WEBVTT - Unbreakable Episode 90 - Jim Harbaugh 0:00:02.000 --> 0:00:07.680 This is Unbreakable with Jay Glacier, a mental wealth podcast, 0:00:08.800 --> 0:00:13.680 Build you from the inside out. Now here's Jay Glacier. 0:00:14.680 --> 0:00:18.120 Welcome Mental Breakable, Mental Wealth Podcast with Jay Laser. I'm 0:00:18.200 --> 0:00:20.640 Jay Laser, and I like to have guests on from 0:00:20.640 --> 0:00:22.959 all walks of life. Obviously, my life is usually the 0:00:22.960 --> 0:00:25.080 world of football and fighting, so it makes a lot 0:00:25.120 --> 0:00:26.599 of sense to have a lot of football people on. 0:00:26.680 --> 0:00:29.000 And you know, I'd say one of the most interesting 0:00:29.040 --> 0:00:32.120 and dynamic characters now in the National Football League has 0:00:32.120 --> 0:00:35.000 been for quite some somebody's back in the NFL, but 0:00:35.080 --> 0:00:37.760 this is his first time on the Unbreakable podcast. 0:00:38.080 --> 0:00:40.000 Welcome and Chargers head coach Jim Harborough. 0:00:40.000 --> 0:00:42.440 How are you, buddy, doing great? Jay, Good to see you. 0:00:42.560 --> 0:00:43.840 Gratulations on your wedding. 0:00:43.960 --> 0:00:46.240 Thank you, buddy, appreciate him. Man, Never too late, buddy, 0:00:46.440 --> 0:00:48.160 even a guy like me, It's never too late. 0:00:49.880 --> 0:00:51.839 I hope you showed a lot of people that picture 0:00:51.920 --> 0:00:54.640 of their wedding day with the rainbow over you and 0:00:54.720 --> 0:00:55.800 your double row. 0:00:55.960 --> 0:00:58.120 Yeah, you know, you know, Jim, you know it was 0:00:58.120 --> 0:00:58.760 the coolest part. 0:00:59.080 --> 0:01:01.480 So for now, that's God work. 0:01:01.640 --> 0:01:02.600 But you know what's cool for me? 0:01:02.600 --> 0:01:04.080 I was talking about being in the gray I call 0:01:04.120 --> 0:01:07.319 it the gray went like my depression, anxiety and the 0:01:07.319 --> 0:01:09.960 bipolar and ADHD and all of it together. I called 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:11.920 the gray right, And I wake up every day like that. 0:01:12.440 --> 0:01:14.480 So when we start getting married, it's just the two 0:01:14.480 --> 0:01:14.759 of us. 0:01:14.760 --> 0:01:16.880 We looped her there to the mouth of coast and 0:01:16.920 --> 0:01:17.960 it starts getting gray. 0:01:18.600 --> 0:01:21.680 And I think the old Jay, who didn't do all 0:01:21.720 --> 0:01:24.039 this work in himself, definitely would have been in the 0:01:24.160 --> 0:01:27.080 tank and like, oh man, here, man, why me? And 0:01:27.560 --> 0:01:30.640 here it comes again? Of course I deserve this. But 0:01:30.760 --> 0:01:33.720 that day I said to Rosie, my wife, I said, 0:01:33.880 --> 0:01:37.039 you know, it's just starting to drizzle cut gray. I'm 0:01:37.040 --> 0:01:40.000 gonna look at it differently. Maybe this is like our 0:01:40.040 --> 0:01:41.840 loved ones crying for us. I'm gonna look at us 0:01:41.840 --> 0:01:45.560 a good way. And literally I said that, and she agreed. 0:01:46.360 --> 0:01:48.560 And then the skies opened up and gave us this 0:01:48.600 --> 0:01:51.400 double rainbow to get married under, which is a great 0:01:51.720 --> 0:01:53.840 thing for me, Like, just have a little faith and 0:01:53.880 --> 0:01:55.880 sometimes you got to go through the rain to get 0:01:55.920 --> 0:01:57.720 double rainbows on your biggest day. 0:01:57.800 --> 0:01:58.920 It was really cool, man. 0:01:58.920 --> 0:02:01.960 For sure, LICENSE couldn't have it to do a better guy. 0:02:02.400 --> 0:02:04.400 I appreciate that. Man, I don't know about that but 0:02:04.440 --> 0:02:07.320 I appreciate it. Hey, so, you know, I want to 0:02:07.360 --> 0:02:09.519 dive into a couple of life lessons here from you, 0:02:09.800 --> 0:02:11.600 but before that, I do want to ask kind of 0:02:11.600 --> 0:02:14.280 more culture things. Yeah, so you brought in to obviously 0:02:14.800 --> 0:02:18.280 redo the culture, if you will, of the Chargers. What's 0:02:18.320 --> 0:02:23.000 the difference in trying to build a new culture a 0:02:23.080 --> 0:02:26.120 college program, which you've done several times, and trying to 0:02:26.160 --> 0:02:29.760 rebuild a culture in an NFL program, which now you're. 0:02:29.639 --> 0:02:31.760 Doing twice, because hey, cultures everything. 