1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:04,360 Speaker 1: iHeart Podcasts bring you the ultimate summer of love Tree. 2 00:00:04,680 --> 00:00:09,200 Speaker 1: This is famously Available. Welcome back to Famously Available with 3 00:00:09,280 --> 00:00:12,640 Speaker 1: your host Ben. As we follow our famously available women 4 00:00:13,720 --> 00:00:17,120 Speaker 1: all on their own journeys, we are bound to hit 5 00:00:17,160 --> 00:00:21,720 Speaker 1: some twists and turns. Last time we talked to Mercedes, 6 00:00:21,840 --> 00:00:23,880 Speaker 1: are beloved Mercedes. 7 00:00:24,560 --> 00:00:25,640 Speaker 2: Things were going well. 8 00:00:27,040 --> 00:00:30,960 Speaker 1: But I'm back for another check in, and honestly, I 9 00:00:31,040 --> 00:00:33,080 Speaker 1: am unaware of the status. 10 00:00:33,120 --> 00:00:35,480 Speaker 2: However, I was told. 11 00:00:35,840 --> 00:00:39,599 Speaker 1: That I needed to get on a call with Mercedes 12 00:00:39,680 --> 00:00:43,200 Speaker 1: to have an honest and open conversation. And that's why 13 00:00:43,240 --> 00:00:46,880 Speaker 1: I'm here today. Mercedes, Why are you here? 14 00:00:48,560 --> 00:00:51,040 Speaker 3: I am here to let you know that me and 15 00:00:51,159 --> 00:00:52,600 Speaker 3: Boston Man are no more. 16 00:00:54,720 --> 00:00:58,280 Speaker 1: That's I just like, I don't really, I'm just gonna 17 00:00:58,320 --> 00:01:00,200 Speaker 1: speak to you like I would any of my other 18 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:01,760 Speaker 1: girlfriends who are going through this. 19 00:01:02,400 --> 00:01:03,120 Speaker 2: I'm bummed. 20 00:01:03,720 --> 00:01:07,560 Speaker 1: I'm bummed because it felt like things were We're just 21 00:01:08,080 --> 00:01:11,760 Speaker 1: happy and healthy and like going on their own individual 22 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:13,600 Speaker 1: timeline in like the best ways. 23 00:01:14,240 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 2: When we talked to you last, you. 24 00:01:15,600 --> 00:01:18,000 Speaker 1: Didn't have a plan necessarily to see him next if 25 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:20,039 Speaker 1: I remember right, but you were going to like get 26 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:21,880 Speaker 1: that scheduled. You're gonna figure that one out. 27 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:23,760 Speaker 2: What happened. 28 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:27,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, honestly, I don't really know. I feel like it 29 00:01:27,800 --> 00:01:31,360 Speaker 3: kind of like just switched one day. On his end, 30 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:36,319 Speaker 3: I think he got a job opportunity on top of 31 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:39,280 Speaker 3: his full time job, so he's gonna be working a lot. 32 00:01:39,319 --> 00:01:42,200 Speaker 3: He has to move to a new city, and I 33 00:01:42,240 --> 00:01:47,919 Speaker 3: think he was just very stressed and I think having 34 00:01:48,040 --> 00:01:51,720 Speaker 3: someone to like care for and like be in a 35 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:53,560 Speaker 3: relationship with zone was just too much for him. 36 00:01:53,640 --> 00:01:57,440 Speaker 4: So he just was like, yeah, I can't do that. 37 00:01:57,640 --> 00:02:00,560 Speaker 3: I was like, okay, I'm not gonna like be someone 38 00:02:00,720 --> 00:02:05,640 Speaker 3: to take me along with them through their life and journeys. 