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Speaker 1: horrible decisions. My name is Easy. What a dude? What
Speaker 1: a dude puts the home? Did your girl? Mandy? I
Speaker 1: actually wanted to start this episode off a little bit
Speaker 1: different and I hope you guys like it. And for
Speaker 1: those of you that don't, fuck you, I feel like
Speaker 1: a lot of us need some loving light. I don't
Speaker 1: know how long ago though a Nipsey funeral would have
Speaker 1: been from when you listen to this, but you know,
Speaker 1: a lot of people on the internet just seemed to
Speaker 1: be more unified, and I feel like there's a chance
Speaker 1: that we could have all forgotten about that now. But
Speaker 1: the biggest takeaway from Nipsey's funeral I think that made me,
Speaker 1: uh curious, is what will people say when I'm gone?
Speaker 1: You know, we all are wondering what effect we will
Speaker 1: have on people when we're gone. And you may not
Speaker 1: need to hear this, but if you do, there are
Speaker 1: many and I just want to set like some reminders
Speaker 1: for you guys to keep your spirit and your energy
Speaker 1: clear so that you can have that effect on people
Speaker 1: when you are gone. A one I think all of
Speaker 1: us should be kind. We can talk that talk, but
Speaker 1: you really have to walk the walk. It's so easy
Speaker 1: to say that you know we're being good or we're
Speaker 1: doing good, but doing something kind for someone you know
Speaker 1: is great. Doing something kind for someone that you don't
Speaker 1: know is even greater. Making sure you extend yourself, whether
Speaker 1: it be small fucking things like a dollar out of
Speaker 1: your pocket or giving food away when you leave a restaurant,
Speaker 1: just being kind to other people that you don't know,
Speaker 1: it's a great way to just spread that energy and
Speaker 1: get it back in your life. The second one I
Speaker 1: have is to make amends, apologize, and I think forgive.
Speaker 1: I think it just makes no sense to watch people
Speaker 1: die and know that there might be something left unsaid
Speaker 1: or something you wish you could have fixed. So it
Speaker 1: takes a lot to humble ourselves and realize when we're wrong.
Speaker 1: But you know, take those mistakes as growth and feel
Speaker 1: good about them. And it takes a lot of forgive.
Speaker 1: But when you do it, mean it. If you know
Speaker 1: you and your boyfriend are fighting, or you and your
Speaker 1: friend are fighting, or you and a family member, like
Speaker 1: when you say you forgive them and you're over it,
Speaker 1: let that ship go. Because it's really small. And the
Speaker 1: last thing that I want to say that's really good
Speaker 1: to clean and renew your spirit is staging, showering. Whatever
Speaker 1: your ritual is, My ritual for cleansing my soul is
Speaker 1: a gratitude journal, just putting some things down that I'm
Speaker 1: grateful for, um, even when it's very hard to find
Speaker 1: gratefulness in those you know like that. I remember the
Speaker 1: day specifically after our therapy episode or day before the
Speaker 1: therapy episode, I was so angry, UM, and I had
Speaker 1: to write something down that I was grateful for in
Speaker 1: Mandy or in our podcast, just to make sure that
Speaker 1: I can cleanse myself from that bullshit. And and sometimes
Speaker 1: we all have to do that. It's hard to find
Speaker 1: something we're grateful for. But you know, even if you
Speaker 1: have to say it out loud right now, make sure
Speaker 1: you do that these kinds of things, these small things
Speaker 1: will really help you just be a better person, get
Speaker 1: that energy in the room to your friends or whoever.
Speaker 1: And I think that we can all then be someone
Speaker 1: like a Nipsey Hu Hustle if we live ourselves, live
Speaker 1: our life that way. Yeah. Something that UM Lauren London
Speaker 1: did when she actually UM read the text message that
Speaker 1: she sent to him while he was sleeping. Um, that
Speaker 1: touched me deally. But it's when I saw that it
Speaker 1: was funny because that's something that I actually do UM
Speaker 1: with my friends. Um, I say it all the time.
Speaker 1: I just love the people who are in my life currently. Um.
Speaker 1: I've had some pretty sour friendships in the past and
Speaker 1: not really like I feel like everyone, Like I'm still
Speaker 1: friends with so many people. UM, but there there are
Speaker 1: times like It'll literally be like a Wednesday afternoon and
Speaker 1: I'll be at work and I'll just text someone like
Speaker 1: you really make me happy and I'm so glad to
Speaker 1: have you in my life. Thank you. And my friends, yeah,
Speaker 1: my friends. And then I call him a pussy ass
Speaker 1: whole after just so they don't think, you know, I
Speaker 1: got soft on the asses. I mean, yeah, I definitely
Speaker 1: do that with my friends from time to time. I
Speaker 1: appreciated hearing I love you and like giving hugs, Like
Speaker 1: hugging people is such a big deal. Like I love
Speaker 1: to hug people when I first meet them, Like it's crazy,
Speaker 1: when are we going to venues? And like we need
Speaker 1: a house manager or someone helping us. Like I feel
Speaker 1: like hugging gives a different connection, and like, I want
Speaker 1: to always make sure that people feel that for me,
Speaker 1: and especially when you mean it. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So like someone who is a friend saying I love
Speaker 1: you or telling them why you appreciate them. It's crazy.
Speaker 1: Hugs to me don't. I don't know. They don't hold
Speaker 1: much weight with me. So, but that's because like when
Speaker 1: me and my sister used to argue growing up, my
Speaker 1: mom used to be like, okay, now, hug it out,
Speaker 1: and I'd be lying, all right, like it's some bullshit.
Speaker 1: Eight seconds is awkward, but actually it's funny that therapist
Speaker 1: made us hug. Yeah, and I like I hugs to
Speaker 1: me was what you cried after the hook, during the hook,
Speaker 1: so maybe you did feel something. Hugs can yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: telling you now, I don't really like hooks. That's just
Speaker 1: me though. I'm not a hug person, but that's just
Speaker 1: from growing up. That's Hugs to me just aren't. I
Speaker 1: don't know. I like words of affirmation, um, and I
Speaker 1: like I like people to have actions. Um. I don't
Speaker 1: know that that's just I don't know. Hugs to me,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think all of those things are good,
Speaker 1: but I just think hugs is a forgotten form of
Speaker 1: UM showing that you you care. Yeah, I guess I
Speaker 1: wanted to start um with a quick catchup. Um, do
Speaker 1: you are you got anything that you've done this past
Speaker 1: week or anything that was fun or no? Actually, I'm
Speaker 1: like working on spring cleaning because I've been watching Marie Condo.
Speaker 1: Have you watched it yet on Netflix? Tidying up? No?
Speaker 1: I have. First of all, she doesn't even speak English.
Speaker 1: The whole ship is like subtitles. She's Japanese and she
Speaker 1: she helps people like clean their fucking house. But I
Speaker 1: mean it's dope. She has this black family and they
Speaker 1: sold it and are you getting like are there certain
Speaker 1: things that you're just getting rid of? And why? Okay,
Speaker 1: so she lives on some super minimal is ship. And
Speaker 1: I've also been watching or reading something talking about how
Speaker 1: a hundred items is a hundred fifty items is all
Speaker 1: we need? Now I can't live up date, but I
Speaker 1: counted literally how many how many pieces of makeup I
Speaker 1: threw out? And it was seventies six and the bin
Speaker 1: was still fake up. Okay, that's so clearing out the
Speaker 1: bathroom and then clothes was really hard, right, So some
Speaker 1: of the clothes I threw up on Posh Mark and
Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, I'm gonna donate some
Speaker 1: of this money and do something good with it. Why not,
Speaker 1: I'm not, you know, working nine to five, I should
Speaker 1: do this. But it was really hard, like giving up
Speaker 1: ship that I've had good memories and like thought dresses.
Speaker 1: Marie Condo said, when you release something, you think it
Speaker 1: for the good time that you had, and you let
Speaker 1: it go. And I've legit looked at this literary ass
Speaker 1: dress and I said, I haven't warned you in two years, bitch,
Speaker 1: we've gotten fucked in this dress together. Yeah, that's but
Speaker 1: how many things do you have that like you don't
Speaker 1: fit any more? It's well, I've I wouldn't call it
Speaker 1: spring cleaning, but yeah, I've thrown so many not thrown away. Um,
Speaker 1: there's a clothes bend right outside my house. So I've
Speaker 1: gotten I've donated pretty much all my big girl clothes. Um.
Speaker 1: And then a lot of my friends who are bigger
Speaker 1: than me now they all be like, oh, bitch, I
Speaker 1: know you can't fit that, go ahead and throw that
Speaker 1: ship over here. So um, yeah, I've gotten rid of
Speaker 1: a lot of clothes. But I filed. Now. Unfortunately, my
Speaker 1: shopping habit has increased with the weight loss because I
Speaker 1: now am able to just go in and different stuff
Speaker 1: things that I could never like fucking before, like boyfriend jeans,
Speaker 1: and I'm back to like the crop tops and things
Speaker 1: without stretch, and like there's like these white linen pants,
Speaker 1: like the idea of linen pants. My thighs were not
Speaker 1: fitting in linen pants before. So there's so many things
Speaker 1: that you can wear. All these things I can wear
Speaker 1: that until you said you said this last year, but
Speaker 1: you were like talking about boots and I was like,
Speaker 1: Damne boots, bitch, I got the hot boots in my closet. Lee.
Speaker 1: So like all so, I feel like I've been like
Speaker 1: in a in a shopping crazy lately. I haven't really
Speaker 1: been that like crazy. I've been like, UM, and I
Speaker 1: feel like we get to dress up. I don't really
Speaker 1: go out, so I think it's fun to do that. UM.
Speaker 1: The makeup has been fun on the twit I just had.