0:02:32.240 --> 0:02:35.520 There's really not a whole lot of differences between you know, 0:02:35.560 --> 0:02:39.720 building a strong team in college and in the NFL, 0:02:40.000 --> 0:02:43.200 much like a family attacking each day with an enthusiasm 0:02:43.240 --> 0:02:47.440 unknown to mankind together and so many things to it. 0:02:47.520 --> 0:02:50.120 But yeah, not a lot of I wouldn't say there's 0:02:50.760 --> 0:02:54.560 many differences between NFL college and your family at home. 0:02:54.560 --> 0:02:56.640 I mean, you're two great loves, right and those those 0:02:56.639 --> 0:02:58.760 to me are my two great loves, you know, family 0:02:58.800 --> 0:03:00.760 at home and the family to hear at work. 0:03:01.320 --> 0:03:03.200 There's two things right here I want to hit first 0:03:03.240 --> 0:03:06.280 of all, advice, Right, I got this card here, Jim 0:03:06.320 --> 0:03:07.919 Harpau's advice, and I love it. 0:03:08.040 --> 0:03:09.880 I love it, and I'm sure you have it in 0:03:09.919 --> 0:03:11.840 front of your I'm probably probably don't need to have it. 0:03:11.880 --> 0:03:12.320 Do you have it? 0:03:12.800 --> 0:03:13.320 Yeah? 0:03:13.400 --> 0:03:13.680 Right there? 0:03:13.720 --> 0:03:15.160 Okay, I kind of want to go it because I 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:17.280 want to teach people this because I think there's great 0:03:17.880 --> 0:03:19.840 I think a locker room and what you can learn 0:03:19.840 --> 0:03:21.800 from football, like I think the rest of the world's 0:03:21.800 --> 0:03:23.560 messed up in a locker room's not. You know, a 0:03:23.600 --> 0:03:25.680 locker room, but you could joke about anything. 0:03:26.080 --> 0:03:27.080 You could whatever it is. 0:03:27.120 --> 0:03:29.000 But man, you will fight it out and love it 0:03:29.040 --> 0:03:31.000 out and you got no problems in the locker room. 0:03:31.000 --> 0:03:33.280 It's over in two seconds. So there's so many football 0:03:33.400 --> 0:03:36.320 lessons that equate. And we're talking about building mental wealth 0:03:36.360 --> 0:03:38.600 that equate to building mental wealth for the world. 0:03:38.680 --> 0:03:40.640 So let's go over with us. Let's start first. You 0:03:40.680 --> 0:03:43.800 have Ted right there every day okay, Yeah, I want 0:03:43.800 --> 0:03:45.080 you to dive deep in all these men. 0:03:45.240 --> 0:03:47.880 Okay, Ted there every day. That's an ackerman. Ted is 0:03:47.920 --> 0:03:50.480 the ackerman for there every day. And it's just something 0:03:50.520 --> 0:03:53.000 about being there every single day. No question that you 0:03:53.080 --> 0:03:56.440 get better at football by being there. It would take 0:03:56.480 --> 0:03:59.200 a bone sticking out of your of your body for 0:03:59.280 --> 0:04:02.680 you not to playing a game and for your teammates 0:04:02.720 --> 0:04:04.680 to know that you're going to be in that same 0:04:04.760 --> 0:04:06.520 seat sitting there every day. 0:04:06.840 --> 0:04:08.119 People can count on you. 0:04:08.600 --> 0:04:12.160 There's just something about that that that speaks volumes for 0:04:12.160 --> 0:04:14.320 what kind of teammate you are. And I think the 0:04:14.360 --> 0:04:17.880 first thing that people look for in a teammate what's 0:04:17.880 --> 0:04:22.040 in another person's heart? You know, are they for us? 0:04:22.680 --> 0:04:24.720 Or are they for themselves? I think that's the first 0:04:24.760 --> 0:04:26.920 thing we try to detect. You know, dogs are really 0:04:26.960 --> 0:04:29.640 good at it. Dogs are you know, really good at 0:04:29.720 --> 0:04:31.720 you know, finding out you know, what's in it? What's 0:04:31.760 --> 0:04:32.960 in somebody's intentions? 