Speaker 1: All right, what's up everybody. Thanks for coming to the
Speaker 1: podcast today and especially you you get in the podcast today,
Speaker 1: found some time, got my wife Amber with me. We
Speaker 1: are answering your questions at email podcast at grangersmith dot com.
Speaker 1: And you could also go to whatever platform you're listening to,
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Speaker 1: this to comment on this particular episode whatever we say.
Speaker 1: So if you want to double down on something or
Speaker 1: you say, hey, you're wrong Amber on that, which I
Speaker 1: am a lot, you could do that. And if you
Speaker 1: want to start a fresh question, just email podcast at
Speaker 1: grangersmith dot com, kind of like Jet did and Jet says, Hey, Granger,
Speaker 1: how's it going. I'm a big fan of your music
Speaker 1: and your podcast. You need to make some more deer
Speaker 1: hunting videos soon. Okay. I've been a Christian around six years.
Speaker 1: I'm homeschooled and play sports through a local homeschool sports team.
Speaker 1: I would love to hear about how we should play
Speaker 1: for Oh excuse me. I always hear about how we
Speaker 1: should play for an audience of one, give all the
Speaker 1: glory to God and work as for the Lord. But
Speaker 1: what are some practical ways I could actually do that.
Speaker 1: I am not a boastful or cocky player, but I
Speaker 1: would like to know what I could do so that
Speaker 1: other Christians would see Christ in me on and off
Speaker 1: the field. Thanks God, blessed.
Speaker 2: Yet, it's really sweet. How old is he doesn't say, okay,
Speaker 2: well you're great with sports.
Speaker 1: So homeschooled, so within a high school age. Yeah. I
Speaker 1: think it's a great question, and it's a question that
Speaker 1: not a lot of people ask, but they kind of
Speaker 1: act on this without asking it, And I think you
Speaker 1: should ask it. Should you should ask practically, what does
Speaker 1: it mean to give all the glory to God? What
Speaker 1: does it mean to play a sport for God? People say,
Speaker 1: you know, they hold up a trophy and they say, give
Speaker 1: all the glory to God. Man, you know, I just
Speaker 1: play for God. But no one really says what does
Speaker 1: that mean? If I was interviewing, if I was working
Speaker 1: for ESPN and that happened, I'd say, oh, well, what
Speaker 1: does that mean? Yeah, practically, what does that look like?
Speaker 1: It's really nice to say, it sounds awesome, but what
Speaker 1: do you mean playing for God? Well? I think if
Speaker 1: you want to, if you want to play for God
Speaker 1: and you want to say that you play for God,
Speaker 1: and you want to show the world that you play
Speaker 1: for God. You need to be currently transforming, transformed by
Speaker 1: God's transforming work in you. So how do you do that?
Speaker 1: Because because then it doesn't matter if you play sports,
Speaker 1: if you sing songs, if you work behind a computer
Speaker 1: all day at work, you could do all things to
Speaker 1: the glory of God if you're being transformed by him.
Speaker 1: So that means this answer is now for everyone, not
Speaker 1: just homeschooled sports players. So we're transformed by God through
Speaker 1: his word.
Speaker 2: Yes, And he seems to maybe look like he is
Speaker 2: doing that, and so he's asking practically, how can we
Speaker 2: play for the Lord? So there's something little that we
Speaker 2: do whenever and our kids are just in you know,
Speaker 2: school sports. But I think just coming into the game
Speaker 2: with a spirit of gratitude that we are just even
Speaker 2: so thankful to be able to play the sport, like
Speaker 2: thank you Lord for my able body giving, having a
Speaker 2: spirit of gratitude for the Lord that we can even
Speaker 2: do what we're doing, that God has given us an
Speaker 2: ability to play. And you know, obviously I think starting
Speaker 2: with prayer, you pray for strength or endurance or speed
Speaker 2: or anything that you you know, God says we need
Speaker 2: to ask, but we submit and say, Lord, You've already
Speaker 2: determined the outcome of this game, but can we just
Speaker 2: play well, have good sportsman like conduct, play as hard
Speaker 2: as we can, and ultimately we give the game to you,
Speaker 2: and if it's in your will for us to win,
Speaker 2: wonderful and then just show you know, good sportsmanlike conduct
Speaker 2: on and off the field.
Speaker 1: So where does so you're what you're talking about is humility?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Where does that come from being in the word
Speaker 2: and submitting to God?
Speaker 1: And yeah? So so really understanding being being humble really
Speaker 1: comes from a right understanding of who God is and
Speaker 1: who we are in relation to him. And that's that
Speaker 1: might sound deep, but it's not deep. It's actually just
Speaker 1: super simple. An aunt is humbled by a pickup truck
Speaker 1: when it's in the middle of the road trying to
Speaker 1: cross the road, because crossing the road seeing the pickup
Speaker 1: truck gives it a right understanding of the vast difference
Speaker 1: between the two things, the ant and the pickup truck.
Speaker 1: So we understand who God is and the vastness, the greatness,
Speaker 1: the holiness that he is. As we engage more and
Speaker 1: more with the Bible, and this is something that you
Speaker 1: and I really this was a kind of a foreign
Speaker 1: idea to us. And as we started to learn that
Speaker 1: everything in our lives is different now because of the
Speaker 1: transforming work of the Word of God, it all comes
Speaker 1: down to that, like, if you're going to say, what's
Speaker 1: the main difference that the Lord did to you? Since
Speaker 1: you changed everything, since you changed everything and I changed everything,
Speaker 1: what's the main difference that you actually did? Because it's
Speaker 1: God's work, But what's the difference in what you did?