Speaker 1: It's funny because one of the one of the episodes
Speaker 1: we we recorded, we talked about memories, UM, and we
Speaker 1: talked brought about uh sex memories. But this past weekend,
Speaker 1: I had probably the time of a life. Um. I
Speaker 1: went to dream Ville Fest and for anyone who knows,
Speaker 1: y'all know, I'm a Duke fan, but I'm also uh
Speaker 1: die Hard J Cole fan, dream Ville, j I D
Speaker 1: Earth Game, blah blah, black did. Everybody was in there,
Speaker 1: so yeah, let me let me, Let let me tell
Speaker 1: the story so real quick. I don't want you all
Speaker 1: to get excited because it's not gonna happen every city.
Speaker 1: So I posted the flyer for the Dreamville UM concert
Speaker 1: and I'm like, yo, I ain't never been to rally
Speaker 1: and y'all know, I like Duke. I need someone to
Speaker 1: show me the campus. So I know one of the
Speaker 1: ball players, but that nigga went back home on Friday.
Speaker 1: So I was like, nigked, do you know anybody else?
Speaker 1: So he didn't know anybody like that could just like
Speaker 1: give me a tour. So one of our listeners actually
Speaker 1: hit me and was like, I can give you a
Speaker 1: campus tour. UM. Shout out to G. She's actually a
Speaker 1: PhD student there becoming a doctor. Shout out to listen Love.
Speaker 1: She's been listening since almost the beginning. So G was like, yo,
Speaker 1: like I'll show you the campus tour like I'm off
Speaker 1: that day, like you know, I'll take you around. So
Speaker 1: I was like all right, So I invited her for
Speaker 1: breakfast because bich the airport food was too expensive. I
Speaker 1: was like, I'm just star until I land, so I
Speaker 1: was gonna go to Flying Biscuit and she's like, oh
Speaker 1: well opposite. If I'm hungry, I'll pay anything, oh Na bro.
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm gonna sleep anyway, like I ain't
Speaker 1: gonna feel how how hungry I am on the flight.
Speaker 1: So I landed and went straight to Flying Biscuit and
Speaker 1: she came and picked me up from the airport too.
Speaker 1: So here go my homegirl, bit you so white? Just
Speaker 1: gonna hop in a stranger car baite and she's like,
Speaker 1: so that I'm telling my home girl and I'm like
Speaker 1: She's like, I was like, but she's about to be
Speaker 1: a doctor and here go my friend. That means she'll
Speaker 1: know how to drain your blood and take you apart.
Speaker 1: And I'm just like, what did you doing? So I
Speaker 1: shared my location with her as I was walking up
Speaker 1: to Jee's car, I, um, I can't let you picture
Speaker 1: up from the air for from an airport, and everything
Speaker 1: I gave her, um my I gave my homegirl the
Speaker 1: license plate. She's like, here go my Duke bad you
Speaker 1: could take a picture of it. So we went to
Speaker 1: the Duke campus. Um went around, went to the to
Speaker 1: the Duke Museum Basketball Museum, loved it. Spent too much
Speaker 1: money on fucking Duke fucking apparel because I love Duke.
Speaker 1: Um on the Krisski Senter. Sorry coach k Um. I
Speaker 1: couldn't get into the camera stadium. So I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to go back and get into mother
Speaker 1: camera stadium. And I'm like, next year, bitch, you come here.
Speaker 1: I need tickets and I'm gonna come with my face painted.
Speaker 1: And I just want to be a dude crazy, yes
Speaker 1: and go like like all of that. Why don't because
Speaker 1: that's what they do in camera They're Cameron crazy. Is
Speaker 1: I want to be a camera crazy? I was like
Speaker 1: that's like no. They like jump up and down there.
Speaker 1: They're super loud. It's like the craziest you know about
Speaker 1: to be like, you know that is the Native American bullshit.
Speaker 1: They just get really loud in the camera. Um, shut
Speaker 1: up the camera stadium. So I want to do I
Speaker 1: want to do that. So anyways, my homeboy shout out, Oh,
Speaker 1: real quick, shout out to Rory fucking came and got
Speaker 1: me at the motherfucking door for Duce Falsa was treated
Speaker 1: like motherfucker v I p in another city. I was like,
Speaker 1: thank you. Then went up there and was like, oh, bitch,
Speaker 1: we're in New York. Of course a another party outside
Speaker 1: and we're in New York. All so shout out to
Speaker 1: brother from the DC Show who came on stage and
Speaker 1: did the position on me. It was the fucking bar
Speaker 1: tender bitch in Rally, North Carolina. He came to the
Speaker 1: d C Show. He's like, so you'all remember me, and bitch.
Speaker 1: I looked at my friend and I didn't like because
Speaker 1: I never know. Did I fun this nigga? Like I
Speaker 1: hate when a nigga be like you'll remember me? I
Speaker 1: really did? He look like some of you? He kind
Speaker 1: of looked like one of them niggas from Travis Porter.
Speaker 1: So I was like, maybe we're close to Atlanta, Like
Speaker 1: I ain't know, no, I ain't sting of the too
Speaker 1: short for me, but he looked like a Transporter nigga.
Speaker 1: So he was like brother, he called his brother from
Speaker 1: the d C Show. Anyways, had a great time at St. Pellosa.
Speaker 1: If you're able to go check out at Pellosa, it's
Speaker 1: a good ass, black ass time. So anyways, the next day,
Speaker 1: my homeboys Zeno gets me past this. He's in Big
Speaker 1: Shawn's camp. Lit Nigga. We got our god damn bands,
Speaker 1: that ship said artists. So me and my homegirl we
Speaker 1: pull up and we like, bitch, let's see the access
Speaker 1: that we have with this past bitch all access. We
Speaker 1: got fucking everywhere artists compound on stage, backstage, in the
Speaker 1: front of the stage. We wasn't it was forty people, bitch,
Speaker 1: I said it was about twenty. Because I ain't run back.
Speaker 1: I ain't getting no crowds, Bitch, I ain't sweat. We
Speaker 1: ain't sunk up our shoes to the very end because
Speaker 1: it was muddy because it rained the day before Super Dope.
Speaker 1: I do want to give or let y'all know. Um. Nonetheless,
Speaker 1: that Big Sean in person, it's god damn gorgeous. He
Speaker 1: looks really huge, just tiny, bitch, but he not that
Speaker 1: I had on sneakers, so he was like a little
Speaker 1: He would have been an exception, And bitch the b
Speaker 1: D didn't see him at one over he was sitting
Speaker 1: b d E like a motherfucker beautiful. Not all of them. Well,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't know. I don't really funk with him, and
Speaker 1: shut dude. I Ben Wins had a thick dick man
Speaker 1: and if y'all google Big Sharks dick, I think his
Speaker 1: dick picked legs and it's like down to his knee.
Speaker 1: But the energy was there. He was just so fucking
Speaker 1: he was so flieshot, a boss at a great set.
Speaker 1: Um shout out to black as well. They funked up
Speaker 1: his mother sucking sound, but I love black um, and
Speaker 1: so I got to catch up with him since I
Speaker 1: haven't seen him since September, since a few people, and
Speaker 1: I was just thinking, like everyone has so much fun,
Speaker 1: and I was thinking, like, you know, it's sad that
Speaker 1: like we support a festival like Coachella. I refused to
Speaker 1: go to Coachella because I think it's been made a spectacle.
Speaker 1: And you know me, I've been at festivals for years,
Speaker 1: but I didn't know that that's a black aspect, black
Speaker 1: wit black festival, first time festival. It was so organized.
Speaker 1: I was like they had the passage just like Coachella,
Speaker 1: like that you swipe and likenc man to go through
Speaker 1: things it was so well organized. I think a few
Speaker 1: people had a few complaints about the food lines, and
Speaker 1: I know the WiFi did suck when we between the sticks, Raley,
Speaker 1: you know what kind of sucks like I had a
Speaker 1: WiFi complaint. I went to mister Land. I used to
Speaker 1: go with Dub like three years straight. I think we win.
Speaker 1: It was like, how do you expect bro We used
Speaker 1: to go to fucking it's called Bethel Woods, New York
Speaker 1: where Woodstock is and people would talk about the wife
Speaker 1: and I'm like, why do you care? There was little joy.
Speaker 1: Well I care if I'm buying merch. Not only that,
Speaker 1: I felt a little rich. So bitch bought the goddamn
Speaker 1: denim jacket. Why would you care about WiFi a music
Speaker 1: festival with because when I'm paying with my card, the
Speaker 1: WiFi is needed so that the band. Okay, So what
Speaker 1: I marked the bands is you load the band, you
Speaker 1: preload your band. That's not how they did that. There
Speaker 1: was no money, like you used your cards there, um book.
Speaker 1: Brooklyn Mirage actually does that. Brooklyn Mirage has a set up.
Speaker 1: I've been to some stuff there too. They have a
Speaker 1: set up you like load your ship And I wasn't
Speaker 1: well they wouldn't not the Hattic, but it were the
Speaker 1: first time festival. It was a good the weather was perfect,
Speaker 1: it was a good as time. UM every set paid
Speaker 1: homage to um Nipsey Hustle, which was amazing. And I
Speaker 1: will say if you guys have not seen her live
Speaker 1: and I got the pleasure of meeting her and Tuni
Speaker 1: after the show. He was chatting coolest Tiana Taylor performed
Speaker 1: her like I listened to Tiana Taylor. She's downloaded ontomate music.
Speaker 1: I like a couple of her songs, but seeing her
Speaker 1: live because I know they could. They kicked Jeremiah off
Speaker 1: the tour, and I was like, what is Tianna Taylor
Speaker 1: gonna do by herself? She performed no other bitch I
Speaker 1: another scene him guy, She acting like he was acting
Speaker 1: like she needed. I mean, but if you look at
Speaker 1: if you look like Jeremiah got some goddamn hits like
Speaker 1: he was doing it like you're watching a performance with Tianna.