39 00:02:05,720 --> 00:02:09,600 Speaker 4: So that was that. And yeah, the. 40 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:16,520 Speaker 1: I mean it always is sad and hurt, and you know, 41 00:02:16,760 --> 00:02:21,960 Speaker 1: if you're me, when things end, I kind of go 42 00:02:22,160 --> 00:02:26,160 Speaker 1: very internal. I ask myself a lot of questions, if 43 00:02:26,200 --> 00:02:28,040 Speaker 1: that makes sense. What are some of the questions you're 44 00:02:28,080 --> 00:02:29,360 Speaker 1: asking yourself right now? 45 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:32,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's honestly, Like the biggest thing that I've been 46 00:02:32,960 --> 00:02:37,880 Speaker 3: struggling with is I've like you turned internal and like 47 00:02:37,919 --> 00:02:40,480 Speaker 3: what did I did I do something? Is there something 48 00:02:40,480 --> 00:02:43,720 Speaker 3: wrong with me? And it was something that I struggled 49 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:47,919 Speaker 3: with for a couple of days and it was just 50 00:02:48,040 --> 00:02:48,959 Speaker 3: like you know, did. 51 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:51,600 Speaker 4: I open enough, like open up. 52 00:02:51,560 --> 00:02:54,400 Speaker 3: Enough, did I make him feel like the way he 53 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:56,639 Speaker 3: was making me feel? Or do I need to be 54 00:02:56,639 --> 00:02:58,800 Speaker 3: better at communicating my feelings? 55 00:02:58,880 --> 00:03:01,639 Speaker 4: Like there was a lot of again. 56 00:03:01,919 --> 00:03:05,440 Speaker 3: Internal questioning, but then I just came to the conclusion 57 00:03:05,520 --> 00:03:08,480 Speaker 3: that you know, I know who I am, I know 58 00:03:08,520 --> 00:03:12,200 Speaker 3: the love I give, and I'm worthy of a love 59 00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:15,000 Speaker 3: that reciprocates that, and it just wasn't him. 60 00:03:15,480 --> 00:03:17,840 Speaker 1: The There is some things about him, though, that you 61 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:22,280 Speaker 1: really appreciated and that obviously drew you to him. When 62 00:03:22,280 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 1: we started this, he was a practice date turned into 63 00:03:25,880 --> 00:03:30,160 Speaker 1: multiple dates. The reason it turned into multiple dates is 64 00:03:30,200 --> 00:03:32,560 Speaker 1: because you were intrigued by him and you liked him 65 00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:35,280 Speaker 1: as you know for the time that you're together. What 66 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:37,960 Speaker 1: are some of those qualities now that you've pulled from 67 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:39,800 Speaker 1: that that you look for in the future. 68 00:03:40,200 --> 00:03:44,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely someone who is like very open with the 69 00:03:44,560 --> 00:03:47,920 Speaker 3: way they feel. I feel like he was the type 70 00:03:47,960 --> 00:03:49,280 Speaker 3: of guy that just kind of laid it out on 71 00:03:49,320 --> 00:03:51,640 Speaker 3: the table, which I had never. 72 00:03:51,480 --> 00:03:52,760 Speaker 4: Really experienced before. 73 00:03:53,040 --> 00:03:55,360 Speaker 3: And it turns out that I really like that and 74 00:03:55,400 --> 00:03:58,880 Speaker 3: I like hearing compliments. It's so funny, Ben, Like I 75 00:03:58,960 --> 00:04:01,080 Speaker 3: used to be like, oh, I don't really like when 76 00:04:01,080 --> 00:04:03,160 Speaker 3: men compliment me, like it makes me feel like, oh, 77 00:04:03,280 --> 00:04:04,839 Speaker 3: like I don't know how to take it. But then 78 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:07,840 Speaker 3: with him, I like loved it. I'm like, oh, keep 79 00:04:07,880 --> 00:04:11,520 Speaker 3: them coming. So I think that, you know, I'm a 80 00:04:11,520 --> 00:04:15,360 Speaker 3: firm believer that every single person or thing that happens 81 00:04:15,360 --> 00:04:19,080 Speaker 3: to you is either a lesson or you know, you 82 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:22,279 