Speaker 1: And we could say, you know, church, we could say prayer,
Speaker 1: we can say a lot of things, but the main
Speaker 1: difference is reading His word. That's what transformed us. So
Speaker 1: really everything we've said so far, jet if you are
Speaker 1: creating a time every day to read His word, setting aside,
Speaker 1: not in a Bible study, not on Sunday morning church,
Speaker 1: not with your parents, not with a FCA group. Those
Speaker 1: are young life group, those are all great things, and
Speaker 1: you should do. You should do those. Those are great things,
Speaker 1: critical things. But more important than all of that is
Speaker 1: your own personal reading time. In fact, we're on this
Speaker 1: right now with London. You know, she's thirteen and she
Speaker 1: goes through this period of time when she's setting aside
Speaker 1: her own reading time, she's taking notes, underlining, you know,
Speaker 1: circling things, highlighting, and then she goes through a period
Speaker 1: of not doing that, and just the other day we're like, hey,
Speaker 1: what's your Bible reading time look like? And she's like,
Speaker 1: I haven't done it. And the further you get from that,
Speaker 1: the harder it is yet to play sports for the
Speaker 1: glory of God or to live and do anything to
Speaker 1: the glory of God, because because you start disconnecting from
Speaker 1: the knowledge of Him, which comes from this Word. So
Speaker 1: that's just all that. Everything we've said in the last
Speaker 1: eight minutes is read your Bible, understand who God is,
Speaker 1: and the outflowing of that will go into everything you do,
Speaker 1: including playing sports. You just breathing.
Speaker 2: I did was I was going to. I just didn't
Speaker 2: know if we should just end it there. I just
Speaker 2: I saw something that Tim Tebow's mother had told him
Speaker 2: one time, and it was just, you know, many people
Speaker 2: give glory to God when they win, but can you
Speaker 2: still give glory to God when you lose? And so
Speaker 2: that's just that mind shift. But that also comes from
Speaker 2: being in the Word and having the fruits of the spirit.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's good. Next question comes from Adam. Hey Granger,
Speaker 1: I'm a huge fan of the podcast in your music.
Speaker 1: My name is Adam. I'm currently single. I do have
Speaker 1: some questions. I've been single for a little over five
Speaker 1: years now, and after a rough breakup and rebuilding myself,
Speaker 1: I feel that I'm ready to put myself back out
Speaker 1: there and try to meet someone new. I've joined dating
Speaker 1: apps as my work schedule gets really busy and I'm
Speaker 1: socially awkward at meeting people for the first time. So
Speaker 1: my question is this, how do I, a twenty three
Speaker 1: year old go about meeting anyone or dating apps worth it?
Speaker 1: And if not, where would the best place be to
Speaker 1: find someone? Man? Adam answered this question a lot. Well,
Speaker 1: I don't know if you've heard my podcast in a while, babe,
Speaker 1: what but I sure have missed these questions from Adam. Okay,
Speaker 1: I used to get these all the time. There's been
Speaker 1: a little I haven't. I don't think I've answered one
Speaker 1: of these. For those of y'all that have listened a
Speaker 1: long time, you know, I don't know it's been It might.
Speaker 2: Have been the last time I was on right very long.
Speaker 1: While I love these questions and it's actually been a while.
Speaker 1: So hey, Adam, thank you, thank you for kind of
Speaker 1: renewing the old tradition of the Granger Smith podcast, the
Speaker 1: how do I meet someone after five years? Okay, let's
Speaker 1: talk about it. So he's been single five years, that's
Speaker 1: a good, healthy time. We'll start there. If you said
Speaker 1: I've been healthy, I've been single for five months, different story,
Speaker 1: you know, but five years, like, okay, you're you're ready,
Speaker 1: You're ready, And that's typically not what people say. Usually
Speaker 1: it's i've been single for five days. Now what should
Speaker 1: I do? I've been single for five weeks? What should
Speaker 1: I do? It's like, you shouldn't do anything, you should
Speaker 1: not date anybody but old Adam, he's given it five years.
Speaker 1: I like that. This second thing I want to say
Speaker 1: is Adam, twenty three is not old. I know that
Speaker 1: it feels old. And I know this, especially if you're
Speaker 1: looking at the last time you're in a relationship, you
Speaker 1: were eighteen and now you're twenty three. You're very different
Speaker 1: now and you're thinking to yourself, Man, I don't know
Speaker 1: if I'm ever going to meet somebody. Last time I
Speaker 1: dated somebody else was a teenager. Now I'm twenty three,
Speaker 1: you know, in the clock's ticking, that's just not the case.
Speaker 1: You still have, you have so much life ahead of you.
Speaker 1: But that's not his question. His question is after he's
Speaker 1: properly rebuilt, he's got his feet back under him. His
Speaker 1: question is really our dating apps. Okay, it's funny. We
Speaker 1: had this conversation last night. We had a couple staying
Speaker 1: with us in our barn last night, in which we
Speaker 1: do quite often these days. We have people come and
Speaker 1: families come and stay with us. And they met on
Speaker 1: a dating app. Do you remember which one?