Speaker 1: She dances. I've never seen her performance like in live
Speaker 1: bit she made my pussy way. I ain't even go
Speaker 1: hold her abs her but her energy, her face, how
Speaker 1: she's super into the goddamn Oh my God, and then
Speaker 1: she was just such a sweetheart after like we got Oh,
Speaker 1: she was so made something with this funny about Tianna.
Speaker 1: I always say like, oh, they're like abs on women,
Speaker 1: and she's the only one because sometimes when someone's two
Speaker 1: cut at gross, but she's one of the only people.
Speaker 1: She was just dope, kind of dope. And then Meek
Speaker 1: Mill came out for Ja Cole's performance. It was dope.
Speaker 1: I got to rock on stage with one twenty one
Speaker 1: like I was honestly the best goddamn time I've ever had,
Speaker 1: and also ruined my experience to ever doing a festival
Speaker 1: again because my nigga found not all access. I will
Speaker 1: not be with the regular people in the crowd. There
Speaker 1: was forty thousand people there and I was like nope,
Speaker 1: but hey, I was. I was, according to forty thousand
Speaker 1: people on stage, like nicking all these people, and I
Speaker 1: just feel like I would never be able to do
Speaker 1: the exclusive bid. I ain't even gonna lie. I felt
Speaker 1: VIPs I was like I am Vip. I was in
Speaker 1: the artist compound. That's actually we're talking when we were
Speaker 1: talking advice about how excited I am because burning Man
Speaker 1: doesn't have any of that and I was like, so like,
Speaker 1: But also a lot of the festivals I've been to
Speaker 1: our larger, so it's different. You. I think there's only
Speaker 1: two stages at Dreamville. A lot of these have like
Speaker 1: five six, So when when it's smaller with forties thousand people,
Speaker 1: that's that's a lot. But actually me and when we
Speaker 1: did mistery Land, it was so fucking big, like you,
Speaker 1: you would have to run for at least three or
Speaker 1: four and five minutes to get to another stage. But
Speaker 1: I'm excited to do Burning Man. I wanted to, like,
Speaker 1: just bring that up one more time so you guys
Speaker 1: can find me. I had a black camp that wrote
Speaker 1: me that's gonna be out there. And if y'all are
Speaker 1: black and you're doing Burning Man, why are you laughing? Oh?
Speaker 1: If you're black and you're doing Burning Man, I want
Speaker 1: you to hit me up because what is that? What
Speaker 1: is you? It's got a condom on it? At least
Speaker 1: I am not a radio guy. Just handed me his
Speaker 1: phone and oh and she was playing with her clip
Speaker 1: corny and her pussies a corn on Macaw. You know
Speaker 1: it's a white pussy. I'd like to say that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm not putting no corn it's probably what they do
Speaker 1: a Burning Man. But anyway, if you're black and you
Speaker 1: got to Burning Man and you've had experiences, I've never
Speaker 1: been to Burning Man. Um, please hit me up. Let
Speaker 1: me know. I'm going with Andrew and Alex and I
Speaker 1: know Andrew gonn me and his white boy ship, and
Speaker 1: I'll be like, I've done with you all right now,
Speaker 1: I'm getting fight with him on like day four, but
Speaker 1: then we're gonna make up because it's all about peace
Speaker 1: of love. But I'm super excited about that, and I
Speaker 1: already have my gifts planning. I'm also doing a lecture there,
Speaker 1: so I'm really excited to meet y'all and just be
Speaker 1: in the dust. So I'm super excited about this episode. Guys,
Speaker 1: we're doing kind of like a whole homemail rendition of
Speaker 1: a podcast. So for this one, we are starting out
Speaker 1: with our Vanilla ship, and the Vanilla Ship is super
Speaker 1: dope because they actually Um, I looked up an article
Speaker 1: based off of this wholemail we got. Hey, ladies, I'm
Speaker 1: a super fan of your podcast. Well, I was watching
Speaker 1: a comedy show called Speechless. Funny show by the way,
Speaker 1: everybody keeps telling me, I haven't seen it. It's about
Speaker 1: a child who is a paraplegic surviving life's challenges. In
Speaker 1: the episode, he was being discriminated by his girlfriend's father,
Speaker 1: so he wanted to be a bad boy. Being that
Speaker 1: he was he has no feelings in his lower body. Anyways,
Speaker 1: long story short, he called for an aid, but the
Speaker 1: aid confused the call, thinking he requested a sex serio,
Speaker 1: being that I know you guys do a lot of
Speaker 1: research on sexual things and WPS would be an awesome
Speaker 1: discussion for your show. Anyways, thanks for reading and I'll
Speaker 1: keep listening. I've been looking for a sex and I
Speaker 1: talked about it. I didn't even notice she's episode Ashley,
Speaker 1: who is the able to be talked about. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: I wasn't here for that. So for those who may
Speaker 1: be like confused with maybe what a sex sier get means,
Speaker 1: because when I hear Sara get, of course I'm thinking
Speaker 1: of someone who holds a baby for someone else. So
Speaker 1: I went um and did a little bit of research
Speaker 1: and on the I believe the word represents a replacement
Speaker 1: or like an alternative, like a substitute. That's why so
Speaker 1: probably TV dot com um the article is sex sier
Speaker 1: gets sleep with their clients to help their lives, and no,
Speaker 1: it's not prostitution. So sex sier gets actually worked closely
Speaker 1: with sex therapists to help clients overcome sexual problems such
Speaker 1: as erectile dysfunction or sex trauma through actual physical intimacy.
Speaker 1: Didn't say anything about them doing it for free, um,
Speaker 1: because this is volunteer work. So right, the very next
Speaker 1: um question is they make good money comparable to a
Speaker 1: sex therapist, and the laws are strict as to how
Speaker 1: sex is handled, so their career isn't confused with prostitution.
Speaker 1: There's a Netflix thing, Damn, I wish I could fucking
Speaker 1: remember the name with this older woman who takes people.
Speaker 1: She does she takes people's virginities and helps them through
Speaker 1: that experience, so she would be considered a sexy. She
Speaker 1: is a sex worter and so like she walks them
Speaker 1: to their first time in sex. And I maybe I'm
Speaker 1: guessing it's not prostitution because there is a lot of
Speaker 1: therapy involved, Like you don't just get there and you fuck.
Speaker 1: I think it's like an option that can happen. That's
Speaker 1: probably how to get around Here's how here's the laws. Um.
Speaker 1: Sexual surrogacy has been legal since two thousand three, so
Speaker 1: it's fairly new to being legal. UM, it's remained pretty much. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's been pretty much unregulated. It has been defined by
Speaker 1: the state of California as if it's between consensual adults
Speaker 1: and referred by licensed therapists and doesn't involve minors, then
Speaker 1: it is not illegal. UM regulating the industry as long
Speaker 1: as you would like you as long as you're sucking
Speaker 1: someone consensual, not kids or hurting animals. And they also
Speaker 1: have a whole association for it, so if you guys
Speaker 1: want to do further research, UM into the industry, it's
Speaker 1: called the International Professtional Siriguts Association. The credit that's what
Speaker 1: I said, you saying sirigate, surrogate, sirigate what I have
Speaker 1: the same ship you saying sirogate, which they credit themselves
Speaker 1: with helping mostly men with physical disabilities, psychological trauma for sexuality.
Speaker 1: And this gallon of water. You're awful. See, this is
Speaker 1: why she an't working on mo y'all because she can't
Speaker 1: do a job. She can't hold a pussy, can't hold
Speaker 1: a pusy UM, I actually did not know anything about
Speaker 1: um this sex sirigacy being a thing. UM. It is
Speaker 1: important to also be working with a sex therapist though,
Speaker 1: to understand what's going on mentally and what's leading someone
Speaker 1: to certain thoughts. UM. This is important because I say
Speaker 1: this often, UM when it comes to sex, and we
Speaker 1: actually have a couple of questions relating to the psychological
Speaker 1: aspects of sex and having sex with another person. A
Speaker 1: lot of sex is way more psychological than physical. UM.
Speaker 1: And I know that we look for the physical touch
Speaker 1: and penetration and all of these UM terms to describe
Speaker 1: what sex is. But in order to reach the climaxes
Speaker 1: and orgasms and actually enjoy it to how we want to,
Speaker 1: you really need to be in a mental state in
Speaker 1: which you can allow these things to happen to your body. UM.
Speaker 1: So this is interesting if you guys want to look
Speaker 1: it up. UM again, they're called sex surrogates. UM. That's
Speaker 1: s U R R O G A t E. S UM.
Speaker 1: This was a great thing. So our next UM topic
Speaker 1: that we're actually going to get into. I love it
Speaker 1: is reference from a Vanilla ship that I found, UM,
Speaker 1: and so I'm gonna read the Vanilla Ship and then
Speaker 1: we're gonna get into the kink of the week. Once
Speaker 1: Wheezy returns um here she goes cool. I was just
Speaker 1: I was just getting us into um the kink of
Speaker 1: the week and the kink of the week. I just
Speaker 1: want to explain, I have been drinking a gallon a
Speaker 1: day of water and I've only been doing it for
Speaker 1: the last five days. Everything is so my skin is
Speaker 1: fucking better. Everything create, but it can't stop being like
Speaker 1: I'm honestly, I almost kissed myself when you were talking
Speaker 1: about like how you saw the world on the last
Speaker 1: episode we did, and it's so hard, like look at
Speaker 1: this if you're watching on YouTube, look how far down
Speaker 1: I am. Bro and I only started this at ten am.