Speaker 3: learn something from everyone. And I think that he really 83 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 3: like sparked something in me and made me excited about 84 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:29,600 Speaker 3: dating again, because before him, I was like, I'm not 85 00:04:29,640 --> 00:04:31,800 Speaker 3: going on a date with anyone, Like all these men are. 86 00:04:31,920 --> 00:04:32,440 Speaker 4: Like not it. 87 00:04:33,000 --> 00:04:35,200 Speaker 3: And now I'm like excited and I'm excited to meet 88 00:04:35,200 --> 00:04:37,600 Speaker 3: more people. And he showed me that, like I can 89 00:04:37,680 --> 00:04:40,800 Speaker 3: get excited about someone. So I think that was kind of. 90 00:04:40,760 --> 00:04:42,359 Speaker 4: His role in my love life. 91 00:04:42,440 --> 00:04:46,440 Speaker 3: And obviously, like I think he's a great person and 92 00:04:46,720 --> 00:04:48,760 Speaker 3: I think he truly like I know, he's not a 93 00:04:48,800 --> 00:04:49,240 Speaker 3: bad person. 94 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:51,119 Speaker 4: I think he's just really busy with life. 95 00:04:51,360 --> 00:04:54,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I hear you there, and it does. 96 00:04:54,520 --> 00:04:56,760 Speaker 1: The hope is this did open up kind of the 97 00:04:56,760 --> 00:04:59,320 Speaker 1: floodgates to you getting back out there in the dating world. 98 00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:02,960 Speaker 1: Is this chapter closed for you? I mean, if he 99 00:05:03,880 --> 00:05:07,440 Speaker 1: takes a few weeks, sits on this and is like, goodness, gracious, 100 00:05:07,520 --> 00:05:11,159 Speaker 1: I had somebody incredible h in my life and calls 101 00:05:11,200 --> 00:05:11,919 Speaker 1: you back up. 102 00:05:12,320 --> 00:05:17,679 Speaker 2: Would you reconsider dating again or trying it again? 103 00:05:18,400 --> 00:05:22,960 Speaker 4: Probably, but I would have I would be like very reserved. 104 00:05:23,839 --> 00:05:26,159 Speaker 3: I wouldn't be able to just like jump back into 105 00:05:26,200 --> 00:05:28,880 Speaker 3: it and be like where we were. 106 00:05:28,839 --> 00:05:32,279 Speaker 4: You know. I think the way that he I don't know. 107 00:05:32,320 --> 00:05:33,680 Speaker 3: I don't want to get into too much just out 108 00:05:33,720 --> 00:05:35,760 Speaker 3: of respect for him, but I think the way that 109 00:05:35,800 --> 00:05:39,640 Speaker 3: he handled it was a little unconsiderate, where like we 110 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:43,520 Speaker 3: didn't like Basically, I was like, do you need some space. 111 00:05:43,279 --> 00:05:44,360 Speaker 4: For a couple of days to like think? 112 00:05:44,520 --> 00:05:47,159 Speaker 3: And he was like yes, and I like, which I get, 113 00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:51,000 Speaker 3: and I gave him a couple of days, but I 114 00:05:51,200 --> 00:05:53,159 Speaker 3: just like, I don't know. I was like, you literally 115 00:05:53,240 --> 00:05:56,040 Speaker 3: left me here not knowing like what you were thinking 116 00:05:56,120 --> 00:05:56,880 Speaker 3: for you. 117 00:05:56,760 --> 00:05:59,440 Speaker 4: Know what I'm saying. So it was just a little unconsiderate. 118 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:02,600 Speaker 3: So I the door's not closed, but I would definitely 119 00:06:02,600 --> 00:06:04,040 Speaker 3: have my reservations. 120 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:05,719 Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think that's very fair. 121 00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:08,200 Speaker 1: When we started this whole thing out, you had a 122 00:06:08,240 --> 00:06:12,880 Speaker 1: lot of hesitancy towards today's dating culture. You weren't going 123 00:06:12,920 --> 00:06:15,919 Speaker 1: on dates, you weren't you wanted to go on dates? 