Speaker 2: That was Plenty of Fish.
Speaker 1: Plenty of Fish. I don't know that. What is that?
Speaker 2: Well, that's what they said. That was the dating app
Speaker 2: back in the day for just hooking up. So they
Speaker 2: were a little embarrass about that, but.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's before they're.
Speaker 2: Chritians, befo, they're Christians.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And they were like, I know, you talk about
Speaker 1: this on your podcast, you talk about you don't like
Speaker 1: dating apps. And I was like I was to their surprise.
Speaker 1: I told them we met on an app Facebook.
Speaker 2: It wasn't technically a dating app, it.
Speaker 1: Wasn't a dating app, but it was yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So they were like, she was like why what. I
Speaker 1: don't think she knew that. So Adam, your question is
Speaker 1: are they are dating apps worth it? And if not,
Speaker 1: where would be the best place to meet someone? So
Speaker 1: you're not asking it are they good or bad? I
Speaker 1: think after five years you got a heavy work schedule,
Speaker 1: you think you're socially awkward. That that's debatable because I
Speaker 1: don't know you, but it's probably not the case. A
Speaker 1: lot of people say they're socially awkward.
Speaker 2: You might feel that way because he hasn't dated in
Speaker 2: five years, so you would feel a little awkward.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I would put I would look at
Speaker 1: it like your fishing, and you've got a trot line out,
Speaker 1: and you've got some jugs and some catfish heads on
Speaker 1: on the hooks, and you might as well put out
Speaker 1: the whole bunch of catfish heads in the jugs and
Speaker 1: and go check the jugs every once in a while.
Speaker 1: But don't I would say, not only catfish heads are
Speaker 1: you working with you? You got to get out and
Speaker 1: you got to cast a line. You know, you got
Speaker 1: to get a bait caster. And why are you looking
Speaker 1: at me like that? This is my podcast, This is
Speaker 1: the things I say.
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 1: You got to put a lure on there and a
Speaker 1: crank bait everyone in a while, maybe a purple worm,
Speaker 1: and you got to get into some of the some
Speaker 1: of the moss that you can't get to with those drugs,
Speaker 1: and you got to get your purple worm, you know,
Speaker 1: kind of working you know, like a Texas rig, you know,
Speaker 1: working it through the moss exactly and at them. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So so yeah, get the jugs out there. It's the
Speaker 1: catfish heads. That's okay, Go check them every once in
Speaker 1: a while. Don't rely on that. No fisherman would rely
Speaker 1: only on that, all right? Next question that.
Speaker 2: Dating apps I wouldn't say are bad, but you you
Speaker 2: might not get to obviously know the real person you
Speaker 2: know on a dating app, I would say, I don't know.
Speaker 2: If you're involved in a church, I think a church
Speaker 2: is a great way to meet somebody. Go have a
Speaker 2: community of people around you and meet somebody organically through
Speaker 2: somebody else, Like, hey, I have a friend who knows
Speaker 2: this person who I think you would be a great match.
Speaker 2: Something like that. But you can go cast your purple worm.
Speaker 1: Is that how you answered this last question? Where would
Speaker 1: be the best place to meet someone? What are you saying?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would say through friends because they can vet
Speaker 2: the other person out, and or family. You know, I
Speaker 2: have this friend who has a daughter who might be
Speaker 2: perfect for you, but that involves you getting out, you know,
Speaker 2: and trying not to feel socially awkward, going out with
Speaker 2: some friends, or getting involved in in a hobby or
Speaker 2: a local community place or a church.
Speaker 1: I could say this because it's a safe spot. Meaning
Speaker 1: I know a lot of people listen to this podcast,
Speaker 1: but my kids don't listen to this podcast, so I
Speaker 1: could say that stuff about them and they will never know.
Speaker 1: But I was with Pastor Chad, who's like one of
Speaker 1: the OG guests on this podcast. He's in Montana now
Speaker 1: and I was with him and he said, we're walking
Speaker 1: through the mountains at Glacier National Park. He goes, Hey,
Speaker 1: you gonna set up my son and your daughter, And
Speaker 1: surprisingly I was like, yeah, I think that's I think
Speaker 1: that'd be a good deal. You know. As a dad,
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, I think, obviously we're joke. We're both joking.
Speaker 1: But I We did talk briefly about how arranged marriages
Speaker 1: typically worked. The divorce rate was very, very low in
Speaker 1: an arranged marriage because it's to the point of what
Speaker 1: you just said. Really, the best place to meet someone
Speaker 1: is collectively your friends and family bring them to you
Speaker 1: and they say or her in this case Jet or Adam.
Speaker 1: So your friends and family are unbiased. They don't, they're
Speaker 1: not falling for tricks. They they're not going to deal
Speaker 1: with someone with a heavy baggage.
Speaker 2: They want the best for you.
Speaker 1: They literally just want the best for you. They want
Speaker 1: you to be happy, cared for, and they want the
Speaker 1: best for you. They don't care about the frivolous things.
Speaker 1: They're not going to deal with heavy baggage. They're not
Speaker 1: going to deal with big, big things that are gonna
Speaker 1: you know, maybe even religious issues that would would keep
Speaker 1: you to apart because you're too disjointed. They they're gonna
Speaker 1: bring to you the right person. That's why arranged marriages
Speaker 1: works for so long. That's why Pastor Chad and I
Speaker 1: are going to actually do this.