0:04:33.000 --> 0:04:35.000 Are you know, are they gonna are they gonna be 0:04:35.040 --> 0:04:37.160 nice to me? Are they gonna feed me? Are they 0:04:37.160 --> 0:04:38.760 gonna hurt me? Are they gonna take care of me? 0:04:39.080 --> 0:04:42.680 And human beings are nine hundred times better at detecting 0:04:43.240 --> 0:04:45.560 and you know what's in another person's heart. 0:04:45.800 --> 0:04:47.080 That's really the first thing. 0:04:46.920 --> 0:04:49.760 That that we in that locker room, that that teams 0:04:49.760 --> 0:04:52.880 setting that that we want to find out about somebody else? 0:04:53.360 --> 0:04:55.600 Are they about themselves? Are they are they for us? 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:59.159 So it's really consistency. You're looking for consistency, you know 0:04:59.240 --> 0:04:59.840 what you're getting? 0:05:00.200 --> 0:05:01.120 Yeah? There every day? 0:05:01.680 --> 0:05:03.880 I love that. Is there a way to coach that 0:05:04.040 --> 0:05:04.640 or is that you need? 0:05:05.640 --> 0:05:06.920 That's a that's a good one. I mean I think 0:05:07.000 --> 0:05:10.280 everything everything is. We're always a work in progress. We're 0:05:10.320 --> 0:05:13.960 always either getting better or we're getting worse. So yeah, 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:16.440 I would I would say that that's, you know, something 0:05:16.480 --> 0:05:19.480 that can be self coached. I mean, there's self talk, 0:05:19.839 --> 0:05:22.880 but it also can be coached in by by somebody 0:05:22.880 --> 0:05:26.120 that that you respect, somebody that you you know, that 0:05:26.200 --> 0:05:28.840 you trust, you believe in. So somebody like a coach, 0:05:28.880 --> 0:05:32.839 a teacher, just a professional. Really, I mean, who's the expert. 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:36.680 Who's the expert in? Is it a doctor? If there's 0:05:36.680 --> 0:05:38.119 something wrong with me, I want to get the advice 0:05:38.160 --> 0:05:41.520 of my doctor, you know, my personal physician, you know, 0:05:41.680 --> 0:05:47.080 not not not my butcher, not my barber, not the internet. 0:05:47.960 --> 0:05:49.920 Definitely not the internet. 0:05:50.880 --> 0:05:53.440 Who is that expert? And the way I was raised 0:05:53.720 --> 0:05:56.880 there was I was raised Jay by my dad, Jack Harbaugh. 0:05:57.720 --> 0:06:01.560 Whoever the expert is, you listen to that person and 0:06:01.600 --> 0:06:04.240 you do what that person tells you to do, and 0:06:04.320 --> 0:06:07.719 if you do, you will be successful because they know 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:11.320 the subject matter better than you do. I love that, 0:06:11.640 --> 0:06:14.640 whether that's the professor, where that's the coach, you know, 0:06:14.920 --> 0:06:18.200 certainly would be would be the doctor, would be my recommendation. 0:06:19.040 --> 0:06:20.720 I love that too, you know, I think you know, 0:06:20.920 --> 0:06:22.960 I started coaching Next Martial Arts in like two thousand 0:06:22.960 --> 0:06:26.680 and seven and teams started sending US players and just 0:06:27.120 --> 0:06:28.839 we teach guys the fighter mentality. 