Speaker 1: I should have just sitting all my fucking bladder. It's crazy.
Speaker 1: That's a lot. So I told him we're going to
Speaker 1: get into the kink of the week and the kink
Speaker 1: of the week this week. I actually chose from a
Speaker 1: Vanilla Sha article that I found. Um So the Vanilla
Speaker 1: Sha article comes from New York Post um Man with
Speaker 1: bizarre horse fetish busted twice in twenty four hours. Cas.
Speaker 1: I do also want to say a lot of the
Speaker 1: Cassi Vanilla ship because that we find happened in the
Speaker 1: UK and that's where the horse saying you just so, No,
Speaker 1: he didn't suck the horse. Calm Down, I could have
Speaker 1: cover one. You k man with a sick obception for
Speaker 1: publicly masturbating near horses has been arrested twice within twenty
Speaker 1: four hours for the same lute offense. What Malcolm Downs,
Speaker 1: he's sixty one years old who has a long, long
Speaker 1: history of pleasuring himself in front of mammals, was arrested
Speaker 1: on February eighteenth after he was spotted touching himself in
Speaker 1: a field in the city. It's honestly even of England,
Speaker 1: that's even worse this activity. The horse has a whole
Speaker 1: dick thinking this is worse. This activity went on for
Speaker 1: three or four minutes. His penis was exposed for about
Speaker 1: ten When police grilled Downs about the illicit act, he
Speaker 1: told detectives, I was sat on a bench. I was
Speaker 1: filling sexy so I started to yeah. Um but basically
Speaker 1: yeah um. He was released. No, it'said dot dot dot um.
Speaker 1: Downs told cops he knew what he was doing was wrong. Um.
Speaker 1: The suspect was released on bail after saying, what for
Speaker 1: showing like un that's indecent exposure? Someone saw him masturbating
Speaker 1: in the field with the horses. Uh, he's done that
Speaker 1: a million times. If you've only been to jail, this
Speaker 1: is some ship. So I was like, okay, so the
Speaker 1: nigga is not having sex with animals. We know that
Speaker 1: sex with animals is b sality. So I was looking
Speaker 1: this up because it referred to it as a fetish.
Speaker 1: So there's actually three key terms commonly used to describe
Speaker 1: fetishes involving animals, and I wanted to get into the three. Um.
Speaker 1: Hopefully none of you guys are doing this, um, you know,
Speaker 1: but maybe if you are, We're not gonna whole thing. No.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm just saying I can't believe that this
Speaker 1: is where I draw the line, But I don't know
Speaker 1: why this is where you draw the lot. He just so,
Speaker 1: what's funny is this? And when Keiki talked about the
Speaker 1: throw up in the anal bottle, you know you want
Speaker 1: to know what's hilarious. As I'm looking for the kink
Speaker 1: that describes this, guess what comes up mad message boards
Speaker 1: about if it's okay to masturbate in front of your
Speaker 1: pets and if masturbating in front of your dog or
Speaker 1: cat should cause any type of like arousal, because I'm
Speaker 1: kind of like you're being watched. I know, my dad
Speaker 1: used to be in the room because he used to
Speaker 1: be in the bed a lot, and I'd be like, Glad,
Speaker 1: do you have to go? And I would and I
Speaker 1: would hear this, I'm be trying to hurry and come. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So so that was what I found. So here's the
Speaker 1: three terms commonly used um zoophilia, b C reality of course,
Speaker 1: and zoo sexuality. So these are often used somewhat interchangeably.
Speaker 1: Some researchers distinguish between zoophilia and be clity because bality
Speaker 1: is often not driven by a sexual preference for animals.
Speaker 1: Some studies have found that a preference for animals is
Speaker 1: rare among people who engage in sexual contact with animals. Furthermore,
Speaker 1: some zoo files report that they have never had sexual
Speaker 1: contact with an animal, So I assume he would be
Speaker 1: considered a zoo file. I would assume mass master, bit masterbait.
Speaker 1: People with zoophilia are known as zoo files, though also
Speaker 1: sometimes as zoo sexuals or even very simply zoos. This
Speaker 1: so WPS, zoor rosti, sodomy, and zoor rastia are other
Speaker 1: terms closely related to the subject, but are less anonymous
Speaker 1: with the former terms and are seldom I can't remember
Speaker 1: where I found the acronym WPS when I started saying,
Speaker 1: and I think it was broad City, but I had
Speaker 1: to be because they came across this. This is super
Speaker 1: WPS like. But I mean, what if the nigger got
Speaker 1: a pit bull and he liked to masturbate in front
Speaker 1: of his pitbull? Did you like to match to be
Speaker 1: in front of your pit bull? Because maybe you like
Speaker 1: to be watched? And that's a really I shouldn't have
Speaker 1: said black people had pit bulls. That's really bad to
Speaker 1: me to say. But you know, you know, maybe you
Speaker 1: got a pit bull? Right See black ass in the room,
Speaker 1: got it? He's like, Jesus just got one? What is it?
Speaker 1: Red nose? Blue nose? How you? Oh? All right? So
Speaker 1: I do want to start off. We got to start
Speaker 1: this off with the bank. So a lot of the
Speaker 1: questions that you guys sent in our home our horrible
Speaker 1: decisions for this week, is just all homemail. But I
Speaker 1: want to start off with something that was not a
Speaker 1: question but will be unsolicited advice that we're gonna give you.
Speaker 1: We were Patreon message that we received Wednesday night, and
Speaker 1: here it goes. This is the unicorn from the February
Speaker 1: Atlanta show. I wanted to give you my rundown on
Speaker 1: the interactions thus far with the couple. If you guys
Speaker 1: need some context on this, me and Mandy talk about
Speaker 1: it all the time. At one of Our Lives shows,
Speaker 1: we were so elated that a woman stood up and asked, hey, like,
Speaker 1: where can we find unicorns? And the person that was
Speaker 1: maybe two seats over from her was a unicorn and
Speaker 1: they linked up. Here we go. I'm mad because I
Speaker 1: remember what they looked like. I remember exactly what they like.
Speaker 1: I feel bad, but I don't. Originally, they invited me
Speaker 1: out the same night as the show. I had made
Speaker 1: plans already, so I suggested we do brunch the next morning.
Speaker 1: They picked the spot Milk and Honey, nice spot I
Speaker 1: was supposed to go there. They also invited another friend.
Speaker 1: She was cool. We all ordered food plus a picture
Speaker 1: of Momosa smash. Cut to the bill. Mandy, I know
Speaker 1: you got my back here, which I want to stop
Speaker 1: you right there. Bitch, When and ever did you think
Speaker 1: that I would think it was okay? I don't know
Speaker 1: what I've given you, guys, what opportune you've taken by
Speaker 1: the things that I've said about wanting to take care
Speaker 1: of things for whether it be scissors or be a
Speaker 1: sugar mama one day. I would never ever ever tell
Speaker 1: you that this shop was okay. Not that I don't
Speaker 1: have it, but y'all trying to suck me right then
Speaker 1: court me. My tap was only about thirty dollars, and
Speaker 1: that included the tip. Kind of turned me off on
Speaker 1: the type that feels that any man who wants a
Speaker 1: threesome should be able support of threesome. I eat dinner
Speaker 1: and drinks with the women involved. So basically after sounds
Speaker 1: a little basically if you guys, because I got a
Speaker 1: little bit lost in the story. Basically, they all went
Speaker 1: to brunch and when the bill came out, they split it.
Speaker 1: The man did not. After brunch, they invited me out
Speaker 1: to the Trap Museum. I declined because I had a
Speaker 1: two hour drive home. So tip for Unicorn hunters, wine
Speaker 1: and dine her. She's a damn unicorn. Asked her if
Speaker 1: I could read this. She's like pretty Treon like yeah,
Speaker 1: and I appreciate you for letting us read this, because
Speaker 1: I promise you this is going to help the greater good.
Speaker 1: I get tired of the three cent question, and I
Speaker 1: think it's mainly because y'all know I have quite a few,
Speaker 1: and you ask us what we should do. Go to
Speaker 1: episode seventeen, you asked where you're going to meet these people? Whatever?
Speaker 1: My main objective I want for this entire fucking show,
Speaker 1: even though I had my big kind ship in the beginning.
Speaker 1: For my fourth thing I should have said is treat
Speaker 1: the person you're inviting to your bedroom. Asked me to
Speaker 1: fuck you and your husband, and then even why didn't
Speaker 1: I gotta split the bill? Which'll I really am disappointed
Speaker 1: because this couple was so cool and we've met them
Speaker 1: twice I technically three times, so they came to our
Speaker 1: club shift after Opium in Atlanta that that first time.
Speaker 1: I'm so disappointed that a couple so experienced could even
Speaker 1: let this happen. And then I thought for a second
Speaker 1: they weren't experienced. She said, they do it all the time.
Speaker 1: The then the other thing I was thinking of was, um,
Speaker 1: you know, okay, well their friend was there, so that
Speaker 1: all couple. No, not even then, not even then, you
Speaker 1: guys are fucking tripping my nigga. Now, as a woman,
Speaker 1: could you have sit there and known and watched your
Speaker 1: fucking man only pick. I don't even know if you
Speaker 1: and your man regularly split, but you should have definitely
Speaker 1: stung a different tune that night. How dare you? How
Speaker 1: fucking dare you have insinuated that you wanted me to
Speaker 1: fuck y'all and you couldn't pay for my food? You
Speaker 1: know what, I really appreciate that she mentioned the price,
Speaker 1: because that even you know why, that makes it worse,
Speaker 1: because the couple definitely has. You just really cannot teach
Speaker 1: some people to be courteous. I'm almost disgusted that, like
Speaker 1: y'all met at our show, I also want to say
Speaker 1: for a lot of the men who want to engage
Speaker 1: in threesomes, like, not only is it going to be
Speaker 1: a lot of work in the bedroom, but it is
Speaker 1: work outside of the bedroom. And I feel like, you
Speaker 1: definitely know you now have to court two women, and
Speaker 1: you should make that person who's joining you in the
Speaker 1: bedroom feel even like she's more welcome to you know,
Speaker 1: you'll maybe don't like him. Maybe it's something a lot
Speaker 1: of y'all love. The advice Anthony said it take take
Speaker 1: this one fucking piece, be rich enough, for three days,
Speaker 1: and I didn't even tell them you'all got to do that.
