaker 4: up in women especially, and I think learning about our
Speaker 4: hormone cycle can really help us to avoid the future
Speaker 4: problems that women go through, whether it's difficulty through menopause,
Speaker 4: whether it's difficulty conceiving all of that is based on
Speaker 4: our hormones. And so yeah, that was another one that
Speaker 4: I that I really learnt so much from For the.
Speaker 3: Man at the table, Yes, we are taught just to
Speaker 3: like we are taught on twenty to do things on
Speaker 3: a twenty four hour cycle, yes, which is a male cycle,
Speaker 3: but we as women, we have a twenty eight day cycle.
Speaker 3: And so it's really now this big movement of women
Speaker 3: reconnecting to doing things, being in the flow, acknowledging that
Speaker 3: our cycle is our cycle is longer than the way
Speaker 3: that we're taught, which is just twenty four hours. The
Speaker 3: men are not.
Speaker 7: Ahead back in a moment with Jay Shetty and his
Speaker 7: wife Roddy after word from our.
Speaker 8: Partners, now back to my legacy of Jay Shetty and
Speaker 8: his wife Ronning.
Speaker 3: We we obviously have laughed a lot today together and
Speaker 3: and that's that's that's wonderful, and it's so important we
Speaker 3: have to be very transparent that right now. It's it's
Speaker 3: very difficult for so many people, and so many people
Speaker 3: feel such an overwhelming fear, you know, disconnection, and so
Speaker 3: I would really am curious to hear from both of
Speaker 3: you what would you offer to to people that are
Speaker 3: that are feeling that that fear, that that disconnection, the overwhelm,
Speaker 3: the the stress good question.
Speaker 4: Uh, you know, the first thing that came to mind
Speaker 4: for me is whenever I feel like things are out
Speaker 4: of my control, or I feel like overwhelmed at what's
Speaker 4: happening around me, or even in our own life, there's
Speaker 4: this every time I feel like it's just me, the
Speaker 4: problem feels really difficult to handle. But as soon as
Speaker 4: I think the problem is me plus God, or me
Speaker 4: plus the universe or something that has a much higher
Speaker 4: power than I do, it starts to feel a little
Speaker 4: bit more manageable. And so I find that prayer for
Speaker 4: me has always been such a beautiful place to come
Speaker 4: to when all other hope feels lost. I think I
Speaker 4: get a lot of solace in prayer. And I think
Speaker 4: that also connects to the idea that if we can
Speaker 4: feel way more disconnected when we don't feel connected to ourself,
Speaker 4: and so whether it's practices and rituals to actually connect
Speaker 4: deeper to ourself that allows us to connect deeper to
Speaker 4: other people and have meaningful connections with others that help
Speaker 4: us through those times. I think reconnecting every single day
Speaker 4: in some way to who you are and have those
Speaker 4: moments are really important to be able to connect to
Speaker 4: someone else, to be able to feel understood or valued
Speaker 4: by other people. And yeah, I think and for me,
Speaker 4: the main one always ends up being prayer because I'm like,
Speaker 4: at this point, I can't control anything, so I'm leaving
Speaker 4: up to you, but yeah, I would love to hear
Speaker 4: some of yours.
Speaker 2: There's something called the third space theory, and it's this
Speaker 2: idea that just around twenty five fifty years ago, we
Speaker 2: had three spaces we lived in, We had home, we
Speaker 2: had work, and then we had church or temple, synagogue, mosque.
Speaker 2: And what happened is that those three spaces shrunk to
Speaker 2: two spaces. We went from work to home and home
Speaker 2: to work. And now we all know that those two
Speaker 2: places have shrunk into one place. We work from home
Speaker 2: and we live at home. And what's happened is not
Speaker 2: that we've just lost three spaces, but we've lost what
Speaker 2: that that third space provided us. So what happened at
Speaker 2: church or the community center or a place of gathering
Speaker 2: was you had a space to look back on work
Speaker 2: and home and state and everything else and reflect on
Speaker 2: how could I be better? What could I do differently?
Speaker 2: Let's figure out together what the solution is, what can
Speaker 2: we all band to do together. So the biggest challenge
Speaker 2: today is that we're all feeling the same feeling, but
Speaker 2: we're feeling it on our own. We're lonely feeling the
Speaker 2: same thing. And there's a big difference between being lonely
Speaker 2: feeling something and feeling belonging in feeling something. And so
Speaker 2: what I would encourage everyone to do is go and
Speaker 2: find your third space. Go and find your space of belonging.
Speaker 2: Go and find your space of connection. Go and find
Speaker 2: that space where you're with people of equal value, where
Speaker 2: you can share your heart, when you can hear other peoples,
Speaker 2: when you can open up your mind, and where you
Speaker 2: can carry someone else's burden. I think we've just lost
Speaker 2: that as a society, and I think these moments are
Speaker 2: great reminders that we are stronger when we are working together,
Speaker 2: we are better when we're working together, and ultimately, when
Speaker 2: we're united and carrying each other's weight, the weight doesn't
Speaker 2: feel as large. And I think that's the biggest challenge today,
Speaker 2: is that we're all carrying the weight on our own
Speaker 2: and so finding that third space, creating that third space
Speaker 2: if you don't have it. The third space doesn't have
Speaker 2: to be two hundred people, two thousand people, twenty thousand people.