0:06:29.040 --> 0:06:31.599 I was gonna ask you, so in the fighter, what 0:06:31.680 --> 0:06:35.159 kind of fighting was it? The MM yeah yeah. 0:06:35.160 --> 0:06:38.960 Yeah yeah, So Derwin James our safety. It took me 0:06:39.000 --> 0:06:39.919 a day and a half. 0:06:40.040 --> 0:06:42.440 Jay, right, he's one of the guys I trained. 0:06:42.680 --> 0:06:43.240 Great job. 0:06:46.200 --> 0:06:48.479 He actually tore my bicep ten and so screw him. 0:06:49.600 --> 0:06:50.440 You talk about. 0:06:51.880 --> 0:06:53.040 Tell you to say it took you a day and 0:06:53.040 --> 0:06:54.000 a half for what with Durwan? 0:06:54.360 --> 0:06:58.360 Okay, day and a half to realize, like everybody, just 0:06:58.360 --> 0:07:00.880 look at Derwin James and to exactly what he's doing. 0:07:01.080 --> 0:07:03.800 You know, how he approaches the. 0:07:03.680 --> 0:07:09.760 Meetings, the training environment, the practice, everything he says, what 0:07:09.920 --> 0:07:13.160 he wears. I mean, it's it's everything is just to 0:07:13.280 --> 0:07:17.200 the highest standard and he brings us joy in this enthusiasm. 0:07:17.560 --> 0:07:19.960 I mean it was like, what are some of the examples, 0:07:19.960 --> 0:07:22.840 Coach KENO, can I can I wear a hoodie underneath 0:07:22.880 --> 0:07:23.880 my jersey? 0:07:24.360 --> 0:07:27.000 Or can I have my T shirt out? You know? Uh, 0:07:27.160 --> 0:07:29.280 past my, I know, I don't know what. Why don't 0:07:29.280 --> 0:07:29.880 you look at Derwin? 0:07:30.040 --> 0:07:34.840 Look at Derwin Shade, See how there's a true professional, 0:07:34.840 --> 0:07:37.680 one of the the the best, the very best in 0:07:37.760 --> 0:07:40.720 the gay you know, just this mindset and the way 0:07:40.760 --> 0:07:44.360 he attacks and goes about his business. And again it 0:07:44.480 --> 0:07:48.160 is anything and everything for the team to be successful. 0:07:48.280 --> 0:07:49.720 So maybe it's just. 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:52.200 Been lucky because I guys at Michigan who is just 0:07:52.320 --> 0:07:55.360 like that, you know, Blake korm and Junior Colson and 0:07:55.840 --> 0:07:57.600 Trevor Keegan and Zach Zim. 0:07:57.760 --> 0:07:59.440 But that's the easy ones. That's not the guys. 0:08:00.120 --> 0:08:02.280 Jay McCarthy said that you talk. 0:08:02.160 --> 0:08:05.160 About the easy ones, Jim, Come on, they're not all 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:06.080 like that, dude. 0:08:06.640 --> 0:08:09.040 That's the way. They're not all like Derwin or else 0:08:09.040 --> 0:08:10.920 they all be a pro Bowl, right. 0:08:11.480 --> 0:08:14.960 You know what, though, the smart ones will be like Derwin. 0:08:15.200 --> 0:08:19.920 You know, the smart ones will be like like Justin Herbert, 0:08:20.040 --> 0:08:21.160 because you. 0:08:21.080 --> 0:08:23.760 Know, just pick a guy, pick a guy you know 0:08:23.840 --> 0:08:28.240 that's that's really doing it the right way, the best way. 0:08:28.120 --> 0:08:30.880 That's having success. And just you know, here's some simple advice. 0:08:31.160 --> 0:08:34.160 Just watch them, you know, and then emulate them and 0:08:34.200 --> 0:08:37.440 then go make that person proud of you, you know, 0:08:37.720 --> 0:08:40.720 because that's gonna be your best self. Really, I mean 0:08:40.800 --> 0:08:45.000 the hanging around the Johnny Frick arounds, you know, I 0:08:45.040 --> 0:08:47.679 mean the guys that are you know, on some Bullsmith 0:08:48.040 --> 0:08:50.640 you know, four or five nights a week going out 0:08:50.720 --> 0:08:53.280 do it, you know, not not taking care of their bodies, 0:08:53.360 --> 0:08:56.000 not the not taking care of their family their god 0:08:56.080 --> 0:08:57.360 given responsibility. 