Speaker 1: But if you can't get what you want by those
Speaker 1: three days, at least show me that in three dates,
Speaker 1: y'all had three ten dollar mills. Yeah, I shared on
Speaker 1: a I shared on a Patriart episode of three something
Speaker 1: that I recently just had with a homegirl of mine
Speaker 1: and she was actually in Atlanta, UM during our live show,
Speaker 1: and her and her her boyfriend had me in the
Speaker 1: group chat wanting me to come over, and I was like,
Speaker 1: you ain't flying me to Atlanta. You ain't paid for
Speaker 1: this Airbnb. I'm here working, And I genuinely didn't even
Speaker 1: want to give them no pussy because I'm like, you
Speaker 1: ain't even working for it nothing right now, like at
Speaker 1: least last time, I got to flight out the goddamn
Speaker 1: ship and the whole goddamn trip out of it. Like now, no,
Speaker 1: I'm not just gonna sun you because we're all in
Speaker 1: the same city. So I think, yeah, like you need
Speaker 1: to kind of put in some type of goddamn effort.
Speaker 1: If I mean I'm gonna I'm gonna say for that one,
Speaker 1: I think a little different because like, okay, I get it,
Speaker 1: like the trip the first somebody, if you guys really clear,
Speaker 1: then you wanted to funk. I get it. No, I'm
Speaker 1: not just sucking you and your boyfriend your boyfriend, not
Speaker 1: when I'm in that horny though. Yeah I wasn't that horny. Um.
Speaker 1: But I mean, I think at least like offering to
Speaker 1: take someone to dinner and treating him to something or something.
Speaker 1: And I'm kind of shocked that as someone that was saying,
Speaker 1: like they know that, this is all I'm saying is
Speaker 1: I don't. I can't speak for how many threesomes they had.
Speaker 1: I don't know them, but I do know that the
Speaker 1: first time I met them they were talking about it,
Speaker 1: and the second time they came to the show they
Speaker 1: said it again. I cannot believe. This is like basic
Speaker 1: step one. So I'm gonna just say it one more time.
Speaker 1: Places to find a threesome, best advice to find a threesome,
Speaker 1: and this will be the last. I ain't even gonna
Speaker 1: can we stop getting the goddamn three some questions? Like
Speaker 1: we have we have episodes with threesome in the titles,
Speaker 1: So go up. I'm actually gonna put a note in
Speaker 1: my phone to put this in the description threesome tips
Speaker 1: at thirty three minutes. Yes, okay, let's start all right,
Speaker 1: here we go. I'm gonna give you basic ones. I
Speaker 1: gave it at the last Cargo show and I think
Speaker 1: it was great advice. Let's say that you guys are
Speaker 1: not the type to go out. Let's say that you
Speaker 1: guys maybe shouldn't be showing your faces in that city.
Speaker 1: Make a Tinder page. Start slow, whether it be just
Speaker 1: a guy or just a girl. I think the best
Speaker 1: thing to do if you don't make a couple of
Speaker 1: pages just a girl, Let's say that you really can't
Speaker 1: put your face on there. Take a picture of you
Speaker 1: to blur it out. Take special made pictures for that
Speaker 1: Tinder and blow your ship out right. Get in the bed,
Speaker 1: take something cute together, do whatever. I really enjoy when
Speaker 1: I'm swiping seeing pictures of couples having fun, I think
Speaker 1: that's great. You gotta blow your faces, do your thing.
Speaker 1: And you're very specific when you say something like, hey,
Speaker 1: looking for someone to join us on dates, blah blah
Speaker 1: blah blah blah. Don't lead women on. I hate swiping. Um,
Speaker 1: you know a girl where in the description they say
Speaker 1: nothing about them having a boyfriend. That wants to suck
Speaker 1: me too. I hate that is, even if you don't
Speaker 1: have your boyfriend in the picture, at least say hey,
Speaker 1: this is what I'm looking for. I hate that. I
Speaker 1: think that we all have to remember that talking about
Speaker 1: sex kind of very upfront and word on a tinder.
Speaker 1: It's a little too abrasive in my honest opinion, I
Speaker 1: think that you should at least be a little more
Speaker 1: kind when like or just be suave about the ship
Speaker 1: and say like, hey, I would love to take you
Speaker 1: out for drink, smoke, link up, let's have some fun together.
Speaker 1: Also use the words like we would like to take
Speaker 1: you out. Knowing that a couple can do that makes
Speaker 1: it more exciting anyone I know that's played a unicorn,
Speaker 1: even like Mandy just sitting right here saying I got
Speaker 1: a trip out of it, Like, it is very exciting
Speaker 1: to be treated, especially by a couple, to do not
Speaker 1: do this ship for me if boyfriend wants it and
Speaker 1: you don't, do not do that ship. Three, do not
Speaker 1: do this ship if you're not attracted to women. I
Speaker 1: don't care. I know some people say, oh whatever, maybe
Speaker 1: you can know if you're not attracted to women. If
Speaker 1: you're not ready to eat some vagina. It's gonna be crazy.
Speaker 1: And I read a tweet the other day that said,
Speaker 1: you know what I think all the time about having threesome.
Speaker 1: It's like, okay, eating pussy, cool until it's in your mouth.
Speaker 1: If you feel like that, don't do it unless you
Speaker 1: and her bows are not doing it. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, i'll see why you would want to
Speaker 1: have sex with someone you don't want to have sex with.
Speaker 1: Don't do that. Another thing. If you really feel like
Speaker 1: you can't do it in your city and you and
Speaker 1: your man are taking a trip to let's just say Detroit,
Speaker 1: pay the fucking ten dollars. If you don't have the
Speaker 1: ten knowledge, you shouldn't be having three steps because someone
Speaker 1: in the audience is like Leon budgets this fuck that
Speaker 1: passport tender ten bucks white people in other cities. This
Speaker 1: gets you very open to the idea of women together.
Speaker 1: You get to see each other's type. Ship like that.
Speaker 1: If you guys just want to fuck and have the experience,
Speaker 1: go to a strip club. Maybe they'll offer some pussy
Speaker 1: to you. I don't know what else to tell y'all.
Speaker 1: I know that I'm sounding really annoyed, but I'm just
Speaker 1: so tired of the threesome question. Is it just me? No?
Speaker 1: I think you said everything. I mean, damn if you
Speaker 1: don't want to use tender field f E E L. D.
Speaker 1: Thrinder was the old title. Field is another way to
Speaker 1: find someone. My Wild Lifestyle is another website, um or.
Speaker 1: I am very pro sex work. Let's support another woman
Speaker 1: in our community. Eros paying for escorts. If you just
Speaker 1: want someone who's a professional B will get out of
Speaker 1: your life when you're done with it. And see, you
Speaker 1: just want the sexual experience, pay for it. If you
Speaker 1: cannot pay it in they're fairly cheap. They're going for
Speaker 1: like two hundred for the hour, and so I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: do it, y'all, don't be any I know that a
Speaker 1: lot of really pay for it. But I think that
Speaker 1: if you have a man and you're maybe a little
Speaker 1: too apprehensive to meeting a woman together, and you know,
Speaker 1: people say should you do with a friend or a stranger,
Speaker 1: like y'all are too worried about what will happen after
Speaker 1: pay for it? Because one thing I know and the
Speaker 1: escorts I've met in their life in my life, they
Speaker 1: are all about their money and giving a good name,
Speaker 1: napping to catch feelings with your nigga. They just want
Speaker 1: the money and that's it and they're going all today,
Speaker 1: next client, Okay, exactly. Um so, yeah, I don't have any.
Speaker 1: I think you kind of did it all for the threesomes,
Speaker 1: and I'm glad I specifically did not pick. I didn't
Speaker 1: I even secifically did not pick any threesome questions because
Speaker 1: of that. Bro, when I see people send the threesome
Speaker 1: and I don't want you, guys tend to turn. Don't
Speaker 1: get me wrong. If you guys have a question that's
Speaker 1: like more in depth about the threesome, sure, but asked
Speaker 1: how to have and where to find a third person?
Speaker 1: It's honestly a case by case um basis. So this
Speaker 1: next one, I really like this question. Um So, hey, y'all,
Speaker 1: I've been listening to you guys for a while and
Speaker 1: telling all my friends. Thank you, guys, by the way,
Speaker 1: for telling all your friends about us. I've learned so
Speaker 1: much listening and got comfortable exploring kinks. I've been a
Speaker 1: serial monogamous for as long as I can remember. Every
Speaker 1: guy I've slept with, I've been dating or ended up
Speaker 1: dating for a while I'm over that ship. I went
Speaker 1: through a rough breakup and just want to do me
Speaker 1: for a few years. That being said, going from constant
Speaker 1: sex to no sex is rough. I'm trying to figure
Speaker 1: out how to casually date while not while not leading
Speaker 1: people on and not ending up in a relationship again.
Speaker 1: Any tips on communication, getting comfortable and dating multiple people.