Speaker 2: We talk about that with people that we know in
Speaker 2: their daughters, like, oh I could we could see that,
Speaker 2: we could do that, we could have them as in laws.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. Love is as unromantic as it as it
Speaker 1: might sound. Love is a decision, and this idea of soulmates,
Speaker 1: there's only one out there. Hey, this question goes back
Speaker 1: to Jet as well, that this question probably goes with
Speaker 1: everyone here this idea, this romantic idea of a job
Speaker 1: or a sport or a hobby or a spouse, that
Speaker 1: there's only one for you and you're made for this one.
Speaker 1: I am living proof of this with my job. I
Speaker 1: am happy right now. I have joy and I have contentment,
Speaker 1: and I'm literally not doing the one thing that I
Speaker 1: have done for the two decades, and that is tour
Speaker 1: and play music to people. And so you would think,
Speaker 1: in theory on paper, you take away this one thing
Speaker 1: from an American that he's built his whole life on
Speaker 1: and he would be depressed. And I've totally debunked that.
Speaker 1: It's the same thing with a house, Adam. So stop
Speaker 1: thinking in terms of there's only one special girl out there,
Speaker 1: and is she on a dating app? Is she at
Speaker 1: the end of that jug with the catfish yet I
Speaker 1: don't know. Instead, find someone that you're compatible with, that
Speaker 1: you get along with, that you're good friends with, that
Speaker 1: of course, that you're physically attracted to, and just marrier.
Speaker 1: And it's Christians we say, make sure she loves Jesus
Speaker 1: and she's chasing after Jesus. So that's what I say.
Speaker 1: You know, if you're a Christian Adam and don't overthink
Speaker 1: it and just make a decision. I'm going to love
Speaker 1: this woman the rest of my life. Yeah, this is
Speaker 1: the most unromantic way you could possibly put it, but
Speaker 1: that's just the truth.
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Speaker 2: Maybe this is what we have to do to have
Speaker 2: a date, is do a podcast. We can actually come
Speaker 2: up here by ourselves and have a conversation.
Speaker 1: So we got on AI this morning. Was it this
Speaker 1: morning or yesterday? And it started with I don't know
Speaker 1: how this started with was with my brothers and we said,
Speaker 1: we started saying, draw a picture of Granger Smith and
Speaker 1: all the things that he loves. And it was like
Speaker 1: these you know, it was like guys in overalls and
Speaker 1: like across a bible, a small bible, always a barn,
Speaker 1: a windmill, guitars, belt buckle, cowboy hat, always a microphone.
Speaker 1: And then I said, and draw Amber Smith and the
Speaker 1: things that she loves. And it was like huge bibles,
Speaker 1: a huge crosses and kids everywhere. And I was like, Wow,
Speaker 1: you're so much a I like you so much better
Speaker 1: than me. This next question if you want to email
Speaker 1: us email podcast at grangersmith dot com. It comes from Xandria. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's a pretty name. X A N D R. I
Speaker 1: A like it, don't hear that too often. We're just
Speaker 1: talking about my grandmother today. Her name is Yeah, I've
Speaker 1: never met a Nettie.
Speaker 2: Mine was Dorian Beatrice.
Speaker 1: Wow, that's a good name. So Andrews says, Hey, Grangeur,
Speaker 1: my husband listened to your podcast every week and we
Speaker 1: listened once together recently, and maybe want to reach out
Speaker 1: and ask a question. Lastly, I've been creating or lately,
Speaker 1: I've been creating social media content on YouTube, TikTok and Instagram.
Speaker 1: As a stay at home mom, I feel like I
Speaker 1: should be doing more to help with income with how
Speaker 1: hard today's society is. So I've been wanting to pursue
Speaker 1: social media for several years now in hopes to make
Speaker 1: money on it. However, sometimes I have anxiety of doing
Speaker 1: it and getting in the way of spending time with
Speaker 1: my children or me. Often you are using it too often.
Speaker 1: I feel like with everything I'm doing, I should always
Speaker 1: be creating content, and if I don't, I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm failing for reference. My content is just stay at
Speaker 1: home mom related. My question for you is would creating
Speaker 1: content and wanting to pursue it while trying to gain
Speaker 1: a large following and make more money for my family,
Speaker 1: be biblical or right of me. I battle it. So
Speaker 1: I also battle with maybe I'm just making excuses and
Speaker 1: I don't want to be consistent with it. It's a
Speaker 1: back and forth, constant battle. And another real reason behind
Speaker 1: me doing it is wanting to make money from it.
Speaker 1: Thank You's Andrea, Babe. I struggle with my not using
Speaker 1: my glasses.
Speaker 2: Well I can see why now because I put them
Speaker 2: on the other night and I was like, wow.
Speaker 1: I actually see Yeah, I don't. My vision is still
Speaker 1: twenty twenty, but I have a what was it called stigmatism,
Speaker 1: and the glasses clear up when I'm looking at this
Speaker 1: iPad and I've been using it the last several times.
Speaker 1: Now I notice like I'm reading slower without them. This
Speaker 1: question's perfect for you.