0:08:57.760 --> 0:08:59.120 You know, that's not your best self. 0:08:59.400 --> 0:09:02.680 So yeah, it could just be that simple, Jay to 0:09:02.920 --> 0:09:06.240 just to just watch Derwin James, you know. 0:09:06.320 --> 0:09:08.920 Just yeah, find out who the best isn't. 0:09:09.120 --> 0:09:11.160 Emulate him, you know, and then go see if you 0:09:11.160 --> 0:09:12.200 can make him proud of you. 0:09:12.480 --> 0:09:13.600 Man. I love that, you know. 0:09:13.640 --> 0:09:15.760 I always say, like, find know who the best, doesn't 0:09:15.760 --> 0:09:17.480 do more than them, but I never thought about that. 0:09:17.559 --> 0:09:18.920 I know who the best is to make it proud 0:09:18.960 --> 0:09:21.920 of you. That's I love that, man. That's what. Yeah, 0:09:22.000 --> 0:09:22.439 that's I mean. 0:09:22.520 --> 0:09:25.040 I don't think there's any way anybody's gonna go surpass 0:09:25.720 --> 0:09:28.920 Justin Herbert, but yeah, you could. You could emulate him, 0:09:29.000 --> 0:09:31.520 you could watch him, you could try to keep up 0:09:31.520 --> 0:09:33.200 with him, you know, and try to make him proud 0:09:33.240 --> 0:09:35.679 of you. That would be that would be enough for 0:09:36.200 --> 0:09:39.840 you know. By the way, Dargan has the sting where 0:09:39.840 --> 0:09:44.640 he's so grateful for the coaching, for the improvement. 0:09:44.760 --> 0:09:47.520 Like he honestly, man, he's one of the favorite dudes 0:09:47.559 --> 0:09:50.160 I've ever not just trained, but been around in this 0:09:50.240 --> 0:09:50.560 league of. 0:09:50.520 --> 0:09:51.240 My entire life. 0:09:51.320 --> 0:09:54.079 That's what I get to go to work, right. Yeah, 0:09:54.240 --> 0:09:56.360 it's just the same. I mean, it's just yeah, you 0:09:56.480 --> 0:09:59.000 just want to like rub up, you know, rub shoulders. 0:09:59.000 --> 0:10:01.080 Give me, give me some I'm a give me some 0:10:01.160 --> 0:10:02.200 of that what you got. 0:10:02.000 --> 0:10:05.000 Give me some of that magic. Yeah, no doubt. You know, 0:10:05.080 --> 0:10:07.200 he is such a good dude. Man. He was like, 0:10:07.520 --> 0:10:09.240 and we have a great community where we are to 0:10:09.679 --> 0:10:10.079 He's like. 0:10:10.080 --> 0:10:13.080 Thank you so much for for bringing me in this community, 0:10:13.120 --> 0:10:14.960 said Deurmot. Of course, man, you're you're great. You lift 0:10:15.000 --> 0:10:16.920 us all up. He goes, No, no, I want you 0:10:17.000 --> 0:10:20.719 to hear me, thank you for this, Like who does that? 0:10:20.920 --> 0:10:22.719 Like he is such a great Yeah. 0:10:22.760 --> 0:10:23.600 I'll give you another example. 0:10:23.640 --> 0:10:27.880 Today this morning we're Derwin, Justin and I and I 0:10:28.200 --> 0:10:29.720 think Ben Herbert is gonna come with us too. 0:10:29.720 --> 0:10:32.400 We're gonna go down and see the Navy seals. 0:10:33.400 --> 0:10:36.520 And I asked if they wanted to go, and Justin yes, 0:10:37.040 --> 0:10:38.920 that would be that would be a tremendous honor. 0:10:39.360 --> 0:10:43.280 Derwin James. Yeah, let's go, coach. Let's let's get that now. 0:10:43.559 --> 0:10:46.720 I'm so grateful to uh, to the men and women 0:10:47.280 --> 0:10:48.600 that protect our country. 0:10:48.760 --> 0:10:51.800 You know, let's go not like, let me check my schedule, 0:10:51.880 --> 0:10:53.440 let me let me see what I gotta do. 0:10:53.720 --> 0:10:56.800 You know, that's a long day, coach. We got mandatory 0:10:56.880 --> 0:11:00.480 mini camp later in the night. You know, just like 0:11:00.840 --> 0:11:03.120 you know, let's go get it. Let's go get let's 0:11:03.160 --> 0:11:05.959 go get it. Let's get that same way, the approach practice. 