Speaker 1: Love the show and love the positive vibes. I like
Speaker 1: that getting comfortable dating multiple people. I think the best
Speaker 1: advice someone gave me, because I am such an emotional person,
Speaker 1: was being honest about expectations while dating multiple people. Like
Speaker 1: if you just want sex and some fun, you have
Speaker 1: to really mean it when you say it. Don't have
Speaker 1: sex and some fun and then get upset when you
Speaker 1: know he's doing the same thing. And just naturally we
Speaker 1: can be possessive or jealous people, and and there's this
Speaker 1: there's this little thing that's innate I think when dating
Speaker 1: with competition and things like that, right, Like, for example,
Speaker 1: you could know a man is in love with you
Speaker 1: and you see his ex and he be like, change
Speaker 1: it because you want to, like know you've got this
Speaker 1: leg up, Like because we care about that person, so
Speaker 1: we want to make sure, like we're the one they
Speaker 1: love and they're blah blah blah about right, you gotta
Speaker 1: let a lot of that go and when you can
Speaker 1: let that go for real. And it took me a
Speaker 1: long time to not have jealous feelings with you know,
Speaker 1: my partners. I would say, don't literally to the last
Speaker 1: like fall of last year. And I've been doing this
Speaker 1: show two years with you just recently am I totally okay?
Speaker 1: That ship takes a while. I said it on the
Speaker 1: episode with UM when Andrew that men lied to us
Speaker 1: and we lied to ourselves. And I think that I think, no, yeah,
Speaker 1: we lie to um. We we lie to ourselves. And
Speaker 1: I think that that's one of the biggest things and
Speaker 1: not only communicating with someone else, but literally communicating it
Speaker 1: with yourself and really knowing what you're going into a
Speaker 1: relationship with somebody for. And I say relationship, but it
Speaker 1: doesn't have to be a boyfriend girlfriend relationship, monogamous relationship.
Speaker 1: When you're having sex with someone, you're relating with someone else,
Speaker 1: and you have a relationship, whether it's a situation ship
Speaker 1: or not. UM. So, I feel like in terms of
Speaker 1: dealing with multiple people, UM, you need to be very
Speaker 1: clear on your intentions with them and also communicate what
Speaker 1: they're looking for, because if they are something someone who's
Speaker 1: looking for a relationship and you just want to date
Speaker 1: multiple people, you should probably let that person know upfront. Um.
Speaker 1: I think that that's very important if you're someone who genuinely,
Speaker 1: right now does not want a relationship. A lot of
Speaker 1: men do it to us all the time. They'll tell
Speaker 1: us up front, listen, I'm not looking for anything serious,
Speaker 1: and I think as women it's okay for us to
Speaker 1: say that to men as well, and honestly as a
Speaker 1: one and a man will be happy to hear that
Speaker 1: nine times out of ten because they like to know
Speaker 1: that you're not gonna now stress the idea of a title,
Speaker 1: or just the pressure of a relationship or what they
Speaker 1: can genuinely offer to you at that time won't be
Speaker 1: on the table. What you're literally saying just a lot
Speaker 1: of pressure in the beginning to turn someone off. UM.
Speaker 1: I just had a a friend of mine that lives
Speaker 1: in l A. I went to her wedding. She recently
Speaker 1: got married. She's been dating her husband three years, and
Speaker 1: yesterday she posted a d M where her husband asked
Speaker 1: her out on Instagram and he said three years ago.
Speaker 1: She was like, you keep checking for me or something
Speaker 1: like what's what's good Nigga? And he said, I ain't
Speaker 1: trying to wipe you or nothing like that. I'm just
Speaker 1: trying to chill and have some drinks. Ship And they
Speaker 1: got married, and I thought that was so funny because
Speaker 1: we always be like Nigga's be Italian and and you know,
Speaker 1: even our salty little video. But I think it's dope.
Speaker 1: And the reason I think that happened to her and
Speaker 1: happened to him is because they both had no expectations.
Speaker 1: So it's a lot easier when you're not putting that
Speaker 1: pressure to fall all in love and appreciate someone. You
Speaker 1: know why, because we're not putting up this like I
Speaker 1: have to be this, this and this. You know, I
Speaker 1: was out in dates with a guy I'll never forget it,
Speaker 1: and I knew he was more into me than I
Speaker 1: was into him, and he would start to say things
Speaker 1: I liked, and I didn't believe him. He'd be like, yo,
Speaker 1: I love going to the museum and blah blah blah
Speaker 1: blah blah. Oh I love this, and and then he
Speaker 1: would say things like yeah, man, like I just bought
Speaker 1: my my new crystals, and I'm like that mag a lie.
Speaker 1: But I know that. I mean girls do that too.
Speaker 1: We we we do this people doing then the pick
Speaker 1: me mentality where because you want to become a girlfriend
Speaker 1: or because you want to become a wife, you start
Speaker 1: doing things that you think our girlfriend material or that
Speaker 1: you think this guy would like, and now you have
Speaker 1: to be this way when in reality, I think it's
Speaker 1: super dope to just genuinely find someone that you mesh
Speaker 1: with because you're able to be yourself. It feels good
Speaker 1: to have someone know exactly who you are and which
Speaker 1: you know back even Lauren's thing like just her saying
Speaker 1: I was completely myself without my quote unquote cool mask.
Speaker 1: I remember, um when of the last time Jeeves came over,
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I don't even know why I
Speaker 1: did it. It was a whole lie. We've known each
Speaker 1: other for over a year now. He came over and
Speaker 1: I had all these water bottles open, because I'll drink
Speaker 1: a water bottle whatever throughout the day, and I was like, oh, normally,
Speaker 1: I you know, I have it out of this and
Speaker 1: like I normally recycle it and I put it away
Speaker 1: and he was like, no, you don't, dude, And I
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I don't know. He was like, and
Speaker 1: I love it, and he was like, every morning I
Speaker 1: got to pick this ship up, like it's it's fine.
Speaker 1: And I think that kind of accepting your flaws and
Speaker 1: like not getting so overboard and what you think this
Speaker 1: personal want, it's going to help. And I think that
Speaker 1: that helps with dating multiple people at the same time,
Speaker 1: like just genuinely being yourself, letting them know and not
Speaker 1: sitting here feeling like you have to tie yourself into
Speaker 1: a relationship. I think that has a lot to do
Speaker 1: with women feeling like they're worth that's tied to being claimed. Um.
Speaker 1: And it's okay to just date multiple people. And even
Speaker 1: when you date, you have to realize you don't have
Speaker 1: to be having sex with all these people. I like
Speaker 1: to do the ideal of carp compartmentalizing. Um. The niggas
Speaker 1: that I talked to, there's niggas that I it's like
Speaker 1: that phone conversations with. There's some that I actually like
Speaker 1: face timing, some I like having sex with some I don't.
Speaker 1: Some I just like going out with some people. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm not great on the phone. That's crazy, Like some
Speaker 1: aren't you know, one of the actually things that are
Speaker 1: very vital for me is talking on the phone with lovers.
Speaker 1: Like if men are not selling people, I genuinely don't
Speaker 1: feel like it will work out. Like I love to
Speaker 1: sit on the phone. I'd love to be able to
Speaker 1: call someone when work sucks and they just listen to
Speaker 1: me for five minutes. Actually very recently told me on
Speaker 1: the phone, he was like, my nigga, you literally have
Speaker 1: told me the story three times about these people at
Speaker 1: your job, and I'm like, I know, you know, listen
Speaker 1: to me, like it's really what I want and just
Speaker 1: to know that, like somebody can give you what you
Speaker 1: need those things I need. I call my friends on
Speaker 1: the phone. I want to call my fucking man. So weird. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's I don't know. I talked to to ship maybe
Speaker 1: one or two friends daily, But other than that, I'm
Speaker 1: not a phone person. Um only because between work, being
Speaker 1: on the phone, the podcast and talking. When I get
Speaker 1: home it's my quiet place. I just like to sit
Speaker 1: in and watch Mary to Medicine or Real Housewives of
Speaker 1: Atlanta and all of my fucking shows Project from Away.
Speaker 1: Like I'm into all of my shows and so when
Speaker 1: I get home all texts and that's it. And when
Speaker 1: I'm at work, I can't be on my phone. I text,
Speaker 1: So I've become a texter and talking on the phone
Speaker 1: does become good. Like a guy who came back from
Speaker 1: the past. Um, I really like what he's talking about
Speaker 1: right now. Um, he no longer plays football, but he
Speaker 1: just does a lot of things investing wise, and he's
Speaker 1: now in a space where he's looking for a partner.
Speaker 1: We spent two hours on the phone the other night
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, this, this felt great. And
Speaker 1: then we've been texting ever since because I'm like Nick,
Speaker 1: I can't do that all the time. It's a nice
Speaker 1: feeling when you can connect on the phone because it's
Speaker 1: something that's so forgotten, you know, Like I'm just like
Speaker 1: that book my flight, we can talk in person. I
Speaker 1: think the three things that I love that are most forgotten,
Speaker 1: that I used to really love was one handwritten things
Speaker 1: to the phone, and three actual photographs that are tangible, Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's funny. I was actually gonna go to Walgreens and
Speaker 1: like the pictures from the festival and even pictures from
Speaker 1: Our Lives show and stuff like that. I want to
Speaker 1: start getting picture albums again, I have like five. I
Speaker 1: did that growing up. It's crazy. Like when people come over,
Speaker 1: like I know, they laugh at me because like I'm
Speaker 1: so used to go onto my phone to share memory.
Speaker 1: So if you're in my home, anyone that's listening that's
Speaker 1: been to my house, you know, I have these albums,
Speaker 1: Like I have binders of things, and it feels really good.