Speaker 2: We were just talking about this. Yeah, I have felt
Speaker 2: convicted lately. I have just heard different podcasts and just
Speaker 2: different speakers and just in my time in the word
Speaker 2: of you know, should I delete social media?
Speaker 1: And you know?
Speaker 2: And you and I had this discussion, Well, that's part
Speaker 2: of our income, you know, that's how we make certain
Speaker 2: parts of our income. But I can to her question.
Speaker 2: She's feeling anxious about it. She's not you know, she's
Speaker 2: wrestling with it, and her her main thing is she
Speaker 2: wants to make money, which is not bad, like as
Speaker 2: a wife, you know, you want to bring in something,
Speaker 2: but her role, as in how God created her, is
Speaker 2: to be home with the family, with the kids, and
Speaker 2: that's her main ministry is that. And I admire her
Speaker 2: for wanting to bring in income and help her husband
Speaker 2: because I feel the same way. But if she doesn't
Speaker 2: have a piece about it, if she feels uneasy about
Speaker 2: it or anxious about it, it might be time to
Speaker 2: just take a pause and kind of wait, because it
Speaker 2: doesn't feel like that's something that her heart is truly
Speaker 2: in for the right reasons. I guess if that makes sense,
Speaker 2: And if it is pulling you away from your children,
Speaker 2: I struggle with that too because I do work on
Speaker 2: Instagram and social media. Yeah, and I feel that sometimes
Speaker 2: like this is taking away from some of my time
Speaker 2: with the kids, which would also be a good time
Speaker 2: to talk about what we just implemented in our house.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, I think that her being anxious, and I
Speaker 1: think that's a good indication that this was probably not
Speaker 1: for you. I think if you said I love social media,
Speaker 1: I love doing this, I'm really gung ho about it.
Speaker 1: I would say, well, then keep going, because the truth
Speaker 1: is it's extremely hard to get to a place where
Speaker 1: you could actually make money on social media. You do it,
Speaker 1: but it took you a long time. Even you're building
Speaker 1: a platform before we were even dating, really, and so
Speaker 1: to get to a point where you could endorse a product,
Speaker 1: for instance, what's the latest product you've endorsed and actually
Speaker 1: made money on? Because you do some things for Maverick
Speaker 1: where you just get a toy, but yeah, we're actually
Speaker 1: get money.
Speaker 2: I don't get money. Well, that's one thing is I
Speaker 2: just like to help people. I like to get codes away,
Speaker 2: so I don't always ask for income. I'm trying to
Speaker 2: think the last thing that I did were I actually
Speaker 2: made money. I think vitamins. It was like some sort
Speaker 2: of health vitamin that I was endorsed doorsing.
Speaker 1: Would you mind telling us on would you tell us
Speaker 1: on this podcast how much you made from those vitamins?
Speaker 2: If I can remember it ranges. I mean maybe fifteen
Speaker 2: hundred to three thousand for a post or something like that.
Speaker 1: Okay, how many times have you done that this year?
Speaker 1: I'm trying to make a point. Yeah, I don't know
Speaker 1: My point My point is, Andrea is this, Amber has
Speaker 1: been doing it for a long time. She does it
Speaker 1: at a pretty high level, and she's not making enough
Speaker 1: money to call it a full time job. Yeah, that
Speaker 1: you do a lot of other things, right, I.
Speaker 2: Do, like speaking engagements and things like that. Other I
Speaker 2: make other income, but.
Speaker 1: Just social media wouldn't be considered a full time job.
Speaker 2: It's fun supplemental income from like fun days for the kids.
Speaker 1: But to make an extra ten k a year, fifteen
Speaker 1: k a year, even up to twenty k a year extra,
Speaker 1: that's incredible and a huge blessing, but it's not. It's
Speaker 1: not you full time working. Right And so if Xandria
Speaker 1: thinks that she's going to do this and would that
Speaker 1: would be more than a regular job. You're looking at Amber,
Speaker 1: who is one of the top at the game. You know,
Speaker 1: learn about that, but yeah, I mean you're you do
Speaker 1: it at a higher level. You're probably top two percent
Speaker 1: of women that promote products. The one percent is making
Speaker 1: one hundred grand two hundred grand a year.
Speaker 2: I will say this also, Xandria, that the payment that
Speaker 2: I was making a couple years ago has significantly gone down.
Speaker 2: Like brands don't have the money that they used to have,
Speaker 2: Like women used to make ten thy twenty thousand on
Speaker 2: one post and now it has significantly gone down. So
Speaker 2: I think people think that you're going to go out
Speaker 2: and make all this money and it's not quite what
Speaker 2: it used to be.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, So so once again, don't hear me wrong
Speaker 1: in anything. I'm saying. It's a huge blessing. Amber makes
Speaker 1: money doing post, I personally don't. I don't make any
Speaker 1: money on social media at all. I have chosen to
Speaker 1: not take that route because one you do it, and
Speaker 1: I want both of us to do it. So I
Speaker 1: use social media to build up my brand, so really
Speaker 1: mainly for EEE. When it comes to money, we hope
Speaker 1: that ee does well, which is another very difficult task.