0:11:06.000 --> 0:11:09.000 Let's get this work, coach. Let's uh you ready, let's 0:11:09.000 --> 0:11:11.079 go those kind of guys. And there's others I got. 0:11:11.120 --> 0:11:13.640 JK Dobbins. You know, he's another kind of guy. You know, 0:11:13.960 --> 0:11:17.000 just uh, you've been around JK. You know you know 0:11:17.040 --> 0:11:19.720 what I'm saying. And uh, I guess so many favorites already, 0:11:20.280 --> 0:11:26.480 Sean Slater and Zion Sion is amazing, Scottie, Matt Locke. 0:11:26.520 --> 0:11:29.160 I could go on and on of the Joey Bose 0:11:29.200 --> 0:11:31.720 has been been just a thrill to be around. Khalil 0:11:31.840 --> 0:11:34.400 Mack just the same kind of guy. Just watch them 0:11:34.400 --> 0:11:36.400 emulate him. See if you can go make them proud 0:11:36.400 --> 0:11:36.640 of you. 0:11:37.040 --> 0:11:37.880 I love that, all right. 0:11:37.920 --> 0:11:39.960 I'm gonna get back to your advice here, four keys 0:11:40.000 --> 0:11:41.320 to happiness and descending order. 0:11:41.480 --> 0:11:44.559 Bring the Jim Marvo, pick a job you love, don't. 0:11:44.400 --> 0:11:50.200 Get better, get better, outwork your competition. Mary Wisely, I 0:11:50.200 --> 0:11:52.400 gotta tell my daughters don't marry dumb. 0:11:52.440 --> 0:11:55.360 You can't trust them with the decision they will make. 0:11:55.840 --> 0:11:56.679 Pretty much right there. 0:11:56.760 --> 0:11:59.800 Yeah, that's some key advice to some things I've learned. 0:11:59.840 --> 0:12:02.200 But the one thing you said in there, you know, 0:12:02.679 --> 0:12:04.640 don't get better, get better. You know, to me, there's 0:12:04.679 --> 0:12:07.280 there's so much in that one right there, and it's 0:12:07.280 --> 0:12:10.240 really just changing the eye to the e right, don't 0:12:10.240 --> 0:12:12.880 get better, get better. Don't be the victim, be the hero, 0:12:13.400 --> 0:12:16.120 you know. I mean, if if somebody's gonna write their story, 0:12:16.679 --> 0:12:18.840 say they were a novelists and they were writing there, 0:12:19.040 --> 0:12:21.400 they write novels, they write books. You know, they could 0:12:21.400 --> 0:12:24.920 be war books. You know, they could be cooking books. 0:12:25.040 --> 0:12:28.280 I mean, they're gonna write in the same kind of genre. 0:12:28.559 --> 0:12:30.920 You know, it's not gonna it's not gonna dramatically change. 0:12:31.240 --> 0:12:32.760 So I mean, you could be writing your own book. 0:12:33.040 --> 0:12:35.440 I mean, it's gonna be that you're the hero, you know, 0:12:35.559 --> 0:12:38.560 you're gonna come out the hero, you know, every time, 0:12:38.760 --> 0:12:40.440 or you could be writing it the other way, you know, 0:12:40.520 --> 0:12:42.200 like you'll always come out the victim. 0:12:42.320 --> 0:12:43.600 You know, I'm the victim. 0:12:43.640 --> 0:12:47.120 And this, this pattern really creates itself, and it's to me, 0:12:47.160 --> 0:12:50.200 it just comes down to that, Okay, victim or hero, 0:12:51.280 --> 0:12:55.000 don't get better, get better, change the I to the E, 0:12:55.720 --> 0:12:57.360 and yeah, write it in. 0:12:57.600 --> 0:12:59.319 You're gonna, you know, find. 0:12:59.040 --> 0:13:02.200 The way to to be the hero of your own story. 0:13:02.720 --> 0:13:04.280 You had talked earlier about, you know, some of the 0:13:04.280 --> 0:13:08.080 things that you know have broken you know or heartbreaking. 0:13:08.120 --> 0:13:09.520 I mean people used to tell me that, you know, 0:13:09.600 --> 0:13:11.920 like it's heartbreaking, it's a heartbreaking loss and with a 0:13:12.000 --> 0:13:14.240 heartbreaking you know thing that happened. 0:13:14.240 --> 0:13:17.000 But does it have to be heartbreaking heartbreaking? 