Speaker 2: It can literally be four people in a room that
Speaker 2: are reading scripture together, that are starting a book club,
Speaker 2: that are listening to this podcast and sharing what they
Speaker 2: learned from you and all your amazing guests that you've
Speaker 2: had on It starts that small, and I really feel
Speaker 2: that we have to create that third space, even because
Speaker 2: right now our third space is all of us sitting
Speaker 2: in front of the television, and the TV screen is
Speaker 2: the third space. The phone screen is the third spa,
Speaker 2: and that third space isn't giving you what the original
Speaker 2: third space gave you.
Speaker 7: Oh I love it. You know, both of you give
Speaker 7: this incredible, powerful message into the world and to this universe.
Speaker 7: You've dedicated your lives to service and to inspiration. Of course,
Speaker 7: on my legacy, we reflect on legacy and ultimately, what
Speaker 7: do you hope each of you your legacy will be.
Speaker 2: It's really interesting when I think about legacy, I think
Speaker 2: about things that are timeless and things that will last forever.
Speaker 2: And if I'm completely honest, I don't think anything I've done,
Speaker 2: or said or created will last forever. I'm really grateful
Speaker 2: I've got to be a tiny voice in the five
Speaker 2: thousand year old history of the Vedic tradition, which has
Speaker 2: come before me and will outlast me for thousands and
Speaker 2: thousands and thousands of years. And so the legac is
Speaker 2: the ancient wisdom that is actually timeless wisdom. It's not
Speaker 2: ancient because it's as relevant today as it was five
Speaker 2: thousand years ago. And the fact that those spiritual texts
Speaker 2: I've been able to share those in my books and
Speaker 2: quote them in my writing and my videos and my work.
Speaker 2: I feel grateful I got connected. So the legacy is
Speaker 2: really for those texts to live on, which would live
Speaker 2: on with or without me. And so I'm not too
Speaker 2: concerned about my personal legacy because the text will do
Speaker 2: the work that they need to do, and those words
Speaker 2: will have the impact that they're meant to have, with
Speaker 2: or without me. I just got lucky to be a
Speaker 2: small part of that journey.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think mine might be along the same lines
Speaker 4: of it. You know, I remember when I started sharing
Speaker 4: anything that I was learning online, I would really struggle
Speaker 4: because I didn't feel qualified to do it, and I
Speaker 4: remember one of our teachers, rather than Notswami, would always
Speaker 4: talk about being a bridge where you don't have to
Speaker 4: be the expert, you don't have to be the endpoint,
Speaker 4: but you can be a bridge for someone where you're
Speaker 4: helping them go from one one, from one thing to
Speaker 4: another and then passing them on to somebody else. And
Speaker 4: I really love that, and it really helped me to
Speaker 4: feel qualified to some degree to be able to do
Speaker 4: that for people. And so I actually think, when I
Speaker 4: reflect on my life, what legacy I carry off my
Speaker 4: grandma or my mom, or my dad or anybody that's
Speaker 4: been before me. It is the knowledge that they've imparted
Speaker 4: in me, whether it's through the food that I make,
Speaker 4: whether it's through the way that I interact with people
Speaker 4: after having watched the way that my dad interacts with them,
Speaker 4: whether it's the spice knowledge that my grandma has taught
Speaker 4: me about how to heal my body through it. It's
Speaker 4: like that information is the legacy, because every single thing
Speaker 4: material can become invaluable so easily, and so I think
Speaker 4: for me, yeah, it's being able to share all those
Speaker 4: little moments of teachings that you've had in your life
Speaker 4: and passing that down or two other people and have
Speaker 4: said there is able to nourish their lives with it,
Speaker 4: and then also pass that to other people. That makes sense.
Speaker 3: How beautiful that we started with your grandmother and that
Speaker 3: we're in and we ended and we ended with your
Speaker 3: your grandmother.
Speaker 7: Yeah, jin Retti, thank you for sharing your wisdom, your
Speaker 7: love with each other in that beautiful, authentic way. The
Speaker 7: extraordinary challenges that you've laid in front of us of
Speaker 7: how we can all our listeners and our viewers do
Speaker 7: small but deeply intentional things every day in our lives.
Speaker 7: And I want to relay some of those challenges again
Speaker 7: for the message that your partner is your guru. What
Speaker 7: a beautiful thing for our listeners to say to their
Speaker 7: loved ones, their partners after they listen to this, that
Speaker 7: you are my guru, you are the teacher you help
Speaker 7: me be better to say that intentionally to someone. And
Speaker 7: then I also love the small but powerful idea of
Speaker 7: while we're cooking, to infuse the love to say a
Speaker 7: little prayer. You know, Andrea your music, you know a
Speaker 7: little bit of love. Jane Ritty, thank you for living
Speaker 7: your legacies every single day and reminding us that purpose
Speaker 7: isn't something we find, It's something we create in our lives.
Speaker 2: Thank you such so greate all of you for creating
Speaker 2: what felt like such a beautiful safe space. Even though
Speaker 2: we're connected virtually, it speaks all jez It just felt
Speaker 2: like we were all in the same roman.
Speaker 6: So thank you so.
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