Speaker 1: And even though I can get like a little cluttered,
Speaker 1: it feels really good. My refrigerators covered with pictures. I
Speaker 1: just bought a Polaroid Um tangible photos feel good. Actually,
Speaker 1: for Christmas, I sent Christmas card to Collet with a
Speaker 1: picture of us in there and just thank her for
Speaker 1: being a great friend. And she said to me later,
Speaker 1: She's like, I can't believe you suendny picture. I can't
Speaker 1: believe you know, but how many Like how good would
Speaker 1: that feel? And just writing with your hand I love
Speaker 1: you or I care about you to someone is a
Speaker 1: big deal. My friends make fun of me all the
Speaker 1: time because I like to go into photo booths everywhere.
Speaker 1: I love those little things. And then when we travel
Speaker 1: I'm the one paying when we on the tour, I'm
Speaker 1: paying for a little big picture of us standing in
Speaker 1: front of whatever. You've got to bro that Cross makes
Speaker 1: so much money on those photos because we don't have
Speaker 1: a dollar. Fucking Jesse at our ship in Miami, she
Speaker 1: got this photo boothsh it, and I'm like, I don't
Speaker 1: know why, Like you're you're looking for a sponsor for this,
Speaker 1: Like we don't need this, Like we should be working
Speaker 1: on something else. I wish we could. It was such
Speaker 1: a greater. So the next question is from one of
Speaker 1: our young listeners. Shout out to y'all, Um, Hi, Mandy,
Speaker 1: and Wheezy, you guys can call me gee very much,
Speaker 1: enjoy your podcast while at work and wanted to ask
Speaker 1: y'all what I should do about this situation. I am
Speaker 1: nineteen dating my very committed girlfriend who has showed me
Speaker 1: everything but love in every way for the past eleven months.
Speaker 1: But we have a problem. I can't come on my problem. Night,
Speaker 1: I received my first blow job, which was amazing, toe
Speaker 1: curling and all, and there is one problem. I did
Speaker 1: not come keeping it short and went on till her
Speaker 1: arm and jaw hurt from doing it for over thirty
Speaker 1: minutes and I told her to stop whenever she needs.
Speaker 1: She did so and went on with our relationship. Also,
Speaker 1: that was not her first rodeo, and she went through
Speaker 1: her whole phase in high school but fell hard for me. Now,
Speaker 1: after so many amazing blow jobs, I still haven't Yeah.
Speaker 1: I was actually just wondering what if he said they're amazing?
Speaker 1: He said, so curling, I still haven't came from her
Speaker 1: blow jobs, and now whenever we fuck. Lost my V
Speaker 1: card in October, which is also amazing, which makes this
Speaker 1: very confusing and very concerning. So he doesn't he can't
Speaker 1: come from sex either. No, I don't know if it's
Speaker 1: my stamina or just my head fighting my head, since
Speaker 1: I do suffer from anxiety. We've spoken and joked about it,
Speaker 1: and she said it might just be that I have
Speaker 1: a lot of stamina, since every time I masturbate it
Speaker 1: takes about forty minutes on average. Damp. I would like
Speaker 1: your opinion. I've listened to your podcast and applied a
Speaker 1: lot to our relationship, to the point I gave someone
Speaker 1: who didn't like head to her hugging and kissing me
Speaker 1: after saying don't leave me after I'm done. So thank
Speaker 1: you all for all the tips on treating and pleasing
Speaker 1: my woman, and can't wait for all the future episodes. Also,
Speaker 1: I've introduced my Girl to y'all since I love your convos.
Speaker 1: We have been very adventurous to beach, blow jobs and
Speaker 1: head in the dressing rooms and stores. Hope to see
Speaker 1: you at a future live show. Keep up the tips
Speaker 1: and good luck PS. My girl reminds me very much
Speaker 1: of Mandy. She enjoys giving me head very dominant, and
Speaker 1: I like the idea of pegging. I don't know about
Speaker 1: that yet, um, but just getting freaking and just freaking
Speaker 1: was overall from I really wish that we would have
Speaker 1: read this question with someone better suited to answer, because
Speaker 1: I think there's a lot more going on that we
Speaker 1: can't really speak to. I mean, we have men in
Speaker 1: the room. Would do you all have issues with coming
Speaker 1: or when you guys were younger? I want to he's
Speaker 1: nineteen and just lost his virginity, so I want to
Speaker 1: speak to that. Well, can you come on the mic
Speaker 1: so that they can? I want so? Yeah, well, this
Speaker 1: is our camera guy. Guys, welcome Benson on the show.
Speaker 1: He's not a doctor. Yeah, can we no? No, no,
Speaker 1: come back, come back? Can you? So? I wanted to
Speaker 1: focus more so on his age and being that he
Speaker 1: just lost his virginia. If this is something that maybe
Speaker 1: most men would experience, I'm about most men, but I'll
Speaker 1: tell you firsthand is that I lost my virginia was eighteen.
Speaker 1: And the way I lost it. First of all, I
Speaker 1: was watching the podcast. Didn't actually lose it had a
Speaker 1: stroke of impotence for the lip service. Okay, um. It
Speaker 1: was actually the Mayo and Uncle Murder episode of Massivend
Speaker 1: my my ex possession on it was so weird. But
Speaker 1: but here's the thing. I actually didn't get hard. I
Speaker 1: actually had impotence for the first month, and that was
Speaker 1: like very stressful, humiliating. But after that, well wait, which
Speaker 1: so you weren't getting hard for the first month anxiety,
Speaker 1: it was all on my head, okay, so like him?
Speaker 1: After that, then I was for hours straight. I mean
Speaker 1: obviously the first time I was like five minutes. Then
Speaker 1: I worked my way up and now I was just
Speaker 1: working straight hours and we had to take breaks on
Speaker 1: her pussy hurt. Um, come, I don't know. See, that's
Speaker 1: what I was trying to put my head around. Like
Speaker 1: happened to you too, but while you were young and
Speaker 1: just and it was weird like my my ex crazy.
Speaker 1: She was like, oh, he must be sucking other people
Speaker 1: because at moment, dick wasn't working when I do because
Speaker 1: it overworking. She was like, what the fund is the
Speaker 1: issue now? Like, I have no clue. That's not an
Speaker 1: issue for you now, right? Do you know what you
Speaker 1: did for that to change? Was Was it a change
Speaker 1: in partners? Was it a change in your thoughts around sex?
Speaker 1: What made it to where you were then able to
Speaker 1: have I guess regular sex? And this wasn't an issue.
Speaker 1: I really couldn't put a pin on it. I don't
Speaker 1: know where just started change, like uh like because me
Speaker 1: Max were on and off, so then it became like
Speaker 1: got down to like forty minutes, and then we had
Speaker 1: a lot of public sex. So I was like, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna rush right now, you know? Okay? So well
Speaker 1: that that was an idea. So that's something that maybe
Speaker 1: he could consider even to see maybe what's changing in
Speaker 1: his mindset. Maybe when he's in the house he feels
Speaker 1: like he has all the time in the world, and
Speaker 1: maybe he can come faster if he doesn't in public more.
Speaker 1: But what I will say, what I will say now
Speaker 1: at a sex club? What that's probably technically not okay? Um,
Speaker 1: what I will say is that anxiety is closely linked
Speaker 1: to impotence and not being able to come. All you
Speaker 1: guys know that. Right now, I want to let everybody
Speaker 1: know that it's important to be careful. Talk to somebody,
Speaker 1: talk to other dudes. Please talk to your other dudes
Speaker 1: in private. Maybe just slightly bring it up, because I
Speaker 1: don't bring up dick talk in front of the talk
Speaker 1: because don't want to talk about that like all about
Speaker 1: like you know, my ships on SWOW. But then I
Speaker 1: don't know what I brought up. And then four of
Speaker 1: my other closest dudes are like, yeah, it happened to
Speaker 1: had an issue, And I was like, yeah, man, there's
Speaker 1: like a close older person in your life that can
Speaker 1: like walk you through that moment because sometimes at that
Speaker 1: age you're so immature. How old were you? I was Okay,
Speaker 1: he's nineteen, so yeah, about the same about the same age.
Speaker 1: Thank you, Benthy, You're coming through we see. So here's
Speaker 1: what I was thinking about when he was saying that. Um,
Speaker 1: there's one of my favorite parts and it's the very
Speaker 1: beginning of Charlottegne's last book, Shook One. Did you read it? Um,
Speaker 1: it's on my bookshelf. I haven't read it though, so
Speaker 1: there's an awesome There's an awesome part in the beginning
Speaker 1: where he talks about names aiety he had attack he
Speaker 1: had going down and his wife and he says his
Speaker 1: wife always squirts, even together, like eighteen years and he
Speaker 1: was going down on her and he was high, and
Speaker 1: he's like, I thought he was going to drown, and
Speaker 1: he's like, I kept doing it and I was wondering
Speaker 1: why she wasn't squirting, and I fucking freaked out, and
Speaker 1: he's like, I had so much anxiety, and she was laughing.
Speaker 1: It was a great story, actually embarrassing as fuck. When
Speaker 1: I met his wife, I mentioned it and she was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god. She was like, hey, that that is
Speaker 1: to be getting at the first chapter. And I think
Speaker 1: that that was such a dope part of the book
Speaker 1: because even for so long, you can get with someone
Speaker 1: and you can get that anxiety. But I think what
Speaker 1: it has to do with is there always feels like
Speaker 1: there's a clock on sex, and a lot of us
Speaker 1: have to take that out, which is why I kind
Speaker 1: of like that thing of like talk about amazing sex
Speaker 1: without coming, like we women feel like men have to
Speaker 1: come for it to be over, and men feel like
Speaker 1: they have to wait for women before they can come
Speaker 1: sometimes and we don't really like get to enjoy it anymore.