Speaker 1: Running an apparel company e commerce without a storefront is
Speaker 1: very difficult to continue year after year after year keeping
Speaker 1: it going. So I don't personally charge anything for social media,
Speaker 1: and you do occasional things. And so that's my advice
Speaker 1: to is Andrew. My encouragement is it's maybe not the
Speaker 1: grass is maybe not as green as you think it is. Yeah,
Speaker 1: the ceiling is maybe a lot smaller than you think
Speaker 1: it is. You might hit your head a.
Speaker 2: Little sooner, and like you said, if you love it
Speaker 2: and you and you and you have a good like
Speaker 2: a platform that you could make money on, then you
Speaker 2: could set aside a specific times of the day to
Speaker 2: film your content and then you can be present with
Speaker 2: your kids. Like there's ways to do it, but it
Speaker 2: just doesn't feel like you have peace about it.
Speaker 1: So we'll continue on the same question because I think
Speaker 1: this is bringing up a bigger issue. If you're ables Andrea,
Speaker 1: if you're able to to get in grow, because you
Speaker 1: got to grow your platform before you could before you
Speaker 1: could actually make money on it. How many followers do
Speaker 1: you have on Instagram?
Speaker 2: It's about two hundred and ninety, So.
Speaker 1: IF's Andrea has seven hundred, no brand's going to touch her.
Speaker 1: If she has fifteen hundred, they're still not really going
Speaker 1: to touch her. So you got to build it first.
Speaker 1: That takes years, and then once you build it, then
Speaker 1: you got to work. So what the what the bigger
Speaker 1: issue usually is you go on to build or to
Speaker 1: grow it, to post content and you get stuck because
Speaker 1: because of the algorithm pulled you in and there goes
Speaker 1: thirty minutes of your time. You just got caught looking
Speaker 1: at social media for thirty minutes, you know, going down
Speaker 1: a rabbit hole. So this is this is a problem
Speaker 1: with content creators. For instance, let me put it this way.
Speaker 1: When I post a clip from this podcast, typically these days,
Speaker 1: the most things I posted to either something about Maverick
Speaker 1: or something from this podcast. And I'll do Paul who
Speaker 1: edits this, We'll give me a little clip and we'll
Speaker 1: work on it together, and I'll add the captions to it,
Speaker 1: and I'll go post it on the different platforms. When
Speaker 1: you post on TikTok, this is a trick that they do.
Speaker 1: When you post while it's uploading, it starts playing someone
Speaker 1: else's as you watch video. It makes you watch it
Speaker 1: and the little dial is posting your video so you
Speaker 1: can't X out of it. I mean literally, the only
Speaker 1: thing you could do if you don't want to get
Speaker 1: hooked on TikTok is you hit post and put it
Speaker 1: down and walk away and let it upload. But it's
Speaker 1: going to show you a video. Not only is it
Speaker 1: going to show you a video, but it knows you,
Speaker 1: and it's going to show you a video that you
Speaker 1: either love or that you despise. And if you despise it,
Speaker 1: you're going to watch it because it's so despicable. It
Speaker 1: knows you, The algorithm knows you. So that's really annoyed
Speaker 1: me that I will hit post and I'll flip my
Speaker 1: phone and put it face down on the table because
Speaker 1: I don't want to spend ten minutes getting caught, you know,
Speaker 1: by this mind game that TikTok got me. So that's
Speaker 1: a problem with content creators is getting suck down the
Speaker 1: rabbit hole literally while we're posting. There are different apps
Speaker 1: that could post for you, but that makes it difficult too,
Speaker 1: because then you can't you can't see how the previous
Speaker 1: engagement was, and so you don't really know what the
Speaker 1: posts in the future. Here's my point. Amber and I
Speaker 1: found this thing called the Brick and some friends told
Speaker 1: me about it when I was in Saint Louis on
Speaker 1: a speaking engagement, and I ended up buying it. It's
Speaker 1: for forty nine bucks and it's a little three D
Speaker 1: printed plastic brick and then with a magnet on the back,
Speaker 1: and you put it on the fridge and you download
Speaker 1: an app and the app can block all the distracting
Speaker 1: social media. You tell it what the block, and so
Speaker 1: you do all social media. You could do YouTube. You
Speaker 1: could do not the podcast app. You want to keep
Speaker 1: that one always on, but you could block anything that
Speaker 1: might be distracting to you. And then you go and
Speaker 1: you touch your phone to the brick and it turns
Speaker 1: it on, and you can't unbrick it unless you touch
Speaker 1: that that little plastic device on your refrigerator or wherever
Speaker 1: you put it. And it's really cool. So I'll come
Speaker 1: in here to my for instance, my podcast room in here.
Speaker 1: We're upstairs in my house, and I'll come up here
Speaker 1: and be working or be studying for seminary or reading
Speaker 1: or doing our recording after midnight, and I'll upload a
Speaker 1: I'll upload a video to a man, my producer, and
Speaker 1: while it's uploading, I'll pull up my phone to see
Speaker 1: if there's any news on Texas A and M football
Speaker 1: or something, and I'll be like, oh, I'm bricked. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I can't see it. And so it just keeps me accountable.
Speaker 1: And how you liked it.