0:13:17.040 --> 0:13:19.959 I mean that sounds like that's that's like it's over, 0:13:20.120 --> 0:13:22.800 it's done. I mean there's nothing that can be you know, 0:13:23.320 --> 0:13:26.400 that's the end, you know, the heartbreaks. I mean, heart 0:13:26.440 --> 0:13:30.200 doesn't work where you're out of business. But yeah, there's 0:13:30.240 --> 0:13:32.600 there's a way. There's a there's a way, and I 0:13:32.600 --> 0:13:35.640 think the best strategy is, uh, don't get better, get better. 0:13:36.040 --> 0:13:39.720 I love that contemplating career move jamar Bro says, do 0:13:39.760 --> 0:13:42.840 it the best for your family, you personally, professionally a 0:13:42.880 --> 0:13:45.600 place where you'll be happy and productive and where you 0:13:45.600 --> 0:13:48.000 were wanted and they like what you do and how 0:13:48.040 --> 0:13:48.520 you do it. 0:13:49.120 --> 0:13:50.960 Yeah, how's that? How's that hit you? Is that that 0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:51.760 hits you right? Or? 0:13:52.320 --> 0:13:54.640 Yeah? Absolutely? Because you do. 0:13:54.800 --> 0:13:58.240 You hear so many people doing a job and they complain, right, 0:13:58.320 --> 0:14:00.640 and it's just like man, then you just get stuck 0:14:00.679 --> 0:14:02.840 in this vicious cycle all the time. 0:14:03.160 --> 0:14:04.880 So even if it's it's you've got to make. 0:14:04.800 --> 0:14:07.560 Yourself and you say it's if you're gonna be happy, 0:14:07.559 --> 0:14:09.840 you're gonna be productive, you always work on yourself to 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:12.040 make sure you shift that narrative you get yourself happy. 0:14:13.679 --> 0:14:16.719 See, I was working on something this morning. Uh. 0:14:16.720 --> 0:14:20.040 It's just a mission really to look at yourself or 0:14:20.080 --> 0:14:25.120 someone else and what they're capable of producing. You know fourteen, 0:14:25.160 --> 0:14:27.920 whether it's the family team or or or the team 0:14:28.560 --> 0:14:30.560 at work. You know, really you have you have your 0:14:30.600 --> 0:14:35.280 talent and health, that mental and physical mind and body. 0:14:35.840 --> 0:14:37.640 You know that we're that we're. 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:42.200 Blessed with minus turning this into equation an equation minus 0:14:43.080 --> 0:14:46.920 you know, flaws or injury that you might have and everybody. 0:14:47.000 --> 0:14:51.320 Everybody has a everybody has flaws, nobody's perfect, and in 0:14:51.360 --> 0:14:54.920 football we're always working through something. Uh it seems like 0:14:55.520 --> 0:14:59.960 so talent health minus flaws and injury plus problem solving 0:15:00.480 --> 0:15:05.040 you know how ingenuity Humans are really good at that, right, 0:15:05.080 --> 0:15:08.000 They're really good at fixing things ways to make it right, 0:15:08.280 --> 0:15:12.960 you know, finding that way minus excuses. Those are a 0:15:13.000 --> 0:15:19.080 detrimental problem solving and then minus distraction maintenance maintenance in 0:15:19.120 --> 0:15:22.479 your own life. Just that you know, high higher the maintenance, 0:15:23.240 --> 0:15:25.240 the lower your production is going to be. You know, 0:15:25.360 --> 0:15:29.280 the lower your maintenance in your life, the higher your production. 0:15:29.320 --> 0:15:29.800 Is going to be. 0:15:30.600 --> 0:15:34.800 So minus minus that that distraction maintenance in your own life, 0:15:34.960 --> 0:15:41.320 and then plus motivation times how hard you are willing 0:15:41.400 --> 0:15:45.200 to work to achieve something. So quas would be talent 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:49.880 health minus flaws and injury plus problem solving minus excuse 0:15:50.640 --> 0:15:56.720 minus distraction plus motivation times work ethic equals production capabilities. 