Speaker 1: It's like you're figuring out what position we have to
Speaker 1: be in so we can come. And I think that
Speaker 1: should just like explore bodies more so, like a lot
Speaker 1: more licking and touching and like getting into your senses
Speaker 1: to really turn you on, just like women take a
Speaker 1: long time to get wet. Kind of remember that, like
Speaker 1: men can sometimes take There's a thing that I almost
Speaker 1: said his name, Jeeves does with me body worshiping, and
Speaker 1: he would literally sit in front of my ass, on
Speaker 1: my pussy and talk about it, talk to it, lick me,
Speaker 1: fucking tell me how hot I am, put his fingers
Speaker 1: in his mouth and whatever is dick take it out,
Speaker 1: do other ship to it. And it's like it gets
Speaker 1: me so fucking rilled up. And I don't want to
Speaker 1: speak for their sex. But I would guess at nineteen,
Speaker 1: maybe exploring and taking time doesn't seem like a thing
Speaker 1: because I didn't do ship like that at nineteen, So
Speaker 1: I think talking to an older friend that's mature enough
Speaker 1: to not laugh at you, to looking into that anxiety
Speaker 1: or sexual therapy or stuff like that. For insurance it's covered.
Speaker 1: And three do some more floor four play and a
Speaker 1: lot more four plays. I just had for the like,
Speaker 1: and y'all know I don't like head. So I had
Speaker 1: sex with someone um recently and it was our first
Speaker 1: time having sex, but we've known each other for years,
Speaker 1: and he got like he got really hard the night before,
Speaker 1: but in the morning he wanted sex again and he
Speaker 1: just was getting like medium hard, like but not all
Speaker 1: the way hard to where it just it just wasn't going.
Speaker 1: And I was like, I condom gotta stay. So finally
Speaker 1: we we we fucked, but it just wasn't staying. He
Speaker 1: went he got soft again, and so he like got
Speaker 1: into this place where he literally laid in between my
Speaker 1: legs and just put his mouth like it was head
Speaker 1: but finger popping at the same time and literally made
Speaker 1: me so wet, and I came that way so much,
Speaker 1: so of course I wanted penetration after, but I was like,
Speaker 1: Nick like got me way wetter than when we were
Speaker 1: and it was so he literally funny because you're talking
Speaker 1: about how you don't really like no, and he laid
Speaker 1: between my legs and was just like looking and like
Speaker 1: was working it like, but it wasn't allhead. It was
Speaker 1: a lot of fingerplay. It was him looking into my eyes,
Speaker 1: like him wanting to hear me moaning. It was just
Speaker 1: very intense and I got so fucking white. I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, that no right there. Though taking the
Speaker 1: extra time to like please someone being a giver helps.
Speaker 1: Actually one thing, this is really dumb, but it's true,
Speaker 1: one of the hardest I've ever came. I can't even
Speaker 1: it always sounds like I'm on my period with her
Speaker 1: years ago. Okay, I'm gonna say this is like six
Speaker 1: seven years ago, licking blood. Now, I couldn't mean I
Speaker 1: was on my period, so I couldn't have sex right
Speaker 1: with scissors. She came over, she was drunk. She came
Speaker 1: over from the club, and she got on top of
Speaker 1: me and was like rubbing on me and we were
Speaker 1: like dry humping, and I was so fucking horny. And
Speaker 1: I realized it's because I have never really been teased,
Speaker 1: so like teasing like, I love it. I think y'all
Speaker 1: should try that in your four play because if you
Speaker 1: some people think four play is just eating pussing a
Speaker 1: second dick, and it's not right, So we have one
Speaker 1: more um listening to let our guys or homemail my
Speaker 1: bit um. Hey ladies, I've been listening to your show
Speaker 1: for a while now. Was put on by my home girl.
Speaker 1: I love it and it opens my mind to things
Speaker 1: um that I've never considered and fuels the questions I
Speaker 1: bombarded my vanilla as friends with. But my purpose in
Speaker 1: writing is that I've been having a lot more casual
Speaker 1: sex since my last breakup. She's a complete opposite of
Speaker 1: our first writer way back in and at first it
Speaker 1: was Hella lit. It was exciting. I was coming pretty
Speaker 1: much every time, learning new tricks and all. But now
Speaker 1: it's kind of died out for me. Even sex with
Speaker 1: the people who were also amazing before now have me
Speaker 1: dry and disappointed. I wasted gas pulling up or allowed
Speaker 1: their presence in my queendom. What can I do to
Speaker 1: get that spark back and sexual interests back into my life?
Speaker 1: Signed board and sexually Uninterested. And I picked this because
Speaker 1: in the beginning of this year I was having quite
Speaker 1: a bit of casual sex um with a lot of
Speaker 1: repeating partners um. But I was winning trying to wean
Speaker 1: myself off, which is is getting there um, and I
Speaker 1: was telling my friends that I thought my pussy was
Speaker 1: broke because I was having sex with like people who
Speaker 1: worked me for seven. My pussy was the driest it
Speaker 1: was it had been. I was mad every time I
Speaker 1: had sex because I was like, this is why I
Speaker 1: don't have casual sex with other people. I was frustrated
Speaker 1: and I was like, yeah, my pussy's broke. I wasn't
Speaker 1: interested in having sex. I went on quite a little
Speaker 1: a dry spell. Didn't want to seven, didn't want to
Speaker 1: suck anyone regular because I was genuinely not enjoying the sex.
Speaker 1: So I read this and I was like, this is
Speaker 1: what happened to me. And I feel like in a
Speaker 1: in a bit of it, you have casual sex, and yeah,
Speaker 1: it's fun, But when you're having casual sex with multiple partners,
Speaker 1: you miss a lot of the things psychologically that you
Speaker 1: like in a partner, such as the cuddling, such as
Speaker 1: the conversation, the intimacy. Maybe they're not um doing the
Speaker 1: things that essentially you want them to do, or maybe
Speaker 1: you really don't want this sexual connection with someone as
Speaker 1: much as you want a conversation with them um, And
Speaker 1: I felt like that's kind of where I was. So
Speaker 1: maybe you were enjoying this casual sex with all these
Speaker 1: partners and it was fun and you were coming because
Speaker 1: you kind of didn't want anything else. You just wanted sex.
Speaker 1: So I just wanted to sex. Also, people say is
Speaker 1: replacement for something else, right, But I um, so I
Speaker 1: went through a really scary moment like towards the end
Speaker 1: of February where like when my aunt died, I was
Speaker 1: like scared to masturbate or have sex because I felt
Speaker 1: like she was watching me. It's really dumb, but I
Speaker 1: was like freaking out, like my grieving process fucked up masturbation.
Speaker 1: And one of the things that helped me was a
Speaker 1: little bit of time. But like erotica, I read a
Speaker 1: lot already, Like erotica really fucking helps me. And I
Speaker 1: don't know what it is. And I think it's because
Speaker 1: when you're reading. And this is much why when books
Speaker 1: turned into movies, people can't appreciate that yet because we
Speaker 1: all imagine it in a different way. That's who I
Speaker 1: would ever look into a movie, addicted Zane. Oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: so like we kind of picture, you know, the book
Speaker 1: a certain way, and then the movie comes out and
Speaker 1: it's not what we wanted. That's what's great about books.
Speaker 1: Your imagination runs so wild reading erotica or really got
Speaker 1: my pussy to work. I really can't give any other
Speaker 1: advice because I think sometimes it just takes time, and
Speaker 1: I think it takes a little bit of solo time
Speaker 1: to like work through that feeling. But when it's there,
Speaker 1: you feel like it's never gonna be Overbro it sucks. Yeah, So, UM,
Speaker 1: I think that honestly, you should maybe come more in
Speaker 1: tune with yourself. Um, stop giving your energy to so
Speaker 1: many people. UM. I believe that when you do have
Speaker 1: sex with someone, it's a transfer of energy. So maybe
Speaker 1: the things that are going on with your partners are
Speaker 1: now draining into you. Whether it be something negative going
Speaker 1: on in their lives, or maybe they're just exhausted, or
Speaker 1: maybe they're not performing to to what they used to.
Speaker 1: There could be so many things. But when you give
Speaker 1: yourself to someone, specifically sex and when having casual sex,
Speaker 1: you are draining yourself more than you know. And so
Speaker 1: it may be a time to where you just need
Speaker 1: some time for yourself something that I like to do
Speaker 1: and something that I like to do when I feel
Speaker 1: like I've just given too much energy to my male
Speaker 1: counter parts, are my sexual partners, or whatever the case
Speaker 1: may be. I literally enjoy a trip with my friends
Speaker 1: and I stop answering their calls and no, I don't
Speaker 1: want to see you. I have plans with my friends.
Speaker 1: I make a lot of plans with my friends, and
Speaker 1: I get my energy back up and and being grateful
Speaker 1: and happy for life, the people in my circle and
Speaker 1: what's going on in my life before I can allow
Speaker 1: myself to release energy to somebody else. So that's kind
Speaker 1: of what got me over my little dry spell. Um,
Speaker 1: when dealing with multiple sexual partners, just taking a break
Speaker 1: and enjoying other people around me that I'm not having
Speaker 1: sex with, specifically male friends, male friends that you aren't
Speaker 1: having sex with, spending time around them, because then you
Speaker 1: just get to appreciate men again and their energy and
Speaker 1: the sastroone and just men for being men without having
Speaker 1: to attach the sexual connection with them. So that would
Speaker 1: be my advice. Um. Again, we want to shout out
Speaker 1: to everyone who came out to our live shows. They've
Speaker 1: been fucking amazing. I can't wait to see everyone in
Speaker 1: l A And of course we're wrapping up in Toronto. Um,
Speaker 1: I'm excited to see you all. I hope you guys
Speaker 1: um continue showing your support to our patrons. We realized
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