Speaker 2: It's really eye opening too. I was bricked out the
Speaker 2: other day, and how many times I grabbed for my
Speaker 2: phone to look And you realize how often you're doing
Speaker 2: it just mindlessly, you know, And I would try to
Speaker 2: pick it up and look at Instagram and it's like, oh,
Speaker 2: I'm bricked out. But it was so nice. I think
Speaker 2: we were bricked for seven something hours the other day.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's really awesome. So we'll I'll keep you updated
Speaker 1: on that. We're only one weekend to this bricking thing,
Speaker 1: so yeah, I think it's really cool. I'll keep everybody updated.
Speaker 1: But I think Jandre, I I think that.
Speaker 2: Was a good Just storry about it and talk to
Speaker 2: your husband.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Nice question from anonymous Hey Granger, came across your
Speaker 1: podcast from my friend's post. I'm in a very dark
Speaker 1: place and I don't know how to fix it. Found
Speaker 1: out my daughters were molested by their uncle, and my
Speaker 1: youngest daughter was molested not just by her uncle, but
Speaker 1: two older cousins as well. For three years. I put
Speaker 1: an app on their phone because she was getting so
Speaker 1: cold and mean to us, and I was trying to
Speaker 1: figure out what was wrong. Well, that's when I found
Speaker 1: out about the abuse. In twenty nineteen, my sister refused
Speaker 1: to believe my daughters and advocated to extended family to
Speaker 1: convince them that my daughters were lying. My whole world
Speaker 1: has turned upside down with our family. I was so
Speaker 1: angry with God. How could he bless me with these
Speaker 1: beautiful babies and then let such horrific things happen to them?
Speaker 1: My mom was as far My mom went as far
Speaker 1: as selling the family cabin, which is where the abuse
Speaker 1: was happening. How do I ask God to help me?
Speaker 1: I'm so angry and hurt and feel lost.
Speaker 2: Oh Like, I just feel like you just have to
Speaker 2: sit in that for a minute and just say how
Speaker 2: like that is terrible and I'm so sorry that you
Speaker 2: and your family are going through that, that your daughters
Speaker 2: were subjected to that, that they have had to hold
Speaker 2: that or felt, you know, scared or angry or shame
Speaker 2: or anything that they might feel from that. I'm so
Speaker 2: sorry that you're having to go through that, and also
Speaker 2: that they're not being believed. You know. That's that's so
Speaker 2: hard in a family, and it's so common that sadly,
Speaker 2: it's so common. I mean so many of my friends
Speaker 2: and family things things have happened to me. I mean
Speaker 2: so many, so many things have happened to people, and
Speaker 2: I am it's you are right to be angry. You're
Speaker 2: right to be angry in that. I just feel like
Speaker 2: I just had to sit there for a minute in.
Speaker 1: That Yeah, And I think part of why you're saying
Speaker 1: we should sit there for a second is the fact
Speaker 1: that it is just common, horrifically common in this world.
Speaker 2: And you want to that is your question, like, Lord,
Speaker 2: where are you in that? How is this? Like why
Speaker 2: would you allow something like this to happen?
Speaker 1: How could you bless me with these two beautiful babies
Speaker 1: and let such horrific things happen to them?
Speaker 2: And I will say there are three main reasons that
Speaker 2: things like this happen. And one is that we just
Speaker 2: live in a fall and broken world and it's not
Speaker 2: the way that the world is supposed to be. Two
Speaker 2: is that we are subjected by other people's sin, like
Speaker 2: other people are sinful. What happened is sin and wrong.
Speaker 2: And three is that we have a real enemy who
Speaker 2: is out to destroy everything about the family and everything
Speaker 2: about us. And we don't understand why that type of
Speaker 2: horrific stuff happens the side of heaven, but we can
Speaker 2: know that God will make it right in the end,
Speaker 2: and that there are hopefully things that you can get
Speaker 2: in place to get your girls help, to work on
Speaker 2: familial issues, to work on forgiveness, because that's going to
Speaker 2: be a big one for you to work on forgiving them,
Speaker 2: but also you want them to be safe, Like you
Speaker 2: want justice to be done, but you don't want to
Speaker 2: take out. You don't want to be vengeful yourself. You know,
Speaker 2: the Bible says vengeance is the Lord's So this is
Speaker 2: going to take a lot of prayer, probably a lot
Speaker 2: of counseling. You know, a lot of work is going
Speaker 2: to go through unpacking all of this as you move forward.
Speaker 2: But as in our first question, I mean, you be
Speaker 2: rooted in the word of God and pray to the Lord. Lord,
Speaker 2: show me how to walk through this, Show me how
Speaker 2: to help my girls, Show me how to forgive when
Speaker 2: all I want to do is rage. God. I need
Speaker 2: you in this moment because I can't do it on
Speaker 2: my own.
Speaker 1: Absolutely looking something else, Yeah, I think it's it's always
Speaker 1: good to go to the Psalms. Yeah, with with with
Speaker 1: things like that, or the Book of Limitations, because we
Speaker 1: have lost in this in our culture. We've lost the
Speaker 1: ability and the the technique of lamenting. We we live
Speaker 1: somehow in a world probably because of social media and
Speaker 1: and and dumb media that has kind of conditioned us
Speaker 1: that things things need to always be good. And if
Speaker 1: they're good, they're from God. And if they're not, let's
Speaker 1: let's freak out. Yeah, and we we have forgotten that
Speaker 1: for thousands of years the people of God have lamented
Speaker 1: their suffering back to Him through through song, prayer, crying out,
Speaker 1: and through the lamenting, we know there is healing. Healing
Speaker 1: in many ways you could say cannot happen without fully lamenting.