0:15:57.200 --> 0:16:01.640 So I'm only thought after doing that was confidence. Confidence 0:16:01.720 --> 0:16:03.840 is going to be a major factor in there, or 0:16:03.960 --> 0:16:08.080 lack of confidence, and really whatever confidence you have is 0:16:08.120 --> 0:16:12.280 going to be an addition except for terminal insecurity or 0:16:12.680 --> 0:16:13.359 the big. 0:16:13.120 --> 0:16:17.000 Head you know, the Yeah, I've got all the answers. 0:16:17.040 --> 0:16:23.240 I'm there, you know, because that big heads a trap, 0:16:23.760 --> 0:16:29.760 a deep, dark, lowly trap. So that's that's a little 0:16:29.960 --> 0:16:32.280 little quazy. I just kind of work on you know, 0:16:32.320 --> 0:16:33.400 how can you work on yourself? 0:16:33.440 --> 0:16:35.120 You know what can I be? What can I be 0:16:35.200 --> 0:16:36.200 approving on? You know? 0:16:36.880 --> 0:16:39.200 You know what are the I can lower distractions of 0:16:39.200 --> 0:16:43.200 my life? I can uh you know, I can eliminate excuses. Uh, 0:16:43.280 --> 0:16:46.720 you know, I can lean on my ingenuity, making it right, 0:16:47.160 --> 0:16:49.200 finding a way fixing things. 0:16:49.440 --> 0:16:51.640 Uh yeah, I can flaws that I have. 0:16:51.800 --> 0:16:54.560 I mean, which ones can I you know, work through 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:57.480 and prove you know, which ones can I find a 0:16:57.480 --> 0:17:01.320 way to hey, just not not you know, limit their impact, 0:17:01.720 --> 0:17:04.040 you know as a player or coach. And then yeah, 0:17:04.080 --> 0:17:07.280 really the positives I do have, you know, really accentuate those, 0:17:07.359 --> 0:17:08.760 you know, the. 0:17:08.600 --> 0:17:10.320 Talent and the health. 0:17:10.400 --> 0:17:12.640 I mean, God willing in the crypt, don't rise. I've 0:17:12.640 --> 0:17:16.199 got all today. I've got today, I've got I got 0:17:16.240 --> 0:17:18.879 these twenty four hours to grow as much as I 0:17:18.920 --> 0:17:22.120 can and you know, get as much done as as possible. 0:17:22.160 --> 0:17:24.399 And how will I know that I that I did 0:17:24.440 --> 0:17:26.480 as much as I could When I go to sleep tonight, 0:17:26.920 --> 0:17:28.040 when my head hits the pillow. 0:17:28.160 --> 0:17:28.600 You know, if the. 0:17:29.119 --> 0:17:32.359 Muscles are sore, the mind's aching a little bit. You know, 0:17:32.440 --> 0:17:35.000 I've I've sweated, and my head hits the pill and 0:17:35.040 --> 0:17:37.160 I go right to sleep. Then I know I did 0:17:37.200 --> 0:17:40.080 all I could for my team at home and my 0:17:40.080 --> 0:17:40.880 team here at work. 0:17:41.320 --> 0:17:41.520 Man. 0:17:41.560 --> 0:17:44.399 I love that. I really love that. I really love that. 0:17:44.480 --> 0:17:45.560 Man, I appreciate it. 0:17:45.600 --> 0:17:47.480 I'm not I'm trying to turn it into an equation, 0:17:47.520 --> 0:17:49.120 you know, like a real math equation. 0:17:49.680 --> 0:17:52.520 But uh, I lost my excellence in math right after 0:17:52.600 --> 0:17:53.320 long division. 0:17:54.400 --> 0:17:57.560 I was gonna say, yeah, you're talking to the ADHD 0:17:57.640 --> 0:17:59.919 guy who could pay attention to classes. 0:18:00.119 --> 0:18:05.800 I think, yeah, you got elemental B. 0:18:05.960 --> 0:18:07.200 You're beyond add. 0:18:08.600 --> 0:18:10.480 But it's a great way to see the world, is it. 0:18:11.359 --> 0:18:11.600 I love? 0:18:11.680 --> 0:18:16.160 Yeah, absolutely no doubt. Hey, different is good. So bye. 0:18:16.160 --> 0:18:18.640 We got so far. Advice from Jamarbor up there every day. 0:18:18.720 --> 0:18:22.560 The consistency right, four keyst happiness, pick a job you love, don't. 0:18:22.359 --> 0:18:24.000 Get better, get better? Which love? 0:18:24.320 --> 0:18:28.240