124 00:06:15,960 --> 00:06:19,480 Speaker 1: You didn't really though. It felt like you wanted to 125 00:06:19,480 --> 00:06:21,480 Speaker 1: go on dates, but you didn't at the same time 126 00:06:22,360 --> 00:06:24,440 Speaker 1: that you didn't really know how to put yourself out 127 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:27,160 Speaker 1: there into the world. You obviously did with this practice 128 00:06:27,240 --> 00:06:31,400 Speaker 1: date that turned into multiple dates. Dating is very complex. 129 00:06:33,279 --> 00:06:36,279 Speaker 1: We talked about what you liked about him, but after 130 00:06:36,440 --> 00:06:38,400 Speaker 1: just a few dates with him, what have you learned 131 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:43,040 Speaker 1: about dating? And do you think there's an added complexity 132 00:06:43,080 --> 00:06:44,239 Speaker 1: since you have been on TV. 133 00:06:45,080 --> 00:06:48,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like what I've learned about dating is 134 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:52,880 Speaker 3: that my the way that I was like viewing dates 135 00:06:53,200 --> 00:06:56,000 Speaker 3: and how I thought that all men were is not true. 136 00:06:56,880 --> 00:07:01,760 Speaker 3: You know, he was very respectful of my boundaries. He 137 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:06,240 Speaker 3: respected me, He was open and honest. So I think 138 00:07:06,320 --> 00:07:09,480 Speaker 3: he definitely taught me that I need to be more 139 00:07:09,560 --> 00:07:11,880 Speaker 3: open and not just have my one. 140 00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:14,360 Speaker 4: Opinion, closed minded opinion about men. 141 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:17,040 Speaker 3: I think that's honestly the most important thing he taught 142 00:07:17,080 --> 00:07:20,720 Speaker 3: me through you know, however much time we spent. 143 00:07:20,600 --> 00:07:34,320 Speaker 1: Together, this season of life for you is not only 144 00:07:34,360 --> 00:07:36,720 Speaker 1: going to be full of these roller coaster rides of emotion, 145 00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:41,480 Speaker 1: but also very exciting at times. Also because you do 146 00:07:41,520 --> 00:07:44,120 Speaker 1: get to meet people. But one of the things that 147 00:07:45,120 --> 00:07:47,640 Speaker 1: was happening in this relationship was it was long distance, 148 00:07:49,160 --> 00:07:53,080 Speaker 1: which adds another layer of difficulty to relationships but can 149 00:07:53,160 --> 00:07:56,280 Speaker 1: be very healthy. Has it made you at all stay 150 00:07:56,280 --> 00:07:59,800 Speaker 1: away from long distance relationships or would you still pursue 151 00:07:59,800 --> 00:08:01,800 Speaker 1: tho if they're available, I would. 152 00:08:01,560 --> 00:08:02,280 Speaker 4: Still pursue them. 153 00:08:02,480 --> 00:08:05,320 Speaker 3: That was like his like main thing on why he 154 00:08:05,360 --> 00:08:09,600 Speaker 3: didn't want to continue was because of the long distance. 155 00:08:11,760 --> 00:08:15,720 Speaker 4: But I personally, like, I didn't. I didn't mind it. 156 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:18,160 Speaker 3: I mean, obviously it sucks, right, like you like want 157 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:20,160 Speaker 3: to like when you're excited about someone and you start 158 00:08:20,240 --> 00:08:21,680 Speaker 3: dating someone, like you're like, I want. 159 00:08:21,520 --> 00:08:22,880 Speaker 4: To be with you all the time, Like I want 160 00:08:22,880 --> 00:08:23,800 Speaker 4: to know everything about you. 161 00:08:23,840 --> 00:08:26,360 Speaker 3: Like that's normal, and obviously when you live in different 162 00:08:26,360 --> 00:08:27,280 Speaker 3: cities you can't do that. 163 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:32,480 Speaker 4: But honestly, it wasn't bothering me, like I think. 