Speaker 1: And it's the same thing that what I just said
Speaker 1: in modern day philosophy is, Yeah, I don't think you've
Speaker 1: worked it out yet. I don't think he's worked out
Speaker 1: his grief yet. If people say that, you wouldn't have
Speaker 1: said that in the ancient times, you would have said
Speaker 1: they have not fully lamented. Like Psalm thirteen, How long,
Speaker 1: o Lord, will you forget me forever? How long would
Speaker 1: you hide your face from me? How long must I
Speaker 1: take counsel in my soul and have sorrow in my
Speaker 1: heart all the day? How long shall my enemy be
Speaker 1: exalted over me? That's you consider and answer me. Oh God,
Speaker 1: light up my eyes lest I sleep the sleep of death.
Speaker 1: Lest my enemy say I have prevailed over him, Lest
Speaker 1: my foes rejoice because I am shaken. But Verse five
Speaker 1: I have trusted in your steadfast love. My heart shall
Speaker 1: rejoice in your salvation. I will sing to the Lord
Speaker 1: because he has dealt bountifully with me. We have to
Speaker 1: remember how to lament. Jesus said on the Cross Psalm
Speaker 1: twenty two. He literally quoted Psalm twenty two. My God,
Speaker 1: my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you
Speaker 1: so far from saving me from the words of my groaning? Oh?
Speaker 1: My God? I cry by day but you do not answer,
Speaker 1: And by night but I find no rest. What you
Speaker 1: asked me, Anonymous, was how could he bless me with
Speaker 1: these beautiful babies and then let these horrible things happen.
Speaker 1: I would encourage you, Anonymous, to ask him. Don't forget
Speaker 1: to ask him. I know you ask other people. I
Speaker 1: know you've asked this podcast, But don't forget to ask him,
Speaker 1: because he could take it. He wants you to be
Speaker 1: in communion with him. And it's not only in the
Speaker 1: happy times. In fact, that would be horrible to only
Speaker 1: go to God in the happy times. In fact, I'll say,
Speaker 1: on top of that, hardly anybody does. People that go
Speaker 1: to Him in the happy times are people that have
Speaker 1: lamented to him in the sorrowful times, because that's usually
Speaker 1: when people go, where is God? So go to him,
Speaker 1: Go to your knees and go, God, how could you
Speaker 1: bless me with these beautiful babies and let such horrific
Speaker 1: things happen? Where are you? God? Have you forgotten this?
Speaker 1: Do you not hear me? God? But the key to
Speaker 1: all this is address him.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you go to the Lord. I was going to say,
Speaker 2: don't allow this to harden your heart and make you
Speaker 2: angry and jaded at God. Run to him because he's
Speaker 2: the only one that's going to be able to heal you,
Speaker 2: heal your girls. He is the only one that will
Speaker 2: make it right. Even if it's not right here this
Speaker 2: side of heaven, he will make it right in eternity.
Speaker 2: But they do need to be safe, you know, like
Speaker 2: you do.
Speaker 1: That's a different Okay, got a different part of the conversation.
Speaker 1: I'm speaking to her right now. I'm speaking to her question,
Speaker 1: and her question.
Speaker 2: Is was this a woman? I feel it was a man.
Speaker 1: It's anonymous.
Speaker 2: Oh, I don't know. I thought I thought it was
Speaker 2: coming from a dad for some reason.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Maybe I just went there in my mind.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I went to the mother. You went to the Father.
Speaker 1: I don't know who it is, but the question is,
Speaker 1: at the very end, how do I ask God to
Speaker 1: help me? I'm so angry and hurt and feel lost.
Speaker 1: You go to him with.
Speaker 2: That, You get on your knees and you beg the
Speaker 2: Lord to help.
Speaker 1: You, and you understand that he has spoken. He's not
Speaker 1: speaking to you. I don't know how many times I've
Speaker 1: said this, through the clouds or through the wind. He's
Speaker 1: going to speak to you, like he has spoken to
Speaker 1: everyone through his word. And so you go to his
Speaker 1: word and you see what he says, including the laments,
Speaker 1: and then you go back to him and you repeat
Speaker 1: what the laments say back to him. How could you
Speaker 1: bless me with these beautiful babies? Where are you? God?
Speaker 1: Will you ever save me? Do you even hear me?
Speaker 1: And continue to lament to him? And through that, I
Speaker 1: promise you, coming from experience, coming from experience, you will
Speaker 1: find healing in that. God is merciful to those who
Speaker 1: are crying out to him.
Speaker 2: And there are terrible, tragic things that happen all the time,
Speaker 2: all the time, every day, and I'm so sorry that
Speaker 2: your family is enduring that right now. But you said,
Speaker 2: go to him, that is the only place that you
Speaker 2: will find healing and hope and peace in the evil
Speaker 2: things of this world.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we'll end with alle but thank you all for
Speaker 1: emailing and I love It's an honor to walk through
Speaker 1: these with you, and to rejoice with you, and wrestle
Speaker 1: with you and sometimes lament with you. Love you'all, See
Speaker 1: you next Monday. Thanks for joining me on the Granger
Speaker 1: Smith podcast. I appreciate all of you guys. You could
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