164 00:08:32,679 --> 00:08:35,320 Speaker 3: You know, if it was for an extended amount of time, 165 00:08:36,080 --> 00:08:38,160 Speaker 3: obviously that would be really, really tough. 166 00:08:38,280 --> 00:08:40,600 Speaker 4: But you know, we talked on the phone. 167 00:08:40,880 --> 00:08:44,959 Speaker 3: We you know, we both gave effort to where it 168 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:47,480 Speaker 3: felt like we were still getting to know each other 169 00:08:47,640 --> 00:08:51,440 Speaker 3: even if we weren't in person. So no, I'm not 170 00:08:51,640 --> 00:08:54,520 Speaker 3: knocking long distance relationships at all. I think if you 171 00:08:54,559 --> 00:08:56,600 Speaker 3: both put the effort, then it can work. 172 00:08:57,280 --> 00:09:00,960 Speaker 1: I agree, And it does make conversations sometimes more intentional 173 00:09:01,640 --> 00:09:05,079 Speaker 1: because you have to ask questions. You can't just snuggle 174 00:09:05,120 --> 00:09:07,600 Speaker 1: on the couch and watch a movie. You have to 175 00:09:07,640 --> 00:09:10,400 Speaker 1: actually communicate. And I do think you can get to 176 00:09:10,440 --> 00:09:15,280 Speaker 1: know each other even better through you know, just talking 177 00:09:15,320 --> 00:09:19,320 Speaker 1: to connect instead of anything else, which is beautiful in 178 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:23,640 Speaker 1: its own way. Do you I mean long distance and 179 00:09:23,720 --> 00:09:25,839 Speaker 1: kind of how this started. Do you don't think there 180 00:09:25,880 --> 00:09:29,400 Speaker 1: was anybody else that he was dating right that came 181 00:09:29,440 --> 00:09:30,120 Speaker 1: into play here? 182 00:09:30,840 --> 00:09:35,400 Speaker 4: No? No, I mean it was very abrupt, so I 183 00:09:35,840 --> 00:09:36,920 Speaker 4: don't know. I don't know. 184 00:09:37,040 --> 00:09:41,000 Speaker 3: I didn't ask, but I don't think so. I don't 185 00:09:41,040 --> 00:09:43,960 Speaker 3: think so. I think that he just genuinely was like 186 00:09:44,160 --> 00:09:47,560 Speaker 3: very stressed with the whole work thing and having to 187 00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:49,800 Speaker 3: work sixty hours a. 188 00:09:49,720 --> 00:09:54,440 Speaker 4: Week and you know, moving to a new city, all 189 00:09:54,480 --> 00:09:56,280 Speaker 4: these things. But at the end of the day, like. 190 00:09:58,240 --> 00:09:59,599 Speaker 3: It goes back to like if he wanted to, he 191 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:03,839 Speaker 3: would like it's not it wasn't impossible to continue to 192 00:10:04,040 --> 00:10:05,600 Speaker 3: get to know me and date me. 193 00:10:06,679 --> 00:10:09,400 Speaker 4: But I mean, he just he didn't think he had time. 194 00:10:09,520 --> 00:10:11,280 Speaker 4: So no, I don't. 195 00:10:11,040 --> 00:10:12,880 Speaker 3: Think that there was someone else, but I mean, I 196 00:10:12,880 --> 00:10:15,520 Speaker 3: guess I didn't ask the question. 197 00:10:15,320 --> 00:10:16,280 Speaker 4: So I don't know for sure. 198 00:10:16,880 --> 00:10:18,920 Speaker 1: And we talked about it last time you're on here. 199 00:10:19,760 --> 00:10:22,480 Speaker 1: You hadn't really had that conversation yet, so if there was, 200 00:10:22,520 --> 00:10:26,040 Speaker 1: it's not like he was doing anything yeah wrong, just 201 00:10:26,480 --> 00:10:30,720 Speaker 1: would be surprising, maybe because of how you were feeling 202 00:10:30,760 --> 00:10:33,600 Speaker 1: at the time about him. You have a great group 203 00:10:33,640 --> 00:10:36,120 Speaker 1: of friends around you, some from the show, some not 204 00:10:36,160 --> 00:10:39,520 Speaker 1: from the show. What was their response when you told him. 205 00:10:39,360 --> 00:10:39,800 Speaker 2: It was over? 206 00:10:40,440 --> 00:10:45,320 Speaker 4: They were like, I mean, they were obviously on my side. 207 00:10:45,360 --> 00:10:48,200 Speaker 3: They were like, yeah, he was love Bomby like a 208 00:10:48,240 --> 00:10:50,160 Speaker 3: bunch of stuff, you know, just try you know how 209 00:10:50,280 --> 00:10:52,480 Speaker 3: girls are like HiPE each other up or like he's 210 00:10:52,520 --> 00:10:57,120 Speaker 3: a weirdo loser. Yeah, but no, I think that they 211 00:10:57,160 --> 00:10:58,920 Speaker 3: thought the same as me. They're like, he's not like 212 00:10:59,080 --> 00:11:03,440 Speaker 3: a posy and we all know that. And I know 213 00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:05,040 Speaker 3: that he's a good guy, he's a good family like 214 00:11:05,120 --> 00:11:06,600 Speaker 3: he has good values morals. 215 00:11:07,320 --> 00:11:08,000 Speaker 4: I just think it was. 216 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:12,760 Speaker 3: A timing thing and they were like if what I 217 00:11:12,800 --> 00:11:15,320 Speaker 3: forget what friends said this, but they're like, think of 218 00:11:15,360 --> 00:11:18,520 Speaker 3: how great he was, Like think of how like amazing 219 00:11:18,720 --> 00:11:21,840 Speaker 3: and like when you actually meet like the love of 220 00:11:21,840 --> 00:11:23,760 Speaker 3: your life or you're like your husband, the person you're gonna 221 00:11:23,760 --> 00:11:26,240 Speaker 3: spend forever with, Like that's gonna feel like make this 222 00:11:26,320 --> 00:11:28,560 Speaker 3: feel like nothing. And I'm like, that's so exciting, you know, 223 00:11:28,920 --> 00:11:32,079 Speaker 3: Like I got so excited over him that like, when 224 00:11:32,120 --> 00:11:36,720 Speaker 3: I actually meet someone, it's like, for real, how exciting 225 00:11:36,720 --> 00:11:37,080 Speaker 3: it'll be. 226 00:11:37,600 --> 00:11:43,000 Speaker 1: Oh, And that's completely true. It doesn't disregard past relationships. 227 00:11:43,000 --> 00:11:46,959 Speaker 1: It doesn't make those less meaningful. I think that would 228 00:11:46,960 --> 00:11:49,800 Speaker 1: be unfair to that season and time that you spent. 229 00:11:50,559 --> 00:11:54,600 Speaker 1: But it's it's only natural to, at at least at 230 00:11:54,640 --> 00:11:58,480 Speaker 1: the beginning, to compare. And it's just incredible when you 231 00:11:58,520 --> 00:12:02,559 Speaker 1: meet the one and when you know you know, and 232 00:12:02,679 --> 00:12:05,520 Speaker 1: you'll never feel anything like it you know before, and 233 00:12:05,600 --> 00:12:09,400 Speaker 1: you're like, goodness, gracious. But then the fear, Mercedes is 234 00:12:09,480 --> 00:12:13,719 Speaker 1: if this ends, I am broken, like broken, But it's 235 00:12:13,760 --> 00:12:16,200 Speaker 1: the best thing ever and also the scariest thing of 236 00:12:16,240 --> 00:12:16,840 Speaker 1: your life. 237 00:12:17,440 --> 00:12:20,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's worth it so great. Do you think 238 00:12:20,400 --> 00:12:22,319 Speaker 2: he's gonna listen to this episode? 239 00:12:22,679 --> 00:12:23,680 Speaker 4: I don't know. I hope not. 240 00:12:24,200 --> 00:12:26,760 Speaker 3: He he listened to the first one and I told him, 241 00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:29,320 Speaker 3: I said, you're not allowed to listen to it, and 242 00:12:29,320 --> 00:12:31,080 Speaker 3: he's like, why and I'm like, because you're getting like 243 00:12:31,120 --> 00:12:32,199 Speaker 3: the inside of my brain. 244 00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:33,679 Speaker 4: I'm like, that's not fair. 245 00:12:34,240 --> 00:12:35,319 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't. 246 00:12:35,200 --> 00:12:37,360 Speaker 3: Know if he'll listen to it or not. To be honest, 247 00:12:37,800 --> 00:12:40,640 Speaker 3: I hope he doesn't. But if he does, I mean 248 00:12:40,679 --> 00:12:43,599 Speaker 3: I'm just being honest and truthful. And he also like 249 00:12:43,640 --> 00:12:45,920 Speaker 3: I told him everything on the phone too. When we 250 00:12:45,960 --> 00:12:49,320 Speaker 3: did have like the conversation, I was just like, I. 251 00:12:49,240 --> 00:12:50,199 Speaker 4: Told you where I was at. 252 00:12:50,280 --> 00:12:52,640 Speaker 3: If you feel this way, like, there's nothing I can 253 00:12:52,640 --> 00:12:55,600 Speaker 3: do about it. So hope was she's best? You know, 254 00:12:55,720 --> 00:12:58,400 Speaker 3: like I wasn't like the type of girl where it's like, well, 255 00:12:58,480 --> 00:13:00,760 Speaker 3: I'm like, you know, really her by this. 256 00:13:01,360 --> 00:13:02,199 Speaker 4: I didn't do all that. 257 00:13:02,480 --> 00:13:05,160 Speaker 3: I was just like, Okay, if that's that's what you 258 00:13:05,200 --> 00:13:07,080 Speaker 3: want to do, that's what you want to do, have fun, 259 00:13:07,160 --> 00:13:07,400 Speaker 3: see you. 260 00:13:07,600 --> 00:13:11,559 Speaker 4: Thanks for chat like. 261 00:13:12,960 --> 00:13:13,240 Speaker 3: Life. 262 00:13:13,520 --> 00:13:17,680 Speaker 1: I don't know, and it's fair if he does listen 263 00:13:17,720 --> 00:13:19,640 Speaker 1: to this. Is there anything you. 264 00:13:19,600 --> 00:13:22,280 Speaker 2: Haven't said so far that you would want him to hear? 265 00:13:22,880 --> 00:13:23,080 Speaker 3: No? 266 00:13:23,440 --> 00:13:23,960 Speaker 4: Not really. 267 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:28,000 Speaker 1: Well I guess the question is out there right now? 268 00:13:28,840 --> 00:13:30,120 Speaker 1: Are you ready to date more? 269 00:13:31,200 --> 00:13:32,199 Speaker 4: Yes? I am. 270 00:13:32,440 --> 00:13:35,600 Speaker 1: I'm excited sneaking up on us and talking to anybody 271 00:13:35,640 --> 00:13:36,280 Speaker 1: else right now. 272 00:13:38,360 --> 00:13:41,520 Speaker 3: There's a few people in the dms, but nothing like, 273 00:13:42,200 --> 00:13:44,120 Speaker 3: nothing significant. 274 00:13:44,400 --> 00:13:47,000 Speaker 2: There's like some flirty dms going back and forth. 275 00:13:47,280 --> 00:13:48,920 Speaker 4: Yeah, which is so unlike me. 276 00:13:50,720 --> 00:13:54,480 Speaker 3: Boston Man literally opened up all different side of me. 277 00:13:54,600 --> 00:13:57,920 Speaker 3: So a few flirty dms but nothing nothing serious. 278 00:13:58,400 --> 00:14:02,520 Speaker 1: Well, Mercedes is having fun. At some point, I want 279 00:14:02,559 --> 00:14:04,920 Speaker 1: to go through an episode and talk about the flirted 280 00:14:05,000 --> 00:14:07,040 Speaker 1: dms and what you've said back and forth to each other. 281 00:14:07,080 --> 00:14:08,680 Speaker 1: I want to know how you flirt these days. 282 00:14:08,720 --> 00:14:09,600 Speaker 2: That's all much. 283 00:14:09,800 --> 00:14:12,840 Speaker 1: That's something I'm very curious about, is how flirting happens 284 00:14:13,400 --> 00:14:15,920 Speaker 1: in this dating culture. Well, I don't want to give 285 00:14:15,920 --> 00:14:17,640 Speaker 1: too many details to you right now, but we do 286 00:14:17,679 --> 00:14:19,840 Speaker 1: have someone we're going to be setting you up with 287 00:14:20,040 --> 00:14:25,280 Speaker 1: very soon. I hear, and I'm going to know more 288 00:14:25,320 --> 00:14:27,760 Speaker 1: here in just a bit, but I hear this man 289 00:14:27,880 --> 00:14:34,040 Speaker 1: is very attractive and he is in the right age range. Okay, 290 00:14:34,600 --> 00:14:37,200 Speaker 1: so that's going to be happening if you agree to 291 00:14:37,280 --> 00:14:38,000 Speaker 1: let us do this. 292 00:14:38,760 --> 00:14:43,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm literally so down. I'm literally I'm saying yes 293 00:14:43,040 --> 00:14:45,200 Speaker 3: to every day. Every date is a practice date until 294 00:14:45,200 --> 00:14:45,840 Speaker 3: we find the one. 295 00:14:47,160 --> 00:14:51,320 Speaker 1: Be careful because your DMS might get even busier. We're 296 00:14:51,360 --> 00:14:53,640 Speaker 1: going to bring you back on here very soon to 297 00:14:53,680 --> 00:14:56,560 Speaker 1: give the details about this date kind of leading up 298 00:14:56,600 --> 00:14:58,360 Speaker 1: to it, and then we'll talk to you night of 299 00:14:58,440 --> 00:15:03,400 Speaker 1: the date, before and after the date happens. It's great 300 00:15:03,480 --> 00:15:06,200 Speaker 1: and if the date goes well, amazing. If it doesn't 301 00:15:06,240 --> 00:15:11,720 Speaker 1: go well, then we just put Deanna in with a 302 00:15:11,760 --> 00:15:14,080 Speaker 1: therapist to talk to her. 303 00:15:15,280 --> 00:15:17,200 Speaker 4: After a day she needed a therapist. 304 00:15:17,840 --> 00:15:19,680 Speaker 1: No, I think it just was like a good added 305 00:15:19,720 --> 00:15:22,000 Speaker 1: benefit to the show as you get free therapy and 306 00:15:22,040 --> 00:15:24,080 Speaker 1: you get to talk through all this stuff. You just 307 00:15:24,080 --> 00:15:26,480 Speaker 1: have to do it in front of a national audience. 308 00:15:27,080 --> 00:15:29,360 Speaker 1: But that also is an option available to you if 309 00:15:29,360 --> 00:15:31,000 Speaker 1: this date doesn't go well and you feel like you 310 00:15:31,040 --> 00:15:35,280 Speaker 1: need some tuning up in life, So just keep in mind. 311 00:15:36,960 --> 00:15:40,200 Speaker 1: Mercedes again, I am sorry that this one didn't work out, 312 00:15:40,200 --> 00:15:41,960 Speaker 1: but I am happy that there's a smile on your 313 00:15:42,000 --> 00:15:46,040 Speaker 1: face and that it sounds like you took some great 314 00:15:46,080 --> 00:15:52,440 Speaker 1: things from this little, you know, talking relationship and also 315 00:15:52,600 --> 00:15:55,520 Speaker 1: learn some things about yourself and also put your footback 316 00:15:55,560 --> 00:15:57,600 Speaker 1: out there to date again, and we can't wait to 317 00:15:57,640 --> 00:16:00,560 Speaker 1: be a part of it. I'm bummed then never got 318 00:16:00,560 --> 00:16:02,480 Speaker 1: to meet him. I was excited to do that. Maybe 319 00:16:02,480 --> 00:16:04,800 Speaker 1: that's what scared him away. If it is, I will 320 00:16:04,840 --> 00:16:07,680 Speaker 1: never offer that up again. That is that was my mistake. 321 00:16:07,920 --> 00:16:11,080 Speaker 3: I honestly, yeah, we didn't even because like the day 322 00:16:11,120 --> 00:16:12,680 Speaker 3: I was gonna tell him was the day that like 323 00:16:12,840 --> 00:16:13,760 Speaker 3: things started being weird. 324 00:16:13,840 --> 00:16:16,720 Speaker 4: I'm like, Okay, today's day I do it. 325 00:16:16,800 --> 00:16:17,480 Speaker 3: So we didn't even know. 326 00:16:17,560 --> 00:16:18,240 Speaker 4: So it wasn't you. 327 00:16:18,800 --> 00:16:21,320 Speaker 2: Okay, good Mercedes. 328 00:16:21,360 --> 00:16:23,160 Speaker 1: We'll have you back on here very soon to talk 329 00:16:23,200 --> 00:16:26,160 Speaker 1: about some very exciting things that we have planned for you. 330 00:16:26,320 --> 00:16:28,960 Speaker 1: It will be fun, it will be awesome. Uh and 331 00:16:29,000 --> 00:16:31,720 Speaker 1: I cannot wait to hear more about it until next time. 332 00:16:31,760 --> 00:16:35,280 Speaker 1: This has been famously available. We're talking to Mercedes a 333 00:16:35,360 --> 00:16:39,760 Speaker 1: day about the ending of the relationship with Boston man. Uh. 334 00:16:40,000 --> 00:16:42,240 Speaker 1: And we will continue to put Mercedes back out there 335 00:16:42,280 --> 00:16:46,000 Speaker 1: into the world because somebody out there deserves Mercedes, and 336 00:16:46,080 --> 00:16:48,400 Speaker 1: Mercedes deserves somebody great. 337 00:16:48,600 --> 00:16:50,480 Speaker 2: So we'll be back soon. Stay tuned.